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NOTES: 1) Give it a timeframe 2) Set boundaries. 3) Let him work harder for you & invest in you. The man's desire to commit is not based on a woman's investing in him but based on him investing in you. Working harder to keep him will make his attraction diminish & take you for granted. 4) Keep your options open. Love yourself & put yourself first. He set the rules. He is keeping his options open. 5) You've given him the timeline. It's time for the "talk". You ask him to take some time to figure it out & you date other guys. You can't continue what you're doing. You have to really make "behavioral changes" & "detach". Implement these behaviors.
100 helps to make sure we're not feeling anxious like the world is ending on this one man. I am falling for him, but he is going through divorce and therapy. He shows great interest. However, he is scared of commitment after a messy long marriage. I am not ready to let him go, but I started opening up to others and ensuring Im not putting man who isn't sure on the pedestal 🙌🏻
Basically it all comes down to loving yourself, your worth, self worth, and knowing that you deserve someone who is totally committed to you and who is willing to invest in you. Because you are worth it ❤️
I'm done with someone who has chosen someone over me and got played like a damn fool and still acting like they are the prize I'm not waiting for her the door is open but I am not going to be here as a option. I'm done here and she played herself like a fool and lost.
@@jimtorres1523 Sometimes guys make the wrong choice for themselves. She wasn't the "right one". Many times, the breakup (or breakdown) is a blessing in disguise. Prolonging a bad relationship can do a lot of damage and it only creates a bigger break in the heart. You will know when your queen comes into your life. Remember, "If a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing." That is biblical wisdom. But the key phrase is, "When a man finds..." There are too many women getting ahead of themselves and won't give the guy a chance to do the "finding". You guys get lazy and expect the roles to reverse, forgetting you are the pursuer - not the catch. When you have things the way you want them, get yourself in the game and play it the way it should be played. If these women are running you down and showing up every time you turn around, you probably aren't going to make her your prize.
When my guy friend told me he was not ready for relationship I believed him 100% we remain good friends and I’m dating people. We are like brother/sister. I’m still looking for my one and only. Believe them when they tell you their truth and accept it. If he is not the one - your one and only is out there, you should keep looking
Make your expectations clear in the beginning. Most times you will know from the gate. I'm seeing someone who started as just a friend and when things started being more romantic, I told him exactly what I expect and where I want the situation to go. We were on the same page. When someone tells you they don't want you, don't let them have to tell you twice. Match their efforts and no more.
Yes! This! I’m still learning that them telling you they don’t want you isn’t always going to be with words but with actions! I’m starting to pay more attention.
@@leannab5868 that’s a situationship and however he tries to glorify it, it’s only good for him. Tell him to shove it, and go be single. Date if u want, don’t if u don’t want. You’ll feel muchhh better when u cut him off cold Turkey
I lived with him for 2 years and gave it my best shot. He wouldn’t commit to marriage. So I walked out on him, moved away. He found me six months later after no contact and I woudn’t speak to him. I relented and we were married in the judge’s chambers in N.Y.C.
That's how it works be the asset in his life and he knows he's better with you in it after you're gone. Congratulations on your resilience and happy ending!
@@mermaids2030 one piece of advice, just get it done. Dragging it out to plan an elaborate reception and making guest lists will not serve you. Priorities, if you know what I mean. After you are married, you can still have a lovely reception. 💖
This is so good! One thing I realized you have to be willing to walk away and let go. Love yourself, know your value and worth! Sis you are NOT common!
Thank you! 💜 Yes, I talk more about that in these videos: ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/A1RxP88Jtu8/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/GVnjg3UFYdY/v-deo.html.
What if he's still going through a divorce right now. We've been talking for 6 months now. He makes time for me eventhough he is stationed overseas. I finally got the courage to ask him where do we go from here and his reply was I don't know, I am confused. I don't want you to miss out on something great while waiting for my retarded ass. I am hurt. I don't know what to do.He even said He needs time and space. I stopped talking to him. We're still friends on facebook but he haven't messaged me for a week now. Should I block him?
I followed these steps for nearly six months with the “great non committal guy. I pleased to announce he is now a great boyfriend. The rule on keeping my own options open worked like nothing I could believe. When he saw a fellow co worker engaging with me the way we used to, and I ignored his advances. He QUICKLY decided he was ready to take things to the next level. I’m glad this info is here it serves as a great reminder for me to always allow him to chase me. Thank you, and I’m so much more confident in myself, knowing he respects my boundaries now and if he doesn’t work out.... I still have other options. Life is good.
RUN now! Do NOT waste your time or his. You both deserve to find the right person. Always believe what a man says, he will not change his mind, at least not about you.
I’m glad my videos have helped you! These ones might also be helpful for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/HRvJEJ6ygE8/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/CuWhh-DnLJY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/jqda97uPRqI/v-deo.html.
Antonio is so warm and alot more charming when talking to you , compared to how he rushes talking loud when he does solo videos. I like this side of his.
I am sooo grateful I came across this video. Was in a 23 yr marriage with a NARC… healing….discovering me again! Love yourselves & b in Self & SOUL with little ego & u will attract the right ppl & not let the dogs in anymore. Btw…more content on. Narcissistic personality disorder.. it is on the rise in both males & females. PS: My parents met the same way in Southern Italy…Mom was standing by a tree looking like Sofia Loren & my Dad couldn’t resist. Many many chaperoned dates…12 ppl had to approve. They were married 2 yrs later. 48 yr marriage. 💯💋
Yup they show their true colors. Ladies we have to use boundaries and discernment. Some do not care if they lose you. Even men who are older and more established. Age doesn't matter. Also depends on both your attachment styles. Let go let God! 🔥
Going thru the "situationship" conundrum as we speak. Long story. After about 2 years I had to tell him that I no longer was satisfied with a casual relationship. He was very resistant to any changes. I told him that while I had hoped he might want to move forward with me, I was going to "accept his no" and move forward on my own. Good grief, he sh*t a brick.
I think most good men who are relationship and marriage materials are fewer in this generation. The majority of the good men are taken. The bad ones are available and in millions. And they are causing all these headaches and heart aches. It is sad.
@@karynnpoole9217 Yeah, but watching other Women manipulating men in so many ways?... It's sort of gross!.. I know someone who recently got pregnant & had a baby to finally get a Marriage Proposal at her convenience. It still seems creepy, although it has worked, so far!!.. :/ (not sure if she really respects her new husband, but he's rolling with it?)...
And I worry about their child when she grows up!.. Sure, Mommy used you as a "pawn" to get married (& better afford Rent in an expensive area??).. They are very traditional, otherwise. It was such a "shotgun" marriage, but who can fully understand the mysteries of the heart???... And many "arranged" marriages, too, can thrive!!- :) But, now she's going for a second child (since she really wants to quit working!!)... :/ She never seems too concerned about the impact on him??.... (This may be a Southern convention, from what I've seen. Women are birthing implements, essentially.)....
I’m definitely less relationship/marriage material the more I’m in relationships. I notice girls being not themselves until I’m with them then they dramatically change who they are and I get out. If you’re saying you’re casual and then try to get serious you’re a joke
So lovely to see Dr Antonio . He was my saving when my relationship went wrong. I followed his advice and it really works. I am 64 … decided to go travel on my own … after being in this up and down relationship… and he then could not stop calling me … which he never did. I am now back with him.
I have been with this guy for 11 months. He's been so good too me. He's been working 10 hour days and I had problem with my furnace and I called him and he came right over. We see each other on weekends.
I like how doc answers the questions. He doesn't base them on theories or opinions but he base them on realistic situations that make them more of an eye-opener. So thank you.
Thank you for this! I have been going over and over in my head what to do about this guy I am in love with who treats me very well. He treats me like his girlfriend, tells me he's falling for me, talks about our future, and says he's faithful to me, but for some reason does not want the label. I don't play games and don't believe in manipulating or "tricking" anyone into making decisions. This is the most insightful (and sane, mature) advice I have been able to find! Thank you for being so thorough and realistic.
why do guys who don't want relationship but want you around they do everything 2 make you fall 4 them but when you do they don't catch you they just want friendship with benefits
Some men will do that IF you allow it because they’re getting all the benefits of a relationship without any of the strings attached. That’s why it’s important to not fall into this situation if what you want is a real relationship! This video should help give you some more clarity: ua-cam.com/video/CuWhh-DnLJY/v-deo.html
A lot of times when a woman gives her all to the man or men who DON'T deserve it, the one who DOES deserve it, gets the rough end. Patience is a virtue.
