I’m cuddled up in my blanket alone in my room and on my bed, I am watching this on my tv in the corner of my room, my hairs wet from the shower, I’m in a comfy black flannel and black leggings, I’m in my grandmas house. My grandma and my mom don’t get along. My grandma is abusive and mentally draining. I need to keep a positive mind set cause lately I feel like I’d been falling apart, when I’m with my mom sometimes I have to act like I’m a 44 year old, taking care of my grandpa who is 94 and my sister who is 7. I am 13. Yesterday I was left in a motel room with my sister and grandpa, it was 11:45 almost time for check out and I had no idea where my mother was, there’s a lot more to the story but I rather not go there. I’ve just been so down and sad and confused, even mad at myself for not being able to get a job, a house, money, but then I realize that I’m 13.. and it really drives me up the wall. This video is something I looked up because of all this and more, depression has been peeking into my life and banging on my door. But this video made me have a bigger output on things, I don’t really know how to explain it but thank you.
Peace Pill, you are dealing with things that most 13 year olds don't know anything about. I applaud your efforts for trying to stay positive and you are way ahead of the game in realizing that you have control over how you act. You are remarkable.
Wow, to be able to articulate the issues you are dealing with so well, is impressive at your age. I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. I had a rough childhood too, it's scary having no control over a situation. I hope you are able to find peace. You seem like an intelligent girl, keep your head up and I'm sure you will do great things in life.
Oh sweetie. You are such a beautiful person and have touched my heart. Im so glad you are seeking help and peace through such good things as this. You are so brave. And strong. Hes got such great advice right? I just want to say I am so proud of you. As a mom of a 14 year old daughter I wrap my arms around you and say I feel so proud of you and who you are and feel so much love for you in your challanges. Your peace and strength and happiness are in my prayers along with your whole family. Much love to you.
I am so incredibly sorry this is happening to you and I deeply wish there were something I could do. Just please remember that nothing is your fault, you deserve so much better.
This video is so powerful. Thank you Dr. Paul! The CREATION part is mindblowing! It made me cry and gave stomach butterflies at the same time! Awesome. God bless your life! 💕
This is the only time I have not been upset at hearing "it is what it is" lol lol lol thanks Dr. P. Ps. Nearly forgot, hope your nephew in law Talon has recovered since, and if is of any value to know that at least for me there was a meaningful message in his and yours experience through the "truncated" message (that's another bit larger conversation), be it known I have been changed by it, and it is my wish and hope to make that change be for good to others as I serve. Health and light!
I really like this video. Thank you for posting. This is very similar in many ways to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). We cannot eliminate unhelpful thoughts, but we can learn to live with them and not let them control our lives.
There is something ever so fascinating with a positive mindset. I can ramble on for hours down the streams of philosophy, science and metaphysics, but ultimately I think positive thinking and being a positive individual, is a magnificent state worth trying to obtain and maintain! Allow me to brief: Over the aeons of our existence our world has gone through time. The process of being resulting in the interaction positive and negative energy. To give some insight to my thoughts: There is a duality that I wish to one day frame, the YING and YANG of existence. For now let's say there are 2 energies: POSITIVE and NEGATIVE. Like the AMPLITUDE and TROUGH in the ether. For some unknown reason, they are equal in nature in a sense it brings upon the balance we know as existence. Positivity; for some reason reigns greater. It is the preferred energy state. Our universe is moving toward something. Toward what though? I have no idea, but everything to my existence shows me it, we and everything is moving toward and if you help existence move toward by being positive, (POSITIVE) you will be rewarded by its mechanics that made you and I a reality. This ultimately is happiness which is a state of energy equilibrium. The somewhat resonance of the positive(out) and negative(in) force. Master energy, master existence... 369
I personally believe that we have a creator and our creator wants us to be happy. Alan Browne, whatever you call it, positivity is a better way to live.
That thing happened to me..once i came back home , found my mom crying badly like if someone has passed away...i was very very frightened to overcome what was coming next ..my mom said my grandpa passed away..i felt a big big relief cause i was guessing it was my dad..i felt very guilty about feeling that relief
Would you be able to make a video about parents with depression and anxiety and keeping it together when dealing with stressful situations with their children? You videos are so helpful but it’s hard to keep it together and to not react when your dealing with your own problems on top of raising a family. Please help!
Katherine Holtz, the situation you describe is difficult. I will think on this some more, in the meantime, check out some of the videos on how to care for yourself on the playlist.
I've not watched you for ages.. Had a truly awful year and I've just started again. We (uk) have just elected Trump 2.0 and gotta say, it's hard to think things will be better by 8. But at least by 8pm I'm usually safe at home with my dog and my son.
