If He's Not Ready For A Committed Relationship Or Making You A Priority, Do These 5 Things...

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  • @HelenaHartCoaching
    @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +14

    If you want to learn the secrets to inspiring a man’s love, devotion and commitment, get my FREE "3 Keys To Attract The Man You Want" report and audio training here: helenahartcoaching.com/
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  • @ananeixon
    @ananeixon 3 роки тому +99

    Just walking away from him now. After 3 months dating he is not really committing to the level I want and need… I agree with Tom that is not a label but a mutual desire that should flow easily and effortlessly… once one of the members starts to feel stuck and you already had a good conversation about it and the other member doesn’t want to put the time there… makes no sense to continue extending the situation. Better to get out of there and set you free. It is sad and hard but it is also loving yourself 🥰

    • @tamarabrinton2543
      @tamarabrinton2543 3 роки тому

      I can’t do that :( I’m in love 😻

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому

      Absolutely, thanks for sharing your experience and insights here! 💕

    • @kimgordon3695
      @kimgordon3695 3 роки тому

      Mutual 💝

    • @TheDaniMilan
      @TheDaniMilan 2 роки тому

      This is sooo true omg! If a man truly loves you he will SHOW UP!

    • @louisedaly1048
      @louisedaly1048 2 роки тому

      @@tamarabrinton2543 I think you need to take the rose tinted glasses off

  • @CrystalPhoenix1979
    @CrystalPhoenix1979 3 роки тому +68

    Yes, always believe him if he says he isn’t ready for a commitment. Rather not with you or just period, trying to make him commit will backfire. Just let it go.

  • @skycutie77
    @skycutie77 3 роки тому +117

    Love this best thing to do is walk away instead of confusion not worth the stress not one bit! I like the masculine input on your videos good to see you working with hubby 💖

    • @skycutie77
      @skycutie77 3 роки тому +5

      @@chukwumacharles3105 who ever said I wanted him back especially when my original comments says better off walking away Lol you trippin

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +4

      Thanks Skycutie, I’m glad you enjoyed the video! 💕

    • @lisaariottiart
      @lisaariottiart 3 роки тому +2

      wish I walked away from day no minute 1 .

    • @kimgordon3695
      @kimgordon3695 3 роки тому +1

      What they DO 90% of the Time...

    • @kimgordon3695
      @kimgordon3695 3 роки тому

      5:20

  • @sunshinedayz7032
    @sunshinedayz7032 3 роки тому +64

    Love the point at 0:48-1:35
    Totally makes sense!! Better to stay out of a commitment, than to stay committed to a man that really won't step up and truly commit. It is a trap for a woman, because we are only dating them, but they are still out hunting! Been there! I wish I had left that situation earlier, but better late than never! I will never go exclusive until I am engaged.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +1

      I’m glad that resonated with you! Thanks for sharing your experience here. 💞

    • @SanctifiedLady
      @SanctifiedLady 2 роки тому +1

      That’s sad reality

  • @janette9872
    @janette9872 3 роки тому +18

    I keep remembering the song that goes, “I can’t make you love me if you don’t.” Facts!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому

      Thanks for sharing, Janette! 💕

    • @kimgordon3695
      @kimgordon3695 3 роки тому +1

      Bonnie Rait 🎶

    • @janette9872
      @janette9872 3 роки тому +2

      @@kimgordon3695 yeah. cant make his heart feel something it dont. its a powerful reminder/lesson. just like some guy who was into you and maybe he was nice and attractive... if you werent into him for whatever reason, he just didn't make you curious about him at all... there was little he could do to change that... just not that into him. if theyre not into you, well its hard to accept if you like them a lot. but number 1 criteria for a man to be with me is he was to want me... if he doesnt want me... then he is respectfully disqualified from playing... not that he would care... since he didn't want me! lmao. thanks for coming to my ted talk.

  • @acd1168
    @acd1168 3 роки тому +11

    For me, it is enough to know there are good men like Tom that exist. It makes me more patient.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +1

      I’m happy to hear that, thanks for sharing! Here are a few more videos we’ve recorded together if you’d like to check them out: ua-cam.com/video/wahtZXjdFeA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/i_b34SGZUcg/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/rnXoKSMAToA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/l-8gcLyphow/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/YDMpyWkYTYM/v-deo.html.

  • @Grace.Margate
    @Grace.Margate 3 роки тому +12

    I love the 2 of you together. Having him on with you adds much!

