I was married for 24 years to a "Christian" textbook narcissist. (I think he WROTE the book, actually.) 😐My sanity and physical health were just about gone when I left him - contrary to counseling by church leaders to stay (that's a whole OTHER story). I am still healing mentally and physically from the damage done ... but ... I have come to the place of accepting that God has a plan for it - despite the fact that I don't yet understand. Joseph's story in the Old Testament is great comfort to me. I trust God's love for me and His sovereignty.
Shae, I wish you well as your healing continues. Christianity + narcissism is a bad mix, very bad. I've been there, and now I'll do almost anything to protect myself.
Shea I share your story. May we fulfill the scriptures that say we must prove the devil a liar. J w. Org Psalms 119 Then I will reply to the one taunting me, For I put my trust in your word. 43 Do not utterly remove the word of truth from my mouth, For I have hoped in your judgment. 44 I will keep your law constantly, Forever and ever. 45 And I will walk about in a place of safety...
Yes Genesis 37 and on, it led me to. The Cluster B (black and white thinking) (idealize, devalue, discard, replace). Joseph's discard by his unhealthy family was actually a great grace. As Kris says God rescues, God heals, God restores.
So good. I survived a 25 year marriage to a Christian narcissist that just about ruined me. Ten years later he is still reaping what he sowed and I have healed and am closer to God than ever. Praise His name!
@@jennifersolga6172I know how you feel & I have to remind myself that these type people have a demonic spirit ( & Gods timing is NOT our timing) but because of these demonic Entitled People, I truly believe that there isn't any way that God won't take care of these Evil Narcissist! I couldn't get a word in on an argument with the Narc & the word salad being thrown at me & I remember saying to this person who seemed to have a demonic spirit & was directing some nonsense my way 8 managed to get out That I didn't have to worry about doing anything to this person But That God above my Heavenly Father would surely deal with and punish this person.... And I truely do believe that HE will... Keep that in mind & even if it isn't in this abusers life it will be at their death! This is what I tell myself try & remember hope that can help you... No matter how it seems also I also believe that whoever your x is now married to she will if she hasn't already she will see your X's true colors b4 it is over an may need help to get away from him... I realise I don't know your situation just a thght..
I believe there are seasons for all to be in hell not forever otherwise God is evil . If he holds infinity ♾️ and you steal a candy bar should you be punished eternally? All have fallen short even Jesus said I am not good only God
My mother was an extreme narcissist and still has some of the traits - but she did become a true Christian and the only reason I have a relationship with her is that I saw the changes in her life. She had godly fruit and now loves the Lord ❤️
May I see the same breakthrough with my mother and younger sister who are basically "thick as thieves" (codependent). May they be convicted in their spirit in Jesus name, Amen
Lord delivery me from this situation. I am certainly to blame for being here, all those red flags I wove into a beautiful ribbon and bound my own hands and feet with it. Its so bad that we have to get a degree in terrible things and it feels like we never graduate. I just want to be free from this extended family.
Forgive yourself. God warned me not to marry my ex. I was downtown walking to go to probate court to inquire about marriage license requirements and I stopped at a hotdog stand. The vendor looked at me. His eyes pierced through me. It was like something I ever experienced before and haven't since then. He said what you are about to do don't do it. I said what do you mean. He said, do not get married. I never met this man or saw him in my life. I continued on to the probate court and planned to purchase food from the vendor on my way back. It took about 30 min or more. When I got back the man and his stand was gone. There were still people standing around and I asked several people if they saw the vendor and they said they all had been hanging out for a while and there was no vendor and some were workers taking a smoke break and said there is never any vendors on the corner selling hotdogs or drinks. I was just baffled. But I didn't heed what the man said I didn't even mention the incident to my fiance. I was just so convinced he was a true Christian loved me and my child and we were meant to be together. I deeply regret ignoring that man. I believe he was an angel sent directly from God to tell me what I could have no way of knowing. I was under strong delusion- convinced by my own logic. If I would have listened and obeyed God. This person was a wolf in sheep's clothing Every vice and evil you can think of he was into. He loved money so much he would put cash in a fanny pack put it around him buckle it and go to sleep with it. He was poisoning me trying to murder me for life insurance money So glad I got out alive 20 plus yrs no contact - never looked back I also recently learned 30 yrs later all the while prior to and during the marriage he was molesting my child. The narcissist evil 😈 shadow and residue just doesn't go away It pays to obey God It pays to wait Wait wait Be patient Don't go by your emotions or what the person says. Seek God in prayer Pray Pray Pray Don't ignore red flags If you find yourself with someone like this RUN FOR YOUR LIFE SAVE YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILDREN
Honey you will be fine. Please work hard with your mind.God will rescue you if you take this one day at a time. 1 day at a time sweet Jesus.Deep breath it will change.Gid bless you.
I will never forget as a young wife trying to figure out how this "saved" man was into all these ungodly things. We went to counseling and all the Preacher was focused on was me being submissive. All the blame was put on me being a good wife and also that without a word he may be won. I was like but wait HE IS CLAIMING TO BE A BELIEVER. I was so mad and confused. I then brought up Abigail who was listed as PRUDENT in the Bible yet the preacher says to me. So you think the woman who caused her husband to die was a good example. I said wow. The bible says she is prudent but you are saying her disobedience led to her "FOOLISH" husbands demise when it lists him as the FOOL. Looking back it made me so mad all the spiritual abuse I suffered from people enabling the narc and only focusing on me as the wife and not on what was ACTUALLY being done and all the SIN the narc was participating in. All they had was HIS word, the liar's word saying I'm not meeting his needs and I don't listen to him. I have learned now how to let GOD validate me and I don't care who says what, if I know it is not right I am not going to go with it just because it is a preacher. The Bible shows narcissism traits well and God will deal with them. Yes, I have forgiven however those who will not repent will answer. A true narc will NOT repent because they hate God in their heart and they are too prideful to repent. I'm so glad you teach on this. It's too many people confused on forgiveness, Christianity, being submissive, and allowing people to crush your boundaries.
This is very much what I experienced. Everything came back to “give him what he wants occasionally”, “don’t talk so much” or “give him space”. Nothing from them addressed “Hey why are you going so far in conflict that you frighten your wife?”
I do the same with my former spouse. Stay away (nothing says that I have to interact with her) and PRAY that God leads her to Jesus. Pray for or enemies.
@@Zona-dw9rp Thank you, huge blessings to you! There are people who don't deserve healing, some narcissists have done incredibly atrocious things like killing animals and enjoying that, they deserve their karma, they deserve hell. Oh..jesus hated the narcissists, he didnt want them around him!! And...i don't really care why jesus was here, i don't like him, he was not vegetarian so he was cruel to animals. I prefer osho, he was more compassionate with ALL the living beings.
Amen I'm struggling. You just described me. I am bitter, in medical dept because of his verbal and physical abuse. My home burned last February, cause undetermined! God used my dog to wake me up and we both got out alive. Now he has found where I moved too! ?Please pray for me?
As a child of a successful narcissist, i have never thought of Esther as a story of God's victory over a narcissist. Thank you for the Biblical insight.
Same, I never read as Kris explains! I have a journaling Bible, it's at another location I bought as a safe haven. A camper in a large community. It was livable, but upgrading what I could, going to paint the typical wood paneling to cream, accented with dark grey! Hurricane Ian gave me OTHER PLANS like all floors. Off topic thinking out loud, sorry! I want to watch this over again with the journaling Bible. I also have a stamp set of 4 women of the Bible, Esther is one of the stamps. I love this comparison with us and the encouragement to get my Bible out with more purpose than just reading. This helps SOOO MUCH.
Much love & appreciation. It seems my prayers alone needed a boost. I spent an additional. 3 years trying to STILL BE HIS FRIEND. 42 years, raised 4 kids, 2 mine, 2 together. 8 grandchildren, lost touch with all but one son DIL and my youngest angel baby grand, Evalina, 2 yrs old, multicultural beautiful baby. My only curly hair beauty!!! Cannot wait to meet her. Medical has held me back, multiple surgeries. Headed to NY from Florida for a continuing hip repair & additional full hip repair after taking apart the old rod and pin. Horrific process of removal.
I've had 10 years with a narc. I've had to watch him get away with everything and I get away with nothing. I don't understand how years of trying to be a good person landed me in this position. I ask God every day to help me.
@@danidesanti don’t give up. I felt the same way. I thought it was some sort of punishment that I ended up with my husband. I met him at church so I thought I was doing as I should. Sometimes God gives us the tools to save ourselves.,
Just know that the narcissist NEVER GETS AWAY WITH ANYTHING THEY DO! FOR ALL YOU WENT THROUGH GODS GOING TO BLESS YOU FOR THE HELL YOU ENDURED, JUST KNOW IT WAS 24 YEARS OF HIS PROJECTING HIS MISERY ONTO YOU! HES THE LOOSER, YOUR THE VICTOR! YOU GOT OUT & LEFT HIM, HES STILL STUCK WITHIN HIS TORNMENTED LOW SELF ESTEEM MIND! GIRLFRIEND YOUR IN THE CLEAR, NOW FORGIVE HIM & YOU BE SET FREE & DONE WITH THE PAIN, WHY HOLD ON IT, THATS EXACTLY WITH THE NARCISSIST DOES! GODSPEED TO YOU & I PRAY FOR FOR HEALING!❤❤❤❤❤
I'm in the position I'm in bc I made the decision to marry him despite my intuition/God's wisdom. This is not only the consequences of my decisions regarding this person but I also believe it is God's gentle discipline to draw me closer to him. I struggle too with see him go undisciplined. He is a "Christian" a leader in his church he looks like he is thriving, this creates a lot of m fatigue emotions. Lamentations 3:22 I started asking God for. I have to remind myself though that God still loves me if I'm His- I really hope I am otherwise this is all in vain and I'm hopeless. The psychological warfare has definitely had huge impacts on my life and my health. I don't wish any harm to him but I do want God to expose him for who he is and to deal with him. Him going without discipline, my perception, makes me feel confused if I really am wrong about everything and I'm the problem. It's draining but then I go back try and to remind myself of the above.. I'm just trying to relate to you. I struggle. I'm not diminishing yours at all. God bless you and God keep you@@Hadtoleave15
The narcissists who hurt me; my deceased mother, my older alcoholic sister, my younger alcoholic sister, my youngest daughter....whom I haven't spoken with in over 9 years. I was forced to cut them out of my life. So......I moved thousands of miles away. Yet, I still hear how insecure, jeslous, and hateful they are of me. Why? Because I chose to prove my evil, narcissistic mother wrong by making something of myself, and I'm not in their 200lb plus club.....I went to College and graduated, becoming a n ER/ICU/Trauma Nurse.....and worked 2-3 jobs to get through without help from anyone. Ive never spoken of it. It was my mother, who found out I had graduated by my awesome grandmother who saved me as a child from the hatred of my mother's extreme abuse of me. She was a Nurse too. She'd tell me I was special....different.😊
You were very very lucky to have that one person in your life. One person can make all the difference in each of us, and each of us could be that one person for someone else.😂
Ask God, in the Name of Jesus, to heal your wounds and take over your whole heart, especially the dark spaces, and change you into his image. Then declare out loud, that you forgive him through the Power of Jesus, for every thing the Lord brings to your mind. Do them separately, and say what he did, how it hurt you and what the specific sin was, that He was guilty of. This can carry on for days and every time Lord reminds you about something, and you feel the hurt, immediately deal with it in the same way. It is much easier to deal with forgiveness, when the hurt has been healed.