I don’t like comparing my situations to others because then I feel bad that I’m sad or mad or frustrated because people have it worse and then it’s hard for me to forgive myself and I feel like it’s hard for me to accept how I feel and then I think I have no reason feeling this way because people have it worse
You are so good! Have an advise for parents in Ukraine how raise healthy kids despite all that russians? It’s so hard to protect my kids from my own ptsr 😢
Hanna Ahafonova, I think we can be positive, despite what is happening around us. You might want to consider a membership to go.liveonpurposecentral.com and take our Pathological Positivity course and others.
I love that video and am so grateful that you make these videos, but sometimes I feel like if I’m thinking positive/happy that I’ll stay in my same situation because I’ve become content with it. And that makes me feel like I have to think negative so I can work on changing/solving my problems. Please help
Discontent can help us to move to creation. I have another video on this topic and address it in my book. If you feel that you not moving forward, get into creation mode and imagine what you want, take steps to get yourself to the next step.
Yes, sari taylor. Be grateful for three things everyday. One easy, obvious thing and two where your gratitude comes from challenges or difficulties in your life. 1. indoor plumbing, 2. learned about plumbing (when the sink broke), 3. people who help (when my car broke down). Focus on the good even in bad times.
Hi there, does dr paul take on any 1-1 client or coaching or mentorships with those following in a similar mission as he is?, but are way younger n inexperienced? Aside from online courses?
I have just discovered your channel, and my daughter has an issue similar to Marie Drummond My grand daughter is 15 with low grade autism has been skipping school, and has zeroed in on a boy who is also skipping school.My daughter had grounded my granddaughter who has now chosen to live at the boyfriends home. To make matters worse my daughter is attending a 2 yr college program condensed into 1 yr and is so stressed out that I am worried about her mental health.Do you have a video which could help us make our way through this terrible ordeal. I have taken my grandson to live with me and finish his year at grade school, to try to ease the situation.
Be there for your daughter and talk to her. Make sure she knows she can talk to you and you won't be judging her emotions during this difficult time. She may need to vent and say things she doesn't really mean and should not be held against her if you are worrying about her stress levels. Take care of your mental health. I talk a bit about it in this video: ua-cam.com/video/PdDjv4J-2xI/v-deo.html. Here is another one: ua-cam.com/video/VJkicx2XXtw/v-deo.html Check out the list of videos in the playlist under the channel picture. Good luck, DOROTHY ANDREWS. You are doing an important work.
I am honored to have you here now, Mini Shybin. You can always go back and watch the older ones! We have different playlists, if there is a particular subject you are looking for (ie. parenting, personal development, relationships, etc.).
Guilty plea time: I'm a school counselor, and I TOTALLY stole this to teach to my 3rd and 5th graders about problem solving. They loved it, I gave you credit, I directed them to your website and UA-cam channel. Also very helpful for me in my personal life, I think about it all the time, and it's been freeing to in dealing with difficulty. Thanks Dr. Paul!
This makes so much sense. I came from a tumultuous upbringing with lots and I mean LOTS of trauma including watching my brother die in our home in front my very eyes. And that’s only a tiny portion of my upbringing. Spoiler alert it didn’t get much better after that. Not until I was an adult did things start getting better for me. One of the things I struggled with was relating to others. Because I had been through so much, I really struggled to develop empathy for my friends who were upset over things that seemed to me as trivial as a hangnail. I am so thankful for every experience I’ve had in life because it has caused me to remain acutely aware of the fact that things could always be so much worse than they are now. Boom. Instant gratitude! Thank you God for every trial you have delivered me through!
Kendra Miller, I am glad your positivity is in our community to show that though we have been through tough times, we can face our lives and be in control, to make them better.
What a blessing to have happened upon your channel! Thank you so much for your content. Words cannot convey how much I appreciate you and your messages.
Wow I love how you said to peel apart a challenge and find something to be grateful for to add to your list. I did this for dealing with difficult people and said I’m grateful in a way because I’m actually learning a lot about creating healthy boundaries and how to respond not react to difficult people.
I do this to feel better but seems like everyone else around me just see the negative side of things. For example I am unemployed because of my health issues (that are mostly invisible to other people.) and they see me as a poor outcast. I’m thinking well, at least I have a house and I can afford food and other basics, so things are great actually. Frustrating.
I’m so glad I found your videos! I listen to them daily. I love your content and the way you present it! Informative and you keep it interesting. Keep it up :D
Dr. , Does it mean that if a person compares oneself with others and feels jealous, they are thinking that they are worse in their eyes than the person they compare themselves to?
Hello Dr. Paul. First of all, I'm so grateful that I found your channel. May I ask you Dr. Paul? If I'm not mistaken, I heard one time in one of your videos that you give training and certification to aspiring life coaches. I am from the Philippines, and I've been practicing life coaching for almost 3 years, and now I'm planning to build my business around it and get organized. Is it possible for me to train under your program and be certified? Thank you. I would really appreciate it if you can read this. Thank you.
