You're right. I have tried it and all of them were insecure, socially awkward, and immature. I believe that the majority are troubled individuals who can't talk to women in normal circumstances.
😂😂😂 real talk! Dating apps is trash. As a man who is looking for a wife, I believe in keeping things traditional and meeting someone in person. I gotta feel that energy/presence.
@Nelson Gil..I totally agree with you. I don't belong to any dating sites but when you live in a small town like myself, the pickings are slim to none.
Indeed.not everyone knows how to converse.... so it is good that you picked that up right away ...because at the end of the day how will we ever get to learn about the person if not through conversation ...be vigilant and pay attention .. be safe 💞
Online dating has NOT produced anything positive for me. But today-he made me realize that there’s a desperation on MY part that keeps me on the site.....I’m going to remove my page. I look alright/I have a decent job/I’m educated....I’m going to let go and let GOD for once. Step out on faith...cause I really don’t have anything to loose y’all. Thank you Mr. Gaskins. This was a hard pill to swallow but I’m in a season of Discernment and I’m just getting more stronger and empowered. Peace Always ❤️.
I met my ex husband online, and everything you speak about is truth! He was pretty much chatting with women our entire marriage, as well is doing other things, I suspect. Please consider doing a video on alternative ways to meet men. It's not easy, especially for us over 50 gals.
TG will tell you what applies to the youngins, applies to us more "mature" women..get out the house, do things you enjoy, network, talk to people and it will happen naturally and organically! Peace & Blessings✌
Tony is not lying!! Ive been on those dating sites. I did meet one guy who was really sweet and nice. He brought me a few things as well. But one day I never heard from him again. It was a long distance situation. The rest of the men were crazy and weird as all hell. Ladies stay off those sites! You better than that. Trust me
Somebody arguing with a relationship coach to justify online dating is like arguing surgery with a brain surgeon! This is your specialty Tony, I hear you. I’m currently single & I will definitely never online date. God is a good God & will send my husband. Let me focus on my 3 B’s & raising my daughter before I try to take this video personal or argue. Thanks again for all your guidance! God bless!
These days all faucets or avenues taken to meet people are or can be dangerous. We were wearing masks before it became a requirement, think about it. Best thing is to do is what Mr. Gaskins suggests in regards to getting out there in public and allowing God to be the ultimate match maker. He did it in the beginning, right?! Don't put down your crown Kings and Queens.
Thank you for doing this video. It’s a lot of low-vibrational people on these “sites.” Even though I’m a “millennial,” I prefer the old skool organic way of meeting people. It’s more genuine. People tend to meet one another when they least expect it, not when they are looking for it. I’m learning this more & more. 🙏🏾💕
If I get a personal lesson, you will need a few days off to seek a therapist and a few days for my prayers and then a few more days to rejuvenate. Cause babyyyy I been thru some stuff with these BOYS!!!! But keep these videos coming, im learning 🙌🏽🙌🏽
Majority of these men online have massive insecurities they seek validation from women, when you text them they will purposely take days if not week's to respond. There are actually good decent men online who are actually looking for something serious and it could work etc busy life which doesn't give them time to talk to people. So not all are bad , but majority on there are weird
I've never been a fan of online dating. I'd rather meet someone the generic way...in person as stated. I love these kind of videos...keep speaking the truth. 💯
Tony is right, I met my ex-husband on POF, again, ex-husband... it took years for me for my eyes to open and walk away from that mess!!! And it isn't just him, I've dated men online and have noticed there is definitely a trend in them being crazy. Its not worth your time ladies!!!
@@LA-wv7gf Yes, that happens, a lot, both ways. I met someone who was an "engineer" trying to move into my place... what kind of craziness is that? They are also the ones that tend to try and pressure people into relationships... no sir, no ma'am! When we are out enjoying life and doing the things we love and meet someone, we can at least know we have something in common.
Perfect message, especially during this pandemic. You brought up all the excuses I’ve said when I tried online dating...slim pickings in my city and I’m a business owner, so it’s convenient. I have to admit, every single time I’ve gone on a dating site, I don’t last a week..I’m just not built for it. This is definitely a walk of faith. I have to do my part in continuing to refine myself to be suitable for the kind of husband I desire and trust that God will allow our paths to cross. It does get really hard when you start feeling invisible and the time keeps ticking. (Almost 8 years single) The process isn’t always pretty, but it’s a beautiful thing. 🙏🏽
Tony is SPOT ON! On-line dating is Men being LAZY!!! Plain & simple! And most of them have multiple profiles they have had for years! It’s a sick addiction.
This is the harsh truth ladies. I met my husband online 4 years ago, after a child and thinking we’re a great couple, found out he was talking to other women AND one of my associates saw him on a dating site and sent my friend a screenshot. Needless to say, we’re separated after finding out he was cheating. Online dating is just too easy for men and there’s too many options in their eyes out there.
Your 100% right I was married to my ex husband on a dating site for 7 years, only to find out he never got off the dating site. He had endless supply. He had a secret live, class A narc. Waste of time.
Not everyone does online dating. Many people are still very adverse to the concept and meet people in their schools, workplaces, etc a lot more commonly than the latter.
This is true, but meeting someone in person, I can tell right off bat a lot quicker that they’re going to be a waste of time. I’m less invested. It’s easier to sell someone a dream that you meet online. It sounds weird, but there is a difference IMO. I also think online dating gives people access to us who never should have stood a chance. I know they say the wider the net, the better, but not always.
“Stay off that online dating...”-TG. I’m speaking from experience. I was so naive and trusting. I had Just started listening to Tony, when a one year relationship from Elite Singles (yes, they’re trash too) went south. I was devastated. Had it not been for the Lord, the MANY Hours I poured into listening to these videos, AND a coaching session - where Tony can actually look at your picture to tell how you are being perceived, I honestly don’t know where I would be. Probably years of healing have been reduced. Tony, I appreciate you. May God continually bless you, and your beautiful family🙏.