  • @smita1993
    @smita1993 3 роки тому +5

    He is continuously watching Helena😁😁😁
    Aww💙💙

  • @womenwhodate7643
    @womenwhodate7643 3 роки тому +10

    I'm the type of person who stays committed as long as he does the same. Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes, but no plans... Great content, super valuable! ❤️

  • @proudprincess4945
    @proudprincess4945 3 роки тому +20

    Thank you..av been in this situation of confusion since our relationship started almost 2yrs back, he says he loves me n wants to marry me...but the time n care is too little i cant settle for, i feel n believe if am not happy now, i will be more unhappier later

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +1

      You’re welcome! Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many people can relate. ❤️

  • @AndiPandi1979
    @AndiPandi1979 2 роки тому +8

    Hi Helena and Tom, listening to this touched my heart. For the last 2.5 years I had chosen to abstain..I didn't have intimacy with any man, I didn't even date, or kiss a man. I was saving myself for someone special. Then over the summer I met someone who told me he loved me, wanted to marry me, wanted to blend our families, we were even looking at homes to buy together. He wanted exclusivity. He called and texted all day for months. He is the owner of a construction company in Golden Colorado, so had flexibility with communicating whenever he wanted. I believed him with my whole heart. However, two weeks ago I gave myself to him fully, and then he treated me like a one night stand. The last 14 days have been so painful for my heart. I consider myself a smart woman with a lot of love to give and a lot to offer a man..but wow, was I ever fooled by him. He pursued me hardcore and I really believed he was my future husband. Why would a man put so much energy into a woman, only to crush her heart after taking something so precious from her? I feel so used.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  2 роки тому +2

      So sorry to hear you just went through this. ❤️ These videos might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/sHR3dJ8QiLA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/9UiCZsNJzno/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/ZV694eBvk60/v-deo.html.

    • @lunallena5594
      @lunallena5594 Рік тому +1

      A friend of mine told me "rejection is protection." I say that to myself, especially as I've met better men after relationships have gone south.

    • @latashalewis873
      @latashalewis873 Рік тому +1

      I'm so sorry.💔💔💔💔

    • @mariejeanne2405
      @mariejeanne2405 6 місяців тому +1

      What an asshole… Well, he lost someone special, whereas you didn’t. You didn’t loose a thing! You get to learn and to grow from this experience. But more importantly, you get to fall in love again… ❤ By the way, you don’t need to forgive him AT ALL. It’ okay to be frustrated and to hate him. And it’s precisely that hate that will protect you from him, forever. He will never get to touch you nor to hurt you again.

    • @Tita-n1z
      @Tita-n1z 5 місяців тому

      How do you know he used you? I don’t think a man would go that far just to sleep with you. Your. Smart woman and have good instincts. Pray my friend and ask God for guidance and pray that what you’re saying is not true.

  • @arnelabih1845
    @arnelabih1845 3 роки тому +6

    I told myself this time I definitely am NOT getting played nor cheated on so now I watch and analyze every little thing. I've also started vision boards and letters to feed myself positive things. I am definitely saving myself for marriage going on 4th year and NOT backing down these days some men scare me all they talk about is physical relationship where I dislike that and TURNS me off makes me want to fly away. I also hate the fact being IGNORED he has not replied at all since yesterday BUT has been online this pushes me away and hate it where I am thinking backing out and replacing him have to protect myself and my 💕.

  • @kristenmoonrise
    @kristenmoonrise 3 роки тому +20

    Yes it's so important to not get stuck! Helena, I've always enjoyed your channel and it's really amazing that you have Tom who shares his perspective as well! 💖

  • @aliangel2765
    @aliangel2765 3 роки тому +5

    Idk how often he tells you this.. He is so proud of your confidence & admires the way you shine.. you two glow so bright together & help many achieve love. Not an easy task.. beautiful Helena, your heart is pure.. appreciate you soul siSTAR👏🙌😇🤗

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much, Ali Angel! He tells me that all the time, he’s definitely my #1 supporter! ❤️

    • @aliangel2765
      @aliangel2765 3 роки тому +1

      I manifested my purrrrfect mate, from you guys example.. grateful & appreciate you both!! Blessings 😇👽💜🤗

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +2

      I’m so happy to hear that, thanks for sharing! 💞

  • @suzi9913
    @suzi9913 3 роки тому +8

    Loved this-thanks for sharing Helena & Tom. 6 years in, and it's not working like it should, so it's best to move on-that's clarity! No more confusion!

  • @tanjao.4312
    @tanjao.4312 3 роки тому +6

    Wow so well said! Like if we desire commitment from a place of insecurity is not the right place to come from

  • @LisaGemini
    @LisaGemini 3 роки тому +9

    It's great to get Tom's perspective in your videos, Helena. You two are such an attractive couple. That color top looks wonderful on you. I think actions should always speak louder than words; a man shows you where he stands with his solid actions. And nothing a woman can say or do can make him more interested in commitment. It should, like Tom says, come naturally. Good video!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +1

      Absolutely - thanks for sharing your insights here, Lisa! 💞

  • @captainswan3079
    @captainswan3079 3 роки тому +15

    I needed to hear this. 🙏 Dealing with a hot and cold guy. Thank you Helena! Your channel is underrated by far.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +2

      You’re welcome! These videos might also be helpful for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/Q9oHsr6RdP8/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/it3kv3I7bCU/v-deo.html.