Edward Millares, I would love it if you became a Live On Purpose certified coach! I have a Life Coaching playlist that has a few videos on how to become one: ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPC-YkqyAmTt_Cqisbe5Gm-e.html. You can also check out my free webinar at liveonpurpose.coach/webinar/. I hope to hear more from you soon! Thank you for your interest.
I agree with most of what you've said....except 'judging' I'd rather use the word 'compare' as the word 'judging could lead to negative emotion/thoughts.
What if you have dealt with so much negative incidents that your mind and your behavior goes almost straight to negative.... basically how do you train yourself to get out of that always negative way of thinking and acting and start training to do things more of a positive way or better way instead of always being on the worse side.?
Angelia, there are several videos on the playlist, search for "mind" there are 16 videos. This is just one of them: ua-cam.com/video/VfrteYLmKeo/v-deo.html
Great! We can learn to become positive all of the time. I really needed to hear this, and I will listen to it about a dozen more times, to REALLY get it to be a part of myself.
This video helped me get out of bed I was frozen with anxiety thinking of the worst going into panic that I could fail my two little kids. God bless you this video has saved me 💜❣❣❣💯🙏
I get a kick out of solving negatives not so much emphasis on the focus! Kinda like a jigsaw puzzle. As each piece fits I get my dopamine hit. Life is a struggle at times and ironically this is what I am greatful for. We got this far we will solve earth's problems. I think we're both on the same page and your work has helped me emensly with many pieces of the puzzle. Thank you.
I love your positive attitude, Plus Bonus. Sometimes it is a positive to look back and see where we have come from and what we have done. Then, look to the future and be grateful for those challenges and know that we figured things out in the past and we can do it again. Honored to be on your team.
AWESOME ! So clear and illuminating explanation. I feel I have learned watching your video and something essential for living and happily living. Infinite thanks :).
cinnomon, ginger, pachuly ,scent. light. vitamin D ,tumeric, stanford university sunny weather good posture, smiling ,all makes me feel more posotive more coffe also , cashews,and orange juice.
Opposite of gratitude is shame and blame. Shame equals you are bad. Now that we identify your to blame. I now have control how I feel. This is the way of the Sith. How else am I supposed to relieve the inflammation of the stress hormone of cortisol and aldosterone and get my nitric oxide dump to counter the inflammation I feel from automatic negative thoughts and be the dominant person in my life? Otherwise I'm relying on healthy hormones of serotonin oxytocin dopamine endorphins adrenaline... Continue to do but you've always done and get what you've always gotten... Awesome Video keep up the good work :-)
Hi Paul, first of all thank you for your interesting insights! I have a question: You said that it is better to evaluate our future outcomes in a positive way ("when we imagine that what's coming is better... excitement, hope."), and yet, the first thing I thought about when I heard it is - what about the tough feeling of disappointment when the outcome is worse then what we hoped for? I understand that there will always be a trade off and it's hard to say what is really better. I only know that I'm used to imagine that it'll be worse then what I want, so there is no "hope" or excitement, but there is also no disappointment. I would like to hear what do you think about it!
Arik Smo, if something doesn't turn out as I thought (and it rarely does), I look for the positive in what happened. What did I learn? Who did I meet? Is it only Act 2 and Act 3 is still to come? We aren't at the end until we stop breathing so you may have more to try and do before you get the outcome you want. Be persistent.
My problem is I live live with a average life standard and target things to go in a average way. So when something goes wrong I judge on a scale based on averages... like an insurance company . . .lol
I understand the concept of positive behavior and myself as a parent but sometimes my teenager says some really hurtful things. How do you stay positive then?
Stephanie Sauerberg, oftentimes I don't think they believe what they are saying and choose to be amused by them. It is about separating ourselves from the outcomes. If I know in my heart that I am trying to help and treating them with kindness and dignity, then it doesn't bother me.
Please make a video of how to build confidence, my son walks off sports fields for example only talking about the balls he missed and not the amazing plays he made.
Just because X changes does not mean Y changes or to say, just because time has passed does not mean your situation or your evaluation of it has changed.
i think my summary of ur video is more like to see that we've been through much worst past, n we're still fine by now, n we should believe that we have a better future.. That's how to stay positive minded.. Grateful n full of hope.
AMAZING 💯 💯 so many new concepts to me and such great advice!!! Thank you so much!! I’m taking on the BB8 challenge!! God bless your and your whole team!
Exelerator 10, I am not sure what is happening, have you invited people over? Is there a group you could join that has to do with a hobby or interest of yours?
