It’s important to think about this before you get into a relationship so that you don’t comprises your standards and values for a relationship. Thinking with your emotions alone is dangerous. I made a lot of bad choices in relationships because I didn’t love myself and I didn’t have standards. This is why I’m so passionate about teaching women about self-love and relationships via my UA-cam channel. Great video Tony!
I know .. I think with my mind and Ive been alone almost forever .. I don’t Think I could share a toilet tbh I can’t go to the toilet if people Are Around ..
Flirting with other women, perverse language, watching perverse videos, playing games, or not respecting for any reason. Manipulation with gaslighting, ghosting, etc.
@@ashleycbla Yes, and that doesn’t mean he needs to be perfect, for we all slip a bit, but any consistent disrespect, that is not acceptable. Goes both ways.
@@wagendorf31 Yep there’s levels to it I guess. Everyone deserves a second chance, but if they don’t learn from it and keep doing it then he/she is taking advantage of your kindness for weakness and using it against you.
Deal breakers: inability to communicate effectively, Smoking cigarettes or drugs, verbal, mental or physical abuse, any kind of disrespect...I've left men right off the rip for all of the above...Non-negotiable!✌🙋♀️
CHEATING IS A NON-NEGOTIABLE. ABSOLUTE DEAL BREAKER. Sex with someone else puts my life jeopardy. Diseases are possibly non-reversible. I don't see cheating as a MISTAKE I see it as a concerted EFFORT AND CHOICE. You are fully cognizant of this choice.
I actually met a man who was an absolute dream....AT FIRST...things went down hill fast. I cut him off quick. I was only able to do that because of tony gaskins teaching me to set my standards HIGH! ❤️❤️ Glory to God for tony gaskins.
Well now, the first time you ignore any "RED FLAGS".....Is the day your relationship goes to H3LL!! HE/SHE has lost all RESPECT for you. Very hard to come back from this. DO NOT IGNORE THE "RED FLAGS" Periodtt!!!
I'm gonna post this again.. Don't lower your standards, but you will have to lower your expectations of others or you will always be disappointed! 💯. Just know you will be disappointed at some time with someone. How you thoughtfully move through these moments will be more manageable for you emotionally in a long term partner. Stop associating love with compromise.
I have an issue with differentiating the difference between standards and expectations. I find myself lowering my standards and my expectations be sky high.
I will answer the question before watching: Non believer, no relationship with God, doesn't try to live as Christ Cheating Lying Cheap/broke/bad credit Doesn't like pets (my dog is my baby and is going no where)! Excessive # of kids No sense of humor Doesn't respect my opinion Wow, I just described my ex husband, 😕 Now on to the video...
@@earthreign keep your standards. You will meet that guy trust me. Believe you are worth having a guy who has a good sense of humor. The same I want a man who knows how to manage his anger, cause I cannot accept and tolerate men with anger or temper issues. If someone tells me the same thing this person is saying that now my standards are too high cause I don't want a guy who has anger issues, that now I need to compromise on that? Nope cause I know the type of men I want are out here.
You can be the best man any girl could ever want, do everything that any girl would want, but if you can't be honest when you know you did something wrong and cannot ever be a man and tell the truth then you made your bed, I can take a person that tells the truth when they mess up but a person that try to put it on the person who never did anything, may be a psychopath!
My thing is it becomes a deal breaker after I've talked to him about the situation multiple times and he keeps doing the same thing. To me that says he doesn't value my feelings and won't compromise or try to change the behavior. I had an ex that used to work in a factory and would wear filthy work books on our light carpet, I addressed it multiple times and it continued 🙅🏾♀️
💯 best advice I ever received was... Don't lower your standards but you will have to lower your expectations otherwise you will always be disappointed in others!
Any sort of violence should be a deal-breaker for any and everyone; that includes women abusing men (and I'm a woman speaking here). I don't care how light the "slap" is, violence isn't just about the physical damage it does to someone. It plays on their mind by affecting their self-worth and self-esteem, impacting multiple aspects of their lives.
