Dark Manipulation Tricks To Watch Out For
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- Опубліковано 14 тра 2024
- Dark manipulation tactics are psychological strategies that often go unnoticed, leaving unsuspecting individuals ensnared and controlled. Have you ever experienced being manipulated by dark manipulation tricks, and now you're feeling confused and hurt?
Don't be a pawn in someone else's game! Arm yourself with the knowledge to identify, resist, and overcome dark manipulation. Whether you're curious about psychology, eager to protect yourself, find validation after being manipulated, or simply interested in understanding human behavior, this video has something for everyone.
It's important to understand the psychology behind it, and empower yourself with the knowledge to resist and counteract these tactics.
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Writer: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon / @littleghostyofficialtm
Animator: Mavelyn
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
REFERNECES:
Feel like you’re being led on? It might be ‘Breadcrumbing.’ (2021, February 12). Healthline. Breadcrumbing: What It Is and How to Deal
Arabi, S., MA. (2019, March 31). Narcissists Use Trauma Bonding and Intermittent Reinforcement To Get You Addicted To Them: Why Abuse Survivors Stay. Psych Central. Narcissists Use Trauma Bonding and Intermittent Reinforcement To Get You Addicted To Them: Why Abuse Survivors Stay
Clinic, C. (2023, December 22). What is love bombing? Cleveland Clinic. What Is Love Bombing? 7 Signs To Look For
Choosing Therapy. (2024, February 20). 9 Narcissistic Manipulation Tactics & How to deal. 9 Narcissistic Manipulation Tactics & How to Deal
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Thx
No
I have actually faced this not in a romantic relationship but people did this in the name of friendship
Thanks for this video. I noticed you seem to be talking mostly about romantic relationships in this, but could family members or friends use these tactics as well? Just a curious question so I know what to look for
GOOD AFTERNOON MY FRIENDS AND TOXIC FAMILY YES I HAVE to THIS DONE TO ME ON A DAYLY BASIS BY MY PARENT SHE ALWAYS DO THIS , THAT'S WHY IN THE MORNING WHEN I GET UP I LEAVE THE HOUSE, PLEASE KEEP ME IN YOUR PRAYERS. TEE 💯🙏🕳️💙
“Dark manipulation tricks to watch out for”
That one evil mf who came here to learn them
Not me .......
I guess thats why this channel is called "Psych2go"
The only thing that make this actions “wrong” is the outcome.
It was me yesir I want it to learn these tips to use them yessir
Women do all these things to make men like them.
Timestamps
1). Love bombing 0:15
2). Hot and cold 0:52
3). Intermittent reinforcement 1:45
4). The judge seduction 3:13
5). Triangulation and competition 4:04
6). The harmless rejection 4:50
7). Breadcrumbing 5:31
8). Guilt-trip 6:10
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Ok, some of these I am guilty of, but on the other side, some of these she was guilty of.
Did... did we both use tactics to get closer to each other, but ended up conflicting...?!
I’m hot&cold
@@klappstuhl4370 It can happen, yes.
Sounds like ayessa
How to do this??
I would advise any young person seeking to be in a relationship to first learn to love yourself and heal your own inner emotional wounds whether they are childhood traumas or fears/insecurities. Finding the right therapist is absolutely key to starting the healing process. Once you have acheived a great level of emotional awareness through self compassion and self love, then use these skills to find a person who has also found success in their own personal healing journey. Remember, people who are known to be manipulators and narcissists are simply people who have emotional issues of their own that they refuse to acknowledge and heal from so in order to find relief from their low self worth, they seek to find people that are easy to control and their victims tend to be others who also have low self worth and thus very emotionally vulnerable.
That's great advice, I have been trying to love myself for years now but I just cant do it. The lack of confidence and the self-loathing are way too strong.
