Putting your foot down will sometimes have you a little lonely but keep your head up ladies! I’m 25 and my relationships lately haven’t lasted more than a month because I leave when I see the red flags but I believe my prince is coming. Thank you Tony for the encouragement!
Yes Queen Daughter. Keep your standards the real King will show up. Don't give in to trendy social media trivia. Keep your virtue pure as well as your mind,body,and spirit.
That's the only way to stay ahead of them is to run at the first sign of trouble. Things never get better down the line. Well done to you and stay strong.
Good for you Amber! I'm also 26 and just ended things with a man because I would not sleep with him. I said, "I've only known you for two months." But I felt very empowered walking away with new knowledge, sticking to boundaries!
If you love a man more than you love yourself, he will leave for a woman who loves herself more than she loves him. Be the prize. Act like the prize. Embody it in your behavior and how you carry yourself.
Very accurate! Men will do to you what you allow. If you don't nip it in the bud and show them that you are not negotiating your worth, they will continue to test the waters with you until you become fed up and begin to lash out. Then they will call you crazy because you are reacting from something that they've been doing that you chose to ignore or overlook. If they do not respect or value you enough to accommodate your needs, you need to remove them from your life and for good.
yeah and but if you voice your opinion right away..they wont go out with you..he is right ..you dont even to check ..you can just have a normal conv and say I dont like people who swear etc and that lets the person know everything you wont let that TG said..
Having limits and calling them out on their Tom foolery will deter the grown boys. They go looking for a woman who will put up with their garbage behavior. They get embarrassed when they get called out and turn into Casper.
This is so true. I had a husband who once said and i'll never forget those horrible words to me... I'm going to just enough to keep my feet in the door. That means enough for him to get what he gets. Stupid him. Oh, brag about his so-called 5 women who's willing to be on his team!! I refuse to be on ANYONES team. I kicked him out and hadn't return. (He could never be in my presence) Catching him with trashed out gutta rats. Lord thank you for pulling off these blinders.... I'll never respect another man in my life......
My issue with this is it feels like having a child. I get that men do what you let them do, but how do you respect them after you had to stop him from doing things he knows he shouldn't . That's my issue. I lose a little respect every time I have to tell a man things a GROWN MAN is supposed to know. By the time you get a man trained in how to act, you won't even like him anymore nor have any respect for him! I find it hard to show a man certain things and still have interest in him. If you did not know you shouldn't be raising your voice at me and I had to tell you, you are like my son. I can show a man how to treat me, I just can't respect him or desire him sexually afterwards. It feels like training a dog or raising a son, two things that don't turn me on AT ALL. Sure there are some things you have to teach people in a relationship, things like the fact that tacos are my favorite, I like scary movies and I get upset when people tickle me. But don't yell at me, you can't cheat, and show some d*&( respect is not something I can teach AND respect at the same time. I'm afraid of how I'm going to treat a man that I taught basic right from wrong. He's likely to have to shut up while Im talking! Lol. I expect GROWN from a MAN, but I have no problem teaching boys.
This. And no, I do not get that men do what you let them do... Because of everything you stated above. "Yelling, cheating, being direspectful" ... Like, what?? Do we have to show them that this is wrongdoing?? It's clear that it is. And it's very clear that they know that very well. If they want to push that on you, they are bad people. Who will willingly be with a person like that and choose him as a partner? No one.
This !!!I need a answer for this!!!!ASAP because that is every serious I ever had and I hate telling people what they should know especially when we argue about it and his mom acts like she doesn't want him to get stressed.she is like a enabler
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All you must hold on to is you. You can try to be everything for a man, but sometimes its just ain't enough, some men are so cold to a woman that loves him a lot, that's why you have to love yourself more than you love him.
@@TheHealedBeauty I think those men grew up with mothers or women that abused them who were strong, manipulative, cold hearted....so when they meet weaker, loving and kind women.... they hate us because we're not really their preference that they're familiar with.... if they were abused by strong woman, they will despise weaker and loving women
Tony said “ make sure I got my tool on me just in case someone take a stupid pill and I have to usher them to the Lord.” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 the fact he was so calm saying it 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
"Men of God are not different from Men of Satan".Thank you Tony Gaskins for this reality lesson. Ladies keep your head high and your morals/standards higher.
I’m at the point where I’ll click on the video and before the ad is over, I’ll already hit “like” cause I know whatever Tony is about to say is gonna hit, and it’s gonna be something I need to hear.
I just wondered up on Tony and it has been more rocks than I care to pick back up but it has been a WOW EYE OPENER AND IT IS HARD TO SEE ME AS A PERSON I been in this so long I don't even feel the hurt nor am I surprised when something happens . But I've been a strong woman all my life . He is the only person that has managed to bring me to my knees and I don't understand it . But I have to daughters and there strong woman also . And I so feel I've let them down in my weakness that I've showed them a side of life that could harm them from my not taken a stand for myself .
I really wish Mr. Gaskins had been around when I was in my 20s. Would have saved me lots of time and emotional pain. God bless you, Mr. Gaskins! You have all my admiration and respect!
Same here I found him last year and I am.different person today. I wish I had learned everything he is teaching sooner. I made so many mistakes. Now I know better 🙏🏿
Did anyone else notice the flash of light behind Tony after he said the power of Jesus is too strong to deny?! This man is surrounded by the blood. Lord continue to protect and provide for Coach Tony as he continues to be vessel for you 🙌🏽 IJN
You hit it spot on. A woman can be 100% faithful and call a man out, but if he has no desire to change and nothing to draw his strength from, he gonna do what he wants to do. Point blank periodt.
Trauma kept me from watching Tony videos for a little while. But this man is 100% - always on point. Most of us don't have people, let alone men, be this real and helpful. So glad to be able to watch more of his videos.
Maybe it's because I'm "old school", but I have always done more than the average; more than what was needed. I was raised real strict... if the bathroom or dishes had any dirty spot anywhere, my dad made me clean the whole bathroom over again and wash all the dishes over again. I was raised to be a perfectionist. I always went over and above on the job. It always paid off. On the other hand, people will use you in relationships if they know you will always do the work that they won't do. There are only two types of people in this world... the givers and the takers.