At this point he has to be Jesus Christ himself to get with me, so done with adding basic stuff to my list: no lying, no violence, etc. Common sense isnt common sense anymore 🥴
This! When did cleanliness, chivalry, empathy, compassion, honesty, integrity, character, good hygiene, ambition, work ethic, organization, ability to read, write, compute, handle finances, have your basics together etc., not be standard issue? Sheesh😓
I do that. At work I wrap them in the new napkin’s packaging thennnn wrap it all in a paper towel and fold it like a burrito and I take a piece of scotch tape w me to tape the burrito. It’s a community bathroom and men do the housekeeping so I make sure there’s nothing but little burritos made of paper towels.
I've found that you can give thought to deal breakers and even think you know what they are but the truth is sometimes you don't really know what you're going to do until you get to that bridge. Oan, did he just start talking about streaks in the toilet? 🤣🤣🤣 And did he just say "Do you want to date Jesus?" 😂😂
I love listening to him! But let’s be honest love is not a rocket science. If you’re able to put your emotions to the side,you’ll be able to see things logically. It’s all up to you then,if what he is doing is within your boundaries,or not?Always stick to the ones that are more into you ( just a little more) then you’re into them. ( my momma taught me this.) Oh and of course: “ close your legs,as long as you can!”
Mr. Gaskins, if you see this comment , can you do a video about men who change when they're around their friends and family? He's one person when he's with his woman, then he's completely different when others are around. If you can address that topic, thank you in advance!
This whole conversation made me realize I am going to be so offended in a real relationship!!! When they say you have to leave your ego behind to make it work, they meant it.
@21:53 OMGGG I hollered!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 My mom was staying with me recently and she would flush the toilet 5-6 times in a row 2-3 times a day for no reason at all (due to her mental condition)! I promise you it URKED MEEE TO MY CORE!!! My water bill quadrupled 4 months straight! It’s been a week since she’s been gone out of my house, and I’m so grateful to be regaining my peace!! And a lower water bill that’ll be forthcoming going forward!! 🤣🤣🤣
The fastest way to take care of even little problems can be fixed with mirroring a person, their energy, and what they do. If I do the same thing they're doing, and they complain about it, then it makes me wonder how they can tolerate that behavior from themselves. I've had plenty of people walk into my life thinking they're getting a maid who's going to do everything for them. Once I start mirroring their energy, they can't get away fast enough, once they realize I'm not going to be their mommy they can sleep with. Now if I do the same thing they do, and they can fix the solution themselves without complaining to me about it (washing the dishes when they're all dirty), I know I've met my husband. And if I never meet my husband, I know I will be just fine being single forever. There are a few exceptions to this rule, such as, if your dirty laundry doesn't get in the hamper, then it doesn't get washed until you put it in the hamper, or you do your own wash. You just got to find what works for you, and weigh it out with your own needs.
Bro Tony am loving these back to back videos also thanks for being transparency with your life as always you do. With so much humor in the teaching to help digest the truth. I love your stories you tell us how your wife likes to play with you. Lol 😂😂
Thank God for balance ! This one particular part of the video I played about 4 to 5 time due to the fact I could not stop laughing Tony stated that he can lightly blow in his wife’s ear and she will come back with a leaf blower XJ 3000 or 3400 crank it up and industrial leaf blower for the highway😅😂🤣😁🤣😂😅
Growth When constantly evolving & you reflect on interaction w/ people the impulsive reaction they have is the honest one. Take it & run w/ it. You will save so much time & anguish no compromise.Verbal abuse is an alternative for physical abuse. Subliminal jab lower your own self esteem unconsciously.
Tony I'm a widow ...had a wonderful friend /husband...he did the cooking because he was better at it... some of these behaviors are deal breakers but talk about everything.... before commitment.
Really good advice, to be patient with your lover, and leave some room for error👍🏽I love the stories about you and your wife. Not the industrial grade leaf blower😂 And throwing all your clothes in the pool, hilarious! She’s bout it bout it!