That's not true,some people have abusive mothers and they can't do anything about it. Some people are stuck into dysfunctional family but they are the strongest people you will ever meet.
I watched this a while ago, enacted the 4 steps. Last week I did Step 5, we’ve been in No Contact since. It’s been so hard ! We used to talk daily n now silence. I’m very uncomfortable in this limbo phase waiting to see if he reaches out & wants to take action. I definitely feel like he’s calling my bluff & also freaking out at same time. Thank goodness I’ve been busy which is helping a little bit, still emotional AF though. 🙏🏻🙏🏻 Let’s see if it works!
Same here, finally I got used to the silence and not think about him much.. All of a sudden he texted me merry Christmas .. now I kinda think about him a bit more... hope he won’t reach out again. Stay strong...times can heal
@@hanihamid4450 He did but for the wrong reasons. I ended up finding out he cheated on me with a coworker & was talking to 6 other women on top of that. Once I found that out, I started to let go and eventually moved on. Then I met someone & have never been happier- he never leaves me guessing & loves me the way I always wanted/needed to be loved 🥰
This has been such an eye opener and I feel so ashamed to be still in a relationship for 5 years and him being stagnant. There's definitely going to be some changes for my sake! The hell with his. 😡
Song Stress girl I feel you I am currently talking to a man who’s acting so weird he keep texting me every day but never calls or asks me on a date weird I need to cut him off.
Is his name Ryan? Breadcrumber of the century. Usually when they're inconsistent like this they're pursuing multiple people. It never gets better only worse. You're right to block him becausr it will never change.
1. Give myself a timeline 6wks -2months not talk about commitment. Have fun & Learn about the other to see if he’s really compatible for me. 2. If all his needs are met, why would he change. Stop giving so much. He Has no incentive. Set boundaries unless in exclusive relationship. 3. He’s invested in me. take me for granted so focus on me . Let him do the work . He’ll appreciate you the more he does . Effort he puts in makes him fall in love with me. His Attraction & desire grows the more he does . 4. Keep my options open . If I’m Blinded by love , I may pass opportunity to meet someone better for me. 5. If timeline reached & relationship not meeting my needs, so I think u need time to figure out. In the meantime, continue to date. Set boundaries & I must change. He’s going to call my bluff & keep the break until change bc he’s not for u if he doesn’t.
Is it bad to tell him you went away on an overnight night trip with an ex? I mean if he happens to ask what you did over the weekend? Will that push him away or attract him more?
Getting a man to commit is supposed to be easy. We woman have value and have to show that even if it feels hard! Show your worth! Let the men do the chasing .. A woman should only have to express her truth one time and let him take the lead😘
I feel like he is really telling me what to do. This is so true. I’m in this situation now that I have given everything but he still said he doesn’t want commitment
Thanks for this information. You have helped me greatly. I prayed and ask God to send me a gentleman of His choice because He knows the person better than I do. So I'm waiting for God's timing. I'm a widow has been for 9 years. I decided to try again. God bless you for helping us to know what to do.
You can move the process fast by prying god daily and ask ur man in pryers. You can try for Japji sahib path in ur daily prayers it'd very powerful. Japji sahib has been introduced in 1500 bc by gurunank dev ji
Just decided to open up an online dating profile just to see. Tired of off/on situationship going on 7 years. I’m nervous because I really did want it to work with my person but like you said, why would he if he’s getting all his needs met. Thank you for the advice. Sadly, I’ve made every mistake possible. I’ve been constant and true and it got me nowhere.
You will love online dating . It’s like being on the bachelorette. You can date 16 guys at once (if you can multitask ) pick your top 5 and filter . It’s amazing way to love forward from toxic relationships
Be a mysterious person and then I am drawn more towards the wonder it works for both of you, I would think. I think there has to be a mature level of trust and this builds a beautiful foundation. Giving each other that needed space 🥰.
Take care always, dar. I hope you are happy with yourself. I am coping with the death of my son and trying to leave guam. I am not waiting for anyone who has been prioritizing EVERYONE ELSE. I WILL NOT BE WITH ANYONE WHO I AM NOT A PRIORITY TO. DARLENE YOUR DRAMA CAUSED ME TO BE THE THIRD PARTY. I HOPE YOU ARE PROUD OF YOURSELF AND HAPPY BECAUSE MY SHIPS ARE COMMING IN AND I WILL NOT TOLERATE ANYMORE OF THIS NONESENSE!
He made me feel cared for and loved but it was only FWB. We went from close friends to just sex. He said the emotional wall was to protect him from falling for me and that it was very difficult for him to do, because I am so, "Kind, affectionate, and attractive." When he asked me if I loved him more than as a friend, I was hoping he was going to say he did too but when I said, "Yes," he totally freaked out and cut me off. Then he asked out a woman I thought was one of my best friends and closest colleagues! I have to work with her three or four nights every week! I'm going to start dating asap.
So sorry to hear you’re going through this right now, Jean. The right man definitely WON’T be afraid to fall for you or build up an emotional wall. In fact, he won’t do any of these things you mentioned here. 💜
@@danilaroche1156 absolutely it is. About six months ago we reconnected after he moved nearly 2K miles away. He said I’m his person he can talk to without fear of being judged and listed all of the ways we’re compatible. Then he cut everyone out of his life except me and his best friend. After I told him I wouldn’t leave my family and friends behind for anything less than love and he would have to be crazy about me or it wouldn’t work for either of us, he told me things he’s never told anyone else, sent me pictures of the beach near his house, and even encouraged me to apply for a nursing job just a half hour from his new place.
So sorry you took the chance to be honest about your feelings, and it turned out so awful for you. I assume your coworker said "yes", and went out with him? Are they still dating? How chicken shit of him to ask out someone you work with. Maybe you dodged a bullet getting away from this thoughtless man. Good luck, you deserve much more.
He is right 💯 the more you do what a Man told you to do for him he will treated you like a cheapest thing with no values.. thanks for your advice Doctor Antonio 🙏❤️
This is a VERY common pattern that I see in so many women (and of course, I’ve experienced it myself!). Luckily it’s totally possible to turn things around. 💞
I want nothing to do with this web of lies and drama while I went through heartache and loneliness unnecessarily for so long someone was UNAPPRECIATIVELLY GETTING THE LOVE AND LOYALTY WHILE SHE WAS JUST A BOOTY CALL. I'M DONE HERE AND HAD ENOUGH SHE CAN STAY THERE.
Yep, seems silly to me because I'm the type of person who automatically dies the opposite of ultimatums, even if they are what I want. I will never be forced or force, or strongly coerce myself onto anyone. Not a male friend, lover or coworker. Bye
I've been seeing a guy for 6 weeks and he's not asked for exclusivity but I got the feeling he hasn't been seeing anyone else as we he'd been asking to see me 2-3 times a week and was consistent. A few days ago he went quiet on me and I didn't hear from him but we had plans for the Friday evening. That Friday evening, something weird happened with his daughter and he got upset whilst I was there. He's freshly out of a divorce so I understand he might not be fully ready but he told me cared about me but told me all of a sudden he doesn't want any more children. I am 34 and said this is something I def want still ( we discussed it only a week ago - that he brought up and said he really likes me a lot and could stretch to one more) but to be suddenly told it's an absolute no made me feel rejected and sad. I left and told him thanks for letting me know and that I think it's a good idea he sees other people and that I see other people too. He said he doesn't want to see other people but I said if we aren't on the same page then how is it going to work. All I wanted was an exclusivity talk but it resulted in me / him ending it because he announced he doesn't want no more kids.
I was the one who had asked about giving a man chances... but I’m realizing that I was pressuring him and that’s why he went for the other girl both times! I was too in my masculine and gave too much! In that case, if he came around again would that be ok to give him a chance? He’s trying to give me one... ? I loved everything about this live!!!!!
I’m in this situation now! I fought my heart sooo hard to get out there and start dating. I am trying and not finding chemistry. But I keep trying and trying because eventually I’ll find someone that I do like . I still see my guy that doesn’t want a relationship /label and we are about to hit 3 years. I’ve left and come back so many times. It’s messed up! I know I have to leave but it’s slow burning. Still hopeful!!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thanks for sharing your experience here! I know many people can relate. 💞 In my experience and from what I’ve seen in countless women in my community, you’re not going to feel that chemistry with a different type of man if you’re still “holding on” to this one - I explain more in this video: ua-cam.com/video/oFvfNmWMueE/v-deo.html …and this one should also be really helpful: ua-cam.com/video/Cp-FMwcwIYE/v-deo.html
Please find someone who will want to be with you. As long as you're with that guy you won't find someone who would be willing to commit. The guy you're seeing knows he can get away with his behavior and is taking you for granted.
