12 Suggestions for Dealing with Grief and Loss
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
- Counselor Carl (serenityonlinet...) offers 12 suggestions for coping with grief and loss, which can leave grievers feeling lost, confused, and disoriented. He states that grief is not what we expect it to be and self-care is most important in navigating the rocky waters of a major loss. He offers a roadmap for how to deal and cope with grief while stressing the importance of not trying to grieve alone. He explains how to turn suffering into sacred pain and love. Counselor Carl's straight-forward teaching style makes complex concepts easy to understand. Counselor Carl is a licensed, professional counselor with 19 years of clinical experience both online and face-to-face.
I lost my wife and my daughter, its been a mess. sending love to anyone out here who is hurting. its not easy.Most days I dont even know who I am anymore without them
God bless you brother..
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Try and get your loving friends around you. I have great supportive friends over here in Scotland. Blessings pal.
Hey bro. My name is tj. My mom who was 46 just passed away. I am 33
She had me at 14 yes old. She ws never ever there for me and any attempts that I made as an adult were shot down by her. I hated her so much. But I loved her just as much only a bit more. The only thing I ever wanted in my life was a relationship with her and to know she loved me. Now she's gone and I'm not sure if she ever did. And now she never can. I need peoe in my circle. Maybe you can offer me advice?
Prayers
The gift of grief is that we know we have loved and been loved
That’s so true. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?
Thank you
Wow that is very true.
Great way of looking at it, very positive.
@@richardmcguinn732 ❤️
I just lost my mom 3 weeks ago, she was the only person in my life we did everything together and she was there for me I miss you so much mom
Hi Cori. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved mother.
Rest in peace Sarah, I love and miss you. im trying honey so hard. I just cant seem to be ok
I'm sorry sorry, I lost my mom 5 months ago ,I've tried all the steps and I'm still in pain. I pray God gives you the strength to get through this, I promise you will be ok.🙏
@@lydialombardo5606 linda my mom passed 4 yrs ago. The first year is iike being the fires of hell with grief. My advice is stay near to loved ones. Lean on people. Now its been 4yrs. I lean on less people but i still miss her like crazy. I try and celebrate her life than her death. Stay safe. Be kind to yrself xx
I'm so sorry. May God bless you and your family always🙏😢
Mike how are you holding up since posting 2 yrs ago? I found out that it's not okay to not be okay. No one will ever know or understand what you are personally enduring. Have you received any kind of bereavement support or theapy? May you find comfort and encouragement for each new day. I lost my pops couple weeks ago and it's a never-ending nightmare for me. I'm glad for this video.
@@djmgoblue it’s not been easy. The anniversary of her passing is in two days. No I really haven’t but I’ve been very active in my healing via reading and studying. Thank you for checking in on me
Lost my partner suddenly six months ago. I had just turned 30 and we were planning on getting married next year. I am devastated. I quit my job because I don’t function like I used to and I don’t know what matters to me anymore. Who am I without him? What could possibly bring me joy? Lots of people around me are suggesting it’s time I find a new job, or take a class or try a new hobby. But they don’t understand that grief has consumed my brain. I am exhausted from fighting the memories of watching him die and trying to figure out where I go from here. It’s hard to do anything. I wish someone could tell me how proud they are that I’m still walking through life with this unbearable pain. Instead I find they are uncomfortable with my sadness and feel the need to fix it. I know it comes from a place of love but it’s not helpful, it makes me feel like I’m grieving incorrectly. This video is full of so many good reminders to just do what we can to survive. I hope anyone reading this knows that I am so proud of you for clicking on this video and doing something to nurture your pain. You are surviving the terribleness like a warrior. Fighting for healing when it feels like there’s no point. I’m with you and I love you.
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved partner, Kaleigh. Thank you for sharing.
I recently lost my mom the grief is unending..I am very blessed to have had wonderful mother like her in my life..I pray I will see her again someday..thank you sir for sharing this video.
you are lucky to have had a good Mom. My Mom died 6 months ago but she was not a good Mom, I guess I grieved while she was alive, she was so narcisstic and uncaring. Believe me you were blessed. I am sure it would be painful to have lost a good Mom.
Me too.
I can relate, it’s just never ending awful.
I understand you, we are blessed to have had wonderful mother in our life, I miss her unconditional pure love, my happiness depended on her love.
So sorry for your loss. ❤
I lost my daughter six months ago. Your video is the first thing I've found that actually makes sense to me. Thank you.
Dee Dimeo Pruitt I know you posted this a while back but how are you doing?
I am so sorry about your daughter. How old was she?
I’m so sorry honey.. hugggsss
Shiianne D I’m so sorry honey!!! Huggggssss
I feel for your loss of your daughter! May God bless and keep you! I have lost my entire family due to my generosity to help a granddaughter and she took complete advantage of me and I had just lost my husband in March of 2020.
I lost my husband six months ago it's like am in a dream, having him beside me this minutes and all of a sudden he does not exist anymore. The pain is so unbearable. He was my bestfriend and my companion. I am so loss, sad and empty. I remember him as being the sweetest person I ever known. Rest in peace my love.
Hi, Veronica. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband.
Hope you’ve found peace , comfort and happiness again Veronica?
Man when I read these stories from so many of you going through this I get choked up cause I feel exactly the same way.
