I have a teenage daughter going through a similar thing. Doing the therapy for her but not seeing results. Honestly I've been struggling and needed guidance. I haven't been patient. This video really helps and I will try everything discussed here as I continue this quest for my daughter's well being.
There’s nothing worse than being depressed and seeing how it makes other people feel around you. You just feel like a giant burden and if you get the feeling your parents or partner is frustrated and impatient, it just makes those negative emotions so much worse. I’m glad you are trying to be patient and are willing to change for your daughter. ❤ I hope she starts doing better. If she knows you are patient and understanding and willing to listen, then she’ll see she’s loved and it will help. ❤
My beautiful daughter that's now an adult went through alot in the wonderful teen years. I'm not going to go into details about this, however, I almost lost her. The biggest thing I learned is I had to grow thick skin. I told my daughter I love you I'm always going to fight for you and I will walk through hell and back with you. The most important things I learned was patience, persistents and if one thing didn't work we worked to find another way that would. Time is everything and nothing would stop me from getting my girl in a better place. She also had to come to terms within herself. I remember telling her I can't change this, but I can support you and help you find a better way. One conversation we had was she told me "you don't understand ".. I was sad and offended by thar comment bc all I did was try to understand. Then I realized she's right! I don't understand, but I could do everything In my power to make sure she's safe and know she is loved. I told her and this is very important to all the young woman and young men commenting on this.. this moment WILL pass. This is only the here and now. This is 90% YOU (how you make it, what you choose to learn from it).. 10% EVERYONE ELSE. it makes my heart break when I think about all the teens going through this, bc they don't know how to get help, they feel their feelings are invalid or not important enough. And Noone will care or listen. But please don't let the here and now distract you from your beautiful future. Things may seem too much to handle rn. Maybe they are but this will pass. You will be ok!.OK!.. just don't give up on YOU!
@Mel L I'm sorry for your child's pain. I hope everything will pass soon. If you ever need any guidance or advice I'd be glad to try to help. I guess the best advice I can openly share is never doubt your child's intentions. Always be willing and wanting to seek help. I wish you the best and remember for you too, this will pass. Bless and love ❤️
I need to repair this. I freaked out when my 16 year old daughter told me she was molested by the school's janitor a few years ago. I'm going to go back and walk through this from the first. Thank you.
I’m a teenage girl and struggle with depression, I wish my parents were proactive like this. I’m watching this for the sake of my future children, I never want them to have to deal with their mental illness alone like I have.
peach gummybearz, You are awesome to think in the future about helping others. I hope you have a doctor or another adult who you can talk to as there is help out there.
I am a parent of a girl with depression and I wish that she had shared more with me. I may have freaked out a bit but we will be able to cope together and get through it.
I’m a 19 year old mom who’s struggling with depression since about 14 years old, and trying to figure out how to explain this to my parents without sounding like “I need special attention or treatment” has been the nightmare I’ve been dealing with and I’m prepared to deal with if it comes to a time my daughter will need me
I am sorry that you deal with depression. I hope you are feeling much better now. My sister who is 17 is depressed. She has so much anger. She doesn't want therapy or medication. Idon't know how to help her :(.
Another great video with useful advice. As a mother of a child with behavioral issues, we are dealing with a lot of these issues that you are covering. One of the hardest parts of having a child like this is watching them struggle with not having friends. Because of the way she behaves, she kind of freaks the other kids out sometimes.
Good video. I really appreciate it. Thanks for the brilliant advice! It's very helpful for parents who were depressed and don't want their kids to have the same experience.
Mitchelay Bisaya, depression can run in families but being aware of the signs mean we can get help sooner. Thank you for being there for your children no matter what and even if.
Thanks you for your advice. My daughter is going through her teenage life and is showing signs of depression, (maybe pandemic situation is aggravating things). I will follow your advices and hope they will be very helpful. Thanks 😊 A dad loving and loved by her daughter.
Thank you! My daughter just admitted that she's depressed, and it was a shock and a surprise to me. I knew some things were different about her but she lives with her dad and I wasn't sure if it was just a teenage phase. I wish she would have said something sooner, but now that I know, your video has definitely helped me with some initial steps.
I'm n-nine with depression my parents are rude cause once I told them I felt sad and they said WELL WHY WOULD I CARE It hurts me 😭 So much and My depression reason is 1. My bunny died and I've known him my whole life 2. My sister is very I say very abusive 3. My sister blames everything on me and I get in tons of trouble So I can't do anything or say anything and I need help ;(
Hello there! So I had a hectic day today. I was soo depressed I cried all day long for the past few months... so today I tried talking to my parents and they burst out at me for thinking that way ! Like what do I not have? A house , family , friends, food every time I wanna eat ! Then why am I depressed? Why ? I couldn’t answer them ... at the end I apologised for saying all those things I said ....
Sharika Hasan, I am truly sorry your parents responded that way. Perhaps they don't fully understand that depression is a deeper issue than sadness. Here is a video that explains it. I encourage you to watch it, then share it with your parents: "What Is The Difference Between Sadness and Depression" - ua-cam.com/video/oSLYu5zlKQg/v-deo.html . Let them know you would like some extra help, if that is what you want. I hope the videos help; thanks for watching.
Hi My daughter lost her father at age 11 and (now she is 14) because of that we had to move my mother place from metro city to village ,International school to public school we are surround by like toxic people, her periods has started at 11. She lived her 11 years like a princess now she is seviourly depressed. Now started making friends those are also depressed. Please help
Deep s, I hope the videos help, seek professional help for her and be a source to listen to her. If you want one on one coaching, go to www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
Hi thanks for all your videos Can you make a video on how to help a teen to deal with the death list of his father My sons are 12 and 14 and they lost their father at 6 Months and 2 years
Djam B, here is one video ua-cam.com/video/ek1AJFNc5JM/v-deo.html, search the playlist for others. I am sorry for your loss. I hope you are taking advantage of any counseling you may have access to. There are support groups for kids also.
Yes, I have a private practice in Orem, UT. However, I speak to people all over the world through Zoom, a web-based video conferencing tool. If you would like more information on that, please schedule a parenting breakthrough call, and we can discuss your options: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall. Thanks, Elly Hernandez.
My beautiful daughter that's now an adult went through alot in the wonderful teen years. I'm not going to go into details about this, however, I almost lost her. The biggest thing I learned is I had to grow thick skin. I told my daughter I love you I'm always going to fight for you and I will walk through hell and back for you. The most important things I learned was patience, persistents and if one thing didn't work we worked to find another way that would. Time is everything and nothing would stop me from getting my girl in a better place. She also had to come to terms within herself. I remember telling her I can't change this, but I can support you and help you find a better way. One conversation we had was she told me "you don't understand ".. I was sad and offended by thar comment bc all I did was try to understand. Then I realized she's right! I don't understand, but I could do everything In my power to make sure she's safe and know she is loved. I told her and this is very important to all the young woman and young men commenting on this.. this moment WILL pass. This is only the here and now. This is 90% YOU (how you make it, what you choose to learn from it).. 10% EVERYONE ELSE. it makes my heart break when I think about all the teens going through this, bc they don't know how to get help, they feel their feelings are invalid or not important enough. And Noone will care or listen. But please don't let the here and now distract you from your beautiful future. Things may seem too much to handle rn. Maybe they are but this will pass. You will be ok!.OK!.. just don't give up on YOU!