I’m loving these hour-long guest series!! So insightful and well-curated. Regarding social media questions (because truly, it’s a part of our lives now), I have a couple: Is it a good idea to keep your ex in your social media circle (if you want to move on/ if you want to perhaps get back together in the future)? How can you use social media to your advantage in dating? At what point should you connect to a new person on social media? What are some new dating rules on social media (eg. Don’t post a million couple photos especially if he’s not posting pictures of you two, etc)?
It's about quality not quantity with a guy. Don't play head games. If people put you up to it, that's one thing, but exclusivity is still exclusivity. Remember courtship is a beautiful gift that is given to a woman, when a man gives himself to you that way.
Stop sleeping with Men!!! You have to keep him in a friendzone type vibe until you get to know more about him and he’s committed to you. If he doesn’t want to put a ring 💍 on it, run, don’t waste your time!
Envision your on this beautiful hike with a partner and you want to climb to the mountain top. Both have same goals but it changes... He tells you half way up that he's not ready (or whatever) do you stay where your at? Do you continue the hike and be curious who else is on the path? Do you follow your heart, wants and needs or surrender them to someone else's will? Remember where you want to go and don't let anyone stop you.
These are my 2 favorite people to listen to for relationship advice. I love Dr. Antonio & Helena! So stoked to see them both chatting together with us! 💕
I completely agree with everything you both said. I met someone who I like talking to. He told me dating is not a priority right now. With COVID-19 and everything going on in his life I understand. He said I shouldn’t wait for him and date other people I just let him know how I feel about him. Giving him the time to figure himself out. For the time being, I will talk to other people. He’s a good person. We are still friends. I would like to be more, but I can’t push him to be with me if he doesn’t want to be. I hope him the best. Even if we don’t get together.
He specifically told me in the beginning that he will never chase me. I believe it. Yet he did so many things for me, nice things, told me he wanted it to be special, but told me he has big intense feelings for me, acts like a boyfriend, etc., told me that I deserve everything. Christmas came along and he finally said the words during intimacy, then a few days later tells me he can't give me what I want, he can't give me a titled relationship, he needs to resolve his finances from his previous marriage, etc. and then asked me to be patient with him. Wtf?!
Believe him and move on. Don't listen to his love words as they're designed to keep you hanging. The other words show who he really is so Believe them. Many people put aside the bad words in favor of the good ones and waste years in pursuit of toxic men. Good luck!
If he tells you he’s not ready for a relationship he either means it, will leave you alone out of respect or he’ll give you boyfriend charm to try sleep with you and to get you to chase them. Either way, move on. You’ll get rejected and hurt and he will be lapping up the ego boost and smirking that he can get you into him with breadcrumbs.
Me and the guy I’m dating were at a stand still with moving forward. Then I found out he contacted a friend of mine through a dating app. I msg’s him to let him know she told me and I was disappointed to hear that he is exploring other options but that it’s ok but that it doesn’t work for me. That I can’t give more time and energy into someone who is pursuing other options and that I think it’s best he go ahead and pursue other people to date and I will go my own way and do the same.... immediately he replied and said he needed to talk to me and that he wants me and he’ll delete the app. He wants to move to next level but didn’t know how I felt. We talked it out and he’s deleting the app and we’re spending more time together and being more open about how we feel about each other. I was NOT expecting that and was fully ready to let him go and expected him to say ok. I am very pleasantly surprised and looking forward to being more emotionally connected to him ☺️
My dude has told me he doesn't want a relationship now but he wants to move slow. He is a good sweet man and he was wounded by his ex. Im gonna keep dating but I care very much for him. He was kind when we spoke but I definitely have pulled back. I don't text first or call first at all. But I am kind and open and authentic when we connect. 🥰 I will believe the universe will do what it does. He calls and texts everyday. I have noted I want to see him again and I believe it will happen...I'm gonna keep it light and positive.
Same here, he is separated and it was a bad split. He's nice, txt or calls everyday but Im holding back now because he blows hot and cold, it makes me feel uncomfortable like anything can happen.
I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜 This episode on a similar topic might also be helpful - it’s available on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/6vr7FqSBYKyhbnX5KlA9Zm?si=EKIvu8ZGRlmHXCEslGHBhg …and on Apple Podcasts here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000558909277
This happen to me and my best friend! He was chasing me HARD and I didn’t want the same and then I fell in love with him and started going after him more and then it all stopped. 🥺
Dang someone has 20 year pseudo relationship!! Oh hell no! lol The last guy I dated said he didnt want to commit and I didn't put my eggs all in one basket. We spent a lot of time together and it was like a pseudo relationship for 6 months. I never told him I was dating others but he never asked either. The day he said he wanted to date other people, I was thinking I already was lol. Please, I'm always one step ahead. 😆
love this! so true. I have been hanging in for two years.. because I love him. I think about leaving him every day. It is a risk of losing the one you love......
I don't date many people I am just really selective about who I let in. But one thing that is essential is not have ANY connection through any social media, I don't know how people can do that. It's so right about picking on an open wound and letting the mind play games with you. We need to conserve our energy and work on healing out of sight is healthier.
Helena. We need to interview him more! #1) I want to know "where and how" to meet people (during quarantine, introverted, hard to make deep and lasting connections in general because my interests - religion and politics, - or else because I feel I don't relate to most people, no husband, no kids, don't go clubbing, don't drink etc)... #2) How to make the best profile, that leaves mystery, doesn't fake things, is authentic (especially when I don't have a job and am applying for disability, don't yet work out, never really liked sports) - but I'm amazing in tons of ways but the other girls have all of that on their profiles #3) How to answer the hard dating questions - rules of disclosure, when and how to share what and how much! (health and finances not well, only dated toxic men before, childhood abuse, trauma, OCD)... I don't want them to think bad of me or to sound like what it's not #4) How to know when to call or text... what are rules for these two... don't want to annoy, make him not miss, or seem low value... but I DO want to connect, develop, cultivate and grow with the guy... #5) How to heal self-esteem and gain authentic confidence - when I'm on the chunky side, and have really short hair... I don't feel as desirable or head-turning as I used to (when I was the opposite, and used to get tons of attention)... Some of my sadness and awkwardness is because I grew up really beat down by my abusive mother who criticized me a lot and I was never good enough for her,... some of it is just I get depressed sometimes and don't think what I do matters since I don't get, guys I like, approaching me (I know self-care should be for me, but my mood is, "Why bother? If nobody is going to notice me, or ask to spend time with me, or get to know me (unless they're a predator)?")
@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you! I'm SO GLAD you saw my comment... I thought I would go unnoticed... but now I know we'll see some awesome videos coming soon hehehehhe.... ;) ♡♡♡°°°♡♡♡°°°
God is good try to work on self love no matter what you tell yourself. That’s the negative thoughts that was planted in your mind by your mother . I was also verbally, physically and emotionally abused by mother when I was younger. But I knew deep down inside that I was just as important and beautiful because God created me . But subconsciously I didn’t love myself. I learned to love me as an adult through heartaches , disappointments and breakups. They were definitely lessons learned . Look in the mirror 🪞 and tell yourself each and every morning that you are enough. That you are so worthy of love . Tell everyone telepathically that hurt you and tell yourself that you Love them , that you’re sorry , please forgive you and them and thank you . And watch how all that pain and insecurities start melting away . Sending you lots of love 💗 hugs 🤗 and kisses 💋 . Know that you are loved 🥰 yes God is really good . ❤️
@@alwaysattractinggreatthings yes I got the nic because God has been very good to me despite all he ordained or predestined I go through For his glory and my spiritual good
@@alwaysattractinggreatthings yeah I get self esteem when I'm most on my face before God in gratitude and accepting all his will Thats when I'm more at peace than ever and when I read the Bible it's when my esteem is up But sin messes all of that up, external and internal sin, whether its from me or the world surrounding me
I love this topic..and this awakened me in a lot of things.. Im devastated and kinda depressed..right guy should not make you worry. These words are so strong. Im on a breaking up phase.. I had to make a decision. Being neglected, no planning.. And i only realized now, that my guy is not fully committed..
I’m glad this gave you some clarity, Jenny (and I’m happy to hear that you’re choosing yourself and putting YOUR heart first!). This video might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/9UiCZsNJzno/v-deo.html
Hi Helena &Antonio, great video. I feel that a good video dedicated to dating recently divorced men with children would be great. Then dating after 40s. Keep up the great tips coming 🙂🤩
Hi Alexi, these videos might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/gin3YRCsTxk/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/5uioaICJXQ4/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/GhZ_J_Zj9J0/v-deo.html.
