Subtle Ways People Manipulate Others Without Knowing It
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- Опубліковано 3 чер 2024
- Manipulation is a nuanced art, often operating in the shadows of human interaction.
Whether it is emotional manipulation, psychological manipulation, or dark manipulation tactics, understanding these manipulation techniques is crucial for safeguarding yourself against potential manipulation and fostering healthier relationships.
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Researcher/ Writer: Daila Ayala
Editor: Caitlin McColl
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Drew Baillie
Animator: Arana
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
DISCLAIMER: This video is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not meant to replace medical advice or treatment. If you are in need of a professional, please consult the nearest mental health or relationship, expert. This is not an in-depth analysis. The following descriptions are general on purpose in order for you to dip your toes in. If you would like more information about the following topics, we invite you to search our website and blog, as well as do your own research using other sources.
RESOURCES
Red Mountain Sedona Team. (2017, September 23). Manipulation And Lying. Red Mountain Sedona. redmountainsedona.com/resources/manipulation-and-lying/
The Minds Journal. (2019, April 20). 13 Ways Manipulators Use Passive Aggressiveness To Manipulate and Abuse You. The Good Men Project. goodmenproject.com/featured-content/13-ways-manipulators-use-passive-aggressiveness-to-manipulate-and-abuse-you/
Villines, Z. (2019, September 17). Red Flags: Are You Being Emotionally Manipulated? GoodTherapy.Org Therapy Blog. www.goodtherapy.org/blog/red-flags-are-you-being-emotionally-manipulated-0917197
WebMD Editorial Contributors. (2020, November 23). Manipulation: Symptoms to Look For. WebMD. www.webmd.com/mental-health/signs-manipulation#:%7E:text=A%20manipulator%20will%20actively%20lie,you%20and%20gaining%20intellectual%20superiority.&text=Manipulators%20are%20experts%20in%20exaggeration%20and%20generalization
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My old friend manipulated my other old friend to stop being friends with me
these videos help me out!
I worry I might end up doing these again
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1:40 - Passive Aggressiveness
2:43 - Moving goal posts
3:28 - Manipulation of facts
4:07 - Cruel humor
4:41 - Exaggeration and Generalization
5:23 - Lying
6:36 - Insecurities
7:06 - Fear
7:57 - Silent treatment
8:31 - Recruiting others to help
Thank you so much for putting this, I'm sure a lot of people need it ❤✝️
thank you for this
I grew up in a family that was rather involved in advertising and I was kind of told about manipulation tactics by the way my family would deconstruct ads. Often the ads of other companies. I learned at an early age to dislike attempts at manipulation and often stear clear of a person or group if I detect even the slightest wiff of manipulation. I'm maybe too critical off it and maybe avoid people too often as a result and am now learning to be a little less in need of total control while still trusting my instincts to inform me of dangerous manipulation before it develops into something more advanced.
First of all, PERIOD❤ Second of all, I invite you to come to Jesus. Reply if you want to know more. ❤❤✝️✝️
Thanks, I agree.
I first learned about manipulation from family and religion.
So many times I've heard evangelists tell their followers to find people when they are emotionally vulnerable to attempt to convert. Not unlike cults
im heavily guilty of this.
Realizing the problem is the first step to solving it
Me to... I want to stop
Same...
Me too, I'm guilty by some of this and I've been trying to stop being like this for a long time, I ended up staying away from other people cause of it and my social anxiety.
As long as you’re trying to be better that’s all that matters:)
Don't forget about a grown adult throwing tantrums to get their way. It causes the other people to walk on eggshells to avoid setting off the abuser
My mom is very verbally abusive and manipulative. She's like the "we are related thing" or just gets verbal
When they showcase fear and exaggeration, it’s like they create this web of anxiety around you, making you feel compelled to do what they want. It’s a very unsettling way of manipulating you to make you feel powerless and vulnerable.
This video came at the most perfect time. Thank you. I just lived through this
We hops this helps :) did you relate to any of these signs?
I’m just an observer to this. Thank you for educating. I hope it helps the right people. One thing is true: I didn’t suspect or didn’t want to believe suicide threat could be used for manipulation, but maybe that is not representing my situation but others.
I can call myself immune to manipulation tactics I just love to obeserve them to see how far they could go. Nevertheless, it reminded me to stay careful. Thank you that was at the right time 🙏
Never good if a person has million of faces and thinks others don’t recognize.
If you don't know you're doing it, it's not manipulation. It's just interpersonal incompetence.
It is manipulation if you don’t know you’re doing it lol. Narcissists don’t realize how out of touch they are but they still manipulate. Being unaware doesn’t change the result of gaslighting.
