Yes. But at the same time.. You let them piss you off. So you make yourself pissed of also. Instead of trying to control how you respond. You could respond with calmness... Or laughing. That might be the secret. I'm working on it myself.. Hmm. Compassion and understanding might be the answer also..
I understand. Deep down I’m always telling myself that I need to calm down, but everything just pisses me off more and more. I have tried some breathing, but not more than a few seconds. I’ll try doing it the way she said (2-3 minutes! An eternity!!! Maybe it will help). At least if I’m breathing in and out for that long, I won’t be screaming at anybody.
Whenever anger starts to build up, my first resort is to stay quiet. This isnt the best because sometimes i end up ignoring people even when they’re speaking directly to me. But if i reply immediately, i wouldnt be able to calm myself and would sound very irritated. Staying quiet gives me some time to control myself and speak more calmly.
Yeah me too, but it's harder when you're trying to stay quiet but they keep asking you dumb questions , I eventually lash out on them and instantly regret it then get angry all over again cause of road rage or whatever
Yea, i would just be quiet. And when someone makes me forced to speak (question or whatever) even tho im not mad at him/her, i would sound angry and some random Scream suddenly goes out of my mouth
@@zoestaines9668 i been bodybuilding for 32 years so the gym is a huge release for me. I’ve also been having decent results with meditating 5 minutes a day . It helps man . i also learn to talk slower and focus on my emotions and be mindful . If the anger comes up quick i try to breathe it out and see my part in the situation .
This is one of my biggest issue in my life. I tried my best to stay calm but deep inside, I think I’m gonna be insane. Sometimes I tend to pour it out on people that has nothing to do with the situation. Looking back, I regretted my actions a lot. It affects my relationships negatively. I can’t afford therapy at the moment. I hope I can manage my anger issues before it gets out of hand. Wishing anyone suffer the similar problems can find their ways too.
Yeah, my anger can get out of hand really quick that’s why I try to smoke weed to alter it. It works, but you know weed cost money. And it can cause addiction and when you don’t have it, you could still get pissed so I don’t know do it at your own risk
When a person says "calm down" or "chill", especially when the person you're mad at says that, bruh, thats like stabbing someone and asking them to stop bleeding.
I know right! and when people say stuff like "yOuR oKaY" after u accidentaly stabbed your finger and its bleeding. I'm just like "HOW WOULD YOU KNOW IF IM OK OR NOT"
Surprisingly enough, I actually do feel better after I break something. Not just from the catharsis, but the sheer act of being able to vent out my rage into something that doesn't matter if it gets broken or not.
Make yourself a rage box. When you feel mad and want to chuck things across the room you can put stuff then can be thrown ripped shredded burned ect. to let your anger out . For example I have some old childhood cringey ass notebooks and diaries I like to tear to pieces in my box a few lighters to burn the paper and multiple dart and stabbing boards around my room. If you have one available you can go to a rage room but I live in the middle of no where next to a school so I can't just pull out a gun and start shoot tv screens out with pictures of my "friends" on them
I cried once because i wanted to k1ll my best friend. I had caught him sleeping with my girlfriend. It wasn't a mere thought, I'm a capable person that used to search out battle for fun. I still remember the tears. Shortly after that my immune system crashed and I almost died from strep/mono. Rage will eat you up.
@@swarajlaturkar3103 maybe they cannot afford a scooty. Or perhapse they are concerned that you are clumsy and may injure yourself upon it. Or maybe you are misbehaved and undeserving of a gift. Ask what you must do for your scooty do not expect it taken for granted and accept their reasoning. Accept the things you cannot change and change the things you cannot accept.
When you get so angry and you try to hold it in because your trying your best to change and calm down and not have a whole break down and then you end up crying because of how hard you want to let lose but you get tired of being the same way lmao
I cry when I'm mad or when somebody annoys me and they think I'm crying because they "HuRt mY fEEliNgS". NO DUDE ITS JUST THAT YOU'RE FRUSTRATING AND ANNOYING!
When I'm mad I go outside and run as fast as I can around the neighborhood. Just standing still when your angry won't help at all. Running is the healthiest way to deal with it in my opinion. It gets all the thoughts out of your head and makes you more relaxed at the end.
A men I feel ya, Is more of the thought that you are trying to control anger and crying is, in a way, the healthy solution Would they rather find it better if you channel that Rage in a fist and maybe get them a bloody nose? In that case, they better stay on their lane because patience can ran out anytime soon
I'm also going through the same thing but I think before I act. Whenever the sun falls, I always spend time alone and reflect. That includes me calming myself down and organizing my thoughts for I had a very bad day while I watch the sun set or any nature thingy. I did this every single day, and whenever I get pissed off I always breath deep in my nose then exhale on my mouth to calm myself down if I'm in the present getting angry and only I can do is how I'll react to it. Because there was a quote that I saw and ut said "You may not be able to control the things happening in your life, but you can choose how you'll react to it"
I could remember several years ago I suffered from severe depression and mental disorder. I was addicted to illicit pills, alcohol, and smoking until I was recommended for psilocybin mushroom treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly I'm 8 years clean now. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against anxiety and depression.
To be honest, mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on the planet and it is natural, they serve in many ways not only for mental related issues.
Can you help me with a reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. It is very hard to get a reliable source here in New Zealand. Really need!
Yes, Sporeville. I had the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction... Mushrooms definitely made a huge difference to why I'm clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He's 59 & has many mental health issues plus probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD knows if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Jacob Van Okay. It doesn’t work for me much though, when people say it I kinda get more mad because nobody ever asks me what’s wrong or whatever they just say “do deep breathes” and it’s annoying.
I had a little argument with my older brother earlier and now I’m in such a terrible mood that I can’t stop clenching my teeth lol! Sometimes I feel like slamming the door behind me whenever I’m in this situation. Thanks for the wonderful video.
Exactly. I get into Rage mode in seconds. At that time my brain stop thinking about anything. That time i can physically hurt myself & other person also.
Dbt dialectical behavior training does exactly that. It gives you the ability to understand and stretch out the time between emotional response to the thought that leads to an outward reaction. personal I ended up in an involuntary situation that lead to me joining a DBT group learning class. It was Mon Wed and Fri for 5 hrs. That lasted 6 weeks. I still have anger out bursts more often than I'd want. Need to work on using the S. T. O. P. skill for extream situations
Anger and addiction is very bad. Overcoming the power of addiction is no easy achievement. Every day can be a struggle against inner turmoil and outside pressures, exerting influence on you.
LSD and mushrooms completely changed my whole life. I became a better version of myself This experience gave me a lot of confidence about myself and my body. A bunch of bad thought/behavior patterns were broken. One of these were pretty bad OCD that made me wash my hands a lot. It gave me a lot of hope that thing will be fine, this is one thing that I heard throughout the trip; Everything is alright. The main reason for the trip was my severe depression and it definitely helped me(although it's not gone). Before all I could do was lay in bed. Now I am trying to rebuild my life one step at a time which wasn't possible before.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, I would like to give them a try but haven't found any legit grower to get it.
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
Psilocybin mushrooms have proven very effective in the treatment of various mental health issues. Helped me get out of years of depression and excessive alcohol use. My social anxiety is gone as well.
People who say take deep breaths clearly don't get agree like me, honestly punching a wall and or punching bag made me feel satisfied and calmed me down
J Slayer i’m not expert, and i can’t control my anger much either, but that will make your head think that’s the best choice. you’ll get higher blood pressure and increase your heart attack chances.
Working in the customer service industry led me to here. I work in a family business and I feel very emotionally isolated because I genuinely deal with beyond disrespectful customers that overstep my boundaries and whenever I talk about my anger my feelings are immediately invalidated and I'm told by fellow family workers to suck it up in order to remain "professional". I feel disrespected and my anger pents up because I do not have the emotional regulation to let it go (and to be fair I have been through so many incidents that you just can't let go).
actually no. this friend of mine can be a fucking bitch that is just plain rude and her mouth won't shut the fuck up. like on a test or some thing she'll go like: "oh, that's a low grade" and "even i could do that", or she'll look at what i was writing and say "this is all wrong." like bitch stfu already. I get that this is completely toxic, and even though we 'joke' about these things, it still gets to me sometimes. and when i get home i start punching everything and swearing, then i just blankly stare at nothing.
I often find myself angry at even the smallest things, it can be some small argument I had with my siblings or even something someone told me to do. It isn't hard to get angry, although it is hard to really stop being angry. I find that just isolating yourself and taking some time to actually breath really helps.