Thank you. My daughter has gotten to the point where she isn't leaving the house. She's online all day, not doing her school work (homeschooling this summer). She doesn't want to talk when I try to bring it up. She doesn't even go to the psychiatrist or therapist anymore. I don't know what to do. I don't want to push too much because of her history, but at the same time I feel like i'm just allowing her to waste away. Not sure if any other parent has/is experiencing this. If anyone has any ideas, I'm here for it.
There are other parents experiencing this, Rosa VR. I know one of them. You might consider cutting the internet and getting more testing done. Try to find some forums to interact with people who are dealing with this type of behavior.
Hi Rosa, Sorry about your daughter. We are going through the same thing with our seventeen year old daughter. Now, she is enrolling in a cyber school program almost a month ago. She started orientation for two hours and stopped because she is having difficulty focusing. I have reached out to the school for support and guidance. At this point, she has refused to seek any help. We have reached out to our community mental Agency for help. They reached out to her and came by the house and she has refused to see them or speak to the counselor.
I am a victim of physical and emotional abuse from my parents. And because of that i have not had a normal type of growing up that normal healthy kids have... I have developed anxiety, self harming tendencies PTSD and most specially depression and ive had them for 8 years now. Please do not be like my parents. Do not do the same to your children. They are so cold and cruel torwards me. Please learn how to be patient with your kids. Especially at these times. Suicide is a very real thing and i know how painful it is to go through. I know this because i have countless suicide attempts and i do not think it would be stopping. I do not see myself live past 20 anymore. I am 20 as of the moment. But i do not see myself living past this age anymore. Please, learn how to comfort your child, like you would to a crying baby. We are just afraid. And fear can make us do something we dont really intend to. Also we are in pain. Learn more about depression and please please be patient with your child. Do not wait for them to take action on ending their lives. Act now before its to late. Empathy, comfort, patience, support and warmth can really help immensely with the emotional pain they feel inside. You do not need to do something drastic. Sometimes just being with them, in silence, crying with them, empathising what they feel, understanding and reassuring them that "everything will be alright" gives comfort. I hope this could help in a way... Please save them. Its not too late.
You're right, dr Paul, absolutely. It takes plenty of time and effort to win your child's trust. The most challenging part for me is to hold on to the "mask" and stay tuned instead of giving immediate advice. Teenagers hate lectures, especially starting with 'If I were you...' or 'When I was at your age...'. Thank you for your great reminders and suggestions.
What if they are afraid because the words that their parents has said before and might say afterward? Because they usually call the child a liar and yell at every mistake they make.
Mika Alone Forever, this is an unfortunate situation. I believe that every person should have healthy self-esteem, despite what others think of them or say to them. Easier said than done, I know. We have some videos on the channel to help you with that. We have a couple playlists that might benefit you: "Just for kids and teens" - ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCicx6xcJ5ZJzVe9UBlRTQV.html (Check out "How To Convince Your Parents To Get You A Phone," that has been found to be very beneficial.) "Positive Personal Development" - ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV.html Some specific videos you might want to check out: "How To Boost Self Esteem" - ua-cam.com/video/YapQjg2p77k/v-deo.html "Overcoming Low Self Esteem" - ua-cam.com/video/w6yeoDvERwE/v-deo.html "How To Deal With Depression On Your Own" - ua-cam.com/video/fjDSEh5RHug/v-deo.html "How To Beat Depression Naturally | 5 Strategies" - ua-cam.com/video/q6lVxGcAQY4/v-deo.html My final suggestion is try talking with a trusted adult about your situation. Either a grandparent, teacher, or school counselor. There are people who would love to help you if you ask. Best wishes.
Thank you. Love the two ears and one mouth for a reason sentence. Reminds me to use them accordingly. My daughter is just 8 years old 😔 and struggling. Sometimes we just don’t know if anything we do is right or wrong. Thank you for some straight forward clear advice
1. Put Your Mask On 1St 2. Listen, Listen and Listen (Don’t Freak Out- “oak, Thank you for sharing that with me. We Can Handle this. Same tone and reassurance) 3. Get the proper resources & tools to support your daughter/son
We are in this right now with my 14yo son. He has completely imploded in the last 14 days, withdrawn from everything barely leaving his bed. Pediatrician & therapist involved. No ahaha moments or path for resolution in sight. Those who say to me, having a highly gifted child must be a breeze, have NO idea. Not a journey I would have chosen. The road seems windy and viewless. It’s affecting the entire family. We’re working on your 3 rules. # 1 is by far the hardest.
Karen Campos, the resolution may not be in sight yet, but hang in there. We don't get to choose our journey, hopefully you can find little joys along the way through positive thinking and gratitude.
33 days later... 15 days of school missed....meds started...therapy meetings regularly....transfer of schools....and my 14yo son told me yesterday, “I’m happy Mom. Learning is fun again!” I had to fight back the joyful tears! My polyglot and mathematician is finding success again! Thank you for your videos! Lots of fantastic advice for those seeking answers!
My girls 14 and 16 are depressed the 16 year refuse meds. They refuse school and refuse going anywhere a need help. They are talking to a therapist. Do you recommend I I apply for social security.
This is great advice. It’s sometimes hard as a parent to take the emotions out and just parent. It’s so hard to watch your children suffer. Is there any specific advice other than the above for a 10 year old girls that may be a little more specific for a girl whose not quite a teen yet?
Rachel Rossi, most of the same applies. Glad you are addressing it young. Have her checked out by a doctor and get a mental health evaluation. The sooner this is dealt with the more tools she can learn that will help her long-term.
Sir my teenage daughter is under depressed and she is not ready to speak with me. She is not interested to do anything. Even though I make her to feel friendly. Please advice me how I can handle her.
Naveena Sp, I have no idea, I have never spoken with her. Try something from the video and if you need coaching make an appointment with www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
Thanks for the tips.. drowning a bit but that, 'no freak out rule', is in the forefront.. at present I am struggling with what to say and do with the lockdown that has been in place since June and my daughters refusal to go outside. We have a rooftop terrace and Spring has begun but she just refuses to leave her room… she's never been a recluse like this before, the fear mongering in the media is a contributing factor but there is also trauma so I'm gentle and loving. I just don't seem to say the right words to her as she ends up pulling the doona up over her head and says she is too tired or depressed or angry and so I give her space. Should I give her ultimatums, maybe lay the law down, feels like lockdown is enabling a deeper sense of detachment.. whats the best thing to do, I'm not sure.. I don't want to trigger her but it also breaks my heart seeing her hideaway so much.
I would cut out the media. Turn off the TV, or whatever source you are getting it from. Fill the hole with positive things. Ask her what it would take to get to Yes and consider getting her some therapy.
Hello there! I have a teenager ( daughter) . She has been depressed 😔 since October 2023. We tried so many treatment, counseling but nothing works for her. I feel hopeless 😢.. now I don't know what makes her sad,
I think every challenges for me becomes harder and I can't recover that quick today I hope there is one person that can talk to me I just really don't know what to do and I'm still young I can't do as much to make me forget about what happened but I really can't
Migixkem Jord, I hope you are able to find a relative or friend to talk to. We have several more videos on depression, just search "Live On Purpose depression". If this is an urgent matter, please consider calling the suicide hotline - they are able to listen. If your situation is less urgent and you are an adult, you can take advantage of our free 25 minute call with a Live On Purpose coach. To schedule, go here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall If you're not an adult yet want to talk to a coach, please speak to your parents and ask if they are willing to set up a call with the 2 of you.
