Sisters! Please stop being that Apple laying on the ground, desperate and begging to be picked up by anything and anyone that walks by. Instead, be the Apple high up in the tree where it takes effort to get to. In the meantime learn to love yourself more, and protect your peace at all costs!
You are absolutely right,,the apple analogy had me 😃,not funny but facts just lying there rottening away over the lack of what you consider being "loved" by someone, anyone.I use to be just like that apple,fallen and thinking that I would never get up.Until the God of Love raised me up and showed me what Love is, God is love,seek Him first and everything will be given to you! ❤🙆♀️🙏🏿
Thank you Miss Jackie...huh they don't just walk by those apples---they actually stomp on those apples, they kick them around... Thank you Father for Your Mercy and Your great Grace!!!
Yep! Everything Tony is saying is 100% true. I had a guy I was interested in tell me he was talking to me & another girl. I automatically lost interest & left him alone. I refuse to allow a guy make me an option & become a pickmeshia 😂 he tried to gaslight me & tell me if he wanted to date her, he wouldn’t be taking me out, blah blah. That block button came to use real quick. Ladies please do not settle for a man bc you’re desperate. It’ll always backfire on you.
👏🏽👏🏽. Love it. I tell guys upfront that I don’t chase. So, if that is what they are looking, we can part ways now. But actually, I always PRESUME that a man I am dating is seeing other women so I don’t get too emotionally invested too soon. Some men lie about it anyways. So I keep my legs closed but my options open, too. Until a man asks for an exclusive arrangement and I agree, we’re both free. I prefer it that way. Of course, there is no physical intimacy until there is an exclusive agreement. If after a couple of months, he is still not trying to lock me down, NEXT!!! 👉🏾✌🏽
My cheating ex said the same thing. "If I didn't want you, I wouldn't be with you." My response was, "Lucky me!" 😆🤣😂 "So, I get to be the one cheated on?" (Snapz fingers) "Gee golly will-achers"... "A dozen red flags? You shouldn't have."
I have a friend who did that. She'd been helping her male colleague for more than 10 years, she coached and helped him to pass his exams, so that he could have a permanent position. She's been his therapist for years, while he was complaining about his partner.They were friends, until her husband dumped her, and guess what! They jumped in a bed after 10 years of friendship. She thought she was better than his wife, cooking for him and stuff. She thought that someday he would realise how wonderful she is. After 2 years, she realised she was wasting her time. Tony, you're right! Women love to put their cape on.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED ! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
Tony preaching on this one! My now ex husband left right after we had our baby. This lady had him writing a pros and cons list on why he should leave me. She was telling him she cooks and all this other stuff he complained about. Here we are almost a year later, and he trying to come back. Naw 🙅🏽♀️ Enjoy your new family.
It’s hard to admit but I was that woman. 🤦🏻♀️ I was “captain-save-a-man” with a cape on. It almost destroyed me. I genuinely hope this message reaches a lot of women out there because Tony just gave a very VALUABLE lesson.
I was that woman too when I was so naive to the true ugliness of a man child like this. One day, by the grace of God, I just woke up & I saw my worth one day and it was over for these fools.
Love this video! Ive always found men to be so unattractive if they can’t cook for themselves or if they were fresh out of a relationship trying to pursue me. They reeked Desperation. I have been single for years and they’ve been the most peaceful and content years of my entire life. I wish more women would allow themselves to be free of men for a while. It will bring so much clarity to their lives. No confusion!
I DO NOT want a man bad mouthing his ex to me!!!! I am the kind of woman, who looks down on that. Especially, when children are involved. And dont keep talking about your past failed entanglements!!! PERI-YOT!!!!! A dog that brings a. bone, will carry one! If he speaks ill of her, he will speak ill of you!!! I mean it's negative energy. And I am NOT his therapist or counselor!!!! I will tactfully tell him this.. Just sayin
Tony I promise you could be an actor. 😂 The way you come up with the impromptu scenarios is so good! Thanks for all the laughs along with the knowledge and wisdom. ❤️
Ladies, if he brings up the X, stay neutral, never put her down, this is a manipulative tactic and if he puts her down please walk away. if he brings her up but doesn’t berate her let him talk and as times goes on and if he keeps bringing her up, ask him to stop and say, that you and him are to focus on the relationship and to wish her the best, if he can great, if he can’t,, buy bye 👋 as far as children are concerned, if he’s not with the X, has kids n dating, he should have steady arrangements made regarding the kids and X
Listen I'm a therapist and I refuse to play "fix my life" with a man ever again. I use to until I woke up one day completely empty. I'd never felt so drained in all my life. Tony has helped me to take my power back and focus on my own well-being. Yall better listen to Tony he's preaching real good!