The onus is on them, however, because unless they have had nothing but awful people in their early life, they have likely been abusing their social circles for their entire life
I was in a narcissistic relationship with these manipulative tactics, and it was hell. I couldn't express my feelings and boundaries; everything was controlled by her. She did whatever she wanted to do and lied all over the place. I couldn't even figure out I was being manipulated until I exited the relationship. It was only 2.5 months, but it felt like 25 years to me.
I think it would be better to first be friends before being in a relationship with someone you don’t know
@@agathaagatin2017 She is from my high school, and she knew me as an empathetic person. Also, some guys made fun of me in high school. After 12 years, she targeted me and followed me, asking for my number, and then groomed me with her tactics. I was blinded by her love bombs.
I’m glad you got away.
If you EVER have someone threaten self harm in a relationship, contact the authorities and report it. If they are sincere, intervention is needed. If they are manipulative, they will get a butt load of trouble for their empty threats.
This entire video feels extremely specific in describing my dad.
I’m sorry.
I’m sorry.
Oh my gosh... 😭 I went thru this struggle last year. I am no longer friends with her and I wonder frequently if she is still okay. 💔😭 She abused, misused, blackmailed, scammed, tricked, conned, lied, hurt, burned, and said that she would commit suicide if I left. I am shaking as I write about this. She did this to me over half a year and then said she was in love with me, altho I was a woman. I can relate so much. Please pray for me. 💔😭💔 🙏🏼
Edit: I can relate to everything said in this video and that is bad.
Edit: why are people with two sentences with not a lot of meaning, getting more likes than me? 😭💔
Please get help if you can, that's traumatizing. Speak to people who you know care about you! Ask for help
1st step is to love yourself ❤ please do. Once you love yourself I felt you know what to do. Dont let anybody control you or change of who you are.
@@Prawnii I would love to, but we don't have that kind of money or time. My other sister is getting counseling and she needs it more than me. 😞💔
@@zcretchaosangel thank you! 😭🥰😞💔I try to remember that. She did try to change who I am and was, and thankfully I got out of there before she could change me too much. I was doing things I had never done before. Swearing, making boundaries, etc. Thank you for your concern. 🥰😭
If you think vulnerability is a weak trait then you are living in a total wrong, messy and doubtful mind space 🙏
If only this video was around back in my old relationships. It would've helped me so much. I'm glad it's out there now for others to learn and grow :)
the last one is so accurate !!!
🔥 Ty for bringing this to light ❤
Talking behind your backs is the biggest move to manipulate people .
Mean jokes are hard. You want to joke about someones shortcoming as a way of endearment, without them getting hurt... but its so easy to miss the mark and actually make them feel bad.
Is it bad to use Silent Treatment when you tried to be upfront with it multiple times you have been let down every single time?
I don’t think it’s bad
In your situation it was the right thing to do
If they say they'll do that to themselves and others call the police
Timestamps
1). Passive-aggressive 1:39
2). Moving goal posts 2:40
3). Manipulation of facts 3:26
4). Cruel humor 4:05
5). Exaggeration and generalization 4:39
6). Lying 5:21
7). Insecurities 6:34
8). Fear 7:04
9). Silent treatment 7:56
10). Recruiting others to help 8:29
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
My red flags in a one video.
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8THHH PLEASE POST MORE VIDEOS ABOUT LOVE AND CRUSHES I NEED IT!?!?!
Hi I admire your content a lot and wondered how do you make them? What program are you using?
Jeez… I just watched the start and my friend today went through that
Ooh a list of how people treat me at work!
Thank you for sharing 🌹🌷🌺
thank you
I’m guilty of the fear and passive aggression. It sucks but I will try to stop.
Yep, these are pretty accurate... I know from experience 😮💨😑
I 'm also a victim ..this is soo true..i've experienced all these things..and also she bad mouthing about me everywhere she goes and i lost my bestie who is with me always more than a decade because of that b%&....💔
It's usually way more subtle than that. Manipulation doesn't need to be so drastic. Chipping away at little things rather than big grandiose gestures
Sad
Hey Psych2go, could you please please make a video on signs of PTED (Post-Traumatic Embitterment Disorder), about what it is, and the why relating to it? I really need a video on that, and Im sure many people affected by it also do.
Constructive Criticism -
I liked the animation and the majority of this content. I wish I had known more about manipulation several years ago.
However, I felt the title was misleading. The manipulation scenarios provided were often not subtle, nor were they done "without knowing it".
