→ Sign up to get access to my weekly email exploring love, life and relationships you won’t find anywhere else here 👉 www.matshaffer.com/ QUESTION OF THE DAY - Which of these 10 signs is the most "foolproof" one in your experience with men? Are there any big ones that I've missed that you'd like me to address in a follow up video?
It’s the little things, he’s attentive and he will just kiss me for no particular reason. When he first told me he loved me it felt like fireworks went off. I’ve been in showy relationships, and I appreciate him more as when he does somethimg special. He opens doors for me, he pulls out my chair for he at a restaurant and he puts my wine glass in the freezer for me in a hot day. For me it’s those attentive things.
The protective behavior is a big sign, like even gently grabbing your arm to cross the street. But another tell sign would be if he show up as soon as another man comes near, like subtlely checking what the conversation was about...Also this week discovered the guy who as the 10 points above, he is very submissive and gentle with me but I was surprised to discovered he can be really assertive and autority in the rest of his social interactions. He soften when he is with me.
If you get hurt he will move Heaven and earth to make sure you don't need to do anything but rest and recover and tells you not to apologize or feel guilty for him doing so much for you till you are healed. Personally I had fallen down the stairs and my man got a bucket with warm water and sea salt, helped me up and to the couch insisted for me to just sit there and let him take care of everything and not to worry l. Cleaned my wound and just cuddled me intimately not sexually if you get what I mean. I have a high sex drive but want to wait till I'm married he was told this and I have tried to come on to him and he pushes me off saying no I want to respect your choice to wait. Yes okay we have slipped up a few times before I made the choice I'm only human 😅🙈 but he truly respects me that much. It was hard for him but he helped support me to keep me strong. He has canceled plans to be with me. One huge thing in every day getting not only good morning beautiful with kisses but also good night sweetheart with blow kisses on video before bed. We talk all the time we can't seem to get enough of each other. We can be washing dishes or taking out garbage together yet we still have the best time ever together! He also will wake up first make me coffee then come lay next to me and watch me sleep and smile and kiss me when I look awful and have bad breath in the morning 🙊😅💓.I've never been so connected to another man who feels the same in my life! Also I notice he will tell you about dreams or visions he has for the future. Biggest thing is that you see the hidden him the side that men hide from those he's not insanely close with. He'll cry in front of you and open up about intimate details about their past that he holds dear to his heart. He'll trip up if you are. listening to him talk and he gets lost in your eyes. He'll shower you immensely with his particular main love language/love languages, all because he wants to see your smile he adores so much he can't get enough of looking into your eyes or seeing you smile. He's litt from within when he around you, you'll see and feel this. He gets concerned if you don't text back after a few Hour's if you didn't tell him a reason why you might not be able to message back at that time. He will even do things he doesn't like to do or care for with me if I ask him to. Like go to church or read the Bible with me even though he isn't Christian himself. If you have kids he welcomes them with open arms and loves them as if they were his own.
By the way ... I am 77 + .... who says you can’t find happiness at my age? I was just about to “throw in the towel” when I met Edward, thought it was going to be my last date and then what happened .... it is incredible. So happy now. Now I see what you say makes sense. 💕
Thank you for sharing , Inga! Great to hear that yoe found love at the age of 77! I'm sure this will last until the end... Hopefully I too will be finding my 'Edvard' soon... I'm 71 now. Great to know that it is never too late 😀
Top 10 🥰😍 1. He accepts your flaws. 2. He is proactive to your needs. 3. He goes above and beyond to make you happy. 4. He will make time for you. 5. He is interested with your personal life. 6. He is protected over you, emotional and physical well being. 7. He is supportive to you when you are stress.He is responsive to your text. 8. He talks about you to his family. 9. He introduces you to his friends and family within 6 months. 10. He future build with you.
#4 is very true. I'm dating a man with two small children & whenever I'm free (which isn't often) he rearranges his whole schedule to see me. It's very sweet.
I'm 62 and have been through a lot of toxicity and abuse ... Married 3 terrible times and grew up with an abusive father and mother .... I've now gotten to know the most wonderful man... he is so kind and fun ... We really are doing well ... So much of what you talk about is actually the norm in this relationship ... He is 10 years older than me .... but that doesn't matter to me at all ... I can tell that we are both invested .... I feel so blessed ....
Thank you so much Mat. I am 71 and met the man of my dreams over 11 months ago. We are INCREDIBLY happy!!! He does all of these things and more!! I am VERY BLESSED!!!!
This makes me appreciate my husband even more because he did all those things when we were dating. He is my love and my best friend. Thank you for reminding me to take care of him better as we grow old together.
My mom & step dad were together for 40 years. They met when I was 19 y.o..Jack was an AMAZING husband for my mom, terrific dad To me & my sisters, à perfect grandfather & Great GrandPa To My grandchildren .He just passes away last year @ the age of 92& 1/2. We all Loved him dearly ! . THEY WERE TRULY A MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN !!
Exactly! 🔑😊 The actions he takes are the true measure of how much you mean to him. Don’t settle for less than you deserve, ladies! If you’re interested in exploring this more, I’m running a FREE live coaching course next month where we’ll cover these topics. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ ✨
I'm 40. I've never had such a man in my life. I can only hope for the future. I've never been in love....well, one sided, of course. I have a cat now. It's fills some of the void.
Do the things that make you happy, embrace your singleness, it will make you more attractive and the right one will come along. I found love again at the age of 56, 5 years after the end of my 25 year marriage. The Lord kept me and blessed me. Love 💘 you first.
The guy I’m getting to know does all of these things, but I’ve been in so many toxic relationships that I’m afraid anything good that he does for me is either lovebombing or some other narcissistic behavior that will hurt me in the end. I hope I don’t mess this up. 😔
Brenda Marie the grace of God. I was about to delete my dating app and he appeared. He looked like he was from where I’m from (California) so I took a chance and I’m so glad I did.
Wow, I've been dating a guy for a little over 2 months and this is all so him. It's so refreshingly different from most of dating experiences I've had before, just so natural and comfortable and easy.
I remember dating my boyfriend last year and we move slowly. And when he started talking about his future with me I know where we were heading. He is amazing.
@@Wowyana we are talking like 6 months and we are in a relationship kind of slowly haha. Taking our time knowing each other. Just being friends. Getting comfortable. Being ourselves. Almost a year now 🥰
Ya, exactly. We went through a drive-thru recently and we were eating in my car and he randomly brought up "names we wouldn't use for our kids." Lol it's silly, but he has brought up kids/marriage a lot. All the time, he is certain of his intentions for me ❤
The moment when you watch this video till the end and realize that you have been suffering in a relation for 10 years with a man that has not invested a dime emotionally into me. None of the 10 signs present......... I guess I need to take action now... @Mat: thank you so much for opening my eyes!
Thanks for this video I’m over 70, thought I’d never find someone as wonderful as my new man. Most all the points you gave are present in our relationship ❤️
1.) They embrace your flaws with a smile 2.) They are exceptionally present and proactive to your needs 3.) They go "above and beyond" to make you happy 4.) They make time for you (no matter how busy they are) 5.) They're genuinely curious about the details of your life 6.) They get a little protective over you (in a healthy way) 7.) Quick and thoughtful responses to texts 8.) He talks about you to friends and family 9.) He introduces you to his friends and family in a reasonable amount of time 10.) He future-builds with you Thanks again for an amazing video. Some of these were reassuring and some made me worry a little bit, because they were already points of contention in our relationship.(2 and 10 lol) Overall, your insight was helpful.