I totally get this. My 2 other siblings are already living overseas. I feel like everyone compares me to them especially the younger one (brother). Going to his wedding the year before he flew overseas was one of the worst decisions I made. Many strangers met me there and got their chance to finally interrogate me about questions I really hate answering all the time: marriage, having kids, religion, friendships, career and life in general. I know in my heart that I do not owe them any explanation or I am not supposed to answer them or share them anything about those things. However, the mother of the bride ASSUMED that I wanted to get married too, just like her daughter married my (arrogant) brother. Funny thing is, this same lady (mother of the bride) kept looking for me every time there's a family gathering. Luckily, no one can control me to attend another gathering with them. It makes me so mad that she kept insisting that I liked the same things that her daughter likes--- of course, NOT. First of all, I am an INTROVERT, while her daughter is an extrovert (likes attention). Ohhhhh Just thinking about them makes me mad again.
Is there is any mental tips? When I'm angry about something I just can't stop thinking about it. and I keep screaming in my mind, it is like a f*cking loop that never stops.
Whenever I'm angry, I tend to say things I don't mean and I end up taking it too far sometimes, even with the people I'm closest to or to those I love most and it breaks me every time they're obviously hurt by what I said. I always tell them that I don't mean it once I calm down but I can't help but think that they'll stop caring and loving me eventually because of my anger... I really really wish I didn't have anger issues but I can't help it
Unfortunately, words can hurt and people don't like being around others that hurt them, I have been hurt over and over by words so I know first hand. The answer is, how much do you want to change? I know its very hard but you need to find out what's making you so angry in the first place. You can do that by watching yourself in day to day matters and listening to you silent thoughts. It's a slow process but keep a journal on your phone and look back, that'll give you some insight into your thinking patterns. Something that worked for me..... did you know, that Jesus came and died to forgive you of everything? He has the power to take it all away! As we go through life we bottle up so much baggage and Jesus said: 'The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised,' Luke 4:18 If youd like further info on how to be free of your anger through Jesus, give me a heads up and I'll direct you to the right place. Peace and love to you. 💗
Yeah I remember saying to my 12 year old sister once: "I'm glad that he raped you, you deserved it" I feel so bad and guilty sometimes I would just tear up a bit hate to admit
This happens because the part of you that is angry wants to be seen and not ignored or forced to be happy. The anger is actually asking you to see it and accept it. Instead of trying not to be angry, try seeing yourself in your anger and telling yourself that you understand and accept yourself no matter how you feel. Breathe consciously as you do this. The anger will release on its own as you witness and accept it.
hit them in the face, see how much they gaslight you then. I punched my dad and the bitch started respecting me because he's fucked up and passed that on because that's what his dad did.
When I'm angry like too angry and I don't know what to do my anger turns into tears Just me ? Okay.. (Wow I didn't know that there's so many people too(an edit))
Yes! When I’m in a public place or something I really don’t want to start yelling my lungs out and and creating a string of expletives that would make my grandpa proud, I just start crying. Don’t know why, but it’s the only emotion I can get to come out in place of anger
Well this is proven scientifically that these methods work. My best tip is just.. to let it all out first; scream, breath in and out for a few seconds. then, do something you love, that can distract you, like a hobby; singing, watching yt videos or movies, sleep. Whatever. Or just something that can make your hand busy, like drawing, embroidering, coloring. Lastly, A hug, try hugging anyone that you love, or if you don't have that, a pillow works just fine. Just don't hold it in, let it all out first and find something distracting. Hope this helps ☺ •°* *•° •*° {You ARE loved, you are worth the time, you all are always beautiful outside (hopefully inside and out cause that's your choice if you wanna be both or not) just everyone's different. Remember that beauty standards doesn't exist}
I had never searched anything about "anger issues" on the internet before and today I did. I have always felt really embarrassed because of the way I behaved (and I still know it is not good to behave like that). But reading these comments, I feel really seen and now I know that I can work through it and people can help me.
I'm aware that I've had anger management problems for awhile now but i've never really made an effort to try and fix it until now. When I watched this video, though an old video, it felt refreshing. Everything makes much more sense and even if changing isn't the easiest thing to do, this video gave me hope. I thought that only I could relate to these sorts of stuff because everyone around me is always calm and some even made fun of my anger management problems but after reading these comments, I don't even know these people but I felt like I could relate to them. I felt like I wasn't alone in this and it gave me more hope that I can change. I don't know why i'm venting in a random comment section but wish me luck guys, let us change together!!
When I get too angry I start to cry and then I start to get more mad because I’m crying , and it doesn’t help when your trying to be the bigger person and someone is provoking you continuously
yep same you end up looking like a kid i hate it when im angry at my younger siblings and then i start crying and so they make fun of me coz im the oldest and they made me cry
@@deonceruti yeah now whenever im angry or fighting with they start saying oh you gonna start crying again which make more upsit i wish i can express my anger without crying coz its so embarassing especially im litteraly an adult right now 21 yo🤦🤦
My biggest problem is that I suppress the anger to not hurt my loved ones, but I end up erupting after a while and then feeling guilt, then sadness and then anger and cycle starts all over again…
Honestly I'm really sensitive emotional and kind but I just become extremely angry and I feel like hitting something and I hurt others by my words without even realising myself 😭😭 and the anger get stuck in my head for a long time I'm really insecure about myself
me tooooo fjfjjfjxnx the problem is that i’m not only verbally aggressive... i’m usually abusive and it really hurts my feelings too. I don’t want to be like that but it’s really hard to control
No question same here, so much of the shit i do while angry I'd NEVER do otherwise, especially with games, it's just a stream of vitriolic words and a controller or 2 being launched, teeth grinding even though i know it's not a good idea - but dumb fuck ragoholic me just can't seem to comprehend that...
when i'm having an anger attack i just can't control it, i just feel it growing bigger and bigger until i throw it all out against someone or something, which is so bad
I feel you. I've been going to my therapy since a week and by telling me to be calm isn't helping at all. I now want to look for a psychiatrist so that the people around me would be better
Same, is so difficult carrying around anger that can be triggered by any numb nut. The lack of control is awful and throws me out for the rest of the day. At the end of the day that person carries on with their day and probably laughs at how easy it was to make you angry. Which makes me even more angry lol.
My parents ruined it for me, they are so hard on the littlest of things. I feel supressed, suffocated in my house. They pressurized me into staying within such limits, that I can't voice out my thoughts, my feelings, or my opinions openly. They judge me on everything, be it my choice of friends, my favorite color(which is black, according to mom black symbolizes demons🙄), my hobbies, my love for BTS. I'm judged on every single thing. I've endured it for 19 years of my life and now I feel so done. Bcz of them I've developed this tendency to lie...I mean they have always put restrictions on me so I've adapted accordingly and I'm so good at it that I'm scared. Also I've been getting some really bad thoughts lately and I'm afraid of myself now. The level of anger I feel is not normal, I sometimes feel like raising my hand on them....it's literally at that point of my sanity. I don't know what to do... I don't feel accepted and it hurts so bad that all I feel is anger, rage, hatred now
Hey taevanya, guessing ur bias is tae, I'm an army too, I can feel how much you must have gone through to actually realize that ur anger is not normal, just remember to always open up to someone, ur bff maybe, and if not make this comment section ur place to get it out, I'm not great at giving advice bcoz I'm also going through some similar sh"t, I just try to get away from the situation or simply put on my headphones and listen to BTS, and their music and videos really helped me a lot to laugh out and ease me a bit, so don't worry we will get out of this someday, just focus on yourself, and remember to love yourself
@@Randomclipsbts ok first of all hOLy sHiT!!!! My name is Lavanya too! For a sec I was like wtf am I replying to myself or what?! We name twins or something
@@kth6442 No girl u r not ranting, and I dnt care even if u do, coz come on we are armys I feel like we are best frnds already, and I am glad u saw my message, I am glad u felt comfortable to speak abt ur parents with me, good job on getting it all out of ur heart and hey we are name twins aftr all *winks* ,btw my bias is ur bias's soulmate, we are so damn lucky to have these guys in our lives I swear....
I've had anger issues since I was a kid. I'm 15 years old now and boy anger is still controlling my life now and depression and low esteem are hurting me even harder. Life sucks and just gets worse.
anger issues and sensitivity are my one of my main problems so far, like when i non accidentaly throw my phone right on my friend's nose in class because, i was hating so much i cant control the heat, but when he got hurt, i oddly apologize to him. the hate will quickly gone once you think the person got what he deserved, if thats what i think. glad hes patient, but at the same time stalked from my back. goodbye friend
Well, u need to do some serious self reflection and therapy or good set of rational people around you to guide you, self help books. It takes time. But I've done it and I'm better because of it.