One way would be to try and hook her up with a ambitious, but honest mate, with good morals. Your mate will make or break you, mentally, physically, and financially!
My daughter is 14 and has been suffering through various stressors for about three years now. She finally opened up.about some abuse that happened years ago. It is so hard to not get triggered by the lack.of awareness we had. We love our child. We are supporting her better now but we are in the middle of recovery with her. I really appreciated this video. It was very well done. Thank you !
Ughhhh my baby girl is only 14 and she told me she feels depressed. I remember being her age and having those teenage blues 😭. She said she wants to talk to a counselor but prefers it in school not on the outside.
I have an anxious, depressed pre-teen. It breaks my heart to see her tears and struggles. We have a very open relationship and I dedicate daily chat and cuddle time with her. I wish bullying was not real and self-esteem could be taken in tablets. I wish she could see how beautiful she is and I wish she knew how truly precious, talented and worthy she is.
Thank you for this, my 24 year old is struggling with depression and has been for some time, it has been really tough and I think a lot of therapists out there tend to blame the parents, I even had one tell her I was toxic which was a shock to my family being that I am the positive , more loving parent I’m the family she even had her thinking she should start her own family with friends better then us, it’s really hard to trust in getting help with this kind of trash out there. This was a very positive video and helpful!
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you, I'm really hoping to find a good helpful Therapist nearby. It is very upsetting, but I'm sure not all of the time does this occur.
Doc. All this is REAL. WHAT do you do when you are not the custodial parent . Everything's great...and they return home, to a mega onslaught of parental alienation...and the next time you talk...the kids having a negative critical internal dialogue, which drowns herself and you out, and it's an unreal tongue lashing in which she repeatedly hits and runs...with stuff the step parent and other parent are overloading her with! I am not even talking to her, or with her, but listening to parental alienators channelling through her ..she does not know what or why she is saying what she is...but that residual negativity is there, and coz she is trauma bonded to them:(
@@LiveOnPurposeTV she has just turned 17, but when turned inside out is a volatile 11. The other one is 16. The 16 year old is extremely anxious avoidant. She will bury her head in the sand or otherwise "disappear" just in case there may be discussions, which she is frightened of, because she sees it as 'arguing'. The 17 year old, if she perceives that there may be a discussion, she sees that as an "attack", and weighs up what "might" be said, and rushes into an onslaught which is disproportionate. I really feel for both of them. Thx
@@shaynelahmed6323 hi, thats awful, sadly I can relate w/ one of kids "go to" reactions is your kids reactions. One of my new "sayings" I got from a video is " it matters what you think of you" above what other adults, kids think of you. I continuously say " I love you" always & forever". Or " keep your self talk like a best friend". 😃❤
The GlossyViolinist, can you talk to your doctor or a school counselor or another trusted adult who can advocate? Advocating for our own self is so difficult when we are already depressed.
We are having a tough time with my daughter for the last one year. We are getting professional medical support and advice from the health system. Doing our best to keep calm amidst of difficulties. Daughter says that she needs to be completely ok to resume her academic and other activities. Frequent dips have put her into further depressed situation. However, the duration of dips have become shorter some times it is acute.
@@gehanpanagoda1030 I’m also going through the very same with my daughter. No parents should have to watch their child suffering . Straight A student now not even leaving her room to brave one day at school. This by far has been my biggest challenge in life. I pray to god for us ..all parents going through this to be brave and strong and for a light in the darkness. Xx
Your videos are amazing. Thank you sooooo much for the time you take to share such valuable information. Im so grateful that this can help me with my son currently and have the knowledge ready for my daughter in a few years 👍
I’m panicking and looking at everything now … my 13 year old daughter just today told us she’s sad for last 2 years . We’re in uncharted waters. She’s amazing in school , great friends , good life , great parents, no stress in our family life. Great Christmas, great birthdays. We thought all is good so this is a shock . She’s crying and sad it’s breaking my heart ❤️ she is my girl…
I talked with my mom about how I feel like I told her EVERYTHING about what’s been going on my mind and she was terrified, I said I wanted to get therapy holding my tears but she said ah I understand what you’re going through but I’m sure it’ll go away eventually.. we didn’t talk about these topics again after that it’s been almost a year and now I don’t even know how to reach out to them I feel like drowning being unable to talk with anyone, I lost emotions that I can’t even react as I used to I’m scared with what’s happening to me idk what to do
I can never talk to my mother about anything... She says I can talk to her about anything that she loves and cares for me but whenever I've tried to talk to her she NEVER does and talks over me.. Lecturing me etc.. I can never get a word out... And when I tried to tell her about my depression through a note (this was probably my fault for saying this after an argument but still don't excuse what she said) she told me "I'd rather have an obedient daughter that's buried in my backyard then a disobedient daughter still living"... Do you know what that told me? That told me she wants me dead I poured my heart out and she says that... Then few days later I have been bulkied the entire school year this is towards the end I call my mom in tears I've finally had enough.. I try to tell her why I'm crying... She says "Your crying over a few words?! Your weak, pathetic, too emotional grow tf up!!!" Etc before I can even finish and she still asks the hard question cuz she notices and thinks I have a little depression.. She's not entirely wrong... But my mom is wrong I don't have a little... There are days I stare at my inhaler in my hand (I have asthma) and think "I should overdose.. Itd be so easy, quick, painless...." I usually have to text my brother and he talks me out of it... But she even asks the hard question I feel like I can never tell her the truth cuz she don't understand afraid she'll have another outburst so I say "No" "I'm fine" but inside I'm... Crying reaching out for a hand I say I'm not fine!!!! I wanna scream and cry but I have to keep my composure to not alarm her.... I wish she was more like this... But she's not.... And it's hard I don't even trust therapist cuz every therapist I've talked to in the past told my mother about what we talk about and what I said breaking my trust... I only trust my friends and my brother... They are my rock, my therapist, the only reason I'm still alive is bc of them.... They keep me going and I'm greatful for that...
Samantha Gallegos, No child should ever be talked to like this. Could you talk to the counselor at school? Could you and your mom do some therapy together to learn how to communicate better? Don't solve these temporary problems with a permanent solution. I am glad you have your brother and friends. Think of them and you don't have to talk to your mother. I am glad you have a therapist. Hopefully he or she can help you.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV I have talked to a counselor but they only just removed the students from my class n that's it and my mom she sees nothing wrong with the words she has said and her only excuse is "This was said to me at your age!!!" And my mom also grew up hearing and seeing things a child should never see nor hear but I don't think she really realizes she doing to me mentally so getting her n me to a counselor would be nearly impossible but she sees nothing wrong with it so I only have my friends and my brother to talk to and some days are just kinda hard don't get me wrong we have our good moments we laugh and talk alot but my mom often says shit out of anger it's little things but after a while it starts to build up with the bullying I was being told to kill myself, waste of space, etc so that is kinda where the sucidal part comes from I guess with me it's trust issues she knows something is wrong but based on the past when I've tried to go to her on my darkest days when I need her the most she's only made it worse so I just kinda stopped I feel like I can't go to her and yeah I'm just kinda silently waiting out this last year till I can finally move out and get a job so I can be away from her
I wish I had help, I'm only 14 year old girl and I'm kinda shy and always have been and it's because I haven't been out in the world much and I kinda of am in one place for a long time like only staying at my house and then go to my parents work place for the rest of the day like if I was in cuarenteen. anyway, this video is very helpfull i can imagine myself watching again in the feature.