@@SBsam I get it. One of the hardest things to do is to practice self compassion and self forgiveness. Obviously everybody is different as everyone has had unique experiences that formed them into who they are today but we all just want to be the best version of ourselves. Becoming the better you means you will have to take the painful but necessary action to dig deep into the emotions within you that hurt the most and find exactly where they originated from. Many people run away from these emotions and try to mask them but this only makes them worse in the long run. I would advise to find a therapist that can help you navigate these internal wounds and I myself will pray for you. You deserve a life of fulfillment.
My therapy is gym, my therapists are weights and dumbells, my self love is my knowledge and my wound healing are books
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Under spoken under heard under appreciated. This.
Listen, I’m terrible at texting and communicating. It’s not that I want to ignore people either. Life is so exhausting honestly. Like putting the effort to just stay alive and exist is fucking hard for me. But I think I’m getting better hopefully 🤞🏼
You got this!
you'll get better soon. just keep trying. nothing lasts forever, neither the bad days.
Same here. You got this, I believe in you.
Wish I had seen this video about a year ago. I would've realized my "friend" was manipulating me earlier. I realized it way too late. And when I confronted them about their lies and manipulation, they tried to make me the bad guy. Hell, at one point my "friend" called me "Transphobic" despite that never coming up in our conversations. And they constantly gave me the "I was chatting with so and so" line, instead of getting back to me, when they were active in group, and choosing to not chat with me.
I'm trying to get past these people, but they were people I truly cared about, and trusted...so it's hard. It's like trying to literally remove a piece of my heart...
Good for you it's your friends doing the manipulation. In my case it's my two sisters who constantly bombard me with insults and then praises. This is just to keep me alert and on my toes to do whatever they want me to do for them 😢😢😢
No matter how much you cared & trusted them, it's not worth it if they treat you unfair.
OMG I think we're in the same boat. It sucks, doesn't it? Earlier this month, I told my "friend" she was making me and others uncomfortable by oversharing the details of her transition, and making inappropriate jokes or comments that were graphically sexual. I told her that the reason no one wants to talk to her about that or other issues is because she guilt trips and plays the victim, painting the other person as the problem. She responded with so much gaslighting I was afraid to strike a match. She accused me of gossiping and spreading rumors; I had talked to others, but was seeking help on how to approach her about her behavior, when I doubted she would change. She refuses to let go of her giant red flags, as I had suspected, and said she was done being my friend. It sucks bcs I've learned a lot from her, and really thought she cared about people. Now I see her "covert narcissism might disguise as altruism". I'm here if you want to talk about your experience. I'd bet we can really relate to each other.
Ayo... Why I can relate..
Yeah
Number 6 is not a great example. The scenario presented was presented as if those sentences always mean something malicious, but that's not true. It is totally valid to say "Hey, I like you and would potentially enjoy being with you at some point, but I've got shit going on rn that I need to deal with, but once I'm done taking care of my shit and working on myself, I'd love to give us a shot!".
It's only toxic if someone is lying, it's healthy to set boundaries even for yourself. Maybe you like someone a lot but you've got to heal from something traumatic first, and you don't want to get their emotions tangled up in your mess while you're processing things.
Some of these videos are kinda hit or miss...
Edit: typo
All of the scenarios and the things that they create are 100% misunformation because they think experiment people’s life and think all they Said are like GOD’s thoughts 😂😂
FOR PSYCHO 2 go : everyone who is not have the same view or perception like them are bad or manipulative person.
That’s why this CHANNEL is very MANIPULATIVE.
ACTUALLY ALL OF THEM ARE kind of SUPERFICIAL 😂😂 and misunformation !
But Always Put your BOUNDARIES
LOVE YOURSELF and just be polite and respectful with everyone not FLIRTING them.
I agree
I do agree with you, telling someone you like them and telling them you do not want to engage into anything serious isnt bad at all if you actually mean it, but just a reminder that all of this actions are being projected as if when being used as manipulation tactics
Agree.
Love bombing really feels nice and genuine at first, but soon it becomes affection overload where compliments and attention continue to keep pouring in, but soon doubts start seeping in leaving you in a state of uncertainty and wondering if all of it was genuine or not.
frrr
2022 was the year where I broke off all contacts that hurt me in such a way thanks to finding out what dirty tricks narcissists do. If it weren’t for Psych2Go and other experts, I still would’ve been in a dark place, emotionally. Keep up the great work!