I messed up and told an ex that I understand we all aren’t perfect. Well he started lying , I let it slide but I would check him every time. Then I started getting the feeling he was cheating, we already started drifting apart. Then we had an argument while he was drunk. I realized all that was not what I wanted to deal with so that was the last day we were together.
True Story: I had a 21yo relative staying with me for 3 months (rent free) last year but it seemed 😅 like 6 months. Her only chore was to clean the bathroom she used ( for obvious reasons.) Soiled sanitary overnite pads was left one the bathroom counter, in the bathroom trash can unwrapped, red stains on the toliet seat, toilet bowl, toilet handle and bathroom floor. It made my son sick to his stomach because he'd never experience that before. I cleaned the bathroom when I checked and found issues. I had several conversations with her concerning this matter, even asked her to put her used sanitary pads in the big trash can, not the bathroom. I discussed the need for a physical exam because the frequency and flow was concerning in spite of being a virgin, she needed a physical exam compounded by the fact she had gained about a 100 pounds over a 2 year period. Even suggested talking with a doctor if she was depressed about something. She was using incontinent pads and that wasn't typical for a young lady. It only got worse. I came home from work on my birthday and noticed a green towel spreaded the bathroom floor. I asked my son about it (because she was at work), he said he didn't do it. Of course not, he's clean and organized. So as I'm picking the towel up, I notice red stains! I looked closer and became 38 hot 😡😡😡😡. Red stains all over both sides of the towel. I immediately tossed the towel then clean and mopped my bathroom and floor. I didn't mention the towel incident. The last straw was on the Anniversary of my mother's sunset. I returned home from running errands. I noticed a white plastic bag on top of the dryer. It didn't belong there so I picked it and looked in it before tossing it, 🤬🤬🤬🤬. The plastic bag contained 2 very soiled soaked pads, one still inside the seat of super Soiled underwear. Apparently, the pads had been in the dirty clothing that she had piled near the laundry room. Just days before, my son put the clothes in a trash bag because the pile was growing. He said, the clothes smelled when he moved them but we had no idea... I asked her, what was she going to do with the bag? She responded, "I guess throw it away." She had washed clothes that morning while I was running errands. I asked her, why didn't she throw it away at the time she took it off? **birds chirping** I asked her, if she had cleaned the bathroom? She scrolled down her cellphone, never looking up at me or talking with me. I snapped 😳. I told her, she had until the end of the month, she had to go. I asked her, Did I do or say something to her? ** birds chirping**, she kept scrolling social media on her cellphone. I was perplexed by her behavior. I had done so much to help her over the years. I never charged a dime or asked for anything in return. We were so close until this point. We've texted a few times but haven't had face to face or verbal communication since that day. I was made out to be a villain. 🤷🏿♀️ She told my son, she didn't ever want to see me again.
Idk who raised her, but they should be ashamed of themselves. You did nothing wrong. If it was me, she would have been gone by the second time I noticed that the bathroom wasn’t clean.
Can you do a video on if a couple that believes in God should live together before marriage. I know that would promote fornication but how else would you know if you can live with the person and all their habits. I want to do the right thing but suppose he has habits or things that he does that are really hard to live with. I could really use your opinion. Thanks
I'm not Tony but...I think I can help. I say you should live with them before because like you said, how else would you know if you can live with the person and all their habits. Secondly, I don't think fornication refers to sex before marriage (don't @ me). Think about it...was their weddings in the bible? What I've read of it so far is that the men just saw the females and "knew" that was their wife. There wasn't any marriage...maybe a feast a few days later but that's after they already "went in" unto their wives after just meeting them that day. So, I would say do it, live with them and see what they are like in a home environment... Many people wait till marriage to sleep with and live with their partner but then after the wedding, they realise that the person isn't easy to live with, the sex is not pleasurable, etc and they end up in an 'unhappy' predicament which may then lead to adultery... Soooo...test the waters but DEFINITELY pray about it. Hope I helped and it wasn't too confusing💖💖
Could you give an example of what might be so bad? I think he kind of touched on normal habits with examples given late in the video (leaving dirty dishes, clothes, etc.)… I’d like to think any habits much worse than those would be revealed by some impromptu visits earlier in the relationship.
