Boundaries, the Cure for Codependency
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Setting boundaries may be the best cure for codependency. What human beings don't seem to realize is the most rampant disease on the planet is co-dependence. It is the greatest addiction. The number one addiction. Even though all addictions really have the same genesis, co-dependence is the most rampant. And it's because it has the same definition as all the other addictions, which is this. And notice the similarity of spiritual teachings throughout the world from various teachers, notice how teachings connect here.
Human beings believe that they are separate from God and from each other. And this creates a sense of emptiness inside. That emptiness is going to need to be dealt with in some way.
Our emptiness becomes either anxiousness or depression. We feel this emptiness. We feel off. We feel something, and then we start to feel anxious or depressed.
If we feel anxious, we're going to need to be sedated. If we start to feel depressed, we need to feel stimulated. So everybody's looking for some form of that.
The problem is, we feel empty. We reach out for something to fill the emptiness. Nothing fills the emptiness, so we go and try it again. That's addiction. As soon as you try to fix something using a synthetic, not just synthetic chemically, synthetic meaning outside of ourselves, you're in a cycle. You're in a pattern, and it's endless, because one needs to feed the other.
As soon as I feel empty and I try something and it doesn't fill me. OH MY GOD I'M DESPERATE. I'm even more empty and more desperate. I need it. I need even more of it. And there you go, off into addictions. But not all of us choose drugs or alcohol or food or whatever. What we tend to not realize is our relationships are absolutely riddled with and rampant, filled with this same problem, this emptiness.
And what it's called is co-dependence. Co-dependence means I have become dependent. I'm drug dependent. I'm alcohol dependent. I'm food dependent. I'm people dependent. And more people are people dependent than any other addiction.
What does it mean to be people dependent? It means, "I have forgotten who I am. I feel an emptiness inside, and I really would appreciate it if you, anyone, anything outside of me, not just people. Anything outside of me would make me feel different. I feel down, pick me up. I feel up, take me down a bit. Or as relationships go, you make me feel so wonderful. Or you are the blame of me not feeling wonderful." See, that's all co-dependent, because it's not interdependent. It's not responsible. It's reactive to things on the outside.
So think of it that way. Co-dependence is like that. We think we're empty, and then we start reacting to and becoming dependent upon people. If people don't like us, it's depressing. If people are upset with us, that's anxiety creating. So we become very neurotic. We become very reactive and neurotic. We have to react. We have to fill this void somehow. We become hyper-anxious and trying to fix everything. Because it's off. The problem is, we keep thinking everyone outside, or everything outside is what's making us feel off.
Responsibility takes it the other direction. So we're feeling off. We're feeling disconnected from each other, from love, from God. We're feeling disconnected from answers, solutions, healings.
Where am I going to get this? In a way, science is right that sometimes religion is almost a form of a spiritual or mental aspirin to deal with pain. And then they scoff, and say it's all a joke. It's all false. and they think there's nothing to it. because they are missing something too.
They're missing God. and the religions are missing God all too often. even though they talk about God. Often they don't know how to create the solution, which is to be filled with the presence of God.
And as I'm filled with the presence of God, I start to be filled with the presence of me, myself. I'm here. I'm awake, and anything that happens, I'm aware that it's my doing. It's a reflection of my experience inside, and that's when we start to wake up and show up again. We become responsible.
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Curious why do you think that most westernized issues like the one discussed in this
video don't exist in non westernized societies?
Thank you Micheal .love teachings Bless you for putting this foward .yes agree .God found out that i dont need the everything outside .it is wholly .
Yes being responsibilty. Beautiful .🙏💜❤️☺️
Found this talk amazingly beneficial. Gratitude from the heart 🙏🌈
I love how you weave together the different paths (Buddhist, Hindu, Christian) into one path of love. Your delivery does not trigger...it allows my heart to open and receive...to quiet and to heal. Thank you dear🌿
Thank you so much. I enjoy seeing the connectedness and commonality in seemingly differing things. ~MM
I just got in a conflict with my wife about boundaries, flipped to UA-cam to zone out and this was at the top of my feed.
I found out I was Codep 3 weeks ago after my 4th break up... It was literally a massive "AHAH!" moment. I realized it's caused so many problems in my life.