Thank you for your support! So happy to hear you're in a better place now!
Yeah I've literally done all these dark tactics on people who oppose have treated me with disrespect. Quite accurate! Good job psych 👏
Understandable, have a good day
no need
Whatever you are, be a good one
I experienced most of these tactics in my last dating relationship. We are broken up and I have moved on, but the irony is now that I am moving on. He is coming around and being very visible in certain social settings that we have in common. I am deeply suspicious of this, since he chose to get involved with someone else and get married. When I ran into him again, after not seeing him in over a year, my first impression was that he is not working on his recovery, and I would not have gotten involved with him, and I most certainly would not have married him. Thank you for the advice because it really reaffirms that moving on is the right decision for me.
@@Lolcoca -it is not possible to do that within the recovering community as I follow the principles and traditions of the 12 steps, and this means that I put principles above personalities whether he does or not. The best that any of us can do is to learn from our experiences-I have no control over how he manipulated me nor can I change the past, but I can certainly be aware of these kinds of behaviors in moving forward and now I know how to deal with it. Thanks for the comment, but giving advice in situations like this is really not helpful.
wish i was able to see this video years ago
worst part is that a lot of these things have to do with something someone COULD be doing genuinely and not out of malice, but so much of the time people just leave you guessing on whether it's truth or lies.
it's best to speak and give truth with the things sitting on the blurred line, because some people have been through so much lies that it could take a village to help them feel safe when it's finally the truth
The harmless rejection one is actually very wrong and misleading. Though it may make sense in SPECIFIC situations, surely not all comparatively “ vague” rejections are for the sake of manipulation and not genuine. NO IS NO. if someone tells you they dont want to be anything more than a friend and rejects you this should be respected and should not be scrutinized further.
It depends on the context. In some situations, their intentions may not be inherently malicious; it's simply a challenging circumstance. However, the example showcased in the video differs. Other behaviors highlighted in the video contribute to portraying "Harmless rejection" as manipulative rather than an honest difficulty in communication. The underlying purpose of this form of "Harmless rejection" is to keep someone engaged without genuine intent, their true intent is to string them along as a backup.
im glad this video got uploaded in the right time. i just realized what im going through isnt something i should be going through. keep it up with the psychology videos. helping and potentially saving lives.
Your videos are so helpful for me. Thank you! ❤
This video is an eye opener. I thougth these were my secrets tricks. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for this ♥️i needed this
But sometimes people DO just prefer to be single or aren't ready for relationships. Yeah, the other stuff is toxic, but saying you prefer to be single or aren't ready for a relationship in and of itself doesn't seem toxic or manipulative - it just seems honest.
Love the new animator 🙏🏾
Thank you, I needed this today
Oh this one deserves to be on multiple playlists 😊
Yesss!! : D
I have encountered seven out of these eight tactics in one single person. And they all do apply to friendship as well, because I considered that person my best friend. This kind of toxic friendship can have a really negative impact on our confidence and it's not a coincidence that such manipulative people tend to use these tactics on insecure people with low self-esteem. It's like we're asking for it in their eyes, I guess. The most important thing is to recognize our own value, to feel ENOUGH! Please remember that you don't need any manipulative narcissist in your life. You don't need anyone to reassure you and recognize your value. Only you have the magic to do so! If you don't do it, no one else's kind words will ever help you feel enough. Thank you for creating and sharing this amazing video! I loved it!
Same here👍🏻
Omg I think you did my idea TYSM ❤❤ I really needed this to test my friends bc I have a feeling…
You're very welcome!
Thanks for the lesson 😈
I needed this nearly a decade ago 😢 learning such tatics were used against me by people just makes everything hurt even more; I was completely clueless and that was also taken advantage of
Not a partner, but an ex best friend of mine used ALL of these on me, great😂
Hmmmm. This could actually be happening to me. I definitely need to watch this one
Sorry to hear! How many of these signs did you relate to?