Some of these deal-breakers in these comments, tho! I wish that's all I had to worry about 😂😂 I think the bigger question though, is once there have been multiple offenses, how do we reinforce these deal-breakers in a way that lets them know our doormat days are over, since they obviously didn't get it the first x amount of times?
😂😂😂😂😂 this is how I like to play…. Outside of the dirty diaper 🥴 I knew I liked Mrs. Gaskins! 😂☺️ This was a good video that gave me a lot to think about…. Thank you Mr. Gaskins. Be blessed!
Violence is an absolute dealbreaker for me
Super Amen!
It’s important to think about this before you get into a relationship so that you don’t comprises your standards and values for a relationship. Thinking with your emotions alone is dangerous. I made a lot of bad choices in relationships because I didn’t love myself and I didn’t have standards. This is why I’m so passionate about teaching women about self-love and relationships via my UA-cam channel. Great video Tony!
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! WORDS OF WISDOM! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JULY2021
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Preach!!!
I know .. I think with my mind and Ive been alone almost forever .. I don’t Think I could share a toilet tbh I can’t go to the toilet if people
Are Around ..
If you start letting small things slide , they will eventually become big‼️ I’m not with it🤷🏽♀️
Truth
Flirting with other women, perverse language, watching perverse videos, playing games, or not respecting for any reason. Manipulation with gaslighting, ghosting, etc.
Yup all of these💯
So basically any disrespectful behavior that he wouldn’t want you doing to him.
@@ashleycbla Yes, and that doesn’t mean he needs to be perfect, for we all slip a bit, but any consistent disrespect, that is not acceptable. Goes both ways.
@@wagendorf31 Yep there’s levels to it I guess. Everyone deserves a second chance, but if they don’t learn from it and keep doing it then he/she is taking advantage of your kindness for weakness and using it against you.
@@ashleycbla Exactly! We can sense the inconsistency of their motives.
Deal breakers: inability to communicate effectively, Smoking cigarettes or drugs, verbal, mental or physical abuse, any kind of disrespect...I've left men right off the rip for all of the above...Non-negotiable!✌🙋♀️
CHEATING IS A NON-NEGOTIABLE. ABSOLUTE DEAL BREAKER. Sex with someone else puts my life jeopardy. Diseases are possibly non-reversible. I don't see cheating as a MISTAKE I see it as a concerted EFFORT AND CHOICE. You are fully cognizant of this choice.
It’s scary how Tony makes the right videos at the right time.
Very scary. However it’s God using him to speak to our hearts that needs confirmation from God.
He is psychic and he knows it.
Angie Amen
Lying, cheating, hunting, smoking, mama's boy, not having my back, violence, emotional abuse spendaholic, cheapskate, alcoholic, gambler, womanizer. Simple.
I actually met a man who was an absolute dream....AT FIRST...things went down hill fast.
I cut him off quick.
I was only able to do that because of tony gaskins teaching me to set my standards HIGH! ❤️❤️
Glory to God for tony gaskins.
Wooo, GIRL!!! I'm so grateful the game has been EXPOSED. Level up your life. ❤️❤️❤️ So proud you were able to set him aside. ❤️🙌
Super Amen! Way to go Sister! God has the right one. 🙏💙💙💙🙏
Well now, the first time you ignore any "RED FLAGS".....Is the day your relationship goes to H3LL!! HE/SHE has lost all RESPECT for you. Very hard to come back from this. DO NOT IGNORE THE "RED FLAGS" Periodtt!!!
Oh boy! U dont even wanna get me started on deal breakers. Mines look like a college term paper. Lol!😁
right!😩
I'm gonna post this again..
Don't lower your standards, but you will have to lower your expectations of others or you will always be disappointed! 💯. Just know you will be disappointed at some time with someone. How you thoughtfully move through these moments will be more manageable for you emotionally in a long term partner. Stop associating love with compromise.