P.S. thanks for referring to GOD, it's nice to hear. And for keeping it real, I felt like I was having a genuine conversation with you. You're an excellent teacher.
I am so glad I stumbled across this video. I am a 23 year old graduate student who just moved to new and bigger city, completely out of my comfort zone. I just got rid of my social media accounts because, although I feel I am very blessed and successful in my own life, I felt empty when I compared my life to others my age. I wanted to take this move as an opportunity to practice love, specifically self-love. I always put others interests above my own out of fear of not being liked. Now that I can put a name on it (codependency), I feel like I can start the healing process and this video gave me a great foundation. I was raised in church all of my life but I always felt empty. Now I know why. I served God through my parents and others. Understanding that I am good enough to also have a one-on-one relationship with God is how I will change my life so that I can finish my doctorate’s degree in public health and help serve others who are disadvantaged or in pain. Thank you for this video. The universe, God, knew exactly what I needed. Bless you.
I did this cycle with my mom and family for years. It was not until I disconnected for 3 years that I realized the abuse. I find now my greatest happiness is in my time alone and finding happiness within. The only time I feel otherwise is when I make effort with human relationships, not because I'm depending now, but because I'm recognizing the fact that so many others are not there, and having relationships with them is difficult without falling into old patterns. I have a small group of connections that do feel healthy and comfortable with, however it is few. My mom felt the need for years to take from me. I allowed it because I thought it was my way of taking care of her. I know now it was never my job to fix her...she is responsible for her own life, as I am mine.
It gets even better when you realise you are around family and realise the old patterns have fallen away, and they trigger you less and less. May you always remain in your bliss.
This video changed my life, Michael. I was married, and ultimately discarded, to a psychopath for 25 yrs. After discovering narcissism, I was trapped in a cycle of attracting narcissistic people, just like my wife. Literally, every person I found myself interacting with was a narcissist. Then, I found this video that explained to me why this was happening. As a result, I have self-isolated myself, in order to learn about my body, mind, and spirit, to understand my needs and how to meet them within myself. Before, I was a codependent person, who couldn't exist by myself. I "needed" other people in order to feel better about myself; but, in the end, I was always being abused. Now, I don't need to be with other people to feel complete. That's not to say that I feel wonderful every moment of every day; but, when I feel bad, instead of running to other people for relief, I simply deal with that emotion. I identify what my body is trying to tell me, so that I can fix the problem, myself. Thank you for making this video, Michael. There are so many videos out there that talk exhaustively about narcissism; but there are very, very few videos that actually talk about the real problem, codependency, that causes narcissists to be attracted to us in the first place. Also, the other videos out there that talk about boundaries, are very misleading. They talk about boundaries like it's a wall that we build, a fortress, to protect us from abusive people. However, that is not correct. If we follow such bad videos, then we become narcissists ourselves.
Healing the wounds of my childhood was the most important work I have ever done. Next in line was deprogramming myself from codependent behaviour. I agree that codependency is the greatest sickness in western society.
Bob Eden Amen brother. The anxiety is debilitating. And you never know what relationship you're in when it rears its ugly head. Its a lifetime work for myself.
It only took me 60 years to figure this stuff out.
I know what you mean, Lori!
how did you figure it out lori, help me, please lori lep
Hey me too but better late than never.
Ditto.
Some people never figure it out
I really needed to hear this since my alcoholic boyfriend stood me up on Valentine’s Day! It’s me time, God has been part of my life. Now I need to delve deeper. Enjoyed this video, self-healing time for me, boundaries are being set. I will be happy once again & not listen to promises that are broken time and time again. Thank You God!
I guess ( as you say) even people who are cold and hurtful by invoking a reaction means you are giving them the power to move your emotions away from self/truth. This is such a major realization thank you. This is a great video
Love how you connected all this information together. This is one a kind video. All other videos on codependency leave the spiritual part out. Thank you for sharing this valuable information with us.
I took your advice 6 months ago, thinking to change my man... Silly me: I had to change MYSELF! _That_ worked... for us both. My psych told me I seemed "well"- No longer codependent. Boundaries honor me; they honor God, and they honor and reassure my sweetheart. Now any relationship I have on any level will work because I "work" - for the first time and I'm only 69 so there are years and years left here on Earth!
