Never Chase Him. Do These 5 Things Instead (He Will Pursue And Invest In You!)
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- Опубліковано 27 тра 2023
- Learn why you should never chase a man (even when he pulls away), and what to do instead to get him to pursue and invest in you in this video with Matthew Coast and Helena Hart.
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What’s the FB Group you referenced??
Put point, make it about Relationship...
For me faith is my center, if I feel I’m putting a man before my spiritual relationship with God and he’s taking the place of God and my relationship with God, then I need to refocus my attention, my mind, body, soul and spirit to my relationship with God and how much God loves me.
Thanks for sharing! 💞
That’s exactly what I was doing -investing too much in my previous relationship , taking care of him , making surprises for him … I honestly thought he would follow my example and start doing the same for me . But he didn’t . “I’m different “ , he used to say , “not so emotional as you are . Should I make myself do all these romantic things for you ? It’s hard to change myself in my late forties …” After 5 months ( three of which I lived with him at his place ) I broke up with the man , but I learnt my lesson : don’t be too good for smb , don’t try too much , because some men don’t love kind-hearted and nice women , they prefer cold and unattainable ones … Stupidly, I deprived him of the necessary “hunting “. I was too easy to conquer . As a result , he stopped pleasing me . Really , why should he have bothered to do that if his “prey” was already in his hands , willingly cooking delicious meals and always ready to have sex with him ?😂
Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many people can relate. 💞
I did the first part- showing love, surprising, caring and he said the similar that he’s not emotional and doesn’t feel! I should have headed in the other direction sooner, the pain can be unbearable.
@@1corinthians139 I do hope you have found enough courage and strength in yourself to leave the emotional infant !
The right man will appreciate and reciprocate for sure. 💯
@@fuliviacannady7703 I do hope so
So helpful ❤ I actually don’t even want a man to ‘chase’ me, as because of my history of trauma with men it can freak me out if he’s too intense. But adequate and appropriate effort that feels healthy and balanced for sure! ❤
I’m glad this was helpful! 💜
I really enjoyed this conversation - my favorite of the recent ones. And Matt is so down to earth - great video - thank you to both of you!
You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜 These videos I recorded with Matt might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/users/live8jedv4qXtLA?feature=share, ua-cam.com/users/livejy4jTHVdxgg?feature=share, ua-cam.com/users/live_Rm3bi1DNT8?feature=share and ua-cam.com/users/live7z3EDvRBnV4?feature=share.
Find the sweet spot ,flirt and focus mainly on your life but let him know you are interested in a non needy way. Use kind, secure communication even when he is hot and cold ❤🙏🏼
Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💞
Really good video and explained a difficult to understand topic so well! Appreciate you both!
Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 🩷 My latest video might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/6xmsgOckoD4/v-deo.html
I really like that perspective, focus on the relationship, not the guy.
I’m glad that resonated with you! 💞
Thank you for this great video
You’re welcome! 💜 These videos I recorded with Matt might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/users/live8jedv4qXtLA?feature=share, ua-cam.com/users/livejy4jTHVdxgg?feature=share, ua-cam.com/users/live_Rm3bi1DNT8?feature=share and ua-cam.com/users/live7z3EDvRBnV4?feature=share.
This is fantastic and clear advice! Sometimes tho, it’s about the opposite outcome where the man is coming on too strong, too fast trying to push and force things along without really including you in the dynamic right out the gate or even after you’ve expressed how you feel and it becomes clear that this man is out to meet his own needs without looking out for the well-being of both of you, what you’re comfortable with, considering how you feel, including you in decisions in plans etc. The man may appear to be crazy about you but his intentions and reasons may be for his own gain solely and this is what we have to be able to discern quickly. Often times women can be thrown off by this thinking that the man is doing all the right things and wanting to move things forward. What can appear to be the man taking on a masculine role actively making plans, calling you, seeing you etc., with the wrong man, can be stemming from a very insecure attachment where this man is looking to control everything, making all the decisions about where you’re going what you’re doing without including you in the dynamic of whether you want to do something or can do some thing. Maybe even showing up unexpectedly multiple times thinking that they’re surprising you or even bringing you gifts in these surprise visits with the idea the gift overrides the disregard of whether your home (or your kids) are home, and if you’re not home and your kid answers the door and the guy is offended that you’re not there and thinks the “joke is on him”. I’m talking in the very early stages of dating, maybe having only been on two or three dates. Yes I’ve actually had this happen! Thankfully I could see this early on and move on. The oddest thing was even after I let him know this wasn’t feeling right and would be moving on he continued to pursue me only to text me that the plans I had with my family and errands I had to do were things that don’t really feel like someone who is interested in him so “see ya around hun” was his text reply in an effort to flip the script and feel like he ended it.