Thank you Mr Gaskin for always showing love and encouragement by the truth you speak.. I'm a single man working on my 3. (Bs ) plus my personal 4th. ( B ) Believing.. because With God all things are possible.. I know you messages are serious.. but at times you can be so hilarious and your expression 😂. Thanks for the joy of laughter. A quick message to the single women.. keep hope alive we are out looking for you..
I’m old fashioned and always told myself my man will find me face to face but listening to other ppl pressured me to do online dating and I’m so glad I found this video.... confirmation to keep my standards high, deleting immediately
Tony, what you are saying is so true. I know a man who works at a gym and has indicated that he's on a dating app. Now that you've brought this out a little more and I think about it, why is he on a dating app? He is in the perfect place to meet a lot of single women with at least one of the B's you described. Seems his intentions may not be in the right place. Ladies, beware... 🤔🤔
They approach women in dating sites and in other places. It's a strategy to reach as many people as possible. Like a job advertisement, a company can put it online, on a local newspaper, can distribute some flyers, you can hear about it from a friend. SAME.
Tony man you ain't Neva lied. The last dude I tried to date on bumble I think it was was tripping. I'm like bro you need to chill and turn that attitude all the way down. That was back in May. I'm done with the foolishness on these sites. I've always said I want to meet my guy in person.
Yeah these men on the sites are full of games. How about in April a guy canceled a virtual date with me because I didn't send him nudes. Only talked to him a few days before he asked me that. I will never get online again I was bored in the pandemic
You are not lost my dear ... just lessons to be learned .... I was fortunate that as a young woman I listened to mom and my grandmom......I figured no need to go through what they went through...but everyone is different ... Tony sharing from a man's perspective is very important .... We have to hear it ..even when it is hard to hear ..and adjust accordingly.... stay the course and safe travels..💞
I had a profile on hinge and I kept it for about two months..it just didn’t feel right plus all of the guys I matched with would ask the same question “what are you looking for in a man?” 🙄and to add insult to injury I saw my ex husband on there with pictures that were 5 years old AND he conveniently forgot to fill out the section “do you have kids?” Added the fact that he has a master’s degree but left out the fact that he has two kids by two different women 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🤔 Yea so I’m done with online dating !
My Covid-19 summer has been a disaster due to playing with online dating. So far, I've been ghosted, stalked and Punk'd since mid-July. Dating apps have men acting like idiots. 🙄
Out of all the dating coaches out there, I resonate with Tony the most. His combination of giving it to you straight, mixed with the comedy gets me every time. Thank you for this video. Be blessed!
Meet my now husband online. His true colors have begun to surface now. I’m pregnant with our first child and he’s not being faithful. 😔 and when I found out he tried to justify it, God is giving me a strength to leave. But right now I’m just trying to focus on delivering a healthy/happy baby.
wow I am so sorry to hear this. Ladies please listen to this. Leave these sites alone. The potential for heartache is high meeting people on these sites.
Tony you are truly a blessing from God. I was recently online dating and I was battling the thought of being on there so I deleted my account and asked Lord please show me a sign if I am doing the right thing by logging off of it and meet my husband face to face. I deleted the app yesterday and I see the video today. Thank God for the blessing. Please sew into his ministry he is for real. I listen to the live question and answer just listening. I do not ask questions because I have been were these women have been and I have been abstaining from sex. It does take some time getting used to but listening to the lives showed me that as women we need to love ourselves. Know your worth and add tax to that. The man that will marry you will protect you. The clowns online offer no protection they are actually rude and quite nasty and disrespectful. Thank you Tony!
@@msjrene05 One of them told me if I was looking for a husband that I wasn't going to find him on a dating site. Looking back that was God using those men to let me know it wasn't for me.
Chica Rene I try match online for 30 days it nothing but attention and no friendly response. It burn me out in 2 weeks so that waste of time never again.
Tony Tony Tony omg I just cancelled my subscription and removed my profile. This man is the truth “hear me”! Cause I didn’t look at it like that. Thanks TG
I’m not going to lie. I recently signed up for a couple of dating apps. And they’re filled with low value men. I just can’t do it. I’m trying to remain open, especially because of the world we live in, specifically COVID. But I just don’t have the patience and mindset for it. I thought it was just me...but there is no shortage of women. They have it EASY. So it does make me wonder why they’re on there...
Tony I agree, why would a man who has himself together have to go to an online dating site? I feel most of the guys on those sites are looking for easy sex, have some type of short man complex or an emotional problem. It's just so draining that the dating era is a mess. Sigh...
Most are looking for casual sexual encounters or a woman desperate enough to fund them. I stopped going on those sites years ago. They all come across the same way and want the same things which is sex.
Wow, this opened my eyes! I tried online dating and it was EXACTLY as Tony Gaskins said it. All I can said is wow because he described my experience. I got played on there thought I was being classy and he was talking to other women behind my back. I don’t go out much so I thought it would be easier to meet online. It’s a lot of nonsense on there! I will do it the regular way and didn’t think about what kind of men that’s really on there. Not getting on there again! Thank you Tony for your wisdom! God uses you!!! We APPRECIATE you! Your helping many people! God bless!
The last 30 seconds of woman’s impressions “oohh...” 😂😂😂😂 I am hollering. Tony started going in! This man is fed up with caveats & nuances 😂💀💀💀 This is so comical but is he speaking the truth! Please do a part 2!
I just about died when he was talking about how girls can’t get that “snoring sleep” and then his demonstration of it 😂👏🏼 I know this is a serious topic but Tony is HILARIOUS!