I also believe that co-dependency is the root cause of most of our problems in families and society today. It's all just a big giant lack of connection!
🌸 I used to have strong connection with God and meditated quite frequently.....was extremely happy
Finishing school was top of my class, excellent grades etc, one more yr left to complete......however then I met and married a narc and my whole world was taken 😳
He took all my savings first, then removed my job and I worked at his firm. Lost contact with all family and friends by and by
My mom died and I had my brother to look after financially, he is autistic and has brain damage (affected him since birth, error by docs)
Overwhelmed and little money or hope I started to have lack of confidence in myself.
I was strong and very independent. I went from strong minded independent, smart, fashionable and petite to just a pet of some sort with no say
He was picking out what I should wear etc, else I got abused
I had to walk on eggshells daily doing or saying innocent things landed me in hot water and I was abused everyday for yrs.
Had no money to leave and had brother who needed me.
Plus my career path was on back burner and so was my life
I fell into dark depression for yrs, I was still showering and cleaning house etc, going to work but it wasn’t me anymore
I started moving like molasses literally and my memory was going.
Even my whole body was shutting down, I was getting cramps on my arms and legs, like dead fish it wouldn’t move.
Although I wasn’t resting or lazy, my body refused to move....the pain was intense so I couldn’t sleep, got bad insomnia ....waked for 3 days at a time with 2 to 3 hours sleep only at times. This caused my memory to go as I wasn’t sleeping, made depression worse.
I didn’t think of killing myself because deep down it wasn’t what I would do but I was not living either.
🌺 I Started to come out of it..... It all started when I connect again with God
and this is what pulled and lifted me out of black hole I was stuck in
I know I cannot regain what I lost BUT I can rebuild everything!
I believe deep down I will come back stronger with hard work and perseverance
I am finding my way one day at a time! I will survive and live my life to fullest
I will not let negative people suck my life force again like this and I will make full recovery with the help of God
He never left me, but I did forget and left him....not doing that again. As soon as I regained my connection I suddenly saved huge amt in months and kept getting more work and opportunities. It’s like someone strapped a rocket on my ass and my feet haven’t touched the ground yet.
I will make it and I feel strange thing in my chest daily where it was empty before....I think it’s my hope restored with love and happiness 💖💗💕
So sorry Gail. But I'm glad to hear you are pulling out of that--even if slowly. I highly recommend that you scan through my vast library of FREE videos on youtube because there are some specifically on the topics you talked about here such as: narcissism, rebuilding our lives, and how ongoing trauma wears down our body. ~MM
Thank-you for sharing this story the commonalities are striking if you research the results of engaging with a cluster B person. Thanks so much for the hope I draw from two decades of co-dependent behavour I knew I was part of the problem and you reminded me God is the answer. He has never placed more burden on me then I could handle with his help. When I try on my own is when the trouble begins.
Michael Mirdad 🌸 thank you, I will have a browse 👍🏼
I am grateful for all free videos and help on UA-cam....it was another lady that inspired me to start my connection again
I never regretted doing it 😊
Edward Berry I am sorry to hear that, I’m glad you broke free and on road to recovery 😊
I do wish you all the best 👍🏼
@@sunitafisher4758 yes man the road is rocky the trauma bond has existed for over two decades. I know for a fact she is out to destroy any male in her life it is not just me. i just keep coming back because of my own issues. She knew I was broken way before I ever knew.
Thank you. I have read, watched, listened to many people discuss co-dependency that I am currently working on recovering from or learning to manage. You have so very eloquently
given me a new way to look at how to handle my triggers. I am so thankful to you for that!! I will keep your teachings of what I need to do with me at all time to refer to.