What about when all she Can say Is "I don't know" and I really mean all she "Can" say, it's not that she "won't" tell what's wrong, its more that she "Can't" Maybe she can't understand, or maybe she does understand but can't get the words to straighten out and make since.
M.E. Fair., she may really not be able to express herself and it would be wise to get her some counseling so she can learn how to do this. Once she has this skill her depression may lessen.
@@124manr Thank you for your advice, I was actually talking about myself when I commented that I don't know why exactly I chose to word it as though I was the parent. But I did talk to my mom a few months ago and we went to see a counselor.
Very useful content in your video thank so much… My daughter herself asking me that I need help since she was 10 year old today she is 12 that’s I need therapist ..she reads lots stuff online she says I have ADHD OCD and what not ….I never took seriously I thought it’s because of internet gaming all the time specially Roblox which is not good for kids… and lack discipline in her life…
My daughter suffers from depression. She’s in therapy and on medication. I hug her and listen every day and it hurts my heart to see her so miserable. I feel so helpless. I feel like a major failure as a parent. I pray to God to help me figure out the right things to say.
I do have coaching clients if you want to go that route. Contact me through my website drpauljenkins.com. Glad to have you at the channel, Sugra Sabri.
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Some times successful. Daughter or son. Fall and need support from they parents like go back to the house while they put them self back together and some parents can't understand that how can they all handle that together. ...when bad kids get older and want to change for real seems like some parents do not believe it ...but it is different when you choose to change that when people push you to change And you not ready ....I have a friend she really want to change and I want to help her she's 35. Have 2 kids ...was a exotic dancer and she is ready to change ....how can I help
Pedro Martinez, thank you for watching and being willing to help your friend who is ready to change. To support her, just listen when she needs to talk. If she asks for advice, you can give it to her, otherwise give advice sparingly. I would love it if you could point her in the direction of Live On Purpose TV. We have a Positive Personal Development playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV.html. We are also offering a free 25 minute call with a Live On Purpose coach. A coach could help guide her in the direction she wants to go. If she would like to take advantage of that, have her go here to schedule: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
All I know is that children should always tell the truth with their parents no matter how they react. Most of the stress comes from not being able to express themselves. Get it off your chest. Parents, especially mothers, are more understanding than you know.
You sound like a great parent ❤ I wish my parents recognized the problems I had and took responsibility to be the parent and made me get meds and therapy. I’m 30 now and just started taking meds that I should have taken over 15 years ago… 😭
I just found out my 11yr old daughter is struggling with depression and has had thought of self harm! She's a great smart kid and has alway been shy so she's never opened up to me about this! I'm just looking for help and your tips are helpful! I pray to the gods I can do everything right to help her through this!
I have a teenage daughter going through a similar thing. Doing the therapy for her but not seeing results. Honestly I've been struggling and needed guidance. I haven't been patient. This video really helps and I will try everything discussed here as I continue this quest for my daughter's well being.
Anthony Zuluaga, don't give up, try a different therapy if this isn't working for your daughter.
There’s nothing worse than being depressed and seeing how it makes other people feel around you. You just feel like a giant burden and if you get the feeling your parents or partner is frustrated and impatient, it just makes those negative emotions so much worse. I’m glad you are trying to be patient and are willing to change for your daughter. ❤ I hope she starts doing better. If she knows you are patient and understanding and willing to listen, then she’ll see she’s loved and it will help. ❤
My beautiful daughter that's now an adult went through alot in the wonderful teen years. I'm not going to go into details about this, however, I almost lost her.
The biggest thing I learned is I had to grow thick skin. I told my daughter I love you I'm always going to fight for you and I will walk through hell and back with you.
The most important things I learned was patience, persistents and if one thing didn't work we worked to find another way that would. Time is everything and nothing would stop me from getting my girl in a better place. She also had to come to terms within herself. I remember telling her I can't change this, but I can support you and help you find a better way. One conversation we had was she told me "you don't understand ".. I was sad and offended by thar comment bc all I did was try to understand. Then I realized she's right! I don't understand, but I could do everything In my power to make sure she's safe and know she is loved.
I told her and this is very important to all the young woman and young men commenting on this.. this moment WILL pass. This is only the here and now. This is 90% YOU (how you make it, what you choose to learn from it).. 10% EVERYONE ELSE.
it makes my heart break when I think about all the teens going through this, bc they don't know how to get help, they feel their feelings are invalid or not important enough. And Noone will care or listen. But please don't let the here and now distract you from your beautiful future. Things may seem too much to handle rn. Maybe they are but this will pass. You will be ok!.OK!.. just don't give up on YOU!
Never give up. There is always hope.
@Mel L I'm sorry for your child's pain. I hope everything will pass soon. If you ever need any guidance or advice I'd be glad to try to help.
I guess the best advice I can openly share is never doubt your child's intentions. Always be willing and wanting to seek help.
I wish you the best and remember for you too, this will pass. Bless and love ❤️
You are so helpful to me too.Thank you!
I need to repair this. I freaked out when my 16 year old daughter told me she was molested by the school's janitor a few years ago. I'm going to go back and walk through this from the first. Thank you.
Mak JLEB, I sincerely hope you find solutions. That should not have happened. Best wishes to you and your daughter.
I’m a teenage girl and struggle with depression, I wish my parents were proactive like this. I’m watching this for the sake of my future children, I never want them to have to deal with their mental illness alone like I have.
peach gummybearz, You are awesome to think in the future about helping others. I hope you have a doctor or another adult who you can talk to as there is help out there.
I am a parent of a girl with depression and I wish that she had shared more with me. I may have freaked out a bit but we will be able to cope together and get through it.
I’m a 19 year old mom who’s struggling with depression since about 14 years old, and trying to figure out how to explain this to my parents without sounding like “I need special attention or treatment” has been the nightmare I’ve been dealing with and I’m prepared to deal with if it comes to a time my daughter will need me
I am sorry that you deal with depression. I hope you are feeling much better now. My sister who is 17 is depressed. She has so much anger. She doesn't want therapy or medication. Idon't know how to help her :(.
@@dianafilipa4343 I am sorry. For a young mama depression can be extra hard.
Another great video with useful advice. As a mother of a child with behavioral issues, we are dealing with a lot of these issues that you are covering. One of the hardest parts of having a child like this is watching them struggle with not having friends. Because of the way she behaves, she kind of freaks the other kids out sometimes.
Thank you April - stay tuned - we have an upcoming video about the friend issue. DrPaul
Good video. I really appreciate it. Thanks for the brilliant advice! It's very helpful for parents who were depressed and don't want their kids to have the same experience.
Mitchelay Bisaya, depression can run in families but being aware of the signs mean we can get help sooner. Thank you for being there for your children no matter what and even if.
Thanks you for your advice. My daughter is going through her teenage life and is showing signs of depression, (maybe pandemic situation is aggravating things).
I will follow your advices and hope they will be very helpful.
Thanks 😊
A dad loving and loved by her daughter.