You have to be extremely careful when you take somebody back, be it male or female. Because if they are a narcissist they will slowly but surely punish you a lot of times without you even knowing it for breaking up with them in the first place. Stay aware people! Words don't mean Jack! Changed consistent behavior is what you look for
Man this is great I have been watching your videos for days you are spot on. You are also funny I have been out of a narcissist relationship for a year next month. He was verbally abusive and then one day I was putting him out he hit me like he was hitting a man. That is what woke me up I got order of protection and hope to never here from him again. Your videos have helped me threw this so much.
A man would never go through everything women go through to keep a man 😂 they be GONE! Thats one thing I learned from men and I applied it to my life. Soon as I see you off and you want somebody to save you? IM GONE 🤣 I’m not no therapist! Life too short to be playing therapist I NEED A CHECK! 🤷🏾♀️
Man I don’t know why people think Tony don’t be on our necks. He’s not soft on us 😂he be telling us women about ourselves but it’s in a respectful way. It’s always said to uplift, never to break down and that’s the difference between him & the others. The others I find seem to get joy out of bashing women, but Tony on the other hand WILL get us together but in a polite way and because it’s coming from a good place you can’t help but to take it in and apply it to the area you are slacking in. Thanks TG.
Yeah, I definitely got convinced so many times when listening to Tony, but! The quality of my life improved so much since I found his channel it's crazy!
This is such a good reminder. I dated a guy who had 2 baby mamas, super bad credit, homeless ( staying at a relatives place)n in between jobs and then cant hold a job down, serial cheater. (AWhen I got to know him he hid all these truths from me and just presented a really different version of hinself- fooled me he did!) I on the other hand had my own apartment, retirement plan, great credit, and a great job. And yet, he wanted me to prove myself to him. I just laughed and walked away. What a clown.
There is a certain danger associated with being desperate. This is marvellous commentary and I can relate to much of it, especially considering that I recently (and ashamedly) succumbed to being desperate. I fell desperate with a younger guy and lowered my standards in the process. I also disrespected God and disgraced myself too. I felt sooooo disgusted and defeated with myself (mostly afterwards) because I had been so strong in a solid foundation and commitment in God. But this situation showed me that I'm obviously not strong ENOUGH and more work has to be done in me to build greater resistance to temptations. I had been celibate for many years and found myself vulnerable to this particular incident. This incident could've gone further than it did and could've yielded worse repurcussions than it did. I suffered (spiritually and emotionally) greatly for many days as I toiled with the aftermath of this incident. I repent to God with a greater determination to be BETTER as I move from that incident. Sin is dangerous and sin ain't nothing to play with, as my anointed Pastor recently stated. I thank God for second chances, grace, mercy and helping to reset me with new healing and new faith. In Jesus' name. 🙌🏾
Ladies no need for desperation. I was walking to work midday on 5th looking fly. Dude stepped to me with a card and his number, he said: baby when you're ready to come home, here's my number! I smiled the rest of the day! My point; there's another dude round the corner. D...is plentiful. Move on.
I have never disrespected another woman in the dating game because I have always felt that I am a woman first and I will always respect a woman on this principle which is the standard I set for myself. I have always been bewildered watching a woman competing for a man's love with another woman. It's really degrading for women to feel like they will lose their world over a loser. Women have to have enough respect for themselves that as soon as they meet a possible suitor that they take a step back and listen to what the man is saying about his past relationships and their issues. Don't jump in bed with a man because he's talking a good game. TEST HIM and he will start to show you his true motives. If he disappears from your life you will still be able to hold your head up with honor because you didn't let him have your body and soul! Good advice Tony!
At some point in life, a woman hopefully realizes that loneliness isn't as bad as they think it is. I know personally that when I have stepped back and not have taken on the role as a therapist that I have experienced one man coming back to me as an available man speaking words to me that I couldn't let go of and we experienced 11 years of love until he passed away from a work accident where he was pronounced dead on arrival at the hospital.
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT!GOD BLESS US ALL GOD LOVES US ALL!SELF LOVE!BELOVED!LET YR LUGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS, ! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW ! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
Tony you are a whole "actor". I love how you give examples of how we women talk. Lol You really broke this thing down on how we get played without ANY real solid commitment from men because of just having to have a man! 😌
OMG! I watch you all the time, however I never commented but man, I couldn’t help myself on this one! You are telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. And it’s an on time word for me! I’m currently fasting and praying about a guy I’ve been seeing for 2 months. I’m watching him and discerning and staying off my back! Lol But I got my answer tonight. He’s gotta heal before he deals (w/me at least). Let God use you TG! I appreciate you brother. Shalom
I wish I could like this video 1000% times. I’m always of the opinion that these mammies and pickmeisha are the most problematic. They make excuses for men ALL the time and will throw other women under the bus because they will do ANYTHING to have a man.