... when he couldn't stand seeing her so upset during their argument, that he comes close to her and hugs her lovingly, kisses her head, say "I love you", until the she calms down, making her feel secure and that no argument is more important than his woman to be peaceful again... Because her peace is his peace... That's my Man, and I am proud of him :)
but not introduced to friends.... ever....!!! haven't meet him physically even... in our imagination everything you said is very well achieved... drag down to dismiss... he said.. he's watching me... yes love felt the vibs.. thanks💋but emotionally invested in me.... no doubt about that... he said I'm unique... etc.. 😜🐒🍌👻
what are you doing with the cam.... oh my! oh my! stop it pls.. good night love..!!! .saying good night to you is so hard for me to do.. you better sleep now... sleep tight... see in the morning.. 💋👩❤️💋👨
Wow. Thanks to you, I just realized my best male friend is actually in love with me. I complained that my hot water heater was not working. He drove 300 miles to come fix it. We webt shopping and I saw a thing I liked and said I wish I could afford it. He went and got it for me as a gift. Among other things you mentioned. Now....I am digesting that. On the other hand I have been seeing someone that doesnt show as much investment, yet I hear from his co workers that he talks about me a lot in a positive way. But he isnt exactly clearing his schedule for me. Things to think about.
The man I love is emotionallly unavailable. He is my good friend and lover, lost his wife of cancer 8 years ago. Why did I fell for him...My age is 52, I had a few long relationships, was happy to be single and I live alone just fine. I guess I'd better leave, but that feels so incredible heartbreaking. We've grown to one another, but I guess I just have to make up my mind...
He definitely accepts me despite of my flaws and my serious medical condition, he asks me how I'm feeling and what he can do to help if I'm not well, he's not good in reading indirect requests but that's fine, making time for me is okay but could be improved, he's very interested in my hobbies and my life and he remembers things even though his memory sucks, he's extremely protective in a healthy way and willing to fix my problems, he is a busy man but he still does respond within a reasonable amount of time and he did mention me to his family but I haven't met them because I haven't been to the state he lives, he includes me when talking about the future and is vulnerable with me. Pretty much showing all the signs, some could be better but nobody is perfect right?
I met a man about a month ago...and he is already all of the points u mentioned in your video. He has caused me to experiences I havent had happen in several yrs. Its like we have known each other for a long time. We have many things in common and we have already had some serious discussions....getting to know each other. We have been talking about our future together. Idk if its the real thing, but it surely does seem like it! You are spot on and i love ur videos!!
My man does all of these with flying colors and more!! I think he is in Love with me already. It's been 2 months I think he's my soul mate he is me but in male form. We are congenial companions that met by devine intervention we weren't even looking for each other we we're just drawn together like magnets it was as if we had known each other our whole lives the moment we met. I didn't even know it was possible or that someone so perfect for me existed 😭🙌🏼💖. We even went through the same past life traumatic stories and we both have the same mental disability too! It's like he was created for me.
I've been in a relationship with the love of my life for 6 months, longest relationship I've EVER had because I just wasn't ready, but this man when I get acne or anything he's like "I don't care about that your beautiful." And I'm like I friggin love you. 😍
Very well said Atty Matt . I finally found a man who when looks at my face and knows how my day went. Embracing my flaws as well. And by the way he will wait for me until i get home so we can video chat every night for a goodnight. I prayed with him as well. We set our marriage on Nov 3, 2020 just hoping Covid will be over. God Bless you and your tribe
@@MsAnchovey here’s the engagement ring and our wedding ring he designed for our wedding. We are waiting for the International Flight to be open. We still talk every night and asked me how’s my day❤️ haven’t feel any change in my man♥️
This is such great info. My man introduced me to his dad and step mom and his friend in a week. He also does most of the other 9 things on your list. Thank you!
Not sure why this was recommended for me to watch today, but now I really miss my sweet man 🥰 he hits all these boxes and more, and really came out of nowhere.
Thank you Matt i needed someone to remind me how good an sweet, my boyfriend is to me. He just mention to me last night that we are going to build a house together in the near future. He is much younger than myself, am a African American, an he's an Italian. Will you please do a viedo on mix couples, or younger men with cougars.😌😌😌
I’m so glad to hear that! 😊 It sounds like you have a really sweet and special relationship-big plans like building a house together are a great sign! I love the idea of covering mixed couples and age-gap relationships in a video. If you’re interested in learning more relationship insights, I’m hosting a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and you’re more than welcome to join! masteryofconnection.com/ 💖
Hello Mat. I have just enjoyed 3 of your interesting videos. I have met Edward and he fills all 10 of your mentioned requirements for a happy relationship. Since I lost my husband of over 50 years happy marriage to cancer, I had a number of dates and one which turned out to be an absolute nightmare. If I had seen your videos before, I would have never got devastated or hurt. I know now that I have made the right choice with Edward and I am so happy. I am sure your videos will help lots of listeners. Keep up the good work. A warm hug from Inga 😘 😘 💝
My dear boyfriend did all these 10 things the past 4 months. I loved him deeply. But he's schizophrenic and one voice in his head said that he's not enough for me, that he's a loser. He wants to love me, but he can't because of that voice. He left me: he can't fight successfully against this voice. It's breaking my heart. 😥😥😥😥😥
Thank you for confirming my man’s investment in me and our future. I’m so happy to finally have my amazing soul mate in my life. He accepts all my possible deal breakers. He treats my like a precious Queen. He’s my sweet King. He does all of the things you mentioned. I’m moving from Hawaii to be closer to him in California. Yay! Thank you so much!
Men are tricky so depending on if the man is playing you, he too can do these things all the while still not invested. For example most men have huge egos so don't mistake him doing things for you as he's into you, he might just be doing it to build up his ego. For example if a man fixes something in your house he might be feeling only this and only this... "hey I fixed this im awesome." Another thing just because a man doesn't buy you something or take you out doesn't mean he's not invested but might mean he's not doing well financially so I believe its in his actions definitely if he asks how your Feeling? Trys to make you laugh when your down Maybe snuggle up to you, offers a back massage but only that not to just lead to sex. Another thing is a man whose trying to play you might want to know things about you not cause he cares but to find out how to trick you to find out your weaknesses and to learn you so he can take control and use you. So becareful and beware. From someone who has been there.
Hey thanks, my guy who broke with me recently after 6 months used to do most of all these things except two. He showed himself to be madly in Love, he cared, he asked about my day, he gave me a lovely saree. But he hid his residential address. He never introduced me to anyone. And he never talked about our future. When he broke up he asked me not to think he hadnt loved me. He had. And he had thought of our future coz he did say if I go abroad he will follow. Its just tjat his wife came back unexpectedly so he cant say no to her and he is going back to his marriage. I am devastated. I feel sometimes he had either studied his subject well or had been in some kind of love. He even called twice after breaking up to make sure I reached home.
This is the comment i've been searching for. The guy i've been in contact wd has all the signs of a player but at the same time done some things that seemed genuine. Which makes it hard for me to judge. I've already stopped contact tho.
A man can do all these and still cheat on you. Some men do all these to compensate for the cheating they do, due to their own self esteem issues. A telltale sign that he is really emotionally invested in you is if he walks with integrity. Not every man is loyal and faithful, only some are.