    • @captainswan3079
      @captainswan3079 3 роки тому +1

      @@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you bunches!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +2

      You’re welcome! ❤️

  • @lerniepvergera9474
    @lerniepvergera9474 3 роки тому +3

    Wow love to see you both Helena and Tom working together to change people "s lives for thr better..Tom is watching you always seems he is so much in love with you. .You're so beautiful..

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much! ❤️ Here’s our latest video and livestream we recorded together if you’d like to check them out: ua-cam.com/video/B51Hi5SBhaE/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/sqRGLYflfdc/v-deo.html.

  • @mathmommy
    @mathmommy 3 роки тому +9

    They way he looks at you. Wow……

  • @oliveb6318
    @oliveb6318 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you so much Helen for coming back and re explaining what is being said by Tom, briefly and in a simple language for me to understand. I love it

  • @jodearson310
    @jodearson310 2 роки тому +2

    This is brilliant advice. I have total commitment but feel insecure that we are not married and I have made it mean so much when the foundation is solid

  • @jcanangel
    @jcanangel 3 роки тому +13

    Listen Tom... Where can I buy your course/coaching😁. You are just so intuitive and perceptive and the delivery is so understandable. Thank you so much for your golden perspective. Thanks Helena for bringing him on! 💕💕

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +3

      You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed this! I tell him the same thing, maybe we’ll do a course together someday! 💞

  • @Argeandream1
    @Argeandream1 3 роки тому +3

    It's great you are doing these videos as a couple! It's nice having a male perspective and Tom did a great job!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you! Here are a few more videos we’ve recorded together if anyone would like to check them out: ua-cam.com/video/l-8gcLyphow/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/i_b34SGZUcg/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/wahtZXjdFeA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/rnXoKSMAToA/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/YDMpyWkYTYM/v-deo.html.

  • @archanasrivastava7136
    @archanasrivastava7136 3 роки тому +5

    Oh man ! I adore the way Tom keeps looking at you during the whole conversation 🥰🤗

  • @kimmichaud4064
    @kimmichaud4064 3 роки тому +3

    Wow that's mind blowing I've told him I want a commitment even though he's hot and cold which is giving him permission to be hot and cold never again !!!!!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +2

      Thanks for sharing your experience here! Yes, that’s exactly what we’re talking about in this video. These ones might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/Q9oHsr6RdP8/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/ZlXm4QynpFM/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/it3kv3I7bCU/v-deo.html.

  • @lyrawhite2813
    @lyrawhite2813 3 роки тому +4

    It’s so cute to see you sharing this together 💗

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +2

      Thanks Lyra! Here are a few more videos we’ve recorded together if you’d like to check them out: ua-cam.com/video/wahtZXjdFeA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/i_b34SGZUcg/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/rnXoKSMAToA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/l-8gcLyphow/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/YDMpyWkYTYM/v-deo.html.

  • @electricladyland4421
    @electricladyland4421 2 роки тому +3

    y’all are perfect together❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @speakingofdrB
    @speakingofdrB 3 роки тому +9

    You guys are so awesome. I just love you both. Bless you to infiniti!!!!

  • @staceywilliams1624
    @staceywilliams1624 2 місяці тому

    1. What is truly for you will bring you clarity not confusion.
    2. Pay attention to what he’s doing the vast majority of the time. Ask yourself if that is something that you want to further invest and commit to.
    3. Ask for clarity. It won’t scare the right man off.
    4. Pay attention to both his words and his actions. Take the one you want to hear/see the least as being the most truthful.
    5. Focus on the connection not the label.
    Thank you. 🙏🏾 Y’all are saving the world. 🌏Well mine at least. ❤️

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  2 місяці тому +1

      You’re very welcome! 💗 These videos we recorded together might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/_D37APGOy8Y/v-deo.htmlsi=5agkE8eTl74EAOjA, ua-cam.com/video/upkuvwrli7A/v-deo.htmlsi=VeHb6Upgr9HTCv6i, ua-cam.com/video/JMf0aKfqCBs/v-deo.htmlsi=OfEDV8-210Q_XrE-, ua-cam.com/video/d0Um3WynLrc/v-deo.htmlsi=IsJsUaoxg4XGF-Bz and ua-cam.com/video/06wtnc7Iiog/v-deo.htmlsi=-9GOej7M0jdT6wC3.