To all the Queens out here! Know that, you're about to overcome something you've been dealing with. Your mind and heart will soon be at peace again. Be patient, everything will be just fine.
I have always been scared of online dating. Its bad enough you can meet ppl face to face and still have a hard time reading a man's energy right off. They show you the good side in the beginning and once they feel comfortable it could be trouble to pay. So you know online is worst.
Those sights are the devil. I been on about four at one time, and I never got good results. Met some scammers too! Tony is right. You can meet guys better in person.
😂"Bust it down Becky" & "Loose Booty Lu" (When I think I heard it all😂) I'm learning real life lessons from this channel but also getting a real good laugh at the same time.😂 Keep up the good work Mr. Tony.
My opinion when a man is seeking women on social media most likely they're straight narcs or just have low self-esteem. There are to many beautiful women out here on sight it's men out here spending unnecessary money on chicks he don't even know just for attention
Hey Tony i am single and my girlfriend keeps telling me to get online to meet a man but I refuse I am scared to death to meet a man online. I will take my chance to meet a man out on the street before I meet him online I do not trust that so I totally agree with you thank you for being so truthful and helping us women out have a great weekend😊
Tony I feel like we get to see more and more of who you are with each video and it gets funnier, more real, and hits home/confirms like never before. You told the 1000% truth when you say men don’t have the right intentions online because even OFFline men don’t have the right intentions; whether you meet them at a restaurant, church etc so it has to be triple quadruple so online. That comment sealed the video perfectly!! Thank you !
You have to keep in mind. Take your time, be content with your own life, have a take em or leave em attitude. A dinner and drinks just Isn’t enough to entice me. And some of them don’t want to do that. It’s COVID season. So chatting and moving slow Is an ok avenue online or off. Single people understand. All I know, I’ve gotten sharper than Samurai sword. No Jokers will get a chat let alone bite. Wiser with time. Thank you Jesus.
online OR OFF -- exactly. same rules apply. initial meeting takes place (online OR OFF) then talk on phone 1 hour daily until the 1st date in person, where you can meet up on a park bench & talk for a few hours and get to learn each other. either you'll both enjoy it & want to do it again & continue talking an hour a day in between dates, or not. the ONLY difference SHOULD be the initial WAY you met (online or in person). Otherwise, the rules shouldn't change one bit. the only purpose online dating sites Should serve is bringing that "match" to the person's attention. he should still approach you first. you need just as much discernment & live conversation in real time after meeting online as you do after meeting in person. With that, you can weed 'em out just as quickly if they're not the one. he can be just as slap-crazy & ready to hide your body in a box if he met you in person in the mall as he can if he met you online. be careful EITHER way. Discernment is just as CRUCIAL in-person as it is online. sadly, nowadays, most folks' sense of discernment, social skills & ability to carry on a decent, mature conversation is pretty horrific & the dating sites get blamed for it. ~ b.
Please bring back Talks with Tony! I love all of your videos, but I really loved how you went in on those videos and addressed the viewers' specific question. It was insightful.
TONY GASKINS YOU ARE GENIUS! After watching this video I dont believe there's a women with 2 brains who can't understand the point you are making. You truly are one of gods messenger's. Stay blessed 🙌🏽
It makes sense, but in some countries of Europe you would be single forever if you waited for a man to approach you on streets. Men in Germany will avoid even looking at you. All thanks to feminists that were accusing men of harassment if they dare to approach.
Dating app gives you the chance of having a pre-evaluation of the guy, 90% of them will show their crazy or true intentions in at least 2 days, many in the first line, you just don't entertain and unmatch. If a guy can hold a normal conversation and seems interesting and tries to move on for a meeting IRL in a public,safe place, that's all right, if he invites you to his place or any location of his special preference (usually next to him) then you don't go. Easy. Better meet a man in a safe and public environment where you can leave at any moment (choose an area you know well and have available transportation) than just entertain a potential creep. A woman met this guy on the train back home, they talked back and forth and he invited her for a dinner at some nearby restaurant, after building rapport he invited her to his place for drinks, but then he threatened her with a knife, beat her up and raped her. I guess she wouldn't think a guy commuting by train was a predator, well he was.
When you put too much emphasis on WHERE AND HOW you met your man/woman, it beats the whole purpose of meeting the right person. It’s about being upfront, with your intentions, set the ground rules, know and state your boundaries, know and state your non-negotiable. It is about HONESTY, TRANSPARENCY and JUST BEING A DECENT HUMAN BEING♥️
Tony Gaskins, you tickle me! But everything you share in your videos is extremely helpful, especially in this day and time. Thanks for dropping knowledge and sharing real life experiences.
Once again TG you are on it again. Listen please ladies. A man can dress it up on a site to make it look good. Think about when a person goes in for a job interview. Most of the time they are trying to put on extra because they want the position. Same thing for men on sites they are trying to get you to hire them. It may take years before you realize he is not an employee you should have hired. Dont be blind! Pay close attention to detail, and don't be naive!
I couldn’t agree more! Been there done that online dating! It’s trashhh as heck! Even though it is harder to meet men during this trying pandemic, I think this is the perfect time to focus on me and work on my goals. I trust that God will send me a great guy who loves, cherishes, honors and wants to build a future with me 🙏🏾
Thanks Tony! I just deleted the last app for dating about a month ago. This was perfect Godly confirmation and timing. Online dating success stories happen, I know, but I don't think it's the norm. I feel like I am on the brink of losing my sanity after a couple of years. Thank God it's over. lol
My favorite thing you reminded us of is if we are single doing all that we can working on the three Bs , we may need to tap in to our purpose and look for God to show us what are we supposed to be doing during this time. Like you said every one has a time that love and relationship will come. Ever since I heard this I’m looking at others in relationships different now instead of wondering why not me . The why not me mentality has been distracting me for some time now. Thanks for the insight and encouragement!