And this is where I'm at the old school . Paying all the bills doing all the work while he is sleeping then when the pay check comes in he is up and on the go uses all the money and I start all over .
@@sheilabevels1845 I can so relate. I was the breadwinner in both my marriages. First husband spent all my money - we had to file for bankruptcy, second husband had been married 6 times before me. He was a compulsive liar and serial cheater. I have been divorced and alone since 1996, and I have wonderful peace of mind. God bless you, Sheila.
When we know we are first class in heart & mind, along with being a giver, then we want a big fat giver type man, real loving & respectful romance, courtship, marriage, & a good giver man in our life together As well & not to sadly settle for less!!!We don't want & don't need a sad, lame big Ole sorry taker tupe man to date or marry. The desire,, goals & prayers is for good love with a quality good man who we don't want to a big training job on & be turn off in the process and very Disappointed by!! unhappily dating & getting married, just to be married & have part of the bills paid By the man of disappointment in our life isnt gonna work & we need better, as we also level up & learn how to be more wise & quality also now!!! Some of us need a more mature man from the start. Letting a man know our boundaries & that we are a quality lady & he must deserve & match up with mostly. Doing some adjustments as two people dating would need to is OK bit not overall big training isn't ok for many good women to do for a grown man. Some situations are different. Men need to get prepared for us Queens to a good point as well to properly match up together!!!!!
Lady: can you do your videos without going into religion? Tony: Absolutely NOT ma’am don’t ever in your life, ever again ask me to denounce the name of Christ PeriodT. Jesus is the way the truth and the life! Amen 🙏🏾 🙌🏾 keep going big bro truly appreciate your obedience
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A lot of men don't watch the videos but they need to. A lot of men are against women, opponent mind set coupled with not just valuing women as a whole. We don't have it in us to keep fighting with men to be better. The main point that I pulled from this video was a man has to want to be better, not just for a woman but for himself. If a man is not in that space we are just spinning our wheels, men have to understand that women don't have to work this hard on our relationship with god so why would we be going through this with another human
Glad someone said it. Everyone has a conscience and values. If a man doesn't have them, it's on him. It's not a woman's job to teach her partner how to well behave. Like, seriously? What is this all about to say that every single man will do bad stuff if you let him... Why someone would want to be in a relationship that doesn't add nothing if not headaches and heart breaks? Like .. "men are all rotten inside and if you want something decent you have to train him" ... Aren't they adults? With a fee will? People choose what to do, based on their values. Stop normalizing this behavior, it's not normal, it's not okay, and it surely not a women's job to do something about it. Level up to be a good human being in general, for you and your own conscience. Stop normalizing being a shitty persons. Even if someone will let me do something bad to them, I won't do that! Why should I? It won't make me happy nor make me feel any type of positive feeling. So if a man are capable of doing that to their s/o just because she allows it .. He is not a good human being.
Jesusssssss. The opponent mindset is real sometime they not even mad at u- they talking crap to their mothers, their 1st love that hurt.. the lady who got them on child support- the list goes on and on.
I know.someone who should have watched this video, I'm still angry at the way I allowed myself to be treated. I should have listened to my intuition. .🌷🌹🏵️🌺🌼🦋💕
Man! This talk was right on time for me today! I just started dated a guy 2 1/5 months ago and he JUST did the “Let me call you right back” thing last night, and did not. This morning I received the “Morning Moe” text (I requested that he refrain from calling me “babe/baby” in the third week. I told him that was too intimate and too soon in our “talking” stage), and didn’t even offer an apology or an excuse for not calling me back the night before. I’m noticing other little red flags too. His conversation is real lazy, I feel like he is used to the women doing all the work and moving really fast to move be his “girlfriend.” HA! He is in for a rude awakening! It makes such a difference when you have been practicing abstinence. I see everything with such clarity now… I guess I’ll have to address the not calling me back issue sometime today, whenever he decides to pick up the ph one to call.
Hi Queen, you have entertained the grown boy long enough. He tested you and didn't call back. Why allow him to have a front row seat in your life and the motherly love your going to show little Johnny foe listening to his excuse. Blocdt!
He sounds like exactly what’s in this video . Unfortunately I don’t believe we need to Be talking this long without having going a date . I won’t say block him but I would say let him call you . If he don’t , he don’t . But if he do you let that be known about his word is important . If he calls you back , he got the message if he doesn’t than leave him alone . Under no circumstances do you contact him .
You will waste your breath addressing it because he knows what he’s doing wrong. You ain’t even have to block him, just pack your dignity with you in a suitcase and move on.
"Man snorin' like a bear in hibernation." Tony you are hilarious and your videos are right on! Wow. Whole lotta women out there are willing to play a wife's role without the man having to do much heavy lifting. Ladies, NEVER be played like this! Figure out how you can design your own life. Build a solid foundation emotionally, financially and spiritually so you won't need to settle for someone who gives so little. Lest you imagine I don't know how difficult this is . . . I put myself through school in my 30's, to earn my undergrad with six small children, working two jobs when necessary. Following graduation, I started a job in law enforcement, and just retired after 25 years. During that time I was able to purchase two homes, which I still own. I did this by living frugally, without much help from anyone, including a man. It can be done, but only if you make yourself a plan and follow it. Women, KNOW YOUR WORTH!
100% I realized that I no longer want to live the way my husband wants to live. I kicked him out Sunday after he verbally yelled at me from being so drunk and causing his own drama.. Even held me and made me feel as if he actually would hit me. That was a deal breaker of a day, I was already planning my exit.. But it pushed me to take action. To not let him dismiss my unhappiness... No more "it's fine" no more lies. I needed this seperation. I refuse to live the life we were living. Everything you said so far is right. It's been a hard pill to swallow of my actions/lack of respect and love for myself. I was hoping love would be enough to help my grown-boy wake up. But so far it hasn't worked 6 years later. Currently back on day 1 of no communication. We have a daughter so I don't know if I can keep 100% no communication and he left plenty of things at my house he needs to return for. But I'm keeping it Strictly business!