You are very welcome. Glad you enjoyed the teaching on this. ~MM
Perfect timing for me. I love how the divine shows up with great teachings when I’ve asked for help when confused during my healing process. Thanks, M! ✨💫🔥🌈❤️
God sent you to me tonight, I prayed to him this morning asking for help, thank you so much I now have the formula I was missing. May god continue to support your work. Amen
When the student is ready, the Teacher miraculously and inevitably shows up! Awesome! Hang on to love and wisdom which lead to real power and a better sense of justice! Agape, shalom and HalleluYuh
I feel empty and numb, I put people on a pedestal and look down on myself. My father is very controlling and toxic and now I am financially dependent on him because I work for him, no matter how much abuse he throws at me I will self blame and internalise his messages. I am a people pleaser, full of guilt and scared of confrontation. Ive realised that I am codependent and my threshold for abuse is very high, I need to set boundaries! I deserve respect ! Having narcissistic emotionally unavailable family and caregivers moulded me into the person I am today.
David X You CAN change your life, and slowly but surely create a life full of good people. Trust me, for I have been through the painful evolution process of fear, abandonment and severe abuse, and am now experiencing life on the other side with kind, open hearted people. You are not made in stone by your parents. They serve as a valuable learning lesson for people whom to avoid. You’ll have intuition because of the situation you’re in now and you’ll be able to meet new beautiful people someday, maybe even today at the grocery store or something. Give someone a smile and tell yourself you are love and that you are made of love and people will feel that and the right people will respond with kindness, warmth or a liking towards you, no matter what your age. You are not worthless or and empty hole. The key right now sounds like financially setting a plan to get the hell away from your family 💗💗💗 ~ Julia
Hey..just watch more videos..its ok...you are not a lost cause..that you watched these videos is a great positive step...he said something like cry it out...scream it out if you have to....I did that the other day...it hurts..banged my body and slapped the hell out of me...we need to wake up...the way I teach it ..Spirit..mind ..soul then body..to be in balance. The soul since the body is afflicted or hurt ..then so is the body...dont fix your body first..fix the other 3 ..so cry it out is your soul..then empower through thoughts and actions..then spirit....God to me is not outside..or that you in spirit form is the higher self..you are source period..you are God..in terms of creating..maybe videos from quartz crystal on you tube..will help..
Because of our beliefs that we were taught..which is based on religion and not relationships..leaves us empty...so try to learn about source..that you are..dont forget yourself in the equation.ask for guides help..and wait for the sign to eject...as I am..good luck...we got this
Love and light.
Keep healing!
OMG I'm 57 please let me learn this so I can spend the last 20 years of my life happy
Thank you. I just recently remembered who I am. The Lord is within me. I'm feeling better than I ever have. I have lived a miserable life in the past and that's where I'm leaving it. I'm changing day by day through prayer. I'm learning boundaries more than ever. This is so deep. People are enslaved by codependency. God brought me to your videos. So I can learn. You're a great teacher. Again thank you so much.
Wow! No doubt that when the student is ready, the teacher appears!! Tanks a million Michael for the beautiful work you do!! I am drowning in my codependency! I AM tired of it, and it's time to adddress it! Boundaries? What is that? I AM 67 years old, and learned the meaning of boundaries five years ago!! Did I started to apply them? No! I must learn to be, "truth to thyself". I know it is time! Thak you very much for lighting my, and others path!! 🙏💖🙏💖
It's all a matter of when we finally choose to live a healthier life--spiritually and emotionally. ~MM
Wow this guy is making a ton of sense to me. End Karmic addictive relationships, commune with god, respect yourself and wholesome love will find you.
Brilliant! It makes perfect sense! I am an alcoholic and codependent, been alcohol free for over twenty years and don't believe I could of done it without the 12 step program. In the 12 step program you need to believe in a higher power and turn your life over to him. You have made me aware that I am trying to run and control my life again and not trust God to help or show me the way. I have lost my connection with him!
The best description of Codependency I have ever heard! And I’ve heard/read a lot! And the solution (clear and simple) is embedded right up in there. I needed to hear this today. Thank you!
Amazing video. I've listened to dozens of hours learning about co-dependency and never walked away feel as peaceful and empowered as I did after this video. Thank you!
My deepest Heartfelt Gratitude 🙏🏼💗 This is one of the best things i’ve ever heard. You were CreatorGod’s messenger to Me in this phase of my Life. I’m listening over and over again… it has become a part of me now 🔥☀️🌈 Freedom
Michael, you've helped me so many times. Ever since the first seminar I ever attended of yours at Unity of North Houston... you've been there guiding me. I just recently (days ago) admitted that I am codependent on my alcoholic boyfriend and possibly was with other past relationships. I too help healing with my own clients but have forgotten to do good self care thus losing myself. THANK YOU! You brought me back to reality and how to get back on track. Blessings and Love to you, Always!