I did online dating for a couple of years and all I did was get used and treated badly. It's not worth it. It's dangerous for the self-esteem. The only way online dating would be good a is if you're just looking to get laid, that's all it's good for!! . All the men on there they're not serious. Everything he said is true every time I met someone who I liked on line I would delete my account!!! and the guy never deleted he's!!!! he was still on there!!!! and if things didn't work out he just went back online he deleted his account. Never. Heartless. Online dating is cold and heartless
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You're right. I have tried it and all of them were insecure, socially awkward, and immature. I believe that the majority are troubled individuals who can't talk to women in normal circumstances.
Yep! That's the sum of the majority of the ones I ran across. Like talking to guys from middle school.
Phew. You said it all 🤣
You mean you don't like getting "hello beautiful" and "wyd" messages all day?
@@LostlikeNemo82 ... I know right. That is the favorites saying. Lol
Haven't you met them in person?
Who deleted their dating app after hearing the truth? 🙋🏾♀️ Tony is so right
I did!!
🙋🏽♀ I sure did girl never again...so so done with those, I will wait on God
I left them all alone about 5 yrs ago. I'm good. Most are married or full of bs. I was like this isn't for me Lord.
I’m making my way right now to my POF....let go and let GOD is all I can do.
I sure did 😂
😂😂😂 real talk! Dating apps is trash. As a man who is looking for a wife, I believe in keeping things traditional and meeting someone in person. I gotta feel that energy/presence.
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Amen!!
exactly
@Nelson Gil..I totally agree with you. I don't belong to any dating sites but when you live in a small town like myself, the pickings are slim to none.
So true. You also have to get to know them in various environments as well. The traditional way works.
Some of these men online don’t even know how to conversate it’s like I have to be asking all the questions which is draining 🤦🏿♀️
Indeed.not everyone knows how to converse.... so it is good that you picked that up right away ...because at the end of the day how will we ever get to learn about the person if not through conversation ...be vigilant and pay attention .. be safe 💞
Omg yess I know what you mean.
@@tammerry9496 yes exhausting once I match with that person it’s like they don’t initiate the conversation I always have too
@GoldLoveee 😂🤣😅 so true
CONVERSE is the correct word to use.
Conversate is Ebonics, NOT a real word!
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I’m going to follow “ rat now” in my Tony accent😂!
Online dating has NOT produced anything positive for me. But today-he made me realize that there’s a desperation on MY part that keeps me on the site.....I’m going to remove my page. I look alright/I have a decent job/I’m educated....I’m going to let go and let GOD for once. Step out on faith...cause I really don’t have anything to loose y’all. Thank you Mr. Gaskins. This was a hard pill to swallow but I’m in a season of Discernment and I’m just getting more stronger and empowered. Peace Always ❤️.
I met my ex husband online, and everything you speak about is truth! He was pretty much chatting with women our entire marriage, as well is doing other things, I suspect. Please consider doing a video on alternative ways to meet men. It's not easy, especially for us over 50 gals.
I believe he has a dating over 50 video.
@@SoultanicalsTube Yes, I've watched it. 😀
Over 50. So true.
TG will tell you what applies to the youngins, applies to us more "mature" women..get out the house, do things you enjoy, network, talk to people and it will happen naturally and organically! Peace & Blessings✌
Wow sorry to hear this and congrats on being a badass and remaining positive and still believing in LOVE! Wishing you all the best ❤️
Did anyone else holler the whole video? TG is hilarious
The WHOLE video!! 🤣🤣🤣
Absolutely!
Yaaaasssssss he had me dying!!!😭😭😭
He really is a comedian
NASA😂😂😂
Tony is not lying!! Ive been on those dating sites. I did meet one guy who was really sweet and nice. He brought me a few things as well. But one day I never heard from him again. It was a long distance situation. The rest of the men were crazy and weird as all hell. Ladies stay off those sites! You better than that. Trust me
Somebody arguing with a relationship coach to justify online dating is like arguing surgery with a brain surgeon! This is your specialty Tony, I hear you. I’m currently single & I will definitely never online date. God is a good God & will send my husband. Let me focus on my 3 B’s & raising my daughter before I try to take this video personal or argue. Thanks again for all your guidance! God bless!
@Euphora eup lol so tell me how you going to meet your soon to be husband? Where ya meeting people?
I feel regardless of how you meet a person you still need to check them out and keep your eyes open and pray
And whatever this man says is not gospel. Where did the men on the dating sites come from? Not from space but from the population of men.
Agree Serene👏👏
Online, grocery store, family friend, church it doesn't matter. You never know a person "fully." There's crazy people everywhere.
That's 100% right!!
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Background check is important.
These days all faucets or avenues taken to meet people are or can be dangerous. We were wearing masks before it became a requirement, think about it. Best thing is to do is what Mr. Gaskins suggests in regards to getting out there in public and allowing God to be the ultimate match maker. He did it in the beginning, right?! Don't put down your crown Kings and Queens.
I agree with you
Well said Chris. 🙌🏾✨
Truth
So true, men have admitted to me that they use social media for dating... watch those inboxes ladies, there are sharks there too!