If all the lessons are for somebody else you will never get your own lesson. Growth spirts come at its appropriate season.... Must have prepared soil. Humility prepares the heart and mind to receive what takes you into the next season. I learned that lesson. Challenge to self has made me better, stronger, happier. Praise God 👏🏽
There are levels to maturity spiritually, emotionally, mentally, intellectually and financially. What do you expect if you go for someone who is not on your level AND IS NOT WILLING TO BE COUNSELED OR MENTORED ? 🤔
Tony THANK YOU!!! After a bad break up in 2019 you have helped me see the error in my ways in how I have dealt with men and myself. Thank you for helping me to see the thoughts behind the grown boy behavior. And for helping me to recognize grown boys from the start.
Im glad I came across your video because this man at my job try to say I'm masculine because I'm saving my self for marriage. I'm so glad your youtube page. I'm thankful I'm not desperate because I'm getting closer to thirty.
Most women do not like other women sadly and then when he do the same thing to her she’s mad he has shown you he will leave a women pregnant with his child..if I find out you did your gf or ex wife dirty I can’t talk to you and they usually get done the same way if not worse…don’t feel sorry for these men
I see all the Questions on IG & think us woman need to do better. Many of these toxic situations can truly be avoided with common sense and discernment. It’s tiring just reading them at times.
This truly has convicted me in my spirit! You talking about stepping on toes??!!!! I have no more toes! I have enabled an abled bodied man for almost 15 years. It’s been a wrap for 7 weeks now and I am not looking back! I have helped start LLC’s, purchased vehicles, and supported him and his children/family but now it’s time to take care of me and mine! Thank you Tony! 🙏🏾
Everything you are saying is so truth. My marriage of 17 years ended because of my ex's infidelity so now I have high values and high expectations that I will not negotiate with another man because I'm not desperate for a companion.
Tony you are not lying, I have been guilty of all that you saying! But, now I know who I am and who’s I am and I Deserve everything God has for me 💜🙏🏾☀️
I hear you NephewTony, that's how I got here. My mother who was separated from her husband and 3 children. Then started with a man who wasn't married, but had 2 children. He told her if you mess with me you're going to get pregnant. Then 9 months later , here I come. Then she abandons me . But get my siblings back and raise them. Then has 4 more children and raise them too. That was 57 years ago. The story doesn't change much, just different names and different people. We must continue to work to change that narrative. God bless you for doing that every day . SDG
As women we need to know our value cause when you don't, you allow other people to set your price. Stop being hardup and desperate for a man that makes you feel like you are not enough.
We say that like it’s easy for a woman to know her value. And when you don’t know you’re value you don’t see that you’re hard up or desperate. How about we start lifting up and praying for those women who don’t know their value. It took me until my 40’s to know. Not all of us had parents who poured into us..some had parents who tore them down making them prey for men. It takes a lot more than telling a woman stop. It make take therapy and prayer to get whole but first she must recognize herself that she doesn’t value herself. In meantime let’s have some compassion for those who are yet healed.
@@lcjones4682 I agree, I had to learn through loneliness, rejection and abuse. Losing my mother at 12 years old and growing up in a house with just my father and brother was not easy. But life itself has tought me a lot and coming into the knowledge of Jesus Christ. Lord knows its not a easy process.
Thank God for Tony😩😎 we need you. I cant believe how ignorant i used to to be. I believe God really is using Tony to help me not be Foolish and to be a better woman‼️ 💜
Love it! Tony is right on it because I am getting close to 50, had been married for a long time, divorced, then dating, and what he describes is what goes on! He has been saving me from giving any attention to any men who say things are going bad with their women trying to get me in bed or whatever.. Thank you, Tony!!
This is crazy! If you're not a good dad to the kids you have,I'm not interested AT ALL! As long as healthy boundaries are set, you should advocate for the man to be a good dad!
Tony, you’ve said it ALL! I’ve been a desperado before, cooking and being unpaid counselors for dusty men that were still entertaining their exes. I was younger, thinking that was the way to catch a man. But it wasn’t, and I surely got my feelings hurt multiple times. 😖🥴😮💨🙃
@@veronica_sm_ Veronica, I’m telling you- once you realize that they aren’t treating you properly, you will exit left. I no longer stick around when I feel like I’m being played.
@@LittleMissSunshine721 yes, you’re right sis! I did the exact same - I left, but that man was shockeddd, he thought he’s got like million other chances to destroy me again😬😬
Tony is right! As soon as i found out someone i just met had a newborn, i would leave him in the dust. I would tell him he need to focus on his baby not dating for now. That's a huge red flag if you dont see it he will spin you like a fool
I don’t agree! When I met my husband he had a newborn from a woman who wasn’t his girlfriend but got pregnant purposely to try to trap him. We are married and have a very happy healthy relationship the baby momma even told me he wasn’t in a relationship with her but she wanted one with him. He is a good father me and her get along great.
I had a woman tell me to my face that she would continue to sleep with my husband if we stayed together. She justified it as “a married man is sleeping with me. She is not sleeping with a married man.” It’s crazy out here ladies. We have to do better for each other by holding these men accountable.