  • @fitforfreelance
    @fitforfreelance 2 роки тому +3

    I agree with this and find the perspective so valuable. My partner wanted to be exclusive and it felt like a big decision, though I wasn't seeing partnership in the relationship I wanted. It felt like she just wanted the label because her friend just got engaged

  • @aladyindeed2604
    @aladyindeed2604 3 роки тому +3

    Thanks so much for having your husband join you every now and again. I love it.💗y’all are awesome

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +2

      You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed this! Here are a few more videos we’ve recorded together if you’d like to check them out: ua-cam.com/video/wahtZXjdFeA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/i_b34SGZUcg/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/rnXoKSMAToA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/l-8gcLyphow/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/YDMpyWkYTYM/v-deo.html.

  • @ASheeLee74
    @ASheeLee74 2 роки тому +1

    You guys should talk about men in relationships and how they are avoidant and afraid of commitment.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks for the suggestion, Ashley! Statistics actually show that most men are not avoidant or afraid of commitment. So if those are the only kinds of men you’re attracting (or attracted TO), that’s definitely something to take a look at. These videos might be helpful (especially the second one): ua-cam.com/video/tLW_jfx1H4U/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/wykTZL1oOg4/v-deo.html.

  • @kathrynnewton8721
    @kathrynnewton8721 3 роки тому +2

    So good! I wish he would tell me! Don’t want to walk away and cause him more grief during the grief course but suspect it’s deeper than his grief ( it’s been 4 yrs since his wife died) - suspect he may be a narcissist, though hate to put labels on people.

    • @kimgordon3695
      @kimgordon3695 3 роки тому

      Trust your gut

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +1

      This podcast episode I recently recorded on how to tell if someone is a narcissist might be helpful - you can listen to it on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/3NE34U7nic4fZqFSvKVAOQ?si=9adD4slSRPCnSAXdfo-UZg&dl_branch=1
      …or on Apple Podcasts here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000537158156

  • @rlrlrlrlrl0
    @rlrlrlrlrl0 Рік тому +1

    If you are both on the same page without labels just let if flow, don't force something just to have a label on it

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Рік тому +1

      Yes, we talked more about that in this episode: ua-cam.com/video/06wtnc7Iiog/v-deo.html

  • @FreePalestine123-b1x
    @FreePalestine123-b1x 3 роки тому +3

    Such valuable insights here, thank you so much for sharing Helena and Tom 🙏 💖

  • @dr.arunimarohatgiofficial4189
    @dr.arunimarohatgiofficial4189 2 роки тому +2

    Great so accurate after a situation ive dealt with. Cudnt understand these things earlier. Now i am better off. Glad i took the right decision.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  2 роки тому +2

      Thank you, I’m happy to hear that! Our latest video should also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/_fiTUm_DCAw/v-deo.html

  • @jacklinekansiime1903
    @jacklinekansiime1903 3 роки тому +3

    Helen I love your words, they help ladies to find real men

  • @kimgordon3695
    @kimgordon3695 3 роки тому +2

    Often Our connection is projected by our desire (Take your time! ) 9:00 Put those rose coloured glasses down.

  • @kaygmrs
    @kaygmrs 3 роки тому +13

    i appreciate you two, going through a breakup that's going harder than i expected... can't wait to meet my special someone one day

    • @taltonl7271
      @taltonl7271 3 роки тому +2

      I'm going through the same. It hurts so bad I don't know how I'm going to get through it! I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers ❤️.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +2

      Lots of love to you both! These videos might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/9UiCZsNJzno/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/sHR3dJ8QiLA/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/ZV694eBvk60/v-deo.html.

  • @claricesmith9528
    @claricesmith9528 3 роки тому +6

    You look beautiful together❤🙂 Thank you

  • @sarahheinrichs1748
    @sarahheinrichs1748 3 роки тому +2

    This is totally awesome ! Team work Love It 🙌🙌

  • @colleenmariebeautiful1897
    @colleenmariebeautiful1897 3 роки тому +3

    This Content was so Helpful to me!
    Thank You Both~💕

  • @Sparksflymich
    @Sparksflymich Рік тому +1

    love everything about this vid!!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Рік тому +1

      Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜 These episodes we recorded together might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/_D37APGOy8Y/v-deo.htmlsi=Z6CCiMqMcInH7tTW, ua-cam.com/video/upkuvwrli7A/v-deo.htmlsi=HTYJGC2GWhKHkrH5 and ua-cam.com/video/06wtnc7Iiog/v-deo.htmlsi=1CSAm1N8zpbfL5pl.

  • @JessicaLTL
    @JessicaLTL 3 роки тому +4

    Needed to hear this, im exactly at this point. Not sure what to do next.

    • @sunshinedayz7032
      @sunshinedayz7032 3 роки тому +3

      I was there too! I walked away. I said "we want different things"
      He said, "I see" and we went our separate ways. I am so happy being free to find a man that will be ready to commit.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +2

      Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💕

  • @eniko7698
    @eniko7698 2 роки тому +2

    Helena, do you sing? I love your voice! And I love how your husband looks at you 😍 and, obviously I really like the content too. Although it is hard: I have changed so much, but it takes time to get used to this change in relationship style or even life style.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  2 роки тому +2

      Thank you! Our latest short video and livestream might also be helpful - here are the links if you’d like to check them out: ua-cam.com/video/_fiTUm_DCAw/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/sqRGLYflfdc/v-deo.html.