Thanks for sharing, Michelle! 💜 This video might be helpful for anyone who needs help catching those red flags right away and discerning the difference: ua-cam.com/users/livek8VC2kt7pZE?feature=share
Never let a man know where you live until you get him out for this love bombing behavior! Boundaries are being crossed and wow!
Helena your teachings are invaluable. I’ve been going through an incredibly hard relationship “situation” for the past few years and your teachings have literally saved me. Thank you
You’re welcome! I’m so glad they’ve been helpful, thanks for sharing your experience here! ❤️
A situationship for a few years? That's crazy. Get out.
Words of wisdom!
Thank you! 💜
So good!!
Thank you! 💕
Great Advice!😊
Thanks Lynda! 💜 These videos I recorded with Matt might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/users/live8jedv4qXtLA?feature=share, ua-cam.com/users/livejy4jTHVdxgg?feature=share, ua-cam.com/users/live_Rm3bi1DNT8?feature=share and ua-cam.com/users/live7z3EDvRBnV4?feature=share.
So helpful ❤thank you
You’re welcome! I’m glad it helped. 💗
Thank you so much, i am learning...❤
You’re welcome! 🩷 Here’s the latest episode I recorded with Matthew if anyone would like to check it out: ua-cam.com/video/A6dkHLmcs9M/v-deo.htmlsi=2_KVUW2o0Od_Q2es
Cant find the description that you keep talking about. Thank you you guys are very educated. I appreciate everything you said today.
You’re welcome! 💜 If you click on the title of the video it opens up the description. The free offer Matthew talked about is no longer available since this video is a year old, but here's where you can get free access to his new Masterclass, "The 4 Steps Guaranteed To Attract Your Forever Man": helenahart--mcoast.thrivecart.com/sas-fam/
Really helpful❤
Thank you, I’m glad it helped! 💕
Very good advises ❤👍
Thank you! 🩷 This video I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/users/live8jedv4qXtLA?si=vmEYhP9xIZqDXZy5
Hi Helena, hope you and the family are well. I love Matt's advice, I've saved this to a watch list to watch over again😅 I'm hoping to catch up with you in August for some private coaching if you think you might still have Fridays available. I might sign up to Matt's course too. I have several of his books as well 😊
I’m glad you enjoyed this! Feel free to send an email to helenahartcoaching@gmail.com when you’re ready, and if I don’t have any availability then I can refer you to a coach who specializes in what you’re looking for. ❤️
The total opposite thought happened to me the first 20 seconds of this video like a light bulb went off thank you so much
You’re welcome! 💜 These videos I recorded with Matthew might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/JUhkSiStaF0/v-deo.htmlsi=GoTx7vnYtZxflD3P and ua-cam.com/video/A6dkHLmcs9M/v-deo.htmlsi=yGXwR3RCqsGY8klL.
Hi hi to both of you🤚👋🤚👋plus à thx, hug and love to both of you🤓🙏🙏🙏
Thank you! ❤️
I agree and believe that this is going to work for me
Thanks for sharing! 💜 Here’s a link to the latest episode I recorded with Matthew if anyone would like to check it out: ua-cam.com/video/A6dkHLmcs9M/v-deo.htmlsi=_2NPUQ2BkJmM9fXJ
I realised at a very young age, love was like a mental illness. It can make you do snd put up with things tgat you would do or take from anyone else.
Apparently dome duse a longvtime a cpinrd the phrase, but it was a realisation for me.
I inadvertently did this with my partner of a decade because of an illness, I can’t cater to him so he caters to me, I’m completely surprised he is still with me because I really do pretty much nothing for him except exist and ‘grace him with my presence’ 👹😅
If you love someone you will look after them with their illness. But it needs to be reciprocal in some way.
The breaking point in my last relationship was after years of catering to him, building his career while I lost my own looking after him and my son, when I was ill and the money stopped coming in, he turned. My illness was a nuisance to him. Fortunately, I never gave up my independence, but he left me in a mess financially.
@@angelm6497 I’m sorry you went through that, how unfair of him, I’m glad you kept your independence, I wish I knew how, mental illness and adhd/autism (which im trying to get treatment but uk healthcare is absurd, been on waiting list for over 1 year) make it such a struggle, the most basic things become overwhelming sometimes
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Hi Helen! I'm appreciating the advice on getting my man to chase me, and to invest less so he can invest more!