This made me learn that I am in no way a manipulative person. I guess I am really genuine.
Even though I knew all these from experiencing them in childhood from parents and peers, this video was like a gentle reminder of how these manipulation tactics have affected my ability to feel love and trust loved ones.
Love bombing specifically has made the BPD battle of trust and abandonment issues one of the largest hurdles in trying to function in my healthy, normal relationships
Thank you for sharing
THANK YOU. I knew i wasn’t losing it.
I’m currently experiencing this bs
Narcissistic behavior. If you encounter these you might be dealing with a narcissist or sociopath. Be aware
Love the thumbnail 😮! So cool
After I watched this Video I thought:" Oh, I have someone who is like that." I known him for 5 Years now & he is nearly 100% like in the Video. He did/does all these Steps. He still does it and I find myself still unable to break free. I try and try it but somehow he always gets me hooked on him again :-(
I love your channel and anyone who loves you as well ❤
Thank you for your support!
Just watched this as someone has a friend constantly making me feel guilty and/or upset, yet incredibly happy at the same time-and im just now realizing how relatable "hot and cold" is:(
This is how you got married to the wrong person.
This is helpful because not only does it help me recognize and avoid l dark manipulation better but it also helps me know how to avoid my behaviors or interactions that would come across as manipulative, something I don’t want to be 😅
Or maybe this CHANNEL is the one is manipulative. And they want you to put in your head. That’s a misunformation works nowadays.
Damn some I have and never knew about it tills this vid def agree knowledge is power ty for the info pshych❤
Everything said in this video my crush has done to me, and now ofc I’ve moved on after 2 years in that hell hole, and she literally tried the “surprise” factor by randomly giving me a box of walnuts as a gift, when I have given her countless items that took not only my money but my time and effort. For example a drawing that I did cost me 16 hours to make, and another 65 dollars pen with her name personalised for her. All she did was “thank you!!!” And just some paragraphs. Back in like last year when I tried to move on, she literally cried for me to stay, that was the first time ever a girl cried for me and so I was stupid enough to continue again. And now after another 6 months I finally escaped that hell hole. Some might say I’m stupid, some might say I’m dumb, but this is the first time I’ve ever encountered this. She has had the title of the best girl in the school as in terms of academics and conduct and every teacher likes her. And so me liking a “good” girl was nothing wrong right? Absolutely not, and I’ve been manipulated, when at the end of me liking her, I confronted her about the things she did to me and all she said was you don’t get it or something, and the thing I remember most was when I said all these manipulation shit she told me I can’t believe you think of me as a person like this. And also the last time we talked which was about a month ago (we didn’t talk for a whole month and I said wow it’s been quite a while), and she was like I thought about this for so long and I’ve finally figured things out. When I asked her what it is all she said was you’ll know later as like a hanging on thing to keep me hooked. But it’s too late for that. And did I mention that we went out alone 5 times? 3 times eating alone, 1 time at the cinema, and once at the library. And now we don’t even normally talk anymore all that 2 years wasted. Not just time but money and effort. So when you try to get your first love please be careful, especially someone who has a lot of ppl that likes them. If there’s one thing to take away from these two hell hole years, it’s definitely to be aware of these people and pull away immediately if they start manipulating you.
Ghosting...Intermittent reinforcement...secrets only the Sith knew...
Shared ❤
You literally described everything my ex did to me before I broke up with her. It was the first and last time I got involved with a person like that.
I wish I had learned about these manipulation tactics before entering my first relationship. I thought that was normal and his way of showing that he loves me. I hope young women/men get educated on this topic. Thank you for posting this video.
I absolutely despise when people are proud of doing these tactics, like good for you, you won the chess game and now everyone hates you, are you happy? What i hate most is how easy it is to do accidentally do these things, whether its pride over how much youve sacrificed for the relationship or frustration over feeling like your not being heard. Shits tough man
@@Lolcoca nah imma do my own thing🤫
@@CJBow-xf6yy I'm confused lol
Thank you for the video, this sounds familiar 😮
This video describes exactly what i experienced 3-4 years ago with my First Ex...