Thank you , for the first time I really understood the information plus I see a video about forgiveness that linked me with this video and I want to say that I am so grateful for what you are doing here on this channel, may God bless you ! ❤🙏🙌
Exactly choose life ,we got enough threats that could cause death out in the universe unless we hopefully see it and how to safely deal or get away from it ...we don't need no more prep up and distracting obstacles holding us back from our purpose to keep nature's cycle stay balanced with the universes cycles
Kevin Kossow, I appreciate you giving this video a try. If you feel nothing, please consider getting some coaching or counseling. It doesn't have to be us, but I do want to offer a free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. If that sounds interesting, go here to schedule: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall If you would like to try delving into positivity a little more, you can read my book "Pathological Positivity," which I am giving away for free. You can go here to get it: drpauljenkins.info/freebook Or you could start with my free mini book "Portable Positivity," which you can download here: drpauljenkins.info/portablepositivity I hope you are able to receive the help you want.
Dr. Paul your videos are phenomenal! I've only watched a few and each one amazed me more than the preivous one! Thank you so much for sharing your insight and wisdom!
This is something I'm struggling with currently, so I'm doing the exercise now in a journal dedicated to my relationships with my wife and kids. This is not an easy exercise! That "freebe" is certainly necessary Thank you for putting this out for us all =)
This is the best channel on UA-cam
Thank you! Please share away.
Being conscious about our life is the first step to healing!
So true.
I’m cuddled up in my blanket alone in my room and on my bed, I am watching this on my tv in the corner of my room, my hairs wet from the shower, I’m in a comfy black flannel and black leggings, I’m in my grandmas house. My grandma and my mom don’t get along. My grandma is abusive and mentally draining. I need to keep a positive mind set cause lately I feel like I’d been falling apart, when I’m with my mom sometimes I have to act like I’m a 44 year old, taking care of my grandpa who is 94 and my sister who is 7. I am 13. Yesterday I was left in a motel room with my sister and grandpa, it was 11:45 almost time for check out and I had no idea where my mother was, there’s a lot more to the story but I rather not go there. I’ve just been so down and sad and confused, even mad at myself for not being able to get a job, a house, money, but then I realize that I’m 13.. and it really drives me up the wall. This video is something I looked up because of all this and more, depression has been peeking into my life and banging on my door. But this video made me have a bigger output on things, I don’t really know how to explain it but thank you.
Peace Pill, you are dealing with things that most 13 year olds don't know anything about. I applaud your efforts for trying to stay positive and you are way ahead of the game in realizing that you have control over how you act. You are remarkable.
Wow, to be able to articulate the issues you are dealing with so well, is impressive at your age. I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. I had a rough childhood too, it's scary having no control over a situation. I hope you are able to find peace. You seem like an intelligent girl, keep your head up and I'm sure you will do great things in life.
Oh sweetie. You are such a beautiful person and have touched my heart. Im so glad you are seeking help and peace through such good things as this. You are so brave. And strong. Hes got such great advice right? I just want to say I am so proud of you. As a mom of a 14 year old daughter I wrap my arms around you and say I feel so proud of you and who you are and feel so much love for you in your challanges. Your peace and strength and happiness are in my prayers along with your whole family. Much love to you.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Youre such a good man you are helping so many people. We love you
I am so incredibly sorry this is happening to you and I deeply wish there were something I could do. Just please remember that nothing is your fault, you deserve so much better.
You are amazing Dr.Paul❤
Thank you, Sharon. Honored to be on your team.
This video is so powerful. Thank you Dr. Paul! The CREATION part is mindblowing! It made me cry and gave stomach butterflies at the same time! Awesome. God bless your life! 💕
You are so right, Jalile Caballero. When we see that we have the power of creation, it can be overwhelming to know that our future can be better.
This is the only time I have not been upset at hearing "it is what it is" lol lol lol thanks Dr. P.
Ps. Nearly forgot, hope your nephew in law Talon has recovered since, and if is of any value to know that at least for me there was a meaningful message in his and yours experience through the "truncated" message (that's another bit larger conversation), be it known I have been changed by it, and it is my wish and hope to make that change be for good to others as I serve. Health and light!
Lol, glad you enjoyed the video, Sandy Herek Life Coach. My nephew is fine, thank you. : )
I really like this video. Thank you for posting. This is very similar in many ways to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). We cannot eliminate unhelpful thoughts, but we can learn to live with them and not let them control our lives.
Tim Smith, yes, we can take back control and where we are going .
I don't usually comment on videos, and I am grateful and thankful that I found your channel. Very nice and well-versed.
Well then I am honored to have you comment here, Ian Carl Espinosa. You are welcome; and thank you for being here on the channel.
I literally cried, what an impactful video!! Thank you so much 💕
So glad! Better days are ahead for you.
No worries 👍
Florian G, thank you for watching.
so glad i found your channel!
I'm so glad!
Thank you so much, great explanation!
Appreciate that.
I don't know I'm feeling soo down, my head is hurting. I wanna cry my eyes out
Hey, That's Me!, I hope the video is helpful for you.
There is something ever so fascinating with a positive mindset.
I can ramble on for hours down the streams of philosophy, science and metaphysics, but ultimately I think positive thinking and being a positive individual, is a magnificent state worth trying to obtain and maintain!