Just keeping busy and plugging along in survival mode.
I’m a little over two months in and i have my good moments and bad moments.
It really helps to have friends and family to talk to.
My best friend died yesterday. I woke up this morning feeling like I’ve been hit by a bus. My brain isn’t working and my body is aching from top to bottom. I can hardly focus to write this comment. I feel like I’ve been pushed under water and am fighting to stay afloat. This video helped. I will make decisions for the next several days on what I need to do right now. Thinking ahead is not possible. On foot in front of the other. I can do that. Thank you
You're welcome, Jennifer. I am so sorry for the loss of your best friend.
I know the feeling of loosing a dear friend. After the loss, now you have to travel life by yourself. 😢. It's okay. We live and learn.
Talk to someone, shower and sleep. That's what I've been doing
I just lost the love of my life: my wife and my son. I don't know how life will go on but I got 2 boys, 11 & 8, and I'll be keep going for them.
Hi, Shariq. I am so sorry for your tragic losses.
I lost my sister and don't know how to live anymore. She is my guide and light in my life, now I am just lost
Hi Sibel. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved sister.
It seems that dealing with grief is something we all need learn. And this one skill I would not like to have to learn.
Exactly, it is an essential skill that totally sucks to learn.
I don't know that it is a skill set. We all have coping strategies all ready to go. We just need space to discover what our own are, and they will be different for different people. There is no "one size fits all" approach. For example, if you're an introvert you are unlikely to respond to group therapy or even to a one on one therapy. Some people like myself will respond better to solitude and reflection without the threat and unease of sharing. Other people need to indulge in an activity their lost one loved to connect with their grief. It's different for everyone.
I’ll never get over losing my mom. She was my only friend and the only person that loved me. I’m walking around in a dark world that I want out of so badly.
I’m so sorry, I understand, I just lost my Mom 4 days ago, and I am completely devastated 😭🙏🏼
Im going through grief right now and your advice have been helpful. Thank you for this. Grief is a such a lonely journey, even though there are others that are grieving with you, it's such a subjective and solo path to walk on.
I recently lost my little sister to cancer. This video really helped.
I am so sorry for your loss. My sister also had cancer and passed away a week ago.
I lost my grandma almost 6 years ago, and it’s really starting to hit me again, this is exactly what I needed
Lost my grandmother, she’s was everything to me. Sending you love.
My heart goes out to all of you. I lost my grandmother 10 years ago. She was my best friend biggest cheerleader confidant my reason for living. The 1st year was hard. The second harder. My grief sent me spiraling into a deep depression I caught all kinds of illness ended up in a medicinal semi coma could only get up to go to the bathroom and back to bed I went. Finally 2 and a half years ago I got strong enough to go back to work at first 6 months part time. When COVID almost took my husband I forced myself into full time. It's been a challenge but I thank God everyday for my progress. There's still a long way to go. One hour and 1 day at a time is all the advice I have for you. Know that it has a purpose some day you will be able to help guide someone through their pain and suffering. Look for your loved ones encouragement to continue in your daily lives. For me 1 of the signs was the color purple in any shade especially lilac that would be a kiss from Heaven from my "GranJefa"
I love that "Gran Jefa"....My grandfather passed away a month ago and I can't deal with it. I miss him so much, I can't believe I'll never see him or hear his voice again. He was like my second father, sometimes the first one. Why is life like this 😭😭😭😭😭
I have learned that self-care is one of the most important things. Sometimes, you have to realize the hopelessness in a situation in order to get to the acceptance stage. You cannot change others; only yourself and by learning to let go of the struggle to try to change anything or anybody, that will be the key to moving on and learning to live in the present and to fight for the future. The past cannot be changed. Sometimes not caring anymore is a way to emotionally detach yourself from a painful situation. Trying to find meaning or a silver lining in your suffering is also important. Taking life one day at a time is also a good coping strategy. Accepting that life is not easy is another coping strategy. Lowering your standards and expectations in life also helps too.
Very wise words. Thanks for sharing them!
Any advise on how to grief for family that inmigrated for their safety. As soon as i"feel" better something small will remind me that i can no longer pop up the road and see my loved ones. I wont be part of my grandchildrens lifes. We have always been a very close family and i dread the thought of birthdays and Christmas.
I agree wholeheartedly with your remarks.. stepping out of the crazy merry--go-round, letting go of hurt, allowing to nurture myself..that's my goal, all with God's help🙏
this helped for the loss of my cat that I really loved
JamesTubeHD I'm glad the video helped in coping with the loss of your precious cat. They are family members, too.
Same. Love you Jazzy, I miss you
I don’t know how I’ll be when I lose my dogs.
My heart is with you. From one pet Guardian to another.
I'm here because i lost my great aunt yesterday. She was 94 years old but she brought me and my sister up. She was the strong one in my family, the one i ran to in times of trouble, or to tell good news to. She was there every step of the way. I was there to hold her hand when she took her last breath...I will always miss her, i can't believe she will never be in my life again...Yesterday, my heart broke into a million pieces :-(
I am so sorry for your loss.
Bugszy buns in very sorry for your loss may god comfort you in your loss.
thank you. my mother just passed away.
David Nagley I'm sorry for your loss.
Hy sory about ur loss....my mom passed away three weeks ago how do u mange that
dineo mabotja By accepting that you have to go through a grieving process and practicing good self care. Using your supports. Learning about grief.