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@@aaliyahs9594 🙏❤️
Absolutely
I have an issue with differentiating the difference between standards and expectations. I find myself lowering my standards and my expectations be sky high.
I have 0 tolerance for ANYTHING disrespectful, inappropriate, vile & rude behavior, point blank period!
I have to say this singleness life is not so bad when I hear this type of video 😂
Your wife is a fun woman! I love that about her personality.
I will answer the question before watching:
Non believer, no relationship with God, doesn't try to live as Christ
Cheating
Lying
Cheap/broke/bad credit
Doesn't like pets (my dog is my baby and is going no where)!
Excessive # of kids
No sense of humor
Doesn't respect my opinion
Wow, I just described my ex husband, 😕
Now on to the video...
@@earthreign keep your standards. You will meet that guy trust me. Believe you are worth having a guy who has a good sense of humor. The same I want a man who knows how to manage his anger, cause I cannot accept and tolerate men with anger or temper issues. If someone tells me the same thing this person is saying that now my standards are too high cause I don't want a guy who has anger issues, that now I need to compromise on that? Nope cause I know the type of men I want are out here.
You can be the best man any girl could ever want, do everything that any girl would want, but if you can't be honest when you know you did something wrong and cannot ever be a man and tell the truth then you made your bed, I can take a person that tells the truth when they mess up but a person that try to put it on the person who never did anything, may be a psychopath!
My thing is it becomes a deal breaker after I've talked to him about the situation multiple times and he keeps doing the same thing. To me that says he doesn't value my feelings and won't compromise or try to change the behavior. I had an ex that used to work in a factory and would wear filthy work books on our light carpet, I addressed it multiple times and it continued 🙅🏾♀️
Women and men let ALOT of things slide when that attraction is on point..
Girllllll, like I wish u cud see me expression rn 💯💯💯
"We go in, and we are imperfect expecting perfection." TG
💯 best advice I ever received was... Don't lower your standards but you will have to lower your expectations otherwise you will always be disappointed in others!
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Any sort of violence should be a deal-breaker for any and everyone; that includes women abusing men (and I'm a woman speaking here). I don't care how light the "slap" is, violence isn't just about the physical damage it does to someone. It plays on their mind by affecting their self-worth and self-esteem, impacting multiple aspects of their lives.
Yay! Tony. I’m so glad you just posted a video. I definitely needed to hear this right now.
Me too da be REAL😩
At this point he has to be Jesus Christ himself to get with me, so done with adding basic stuff to my list: no lying, no violence, etc. Common sense isnt common sense anymore 🥴
This! When did cleanliness, chivalry, empathy, compassion, honesty, integrity, character, good hygiene, ambition, work ethic, organization, ability to read, write, compute, handle finances, have your basics together etc., not be standard issue? Sheesh😓
I wish I would've known about his videos years ago. An 8 year relationship.... ugh The key is BEFORE the relationship.
A suggestion is to wrap 'the monthly visitor' in the wrapper for the tissue paper. Wrap it in the wrapper of the pad and wrap it in tissue paper.
I do that. At work I wrap them in the new napkin’s packaging thennnn wrap it all in a paper towel and fold it like a burrito and I take a piece of scotch tape w me to tape the burrito. It’s a community bathroom and men do the housekeeping so I make sure there’s nothing but little burritos made of paper towels.
@@kam.kam. I like this. You are being considerate. Thank you for sharing.
A leaf blower vs blowing in the ear 🤣🤣🤣
I've found that you can give thought to deal breakers and even think you know what they are but the truth is sometimes you don't really know what you're going to do until you get to that bridge.