Author Eric M. Hill accurately stated in his book, “Women must understand that any person who advises them to stay with a man who physically abuses them does not speak for God. He speaks out of his own ignorance and contempt for women.”
My mom is one too I respectfully blocked her for my own sanity.& in Jesus mighty name I pray that you can forgive her and that he can give you strength for you to move on.
I was married 44 years to a very toxic, controlling narcissist. The Lord worked out details and got me out of the marriage. I did learn to cling to the Lord and draw close to him. Lots of years of counseling have helped. God is faithful. He shows the way. My heart goes out to those still in n relationships.🙏
I stopped going to church because pastors from several different churches worked for the same company I did. When I spoke the truth I was persecuted and conspired against, the pastors job was to confirm the lies being told. Most people who claim to be Christian and pastors are in it for the credibility it gives them in the community. My daughter just married a man that kicks her out of chairs, throws things at her, and hits her in the throat, then tries to talk about how he is a Christian.
I have been locked in a 25 year marriage with a narcissist and I have now been exposed to truth by grace. I left my husband to avoid the hospital 3 times in the last 10 years and I am at the place of fight with him. I haven’t been able to leave him for good because of the financial situation I am in. Every month he expects me to cover him regarding his bills. I refuse. He receives nearly twice what I do in Social Security and he thinks NOTHING of stealing from me!! I have had to get a separate bank account and bank,because of his thieving. 😖🤬🙄🙏☝️
God has Got me. God keeps his promises. My faith in Almighty God is unshakable. I prayed for peace that exceeds all understanding and God helped me. Praise God Praise Lord Jesus Amen
Kris, my ex hurt my/our son so badly. He disappeared from our lives. He didn’t even acknowledge our son’s terminal cancer. After my son passed away three years ago, there was no contrition for his lack of compassion and empathy. I don’t care what he thinks of me, this was our son who had a beautiful sensitive and compassionate heart. I’m having a dreadful time forgiving him and the medical professionals who, after two years of urgent care, ER visits and trips to his primary care physician, not one of them caught it and there were many. I lost my one and only guileless son. My gift from God. I have so many that I have prayed for but the anger and bitterness is still there. Thank you for sharing your psychological and biblical knowledge. Before Kaleb died, I asked him if he was scared. He very calmly said, “No. I have Jesus and my mom.” I need help forgiving and ridding myself of thoughts of vindication. God bless you. In the name of Jesus. Amen!
👍👍👍 I've been learning so much about narcs for the last year or 2... I've learned about red flags, triggers & about what to do... But just yesterday, I asked The Lord, " ok, Lord!!! It's been a year now & I'm still recuperating from last year; but I know You have a Plan for me. Please tell me about it, so I can get off the hamster wheel and move on!!!" & Voila !!! I came across This !!! Thank You. 💗🕊️💗.
I don't know your whole situation, of course, so please forgive me if I'm off the back!! I just want to say that when I started my healing journey I thought it would be just a matter of weeks, months Maybe. Now it's 4 years down the road and they've been really good years learning about the narcissists who raised me and the one who I married and have left and all the rest in my extended family and all of the overachievers I grew up with who are either narcissists or collapsed empaths. I just want to let you know that one year is a drop in the bucket! When I stopped counting years and time and just decided to dig in and let the Lord do His work, in His own good time, everything went really well.
It's such a struggle to overcome the deadly depression caused by living with a narc. He talks about himself all day long. Announces everything he thinks and is going to do. Flies into a rage if challenged, or thinks he is, in any way. He's so very miserable and wants me to be also...and he succeeds. I only want to die and be with Jesus .
Praise the Lord for your amazing teachings. I am a Mozambican Watching from South Africa, Thank God for your teachings. I never knew about narcissism until sometime in the beginning of 2023 , after my wife chased me and my 9year old daughter out of her house in March 2023. We had a disagreement about parenting, because she allows her 15year old son, to do whatever he wants, to watch anything online and watches demonic movies, he started printing demonic pictures and place them around the wall in his room. I mean pictures where people are eating other people, and bloody queen pictures with blood dripping. When I expressed my concern about those pictures and the behavior of my stepson to my wife and my father in-law, I became the worse stepdad ever. I suggested that we talk to him the 3of us and ask him to remove the pictures from the wall, my father-in-law said to me, no, we cannot ask him to remove those demonic pictures from the wall, we must just pray. I said, but sir, the Lord have placed me here as the head of this family, to guide my children in the ways of God, before I could finish my sentence, He said No, you are not the head of this family, Jesus is. It's like having a snake in your house, and you become so religious and holy to just pray out a snake from your house. The sad part is that we not just Christians, we are Missionaries. We are living in end times; Jesus is coming back. Let's practice what we preach and hold on to biblical principles no matter what comes our way.
Please note you have to take the action to be free. I had been a victim of narcisistic abuse close to death, I would like to tell you this is dangerous, things go worse , God can make a way but you have to take the action. Stay safe and be blessed.
Thank you for speaking on getting familiar with healthy and safe godly people and behaviors. I recently found out what a narcissist is and that not only is my husband a covert narcissist but i was raised by a narcissistic mother and older brother so I've been drowning myself in narcissist behavior patterns, how to handle them biblically, and regain/maintain my sanity. So talking time to know and look for healthy people and behaviors is encouraging and something to look forward to. Thank you!
Kris Thank you so much for this prayer. I needed this so bad. I had a beautiful daughter with a complete diabolical Narcissistic Sociopath. I left him 15 years ago. But he has still managed to do some of the most horrific things to me. And he uses our Daughter as a pawn to do it. And because he's so crafty when I've tried to tell people what I'm dealing with No One believes me. People don't understand narcissism. The courts don't understand it. pastors in your church don't understand it. I've been beat up right in the courthouse. I've been beat up in the church. I've been beat up by all his flying monkeys. And just when I thought I was finally in an okay place. Out of nowhere he just started his Diabolical Evil Narcissistic crap again. I mean it comes right out of left field. He Loves to stalk me and send is flying monkeys to spy on me. And I find that as he gets older he gets worse. And his vengeful vindictive hatred is on another level. You would never know that somebody this calculated an Evil existed until you've personally dealt with a Narcissistic Sociopath. I do not wish narcissistic abuse on anyone. Again thank you so much for this prayer. It gave some hope. And reminded me to Trust GOD. ❤️💔❤️
We children had a narcissist mother. It was tough living with her envy, gaslighting, resentment, regret and revenge. She absolutely wrecked her own family, and nurtured narcissism among us.
Hey DHW256 thanks for your post as most list a man the narcissist and my experience is wife narc that ruined our family and my childrens youth suffered too and I'm a single dad patching up the damages my two boys are 18 and 22 and just now seeing the truth and I'm sure it's hard cause everyone loves a mom and I've held my mouth to let them see in fact she ran off with my children isolating them from me but I think God planned it to give them a full time view in isolation with her to let them see and I hope it is not damaging as I've always wanted my boys to have relationship with their mom as I provided while mom never worked stayed at home had new Mercedes every two years country clubs and travel and in the top 1% financially but even a strong man such as I am can be brought low by a wife that is a narc infact staying with a narc destroys your soul spirit and self identify and the funny thing is when I met this woman a model who loved her self so much nothing else mattered and I found it attractive and thought that was an asset and had never known anyone like that but after 20 years I'd never associate with such a person and one last thing when I met her I had a company with partners and 350 employee's that loved me so with that kind of attention and service I'm sure I did not see what I was yoking up with....this was good therapy, thank you all and to anyone out there it is written "guard your heart with all dilegence for out of it flows the issues of life".
I survived him for almost 50 years. I knew it was bad but didn’t know what to call it. I do now. He left for a gay relationship and no one is surprised. Nonetheless I’m in the midst of healing still after nearly 2 years. Thank you for the support you provide.
Oh my dearest I so am with you and mine was 40 and in my 9 th yr of separation but it’s about to fall out and hopefully break this generation curse. My children are 4th generation and He is present and preparing me for a greater plan for His Glory . I pray the same for you also . Took me 10 lawyers to work with it in His time and ways. 🙏 I’m working on a project for women recovery from trauma.
I have to remember the Adversary is tricky... if he can get us to feel like a victim and hold onto anger and resentment and not count our blessings we live in that pain and never move on or find happiness....this is the adversarys goal. I love this " if Gods hand is in it your going to win it" I needed that❤❤❤❤.
Oh man. Sadly, sure I am not the only one you are speaking to Dr Kris. Often it does feel like that, and it brings me to my knees and often can barely breath. Anybody else?
The narc's 7th marriage ended after 4 months. He couldn't keep a job or manage money. He's now 70 and driving a tour bus while he has a broken ankle. He lost his teaching license. He had a history of sexually harassing coworkers. He lost one job because he harassed our son's third grade teacher. Seven decades and this is his legacy. Oh, he's also an ordained minister. That was for his ego and access to vulnerable women. Thank you Jesus for healing me 🙌🏼💞
Been struggling with feeling like he won. He’s getting remarried, he’s rich, he appears happy and all this has me distressed into thinking I’m being punished, that he is blessed. Thank you for this message. I’m encouraged snd plan to read Esher from a fresh perspective.