Drunk, verabally abusing, he was helding you and you felt as he could actually hit you. I don't think it's good or so safe for your daughter, I think he has some teraphy ahead to do first. Your safety and mental health, as the one of your daughter, comes first. If you have a friend or a family member that can help you and be there when he comes for his stuff, maybe it's better. Or someone that will take it to him. This besides, I'm very sorry you had to live this.. you're very brave and strong!
Get a third party to help. If you have some proof, feel free to get a protective order. Courts can allow for 3rd part civil communication. He's going to keep pushing....
I know that I need to keep my boundaries and standards while single and dating. This is because I have been tested by both men in the church and the ones who are not in the church. Christian and non Christian. ALL AND ANY MAN will test you. You are so right about that Tony G. Be blessed 🙏🙏🙏
Girl don’t mention the men in church 🤮fake narcissistic and abusive I wasted 5yrs. and then he has the nerve to say Praise The Lord 🙄I don’t even speak, Where was all that when u were Abusive.
I have been with my husband 20 years and married for 11 years. The last few years has been challenging because he has tested me multiple times by staying out til wee hours in the morning, hanging out w his single friends too much and going to the bars. I have enforced to him many times that I will not put up w it but he thinks I'm controlling him when I explaining I deserve to be respected and valued 1st in his life as his wife. Basically, he mentally checked out of our marriage continued to do me wrong on many levels then left me suddenly so now we are separated. I am broken and can't believe this happened when all I did was stand my ground. I'm learning that if a man can't get his way w you he will find someone else who will.
@@taghazoutmoon5031Turn him over to the Lord. Prepare your mental, body and resources to move forward without him. He may choose to return… he may not. Either way, pray for peace and the crown of joy as you go through this season (and clarity). In Jesus Name. Amen!
This man speaking facts. We were youth pastors and then once this girl became of age, they started messing around behind my back, they had an affair. We now divorced, he got her pregnant 3 months after, and now they married. Hasn’t even been a year. Sooooo yes, a man can talk Jesus, but it’s one thing to have a relationship with Him.
I could not keep a straight face when Tony was talking about guys that are 6’2” and their third leg coming up short 🤣🤣😂😂😅 Love a Tony lesson with some humor added in 😁 I also felt when you said as a woman, don’t take the good or the bad too seriously since it’s a test. That’s great advice! 💯🙏🏽
I find loving yourself to the highest power and not tolerating and putting up with nonsense and setting boundaries. will save you months and years of staying in unhealthy toxic relationships…
Lolol the lady that asked if you would give a message without bringing up religion. Absolutely not ma'am - that is the most absurd thing I've heard in my life.
'You are going to get triedd' 😂 Yes they will try us, thank you for this wonderful confirmation that I should stick to my standards - because people will try you just to see if you're serious and it's up to us to show them that we're not playing games. We mean what we say and we will follow through.
Thank you, for another weighty word. Most women wish men were listening to your videos but truth is as long as we women are listening and applying the keys.. it don’t matter if a man ever hear it! The better we get the weaker we make the grown boy! Point blank PERIODT
You’re doing the right thing. I don’t feel God coming from any relationship coach except you. I feel the truth and your videos have helped me in every aspect of my life. I was so clueless and naive in the world. Thank you for your service 🥰
I’m definitely a person that will push boundaries, did it in the army. It got so bad, they started calling me sergeant major. Imagine the commander, calling a battalion meeting and your 1 hr late walking up, because no one use to check you. So I definitely know a man will try and do whatever I allow and I can’t act surprised or ignorant to that truth
Your right my man is a true gentleman and genuine...but I knew when we first met that even though he was talking a good things I knew I was being tested!!!
Red flag? Could it be yellow flag? Slow Down!!! extended friendship reveals true behaviors. Men, of integrity, have a King inside that emerge in the presence of a Queen 👑
You are seriously the BEST COACH ❤️🙌 You're helping so many people out there. Please keep believing in us and providing your amazing content to us! Amazing work
Thanks Tony, it is hard to stay encouraged. The last guy I was in a relationship with said to me "Don't run me off" and I pondered that for days until now I didn't know what he meant. No clue! He was inconsistent and a few times broke his promises to me. I looked at him and I told him to be a man of your word. He is giving me the silent treatment now.
Wow. He tried it. He sound like the man I had been dealing with for over 2 years. But that's on him. I no longer care. He tryna play games to see which one of us gone break to initiate contact. Not gonna be me. That silent treatment does not work anymore. Lol He broke his silence cause I would not give in
Thank you for that Kindle. 🙋🏽♀️ What you and First Lady Sheri didn’t know is that sometimes I read about 1 book/week (usually self-help) and was running out of space. YOU TWO ARE A BLESSING 😊🙏🏽 Happy Holidays 🎄
Tony if this ain’t facts! The minute I feel disrespect, dishonor or catch some bad behavior I’m leaving, or asking you to leave & im not continuing the relationship. I will call them out & exit immediately.
The testing by a saved man is true. You are not lying Tony. But if a woman gives in to this saved man sexual advances she gives the approval for the fornication. I been tested many times by my fiance but my love for God checks me all the time. I will not disappoint my Jesus. We are getting married in April 2022. Please keep us in your prayers🙏🏾. I have learned alot from you. God bless you
Sorry but I don't get it, if he loves you and he knows that you want to wait 'till marriage... Why he is constantly testing you? "I been tested many times by my fiance"... Do you feel safe with him or do you feel like you always have to fight for your values inside your relationship?
Tony, it's amazing how despite your tiredness, you still shot this video to bless us with the valuable knowledge. Thank you for your dedication and your time! MAY OUR HEAVENLY FATHER KEEP BLESSING ABUNDANTLY AND PROTECTING You and Your Family members IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!!! AMEN!!!!
Tony wonderful word keep it up your the realest relationship coach out here. But I must add, I remember in one of your videos that you said men don’t do right on their own. I always wondered why men couldn’t be right on their own, then I came to the realization that most men that can’t do right on their own are weak, and don’t love themselves. The Bible says in Song of Solomon 8:4 to not awaken love before its time (not the entire scripture) most men and women lack discipline and strong foundation.