1. Breath Control. Inhale in and out. 2. Relax muscles. 3. Get it out. Like writing it down. 4. Seeing context. Thinking rationally by thinking if you'll still be angry about this later. There. That way you don't have to listen to their long long speech just to tell you this.
Me to I cant even control my anger when I'm at dinner with my family at home I end up yelling because my siblings are so annoying and the say "geeze calm down and stop getting so mad" but they dont under that I cant control it.
As I'm writing this i was just having anger issues just a moment ago and tried to find videos like this. As an introvert who often shouts in their thoughts to the person in front of them, the breathing one does help. but not always, nor is it for everyone because some people might just become more angrier. My personal technique that makes me calm down right away is when I make up a simple joke with the current situation. Either in my head or outloud it definitely helps escape that unwanted anger. Though nowadays I just forget on doing that because everytime i go home from school theres always things I need to do and I obviously have noone to blame but myself for the reason i still have to work. Everytime I get angry and just badly affect my family and myself I know that but I can't seem to stop and be positive. Which is why I also take a breather, sort of, I just take a stop and calm myself away from anybody and do something completely impractical. Im pretty sure everybody has their own way to "cope" with their anger issues. obviously it wont go away as you think it would but avoiding it is the best option. (for me i guess)
Anger management ain’t gonna work I hate anger managrment they piss me off and I would kill perplexed when they are telling me to calm down and I am so sick of it!!!
Thank you. I needed this. Its been a very rough life, but I want to take steps to get better because I miss being happy and want to enjoy my life again
I just have anger problems, I haven’t always had them but since personal events yeah, I haven’t been able to control it at all, I have one thing that calms me down in small situations where I just clench my fist and let go. Hope this helps dude❤️
Actually it works - but it's two breathes in through the nose and one long breathe out; on my Garmin watch I can see my heart rate falling when I do this.
I think it's also important to remember that feelings are info. It's really helpful to me to know that my anger is a valuable form of finding out what i care about. And when it's caused by a partner it's important to tell them what upset you. They might be more careful next time.
For anyone else that needs this time stamp, the actual techniques start at 1:53 I understand these wellcast people mean well, but fucking Christ if someone is actively seeking out anger management techniques they're more than aware how bad their anger is, and don't need a 2 minute long PSA on why excessive anger is bad, even to their health.
It’s my dad and my brother for me my mom is kinda concerned and assumes I’m just a moody teen that’s on my period (and she’s not wrong) My dad and brother try to piss me off more
When you get frustrated some people blast you with some stupid physiological facts about a person who is not lying won’t get frustrated no matter how much they are accused and that just makes me wanna torture them to death
I try to not talk at all when I'm angry because I know I'll sound how I feel. But people still talk to me. Recently, my mother and I had an argument, I was getting really mad so I stayed quiet. She kept asking me questions though so I did my best to answer in a calm manner but I just couldn't. She scolded me for having a bad "vibe" and she cried. I told her I just can't help it when I'm mad and that they should not talk to me when I am. She got angrier and told me I should be able to change and control my emotions. She told me to just stop being angry like it was the easiest thing in the world. When initially, my "vibe" really just reflects those around me.
Step 4 is difficult for me because I do remember these "small things" for years. Not road rage per say, but when I get upset/offended by friends/family.
One popular technique is "box breathing." You inhale for a count of four, hold your breath for a count of four, exhale for a count of four, and then hold your breath again for a count of four. It's a simple but effective way to calm your mind and reduce stress. Give it a go and see how it feels for you! 🌬️😊
"anger can affect your health" has 2 bruised hands from punching bathroom tile and a small bald spot where I pull my hair out along with the next day heahache Me: WHAAAAAAAAAAT NO WAAAAAAAY.
Me: punches wall because I keep dying in video game dad: screams at me and says I have anger issues also dad: slaps anyone who talks during his football match
punched through a wall after my cat died ( I was young) and i had a screw penetrate my hand 3 inches. OMG the pain. LOL I used to go around looking for fights. I have had my nose broken (would reset it myself) so many times that I can't breathe right anymore. I went to the doctors and the ENT gasped at the damage in there. GASPED my hands are warped and i have arthritis from all the broken bones. no good comes from unchecked rage. Only pain
Oops already did that broke a lamp and once I threw watermelon down the stairs cool no? Also banana at my brother half opened funny that it’s all fruit tho
Welp my anger is controlling me often Once a person rised their voice on me, i'd start to flip out and yell at them back even if it's was an accident yelling
Same here dude also started having a bad relation with parents. Dunno why I get angry even when my dad start a conversation with me f I want to change😫
Me too. My mom constantly criticizes me and then when i show just the *slightest* bit of annoyance towards her she’ll say, “your mouth is growing by the day” or “wow. Attitude” or smth like be quiet tbh, you’re making me more mad. But obviously i can’t say that or it’s guilt trip time~.
I gotta say im finnally facing my problems and trying to better myself this is the first video ive watched to help with anger issues, i try everyday to put a smile on my face but when the very first minor slight Inconvenience happens im yellin and hollerin. I hope this can help me and i remeber to stop and give myself time to calm down
Same, I love my family, but I always feel a deep anger towards my father and it just won't go away I recent him for things he did in the past, and no matter how hard I try I can't let it go, I feel angry everytime I hear his voice and I avoid him like the plague.. I hope someday I will let go of this anger...
I'm honestly terrified of my anger, and I always take it out on my family. It always comes from a place of resentment, where my mom might do or say something that isn't THAT bad but I get triggered because I get reminded of all the times she's hurt me in the past and I go into fight mode. The anger just feels so right. My dad is most likely a sociopath/bipolar who has HORRIBLE anger issues and has been physically, emotionally and mentally abusive to my mom and my family since I can even remember (so so so much trauma from having to witness and control this, it's unbelievable, it was like my life depended on it for my entire childhood)- I get told by my mom that I'm just like him and that both terrifies me and builds my resentment further. I have yelled at, hit and shoved my mom before and it's actually so sickening to think about:( I will make sure I never do anything like that ever again and get the help necessary to control my anger
Yeah this video is no help it says the same shit people say to you its not giving actual advise this woman is talking ab a topic she fant even relate with she jjst has a normal lvl of anger
I choked on a piece of gum i was chewing to get calmer 😂 which btw helps when your anger escalated down. And you angrily chew it’ll help calm down. But just not when you’re hot angry!!!
I don’t know why I’m angry all the time, but it has gotten to the point where I internalize it and don’t release it and it is apparent on my face that I am always mad. Even when I experience other emotions the anger is always there. When people ask me why I’m so angry it breaks my heart. I don’t want to be. But I can’t stop it.
When one person pisses me off, everything at that point pisses me off
Griffin x omg saaaaaaammmmeee
Sadly I can relate
Yes. But at the same time.. You let them piss you off. So you make yourself pissed of also. Instead of trying to control how you respond. You could respond with calmness... Or laughing. That might be the secret. I'm working on it myself.. Hmm. Compassion and understanding might be the answer also..
Me too
Griffin x EVERYTHIIIJNNNG
Trying to be calm when angry feels like saying “hey if you get killed just don’t die!”
ACCURATE. I hate it when people tell me to calm down when i'm mad, but how??? Like seriously, how?
I understand. Deep down I’m always telling myself that I need to calm down, but everything just pisses me off more and more. I have tried some breathing, but not more than a few seconds. I’ll try doing it the way she said (2-3 minutes! An eternity!!! Maybe it will help).
At least if I’m breathing in and out for that long, I won’t be screaming at anybody.
Like when I’m sad or mad and someone just say “calm down get your mind off it” HOW DO I GET MY MIND OFF IT IF ITS THE ONLY THING I CAN THINK ABOUT
I actually can’t control m6 anger that’s why I have anger issues
@@fredfred4793 it gets me even more pissed for fucks sake like, don't say anything and I'll let myself calm down.
Sometimes when im so angry the anger turns to tears
Same that happens to me too
Same
Same that's the one thing i hate to my self
Same
i hate when that happens but like no one understands how i feel
Whenever anger starts to build up, my first resort is to stay quiet. This isnt the best because sometimes i end up ignoring people even when they’re speaking directly to me. But if i reply immediately, i wouldnt be able to calm myself and would sound very irritated. Staying quiet gives me some time to control myself and speak more calmly.
Yeah me too, but it's harder when you're trying to stay quiet but they keep asking you dumb questions , I eventually lash out on them and instantly regret it then get angry all over again cause of road rage or whatever
that sounds like a good idea
i'll try it!