I am leaving my husband because of Narcissism And domestic violence. What I realized is to Play Kate him is the best way for me too. Deal with him as I pack my thanks.And move out and move on with my life
To Kris, I hear what your saying. My mother was a Narcisst, her mother was a Narcisst, children's homes I endured Narcissists. My ex-wife was a Narcisst. And the list goes on..."I have had enough".. my patience has run out.
My mother was my first narcissist. All the men I attract are narcissists because that is all I know. It's a familiar dance. I was groomed and trained from childhood to be a servant and a doormat. I'm 58 and now I am awake. Praise God
God wants 🙏 you ❤️ to Put on HIS ARMOR of God!!!God Always Wins Warriors Praise him Always and Rejoice!!!I If God is for us who can be against us❤Right On Yeah BabyGiddy Up🎉
I am divorcing my narcissist husband after 31 years. I would love to find an online support group made up of people who have gone through this nonsense.
A support group would be great. I’m 72 yrs old and have been alienated from 3 out of 4 children and now even my 3 young grandchildren……all in order to punish me and isolate me from telling the truth. It’s evil.
See the great book, “Truth Heals: What you hide can hurt you. “ by Deborah King. She points out that living lies makes us crazy, and that peace is only possible if we live in truth! So, by seeking and valuing nothing more than truth, on my own, I will heal. And then I will be in a position to help others. “Work out your own salvation, in fear and trembling.” Seeking and accepting the truth, no matter what it is, will heal me. She also says: what we thought would kill us, heals us and saves us, sets us free. From lies. Lies kill. Truth heals. 🙏😁❤️
Lady, Ma'am, Miss, Sister. Thank you for the efforts here and on the rest of your channel. You have a lot of good things to say about Narcissism, a lot of things that might make the struggle that your Brothers and Sisters are enduring.a little easier. I am struggling with abuse from my NPD wife, specifically Covert Narcissism. It hurts. I am praying for her. For her repentance, for mercy from the judgement she deserves, for the softening of both of our hearts. Please, please, please, don't trade your profit for healing, where it is available. Healing is important, but not more important than the Kingdom of Heaven.
I’m new and new sub. Thank you so much. I was married to the ex over half my life. The discard was horrible. God gave me what I could handle little by little all that was hidden, the lies, cheating the debt, stealing from me. Doing all this the last 12 years I was taking care of my bedridden mom after my dad passed away. Out in the country and secluded he did all he could to destroy me. I have got the house back after he forged my name and said I gave it to him as a gift. Found out he was with at least two other women and living with the one while we were still married. I swear I seen the devil in him. I been healing 4 years and it’s getting better. I take care of my mom 24/7 take care of the home, 10 acres I mow, weed eat and use firewood in the winter I gather. I have donkeys and goats, cats and a little dog. I have a lot on my plate. I have to get and pay caregivers to stay with mom to go to the store. But one thing I can tell you is I’m 65 with 2 knee replacements and I do it, everyday. God has been right there, giving me the strength and healing to get me through it. I praise his holy name. He pulled me out, showed me what I didn’t see, helped me get back up and heal through the hardest years of my life. Thank you 🙏🏼
My husband left me for his coworker 6months ago. We have to live together during the divorce process...well his girlfriend thinks he's cheating and keeps kicking him out and then he tells me his problems well I let her know. I was served recently and there are nothing but lies in it..I was praying and praying for all of this and to keep my home and he doesn't get a penny God is so good. I am so blessed beyond measure....God knows he left me to be with his girlfriend off the mountain before the big blizzard hit I was alone saving myself our pets and our home...I always respond to my husband with God knows the truth that's how I end conversations.....hang in there they do get what they deserve ❤
I’m dealing with the narcissist mother, I am a pastor to Africa, and she has hurt me so deeply, and all my life. She was a narcissist, and I didn’t see it, and I played into her hands, but I’m done. God is my stronghold, my God, his righteous hand is lifting me up and holding me and I am getting through this, I’ve had to leave it all behind me and go forward and wipe her out of my life, prayerfully one day very soon she will get her heart right with God and I pray for her, and every single day that she starts doing the right thing and quits trying to hurt her daughter, all I can do is pray for her, and God is wiped all my tears away and I know he’s on my side and I’m grateful, and thank you so much for sharing these videos. They were so helpful more helpful to me and your prayers so sincere and the love I can hear your voice as you pray. Thank you so very much blessings in the name of Jesus amen.
I’m so happy I found your video! I have suffered a lot being abused by the narcissist 😢I’m so angry and feel like they are not getting their Karma! With God involved I know justice will be served.🙏🏻❤️
Kris, thank you for your Christ based therapy videos. You have helped me keep the correct Godly perspective and I realized yesterday that God pruned a violent narcissist out of my life, as I was too weak to do it after almost 40 years of abusive. Scott
It took me 11 years to forgive my Narc. I knew it only hurt me not him so i prayed and prayed finally with no contact it happened. Now i actually laugh again and smile. I was beginning to think i never would again but you will! I think the harder we love the more we can hate them for the pain and time they stole from our lives. I never remarried because i never wanted to. I did not know till about a month ago anything about Narc. I can see that the more you learn the better you will get. I saw the hatred and did not understand what i had done. Now i know, Nothing!!😊
She's right- set up boundaries. This happened with my daughter. And my ex husband. I set up boundaries and if you think stinky of me, oh well! I stick to my word. My life is so much better. Boundaries are healthy.
I have been married now for seven years to my second wife who is a narcissist. At first I felt ashamed for my choice but have come to realize that she was not honest in her feelings twords me. After counseling, I am leaving the marriage
What a powerful message !!!That brought me a lot of hope, I have been listening to your messages lately and have received a lot of healing I’m going through a divorce from a narcissist and it’s been difficult you understand me I thank the Lord for your life THANKS!!
@@yolandagrabowski6043SADLY YOU HAVE THAT HUGELY WRRROONG FOR THAT WITCH YOU ARE COMPLAINING ABOUT IS YOUR SPIRITUAL QUEEN MOTHER JEZEBELS HER WITCH STILL SAYS IN YOUR BIBLE IN 1KINGS THAT SHE IS YOUR I AM. WITCH IS NOT YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER :: I AM :: AND THERE FOR THIS WITCH STATES THAT"" SHE WILL NOT SUFFER THE LOSSSSS OF YOU !!! THAT ARE LEGALLY HER CHILDREN FOR ::: JUST AS ADAM AND EVES DISOBEYED GOD HAVE BEEN BORN IN YOUR SPIRITUAL QUEEN MOTHER JEZEBELS WOMB OF HER WICKEDNESS !!! THEM IS GODS WORD WITCH HE BEGAN TO EXPOSE ABOUT HER ::: NOW SOME 37 YEARS AGO !!!! GOD BLESS !! AMEN !!!
@@yolandagrabowski6043 BUT THE HUSBANDS BODY IS THE WIFES ::: WIFES FOR HUSBAND !!!!!!! BUT IF ONE IS NOT HONOURING THE THEN .... IF THEY DO NOT HONOUR YOU ::: RE FUSE TO SHAPE UP ::: MARRIAGE IS NULL AND VOID !!!
My main worry/anxiety has not been for myself, nearly as much as how many problems and issues my 4 children have had from the divorce where there were no rules, just enabling. I am now being alienated from my own grandchildren, too. It’s called Narcissistic Parental Alienation.
I'm sorry about this. I often wish my children knew more about what happened, but I cannot say. With narcissism we dealt with some of the most evil motives and behavior around.
This is them adding sin to sin indeed. God does not overlook any of it. A true test to your faith to trust him and get ahead with him yourself and not give the devil any place in you. ❤
Same here. I'm not allowed to see my grandchildren but we can ask for power beyond normal for God to take care of our children and grandchildren. J W. O rg
The Devil Is A Narcissist is a book by Gavriela Powers. Though it’s very painful, I must remember 2Timothy 3, which says in the final days there will be very difficult times, especially children rebelling and hating their parents, hearts growing cold, lovers of themselves, selfishness, etc. No way around it. Only the Holy Spirit can give us the power to endure to the end.
It’s so true when you said the narcissist hates whoever likes you and is nice to you. That has happened to me with every one of my family members. They not only smeared me, they eventually will say nasty things about people associated with me, but those who are mean or physically hurt me, they always praise. I can’t tell you how much this explained some of what they have done. It’s also comforting to know justice will be served. Thank you Kris for that beautiful prayer, it was so needed. Amen
Our creator has been working through me to reach people like my mother like her sister etc etc and I know I've had one heck of an impact just buy what I have discovered in her apartment and other discussions and interactions my mother and I have had over the last couple I am a living testimony and a walking miracle who tries her best to not get in God's way but sometimes I'm just a stubborn little you know what LOL I can't help myself you just keep on blessing me with so many confirmations and I'm sorry that I've been bombrding your page with my lovely comments but you are so on the money and activated it's awesome God made me stop it slowed down to listen to your message as right now right as we're speaking at 12:48 a.m. on Wednesday June 28th 2023 I am in the middle of taking care of emptied my mother's apartment etcetera etcetera and I needed this very much I'm right in the middle of shall I say Armageddon
What a godsend of a message so desperately needed right now. I lay here broken and confused and fighting through finding the strength to get up and fill up my cup! I'm so grateful your videos popped up in my feed again after losing so many saved videos and subscriptions after making changes to my phone settings. This is God working, I know it! Thank you for being faithful to His calling for you, sister!
I prayed for the narcisstic other to get justice by whatever means necessary. Karma stepped up. The narcissistic other is completely blind in one eye and losing sight in the other eye as well. Can't see driving at night, in bad weather, or doing routine tasks. All of the above couldn't happen to a more deserving piece of trash.
If the narcissist is abusive you certainly don't want your young child being brought up in an abusive home that's scriptural and that wasn't that hard to answer. If you're being abused you don't want your child to be abused
Kris - I just recently found you and I’m so grateful. After 43 years of believing my narcissistic husband would seek help and help me keep our family together, I’ve had to let go. It’s a horrible time but I believe God has shown me a way out. Your words in another video have helped me in dealing with my adult children. “Jesus said nothing.” Thank you so very much.