Oan, did he just start talking about streaks in the toilet? 🤣🤣🤣 And did he just say "Do you want to date Jesus?" 😂😂
"if I feel like getting a wedgie tonight" 😂😂😭😭😭
This was my favorite part 😭 🤣 😅😅
😂🤣😂 I didn’t expect this to be so funny but the ketchup, mustard and wedgie stories were hilarious 😆
I love listening to him! But let’s be honest love is not a rocket science. If you’re able to put your emotions to the side,you’ll be able to see things logically. It’s all up to you then,if what he is doing is within your boundaries,or not?Always stick to the ones that are more into you ( just a little more) then you’re into them. ( my momma taught me this.) Oh and of course: “ close your legs,as long as you can!”
Mr. Gaskins, if you see this comment , can you do a video about men who change when they're around their friends and family? He's one person when he's with his woman, then he's completely different when others are around. If you can address that topic, thank you in advance!
This whole conversation made me realize I am going to be so offended in a real relationship!!! When they say you have to leave your ego behind to make it work, they meant it.
“Real relationships” are very offensive. We definitely have to make sure we are secure within ourselves before taking that step
In the immortal words of Ashanti “ all the things that we accept be the things that we regret” (neg things that is) 😂
😂🤣😭.... why do men think they don't stink in the bathroom??😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
@21:53 OMGGG I hollered!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 My mom was staying with me recently and she would flush the toilet 5-6 times in a row 2-3 times a day for no reason at all (due to her mental condition)! I promise you it URKED MEEE TO MY CORE!!! My water bill quadrupled 4 months straight! It’s been a week since she’s been gone out of my house, and I’m so grateful to be regaining my peace!! And a lower water bill that’ll be forthcoming going forward!! 🤣🤣🤣
Respect is the best thing in the world. You'll are truly Blessed.
The fastest way to take care of even little problems can be fixed with mirroring a person, their energy, and what they do.
If I do the same thing they're doing, and they complain about it, then it makes me wonder how they can tolerate that behavior from themselves.
I've had plenty of people walk into my life thinking they're getting a maid who's going to do everything for them. Once I start mirroring their energy, they can't get away fast enough, once they realize I'm not going to be their mommy they can sleep with. Now if I do the same thing they do, and they can fix the solution themselves without complaining to me about it (washing the dishes when they're all dirty), I know I've met my husband.
And if I never meet my husband, I know I will be just fine being single forever.
There are a few exceptions to this rule, such as, if your dirty laundry doesn't get in the hamper, then it doesn't get washed until you put it in the hamper, or you do your own wash. You just got to find what works for you, and weigh it out with your own needs.
Lmao Im crackin up at the get backs Sheree pull on him...Im the same way
I so relate to your experience with your wife being the opposite personality and you talking out to God like why God lol
Bro Tony am loving these back to back videos also thanks for being transparency with your life as always you do. With so much humor in the teaching to help digest the truth. I love your stories you tell us how your wife likes to play with you. Lol 😂😂
Thank God for balance ! This one particular part of the video I played about 4 to 5 time due to the fact I could not stop laughing Tony stated that he can lightly blow in his wife’s ear and she will come back with a leaf blower XJ 3000 or 3400 crank it up and industrial leaf blower for the highway😅😂🤣😁🤣😂😅
😆😆😆😆 Mrs Gaskins sounds like an EXTREMELY fun person
Growth
When constantly evolving & you reflect on interaction w/ people the impulsive reaction they have is the honest one. Take it & run w/ it. You will save so much time & anguish no compromise.Verbal abuse is an alternative for physical abuse. Subliminal jab lower your own self esteem unconsciously.
I needed to hear this‼️‼️‼️
Great talk Tony! 🙏🏼 You’re back on form with the funny stories! 😆😆😂😂🤣🤣
THIS IS SO GOOD TONY! Thank you!
I have alot pet peeves so I think I really need to think this through before I deal. God bless you Man of God for shedding light on this topic.
You must keep your deal breakers. No cheating period!! Done!
Cheating..having a baby outside the marriage...being unmotivated.
The stories had me laughing😂 lol Great video!
I have never had a problem with leaving a relationship. I have however taken exes back several years later 😒
Lol that's too funny.
I have done this. 😬
Tony I'm a widow ...had a wonderful friend /husband...he did the cooking because he was better at it... some of these behaviors are deal breakers but talk about everything.... before commitment.