  • @TreasureSeasons
    @TreasureSeasons 2 роки тому +2

    Thanks, 💞 . You two are a beautiful couple.

  • @charushanmugam2835
    @charushanmugam2835 2 роки тому +2

    Yes it's so true Halena...

  • @arnelabih1845
    @arnelabih1845 3 роки тому +3

    Yesssss! So needed to hear this one thank you.👌😊

  • @SanctifiedLady
    @SanctifiedLady 2 роки тому +1

    I’m sorry to say this but I love your husband!!! Best add ever

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  2 роки тому

      I’m happy to hear that! I just published a new video that we recorded together: ua-cam.com/video/d0Um3WynLrc/v-deo.html …and here’s a video he recorded on his own that should also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/qLadyeiHCZg/v-deo.html.

  • @sunshinedayz7032
    @sunshinedayz7032 3 роки тому +2

    Great video! Very interesting and helpful!
    💥

  • @kathrynnewton8721
    @kathrynnewton8721 3 роки тому +2

    Yes been seeing a widower for six months and is vacillates from familiar to formal - very mixed messages, very painful. Giving him space to do a grieving course but not sure if there is a future yet I still care for him in his own woundedness…..

  • @lindatillman5761
    @lindatillman5761 3 роки тому +3

    Thanks guys!

  • @zoekessler4015
    @zoekessler4015 3 роки тому +2

    This video is so helpful thank you

  • @chrissyw.7500
    @chrissyw.7500 3 роки тому +1

    My man moved across country to be with me after 1 year of long distance dating. Before he had even gotten here he had proposed to me. 9 months after moving in together he told me he wasnt in love with me any more and broke up with me. Now we are stuck in my place together and I cant physically give him space. We seem to be getting along much better as friends but my heart is still broken and every time were together all I can do is picture the day when he is gone.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +1

      So sorry to hear you’re going through this right now, Chrissy. These videos might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/PJ--fqxQfC0/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/9UiCZsNJzno/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/ZV694eBvk60/v-deo.html.

  • @annarygalski4026
    @annarygalski4026 3 роки тому +4

    In a relationship like that now! I’m 60 he’s 57…. Been together 3 yrs. do not live together…and the only time he talks about committing is when I’m ready to walk away. I’ve got a job offer in another state I’m truly considering! I told him I don’t want a long distance relationship so if I take the job we should def end things. He THEN asked me to move in with him but says he will be traveling a lot and he’s not sure ILL be happy with that 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ I know only excuses…. I love him but don’t think he will ever truly be ready to commit….. should I move on?? I think I’m finally ready 🤷‍♀️

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +2

      Thanks for sharing your experience here, Anna! The next video I’m going to publish will actually be on how to know when it’s time to move on. In the meantime, this podcast episode should be helpful - you can listen to it on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/4X0QHejFTKLJAiXhPR9OdY?si=T6PjQ5rXQfmjDD-jsLOMsg&dl_branch=1
      …or on Apple Podcasts here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000535607362

    • @ChildrenofthelivingGod
      @ChildrenofthelivingGod 3 роки тому +2

      Put yourself first!

    • @violetcrush8867
      @violetcrush8867 3 роки тому +2

      I think you should really walk out on him this time and choose yourself first. Hugs

    • @elmmhooud94
      @elmmhooud94 3 роки тому +2

      Your self first 🥇

    • @motherhoodsbeauty9279
      @motherhoodsbeauty9279 Рік тому

      The guy is too old to not be ready to commit. His excuse is so lame. Please leave him and be someone who ready to commit.

  • @coffeematchandlattes
    @coffeematchandlattes 3 роки тому +5

    Great video

  • @theonejaynewallace296
    @theonejaynewallace296 3 роки тому +2

    @Helene hart, your husband mentioned nr 4... My question is, if he says that to you but he does settle with someone else...and he says that he loves that person.. What does that mean? Does it mean that he was just playing around with you? But why do they then go with someone else and not with you (me)? I know that it might be because he is not aligned with what I want in a relationship.. and the universe will send me someone who is aligned. It just still sucks that their actions was so cool towards you(like a messenger) but then they chose someone else and not you... Do you have a video on this already? God bless you for always doing these videos on time. Just when I needed them. The universe keeps on sending signals to me. Its very nice.

    • @oliveb6318
      @oliveb6318 3 роки тому +2

      He was playing you. He had you as a rebound until he found the one. He is a piece of ****. Move on with your life and focus only on yourself, met life works it course and send you someone worthy

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +1

      In my opinion, he just wasn’t that into you or “feeling it” for you the way that he was for her. It’s a very clear sign that he’s not the right man for you - so the faster you can accept that and move on, the better! These are the videos I’d recommend for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/sHR3dJ8QiLA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/9UiCZsNJzno/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/ZV694eBvk60/v-deo.html.