Me too, I tend to be *dead* silent if I'm pissed off
Yea, i would just be quiet. And when someone makes me forced to speak (question or whatever) even tho im not mad at him/her, i would sound angry and some random Scream suddenly goes out of my mouth
I try to do this but people always feel the need to keep talking to me then I spaz like stfu and let me breathe😑
Am I the only person that whenever I try to calm I just get more angry.
Nope.avi. I'm with you bro.
Nope, me too
Nope.
Me to
Me too
Problem with me is my anger turns to rage quick . And I’m always regretful and embarrassed after .
I literally punched my phone so hard that my knuckle hurt for 3 days. I regret it but i also dont
me too man, I find that physical exercise helps me get it out, maybe get a boxing bag
@@zoestaines9668 i been bodybuilding for 32 years so the gym is a huge release for me. I’ve also been having decent results with meditating 5 minutes a day . It helps man . i also learn to talk slower and focus on my emotions and be mindful . If the anger comes up quick i try to breathe it out and see my part in the situation .
same, i feel like anger is my way out but when i open that door i regret it instantly.
@@darylmess5302 i just now punched my phone and the whole screen is fucked
“Did you know that anger also effects your physical health?”
Me: *”Haha. Looks like I’m gonna die soon.”*
Me: (chuckles) I'm in danger
Makes me angry
When im angry im stronger
Thank God i am🥱
(Laughs nervously) I’ll die soon even tho I’m 11
This is one of my biggest issue in my life. I tried my best to stay calm but deep inside, I think I’m gonna be insane. Sometimes I tend to pour it out on people that has nothing to do with the situation. Looking back, I regretted my actions a lot. It affects my relationships negatively. I can’t afford therapy at the moment. I hope I can manage my anger issues before it gets out of hand. Wishing anyone suffer the similar problems can find their ways too.
Same. I feel you. Just an hour ago, I got mad at my mom.
Im with u same here
Yeah, my anger can get out of hand really quick that’s why I try to smoke weed to alter it. It works, but you know weed cost money. And it can cause addiction and when you don’t have it, you could still get pissed so I don’t know do it at your own risk
One year after, is it the same?
you are not the only one 😢😢😢
For Me, It's Anger, Then Depression, Then Back To Anger.
xZuperPiplup99x same
me too
Add frustration for me in the list.
Well at the depression stage, I cut myself to feel better....
xZuperPiplup99x ur not depressed shut up
When a person says "calm down" or "chill", especially when the person you're mad at says that, bruh, thats like stabbing someone and asking them to stop bleeding.
Or putting gasoline.
parents pull this and it annoys me even more
👍🏽😂
So true.
I know right! and when people say stuff like "yOuR oKaY" after u accidentaly stabbed your finger and its bleeding. I'm just like "HOW WOULD YOU KNOW IF IM OK OR NOT"
"Does punching a wall make you feel better, the answer is no."
I beg your pardon...
👊💢🚪😌
It actually does make me feel bettrr but aight lmao
I punch a glass before and it broke
Doesn't feel good when you get a boxers fracture, not worth.
And me freaking out also helps. ·3·
Surprisingly enough, I actually do feel better after I break something. Not just from the catharsis, but the sheer act of being able to vent out my rage into something that doesn't matter if it gets broken or not.
Same here
Make yourself a rage box.
When you feel mad and want to chuck things across the room you can put stuff then can be thrown ripped shredded burned ect. to let your anger out .
For example I have some old childhood cringey ass notebooks and diaries I like to tear to pieces in my box a few lighters to burn the paper and multiple dart and stabbing boards around my room.
If you have one available you can go to a rage room but I live in the middle of no where next to a school so I can't just pull out a gun and start shoot tv screens out with pictures of my "friends" on them
When I'm angry, I slam doors. It happens EVERY time I'm angry. And tbh, it kind of helps. I feel almost satisfied with each slammed door.
💯
1 year later, how is it going for you with your anger?
When you are angry but you try to smile and tears come out of your eyes.
I cried once because i wanted to k1ll my best friend.
I had caught him sleeping with my girlfriend.
It wasn't a mere thought, I'm a capable person that used to search out battle for fun.
I still remember the tears. Shortly after that my immune system crashed and I almost died from strep/mono. Rage will eat you up.
@@swarajlaturkar3103 maybe they cannot afford a scooty. Or perhapse they are concerned that you are clumsy and may injure yourself upon it. Or maybe you are misbehaved and undeserving of a gift. Ask what you must do for your scooty do not expect it taken for granted and accept their reasoning. Accept the things you cannot change and change the things you cannot accept.
@@swarajlaturkar3103 how old are you?
@@swarajlaturkar3103 Ok come on bro I thought u were 13. At this point u should not be prioritising a scooty over ur parents financial problems
When you get so angry and you try to hold it in because your trying your best to change and calm down and not have a whole break down and then you end up crying because of how hard you want to let lose but you get tired of being the same way lmao
My anger has ruined so many relationships in my life, not just romantically. It sucks at this point.
Yep, that's why I'm here too.
Same dude.
Same
Same
I'm autistic, and sometimes I get really angry, so that's why I found this video on my own and showed it to my therapist.
I don't like the fact that when you get angry, people will judge you based on that one moment.
Yes your so right I can totally relate
Yes!
Most people hide their anger. Which I don't think is healthy
Yes it’s over for you. Like I can be a saint and then I get angry once - it’s done
Exactly, especially if you're a girl. All of a sudden you don't have manners and you're an "angry woman"
1) Breath in Clean Blue Air
Exhale Toxic Red Air
2) Relax all muscles
3) Think of consequences for bad reactions
Woah... i never felt relaxed w breathing tecniques but im gonna try the blue air hot air. It sounds like it could be effective for me
Is it only me the one that cry when I'm calming down myself
not at all. sometimes i cry anger tears and sometimes i cry when calming down. you’re not alone
Plsss im crying atm
@@sammollenkamp661 mee too
Who doesnt?
Yes
I cry when I'm mad or when somebody annoys me and they think I'm crying because they "HuRt mY fEEliNgS". NO DUDE ITS JUST THAT YOU'RE FRUSTRATING AND ANNOYING!
When I'm mad I go outside and run as fast as I can around the neighborhood. Just standing still when your angry won't help at all. Running is the healthiest way to deal with it in my opinion. It gets all the thoughts out of your head and makes you more relaxed at the end.
A men I feel ya,
Is more of the thought that you are trying to control anger and crying is, in a way, the healthy solution
Would they rather find it better if you channel that Rage in a fist and maybe get them a bloody nose?
In that case, they better stay on their lane because patience can ran out anytime soon
I wanna curse in front of my christian cousin but I can't
Ong then that get me more mad cuz they thinking that they hurt my feelings and I’m really crying cuz I can’t kill them 😞
Ify and i dont know what to do
I get angry at my family a lot and I feel guilt after that... They never understand me and even myself don't. anyone else?
You're not alone
same
Did you improve your temper? Because I don't know what to do anymore
What are the things did you do?
I'm also going through the same thing but I think before I act. Whenever the sun falls, I always spend time alone and reflect. That includes me calming myself down and organizing my thoughts for I had a very bad day while I watch the sun set or any nature thingy. I did this every single day, and whenever I get pissed off I always breath deep in my nose then exhale on my mouth to calm myself down if I'm in the present getting angry and only I can do is how I'll react to it. Because there was a quote that I saw and ut said
"You may not be able to control the things happening in your life, but you can choose how you'll react to it"
I could remember several years ago I suffered from severe depression and mental disorder. I was addicted to illicit pills, alcohol, and smoking until I was recommended for psilocybin mushroom treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly I'm 8 years clean now. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against anxiety and depression.
To be honest, mushrooms are one of the most amazing things on the planet and it is natural, they serve in many ways not only for mental related issues.
Can you help me with a reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. It is very hard to get a reliable source here in New Zealand. Really need!
Yes, Sporeville. I had the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction... Mushrooms definitely made a huge difference to why I'm clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He's 59 & has many mental health issues plus probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD knows if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on Instagram?
Why do I cry when I'm angry like I'm trying to roast someone but damn tears bro
Me too
me too
That's what I'm like right now I'm crying and my mum and dad are in the next room and they don't even care
same here
Same and my opponents think that I'm crying because they insulted me but the reasons I'm crying is because of my anger
i was hoping she wouldnt say “take deep breaths”. deep breaths just piss me off even more.
me too AND STOP SHARING INFO!!!!!!!!!!!1😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡
You have to take deep breaths. I tried it, and it works.