It was also jarring to hear WebMD being cited. It felt like the citations were an afterthought as opposed to doing more thorough research. I'm not saying that is the case. It was simply my perception. I can't articulate why the sources were so jarring to me. I am simply the messenger of my thoughts.
I'm with you on it
Love the calming voice so relaxing
If you don't let the person go that means you never respected that person.
Hey @Psych2Go, could you make a video about cheating guilt/regret? and how it would impact relationship... People shame cheaters and they never really see the perspective of the cheaters themself. especially those who are guilty. i think its gonna be interesting video if you do make it. i hope you read this😅
Yes…this happened to me with putting up with with manipulators and relationships…
How to spot a manipulative person before a relationship is established with him or her is worth consideration.
I feel like there should be something here about calling a hotline or something when you percieve someone to be threatening suicidal behaviour. It might not be a threat. The fear of being dismissed as manipulative often drives me to hide those feelings and prevents me from getting help until things are truly out of control.
The only manipulation tactic i use is to make friends do good stuff for themselves that they wouldnt do otherwise, so they can improve on themself to become better.
Its crazy how i didn't even realize that these all apply to a relationship i had 2 years ago
And the times people are are dangerous in general.
This has happened my Whole life, am not a Victim But it hasn't been fun at all. 😢❤.
I remember the slient treatment was my worst fears in the relationship when I was younger. It hurted. It was the feeling like what did I do wrong. Or trying to fix things. Boy even when my ex turns off his phone completely for a slient treatment.
What if I been struggling through bad time and my friends don't believe me and think im ditching them but really I'm not.
a good thumbnail would be Makina controlling someone but this works too :)
Yeah I've had enough personally so I'm moving asap
I had a "friend" like this. He was dating two of my friends and threatened to end himself if they tried to leave. And then when i left him he was bringing up his past trauma that wasn't related to the fight we were having
Its mostly poor communication 😢
I want to share one story about what happend to me in 2022. So it was a normal day texting with my friends. Later someone who i didn't know started to text with me. He was nice to me at the begining but then...he wanted me to do something terrible. He wanted me to show him my face. I said no many times and he always said "Fine, i'll try to find someone better than you" so i told him that i will do it someday but he wanted me to do it immediately. One week later i knew that he was acting like he wanted to date me and he was acting like a teen girl but the truth was that he was just trying to use me. My mom found out about that one night and after that he's been gone. I still remember those days and i don't wanna remember anything about it...and that week changed my whole life forever
I am going to end up using these
I will experiment.
My „sister“ and a rich ex friend of mine are like that, 100%. I‘ll never forget what they‘ve done to me, even if I broke contact with them.
I was in Special Ed for Autism for all of K12 school and my SE teachers were all very manipulative and used these tactics. I remember in elementary school, I had two SE teachers who were friends and they always told lies about me and said them loud enough for my whole class to hear. For example, they tried to make me read out loud with them during reading time, while everyone else read silently, and there was one day in 4th grade when they were standing a few feet away from my table and talking about how I “never read” in front of me and it was loud enough for everyone to hear. And then, one of them threatened to keep me in at recess, even though I was clearly reading and my movements were EXACTLY the same as everyone else’s. And I also had an extremely toxic friend during those years who just preyed off my insecurities and took everything my SE teachers said and used it against me.
And I also had a manipulative SE teacher in high school. I remember her saying that I was allowed to go to her classroom if I was going through it and that she was open to hearing my problems, but whenever I did have a problem, she would say things like “stop crying, it’s a small problem,” and then would ask if anyone was hurt or in the hospital. I remember there was one time my senior year when I was on my commute to school and one of my tires fell off on the way, which was literally a near death experience, so I was very shocked and had to go to her room cuz I couldn’t think straight. But even when it was a big problem, she’d still try to undermine my problem and make it seem like I was the problem. That was a situation where I coulda literally gotten severely injured or died, and she still wouldn’t help me with it. And I remember she got pregnant my junior year, and I became close to my high school band director while she was on maternity leave. Since I learned that I had other options of people I could turn to, who were WAY better than my SE teachers, I stopped talking to this SE teacher all together and started talking to my BD instead. But eventually, the SE teacher found out that I was close to my BD and got my BD on her team and basically turned her against me.
Yeah, even the people you least expect can be extremely manipulative. It can be someone who has a great reputation, like all my SE teachers, and they just get away with it cuz no one believes you when you try to tell them about how awful they truly are.
So that teacher was good but somehow she manages to turn her in her side too
Why does she do that?Do you think it's because of jealousy or she was thinking that she will be your only (emotional) support?