  • @Empress4U
    @Empress4U 3 роки тому +2

    Where can I get more information on how to tap into my feminine energy? I feel this is my next step

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +1

      I have hundreds of videos on my UA-cam channel about feminine energy - here’s the playlist if you’d like to check it out: ua-cam.com/play/PLfrD0nnKRylSrGjt0EopOLiv6OhC8UuZE.html
      You can also listen to my “Master Your Magnetism” podcast on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/show/2sQpQcwuijinXm5y8G06O3
      …or on Apple Podcasts here (feel free to leave me a review!): podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214

  • @lomalo2702
    @lomalo2702 2 роки тому +2

    After almost three years with a ‘mature’ man who has had two failed marriages, he can’t commit to living together or getting married. He’s a great man but lives a distance away and seems content with his life and our long-distance relationship. Finding a good partner later in life isn’t easy so I’m hesitant to end things but can’t seem to get him to clarify his feelings etc. Advice?

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  2 роки тому +3

      Hi Lori, these videos might be helpful for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/HRvJEJ6ygE8/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/CuWhh-DnLJY/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/qLadyeiHCZg/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/jqda97uPRqI/v-deo.html.

  • @kimgordon3695
    @kimgordon3695 3 роки тому +1

    Would love to see a date nite movie

  • @radicalhonesty3628
    @radicalhonesty3628 2 роки тому +1

    trying to focus on the video
    and it's so hard.
    I just can't. too many thoughts
    and feelings in me.
    I've fallen in a trap again. a terrible horrible painful awful trap.
    falling for yet again: another
    unavailable person.
    dear God, why do I do this to myself?
    I'm old now and I've never ever had love.
    never ever have I been in a real romantic relationship...
    the pain of this is so horrific:
    it truly rapes my soul.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  2 роки тому +2

      This is definitely not what love is supposed to feel like! These are the videos I’d recommend for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/tLW_jfx1H4U/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/wykTZL1oOg4/v-deo.html.

  • @sadbra7595
    @sadbra7595 3 роки тому +5

    Love you teacher

  • @evonnei9319
    @evonnei9319 3 роки тому +4

    You guys are soooo cute together. :)

  • @jinpei9903
    @jinpei9903 3 роки тому +2

    So true congratulation Helena

  • @marilyna427
    @marilyna427 3 роки тому +2

    Excellent 👌🏻🎯 TYVM 🌹💫🌟🪶

  • @helenlovell8587
    @helenlovell8587 3 роки тому +2

    You’re such a beautiful couple 😍

  • @alisonquadros6674
    @alisonquadros6674 2 роки тому +1

    Yess !! Me ! All the time, Help

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  2 роки тому +1

      Hi Alison, these videos might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/_fiTUm_DCAw/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/aHDHiOJALjc/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/l-8gcLyphow/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/VcjFqtaGj3Y/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/fzyjMlOD3oc/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/qLadyeiHCZg/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/sqRGLYflfdc/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/rnXoKSMAToA/v-deo.html.

  • @lovepositivity2632
    @lovepositivity2632 3 роки тому +3

    Guys it's like I'm a love addict I always want someone to dream about n i stick to some Unavailable guy n I've been obsessing over a guy since years I donno how to get rid of this Love addiction. Only now I realised it's love addiction n not obsession on him pls help I'm going crazy I want to stop this behaviour of mine

    • @alejandramena1942
      @alejandramena1942 3 роки тому +2

      I think you feel lonely that you need to hold to some one that happen to me and it was me an no one else ..i started taking classes and focousing in myself ..go join a yoga class or the gym it truely halps a lot

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +1

      These videos should be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/D9nqBo2dTDg/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/IADc64qhmJs/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/ZlXm4QynpFM/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/it3kv3I7bCU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/eUXIXVqOt-E/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/4SBxUGRBFfI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/NNjJCM5Fz0s/v-deo.html.

  • @zoekessler4015
    @zoekessler4015 3 роки тому +1

    I wish I had watched this days ago! I just gave him two weeks to figure out what he wants after he came back to reconnect with me…but Ive been clear with him that I know what I want. Now I feel like I messed up 😓

    • @kaoshi_kutie
      @kaoshi_kutie 3 роки тому

      If he is the right person , it will work out ❤️

  • @archanasrivastava7136
    @archanasrivastava7136 3 роки тому +1

    I have a question about my relationship , how can I contact you, I desperately need your help. TIA . Love!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +2

      I actually don’t do private coaching anymore, but you can get your personal questions answered by my top coaches here: feminineenchantment.com …or if you’re looking for private coaching, feel free to send an email to HelenaHartCoaching@gmail.com and my assistant can help refer you to someone who specializes in your situation. ❤️

  • @dnibcn93
    @dnibcn93 Рік тому

    A guy said he wanted to try but was inconsistent with contacting me. Said he’d call me at 7 but then texted me at 9 pm… confused.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Рік тому +1

      This video should help give you some clarity: ua-cam.com/video/t0Mfw4tbsew/v-deo.html

  • @fbmbassist
    @fbmbassist 3 роки тому +2

    I wonder if this would be different with older men who have been married before. Because then they have baggage from previous relationships and might be scared of marriage for that reason. Adrienne talks about how things "change" over the age of 40, so I'd be curious what you and she agree or disagree on.