You bringing the story of Esther in this light was encouraging to me. I have been doing a deep dive on narcissism and working on myself for over 2 years now and I am besides myself and and dealing with depression with the impact narcissism from my ex and my husband's ex. They have made it thier mission to put our kids against us. We have been good parents but in the eyes of our children they only see the bad. In which it was from the reaction to the chaos the toxic parents created. Parental Alienation is no joke! I wouldn't wish it on anyone. We are so heartbroken. 💔😭 It's been years but I'm still hoping and praying for reconciliation. 🙏
I'm sorry to hear this. Narcissists seem to get enjoyment out of alienating people. I had this experience with a niece who thought I should have adopted her! She's a classic narcissistic who has turned her entire family against me - all because SHE thought I should have adopted her! She is merciless. I have seen what has happened to you in my family as well. It's heartbreaking. But I believe there will be justice one day for EVERY ONE. God doesn't just sit back & observe. He will judge the whole earth. God bless you.
😢this really got to me. 12 years ago left and (divorced) a narcissist, biggest mistake of my life, abusive, liar and now dealing with another one who married my daughter and keeping the children away from my daughter and I struggled about leaving my relationship with God when it first happened and have been fighting for salvation and hanging in there…wondered a lot of things mentioned like here and questioned God and this watching you speak Kris really lifted me up and made me cry. I am committed to God, pray alot…thank you and going to make a point to hear next your story being married like myself to a narcissist.
I'm realizing I've never known so called SAFE people closely enough to know what to look for. When she said Abused people feel familiar with what tirn out to be abusers, i can so relate.. as a woman i tried to be submissive, it never caused him to love me, only more complaints. I have been single for like 32 years since then and have learned Jesus is SAFE, the only One i can safely feel okay with. He has always been nothing but GOOD to me, and so i am content now, my life is good. I can have peace as long as i stay close to Him😊
I know the book of Esther well, but I saw something new in it after your explanation of it in this video. When God releases us from the power of the narcissist, He releases us to FIGHT for our lives. This requires courage and faith in God. Thank you Kris for your insight. Praise be to God our Father through the Lord Jesus Christ who never forgets us and loves us with an everlasting love in His Son. 🙏❤
After another rebellious act last night, by my "Christian" husband (horrific narc), I asked my daughter if he will ever be punished for his endless evil deeds? This is my answer. Thank you for your Christian response. It makes me sad to think of the 29 years of emotional and spiritual pain my children and we have experienced, but as a mature believer, I know God works ALL things together for good...
I’m in the same situation; we have an only son, one child who’s now 23. My husband holds so much bitterness rage anger against him when he messes up. He’s been the biggest enabler for our son. And still thinks he can control him. If my son steps out of line, he starts calling him a sorry SOB, tells me he could careless if our son drops dead. These words break my heart. My son drinks, and I’ve put his addiction into Gods hands. I’ve been through so much between the both of them
All praises to The Most High for giving us healing and serving justice. I am in the early syages of healing from an abusive family and do my best to hive gratitude everyday for how the Father has given miraculous provision every step of the way. Trust me, I have "dark" days, but I am not trusting in my emotions, I am trusting in the TRUTH.
Hi Kris, I just wanted to let you know that your ministry has blessed me so much since I discovered it, about 5 months ago now. I have been married to a narcissist for the past 10 years(together 12 years). I only realised she is a narcissist about 5 months ago. After 5 months of tension in our home & having to endure years of threats(verbal, physical & emotional abuse), gaslighting, manipulating etc etc. My wife voluntarily left the family home last week and is now living in an apartment. I feel so relieved & I feel God had been using your ministry to help lead & guide me through the past 5 months. Still on my healing journey from narcissist abuse.......God bless your amazing ministry! 👏🏼👏🏼😊👌🏼👍🏻💖🙌🏽
You wife is not finished with you yet..the Narc is like a spider..she will change tactics and love bomb you to wrap her web around you again and pull you back in...avoid her like poison...I also lived through this nightmare for 16 years..
Over 30 year marriage to a narcissist. I have pain inside like everyone experiences. But hard to process. Because I'm not sure where it is coming from. At the same time. I'm sure God will bring me out better in time!
You have to forgive them for the betrayal. they are 2 yr olds emotionally. You have your soul intact. They are disconnected from their soul. Be glad you are not like them. "Psychopath Free" the book really explained so much to me and helped jump start my recovery. God Bless 🌹
I feel like I am surrounded by Narcissists ✝️🙏🏻😇 forgive them Lord,They know not what they do...🙏🏻 “Vengeance is mine says the Lord” Thankyou for this awesome teaching.
Who is better than you? Answer: NOBODY! Seriously, I am so happy that I found your channel. May God bless you, your family, and your Ministry abundantly!
I was listening to your prayer and I can honestly say that I don't feel that rage and confusion anymore since a couple of years ago. I did feel like that but I don't today. Anyone who could relate to the words in the prayer, this rage will pass in time while you keep praying and listening to smart people like this woman in the video. God bless and protect you! Merry Christmas. ❤
In tears here.. THANK YOU sister Kris for the reminder of Yah's power in our circumstances concerning narcissists. Thank you also for your touching prayer. Needed both at this time. If, our Father is glorified in my current situation in HIS time, I will gladly let you know!! Be blessed ALL. Remember Satan uses these people to trample on our faith in our MOST HIGH. WE are NOT to let this happen. Thank YOU Yeshua/Jesus for your mercy and humility which is shown during these times of waiting and wanting. Amen
Thank You!!! For your timely message. I've been married for almost 20 yrs. I discovered narcissism 2 yrs ago. I've listened to many a videos on the subject. My Father is a narcissist, he made my mother, brothers and sister, and me our lives a living hell. In our adult lives, We have suffered from his violence and lack of affection. My situation, I was very weak and could not stand up to my now narcissist, but God is making me stronger little by little. I haven't left because, my youngest son is 8yrs old, has down syndrom, still in diaper and is non-verbal. My concern is that the one that is going to suffer in a separation is my son. The Narc is oblivious to our 8yrs olds needs. And so I'm waiting on God to show me the way. As what I have felt. Everything that comes with finding out that it all has been a lie. At the moment I have unger and can't stand to see his cowardly face. I prayed with you as you prayed for all that listen to your voice in this video. God keep granting you wisdom for your teachings are like a spring of water in the desert. Thank You!!!❤
Leave. Your health will deteriorate. I left after 24 years. I'm still physically and mentally recovering four years later. I was so sick, thought I was dying. I wish I would've left sooner.
Married for 37 years.. He has been in and out of church. But true colors are coming out now. We are is the middle of so much. Only God! I will keep trusting God no matter what.
I was married for 24 years to a "Christian" textbook narcissist. (I think he WROTE the book, actually.) 😐My sanity and physical health were just about gone when I left him - contrary to counseling by church leaders to stay (that's a whole OTHER story). I am still healing mentally and physically from the damage done ... but ... I have come to the place of accepting that God has a plan for it - despite the fact that I don't yet understand. Joseph's story in the Old Testament is great comfort to me. I trust God's love for me and His sovereignty.
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Shae, I wish you well as your healing continues. Christianity + narcissism is a bad mix, very bad. I've been there, and now I'll do almost anything to protect myself.
I don't even that he cld be a called as a christian because he is not even attempting to be like Jesus who was full of grace and truth
Shea I share your story. May we fulfill the scriptures that say we must prove the devil a liar. J w. Org
Psalms 119 Then I will reply to the one taunting me, For I put my trust in your word. 43 Do not utterly remove the word of truth from my mouth, For I have hoped in your judgment. 44 I will keep your law constantly, Forever and ever. 45 And I will walk about in a place of safety...
Yes Genesis 37 and on, it led me to. The Cluster B (black and white thinking) (idealize, devalue, discard, replace). Joseph's discard by his unhealthy family was actually a great grace. As Kris says God rescues, God heals, God restores.
So good. I survived a 25 year marriage to a Christian narcissist that just about ruined me. Ten years later he is still reaping what he sowed and I have healed and am closer to God than ever. Praise His name!
Stay in Gods light.
How is he? Just curious. Thank you
@@CreateYourTune I went no contact, so I really don't know much, except that it cost him a lot.
@@CreateYourTune nothing yet.
I so, long for this testimony 😢
“When God’s hand is in it you are going to win it” that touched me to the core. Thank you Jesus.
It doesn't seem God's hand is in my situation because I'm not winning. My ex narcissist is winning with every lie him and his wife tell.
I hollered and repeated it too! That was a word!
@@jennifersolga6172I know how you feel & I have to remind myself that these type people have a demonic spirit ( & Gods timing is NOT our timing) but because of these demonic Entitled People, I truly believe that there isn't any way that God won't take care of these Evil Narcissist! I couldn't get a word in on an argument with the Narc & the word salad being thrown at me & I remember saying to this person who seemed to have a demonic spirit & was directing some nonsense my way 8 managed to get out That I didn't have to worry about doing anything to this person But That God above my Heavenly Father would surely deal with and punish this person.... And I truely do believe that HE will... Keep that in mind & even if it isn't in this abusers life it will be at their death! This is what I tell myself try & remember hope that can help you... No matter how it seems also I also believe that whoever your x is now married to she will if she hasn't already she will see your X's true colors b4 it is over an may need help to get away from him... I realise I don't know your situation just a thght..
I believe there are seasons for all to be in hell not forever otherwise God is evil . If he holds infinity ♾️ and you steal a candy bar should you be punished eternally? All have fallen short even Jesus said I am not good only God
God is always working
My mother was an extreme narcissist and still has some of the traits - but she did become a true Christian and the only reason I have a relationship with her is that I saw the changes in her life. She had godly fruit and now loves the Lord ❤️
This is extremely encouraging. It almost seems impossible for them to change.
@@amberdawn5782 yes - Praise the Lord it is a miracle - pray for loved ones who are narcissists 🙏🏻❤️ God is able to save them and change them.
We are praying for my mom to have her heart changed. It seems like it's never going to happen but it's in God's hands
May I see the same breakthrough with my mother and younger sister who are basically "thick as thieves" (codependent). May they be convicted in their spirit in Jesus name, Amen
@@avanz2885 Amen!!! Lord please save them and change their hearts and minds to be more like You! Amen 🙏🏻❤️
Lord delivery me from this situation. I am certainly to blame for being here, all those red flags I wove into a beautiful ribbon and bound my own hands and feet with it. Its so bad that we have to get a degree in terrible things and it feels like we never graduate. I just want to be free from this extended family.