Love all your videos! Almost all of these things are so true of my boyfriend and I. Within the first two months he met my parents, I met his greatest best friend and his parents in the same day. Everyone who I have met in his friends and family have told me how amazing I am for him and how much time he has talked and still talks to them about me. We moved in together within the first 8 months. We have talked about marriage and kids and where we are going to live etc. We talked via text for 4 days before we met and by the second date I knew he was the one. We tease eachother all the time. He does take sometimes by texting me back but he works in a hospital so I know he will message me back when he can.
Thank you so much for this information I am 66 years old in a long-distance relationship with someone I knew from my childhood who is still across the country and all the signs that you just talked about our present in my relationship and thank you for reassuring me that he really does love me. We are waiting until after Covid to get together.
Thank you soo much for this! 1 minute in and you hit the number one thing that I’m trying so frantically to fix about myself just to learn that this one insecurity is something he appreciates so much more than I can even imagine
IKR after 12 yrs with a nightmare Narcisst and free for 4 yrs. I dated 2 guys for a VERY short time , they were NARC's ...same sh*t, different body. I met a guy a few weeks ago, I have learned to leave alot about those 12 yrs in the past.. yet keeping an eye on red flags, even the slightest. I do have a bit of a guard up, yet I dont let it show.. BUT< meanwhile, so far so good... I'm a young 63, hes 58.
Thanks Mat , you are talking about being romantic ..Its a good feeling to be loved and be in love ...❤❤ Im 72 yrs old after my 1st hubby passed by I thought its over for me but then I met a special somebody , and I think its love ....Im happy ..and yes he is talking about vision ..
So interesting because my guy friend exhibits all of these traits. Currently we are long distance building a friendship, but this makes me think he is a good one!
Actually, "emotions are divine feelings & strength for some people"... The more I get sentimental... the more strength & courage I get to fight for truth & justice... because "Love is Life" & "life is struggle "🙂
This video has helped me tremendously in remembering that I am female and he is male (thus I express too much and he too little) and that often you won’t get the validation you’re looking for from him verbally. Rather, you must pay attention to the other clues and cues. That is what this video made me realize!! also that I am now gonna give him a bit of a break lol!!
It's all reciprocal of all the things that he's doing to me. I realize something, I am the only one who makes effort to work it out. I think, I should stop. I'm just wasting my time.😔
He is willing to try new things, or do things that he doesn't necessarily like/think he's good at just to make you smile :) I think we know what I'm referring to Mat... 💃 (less formal type of dance than that).
You are hilarious Mat! These all are truths and several things that were missing in past relationships. Im 57 now and everything is so different! (Mostly my tolerance of crap lol) Enjoyed your video, thank you!
I want to express my immense gratitude towards you Matt. You have helped me unlock my gifts and start sharing magic to help other women to step inti their true power. I was in the group coaching you did for light workers with Aaron Doughty and Victor Oddo and since July I have been sharing my voice loud and proud. I cant wait to help and inspire women like you do and to the extent that you do❤❤❤
He checked all these boxes and alottt more. Know him for over a decade and We’ve been together for 7 months.We just got married last month. He shows me so much respect and love and I’m literally so happy and proud to have him in my life. We are best friends and we have a very healthy relationship. God has been great to us
How about introducing you to friends and family during Covid? Can you comment on that? This is a little confusing during this time where we can’t really socialize. We met during the COVID-19 period.... ideas?
I talked to mine on messenger for 2 years before I met him ,we always FaceTime to each other one day I wouldn't let him see me on camera on FaceTime because I was having an emotional day I lost my mother and everything in my life it seemed I was overwhelmed finally talked me into opening the camera so he could see my beautiful face is what he said. Then when he seen he asked me what was going on and why I've been crying and what could he do for me. I told him I needed him in 4 days he left Florida and moved to my state we have been together now 6 months and he put a promise ring on my finger for Christmas it's like a fairytale come true he loves me and I love him with everything that is in me is a hard times and the good times that is what true love really is
@@Mat_Shaffer Mat I tried to reply to the email you sent about loosing that friend of yours and calis I am so sorry but I know the pain. You out of anyone should know my pain and sorrows because it's been you on my path of Discovery and Mat if it wasn't for you I wouldn't of met David and had finally learnt the meaning to real happiness and what love was meant to feel like instead of being abused and I know where I was going wrong with the last I was so caught up finding the same thing and trying to feel the same happiness that I had in David that the guy I just got rid of wasn't the same. I just wish I never let David go back to the army and held on a little tighter and maybe he would have still been here but I had to let go even though I wasn't ready. Thank you mat for each one of these videos because you're actually sparking funny moments that I had either forgotten or tried to never think about again rather then remember them as cherished moments 2 years without him now but the pain still feels like only yesterday same with your little prodgy and his sister that was 2 years last April same day as I lost my grandmother
One of my guys thinks I’m beautiful. I’m significantly overweight and nearing 70 years old. But he thinks my body is beautiful. Another is always thinking of things he wants us to do together. When I was sick multiple times earlier this year. He was there to help me put the lasagna together for Christmas dinner. He was there when I wound up in the emergency room one night just a week after I met him. He was there to clean my house when I was recovering from the flu and expecting my sister and husband to stay with me for a couple days.
Mat, your videos are getting more and more fun to see. God job, men! Besides that it's visible you're much more comfortable and open now. Really nice to watch your videos and your wisdom and knowledge. Thank you 🙏🌸
Well, he did 9 things out of 10 (we never really talked about the future but we were together for a year) when we were together and he still does them even after breaking up with me.
Thank you Mat! My man doesn’t always share his feelings but he is definitely action motivated and he does all these things so I really appreciate you videos. It make a lot of sense and it make me feel special and loved. I love all your videos… keep them coming! ❤️ from 🇨🇦
Thanks so much for the feedback my dear!!! Truly appreciate it and I am right there with you... it’s easier to harness my energy when I’m standing up with this new set up :)
Thank you, that really means a lot! 😊 I’m so happy the advice hit home for you. 🥰 If you’d like to explore more insights on love and relationships, I’m doing a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ ✨
My boyfriend and I got back in touch in January this year. We’d lost contact 12 years later he reached out. We went to catch up and we’re going on a year, he wants to go ring shopping when he gets back from a work project. He’s the best man I’ve ever been with. Everything you’ve said he does, I’ve never had that and I’ve been though so much. And been though some bad narcissistic abuse and he still loves me. Tries the help with my anxiety.
88 days 🤗 its too long 😊. #1 we fall inlove with a person who accept our flaws, our crack , our imperfections, our weirdness 🙏❤️ Chivalry we are still looking for that in a man.🙏❤️🤗 #4 yes its true if he' s spending time with you even he's trying very hard. Sometimes even he's driving . Some women want our man knows how to be a MacGyver🤗. Ooooppps ! got an idea about my age 😄
Sometimes, people do relax after marriage, but it’s important to talk about expectations. Bringing back those habits can help strengthen your relationship! By the way, if you're interested, I’ll be part of a FREE live coaching love + relationship course starting next month. It’s a great opportunity to join the beta launch! You can learn more and sign up here: masteryofconnection.com/
i also think its important to note they may also act like theyre not trying or pushing away , it may be that he is falling inlove and is scared of that. so he takes a moment to step back because he doesnt want to be rejected. he may ask little questions like have you eaten today? you need to eat. lr how are your dogs ,have you checked on them. hedoesnt ask you to leave when youre in his personal space etc
Hi thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this topic. It’s so interesting and very helpful for both men and women! You know it’s hard for me because I’ve never heard these things from my husband of 23 years but a very close person who I’m getting to know says these things to me and I love it. I also say these things to him and we share a beautiful and precious friendship❤
Hi Mat! I sloshed my coffee trying to get to my keyboard to let you know how much I enjoyed this video. I really like your enthusiasm and your insight. Thank you very much!!
