Im a cordial person by nature so I greet strangers in public often. However I’m noticing with some men Im having to initiate a simple “good morning” or “have a nice evening” etc. just while on an elevator.
@@saetae9208 I get what she's saying...these days with social media and the way people are not as social in person...I find myself initiating hello or good evening as well...what she's saying is that not only are men not approaching in person as much these days...but some of them not even being cordial...
@@CourtChanelle How are men pose to be cordial when women come off standoffish when a guy smiles in their direction or start with the eye rolls or grabbing the cell phone as if they talking to someone when they clearly are not so they don't have to engage with the man. Blame your fellow sisters for men responding the way they do. Just like the OP eloquently brought up .....count it as a " blessing" they don't approach. That's what women want so that's what they got
I’m average looking and I have had 2 men in the past week approach me at the gym. Tony is correct. I was taking care of myself, not looking desperate or even thinking about a man, but still naturally smiling because of who I am. I don’t know their intention but they made small talk, and it was refreshing.
You are correct once you start talking care of yourself I have been back in my workout grind hard and men and women have been noticing and congratulating my efforts
Its not fun anymore . these days r very dangerous. U need to do a background check. Theres so much disrespect, pornography, . many want u to be what they watch on the screen. I will never go on dating sites. Also the older we get the harder it is. Theres more to a woman than just looks. Looks fade
Lady you are someone's preference. You just haven't met him yet, it's not time for him to approach you. God is still working on him just for you. He's coming, just use this time to work on you. We all have something about ourselves to work on.
God can also have His protection over you. This may be your hidden season to continue working on your relationship with yourself and God. It's all in how you perceive it.
Men should only approach a woman they really see themselves getting to know. Don't gawk, don't cat call, don't EXPECT her to reciprocate etc. It's uncomfortable for women. Women can definitely speak and make eye contact in the case they are looking for a mate. It's not this difficult. Oh and pornography is another problem.
Pornography is one of, if not, the biggest problem. Also if men were so afraid of approaching women (based on Emmitt Till example), then bm would never, eva approach ww, but they do.
@@The-Mediator dont do that. Bm approach whoever they can. I hate that narrative that bm dont like or approach bw. Some black men prefer other nationalities but not the majority.
Men are still approaching but with Covid and the me too men are using caution … cuss guys have said they say hello to a women and she gives a death stare so they just avoid talking to random women
With everything going on as far as black men disrespecting and putting their hands on women who turn them down, I'm actually happy when most men just stare but don't actually approach. Too much going on right now. Ladies, your life can be at stake. A lot of these men have other agendas in mind. Take their non-approach as a BLESSING in disguise.
@@rachelphillips5576 Bingo!!!!!! I notice this Millennial generation of men don't really believe in approaching woman, but the Generation X of men have NO PROBLEM approaching you and complimenting you, even if you do reject them they'll walk away respectfully.
You have to be careful even when men approach you these days, it can get so dangerous. I'm almost scared to meet someone cause there's so many young beautiful women losing their lives over crazy and insecure men.
It happens but it is hilarious how you act like its an epidemic of crazy dudes out here attacking women. 1 outta 5 dudes would have a crazy reaction to being rejected. Let a woman tell it, "GIIIRL ALL THESE DUDES CRAZY!! CANT TAKE REJECTION!!"
There is always a time and or place to meet a potential partner it’s just that some women are so rude or have this nasty look on their face it’s hard to approach.
How ironic. Yet you replied to my comment saying I should be friendly and be more open to let men approach me. I made the comment that I made because that's how I felt and still feel that way. It's because I'm so happy no one approaches me, simply because I am a black woman, dark-skinned at that, BM don't want me (unless it's sex, of course) as "wifey" and that's a fact. How strangly ironic some of these comments have become. Whatever.
I'm attractive,always smell good,keep myself looking cute/girlie but I don't get approached like that @ all🤷🏽♀. Noticed this as I've gotten older & most of the guys I see that I could become interested in,they're with their gfs/wives & kids so there goes that lol💁🏽♀🤣
A lot of guys we meet are probably already taken as well. Even though they may not be married, a lot of guys do already be having girlfriends or women they are talking to.
I don't think I'm ugly but I don't get approached.. at all! I'm pleasant and walk with a smile, but man.. the only guys who ever approached me and that's probably 2...were 20 year old player guys exercising their game.. I'm 38!!!!!! It's frustrating!
Here's what I do know... Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.... God's forever mate will be as bold as the Lion of Judah with NO excuses, Blessings to all🌅
I’m guilty of this mask thing Tony. I have all my teeth & I done spent money on my smile but a man wouldn’t know with my mask on. I have met a man & he was cool UNTIL I saw his teeth!🤦🏾♀️ Lord help!
I get approached by men if I'm dressed up. Makeup nice looking hair and nice clothes nothing too sexy. But sometimes I can't be bothered I'm not going to be dressing up every single day I step out. Oh well
I think it's also cultural. I live in a very repressive and repressed city (Toronto) where people literally do not talk to one another, even before the mask mandates. If someone approaches anyone they literally are from somewhere else or have a mental health issue or lack of inhibitions. I stay friendly with both sexes and don't hesitate to be polite, complimentary or initiate conversation but it never goes farther than that. I've had a lot of experiences with predators and am ok with this season of focusing on my brand, brain and body! Thank you Tony!!
Hate to say it but a lot of women truly are not approachable. I was just noticing this yesterday, it's really sad and a turn off. A simple smile or welcoming glance goes a long way in all aspects. You never know who may come in contact with, heck, your smile could just make someone's day. Let your light shine Queens! 👑👑
@@helena3631 I know what you mean. I try to always give off a pleasant disposition wherever I go. It's amazing how much better I get treated and the people who will approach me when I'm giving off positive vibes. Wish others would give it a try, once they see the difference maybe they will change.
Thank you sista ......a woman calling it what it is. Stank attitudes , sizing men up the moment they step to them, already having a negative attitude towards the guy before anything comes out his mouth.
Honestly I'm not a fan of men " cold calling" approaching when I don't know them, think it's much safer , through a mutual person or interest group .I guess I give off don't approach me vibes .....I have dealt with too many crazies.....
Does anybody else notice that they get approached more when looking “bummy”? If I wear sweatpants and a t shirt guys for some reason approach me more while running errands. It’s so weird 😂
It’s so funny you made a video about this Tony. I would consider myself pretty, and I attend a big university. I was wondering why guys don’t come up to me and I figured it was just not my time or something. Turns out most guys figured I had a boyfriend because I didn’t come off as “friendly”.
I think smiling more and maybe indicating that you’re interested in a potential partner is alot easier on the man who’s interested in approaching you or even you striking up a small innocent conversation and then letting the man lead from there is the best way. I’m from NYC and it’s super hard approaching women and I’m not ugly or broke anyway I help what I wrote helps.
Also technology has change the way we do things overall as well. Back in the day a man had no choice but to approach a woman in person. We have so many options on how we can interact with people nowadays.
Because most of them are desperate. A man on Tinder, Bumble etc will swipe right on all of the women they see, and then hope that a woman responds, and THEN will put effort in. The amount of guys that have admitted this to me is astounding. Women’s intuition is real for a reason, don’t make women think they’re wrong for accepting low-value effort from men.
Don't always assume that just because a woman isn't smiling doesn't mean she isn't friendly either....you never know what a person is going through at timing you pass them by...just don't judge...I'm not a usually talkative person in public,so usually people say they don't know how to approach me...