Sounds like me
Praying for you 🙏🏼🤍🦾
Beautifully worded. You can escape. Praying for you. 🙏💕
Forgive yourself. God warned me not to marry my ex. I was downtown walking to go to probate court to inquire about marriage license requirements and I stopped at a hotdog stand. The vendor looked at me. His eyes pierced through me. It was like something I ever experienced before and haven't since then.
He said what you are about to do don't do it. I said what do you mean. He said, do not get married.
I never met this man or saw him in my life. I continued on to the probate court and planned to purchase food from the vendor on my way back. It took about 30 min or more. When I got back the man and his stand was gone. There were still people standing around and I asked several people if they saw the vendor and they said they all had been hanging out for a while and there was no vendor and some were workers taking a smoke break and said there is never any vendors on the corner selling hotdogs or drinks.
I was just baffled. But I didn't heed what the man said
I didn't even mention the incident to my fiance.
I was just so convinced he was a true Christian loved me and my child and we were meant to be together.
I deeply regret ignoring that man.
I believe he was an angel sent directly from God to tell me what I could have no way of knowing.
I was under strong delusion- convinced by my own logic.
If I would have listened and obeyed God.
This person was a wolf in sheep's clothing
Every vice and evil you can think of he was into. He loved money so much he would put cash in a fanny pack put it around him buckle it and go to sleep with it.
He was poisoning me trying to murder me for life insurance money
So glad I got out alive
20 plus yrs no contact - never looked back
I also recently learned 30 yrs later all the while prior to and during the marriage he was molesting my child.
The narcissist evil 😈 shadow and residue just doesn't go away
It pays to obey God
It pays to wait
Wait wait
Be patient
Don't go by your emotions or what the person says.
Seek God in prayer
Pray
Pray
Pray
Don't ignore red flags
If you find yourself with someone like this
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE
SAVE YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILDREN
Honey you will be fine.
Please work hard with your mind.God will rescue you if you take this one day at a time.
1 day at a time sweet Jesus.Deep breath it will change.Gid bless you.
I will never forget as a young wife trying to figure out how this "saved" man was into all these ungodly things. We went to counseling and all the Preacher was focused on was me being submissive. All the blame was put on me being a good wife and also that without a word he may be won. I was like but wait HE IS CLAIMING TO BE A BELIEVER. I was so mad and confused. I then brought up Abigail who was listed as PRUDENT in the Bible yet the preacher says to me. So you think the woman who caused her husband to die was a good example. I said wow. The bible says she is prudent but you are saying her disobedience led to her "FOOLISH" husbands demise when it lists him as the FOOL. Looking back it made me so mad all the spiritual abuse I suffered from people enabling the narc and only focusing on me as the wife and not on what was ACTUALLY being done and all the SIN the narc was participating in. All they had was HIS word, the liar's word saying I'm not meeting his needs and I don't listen to him. I have learned now how to let GOD validate me and I don't care who says what, if I know it is not right I am not going to go with it just because it is a preacher. The Bible shows narcissism traits well and God will deal with them. Yes, I have forgiven however those who will not repent will answer. A true narc will NOT repent because they hate God in their heart and they are too prideful to repent. I'm so glad you teach on this. It's too many people confused on forgiveness, Christianity, being submissive, and allowing people to crush your boundaries.
I Finally Left Recently
So Filled With Joy Now!
I got same experience too. So disgusting person have to say. This will take time for us and to learn which one is anti-Chris among the sheep
Wow!! That preacher was way way off!! Nabal caused his own death because he was an evil churl. The Bible states it plainly!
I had a similar experience to yours.
This is very much what I experienced. Everything came back to “give him what he wants occasionally”, “don’t talk so much” or “give him space”. Nothing from them addressed “Hey why are you going so far in conflict that you frighten your wife?”
Yes, I pray for the healing and repenting of narcissist that they stop hurting and stop hurting others.
Have free will !
I adopt the no contact policy. I do pray that God forgive them to avert their destination to hell.
I do the same with my former spouse. Stay away (nothing says that I have to interact with her) and PRAY that God leads her to Jesus. Pray for or enemies.
Amen
@@Zona-dw9rp i pray for good people, not for demons! my prayers are precious!
@@nicoloclemente6564 I understand. But, Jesus came to heal the sick, not the healthy. Many blessings to you!
@@Zona-dw9rp Thank you, huge blessings to you! There are people who don't deserve healing, some narcissists have done incredibly atrocious things like killing animals and enjoying that, they deserve their karma, they deserve hell. Oh..jesus hated the narcissists, he didnt want them around him!! And...i don't really care why jesus was here, i don't like him, he was not vegetarian so he was cruel to animals. I prefer osho, he was more compassionate with ALL the living beings.
Amen I'm struggling. You just described me. I am bitter, in medical dept because of his verbal and physical abuse. My home burned last February, cause undetermined! God used my dog to wake me up and we both got out alive. Now he has found where I moved too! ?Please pray for me?
@DeniseHaire-j8w God got you. Stay safe! Move again and have people around you most times. Praying for you.
As a child of a successful narcissist, i have never thought of Esther as a story of God's victory over a narcissist. Thank you for the Biblical insight.
Same, I never read as Kris explains! I have a journaling Bible, it's at another location I bought as a safe haven. A camper in a large community. It was livable, but upgrading what I could, going to paint the typical wood paneling to cream, accented with dark grey! Hurricane Ian gave me OTHER PLANS like all floors. Off topic thinking out loud, sorry! I want to watch this over again with the journaling Bible. I also have a stamp set of 4 women of the Bible, Esther is one of the stamps. I love this comparison with us and the encouragement to get my Bible out with more purpose than just reading. This helps SOOO MUCH.
I love your wording, "of a successful narcissist" so fitting for THEIR MISSION
Much love & appreciation. It seems my prayers alone needed a boost.
I spent an additional. 3 years trying to STILL BE HIS FRIEND. 42 years, raised 4 kids, 2 mine, 2 together. 8 grandchildren, lost touch with all but one son DIL and my youngest angel baby grand, Evalina, 2 yrs old, multicultural beautiful baby. My only curly hair beauty!!! Cannot wait to meet her. Medical has held me back, multiple surgeries. Headed to NY from Florida for a continuing hip repair & additional full hip repair after taking apart the old rod and pin. Horrific process of removal.
God will turn all of this around as only He can. amen
Amen
Amen in Jesus Christ's name.
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Amen
In Jesus mighty name!
Romans 8:28
I've had 10 years with a narc. I've had to watch him get away with everything and I get away with nothing. I don't understand how years of trying to be a good person landed me in this position. I ask God every day to help me.
@@danidesanti don’t give up. I felt the same way. I thought it was some sort of punishment that I ended up with my husband. I met him at church so I thought I was doing as I should. Sometimes God gives us the tools to save ourselves.,
@@Hadtoleave15 thank you for your loving reply.
Just know that the narcissist NEVER GETS AWAY WITH ANYTHING THEY DO! FOR ALL YOU WENT THROUGH GODS GOING TO BLESS YOU FOR THE HELL YOU ENDURED, JUST KNOW IT WAS 24 YEARS OF HIS PROJECTING HIS MISERY ONTO YOU! HES THE LOOSER, YOUR THE VICTOR! YOU GOT OUT & LEFT HIM, HES STILL STUCK WITHIN HIS TORNMENTED LOW SELF ESTEEM MIND! GIRLFRIEND YOUR IN THE CLEAR, NOW FORGIVE HIM & YOU BE SET FREE & DONE WITH THE PAIN, WHY HOLD ON IT, THATS EXACTLY WITH THE NARCISSIST DOES! GODSPEED TO YOU & I PRAY FOR FOR HEALING!❤❤❤❤❤
@@Hadtoleave15 That's a really nice reply. Thanks for this.
I'm in the position I'm in bc I made the decision to marry him despite my intuition/God's wisdom. This is not only the consequences of my decisions regarding this person but I also believe it is God's gentle discipline to draw me closer to him. I struggle too with see him go undisciplined. He is a "Christian" a leader in his church he looks like he is thriving, this creates a lot of m fatigue emotions. Lamentations 3:22 I started asking God for. I have to remind myself though that God still loves me if I'm His- I really hope I am otherwise this is all in vain and I'm hopeless. The psychological warfare has definitely had huge impacts on my life and my health. I don't wish any harm to him but I do want God to expose him for who he is and to deal with him. Him going without discipline, my perception, makes me feel confused if I really am wrong about everything and I'm the problem. It's draining but then I go back try and to remind myself of the above.. I'm just trying to relate to you. I struggle. I'm not diminishing yours at all. God bless you and God keep you@@Hadtoleave15
The narcissists who hurt me; my deceased mother, my older alcoholic sister, my younger alcoholic sister, my youngest daughter....whom I haven't spoken with in over 9 years. I was forced to cut them out of my life.
So......I moved thousands of miles away. Yet, I still hear how insecure, jeslous, and hateful they are of me. Why? Because I chose to prove my evil, narcissistic mother wrong by making something of myself, and I'm not in their 200lb plus club.....I went to College and graduated, becoming a n ER/ICU/Trauma Nurse.....and worked 2-3 jobs to get through without help from anyone.
Ive never spoken of it. It was my mother, who found out I had graduated by my awesome grandmother who saved me as a child from the hatred of my mother's extreme abuse of me. She was a Nurse too. She'd tell me I was special....different.😊
You were very very lucky to have that one person in your life. One person can make all the difference in each of us, and each of us could be that one person for someone else.😂
May God release my bitter heart so I may find forgiveness for those who offended and oppressed me.
Forgiveness is freedom for you, letting go is a blessing for you. 💯🙏❤️
Ask God, in the Name of Jesus, to heal your wounds and take over your whole heart, especially the dark spaces, and change you into his image. Then declare out loud, that you forgive him through the Power of Jesus, for every thing the Lord brings to your mind. Do them separately, and say what he did, how it hurt you and what the specific sin was, that He was guilty of. This can carry on for days and every time Lord reminds you about something, and you feel the hurt, immediately deal with it in the same way. It is much easier to deal with forgiveness, when the hurt has been healed.
Amen
@kriekertjiem6701
I ask YOU LORD heal this world YOU made ❤
Author Eric M. Hill accurately stated in his book, “Women must understand that any person who advises them to stay with a man who physically abuses them does not speak for God. He speaks out of his own ignorance and contempt for women.”
My mother is narcissistic. Please pray for my healing.