Allow me to brief:
Over the aeons of our existence our world has gone through time. The process of being resulting in the interaction positive and negative energy.
To give some insight to my thoughts: There is a duality that I wish to one day frame, the YING and YANG of existence. For now let's say there are 2 energies: POSITIVE and NEGATIVE. Like the AMPLITUDE and TROUGH in the ether. For some unknown reason, they are equal in nature in a sense it brings upon the balance we know as existence. Positivity; for some reason reigns greater. It is the preferred energy state.
Our universe is moving toward something.
Toward what though?
I have no idea, but everything to my existence shows me it, we and everything is moving toward and if you help existence move toward by being positive, (POSITIVE) you will be rewarded by its mechanics that made you and I a reality. This ultimately is happiness which is a state of energy equilibrium. The somewhat resonance of the positive(out) and negative(in) force.
Master energy, master existence...
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I personally believe that we have a creator and our creator wants us to be happy. Alan Browne, whatever you call it, positivity is a better way to live.
I like your expressions. Its so fun to watch the videos and learning a lot along thw way!
Glad to see that it is landing in Croatia! Thanks for watching. DrPaul
Thank you💯
You're welcome!
That thing happened to me..once i came back home , found my mom crying badly like if someone has passed away...i was very very frightened to overcome what was coming next ..my mom said my grandpa passed away..i felt a big big relief cause i was guessing it was my dad..i felt very guilty about feeling that relief
It is normal. The loss of someone in our own home would be more difficult to handle that someone that we don't have daily contact with.
Great work Paul! So much Value! I'll be tuning in!
Thanks for tuning in!
Thank you.
Thanks for this great video. I've been in a dark place for a long time & your content is a big help. Truly appreciate what you do:)
You are so welcome, thank you for letting me know.
Happiness is a choice 👍💓💗🎊
Chi Chi, and love is a choice. I wrote that book.
Omg eye opening session
vandy rock, thank you.
Would you be able to make a video about parents with depression and anxiety and keeping it together when dealing with stressful situations with their children? You videos are so helpful but it’s hard to keep it together and to not react when your dealing with your own problems on top of raising a family. Please help!
Katherine Holtz, the situation you describe is difficult. I will think on this some more, in the meantime, check out some of the videos on how to care for yourself on the playlist.
Great,MAY GOD bless you and your family sir, be safe
Same to you!
I've not watched you for ages.. Had a truly awful year and I've just started again. We (uk) have just elected Trump 2.0 and gotta say, it's hard to think things will be better by 8. But at least by 8pm I'm usually safe at home with my dog and my son.
Wild Bunny, be grateful for what you can and things will be better. Safe at home with dog and son sound pretty good.
Always learn so much here. Grateful for this channel
I appreciate that! I am grateful for this UA-cam Community and you, Lety Luna.
Loved it!!!
Thank you.
Excellent, thank you.
You are welcome!
I don’t like comparing my situations to others because then I feel bad that I’m sad or mad or frustrated because people have it worse and then it’s hard for me to forgive myself and I feel like it’s hard for me to accept how I feel and then I think I have no reason feeling this way because people have it worse
Dessa Herrera, yes, you understand why we don't compare ourselves to others. You will end up more happy and positive.
Thank you your video help me so much 🙏🏻😢
You’re welcome 😊
You are so good! Have an advise for parents in Ukraine how raise healthy kids despite all that russians?
It’s so hard to protect my kids from my own ptsr 😢
Hanna Ahafonova, I think we can be positive, despite what is happening around us. You might want to consider a membership to go.liveonpurposecentral.com and take our Pathological Positivity course and others.
I love that video and am so grateful that you make these videos, but sometimes I feel like if I’m thinking positive/happy that I’ll stay in my same situation because I’ve become content with it. And that makes me feel like I have to think negative so I can work on changing/solving my problems. Please help
Discontent can help us to move to creation. I have another video on this topic and address it in my book. If you feel that you not moving forward, get into creation mode and imagine what you want, take steps to get yourself to the next step.
Could you please give example of triple play gratitude
Yes, sari taylor. Be grateful for three things everyday. One easy, obvious thing and two where your gratitude comes from challenges or difficulties in your life. 1. indoor plumbing, 2. learned about plumbing (when the sink broke), 3. people who help (when my car broke down). Focus on the good even in bad times.
Dr Paul, I have a problem behind me. How can I connect to you ?
SIDDHARTH KHATRI, you can schedule through my assistant, see my web page, www.drpauljenkins.com for contact information.
Thank you Dr Pual .:)
You are welcome, Star uk StarTV. I appreciate great viewers like you.
Hi there, does dr paul take on any 1-1 client or coaching or mentorships with those following in a similar mission as he is?, but are way younger n inexperienced? Aside from online courses?
You can get all your questions answered at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall. There is no cost to you.
Love this ❤️
Glad you enjoyed the video, Lori Arthur. Happy to have you at Live On Purpose.