I had friends who were always like that.
The thumbnail is what made me click on the video (it reminded of a streamer & what happened to her), but I ended up seeing a lot of similarities to what my ex was doing to me in our relationship.
8:02 😢
Actually these are really good to use, against the ones who deserve it.
But if u know u might accidentally do this to ur loved ones who u never want to do it on.
Educate them on ur manipulative side and tell them u really love them which is why whenever i end up doing this stuff i trust u to not get entangled in and remind me to Stop.
Without watching the video here's something I wanna say first:
We humans are at the top of the food chain. We are social beings who live in the strongest society of the planet. We have no inter-species competition but only individual competition. As such manipulating others and being manipulated by others is something that happens daily and often without much concious thought. People who do it consciously are whom we call manipulators. Thank you.
GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND TOXIC FAMILY I JUST WANTED TO STOP BY TO LET EVERYONE KNOW THAT I 💙 THEM TEE 💯🙏💪💙 PLEASE KEEP ME IN YOUR PRAYERS
actually don't mind me.. i just want to get this off my head,you know what ,i feel so useless like i can't do anything right ,i don't have a look i should have in my age i look small it's sometimes irritate me.i don't have a healthy family either,not good parents i don't have a good mental health i always worried about something i just can't i always think about it and feel so messed up like how i am end up hereno one around me know about my suffering I'm so good at hiding it.i don't remember when did i feel so light like litterly when i had smile without worry i just can't handle this my parent are acting like they are the best but they aren't. they aren't bully me but I'm mentally worried,sad i just wanna love.i don't have any friend either i feel so useless. i want to start over i want to be happy but i have no idea
I have all of these except 1. I know I manipulate others but it’s just in my genes. I mean, my mom and dad have too
Passive aggression is for creeps. And I’ve had more problems with males doing this.
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Hey its very hard to watch the video when i am sleeping
in the UK, if anyone threatens you with killing themselves, you are fully able to call 999 and get an ambulance to go to them. As this is a life threatening situation they will send mental health first aiders to help that person and that removes the burden from you.
Me taking notes to get better at the skill: 👀
Guys help I have a very sarcastic sense of humor and I always make stupid jokes for example if my friend jokes about being preggo I would say "thats why u look fat" or one of my friends was upset cuz she thought she was boring and I said "ur not boring ur just...not loud like I am" and I always laugh after and say "omg im jkjk u know im jk right?"
And my friends know I'm awkward and say stupid stuff without thinking so they kinda just put up with it and they have told me many times I'm an amazing friend
But likeeeee I can totally see why my behavior might be toxic...pls someone let me know so I can learn❤❤❤
wow now i know what to call the things someone does yay :/
lol tf can i do if its online then 💀
just gotta wait until i never see them again and they take all my friends with?
I had someone threaten that. I walked away and he said he'd join the army.
Let em. Thy need numbers 😂
Where is the other narrator 😭😭
I hate that I do these things... how do I get better? I always feel like a monster because I manipulate without meaning to. My family did all of these things to me. I don't know how to behave.
Try to spot these behaviours stated in video as they happen. Eventually you will get better at stopping it before it happens to the point you don’t have that problem anymore.
What kind of coward breaks up through a text message?! That's pretty toxic in itself.
Why you replace narrator Amanda nowadays 🥺🥺🥺🥺😔😔😔😔
Please animate pants 😭
Is it possible to manipulate other people without realizing it?
Ig it is 😭
I like the Irish accent.
Ive been abused and bullied by my group im trying to breakup with the "boys"
Манипуляции...Манипуляции..Манипуляции😄🤣 Оказывается манипуляторами могут быть не только люди но и .. соц.сеть...)) Я на себе это испытала.)
only 8 comments?? Im early woooo
Damn. Im a shit person. Time to change for the better
Why are these characters naked from the waist down?
Banana soup
Man
Maybe i am the asshole....
Real
OH MY GOD. AM I SCHIZOPHRENIC? IS THAT WILBUR SOOT IN THE THUMBNAIL?
what happened to your voice???
These are not that effective
Narrator has a strange voice, as if she's trying to be seductive. I wonder what her normal voice sounds like?
Anyone else realize you use these on yourself?
Please speak clearly, it is kinda hard to understand what you are saying with out putting speaker next to my ears
Last ex and I did alot of this to eachother...never want something like that again. Not that it matters, noone wants me anyway. She made sure I knew that.
bro this channel is manipulation itself lmao who trained these narrators to talk the same way
100th comment:)
what is this off-brand ASMR voice?
this voice over is worse bring back the other girl