Lord please heal sanelabogdan! And all who have been abused by narcs. Amen 🙏🏻❤️
My mom is one too I respectfully blocked her for my own sanity.& in Jesus mighty name I pray that you can forgive her and that he can give you strength for you to move on.
I was married 44 years to a very toxic, controlling narcissist. The Lord worked out details and got me out of the marriage. I did learn to cling to the Lord and draw close to him. Lots of years of counseling have helped. God is faithful. He shows the way. My heart goes out to those still in n relationships.🙏
Thank you for your testimony ❤️
I stopped going to church because pastors from several different churches worked for the same company I did. When I spoke the truth I was persecuted and conspired against, the pastors job was to confirm the lies being told. Most people who claim to be Christian and pastors are in it for the credibility it gives them in the community. My daughter just married a man that kicks her out of chairs, throws things at her, and hits her in the throat, then tries to talk about how he is a Christian.
Same for me, it's so sad.
I see a woman I know in a toxic narcissistic relationship. Staying for 50 years or 30,40 whatever how does that happen?
I have been locked in a 25 year marriage with a narcissist and I have now been exposed to truth by grace. I left my husband to avoid the hospital 3 times in the last 10 years and I am at the place of fight with him. I haven’t been able to leave him for good because of the financial situation I am in. Every month he expects me to cover him regarding his bills. I refuse. He receives nearly twice what I do in Social Security and he thinks NOTHING of stealing from me!! I have had to get a separate bank account and bank,because of his thieving. 😖🤬🙄🙏☝️
No one gets away with anything ever . You can bet on it .
God has Got me. God keeps his promises. My faith in Almighty God is unshakable. I prayed for peace that exceeds all understanding and God helped me. Praise God Praise Lord Jesus Amen
"when God's hand is in it you're gonna win it!" yessssss so true 💪🏻👌🏻🙌🏻
Kris, my ex hurt my/our son so badly. He disappeared from our lives. He didn’t even acknowledge our son’s terminal cancer. After my son passed away three years ago, there was no contrition for his lack of compassion and empathy. I don’t care what he thinks of me, this was our son who had a beautiful sensitive and compassionate heart. I’m having a dreadful time forgiving him and the medical professionals who, after two years of urgent care, ER visits and trips to his primary care physician, not one of them caught it and there were many. I lost my one and only guileless son. My gift from God. I have so many that I have prayed for but the anger and bitterness is still there.
Thank you for sharing your psychological and biblical knowledge.
Before Kaleb died, I asked him if he was scared. He very calmly said, “No. I have Jesus and my mom.” I need help forgiving and ridding myself of thoughts of vindication.
God bless you. In the name of Jesus. Amen!
God bless you
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You know you'll see your dear son, Kaleb, again. He sounds as if he was a marvelous young man, and I'm looking forward to meeting him.
@@bobtaylor170 It would be a pleasure to introduce you to him. May the Lord Bless you. Keep looking up.
@@marycahill4455 Thank you. 🌸 🙏🏼
@@desertlillie9659 ❤
👍👍👍 I've been learning so much about narcs for the last year or 2...
I've learned about red flags, triggers & about what to do...
But just yesterday, I asked The Lord, " ok, Lord!!! It's been a year now & I'm still recuperating from last year; but I know You have a Plan for me. Please tell me about it, so I can get off the hamster wheel and move on!!!" & Voila !!! I came across This !!!
Thank You. 💗🕊️💗.
I don't know your whole situation, of course, so please forgive me if I'm off the back!! I just want to say that when I started my healing journey I thought it would be just a matter of weeks, months Maybe. Now it's 4 years down the road and they've been really good years learning about the narcissists who raised me and the one who I married and have left and all the rest in my extended family and all of the overachievers I grew up with who are either narcissists or collapsed empaths. I just want to let you know that one year is a drop in the bucket! When I stopped counting years and time and just decided to dig in and let the Lord do His work, in His own good time, everything went really well.
This lady has the sweetest spirit, I'm actually in awe of it. She is such a gentle and kind and wise teacher. God bless you sweet sister❤
Amen in Jesus Christ's name.
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It's such a struggle to overcome the deadly depression caused by living with a narc. He talks about himself all day long. Announces everything he thinks and is going to do. Flies into a rage if challenged, or thinks he is, in any way. He's so very miserable and wants me to be also...and he succeeds. I only want to die and be with Jesus .
I marked my day 14/11/2023; and I will always celebrate; I have been set free ; Thank you so much Kris for allowing God to use you. Iii
When I think of narcissism, it opens my mind to the seven deadly sins and problems of the ego.
Praise the Lord for your amazing teachings. I am a Mozambican Watching from South Africa, Thank God for your teachings. I never knew about narcissism until sometime in the beginning of 2023 , after my wife chased me and my 9year old daughter out of her house in March 2023. We had a disagreement about parenting, because she allows her 15year old son, to do whatever he wants, to watch anything online and watches demonic movies, he started printing demonic pictures and place them around the wall in his room. I mean pictures where people are eating other people, and bloody queen pictures with blood dripping. When I expressed my concern about those pictures and the behavior of my stepson to my wife and my father in-law, I became the worse stepdad ever. I suggested that we talk to him the 3of us and ask him to remove the pictures from the wall, my father-in-law said to me, no, we cannot ask him to remove those demonic pictures from the wall, we must just pray. I said, but sir, the Lord have placed me here as the head of this family, to guide my children in the ways of God, before I could finish my sentence, He said No, you are not the head of this family, Jesus is. It's like having a snake in your house, and you become so religious and holy to just pray out a snake from your house. The sad part is that we not just Christians, we are Missionaries. We are living in end times; Jesus is coming back. Let's practice what we preach and hold on to biblical principles no matter what comes our way.
I know what u mean...my wife lost her mind
You are an amazing man and father to those kids. May God guide you and give you peace through the hurt and pain you experiencing
Jesus angrily knocked tables over of those beings disrespecting his father's house. We are considered that house.
Geesh, I wished I had met a Godly man who cares about his family like you do
Hold on dear brother. Jesus is on your side. Don't give up.
God set me free from a Narcissist through these videos
Please note you have to take the action to be free. I had been a victim of narcisistic abuse close to death, I would like to tell you this is dangerous, things go worse , God can make a way but you have to take the action. Stay safe and be blessed.
@@mami-e2qIt was fierce battle....but i deleted feelings and took action through Faith
This channel is so good. Just discovered it. Thank you. ❤
Married for 40years. Just now understanding that I am married to a Christian convert narcissist.
God has used you and this message to answer a prayer request I prayed just a few hours ago💜 Thank you beautiful sister in Christ🙏
IF THERE A LIE YOU ARE BELIEVING THERES A TRUTH YOUR NOT RECIEVING ❤
Thank you for speaking on getting familiar with healthy and safe godly people and behaviors. I recently found out what a narcissist is and that not only is my husband a covert narcissist but i was raised by a narcissistic mother and older brother so I've been drowning myself in narcissist behavior patterns, how to handle them biblically, and regain/maintain my sanity. So talking time to know and look for healthy people and behaviors is encouraging and something to look forward to. Thank you!
Opened my eyes where I was blind
Kris Thank you so much for this prayer. I needed this so bad. I had a beautiful daughter with a complete diabolical Narcissistic Sociopath. I left him 15 years ago. But he has still managed to do some of the most horrific things to me. And he uses our Daughter as a pawn to do it. And because he's so crafty when I've tried to tell people what I'm dealing with No One believes me. People don't understand narcissism. The courts don't understand it. pastors in your church don't understand it. I've been beat up right in the courthouse. I've been beat up in the church. I've been beat up by all his flying monkeys. And just when I thought I was finally in an okay place. Out of nowhere he just started his Diabolical Evil Narcissistic crap again. I mean it comes right out of left field. He Loves to stalk me and send is flying monkeys to spy on me. And I find that as he gets older he gets worse. And his vengeful vindictive hatred is on another level. You would never know that somebody this calculated an Evil existed until you've personally dealt with a Narcissistic Sociopath. I do not wish narcissistic abuse on anyone. Again thank you so much for this prayer. It gave some hope. And reminded me to Trust GOD. ❤️💔❤️
We children had a narcissist mother. It was tough living with her envy, gaslighting, resentment, regret and revenge. She absolutely wrecked her own family, and nurtured narcissism among us.
Hey DHW256 thanks for your post as most list a man the narcissist and my experience is wife narc that ruined our family and my childrens youth suffered too and I'm a single dad patching up the damages my two boys are 18 and 22 and just now seeing the truth and I'm sure it's hard cause everyone loves a mom and I've held my mouth to let them see in fact she ran off with my children isolating them from me but I think God planned it to give them a full time view in isolation with her to let them see and I hope it is not damaging as I've always wanted my boys to have relationship with their mom as I provided while mom never worked stayed at home had new Mercedes every two years country clubs and travel and in the top 1% financially but even a strong man such as I am can be brought low by a wife that is a narc infact staying with a narc destroys your soul spirit and self identify and the funny thing is when I met this woman a model who loved her self so much nothing else mattered and I found it attractive and thought that was an asset and had never known anyone like that but after 20 years I'd never associate with such a person and one last thing when I met her I had a company with partners and 350 employee's that loved me so with that kind of attention and service I'm sure I did not see what I was yoking up with....this was good therapy, thank you all and to anyone out there it is written "guard your heart with all dilegence for out of it flows the issues of life".
I survived him for almost 50 years. I knew it was bad but didn’t know what to call it. I do now. He left for a gay relationship and no one is surprised. Nonetheless I’m in the midst of healing still after nearly 2 years. Thank you for the support you provide.
According to Sam Vaknin - all narcissists are homosexuals because they are secretly in love with themselves. I think my ex is in the closet too.
Don’t let have any room in your mind , he done enough damage . Enjoy life.
Glad you got free. What a blow to the heart! Best wishes for your recovery. God bless?
Oh my dearest I so am with you and mine was 40 and in my 9 th yr of separation but it’s about to fall out and hopefully break this generation curse. My children are 4th generation and He is present and preparing me for a greater plan for His Glory .
I pray the same for you also .
Took me 10 lawyers to work with it in His time and ways. 🙏 I’m working on a project for women recovery from trauma.