Number 4 - 8 in this Video is exactly what they had done to me and watching this video really made me mad when i realized that...
I already broke up contact to them for 3 years now, but it still hurts... a lot.
Especially if someone like this is your FIRST Relationship and you thought this would be "normal", because you didn't know any better.
This experience clearly will affect my Love Life forever, because it lasted for an entire year... >.
Thx for the tips man i will use these to use more victims thx man keep the grind 💪
Beautiful and important video
Met a guy earlier who manipulated me exactly how the video showed. Wish I saw this earlier as everything was accurate to my situation. But I left that situation and now I'm in a healthy relationship:)
"I cant be with you right now,i need to work on myself,i prefer to be single,i dont wanna be in a relationship right now,you are too good for me,you deserve someone better" these are haunting me even to this day..because it is the same things my ex gf told me when she broke up with me,its like they become toxic selfish and manipulative at that very moment..
This was helpful because I admit I'm guilty of some of these characteristic's but it sort of happens unconsciously? and I wasn't sure why it and how it was from the other person's pov. So I'm still trying to find more ways to erase these traits and be a better person.
The problem is in believing you deserve the attention and affection in the beginning so one becomes easily fooled by the other person because put simply you easily fool yourself being honest with one's self is essential
These are very useful. And thanks for this. It happens to me with my ex
The best way to deal with this kinds of things is to ignore advance in the first place. I had already experienced these and it’s easy to spot them from a mile away. However yes knowledge is power. However, the problem is, the people who watches these psyc. Videos don’t just need answers to everyday society or concern for their well-being but they are some that use these to manipulate the people that seek the exact help they need. I know this channel wants to help those who need counseling. Although this is better of not case as this is making society more worse as it is. If you really want help then go to an private psychologist or just a person that you trust and know they they won’t stab your back when the time comes. However, with all said and done, I love you guys x.
With the harmless rejection, what if someone legitimately felt they needed to work on themselves or felt the other person’s too good for them, and weren’t saying that to manipulate the other person?
Then their intentions were not bad or wrong and it's just a rough situation. The example in this video is different. The other behaviors reinforce this type of "Harmless rejection" as being manipulative and not an honest inability to communicate. The intent of this "Harmless rejection" is to string a person along.
@@squancho1412 ok thanks
Yes, in some cases it can be the fact they‘re going through sth, even having troubles communicating it. It‘s not always malicious I agree. This here is a concrete example and surely does not apply to all cases
@@squancho1412you explained well. I think so too
I have seen many types of those. I just play their game for fun. And once I loss interest or feel insult for being with them, I just leave.
However, I became in situations when they begged me to stay, sometimes I accept and play a second round with them, it is funny to imagine that they really think I believe them.
Don't blame me, they deserve this, they tried to play with my emotions in the first place.
Knew my FA was acting like this, expect I mess up situationship and breadcrumb clip. 🤦♂️ This time, put up boundaries and needs for us.
I had a best friend nd i trusted her more than anyone else and she used to use these tricks on me cuz I didn't knew that these things exists she used me for her own good and when she succeeded she left me all alone and in such a situation that everyone was against me I had a long time to recover . She used to see my texts but didn't answer and when I asked her about it she used to say I was busy tho she was online. She used to ignore me when I was in difficulties. We had quarrels many times and in the end we splited up. And also she used to shower me with compliments and praises to do her work . Sometimes she used to fight with me for no reason
Yep. Used.
I went through this for 2 years and 3 months and I’m only hearing about it now 😢
Sorry to hear that! We hope this video can help you in the future!
@@Lolcoca It’s not that easy to let go.
@@Psych2go I am trying to look out to see if my current partner does any of these and he hasn’t
@@Lolcoca it wasn’t simple for me
Is this like the woman's handbook? I keep getting told I have an impossible Iron Wall now and don't give people the chance now, but I started recognizing these things on my own without a name to them. These videos are what make this channel peak. I get that the love one's bring people in but THESE ones are so essential
yes most women r manipulators. media just doesn't portray them as awful or manipulators.