My husband told me at least 10 years ago that they had meetings about not approaching the opposite sex at his work. He had a State job. He said if a woman looked nice that they if she had on an new outfit he couldn't say that she looked nice. He said it was almost to the point that you couldn't even say "good morning". This is such a shame.
Makes you wonder if this is all planned and sadly, women think the government is protecting them. All these sexual harassment laws prevents men from approaching ladies and truly made worse by the current public health restrictions. Some few weeks back, while waiting on line payment at a grocery store, a man told me, "I love your dress". I guess that's a more risk-free approach of saying- you look good. Sad! It has come to this.
@@prettyme3150 Yes it is sad. The man is supposed to do the approaching. It's just like Tony says, that's really hard in its self, then you add all of this other stuff that the man has to think about now. I have said for a long time now that women are out of hand. Talking about they want their cake and eat it to. What happened to the woman feeling good about complements made to them about looking nice or your new hair style looks really good. So what if a man is staring to long at you, just smile and go own about your business. It's your reaction to the attention that is given to you. Just be nice and if you are interested there are ways of letting him know that. If your not there are ways of letting him know that to without being rude or hateful . Just be kind to one another.
Isaiah 4:1 In that day so few men will be left that seven women will fight for each man, saying, “Let us all marry you! We will provide our own food and clothing. Only let us take your name so we won’t be mocked as old maids.” It’s finna be a long ride for us ladies smh. Especially if you African American because it seems like most men these days favor Latina or white or they prefer other men 😒…. Either way to each their own but I will say this generation is sad an ghetto 🙄
As a man reading these comments i see why men don't approach especially men of means. Ya'll are insufferable. It's much more peaceful being a bachelor than dealing with Ya'll on a relationship tip. 😒🤷
This video is right on time. I was getting into my car after doing a little bit of shopping yesterday and I noticed a Black man in a SUV staring and smiling at me. I smiled back and drove off. When I was turning around in the parking lot, I noticed him staring at me again. Now, he didn't honk, roll down his window or try to get my attention in any way; he just was turning his head as if he wanted me to see he was smiling at me. I then proceeded to go to the stop sign to leave the area and I thought he would pull right alongside of me if he was interested in talking to me, but he didn't. He stayed right behind me and drove behind me for a minute or so and then I proceeded to turn into another shopping center parking lot, but he didn't follow. I kind of felt as if I missed out on an opportunity to meet someone new, but I'm also like if he really wanted to holla at me, he would have put in more effort than a simple smile from his car. Am I tripping?
No, you're not tripping. Another reason is perhaps a vast majority of men nowadays want a woman to "chase" them, or approach them first. I'm noticing some men are used to the easy, low hanging fruit type women, so when they see a quality woman they throw crumbs to see if SHE will chase. But, of course, that's not the natural order of things.
He most definitely was either married or in a relationship. If he wanted to talk to you trust me a car window wouldn’t have stopped him. He was just looking with his eyes enjoying the view. He’s taken
At 19:29 you start in on "it's not about you (the woman) approaching him" since men aren't approaching women. I say WHY not? Why would you perpetuate the continuance of playing games with body language? A smile, eye contact, etc. For God's sakes it's 2022, when will all of these so-called strong independent women MUSTER up the courage to shoot their shot and make the first move on that man they find attractive? I think Mr. Gaskins you do these women who are asking you for advice a great disservice by encouraging them to just look more approachable. Some women spend hours putting themselves together and then go to venues just to sit and look pretty in hopes that the guy they find appealing approaches them AIN'T cutting it anymore. Stop playing these "choosing signal" games and approach the guy you want.
I encouraged my children to make good grades but I did not put extra pressure because it can cause anxiety. B's were accepted and celebrated along with A's.
I live in NYC, a woman was killed at a parade a few years back after turning a guy down and just this past winter a woman was attacked by a group of guys for turning one of them down.... in both situations the females were polite with their rejection.......its just crazy
If a guy speaks to me I get a good look. I stare at them just like they stare so they can see how dumb it looks. I feel for some energy and if I'm not interested I don't even say anything. I cut that off before it even starts anything at all. For the predators and weirdos
@@ENNARELL unfortunately u gotta be like that cuz people are crazy. I could even do a Stevie wonder head swirl like yep I'm blind too. Helen Keller now get away from me and don't talk to me creepy predator weirdo. Guys always come off creepy unless you like them
This isn’t true I’ve met men who were visibly very nervous around me and I could tell they felt intimidated. Not because they were afraid of me but because I got the feeling they didn’t feel good enough.
My question is… if men are wired to be so visual why do women age and some don’t age the best yet they’re supposed to stay together for life? :( sometimes this world feels so fallen and crooked. Somethings just don’t make sense…
Because Marriage is a social construct. It’s not natural and doesn’t make sense. Humans like variety, and men value youth and beauty. Women value status, resources, and strong character.
Exactly! Rejection is a part of life, like it or not. We don't get all of the jobs we apply for or all of the pay rises we ask for (if we dare to in first place), so why should dating be any different?
@@roxydee1452Yep, a man may get a phone number and be ghosted. He may even get the date and the relationship may go bad. Rejection can happen at any stage.
Sadly as a man I see less and less reasons to approach women and try to start a family everyday, I don't even try anymore. This is something I learned after being in the dating world. This is not something I learned from a bad family life or being black pilled because of my looks. I learned this from my experience with women. I really thought I had good chances at a solid family and finding a beautiful wife. Lol... childish of me. Not in these times.
@@25-8 I feel for you.. I do. It is a bummer we grew up in a generation that looks like this. It gets easier though. Time really does help. It took me like 6 years to get to a point of peace (not every man takes this long to get there) but when you get there the world opens up. It isn't impossible to find that girl. Just realize that most women won't look at you until you have your life dialed in and have finished the race, especially the pretty ones with options... at this point men now are realizing that women don't want the man working on himself, they want the man that have it all. So as life goes on if the depression doesn't get the best of you and you still want a the family life later you might get it. Maybe you didn't want the hope. Regardless I feel for you. But if you did want the hope just realize the dating game has changed completely. I personally won't play anymore, I went through enough pain and just wanted a girl to grow with and love me for me, not what I have to offer. God bless you man. I hope you don't have to hurt as long as I did. No man deserves to have to go through that. Every man wants to be a hero to a girl and feel loved and desired. Sadly the world has changed and women don't need men for those reasons anymore and we are expected to step up our game and compete with the strong independent woman.
@@youngmeesha582 The difference is men are being degraded by society as women are being put on pedestals. It would have been a better way for me to say it. I mean just today the NFL is mandating that they hire at least one female coach on every team. They going to do the same mandates for female sports? No they wont.... and how many choose to be a trans man compared to men being trans women? Way more choose to be a woman because being a woman is easier in society now. Jenner is a woman for 1 year and becomes woman of the year and men can become women to dominate their sports. Women want quotas on all these political positions and ceo positions but in all of my years of landscaping, welding, rebar fabrication I have seen two women.... where is the equality in that? Women are treated incredibly bias by the judicial system, I personally have been to jail 3 separate times because of complete lies from women and have had to take year long classes because of lies and spend thousands. I get kicked out of my home and put in jail because they lie to the police and say I am abusive and scare them or whatever bs they can come up with to get sympathy. They want a real man but then act like they can be some type A argumentative woman... sorry but no! It is better for a man to stay away from argumentative women because you can't punch them in the face, you have to let them nag and walk all over you or be better at nagging.... woman will play the victim card and be everything but the victim. Literally the rate of death, suicide, depression, prison rates, loneliness, and so much more is dominated by male numbers.... but poor women. Let's keep putting them on pedestals giving them the right to have abortions without the say of a man who has been present with the woman and loved her. Let's keep taking children away from men who statistically raise children better alone and are better providers... instead be give them to women who just keep getting pregnant and leaching off the money system that men mainly give into. Men are also way more harmed by not finding marriage because they don't bond the way females do with friends. They need a woman for that emotional attachment and women lots of times need friends for their emotional support. This leads men who are single to live shorter lives from significantly more stress and depression. But once again poor women. You did this to yourselves. You kept pushing yourselves equal to us and wanting more to the point of collapse. And you can't put this genie back in the bottle either. Society is finished.