"Clean hands pure heart"❤❤❤
Very true, "Veangence is of God"... Lord help me to have a Pure Heart 🙏
Thank you! I'm with You
I have to remember the Adversary is tricky... if he can get us to feel like a victim and hold onto anger and resentment and not count our blessings we live in that pain and never move on or find happiness....this is the adversarys goal. I love this
" if Gods hand is in it your going to win it" I needed that❤❤❤❤.
Gods got my healing, God's got my justice, Amen!!
Amen, thank you Lord for this perfectly timed message. God is so loving and truly amazing. I desperately needed this reminder that God loves me.
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Oh man. Sadly, sure I am not the only one you are speaking to Dr Kris. Often it does feel like that, and it brings me to my knees and often can barely breath. Anybody else?
God's true people can't be destroyed!
The narc's 7th marriage ended after 4 months. He couldn't keep a job or manage money. He's now 70 and driving a tour bus while he has a broken ankle. He lost his teaching license. He had a history of sexually harassing coworkers. He lost one job because he harassed our son's third grade teacher. Seven decades and this is his legacy. Oh, he's also an ordained minister. That was for his ego and access to vulnerable women. Thank you Jesus for healing me 🙌🏼💞
Been struggling with feeling like he won. He’s getting remarried, he’s rich, he appears happy and all this has me distressed into thinking I’m being punished, that he is blessed. Thank you for this message. I’m encouraged snd plan to read Esher from a fresh perspective.
A narcissist will never be happy with what they have riches and/or a beautiful wife. Nothing pleases them in the long run 😢
Don't worry about material things.. Our rewards are in the afterlife. Satan can give riches and,"success" too
I am leaving my husband because of Narcissism
And domestic violence.
What I realized is to Play Kate him is the best way for me too. Deal with him as I pack my thanks.And move out and move on with my life
To Kris,
I hear what your saying. My mother was a Narcisst, her mother was a Narcisst, children's homes I endured Narcissists. My ex-wife was a Narcisst. And the list goes on..."I have had enough".. my patience has run out.
You survived.
You endured for sooo long!,
My mother was my first narcissist. All the men I attract are narcissists because that is all I know. It's a familiar dance. I was groomed and trained from childhood to be a servant and a doormat. I'm 58 and now I am awake. Praise God
God wants 🙏 you ❤️ to Put on HIS ARMOR of God!!!God Always Wins Warriors Praise him Always and Rejoice!!!I If God is for us who can be against us❤Right On Yeah BabyGiddy Up🎉
I am divorcing my narcissist husband after 31 years. I would love to find an online support group made up of people who have gone through this nonsense.
Have been married to one 30 years, yes would love the same
I was married 31 years. I just started up this private FB support group.
“It’s not love. It’s manipulation.”
A support group would be great. I’m 72 yrs old and have been alienated from 3 out of 4 children and now even my 3 young grandchildren……all in order to punish me and isolate me from telling the truth. It’s evil.
See the great book, “Truth Heals: What you hide can hurt you. “ by Deborah King. She points out that living lies makes us crazy, and that peace is only possible if we live in truth! So, by seeking and valuing nothing more than truth, on my own, I will heal. And then I will be in a position to help others. “Work out your own salvation, in fear and trembling.” Seeking and accepting the truth, no matter what it is, will heal me. She also says: what we thought would kill us, heals us and saves us, sets us free. From lies.
Lies kill. Truth heals. 🙏😁❤️
“Wherever there are ignorance and confusion, there are always lies.” author unknown
Lady, Ma'am, Miss, Sister. Thank you for the efforts here and on the rest of your channel. You have a lot of good things to say about Narcissism, a lot of things that might make the struggle that your Brothers and Sisters are enduring.a little easier. I am struggling with abuse from my NPD wife, specifically Covert Narcissism. It hurts. I am praying for her. For her repentance, for mercy from the judgement she deserves, for the softening of both of our hearts. Please, please, please, don't trade your profit for healing, where it is available. Healing is important, but not more important than the Kingdom of Heaven.
I’m new and new sub. Thank you so much. I was married to the ex over half my life. The discard was horrible. God gave me what I could handle little by little all that was hidden, the lies, cheating the debt, stealing from me. Doing all this the last 12 years I was taking care of my bedridden mom after my dad passed away. Out in the country and secluded he did all he could to destroy me. I have got the house back after he forged my name and said I gave it to him as a gift. Found out he was with at least two other women and living with the one while we were still married. I swear I seen the devil in him. I been healing 4 years and it’s getting better. I take care of my mom 24/7 take care of the home, 10 acres I mow, weed eat and use firewood in the winter I gather. I have donkeys and goats, cats and a little dog. I have a lot on my plate. I have to get and pay caregivers to stay with mom to go to the store. But one thing I can tell you is I’m 65 with 2 knee replacements and I do it, everyday. God has been right there, giving me the strength and healing to get me through it. I praise his holy name. He pulled me out, showed me what I didn’t see, helped me get back up and heal through the hardest years of my life. Thank you 🙏🏼
AMEN N AMEN. THE LORD LOVES YOU.
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Wow. To God be the Glory 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
My husband left me for his coworker 6months ago. We have to live together during the divorce process...well his girlfriend thinks he's cheating and keeps kicking him out and then he tells me his problems well I let her know. I was served recently and there are nothing but lies in it..I was praying and praying for all of this and to keep my home and he doesn't get a penny God is so good. I am so blessed beyond measure....God knows he left me to be with his girlfriend off the mountain before the big blizzard hit I was alone saving myself our pets and our home...I always respond to my husband with God knows the truth that's how I end conversations.....hang in there they do get what they deserve ❤
God is always working 🙏
I’m dealing with the narcissist mother, I am a pastor to Africa, and she has hurt me so deeply, and all my life. She was a narcissist, and I didn’t see it, and I played into her hands, but I’m done. God is my stronghold, my God, his righteous hand is lifting me up and holding me and I am getting through this, I’ve had to leave it all behind me and go forward and wipe her out of my life, prayerfully one day very soon she will get her heart right with God and I pray for her, and every single day that she starts doing the right thing and quits trying to hurt her daughter, all I can do is pray for her, and God is wiped all my tears away and I know he’s on my side and I’m grateful, and thank you so much for sharing these videos. They were so helpful more helpful to me and your prayers so sincere and the love I can hear your voice as you pray. Thank you so very much blessings in the name of Jesus amen.
I’m so happy I found your video! I have suffered a lot being abused by the narcissist 😢I’m so angry and feel like they are not getting their Karma! With God involved I know justice will be served.🙏🏻❤️
Kris, thank you for your Christ based therapy videos. You have helped me keep the correct Godly perspective and I realized yesterday that God pruned a violent narcissist out of my life, as I was too weak to do it after almost 40 years of abusive. Scott
Wow Scott, I'm trying to protect my 7yr old from this craziness. God please help in Jesus name.
Praying for divine justice in family .. IJNIP amen
God is always working, it’s not my job to teach the Narcissist to be a good person.
Nor is it your job to bow or cower to their graven image they made of themselves.
It took me 11 years to forgive my Narc. I knew it only hurt me not him so i prayed and prayed finally with no contact it happened. Now i actually laugh again and smile. I was beginning to think i never would again but you will! I think the harder we love the more we can hate them for the pain and time they stole from our lives. I never remarried because i never wanted to. I did not know till about a month ago anything about Narc. I can see that the more you learn the better you will get. I saw the hatred and did not understand what i had done. Now i know, Nothing!!😊
God led me to you today!! Thank you for the prayer. I'm Healing over a year now. Only God ....only the father!!! Amen
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My husband is a narcissist. He always talks about himself all the time. If I don't give him my time he gets moody. It's exhausting
She's right- set up boundaries. This happened with my daughter. And my ex husband. I set up boundaries and if you think stinky of me, oh well! I stick to my word. My life is so much better. Boundaries are healthy.
If God's hand is in it youre going to win it!🙌🏾🙌🏾
Gets away with sleeping around and im here heart broken and hurt😪
I have been married now for seven years to my second wife who is a narcissist. At first I felt ashamed for my choice but have come to realize that she was not honest in her feelings twords me. After counseling, I am leaving the marriage
What a powerful message !!!That brought me a lot of hope, I have been listening to your messages lately and have received a lot of healing I’m going through a divorce from a narcissist and it’s been difficult
you understand me
I thank the Lord for your life
THANKS!!
What will I gain from reading ESTER I WILL READ IT TONIGHT
I remember, women are only made to please men. I was taken advantage of by bad men. Now, I'm cold to god.
We are only made to please the last men's desire. I'm cold to God because of it.
@@yolandagrabowski6043SADLY YOU HAVE THAT HUGELY WRRROONG FOR THAT WITCH YOU ARE COMPLAINING ABOUT IS YOUR SPIRITUAL QUEEN MOTHER JEZEBELS HER WITCH STILL SAYS IN YOUR BIBLE IN 1KINGS THAT SHE IS YOUR I AM. WITCH IS NOT YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER :: I AM :: AND THERE FOR THIS WITCH STATES THAT"" SHE WILL NOT SUFFER THE LOSSSSS OF YOU !!! THAT ARE LEGALLY HER CHILDREN FOR ::: JUST AS ADAM AND EVES DISOBEYED GOD HAVE BEEN BORN IN YOUR SPIRITUAL QUEEN MOTHER JEZEBELS WOMB OF HER WICKEDNESS !!! THEM IS GODS WORD WITCH HE BEGAN TO EXPOSE ABOUT HER ::: NOW SOME 37 YEARS AGO !!!! GOD BLESS !! AMEN !!!
@@yolandagrabowski6043 BUT THE HUSBANDS BODY IS THE WIFES ::: WIFES FOR HUSBAND !!!!!!! BUT IF ONE IS NOT HONOURING THE THEN .... IF THEY DO NOT HONOUR YOU ::: RE FUSE TO SHAPE UP ::: MARRIAGE IS NULL AND VOID !!!
My main worry/anxiety has not been for myself, nearly as much as how many problems and issues my 4 children have had from the divorce where there were no rules, just enabling. I am now being alienated from my own grandchildren, too. It’s called Narcissistic Parental Alienation.
I'm sorry about this. I often wish my children knew more about what happened, but I cannot say. With narcissism we dealt with some of the most evil motives and behavior around.
This is them adding sin to sin indeed. God does not overlook any of it. A true test to your faith to trust him and get ahead with him yourself and not give the devil any place in you. ❤
I pray they will understand one of these days I didn't see my boys for 6 years and I'm the mom most of all FAITH God bless
Same here. I'm not allowed to see my grandchildren but we can ask for power beyond normal for God to take care of our children and grandchildren.