David Nagley Sorry for your loss. I know it has been a year since your loss, but I am sending positive vibes over the web for you!
My Granddad Passed Away
13TH OCT 2016
My Granny Anne Passed Away
18TH DEC 2013
I lost my lovely brave, kind mother 3 months ago. She was my best friend. I'm on a major emotional rollercoaster. Listening to your sympathetic advice, helped. I'm going to have some group bereavement counselling sessions next month. Thank you for 'being there'.
You're welcome! I'm sorry for the loss of your beloved mother.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy I trying cope without the love my life she been gone over 2 weeks my mum and dad sent me to talk to my aunt who lost her husband to cancer after i try hang myself they much I in pain and grieve for Megan she was the love my life and my best friend why they worried about and want open up about her ???.
@@michellelohde8683 Hi, Michelle. Please talk to your doctor about your suicidal thoughts, urges, and behaviors. There is professional help available for you. Please get the help you need.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy
Hi Counselor Carol,
My sweet baby girl stuffed dog Casy who has sadly passed away from her injury after her birth at the age of 13 year old Her injury was so bad after the doctor cut off the cord from me that she passed away I am carrying my sweet baby girl stuffed dog Casy's ashes in a glass floating heart locket necklace with me whenever I go I feel like my heart is going with her I am feeling so bad that I want to be with my stuffed dog Casy for the the last time I want to cry over her death every time I looked down at my glasse floating heart locket necklace with her ashes in it Please pray for me it really really hurt me still
Dear beautiful souls.
I just lost my little baby boy Saturday 3-26-22. I am in unbearable heartache and pain to the very core of my soul!💔😢😭 please pray🙏 sending love and light from my heart to yours❤🙌🌈💜
Hi, Bonnie. I am so sorry for the loss of your little baby boy.
sending love to you. i hope you are taking it one day at a time
I am so very very sorry wishing you so much love and comfort take care of yourself love and hugs
I’m sending you peace and love. Just came upon this video and started reading replies. God Bless your baby boy.
Thanks. I needed this right now while experiencing a breakdown. I lost my mother a few months back. She meant the world to me. I get out of breaths when I have moments of sudden realisation of her absence. It is as if I am waking up from deep slumber. Waking up to an ugly reality. Harder to accept when the heart does not want to accept just yet.
Hi, Nidhi. I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I'm glad you found support in my video. I wish you the best.
Me too ,I get panic attacks when I realize she is gone
Hello my friend.. I lost my mum 5 weeks ago today from covid.. my mum was my world.. I noticed reading your post that you were close to your mum aswel.. can I ask how your feeling 7months on? ❤
@@danielbiggs6085 Hi. I'm so sorry for your loss. It is insurmountable. Maybe we can connect over email? Mine is nidhibobal@gmail.com
@@danielbiggs6085 for me it's 5 weeks today ,since my mom is gone ,it seems surreal
I lost my best friend two days ago. He died suddenly, so has been a complete shock to everyone who loves him. I'm totally heartbroken and consumed by grief, I loved him very much and can't see a way out of this darkness. But thank you Carl, I will try to follow these steps.
Hi, Jo Jo. I am so sorry for the tragic death of your best friend. These steps are not so much to follow. Rather they will help you understand what you are going through.
I lost my brother he was 17 I lost my mom my dad many years ago and now my husband and also my dog I surrender all to Jesus. We are grieving and I am praying to God everyday. Thank you Jesus. Thank you for sharing Amen 🙏 God bless you all. Self care Amen 🙏
Amen. Jesus is the only way to find true peace in this world of sorrow and conflict. God bless you I am so thankful that you found Him!
Lost my brother two weeks ago I he was disabled for 27 yrs and was an active caregiver during those years there’s such a big empty space and realized how much my identity was wrapped up in caring for him
Hi, Elise. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved brother. A traumatic loss often causes us to find new meaning and purpose. I wish you the best.
Since the death of my boyfriend I month ago, I found this to be helpful with acceptance. This was taken from a mega pastor on grief; It's the DEATH of what we remember, and the END of what we had in mind
My grandmother died yesterday due to a heart attack and I've been going to her house ever since birth :( This video really helped. Thank you :)
Cher Morris I'm sorry for the loss of your grandmother! I'm glad my video was helpful.
You’re only the 2nd person to nail exactly what it is that ought to be universal answer for grief. My lovely wife Linda passed away Jan 4th of this year. It took months for one lady friend to tell me the truth - I will never get over it - which is of course the words I upmost despised - “get over it.” Enough said, thank you for your sincere words that did indeed comfort me💛
You're welcome, Daniel. I'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved wife.
Thank you for this video. It just popped up first when I opened UA-cam. I lost my dear mother quite suddenly recently. She had been very normal all day and then she had a massive haemorrhagic stroke in the evening. She was in the ICU for 10 days before she passed on. I am traumatized by the violence of her extreme pain and suffering. She was so sweet, innocent and gentle, saintly almost. She was my strength and my best friend. The images of her in pain, and later , in varying states of consciousness in those last few days keep haunting me when I close my eyes. I found your video compassionate. Will listen to it again .