DS, could be. I know you will remember to love her no matter what...
Thank you! My daughter just admitted that she's depressed, and it was a shock and a surprise to me. I knew some things were different about her but she lives with her dad and I wasn't sure if it was just a teenage phase. I wish she would have said something sooner, but now that I know, your video has definitely helped me with some initial steps.
I am glad that she opened up to you, R. Ray. Thank you for taking her seriously and helping her.
Thank you
Honored to be on your team.
Thank you Dr Paul this was helpful
So glad it was helpful for you, Dr Qoys Cabdiraxmaan. Thank you for watching.
Amazing advice. I'm going to start today.
Awesome, Gina Marie. Honored to be on your team.
Good 3 rules ! I will follow.... thank you 🙏🏻
Wonderful!
Lâu quá rồi mới nghe anh Đức Phúc hát, thích quá đi thôi.
Thank you for watching.
I'm n-nine with depression my parents are rude cause once I told them I felt sad and they said
WELL WHY WOULD I CARE
It hurts me 😭
So much and
My depression reason is
1. My bunny died and I've known him my whole life
2. My sister is very I say very abusive
3. My sister blames everything on me and I get in tons of trouble
So I can't do anything or say anything and I need help ;(
I am sorry, I wish you the best. Is there another adult you can talk to about what is going on?
So listen listen listen and react calmly with smile..
L K, smile, it keeps them guessing.
Thank u
You are welcome.
What great advice!
Liz Henkelman, thank you!
What is the difference between counseling and therapy?
A counselor will use a type of therapy they are trained in. Ask the counselor what type of therapy they use and then research the different types.
Great video Thank you so much
You are very welcome
Helpful
I’m glad it’s helpful - thanks for watching! DrPaul
Hello there! So I had a hectic day today. I was soo depressed I cried all day long for the past few months... so today I tried talking to my parents and they burst out at me for thinking that way ! Like what do I not have? A house , family , friends, food every time I wanna eat ! Then why am I depressed? Why ? I couldn’t answer them ... at the end I apologised for saying all those things I said ....
Sharika Hasan, I am truly sorry your parents responded that way. Perhaps they don't fully understand that depression is a deeper issue than sadness. Here is a video that explains it. I encourage you to watch it, then share it with your parents: "What Is The Difference Between Sadness and Depression" - ua-cam.com/video/oSLYu5zlKQg/v-deo.html . Let them know you would like some extra help, if that is what you want. I hope the videos help; thanks for watching.
Hi
My daughter lost her father at age 11 and (now she is 14) because of that we had to move my mother place from metro city to village ,International school to public school
we are surround by like toxic people, her periods has started at 11.
She lived her 11 years like a princess now she is seviourly depressed.
Now started making friends those are also depressed.
Please help
Deep s, I hope the videos help, seek professional help for her and be a source to listen to her. If you want one on one coaching, go to www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
Thank you😊🙏😊
You're welcome 😊
My daughter is depressed and won’t speak to me she is pushing me away. Getting her some counselling so she can speak to someone.
toni hannah, sounds like a good plan. I wish you well.
Hi thanks for all your videos
Can you make a video on how to help a teen to deal with the death list of his father
My sons are 12 and 14 and they lost their father at 6 Months and 2 years
Djam B, here is one video ua-cam.com/video/ek1AJFNc5JM/v-deo.html, search the playlist for others. I am sorry for your loss. I hope you are taking advantage of any counseling you may have access to. There are support groups for kids also.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV
Thanks a lot I appreciate
I'm 11 and I have depression....can you help?
gachalife storys With gigi, talk to your parents and if you decide you want to talk to me, have them get in contact with the office.
I don’t know what to do
Joe Garcia, it can seem daunting and hopeless. I hope the video helps and reach out for professional help.
❤️
Thanks, Andres.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Igualmente
To the point please
Thanks for the feedback.
I wish you could treat my daughter in person. Do you have a Private practice?
Yes, I have a private practice in Orem, UT. However, I speak to people all over the world through Zoom, a web-based video conferencing tool. If you would like more information on that, please schedule a parenting breakthrough call, and we can discuss your options: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall. Thanks, Elly Hernandez.
My beautiful daughter that's now an adult went through alot in the wonderful teen years. I'm not going to go into details about this, however, I almost lost her.
The biggest thing I learned is I had to grow thick skin. I told my daughter I love you I'm always going to fight for you and I will walk through hell and back for you.
The most important things I learned was patience, persistents and if one thing didn't work we worked to find another way that would. Time is everything and nothing would stop me from getting my girl in a better place. She also had to come to terms within herself. I remember telling her I can't change this, but I can support you and help you find a better way. One conversation we had was she told me "you don't understand ".. I was sad and offended by thar comment bc all I did was try to understand. Then I realized she's right! I don't understand, but I could do everything In my power to make sure she's safe and know she is loved.
I told her and this is very important to all the young woman and young men commenting on this.. this moment WILL pass. This is only the here and now. This is 90% YOU (how you make it, what you choose to learn from it).. 10% EVERYONE ELSE.
it makes my heart break when I think about all the teens going through this, bc they don't know how to get help, they feel their feelings are invalid or not important enough. And Noone will care or listen. But please don't let the here and now distract you from your beautiful future. Things may seem too much to handle rn. Maybe they are but this will pass. You will be ok!.OK!.. just don't give up on YOU!
There is always hope.
@stacym783, thank you for sharing.
Thank you
You're welcome
Pls adopt me.
Wish it were possible. Thank you for watching.
Thank you. My daughter has gotten to the point where she isn't leaving the house. She's online all day, not doing her school work (homeschooling this summer). She doesn't want to talk when I try to bring it up. She doesn't even go to the psychiatrist or therapist anymore. I don't know what to do. I don't want to push too much because of her history, but at the same time I feel like i'm just allowing her to waste away. Not sure if any other parent has/is experiencing this. If anyone has any ideas, I'm here for it.
There are other parents experiencing this, Rosa VR. I know one of them. You might consider cutting the internet and getting more testing done. Try to find some forums to interact with people who are dealing with this type of behavior.
Hi Rosa, Sorry about your daughter. We are going through the same thing with our seventeen year old daughter. Now, she is enrolling in a cyber school program almost a month ago. She started orientation for two hours and stopped because she is having difficulty focusing. I have reached out to the school for support and guidance. At this point, she has refused to seek any help. We have reached out to our community mental Agency for help. They reached out to her and came by the house and she has refused to see them or speak to the counselor.
I am a victim of physical and emotional abuse from my parents. And because of that i have not had a normal type of growing up that normal healthy kids have... I have developed anxiety, self harming tendencies PTSD and most specially depression and ive had them for 8 years now. Please do not be like my parents. Do not do the same to your children. They are so cold and cruel torwards me. Please learn how to be patient with your kids. Especially at these times. Suicide is a very real thing and i know how painful it is to go through. I know this because i have countless suicide attempts and i do not think it would be stopping. I do not see myself live past 20 anymore. I am 20 as of the moment. But i do not see myself living past this age anymore. Please, learn how to comfort your child, like you would to a crying baby. We are just afraid. And fear can make us do something we dont really intend to. Also we are in pain. Learn more about depression and please please be patient with your child. Do not wait for them to take action on ending their lives. Act now before its to late. Empathy, comfort, patience, support and warmth can really help immensely with the emotional pain they feel inside. You do not need to do something drastic. Sometimes just being with them, in silence, crying with them, empathising what they feel, understanding and reassuring them that "everything will be alright" gives comfort. I hope this could help in a way... Please save them. Its not too late.