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unstoppable posotive
Love it. My book is called "Pathological Positivity". You can get it for free here, if you just pay for the shipping: drpauljenkins.info/freebook
How do you get “better by 8:00”?
DO something that puts you in a better position.
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Thank you.
Hide the pain Arnold, is that you on the thumbnail?
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I have just discovered your channel, and my daughter has an issue similar to Marie Drummond
My grand daughter is 15 with low grade autism has been skipping school, and has zeroed in on a boy who is also skipping school.My daughter had grounded my granddaughter who has now chosen to live at the boyfriends home. To make matters worse my daughter is attending a 2 yr college program condensed into 1 yr and is so stressed out that I am worried about her mental health.Do you have a video which could help us make our way through this terrible ordeal. I have taken my grandson to live with me and finish his year at grade school, to try to ease the situation.
Be there for your daughter and talk to her. Make sure she knows she can talk to you and you won't be judging her emotions during this difficult time. She may need to vent and say things she doesn't really mean and should not be held against her if you are worrying about her stress levels. Take care of your mental health. I talk a bit about it in this video: ua-cam.com/video/PdDjv4J-2xI/v-deo.html. Here is another one: ua-cam.com/video/VJkicx2XXtw/v-deo.html Check out the list of videos in the playlist under the channel picture. Good luck, DOROTHY ANDREWS. You are doing an important work.
I regret... I should have subscribed earlier... I missed a lot of ur videos in 2 years...
I am honored to have you here now, Mini Shybin. You can always go back and watch the older ones! We have different playlists, if there is a particular subject you are looking for (ie. parenting, personal development, relationships, etc.).
BB-8 OKOB1 LOL and health n light to you!
Thanks, honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV, Sandy Herek Life Coach!
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Back at you, Chendhil Kumary. Live On Purpose viewers are the best.
Guilty plea time: I'm a school counselor, and I TOTALLY stole this to teach to my 3rd and 5th graders about problem solving. They loved it, I gave you credit, I directed them to your website and UA-cam channel. Also very helpful for me in my personal life, I think about it all the time, and it's been freeing to in dealing with difficulty. Thanks Dr. Paul!
No stealing if you give credit, Tyler Strodtman. I consider it a compliment.
Hide the pain Arnold, is that you on the thumbnail?
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You're always positive, optimistic, and have great energy Paul - thank you!
Tim! Glad you're tuned in!
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Thank you for making these videos, you’re a bright man!
Aeron Bolton, you are welcome for the videos. I am just sharing what I have been able to learn over the last 30 years. I love UA-cam.
This makes so much sense. I came from a tumultuous upbringing with lots and I mean LOTS of trauma including watching my brother die in our home in front my very eyes. And that’s only a tiny portion of my upbringing. Spoiler alert it didn’t get much better after that. Not until I was an adult did things start getting better for me. One of the things I struggled with was relating to others. Because I had been through so much, I really struggled to develop empathy for my friends who were upset over things that seemed to me as trivial as a hangnail. I am so thankful for every experience I’ve had in life because it has caused me to remain acutely aware of the fact that things could always be so much worse than they are now. Boom. Instant gratitude! Thank you God for every trial you have delivered me through!
Kendra Miller, I am glad your positivity is in our community to show that though we have been through tough times, we can face our lives and be in control, to make them better.
What a blessing to have happened upon your channel! Thank you so much for your content. Words cannot convey how much I appreciate you and your messages.
Wow I love how you said to peel apart a challenge and find something to be grateful for to add to your list. I did this for dealing with difficult people and said I’m grateful in a way because I’m actually learning a lot about creating healthy boundaries and how to respond not react to difficult people.
Dee Dee, wonderful news, thanks for sharing.
I watch this ever so often now, and today it just hit different. Thank you.
I love that we can come back again and again. We get different things out of the videos when we are in a different place.
I do this to feel better but seems like everyone else around me just see the negative side of things. For example I am unemployed because of my health issues (that are mostly invisible to other people.) and they see me as a poor outcast. I’m thinking well, at least I have a house and I can afford food and other basics, so things are great actually. Frustrating.
Lady Dimitrescu, It is less about what they think and more about what you think.
I’m so glad I found your videos! I listen to them daily. I love your content and the way you present it! Informative and you keep it interesting. Keep it up :D
Dee Dee, Welcome to the channel and share away with your friends.
Dr. , Does it mean that if a person compares oneself with others and feels jealous, they are thinking that they are worse in their eyes than the person they compare themselves to?
Ibrohim Ismailov, that is the usual take away. They feel less than the other person.
Hello Dr. Paul. First of all, I'm so grateful that I found your channel. May I ask you Dr. Paul? If I'm not mistaken, I heard one time in one of your videos that you give training and certification to aspiring life coaches. I am from the Philippines, and I've been practicing life coaching for almost 3 years, and now I'm planning to build my business around it and get organized. Is it possible for me to train under your program and be certified? Thank you. I would really appreciate it if you can read this. Thank you.