I've known him and loved him all my life, but we've always belonged to other people. Now, we are seeing each other and he told me that we have always belonged to each other. (Endearing). I got to meet some of the people in his motorcycle club recently. I'm shy around strangers, but I fought it the best I could and joined in where I could. Wish me luck. We have an outing tomorrow. I'm going to pay attention to the small of my back.
Okay, so its been a month since I left this comment. We have been spending every weekend together. He said tonight was a very large get together (fund raiser) at his bike club and he would love it if I would go but he wouldn't be able to come get me this time, could I drive? (That's what they make addresses and GPS for, right?)
@@sandyzimmerman5206i get super shy as well. And knowing he is watching me interact with people makes me so much nervous...and i stuttered when i get nervous.
@@Mat_Shaffer Sir, i am glad that now i understand him 😂by according to your video he is a thoughtful n respond my text, he is a protective,he busy but give me quality time and he invest in me thing i love to do with him.he have done most of this 10 sigh i see in him now 😂😂❤
I’m looking forward to fall in love again and experience all that you’ve mentioned. I’m widowed for almost 7 years. I’ve dated few times and experienced just couple of the signs.
Alright. That’s a wonderful attitude to have. Take your time. Take good care of yourself, your appearance and wardrobe and it will happen! Be open especially in the course of your regular day. Best wishes to you! 😁
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QUESTION OF THE DAY - Which of these 10 signs is the most "foolproof" one in your experience with men? Are there any big ones that I've missed that you'd like me to address in a follow up video?
He looks at you like a puppy in love, he will go out of his way to pleasure you and he will give you a bite of his meal without complaining
It’s the little things, he’s attentive and he will just kiss me for no particular reason. When he first told me he loved me it felt like fireworks went off. I’ve been in showy relationships, and I appreciate him more as when he does somethimg special. He opens doors for me, he pulls out my chair for he at a restaurant and he puts my wine glass in the freezer for me in a hot day. For me it’s those attentive things.
The protective behavior is a big sign, like even gently grabbing your arm to cross the street. But another tell sign would be if he show up as soon as another man comes near, like subtlely checking what the conversation was about...Also this week discovered the guy who as the 10 points above, he is very submissive and gentle with me but I was surprised to discovered he can be really assertive and autority in the rest of his social interactions. He soften when he is with me.
My guy has and does ALL 10! Mat Shafer, you are the best relationship guru!❤
If you get hurt he will move Heaven and earth to make sure you don't need to do anything but rest and recover and tells you not to apologize or feel guilty for him doing so much for you till you are healed. Personally I had fallen down the stairs and my man got a bucket with warm water and sea salt, helped me up and to the couch insisted for me to just sit there and let him take care of everything and not to worry l. Cleaned my wound and just cuddled me intimately not sexually if you get what I mean. I have a high sex drive but want to wait till I'm married he was told this and I have tried to come on to him and he pushes me off saying no I want to respect your choice to wait. Yes okay we have slipped up a few times before I made the choice I'm only human 😅🙈 but he truly respects me that much. It was hard for him but he helped support me to keep me strong. He has canceled plans to be with me. One huge thing in every day getting not only good morning beautiful with kisses but also good night sweetheart with blow kisses on video before bed. We talk all the time we can't seem to get enough of each other. We can be washing dishes or taking out garbage together yet we still have the best time ever together! He also will wake up first make me coffee then come lay next to me and watch me sleep and smile and kiss me when I look awful and have bad breath in the morning 🙊😅💓.I've never been so connected to another man who feels the same in my life! Also I notice he will tell you about dreams or visions he has for the future. Biggest thing is that you see the hidden him the side that men hide from those he's not insanely close with. He'll cry in front of you and open up about intimate details about their past that he holds dear to his heart. He'll trip up if you are. listening to him talk and he gets lost in your eyes. He'll shower you immensely with his particular main love language/love languages, all because he wants to see your smile he adores so much he can't get enough of looking into your eyes or seeing you smile. He's litt from within when he around you, you'll see and feel this. He gets concerned if you don't text back after a few Hour's if you didn't tell him a reason why you might not be able to message back at that time. He will even do things he doesn't like to do or care for with me if I ask him to. Like go to church or read the Bible with me even though he isn't Christian himself. If you have kids he welcomes them with open arms and loves them as if they were his own.
By the way ... I am 77 + .... who says you can’t find happiness at my age? I was just about to “throw in the towel” when I met Edward, thought it was going to be my last date and then what happened .... it is incredible. So happy now. Now I see what you say makes sense. 💕
Congrats to you &Edward. X
Awww lovely ❤🙏🏻 thank you fpr shared it with us❤
So happy for you Inga!! Thank you for the beautiful share, love is TRULY possible at any point in our lives ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing , Inga! Great to hear that yoe found love at the age of 77! I'm sure this will last until the end... Hopefully I too will be finding my 'Edvard' soon... I'm 71 now. Great to know that it is never too late 😀
Congratulations! It makes me so happy to know it's never too late to find love ❤
Top 10 🥰😍
1. He accepts your flaws.
2. He is proactive to your needs.
3. He goes above and beyond to make you happy.
4. He will make time for you.
5. He is interested with your personal life.
6. He is protected over you, emotional and physical well being.
7. He is supportive to you when you are stress.He is responsive to your text.
8. He talks about you to his family.
9. He introduces you to his friends and family within 6 months.
10. He future build with you.
well done my dear!!
TY~
Girl thx for the recap.
This deserves a screenshot
Thank you everyone! I just wrote it down too for my future reference :) I need to memorize and remember these important notes :)
"Emotional investment is the currency of love."
Way to break it down, man.
Thank you!
This man knows his stuff. I'm impressed.
Thanks so much Karen M! 🙏❤️
Yes now its just trying to find these men lol.
@@makedafindlay9398 Right!
He definitely is invested
Ikr
#4 is very true. I'm dating a man with two small children & whenever I'm free (which isn't often) he rearranges his whole schedule to see me. It's very sweet.
You are so lucky
I’m so happy for you my dear!
I'm 62 and have been through a lot of toxicity and abuse ... Married 3 terrible times and grew up with an abusive father and mother .... I've now gotten to know the most wonderful man... he is so kind and fun ... We really are doing well ... So much of what you talk about is actually the norm in this relationship ... He is 10 years older than me .... but that doesn't matter to me at all ... I can tell that we are both invested .... I feel so blessed ....
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!
Who would understand this than me 😢 but I am glad you are strong enough to break through! And able to build a health relationship! Remain blessed !
My husband does these things! I am So happy :) I Thank God for him he is such a blessing to me!
Please pray4 me x my guy is asking abt God x its good
My guy does everything but sometimes takes several hours 2 reply2 my texts. Should I worry
Amen! ❤️🙏
That is awesome! Happy for you 😊
Thank you so much Mat.