Jacob Van It doesn’t work for everyone.
@@user-fo9en9pw9w I see, but since I saw this, when I get angry nowadays, breathing actually helps me. I stop, breathe, and then I can think.
Jacob Van Okay. It doesn’t work for me much though, when people say it I kinda get more mad because nobody ever asks me what’s wrong or whatever they just say “do deep breathes” and it’s annoying.
Me: *crying*
Everyone: oooh why are you sad :(
Me: these are rage tears
FR
Yup, when im mad my eyes tear up then everyone is surprised as to why I’m crying
Yall are lucky, my mom just yells at 20 decibels more than i can scream, converting sadness into anger, frustration into... uhh crap
Ifkr
Fr tho
I had a little argument with my older brother earlier and now I’m in such a terrible mood that I can’t stop clenching my teeth lol!
Sometimes I feel like slamming the door behind me whenever I’m in this situation.
Thanks for the wonderful video.
The thing is, anger is impulsive and you kinda don't have time to do this every time you get upset
Yessssssssssss
Exactly. I get into Rage mode in seconds. At that time my brain stop thinking about anything. That time i can physically hurt myself & other person also.
ye u have a point
Dbt dialectical behavior training does exactly that. It gives you the ability to understand and stretch out the time between emotional response to the thought that leads to an outward reaction. personal I ended up in an involuntary situation that lead to me joining a DBT group learning class. It was Mon Wed and Fri for 5 hrs. That lasted 6 weeks. I still have anger out bursts more often than I'd want. Need to work on using the S. T. O. P. skill for extream situations
Yes!
Everything in this video pisses me off even more.
Blackbird Even your comment made me angry and idk why 😂
Exactly I just want to fricken punch the person that made this
@@introvertforlife898 FUCK YOU TOO I AM ANGRY AHHH
Blackbird 😭😭
Eyassu Nega lol
When I get angry I try to calm down, but then my eyes start tearing. Then I get angry because my eyes are tearing.
Same fuck it
@@ronaldmalupet2148 same I just wanna break every furniture I have
Ikr I get so mad like I want the world to end at one point
FR! And like bruh I’m not even sad like I’m literally about to commit a crime why tf are my eyes Havin tears by itself-
exactly. it's so fucking annoying
Anger and addiction is very bad. Overcoming the power of addiction is no easy achievement. Every day can be a struggle against inner turmoil and outside pressures, exerting influence on you.
LSD and mushrooms completely changed my whole life. I became a better version of myself
This experience gave me a lot of confidence about myself and my body. A bunch of bad thought/behavior patterns were broken. One of these were pretty bad OCD that made me wash my hands a lot. It gave me a lot of hope that thing will be fine, this is one thing that I heard throughout the trip; Everything is alright. The main reason for the trip was my severe depression and it definitely helped me(although it's not gone). Before all I could do was lay in bed. Now I am trying to rebuild my life one step at a time which wasn't possible before.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, I would like to give them a try but haven't found any legit grower to get it.
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
@JulieAkinHow do I reach out 🙏? If possible, can I find him on insta
Psilocybin mushrooms have proven very effective in the treatment of various mental health issues. Helped me get out of years of depression and excessive alcohol use. My social anxiety is gone as well.
People who say take deep breaths clearly don't get agree like me, honestly punching a wall and or punching bag made me feel satisfied and calmed me down
J Slayer i’m not expert, and i can’t control my anger much either, but that will make your head think that’s the best choice. you’ll get higher blood pressure and increase your heart attack chances.
I need to buy punching bag
same here
Same
*angry
nobody:
me while trying my best to do the instructions: *only becomes more pissed off*
Ikr my hands hurt from punching my water bottle🙂
imagining the creator of the video reading the comment section and get stressed out makes me laugh
@@sarinasantiago468 Get some therapy before you're an old borderline cutting herself because her husband forgot it's Friday.
Fck yeah
@@sarinasantiago468 im punching the wall -_
the last thing you want to hear when you’re pissed off is: calm down
I could strangle someone when someone tells me to calm down when they made me angry in the first place.
Never in the history of telling someone to calm down
HAVE THEY EVER CALMED DOWN
@@IzzyIsIsi HAHA TRUE
Yeah haha
Oml no pls-
Working in the customer service industry led me to here. I work in a family business and I feel very emotionally isolated because I genuinely deal with beyond disrespectful customers that overstep my boundaries and whenever I talk about my anger my feelings are immediately invalidated and I'm told by fellow family workers to suck it up in order to remain "professional". I feel disrespected and my anger pents up because I do not have the emotional regulation to let it go (and to be fair I have been through so many incidents that you just can't let go).
People with anger issues can’t win. We regret the stuff we do when we’re angry.. but if we try to stay calm, we also regret NOT doing something.
actually no. this friend of mine can be a fucking bitch that is just plain rude and her mouth won't shut the fuck up. like on a test or some thing she'll go like: "oh, that's a low grade" and "even i could do that", or she'll look at what i was writing and say "this is all wrong." like bitch stfu already. I get that this is completely toxic, and even though we 'joke' about these things, it still gets to me sometimes. and when i get home i start punching everything and swearing, then i just blankly stare at nothing.
@@SK1238723947238947234 Woowwww. i so get it being a fellow sensitive person.
@@SK1238723947238947234 i will
@@sybbi7 I would punch her so hard cause iam not about that shit that u can't punch girls but boys
Samyra y2k you just described my gf and it’s sadly destroying our relationship
This just pisses me off even more.
+Namikaze Kuro I feel happy there are other angry people like me, at least we can hate this piece of shit video together and agree on that haha.
Yes we can!YES WE FUCKIN' CAN!LET'S BURN SOMETHING,BROTHERS!LET'S CAUSE THE RIOTS!
Me too
+RYSE ur a stupid ass, you know that?
Dean Klein FUCK YOU DEAN SHITHEAD
I often find myself angry at even the smallest things, it can be some small argument I had with my siblings or even something someone told me to do. It isn't hard to get angry, although it is hard to really stop being angry. I find that just isolating yourself and taking some time to actually breath really helps.
I totally get this. My 2 other siblings are already living overseas. I feel like everyone compares me to them especially the younger one (brother).
Going to his wedding the year before he flew overseas was one of the worst decisions I made. Many strangers met me there and got their chance to finally interrogate me about questions I really hate answering all the time: marriage, having kids, religion, friendships, career and life in general.
I know in my heart that I do not owe them any explanation or I am not supposed to answer them or share them anything about those things. However, the mother of the bride ASSUMED that I wanted to get married too, just like her daughter married my (arrogant) brother. Funny thing is, this same lady (mother of the bride) kept looking for me every time there's a family gathering. Luckily, no one can control me to attend another gathering with them. It makes me so mad that she kept insisting that I liked the same things that her daughter likes--- of course, NOT. First of all, I am an INTROVERT, while her daughter is an extrovert (likes attention). Ohhhhh Just thinking about them makes me mad again.
I get mad even at the weather. Imagine having 365 days of summer. I'm serious.
@@everydayisaholiday_ Yeah, family sucks sometimes. I have my fair share of family issues too, I hope that you can find peace with them. Good luck.
Actually destroying or damaging some objects makes me to reduce my anger.
Edit: Nowadays I hit the gym or do sprint's to calm myself
Same here
@@starr.empress2 I throw clocks at walls
When I really have to do something physical I try to do pull ups, push ups, or go for an "anger run". Running when angry feels sooooooo good.
@@YeshuaIsTheTruth This idea is really superb.
@@dharshankumar467 Thanks! That's what I thought when I first heard it :D
Is there is any mental tips?
When I'm angry about something I just can't stop thinking about it. and I keep screaming in my mind, it is like a f*cking loop that never stops.
oh gosh same
You are in gengutsu
I am struggling with this too. It drains my energy.
Try to replace the thoughts with something else. Distract yourself.
*fucking
Whenever I'm angry, I tend to say things I don't mean and I end up taking it too far sometimes, even with the people I'm closest to or to those I love most and it breaks me every time they're obviously hurt by what I said. I always tell them that I don't mean it once I calm down but I can't help but think that they'll stop caring and loving me eventually because of my anger... I really really wish I didn't have anger issues but I can't help it
We are one and the same.
I can relate.