Edward Millares, I would love it if you became a Live On Purpose certified coach! I have a Life Coaching playlist that has a few videos on how to become one: ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPC-YkqyAmTt_Cqisbe5Gm-e.html. You can also check out my free webinar at liveonpurpose.coach/webinar/. I hope to hear more from you soon! Thank you for your interest.
Thank you! This really helped me get through a hard time 🙂
Geno sic, thank you for letting me know.
Yes! I love being positive! Makes me positiveluly happy! 😁
Gives a whole new understanding to how happiness is a choice right? DrPaul
Are you sure about that?
It certainly feels better to imagine things will always get “better”, even if I’m deluded! 😂 Probably much healthier also!
Things do work out.
I agree with most of what you've said....except 'judging' I'd rather use the word 'compare' as the word 'judging could lead to negative emotion/thoughts.
jane doe, I can see that. Verbiage is important.
What if you have dealt with so much negative incidents that your mind and your behavior goes almost straight to negative.... basically how do you train yourself to get out of that always negative way of thinking and acting and start training to do things more of a positive way or better way instead of always being on the worse side.?
Angelia, there are several videos on the playlist, search for "mind" there are 16 videos. This is just one of them: ua-cam.com/video/VfrteYLmKeo/v-deo.html
Great! We can learn to become positive all of the time. I really needed to hear this, and I will listen to it about a dozen more times, to REALLY get it to be a part of myself.
It does take repetition, Jim Barnhart. Please come back to any video whenever you like.
One step out of anxiety and depression. Thank you!
Chrissella Valeros, you are welcome.
BB8! Precious! One of my favorite phrases, being happy isn’t a choice until you know it is.
It really is! Glad you can see that.
Another uplifting video, you're a joy to listen to Dr. Paul, like a ray of sunshine on a cloudy day Xx
Wow, thank you, Venus77x.
This video helped me get out of bed I was frozen with anxiety thinking of the worst going into panic that I could fail my two little kids. God bless you this video has saved me 💜❣❣❣💯🙏
Yamuna Jolicoeur, Wonderful! Thanks for letting me know.
They'll resent you for something. bastards always do lol
Thank you Paul. You have just made me realise what my problem was. Thank you!
Glad it helped
I get a kick out of solving negatives not so much emphasis on the focus! Kinda like a jigsaw puzzle. As each piece fits I get my dopamine hit. Life is a struggle at times and ironically this is what I am greatful for.
We got this far we will solve earth's problems.
I think we're both on the same page and your work has helped me emensly with many pieces of the puzzle.
Thank you.
I love your positive attitude, Plus Bonus. Sometimes it is a positive to look back and see where we have come from and what we have done. Then, look to the future and be grateful for those challenges and know that we figured things out in the past and we can do it again. Honored to be on your team.
AWESOME ! So clear and illuminating explanation. I feel I have learned watching your video and something essential for living and happily living. Infinite thanks :).
More positivity to you and yours. Check out the other videos on the playlists. Thank you for watching, A22 Lovelife.
cinnomon, ginger, pachuly ,scent. light. vitamin D ,tumeric, stanford university sunny weather good posture, smiling ,all makes me feel more posotive more coffe also , cashews,and orange juice.
Thank you for watching, edwin deleon.
Thank you. I needed to hear this today. :)
Glad we can connect.
Opposite of gratitude is shame and blame. Shame equals you are bad. Now that we identify your to blame. I now have control how I feel. This is the way of the Sith.
How else am I supposed to relieve the inflammation of the stress hormone of cortisol and aldosterone and get my nitric oxide dump to counter the inflammation I feel from automatic negative thoughts and be the dominant person in my life?
Otherwise I'm relying on healthy hormones of serotonin oxytocin dopamine endorphins adrenaline...
Continue to do but you've always done and get what you've always gotten...
Awesome Video keep up the good work :-)
Thank you, Jesse.
Hi Paul,
first of all thank you for your interesting insights!
I have a question:
You said that it is better to evaluate our future outcomes in a positive way ("when we imagine that what's coming is better... excitement, hope."), and yet, the first thing I thought about when I heard it is - what about the tough feeling of disappointment when the outcome is worse then what we hoped for?
I understand that there will always be a trade off and it's hard to say what is really better.
I only know that I'm used to imagine that it'll be worse then what I want, so there is no "hope" or excitement, but there is also no disappointment.
I would like to hear what do you think about it!
Arik Smo, if something doesn't turn out as I thought (and it rarely does), I look for the positive in what happened. What did I learn? Who did I meet? Is it only Act 2 and Act 3 is still to come? We aren't at the end until we stop breathing so you may have more to try and do before you get the outcome you want. Be persistent.
The yeah at 15:10 was so passionate it made me feel like someone really loved me and wanted to help me, I just wish I could get a hug 🤗
Air hug. Have a great day.