I am 71 and met the man of my dreams over 11 months ago. We are INCREDIBLY happy!!! He does all of these things and more!! I am VERY BLESSED!!!!
Thank you so much for sharing!
This makes me appreciate my husband even more because he did all those things when we were dating. He is my love and my best friend. Thank you for reminding me to take care of him better as we grow old together.
My mom & step dad were together for 40 years. They met when I was 19 y.o..Jack was an AMAZING husband for my mom, terrific dad To me & my sisters, à perfect grandfather & Great GrandPa To My grandchildren
.He just passes away last year @ the age of 92& 1/2. We all Loved him dearly ! . THEY WERE TRULY A MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN !!
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!
Yeah. And, did you need a “coach” to tell you those were the signs of love? I thought so…
Ladies he has given YOU the keys. Without these actions YOU mean very little to that man!!
Exactly! 🔑😊 The actions he takes are the true measure of how much you mean to him. Don’t settle for less than you deserve, ladies! If you’re interested in exploring this more, I’m running a FREE live coaching course next month where we’ll cover these topics. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ ✨
I'm 40. I've never had such a man in my life. I can only hope for the future. I've never been in love....well, one sided, of course. I have a cat now. It's fills some of the void.
I am 39 and it took this long for it to find me
Do the things that make you happy, embrace your singleness, it will make you more attractive and the right one will come along. I found love again at the age of 56, 5 years after the end of my 25 year marriage. The Lord kept me and blessed me. Love 💘 you first.
You sound so bitter shift your energy
@@sofialovinglife597 she didn’t sound bitter to me, she was merely stating her truth. Being kind is always cool.
Me too I have cats and dogs they’re much better than men they’re extremely loyal and loving they’re enough for me
The guy I’m getting to know does all of these things, but I’ve been in so many toxic relationships that I’m afraid anything good that he does for me is either lovebombing or some other narcissistic behavior that will hurt me in the end. I hope I don’t mess this up. 😔
It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new
Wow! I’m super blessed! After a horrible year of dating unavailable men, I finally found the one!!
I need to go kiss my man now!! lol
How did you find him girl? Or rather how did he find you?
Brenda Marie the grace of God. I was about to delete my dating app and he appeared. He looked like he was from where I’m from (California) so I took a chance and I’m so glad I did.
i think i am dating an unavailable men right now and i am crying. i deserve a good relationship, i dont understand why everything happens
Same☺️
@@meliholland same story with me and my new person 😭hoping for the best
Wow, I've been dating a guy for a little over 2 months and this is all so him. It's so refreshingly different from most of dating experiences I've had before, just so natural and comfortable and easy.
❤️
what’s his zodiac sign by the way??
Are you in love with him and are you still together?
@@hellomiss7177 Virgo!
@@lucyk2634 yes it's been 7 months now and I'm very happy! (:
I remember dating my boyfriend last year and we move slowly. And when he started talking about his future with me I know where we were heading. He is amazing.
@@Wowyana we are talking like 6 months and we are in a relationship kind of slowly haha. Taking our time knowing each other. Just being friends. Getting comfortable. Being ourselves. Almost a year now 🥰
Ya, exactly. We went through a drive-thru recently and we were eating in my car and he randomly brought up "names we wouldn't use for our kids." Lol it's silly, but he has brought up kids/marriage a lot. All the time, he is certain of his intentions for me ❤
The moment when you watch this video till the end and realize that you have been suffering in a relation for 10 years with a man that has not invested a dime emotionally into me. None of the 10 signs present......... I guess I need to take action now...
@Mat: thank you so much for opening my eyes!
Yep get ride of him.
Listen to a lady on UA-cam called Shera seven. She can change your life for the better.
That is how my ex was.. Good luck to you.
I know. Right?
Very sad. Hope you have better luck soon
Thanks for this video I’m over 70, thought I’d never find someone as wonderful as my new man. Most all the points you gave are present in our relationship ❤️
AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations! And thank you
1.) They embrace your flaws with a smile
2.) They are exceptionally present and proactive to your needs
3.) They go "above and beyond" to make you happy
4.) They make time for you (no matter how busy they are)
5.) They're genuinely curious about the details of your life
6.) They get a little protective over you (in a healthy way)
7.) Quick and thoughtful responses to texts
8.) He talks about you to friends and family
9.) He introduces you to his friends and family in a reasonable amount of time
10.) He future-builds with you
Thanks again for an amazing video. Some of these were reassuring and some made me worry a little bit, because they were already points of contention in our relationship.(2 and 10 lol)
Overall, your insight was helpful.
Interesting perspective, thanks so much!
... when he couldn't stand seeing her so upset during their argument, that he comes close to her and hugs her lovingly, kisses her head, say "I love you", until the she calms down, making her feel secure and that no argument is more important than his woman to be peaceful again... Because her peace is his peace...
That's my Man, and I am proud of him :)
Hello 👋 Friend...How are you doing today?
@@tonyalexa1120 Good! Thanks!
@@sheila71072 You're most welcome🤗 Where are you from?
@@tonyalexa1120 Philippjnes :) what about you?
I’m so happy for you my dear!
After 9 yrs of being single and searching on and off I finally found an amazing man who yesssss does these things..
I’m so happy for you my dear!
Oh gosh I was finding reasons to convince myself that he just cares as a friend but you make some good points here that I can’t deny lol
Awesome! Thank you ❤
I'm so blessed and overly grateful that my boyfriend does all those things you've talked about 💕🥰😍
aww thats fantastic Delanie!! you're a lucky woman
Wonder what planet he comes from? 😄
👍🏽✨
but not introduced to friends.... ever....!!! haven't meet him physically even... in our imagination everything you said is very well achieved... drag down to dismiss... he said.. he's watching me... yes love felt the vibs.. thanks💋but emotionally invested in me.... no doubt about that... he said I'm unique... etc.. 😜🐒🍌👻
what are you doing with the cam.... oh my! oh my! stop it pls.. good night love..!!! .saying good night to you is so hard for me to do.. you better sleep now... sleep tight... see in the morning.. 💋👩❤️💋👨
Wow. Thanks to you, I just realized my best male friend is actually in love with me. I complained that my hot water heater was not working. He drove 300 miles to come fix it. We webt shopping and I saw a thing I liked and said I wish I could afford it. He went and got it for me as a gift. Among other things you mentioned. Now....I am digesting that.
On the other hand I have been seeing someone that doesnt show as much investment, yet I hear from his co workers that he talks about me a lot in a positive way. But he isnt exactly clearing his schedule for me.
Things to think about.
I’m glad to hear everything worked out well. But it doesn't end there as of yet, just keep the positivity going dear! ♥ :)
The man I love is emotionallly unavailable. He is my good friend and lover, lost his wife of cancer 8 years ago. Why did I fell for him...My age is 52, I had a few long relationships, was happy to be single and I live alone just fine. I guess I'd better leave, but that feels so incredible heartbreaking. We've grown to one another, but I guess I just have to make up my mind...
Don’t give up on love sister!
just have to say this; spending time on a date in the park is really nice, and not every guy has the kind of money to book a vacation *like that*!