I would say a lot of men and women are manipulators. If you date the opposite gender, you'll have more experience with manipulation from that gender, but definitely try not to overlook others that could potentially manipulate you. Listen to your gut feeling. I've mostly had experience with men and whether they were a romantic partner or a friend, they all gave me super bad vibes at some point in the relationship, usually upon the first meeting or very early on. Don't ignore that feeling.
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"There is only one thing worse than losing someone you love, and that's losing yourself"
- Me, 2023
This reminds me so much about how my mom is
the more i learn, the more i’m disgusted by my last relationship. hot & cold was the epitome.
The saddest thing, at todays I am facing with these tactics near every try when I want to get together with someone.😢
My narcissistic ex did most of these. It’s been two years and I’m still recovering.
#2 and #8 I used to fall for that all the time. 😅
Imagine wanting to know so bad where you are with a certain person and maybe want to share how you feel about them. But then because you confront them about their ugly behaviour, they act like they're the victim in the situation.
Not everytime they're actually using these tactics, a person having his/her own problems while dealing or socializing a lot with people may feel uncomfortable to have a serious thing with one guy/girl so that person may refuse to be in relationship and the "harmless rejection" Thing told in the video,
On the other hand, all these tactics are completely working and 100% accurate, I'd prefer not to use them, just be cautious about them and remember if someone's doing this, it is not necessary that he/she is doing it intentionally to gain control over you.
I was stuck in toxic family which is my brother who is manipulative and keeps on disrespecting my boundaries which is harmful, our nanny left here and never come back cuz she has nephew to take care of. My mom who used guilt trip while hanging out together to buy groceries or eating outside and my dad who manipulating me to call my family and forcing me to wash dishes all the time which makes me feel overwhelmed. But my aunt told me that I deserve to ve treated with kindness and respect one another
This happened to me when I was 12 years old, this girl literally tried to ruin my life. She was "friendly" with me but would talk behind my back. Luckily, I was able to work through that trauma but it affected the way I trusted other girls and women for a long time. Now, finally I'm able to have close women friends again.
My narc mom does the triangulation/competition, and guilt tripping with me and my siblings.
It sucks.
Good thing I left my last 3 exes
Omg ... How did you guys know!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭
MY LIFE IS THIS!!
I been in every relationship with this manipulative people!!
We hope this video helps you an eye opening!
@@Psych2go yes! It has, thank you!! 😭😭
Yes i know all of them
My bff always had a boyfriend even though she wasn't attractive. She was really good at manipulating men. She said she would be really nice at the beginning & do everything for him, including stuff behind closed doors. Then when they would do something to make her mad, she'd stop doing one thing, but tell her bf that if he worked hard enough he could get her back to doing everything. That wasn't true, of course. She would never let them get back to the perfect days.
Thanks for the tips and tricks! I'll be sure to use them😉
You need to be blocked here..please anyone?
@@redheadbelle This guy needs to learn what a joke is...please anyone?
@@redheadbelle bro even if the op was not joking blocking anyone from seeing shit like this they'll learn it by themselves if they are inherently manipulative person anyway ☠️
@@thehunt895 I know. At least it’s visible then 😊
When it comes to dating a lot of these are the same tactics used in the “sprinkle sprinkle” method which isn’t actually a relationship, it’s actually a method that works well if you’re only looking to use the other person for gain
happend to me with my ex, she wanted me close enough to keep me as an option but far enough to look out for other people. I was so blinded and it was so disappointing to find out that she only used me and never saw something real with me
It’s worst when you realize that there are more than one person like that in our life’s.