I know from my own experience a few men still approach me inspite of me wearing a mask. I think it is because I act friendly and approachable and smile through my mask.. The eyes are the window to the soul However I also understand why I am not getting approached at times because of the mask and other reasons that Tony mentioned.😷
I seem to always get approached at the Car Wash....lol not that I mind because I don't, I just find it weird that everywhere else I go men smile at me but the only ones who actually approach me with boldness is when I'm at the Car Wash.
@@PeaceBeStill- Yes I do lol. But considering how the car wash is set up they don't know which one is mine because I'm always sitting in the waiting area.
@@1.and.only. Maybe it's because they see a woman who's ALONE getting her car washed and automatically assume I'm single? When it comes to the maintenance or cleaning of a vehicle people are accustom to seeing a MAN taking care of it.
Thanks for this video, Tony!! 🙌🏽💖😃 Super helpful info!! I also wanted to mention something about the Miya Marcano case (the 19 yr old girl who was kidnapped and murdered by the maintenance man/her co-worker)....the family lawyer for the Marcano family disclosed that the maintenance man had a 2016 felony - he was charged with aggravated assault with a deadly weapon. There were also other complaints from other women about his behaviour prior to what he did to Miya. And his employer STILL hired him! Unbelievable case.
I’m 18 and just started dating. I come from a really strict family and I’m also very shy. A man had been watching me for a while and I noticed and started to say hi to him in passing. One day, he decided to approach me. He had a group of his friends with him and me being dumb, I pretended like I didn’t hear him and walked away. I regret everything and I feel so bad for the guy. He won’t talk to me anymore but he still stares. I was too nervous with that group of guys being around him. But he got mad and was addressing me as “N****” so maybe I dodged a bullet.
I think it’s admirable that you’re 18 and you trusted your gut. If your gut made you feel uncomfortable with those extra men around then it’s for a reason. Don’t worry about him he will get over it.
@@TheBthebabe 25? Dang, that’s 7 years from now😭 I already feel behind in the dating scene. Most of my friends started dating in middle school while I wasn’t allowed to. I don’t want to be completely inexperienced for the next couple of years
Have friends and hang out but really focus on getting to know yourself in this new stage in your life. Enjoy being young, travel, etc. You will have plenty of time to be in a relationship. Don't rush it and don't allow peers to rush you or make you feel as though you are missing out. Life is real....take your time!! He wasn't for you and that's ok. Someone staring at you is creepy so you did right. People don't always have the best intentions...always trust/protect yourself.
Speaking for myself, the reasons why he won’t approach is whether he ain’t interested or he’s gay. Other than that, men do try to approach you to see what you’re about.
Well, I have expensive hobbies and more interest in investments or NFTs, one of my pricy hobbies is astrophotography and maintaining all my equipments costs me $60k a year.. I love to invest on myself and I have no issues with women, I just don't have time for them. Bless all ✌️
I don’t know what’s gone happen to me because I ain’t dating online! I need to see EVERYTHING! I will never begin any kind of intimacy, ANY KIND with a damn stranger. I’m good!
My ex husband wore a ring n it didnt stop women . one finally got him n didnt care he was married. Many women like married men. Just because a man wears a ring dont mean much.
I find this to be true, I got so use to wearing a mask, I feel secure hiding behind it. Not because I think guys will hit on me or talk to me, I'm socially awkward, and I'm shy, I'm not satisfied with how I look now being over weight and chubby. But when I went to a bar with one of my girlfriends I had to take my mask off so I can drink and conversate with my close friend Sherry. Shortly after I removed my mask, a guy came up to me to talk to me. I politely engaged conversation with him, but I was surprised how quickly someone approached me after removing my mask. So I see truth to what you're saying about everything, especially about the masks.
I actually dont wear a mask and they dont approach either..in fact only foreigners approach because I live in a foreign country..but im the same race..it sucks..and maybe I should go back to my own country before I turn 45..but I dont really want..I am trying to build a new circle..and created meetup groups..and was honest to people that I am looking to meet people with common interest and open to make new friends..because many new friends /people I meet dont want to be friends..but now I dont bother..I thought I had made a new friend but she cancelled on me..but also I feel its because they drink and go out at night and its not cool to meet during the day for a coffee to discuss interesting things..but I still have one friend I can discuss with so it is possible to meet more..but I feel most joining these meetups..just want to drink, dance and be accepted by 80% of people..this is why people go out at night and drink, disco dancing with rapists etc It is not really their own choice..and its bad for women to be out late..it 's pathetic and waste of time..they are hoping to meet men but what kind of men they d meet in a pub or in a discotheque ..crazy. Also in my country you cant go anywhere inside unless you took that vaccine..and I wont..I dont take any medicine /vaccine for risks of 1%..and I dont spread anything either..
Great video Tony. The problem is that men and women need to stop looking at one another as opponents. It’s crazy out here. Had to come back & edit. Tony is ON POINT about making sure your kids have that experience or brush with failure. I used to wish I was that straight A student until I saw what it did to my cousin when he went to MIT and got less than an A for the first time. He went through a deep depression as well.
Yes Approach Genuinely, Get to know your person, yes study each other ways ,guess it is lot more to the person mind personality, attitude s ,heart character very important either more than just physical, Believe in speaking , like the approachable and available Genuinely too. Men and women should find out if you are compatible ,Sad do not take rejection hard ,ego tripping maybe for protection worried about what others think be the people gone think it any way or talk move on try again takes a strong one,take the time to know someone because a person or something can come in different heights shapes forms talk about outer appearance rather know that heart and soul and spirit and it doesn't hurt to speak .
I have seen this type of women that are very rude to men or think they are creepy approaching them and if the man is good I wonder why we sometimes act rude like that
I've seen this happen too. I feel bad for the man who gets brave enough to approach a woman and strike up a conversation. Usually he'll get told off in front of other people too. Award!
The same women who were rude to these men would get jealous that other women are showing interest in him or mad that they want nothing else to do with them and rather live lives as bachelors.
Ok noted. I can be a bit more friendly and approachable and not look like a pit bull...lol. But I've always been a shy person especially in terms of relationships...I can definitely work on not speed walking and looking straight ahead...lol...but for real when the man does not approach it is kind of frustrating but I can see I need to do my part in being approachable and being patient for the right person to approach as well... thanks for sharing.
"Despite all the reasons mentioned, the man that is for you is going to approach you. Nothing in the world is going to stand between him and you." Just do the work and sit still confidently and peacefully. :)
Tony, I don’t understand Men seeing Woman as competition. This forces a woman into a masculine energy, which is just not natural. The whole dynamic is so confusing.
As a woman all I see are comments from women pointing the finger at everyone else and Ive gotten tired of the same old rhetoric. Something tells me there is more to the “men are the problem” story and the journey I’m on now is proving that. I think we need to listen to what men have to say, which is why I’m here.