The problem I experience is when he gets talkative...egad!!! He talks more than any woman I know!!! sometimes I want to yell "shut the **** up!" bc he can talk hours about the most boring drivel😞His talking is sometimes ok, but he can more often than not talk for 3 hrs about some pathetically boring topic which makes me anxious! I become anxious bc I feel like I'm wasting large portions of my day as he beats me to death with metaphors (as though I didn't get the point the first time!!!) I cannot for the life of me get him to "Get to the point" in under an hour:-(( What can I try short of avoiding some conversations??? I almost get to the point I don't want to make any comments for fear he'll run with it! Help!!! Any suggestions?? I'm baffled??!!
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😂😂😂😂 I just can’t help but laugh
I’m such in an awesome place! I have no attachment at all! I am looking to see who a person is and yes they may kiss good or make me feel good but feelings are deceitful and can mislead us. Get to know who they are on a deep level. Time means nothing as I was married to a stranger! Before you sleep with them get to know their parents and them!!!! Logic over love at least that’s the plan! 😂
Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💞
Maybe I need to join the community 😅
13:58 14:02, exactly what I did telling him all that, and the moment I sent it's almost like I knew I did it wrong as his reply was that he's not the right person for me at the moment, that he needs to sort himself out and he wishes me well that, etc. All I want to do is try to apologise and maybe go back to how things were but trying to practise this no contact and just leave him alone which is really hard.
While I don’t know the details of your situation, this video might be helpful if you’re in “no contact“ right now: ua-cam.com/users/liveEFjOGdW_c60?si=h_nLTW9dn01J3F41
True.
Thank you! 💕
Great video.. I have tried to keep myself busy and concentrate on me but for some reason I keep thinking about him.. it’s not like I haven’t focused deeply on myself before but for some reason I’d like to know why I can’t stop thinking of him.. Any advise?
Thanks Rebecca! It may just take some time, it’s important to be gentle and easy on yourself around this. These videos might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/-IJAZaWUlMw/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/gjXYdM90bSU/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/-SE8Bp2nOFI/v-deo.html.
@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you.. I will do my best!! ❤️
You’re welcome! ❤️
I don’t chase anyone anymore! I will be a supporter and do things but I’m NOT chasing! I’m the prize! 🏆 if they let me go their loss! Im loyal and faithful and a very loving person. I’m also fun and funny! I have intellect and in shape and looking for class!
I have man brain sadly! 😂🤦♀️🤦♀️
Thanks for sharing! 💖
👍👍👍Prioritise the relationship not the man ; Gosh this is harder than learning a language or painting ;You are both so awesome and adorable ; you bring joy and simplicity to people's lives.♡👍🦋♡🔷️🌈🟦☆💜🌕■🎼
Thank you, Patricia! ❤️
Prioritize YOURSELF ❤
No kidding 🤦♀️😬 but definitely appreciate all this info ❤🙏
What about if both of you are in a distance, second you censed that he is playing with another woman and you tell him and he doesn’t respond, that should be dropped and discarded he is just playing with your feelings it really hurts but we must keep going it happened to and I had the chance to tell him I’m not going to play this game and I m withdrawn from this, and I did.
It's so strange how great they seem to be when the relationship is ended, 😢 I guess Its only the good things I remember,not all time Ive been hurted 👍💖💖💖, im not at all sure now, you if I should write him or not
Yes, I’ve interviewed a breakup recovery expert a few times and she calls this the “mental highlight reel.” This episode I recorded with her might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/tC3GHtPkzII/v-deo.html
Do either of you do personal coaching and where's the link?
If you're interested in private coaching, you can send an email with a few details about your situation to HelenaHartCoaching@gmail.com, and my assistant will get back to you with some options. If I'm not personally able to help you, I know many coaches that I'd be happy to refer you to if they specialize in your situation.
You can learn more about Matthew's coaching program in his free Masterclass, "The 4 Steps Guaranteed To Attract Your Forever Man" here: helenahart--mcoast.thrivecart.com/sas-fam/
I’m there
Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💜
I couldn't find the goddess community on Facebook. There are similar groups that come up when I search.
I believe the name of the group has been changed to “Relationship Advice For Women - The Goddess Community.” 💞
If my husband blocks me how to reach out
So if I leaned in too much and he asked for space so I am in no contact to give him his space, do they ever really come back?
Thanks for sharing your experience here. 💜 While every situation is different, these videos might be helpful: ua-cam.com/users/liveEFjOGdW_c60?si=zJiFmtshq4HWDUE6 and ua-cam.com/video/VEkz-OSVDbo/v-deo.htmlsi=tG0HB3GUGciu6SPN.
What do you do when a guy feels that you have to always text and call them and they just sit there and don't even try to touch bases with you or text you or anything they just want you to do everything
Personally, I would move on. 💜
Can you make a video like this but for when you live with the person and still together but he’s always acts like I bother him. He doesn’t say/do the sweet things he used to. He doesn’t pursue me anymore. We been on and off for 5 years . I am tired of chasing him or bed for his attention. We have sex maybe once a month or sometimes 2 months -not like that first year.