Really good advice, to be patient with your lover, and leave some room for error👍🏽I love the stories about you and your wife. Not the industrial grade leaf blower😂 And throwing all your clothes in the pool, hilarious! She’s bout it bout it!
I have a separate trash under the cabinet for those personal things 😂
I messed up and told an ex that I understand we all aren’t perfect. Well he started lying , I let it slide but I would check him every time. Then I started getting the feeling he was cheating, we already started drifting apart. Then we had an argument while he was drunk. I realized all that was not what I wanted to deal with so that was the last day we were together.
This is a great information and food for 💭
That monthly thing 🩸 🚽 would really make my Dad mad 🤬 even a commercial about it at dinner 🍽️ time 😅
Mr. Gaskins, the faces you make on certain subjects is just too funny! However, you are always on point.
Have a wonderful day! 😂
Always be true to yourself and others. ♥️
1 child
2 child
3 child
4 child...i need to grow up- idk why this made me laugh
This might be my favorite video by far 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿. Your transparency is healing
People make mistakes. How they handle that mistake determines their character.
True Story: I had a 21yo relative staying with me for 3 months (rent free) last year but it seemed 😅 like 6 months. Her only chore was to clean the bathroom she used ( for obvious reasons.) Soiled sanitary overnite pads was left one the bathroom counter, in the bathroom trash can unwrapped, red stains on the toliet seat, toilet bowl, toilet handle and bathroom floor. It made my son sick to his stomach because he'd never experience that before. I cleaned the bathroom when I checked and found issues. I had several conversations with her concerning this matter, even asked her to put her used sanitary pads in the big trash can, not the bathroom. I discussed the need for a physical exam because the frequency and flow was concerning in spite of being a virgin, she needed a physical exam compounded by the fact she had gained about a 100 pounds over a 2 year period. Even suggested talking with a doctor if she was depressed about something. She was using incontinent pads and that wasn't typical for a young lady. It only got worse. I came home from work on my birthday and noticed a green towel spreaded the bathroom floor. I asked my son about it (because she was at work), he said he didn't do it. Of course not, he's clean and organized. So as I'm picking the towel up, I notice red stains! I looked closer and became 38 hot 😡😡😡😡. Red stains all over both sides of the towel. I immediately tossed the towel then clean and mopped my bathroom and floor. I didn't mention the towel incident. The last straw was on the Anniversary of my mother's sunset. I returned home from running errands. I noticed a white plastic bag on top of the dryer. It didn't belong there so I picked it and looked in it before tossing it, 🤬🤬🤬🤬. The plastic bag contained 2 very soiled soaked pads, one still inside the seat of super Soiled underwear. Apparently, the pads had been in the dirty clothing that she had piled near the laundry room. Just days before, my son put the clothes in a trash bag because the pile was growing. He said, the clothes smelled when he moved them but we had no idea... I asked her, what was she going to do with the bag? She responded, "I guess throw it away." She had washed clothes that morning while I was running errands. I asked her, why didn't she throw it away at the time she took it off? **birds chirping** I asked her, if she had cleaned the bathroom? She scrolled down her cellphone, never looking up at me or talking with me. I snapped 😳. I told her, she had until the end of the month, she had to go. I asked her, Did I do or say something to her? ** birds chirping**, she kept scrolling social media on her cellphone. I was perplexed by her behavior. I had done so much to help her over the years. I never charged a dime or asked for anything in return. We were so close until this point. We've texted a few times but haven't had face to face or verbal communication since that day. I was made out to be a villain. 🤷🏿♀️ She told my son, she didn't ever want to see me again.
Idk who raised her, but they should be ashamed of themselves. You did nothing wrong. If it was me, she would have been gone by the second time I noticed that the bathroom wasn’t clean.
Wow you are a good cousin. You remind me of my mum. Continue being kind the right ones will appreciate.
@@centykaia4450 Thank you!
He said “if I feel like getting beat up tonight…” 😂
Thanks Tony, You are on
point with this
Message!
