Gender: A Wider Lens - Live from Lisbon with Billboard Chris | Episode 187

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  • @jamiegraham5841
    @jamiegraham5841 3 місяці тому +61

    Chris Elston was born for this time. He is a man on fire to protect kids and boy I am so grateful for his efforts.

    • @littermonks
      @littermonks 3 місяці тому +1

      So are the other 234 people that have given this video a thumbs up as of October 8th, 2024. This number will surely grow - so let me know when it has reached a million.

  • @Joy2Life333
    @Joy2Life333 3 місяці тому +80

    Absolutely incredible! As a non-affirming mother with a daughter who identifies as a boy, I am so grateful for the Chrises (and Stellas and Shashas) in the world. We parents are criticized on all sides and are so tired from the fight that having someone fight for our children gives so much comfort.

    • @juliesheard2122
      @juliesheard2122 3 місяці тому +9

      Hang on in there! You can do it. ❤🫂💐

    • @nybergjm
      @nybergjm 3 місяці тому +1

      Do you mind sharing a little bit about what caused your daughter to start identifying as trans? Asking as the father of one daughter with another one on the way.

    • @taunyahopkins3000
      @taunyahopkins3000 3 місяці тому +6

      I whole heartedly agree. My teen son has been caught up in this ideaology for over a year and it feels like an exhausting, never-ending battle. Chris is a blessing and I pray he continues the public battle while many of us parents cannot.

    • @Joy2Life333
      @Joy2Life333 3 місяці тому +5

      @@nybergjm there is too much to share, from family losses, to puberty hitting, to a recent diagnosis of bipolar 2 which runs in the family. You have an advantage since you are aware of this phenomenon before it hits your home. I had no idea. The best I can say is to start the conversations early and keep them off social media as much as possible.

    • @Stargazer3131
      @Stargazer3131 3 місяці тому

      *Sasha*

  • @dyoung1492
    @dyoung1492 3 місяці тому +35

    As a former teacher in the UK, we got slides from an outside company which we had to deliver. I taught in a secondary school so it wasn't so heavy. I just pretended that the Whiteboard was broken and we had a chat about studies, work and ... the things the kids felt were important to them. Many of them felt that the gender stuff was irrelevant to them and "a bit nonsensical if you ask me" from one student.

    • @StillNKno
      @StillNKno 3 місяці тому +6

      You are an awesome teacher!

    • @dyoung1492
      @dyoung1492 3 місяці тому +6

      @@StillNKno aaah thank you ... I just found that the kids weren't interested and thought that the gender stuff was about as interested and useful as alegbra. Youngsters have a lot more other stuff going on in their lives.

    • @RachelDavies-wn7ir
      @RachelDavies-wn7ir 2 місяці тому +6

      I just don't understand how an outside company can be allowed to inifltrate schools with this stuff.

    • @dyoung1492
      @dyoung1492 2 місяці тому +5

      @@RachelDavies-wn7ir yes, it's utterly puzzling but seems to be the way of education. We were encouraged to use lesson plans bought in from other sources which for me, was like walking around in other people's shoes - didn't fit well and felt slightly unnerving. Also given that it was something that we'd not planned or even appropriate for our cohort it seemed awful. I hated it so I left.

    • @goodgrief888
      @goodgrief888 2 місяці тому +7

      I’ve witnessed my sister in law lecturing her teenage sons about this ideology, telling them that they’re not being open minded because they roll their eyes and snicker when she goes on. I’m proud of them. It reminds me of how some evangelical relatives in the 80s tried to talk to me about their beliefs and I wouldn’t get into it with them, I just knew they were wrong and a bit crazy. This gives me hope, that these kids aren’t being indoctrinated despite the adults best efforts to cram this stuff down their throats.

  • @valbonney2575
    @valbonney2575 3 місяці тому +14

    I could listen to this guy all day long! Thank you for having him on your platform, he is a breath of fresh air in this suffocating ongoing issue!

  • @juliesheard2122
    @juliesheard2122 3 місяці тому +20

    What an amazing bloke. His courage, level headedness and inteligent clarity give me hope for humanity! ❤

  • @richardparks9347
    @richardparks9347 3 місяці тому +17

    We need more of this in the world! I was that effeminate little boy who got bullied for his love of pink and Barbies, like so many other boys who would likely grow up to be gay. All of the organizations who claim to look out for gay youth would now tell those effeminate boys and girls who are tomboys that they were born in the wrong body. It’s refreshing to hear people talk about this and sound the alarm, I a deeply concerned about other kids who don’t conform to sex based stereotypes now. Thank you for this conversation!

  • @baronesswithabrush1991
    @baronesswithabrush1991 3 місяці тому +18

    At 49:55 --- Yes, the 'letters' need to be separated; it is not the LGBQT lobby, it's TQ lobby...

  • @rubydunaimangold938
    @rubydunaimangold938 3 місяці тому +18

    I love this man so much! He is a hero

  • @jessk7240
    @jessk7240 3 місяці тому +38

    At the one hour mark I was really struck by what Stella said about being reluctant to seek counselling for a child - we removed our son from school when he was ten to home educate him because he was really, really stressed and damaged by school. Often we felt overwhelmed by helping him. I often felt at the absolute limit of my capability as a parent to support him, and we considered counselling many times. But our one ‘brush’ with CAMHS was deeply unimpressive, so we held off, and kept trying, kept thinking, kept being creative with how we helped him to think about himself and his life. And in the end that was the right thing. He didn’t need medicalising or treating. He needed acceptance and healing. I do believe most of the gender confused children we hear about nowadays need the same. They certainly don’t need their mental struggles validated as reality!

    • @markrussell3428
      @markrussell3428 3 місяці тому

      100% if you are seeing a Gender Therapist, the transgender solution is in the person's position title.

    • @theroadlesstraveled3993
      @theroadlesstraveled3993 3 місяці тому +9

      I listened to this talk this morning on my way to take my teen to a new therapist session. (Not a gender affirming therapist). I'm sitting in my car in tears bc I don't know what I'm doing. Thought this was a good choice in the right direction and now I'm not sure. But everything I do seems to make things worse/not help. Maybe I just need therapy. I'm so emotionally and mentally exhausted.😢

    • @ebflegg
      @ebflegg 3 місяці тому +2

      ​@@theroadlesstraveled3993I don't know what to say that's helpful but I felt very sad for you reading this. I hope you find a confidant who listens to you and helps you. Best wishes X

    • @jessk7240
      @jessk7240 3 місяці тому +3

      @@theroadlesstraveled3993 I feel for you. It’a so hard when you have a child struggling. You can only do your best. Trust your instincts and just keep trying - and keep communicating ❤️

    • @lettersquash
      @lettersquash 3 місяці тому

      @@theroadlesstraveled3993 Please don't worry that you've done the wrong thing. The therapist is very unlikely to make anything worse (as you say, it's not a gender therapist!), but I would suggest letting your child tell you what it's like, and let them know they're in charge - if it doesn't feel right to them, it isn't and it's wise to trust their judgement on it. That's not the same as it feeling challenging, or having some upset involved, but therapy should feel supportive; it should feel good - encouraging - to talk to them.
      I hope it went well. Do you have someone to support you going through this difficulty?

  • @maureenjohnston7414
    @maureenjohnston7414 3 місяці тому +12

    Thank you so much…we need more programs like this

  • @HellCatt0770
    @HellCatt0770 3 місяці тому +23

    Billboard Chris is a legend. Everyone should donate a £$€ to his non-profit

    • @mattflynn3469
      @mattflynn3469 3 місяці тому +1

      I agree and I just did! Chris is the man!

  • @Whitebreadvoyageure
    @Whitebreadvoyageure 3 місяці тому +21

    "Parents need the therapy" and "kids need to get off the internet and go outside and play with their friends" direct hit! 👍

  • @brockreynolds870
    @brockreynolds870 3 місяці тому +33

    OMG... the statements at 43:30 are just so stunning. I'm a gay man who pees sitting down. Why?
    1: It's called a RESTroom, so I like to sit down and rest for a minute.
    2: I also have to clean my bathroom, and urianting standing up always makes leaning the bahtroom into MUCH more of a chore!
    I shudder to think what people would have tried to tell me and influence me when I was a child, playing Charlie's Angels with 2 girls on the playground. You just know that some social justice warrior would tell me I was trans after seeing me pretend to be Kate Jackson at reccess.

    • @juliesheard2122
      @juliesheard2122 3 місяці тому +2

      Your words are full of wisdom and much appreciated. ❤

  • @towpottsfam7631
    @towpottsfam7631 3 місяці тому +21

    I've got children the same age as Chris has and am also manic and obsessed about this subject we are protecting our kids and their generation

  • @jumblyman
    @jumblyman 3 місяці тому +10

    That was great. I kind of wish you would post the full uninterrupted sessions of these conferences to binge. Then you can trickle out the standalone segments as you usually do but I’d really love to binge the whole conference.

  • @rosemaryalles6043
    @rosemaryalles6043 3 місяці тому +12

    Thank you Chris and ladies. 🎉🎉🎉❤.
    Huge gratitude. Huge.

  • @BirdistheNerd
    @BirdistheNerd 3 місяці тому +11

    Thank you for pushing back a little bit on the mental illness angle around 58:00. (I'm quite worried for the future of mental health as this current era of healthcare breaks so many boundaries and frayed bonds of trust people have in it) The gentleman asked why are parents taking their kids to a therapist 2 weeks in. Because the parents are terrified. If a pediatrician tells you your child needs to see X,Y, or Z because of serious issues or possibly a fatal outcome in the extreme, YOU GO! I'm much wiser now. But in the US, kids can be separated from their parents and lead down the rabbit hole of "mental health" without a parents' consent. I was asked to leave the room so my child could speak with a dr. The minute I pieced together what was happening and that I had say in only certain areas, I had to hold on with both hands to those areas. It has cost me a great deal health-wise, I fear to think what it could have and has caused my child. The stress that comes at your from all sides while all you want to do is make sure your kid is OK is tremendous. Our issues weren't even about gender. I can't imagine the outrageous pressure these families endure when they were on a journey that had the "best of" funding it. It's maddening and heartbreaking and criminal. Many families are caught up in this and barely treading water. Everything happens so fast from the moment you enter the drs office.

    • @markrussell3428
      @markrussell3428 3 місяці тому

      No, not so fast. Adolescent therapist can be a step back preventing a child from achieving personal resilience. It becomes part of victem culture. "I have a therapist" becomes another signal (excuse) to others that "I am special, I need your empathy". Much like an adolescent wants a diagnosis, and an excuse that their "ability" is compromised. Hence there is no reason to put in effort - you need to accommodate my difference. You can add in how much more are we going to compromise for those who are now learning they come from a legacy of the oppressed and ancestral trauma. Another victim hood narrative.

  • @laurykristensen6239
    @laurykristensen6239 3 місяці тому +19

    I ❤ LOVE J.K. ROWLING

  • @ianl5882
    @ianl5882 3 місяці тому +5

    He’s the most effective bulwark that we have. BIG SHOUTOUT to this wise and caring soul.

  • @yellowhorsecj
    @yellowhorsecj 3 місяці тому +4

    this is such a serious subject and of so much concern should Stella be getting so much joy form her campaign

    • @joen4642
      @joen4642 3 місяці тому +4

      @@yellowhorsecj if anyone takes this serious it's Stella. She has taught me so much from her sharing about her own experiences as well explaining why some of us are easily caught up in this scary ideology. Things my therapist had no insight into. Stella has also taught me to lighten up even though this gender madness hurts my trust in both institutions and the people I used to listen to and trust. Stella's a great role model and her humor and joy helps people like me. I hope she never changes 💜

  • @louiseparker1915
    @louiseparker1915 3 місяці тому +6

    Keep it coming Billboard Chris!

  • @susanfitterer742
    @susanfitterer742 2 місяці тому +2

    Thank you for your courage and conviction to this cause. As a mother and grandmother I pray for you to continue your great work. With the presidential election over and Robert Kennedy Jr. chosen to focus on health case in the US. He may be a great advocate for this cause to protect children. Have you considered approaching him?

  • @davehall8584
    @davehall8584 28 днів тому

    You wonderful human beings..ALL of you....and the bravery of Chris......incredibly admirable.

  • @Berlinetta-h7p
    @Berlinetta-h7p 3 місяці тому +3

    Thank-you Chris, Sasha, and Stella. The future? Chris travels to Australia to give talks...😊

  • @josephblue4135
    @josephblue4135 2 місяці тому +3

    I ❤ Billboard Chris & JK Rowling!
    This should have more likes 👍

  • @AndyJarman
    @AndyJarman 3 місяці тому +6

    Huh? I've seen this already yet You Tube says it was posted only an hour ago?? Ah, it was posted on Genspect first.

    • @markrussell3428
      @markrussell3428 3 місяці тому +2

      Genspect posted this right after the live stream, except there was about an hour of dead air. This is the better version.

  • @markrussell3428
    @markrussell3428 3 місяці тому +9

    Chris is brilliant. I wanted to hear Sasha enter into the discussion around the merits of Gender & Sexuality Alliance AKA Gay & Straight Alliance (GSA). Sasha has run these clubs when they had purpose and meaning. Have they gone of the rails? Are the appropriate??
    These "student led" school clubs might actually be more a problem than a solution. Imagine a school club for "normies" where the topic of hetrosexuality is explored more deeply?? I think the police would be called because grooming becomes rather obvious.

    • @zimzob
      @zimzob 3 місяці тому

      Yeah it seems inappropriate to have a school club centered around who you’d want to f*ck.

  • @shannonsayshi
    @shannonsayshi 3 місяці тому +5

    Ha ha Stella! I caught the reference to the God Father with the horse's head. 😅

  • @Redbleach
    @Redbleach 3 місяці тому +2

    This was great, thanks

  • @linathin7461
    @linathin7461 2 місяці тому +1

    I’m such a fan of Chris!

  • @TheWeirdSide1
    @TheWeirdSide1 Місяць тому

    I sat down with a therapist when I was 21. Either in that first session or just a few sessions later, I told her I had debilitating social anxiety.
    3 months later, I left the last session with a piece of paper that said I have social anxiety. Pause. I lost all confidence in psychology at that point, at least the 'genre' offered in last few decades. It's why I never jumped on this transitioning-children-band-wagon craze. A major innate flaw exists in this field. And it's basically a paradox. On the one hand, the therapist should never 'plant ideas', but on the other, the patient is there exactly because they are struggling or completely unable to make mental health decisions for themselves. So there's very loose/vague/fuzzy/imprecise decisions and diagnosis being made. And in my case, the therapist was just a few years older than me. (I'm sure no one would volunteer for the youngest surgeon to do their heart surgery, yes?). Why is it, that when children are involved, we accept the youngest teachers very often without question in our schools? Shouldn't those early years of development be the most important to 'get right'? And why do parents send their kids off to school to be baby-sat by a stranger that the government assigns, while an actual baby-sitter(who plays much less role in development) would be carefully hand-picked? This is some very strange thinking in my opinion. Parents probably make more effort to pick out their car mechanic and hair dresser than they do their children's teachers. This is insanity, sorry to say it. I won't even bring kids into this world until this basic safeguarding is demanded by majority.

  • @Harv-ul9fz
    @Harv-ul9fz Місяць тому +1

    Great discussion

  • @janeawdry8182
    @janeawdry8182 2 місяці тому +2

    Chris & his family seem so strong & intelligent - his determination & their support show that it’s possible to fight this and bring people along with you.
    Back here in the UK Graham Linehan has had a truly awful time -just for trying to protect women’s rights - and children.. it’s incomprehensible..
    Go Billboard Chris! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @princessmay9921
    @princessmay9921 3 місяці тому +4

    Brave man!

  • @paulmead5832
    @paulmead5832 3 місяці тому +8

    Goodness, he is so angelic.

    • @AndyJarman
      @AndyJarman 3 місяці тому +4

      You might find his appearance on Peter Boghossian's video released today interesting. He's very clever when he manages to seduce an ideologue into openly discussing this.

    • @slacktoryrecords4193
      @slacktoryrecords4193 3 місяці тому +1

      He’s a beautiful man, isn’t he?

  • @lettersquash
    @lettersquash 3 місяці тому +9

    This was the most encouraging video I've witnessed yet on the trans scandal. Chris is amazing. I would, however, like to advise against bigging up Jordan Peterson. He was in the vanguard protesting against Canadian wokery, of course, but it's hypocritical to call gender ideology "nuts" and support Peterson, who is off the charts whacko, not to mention a beligerent misogynist with a disturbing history of drug addiction, cult-like diets, and extremely authoritarian parenting (he literally force-fed his kid for an hour, holding food in his mouth until he had to swallow, to "out-stubborn" him, and boasted about it in one of his myth-infused "lectures" here on youtube). His reactionary politics gives the gender-confused that damaging excuse to ignore us, equating gender critic with insane, far-right, angry dinosaur. Cheers.

    • @Atomb
      @Atomb 3 місяці тому +1

      Piss off purity police.

    • @lettersquash
      @lettersquash 3 місяці тому +1

      @@Atomb Interesting. What did I write that you think is "purity policing"? I'm just letting people know I think JP is a monumental asshole and not to keep recommending him in connection with this issue. But I apologise - I didn't realise this was your Internet.

    • @lettersquash
      @lettersquash 3 місяці тому +1

      @@Atomb Shush. Adults are talking.

    • @Atomb
      @Atomb 3 місяці тому +1

      @@lettersquash Sanctimonious queefs more like it.

    • @lettersquash
      @lettersquash 2 місяці тому

      @@Atomb Go tidy your room.

  • @goodgrief888
    @goodgrief888 2 місяці тому +1

    He’s very brave and articulate. I don’t think well on my feet, and have such low self esteem, I gave up on talking to my low information normie friends about this topic. Even though I worked at a gender clinic in San Francisco and had firsthand knowledge that these interventions are purely a fiction, surface level trickery at best, and turn what should be people getting therapy into lifelong medical patients. I had to talk to my husband for many months about what was going on there before he would concede that he didn’t realize believe that a man could medically become a woman, and vise verse, but that it was easier to just pretend he believed that for the sake of getting along as a leftist in the sf Bay Area. Most people don’t want to listen and it’s in their best interests not to listen, not to have to get that punched in the gut feeling that comes along with having your eyes opened to something that could get you deemed a “right winger,” which is tantamount to having your life completely ruined socially and professionally in most West Coast cities. So I don’t even try. I live in constant fear that people will notice me not enthusiastically nodding along and clapping like a seal when they’re going on about this topic, which they’re usually just parroting whatever they’ve heard activists saying. I’ve pulled away from social circles that begin to parrot these things. Eventually people notice and zero in when they see you not following their lead regarding this issue. My silence has gotten me called out. And I am not mentally prepared emotionally prepared to go to battle with them. So I run. I wish I had the strength and courage that Billboard Chris has, but I see how deep this goes and I know I can’t take it on. So instead I am just waiting for the medical professionals to finally admit they were caught up in an ideology and then my normie friends will parrot that new information, if it ever trickles down to them.

  • @pollyparrot9447
    @pollyparrot9447 2 місяці тому

    There's a 'Puberty Week'?

  • @boomc8842
    @boomc8842 3 місяці тому +2

    Chris are you franchising that idea?

  • @nogorman560
    @nogorman560 3 місяці тому +2

    #RepealGRA

  • @C-U-Never-Troll
    @C-U-Never-Troll 2 місяці тому

    Let’s there be gays and lesbians!

  • @andreajackson7758
    @andreajackson7758 2 місяці тому +1

    He teaches by example.

  • @Argeaux2
    @Argeaux2 3 місяці тому +7

    Chris seems like a nice guy.
    However, he doesn’t seem to realise how patronising it is to refer to every single female he mentions as a “lovely lady”.
    It’s not necessary to call us lovely. We aren’t blushing beauties who need flattery.
    Just refer to us as women. Be a man who will actually call women just that.
    It will be refreshing, in an age where so many people call us cis women, or TERFs.
    I would love to hear women called women, for a change.

    • @baronesswithabrush1991
      @baronesswithabrush1991 3 місяці тому

      I agree with you, but years of non-obvious conditioning have taught guys to try to flatter women... I can not stand the terms the trans came up with in order to 'other' us people rooted in sexual reality so that they can feel like they are not the 'Other'. The worst part is the well meaning folks who go along and willingly call themselves CIS. It is pathetic. ~Proud TERF (I hate that term but have now co-opted it)

    • @baronesswithabrush1991
      @baronesswithabrush1991 3 місяці тому

      Men are conditioned to flatter. I don't mind it. Rather called that than CIS or TERF. Trans folks invented ugly names so they can OTHER us, instead of themselves being 'othered'.

    • @emilymorley3655
      @emilymorley3655 2 місяці тому +5

      I on the other hand love being called a lovely lady and don't find it patronising at all

    • @ycAuntieLala
      @ycAuntieLala Місяць тому +2

      Lovely lady could refer to girls or women. It isn’t patronizing. Is gentleman patronizing? No. This is speech signifying respect of person and even if the person isn’t actually lovely or gentle is signals how they hope the interaction will go. Language, is used for communication.

    • @f.r.etling
      @f.r.etling Місяць тому

      Comments like this are why feminists have a bad rap

  • @baronesswithabrush1991
    @baronesswithabrush1991 3 місяці тому +9

    It's too bad the far RIGHT has captured this issue and made it POLITICAL. Just like Martina Navratilova, I am about as far LEFT as one can get, but have not been swayed into this absurd notion of GENDER being different than SEX.

    • @ribbonsofnight
      @ribbonsofnight 3 місяці тому +5

      If the far? left weren't captured on this issue then the right couldn't make it about politics. It's not the right that has a problem. Far right is just a meaningless pejorative term at this point.

    • @baronesswithabrush1991
      @baronesswithabrush1991 3 місяці тому

      @@ribbonsofnight The Right have plenty of problems, so that term is not at all a meaningless pejorative. It was the Right Wing in the U.K. who signed off on Gender ID cards, so... they were 'captured' first actually. They seemed quite happy to spread this nonsense. My point was that it should not really be a left/right problem & it shouldn't be Political. It's an 'All Sane Hands On Deck' to stop the insanity problem. But when the admirable Billboard crusader guy mentions the weasel Tucker Carlson (ugh!) I have to bring up the 'far right'.

    • @juliesheard2122
      @juliesheard2122 3 місяці тому +5

      None of this is political, it is dualistic.

    • @baronesswithabrush1991
      @baronesswithabrush1991 3 місяці тому +1

      @@ribbonsofnight Was the Conservatives in the U.K. who issued Gender ID Cards. So..... yeah. That's the RIGHT, not the left.

    • @baronesswithabrush1991
      @baronesswithabrush1991 3 місяці тому +1

      @@juliesheard2122 Um, no. Unless you mean 'non-binary' Ha Ha. Joking.

  • @Sillybillyilly
    @Sillybillyilly 2 місяці тому

    I was just called endless names for sending a UA-cam about the problems with kiddos these days.. as she tells me she's having all the issues currently... it's wonderful and it's abuse
    Yet I'm called the abuser

  • @goodkady
    @goodkady 3 місяці тому

    21:15 They tricked him

  • @paulmead5832
    @paulmead5832 3 місяці тому +1

    My

  • @maxxwellbeing9449
    @maxxwellbeing9449 3 місяці тому

    He did not say anything about racism …. He said…. Kids without fathers in the home, end up taking the wrong path….blaming the black culture for not valuing the importance of having black fathers in the home… “Where was his father..?” The problem is fatherless homes and the destruction of the nuclear family.. systemic racism has nothing to do with poor cultural values.

  • @mrlawilliamsukwarmachine4904
    @mrlawilliamsukwarmachine4904 3 місяці тому +2

    52:03 Musk wasn’t tricked. He’s in the club.

    • @ac27934
      @ac27934 3 місяці тому +1

      What's your evidence for that? Everything I've seen and heard points in the opposite direction.

    • @goodkady
      @goodkady 3 місяці тому

      Something’s cockamamie about a multi-billionaire genius being spoofed by a bunch of quack doctors… it’s almost like we are being forced to accept that either 1) Elons Musk is insane, 2) that he’s a plain dummy, or 3) that this is some kind of queer (sensu stricto) test and our belovèd JP is in cahoots.
      I feeling all discombobulated.