I agree with you, Tony. I'm only being approached by guys in organized groups...where a guy has the chance to observe me numerous times or for an extended period of time such as at spades games or AAU basketball games where my kids are playing. I'm now helping out at these games by running the score clock, so I get to meet a lot of the hot coaches and referees lol. It's still difficult to get things moving, because men seem so paranoid and afraid to invest any time or energy on anything, but a sure thing.
And if you do get a date. My last three dates. Two lost interest because I voted for Trump and the last one since I’m not vaxed. The vax and political climate I’m finding is sending them running. . I stop approaching and asking ladies out. It truly is a mess out there. I have considered overseas such as the Philippines and living there.
I'm just happy I don't get approached because I'm not anyone's type or "ideal preference", anyway. Men, thank you so much for not wanting me...your rejection really is my protection and self-preservation, so thank goodness and I'm forever grateful. Thank you. :)
@live for Jesus I have done that, still do that, but not for as any romantic purposes. Whatever. I tried, though. Aside from that, I am a happily self-partnered and happily celibate chickadee, sir and thankfully, it will stay that way! 🙂 I'm all I need (and want!) because I understand me, and I still get to take the time to learn more about myself, via perpetually dating myself! 🤗 I can finally be happy and free from tears, headaches, heartaches and confusion from men! I can heal my heart and my soul, and I'll truly be myself once I'm whole again and have healed, for greater self-love and (platonic) love for others. I will always be happy for any woman who chooses herself, her autonomy over everything. Once again, no one wants me and men in today's world, especially BM, don't want me simply because...I'm black, but also dark-skinned! How's that for tragic irony, but who cares? If I wasn't black and was non-black, I'd get sooo many DMs from them, haha! Oh, well. It is what it is. I tried and will not change my stripes. Boils down to this: I'm not bitter nor hateful, I think it's just...rather sad. I did what I could. I tried. No kids, no baby daddies, I've got my education (Masters), great career that I love, I'm an adventurous solo traveler, I have my own place, my own car, no drama....and dudes STILL don't want me, lol!! 😂😂😂😂 All because I'm a black woman and most black men hate me, haha! Anyways...thank you for your comment, anyway. Please have a great life! 👍🏿
@@brieannachillious7123 nah. For one you desire to be the perpetual victim. That in itself is very unattractive. I take it you're on the internet considerably, so if that's the case try taking better photos of yourself to present yourself as best as possible. Also considering where you're at in life its possible that men see it and don't want to step to you. There's also the chance that you're being disingenuous about no men approaching you when really its just not the men you deem desirable (which many women do as well). If you have any dark skin female friends that are still getting approached then clearly its not about you being dark skin. The woman I deem most desirable that I have my eye on rn is dark skin. 😌
I have a habit of walking with my head down and fast and I was told by a guy that I look mean and i know its how my mind is wired and that very hard to change but I’m working on it.
The division is real. People are not interested in healthy unions today. Today, people (both men and women) just want to win.
Yes ma’am. The war between men and women online right now is…..🥴
Agreed. As for me: I’d rather hibernate in a cabin somewhere like Wyoming. 😂
EXACTLY!!!!
So true
@@SimplyFitwithJay I said the same exact things. Its a war between genders and its full of unhealthy ego.
“1. Mask
2. Social media and online dating sites
3. The division between the sexes
4. The me-too-movement
5. Fear.” TG
👏👏👏👏 thanks
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Thank you for posting.
You the goat
Red pill movement the biggest reason
Im a cordial person by nature so I greet strangers in public often. However I’m noticing with some men Im having to initiate a simple “good morning” or “have a nice evening” etc. just while on an elevator.
Are you looking for more, whats wrong with that? Just curious 🤔
@@saetae9208 I get what she's saying...these days with social media and the way people are not as social in person...I find myself initiating hello or good evening as well...what she's saying is that not only are men not approaching in person as much these days...but some of them not even being cordial...
@RaAja Yeah it is kind of wierd
@@CourtChanelle How are men pose to be cordial when women come off standoffish when a guy smiles in their direction or start with the eye rolls or grabbing the cell phone as if they talking to someone when they clearly are not so they don't have to engage with the man. Blame your fellow sisters for men responding the way they do. Just like the OP eloquently brought up .....count it as a " blessing" they don't approach. That's what women want so that's what they got
@live for Jesus bingo
Ladies better be mindful of the guys that do approach you.
yes!..exactly…ladies please discern well
More like be grateful
I’m average looking and I have had 2 men in the past week approach me at the gym. Tony is correct. I was taking care of myself, not looking desperate or even thinking about a man, but still naturally smiling because of who I am. I don’t know their intention but they made small talk, and it was refreshing.
You are correct once you start talking care of yourself I have been back in my workout grind hard and men and women have been noticing and congratulating my efforts
You look just fine to me! I know there are universal standards of beauty, but one person's "average" really can be another's 10.
average where? oh please!
Right . There is nothing wrong with simple small talk .
Its not fun anymore . these days r very dangerous. U need to do a background check. Theres so much disrespect, pornography, . many want u to be what they watch on the screen. I will never go on dating sites. Also the older we get the harder it is. Theres more to a woman than just looks. Looks fade
Invest in cat food
I guess im just not to "Anyones Preference"! Oh well... God loves me! So..im good.
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Lady you are someone's preference. You just haven't met him yet, it's not time for him to approach you. God is still working on him just for you. He's coming, just use this time to work on you. We all have something about ourselves to work on.
@@mirandasmith8501 facts
God can also have His protection over you. This may be your hidden season to continue working on your relationship with yourself and God. It's all in how you perceive it.
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Men should only approach a woman they really see themselves getting to know. Don't gawk, don't cat call, don't EXPECT her to reciprocate etc. It's uncomfortable for women. Women can definitely speak and make eye contact in the case they are looking for a mate. It's not this difficult. Oh and pornography is another problem.
Pornography is one of, if not, the biggest problem. Also if men were so afraid of approaching women (based on Emmitt Till example), then bm would never, eva approach ww, but they do.
@@The-Mediator Preach sis!
@@The-Mediator dont do that. Bm approach whoever they can. I hate that narrative that bm dont like or approach bw. Some black men prefer other nationalities but not the majority.
Men are still approaching but with Covid and the me too men are using caution … cuss guys have said they say hello to a women and she gives a death stare so they just avoid talking to random women
@@The-Mediator 💯
With everything going on as far as black men disrespecting and putting their hands on women who turn them down, I'm actually happy when most men just stare but don't actually approach. Too much going on right now. Ladies, your life can be at stake. A lot of these men have other agendas in mind. Take their non-approach as a BLESSING in disguise.
Yes sis, Their rejection is for your protection and who God has for you is for you and it will flow!
Amen 🙏🏽
Yes!! You are so right.
The men nowadays are just whimps! Point blank. Men of old got rejected and kept approaching women. Get a back bone
@@rachelphillips5576 Bingo!!!!!! I notice this Millennial generation of men don't really believe in approaching woman, but the Generation X of men have NO PROBLEM approaching you and complimenting you, even if you do reject them they'll walk away respectfully.
🤣🤣 Guilty. I run in the grocery store with my list and its like I'm on a shopping tv show in and out quick.
Me too...in and out. My head be on a swivel looking for the hunnies, but I think I go out at geriatric hour...lls
@@delorismartin3537 ikr!
🤣🤣🤣 same
Same 😭
You have to be careful even when men approach you these days, it can get so dangerous. I'm almost scared to meet someone cause there's so many young beautiful women losing their lives over crazy and insecure men.