Thanks for sharing
He definitely accepts me despite of my flaws and my serious medical condition, he asks me how I'm feeling and what he can do to help if I'm not well, he's not good in reading indirect requests but that's fine, making time for me is okay but could be improved, he's very interested in my hobbies and my life and he remembers things even though his memory sucks, he's extremely protective in a healthy way and willing to fix my problems, he is a busy man but he still does respond within a reasonable amount of time and he did mention me to his family but I haven't met them because I haven't been to the state he lives, he includes me when talking about the future and is vulnerable with me. Pretty much showing all the signs, some could be better but nobody is perfect right?
what a wonderful man! love that you are super grateful for who he is and how he shows up in your life
As a man. I really appreciate the traits you exposed in this video.
Happy I could be of help!
I met a man about a month ago...and he is already all of the points u mentioned in your video. He has caused me to experiences I havent had happen in several yrs. Its like we have known each other for a long time. We have many things in common and we have already had some serious discussions....getting to know each other. We have been talking about our future together. Idk if its the real thing, but it surely does seem like it! You are spot on and i love ur videos!!
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.
My man does all of these with flying colors and more!! I think he is in Love with me already. It's been 2 months I think he's my soul mate he is me but in male form. We are congenial companions that met by devine intervention we weren't even looking for each other we we're just drawn together like magnets it was as if we had known each other our whole lives the moment we met. I didn't even know it was possible or that someone so perfect for me existed 😭🙌🏼💖. We even went through the same past life traumatic stories and we both have the same mental disability too! It's like he was created for me.
You are in the honey phase it’s only been two month men start switching up around 6th or 12th month if they are a player
True I guess I'll see won't I how she goes! 😊 lol
20days in & flash forward to now ! We'd love an Update 😊
Congratulations
Well, 10 signs signalled me that he is not emotionally invested in me :/
Thanks so much for sharing!
I've been in a relationship with the love of my life for 6 months, longest relationship I've EVER had because I just wasn't ready, but this man when I get acne or anything he's like "I don't care about that your beautiful." And I'm like I friggin love you. 😍
He is a con man of the heart
Heartless really
Move on with your life
Sounds like a great guy!
Hello 👋 Emily.. How are you doing today?
I’m glad to hear everything worked out well.
Now this video makes me understand that I'm the man in the relationship 😅
I was just thinking the same darn thing...
Masculine energy
Me tooo😂
I appreciate your opinion on this!
Very well said Atty Matt . I finally found a man who when looks at my face and knows how my day went. Embracing my flaws as well. And by the way he will wait for me until i get home so we can video chat every night for a goodnight. I prayed with him as well. We set our marriage on Nov 3, 2020 just hoping Covid will be over. God Bless you and your tribe
Ohh, so lucky. Just give you blessings.
❤Today is Nov 3.❤ Happy wedding day!!❤ Let me know how it goes❤
@@MsAnchovey here’s the engagement ring and our wedding ring he designed for our wedding. We are waiting for the International Flight to be open. We still talk every night and asked me how’s my day❤️ haven’t feel any change in my man♥️
Thank You for remembering and asking AnnKleinman
@@joyt6609 ❤
This is such great info. My man introduced me to his dad and step mom and his friend in a week. He also does most of the other 9 things on your list. Thank you!
That is awesome!
@@Mat_ShafferFzzzzzzzzzzz
@@Mat_ShafferI
Not sure why this was recommended for me to watch today, but now I really miss my sweet man 🥰 he hits all these boxes and more, and really came out of nowhere.
Happy to hear that!
He's so cute with his positive messages and his kind delivery❤
Happy to hear that!
Thank you Matt i needed someone to remind me how good an sweet, my boyfriend is to me. He just mention to me last night that we are going to build a house together in the near future. He is much younger than myself, am a African American, an he's an Italian. Will you please do a viedo on mix couples, or younger men with cougars.😌😌😌
I’m so glad to hear that! 😊 It sounds like you have a really sweet and special relationship-big plans like building a house together are a great sign! I love the idea of covering mixed couples and age-gap relationships in a video. If you’re interested in learning more relationship insights, I’m hosting a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and you’re more than welcome to join! masteryofconnection.com/ 💖
Yeaaa.. he’s definitely emotionally invested in me 🥰🥰🥰 Thank you!!
So glad!
Hello Mat. I have just enjoyed 3 of your interesting videos. I have met Edward and he fills all 10 of your mentioned requirements for a happy relationship. Since I lost my husband of over 50 years happy marriage to cancer, I had a number of dates and one which turned out to be an absolute nightmare. If I had seen your videos before, I would have never got devastated or hurt. I know now that I have made the right choice with Edward and I am so happy. I am sure your videos will help lots of listeners. Keep up the good work. A warm hug from Inga 😘 😘 💝
You are so right
I hope this isn't too bold but you are absolutely beautiful Inga, wow 😍
Thanks so much my dear!
My dear boyfriend did all these 10 things the past 4 months.
I loved him deeply.
But he's schizophrenic and one voice in his head said that he's not enough for me, that he's a loser.
He wants to love me, but he can't because of that voice.
He left me: he can't fight successfully against this voice.
It's breaking my heart. 😥😥😥😥😥
He needs treatment but you need to get some counciling also from a psychologist. Living with a schizophrenic can be challenging for all envolved.
I promise there are good guys out there my dear!
Found him 12 years ago and we’ve been married for 6 years with 2 beautiful kids. 🥰
I’m so happy for you my dear!
Thank you for confirming my man’s investment in me and our future. I’m so happy to finally have my amazing soul mate in my life. He accepts all my possible deal breakers. He treats my like a precious Queen. He’s my sweet King. He does all of the things you mentioned. I’m moving from Hawaii to be closer to him in California. Yay! Thank you so much!
Smile 😊
Hello 👋 Carolyn.. How are you doing today?
Awww! So happy for you, beautiful!
Men are tricky so depending on if the man is playing you, he too can do these things all the while still not invested. For example most men have huge egos so don't mistake him doing things for you as he's into you, he might just be doing it to build up his ego. For example if a man fixes something in your house he might be feeling only this and only this... "hey I fixed this im awesome." Another thing just because a man doesn't buy you something or take you out doesn't mean he's not invested but might mean he's not doing well financially so I believe its in his actions definitely if he asks how your Feeling? Trys to make you laugh when your down Maybe snuggle up to you, offers a back massage but only that not to just lead to sex. Another thing is a man whose trying to play you might want to know things about you not cause he cares but to find out how to trick you to find out your weaknesses and to learn you so he can take control and use you. So becareful and beware. From someone who has been there.
Thanks for sharing!
Hey thanks, my guy who broke with me recently after 6 months used to do most of all these things except two. He showed himself to be madly in Love, he cared, he asked about my day, he gave me a lovely saree. But he hid his residential address. He never introduced me to anyone. And he never talked about our future. When he broke up he asked me not to think he hadnt loved me. He had. And he had thought of our future coz he did say if I go abroad he will follow. Its just tjat his wife came back unexpectedly so he cant say no to her and he is going back to his marriage. I am devastated. I feel sometimes he had either studied his subject well or had been in some kind of love. He even called twice after breaking up to make sure I reached home.
This is the comment i've been searching for. The guy i've been in contact wd has all the signs of a player but at the same time done some things that seemed genuine. Which makes it hard for me to judge. I've already stopped contact tho.
A man can do all these and still cheat on you. Some men do all these to compensate for the cheating they do, due to their own self esteem issues.
A telltale sign that he is really emotionally invested in you is if he walks with integrity.