Unfortunately, words can hurt and people don't like being around others that hurt them, I have been hurt over and over by words so I know first hand. The answer is, how much do you want to change? I know its very hard but you need to find out what's making you so angry in the first place. You can do that by watching yourself in day to day matters and listening to you silent thoughts. It's a slow process but keep a journal on your phone and look back, that'll give you some insight into your thinking patterns. Something that worked for me..... did you know, that Jesus came and died to forgive you of everything? He has the power to take it all away! As we go through life we bottle up so much baggage and Jesus said: 'The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised,' Luke 4:18
If youd like further info on how to be free of your anger through Jesus, give me a heads up and I'll direct you to the right place.
Peace and love to you. 💗
Yeah I remember saying to my 12 year old sister once: "I'm glad that he raped you, you deserved it" I feel so bad and guilty sometimes I would just tear up a bit hate to admit
I feel you :(
This happens because the part of you that is angry wants to be seen and not ignored or forced to be happy. The anger is actually asking you to see it and accept it. Instead of trying not to be angry, try seeing yourself in your anger and telling yourself that you understand and accept yourself no matter how you feel. Breathe consciously as you do this. The anger will release on its own as you witness and accept it.
Sometimes you’re in an environment that you cannot control, and that makes people more angry.
Imagine having anger issues and a parent that gaslights and berates you. Literally my life rn.
For real man, I think I detest my dad.
Lol . Same
hit them in the face, see how much they gaslight you then.
I punched my dad and the bitch started respecting me because he's fucked up and passed that on because that's what his dad did.
Me in a nutshell
yep same shit i had growing up
When I'm angry like too angry and I don't know what to do my anger turns into tears
Just me ? Okay..
(Wow I didn't know that there's so many people too(an edit))
Fool of Love it is not just u
Nope not just you
I just raged so hard at brawl stars i needed 10 trophies for level 20 shelly and star points amd then i lost so much i needed 80 trophies
I feel you my man
Samee
Anyone else experience the feeling of anger yet your unable to express it so it turns to tears.😭
Yes! When I’m in a public place or something I really don’t want to start yelling my lungs out and and creating a string of expletives that would make my grandpa proud, I just start crying. Don’t know why, but it’s the only emotion I can get to come out in place of anger
Cyonic Ikr, it hurts😥
Yea. Its comforting reading these comments and knowing your not the only one who is experiencing feelings like this.
Me
I dont like being angry at my parents but I cant control myself, that's why I'm seeking for help about my anger issues.
This video answered so many questions, that I was asking myself all my life, thanking you is not enough, I owe you my life.
Not by video ....but after reading comments my anger is reduced 😂😂
Me too🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂
Ikr 😂
Same
people really have issues at least
I am better than them it Makes me feel better😇😁
Exactly😂
im not even dat bad compared to the comments im seeing lok
Start at 1:52 if you want to avoid the anger caused by watching a UA-camr that takes too long to get to the point.
Georgia Patrick Yes, thank you. I'm glad that I'm not the only one who wants them to get to the damn point already.
Georgia Patrick i
Thanks bro. I was already getting mad. Plz send help.
Fucking thank you!
Honestly I’ve adapted to be able to understand pretty much anything at 2x for basically this reason
But I don't want to breathe deep and write an emotion journal
I want to yell and start hitting inanimate objects
I agree
same
same
Fucking same but city life won't let it
i dont want objects,i need h u m a n
1. Breath control
2. Muscle Relaxation
3. Write down the reasons
4. Seek context
When the anger management video makes you mad in the first 3 seconds
Seán you made me laugh. Thanks
I was feeling the anger immediately and saying to myself “cmon now you’re here to get well try and be good” 😝
Home Yogi hi dad
Yeah that stupid music its so cringe lol
Lmao
"Anger can give you a heart attack"
So that's why my chest keeps hurting
Yup
Now I know why my heart rate reaches 150
Well this is proven scientifically that these methods work. My best tip is just.. to let it all out first; scream, breath in and out for a few seconds. then, do something you love, that can distract you, like a hobby; singing, watching yt videos or movies, sleep. Whatever. Or just something that can make your hand busy, like drawing, embroidering, coloring. Lastly, A hug, try hugging anyone that you love, or if you don't have that, a pillow works just fine. Just don't hold it in, let it all out first and find something distracting. Hope this helps ☺
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yes that’s another reason why i cry cause i don’t wanna die.
I have ulcers and my stomach is terrible
I had never searched anything about "anger issues" on the internet before and today I did.
I have always felt really embarrassed because of the way I behaved (and I still know it is not good to behave like that).
But reading these comments, I feel really seen and now I know that I can work through it and people can help me.
Me too i am more than frustrated aagh
ye there will always be some one who hears u
Passive/aggressive. Weird.
Same, and I’m looking into self help because one of my kids politely pointed out that I have anger issues. We’re all a work in progress!!!
Same I’m honestly in tears about it. It’s comfortable to finally not feel alone
I'm aware that I've had anger management problems for awhile now but i've never really made an effort to try and fix it until now. When I watched this video, though an old video, it felt refreshing. Everything makes much more sense and even if changing isn't the easiest thing to do, this video gave me hope. I thought that only I could relate to these sorts of stuff because everyone around me is always calm and some even made fun of my anger management problems but after reading these comments, I don't even know these people but I felt like I could relate to them. I felt like I wasn't alone in this and it gave me more hope that I can change. I don't know why i'm venting in a random comment section but wish me luck guys, let us change together!!
hitting my pillow won’t satisfy my anger, so i have to hit a hard object to feel more satisfied
😂🤣😂🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂
That is so true. I hit my pillow and it’s so soft that I feel like I’m not punching hard enough.
Hit a wall it might break your knuckles but it's worth it
The sound of bang .🙃
Your right I broke my tv today not happy about it but I feel better
When I get too angry I start to cry and then I start to get more mad because I’m crying , and it doesn’t help when your trying to be the bigger person and someone is provoking you continuously
Yes, I feel you. Im just trying to handle the situation maturely but my friends and other people act so petty.
yep same you end up looking like a kid i hate it when im angry at my younger siblings and then i start crying and so they make fun of me coz im the oldest and they made me cry
@@oumaouma3672 exactly, but they don’t understand that when the tears come it’s like a different level of anger where I’m ready to go ballistics.
@@deonceruti yeah now whenever im angry or fighting with they start saying oh you gonna start crying again which make more upsit i wish i can express my anger without crying coz its so embarassing especially im litteraly an adult right now 21 yo🤦🤦
@@oumaouma3672 fr
"Let me tell you how bad being angry is for you" yeah that doesn't make me feel less angry, thanks
Me : Ok i am calm ! ^^
Also me : Act like Kylo Ren when a christian want me to repent to my "sins"
@Fan of Patrick
Hehe glad i make you happy ! ;)
@@fastest159 you should repent for your sins
My biggest problem is that I suppress the anger to not hurt my loved ones, but I end up erupting after a while and then feeling guilt, then sadness and then anger and cycle starts all over again…
❤🙏🏾
How is the anger going for you now?
@@SherifatSuliemon-lw6ls so-so. I am kind of getting better at suppressing it, thanks for asking though)
me too 😢😢
Honestly I'm really sensitive emotional and kind but I just become extremely angry and I feel like hitting something and I hurt others by my words without even realising myself 😭😭 and the anger get stuck in my head for a long time
I'm really insecure about myself
@Fan of Patrick Same
its so unhealthy for my health i’m always trying to control it but it never works our
me tooooo fjfjjfjxnx the problem is that i’m not only verbally aggressive... i’m usually abusive and it really hurts my feelings too. I don’t want to be like that but it’s really hard to control
I'm like you, superrr emotional, but I get angry and want to hit things and scream, it's just part of being human!
@@strawberryshortdrake oh I'll wish u luck 👍
What's annoying is how everyone knows that I have anger issues and they still always try to make me angry.
Paladins Bae kinda true tbh
It’s because they like to see you explode. People are dicks.
Paladins Bae I'm going to kill the next person that pisses me off too much.
Paladins Bae I know. They want to try to tick me to the point of exploding all the doo-da-day, but when I do something to them, oh, I'M the jerk.
i agree
When I get mad I feel like I get possessed bruh 💀
Bruh sameee
You cured my anger with your comment
For now...
I thought I was the only one
No question same here, so much of the shit i do while angry I'd NEVER do otherwise, especially with games, it's just a stream of vitriolic words and a controller or 2 being launched, teeth grinding even though i know it's not a good idea - but dumb fuck ragoholic me just can't seem to comprehend that...
its like I'm battling my anger
when i'm having an anger attack i just can't control it, i just feel it growing bigger and bigger until i throw it all out against someone or something, which is so bad
my mom does not let me release my anger so im forced to hold it in and then she acts all suprised and turns into a bitch when i get angry
I feel you. I've been going to my therapy since a week and by telling me to be calm isn't helping at all. I now want to look for a psychiatrist so that the people around me would be better
Me 100% :(
Samee
ikr..