I do these things but not on purpose but I don't guilt trip nor do i be mean to people for no reason, however sometimes I just feel disinterested and can't make a fake happy face.
great video, I once dated a bpd and she did most of them
im afraid that i did "harmless rejection" years ago because i really had my priorities set while i was a student. But i believe it's all about understanding since many of high-schiever students like me seems to give less priority to romantic relationships
i do really like the person but as a student, setting goals are more important
Thanks for sharing and being honest about this. It depends on the context.I think the intent matters. In some situations, their intentions may not be inherently malicious; it's simply a challenging circumstance. However, the underlying purpose of this form of "Harmless rejection" portrayed in the video is to keep someone engaged without genuine intent, their true intent is to string them along as a backup.
I just realized that somebody did all of these (plus negging) to me
Hi, I want to share my thoughts on dark manipulation patterns. I've been chatting with someone who uses these tactics. It's easier when we notice and understand these strategies and don't follow this rabbit hole. If this person doesn't want to treat us with respect, honesty, and kindness, we don't need to take their words seriously.
Wow i didn't realize ive had a couple exes do a couple of these to me
Remember this isn’t always about romantic relationships. I went through this with a parent and a toxic pseudo friendship.
This kinda reminds me of me brother and a old highschool I had
I once had a "friend" who used a lot of these on me. I cared about her a lot, but at this point I'm fairly certain she was just using me. She would constantly breadcrumb by asking if I wanted to hang out or do something, then she would cancel last second (like the day before) for something she found more important, or she'd just ghost me the day of and not show up. She would also talk about all of her much more important friends in front of me, and would even bring guys to the place I worked and made sure I'd know they were there. When I pointed out I felt taken advantage of, she'd get angry, and make me feel like a bad person by saying that I'm trying to control her. If I asked for clarification, she'd shut me down and say she didn't want to talk about it anymore. Eventually she found someone who could do more for her, and just threw me away like I was nothing. It still hurts to this day somebody could just do this to me, and not care whatsoever.
Guilt trips are the worst....... Not only because they trap you in a relationship (romantic or otherwise) but it also makes you less trusting of others who genuinely want to help you. When someone offers to help you, you will be more likely to push them away because you don't want to give them something to hold over you later. As someone who has gone through this..... And is honestly still trapped by it..... Its not a pleasant place to be
i kinda use the hot and cold but to keep my self safe. i have a friend who i used to be rlly close with but they started ignoring me when they were with their other friends and used to treat me rlly oddly at times and it used to make me feel bad. so since then i started being tht way to them and others too. at times youll see me so open and talkative but then i suddenly get all cold and ignore them. a lot has hapened tbh its not only their fault but also mine some way or the other but for now im trying my best to find solutions to counter these type of things T-T
Most of the friends and partners I've had have done literally every single one of these.
Dark Manipulation signs:
1) You have red eyes & laugh maniacally while on L's grave.
yes
I came here to see if I myself am guilty of doing any of these tactics and I’ll say that I have unfortunately and whenever I do realize I’ve done these, it hurts me emotionally and I end up feeling so guilty. It’s not something I am proud of at all and believe me I hate it.
And worse is when those you loved think you are careless and intend to hurt them when in actuality you truly don’t. And in turn that also adds a blow to your own feelings of self worth in life because all you want is assurance from them that you won’t leave them because you yourself have attachment issues. A fear that even they won’t understand the internal pain you have built up inside you unintentionally.
This is me. And I am heavily ashamed of it and I now think in my mind I’m not worthy of love and I don’t want love because I’m terrified that I’ll end up hurting them.
They may say,
“You traumatized me”
Well I traumatized myself because of the what ive done to you. And me being an over thinker, thinks that THEY don’t believe me when I say that to them. 💔
I hate myself for all the pain I’ve caused to those I once loved and thought the world of.
The feeling that I am a bad person circles my mind everyday.
I wish people would understand that I do care even if my seemingly malicious actions say otherwise 🥺
Especially since I’m autistic it’s also hard for me to articulate my thoughts into words or even communicate effectively.
It's kinda funny to me that I both encountered and used all of this myself. Although I had no bad intentions, this was more like subconscious thing, and I actually felt sick when recognised all of this tactics, since I still trying to recover from encountering them in the first place.
Hope everyone I used it on would forgive me.
@Psych2GO plz can u make a video about how to protect ourselves from these manipulators