@@TlangiBaloyi 🙏👑💞
I just deleted my accounts while watching this video. No more. I deserve way more. Thank you ♥️
“A man has no reason to get on a dating site.” TG
Y’all know Tony’s granny is in Heaven just laughin.. he studied all her mannerisms. Such a blessing! 😂💛
Thank you for doing this video. It’s a lot of low-vibrational people on these “sites.” Even though I’m a “millennial,” I prefer the old skool organic way of meeting people. It’s more genuine. People tend to meet one another when they least expect it, not when they are looking for it. I’m learning this more & more. 🙏🏾💕
If I get a personal lesson, you will need a few days off to seek a therapist and a few days for my prayers and then a few more days to rejuvenate. Cause babyyyy I been thru some stuff with these BOYS!!!! But keep these videos coming, im learning 🙌🏽🙌🏽
I am learning as well. Better late than never.
Majority of these men online have massive insecurities they seek validation from women, when you text them they will purposely take days if not week's to respond. There are actually good decent men online who are actually looking for something serious and it could work etc busy life which doesn't give them time to talk to people. So not all are bad , but majority on there are weird
I've never been a fan of online dating. I'd rather meet someone the generic way...in person as stated. I love these kind of videos...keep speaking the truth. 💯
Tony is right, I met my ex-husband on POF, again, ex-husband... it took years for me for my eyes to open and walk away from that mess!!! And it isn't just him, I've dated men online and have noticed there is definitely a trend in them being crazy. Its not worth your time ladies!!!
@@LA-wv7gf Yes, that happens, a lot, both ways. I met someone who was an "engineer" trying to move into my place... what kind of craziness is that? They are also the ones that tend to try and pressure people into relationships... no sir, no ma'am!
When we are out enjoying life and doing the things we love and meet someone, we can at least know we have something in common.
Glad you have enough self love and strength to know what you deserve and dont L and L.
Wish you the best this year lovely lady 👍
The snoring with one eye open is too funny 😂😂
Perfect message, especially during this pandemic. You brought up all the excuses I’ve said when I tried online dating...slim pickings in my city and I’m a business owner, so it’s convenient. I have to admit, every single time I’ve gone on a dating site, I don’t last a week..I’m just not built for it. This is definitely a walk of faith. I have to do my part in continuing to refine myself to be suitable for the kind of husband I desire and trust that God will allow our paths to cross.
It does get really hard when you start feeling invisible and the time keeps ticking. (Almost 8 years single)
The process isn’t always pretty, but it’s a beautiful thing. 🙏🏽
Tony is SPOT ON! On-line dating is Men being LAZY!!! Plain & simple! And most of them have multiple profiles they have had for years! It’s a sick addiction.
This is the harsh truth ladies. I met my husband online 4 years ago, after a child and thinking we’re a great couple, found out he was talking to other women AND one of my associates saw him on a dating site and sent my friend a screenshot. Needless to say, we’re separated after finding out he was cheating. Online dating is just too easy for men and there’s too many options in their eyes out there.
Your 100% right
I was married to my ex husband on a dating site for 7 years, only to find out he never got off the dating site. He had endless supply. He had a secret live, class A narc. Waste of time.
Sorry
Quote of the Day: “If he’s tall dark and handsome...He’s a scammer!”😂🤣😂🤣
Girl!😂😂
💯💯💯 or he's creepy
Married!!
Hilarious 😂😂😂
Right
but that single guy you meet at the grocery store most likely has an online dating profile. The way you meet doesn’t change who the person is.
Not everyone does online dating. Many people are still very adverse to the concept and meet people in their schools, workplaces, etc a lot more commonly than the latter.
I agree. A lot of men have profiles but they might not be active everyday. But most have them.
Indeed!
Still doesn't change the fact that online dating is trash
This is true, but meeting someone in person, I can tell right off bat a lot quicker that they’re going to be a waste of time. I’m less invested. It’s easier to sell someone a dream that you meet online. It sounds weird, but there is a difference IMO. I also think online dating gives people access to us who never should have stood a chance. I know they say the wider the net, the better, but not always.
“Stay off that online dating...”-TG. I’m speaking from experience. I was so naive and trusting. I had Just started listening to Tony, when a one year relationship from Elite Singles (yes, they’re trash too) went south. I was devastated. Had it not been for the Lord, the MANY Hours I poured into listening to these videos, AND a coaching session - where Tony can actually look at your picture to tell how you are being perceived, I honestly don’t know where I would be. Probably years of healing have been reduced. Tony, I appreciate you. May God continually bless you, and your beautiful family🙏.
I was on bpm and saw a picture of a guy from work. He said never married, no kids. He’s divorced with 10 kids by numerous women.
Wow😲
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Thank you Mr Gaskin for always showing love and encouragement by the truth you speak.. I'm a single man working on my 3. (Bs ) plus my personal 4th. ( B ) Believing.. because With God all things are possible.. I know you messages are serious.. but at times you can be so hilarious and your expression
😂. Thanks for the joy of laughter.
A quick message to the single women.. keep hope alive we are out looking for you..
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Thanks for the encouragement. It’s frustrating when I’m a good woman but there’s guys out there playing games. I will keep hope alive!!
Thanks but in this hard dating world it’s very sad to trust men and even in person they will play lie fake real love to damage your heart
I’m old fashioned and always told myself my man will find me face to face but listening to other ppl pressured me to do online dating and I’m so glad I found this video.... confirmation to keep my standards high, deleting immediately
Absolutely ME TOO!!!!
Tony, what you are saying is so true. I know a man who works at a gym and has indicated that he's on a dating app. Now that you've brought this out a little more and I think about it, why is he on a dating app? He is in the perfect place to meet a lot of single women with at least one of the B's you described. Seems his intentions may not be in the right place. Ladies, beware... 🤔🤔
He's too cowardly to approach a woman in real life.
They approach women in dating sites and in other places. It's a strategy to reach as many people as possible. Like a job advertisement, a company can put it online, on a local newspaper, can distribute some flyers, you can hear about it from a friend. SAME.
Online dating = desperation‼️ Got it 👌
Love it! I stopped online dating in my late 20s because I wanted to be approached the old school way....walk up to me and start a conversation...