Blame and shame is the core of addiction.
Codependency is a pre-requisite for addiction.
Taking responsibility and being response able is derived from healthy boundaries.
I love what you peddle. No victims, here: Accountability! Your video is refreshing. Thank you so much! Subscribed✔️
This is the best information out there on co-dependency. I’ve watched so many videos, read so many books, done courses. This video was delivered to my feed as a gift and has changed my world ❤️. Thank you for the time you put into these for us.
This is such a wonderful, calming video about coming to self-love through connection with spirit, and self, in the form of boundaries that I really needed to hear. I had lost myself for awhile. I was deep in the process of healing childhood conditioning and a past of narcissistic abuse and felt totally alone while doing it. I’ve done tons of healing work the past five years; writing, therapy, medication, meditation, yoga for trauma, but still didn’t feel quite right? I was learning boundaries as an assertive, vigilant force and it was wearing me out. I think your video has hit the nail on the head for me that it has been the loss of connection with spirit I’ve missed the most and that boundaries are within, quiet and part of who you are, not loud and vengeful. Thank you for that. I used to be so connected and lately I’ve felt totally alone, forgotten even...as someone abused spiritually, I all but gave up on ever feeling connected to spirit again. After listening to this, I feel lighter even and have less pain in my chest. I am reminded I need to look no further than my shoulder for all that I need and that spirit is always there. Thank you! Thank you for reminding me to thy own self be true. I’m slowly healing and connecting again. I feel this came up in my FB feed for a reason. I’m grateful! Namaste.
So beautiful. Thanks for sharing here and thanks for enjoying the video. Most of all, thanks for applying it so that you can experience a better self and a better life. ~MM
Amen my friend I've been single for years working on these things and getting to know myself and growing!! Thank you for the insight and teaching I appreciate it 🤗🌼💙
This is exactly what I have been working on, improving my relationship with God, so I can improve my relationships with others. I am learning to set healthier boundaries and I am learning how to not only forgive others in a healthier way, but to forgive myself. Thank you for sharing and being one of God’s teachers!💕🙏
Universe knows how to work when we start waking up to our true selves...4 years later this is relevant to my journey in 2022...thank you for your insight Michael....thank for helping your soul brother 💙🙏
Thank you for explaining boundaries in a way that actually makes sense. This is loving, and non threatening. I especially appreciate how you explain how to communicate one’s truth without being hooked into drama.🙏
One of the best lectures I have heard on this topic, very insightful!
Love myself first. Not in the selfish way but first and believe myself is the one with other material. That’s what I understand now
On point! Having been born and raised at Westboro Baptist Church (my dad was Fred Phelps, Sr.) one thing that has become very, very clear is that it is guilt/shame that makes the world "out there" go around. It is NOT Love that makes the world go around...it is guilt/shame. Put 1st the Kingdom...if we put 1st the Kingdom, we're going to move past all the illusions of the "world" -- ok, here's the secret: seek not outside yourself.
This is my first video of Michael's, and it's so amazing! Thank you, Michael, for this video, and for you being yourself.
I usually feel very triggered when anyone mentions God, but somehow this did not trigger those emotions of rage.
Somehow I can feel/sense his sincerity and love. So genuine.
Same! :)
Same. I have BPD.
I have a feeling this video touched something inside of me and gave me a whole new perspective that can change my life.
Thank u, really 🙏
This is one of the best descriptions I've ever heard. Thank you.
Omgosh. This was the most accurate, well articulated description I’ve ever heard. Everything you said is absolutely true 💗☮️💗
Wow! The most interesting video on youtube has the lowest views.. i hope everyone finds this.. i feel so blessed that i actually have this ability to recognize my weakness because it gives me the opportunity to grow.. if you ask the right question you’ll get the right answer. Thank you for this video. God bless you!
Extremely thankful I came across your channell! This is worth more than gold. Thank you!