J W. O rg
The Devil Is A Narcissist is a book by Gavriela Powers. Though it’s very painful, I must remember 2Timothy 3, which says in the final days there will be very difficult times, especially children rebelling and hating their parents, hearts growing cold, lovers of themselves, selfishness, etc. No way around it. Only the Holy Spirit can give us the power to endure to the end.
It’s so true when you said the narcissist hates whoever likes you and is nice to you. That has happened to me with every one of my family members. They not only smeared me, they eventually will say nasty things about people associated with me, but those who are mean or physically hurt me, they always praise.
I can’t tell you how much this explained some of what they have done. It’s also comforting to know justice will be served.
Thank you Kris for that beautiful prayer, it was so needed. Amen
Our creator has been working through me to reach people like my mother like her sister etc etc and I know I've had one heck of an impact just buy what I have discovered in her apartment and other discussions and interactions my mother and I have had over the last couple I am a living testimony and a walking miracle who tries her best to not get in God's way but sometimes I'm just a stubborn little you know what LOL I can't help myself you just keep on blessing me with so many confirmations and I'm sorry that I've been bombrding your page with my lovely comments but you are so on the money and activated it's awesome God made me stop it slowed down to listen to your message as right now right as we're speaking at 12:48 a.m. on Wednesday June 28th 2023 I am in the middle of taking care of emptied my mother's apartment etcetera etcetera and I needed this very much I'm right in the middle of shall I say Armageddon
You're awesome
I love how you put the scriptures and Gods word together when your counseling. Your messages have helped me so much
What a godsend of a message so desperately needed right now. I lay here broken and confused and fighting through finding the strength to get up and fill up my cup!
I'm so grateful your videos popped up in my feed again after losing so many saved videos and subscriptions after making changes to my phone settings.
This is God working, I know it!
Thank you for being faithful to His calling for you, sister!
Needed this so much. It's happening and I believe in the lord. He will answer prayers.. truth facts in this video ❤❤
I prayed for the narcisstic other to get justice by whatever means necessary. Karma stepped up. The narcissistic other is completely blind in one eye and losing sight in the other eye as well. Can't see driving at night, in bad weather, or doing routine tasks. All of the above couldn't happen to a more deserving piece of trash.
Mrs.Reece you're teaching RIGHT!!!!!.
If the narcissist is abusive you certainly don't want your young child being brought up in an abusive home that's scriptural and that wasn't that hard to answer. If you're being abused you don't want your child to be abused
I pray Isaiah 55 for the toxic in my life. I am realizing I have to stay no contact for my safety.
God has got me. Hallelujah 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Jewish and following you. This is incredibly profound connection made to narcissistic abuse. You are so amazing thank you!
Kris - I just recently found you and I’m so grateful. After 43 years of believing my narcissistic husband would seek help and help me keep our family together, I’ve had to let go. It’s a horrible time but I believe God has shown me a way out. Your words in another video have helped me in dealing with my adult children. “Jesus said nothing.” Thank you so very much.
You bringing the story of Esther in this light was encouraging to me. I have been doing a deep dive on narcissism and working on myself for over 2 years now and I am besides myself and and dealing with depression with the impact narcissism from my ex and my husband's ex. They have made it thier mission to put our kids against us. We have been good parents but in the eyes of our children they only see the bad. In which it was from the reaction to the chaos the toxic parents created. Parental Alienation is no joke! I wouldn't wish it on anyone. We are so heartbroken. 💔😭
It's been years but I'm still hoping and praying for reconciliation. 🙏
I'm sorry to hear this. Narcissists seem to get enjoyment out of alienating people. I had this experience with a niece who thought I should have adopted her! She's a classic narcissistic who has turned her entire family against me - all because SHE thought I should have adopted her! She is merciless. I have seen what has happened to you in my family as well. It's heartbreaking. But I believe there will be justice one day for EVERY ONE. God doesn't just sit back & observe. He will judge the whole earth. God bless you.
😢this really got to me. 12 years ago left and (divorced) a narcissist, biggest mistake of my life, abusive, liar and now dealing with another one who married my daughter and keeping the children away from my daughter and I struggled about leaving my relationship with God when it first happened and have been fighting for salvation and hanging in there…wondered a lot of things mentioned like here and questioned God and this watching you speak Kris really lifted me up and made me cry. I am committed to God, pray alot…thank you and going to make a point to hear next your story being married like myself to a narcissist.
I'm realizing I've never known so called SAFE people closely enough to know what to look for. When she said Abused people feel familiar with what tirn out to be abusers, i can so relate.. as a woman i tried to be submissive, it never caused him to love me, only more complaints. I have been single for like 32 years since then and have learned Jesus is SAFE, the only One i can safely feel okay with. He has always been nothing but GOOD to me, and so i am content now, my life is good. I can have peace as long as i stay close to Him😊
God will turn all this around
Amen to that beautiful and accurate prayer for victims of Narcissistic Abuse and Thank You Sister in Christ.
Thank you, Kris! And I think God for what you are doing for the Kingdom!
God is always working ✝️
I know the book of Esther well, but I saw something new in it after your explanation of it in this video. When God releases us from the power of the narcissist, He releases us to FIGHT for our lives. This requires courage and faith in God. Thank you Kris for your insight. Praise be to God our Father through the Lord Jesus Christ who never forgets us and loves us with an everlasting love in His Son. 🙏❤
I love this !! God Bless you and keep you safe and teaching Gods people !!!!
Listening to this answered the question I had around revenge. I repent for the desire of revenge. God gots me.
Amen! 🙌 I needed every word of that prayer! Thank you so much Kris! Thank you for sharing the story of Esther & your take aways from it! Fascinating!👍
After another rebellious act last night, by my "Christian" husband (horrific narc), I asked my daughter if he will ever be punished for his endless evil deeds? This is my answer. Thank you for your Christian response. It makes me sad to think of the 29 years of emotional and spiritual pain my children and we have experienced, but as a mature believer, I know God works ALL things together for good...
I’m in the same situation; we have an only son, one child who’s now 23. My husband holds so much bitterness rage anger against him when he messes up. He’s been the biggest enabler for our son. And still thinks he can control him. If my son steps out of line, he starts calling him a sorry SOB, tells me he could careless if our son drops dead. These words break my heart. My son drinks, and I’ve put his addiction into Gods hands. I’ve been through so much between the both of them
God is ALWAYS WORKING!
It is not a laughing matter, I pray that God has mercy on them.
All praises to The Most High for giving us healing and serving justice. I am in the early syages of healing from an abusive family and do my best to hive gratitude everyday for how the Father has given miraculous provision every step of the way. Trust me, I have "dark" days, but I am not trusting in my emotions, I am trusting in the TRUTH.
Hi Kris,
I just wanted to let you know that your ministry has blessed me so much since I discovered it, about 5 months ago now.
I have been married to a narcissist for the past 10 years(together 12 years). I only realised she is a narcissist about 5 months ago.
After 5 months of tension in our home & having to endure years of threats(verbal, physical & emotional abuse), gaslighting, manipulating etc etc. My wife voluntarily left the family home last week and is now living in an apartment.
I feel so relieved & I feel God had been using your ministry to help lead & guide me through the past 5 months.
Still on my healing journey from narcissist abuse.......God bless your amazing ministry! 👏🏼👏🏼😊👌🏼👍🏻💖🙌🏽
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You wife is not finished with you yet..the Narc is like a spider..she will change tactics and love bomb you to wrap her web around you again and pull you back in...avoid her like poison...I also lived through this nightmare for 16 years..
God's will, thy will be done ✅
Over 30 year marriage to a narcissist. I have pain inside like everyone experiences. But hard to process. Because I'm not sure where it is coming from. At the same time. I'm sure God will bring me out better in time!
You have to forgive them for the betrayal. they are 2 yr olds emotionally. You have your soul intact. They are disconnected from their soul. Be glad you are not like them. "Psychopath Free" the book really explained so much to me and helped jump start my recovery. God Bless 🌹
I feel like I am surrounded by Narcissists ✝️🙏🏻😇 forgive them Lord,They know not what they do...🙏🏻 “Vengeance is mine says the Lord” Thankyou for this awesome teaching.
Who is better than you? Answer: NOBODY! Seriously, I am so happy that I found your channel. May God bless you, your family, and your Ministry abundantly!
I was listening to your prayer and I can honestly say that I don't feel that rage and confusion anymore since a couple of years ago. I did feel like that but I don't today. Anyone who could relate to the words in the prayer, this rage will pass in time while you keep praying and listening to smart people like this woman in the video. God bless and protect you! Merry Christmas. ❤
In tears here.. THANK YOU sister Kris for the reminder of Yah's power in our circumstances concerning narcissists. Thank you also for your touching prayer. Needed both at this time. If, our Father is glorified in my current situation in HIS time, I will gladly let you know!! Be blessed ALL. Remember Satan uses these people to trample on our faith in our MOST HIGH. WE are NOT to let this happen. Thank YOU Yeshua/Jesus for your mercy and humility which is shown during these times of waiting and wanting. Amen
Thank You!!! For your timely message. I've been married for almost 20 yrs. I discovered narcissism 2 yrs ago. I've listened to many a videos on the subject. My Father is a narcissist, he made my mother, brothers and sister, and me our lives a living hell. In our adult lives, We have suffered from his violence and lack of affection. My situation, I was very weak and could not stand up to my now narcissist, but God is making me stronger little by little. I haven't left because, my youngest son is 8yrs old, has down syndrom, still in diaper and is non-verbal. My concern is that the one that is going to suffer in a separation is my son. The Narc is oblivious to our 8yrs olds needs. And so I'm waiting on God to show me the way. As what I have felt. Everything that comes with finding out that it all has been a lie. At the moment I have unger and can't stand to see his cowardly face. I prayed with you as you prayed for all that listen to your voice in this video. God keep granting you wisdom for your teachings are like a spring of water in the desert. Thank You!!!❤
Leave. Your health will deteriorate. I left after 24 years. I'm still physically and mentally recovering four years later. I was so sick, thought I was dying. I wish I would've left sooner.
Married for 37 years.. He has been in and out of church. But true colors are coming out now. We are is the middle of so much. Only God! I will keep trusting God no matter what.