My parents are married 40 years but over the last year or so my father has started being disrespectful to my mother. He tells her to shut up regularly. He says things designed to provoke people into getting angry or upset and then turns around and calls that person aggressive for getting angry with him. When he says hurtful things and I ask him hours later why he said them he says he never said them. It's getting harder to deal with every day. He never apologizes either.
My dad has always been this way and he's incredibly religious and preaches the Bible all the time, is judgemental etc. So women need to be careful when it comes to being a Bible beater and seeking Bible beating men. That is not a true sign that he is a loving man
Early dementia, alzheimers or a brain tumor? Just have him get checked out especially if it's a drastic change and also have him checked for a urinary tract infection.
Not only have men been doing this. Now my son is doing this as well. I’m over it. My son doesn’t even get up and go to school. I have to keep trying to get him up and go for hours everyday. Now he’s failing all his classes. I divorced his dad but still left with the same pain everyday.
Maybe he isnt coping with the divorce? Maybe you should talk to him and get him to open up to you. Your son still has a chance to change because in assuming he is at age of forming his personality. Plus you are his parent and it's not easy for both of yall. Try to talk to him gently, make your self available so he can feel comfortable opening up to you without backlash and see what happens. Best of luck
Dear Mama, please get counseling for both you and your kids regarding issues from the fall out of divorce. We have needs that may not be apparent until years later. Get help and assistance to get out in front of it before it is taken into adulthood. Better now than later. May Jah bless you and continue to keep you at this transition period of your lives. Listen with both ears to Mr. Gaskins...he speaks spoil much truth with authority and knowledge. Our Father Jah, I pray for the continued uplifting and edification of the true church in Yeshua HaMosaich I pray. Hallelujah. Amen.
You’re faithful to your wife but #1 is your relationship with God. I can tell from how you speak that God always comes first before even your family! That pleases Him.
This is Good!!!!!! This is explaining what I have been trying to explain about doing wrong how you are always in a continual loop of Getting away with it once you start. or when the people around you start
Putting your foot down will sometimes have you a little lonely but keep your head up ladies! I’m 25 and my relationships lately haven’t lasted more than a month because I leave when I see the red flags but I believe my prince is coming. Thank you Tony for the encouragement!
Yes Queen Daughter. Keep your standards the real King will show up. Don't give in to trendy social media trivia. Keep your virtue pure as well as your mind,body,and spirit.
I’m 26 and I’m always alone they play so many games and I don’t allow it smh
That's the only way to stay ahead of them is to run at the first sign of trouble. Things never get better down the line. Well done to you and stay strong.
Good for you Amber! I'm also 26 and just ended things with a man because I would not sleep with him. I said, "I've only known you for two months." But I felt very empowered walking away with new knowledge, sticking to boundaries!
King. Your second after God of course🙏🏾🌹
If you love a man more than you love yourself, he will leave for a woman who loves herself more than she loves him.
Be the prize. Act like the prize. Embody it in your behavior and how you carry yourself.
Thank you!
Yes...thank u for sharing!
powerful words but actually it is probably the only truth
Love this
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Very accurate! Men will do to you what you allow. If you don't nip it in the bud and show them that you are not negotiating your worth, they will continue to test the waters with you until you become fed up and begin to lash out. Then they will call you crazy because you are reacting from something that they've been doing that you chose to ignore or overlook. If they do not respect or value you enough to accommodate your needs, you need to remove them from your life and for good.
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I did now divorce and I have NO REGRETS!
I called my ex on just about all his BS. I left him. Not sure how his ex’s dealt with all his BS for 10-12 yrs🤷🏾♀️. I ain’t doin it!!
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yeah and but if you voice your opinion right away..they wont go out with you..he is right ..you dont even to check ..you can just have a normal conv and say I dont like people who swear etc and that lets the person know everything you wont let that TG said..
People will treat you how you allow them to treat you.
Having limits and calling them out on their Tom foolery will deter the grown boys. They go looking for a woman who will put up with their garbage behavior. They get embarrassed when they get called out and turn into Casper.
All day every day!!
So true facts 🎯💯
🤣🤣🤣🤣 loved the "turn into Casper" ... you were too kind, Casper is at least cute!
This is so true. I had a husband who once said and i'll never forget those horrible words to me...
I'm going to just enough to keep my feet in the door.
That means enough for him to get what he gets.
Stupid him. Oh, brag about his so-called 5 women who's willing to be on his team!!
I refuse to be on ANYONES team. I kicked him out and hadn't return. (He could never be in my presence)
Catching him with trashed out gutta rats. Lord thank you for pulling off these blinders....
I'll never respect another man in my life......
Baby say it again 💯💯💯
"Because men want to get away with as much as we can get away with." TG
The more I learn about men the more I realize how badly I messed up
You didn’t mess up. Society messed up by lying to women from birth. Disney movies & romantic comedies sold us a LIE to condition us for the bs.
Same, girl. But it is not too late to recorrect your learned behaviors.
Same here Nikki… thank God we are learning the truth. God is good! Here’s to an amazing new year. ❤️
Same
Same here I’m 22 and learning about men and i wanna get this thang right while I’m young😩
My issue with this is it feels like having a child. I get that men do what you let them do, but how do you respect them after you had to stop him from doing things he knows he shouldn't . That's my issue. I lose a little respect every time I have to tell a man things a GROWN MAN is supposed to know. By the time you get a man trained in how to act, you won't even like him anymore nor have any respect for him! I find it hard to show a man certain things and still have interest in him. If you did not know you shouldn't be raising your voice at me and I had to tell you, you are like my son. I can show a man how to treat me, I just can't respect him or desire him sexually afterwards. It feels like training a dog or raising a son, two things that don't turn me on AT ALL. Sure there are some things you have to teach people in a relationship, things like the fact that tacos are my favorite, I like scary movies and I get upset when people tickle me. But don't yell at me, you can't cheat, and show some d*&( respect is not something I can teach AND respect at the same time. I'm afraid of how I'm going to treat a man that I taught basic right from wrong. He's likely to have to shut up while Im talking! Lol. I expect GROWN from a MAN, but I have no problem teaching boys.