@@DippedInSauce1795 Thanks for the info I appreciate you sharing what you went through. I hope you're doing ok
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You're right, dr Paul, absolutely. It takes plenty of time and effort to win your child's trust. The most challenging part for me is to hold on to the "mask" and stay tuned instead of giving immediate advice. Teenagers hate lectures, especially starting with 'If I were you...' or 'When I was at your age...'. Thank you for your great reminders and suggestions.
You are right on, Kasia Misianda. Use your two ear and one mouth in those proportions, a great rule for dealing with teens.
Yes, I hated the " if I were you". Kids want to feel that they can handle tough situations.
What if they are afraid because the words that their parents has said before and might say afterward? Because they usually call the child a liar and yell at every mistake they make.
Mika Alone Forever, this is an unfortunate situation. I believe that every person should have healthy self-esteem, despite what others think of them or say to them. Easier said than done, I know. We have some videos on the channel to help you with that. We have a couple playlists that might benefit you:
"Just for kids and teens" - ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCicx6xcJ5ZJzVe9UBlRTQV.html (Check out "How To Convince Your Parents To Get You A Phone," that has been found to be very beneficial.)
"Positive Personal Development" - ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV.html
Some specific videos you might want to check out:
"How To Boost Self Esteem" - ua-cam.com/video/YapQjg2p77k/v-deo.html
"Overcoming Low Self Esteem" - ua-cam.com/video/w6yeoDvERwE/v-deo.html
"How To Deal With Depression On Your Own" - ua-cam.com/video/fjDSEh5RHug/v-deo.html
"How To Beat Depression Naturally | 5 Strategies" - ua-cam.com/video/q6lVxGcAQY4/v-deo.html
My final suggestion is try talking with a trusted adult about your situation. Either a grandparent, teacher, or school counselor. There are people who would love to help you if you ask. Best wishes.
Great video, wish I head your words when I was stugling with my daughters' depression. Hope all parents can help of that 💚
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank u for ur reply
Welcome!
How is your daughter now
Thank you.. I think that this Pandemic has affected many teens horribly w depressive thoughts. we need more resources to help them 😍
Kat C, I couldn't agree more. I am hearing about it and seeing younger clients.
I have a hard time implementing these practices but I'm starting to understand the reasoning. Thank you this really helpful and I'm greatful.
Sometimes it takes a while to figure out how to implement the principle. Watch again and again and it will begin to make sense.
Thank you DR Pual this video will
Help me prepare for my daughter 😃
I am glad the video is timely for you, Star uk StarTV. It is always better to prepare than be in crisis.
This video helps me understand my role better as a parent - listen without forcing my opinions or advice. It's helping us set up better communication
Lianne Brewer, glad you are communicating better. The relationship you are developing will be positive.
Sound good.. But depressed child doesn't want to talk or going out. You can not make my daughter going out
It is a journey to heal from depression so move slowly and hopefully she can get to the point where going out will be an option for her.
Oh my... I handled my daughter COMPLETELY wrong! I hope I can fix it :-(
Karin Castens, there is always hope. I truly believe that.
Same here 🤦🏼♀️
Thank you for taking the time to educate and help!
My pleasure, Mike Chierotti. Honored to be on your team.
Thank you. Love the two ears and one mouth for a reason sentence. Reminds me to use them accordingly. My daughter is just 8 years old 😔 and struggling. Sometimes we just don’t know if anything we do is right or wrong. Thank you for some straight forward clear advice
kellie st ledger, honored to be on your team.
Oh wow you're awesome!!
Thanks for watching, Janet Spiteri.
1. Put Your Mask On 1St
2. Listen, Listen and Listen (Don’t Freak Out- “oak, Thank you for sharing that with me. We Can Handle this. Same tone and reassurance)
3. Get the proper resources & tools to support your daughter/son
You got this.
We are in this right now with my 14yo son. He has completely imploded in the last 14 days, withdrawn from everything barely leaving his bed.
Pediatrician & therapist involved. No ahaha moments or path for resolution in sight. Those who say to me, having a highly gifted child must be a breeze, have NO idea. Not a journey I would have chosen. The road seems windy and viewless. It’s affecting the entire family. We’re working on your 3 rules. # 1 is by far the hardest.
Karen Campos, the resolution may not be in sight yet, but hang in there. We don't get to choose our journey, hopefully you can find little joys along the way through positive thinking and gratitude.
33 days later... 15 days of school missed....meds started...therapy meetings regularly....transfer of schools....and my 14yo son told me yesterday, “I’m happy Mom. Learning is fun again!” I had to fight back the joyful tears! My polyglot and mathematician is finding success again! Thank you for your videos! Lots of fantastic advice for those seeking answers!
My girls 14 and 16 are depressed the 16 year refuse meds. They refuse school and refuse going anywhere a need help. They are talking to a therapist. Do you recommend I I apply for social security.
I have never seen or talked to your children so I wouldn't know. Talk to their therapist and don't rush into it.
This is great advice. It’s sometimes hard as a parent to take the emotions out and just parent. It’s so hard to watch your children suffer. Is there any specific advice other than the above for a 10 year old girls that may be a little more specific for a girl whose not quite a teen yet?
Rachel Rossi, most of the same applies. Glad you are addressing it young. Have her checked out by a doctor and get a mental health evaluation. The sooner this is dealt with the more tools she can learn that will help her long-term.
Sir my teenage daughter is under depressed and she is not ready to speak with me. She is not interested to do anything. Even though I make her to feel friendly. Please advice me how I can handle her.
Naveena Sp, I have no idea, I have never spoken with her. Try something from the video and if you need coaching make an appointment with www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
She need therapist because she says I don’t listen and I need someone to talk too and my daughter doesn’t trust me for anything.
drama, I am so sorry. I hope you can find someone. www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
Thank you SO MUCH!! I really need it to hear this today.
Our pleasure. Good luck.
Thanks for the tips.. drowning a bit but that, 'no freak out rule', is in the forefront.. at present I am struggling with what to say and do with the lockdown that has been in place since June and my daughters refusal to go outside. We have a rooftop terrace and Spring has begun but she just refuses to leave her room… she's never been a recluse like this before, the fear mongering in the media is a contributing factor but there is also trauma so I'm gentle and loving. I just don't seem to say the right words to her as she ends up pulling the doona up over her head and says she is too tired or depressed or angry and so I give her space. Should I give her ultimatums, maybe lay the law down, feels like lockdown is enabling a deeper sense of detachment.. whats the best thing to do, I'm not sure.. I don't want to trigger her but it also breaks my heart seeing her hideaway so much.
I would cut out the media. Turn off the TV, or whatever source you are getting it from. Fill the hole with positive things. Ask her what it would take to get to Yes and consider getting her some therapy.
How can we get all these lonely people together in local communities so they can become friends?
That is a great question. I am not sure. With all kinds of different communities, online, etc. we should be able to have choices.
Hello there! I have a teenager ( daughter) . She has been depressed 😔 since October 2023. We tried so many treatment, counseling but nothing works for her. I feel hopeless 😢.. now
I don't know what makes her sad,
Thank you I will try this to open up conversation I'm other matters as well.