Some gals don't have much conversation as before (always on phone) it was better on dial-up. Lol
I stopped in my early 20s 😅
Tony man you ain't Neva lied. The last dude I tried to date on bumble I think it was was tripping. I'm like bro you need to chill and turn that attitude all the way down. That was back in May. I'm done with the foolishness on these sites. I've always said I want to meet my guy in person.
Yeah these men on the sites are full of games. How about in April a guy canceled a virtual date with me because I didn't send him nudes. Only talked to him a few days before he asked me that. I will never get online again I was bored in the pandemic
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“The reason you may be single is that God won’t let anyone approach you! “❤️❤️❤️
You are ON it man just the sheer relevancy of topics confirms you’re being led by The Spirit. Thank you.
- a lost 26 year old
You are not lost my dear ... just lessons to be learned .... I was fortunate that as a young woman I listened to mom and my grandmom......I figured no need to go through what they went through...but everyone is different ... Tony sharing from a man's perspective is very important .... We have to hear it ..even when it is hard to hear ..and adjust accordingly....
stay the course and safe travels..💞
Sweetheart, you are not lost. Believe in yourself and continue listening to your HolySpirit. Wishing you many blessings 🙏
Honey you are a long way from being lost. You're thinking is on point! Keep your cookie in the jar. Many blessings to you.🙏🏾
Same here girl! Also almost 26.
Be careful what you speak into your life 😫 trust me.
I had a profile on hinge and I kept it for about two months..it just didn’t feel right plus all of the guys I matched with would ask the same question “what are you looking for in a man?” 🙄and to add insult to injury I saw my ex husband on there with pictures that were 5 years old AND he conveniently forgot to fill out the section “do you have kids?” Added the fact that he has a master’s degree but left out the fact that he has two kids by two different women 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🤔
Yea so I’m done with online dating !
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Wowww. You really can’t make this stuff up. 😂
Wow 😳 lol just wow
This comment made my day 😩😂😂😂
Wow... your story will make any woman cancel all memberships. Haha
My Covid-19 summer has been a disaster due to playing with online dating. So far, I've been ghosted, stalked and Punk'd since mid-July. Dating apps have men acting like idiots. 🙄
Out of all the dating coaches out there, I resonate with Tony the most. His combination of giving it to you straight, mixed with the comedy gets me every time. Thank you for this video. Be blessed!
I just deleted all of the dating apps because I certainly keep meeting narcissist after narcissist!
Same, for TEN years
Message received, profile deleted....
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Me too! 😂😂
Yup me too I just did right away, I'm so done with dating apps never again
Same about to do mine 👌
Best thing you can do, boo
I've never had so much fun being educated...You're the best Tony
Meet my now husband online. His true colors have begun to surface now. I’m pregnant with our first child and he’s not being faithful. 😔 and when I found out he tried to justify it, God is giving me a strength to leave. But right now I’m just trying to focus on delivering a healthy/happy baby.
God bless you!!
Awww bless you hun, so sorry about that.
wow I am so sorry to hear this. Ladies please listen to this. Leave these sites alone. The potential for heartache is high meeting people on these sites.
I'm so sorry K Williams. Prayers of strength and comfort for you Lady!! 🙏🏾
Pray!
Tony you are truly a blessing from God. I was recently online dating and I was battling the thought of being on there so I deleted my account and asked Lord please show me a sign if I am doing the right thing by logging off of it and meet my husband face to face. I deleted the app yesterday and I see the video today. Thank God for the blessing. Please sew into his ministry he is for real. I listen to the live question and answer just listening. I do not ask questions because I have been were these women have been and I have been abstaining from sex. It does take some time getting used to but listening to the lives showed me that as women we need to love ourselves. Know your worth and add tax to that. The man that will marry you will protect you. The clowns online offer no protection they are actually rude and quite nasty and disrespectful. Thank you Tony!
I used to do online dating and I had a few men tell me to get off, to stop using dating sites.
Hmmm, did they say why they felt you should get off? I don’t like online dating either. I’m curious to hear the views of men who aren’t into it.
@@msjrene05 One of them told me if I was looking for a husband that I wasn't going to find him on a dating site. Looking back that was God using those men to let me know it wasn't for me.
I’ve tried online dating. Tony is right. Stay off of there...It’s trash smh
Chica Rene I try match online for 30 days it nothing but attention and no friendly response. It burn me out in 2 weeks so that waste of time never again.
@@jamesroberts7115 I got a lot of older white men there and that's not what I'm interested in at all.
Tony Tony Tony omg I just cancelled my subscription and removed my profile. This man is the truth “hear me”! Cause I didn’t look at it like that. Thanks TG
Tony, I believe that men online are deceitful. I know people who have had bad experiences. It's no place to meet a man. Thanks for educating women.
I’m not going to lie. I recently signed up for a couple of dating apps. And they’re filled with low value men. I just can’t do it. I’m trying to remain open, especially because of the world we live in, specifically COVID. But I just don’t have the patience and mindset for it. I thought it was just me...but there is no shortage of women. They have it EASY. So it does make me wonder why they’re on there...
This confirms why God told me to hide my profile and to get off the dating sites. Thank you, brother. 🙏 ❤️
I'm screaaaammmming!!! Tony talking bout mama and the dating site🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Tony I agree, why would a man who has himself together have to go to an online dating site? I feel most of the guys on those sites are looking for easy sex, have some type of short man complex or an emotional problem. It's just so draining that the dating era is a mess. Sigh...
Most are looking for casual sexual encounters or a woman desperate enough to fund them. I stopped going on those sites years ago. They all come across the same way and want the same things which is sex.
Tony, I can't with you and the astronauts!!! 🤣 I can't watch one video of yours without busting out laughing. Thank you for all you do!
Wow, this opened my eyes! I tried online dating and it was EXACTLY as Tony Gaskins said it. All I can said is wow because he described my experience. I got played on there thought I was being classy and he was talking to other women behind my back. I don’t go out much so I thought it would be easier to meet online. It’s a lot of nonsense on there! I will do it the regular way and didn’t think about what kind of men that’s really on there. Not getting on there again! Thank you Tony for your wisdom! God uses you!!! We APPRECIATE you! Your helping many people! God bless!
The last 30 seconds of woman’s impressions “oohh...” 😂😂😂😂 I am hollering. Tony started going in! This man is fed up with caveats & nuances 😂💀💀💀 This is so comical but is he speaking the truth! Please do a part 2!
I just about died when he was talking about how girls can’t get that “snoring sleep” and then his demonstration of it 😂👏🏼 I know this is a serious topic but Tony is HILARIOUS!
Great Video Tony! NOT desperate, but I am now more WISER and more CONFIDENT since I started listening to you!!! 🙌 🙌👏👏👊💪🙏
“I know my momma don’t look this good” 😂😂😂😂😂😂
To all the Queens out here! Know that, you're about to overcome something you've been dealing with. Your mind and heart will soon be at peace again. Be patient, everything will be just fine.
I so needed to read your message
I feel like it much harder to meet someone decent during the pandemic
Exactly! And with limited social ability trying to meet men in the grocery store is not working lol
@@mspinkdiva3 exactly it’s must harder
The pandemic isn’t forever. Patience is a virtue and I’ll wait for God’s timing!
@@SoultanicalsTube gotcha I beleive
I definitely feel this!!
That Smack before the woman’s voice 😂😂😂
*lip smack* "oh!"
HeyyMonie 😂😂😂😂😂 right?!
Exactly
Right although I've heard it from him many times however it still so funny 😂😂
Juanitacapri C everytime i hear it, it catches me off guard 😂
I have always been scared of online dating. Its bad enough you can meet ppl face to face and still have a hard time reading a man's energy right off. They show you the good side in the beginning and once they feel comfortable it could be trouble to pay. So you know online is worst.
Those sights are the devil. I been on about four at one time, and I never got good results. Met some scammers too! Tony is right. You can meet guys better in person.
😂"Bust it down Becky" & "Loose Booty Lu" (When I think I heard it all😂) I'm learning real life lessons from this channel but also getting a real good laugh at the same time.😂 Keep up the good work Mr. Tony.
I hate online dating!!! Hate hate hate! Filled with crazies!!!
Definitely
Crazies and perverts.
And closeted gay men
My opinion when a man is seeking women on social media most likely they're straight narcs or just have low self-esteem. There are to many beautiful women out here on sight it's men out here spending unnecessary money on chicks he don't even know just for attention
Hey Tony i am single and my girlfriend keeps telling me to get online to meet a man but I refuse I am scared to death to meet a man online. I will take my chance to meet a man out on the street before I meet him online I do not trust that so I totally agree with you thank you for being so truthful and helping us women out have a great weekend😊
Hello don't do it I just met a 54 yr old dusty ass dude that still stay at home with his parents & is a habitual liar. Hard Pass
@@sophisticatedmm3632 🤣🤣thanks for sharing!
@@sophisticatedmm3632 😂
This man has spoken 100% truth and many of us ladies will be rightfully convicted after listening 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I gave up on dating sites years ago. Every time I go on there, my stomach turns.
It was Tony acting like the introvert at the family reunion for me😩🤣🤣🤣
Taking myself off dating sites. Thank you for sharing your wisdom, Tony. You are absolutely right.
Tony I feel like we get to see more and more of who you are with each video and it gets funnier, more real, and hits home/confirms like never before. You told the 1000% truth when you say men don’t have the right intentions online because even OFFline men don’t have the right intentions; whether you meet them at a restaurant, church etc so it has to be triple quadruple so online. That comment sealed the video perfectly!! Thank you !
Took my profile off a dating site yesterday. It's like a weight lifted off my shoulders. Literally.
These online men are foul and the women are desperate and they know it
You have to keep in mind. Take your time, be content with your own life, have a take em or leave em attitude. A dinner and drinks just Isn’t enough to entice me.
And some of them don’t want to do that. It’s COVID season.
So chatting and moving slow Is an ok avenue online or off. Single people understand.
All I know, I’ve gotten sharper than Samurai sword. No Jokers will get a chat let alone bite. Wiser with time. Thank you Jesus.
online OR OFF -- exactly. same rules apply. initial meeting takes place (online OR OFF) then talk on phone 1 hour daily until the 1st date in person, where you can meet up on a park bench & talk for a few hours and get to learn each other. either you'll both enjoy it & want to do it again & continue talking an hour a day in between dates, or not. the ONLY difference SHOULD be the initial WAY you met (online or in person). Otherwise, the rules shouldn't change one bit. the only purpose online dating sites Should serve is bringing that "match" to the person's attention. he should still approach you first. you need just as much discernment & live conversation in real time after meeting online as you do after meeting in person. With that, you can weed 'em out just as quickly if they're not the one. he can be just as slap-crazy & ready to hide your body in a box if he met you in person in the mall as he can if he met you online. be careful EITHER way. Discernment is just as CRUCIAL in-person as it is online. sadly, nowadays, most folks' sense of discernment, social skills & ability to carry on a decent, mature conversation is pretty horrific & the dating sites get blamed for it. ~ b.
Big Betty etc ...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@prettypenne662 Yes lady, Big enough not to sell myself short out here. Not today, not tomorrow, not any longer If I had.