While I don’t know the details of your situation, “on and off“ for five years is usually a red flag. That being said, these videos might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/9KxQ1Z07_Xk/v-deo.htmlsi=7-vOXbEII-S-H6-X and ua-cam.com/video/OYpkezHU7o8/v-deo.htmlsi=AzldHYsnjeDxkb8I.
What is the facebook name for the goddess? I looked and could not find it. Thank you
It’s now called, “Relationship Advice For Women - The Goddess Community.” 💜
Ok,but what if you feel that you are mostly the one that initiates a conversation when a few days passed. When you write to him, he even says you make him smile, he seems like enjoying to have conversations with you, you flirt, you share , you laugh but then when you decide to give space and see if he takes the initiative to text you first, he just doesn’t . Weeks could pass and he just doesn’t even dare to text you first.. what would we , as women do? Because in a subtle way you end up feeling that you are the chaser.
Is this a man that you’re dating and seeing regularly? In my opinion and experience, a man who’s truly interested isn’t going to let weeks go by without talking to you. 💜
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I asked for his future plan, and he got annoyed, ending, we had an argument.. he asked for space and he did not give me time frame despite of asking him. I reached out after 2 days and still did not receive any response. should i continue providing him space, even tho it means forever?
Oh my goodness if he’s reacting like this to a “ normal “ question then he’s not serious about you right now. Maybe later but not now. I would go NO CONTACT. Don’t block. Just stop reaching out. Get busy and go out & watch him come back. And if he doesn’t then he’s not worth ur time. Keep watching these videos for advice 🙏
He's not serious. He's a boy not man. Let him be. Gosh
You don't have a relationship. Don't have sex without commitment. You'll regret it.
@@anitaeasamoahHe was using her and she is naive.
Not serious dude
I’m going thru this right now my bf of a little over 2 yrs ask for space. He said that the relationship is boring and he’s lacking sexual attraction towards me and that he’s really scared for me to move in with him. We’ve talked about moving in several times and he was fine but now he’s scared and the relationship is boring and doesn’t have sexual attraction towards me. I’asked him how much time he needs and he told me he really doesn’t know. Plz help me this is so hard we are both adults in our mid 30’she says he does love me .
Why moving in with someone you aren't married to? You want to be used and dumped?
You have the answer, you just don't want to see it: he's not into you. Neither are you into you. Learn respect for yourself and you won't have to force anything or anyone. All the love to you❤
See ya to him! Move on to greener pastures doll! Time is too precious to let your heart stay stuck on a perosn that could be posionist to you!
Go no contact, it's in people nature to take things for granted,either he will realise your worth or won't but then you would not want to be with someone who doesn't want you
If he hasn't initiated contact in over a year, how do you communicate with him about that? I tried to let go of him because he was letting me put it all the effort in initiating, but I still struggle with lingering feelings. I don't want to cut him off entirely or have a big fight. I finally broke the silence last week after all this time and texted him with "Hey stranger, it's been a long time since I've heard from you. I thought I would check in and see how you're doing. 🙂"
He didn't text back for 2 days, and then texted me after midnight to ask how I was doing and "I miss you so much!". I was asleep when he sent it, and then I was busy with work, so it was several hours before I responded. I was so happy to hear that he missed me that I texted back that missed him too and told him about my life, completely overlooking that he never apologized or really addressed the distance. And then he took another 2 days to respond. We have never kissed or even dated, there was just deep attraction and daily hugs from him before he moved out of state. Maybe he was never really into me in the first place...
He’s breadcrumbing you hun. Stop texting him and let him chase you & if he doesn’t then time to move on and meet someone more responsive and suitable for you 🙏
hes just not into you it's pretty obvious SOrry :(
Just no. Your worth alot more than this crap.
If you two live in different states now, the likelihood of a potential relationship is low.
It's better to invest your energy with someone you can actually be with regularly. ❤
You were never in a relationship in the first place. You struggle with rejection issues.
My punjabi prince is a narcissist. We have known each other for over two years I believe he loves me because he keeps coming back to me and he will do anything for me
Narcs are dangerous demons.
Becareful they will punish you! You think you’re playing them but these men or women will turn on you. Good luck with that. Yikes!
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The question is- Is he worth the effort? lol
Yes, the latest episode I recorded with Matthew might help you determine that: ua-cam.com/video/A6dkHLmcs9M/v-deo.htmlsi=aF2RugxVogL1OZd2
That’s takes time to flesh out as it’s on the inside! Ugh! Takes time
Great answer!!
Thank you for this amazing information! 💖🪷💖
You’re welcome! ❤️