I hate being angry so much bruh, literally when someone looks at me I'm pissed now
Lol..i cant relate..but i see a person like that..it sucks huh..
Same, is so difficult carrying around anger that can be triggered by any numb nut.
The lack of control is awful and throws me out for the rest of the day.
At the end of the day that person carries on with their day and probably laughs at how easy it was to make you angry.
Which makes me even more angry lol.
Made me feel better lmao
I wanna stab they eyes
I get pissed off when people look at me wrong 🤬🤬🤬🤬
DO NOT WATCH THIS WHILE ANGRY.
Hahahahah fuuuuuuuuuck
Hayle Near that's what I'm doi g
Hayle Near bitch ass trying to make me breathe.
Thanks for the heads up, it's already pissing me the fuck up
Too late
I get away from my closer people because of anger. Thank you for sharing this!
Little sister: "CoMe PlAy WiTh Me"
Me: *Wants to burn the lawn and every toy in the house with my rage*
Literally same when I make vids
Yes I feel the same but with my little brother
When I get angry I cry...
Same
Me too
Same
Same
Koniaczek Koń: That Is The same with me :(
My parents ruined it for me, they are so hard on the littlest of things. I feel supressed, suffocated in my house.
They pressurized me into staying within such limits, that I can't voice out my thoughts, my feelings, or my opinions openly.
They judge me on everything, be it my choice of friends, my favorite color(which is black, according to mom black symbolizes demons🙄), my hobbies, my love for BTS. I'm judged on every single thing.
I've endured it for 19 years of my life and now I feel so done. Bcz of them I've developed this tendency to lie...I mean they have always put restrictions on me so I've adapted accordingly and I'm so good at it that I'm scared.
Also I've been getting some really bad thoughts lately and I'm afraid of myself now. The level of anger I feel is not normal, I sometimes feel like raising my hand on them....it's literally at that point of my sanity.
I don't know what to do...
I don't feel accepted and it hurts so bad that all I feel is anger, rage, hatred now
I feel you brother ,i have been there before. Now i just don't care what they say. It's your life ,live it how you want to 😁
Hey taevanya, guessing ur bias is tae, I'm an army too, I can feel how much you must have gone through to actually realize that ur anger is not normal, just remember to always open up to someone, ur bff maybe, and if not make this comment section ur place to get it out, I'm not great at giving advice bcoz I'm also going through some similar sh"t, I just try to get away from the situation or simply put on my headphones and listen to BTS, and their music and videos really helped me a lot to laugh out and ease me a bit, so don't worry we will get out of this someday, just focus on yourself, and remember to love yourself
@@Randomclipsbts ok first of all hOLy sHiT!!!! My name is Lavanya too! For a sec I was like wtf am I replying to myself or what?! We name twins or something
@@kth6442 No girl u r not ranting, and I dnt care even if u do, coz come on we are armys I feel like we are best frnds already, and I am glad u saw my message, I am glad u felt comfortable to speak abt ur parents with me, good job on getting it all out of ur heart and hey we are name twins aftr all *winks* ,btw my bias is ur bias's soulmate, we are so damn lucky to have these guys in our lives I swear....
@@Randomclipsbts Àahhahhhhh!!!!! Jiminie pabo!!!!!! The cutie patOotie 🥺
armies really are lucky😌
Never Thought I'd find myself searching for a video like this
Same bro
1 year later, how is your anger going?
I've had anger issues since I was a kid. I'm 15 years old now and boy anger is still controlling my life now and depression and low esteem are hurting me even harder. Life sucks and just gets worse.
*Life Advice* Stop watching K-pop, Kid
Same but I’m a 10 year old girl with all of that going on. My life sucks, I have realllyyyyyyy low self esteem, depression, anger issues, and more.
anger issues and sensitivity are my one of my main problems so far, like when i non accidentaly throw my phone right on my friend's nose in class because, i was hating so much i cant control the heat, but when he got hurt, i oddly apologize to him. the hate will quickly gone once you think the person got what he deserved, if thats what i think. glad hes patient, but at the same time stalked from my back. goodbye friend
Well, u need to do some serious self reflection and therapy or good set of rational people around you to guide you, self help books. It takes time. But I've done it and I'm better because of it.
Same
1. Breath Control. Inhale in and out.
2. Relax muscles.
3. Get it out. Like writing it down.
4. Seeing context. Thinking rationally by thinking if you'll still be angry about this later.
There. That way you don't have to listen to their long long speech just to tell you this.
Someone get this more likes please
Thank you 😭
Long speech? It's literally not even five minutes long
Just watch the video
@@praneshraghavendran2129 When you are angry, even 1 minute can feel like eternity.
IM TOO ANGRY TO CALM DOWN
Me to I cant even control my anger when I'm at dinner with my family at home I end up yelling because my siblings are so annoying and the say "geeze calm down and stop getting so mad" but they dont under that I cant control it.
Me tooooooOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO OAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH
kimberly verhagen SAAAAAAAME
BitBird Beauty SHUT THE FUCK UP U DONT KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT ANGER ISSUES ASSHOLE
FINALLY SOMEONE WHO KNOWS THEIR DIFFERENCE BETWEEN TOO AND FUCKING TO
As I'm writing this i was just having anger issues just a moment ago and tried to find videos like this. As an introvert who often shouts in their thoughts to the person in front of them, the breathing one does help. but not always, nor is it for everyone because some people might just become more angrier. My personal technique that makes me calm down right away is when I make up a simple joke with the current situation. Either in my head or outloud it definitely helps escape that unwanted anger. Though nowadays I just forget on doing that because everytime i go home from school theres always things I need to do and I obviously have noone to blame but myself for the reason i still have to work. Everytime I get angry and just badly affect my family and myself I know that but I can't seem to stop and be positive. Which is why I also take a breather, sort of, I just take a stop and calm myself away from anybody and do something completely impractical. Im pretty sure everybody has their own way to "cope" with their anger issues. obviously it wont go away as you think it would but avoiding it is the best option. (for me i guess)
I get angry every damn day and I'm aggressive as hell I'm surprise my parents haven't disown me
Assho I'm depressed and bored when I finally do what I wanna
dreamur me too
I see sex when i am angry or beat or bully someone and get control on me
Anger management ain’t gonna work I hate anger managrment they piss me off and I would kill perplexed when they are telling me to calm down and I am so sick of it!!!
lol same. I just yelled at my mom for closing my door
I don't easily get pissed but people keep testing me
Sketchy Akechi same
Fight them or murder them
Sketchy Akechi Facts
SAME!!!
Ikr
I feel like therapists have a misconception where taking deep breaths will make everything go away magically
So true
Exactly
Ifkr
Deep breaths when I’m angry actually make me extra dizzy and angry
69 likes, change it ppl
Thank you. I needed this. Its been a very rough life, but I want to take steps to get better because I miss being happy and want to enjoy my life again
These days I just can't held it back anymore. It's like not me at all.
I feel u I cannot control myself is like I'm not the owner of my body
+1
Same, I scream at my parents and get annoyed, I usually ignored them, but I can’t take it anymore.
It's been 4 months how are things going for u now?
I just have anger problems, I haven’t always had them but since personal events yeah, I haven’t been able to control it at all, I have one thing that calms me down in small situations where I just clench my fist and let go. Hope this helps dude❤️
step 1: control your breath
me who has both anxiety and anger issues: oh fuck, i can't believe you done this
ikr its so annoying like once you get to a point that shit does nothing
Actually it works - but it's two breathes in through the nose and one long breathe out; on my Garmin watch I can see my heart rate falling when I do this.
Bruh same
My chest starts to feel heavy because Im trying to calm myself
I then start to cry but stop myself then get angry again
Is dofficult to control anything when very angry....contrling breathing is not going to register when that switch is flicked.
I will kill someone before that 2-3 mins
All of this pisses me off. People piss me off. Everything pisses me off💀
;-;
Stitch626 curb stomp me instead 😎
SAME.
it makes me wanna kill somebody, i swear like stab them 14 times
I’m not going to watch the video. Because the music pisses me off.
I think it's also important to remember that feelings are info. It's really helpful to me to know that my anger is a valuable form of finding out what i care about. And when it's caused by a partner it's important to tell them what upset you. They might be more careful next time.
For anyone else that needs this time stamp, the actual techniques start at 1:53 I understand these wellcast people mean well, but fucking Christ if someone is actively seeking out anger management techniques they're more than aware how bad their anger is, and don't need a 2 minute long PSA on why excessive anger is bad, even to their health.
This made me not angry thank u
The only thing that calmed me down is the comments 😂
Exactly. You put it into words
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Hahahahaaa :]] well once you say it no one can argue with that! Makes sense.
I'm afraid that I might kill someone when I'm angry. I hope this stops now
mcxl why am I getting angry at your comment?
Edit: at least I’m happier because I got 111 likes 😄
@@saada5369 Cause it sounds condescending
Same-
Me
Damn Fugo calm down.
i just want to not be toxic anymore with my explosive anger.
Same
Same
Same but when I get shit teammates there's no pausing for breathing in and out
Me too
Same
Glad I watched this four minute ad for a wellcast journal
when you're trying to keep calm but your mom just- 😭😭🔫
This.
Moms are the worst thing to be put in you’re face to hen you’re angry
Moms when we're angry are like f*****n troublemakers
It’s my dad and my brother for me my mom is kinda concerned
and assumes I’m just a moody teen that’s on my period (and she’s not wrong)
My dad and brother try to piss me off more
Why are y’all dragging this dude y’all must be the ones that take their anger out on others like me lol chill he didn’t do anything to you lol
I hate it when people think I’m lying and I’m actually not and like it’s so hard to tell them lol it’s like I get like impatient and frustrated
When you get frustrated some people blast you with some stupid physiological facts about a person who is not lying won’t get frustrated no matter how much they are accused and that just makes me wanna torture them to death
i'd be scared for your phone if you played among us
Yeah ! That happens to me too it’s so frustrating
@@baloney6893 yeah, exactly
I got angry just from watching... DAMN!
SweetWood bro ffs me too
I was just about say the same fucking shit
Same, for some reason it’s fucking infuriating
SweetWood Hell yea punching a wall will make me feel better
Same.
I try to not talk at all when I'm angry because I know I'll sound how I feel. But people still talk to me. Recently, my mother and I had an argument, I was getting really mad so I stayed quiet. She kept asking me questions though so I did my best to answer in a calm manner but I just couldn't. She scolded me for having a bad "vibe" and she cried. I told her I just can't help it when I'm mad and that they should not talk to me when I am. She got angrier and told me I should be able to change and control my emotions. She told me to just stop being angry like it was the easiest thing in the world. When initially, my "vibe" really just reflects those around me.
You know you’re angry when you feel that “almost about to explode” feeling in your chest.
"...people who react negatively to anger..."
who tf reacts positively to anger??
the authors of this did do one thing right, they wrote such a shitty script that we all had to comment on it.
I react positively to anger I calm my self talk to my self breath meditate try to cheer my self up
"yay I'm angry now"
Like: Yay I am feeling very angry right now :D
Step 4 is difficult for me because I do remember these "small things" for years. Not road rage per say, but when I get upset/offended by friends/family.
Same! I remember the small things and they bubble up cause I keep things in.
same
@@ygs497 yeah, and then i think that i should've done something about it right then and there
Yeah
Do what i do, will you remember or will you care? If you care about that small issue in a year, then you’re just an unlikable person lol
One popular technique is "box breathing." You inhale for a count of four, hold your breath for a count of four, exhale for a count of four, and then hold your breath again for a count of four. It's a simple but effective way to calm your mind and reduce stress. Give it a go and see how it feels for you! 🌬️😊
"anger can affect your health" has 2 bruised hands from punching bathroom tile and a small bald spot where I pull my hair out along with the next day heahache
Me: WHAAAAAAAAAAT NO WAAAAAAAY.
Me: punches wall because I keep dying in video game dad: screams at me and says I have anger issues also dad: slaps anyone who talks during his football match
@@KingKong-qn6pu HAHAHAHA XDD
@@KingKong-qn6pu you both have anger issues
Lmao I was scrolling through the comments while picking my hair out then immediately stopped after I saw ur comment😭😭😭😭
punched through a wall after my cat died ( I was young) and i had a screw penetrate my hand 3 inches. OMG the pain. LOL
I used to go around looking for fights. I have had my nose broken (would reset it myself) so many times that I can't breathe right anymore. I went to the doctors and the ENT gasped at the damage in there. GASPED
my hands are warped and i have arthritis from all the broken bones.
no good comes from unchecked rage. Only pain
It’s kinda harder when you have anger problems..
Well no shit things dont come to you easily. This requires actual *effort*
Aldebaran shut your fucking mouth you spastic ,, i know it takes effort you fucking idiot
It’s worse as a 13 year old boy with friends that try to put you in the bin when your angry
Kມསg fມ wtf I would beat the shit out of them
uwu aww thank you 💞💞
I get angry way to quickly,
Makes me want to smash everything in the house
Oops already did that broke a lamp and once I threw watermelon down the stairs cool no? Also banana at my brother half opened funny that it’s all fruit tho
Welp my anger is controlling me often
Once a person rised their voice on me, i'd start to flip out and yell at them back even if it's was an accident yelling
Same here dude also started having a bad relation with parents. Dunno why I get angry even when my dad start a conversation with me f I want to change😫
Relatable
Me too. My mom constantly criticizes me and then when i show just the *slightest* bit of annoyance towards her she’ll say, “your mouth is growing by the day” or “wow. Attitude” or smth like be quiet tbh, you’re making me more mad. But obviously i can’t say that or it’s guilt trip time~.
I gotta say im finnally facing my problems and trying to better myself this is the first video ive watched to help with anger issues, i try everyday to put a smile on my face but when the very first minor slight Inconvenience happens im yellin and hollerin. I hope this can help me and i remeber to stop and give myself time to calm down
I'm crying right now and I feel like my family Hates me and when I try to get calm I just angrier
Two _undertale drawers_ same I hate my family, they think that they’re entitled anything and think they can do anything without consequences.. ugh..
Well. Mee too. I can understand you. Let god bless you.
Yeah same the past few days have been so rough my dad thinks that he can just control me like a fucking puppet and that piss me off
ThEMPIR3 GAM3s sake dude and the quarantine isn’t helping.
Same, I love my family, but I always feel a deep anger towards my father and it just won't go away
I recent him for things he did in the past, and no matter how hard I try I can't let it go, I feel angry everytime I hear his voice and I avoid him like the plague..
I hope someday I will let go of this anger...
I'm honestly terrified of my anger, and I always take it out on my family. It always comes from a place of resentment, where my mom might do or say something that isn't THAT bad but I get triggered because I get reminded of all the times she's hurt me in the past and I go into fight mode. The anger just feels so right. My dad is most likely a sociopath/bipolar who has HORRIBLE anger issues and has been physically, emotionally and mentally abusive to my mom and my family since I can even remember (so so so much trauma from having to witness and control this, it's unbelievable, it was like my life depended on it for my entire childhood)- I get told by my mom that I'm just like him and that both terrifies me and builds my resentment further. I have yelled at, hit and shoved my mom before and it's actually so sickening to think about:( I will make sure I never do anything like that ever again and get the help necessary to control my anger
:(
I am the same as you
Other than the hurting part, l'm exactly like you.
When ever u feel angry just get out of that place immediately and come home late when u feel better and calm. Just avoid that place dear.
Even if you don’t mean it you should still remind her that you love her idk
wow, I came here looking for tips, not to get angrier.
Ikr this video actually make me angrier
True
That begin made me sooo fucking mad
Yeah this video is no help it says the same shit people say to you its not giving actual advise this woman is talking ab a topic she fant even relate with she jjst has a normal lvl of anger
Same
I choked on a piece of gum i was chewing to get calmer 😂 which btw helps when your anger escalated down. And you angrily chew it’ll help calm down. But just not when you’re hot angry!!!
I don’t know why I’m angry all the time, but it has gotten to the point where I internalize it and don’t release it and it is apparent on my face that I am always mad. Even when I experience other emotions the anger is always there. When people ask me why I’m so angry it breaks my heart. I don’t want to be. But I can’t stop it.
“Only when a Mosquito lands on your testicle will you truly understand the meaning of solving a problem without violence ”- SUN TZU
LOL
LMAO 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
This gave me a good chuckle, thanks bud
Lol
the thing about mosquitos are when they keep coming back and fort to ur ears
I got angry cuz she didn’t get into solution for a whole minute
literally just made me feel bad about my anger as if i dont already lmao
Then she explained how to breathe, sis I know how to breathe, I've been doing it since I was born
Lili Flores FRRR this video made me so angry so now I’m punching the floor that helps😌