I definitely needed to hear this today😊👌🏾🙌🏾
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So funny his wife giving him a wedgie ! She’s not to be messed with, 😆.
Industrial leaf blower OMG laughing out loud
Wow you made this in perfect time !!! I needed to see this !!🕊🕊 thank you Uncle Tony !
Can you do a video on if a couple that believes in God should live together before marriage. I know that would promote fornication but how else would you know if you can live with the person and all their habits. I want to do the right thing but suppose he has habits or things that he does that are really hard to live with. I could really use your opinion. Thanks
I'm not Tony but...I think I can help. I say you should live with them before because like you said, how else would you know if you can live with the person and all their habits. Secondly, I don't think fornication refers to sex before marriage (don't @ me). Think about it...was their weddings in the bible? What I've read of it so far is that the men just saw the females and "knew" that was their wife. There wasn't any marriage...maybe a feast a few days later but that's after they already "went in" unto their wives after just meeting them that day. So, I would say do it, live with them and see what they are like in a home environment... Many people wait till marriage to sleep with and live with their partner but then after the wedding, they realise that the person isn't easy to live with, the sex is not pleasurable, etc and they end up in an 'unhappy' predicament which may then lead to adultery... Soooo...test the waters but DEFINITELY pray about it. Hope I helped and it wasn't too confusing💖💖
Could you give an example of what might be so bad? I think he kind of touched on normal habits with examples given late in the video (leaving dirty dishes, clothes, etc.)… I’d like to think any habits much worse than those would be revealed by some impromptu visits earlier in the relationship.
If you are okay with the consequences, then go ahead. But remember the consequences of such things are always expensive.
@@centykaia4450 truth
Listening.
You’re hilarious, but thank you for this much needed message!
Tony cheating isn’t random!
You're so on point Tony much needed message Thank You!!
Lying is a deal breaker
THIS IS TRUE....WE ALL KNOW GOD IS A GOD OF 2ND CHANCES....AND WE ON OUR 10TH CHANCE...😂😂😂😂😭😭😭....SMH
Some of these deal-breakers in these comments, tho! I wish that's all I had to worry about 😂😂 I think the bigger question though, is once there have been multiple offenses, how do we reinforce these deal-breakers in a way that lets them know our doormat days are over, since they obviously didn't get it the first x amount of times?
One and Done....is what most ppl say
Im here for the bathroom comments 🚽😩😂 like who finna leave u cause yo 🚽🤭 😂😂😂😂😷? Lmbo
Yay! Another video 😊😊
🤣🤣🤣 Tony that's called living!! That's her child inside her. ☝🏽She is healthy emotionally. So many people had killed that tiny child. 💕🙏🏽
I feel you. What I can handle might break the next lover’s relationship. Understood.
😂😂😂😂😂 this is how I like to play…. Outside of the dirty diaper 🥴 I knew I liked Mrs. Gaskins! 😂☺️ This was a good video that gave me a lot to think about…. Thank you Mr. Gaskins. Be blessed!
THE SOILED DIAPER😭😂
That would be a huge no-no for myself. Just because I've had OSHA training and know too much about biohazardous waste.
Tony you guys be having fun.
😂 I loved the stories of your wife playing. Too funny! That made my morning.
May you and your family’s blessings overflow for all the help you give all of us! God Bless! Ty
Thanks TG
Thank you 🙏
Yesss I love your wife’s personality. She glows 🥰😇
Greetings everyone
😂😂😂 @ "she gone get the leaf blower" 🤣🤣
Open my sinuses all the way up ..hollering😂
Mrs Gaskins is here for allll the smoke 😂😂😂
So technically, you get her started😆
I feel like this but it’s my kids 😞😩😩
Hello
Remind me to take theses boxes.🤣
"...here I'm is on lie number 12 ..."😂😂😂
Lmaooooooo when Tony got the wiff in the air 😅🤣
A leaf blower?!....Sherriiiiii lol
Don't forget those boxes Tony! Lol