Yes, we’ve all been there! These shorter videos might be helpful for anyone in this situation: ua-cam.com/video/sHR3dJ8QiLA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/Sx4ttEKULOI/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/oFvfNmWMueE/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_jARxknc160/v-deo.html.
Comfort Bilam sorry to hear that darl, next time ask questions and if they don’t want a relationship with you 3 months top walk away don’t waste your time. Ask as much questions as you can while dating other people always chose the one who puts you first and takes you on dates and is respectful and loyal towards you. Also listen to your inner self and if you see any red flags that he doesn’t want a relationship or that he isn’t ready for a relationship like he has no job, his life is a mess, he just got out of a marriage or relationship, his still bitter about his ex walk away! Good luck girl I’m single too it takes time to meet the right one so keep dating, set your boundaries and always put yourself first. 😘😘
The sooner you put yourself first the better. Don’t wait around for many months or even years on things to somehow change. I think it’s so true when they say investing in him more just makes him take you for granted. Hard learned lesson in my experience!
Thank you to both. I finally understand that it’s his depression. I was trying to figure out if it was friends with benefits or breadcrumbing but nothing fit except when you mentioned depression. He speaks down about himself. He says he doesn’t want a relationship because he deserves to be alone.
You’re welcome! If he says he doesn’t want a relationship, I’d BELIEVE him. That being said, this video might also help give you some clarity if he’s experiencing depression: ua-cam.com/video/0rmusjkH-l0/v-deo.html
@@HelenaHartCoaching I finally did. It’s been a little over 3 weeks. He sent me a Happy Mother’s Day Gif and I put a thumbs up only. I didn’t want to ignore him but I didn’t want to communicate back so I thought that was in the middle.
Felt. The depression is what pushes them away and makes me feel like they need to be alone to grief or deal w their emotions. It’s scary. But time will help them realize how much they need you once they are in a better place mentally and emotionally.
Yes if a man wants intimacy and mentions it or hints to it; I'm flattered, I'm very attracted to you and I've been enjoying our time together; however, as much as I would love to be more intimate with you I will only do that with someone I'm serious about and I stopped dating others. Are you saying that you want something more serious? And that you don't want to date anyone else? Because if that's the case I need to think about it. This should be around I don't know the 6th or 7 months ,maybe 4 or 5 months depending on the amount of dating.
I reconnected with someone from high school. we did get intimate a few times but I took that off the table because he doesn't want to have anything exclusive right now so we both agreed to take it slow and see what happens. We walk every morning during the week before work but the weekends are for him and I don't usually hear from him until Sunday but sometimes he surprises me on the weekends.Him and I have had many missed connections over the years. I have decided to try and date others even tho I don't really have the mental bandwidth for it.
If he dumps you then he is doing you a favor and when they tell you who they are believe him or her not worth the stress because as you know it can kill you good luck ladies and gentlemen.
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1) Give it a timeframe
2) Set boundaries.
3) Let him work harder for you & invest in you. The man's desire to commit is not based on a woman's investing in him but based on him investing in you. Working harder to keep him will make his attraction diminish & take you for granted.
4) Keep your options open. Love yourself & put yourself first. He set the rules. He is keeping his options open.
5) You've given him the timeline. It's time for the "talk". You ask him to take some time to figure it out & you date other guys. You can't continue what you're doing. You have to really make "behavioral changes" & "detach". Implement these behaviors.
You’ve got it Christine, thanks for summarizing! 💜
Thank u!
Very good advice. Thank you.
You’re welcome, Cyndi! 💕
I’d like more info on long distance relationships
“KEEP YOUR OPTIONS OPEN”. A reminder to all of us going through this bs.
I’m glad that resonated with you! 💜
100 helps to make sure we're not feeling anxious like the world is ending on this one man. I am falling for him, but he is going through divorce and therapy. He shows great interest. However, he is scared of commitment after a messy long marriage. I am not ready to let him go, but I started opening up to others and ensuring Im not putting man who isn't sure on the pedestal 🙌🏻
Never be afraid to walk away. That’s self love. 💕
Thanks for sharing your insights here - I agree! 💜
Never be afraid to lose someone who doesnt feel grateful to have you
Yes ma’am or sir more fish in the sea
Basically it all comes down to loving yourself, your worth, self worth, and knowing that you deserve someone who is totally committed to you and who is willing to invest in you. Because you are worth it ❤️
Yes, absolutely! Thanks for sharing, Michelle! 💞
Yes thank you just hard to believe sometimes 🙌🏽🙏🏽💞
How true...well said!!!!!
Yes beautiful you deserve the best ✨
Bloody well said!!! Nice!!!
If he's not ready for a relationship, dump him and find someone who is. You're wasting your time with him.
Thanks for sharing your insights here!
I'm done with someone who has chosen someone over me and got played like a damn fool and still acting like they are the prize I'm not waiting for her the door is open but I am not going to be here as a option. I'm done here and she played herself like a fool and lost.
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*Boom*
@@jimtorres1523 Sometimes guys make the wrong choice for themselves. She wasn't the "right one". Many times, the breakup (or breakdown) is a blessing in disguise. Prolonging a bad relationship can do a lot of damage and it only creates a bigger break in the heart. You will know when your queen comes into your life. Remember, "If a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing." That is biblical wisdom. But the key phrase is, "When a man finds..." There are too many women getting ahead of themselves and won't give the guy a chance to do the "finding". You guys get lazy and expect the roles to reverse, forgetting you are the pursuer - not the catch. When you have things the way you want them, get yourself in the game and play it the way it should be played. If these women are running you down and showing up every time you turn around, you probably aren't going to make her your prize.
You have to be willing to let him be uncomfortable. Behavior doesn't change when people are comfortable.
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Angela! 💗
Thank you
That is very good advice sis
When my guy friend told me he was not ready for relationship I believed him 100% we remain good friends and I’m dating people. We are like brother/sister. I’m still looking for my one and only. Believe them when they tell you their truth and accept it. If he is not the one - your one and only is out there, you should keep looking
Thanks for sharing your experience and insights here, I agree! 💕
Going through that now the sex was good though
Make your expectations clear in the beginning. Most times you will know from the gate. I'm seeing someone who started as just a friend and when things started being more romantic, I told him exactly what I expect and where I want the situation to go. We were on the same page. When someone tells you they don't want you, don't let them have to tell you twice. Match their efforts and no more.
Thanks for sharing your experience and insights here, I agree! 💕
Appreciation is investing in each other Needs ❤️
Yes! This! I’m still learning that them telling you they don’t want you isn’t always going to be with words but with actions! I’m starting to pay more attention.
I just ended my 4 month situationship. I just kept feeling so used. I took back the control of my dating life.
I’m glad you were able to take a stand for what you truly want and deserve! 💗
Currently trying to navigate out of exclusivity but not necessarily a relationship 🥴
I feel you. I need to do the something. Planning on this weekend. Thanks for helping to motivate me. "Situationship", perfect word for it.
@@leannab5868 that’s a situationship and however he tries to glorify it, it’s only good for him. Tell him to shove it, and go be single. Date if u want, don’t if u don’t want. You’ll feel muchhh better when u cut him off cold Turkey
I lived with him for 2 years and gave it my best shot. He wouldn’t commit to marriage. So I walked out on him, moved away. He found me six months later after no contact and I woudn’t speak to him. I relented and we were married in the judge’s chambers in N.Y.C.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Ellen! 💜
That's how it works be the asset in his life and he knows he's better with you in it after you're gone. Congratulations on your resilience and happy ending!
WOOHOO!!! Love that!
I am doing the same with mine.
@@mermaids2030 one piece of advice, just get it done. Dragging it out to plan an elaborate reception and making guest lists will not serve you. Priorities, if you know what I mean. After you are married, you can still have a lovely reception. 💖
This is so good! One thing I realized you have to be willing to walk away and let go. Love yourself, know your value and worth! Sis you are NOT common!
Thank you! 💜 Yes, I talk more about that in these videos: ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/A1RxP88Jtu8/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/GVnjg3UFYdY/v-deo.html.
If he's not ready for a relationship? RUN!!!! Run away from him as fast and as far as you could. He is being honest.
Thanks for sharing your insights here!
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GIVE HIM SPACE AND RESPECT HIS DECISION BUT LET HIM FEEL ALWAYS THAT U STILL CARE ..AND PRAYER IS A POWERFUL ONE.