Hi Prema. I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your mother. I'm glad you find some support in my video. I have a Playlist of videos on grief: ua-cam.com/play/PL_wjG-62KkuuQpQbo1wo-Vm22kQLase3G.html
Goodbye mom iloveyou I hope your in peace I thank God because she gave a mother like you it's never easy for me to lose you but you will always be in my heart mom. I miss you!
I'm still grieving the loss of my mom and my good friend 😔 I can't wish the pain away 💔 😪 .
I am so sorry for the loss of your mother and good friend.
OMG you say it so right! I feel like a stranger in a strange land. ~Annette
Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?
Lost my wife 18 months ago to covid i blame myself because i was supposed to protect her she was house bound and it was brought in from out side she suffered so much before she died in hospital. I can't forgive myself i miss her every day an d night. I loved her to bits and still do
My father died two weeks ago. I am so lost. Thank you for this video.
JoRanFu USA. I am sorry for your loss. I'm glad you found my video helpful.
Thank you. I lost my mum over a week ago and its such a sad surreal time. She was my best friend and I was always looking after her in her older years. I'm glad she's at peace but miss her company terribly. These steps are helping
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved mother.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy Thank you🙏
My son passed away three years ago. Heart attack. 27 years old. I’m angry. I feel overwhelmed with my loss. It doesn’t ever get better , it gets different
Hi, Lori. I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your son. You are right that in some respects we never "get over" the loss. However, we still can find our way back to living life fully in the here and now even as we continue to grieve. I wish you the best.
Thank you Carl. Colton’s bd is Aug 1st and the waves are crashing over me , getting stronger and stronger. Most days I’m drowning. My life as I knew it is over. I am no longer the person I once was.
@@spurrell1964 Usually the anticipation of the birthday is worse than the actual day. Still, it helps to plan for it by either doing something special to memorialize your son and doing something special for yourself to distract yourself from the anniversary. Yes, such a tragedy will change you, but from my experience grieving leads to growth, wisdom and a rethinking of our priorities.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy ... Thank you for those words if wisdom.
@@stephaniejernigan2069 You're welcome!
Thank you! 🙏 My best friend is suffering greatly and these tips will help tremendously. I cried listening to this, because I realized God brought me into my friend's life for such a time as this. 😍
You're welcome! I'm glad you found my video helpful. Best wishes!
I'm sorry but if there was a god he wouldnt have took my dear wife 3 months ago who i loved and still love today.
I'm trying to get a clear understanding of my emotions. I lost my dad suddenly 4 months ago. I took time off work and went back. Since, I've found it hard to function normally. Getting out of bed is a chore, work does not matter, (even though I'm my only source of income). I'm not dealing with this well. I want to live my life normally again. The 5 stages video seems to be what I feel, just not in order. I feel like I ask for help out loud and no one can hear me. I find your videos helpful.
Hi, Melissa. I am sorry for the loss of your father. Grieving a major loss takes time, mindfulness, patience, and acceptance, both of the process and the loss. We don't just snap out of it. However, if you are feeling stuck and it is significantly affecting your functioning, I would suggest seeing a grief counselor or joining a grief support group. Hospice generally offers grief support groups. Best wishes.
grief does not end
learnin it is a condition of copin adaptin is key..Talk to God...no one but God gets it...some can identify with u
but few can help
How are you doing now?
Thank you this video is helpful. I have experience the horrible feelings in the 12 steps. I lost my daughter a little over 6 months ago. There are times when I still can not believe she is gone. One day I feel a little better, the next day, not. I am praying for my faith to go stronger and for me to accept what I can not change. I spend too much of my time thinking about the past and what I could have and should have done.
Hi, Valerie. I am so sorry for the tragic death of your daughter. Here are two more videos that might help you understand the grieving process you are going through: ua-cam.com/video/TXHDAtk8cAI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/i1O0LgKap2A/v-deo.html.
My grandmother was diagnosed with Colon cancer a couple of days ago and according to the doctor, there is no alternative treatment.
It's especially fearful for me, since the last time someone I was close to died, I was extremely depressed and suicidal for around five years.
I'm over 20 years old now and I'm trying to prepare myself and avoid an emotional collapse. I'm also worrying over my mother, since she's begun to not eat or sleep as much as she should.
I'm thinking of us both learning how to crochet when we have the time to meet up (Grandma knew how and tried to teach us, but we didn't really pay attention) and I'm ordering an RPG game to play when I'm alone and taking a break from the process.
Hello. I am so sorry for your grandmother's serious illness. Distraction from overthinking the situation is helpful, but you also must allow yourself to grieve without obsessing on the loss for any longer than necessary. I would suggest that you find someone or some place where you can talk regularly about your grief, possibly a grief support group or a grief counselor. Hospice usually offers grief groups for free or inexpensively. They also sometimes offer individual therapy. And if you find yourself feeling overwhelmed and/or suicidal again, you should talk with your doctor about getting help. I wish you the best!
Thank dear man, these videos saved me, when I was walking through some of the most painful times in my life. Working through tremendous grief. Thanks for being gentle, kind and real
You're very welcome! I am glad you found my videos helpful. And thank you for your kind words!
I lost my uncle yesterday. He meant so much to me. Without him, I probably wouldn't be here today. He was an ER doctor and he's the one who started treatments for my brain tumor when I was a baby. He saved my life
I am sorry for the loss of your beloved uncle. He sounds like a remarkable man.
He really was. He had a heart of gold.
My grief is worse than ever after losing our son. Holding onto Jesus & looking fwd to Eternity. 😰🇦🇺
Hi, Sabah. I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your son.
Disorienting is right. Grief is such a beast of an emotion. I’m struggling to find direction or purpose, unsure of who I will be. 😢 The loss is so profound
I am so sorry for your loss, Rachel.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy Thank you 🙏🏻 My Mother passed 3 weeks ago, peacefully yet I’m still gutted + overwhelmed w/grief. Appreciate your kind words
@@raew5263 You're welcome, Rachel!
I recently loss my best friend back in April 2015 and I am currently seeing a grief counselor to help my deal with loss. Yes your suggestions that you listed are right on the dot. At times I still struggle and get emotional because I never would have thought that losing someone so early would hurt this much.
Edmond Yan I am sorry for your loss!
Edmond Yan I'm sorry for your loss, I know the feeling it hurts so badly.
I understand how you feel. There was a lady at my job that died back in January and I'm hurting too. I think about it every day.
yes grief no one can
experience it but u
...your own sadness
lonliness ..distress..
acceptin of the loss
can take your whole life time because there is no end to
grief once u accept then u are startin to understand there is no end to this struggle ..in the beginnin u feel there is an end to grief.. how is that possible when even in death there is no end. somethin happens beyond the grave however lg it takes. most of us do not grieve over evry one that
leaves...only certain
ones we grieve .its a deep feelin that u cannot pray it away
laugh it away..forget it away
cry it away work it away..or grieve it away.. it is there..it is a condition situation...reprieve
only by God's Grace
n Mercy.. the acceptance is understandin the process...the journey....the end is never cause u want
that person bac any day would be fine .
no one can tell u this because they only know how to
adapt adjust cope
endure .to accept
then it starts bac over.we continue to
grieve because the loss is in this life time..professionals
can only tell you how to grieve and
how it may lessen
but cannot tell u the duration of time it takes or when it leaves...can u get rid of the label widow ..it is who
u are... marry again
still was a widow.
🙏God Bless us
Rest In Peace dear friend
Erin. Thank you for your friendship and amazing children. I miss you!
I just lost my granddad on Saturday it has been the hardest thing in my life I've had to deal with I just can't stop crying I miss him so much and I'd do anything to bring him back but I suppose he's better off out your video helped me so much thanks a billion Carl
Rest in peace my only child Cody Mehlos. You were a wonderful human being!
huge help .. i was feeling bad for just taking time for myself after my brother past..thank you
Your suggestions make so much sense, I lost my baby girl,Two months ago and it is very PAINFUL,I will try all of your suggestions...Thank you ,I am very tired it FEELS like a rapid ROLLERCOASTER....
Hi, Curtistine. I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your daughter.
Thankyou, I found this very helpful after the loss of my daughter.
Jani Liebenberg. I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter.
I just lost my beloved mother unexpectedly on October 6 2022 and I'm heartbroken 😭💔. I feel a part of me was ripped apart. I'm praying to God for strength, healing, and resignation soon 🙏🏻✝️🕊️
Hi, Sunrise. I so sorry for the loss of your beloved mother.
I just lost my grandma 2 days ago, she was like my mother. This helped, thank you.
Elyssa. You're welcome. I am sorry for your loss.
I lost my son, steve he was 38 yo, I'm having a heck of a time, I'm lost, empty, crying all the time, I miss him so much..He passed 2/2/21..
Ty for this vedio..I pray every day...
I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your son. I am glad you found some support in my video.
This has been a helpful source of calm for me. Thank you for sharing it Carl. I have wrestled with my loss, and have come to some level of acceptance. I thank you again :)
My partner of 20 years has passed from lymphoma, it happened so fast, within a month of seeing a Doctor it had taken him. It's just surreal, reality is just a fog I float in and out of. I pray for understanding as I'm just left baffled by the whole experience, can't make sense of it at all. I can't control or reason with my emotions, they come and go at any set time.
Death seems to bring on the beginning of huge changes in your inner being, being gentle and allowing the process seems to be the only way.🙏x
I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your partner. Thank you for sharing.
#9@3:03 Have faith that grieving leads to healing
#10@3:29 Have faith that grieving leads to personal growth
#12@3:54 Self-care is never more important than when grieving a major loss
Wow, this words were so encouraging.
Thanks Counselor Carl.💙💫✨
It's consoling to know that the devastating tragedy of death is explained so clearly and simply in this discussion.
I just lost my precious husband and I'm doing everything he says for the most part but it's so painfully hard to continue on.
I miss my beloved husband do much
Words cannot describe the deep agony I've been experiencing since he died.
This is a great help for me Counselor Carl. My mother passed away this November 1, 2018, It was a shock for me since my mother was active in sports (tennis) in the age of 62, unexpectedly she had a heart attack and died. I cried a lot for the past 2 weeks until now whenever i think of her... I had regrets in my heart since I didn't watch over her and visit to her house often since I'm a married man and had a family of my own far away from her home. Only If i could turn back time, I would spend most my time to be with her in our old house.. I'm so sad and depressed right now..
Hi, Anthony. I am so sorry for the sudden loss of your mother. You know, dealing with guilt when someone we love dies is a common and natural issue we have to work though in the grieving process, and 99% of the time the guilt is unfounded because it was simply beyond our control. And if we'd only known what was going to happen, we would have done things differently. But we just didn't know.
There are different coping strategies for different people. For myself solitude was immensely helpful, despite the usual panic around the mere mention of the concept. Some people can not grieve in company and they would do better with other strategies and certainly would not benefit from groups. There is a tendency in therapy for a "one size fits all" attitude but this is wrong. I lost my father and I stumbled upon walking, especially hills requiring some exertion. My father was a great walker who loved nature walking and I felt as though I was walking in the footsteps of my father. But you never hear this suggestion from grief experts. It doesn't have to be walking. It could be doing any activity the lost loved one loved to do which connects you with your grief for them. The atheist youtuber, Seth Andrews, lost his 2 pet dogs in quick successions and turned to raising money for the Tulsa animal welfare group to buy a new rescue van to replace their old barely working van.
Another useful strategy for me, which may be covered in journaling, was writing my father's eulogy through a few drafts over a few days, remembering all my impressions of him as a child and before he was ill, sad and therapeutic at the same time.
I think counsellors need to broaden their toolset of strategies to employ for people because different people will respond to different approaches.
I am sorry for the loss of your rather. I couldn't agree with you more! Thank you for sharing.
4 weeks is nothing; walking sounds like a good plan. I went to a Group Grieving Session after the death of my 107 year old mother. I completely agree with your thoughts about solitude being best. My impression of the organizers of the group grieving is that it was more for them, than those grieving. I hope you are getting through your loss. Take good care of yourself.
That is so true, for some we need to be alone with our grief to really connect with our pain and loss, to go thru all the emotions' heartache, loneliness, isolated, depression, despair, helpless, hopelessness,sorrow, empty, anxiety, confusion, withdrawal, regret, fear, anger, self abuse and neglect, blame, to eventually forgiveness, to forgive ourselves and others. To acceptance, to accept our bereavement and pain and loss cause no amount of grieving will bring our loved ones back because they are gone and are never comming back, that's just something we all sooner or later must all accept in this life, it's inevitable, it will happen. And if it's of some consolation and solace, perhaps we will all meet up again on the beach, some sunny day.😊(h.a.n.d)✋
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Listening to your video today, as the loss of Grandad has over whelmed me, why after forty years do some days my sadness just completely consumes my very soul!
Hi, Catherine. I am sorry for the loss of your beloved Grandad. There is no closure in grief. There is just learning to live the "new normal" where you learn to return to living in the here and now. Still, there are times when the loss will come back, and that is OK. I called these grieving days. I try to just let them come and let them go.
Thank you so much for making this video. Im here because i recently lost my mother to leukemia. Everything still feel very unreal and i am very confuse about everything that is going on in my life. This video really helps me a lot.
+Hana Ayako You're welcome. I am sorry for your loss.
The Butterfly Wings
I heard children laughing and then the strangest noise that I have ever heard. I turned around and there were hundreds of butterflies coming towards me. It was the noise of the butterfly wings.
I saw the children holding out their hands waiting for the butterflies to land on them.
“Do you believe in miracles?” I heard someone ask me. I turned around and there was a very tall young man standing there. “Yes I believe in miracles,” I told him. “Do you think that they do?” He asked me. I looked towards where the children were still laughing and screaming, waiting for the butterflies as they gently landed on their heads and arms and nose. The laughter was beautiful. This is where the children learn to laugh again, this is where the children learn to live again.
He asked me to take a seat. I sat down beside him on an old bench, I leaned back, listening to every sound. The laughing had started to get fainter and the butterflies wings softer and all I was left with was an emptiness. “Where did they go?” I asked. “Not far,” he said, “not far at all.”
He told me to relax and look towards the trees. I slowly felt my eyes closing as I listened to the beautiful sound of the wind in the trees. I could hear something else from a distance. There were lots of people talking. I felt someone gently touch me on my shoulder asking, “Would you like to walk with me?” I found myself standing up and walking beside him. “Where are we?” I asked. “I felt you should know and understand the depression that they feel.” The depression was falling around me.
I didn't like the feeling at all. I stood beside the bed with a little boy called David. He looked so sick he must have sensed the man standing there. He opened his eyes, slowly asking, “Can we go now?” The man gently laid his hands on the boy’s forehead calling him by his name, “David, not long now, David.”
David, I didn’t think saw me, I just saw the man standing by the side of him. I heard young David talking to him. We walked away from David’s bed and walked across to a little girl, the most beautiful little girl I'd ever seen, with masses of blonde hair.
When I looked back again, her hair had gone. “What happened?” I asked. “He said you were looking into the past. Bring your thoughts into the future.” I did, but I didn't like the future. The little girl was lying there so pale.
A beautiful smile came over her face when she saw the man standing by the side of the bed asking, “Clara, are you ready now?” The little girl opened her eyes not saying a word and gently closed them again. I watched the smile coming onto her face. “What is happening?” I asked the man. “Close your eyes, then open them again,” he told me and as I did I saw two other little girls helping the little girl out of the bed.
One little girl gave her a beautiful bracelet, the other little girl took hold of her hand. I watched. For one split second, as the little girl turned around to look towards the bed, she could see herself still laying there.