🙏you are the medicine I needed. I prayed for divine guidance and found this video. Blessings to you and may you continue to bring your light to others💗
Glad it was helpful! ~MM
This is so healing. Your voice is soft spoken yet powerful, and this is helping me break my codependency and find the route of all my anxiety and relationship problems. It all starts with me. Thank you again, I will be watching this over and over again!
🙏thank you. you are a genuine teacher .I have been a seeker of truth and enjoy listening to true teaching,and work on applying them in my daily life .your video just popped up few days ago much love and thanks 👍👼 an angel of light 😘😘😘much love bless you for your work
Omg. This has been the most helpful thing I have ever encountered. Thank you so much. I think I will just play repeat for a week. 🙏🏼💕
This is Amazing a fantastic explanation thank you for taking the time to do this I'm grateful to have found it! Have recently woken up to connecting with god for love, still get swept up by being triggered this has really helped! Thank you
You have echoed what my heart has been telling me... thank you Michael ❤️
Your stuff is SO accessible, gentle and affirming. Co-dependency has been a generational experience for me. I finally understand it and am able to see the way out. Thank You.
You're so welcome! ~MM
One of the best videos I have seen on codependency
This is the first video I've seen of yours. How can I describe the TRUTH that flows from your words? I have been co-dependent all my life. At one of my lowest points three years ago - after ending an 18 month relationship with a sociopath who was the rebound relationship after a 35 year marriage to a narcissist - the only comfort I could find was lying in my bed at night and whispering aloud the 23rd Psalm. I didn't even know where I was at spiritually, but emotionally I was beaten black and blue. I have come so far since then!! Now is the right time for me to hear your words - I'm feeling joy and release from these truths. I am beginning to experience agape love, and it must flow from God both into me and through me, outward. This is the only freedom, and the only way to bliss.The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want.
So nice to read that this Video helped you. I wish you all the best!
Thank you. Thank you. The student is ready, so here you are❤
Beautiful! A methodology for having boundaries and healing codependency from the inside out. This goes far beyond setting hard-and-fast behavioral rules. I've lived long enough to learn that defenses like that, although strong, may be brittle, and may break under pressure. Glad to learn a better way. Thank you, Michael.
My notes
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Boundary setting methodology begins at 27:00
Boundary = true to myself (not rigid rule)
Boundaries are not defenses, not walls, they are self-knowledge, self-worth, and self-caring, under guidance of source.
Methodology:
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* Timeout to connect to source and self. (Tip: excuse yourself for a bathroom break.)
* Return, and speak from your own experience:
- Say what you heard.
- Say how it made you feel.
- Assert you will be true to yourself and how.
- - - Express concern for others' feelings, without compromising self: "I'm sorry you feel that way, but I'm going to ."
Yeesssss!! Agape Love, starting with God centred self Love is the golden key! Glad this came up in my auto play tonight because the whole time, I was resonating right with you! Amen
Thank you for sharing!
Beautiful!
A world full of this authentic Loving energy is Heaven on Earth!
Namaste my violet/magenta brother 🙏
This is so helpful. I did not fully appreciate all the ramifications of codependency un†il very recently. For me, being on my own has been the best time for me to learn, to self-heal, set boundaries and to leave the past behind. It has made me much closer to God. I love Michael saying about being closer to your dog! I adore my dogs and am very close indeed to them. I don't even want to go on holiday because they would not be able to come and what would be the point of a holiday without them? So I am trying to learn a healthy relationship with myself, as you say, and I totally agree that it cannot be done without God. Without God I am nothing. It is hard when the children throw their hooks at me, especially now they are adults and behave as if they know all the right answers. But they do not really know me, they do not know my relationship with God and that I will not give way to their urges and demands, no matter how difficult they make it feel. While I remember i am connected to God's love, I have the courage to keep myself strong enough to keep my boundaries and maintain my self-worth. Then my integrity remains intact, in the love Of God.
Elly Ess. I totally understand. Going thru this too.