This. And no, I do not get that men do what you let them do... Because of everything you stated above. "Yelling, cheating, being direspectful" ... Like, what?? Do we have to show them that this is wrongdoing?? It's clear that it is. And it's very clear that they know that very well. If they want to push that on you, they are bad people. Who will willingly be with a person like that and choose him as a partner? No one.
That’s real talk. 💯 I’m the same way. My BFF calls one of my exes “my son” because I had to train him so much. Which is why he’s an ex. 🙄
This !!!I need a answer for this!!!!ASAP because that is every serious I ever had and I hate telling people what they should know especially when we argue about it and his mom acts like she doesn't want him to get stressed.she is like a enabler
@@franksanchez1716 What is the question?
@@momoberry3930 what the post was talking
“A man will give up substance for a woman who looks good aesthetically but has no substance”. That is a shame!
A damn shame. SMH
Lol life was never fair. Women should make our own morals.
Exactly! To only come back to us when their relationship fails
*#*Hi dear| if you seriously want help to get your ex back or a specific person I know of a man| who helped me bring my ex back he can also help you,,,,.,..,,💔*#*
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You teach a man how to treat you. Thank you!! 💫 🙌🏽
There is a thin line between being a wife or a welcome mat in some cases
All you must hold on to is you. You can try to be everything for a man, but sometimes its just ain't enough, some men are so cold to a woman that loves him a lot, that's why you have to love yourself more than you love him.
Yes its almost like they hate the women that are the most loving and good to them....
@@hereisayana8207 why tho
@@TheHealedBeauty I think those men grew up with mothers or women that abused them who were strong, manipulative, cold hearted....so when they meet weaker, loving and kind women.... they hate us because we're not really their preference that they're familiar with.... if they were abused by strong woman, they will despise weaker and loving women
You are absolutely correct. Wish I recognized this early on in life but grateful I realized it now.
Narcissist @@TheHealedBeauty
A true Godly man will protect his purity as well as woman but that is if he’s truly saved.
My ex husband was a narcissist so he was a big bully. The only way I was to set a boundary was to leave and never looked back.
You have to have respect for yourself because people wont have respect for you.
Tony said “ make sure I got my tool on me just in case someone take a stupid pill and I have to usher them to the Lord.” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 the fact he was so calm saying it 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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I know right, lol 😂😂😂😂
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He is crazyyy 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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"Men of God are not different from Men of Satan".Thank you Tony Gaskins for this reality lesson. Ladies keep your head high and your morals/standards higher.
I don't put anything past anyone that doesn't love and obey Jesus Christ.. Man or woman.
These are facts
Can't love if you don't know how much you are loved by the Lord, Amen 🙏
I agree with you. If they are not accountable to God you just know they will do wrong and not lose a night's sleep over it.
Facts no moral compose, no direction.. they are liable to do anything and everything
Lol I hear ya but I know way more followers of Christ who do not have a moral compass. So are you saying you let christians slide when they do wrong🤷🏾
I’m at the point where I’ll click on the video and before the ad is over, I’ll already hit “like” cause I know whatever Tony is about to say is gonna hit, and it’s gonna be something I need to hear.
Me too. Cause Tony must have known I was at the edge today and look at God..
Been been, cos it's always good and I want Tony to be able to reach more folks. The bigger the likes the more folks it can reach.
Facts
Me too sis ❤️
I just wondered up on Tony and it has been more rocks than I care to pick back up but it has been a WOW EYE OPENER AND IT IS HARD TO SEE ME AS A PERSON I been in this so long I don't even feel the hurt nor am I surprised when something happens . But I've been a strong woman all my life . He is the only person that has managed to bring me to my knees and I don't understand it . But I have to daughters and there strong woman also . And I so feel I've let them down in my weakness that I've showed them a side of life that could harm them from my not taken a stand for myself .
I really wish Mr. Gaskins had been around when I was in my 20s. Would have saved me lots of time and emotional pain.
God bless you, Mr. Gaskins! You have all my admiration and respect!
You ain't never lied!
Same here
I found him last year and I am.different person today.
I wish I had learned everything he is teaching sooner.
I made so many mistakes. Now I know better 🙏🏿
Who u telln....I would have been ready in my 20's 😁
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U right
Did anyone else notice the flash of light behind Tony after he said the power of Jesus is too strong to deny?! This man is surrounded by the blood. Lord continue to protect and provide for Coach Tony as he continues to be vessel for you 🙌🏽 IJN
You hit it spot on. A woman can be 100% faithful and call a man out, but if he has no desire to change and nothing to draw his strength from, he gonna do what he wants to do. Point blank periodt.
WORD
Periodt
Trauma kept me from watching Tony videos for a little while. But this man is 100% - always on point. Most of us don't have people, let alone men, be this real and helpful. So glad to be able to watch more of his videos.
Maybe it's because I'm "old school", but I have always done more than the average; more than what was needed. I was raised real strict... if the bathroom or dishes had any dirty spot anywhere, my dad made me clean the whole bathroom over again and wash all the dishes over again. I was raised to be a perfectionist. I always went over and above on the job. It always paid off. On the other hand, people will use you in relationships if they know you will always do the work that they won't do.
There are only two types of people in this world... the givers and the takers.
Thats why they advise givers to have limits because takers rarely do.
This is true. What I have learnt is to never give a man more than he is giving me, even if I feel like doing more.
And this is where I'm at the old school . Paying all the bills doing all the work while he is sleeping then when the pay check comes in he is up and on the go uses all the money and I start all over .
@@sheilabevels1845 I can so relate. I was the breadwinner in both my marriages. First husband spent all my money - we had to file for bankruptcy, second husband had been married 6 times before me. He was a compulsive liar and serial cheater.
I have been divorced and alone since 1996, and I have wonderful peace of mind.
God bless you, Sheila.
When we know we are first class in heart & mind, along with being a giver, then we want a big fat giver type man, real loving & respectful romance, courtship, marriage, & a good giver man in our life together
As well & not to sadly settle for less!!!We don't want & don't need a sad, lame big Ole sorry taker tupe man to date or marry. The desire,, goals & prayers is for good love with a quality good man who we don't want to a big training job on & be turn off in the process and very Disappointed by!! unhappily dating & getting married, just to be married & have part of the bills paid
By the man of disappointment in our life isnt gonna work & we need better, as we also level up & learn how to be more wise & quality also now!!!