She looked at the man and smiled as they walked away. He looked across at me. I knew what he was trying to tell me, it was the little girl's time to go. I couldn't help feeling the pain and the sadness. “Why are you sad?” he asked me. He took my hand and told me she will never feel pain again. She will never feel sadness and she will learn to smile again.
He gently let go of my hand, walking out of the room into another one. “What happened?” I asked as I watched two young children just laying there on a cold slab. The feeling of emptiness was overpowering. I didn't like this feeling at all. “What do you feel?” he asked me.
I looked at him and told him, “emptiness.” “That is good,” he said. I looked at him in disbelief.
He said, “You feel an emptiness because that is just as it should be, their souls have passed over. There is nothing left, just the frame of what once was. “Come,” he said. I started to walk beside him.
“Close your eyes,” he told me. I closed them and a moment later he told me to open them again. I heard children, but this time there was a lot of confusion. I saw children sick and tired, just standing there doing nothing.
“What is happening to the children?” I asked. I saw a little boy about 11 years old standing there, his hair had fallen out. His eyes were black and the room was miserable, there was no smile on his face, just emptiness.
I saw another little boy close by. He was sitting down with his head leaning on his knees. I wanted to turn away, I could not look again. He said, “Maybe your memories will help someone else to understand, these are the children that are hanging on to life because they are too afraid to let go, not for themselves, but for their loved ones.”
Once again I went to turn away. “Look again,” he said. I saw five or six children lost in their own thoughts. He placed his hand on my shoulder and guided me out of the room.
Then I felt the sunshine on my face and I was back with the butterflies. I felt myself relaxing, I had been taken into two different worlds, one where the children couldn't let go and the other one, where the children have learned to live again.
I felt the happiness that they felt. I looked across to where the man was standing, he looked at me and said, “Tell your story, it is important that the people who lose their children understand, not to hang on to the children. The children are very sensible about death.
But it is very difficult for loved ones to understand. Tell them that their children are never far from them, but most importantly, tell them their children have learned to smile again.”
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I’m reading your story ready to cry, and I’m sick of crying , a very sad and beautiful story thank you
Completely helpful. Bless you. Helpful quote.... When people say it'll get better or easier, it doesn't, it gets different. Diane Keaton quote " death is the one unexpectable thing in life we are forced to accept". If your lost or trapped thinking you feel different, it's because you are. Its a knew life a rebirth without the loved one.
Thank you for sharing, Sharon! I like the Diane Keaton quote. I wish you the best!
I lost my beloved Grandma on Boxing Day who I loved so dearly! Life definitely isn't easy as she was a much loved member of the family. Words cannot describe how much I miss her.
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I am sorry for the loss of your beloved Grandma. Yes, grieving a major loss hurts and can be confusing. Use your supports and educate yourself about grieving. Best wishes!
I lost my grandma 2 weeks ago. She meant the world to me! I loved and love her so much. I still cannot believe it!
Thank you. Here I am on my 8th anniversary of my dad's death & like clock work I am sad & missing him so much.I know this will pass & I will get back to some kind of normal but these dates are always rough.Thank you for helping.
You're welcome.
thanks for the words of advice, I lost my lover to liver failure on 3-1-17, his name was Bill
I am so sorry for the loss of Bill.
I lost my dear wife and who was also my best and only friend 3 months ago Im in a very dark place, I try going for walks everyday in clumber park but when i pass a seat where we both use to sit only months ago i become a complete wreck and struggle to recover, I truly hope i dont live to long without my friend❤
Hi Tony. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved wife and best friend. I hope you have healthy supports for your grief because grieving such a traumatic loss alone is too much.
I pray you are finding God's Peace 🕊️ and resting in the palm of his hand. The pain of losing such a dear person can derail us for a long time. Love yourself enough to stay sober and fight 1 hour at a time. 1 day at a time. 😢💔🤟🫶😢
Thanks for the wise words. I can't really see any end to my grieving yet - it was somewhat blighted by the wrong people being around me at first as well as a lot of financial and legal problems. It all feels so humiliating and disrespectful.
You must take care of yourself when grieving
@@Serenityonlinetherapy i lost my uncle he was best uncle in world i miss him os much he died on tuseday i talked him i cant apcet him has gone i missing him os and i loved him os much .
@@michellelohde8729 Hi, Michelle. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved uncle. Revisit this video to help you cope with your grief. Self-care and using healthy supports are keys to navigating your grief.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy he wanted me sing at his fundeal and he chose there you be by fatih hill why he want me sing that and what say ? before i sing.
@@michellelohde8729 I'm very sorry for your loss may god comfort you . I also had an uncle that I loved alot my favorite uncle .joram in 1987 in October 12. I was 15 years old now I'm 49. It takes time to heal from emotional pain give it one day at a time. God bless you.
I lost my husband in August after 36 years. . . its devastating and beyond suffering for me. He was the light of my life and my whole world. thank you for your offering to help us heal. . . if that is ever possible. Right now I don't think I will ever heal from losing him. ..
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband.
😒☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.
I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! So it would be nice to get a reply from you when you got time okay. 🌹🌹
@@Serenityonlinetherapy Thank you....
@@songsparrow4324 You're welcome!