If you're so worried about this then instead of waiting for men to approach you, why don't you just approach them?
It happens but it is hilarious how you act like its an epidemic of crazy dudes out here attacking women.
1 outta 5 dudes would have a crazy reaction to being rejected. Let a woman tell it, "GIIIRL ALL THESE DUDES CRAZY!! CANT TAKE REJECTION!!"
@@deebrown7915 1 out of 5??? Try
1 out 10.
Anyhow, only simps do cold approach. Warm approach all the way 💪🏿
There is always a time and or place to meet a potential partner it’s just that some women are so rude or have this nasty look on their face it’s hard to approach.
How ironic. Yet you replied to my comment saying I should be friendly and be more open to let men approach me. I made the comment that I made because that's how I felt and still feel that way. It's because I'm so happy no one approaches me, simply because I am a black woman, dark-skinned at that, BM don't want me (unless it's sex, of course) as "wifey" and that's a fact. How strangly ironic some of these comments have become. Whatever.
I'm attractive,always smell good,keep myself looking cute/girlie but I don't get approached like that @ all🤷🏽♀. Noticed this as I've gotten older & most of the guys I see that I could become interested in,they're with their gfs/wives & kids so there goes that lol💁🏽♀🤣
Same for me girl. Feminine and well kept. I get no "nibbles" on the fishing rod. If anything I get mostly complimented by women 😄🙄
@@missybella9046 yes constantly by other girlfriends and female acquaintances 🤣- but i surround myself with good hearted positive females
Same here
I get aproa
I got approached by a female,she wanted to kiss me.ldid'nt want to hurt her feelings,so I said I would think about it.i was caught off guard.
1- Fear
2- Negative Expectations
3- Self Love
4- The realization of responsibilities
5- the luck of interest
Who wants man with these concerns?! This type is not ready to date anyone. Get his confidence game up!
Women definitely care how men look
A lot of guys we meet are probably already taken as well. Even though they may not be married, a lot of guys do already be having girlfriends or women they are talking to.
I can discern when they are taken. They give away a lot of clues.😆
We’re women, we are natural born detectives. If you say minimal and pay attention , you will know if they have someone.
@@j-tenn226 exactly!
As men we are told women prefer men that other women want.. how true is that ?
@@x97s nope. I absolutely love the dorky outcasts that no one pays attention to. I’ll take em any day over the popular guy
I don't think I'm ugly but I don't get approached.. at all! I'm pleasant and walk with a smile, but man.. the only guys who ever approached me and that's probably 2...were 20 year old player guys exercising their game.. I'm 38!!!!!! It's frustrating!
🤔Same or I would get approached by drug dealers/ alcoholics/ drug addicts or emotionally unavailable men 🤷🏾♀️😬🙏🏽
@@liahknowsbest5092 stay entitled,stay single
Here's what I do know...
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.... God's forever mate will be as bold as the Lion of Judah with NO excuses, Blessings to all🌅
Amen!
So get a prenup if hes so worried about his money. Or just stay alone.
I’m guilty of this mask thing Tony. I have all my teeth & I done spent money on my smile but a man wouldn’t know with my mask on. I have met a man & he was cool UNTIL I saw his teeth!🤦🏾♀️ Lord help!
I get approached by men if I'm dressed up. Makeup nice looking hair and nice clothes nothing too sexy.
But sometimes I can't be bothered I'm not going to be dressing up every single day I step out. Oh well
Ooh I can relate 🙋🏾
I think it's also cultural. I live in a very repressive and repressed city (Toronto) where people literally do not talk to one another, even before the mask mandates. If someone approaches anyone they literally are from somewhere else or have a mental health issue or lack of inhibitions. I stay friendly with both sexes and don't hesitate to be polite, complimentary or initiate conversation but it never goes farther than that. I've had a lot of experiences with predators and am ok with this season of focusing on my brand, brain and body! Thank you Tony!!
Hate to say it but a lot of women truly are not approachable. I was just noticing this yesterday, it's really sad and a turn off. A simple smile or welcoming glance goes a long way in all aspects. You never know who may come in contact with, heck, your smile could just make someone's day. Let your light shine Queens! 👑👑
Most women in Larry coyotes are unapproachable and angry .. walking around with a mean face
@@helena3631 I know what you mean. I try to always give off a pleasant disposition wherever I go. It's amazing how much better I get treated and the people who will approach me when I'm giving off positive vibes. Wish others would give it a try, once they see the difference maybe they will change.
So true that's good advice, Because if I were a man I would not want to approach a woman if she had that "JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!" look .
Thank you sista ......a woman calling it what it is. Stank attitudes , sizing men up the moment they step to them, already having a negative attitude towards the guy before anything comes out his mouth.
Honestly I'm not a fan of men " cold calling" approaching when I don't know them, think it's much safer , through a mutual person or interest group .I guess I give off don't approach me vibes .....I have dealt with too many crazies.....
I hate when a guy hollers at me from his car… like wtf ? … the answer will be no every time
Does anybody else notice that they get approached more when looking “bummy”? If I wear sweatpants and a t shirt guys for some reason approach me more while running errands. It’s so weird 😂
Yep, happens to me too! A dating coach said it's because guys feel less intimidated and more confident they have a chance with us.
Definitely not alone. Be at the gas station looking like I just rolled out of bed and this is when I get hit on the most 🤨
It makes you less intimidating
It’s so funny you made a video about this Tony. I would consider myself pretty, and I attend a big university. I was wondering why guys don’t come up to me and I figured it was just not my time or something. Turns out most guys figured I had a boyfriend because I didn’t come off as “friendly”.
Going of on your profile picture you're an adjustable 5.
I think smiling more and maybe indicating that you’re interested in a potential partner is alot easier on the man who’s interested in approaching you or even you striking up a small innocent conversation and then letting the man lead from there is the best way. I’m from NYC and it’s super hard approaching women and I’m not ugly or broke anyway I help what I wrote helps.
🙌🙌🙌🙌Great Message!!! Ladies always remember that their rejection is for your protection and who God has for you is for you and it will flow!
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True
Thank you!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Even God tired off ur games
If God has for u is for u but u have to reciprocate or make an effort..
Also technology has change the way we do things overall as well. Back in the day a man had no choice but to approach a woman in person. We have so many options on how we can interact with people nowadays.
I agree men seem much more comfortable approaching a woman online. Sadly many women are suspicious of men who do this.
Because most of them are desperate. A man on Tinder, Bumble etc will swipe right on all of the women they see, and then hope that a woman responds, and THEN will put effort in. The amount of guys that have admitted this to me is astounding. Women’s intuition is real for a reason, don’t make women think they’re wrong for accepting low-value effort from men.
@@ejhdbegbeidishdj9358 Didn't say it was wrong it's just the reality
So true I am one of them.
Age appropriate men are checking for younger women and the younger men are checking for the older women. So discouraging!
Escaping a narcissist while in financial debt, please pray for me Tony thanks for all you do!
Don't always assume that just because a woman isn't smiling doesn't mean she isn't friendly either....you never know what a person is going through at timing you pass them by...just don't judge...I'm not a usually talkative person in public,so usually people say they don't know how to approach me...
My husband told me at least 10 years ago that they had meetings about not approaching the opposite sex at his work. He had a State job. He said if a woman looked nice that they if she had on an new outfit he couldn't say that she looked nice. He said it was almost to the point that you couldn't even say "good morning". This is such a shame.