Some of us need a more mature man from the start.
Letting a man know our boundaries & that we are a quality lady & he must deserve & match up with mostly. Doing some adjustments as two people dating would need to is OK bit not overall big training isn't ok for many good women to do for a grown man. Some situations are different.
Men need to get prepared for us Queens to a good point as well to properly match up together!!!!!
Lady: can you do your videos without going into religion?
Tony: Absolutely NOT ma’am don’t ever in your life, ever again ask me to denounce the name of Christ
PeriodT. Jesus is the way the truth and the life! Amen 🙏🏾 🙌🏾 keep going big bro truly appreciate your obedience
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This is the last time he's trying me.
I've had enough. This is too hard on my spirit.
A lot of men don't watch the videos but they need to. A lot of men are against women, opponent mind set coupled with not just valuing women as a whole. We don't have it in us to keep fighting with men to be better. The main point that I pulled from this video was a man has to want to be better, not just for a woman but for himself. If a man is not in that space we are just spinning our wheels, men have to understand that women don't have to work this hard on our relationship with god so why would we be going through this with another human
Glad someone said it. Everyone has a conscience and values. If a man doesn't have them, it's on him. It's not a woman's job to teach her partner how to well behave. Like, seriously? What is this all about to say that every single man will do bad stuff if you let him... Why someone would want to be in a relationship that doesn't add nothing if not headaches and heart breaks? Like .. "men are all rotten inside and if you want something decent you have to train him" ... Aren't they adults? With a fee will? People choose what to do, based on their values. Stop normalizing this behavior, it's not normal, it's not okay, and it surely not a women's job to do something about it. Level up to be a good human being in general, for you and your own conscience. Stop normalizing being a shitty persons. Even if someone will let me do something bad to them, I won't do that! Why should I? It won't make me happy nor make me feel any type of positive feeling. So if a man are capable of doing that to their s/o just because she allows it .. He is not a good human being.
Absolutely true. I have zero interest in pushing boundaries, just treating a partner with the kindness and love that I want in return.
Jesusssssss. The opponent mindset is real sometime they not even mad at u- they talking crap to their mothers, their 1st love that hurt.. the lady who got them on child support- the list goes on and on.
Yessssss " we don't have it in us to keep fighting for a man to be better ".
I know.someone who should have watched this video, I'm still angry at the way I allowed myself to be treated. I should have listened to my intuition. .🌷🌹🏵️🌺🌼🦋💕
Man! This talk was right on time for me today! I just started dated a guy 2 1/5 months ago and he JUST did the “Let me call you right back” thing last night, and did not. This morning I received the “Morning Moe” text (I requested that he refrain from calling me “babe/baby” in the third week. I told him that was too intimate and too soon in our “talking” stage), and didn’t even offer an apology or an excuse for not calling me back the night before.
I’m noticing other little red flags too. His conversation is real lazy, I feel like he is used to the women doing all the work and moving really fast to move be his “girlfriend.” HA! He is in for a rude awakening!
It makes such a difference when you have been practicing abstinence. I see everything with such clarity now… I guess I’ll have to address the not calling me back issue sometime today, whenever he decides to pick up the ph one to call.
The best way to address that is actually to show him, not tell him: "BLOCKDT!!!"
If you do, let us know how that conversation goes. I always have a hard time w bringing that up
Hi Queen, you have entertained the grown boy long enough. He tested you and didn't call back. Why allow him to have a front row seat in your life and the motherly love your going to show little Johnny foe listening to his excuse. Blocdt!
He sounds like exactly what’s in this video . Unfortunately I don’t believe we need to
Be talking this long without having going a date . I won’t say block him but I would say let him call you . If he don’t , he don’t . But if he do you let that be known about his word is important . If he calls you back , he got the message if he doesn’t than leave him alone . Under no circumstances do you contact him .
You will waste your breath addressing it because he knows what he’s doing wrong. You ain’t even have to block him, just pack your dignity with you in a suitcase and move on.
"Man snorin' like a bear in hibernation." Tony you are hilarious and your videos are right on! Wow. Whole lotta women out there are willing to play a wife's role without the man having to do much heavy lifting. Ladies, NEVER be played like this! Figure out how you can design your own life. Build a solid foundation emotionally, financially and spiritually so you won't need to settle for someone who gives so little. Lest you imagine I don't know how difficult this is . . . I put myself through school in my 30's, to earn my undergrad with six small children, working two jobs when necessary. Following graduation, I started a job in law enforcement, and just retired after 25 years. During that time I was able to purchase two homes, which I still own. I did this by living frugally, without much help from anyone, including a man. It can be done, but only if you make yourself a plan and follow it. Women, KNOW YOUR WORTH!
Thank you for sharing. So encouraging!
We have to stick to our plans 💯
Thank you - needed this encouragement
LOVE THIS, thanks for sharing this comment
100% I realized that I no longer want to live the way my husband wants to live. I kicked him out Sunday after he verbally yelled at me from being so drunk and causing his own drama.. Even held me and made me feel as if he actually would hit me. That was a deal breaker of a day, I was already planning my exit.. But it pushed me to take action. To not let him dismiss my unhappiness... No more "it's fine" no more lies. I needed this seperation.
I refuse to live the life we were living. Everything you said so far is right. It's been a hard pill to swallow of my actions/lack of respect and love for myself. I was hoping love would be enough to help my grown-boy wake up. But so far it hasn't worked 6 years later.
Currently back on day 1 of no communication. We have a daughter so I don't know if I can keep 100% no communication and he left plenty of things at my house he needs to return for. But I'm keeping it Strictly business!
Drunk, verabally abusing, he was helding you and you felt as he could actually hit you. I don't think it's good or so safe for your daughter, I think he has some teraphy ahead to do first. Your safety and mental health, as the one of your daughter, comes first. If you have a friend or a family member that can help you and be there when he comes for his stuff, maybe it's better. Or someone that will take it to him.
This besides, I'm very sorry you had to live this.. you're very brave and strong!
Wow! This is a very bold move. I pray that God stays with you and protects you from any harm or danger! Your peace and safety is your liberty!