Just found you thanks to Kevin Moore "They call us Channelers" documentary. I appreciate your integrity, intelligence and common sense. Blessings
Thank you Michael. Even though i haven't been in a relationship for a few years, little did i know i had buried a pattern deep within unhealed. When i look back over my love relationships i see this co dependency clear now. I had very high highs and very low lows. It been a tough week of unmasking but thank God i have a strong heart. I don't think it was just childhood trama that i felt this week but possibly other lives because of the level of pain. Then the night before last i dreamt of holding a little baby and telling it that it is okay and then felt something lifting of my heart. Then last night i was in a room with another girl that was a dark version of me. She was looking at me and i said to her it's not real only light and love is real and then i went over and sat beside her. Know i know why God brought you into my life Michael. Thank you 💚
Wow! What an incredible story. ~MM
Great an clear message in your dreams! I love that!! There is a lot of good connection to your own higher self if you can dream like that and than notice!!
Thank you Anja knatz
This is the simplest best explanation I have come across online on this topic. Beautifully said, great examples...suggestions are very helpful.🙏🏻👁😊
thank you. i'm going to apply this. i have worked on getting in touch with my gut (to cure irritable bowel syndrome that medical hasn't helped), now i will note the feelings i have worked on (linked to boundaries if i'm getting this right), and go to God, and work from there using this advice. Thank you. I will try this. I am a Christian also. Telling you that for no particular reason. Also, 'they' laughed at me for wanting to become a singer and i listened to their logic. However, I would have done better as a singer and the night hours that people were concerned about, would have suited my bio-clock better as i still don't go to bed til about 2am. (it was ok for night shift too back in the day). Don't know why i've added that either except that some young person might read this. blessings.
You're a brilliant young man I really enjoy your program I actually came across you by accident I'm so glad I met you thank you for sharing this video
You're absolutely correct ... I'm getting there, now. Only age 69 but there's plenty of time.
Thank you Michael!! Great message and very much needed. My Mother is very codependent on me and it’s been A real struggle. ❤️🙏🏻
Wow man you healed me, you made me remember what I knew and have been trying to do to set my boundaries. You said it so eloquently. Glad I found you, you have a new follower
Wow! Thank you! The biggest breakthrough for me in this (there were many) is when you said 'you are willing to turn your back because I won't become what you want me to be'. The tenor or much of the advice from 'experts' is 'if they are not good enough - get someone better'. I don't give up on people and now I realize more than ever that I need to fill myself first and then I can handle anything in the right way. It got me out of the loop of 'here we go again!' The information you shared is AWESOME and profound. Blessings to you!
This is beautiful. I’m having a rough time and this helps a lot.
The best teacher on Internet! Thank you
Thank you so much. ~MM
Michael, it really is the Holy Trinity of Love. Love of God, Love of Self Love of others.
Gosh you broke this thing especially about the Most High God..so beautifully
Love this man ...truly a spiritually gifted person .
Hi Michael, first time listener and just subscribed. I have recently been listening to hours of videos regards to dating women, not dating women and narcissism. I also and finally listening to a KVJ bible app. I just went thru a very bad break up with a woman I loved. I'm 34 and she is 31. She wanted me to take care of her and I barely have made it to point of even saving 10k per year. I don't want to live with fear of fighting and disagreeing with an intimate partner or any family or worker relation and I am so happy to found you. I am going to re watch this and study it. This is the way too go. Even with the most confrontational people. Well, the really bad ones who try and take money from you .. the courts is always last resort in my grasp of reaching balance of safety and prosperity for all.
Beautiful and such an important teaching. Thank you. Bless you.
Remembering how we were all dumbed-down and by design, this can be quite the lengthy and painful process! and a necessary one; one we must go through to get to the truth that sets free!
This young man made it much easier than figuring it all out alone! with what could be called a "shortcut"... as we realize just how much we needed the Eternal and Living El's (YHWH) pure love to fill us all! In spirit and in truth is all He ever asked of us!
HalleluYuh indeed!
I love you, Michael! I've been watching you for years. Since you released your self mastery video. I was so happy to see that you added more videos. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Thank you Michael. I'm praying a lot for guidance lately and spirit showed me your channel today. I always felt a bit out of place on this planet. Lost somehow. Listening to you it feels like reconnecting with my soul. Finally. 🙏
Thank you for bringing this all together. Much love and appreciation for sharing.