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +1

      These videos should help give you some clarity: ua-cam.com/video/kKcvjOjso5I/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/tvWCTeZDsX8/v-deo.html.

    • @violetcrush8867
      @violetcrush8867 3 роки тому

      Hi 👋 I am now currently in a relationship with a man who is finalizing his divorce and fighting the custody of his kids. Dealing with the courts, financial issues and now he said he is going tru midlife crisis. He wants to be in an open relationship, he said he wants to go hunting, the only thing stopping him he said is because he was afraid to lose me but also said that he doesn’t want to remarry again. I can tell you that it’s so hard and sometimes I don’t know where I stand in his life and yet I am still here. Talking to myself and trying to tell myself to leave… but it’s easier said than done. I also need help as I wish to have my own family and get married. But I don’t see this happening with this guy and maybe never…

    • @Argeandream1
      @Argeandream1 3 роки тому +1

      You can get married and have a family of your own if you continue to work towards it, but maybe not with the current guy, especially as he's still untangling from the previous relationship, he isn't going to be ready to commit to a new one.
      Believe him when he says he doesn't want to get married again. I've learned the hard way to believe someone when they say they don't want to get married, or dont want a commitment.
      You have to have the courage to pursue the kind of relationship you want. Clear the way to make space for the guy who will commit to you and marry you to come into your life. If you hold onto the old, you won't have space for the new. Sometimes you have to love and respect yourself enough to say, "Thank you, it's been great, but this isn't going to work for me and I need to move on. I wish you the best."
      If you keep working on yourself and working toward the relationship you want, it will happen, it just takes time and faith.
      Wishing you the best, and I hope you find the man who deserves to be with you and who will love, cherish and commit to spending a wonderful life with you.

    • @violetcrush8867
      @violetcrush8867 3 роки тому

      @@Argeandream1 thank you so much for taking your time to write a very long advice. I kept going back to reread what you wrote. And still contemplating on holding on and letting go. You are so right tho…

  • @vanessaary_pessoal2853
    @vanessaary_pessoal2853 3 роки тому +1

    What about a situation when Im best friend of my ex boyfriend....we talk every single day , we help each other and want to know everything about each other... We care, we share...its amazing....but he says we should only be friends, and dont want to commit. (And I know he is always there for me)...

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +2

      This is exactly what we talked about in the video - if he’s flat-out telling you that he doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship, it’s important to BELIEVE him. 💙

  • @arnelabih1845
    @arnelabih1845 3 роки тому +1

    When a man tells me let it just be when I ask him what is he seeking for? What does this mean?

  • @elskar1
    @elskar1 3 роки тому +1

    I really need help with my relationship with an unavailable man since
    7 years ( too much to write here but I’d love to chat with you about a way forward) before I go insane!🙏

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +2

      I don’t do private coaching anymore, but you can get your personal questions answered by my top coaches here: feminineenchantment.com

  • @msBbee-oq7im
    @msBbee-oq7im 2 роки тому

    I have been dating a guy for 3 months. He told me at the beginning that he was not thinking of getting married but that it could change in the future. He leans forward in all the ways he should but he has been hurt deeply by his parents and says he doesn't see any people who are happily married. His brother is happily married. I am not sure what to do here. Yes we are in a relationship only with each other. He asked that early on. Please help!!

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  2 роки тому +2

      It’s important to BELIEVE him when he says that he doesn’t want to get married, and decide from there whether or not this relationship is in alignment with what you truly want. That being said, someone asked a similar question in this podcast episode - you can listen to it on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/4zFfA2Py2OJafnmf3zaXRE?si=mDqcpr2YTIOOl5R7otKiFw
      …or on Apple Podcasts here (feel free to leave me a review!): podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000544344711

  • @marilyna427
    @marilyna427 3 роки тому +1

    Your a great couple 💕

  • @yongkiamirson2376
    @yongkiamirson2376 3 роки тому

    Nb Comm It..

  • @JDtv888
    @JDtv888 3 роки тому

    During watch this video I see 888 Whts mean that ?

  • @motherhoodsbeauty9279
    @motherhoodsbeauty9279 Рік тому

    It’s weird that he start to treat me nicer after I tell him we need to call it off if he gonna act like asshole and make me feel unloved. I think it’s wrong for me to just feel like a girlfriend for the very first time after we date for 4 and half years. It seems like our relationship is dead since the first year when we get into relationship

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  Рік тому +2

      If the dynamic was “off” at the beginning, it’s important to pay attention to that. We talked more about that in this video: ua-cam.com/video/_D37APGOy8Y/v-deo.html

  • @MissPinkapples
    @MissPinkapples 2 роки тому

    So continue without a title? It’s been a year and he have a great connection but he doesn’t want to commit 😢

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  2 роки тому +2

      Definitely not! If he doesn’t want to commit after a year (and that’s what YOU want), I would move on. These videos might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/1obo_qVEIHs/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/JMf0aKfqCBs/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/QGkBi0mjsCA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7FBAsHoLSOA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/VwghHjLnABA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/HRvJEJ6ygE8/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/fzyjMlOD3oc/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/3gLkzJXysoA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/Sx4ttEKULOI/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/l-8gcLyphow/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_jARxknc160/v-deo.html.

  • @mandycoco100
    @mandycoco100 3 роки тому

    It been 2years going out I ask him let's committe but he said I want to focus in work not in any relationship and then he said I don't have feeling for anybody. What should I do now I feel so bad

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +3

      This is exactly what we talked about in the video - he’s flat-out telling you that he doesn’t want to be in a committed relationship. If it were me, I would move on. 💜

    • @mandycoco100
      @mandycoco100 3 роки тому

      @@HelenaHartCoachingthank you for the reply but I am feeling hard to move on, should I tell him one last time to think about again before I move on:(

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +2

      In my opinion, he already told you as clearly as he possibly can - but I’d get in touch with what feels like the best decision for YOU and follow your intuition. You can also get your personal questions answered by my top coaches here if you’d like some personalized support: feminineenchantment.com

    • @mandycoco100
      @mandycoco100 3 роки тому

      @@HelenaHartCoachingokay but can i get a chance to talk to you one and one

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +1

      I don’t do private coaching anymore, but you can get your personal questions answered by my top coaches here if you’d like some help with this or anything else: feminineenchantment.com

  • @jenniferma
    @jenniferma 3 роки тому +9

    He is hot and cold with me then he vanishes and I am so done with him.

    • @SK-no2pp
      @SK-no2pp 3 роки тому +6

      Look up attachment styles, he’s probably fearful avoidant or dismissive avoidant. Essentially he’s not fully emotionally available

    • @SK-no2pp
      @SK-no2pp 3 роки тому +1

      @@chlariepeace3093 is he in therapy or treatment?

  • @anngraviano8490
    @anngraviano8490 3 роки тому +3

    I don’t understand this man chase me for two years I gave him six months ago did everything in his power he lives in Virginia I’m in New York he’s really wealthy which is not important but now he turned the tables any I know he entertains other woman I figured that out now it’s just tells me I’m desperate and it’s like you don’t show me no attention no more

    • @incrediblejasmine21
      @incrediblejasmine21 3 роки тому +8

      You probably should have not given him everything he wants before he gave you what you want.
      My suggestion is not to sleep with Man till he marry you. Have your strict boundaries with Man.

    • @NovafyT
      @NovafyT 3 роки тому +8

      Long distance relationships are hard.
      And a man needs a challenge and should keep chasing the woman. If you offer everything in the world at once he doesn’t feel the need to chase you anymore. Thats why you should take things slow.
      Another reason could be he is a player, because you live thousands of miles away you never saw this.

    • @AmberBrooklyn24
      @AmberBrooklyn24 3 роки тому +4

      If he doesn’t show you any attention, don’t show him any attention. Don’t give him everything he wants. Make him want and miss you. And if he’s entertaining other women, I would cut him off. He’s already showing you who he is. Don’t wait until you have even more feelings for him.

  • @yongkiamirson2376
    @yongkiamirson2376 3 роки тому +1

    Mrs He
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  • @teenafrench7236
    @teenafrench7236 3 роки тому +1

    How is Tom real? He is so perfect!!! You can tell he loves you sooo much too. Send me the link to your secret sauce product that you put in his food to put that love spell on him lol.
    Helena, I only watch your free UA-cam and podcast productions. I owe you so much!!! I'm still single but I have lots of hope for the future. If you ever need a contact in New Zealand for anything, anytime let me know Girl. Love you so much 🙏🌼

    • @HelenaHartCoaching
      @HelenaHartCoaching  3 роки тому +1

      You’re so sweet! My latest livestream might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/SIqxJtVuG3Q/v-deo.html (in it, I explained how you can join my podcast recordings LIVE for free and talk to me personally - I’d love to connect with you there!). ❤️

  • @yongkiamirson2376
    @yongkiamirson2376 3 роки тому

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