Get a third party to help. If you have some proof, feel free to get a protective order. Courts can allow for 3rd part civil communication. He's going to keep pushing....
Thank you for explaining why my ex-husband married me and then wanted to cheat on me. Finally, I know why, after all these years. 👏🏼
I know that I need to keep my boundaries and standards while single and dating. This is because I have been tested by both men in the church and the ones who are not in the church. Christian and non Christian. ALL AND ANY MAN will test you. You are so right about that Tony G. Be blessed 🙏🙏🙏
Girl don’t mention the men in church 🤮fake narcissistic and abusive I wasted 5yrs. and then he has the nerve to say Praise The Lord 🙄I don’t even speak, Where was all that when u were Abusive.
Even male friends will test you
I have been with my husband 20 years and married for 11 years. The last few years has been challenging because he has tested me multiple times by staying out til wee hours in the morning, hanging out w his single friends too much and going to the bars. I have enforced to him many times that I will not put up w it but he thinks I'm controlling him when I explaining I deserve to be respected and valued 1st in his life as his wife. Basically, he mentally checked out of our marriage continued to do me wrong on many levels then left me suddenly so now we are separated. I am broken and can't believe this happened when all I did was stand my ground.
I'm learning that if a man can't get his way w you he will find someone else who will.
What's the update? Are you guys doing okay? I'm going through the same situation. It's been a year.
@@Allthingsvivalafrancesame situation here. When I stood my ground, he just left.
@@taghazoutmoon5031Turn him over to the Lord. Prepare your mental, body and resources to move forward without him. He may choose to return… he may not. Either way, pray for peace and the crown of joy as you go through this season (and clarity). In Jesus Name. Amen!
That means they weren’t the person you were meant to be with in the first place.
This man speaking facts. We were youth pastors and then once this girl became of age, they started messing around behind my back, they had an affair. We now divorced, he got her pregnant 3 months after, and now they married. Hasn’t even been a year. Sooooo yes, a man can talk Jesus, but it’s one thing to have a relationship with Him.
Woww I am shocked ....
I could not keep a straight face when Tony was talking about guys that are 6’2” and their third leg coming up short 🤣🤣😂😂😅 Love a Tony lesson with some humor added in 😁
I also felt when you said as a woman, don’t take the good or the bad too seriously since it’s a test. That’s great advice! 💯🙏🏽
@@dleveston I heard the shorter ones are completely the opposite 🤭 Can’t have it all I guess 😂🤣🤣😅
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And that “shoe size” thing is a MYTH as well.
I find loving yourself to the highest power and not tolerating and putting up with nonsense and setting boundaries. will save you months and years of staying in unhealthy toxic relationships…
Lolol the lady that asked if you would give a message without bringing up religion. Absolutely not ma'am - that is the most absurd thing I've heard in my life.
'You are going to get triedd' 😂 Yes they will try us, thank you for this wonderful confirmation that I should stick to my standards - because people will try you just to see if you're serious and it's up to us to show them that we're not playing games. We mean what we say and we will follow through.
God's voice soars like an Eagle threw Tony Gaskins 🦅
Learning a lot about what I allowed and what I shouldn’t now that I know what I know. Thank you, Tony
Not the $2.18 money order 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I cackled 😂😂😂
Thank you, for another weighty word. Most women wish men were listening to your videos but truth is as long as we women are listening and applying the keys.. it don’t matter if a man ever hear it! The better we get the weaker we make the grown boy! Point blank PERIODT
You’re doing the right thing. I don’t feel God coming from any relationship coach except you. I feel the truth and your videos have helped me in every aspect of my life. I was so clueless and naive in the world. Thank you for your service 🥰
I’m definitely a person that will push boundaries, did it in the army. It got so bad, they started calling me sergeant major. Imagine the commander, calling a battalion meeting and your 1 hr late walking up, because no one use to check you. So I definitely know a man will try and do whatever I allow and I can’t act surprised or ignorant to that truth
Your right my man is a true gentleman and genuine...but I knew when we first met that even though he was talking a good things I knew I was being tested!!!
Red flag? Could it be yellow flag? Slow Down!!! extended friendship reveals true behaviors. Men, of integrity, have a King inside that emerge in the presence of a Queen 👑
You are seriously the BEST COACH ❤️🙌 You're helping so many people out there. Please keep believing in us and providing your amazing content to us! Amazing work
At this point tony, if a guy wants to push me over the edge, I’ll just move to the side and let him fall 🤷🏽♀️
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That lady is wrong because according to scriputures you have to put God first and foremost in your life.
The lady that asked you to stop talking about the Lord, did she get BLOCKDT? 😂😂
Hopefully so 🤣🤣🤣
Hopefully not, since it sounds like she needs to hear MORE of God!
Im sure 😂😂😂
We need to know!
Listen here, Mr. Gaskins: you put your whole entire foot in this message and I loved every second of it. Thank you!
All this is all facts . You are out here saving lives 💯
I'm a personal chef....I'd love to come do the food for your all day intensive Mr. Gaskins!
Thanks Tony, it is hard to stay encouraged. The last guy I was in a relationship with said to me "Don't run me off" and I pondered that for days until now I didn't know what he meant. No clue! He was inconsistent and a few times broke his promises to me. I looked at him and I told him to be a man of your word. He is giving me the silent treatment now.
Wow. He tried it. He sound like the man I had been dealing with for over 2 years. But that's on him. I no longer care. He tryna play games to see which one of us gone break to initiate contact. Not gonna be me. That silent treatment does not work anymore. Lol He broke his silence cause I would not give in
@@hanishamarshall3341 good job! Smiles, having a hard time over here. Thanks for words of encouragement.
"I don't cheat on my wife, but I have 150 cars". Haha! Enjoying your talks Tony. Good people.
Thank you for that Kindle. 🙋🏽♀️ What you and First Lady Sheri didn’t know is that sometimes I read about 1 book/week (usually self-help) and was running out of space. YOU TWO ARE A BLESSING 😊🙏🏽 Happy Holidays 🎄
55:33 preach! Whole closing sermon! Praise Jesus 👏🏼 👏🏼
I failed to teach those things from the jump and it spread like a wild fire.