Good luck!
Great advices! Thank you so much!
You are welcome.
This is truly a great video for my situation right now. Thank you so much!
You are very welcome, 999stupidcupid! Honored to be on your team.
I think every challenges for me becomes harder and I can't recover that quick today I hope there is one person that can talk to me I just really don't know what to do and I'm still young I can't do as much to make me forget about what happened but I really can't
Migixkem Jord, I hope you are able to find a relative or friend to talk to. We have several more videos on depression, just search "Live On Purpose depression". If this is an urgent matter, please consider calling the suicide hotline - they are able to listen. If your situation is less urgent and you are an adult, you can take advantage of our free 25 minute call with a Live On Purpose coach. To schedule, go here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
If you're not an adult yet want to talk to a coach, please speak to your parents and ask if they are willing to set up a call with the 2 of you.
Thanks for replying 🙏
Our pleasure.
One way would be to try and hook her up with a ambitious, but honest mate, with good morals.
Your mate will make or break you, mentally, physically, and financially!
Thank you for watching.
My daughter is 14 and has been suffering through various stressors for about three years now. She finally opened up.about some abuse that happened years ago. It is so hard to not get triggered by the lack.of awareness we had. We love our child. We are supporting her better now but we are in the middle of recovery with her. I really appreciated this video. It was very well done. Thank you !
Ughhhh my baby girl is only 14 and she told me she feels depressed. I remember being her age and having those teenage blues 😭. She said she wants to talk to a counselor but prefers it in school not on the outside.
Jay, I am glad you are there to help her. It may be a great bonding experience for you both.
Sometimes the car ride help with my teen. Sometimes she just won’t open up.
Collins Mabry, Yes, so many teens open up in the car. Great way, turn off the music and talk.
I have an anxious, depressed pre-teen. It breaks my heart to see her tears and struggles. We have a very open relationship and I dedicate daily chat and cuddle time with her. I wish bullying was not real and self-esteem could be taken in tablets. I wish she could see how beautiful she is and I wish she knew how truly precious, talented and worthy she is.
Leentjie Dekker, with your help and support she will hopefully be able to see these qualities in herself before long. Hang in there.
Your post was truly beautiful. Great post about caring for your child . My child is suffering and I know we will get through it
Chúc cho Đức Thật nhiều sức khỏe.
Thank you for watching.
I'm 17 but I can totally see myself coming back to these videos in like 20 or 30 years lmao
Max Mccann, I hope they are all still here for you and helpful.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.🌹
You are so welcome
Very assuring message sir .👍
Thank you, there is always hope.
Thank you for this, my 24 year old is struggling with depression and has been for some time, it has been really tough and I think a lot of therapists out there tend to blame the parents, I even had one tell her I was toxic which was a shock to my family being that I am the positive , more loving parent I’m the family she even had her thinking she should start her own family with friends better then us, it’s really hard to trust in getting help with this kind of trash out there. This was a very positive video and helpful!
I am sorry, Lisa. That is frustrating. Try to get some recommendation of helpful therapists in your area.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you, I'm really hoping to find a good helpful Therapist nearby. It is very upsetting, but I'm sure not all of the time does this occur.
thank you this is helpful
You're welcome!
Doc. All this is REAL. WHAT do you do when you are not the custodial parent . Everything's great...and they return home, to a mega onslaught of parental alienation...and the next time you talk...the kids having a negative critical internal dialogue, which drowns herself and you out, and it's an unreal tongue lashing in which she repeatedly hits and runs...with stuff the step parent and other parent are overloading her with! I am not even talking to her, or with her, but listening to parental alienators channelling through her ..she does not know what or why she is saying what she is...but that residual negativity is there, and coz she is trauma bonded to them:(
I feel for your child, Shaynel Ahmed. I am not sure how old she is, but keep being positive and present for her, she will understand as time goes by.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV she has just turned 17, but when turned inside out is a volatile 11. The other one is 16. The 16 year old is extremely anxious avoidant. She will bury her head in the sand or otherwise "disappear" just in case there may be discussions, which she is frightened of, because she sees it as 'arguing'. The 17 year old, if she perceives that there may be a discussion, she sees that as an "attack", and weighs up what "might" be said, and rushes into an onslaught which is disproportionate. I really feel for both of them. Thx
@@shaynelahmed6323 hi, thats awful, sadly I can relate w/ one of kids "go to" reactions is your kids reactions.
One of my new "sayings" I got from a video is " it matters what you think of you" above what other adults, kids think of you.
I continuously say " I love you" always & forever".
Or " keep your self talk like a best friend". 😃❤
@@Mushroom321- thanks Wendi....
Nghe phúc hát thấy ấm âp quá殺
Thank you for watching.
I don't know if I am depressed, but my symptoms are getting pretty bad. How will I explain to my parents, cause they actually don't care?
The GlossyViolinist, can you talk to your doctor or a school counselor or another trusted adult who can advocate? Advocating for our own self is so difficult when we are already depressed.
I hope that you talked to your school counselor or parents. How are you?
Ms. Li My old school counselor talked to me, and then i changed schools, and i felt much better. I made new friends, and i have a much better life.
@@zhouyun654_ Glad to hear it! That is great news. Wish you Blessings on Blessings on Blessings.
Thank you
You are welcome, Gehan.
We are having a tough time with my daughter for the last one year. We are getting professional medical support and advice from the health system. Doing our best to keep calm amidst of difficulties. Daughter says that she needs to be completely ok to resume her academic and other activities. Frequent dips have put her into further depressed situation. However, the duration of dips have become shorter some times it is acute.
@@gehanpanagoda1030 I’m also going through the very same with my daughter. No parents should have to watch their child suffering . Straight A student now not even leaving her room to brave one day at school. This by far has been my biggest challenge in life. I pray to god for us ..all parents going through this to be brave and strong and for a light in the darkness. Xx
Excellent advice, thank you.
You are welcome, zjldmd. Honored to be on your team.
Thank you for this.... going through some things currently and your advice was spot on
You are so welcome, Issac Bolin.
Your videos are amazing. Thank you sooooo much for the time you take to share such valuable information. Im so grateful that this can help me with my son currently and have the knowledge ready for my daughter in a few years 👍
Clare Martin, honored to be on your team.
Thank you so much for this advice.
I’m panicking and looking at everything now … my 13 year old daughter just today told us she’s sad for last 2 years . We’re in uncharted waters. She’s amazing in school , great friends , good life , great parents, no stress in our family life. Great Christmas, great birthdays. We thought all is good so this is a shock . She’s crying and sad it’s breaking my heart ❤️ she is my girl…
I hope you all get the help you need to heal and become stronger together.
Too Challenge for parents
Bread Rice, sometimes it is very challenging and professional help is needed.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thanks, will medication work?
I talked with my mom about how I feel like I told her EVERYTHING about what’s been going on my mind and she was terrified, I said I wanted to get therapy holding my tears but she said ah I understand what you’re going through but I’m sure it’ll go away eventually.. we didn’t talk about these topics again after that it’s been almost a year and now I don’t even know how to reach out to them I feel like drowning being unable to talk with anyone, I lost emotions that I can’t even react as I used to I’m scared with what’s happening to me idk what to do
Might be time to bring it up again or with another trusted adult or a counselor at school. Keep reaching out.
Going through it right now sucks I don’t know what to do lord give me strength
Pinky llly, one day at a time. It is difficult, but you can do it.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you 🙏
I can never talk to my mother about anything... She says I can talk to her about anything that she loves and cares for me but whenever I've tried to talk to her she NEVER does and talks over me.. Lecturing me etc.. I can never get a word out... And when I tried to tell her about my depression through a note (this was probably my fault for saying this after an argument but still don't excuse what she said) she told me "I'd rather have an obedient daughter that's buried in my backyard then a disobedient daughter still living"... Do you know what that told me? That told me she wants me dead I poured my heart out and she says that... Then few days later I have been bulkied the entire school year this is towards the end I call my mom in tears I've finally had enough.. I try to tell her why I'm crying... She says "Your crying over a few words?! Your weak, pathetic, too emotional grow tf up!!!" Etc before I can even finish and she still asks the hard question cuz she notices and thinks I have a little depression.. She's not entirely wrong... But my mom is wrong I don't have a little... There are days I stare at my inhaler in my hand (I have asthma) and think "I should overdose.. Itd be so easy, quick, painless...." I usually have to text my brother and he talks me out of it... But she even asks the hard question I feel like I can never tell her the truth cuz she don't understand afraid she'll have another outburst so I say "No" "I'm fine" but inside I'm... Crying reaching out for a hand I say I'm not fine!!!! I wanna scream and cry but I have to keep my composure to not alarm her.... I wish she was more like this... But she's not.... And it's hard I don't even trust therapist cuz every therapist I've talked to in the past told my mother about what we talk about and what I said breaking my trust... I only trust my friends and my brother... They are my rock, my therapist, the only reason I'm still alive is bc of them.... They keep me going and I'm greatful for that...
Samantha Gallegos, No child should ever be talked to like this. Could you talk to the counselor at school? Could you and your mom do some therapy together to learn how to communicate better? Don't solve these temporary problems with a permanent solution. I am glad you have your brother and friends. Think of them and you don't have to talk to your mother. I am glad you have a therapist. Hopefully he or she can help you.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV I have talked to a counselor but they only just removed the students from my class n that's it and my mom she sees nothing wrong with the words she has said and her only excuse is "This was said to me at your age!!!" And my mom also grew up hearing and seeing things a child should never see nor hear but I don't think she really realizes she doing to me mentally so getting her n me to a counselor would be nearly impossible but she sees nothing wrong with it so I only have my friends and my brother to talk to and some days are just kinda hard don't get me wrong we have our good moments we laugh and talk alot but my mom often says shit out of anger it's little things but after a while it starts to build up with the bullying I was being told to kill myself, waste of space, etc so that is kinda where the sucidal part comes from I guess with me it's trust issues she knows something is wrong but based on the past when I've tried to go to her on my darkest days when I need her the most she's only made it worse so I just kinda stopped I feel like I can't go to her and yeah I'm just kinda silently waiting out this last year till I can finally move out and get a job so I can be away from her
Hi Samatha I hope and pray that things are much better with you now
I wish I had help, I'm only 14 year old girl and I'm kinda shy and always have been and it's because I haven't been out in the world much and I kinda of am in one place for a long time like only staying at my house and then go to my parents work place for the rest of the day like if I was in cuarenteen. anyway, this video is very helpfull i can imagine myself watching again in the feature.
Thorns and Petals, we hope to see you here again really soon.
What about when all she Can say Is "I don't know" and I really mean all she "Can" say, it's not that she "won't" tell what's wrong,
its more that she "Can't"
Maybe she can't understand, or maybe she does understand but can't get the words to straighten out and make since.
M.E. Fair., she may really not be able to express herself and it would be wise to get her some counseling so she can learn how to do this. Once she has this skill her depression may lessen.
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Alright, thank you we will look into counseling for her.
If she wont Express it verbally ask her to write down how she feels.. provide a journal, It's gotten my daughter to open up.
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Thank you for your advice,
I was actually talking about myself when I commented that I don't know why exactly I chose to word it as though I was the parent. But I did talk to my mom a few months ago and we went to see a counselor.
Very useful content in your video thank so much… My daughter herself asking me that I need help since she was 10 year old today she is 12 that’s I need therapist ..she reads lots stuff online she says I have ADHD OCD and what not ….I never took seriously I thought it’s because of internet gaming all the time specially Roblox which is not good for kids… and lack discipline in her life…
drama, I hope you seek the help needed. Better days ahead.
My daughter suffers from depression. She’s in therapy and on medication. I hug her and listen every day and it hurts my heart to see her so miserable. I feel so helpless. I feel like a major failure as a parent. I pray to God to help me figure out the right things to say.
Laurie Hall, Glad you are there for her, that is what counts. Don't ever give up hope.
Excellent I wish I could speak to you direct
I do have coaching clients if you want to go that route. Contact me through my website drpauljenkins.com. Glad to have you at the channel, Sugra Sabri.
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n g, thank you for watching.
thank you very much,!!!! I felt I was the only person in the world suffering for this.
You are not alone, that is why we have our community here.
Some times successful. Daughter or son. Fall and need support from they parents like go back to the house while they put them self back together and some parents can't understand that how can they all handle that together. ...when bad kids get older and want to change for real seems like some parents do not believe it ...but it is different when you choose to change that when people push you to change And you not ready ....I have a friend she really want to change and I want to help her she's 35. Have 2 kids ...was a exotic dancer and she is ready to change ....how can I help
Pedro Martinez, thank you for watching and being willing to help your friend who is ready to change. To support her, just listen when she needs to talk. If she asks for advice, you can give it to her, otherwise give advice sparingly. I would love it if you could point her in the direction of Live On Purpose TV. We have a Positive Personal Development playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV.html. We are also offering a free 25 minute call with a Live On Purpose coach. A coach could help guide her in the direction she wants to go. If she would like to take advantage of that, have her go here to schedule: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
But.... saying ok just makes them think they have permission to continue doing whatever they are doing.
Su Je, not necessarily. It is about getting to the point where they can listen to you or get help from another source.
That really helps to know what my daughter is going threw
Jesus tapiz, we wish you all the best.
All I know is that children should always tell the truth with their parents no matter how they react. Most of the stress comes from not being able to express themselves. Get it off your chest. Parents, especially mothers, are more understanding than you know.
Tomeka Slaughter, thank you for watching and commenting.
All Indian parents need to see this
Rick Sanchez C-137, you are right, and I would add that all parents would benefit from this. : ) Thanks for watching and commenting.
You sound like a great parent ❤ I wish my parents recognized the problems I had and took responsibility to be the parent and made me get meds and therapy. I’m 30 now and just started taking meds that I should have taken over 15 years ago… 😭
Think of it as a journey and at least you are in a better place than you were 15 years ago.
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So nice to hear from you.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Great videos.. have a great weekend ♥️🥰🙏🏻
I just found out my 11yr old daughter is struggling with depression and has had thought of self harm! She's a great smart kid and has alway been shy so she's never opened up to me about this! I'm just looking for help and your tips are helpful! I pray to the gods I can do everything right to help her through this!
Andrea Elzinga, I can hear that this is a scary time for you, but you can do this. There are resources, tap into them.
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How are you and your daughter, Andrea? I am now in this with my 11 y.o daughter….