My problem is I live live with a average life standard and target things to go in a average way. So when something goes wrong I judge on a scale based on averages... like an insurance company . . .lol
Dragz, time to change the perspective. Thanks for being here at the channel.
I understand the concept of positive behavior and myself as a parent but sometimes my teenager says some really hurtful things. How do you stay positive then?
Stephanie Sauerberg, oftentimes I don't think they believe what they are saying and choose to be amused by them. It is about separating ourselves from the outcomes. If I know in my heart that I am trying to help and treating them with kindness and dignity, then it doesn't bother me.
Write down 3 things you are grateful,1 is freebies ,2 is painful (find st in that you really grateful)
Imagine about st better
You got it!
I'm a ca student and its really hard sometime staying positive.thanks for advice ☺️
Tanuja Rawat, You are welcome, thank you for watching.
Please make a video of how to build confidence, my son walks off sports fields for example only talking about the balls he missed and not the amazing plays he made.
Tara Marr, search the positive parenting playlist, we have talked about confidence one or two times.
Just because X changes does not mean Y changes or to say, just because time has passed does not mean your situation or your evaluation of it has changed.
Often feelings change with time.
I'm grateful that JESUS died for our sins!!!😊
Me too.
i think my summary of ur video is more like to see that we've been through much worst past, n we're still fine by now, n we should believe that we have a better future.. That's how to stay positive minded.. Grateful n full of hope.
Nice summary Lisharyanti - so honored that you're here! DrPaul
AMAZING 💯 💯 so many new concepts to me and such great advice!!! Thank you so much!! I’m taking on the BB8 challenge!! God bless your and your whole team!
You got this!
Would this work for someone who is like being tortured in prison or something? Asking for a friend.
Natalie Morgan, read the book Man's Search For Meaning by Victor Frankl. It is must read for everyone.
What to do if i feel lonely sir,i am always kind to everyone but no one comes to see or talk to me:(
Exelerator 10, I am not sure what is happening, have you invited people over? Is there a group you could join that has to do with a hobby or interest of yours?
It's 4:42pm
BB8 isn't gonna happen for me.
It totally can happen, small adjustments. Take the win where you can.
Thank you , for the first time I really understood the information plus I see a video about forgiveness that linked me with this video and I want to say that I am so grateful for what you are doing here on this channel, may God bless you ! ❤🙏🙌
You are so welcome, Love. Glad you found us.
Also don't get yourself too involved in other people's business.
Good rule.
Exactly choose life ,we got enough threats that could cause death out in the universe unless we hopefully see it and how to safely deal or get away from it ...we don't need no more prep up and distracting obstacles holding us back from our purpose to keep nature's cycle stay balanced with the universes cycles
killian ivan, thank you for watching and commenting.
Jeanie Robertson- is she the one who calls her husband left brain?
Yes, she does.
Haven’t heard “better by 8” before. That’s an awesome tool. It helped me process something today. Thank you 😊
You are so welcome!
Are you a christian sir? thanks in advance 🙏🏼
April Padua, yes, I am. I seek to make connection with all beliefs and think there is value in learning from one another.
Toxic positivity
Pathological Positivity. I am up for it.
I am grateful to have come across your videos. They are helping me in so many ways. Thank you and God bless you.😊
You are so welcome
Counting my blessings! Very interesting, Dr, I loved it very much!
Thanks.
Kind regards🤗❤️
So nice of you, Lesley.
Wow. I love his fantastic presentation! Thank you !
simpaticonize, glad you enjoyed the video. Honored to be on your team.
What if you mostly feel....nothing???
Kevin Kossow, I appreciate you giving this video a try. If you feel nothing, please consider getting some coaching or counseling. It doesn't have to be us, but I do want to offer a free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. If that sounds interesting, go here to schedule: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
If you would like to try delving into positivity a little more, you can read my book "Pathological Positivity," which I am giving away for free. You can go here to get it: drpauljenkins.info/freebook
Or you could start with my free mini book "Portable Positivity," which you can download here: drpauljenkins.info/portablepositivity
I hope you are able to receive the help you want.
Dr. Paul your videos are phenomenal! I've only watched a few and each one amazed me more than the preivous one! Thank you so much for sharing your insight and wisdom!
Serene Chaos, you are welcome, honored to be on your team.
ppl usually problems that don't exist
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What if you're married to a Narcisst or even a psychopath?
Utr Nagel, it is up to each of us to decide how we want to live and what influences we want.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV yep, sure, I was just wondering if this would also help? Or is it hopeless?
This is something I'm struggling with currently, so I'm doing the exercise now in a journal dedicated to my relationships with my wife and kids.
This is not an easy exercise! That "freebe" is certainly necessary
Thank you for putting this out for us all =)
You are welcome, Neil, and I hope your family relationships become more meaningful in 2019.