If your toes ain't getting stepped on, you're not gonna change. Most of us need it. We need people to do it because we don't want to do it ourselves. Someone gotta do it to have us check ourselves and come back to reality. Be blessed
He walking in here still smelling like love potion…or watermelon cucumber. LOL! Another great one!! Thanks for injecting some humor into this harsh reality.
You telling the truth! Had a much older lady try to compete with me over a guy I was praying for God to remove from my life...long story short...I told her...you can have him. He ended making her life a living hell. I tried to tell her...but she wanted to learn the hard way.
If this isn’t the truth I don’t know what it is.I was the rebound. He had 2 failed marriages talked about his exes to me. I felt so sorry for him trying to be the one to Love him.. left me and went to another women. He jumps from one situation to another. Thank you Jesus for getting me out of that toxic relationship. He has never healed
Sisters! Please stop being that Apple laying on the ground, desperate and begging to be picked up by anything and anyone that walks by. Instead, be the Apple high up in the tree where it takes effort to get to. In the meantime learn to love yourself more, and protect your peace at all costs!
❤️❤️this!
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You are absolutely right,,the apple analogy had me 😃,not funny but facts just lying there rottening away over the lack of what you consider being "loved" by someone, anyone.I use to be just like that apple,fallen and thinking that I would never get up.Until the God of Love raised me up and showed
me what Love is, God is love,seek Him first and everything will be given to you! ❤🙆♀️🙏🏿
It’s seriously lonely out here
Thank you Miss Jackie...huh they don't just walk by those apples---they actually stomp on those apples, they kick them around... Thank you Father for Your Mercy and Your great Grace!!!
Yep! Everything Tony is saying is 100% true. I had a guy I was interested in tell me he was talking to me & another girl. I automatically lost interest & left him alone. I refuse to allow a guy make me an option & become a pickmeshia 😂 he tried to gaslight me & tell me if he wanted to date her, he wouldn’t be taking me out, blah blah. That block button came to use real quick. Ladies please do not settle for a man bc you’re desperate. It’ll always backfire on you.
Yaaas sis🙌 I would have done same. 💯
👏🏽👏🏽. Love it. I tell guys upfront that I don’t chase. So, if that is what they are looking, we can part ways now. But actually, I always PRESUME that a man I am dating is seeing other women so I don’t get too emotionally invested too soon. Some men lie about it anyways. So I keep my legs closed but my options open, too. Until a man asks for an exclusive arrangement and I agree, we’re both free. I prefer it that way. Of course, there is no physical intimacy until there is an exclusive agreement. If after a couple of months, he is still not trying to lock me down, NEXT!!! 👉🏾✌🏽
My cheating ex said the same thing. "If I didn't want you, I wouldn't be with you." My response was, "Lucky me!" 😆🤣😂 "So, I get to be the one cheated on?" (Snapz fingers) "Gee golly will-achers"... "A dozen red flags? You shouldn't have."
I have a friend who did that. She'd been helping her male colleague for more than 10 years, she coached and helped him to pass his exams, so that he could have a permanent position. She's been his therapist for years, while he was complaining about his partner.They were friends, until her husband dumped her, and guess what! They jumped in a bed after 10 years of friendship. She thought she was better than his wife, cooking for him and stuff. She thought that someday he would realise how wonderful she is. After 2 years, she realised she was wasting her time. Tony, you're right! Women love to put their cape on.
Above all, guard your heart.
Protect your peace!!
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED ! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
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Amen I live by that! 🩵
Watching again 2 years later bc I don't want to be desperate lol
Same here! Always have to reinforce what I already know lol.
I feel you girl lol
Don’t feel bad I do it all the time!
Same Sis 😂
Omg 🤣 me too ❤
“So many women are settling for a man with so much baggage” Preach!!!
Tony preaching on this one! My now ex husband left right after we had our baby. This lady had him writing a pros and cons list on why he should leave me. She was telling him she cooks and all this other stuff he complained about.
Here we are almost a year later, and he trying to come back. Naw 🙅🏽♀️ Enjoy your new family.
I know that's right sis! Grass wasn't green after all smh!!!
That's right Sis! He can stay right where he at with it
It’s hard to admit but I was that woman. 🤦🏻♀️ I was “captain-save-a-man” with a cape on. It almost destroyed me. I genuinely hope this message reaches a lot of women out there because Tony just gave a very VALUABLE lesson.
I was a little bit like that but now I give nothing don't give to a man better yet let them be the giver first you lean back and receive
I was that woman too when I was so naive to the true ugliness of a man child like this. One day, by the grace of God, I just woke up & I saw my worth one day and it was over for these fools.
I’m so glad we’ve been able to get away from these toxic men. It took me years, but I’m finally there…. it was indeed by the grace of God. ❤️🙏
So transparent and sweet. Blessings to you!!!