Makes you wonder if this is all planned and sadly, women think the government is protecting them. All these sexual harassment laws prevents men from approaching ladies and truly made worse by the current public health restrictions. Some few weeks back, while waiting on line payment at a grocery store, a man told me, "I love your dress". I guess that's a more risk-free approach of saying- you look good. Sad! It has come to this.
@@prettyme3150 Yes it is sad. The man is supposed to do the approaching. It's just like Tony says, that's really hard in its self, then you add all of this other stuff that the man has to think about now. I have said for a long time now that women are out of hand. Talking about they want their cake and eat it to. What happened to the woman feeling good about complements made to them about looking nice or your new hair style looks really good. So what if a man is staring to long at you, just smile and go own about your business. It's your reaction to the attention that is given to you. Just be nice and if you are interested there are ways of letting him know that. If your not there are ways of letting him know that to without being rude or hateful . Just be kind to one another.
Isaiah 4:1 In that day so few men will be left that seven women will fight for each man, saying, “Let us all marry you! We will provide our own food and clothing. Only let us take your name so we won’t be mocked as old maids.”
It’s finna be a long ride for us ladies smh. Especially if you African American because it seems like most men these days favor Latina or white or they prefer other men 😒…. Either way to each their own but I will say this generation is sad an ghetto 🙄
As a man reading these comments i see why men don't approach especially men of means. Ya'll are insufferable. It's much more peaceful being a bachelor than dealing with Ya'll on a relationship tip. 😒🤷
Fuck relationships. Casual encounters and that’s it. Not worth the emotional, physical and financial stress relationships come with.
Nice guys finish last here in the states bro, get your passport!
This video is right on time. I was getting into my car after doing a little bit of shopping yesterday and I noticed a Black man in a SUV staring and smiling at me. I smiled back and drove off. When I was turning around in the parking lot, I noticed him staring at me again. Now, he didn't honk, roll down his window or try to get my attention in any way; he just was turning his head as if he wanted me to see he was smiling at me. I then proceeded to go to the stop sign to leave the area and I thought he would pull right alongside of me if he was interested in talking to me, but he didn't. He stayed right behind me and drove behind me for a minute or so and then I proceeded to turn into another shopping center parking lot, but he didn't follow.
I kind of felt as if I missed out on an opportunity to meet someone new, but I'm also like if he really wanted to holla at me, he would have put in more effort than a simple smile from his car. Am I tripping?
No, you're not tripping. Another reason is perhaps a vast majority of men nowadays want a woman to "chase" them, or approach them first. I'm noticing some men are used to the easy, low hanging fruit type women, so when they see a quality woman they throw crumbs to see if SHE will chase. But, of course, that's not the natural order of things.
SUV prolly has kids
I agree @Eastcoast Devereaux💯
A lot of male you tubers in the manosphere, ( I wont mention names) have been telling men that women should chase them.
He most definitely was either married or in a relationship. If he wanted to talk to you trust me a car window wouldn’t have stopped him. He was just looking with his eyes enjoying the view. He’s taken
Truth. Let’s get back to going to a place and see how many phone numbers we can get. It use to be that simple 😊
And it was fun too.
Tell that to the radical feminists and bitter incels
At 19:29 you start in on "it's not about you (the woman) approaching him" since men aren't approaching women. I say WHY not? Why would you perpetuate the continuance of playing games with body language? A smile, eye contact, etc. For God's sakes it's 2022, when will all of these so-called strong independent women MUSTER up the courage to shoot their shot and make the first move on that man they find attractive? I think Mr. Gaskins you do these women who are asking you for advice a great disservice by encouraging them to just look more approachable. Some women spend hours putting themselves together and then go to venues just to sit and look pretty in hopes that the guy they find appealing approaches them AIN'T cutting it anymore. Stop playing these "choosing signal" games and approach the guy you want.
I encouraged my children to make good grades but I did not put extra pressure because it can cause anxiety. B's were accepted and celebrated along with A's.
I live in NYC, a woman was killed at a parade a few years back after turning a guy down and just this past winter a woman was attacked by a group of guys for turning one of them down.... in both situations the females were polite with their rejection.......its just crazy
Such a sad reality.
If a guy speaks to me I get a good look. I stare at them just like they stare so they can see how dumb it looks. I feel for some energy and if I'm not interested I don't even say anything. I cut that off before it even starts anything at all. For the predators and weirdos
I just act like I'm deaf and they don't know. I could be🤷🏽♀️
@@larenzapious502 🤣
@@ENNARELL unfortunately u gotta be like that cuz people are crazy. I could even do a Stevie wonder head swirl like yep I'm blind too. Helen Keller now get away from me and don't talk to me creepy predator weirdo. Guys always come off creepy unless you like them
Bad advice... I don't like Steve Harvey's advice, but even he said men aren't intimidated by women. Quit simping...
This isn’t true I’ve met men who were visibly very nervous around me and I could tell they felt intimidated. Not because they were afraid of me but because I got the feeling they didn’t feel good enough.
My question is… if men are wired to be so visual why do women age and some don’t age the best yet they’re supposed to stay together for life? :( sometimes this world feels so fallen and crooked. Somethings just don’t make sense…
A man can be 50 and still get 18 year olds easily.but woman over age of 30 can't be entitled to anything.
Because Marriage is a social construct. It’s not natural and doesn’t make sense. Humans like variety, and men value youth and beauty. Women value status, resources, and strong character.
Remove that mask and "things changed." 😂 If mine comes, all right. If it's not meant, all right.
Men need to stop roasting men for being rejected. It places women in danger. Women have the right to reject me for whatever reason.
Exactly! Rejection is a part of life, like it or not. We don't get all of the jobs we apply for or all of the pay rises we ask for (if we dare to in first place), so why should dating be any different?
@@roxydee1452Yep, a man may get a phone number and be ghosted. He may even get the date and the relationship may go bad. Rejection can happen at any stage.
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Sadly as a man I see less and less reasons to approach women and try to start a family everyday, I don't even try anymore. This is something I learned after being in the dating world. This is not something I learned from a bad family life or being black pilled because of my looks. I learned this from my experience with women.
I really thought I had good chances at a solid family and finding a beautiful wife. Lol... childish of me. Not in these times.
Same 😓
@@25-8 I feel for you.. I do. It is a bummer we grew up in a generation that looks like this. It gets easier though. Time really does help. It took me like 6 years to get to a point of peace (not every man takes this long to get there) but when you get there the world opens up.
It isn't impossible to find that girl. Just realize that most women won't look at you until you have your life dialed in and have finished the race, especially the pretty ones with options... at this point men now are realizing that women don't want the man working on himself, they want the man that have it all. So as life goes on if the depression doesn't get the best of you and you still want a the family life later you might get it.
Maybe you didn't want the hope. Regardless I feel for you. But if you did want the hope just realize the dating game has changed completely. I personally won't play anymore, I went through enough pain and just wanted a girl to grow with and love me for me, not what I have to offer.
God bless you man. I hope you don't have to hurt as long as I did. No man deserves to have to go through that. Every man wants to be a hero to a girl and feel loved and desired. Sadly the world has changed and women don't need men for those reasons anymore and we are expected to step up our game and compete with the strong independent woman.
Same but vice versa 😭
@@youngmeesha582 The difference is men are being degraded by society as women are being put on pedestals. It would have been a better way for me to say it.
I mean just today the NFL is mandating that they hire at least one female coach on every team. They going to do the same mandates for female sports? No they wont.... and how many choose to be a trans man compared to men being trans women? Way more choose to be a woman because being a woman is easier in society now. Jenner is a woman for 1 year and becomes woman of the year and men can become women to dominate their sports. Women want quotas on all these political positions and ceo positions but in all of my years of landscaping, welding, rebar fabrication I have seen two women.... where is the equality in that? Women are treated incredibly bias by the judicial system, I personally have been to jail 3 separate times because of complete lies from women and have had to take year long classes because of lies and spend thousands. I get kicked out of my home and put in jail because they lie to the police and say I am abusive and scare them or whatever bs they can come up with to get sympathy. They want a real man but then act like they can be some type A argumentative woman... sorry but no! It is better for a man to stay away from argumentative women because you can't punch them in the face, you have to let them nag and walk all over you or be better at nagging.... woman will play the victim card and be everything but the victim. Literally the rate of death, suicide, depression, prison rates, loneliness, and so much more is dominated by male numbers.... but poor women. Let's keep putting them on pedestals giving them the right to have abortions without the say of a man who has been present with the woman and loved her. Let's keep taking children away from men who statistically raise children better alone and are better providers... instead be give them to women who just keep getting pregnant and leaching off the money system that men mainly give into. Men are also way more harmed by not finding marriage because they don't bond the way females do with friends. They need a woman for that emotional attachment and women lots of times need friends for their emotional support. This leads men who are single to live shorter lives from significantly more stress and depression.
But once again poor women. You did this to yourselves. You kept pushing yourselves equal to us and wanting more to the point of collapse. And you can't put this genie back in the bottle either. Society is finished.
It gets better, just get your passport and thank me later!
I know from my own experience a few men still approach me inspite of me wearing a mask. I think it is because I act friendly and approachable and smile through my mask.. The eyes are the window to the soul
However I also understand why I am not getting approached at times because of the mask and other reasons that Tony mentioned.😷
I seem to always get approached at the Car Wash....lol not that I mind because I don't, I just find it weird that everywhere else I go men smile at me but the only ones who actually approach me with boldness is when I'm at the Car Wash.
Interesting. Why do you think that is?
Do you have a nice car? I know that's one weird thing that guys respect lol 🤷🏾
@@PeaceBeStill- Yes I do lol. But considering how the car wash is set up they don't know which one is mine because I'm always sitting in the waiting area.
@@1.and.only. Maybe it's because they see a woman who's ALONE getting her car washed and automatically assume I'm single? When it comes to the maintenance or cleaning of a vehicle people are accustom to seeing a MAN taking care of it.
Thanks for this video, Tony!! 🙌🏽💖😃 Super helpful info!!
I also wanted to mention something about the Miya Marcano case (the 19 yr old girl who was kidnapped and murdered by the maintenance man/her co-worker)....the family lawyer for the Marcano family disclosed that the maintenance man had a 2016 felony - he was charged with aggravated assault with a deadly weapon. There were also other complaints from other women about his behaviour prior to what he did to Miya. And his employer STILL hired him! Unbelievable case.
I believe it. I had a maintenance man “ R “me.
Well I hope they sue the daylights out of that apartment complex!
I’m 18 and just started dating. I come from a really strict family and I’m also very shy. A man had been watching me for a while and I noticed and started to say hi to him in passing. One day, he decided to approach me. He had a group of his friends with him and me being dumb, I pretended like I didn’t hear him and walked away. I regret everything and I feel so bad for the guy. He won’t talk to me anymore but he still stares. I was too nervous with that group of guys being around him. But he got mad and was addressing me as “N****” so maybe I dodged a bullet.
I think it’s admirable that you’re 18 and you trusted your gut. If your gut made you feel uncomfortable with those extra men around then it’s for a reason. Don’t worry about him he will get over it.
Tony suggests not to date till you are approaching 25, to focus on being the best version of you for now, explore the world and all your talents.
@@TheBthebabe 25? Dang, that’s 7 years from now😭 I already feel behind in the dating scene. Most of my friends started dating in middle school while I wasn’t allowed to. I don’t want to be completely inexperienced for the next couple of years
Have friends and hang out but really focus on getting to know yourself in this new stage in your life. Enjoy being young, travel, etc. You will have plenty of time to be in a relationship. Don't rush it and don't allow peers to rush you or make you feel as though you are missing out. Life is real....take your time!! He wasn't for you and that's ok. Someone staring at you is creepy so you did right. People don't always have the best intentions...always trust/protect yourself.
Great talk! Really liked when Tony said “You just need one”. So simple but really puts things in perspective.
Thank you Tony. Your last word was what I have been telling myself as I WAIT for my man. ALL I NEED IS ONE. WHAT GOD HAS FOR ME, IS FOR ME.
Speaking for myself, the reasons why he won’t approach is whether he ain’t interested or he’s gay. Other than that, men do try to approach you to see what you’re about.
Thank you 😊
Your videos are always so encouraging!🙏🏾
Well, I have expensive hobbies and more interest in investments or NFTs, one of my pricy hobbies is astrophotography and maintaining all my equipments costs me $60k a year.. I love to invest on myself and I have no issues with women, I just don't have time for them. Bless all ✌️
crypto vs marriage i wonder which will make you need up happier.. hmm
Just telling you how much I love you, you are a man who God sent to give ladies knowledged wisdom and understanding 👍🙏❤️😁
Yessss thank you for posting! God bless you and your beautiful family
I don’t know what’s gone happen to me because I ain’t dating online! I need to see EVERYTHING! I will never begin any kind of intimacy, ANY KIND with a damn stranger. I’m good!
My ex husband wore a ring n it didnt stop women . one finally got him n didnt care he was married. Many women like married men. Just because a man wears a ring dont mean much.
Sex
Sandwich
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Often.
😭 you hurting me
I find this to be true, I got so use to wearing a mask, I feel secure hiding behind it. Not because I think guys will hit on me or talk to me, I'm socially awkward, and I'm shy, I'm not satisfied with how I look now being over weight and chubby. But when I went to a bar with one of my girlfriends I had to take my mask off so I can drink and conversate with my close friend Sherry. Shortly after I removed my mask, a guy came up to me to talk to me. I politely engaged conversation with him, but I was surprised how quickly someone approached me after removing my mask. So I see truth to what you're saying about everything, especially about the masks.
I actually dont wear a mask and they dont approach either..in fact only foreigners approach because I live in a foreign country..but im the same race..it sucks..and maybe I should go back to my own country before I turn 45..but I dont really want..I am trying to build a new circle..and created meetup groups..and was honest to people that I am looking to meet people with common interest and open to make new friends..because many new friends /people I meet dont want to be friends..but now I dont bother..I thought I had made a new friend but she cancelled on me..but also I feel its because they drink and go out at night and its not cool to meet during the day for a coffee to discuss interesting things..but I still have one friend I can discuss with so it is possible to meet more..but I feel most joining these meetups..just want to drink, dance and be accepted by 80% of people..this is why people go out at night and drink, disco dancing with rapists etc It is not really their own choice..and its bad for women to be out late..it 's pathetic and waste of time..they are hoping to meet men but what kind of men they d meet in a pub or in a discotheque ..crazy.
Also in my country you cant go anywhere inside unless you took that vaccine..and I wont..I dont take any medicine /vaccine for risks of 1%..and I dont spread anything either..
When he goes over these topics I don't see it as outgrowing the material. For me it's more like a review and drilling it all in
Yes Tony! Men (some) are literally coming out asking “what do you bring to the table.”
Lol throw up in my mouth part!
Yeah man you get it. I'm done approaching for the most part. It's gonna happen organically for me in a common-place.
Great video Tony. The problem is that men and women need to stop looking at one another as opponents. It’s crazy out here.
Had to come back & edit. Tony is ON POINT about making sure your kids have that experience or brush with failure. I used to wish I was that straight A student until I saw what it did to my cousin when he went to MIT and got less than an A for the first time. He went through a deep depression as well.
I want my man to see me in his dreams!
Lol
tf ?
We all need the Lord, then we can al understand true love.
Amen
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Yes Approach Genuinely, Get to know your person, yes study each other ways ,guess it is lot more to the person mind personality, attitude s ,heart character very important either more than just physical, Believe in speaking , like the approachable and available Genuinely too. Men and women should find out if you are compatible ,Sad do not take rejection hard ,ego tripping maybe for protection worried about what others think be the people gone think it any way or talk move on try again takes a strong one,take the time to know someone because a person or something can come in different heights shapes forms talk about outer appearance rather know that heart and soul and spirit and it doesn't hurt to speak .
Ladies, we’re in non-traditional times. It’s okay to approach men. Good luck 👍🏾
Wow, this brings so much understanding for the struggles of men and women! Ty Tony!
True on the mask: I need to see his teeth 🦷😂😂😂
I have seen this type of women that are very rude to men or think they are creepy approaching them and if the man is good I wonder why we sometimes act rude like that
I've seen this happen too. I feel bad for the man who gets brave enough to approach a woman and strike up a conversation. Usually he'll get told off in front of other people too. Award!
The same women who were rude to these men would get jealous that other women are showing interest in him or mad that they want nothing else to do with them and rather live lives as bachelors.
The same thing happened to me when I went to college. Depressed after my first B. Had to learn to disassociate grades from my identity
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We are going to stop talking about men are visual creatures. I have two eyes, Sir. Women are visual creatures as well.
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I do not wear my mask guys always give me compliments. Plus I barely use social media.
# 5 is about them wanting to pay us back for rejecting them
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Well Tony now ppl are taking screenshots of their DM messages and posting them for everyone to see
These men not even Dming they want you to DM them
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Lets be honest... women DMing men habe a higher success rate
Ok noted. I can be a bit more friendly and approachable and not look like a pit bull...lol. But I've always been a shy person especially in terms of relationships...I can definitely work on not speed walking and looking straight ahead...lol...but for real when the man does not approach it is kind of frustrating but I can see I need to do my part in being approachable and being patient for the right person to approach as well... thanks for sharing.
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@@hananiahbamaiyi1900 Thanks for sharing 💕💕💕
Not a pitbull on edge I’m through Tony 😂😅😂🤣😂
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"Despite all the reasons mentioned, the man that is for you is going to approach you. Nothing in the world is going to stand between him and you." Just do the work and sit still confidently and peacefully. :)
Amen those are my prayers 🙌🏾🙏🏾
women respond to kindness and openess too. Not negative energy and bad vibes.
That’s wishful thinking. You’re basing your love and sex life on fate? This is what I don’t respect about women. They don’t go for what they want.
Tony, I don’t understand Men seeing Woman as competition. This forces a woman into a masculine energy, which is just not natural. The whole dynamic is so confusing.
Wow.. I’m finally viewing this. Thanks. I wish we could go back to pen and paper (number exchange).
Basically humanity is fu*ked
As a woman all I see are comments from women pointing the finger at everyone else and Ive gotten tired of the same old rhetoric. Something tells me there is more to the “men are the problem” story and the journey I’m on now is proving that. I think we need to listen to what men have to say, which is why I’m here.
I agree.
Yea I have somethin to say why u girls are mean too some one u find attractive why ?
Thank you
Yea something is getting lost in translation.
Be Blessed 😊
some Hollywood culture was wrong.
but me too went too far
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Hi. best wishes to you. It’s ok, I’m not looking for anyone. But thank you so much. take care now.
Amen! Thank you Tony! God Bless You!🙏💜🦋
I asked this question the other day on a public forum. Ironic how you’re doing a video on it! Lol.
If I wasn’t at work, I’d fall out my chair over the valet car 🚘 joke 🤣😂🤣
The last 2 minutes truly uplifted and encouraged me!! Thank you Tony Gaskins.
I agree with you, Tony. I'm only being approached by guys in organized groups...where a guy has the chance to observe me numerous times or for an extended period of time such as at spades games or AAU basketball games where my kids are playing. I'm now helping out at these games by running the score clock, so I get to meet a lot of the hot coaches and referees lol. It's still difficult to get things moving, because men seem so paranoid and afraid to invest any time or energy on anything, but a sure thing.
And if you do get a date. My last three dates. Two lost interest because I voted for Trump and the last one since I’m not vaxed. The vax and political climate I’m finding is sending them running. . I stop approaching and asking ladies out. It truly is a mess out there. I have considered overseas such as the Philippines and living there.
Yes, I heard overseas they not worried about you being a millionaire or being 6 foot 7, just being caring and good natured!
The invisible: It could be a spirit spouse causing men to stay away or come, but leave.
@live for Jesus Lmfaooo
The metoo movement
Feminism
The divorce rate
Dating isnt worth it
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I have been in that very situation. Lust is in the church too.
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I'm just happy I don't get approached because I'm not anyone's type or "ideal preference", anyway. Men, thank you so much for not wanting me...your rejection really is my protection and self-preservation, so thank goodness and I'm forever grateful. Thank you. :)
@live for Jesus I have done that, still do that, but not for as any romantic purposes. Whatever. I tried, though. Aside from that, I am a happily self-partnered and happily celibate chickadee, sir and thankfully, it will stay that way! 🙂 I'm all I need (and want!) because I understand me, and I still get to take the time to learn more about myself, via perpetually dating myself! 🤗 I can finally be happy and free from tears, headaches, heartaches and confusion from men! I can heal my heart and my soul, and I'll truly be myself once I'm whole again and have healed, for greater self-love and (platonic) love for others. I will always be happy for any woman who chooses herself, her autonomy over everything. Once again, no one wants me and men in today's world, especially BM, don't want me simply because...I'm black, but also dark-skinned! How's that for tragic irony, but who cares? If I wasn't black and was non-black, I'd get sooo many DMs from them, haha! Oh, well. It is what it is. I tried and will not change my stripes. Boils down to this: I'm not bitter nor hateful, I think it's just...rather sad. I did what I could. I tried. No kids, no baby daddies, I've got my education (Masters), great career that I love, I'm an adventurous solo traveler, I have my own place, my own car, no drama....and dudes STILL don't want me, lol!! 😂😂😂😂 All because I'm a black woman and most black men hate me, haha!
Anyways...thank you for your comment, anyway. Please have a great life! 👍🏿
@@brieannachillious7123 nah. For one you desire to be the perpetual victim. That in itself is very unattractive. I take it you're on the internet considerably, so if that's the case try taking better photos of yourself to present yourself as best as possible.
Also considering where you're at in life its possible that men see it and don't want to step to you. There's also the chance that you're being disingenuous about no men approaching you when really its just not the men you deem desirable (which many women do as well).
If you have any dark skin female friends that are still getting approached then clearly its not about you being dark skin. The woman I deem most desirable that I have my eye on rn is dark skin. 😌
I can meet 99 men a day, but only 1 is for me...
Soon as that mask comes off things change 😂
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I have a habit of walking with my head down and fast and I was told by a guy that I look mean and i know its how my mind is wired and that very hard to change but I’m working on it.
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