Same 😩
Tony Gaskins, despite your fatigue you put your foot in this one. Excellent content & right on time. Thank you Lord!
Tony if this ain’t facts! The minute I feel disrespect, dishonor or catch some bad behavior I’m leaving, or asking you to leave & im not continuing the relationship. I will call them out & exit immediately.
Whether he is Chrisrisn or not..he will try you. And you BETTA say it Tony..we will NEVER DENY THE POWER or NAME of JESUS!
The testing by a saved man is true. You are not lying Tony. But if a woman gives in to this saved man sexual advances she gives the approval for the fornication. I been tested many times by my fiance but my love for God checks me all the time. I will not disappoint my Jesus. We are getting married in April 2022. Please keep us in your prayers🙏🏾. I have learned alot from you. God bless you
Sorry but I don't get it, if he loves you and he knows that you want to wait 'till marriage... Why he is constantly testing you? "I been tested many times by my fiance"... Do you feel safe with him or do you feel like you always have to fight for your values inside your relationship?
Tony it be the men with a short leg that cheat the most 😭😭😭
Right and that’s why I’ll always be single. How dumb. Maybe try integrity and be a real man. I’m not a babysitter.
wow exactly I feel many men dont bother with me..because they dont want to have a long and deep conversation..and probably they cant..
Love how tony says popping in real quick…..55 mins later 😂😂😂
Yes sir!!! Having God is the answer to having peace ….
Tony, it's amazing how despite your tiredness, you still shot this video to bless us with the valuable knowledge. Thank you for your dedication and your time!
MAY OUR HEAVENLY FATHER KEEP BLESSING ABUNDANTLY AND PROTECTING You and Your Family members IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!!!
AMEN!!!!
This information has changed my life
So right I met a man of God he claimed and he sent me a Dpic 🤦😑🤷what a disappointment
Unreal..smh
Tony wonderful word keep it up your the realest relationship coach out here. But I must add, I remember in one of your videos that you said men don’t do right on their own. I always wondered why men couldn’t be right on their own, then I came to the realization that most men that can’t do right on their own are weak, and don’t love themselves. The Bible says in Song of Solomon 8:4 to not awaken love before its time (not the entire scripture) most men and women lack discipline and strong foundation.
Tony, I’m so ready for the full day intensive!!!!
My parents are married 40 years but over the last year or so my father has started being disrespectful to my mother. He tells her to shut up regularly. He says things designed to provoke people into getting angry or upset and then turns around and calls that person aggressive for getting angry with him. When he says hurtful things and I ask him hours later why he said them he says he never said them. It's getting harder to deal with every day. He never apologizes either.
I am sorry that you and your family are going through this.
My dad has always been this way and he's incredibly religious and preaches the Bible all the time, is judgemental etc. So women need to be careful when it comes to being a Bible beater and seeking Bible beating men. That is not a true sign that he is a loving man
Separate from him or divorce
He may be going thru early alzheimers idk they get really mean and forget
Early dementia, alzheimers or a brain tumor? Just have him get checked out especially if it's a drastic change and also have him checked for a urinary tract infection.
Mr. Tony ALWAYS tells us what he KNOW not what he just thinks. Thanks much. Be blessed.
This man is so funny🤣🤣🤣🤣 Tony is amazing I love taken his advice…I’m in self love mode
Not only have men been doing this. Now my son is doing this as well. I’m over it. My son doesn’t even get up and go to school. I have to keep trying to get him up and go for hours everyday. Now he’s failing all his classes. I divorced his dad but still left with the same pain everyday.
Maybe he isnt coping with the divorce? Maybe you should talk to him and get him to open up to you. Your son still has a chance to change because in assuming he is at age of forming his personality. Plus you are his parent and it's not easy for both of yall. Try to talk to him gently, make your self available so he can feel comfortable opening up to you without backlash and see what happens. Best of luck
Dear Mama, please get counseling for both you and your kids regarding issues from the fall out of divorce. We have needs that may not be apparent until years later. Get help and assistance to get out in front of it before it is taken into adulthood. Better now than later. May Jah bless you and continue to keep you at this transition period of your lives. Listen with both ears to Mr. Gaskins...he speaks spoil much truth with authority and knowledge. Our Father Jah, I pray for the continued uplifting and edification of the true church in Yeshua HaMosaich I pray. Hallelujah. Amen.
Sending blessings and well wishes to you and your family Mr. Gaskins!!!
FACTS..........THEY ALL MEN WITH THE SAME TEMPTATIONS....SMH ✌
That’s very admirable for you to keep your word and tell us about the DM.
Can’t WAIT for the Full day extensive Tony!!!! Come on now Please!
Go Tony ! Do not deny the power of God !!! Yessss!
Preach Tony! I’m taking in all of these gems 💎 So grateful for you! I’ve come a long way🙏🏾
lol this is why I focus on my money.
What a 💎!!!! Thank you Tony 🙏🏽
This is so true! Thanks Mr. Gaskins for bringing clarity.
I really needed to hear this today, your message is always on time👏🏽 🙌🏽
Tony everything you teach is true. So true. Lasies plz listen to Tony
This was everything all on point. Very valuable relationship advice💯 Thank you!
Shalawarm Blessed Tribe, Talk about it Unk"!!!👑👊🏾 #NOCONTACTPERIOD💯💯💯💯
You’re faithful to your wife but #1 is your relationship with God. I can tell from how you speak that God always comes first before even your family! That pleases Him.
Thank you for taking the time to share your wisdom with us, Mr Gaskins. God bless you and your family as you fulfill your purpose
OMG this is my situation. I really needed this video!!!!
Blessings to you Bro Tony, Here's a word of encouragement to you God is going to reward your faithfulness.🙏🏾❤️
So much respect for this brother 🙏🏾
Really needed to hear this right now, thank you Tony. He’s lessons always be hitting ❤️
Love you Tony thanks for the honesty!
Great message!
I appreciate your messages!
This is Good!!!!!! This is explaining what I have been trying to explain about doing wrong how you are always in a continual loop of Getting away with it once you start. or when the people around you start
Absolutely amazing!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!! 👏👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏🙏