10 Signs That a Man is Emotionally Invested in You

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  • @Mat_Shaffer
    @Mat_Shaffer  2 години тому

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  • @ingahastings7607
    @ingahastings7607 4 роки тому +1563

    By the way ... I am 77 + .... who says you can’t find happiness at my age? I was just about to “throw in the towel” when I met Edward, thought it was going to be my last date and then what happened .... it is incredible. So happy now. Now I see what you say makes sense. 💕

    • @kazboo542
      @kazboo542 4 роки тому +41

      Congrats to you &Edward. X

    • @divineserendipity1196
      @divineserendipity1196 4 роки тому +33

      Awww lovely ❤🙏🏻 thank you fpr shared it with us❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +81

      So happy for you Inga!! Thank you for the beautiful share, love is TRULY possible at any point in our lives ❤️❤️❤️

    • @repa49
      @repa49 4 роки тому +36

      Thank you for sharing , Inga! Great to hear that yoe found love at the age of 77! I'm sure this will last until the end... Hopefully I too will be finding my 'Edvard' soon... I'm 71 now. Great to know that it is never too late 😀

    • @julifunnygirl71
      @julifunnygirl71 4 роки тому +27

      Congratulations! It makes me so happy to know it's never too late to find love ❤

  • @princessgracedimaculangan8495
    @princessgracedimaculangan8495 4 роки тому +886

    Top 10 🥰😍
    1. He accepts your flaws.
    2. He is proactive to your needs.
    3. He goes above and beyond to make you happy.
    4. He will make time for you.
    5. He is interested with your personal life.
    6. He is protected over you, emotional and physical well being.
    7. He is supportive to you when you are stress.He is responsive to your text.
    8. He talks about you to his family.
    9. He introduces you to his friends and family within 6 months.
    10. He future build with you.

  • @a.k.4085
    @a.k.4085 4 роки тому +412

    This man knows his stuff. I'm impressed.

  • @brightpage1020
    @brightpage1020 3 роки тому +323

    "Emotional investment is the currency of love."
    Way to break it down, man.

  • @Joy_M507
    @Joy_M507 9 місяців тому +9

    The guy I’m getting to know does all of these things, but I’ve been in so many toxic relationships that I’m afraid anything good that he does for me is either lovebombing or some other narcissistic behavior that will hurt me in the end. I hope I don’t mess this up. 😔

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 місяців тому +3

      It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

  • @Jennifer-di4nl
    @Jennifer-di4nl 4 роки тому +171

    #4 is very true. I'm dating a man with two small children & whenever I'm free (which isn't often) he rearranges his whole schedule to see me. It's very sweet.

    • @kash2011
      @kash2011 2 роки тому +7

      You are so lucky

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +2

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @susandickson637
    @susandickson637 3 роки тому +28

    I'm 62 and have been through a lot of toxicity and abuse ... Married 3 terrible times and grew up with an abusive father and mother .... I've now gotten to know the most wonderful man... he is so kind and fun ... We really are doing well ... So much of what you talk about is actually the norm in this relationship ... He is 10 years older than me .... but that doesn't matter to me at all ... I can tell that we are both invested .... I feel so blessed ....

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +1

      That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

    • @Artcrave33
      @Artcrave33 Рік тому

      Who would understand this than me 😢 but I am glad you are strong enough to break through! And able to build a health relationship! Remain blessed !

  • @lynj9088
    @lynj9088 Рік тому +28

    Thank you so much Mat.
    I am 71 and met the man of my dreams over 11 months ago. We are INCREDIBLY happy!!! He does all of these things and more!! I am VERY BLESSED!!!!

  • @jennyjacobsen6537
    @jennyjacobsen6537 4 роки тому +243

    My husband does these things! I am So happy :) I Thank God for him he is such a blessing to me!

    • @SuperShandy777
      @SuperShandy777 4 роки тому +1

      Please pray4 me x my guy is asking abt God x its good

    • @SuperShandy777
      @SuperShandy777 4 роки тому +1

      My guy does everything but sometimes takes several hours 2 reply2 my texts. Should I worry

    • @bonnielee7134
      @bonnielee7134 2 роки тому

      Amen! ❤️🙏

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      That is awesome! Happy for you 😊

  • @marieo6109
    @marieo6109 3 роки тому +257

    This makes me appreciate my husband even more because he did all those things when we were dating. He is my love and my best friend. Thank you for reminding me to take care of him better as we grow old together.

    • @denisehardin7005
      @denisehardin7005 2 роки тому +4

      My mom & step dad were together for 40 years. They met when I was 19 y.o..Jack was an AMAZING husband for my mom, terrific dad To me & my sisters, à perfect grandfather & Great GrandPa To My grandchildren
      .He just passes away last year @ the age of 92& 1/2. We all Loved him dearly ! . THEY WERE TRULY A MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN !!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +3

      That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

    • @3derevo3
      @3derevo3 Рік тому

      Yeah. And, did you need a “coach” to tell you those were the signs of love? I thought so…

  • @cynthiacoleman8274
    @cynthiacoleman8274 4 роки тому +94

    Ladies he has given YOU the keys. Without these actions YOU mean very little to that man!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 місяці тому

      Exactly! 🔑😊 The actions he takes are the true measure of how much you mean to him. Don’t settle for less than you deserve, ladies! If you’re interested in exploring this more, I’m running a FREE live coaching course next month where we’ll cover these topics. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ ✨

  • @meliholland
    @meliholland 4 роки тому +259

    Wow! I’m super blessed! After a horrible year of dating unavailable men, I finally found the one!!
    I need to go kiss my man now!! lol

    • @brendamarie9966
      @brendamarie9966 4 роки тому +6

      How did you find him girl? Or rather how did he find you?

    • @meliholland
      @meliholland 4 роки тому +9

      Brenda Marie the grace of God. I was about to delete my dating app and he appeared. He looked like he was from where I’m from (California) so I took a chance and I’m so glad I did.

    • @kirakeynow
      @kirakeynow 4 роки тому +9

      i think i am dating an unavailable men right now and i am crying. i deserve a good relationship, i dont understand why everything happens

    • @Tanya-uu1rk
      @Tanya-uu1rk 4 роки тому

      Same☺️

    • @lexc9879
      @lexc9879 4 роки тому +1

      @@meliholland same story with me and my new person 😭hoping for the best

  • @caterinadelgalles8783
    @caterinadelgalles8783 3 роки тому +130

    I'm 40. I've never had such a man in my life. I can only hope for the future. I've never been in love....well, one sided, of course. I have a cat now. It's fills some of the void.

    • @leynajaneify
      @leynajaneify 3 роки тому +4

      I am 39 and it took this long for it to find me

    • @jameybonaparte2803
      @jameybonaparte2803 3 роки тому +10

      Do the things that make you happy, embrace your singleness, it will make you more attractive and the right one will come along. I found love again at the age of 56, 5 years after the end of my 25 year marriage. The Lord kept me and blessed me. Love 💘 you first.

    • @sofialovinglife597
      @sofialovinglife597 3 роки тому +1

      You sound so bitter shift your energy

    • @IndieCindy3
      @IndieCindy3 3 роки тому +12

      @@sofialovinglife597 she didn’t sound bitter to me, she was merely stating her truth. Being kind is always cool.

    • @tagabulodchastityobedience7292
      @tagabulodchastityobedience7292 3 роки тому +8

      Me too I have cats and dogs they’re much better than men they’re extremely loyal and loving they’re enough for me

  • @theworldismyclassroom660
    @theworldismyclassroom660 4 роки тому +166

    Wow, I've been dating a guy for a little over 2 months and this is all so him. It's so refreshingly different from most of dating experiences I've had before, just so natural and comfortable and easy.

    • @husshhhussh
      @husshhhussh 4 роки тому

      ❤️

    • @hellomiss7177
      @hellomiss7177 3 роки тому +1

      what’s his zodiac sign by the way??

    • @lucyk2634
      @lucyk2634 3 роки тому +2

      Are you in love with him and are you still together?

    • @Iamacollage
      @Iamacollage 3 роки тому

      @@hellomiss7177 Virgo!

    • @Iamacollage
      @Iamacollage 3 роки тому +5

      @@lucyk2634 yes it's been 7 months now and I'm very happy! (:

  • @feliciajohn7660
    @feliciajohn7660 4 роки тому +69

    I remember dating my boyfriend last year and we move slowly. And when he started talking about his future with me I know where we were heading. He is amazing.

    • @feliciajohn7660
      @feliciajohn7660 4 роки тому +1

      @@Wowyana we are talking like 6 months and we are in a relationship kind of slowly haha. Taking our time knowing each other. Just being friends. Getting comfortable. Being ourselves. Almost a year now 🥰

    • @shelbybowers4894
      @shelbybowers4894 4 роки тому +3

      Ya, exactly. We went through a drive-thru recently and we were eating in my car and he randomly brought up "names we wouldn't use for our kids." Lol it's silly, but he has brought up kids/marriage a lot. All the time, he is certain of his intentions for me ❤

  • @MsWendyken
    @MsWendyken 4 роки тому +23

    After 9 yrs of being single and searching on and off I finally found an amazing man who yesssss does these things..

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +1

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @lindakutch6608
    @lindakutch6608 2 роки тому +18

    Thanks for this video I’m over 70, thought I’d never find someone as wonderful as my new man. Most all the points you gave are present in our relationship ❤️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +1

      AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations! And thank you

  • @anncontorno9053
    @anncontorno9053 Рік тому +4

    He's so cute with his positive messages and his kind delivery❤

  • @vgylsen
    @vgylsen 4 роки тому +37

    Oh gosh I was finding reasons to convince myself that he just cares as a friend but you make some good points here that I can’t deny lol

  • @woolzem
    @woolzem Рік тому +4

    1.) They embrace your flaws with a smile
    2.) They are exceptionally present and proactive to your needs
    3.) They go "above and beyond" to make you happy
    4.) They make time for you (no matter how busy they are)
    5.) They're genuinely curious about the details of your life
    6.) They get a little protective over you (in a healthy way)
    7.) Quick and thoughtful responses to texts
    8.) He talks about you to friends and family
    9.) He introduces you to his friends and family in a reasonable amount of time
    10.) He future-builds with you
    Thanks again for an amazing video. Some of these were reassuring and some made me worry a little bit, because they were already points of contention in our relationship.(2 and 10 lol)
    Overall, your insight was helpful.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому +1

      Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

  • @sheila71072
    @sheila71072 3 роки тому +24

    ... when he couldn't stand seeing her so upset during their argument, that he comes close to her and hugs her lovingly, kisses her head, say "I love you", until the she calms down, making her feel secure and that no argument is more important than his woman to be peaceful again... Because her peace is his peace...
    That's my Man, and I am proud of him :)

    • @tonyalexa1120
      @tonyalexa1120 3 роки тому +1

      Hello 👋 Friend...How are you doing today?

    • @sheila71072
      @sheila71072 3 роки тому

      @@tonyalexa1120 Good! Thanks!

    • @tonyalexa1120
      @tonyalexa1120 3 роки тому +1

      @@sheila71072 You're most welcome🤗 Where are you from?

    • @sheila71072
      @sheila71072 3 роки тому

      @@tonyalexa1120 Philippjnes :) what about you?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 місяців тому

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @adidah.design
    @adidah.design 4 роки тому +351

    The moment when you watch this video till the end and realize that you have been suffering in a relation for 10 years with a man that has not invested a dime emotionally into me. None of the 10 signs present......... I guess I need to take action now...
    @Mat: thank you so much for opening my eyes!

    • @makedafindlay9398
      @makedafindlay9398 4 роки тому +15

      Yep get ride of him.

    • @makedafindlay9398
      @makedafindlay9398 4 роки тому +6

      Listen to a lady on UA-cam called Shera seven. She can change your life for the better.

    • @SashaSamara
      @SashaSamara 3 роки тому +9

      That is how my ex was.. Good luck to you.

    • @vangieduenas9501
      @vangieduenas9501 3 роки тому +2

      I know. Right?

    • @TheSharronW
      @TheSharronW 3 роки тому +7

      Very sad. Hope you have better luck soon

  • @Delbellz_VA
    @Delbellz_VA 4 роки тому +258

    I'm so blessed and overly grateful that my boyfriend does all those things you've talked about 💕🥰😍

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +17

      aww thats fantastic Delanie!! you're a lucky woman

    • @vhayashi7369
      @vhayashi7369 4 роки тому +13

      Wonder what planet he comes from? 😄

    • @paula-elizabeth
      @paula-elizabeth 4 роки тому +1

      👍🏽✨

    • @bscnyc9948
      @bscnyc9948 4 роки тому +1

      but not introduced to friends.... ever....!!! haven't meet him physically even... in our imagination everything you said is very well achieved... drag down to dismiss... he said.. he's watching me... yes love felt the vibs.. thanks💋but emotionally invested in me.... no doubt about that... he said I'm unique... etc.. 😜🐒🍌👻

    • @bscnyc9948
      @bscnyc9948 4 роки тому

      what are you doing with the cam.... oh my! oh my! stop it pls.. good night love..!!! .saying good night to you is so hard for me to do.. you better sleep now... sleep tight... see in the morning.. 💋👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨

  • @mirsabbir3666
    @mirsabbir3666 4 роки тому +48

    As a man. I really appreciate the traits you exposed in this video.

  • @michelleevers5
    @michelleevers5 4 роки тому +14

    Yeaaa.. he’s definitely emotionally invested in me 🥰🥰🥰 Thank you!!

  • @karenkimbril3899
    @karenkimbril3899 3 роки тому +9

    I met a man about a month ago...and he is already all of the points u mentioned in your video. He has caused me to experiences I havent had happen in several yrs. Its like we have known each other for a long time. We have many things in common and we have already had some serious discussions....getting to know each other. We have been talking about our future together. Idk if its the real thing, but it surely does seem like it! You are spot on and i love ur videos!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 місяців тому +1

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.

  • @rebeccacisco9420
    @rebeccacisco9420 3 роки тому +13

    Wow. Thanks to you, I just realized my best male friend is actually in love with me. I complained that my hot water heater was not working. He drove 300 miles to come fix it. We webt shopping and I saw a thing I liked and said I wish I could afford it. He went and got it for me as a gift. Among other things you mentioned. Now....I am digesting that.
    On the other hand I have been seeing someone that doesnt show as much investment, yet I hear from his co workers that he talks about me a lot in a positive way. But he isnt exactly clearing his schedule for me.
    Things to think about.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      I’m glad to hear everything worked out well. But it doesn't end there as of yet, just keep the positivity going dear! ♥ :)

  • @liannecymbalisty6882
    @liannecymbalisty6882 4 роки тому +13

    Nice to see a relatively short presentation filled with important and helpful information.

  • @tabathiagaskin7992
    @tabathiagaskin7992 3 роки тому +32

    This is such great info. My man introduced me to his dad and step mom and his friend in a week. He also does most of the other 9 things on your list. Thank you!

  • @MeganCleland111
    @MeganCleland111 2 місяці тому

    I want to express my immense gratitude towards you Matt. You have helped me unlock my gifts and start sharing magic to help other women to step inti their true power. I was in the group coaching you did for light workers with Aaron Doughty and Victor Oddo and since July I have been sharing my voice loud and proud. I cant wait to help and inspire women like you do and to the extent that you do❤❤❤

  • @sandyb7672
    @sandyb7672 4 роки тому +25

    My man does all of these with flying colors and more!! I think he is in Love with me already. It's been 2 months I think he's my soul mate he is me but in male form. We are congenial companions that met by devine intervention we weren't even looking for each other we we're just drawn together like magnets it was as if we had known each other our whole lives the moment we met. I didn't even know it was possible or that someone so perfect for me existed 😭🙌🏼💖. We even went through the same past life traumatic stories and we both have the same mental disability too! It's like he was created for me.

    • @taylove364
      @taylove364 4 роки тому +1

      You are in the honey phase it’s only been two month men start switching up around 6th or 12th month if they are a player

    • @sandyb7672
      @sandyb7672 4 роки тому

      True I guess I'll see won't I how she goes! 😊 lol

    • @kimgordon3695
      @kimgordon3695 4 роки тому

      20days in & flash forward to now ! We'd love an Update 😊

    • @meizhumeizhu407
      @meizhumeizhu407 3 роки тому

      Congratulations

  • @andreahess4139
    @andreahess4139 4 роки тому +11

    I've experienced 8 out of 10 of these from the man I've been seeing for two months. Guess we're off to a good start! Thank you for the information!

  • @chrisbigarani1691
    @chrisbigarani1691 4 роки тому +6

    Loved that!
    Favorite: Sharing his future dreams and plans.

  • @emilysiders7144
    @emilysiders7144 4 роки тому +44

    I've been in a relationship with the love of my life for 6 months, longest relationship I've EVER had because I just wasn't ready, but this man when I get acne or anything he's like "I don't care about that your beautiful." And I'm like I friggin love you. 😍

    • @jeaniesinclair4292
      @jeaniesinclair4292 3 роки тому +2

      He is a con man of the heart
      Heartless really
      Move on with your life

    • @Captivatingndc
      @Captivatingndc 3 роки тому +3

      Sounds like a great guy!

    • @tonyalexa1120
      @tonyalexa1120 3 роки тому +1

      Hello 👋 Emily.. How are you doing today?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 місяців тому

      I’m glad to hear everything worked out well.

  • @unfortunatelyiamsane
    @unfortunatelyiamsane 3 роки тому +28

    just have to say this; spending time on a date in the park is really nice, and not every guy has the kind of money to book a vacation *like that*!

  • @lyncajandab
    @lyncajandab 3 роки тому +42

    Now this video makes me understand that I'm the man in the relationship 😅

  • @cassieallred620
    @cassieallred620 4 роки тому +14

    Not sure why this was recommended for me to watch today, but now I really miss my sweet man 🥰 he hits all these boxes and more, and really came out of nowhere.

  • @rosenblau
    @rosenblau 4 роки тому +48

    He definitely accepts me despite of my flaws and my serious medical condition, he asks me how I'm feeling and what he can do to help if I'm not well, he's not good in reading indirect requests but that's fine, making time for me is okay but could be improved, he's very interested in my hobbies and my life and he remembers things even though his memory sucks, he's extremely protective in a healthy way and willing to fix my problems, he is a busy man but he still does respond within a reasonable amount of time and he did mention me to his family but I haven't met them because I haven't been to the state he lives, he includes me when talking about the future and is vulnerable with me. Pretty much showing all the signs, some could be better but nobody is perfect right?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +13

      what a wonderful man! love that you are super grateful for who he is and how he shows up in your life

  • @julianneestrada6239
    @julianneestrada6239 Рік тому +1

    Yes you are amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you for this!!!!!!

  • @ingahastings7607
    @ingahastings7607 4 роки тому +23

    Hello Mat. I have just enjoyed 3 of your interesting videos. I have met Edward and he fills all 10 of your mentioned requirements for a happy relationship. Since I lost my husband of over 50 years happy marriage to cancer, I had a number of dates and one which turned out to be an absolute nightmare. If I had seen your videos before, I would have never got devastated or hurt. I know now that I have made the right choice with Edward and I am so happy. I am sure your videos will help lots of listeners. Keep up the good work. A warm hug from Inga 😘 😘 💝

    • @lucianasuazo4917
      @lucianasuazo4917 4 роки тому

      You are so right

    • @ceticwitch9466
      @ceticwitch9466 3 роки тому

      I hope this isn't too bold but you are absolutely beautiful Inga, wow 😍

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  10 місяців тому

      Thanks so much my dear!

  • @joyt6609
    @joyt6609 4 роки тому +32

    Very well said Atty Matt . I finally found a man who when looks at my face and knows how my day went. Embracing my flaws as well. And by the way he will wait for me until i get home so we can video chat every night for a goodnight. I prayed with him as well. We set our marriage on Nov 3, 2020 just hoping Covid will be over. God Bless you and your tribe

    • @angelskietta1230
      @angelskietta1230 4 роки тому +1

      Ohh, so lucky. Just give you blessings.

    • @MsAnchovey
      @MsAnchovey 4 роки тому +1

      ❤Today is Nov 3.❤ Happy wedding day!!❤ Let me know how it goes❤

    • @joyt6609
      @joyt6609 4 роки тому +2

      @@MsAnchovey here’s the engagement ring and our wedding ring he designed for our wedding. We are waiting for the International Flight to be open. We still talk every night and asked me how’s my day❤️ haven’t feel any change in my man♥️

    • @joyt6609
      @joyt6609 4 роки тому +1

      Thank You for remembering and asking AnnKleinman

    • @MsAnchovey
      @MsAnchovey 4 роки тому

      @@joyt6609 ❤

  • @Lindavandergaag1968
    @Lindavandergaag1968 3 роки тому +17

    The man I love is emotionallly unavailable. He is my good friend and lover, lost his wife of cancer 8 years ago. Why did I fell for him...My age is 52, I had a few long relationships, was happy to be single and I live alone just fine. I guess I'd better leave, but that feels so incredible heartbreaking. We've grown to one another, but I guess I just have to make up my mind...

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 місяців тому

      Don’t give up on love sister!

  • @charlenelouw5657
    @charlenelouw5657 4 роки тому +11

    This is SO My Man.. I'm SO Blessed & Appreciate him🥰🥰🥰❤️❤️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +1

      Amazing! love hearing that!

    • @charlenelouw5657
      @charlenelouw5657 2 роки тому

      @@Mat_Shaffer After years of searching loll..thank u though

  • @diandrawright9357
    @diandrawright9357 5 місяців тому

    He checked all these boxes and alottt more. Know him for over a decade and We’ve been together for 7 months.We just got married last month. He shows me so much respect and love and I’m literally so happy and proud to have him in my life. We are best friends and we have a very healthy relationship. God has been great to us

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 місяців тому

      You’re fabulous! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and spreading the love. 💖

  • @Lojay_5
    @Lojay_5 4 роки тому +8

    Thank you so much for this information I am 66 years old in a long-distance relationship with someone I knew from my childhood who is still across the country and all the signs that you just talked about our present in my relationship and thank you for reassuring me that he really does love me. We are waiting until after Covid to get together.

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 роки тому

      lori richards,you deserve better!

    • @phoenixmode6909
      @phoenixmode6909 4 роки тому +1

      Your post gives me hope. Thanks! 😊

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 роки тому

      @@phoenixmode6909 you are welcome my dearest 🌹🌷🌷.I'm Oscar Williamson from the States.You?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 місяців тому

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @rosemilan8390
    @rosemilan8390 4 роки тому +35

    Thank you soo much for this! 1 minute in and you hit the number one thing that I’m trying so frantically to fix about myself just to learn that this one insecurity is something he appreciates so much more than I can even imagine

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +2

      So glad my content supports you :)

    • @robynwaldo5565
      @robynwaldo5565 Рік тому

      IKR after 12 yrs with a nightmare Narcisst and free for 4 yrs. I dated 2 guys for a VERY short time , they were NARC's ...same sh*t, different body. I met a guy a few weeks ago, I have learned to leave alot about those 12 yrs in the past.. yet keeping an eye on red flags, even the slightest. I do have a bit of a guard up, yet I dont let it show.. BUT< meanwhile, so far so good... I'm a young 63, hes 58.

  • @sharonbiddle9901
    @sharonbiddle9901 4 роки тому +43

    Oh yeah my guy is a pro at all of the those I'm the most blessed woman in the whole entire world!

  • @irenecanar1756
    @irenecanar1756 3 роки тому +6

    Found him 12 years ago and we’ve been married for 6 years with 2 beautiful kids. 🥰

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @iqranaseer5565
    @iqranaseer5565 4 роки тому +26

    Well, 10 signs signalled me that he is not emotionally invested in me :/

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  10 місяців тому

      Thanks so much for sharing!

  • @rachelcardenio1373
    @rachelcardenio1373 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you so much for sharing and explaining how a man shows love and emotional attachment to a special woman in his life.

    • @tonyalexa1120
      @tonyalexa1120 3 роки тому

      Hello 👋 Rachel...How are you doing today?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      Amazing! love hearing that!

  • @carolynjaynes36
    @carolynjaynes36 4 роки тому +39

    Thank you for confirming my man’s investment in me and our future. I’m so happy to finally have my amazing soul mate in my life. He accepts all my possible deal breakers. He treats my like a precious Queen. He’s my sweet King. He does all of the things you mentioned. I’m moving from Hawaii to be closer to him in California. Yay! Thank you so much!

    • @tonyalexa1120
      @tonyalexa1120 3 роки тому

      Smile 😊
      Hello 👋 Carolyn.. How are you doing today?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      Awww! So happy for you, beautiful!

  • @w.v.e.8643
    @w.v.e.8643 3 роки тому +7

    My dear boyfriend did all these 10 things the past 4 months.
    I loved him deeply.
    But he's schizophrenic and one voice in his head said that he's not enough for me, that he's a loser.
    He wants to love me, but he can't because of that voice.
    He left me: he can't fight successfully against this voice.
    It's breaking my heart. 😥😥😥😥😥

    • @lyrisgreenidge-adams5941
      @lyrisgreenidge-adams5941 3 роки тому +2

      He needs treatment but you need to get some counciling also from a psychologist. Living with a schizophrenic can be challenging for all envolved.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 місяців тому

      I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

  • @ellie8602
    @ellie8602 3 роки тому +10

    So interesting because my guy friend exhibits all of these traits. Currently we are long distance building a friendship, but this makes me think he is a good one!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @katherinewilson1853
    @katherinewilson1853 4 роки тому +11

    Your eyes and shirt are beautiful together.

  • @pamelahopson867
    @pamelahopson867 4 роки тому +68

    Thank you Matt i needed someone to remind me how good an sweet, my boyfriend is to me. He just mention to me last night that we are going to build a house together in the near future. He is much younger than myself, am a African American, an he's an Italian. Will you please do a viedo on mix couples, or younger men with cougars.😌😌😌

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 місяці тому

      I’m so glad to hear that! 😊 It sounds like you have a really sweet and special relationship-big plans like building a house together are a great sign! I love the idea of covering mixed couples and age-gap relationships in a video. If you’re interested in learning more relationship insights, I’m hosting a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and you’re more than welcome to join! masteryofconnection.com/ 💖

  • @tyannforde2570
    @tyannforde2570 3 роки тому +4

    Love this man's personality, keep it up👍💯

  • @albinahellwagner
    @albinahellwagner 3 роки тому +5

    Thanks Mat , you are talking about being romantic ..Its a
    good feeling to be loved and
    be in love ...❤❤ Im 72 yrs old
    after my 1st hubby passed by I
    thought its over for me but then
    I met a special somebody , and
    I think its love ....Im happy ..and
    yes he is talking about vision ..

  • @krumpnplies5686
    @krumpnplies5686 Рік тому +1

    Great information. Still
    have questions that I’d really love to discuss with you. Need more clarity! Please let me know! Thanks 🙏

  • @luh2166
    @luh2166 3 роки тому +2

    Excellent

    • @salimbishir7455
      @salimbishir7455 3 роки тому

      Send a message to this number if you want your ex back

    • @salimbishir7455
      @salimbishir7455 3 роки тому

      ☦2349155400961⏭⏮⏭⏮

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.

  • @brendamarie9966
    @brendamarie9966 4 роки тому +57

    Thank you Mat ❤️❤️❤️.. I hope to eventually share my life with someone eventually who meets all these steps!

  • @annakey2374
    @annakey2374 4 роки тому +11

    Thank you for these pointers, I spent to many years, waiting for the compliments, and not seeing the actions!

  • @MsLizzy2010
    @MsLizzy2010 4 роки тому +14

    Love all your videos! Almost all of these things are so true of my boyfriend and I. Within the first two months he met my parents, I met his greatest best friend and his parents in the same day. Everyone who I have met in his friends and family have told me how amazing I am for him and how much time he has talked and still talks to them about me. We moved in together within the first 8 months. We have talked about marriage and kids and where we are going to live etc. We talked via text for 4 days before we met and by the second date I knew he was the one. We tease eachother all the time. He does take sometimes by texting me back but he works in a hospital so I know he will message me back when he can.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  10 місяців тому

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @crystaldance5731
    @crystaldance5731 6 місяців тому

    Thanks mat really helpful enjoyed the video ❤️😊

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 місяців тому

      I'm glad you enjoyed the video! If you're thinking about getting back into dating, our 'Are You Ready to Date Again?' quiz can help you assess your readiness. Take a moment to find out! 🌟 mat-nlcmdzyq.scoreapp.com/

  • @DEC729
    @DEC729 Рік тому

    This was right on!! Wish I had the opportunity to listen to this 10 years ago!

  • @cegiehd
    @cegiehd 3 роки тому +9

    This is the reason why I never realized I was being manipulated by a narc. My ex did all 10 for me, but turned out to be a narc.

  • @shawnmiles100
    @shawnmiles100 4 роки тому +8

    What a powerful quote, I love it! :)

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому +1

      Right?! so glad you liked it!!

  • @kalindigor1875
    @kalindigor1875 3 роки тому +4

    Awesome! This is an eye opener!! Thank you Matt !!!

  • @barbarablack7767
    @barbarablack7767 2 роки тому +1

    Hi Mat! I sloshed my coffee trying to get to my keyboard to let you know how much I enjoyed this video. I really like your enthusiasm and your insight. Thank you very much!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!

  • @sunandabhosalepatil9171
    @sunandabhosalepatil9171 Рік тому

    It's too open and easy guidance for women
    I impressed!!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      I'm glad you found it impressive! Thanks much Sunanda🙏❤

  • @newyorkdiva3
    @newyorkdiva3 4 роки тому +6

    I'm feeling pretty good about this my new guy does all of these things.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +1

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @marilynparis2467
    @marilynparis2467 3 роки тому +13

    Men are tricky so depending on if the man is playing you, he too can do these things all the while still not invested. For example most men have huge egos so don't mistake him doing things for you as he's into you, he might just be doing it to build up his ego. For example if a man fixes something in your house he might be feeling only this and only this... "hey I fixed this im awesome." Another thing just because a man doesn't buy you something or take you out doesn't mean he's not invested but might mean he's not doing well financially so I believe its in his actions definitely if he asks how your Feeling? Trys to make you laugh when your down Maybe snuggle up to you, offers a back massage but only that not to just lead to sex. Another thing is a man whose trying to play you might want to know things about you not cause he cares but to find out how to trick you to find out your weaknesses and to learn you so he can take control and use you. So becareful and beware. From someone who has been there.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Рік тому

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @Dorothy35
      @Dorothy35 8 місяців тому

      Hey thanks, my guy who broke with me recently after 6 months used to do most of all these things except two. He showed himself to be madly in Love, he cared, he asked about my day, he gave me a lovely saree. But he hid his residential address. He never introduced me to anyone. And he never talked about our future. When he broke up he asked me not to think he hadnt loved me. He had. And he had thought of our future coz he did say if I go abroad he will follow. Its just tjat his wife came back unexpectedly so he cant say no to her and he is going back to his marriage. I am devastated. I feel sometimes he had either studied his subject well or had been in some kind of love. He even called twice after breaking up to make sure I reached home.

    • @chamelor
      @chamelor 6 місяців тому

      This is the comment i've been searching for. The guy i've been in contact wd has all the signs of a player but at the same time done some things that seemed genuine. Which makes it hard for me to judge. I've already stopped contact tho.

    • @sydoly123
      @sydoly123 6 місяців тому

      A man can do all these and still cheat on you. Some men do all these to compensate for the cheating they do, due to their own self esteem issues.
      A telltale sign that he is really emotionally invested in you is if he walks with integrity.
      Not every man is loyal and faithful, only some are.

  • @LeafsIn2025
    @LeafsIn2025 4 роки тому +4

    Well done, Mat!
    Room behind you shows fine taste! Nicely arranged decor. Glad your move has gone so well.
    Stay safe!
    Thank you.

  • @joydavis1670
    @joydavis1670 3 місяці тому

    Awsome info. Thankyou

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 місяці тому

      You’re making my heart smile with your kind words! Keep being amazing. 💖

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 місяці тому

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  • @getawaywithpam
    @getawaywithpam 2 роки тому

    The man I’m dating less than 3 months he’s already have all that’s been mentioned, thank you 🙏

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @wildeyedfae
    @wildeyedfae 3 роки тому +16

    You are hilarious Mat! These all are truths and several things that were missing in past relationships. Im 57 now and everything is so different! (Mostly my tolerance of crap lol) Enjoyed your video, thank you!

  • @lenalewalker3660
    @lenalewalker3660 4 роки тому +4

    You alway's make learning fun Mat. Thank-you

  • @rominarezazadeh634
    @rominarezazadeh634 4 роки тому +5

    After years of dating and being in relationships I finally met one of these men it's really fulfilling

  • @barbarathoas6283
    @barbarathoas6283 3 роки тому +1

    You got it, thankyou

  • @clarissejacob1465
    @clarissejacob1465 3 роки тому

    Thank you for some ideas 😉😉😉will follow this to find my future one 😍😍😍😍

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому

      My pleasure! Hopefully you'll find the one!

  • @elizabethalfonso6008
    @elizabethalfonso6008 4 роки тому +6

    He does this everything to me even we’re in LDR, thanks😊👍

  • @aberdeencoronel9994
    @aberdeencoronel9994 4 роки тому +11

    You are just awesome Mat😀 Everything you just said are so true🥰 I really appreciate you 😇

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 місяці тому

      Thank you, that really means a lot! 😊 I’m so happy the advice hit home for you. 🥰 If you’d like to explore more insights on love and relationships, I’m doing a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ ✨

  • @taymarrogers326
    @taymarrogers326 4 роки тому +14

    Another amazing and helpful video. Thank you Mat for being a blessing to us all ❤

  • @arlyn1018
    @arlyn1018 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for making me realize that no one has been totally emotionally invested in me. 😔

  • @mariekdenues8122
    @mariekdenues8122 Рік тому

    Thanks for shedding 🕯️ on the cause mat 😘

  • @marangavandinjasvensson9742
    @marangavandinjasvensson9742 4 роки тому +8

    This is so true I'm blessed with my husband he does all of ths🙏🙏 thanks anyway

  • @soniaindigo
    @soniaindigo 4 роки тому +11

    Mat, your videos are getting more and more fun to see. God job, men! Besides that it's visible you're much more comfortable and open now. Really nice to watch your videos and your wisdom and knowledge.
    Thank you 🙏🌸

  • @ArtfullyJonesy
    @ArtfullyJonesy 3 роки тому +4

    Mat, very informative. Can you do a video on how this would look in a long-distance relationship?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +1

      I appreciate your opinion on this!

  • @sophiaroy1635
    @sophiaroy1635 4 роки тому +1

    Wow very interesting

  • @christianwalker7895
    @christianwalker7895 3 роки тому

    My guy does all these...so glad for this video and getting to know my great new guy

  • @ioanaandreeatudose5459
    @ioanaandreeatudose5459 4 роки тому +4

    I'm so happy I discovered your channel. Chapeau, Mat!

  • @DM-ls1qi
    @DM-ls1qi 4 роки тому +5

    You nailed it Mat! I liked your recap at the end, helpful

  • @snehasaraswati7015
    @snehasaraswati7015 4 роки тому +35

    Actually, "emotions are divine feelings & strength for some people"... The more I get sentimental... the more strength & courage I get to fight for truth & justice... because "Love is Life" & "life is struggle "🙂

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 місяців тому

      I appreciate your opinion on this!

  • @lisadanley7129
    @lisadanley7129 Рік тому +1

    Act right for me love them true Story ❤️🤩

  • @Rebander1549
    @Rebander1549 2 роки тому

    This is Jim's wife. Number 2 is insightful. I am glad there are these videos to help with knowing if a man is invested in you.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much. 🙌❤️

  • @shanlijerome2736
    @shanlijerome2736 4 роки тому +6

    This video has helped me tremendously in remembering that I am female and he is male (thus I express too much and he too little) and that often you won’t get the validation you’re looking for from him verbally. Rather, you must pay attention to the other clues and cues. That is what this video made me realize!! also that I am now gonna give him a bit of a break lol!!

  • @anitamoses4071
    @anitamoses4071 4 роки тому +3

    I am so grateful and blessed my boyfriend does everything you talked about

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 місяців тому

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @lillaperendy
    @lillaperendy 4 роки тому +3

    Ive always loved your videos so much but this new format/and upgrade of quality makes me addicted. I love your passion how you talk!!! Thank you! :)

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 роки тому

      Thanks so much for the feedback my dear!!! Truly appreciate it and I am right there with you... it’s easier to harness my energy when I’m standing up with this new set up :)

  • @AnCastro-fb5ut
    @AnCastro-fb5ut 2 роки тому

    I’m subscribing in this channel!

  • @julietewulum4401
    @julietewulum4401 2 роки тому +1

    Nice one