Please bring back Talks with Tony! I love all of your videos, but I really loved how you went in on those videos and addressed the viewers' specific question. It was insightful.
TONY GASKINS YOU ARE GENIUS!
After watching this video I dont believe there's a women with 2 brains who can't understand the point you are making. You truly are one of gods messenger's. Stay blessed 🙌🏽
It makes sense, but in some countries of Europe you would be single forever if you waited for a man to approach you on streets. Men in Germany will avoid even looking at you. All thanks to feminists that were accusing men of harassment if they dare to approach.
@Euphora eup if it Turkey probably yes. May be Italy. Otherwise only Arabs, Africans and Turks approach women here.
Dating app gives you the chance of having a pre-evaluation of the guy, 90% of them will show their crazy or true intentions in at least 2 days, many in the first line, you just don't entertain and unmatch.
If a guy can hold a normal conversation and seems interesting and tries to move on for a meeting IRL in a public,safe place, that's all right, if he invites you to his place or any location of his special preference (usually next to him) then you don't go. Easy.
Better meet a man in a safe and public environment where you can leave at any moment (choose an area you know well and have available transportation) than just entertain a potential creep.
A woman met this guy on the train back home, they talked back and forth and he invited her for a dinner at some nearby restaurant, after building rapport he invited her to his place for drinks, but then he threatened her with a knife, beat her up and raped her.
I guess she wouldn't think a guy commuting by train was a predator, well he was.
"introvert does not mean mute" Tony you're a legend I just can stop laughing (and learning) through the whole video!
When you put too much emphasis on WHERE AND HOW you met your man/woman, it beats the whole purpose of meeting the right person. It’s about being upfront, with your intentions, set the ground rules, know and state your boundaries, know and state your non-negotiable. It is about HONESTY, TRANSPARENCY and JUST BEING A DECENT HUMAN BEING♥️
Great message Kris...
Some people can’t take the truth, they will argue with Jesus🤷♀️
U live in the bong shop
Tony Gaskins, you tickle me! But everything you share in your videos is extremely helpful, especially in this day and time. Thanks for dropping knowledge and sharing real life experiences.
Thank you Tony for this message 💖 I have wasted so many years on dating sites! 😩 2020 is my end of dating sites!!
Once again TG you are on it again. Listen please ladies. A man can dress it up on a site to make it look good. Think about when a person goes in for a job interview. Most of the time they are trying to put on extra because they want the position. Same thing for men on sites they are trying to get you to hire them. It may take years before you realize he is not an employee you should have hired. Dont be blind! Pay close attention to detail, and don't be naive!
Facts
I couldn’t agree more! Been there done that online dating! It’s trashhh as heck! Even though it is harder to meet men during this trying pandemic, I think this is the perfect time to focus on me and work on my goals. I trust that God will send me a great guy who loves, cherishes, honors and wants to build a future with me 🙏🏾
Whew, I just deleted my dating profiles. Thank you, Mr. Gaskins. This was great advice and confirmation.
YOOOOOOOOO I have real tears in my eyes from that DL story. LOOOOOOL If I've ever laughed so hard in my life, it was today.
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Man said he was a "RB" 🤣🤣😩
I’m dead he said defensive linemen.... I’m dead 🤣🤣🤣
😭😭😭same ☠️
And when Tony said he got cat-fished 🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭
No online dating. Okay, got it lol
That part
Been binge watching Tony never gets old 🤣
Thanks Tony! I just deleted the last app for dating about a month ago. This was perfect Godly confirmation and timing. Online dating success stories happen, I know, but I don't think it's the norm. I feel like I am on the brink of losing my sanity after a couple of years. Thank God it's over. lol
The buffet analogy…LOL!! I love your way of using these very mentally visual examples to explain the male mind. Makes total sense. 💯
Yes, a man who is on a dating site is not ready. You are so right.
That cap looks very nice. I was always thinking what is TB it has to be TG. Very nice!
TB is Tampa Bay
My favorite thing you reminded us of is if we are single doing all that we can working on the three Bs , we may need to tap in to our purpose and look for God to show us what are we supposed to be doing during this time. Like you said every one has a time that love and relationship will come. Ever since I heard this I’m looking at others in relationships different now instead of wondering why not me . The why not me mentality has been distracting me for some time now. Thanks for the insight and encouragement!
Why I’m starting to say.. point, blank, period... when I repeat the rules learned on this UA-cam channel
Yes, I've been saying it a lot lately as well😩🤣
Lol he has me saying broke busted and disgusted 😩🤣
Welcome to the blessed tribe family 🙂
@@CaramelKissez Thanks
I did online dating for a couple of years and all I did was get used and treated badly. It's not worth it. It's dangerous for the self-esteem.
The only way online dating would be good a is if you're just looking to get laid, that's all it's good for!! . All the men on there they're not serious.
Everything he said is true every time I met someone who I liked on line I would delete my account!!! and the guy never deleted he's!!!! he was still on there!!!! and if things didn't work out he just went back online he deleted his account. Never.
Heartless. Online dating is cold and heartless
Oh my goodness 😂😂😂. Uncle's Cleduis with the catheter!!!!! I can't. 😂😂😂😂
I know right lol
“DL? Nah imma RB” 😂😂😂 Tony log off NOWWW
Oooookurrrt🤣🤣🤣🤣🥴🥴🥴
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I died laughing at that part🤣🤣🤣
I HOLLEREDDD❗😂😫😭🤣😭😂
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At minute 38 I had to stop crunching on my chips and sit up. If you aint singing my song! Man if I havent experienced this!!! I need a session 😩 😂🤣😂🤣
I am crying! Tony is hilarious!😂🤣 The astronaut scene did it for me.
Tony snoring @ 19:24 TOOK ME OUT!! The one eye open 😩😭💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