You are so welcome. ~MM
You are a gifted teacher .... thanks for sharing the light
Wow, thank you. ~MM
Michael! It's been years since I've seen you in person. Had no idea you had a UA-cam channel. I remember your light vividly...your presence so warm and so clear! Thank you for this video...i am definitely at a turning point in my life bc I've gotten deeper clarity on how this behavior has been playing out in my life! Was trying to figure out why i was "falling victim" over and over and getting into power struggles. Been studying and working on this spiritually for a full year now!🙌🙌 Your video has given me the extra fine tuning i need...how many times have i not been true to myself? And how do i move on from harboring the pain of those who took and took advantage in my own ignorance of my codependent behavior and how do i forgive myself? Accept thrlat we all fell under a karmic "spell" where we forgot ourselves. OMG....thank you so much!💗💗
You have unfolded many unconscious layers of not only common peoples but of spiritual seekers who also feel empty. Thanks for this important insight. Rather all of your videos are so unique and are directly addressing issues faced by present generations. Thanks. Keep it up. God Bless you. Amen.
Thank you so much brother. ~MM
love what you say @13:00 about the ridiculousness of claiming to become more spiritual through drug (ab)use. also, saying that inner emptiness is the unawareness of being filled with the presence of god really impressed me. thank you
This is the best I've ever heard explained. Thank you. I will now get better. I'm healing from narrsistic abuse. I am going to watch you every day. Boundaries are hard for me, but now learning.
Way to go Tina! narcissistic behavior is absolutely crazy making. I have identified many of those traits within myself and am committed to changing.
@@MasterEdge7 Thank you, Edgar, from all of us!
I've already listened to many codependency recovery videos here, but your perspective is unique. Thank you for this. And you are beautiful😅
How do I learn to love myself? And not be afraid of relationships and rejection?
Start imagining what you want from life and love, then imagine what you would have that if magically could securely have anything. Then realize magically you can have anything if you believe it. In Gods eyes we really are equally made and loved, and it’s the programming you received when you were too young to know your programmers were broken people. Go with in and know yourself, then recognize the lies that were programmed and rewrite the programming you want. 💜 I’m learning too.
It is the hardest thing I have ever done and the best thing I have ever done. Love is unconditional. Accept that God made you, and he does not make errors. Look at the good that you do, and do good things for yourself. The things you wish others would do. Give yourself time daily. Flowers. Bubble bath, walk, ice cream. Prayer. Meditation.
You are WORTH IT!
Thank you, Michael, it makes a lot of sense. Great respect for bringing God into the relationship - so true. Wish us all true love!
Funny how codependency is what leads people to be addicts of food, drugs, alcohol, etc. You are right. The issue is the codependency. Let us HEAL the codependency and the other addictions will likely decline naturally.
That is it exactly!!! ~MM
Michael so many aha moments in watching your video. I've been trying to understand and heal codependency for awhile now and you explained it in the simplest way that makes the most sense of I've ever heard. I feel it's filled in the missing pieces I've been looking for. Deeply grateful for your sharing.
I had to get to a place where I was ready to hear this. Thank you!
I’m so grateful for this video right now, you just don’t understand! This was/is a blessing to me. THANK YOU SO MUCH!
It make sense , anything that goes out ,& reaches out with good intention is priceless .
I like your style, man. I’m going through a rather confusing time and this talk helped. Glad I’ve found your channel, your advice resonates. Bless
simply said! thankyou! blessings for passing this on~
Everything I've been led to watch has been so timely, including finding you randomly and loving every second of it. Thank you for your light!
You are so welcome! Thanks for the great feedback. ~MM
Omg, for me too! 🎉❤😊
That is quite true ...no one really knows how to pull themselves out of a toxic relationship when they are codependent
Wow! I thought I was the only one who saw it like that. The huge epidemic codependence. Feels reassuring that is acknowledged.
Possibly the most helpful video I’ve ever been guided to. Thank you for this, I appreciate you 🤍
Glad it was helpful! Thank you for the kind feedback. ~MM
Life changing!! I needed this beautiful breakdown.. thank you for taking the time to make this, i am so greatful!
I am very grateful for coming across your channel. Thank you for sharing your insight.
and I? for all precious and beautiful "truth seekers"! (always grateful)
This gives new meaning to the term: hand-waving. Thank you for your consistency of the *three* *in* *one* through the explanation of this multi-layered topic.