Leave him. He will be ready when the woman that he wants to commit to enters his life.
southern belle exactly
I am ready i am songle can you ❤❤😍😍😍💑💑💑🌷🌷🌷
What if he's still going through a divorce right now. We've been talking for 6 months now. He makes time for me eventhough he is stationed overseas. I finally got the courage to ask him where do we go from here and his reply was I don't know, I am confused. I don't want you to miss out on something great while waiting for my retarded ass. I am hurt. I don't know what to do.He even said He needs time and space. I stopped talking to him. We're still friends on facebook but he haven't messaged me for a week now. Should I block him?
Purocalifaz 21 move on otherwise you will get hurt and wast your time
@@jessesgirl2132 block him . Next time don’t bother with anyone married or anyone overseas
Who would want a man back who didn't want to be there anyway? Do not take the man back. Next!🙌 100!
Thanks for sharing, Sarah! 💜
Boom!
I followed these steps for nearly six months with the “great non committal guy. I pleased to announce he is now a great boyfriend. The rule on keeping my own options open worked like nothing I could believe. When he saw a fellow co worker engaging with me the way we used to, and I ignored his advances. He QUICKLY decided he was ready to take things to the next level. I’m glad this info is here it serves as a great reminder for me to always allow him to chase me. Thank you, and I’m so much more confident in myself, knowing he respects my boundaries now and if he doesn’t work out.... I still have other options. Life is good.
Thanks so much for sharing your experience here, Lena! I’m happy to hear that. 💗
any updates? im interested
RUN now! Do NOT waste your time or his. You both deserve to find the right person. Always believe what a man says, he will not change his mind, at least not about you.
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Allison!
I feel like crying 😢 I'm going through this right now. I've been watching your videos and becoming stronger and learning a lot
I’m glad my videos have helped you! These ones might also be helpful for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/HRvJEJ6ygE8/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/CuWhh-DnLJY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/jqda97uPRqI/v-deo.html.
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Very helpful thank you for sharing
@@FreedomVibesWithAlma You’re welcome! 💕
This video!!! One-right! I wish I saw this within the 1st 3 dates of the guy I dated
Antonio is so warm and alot more charming when talking to you , compared to how he rushes talking loud when he does solo videos. I like this side of his.
I totally agree. You have to be strong and resist him a lot. Take care of your own needs and joy.
I am sooo grateful I came across this video. Was in a 23 yr marriage with a NARC… healing….discovering me again! Love yourselves & b in Self & SOUL with little ego & u will attract the right ppl & not let the dogs in anymore. Btw…more content on. Narcissistic personality disorder.. it is on the rise in both males & females. PS: My parents met the same way in Southern Italy…Mom was standing by a tree looking like Sofia Loren & my Dad couldn’t resist. Many many chaperoned dates…12 ppl had to approve. They were married 2 yrs later. 48 yr marriage. 💯💋
I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💗 This video might also be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/kcG-Utr3DpQ/v-deo.html
Yup they show their true colors. Ladies we have to use boundaries and discernment. Some do not care if they lose you. Even men who are older and more established. Age doesn't matter. Also depends on both your attachment styles. Let go let God! 🔥
Thanks for sharing! 💛
Going thru the "situationship" conundrum as we speak. Long story. After about 2 years I had to tell him that I no longer was satisfied with a casual relationship. He was very resistant to any changes. I told him that while I had hoped he might want to move forward with me, I was going to "accept his no" and move forward on my own. Good grief, he sh*t a brick.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Kim! I know many women can relate. 💞
🤣 luv the end, he got slapped w reality
I'm gonna have to do this right now
then what happened?
This is happening to me. Step up or step down.
I think most good men who are relationship and marriage materials are fewer in this generation. The majority of the good men are taken. The bad ones are available and in millions. And they are causing all these headaches and heart aches. It is sad.
I have the feeling, that you are right on this one. So sad to know this truth. Blessings to you.
@@karynnpoole9217 Yeah, but watching other Women manipulating men in so many ways?... It's sort of gross!.. I know someone who recently got pregnant & had a baby to finally get a Marriage Proposal at her convenience. It still seems creepy, although it has worked, so far!!.. :/
(not sure if she really respects her new husband, but he's rolling with it?)...
And I worry about their child when she grows up!.. Sure, Mommy used you as a "pawn" to get married (& better afford Rent in an expensive area??).. They are very traditional, otherwise. It was such a "shotgun" marriage, but who can fully understand the mysteries of the heart???... And many "arranged" marriages, too, can thrive!!- :) But, now she's going for a second child (since she really wants to quit working!!)... :/ She never seems too concerned about the impact on him??.... (This may be a Southern convention, from what I've seen. Women are birthing implements, essentially.)....
I’m definitely less relationship/marriage material the more I’m in relationships. I notice girls being not themselves until I’m with them then they dramatically change who they are and I get out. If you’re saying you’re casual and then try to get serious you’re a joke
@@toodleloo2253 You're lucky you had a "birthing implement" Or you wouldn't be here commenting.
So lovely to see Dr Antonio . He was my saving when my relationship went wrong. I followed his advice and it really works. I am 64 … decided to go travel on my own … after being in this up and down relationship… and he then could not stop calling me … which he never did. I am now back with him.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Gabriela! 💞
This guest is so good. He is spot on and knows what he is talking about.
Yes, Antonio gives awesome advice!
I have been with this guy for 11 months. He's been so good too me. He's been working 10 hour days and I had problem with my furnace and I called him and he came right over. We see each other on weekends.
I’m happy to hear that, Carla! 💞
I like how doc answers the questions. He doesn't base them on theories or opinions but he base them on realistic situations that make them more of an eye-opener. So thank you.
You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed this! 💜
Thank you for this! I have been going over and over in my head what to do about this guy I am in love with who treats me very well. He treats me like his girlfriend, tells me he's falling for me, talks about our future, and says he's faithful to me, but for some reason does not want the label. I don't play games and don't believe in manipulating or "tricking" anyone into making decisions. This is the most insightful (and sane, mature) advice I have been able to find! Thank you for being so thorough and realistic.
You’re welcome Lacey, I’m so glad this was helpful for you! 💜
why do guys who don't want relationship but want you around they do everything 2 make you fall 4 them but when you do they don't catch you they just want friendship with benefits
Some men will do that IF you allow it because they’re getting all the benefits of a relationship without any of the strings attached. That’s why it’s important to not fall into this situation if what you want is a real relationship! This video should help give you some more clarity: ua-cam.com/video/CuWhh-DnLJY/v-deo.html
A lot of times when a woman gives her all to the man or men who DON'T deserve it, the one who DOES deserve it, gets the rough end.
Patience is a virtue.
Thanks for sharing your insights here!
That s because most Men take advantage when we act like normal humans and show them a bit of affection or care
Never date a man that doesn't love his mother. If his relationship with his first love is impaired, you don't stand a chance.
I can personally attest to this...
That's not true,some people have abusive mothers and they can't do anything about it. Some people are stuck into dysfunctional family but they are the strongest people you will ever meet.
@@Zazahra8742 maybe he's just pleasant to look at, what ever.
Sweetie someone with an abusive mother, needs a lot of therapy, to be a whole human being. Good luck. God bless.
@@Zazahra8742 your dad made that chose ,if you hate your mother, hate the man that put a bad mother in your life.
I watched this a while ago, enacted the 4 steps. Last week I did Step 5, we’ve been in No Contact since. It’s been so hard ! We used to talk daily n now silence. I’m very uncomfortable in this limbo phase waiting to see if he reaches out & wants to take action. I definitely feel like he’s calling my bluff & also freaking out at same time. Thank goodness I’ve been busy which is helping a little bit, still emotional AF though. 🙏🏻🙏🏻 Let’s see if it works!
Hi Stacy, I’ll actually be doing a livestream this week on “no contact” that should be helpful for your situation.
Same here, finally I got used to the silence and not think about him much.. All of a sudden he texted me merry Christmas .. now I kinda think about him a bit more... hope he won’t reach out again. Stay strong...times can heal
@@happywater1012 remember your worthy of a man who values, respects and loves you. Everything else is just a waste.
Did he come back?
@@hanihamid4450 He did but for the wrong reasons. I ended up finding out he cheated on me with a coworker & was talking to 6 other women on top of that. Once I found that out, I started to let go and eventually moved on. Then I met someone & have never been happier- he never leaves me guessing & loves me the way I always wanted/needed to be loved 🥰
This has been such an eye opener and I feel so ashamed to be still in a relationship for 5 years and him being stagnant. There's definitely going to be some changes for my sake! The hell with his. 😡
Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many women can relate. 💜
But he is so inconsistent and rude. I’m tired of feeling ignored. I don’t want to continue at this point. He is a time waster
Just let him go....I know it hurts but you don't need that.