Not every man is loyal and faithful, only some are.
Love all your videos! Almost all of these things are so true of my boyfriend and I. Within the first two months he met my parents, I met his greatest best friend and his parents in the same day. Everyone who I have met in his friends and family have told me how amazing I am for him and how much time he has talked and still talks to them about me. We moved in together within the first 8 months. We have talked about marriage and kids and where we are going to live etc. We talked via text for 4 days before we met and by the second date I knew he was the one. We tease eachother all the time. He does take sometimes by texting me back but he works in a hospital so I know he will message me back when he can.
I’m so happy for you my dear!
Oh yeah my guy is a pro at all of the those I'm the most blessed woman in the whole entire world!
Ahhhhhhh xxxxx
Thank you so much for this information I am 66 years old in a long-distance relationship with someone I knew from my childhood who is still across the country and all the signs that you just talked about our present in my relationship and thank you for reassuring me that he really does love me. We are waiting until after Covid to get together.
lori richards,you deserve better!
Your post gives me hope. Thanks! 😊
@@phoenixmode6909 you are welcome my dearest 🌹🌷🌷.I'm Oscar Williamson from the States.You?
I’m so happy for you my dear!
I've experienced 8 out of 10 of these from the man I've been seeing for two months. Guess we're off to a good start! Thank you for the information!
Hope you’re still together?
Hope you two are still together
Amazing! love hearing that!
Thank you soo much for this! 1 minute in and you hit the number one thing that I’m trying so frantically to fix about myself just to learn that this one insecurity is something he appreciates so much more than I can even imagine
So glad my content supports you :)
IKR after 12 yrs with a nightmare Narcisst and free for 4 yrs. I dated 2 guys for a VERY short time , they were NARC's ...same sh*t, different body. I met a guy a few weeks ago, I have learned to leave alot about those 12 yrs in the past.. yet keeping an eye on red flags, even the slightest. I do have a bit of a guard up, yet I dont let it show.. BUT< meanwhile, so far so good... I'm a young 63, hes 58.
Thanks Mat , you are talking about being romantic ..Its a
good feeling to be loved and
be in love ...❤❤ Im 72 yrs old
after my 1st hubby passed by I
thought its over for me but then
I met a special somebody , and
I think its love ....Im happy ..and
yes he is talking about vision ..
Wonderful!
So interesting because my guy friend exhibits all of these traits. Currently we are long distance building a friendship, but this makes me think he is a good one!
I’m so happy for you my dear!
This really makes me appreciate the things men in my life have done for me.
Your comment is golden!
Thank you ❤❤❤
Actually, "emotions are divine feelings & strength for some people"... The more I get sentimental... the more strength & courage I get to fight for truth & justice... because "Love is Life" & "life is struggle "🙂
I appreciate your opinion on this!
Thank you Mat ❤️❤️❤️.. I hope to eventually share my life with someone eventually who meets all these steps!
I hope so too!
This is the reason why I never realized I was being manipulated by a narc. My ex did all 10 for me, but turned out to be a narc.
Same
I promise there are good guys out there my dear!
Nice to see a relatively short presentation filled with important and helpful information.
Glad it was helpful!
This video has helped me tremendously in remembering that I am female and he is male (thus I express too much and he too little) and that often you won’t get the validation you’re looking for from him verbally. Rather, you must pay attention to the other clues and cues. That is what this video made me realize!! also that I am now gonna give him a bit of a break lol!!
Happy to help!
I want you to be my boyfriend just to experience what does it feel like to have a perfect boyfriend. Love & much respect 💕
aww thats sweet you're making me blush ;)
That's cause he is God's gift to women for the ones who need to understand men lol 😅🙈💓 thank you Mat on behalf of all women! 🙌🏼💖
Don't we all? 🤗
After years of dating and being in relationships I finally met one of these men it's really fulfilling
Yay! Happy for ya!
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!
It's all reciprocal of all the things that he's doing to me.
I realize something, I am the only one who makes effort to work it out.
I think, I should stop. I'm just wasting my time.😔
Yes. Let him go 🙏🏼❤
It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new
He is willing to try new things, or do things that he doesn't necessarily like/think he's good at just to make you smile :) I think we know what I'm referring to Mat... 💃 (less formal type of dance than that).
So sad I don't have someone am dating
HAHA yes I know EXACLY what you're referring to Sarah Flip!!! ;)
@@Mat_Shaffer N/A..... sorry...not applicable... 🤔🤐
This is SO My Man.. I'm SO Blessed & Appreciate him🥰🥰🥰❤️❤️
Amazing! love hearing that!
@@Mat_Shaffer After years of searching loll..thank u though
You are hilarious Mat! These all are truths and several things that were missing in past relationships. Im 57 now and everything is so different! (Mostly my tolerance of crap lol) Enjoyed your video, thank you!
Thanks for sharing!!
Loved that!
Favorite: Sharing his future dreams and plans.
Many thanks!
I want to express my immense gratitude towards you Matt. You have helped me unlock my gifts and start sharing magic to help other women to step inti their true power. I was in the group coaching you did for light workers with Aaron Doughty and Victor Oddo and since July I have been sharing my voice loud and proud. I cant wait to help and inspire women like you do and to the extent that you do❤❤❤
He checked all these boxes and alottt more. Know him for over a decade and We’ve been together for 7 months.We just got married last month. He shows me so much respect and love and I’m literally so happy and proud to have him in my life. We are best friends and we have a very healthy relationship. God has been great to us
You’re fabulous! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and spreading the love. 💖
How about introducing you to friends and family during Covid? Can you comment on that? This is a little confusing during this time where we can’t really socialize. We met during the COVID-19 period.... ideas?
Rebecca Eichorn Erdiakoff, you deserve a better man!
Family video chat. Socially distanced park visits. Calls. etc
I talked to mine on messenger for 2 years before I met him ,we always FaceTime to each other one day I wouldn't let him see me on camera on FaceTime because I was having an emotional day I lost my mother and everything in my life it seemed I was overwhelmed finally talked me into opening the camera so he could see my beautiful face is what he said. Then when he seen he asked me what was going on and why I've been crying and what could he do for me. I told him I needed him in 4 days he left Florida and moved to my state we have been together now 6 months and he put a promise ring on my finger for Christmas it's like a fairytale come true he loves me and I love him with everything that is in me is a hard times and the good times that is what true love really is
Amazing! love hearing that!
Thank you for these pointers, I spent to many years, waiting for the compliments, and not seeing the actions!
You're welcome!
The hand on a womans waist is for most of us a turn on haha and in most cases its Go time.
Tanya Klawitter,hope you are with a good man!
Or on the small of her back! So sexy & such a turn on.
Thank you!
@@Mat_Shaffer Mat I tried to reply to the email you sent about loosing that friend of yours and calis I am so sorry but I know the pain. You out of anyone should know my pain and sorrows because it's been you on my path of Discovery and Mat if it wasn't for you I wouldn't of met David and had finally learnt the meaning to real happiness and what love was meant to feel like instead of being abused and I know where I was going wrong with the last I was so caught up finding the same thing and trying to feel the same happiness that I had in David that the guy I just got rid of wasn't the same. I just wish I never let David go back to the army and held on a little tighter and maybe he would have still been here but I had to let go even though I wasn't ready. Thank you mat for each one of these videos because you're actually sparking funny moments that I had either forgotten or tried to never think about again rather then remember them as cherished moments 2 years without him now but the pain still feels like only yesterday same with your little prodgy and his sister that was 2 years last April same day as I lost my grandmother
What’s the deal with a man who has such a spiritual connection with you and just walks away?
There is a non-committal crisis in the Bhuddist realm because it allows the partners to have no future expectation. Be careful...
One of my guys thinks I’m beautiful. I’m significantly overweight and nearing 70 years old. But he thinks my body is beautiful.
Another is always thinking of things he wants us to do together. When I was sick multiple times earlier this year. He was there to help me put the lasagna together for Christmas dinner. He was there when I wound up in the emergency room one night just a week after I met him. He was there to clean my house when I was recovering from the flu and expecting my sister and husband to stay with me for a couple days.
Does he have a brother?
AMAZING love that share!!:)
Thank you so much for sharing and explaining how a man shows love and emotional attachment to a special woman in his life.
Hello 👋 Rachel...How are you doing today?
Amazing! love hearing that!
Mat, your videos are getting more and more fun to see. God job, men! Besides that it's visible you're much more comfortable and open now. Really nice to watch your videos and your wisdom and knowledge.
Thank you 🙏🌸
Thanks a ton!
Well, he did 9 things out of 10 (we never really talked about the future but we were together for a year) when we were together and he still does them even after breaking up with me.
It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new
Well done, Mat!
Room behind you shows fine taste! Nicely arranged decor. Glad your move has gone so well.
Stay safe!
Thank you.
Thanks, you too!
Thank you Mat! My man doesn’t always share his feelings but he is definitely action motivated and he does all these things so I really appreciate you videos. It make a lot of sense and it make me feel special and loved. I love all your videos… keep them coming! ❤️ from 🇨🇦
So glad you enjoyed it! :) Many more to come!
Another amazing and helpful video. Thank you Mat for being a blessing to us all ❤
Tayma Rogers,your pretty smile ☺️ can make the news!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Ive always loved your videos so much but this new format/and upgrade of quality makes me addicted. I love your passion how you talk!!! Thank you! :)
Thanks so much for the feedback my dear!!! Truly appreciate it and I am right there with you... it’s easier to harness my energy when I’m standing up with this new set up :)
You are just awesome Mat😀 Everything you just said are so true🥰 I really appreciate you 😇
Thank you, that really means a lot! 😊 I’m so happy the advice hit home for you. 🥰 If you’d like to explore more insights on love and relationships, I’m doing a FREE live coaching course next month. It’s a beta launch, and I’d love for you to join! masteryofconnection.com/ ✨
My boyfriend and I got back in touch in January this year. We’d lost contact 12 years later he reached out. We went to catch up and we’re going on a year, he wants to go ring shopping when he gets back from a work project. He’s the best man I’ve ever been with. Everything you’ve said he does, I’ve never had that and I’ve been though so much. And been though some bad narcissistic abuse and he still loves me. Tries the help with my anxiety.
Thanks so much for your feedback!
88 days 🤗 its too long 😊.
#1 we fall inlove with a person who accept our flaws, our crack , our imperfections, our weirdness 🙏❤️
Chivalry we are still looking for that in a man.🙏❤️🤗
#4 yes its true if he' s spending time with you even he's trying very hard. Sometimes even he's driving .
Some women want our man knows how to be a MacGyver🤗. Ooooppps ! got an idea about my age 😄
Thanks so much for your feedback!
My husband did all of this at the beginning does the rules change after marriage or doesn't apply?😂😂😂
Are you still married??
Sometimes, people do relax after marriage, but it’s important to talk about expectations. Bringing back those habits can help strengthen your relationship! By the way, if you're interested, I’ll be part of a FREE live coaching love + relationship course starting next month. It’s a great opportunity to join the beta launch! You can learn more and sign up here: masteryofconnection.com/
@@BrandysParadise unfortunately yes. I try to change my traditional mindset, but when it is deeply rooted in who you are it's hard. 😔
i also think its important to note they may also act like theyre not trying or pushing away , it may be that he is falling inlove and is scared of that. so he takes a moment to step back because he doesnt want to be rejected. he may ask little questions like have you eaten today? you need to eat. lr how are your dogs ,have you checked on them. hedoesnt ask you to leave when youre in his personal space etc
Interesting perspective, thanks so much!
Hi thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this topic. It’s so interesting and very helpful for both men and women! You know it’s hard for me because I’ve never heard these things from my husband of 23 years but a very close person who I’m getting to know says these things to me and I love it. I also say these things to him and we share a beautiful and precious friendship❤
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks Mat, this insight is so helpful and encouraging from the male perspective. Another gem of a video thankyou xx
Glad you enjoyed it!
What a powerful quote, I love it! :)
Right?! so glad you liked it!!
You nailed it Mat! I liked your recap at the end, helpful
Glad you liked it!
Thank you for making me realize that no one has been totally emotionally invested in me. 😔
Dont give up on love sister!
Hi Mat! I sloshed my coffee trying to get to my keyboard to let you know how much I enjoyed this video. I really like your enthusiasm and your insight. Thank you very much!!
Thank you for your kind words, they truly touch my heart!
I'm so happy I discovered your channel. Chapeau, Mat!
Awesome! Thank you!
I'm feeling pretty good about this my new guy does all of these things.
I’m so happy for you my dear!
This is so true I'm blessed with my husband he does all of ths🙏🙏 thanks anyway
Thanks for watching
The man I’m dating less than 3 months he’s already have all that’s been mentioned, thank you 🙏
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!
I've known him and loved him all my life, but we've always belonged to other people. Now, we are seeing each other and he told me that we have always belonged to each other. (Endearing). I got to meet some of the people in his motorcycle club recently. I'm shy around strangers, but I fought it the best I could and joined in where I could. Wish me luck. We have an outing tomorrow. I'm going to pay attention to the small of my back.
Okay, so its been a month since I left this comment. We have been spending every weekend together. He said tonight was a very large get together (fund raiser) at his bike club and he would love it if I would go but he wouldn't be able to come get me this time, could I drive? (That's what they make addresses and GPS for, right?)
Sandy Parks,you deserve better
@@sandyzimmerman5206i get super shy as well. And knowing he is watching me interact with people makes me so much nervous...and i stuttered when i get nervous.
You are such a cute person.
Your eyes glint when you tell something. You are pure at heart Mat.
Thanks so much my dear!
I've always loved your videos but the new set up and style makes me love them even more
Happy to hear that!
Thank you so much this topic is i need to hear right now. I love it 😂😍😍
You are so welcome!!
@@Mat_Shaffer Sir, i am glad that now i understand him 😂by according to your video he is a thoughtful n respond my text, he is a protective,he busy but give me quality time and he invest in me thing i love to do with him.he have done most of this 10 sigh i see in him now 😂😂❤
I’m looking forward to fall in love again and experience all that you’ve mentioned. I’m widowed for almost 7 years. I’ve dated few times and experienced just couple of the signs.
Alright. That’s a wonderful attitude to have. Take your time. Take good care of yourself, your appearance and wardrobe and it will happen! Be open especially in the course of your regular day. Best wishes to you! 😁
Amazing! love hearing that! Best wishes to you dear! Just don’t give up on love...
I agree I am experiencing all of this from my new boyfriend. He is solid as ever.
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!