Same here and learned from it
"Don't breakup with a man and then chase him " .....FACTS
Lol this is me smh 🤦🏿♀️
@@janayewill3883 😂😂😂
Love this video! Ive always found men to be so unattractive if they can’t cook for themselves or if they were fresh out of a relationship trying to pursue me. They reeked Desperation. I have been single for years and they’ve been the most peaceful and content years of my entire life. I wish more women would allow themselves to be free of men for a while. It will bring so much clarity to their lives. No confusion!
facts only, i'm beginning to love it a lil too much
“He stills smells like that last relationship”! That part 🎯 ‼️ Lord help us 🙏🏽
The IM NEXT, PICK ME, ILL BE WHO YOU WANT mentally is sick & sad. It’s just nasty.
I DO NOT want a man bad mouthing his ex to me!!!! I am the kind of woman, who looks down on that. Especially, when children are involved. And dont keep talking about your past failed entanglements!!! PERI-YOT!!!!! A dog that brings a. bone, will carry one! If he speaks ill of her, he will speak
ill of you!!! I mean it's negative energy. And I am NOT his therapist or counselor!!!! I will tactfully tell him this..
Just sayin
You said a whole word🙌🏾
Tony I promise you could be an actor. 😂 The way you come up with the impromptu scenarios is so good! Thanks for all the laughs along with the knowledge and wisdom. ❤️
Ladies, if he brings up the X, stay neutral, never put her down, this is a manipulative tactic and if he puts her down please walk away. if he brings her up but doesn’t berate her let him talk and as times goes on and if he keeps bringing her up, ask him to stop and say, that you and him are to focus on the relationship and to wish her the best, if he can great, if he can’t,, buy bye 👋 as far as children are concerned, if he’s not with the X, has kids n dating, he should have steady arrangements made regarding the kids and X
Listen I'm a therapist and I refuse to play "fix my life" with a man ever again. I use to until I woke up one day completely empty. I'd never felt so drained in all my life. Tony has helped me to take my power back and focus on my own well-being. Yall better listen to Tony he's preaching real good!
I'm really impressed with what he's has to say...He is telling it like it is..Tony is the coach for ME!!!
These men sometimes intentionally go out of their way to create insecurities in the relationship
That’s very true that’s why they keep their “fwb” so called “homegirls” around.
Then he level up and LEAVE you broken and wore out‼️
Yup
🎯 Don't $ettle 4 Leftovers n be the rebound chick....
Heal before you deal! 🙏🏽💞💞💞💞💞💞
You have to be extremely careful when you take somebody back, be it male or female. Because if they are a narcissist they will slowly but surely punish you a lot of times without you even knowing it for breaking up with them in the first place. Stay aware people! Words don't mean Jack! Changed consistent behavior is what you look for
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Miss Jackie is ALL THE WAY WOKE!! 👏🏽👏🏽
Man this is great I have been watching your videos for days you are spot on. You are also funny I have been out of a narcissist relationship for a year next month. He was verbally abusive and then one day I was putting him out he hit me like he was hitting a man. That is what woke me up I got order of protection and hope to never here from him again. Your videos have helped me threw this so much.
A man would never go through everything women go through to keep a man 😂 they be GONE! Thats one thing I learned from men and I applied it to my life. Soon as I see you off and you want somebody to save you? IM GONE 🤣 I’m not no therapist! Life too short to be playing therapist I NEED A CHECK! 🤷🏾♀️
These men out here be having whole newborns at home and want be on to the next.
So true
Man I don’t know why people think Tony don’t be on our necks. He’s not soft on us 😂he be telling us women about ourselves but it’s in a respectful way. It’s always said to uplift, never to break down and that’s the difference between him & the others. The others I find seem to get joy out of bashing women, but Tony on the other hand WILL get us together but in a polite way and because it’s coming from a good place you can’t help but to take it in and apply it to the area you are slacking in. Thanks TG.
Yeah, I definitely got convinced so many times when listening to Tony, but! The quality of my life improved so much since I found his channel it's crazy!
@@taga8006 Yessss! I’m the same way, Tony’s like the cool older uncle I never had
@Synquette he was definitely on our necks on this one lol
So true!!!! Tony break ya down to BUILD YOU UP!!!!! Nothing degrading, he puts that mirror in your face and he speaks the truth.
Well said 👏🏽. I don’t even try to listen to the toxic “others”.
This is such a good reminder.
I dated a guy who had 2 baby mamas, super bad credit, homeless ( staying at a relatives place)n in between jobs and then cant hold a job down, serial cheater. (AWhen I got to know him he hid all these truths from me and just presented a really different version of hinself- fooled me he did!)
I on the other hand had my own apartment, retirement plan, great credit, and a great job.
And yet, he wanted me to prove myself to him.
I just laughed and walked away. What a clown.
A clown is right!
Are you dating my ex? 😂
Damn insecure Fckr knew he had nothing to offer. A lot of time when they play games; they’re hiding.
@@ellebee9864 these guys are everywhere! Lol
@@thelookout5802 damn right!
I’m so over it. I tried w this man for 7 years just to end up alone..
I learned! Mannnn I learn! I am not any one’s teddy bear !
Pickmesha's always think they have won something.🤦♀️🤦♀️
😆🤣🤣🤣 exactly
Every time Tony say “one thang about meeee, I’m from da streets” 😂😂😂😂 i hollerrrr
That is one of my favorite saying from him.
Moral of the story know your worth and have self love. Thanks Tony🙌
“A lil scent in the rice” I almost fell out Tony you are unhinged. 😂😂❤
A complete background check has become a necessity to date.
There is a certain danger associated with being desperate. This is marvellous commentary and I can relate to much of it, especially considering that I recently (and ashamedly) succumbed to being desperate. I fell desperate with a younger guy and lowered my standards in the process. I also disrespected God and disgraced myself too. I felt sooooo disgusted and defeated with myself (mostly afterwards) because I had been so strong in a solid foundation and commitment in God. But this situation showed me that I'm obviously not strong ENOUGH and more work has to be done in me to build greater resistance to temptations. I had been celibate for many years and found myself vulnerable to this particular incident. This incident could've gone further than it did and could've yielded worse repurcussions than it did. I suffered (spiritually and emotionally) greatly for many days as I toiled with the aftermath of this incident. I repent to God with a greater determination to be BETTER as I move from that incident. Sin is dangerous and sin ain't nothing to play with, as my anointed Pastor recently stated. I thank God for second chances, grace, mercy and helping to reset me with new healing and new faith. In Jesus' name. 🙌🏾
Amen🙏
You got broke off sum sum. We all fall short. None of us is perfect
He said, "You got to heal before you deal." So simple, yet it seems people skip right on over this important step!
Ladies no need for desperation. I was walking to work midday on 5th looking fly.
Dude stepped to me with a card and his number, he said: baby when you're ready to come home, here's my number!
I smiled the rest of the day! My point; there's another dude round the corner. D...is plentiful. Move on.
Love this ❤️
“She trying to get me to get a pay day loan what kind of woman is this”🤣 these scenarios be hilarious
😂 Tony you be cracking me up . 2 years later & still good
Most people out here live their lives hoping they are the exception and not the rule. We all out here move like we are the exception.
True. Have to check that
I have never disrespected another woman in the dating game because I have always felt that I am a woman first and I will always respect a woman on this principle which is the standard I set for myself. I have always been bewildered watching a woman competing for a man's love with another woman. It's really degrading for women to feel like they will lose their world over a loser. Women have to have enough respect for themselves that as soon as they meet a possible suitor that they take a step back and listen to what the man is saying about his past relationships and their issues. Don't jump in bed with a man because he's talking a good game. TEST HIM and he will start to show you his true motives. If he disappears from your life you will still be able to hold your head up with honor because you didn't let him have your body and soul! Good advice Tony!
At some point in life, a woman hopefully realizes that loneliness isn't as bad as they think it is. I know personally that when I have stepped back and not have taken on the role as a therapist that I have experienced one man coming back to me as an available man speaking words to me that I couldn't let go of and we experienced 11 years of love until he passed away from a work accident where he was pronounced dead on arrival at the hospital.
Dam I have been very desperate lately. I am trying to find my way back. Thank you Tony.
No one wants to hear the truth anymore Tony, but keep bringing the truth we need it! 🙏🙌🔥
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT!GOD BLESS US ALL GOD LOVES US ALL!SELF LOVE!BELOVED!LET YR LUGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS, ! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW ! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! AUG 2021
I love when Tony acts out the scenarios 😂😂😂
😂😂 Right! He gotta give us a visual representation
Yesssssssss he blessing all are lives and souls🥰🥰👍🏾👍🏾
If he got that "Usher" syndrome, "🎵🎶🎶girl you make wanna leave the one I'm with, start a new relationship with you, this is whatcha do🎶🎵..." R U N 🏃
"Usher Syndrome" 😂😂😂
😂🤣🤣🤣 That used to be my jam, lol.
Tony you are a whole "actor". I love how you give examples of how we women talk. Lol
You really broke this thing down on how we get played without ANY real solid commitment from men because of just having to have a man! 😌
OMG! I watch you all the time, however I never commented but man, I couldn’t help myself on this one! You are telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. And it’s an on time word for me! I’m currently fasting and praying about a guy I’ve been seeing for 2 months. I’m watching him and discerning and staying off my back! Lol But I got my answer tonight. He’s gotta heal before he deals (w/me at least). Let God use you TG! I appreciate you brother. Shalom
I wish I could like this video 1000% times. I’m always of the opinion that these mammies and pickmeisha are the most problematic. They make excuses for men ALL the time and will throw other women under the bus because they will do ANYTHING to have a man.
Tony is soooo FUNNY! He's telling the TRUTH 💯
I'm so glad you are teaching the "investigative method"... we have to protect ourselves in these streets, and enabling grown boys ain't it...
This was me..dated someone that was newly divorced, and everything TG is saying is so true.
See....u can't make ths stuff up
Tony does a great job with his role playing! It makes more sense that way. Thanks Tony!!
🤣 this role-playing acting is HILARIOUS!
If all the lessons are for somebody else you will never get your own lesson. Growth spirts come at its appropriate season.... Must have prepared soil. Humility prepares the heart and mind to receive what takes you into the next season. I learned that lesson. Challenge to self has made me better, stronger, happier. Praise God 👏🏽
I near bout fell of this treadmill with Tony’s skits. 😩🤣😂🤣😂
He be sounding and looking like Shanay-nay from Martin 😂
😂😂😂😂 It was the role play for me.😆
There’s deliverance in this video. Seriously.🙌🏾
“Pick-me-sha” had me howling 😭🤣 Tony- appreciate the wisdom.
There are levels to maturity spiritually, emotionally, mentally, intellectually and financially. What do you expect if you go for someone who is not on your level AND IS NOT WILLING TO BE COUNSELED OR MENTORED ? 🤔
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Tony THANK YOU!!! After a bad break up in 2019 you have helped me see the error in my ways in how I have dealt with men and myself. Thank you for helping me to see the thoughts behind the grown boy behavior. And for helping me to recognize grown boys from the start.
Im glad I came across your video because this man at my job try to say I'm masculine because I'm saving my self for marriage. I'm so glad your youtube page. I'm thankful I'm not desperate because I'm getting closer to thirty.
Big hand clap to you 👏🏽👏🏽
Most women do not like other women sadly and then when he do the same thing to her she’s mad he has shown you he will leave a women pregnant with his child..if I find out you did your gf or ex wife dirty I can’t talk to you and they usually get done the same way if not worse…don’t feel sorry for these men
I really feel like I had front row seats to a comedy show 🤣🤣🤣
Girl!!!! I be crying!!
@@officialwatchamber The cooking in the thong sent me.
The quiet pause with the stare...took me out!!!
Tony...your wisdom and guidance is off the chain you are on fire🔥
I see all the Questions on IG & think us woman need to do better. Many of these toxic situations can truly be avoided with common sense and discernment. It’s tiring just reading them at times.
Sooo many women still need healing and they’re still running to a relationship to heal them instead of Jesus and therapy!
@@InspiredUno Jesus & therapy ooof that’s exactly how I healed!
😂. Tony is so funny! And I know he don’t try and be that’s why it’s hilarious 😂. “”PICKMESHA””
This truly has convicted me in my spirit! You talking about stepping on toes??!!!! I have no more toes! I have enabled an abled bodied man for almost 15 years. It’s been a wrap for 7 weeks now and I am not looking back! I have helped start LLC’s, purchased vehicles, and supported him and his children/family but now it’s time to take care of me and mine! Thank you Tony! 🙏🏾
Lol You kill me with the impersonations😂😂 that’s the best part of every video
“Don’t nobody want to hear nothing that’s for them. Everybody want something to be for somebody else.” TG
Everything you are saying is so truth. My marriage of 17 years ended because of my ex's infidelity so now I have high values and high expectations that I will not negotiate with another man because I'm not desperate for a companion.
The comedy 😭🤣 such good advice though
Tony you're speaking nothing but the truth and it's sad to say that yes women are so desperate and thirsty that it don't make no sense. Great message!
Tony you are not lying, I have been guilty of all that you saying! But, now I know who I am and who’s I am and I Deserve everything God has for me 💜🙏🏾☀️
I hear you NephewTony, that's how I got here.
My mother who was separated from her husband and 3 children. Then started with a man who wasn't married, but had 2 children. He told her if you mess with me you're going to get pregnant. Then 9 months later , here I come. Then she abandons me . But get my siblings back and raise them. Then has 4 more children and raise them too.
That was 57 years ago. The story doesn't change much, just different names and different people. We must continue to work to change that narrative. God bless you for doing that every day . SDG
As women we need to know our value cause when you don't, you allow other people to set your price. Stop being hardup and desperate for a man that makes you feel like you are not enough.
We say that like it’s easy for a woman to know her value. And when you don’t know you’re value you don’t see that you’re hard up or desperate. How about we start lifting up and praying for those women who don’t know their value. It took me until my 40’s to know. Not all of us had parents who poured into us..some had parents who tore them down making them prey for men. It takes a lot more than telling a woman stop. It make take therapy and prayer to get whole but first she must recognize herself that she doesn’t value herself. In meantime let’s have some compassion for those who are yet healed.
@@lcjones4682 I agree, I had to learn through loneliness, rejection and abuse. Losing my mother at 12 years old and growing up in a house with just my father and brother was not easy. But life itself has tought me a lot and coming into the knowledge of Jesus Christ. Lord knows its not a easy process.
Send him to some type of Bible college😂😂
Thank God for Tony😩😎 we need you. I cant believe how ignorant i used to to be. I believe God really is using Tony to help me not be Foolish and to be a better woman‼️ 💜
Love it! Tony is right on it because I am getting close to 50, had been married for a long time, divorced, then dating, and what he describes is what goes on! He has been saving me from giving any attention to any men who say things are going bad with their women trying to get me in bed or whatever.. Thank you, Tony!!
This is crazy! If you're not a good dad to the kids you have,I'm not interested AT ALL! As long as healthy boundaries are set, you should advocate for the man to be a good dad!
Tony and his drama roles and comedy 🤣 🤣🤣
Tony, you’ve said it ALL! I’ve been a desperado before, cooking and being unpaid counselors for dusty men that were still entertaining their exes. I was younger, thinking that was the way to catch a man. But it wasn’t, and I surely got my feelings hurt multiple times. 😖🥴😮💨🙃
described me… 😂😂💀
@@veronica_sm_ Veronica, I’m telling you- once you realize that they aren’t treating you properly, you will exit left. I no longer stick around when I feel like I’m being played.
@@LittleMissSunshine721 yes, you’re right sis! I did the exact same - I left, but that man was shockeddd, he thought he’s got like million other chances to destroy me again😬😬
Tony was way too funny tonight! Point taken Tony. Thank you for the encouragement.
Tony is hilarious 😂😂😂 love his delivery and the little re-enactments
Omg I’m at the gym just cracking up!!!! Tony’s skits are everything.
In my car😂😂😂😂😂I’m almost dead 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@thesuccessfulfamily8178 right hahaha
"Body ain't even put back together just flappin in the wind for the next 6 weeks..." I am dead 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Tony had me cracking up during the impression part🤣😅, got them skills on impersonating folks💯
You are the best Tony! Be blessed! 🙏😊
Tony is right! As soon as i found out someone i just met had a newborn, i would leave him in the dust. I would tell him he need to focus on his baby not dating for now. That's a huge red flag if you dont see it he will spin you like a fool
I don’t agree! When I met my husband he had a newborn from a woman who wasn’t his girlfriend but got pregnant purposely to try to trap him. We are married and have a very happy healthy relationship the baby momma even told me he wasn’t in a relationship with her but she wanted one with him. He is a good father me and her get along great.
Tony!!!!! 😂😂😂😂 You just told my whole story right here! If this ain’t the truth.
I had a woman tell me to my face that she would continue to sleep with my husband if we stayed together. She justified it as “a married man is sleeping with me. She is not sleeping with a married man.” It’s crazy out here ladies. We have to do better for each other by holding these men accountable.
Did you go to jail that day?
@@donnetteh6583 dfl
Me too right now 42 year's him too. She both his and I senior and we been together 10 years and she 57.. keeping him away from me
@@donnetteh6583 you sho know what to say 😆
@@donnetteh6583 Same situation with an aupair. Beat her up, didn't went to jail.
😂😂😂😂😂 I really like this guy. He can fit as a great younger brother of mine. He is so interesting and funny and right
“I don’t want to mix business with love.” That’s a good one 😭😭😭
Your “skits “ have gone to another level lol lol 😂. Great content. You nailed it. We have to do BETTER.
If your toes ain't getting stepped on, you're not gonna change. Most of us need it. We need people to do it because we don't want to do it ourselves. Someone gotta do it to have us check ourselves and come back to reality. Be blessed
I appreciate you my brother 💯💪🏽 the realest vessel🙏🏾
He walking in here still smelling like love potion…or watermelon cucumber. LOL! Another great one!! Thanks for injecting some humor into this harsh reality.
Yesss Tony 😆 some women don't care what he did to his exs. Or they will put up with cheating and other abuse just to have a piece of man.
You telling the truth! Had a much older lady try to compete with me over a guy I was praying for God to remove from my life...long story short...I told her...you can have him. He ended making her life a living hell. I tried to tell her...but she wanted to learn the hard way.
Tony be telling the TRUTH y’all! He is all the way 💯 about this 4 real!!!
"You got that cape on huh..." TONY🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Why are you calling me out like this? Why was this me?Thank you for your message🙏
😂😂😂😂😂 the end got my lungs hurting. Nothing but facts 🙌🏾
If this isn’t the truth I don’t know what it is.I was the rebound. He had 2 failed marriages talked about his exes to me. I felt so sorry for him trying to be the one to Love him.. left me and went to another women. He jumps from one situation to another. Thank you Jesus for getting me out of that toxic relationship. He has never healed
Giiiirrrrrl you spying on me 🤔🤔🤔. My story exactly. May God deal with these creatures. The lightning that will strike them is still doing push-ups.
Tony is crazy. Lol! 😆🤣😂