Song Stress girl I feel you I am currently talking to a man who’s acting so weird he keep texting me every day but never calls or asks me on a date weird I need to cut him off.
❤❤i love u u i like u really i am alone .
Single 😍😍🌷💑
"Courting to Sporting" #OptOut
Is his name Ryan? Breadcrumber of the century. Usually when they're inconsistent like this they're pursuing multiple people. It never gets better only worse. You're right to block him becausr it will never change.
This video just made me feel a lot stronger and and powerful
I’m so happy to hear that, Tanya! 💗
The truth always sets you free
Yes, I agree! 💕
1. Give myself a timeline 6wks -2months not talk about commitment. Have fun & Learn about the other to see if he’s really compatible for me.
2. If all his needs are met, why would he change. Stop giving so much. He Has no incentive.
Set boundaries unless in exclusive relationship.
3. He’s invested in me. take me for granted so focus on me . Let him do the work . He’ll appreciate you the more he does . Effort he puts in makes him fall in love with me. His Attraction & desire grows the more he does .
4. Keep my options open . If I’m Blinded by love , I may pass opportunity to meet someone better for me.
5. If timeline reached & relationship not meeting my needs, so I think u need time to figure out. In the meantime, continue to date. Set boundaries & I must change.
He’s going to call my bluff & keep the break until change bc he’s not for u if he doesn’t.
Thanks for sharing your takeaways here, Ivette! 💕
Thabkkkks
Is it bad to tell him you went away on an overnight night trip with an ex? I mean if he happens to ask what you did over the weekend? Will that push him away or attract him more?
Ladies, listen up! If a man says he does want a relationship or not ready, walk away. Don’t wait 2,34 darn months!
Yes, thanks for sharing! 💕
It's not really that he doesn't want the relationship, he just stalls!!!!
Thank you Antonio!
Getting a man to commit is supposed to be easy. We woman have value and have to show that even if it feels hard! Show your worth! Let the men do the chasing .. A woman should only have to express her truth one time and let him take the lead😘
Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💖
I think courting was much wiser. Our hormones are not our friends.
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Karen! 💙
Date him too but put him in the 4th row!
I will not be a part of that shit show!
Yes!
@@AgelessBeauty777 huh?
😂😂 good one
Yessssssss
I feel like he is really telling me what to do. This is so true. I’m in this situation now that I have given everything but he still said he doesn’t want commitment
Thanks for sharing your experience here Judy, I know many women can relate. 💛
Thanks for this information. You have helped me greatly. I prayed and ask God to send me a gentleman of His choice because He knows the person better than I do. So I'm waiting for God's timing. I'm a widow has been for 9 years. I decided to try again. God bless you for helping us to know what to do.
You’re welcome, Bernadine! I’m glad this was helpful. ❤️
You can move the process fast by prying god daily and ask ur man in pryers. You can try for Japji sahib path in ur daily prayers it'd very powerful. Japji sahib has been introduced in 1500 bc by gurunank dev ji
Tell him NO! An walk away even when it hurts smh I did
I need u am single ❤❤😍😍💑💑🌷🌷
Antonio dropping gems.. 💎💍💯🔮💫👑
Just decided to open up an online dating profile just to see. Tired of off/on situationship going on 7 years. I’m nervous because I really did want it to work with my person but like you said, why would he if he’s getting all his needs met. Thank you for the advice.
Sadly, I’ve made every mistake possible. I’ve been constant and true and it got me nowhere.
You're welcome, Angelica!
You will love online dating . It’s like being on the bachelorette. You can date 16 guys at once (if you can multitask ) pick your top 5 and filter . It’s amazing way to love forward from toxic relationships
Don't worry, women all over the world keep making this mistake and we do it over and over again, hang in there!!
Good luck in life and I wish you the best.
I wonder how someone can be so beautiful ( refering to H.)...from inside and outside! 🙈 Thank you, Helena for your support!
Aww thanks Malaika, that’s so sweet of you to say! 💗
Glad I’m listening now. I made a lot of mistakes before. Learning and changing!
I’m happy to hear that, thanks for watching! 💕
Be a mysterious person and then I am drawn more towards the wonder it works for both of you, I would think. I think there has to be a mature level of trust and this builds a beautiful foundation. Giving each other that needed space 🥰.
Thanks for sharing your insights here!
I've watched twice already! I enjoy Dr. Borello's videos but I love his off the cuff way of phrasing things in your interview. I hope he comes back 🤞
I’m glad you enjoyed this, I’ll definitely bring him back!
Take care always, dar. I hope you are happy with yourself. I am coping with the death of my son and trying to leave guam. I am not waiting for anyone who has been prioritizing EVERYONE ELSE. I WILL NOT BE WITH ANYONE WHO I AM NOT A PRIORITY TO. DARLENE YOUR DRAMA CAUSED ME TO BE THE THIRD PARTY. I HOPE YOU ARE PROUD OF YOURSELF AND HAPPY BECAUSE MY SHIPS ARE COMMING IN AND I WILL NOT TOLERATE ANYMORE OF THIS NONESENSE!
I watched this after I had the hard conversation. And the thought of losing me made him feel something.
Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💞
He made me feel cared for and loved but it was only FWB. We went from close friends to just sex. He said the emotional wall was to protect him from falling for me and that it was very difficult for him to do, because I am so, "Kind, affectionate, and attractive." When he asked me if I loved him more than as a friend, I was hoping he was going to say he did too but when I said, "Yes," he totally freaked out and cut me off. Then he asked out a woman I thought was one of my best friends and closest colleagues! I have to work with her three or four nights every week! I'm going to start dating asap.
So sorry to hear you’re going through this right now, Jean. The right man definitely WON’T be afraid to fall for you or build up an emotional wall. In fact, he won’t do any of these things you mentioned here. 💜
@@danilaroche1156 absolutely it is. About six months ago we reconnected after he moved nearly 2K miles away. He said I’m his person he can talk to without fear of being judged and listed all of the ways we’re compatible. Then he cut everyone out of his life except me and his best friend. After I told him I wouldn’t leave my family and friends behind for anything less than love and he would have to be crazy about me or it wouldn’t work for either of us, he told me things he’s never told anyone else, sent me pictures of the beach near his house, and even encouraged me to apply for a nursing job just a half hour from his new place.
@@danilaroche1156 I’ve known him for nearly a decade and he knows he’s still disqualified because I’m holding out for proof he deserves me.
So sorry you took the chance to be honest about your feelings, and it turned out so awful for you. I assume your coworker said "yes", and went out with him? Are they still dating? How chicken shit of him to ask out someone you work with. Maybe you dodged a bullet getting away from this thoughtless man. Good luck, you deserve much more.
This video has filled a gap of what I HAVE NOT heard yet. This specific topic has been so helpful. Antonio is awesome.
I’m glad it was helpful! 💜
He is right 💯 the more you do what a Man told you to do for him he will treated you like a cheapest thing with no values.. thanks for your advice Doctor Antonio 🙏❤️
Thanks for sharing, Josie! 💜
Best video EVER!!! Please make more of these !
I’m glad you enjoyed it! 🩷 My latest video might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/EUVUDR9Q2GI/v-deo.htmlsi=6m6kKlQAX-wk4443
I'm the road with him now. I know this trip will either make us or brake us
How is it going now?
That makes sense. A man who is interested will invest in you.
Absolutely! My husband talked more about that in the last video I published: ua-cam.com/video/qLadyeiHCZg/v-deo.html
Guy I want : I don’t want a relationship
Guy I don’t want : will you be my girlfriend in less than 1 month
This is a VERY common pattern that I see in so many women (and of course, I’ve experienced it myself!). Luckily it’s totally possible to turn things around. 💞
This is me.
I want nothing to do with this web of lies and drama while I went through heartache and loneliness unnecessarily for so long someone was UNAPPRECIATIVELLY GETTING THE LOVE AND LOYALTY WHILE SHE WAS JUST A BOOTY CALL. I'M DONE HERE AND HAD ENOUGH SHE CAN STAY THERE.
Yep, seems silly to me because I'm the type of person who automatically dies the opposite of ultimatums, even if they are what I want. I will never be forced or force, or strongly coerce myself onto anyone. Not a male friend, lover or coworker. Bye
Exactly! I have an ex who is the sweetest guy ever I’m just not into him. It’s so frustrating.
I've been seeing a guy for 6 weeks and he's not asked for exclusivity but I got the feeling he hasn't been seeing anyone else as we he'd been asking to see me 2-3 times a week and was consistent. A few days ago he went quiet on me and I didn't hear from him but we had plans for the Friday evening. That Friday evening, something weird happened with his daughter and he got upset whilst I was there. He's freshly out of a divorce so I understand he might not be fully ready but he told me cared about me but told me all of a sudden he doesn't want any more children. I am 34 and said this is something I def want still ( we discussed it only a week ago - that he brought up and said he really likes me a lot and could stretch to one more) but to be suddenly told it's an absolute no made me feel rejected and sad. I left and told him thanks for letting me know and that I think it's a good idea he sees other people and that I see other people too. He said he doesn't want to see other people but I said if we aren't on the same page then how is it going to work. All I wanted was an exclusivity talk but it resulted in me / him ending it because he announced he doesn't want no more kids.
I was the one who had asked about giving a man chances... but I’m realizing that I was pressuring him and that’s why he went for the other girl both times! I was too in my masculine and gave too much! In that case, if he came around again would that be ok to give him a chance? He’s trying to give me one... ? I loved everything about this live!!!!!
I love u forever i l8ke u really 😍😍💑💑❤❤🌷🌷
Best video I ever watched. Thank you very much !!
You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💕
I’m in this situation now! I fought my heart sooo hard to get out there and start dating. I am trying and not finding chemistry. But I keep trying and trying because eventually I’ll find someone that I do like . I still see my guy that doesn’t want a relationship /label and we are about to hit 3 years. I’ve left and come back so many times. It’s messed up! I know I have to leave but it’s slow burning. Still hopeful!!!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thanks for sharing your experience here! I know many people can relate. 💞 In my experience and from what I’ve seen in countless women in my community, you’re not going to feel that chemistry with a different type of man if you’re still “holding on” to this one - I explain more in this video: ua-cam.com/video/oFvfNmWMueE/v-deo.html …and this one should also be really helpful: ua-cam.com/video/Cp-FMwcwIYE/v-deo.html
Please find someone who will want to be with you. As long as you're with that guy you won't find someone who would be willing to commit. The guy you're seeing knows he can get away with his behavior and is taking you for granted.
I’m loving these hour-long guest series!! So insightful and well-curated. Regarding social media questions (because truly, it’s a part of our lives now), I have a couple:
Is it a good idea to keep your ex in your social media circle (if you want to move on/ if you want to perhaps get back together in the future)? How can you use social media to your advantage in dating? At what point should you connect to a new person on social media? What are some new dating rules on social media (eg. Don’t post a million couple photos especially if he’s not posting pictures of you two, etc)?
I’m so glad you’re enjoying them! Great questions - this video should help answer them: ua-cam.com/video/iFVWlX2OlmA/v-deo.html
God I needed this today! Thank you!
I do keep my options open though. I should watch this on a daily to keep strong and not be so weak.
You’re welcome, Christie! I’m glad it was helpful. 💗
It's about quality not quantity with a guy. Don't play head games. If people put you up to it, that's one thing, but exclusivity is still exclusivity. Remember courtship is a beautiful gift that is given to a woman, when a man gives himself to you that way.
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Dawn! 💜
Stop sleeping with Men!!! You have to keep him in a friendzone type vibe until you get to know more about him and he’s committed to you. If he doesn’t want to put a ring 💍 on it, run, don’t waste your time!
Yes!!!!
someone who are 100% ready for seriously relationship,fully invested me, fully committed, meet my needs,,
Thanks for sharing, Shirley! 💕
Envision your on this beautiful hike with a partner and you want to climb to the mountain top. Both have same goals but it changes... He tells you half way up that he's not ready (or whatever) do you stay where your at? Do you continue the hike and be curious who else is on the path? Do you follow your heart, wants and needs or surrender them to someone else's will? Remember where you want to go and don't let anyone stop you.
Love it, thanks for sharing! 💕
These are my 2 favorite people to listen to for relationship advice. I love Dr. Antonio & Helena!
So stoked to see them both chatting together with us! 💕
Thank you so much! ❤️
I completely agree with everything you both said. I met someone who I like talking to. He told me dating is not a priority right now. With COVID-19 and everything going on in his life I understand. He said I shouldn’t wait for him and date other people I just let him know how I feel about him. Giving him the time to figure himself out.
For the time being, I will talk to other people. He’s a good person. We are still friends. I would like to be more, but I can’t push him to be with me if he doesn’t want to be. I hope him the best. Even if we don’t get together.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Kay! 💜
I need some advice
He specifically told me in the beginning that he will never chase me. I believe it. Yet he did so many things for me, nice things, told me he wanted it to be special, but told me he has big intense feelings for me, acts like a boyfriend, etc., told me that I deserve everything. Christmas came along and he finally said the words during intimacy, then a few days later tells me he can't give me what I want, he can't give me a titled relationship, he needs to resolve his finances from his previous marriage, etc. and then asked me to be patient with him. Wtf?!
Believe him and move on. Don't listen to his love words as they're designed to keep you hanging. The other words show who he really is so Believe them. Many people put aside the bad words in favor of the good ones and waste years in pursuit of toxic men. Good luck!
If he tells you he’s not ready for a relationship he either means it, will leave you alone out of respect or he’ll give you boyfriend charm to try sleep with you and to get you to chase them.
Either way, move on. You’ll get rejected and hurt and he will be lapping up the ego boost and smirking that he can get you into him with breadcrumbs.
Thanks for sharing your insights here!
really helpful and introspective too. it helps to see it from a realistic/ kind of detached point of view while still being true to what you want.
I’m so glad this was helpful, Diane! 💕
Me and the guy I’m dating were at a stand still with moving forward. Then I found out he contacted a friend of mine through a dating app. I msg’s him to let him know she told me and I was disappointed to hear that he is exploring other options but that it’s ok but that it doesn’t work for me. That I can’t give more time and energy into someone who is pursuing other options and that I think it’s best he go ahead and pursue other people to date and I will go my own way and do the same.... immediately he replied and said he needed to talk to me and that he wants me and he’ll delete the app. He wants to move to next level but didn’t know how I felt. We talked it out and he’s deleting the app and we’re spending more time together and being more open about how we feel about each other. I was NOT expecting that and was fully ready to let him go and expected him to say ok. I am very pleasantly surprised and looking forward to being more emotionally connected to him ☺️
Awesome, thanks for sharing your experience here! 💞
Give him the same taste, he won’t like it at all..
Truth!
I did and nothing.
@@carrielegg5480 Then he' s not worth it, you deserve better!
@nola He actually is a fantastic gentleman. I think something happened.
My dude has told me he doesn't want a relationship now but he wants to move slow. He is a good sweet man and he was wounded by his ex. Im gonna keep dating but I care very much for him. He was kind when we spoke but I definitely have pulled back. I don't text first or call first at all. But I am kind and open and authentic when we connect. 🥰 I will believe the universe will do what it does. He calls and texts everyday. I have noted I want to see him again and I believe it will happen...I'm gonna keep it light and positive.
Thanks for sharing your experience here!
I'm in the same boat
Same here, he is separated and it was a bad split. He's nice, txt or calls everyday but Im holding back now because he blows hot and cold, it makes me feel uncomfortable like anything can happen.
What's his name? lol
I'm going through the same thing. I'm letting him take the lead not doing more than he's doing. Still focusing on me.
Probably the best podcast i have ever watched
I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜 This episode on a similar topic might also be helpful - it’s available on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/6vr7FqSBYKyhbnX5KlA9Zm?si=EKIvu8ZGRlmHXCEslGHBhg
…and on Apple Podcasts here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000558909277
wanted to be comment #444: # of Aligned ABUNDANCE! Sending you all love and abundance and ABUNDANCE IN LOVE!!!!
Thank you! 💖
Antonio is magic. I love his advise.
And let's just call a real man a Gentleman....
I’m glad you enjoyed this! 💙
@@HelenaHartCoaching I DID !:)
@@HelenaHartCoaching I do like the fact u involved with your audience. . Very rare but so wonderful!
Thank you! 💞
@@HelenaHartCoaching My pleasure .
This happen to me and my best friend! He was chasing me HARD and I didn’t want the same and then I fell in love with him and started going after him more and then it all stopped. 🥺
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Ashlie. 💜
This information is “Gold”!!! I haven’t understood how to get him to make a definitive decision & act on it!!!
These videos might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/HRvJEJ6ygE8/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/k8eb_r5tjtE/v-deo.html.
I just blocked him. Too fickle for me
Song Stress Right on! Unavailable people are happy wasting time with you. Don’t be a passing time candidate, it’s a drag and pointless.
I love you you forever i like u i an single ❤❤😍😍💑💑🌷🌷
About to do so....but one thing for sure we should stop giving them sex.
Dang someone has 20 year pseudo relationship!! Oh hell no! lol The last guy I dated said he didnt want to commit and I didn't put my eggs all in one basket. We spent a lot of time together and it was like a pseudo relationship for 6 months. I never told him I was dating others but he never asked either. The day he said he wanted to date other people, I was thinking I already was lol. Please, I'm always one step ahead. 😆
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Nikki!
🤣🤣🤣🤣lol
You should have honestly told him you are dating other people
love this! so true. I have been hanging in for two years.. because I love him. I think about leaving him every day. It is a risk of losing the one you love......
I’m glad this resonated with you, Sharon! 💜
I don't date many people I am just really selective about who I let in. But one thing that is essential is not have ANY connection through any social media, I don't know how people can do that. It's so right about picking on an open wound and letting the mind play games with you. We need to conserve our energy and work on healing out of sight is healthier.
Thanks for sharing your insights here!
Helena. We need to interview him more!
#1) I want to know "where and how" to meet people (during quarantine, introverted, hard to make deep and lasting connections in general because my interests - religion and politics, - or else because I feel I don't relate to most people, no husband, no kids, don't go clubbing, don't drink etc)...
#2) How to make the best profile, that leaves mystery, doesn't fake things, is authentic (especially when I don't have a job and am applying for disability, don't yet work out, never really liked sports) - but I'm amazing in tons of ways but the other girls have all of that on their profiles
#3) How to answer the hard dating questions - rules of disclosure, when and how to share what and how much! (health and finances not well, only dated toxic men before, childhood abuse, trauma, OCD)... I don't want them to think bad of me or to sound like what it's not
#4) How to know when to call or text... what are rules for these two... don't want to annoy, make him not miss, or seem low value... but I DO want to connect, develop, cultivate and grow with the guy...
#5) How to heal self-esteem and gain authentic confidence - when I'm on the chunky side, and have really short hair... I don't feel as desirable or head-turning as I used to (when I was the opposite, and used to get tons of attention)...
Some of my sadness and awkwardness is because I grew up really beat down by my abusive mother who criticized me a lot and I was never good enough for her,... some of it is just I get depressed sometimes and don't think what I do matters since I don't get, guys I like, approaching me (I know self-care should be for me, but my mood is, "Why bother? If nobody is going to notice me, or ask to spend time with me, or get to know me (unless they're a predator)?")
Thanks for these fantastic suggestions! I’ll definitely keep this in mind for future video topics. I’m glad you enjoyed this one, too! 💕
@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you! I'm SO GLAD you saw my comment... I thought I would go unnoticed... but now I know we'll see some awesome videos coming soon hehehehhe.... ;) ♡♡♡°°°♡♡♡°°°
God is good try to work on self love no matter what you tell yourself. That’s the negative thoughts that was planted in your mind by your mother . I was also verbally, physically and emotionally abused by mother when I was younger. But I knew deep down inside that I was just as important and beautiful because God created me . But subconsciously I didn’t love myself. I learned to love me as an adult through heartaches , disappointments and breakups. They were definitely lessons learned . Look in the mirror 🪞 and tell yourself each and every morning that you are enough. That you are so worthy of love . Tell everyone telepathically that hurt you and tell yourself that you Love them , that you’re sorry , please forgive you and them and thank you . And watch how all that pain and insecurities start melting away . Sending you lots of love 💗 hugs 🤗 and kisses 💋 . Know that you are loved 🥰 yes God is really good . ❤️
@@alwaysattractinggreatthings yes I got the nic because God has been very good to me despite all he ordained or predestined I go through
For his glory and my spiritual good
@@alwaysattractinggreatthings yeah I get self esteem when I'm most on my face before God in gratitude and accepting all his will
Thats when I'm more at peace than ever and when I read the Bible it's when my esteem is up
But sin messes all of that up, external and internal sin, whether its from me or the world surrounding me
I love this topic..and this awakened me in a lot of things.. Im devastated and kinda depressed..right guy should not make you worry. These words are so strong. Im on a breaking up phase.. I had to make a decision. Being neglected, no planning.. And i only realized now, that my guy is not fully committed..
I’m glad this gave you some clarity, Jenny (and I’m happy to hear that you’re choosing yourself and putting YOUR heart first!). This video might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/9UiCZsNJzno/v-deo.html
This sounds like the book- The Rules. Definitely worth a read if you’re having these kinds of issues.
Thanks for sharing, Heather! 💜
OMG this guy's a genius... pretty cute too. It's made a while back...I missed this clip, so glad you reposted it.
I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💕
Hi Helena &Antonio, great video. I feel that a good video dedicated to dating recently divorced men with children would be great. Then dating after 40s. Keep up the great tips coming 🙂🤩
Hi Alexi, these videos might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/gin3YRCsTxk/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/5uioaICJXQ4/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/GhZ_J_Zj9J0/v-deo.html.
Thank you Helena! I just seen your reply I'll check out the videos ! 😊
I fell into this situation and I knew these things but still got caught up. I’m not waiting.
Yes, we’ve all been there! These shorter videos might be helpful for anyone in this situation: ua-cam.com/video/sHR3dJ8QiLA/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/Sx4ttEKULOI/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/oFvfNmWMueE/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_jARxknc160/v-deo.html.
@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you
You’re welcome! 💕
This video is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you both for sharing your knowledge in order to help people like me.
You’re welcome Teresa, I’m glad this was helpful! 💜
I ve been used for one whole year
Just found out he wasn’t ready to be in a relationship with me
Gush it’s heart breaking 😫
Comfort Bilam sorry to hear that darl, next time ask questions and if they don’t want a relationship with you 3 months top walk away don’t waste your time. Ask as much questions as you can while dating other people always chose the one who puts you first and takes you on dates and is respectful and loyal towards you. Also listen to your inner self and if you see any red flags that he doesn’t want a relationship or that he isn’t ready for a relationship like he has no job, his life is a mess, he just got out of a marriage or relationship, his still bitter about his ex walk away! Good luck girl I’m single too it takes time to meet the right one so keep dating, set your boundaries and always put yourself first. 😘😘
Lesson learned. Sorry you went through that.
Learn from it for your next person. That guy was a practice guy!
So very sorry. 😢♥️🥀
The sooner you put yourself first the better. Don’t wait around for many months or even years on things to somehow change. I think it’s so true when they say investing in him more just makes him take you for granted. Hard learned lesson in my experience!
Thank you to both. I finally understand that it’s his depression. I was trying to figure out if it was friends with benefits or breadcrumbing but nothing fit except when you mentioned depression. He speaks down about himself. He says he doesn’t want a relationship because he deserves to be alone.
You’re welcome! If he says he doesn’t want a relationship, I’d BELIEVE him. That being said, this video might also help give you some clarity if he’s experiencing depression: ua-cam.com/video/0rmusjkH-l0/v-deo.html
@@HelenaHartCoaching I finally did. It’s been a little over 3 weeks. He sent me a Happy Mother’s Day Gif and I put a thumbs up only. I didn’t want to ignore him but I didn’t want to communicate back so I thought that was in the middle.
Felt. The depression is what pushes them away and makes me feel like they need to be alone to grief or deal w their emotions. It’s scary. But time will help them realize how much they need you once they are in a better place mentally and emotionally.
Thanks Helena and Anthonio very good job
You’re welcome, Zeeta! 💕
Yes if a man wants intimacy and mentions it or hints to it; I'm flattered, I'm very attracted to you and I've been enjoying our time together; however, as much as I would love to be more intimate with you I will only do that with someone I'm serious about and I stopped dating others. Are you saying that you want something more serious? And that you don't want to date anyone else? Because if that's the case I need to think about it.
This should be around I don't know the 6th or 7 months ,maybe 4 or 5 months depending on the amount of dating.
I reconnected with someone from high school. we did get intimate a few times but I took that off the table because he doesn't want to have anything exclusive right now so we both agreed to take it slow and see what happens. We walk every morning during the week before work but the weekends are for him and I don't usually hear from him until Sunday but sometimes he surprises me on the weekends.Him and I have had many missed connections over the years. I have decided to try and date others even tho I don't really have the mental bandwidth for it.
If he dumps you then he is doing you a favor and when they tell you who they are believe him or her not worth the stress because as you know it can kill you good luck ladies and gentlemen.
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Christine!