@@richardmcguinn732 i'm extremely sorry for your losses richard. i recently broke my wrist so hard to type - having surg to repair it soon.
i know we all go but would have rathered i went before my husband. this has altered my life forever - - he meant the world to me. he was the finest man i ever met in my entire life. we had no children. i've lost other family, friends and pets. my husband remains the most significant person ever in my entire life.
my best wishes to you, your son clark and other furry kids
Dear Carl, I've been watching the grief videos over and over, they've been very helpful in dealing with the loss of my wife. Thank you for offering this service for us that are in need. Grieving is indeed a miserable place to be but I understand the need in experiencing it.
Thank you so much for this comforting advice. I lost my 85 year old Mother three days ago and it was I who found her. I was so shocked and traumatised I had to be counselled by the paramedic when they told me what I already knew, that she had gone during the early hours of the morning. You see she had a serious and long suffering illness which she could never recover from, but even so when the inevitable happens, you are never prepared. I have felt cast at sea, I feel vulnerable and as if the grief will tear my chest open, I've cried for hours every day, when I wake up and towards nightfall. During waking, daylight hours I've functioned reasonably well, the funeral arrangements have not been arranged yet, though thanks to my lovely Mum I will not have the added stresses of planning what she wanted nor paying for it, as she, along with me two years ago sat down and filled all details in, for which I am so grateful. It has been a difficult day, I have had to pick up the death certificate sent from the Coroner's office to the doctor, the same doctor who only weeks ago she saw because of yet another exacerbation of her emphysema. I saw my Mother decline over the passed five years, she was an independent, active person up until her diagnosis, she was from a generation, who always got up and never gave up. Her body just failed and I was told she would not have registered it. She is suffering no more, for that I feel relieved for her. The pain I feel now, I was never ready for, it feels as if I have swallowed a brick and my heart feels to be constantly palpitating since the day I found her gone. I don't know if I will need a local bereavement counsellor, because I feel I have been traumatised, will I come to terms with having had such a terrible shock? I am so grateful for this advice and others I have listened to, as it is helping to ground my panicky thoughts and get me through each day. So thank you Xx
I'm glad you found comfort in my video. Grieving is a natural process that allows us to acceptable (sometimes unacceptable) losses so we can return to living in the present moment. It does get better if you allow yourself to grieve. Best wishes!
This was a surprising life raft in my sea of grief. I am sharing this with a friend and will probably start and end my day with this. Thank you so much for this brief and reassuring respite.
Thank you for your kind words. I am glad you found some comfort in this video.
Hi Lori, how’s your day going with you?
Darryl, I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you found my video helpful.
Thank you so much for your video.
Thank you for your help and taking the time to others. Moving on is so hard my husband was the best man in my life , we was happy everything was beautiful his last words was thank you for loving me baby with joy he went and laid down 😢I needed to cry ty🕊️
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband.
Iam so sorry things are si difficult for you.I know how you feel ; beign there myself.
I just lost my Dad and we were so close. Hearing these tips is so reassuring. I’m amazed at the amount of pressure people put one through to move on.
I am so sorry for the loss of your dad!
I have lost my father. People says pain is healed by time but it's opposite to me...it's increasing day by day... I miss him like anything.... nobody is understanding me....i feel helpless for myself for my mom...she feels alone
I loss my brother in June 2024, It was such a shock I had just talked him that morning. T doctor came in the room and told me he was gone, Like asking to pass the cream, needless to say I was alone and in shock my brain was saying gone were. While planning his Memorial, I had a major panic and thought I was losing my mind. It was the worst day of my life. Gone, my brother was gone. Thank. you
for sharing. Grief is a major game changer.z Mu faith in God has been my strength during the hold time, however my heart is broken and had not caughyup with my ❤️heart. Blessings to all.
Hi, Maude. I am so sorry for the loss of your brother.
Thank you so very much.
Love & ☮️
I lost a family/friends nd our bond is deep.i felt devastated shock nd consumed with grief.we loved her dearly.R.I.P.to her.
I lost my dad last year 5 weeks after he was diagnosed with cancer and this is the most helpful video I’ve found. Thank you for sharing these tips
I am so sorry for the loss of your dad. I'm glad you found my video helpful. Best wishes!
I've lost some who I loved with all my heart, it's not it first time someone i loved died it's happened 3 times in the past year or two. I don't know what. To do.it try these things but they make me feel worse, I feel broken.
Death cat animations I'm sorry for your losses. If you feel overwhelmed, reach out to someone - your doctor, a trusted friend or family member, or a grief counselor or grief group. Don't grieve alone.
+Counselor Carl ok, thank you for helping me.
Death cat animations You're welcome!
@@Serenityonlinetherapy my boyfriend died on tuesday i not coping at all i been missing and want him back why feel i dont want fall in love ever again he was the love of my life and soulmate we were together for 1 year we were best friend for 2 years ?
@@michellelohde8729 Hi, MIchelle. I am sorry for the tragic loss of you boyfriend and best friend. I hope my videos on grief give you some direction in how to cope with such a loss.
This was really helpful. I'm grieving the loss of someone who stole from me and lied to me every single day. He even pawned my belongings for beer money when I was in a coma. He's finally out of my life, but I'm tremendously sad because he was the only person I had in my life.
There are many kinds of losses, and they all need to be grieved. I am sorry for your loss. Best wishes!
Thank you so much! I'm your newest subscriber :)
I appreciate that!
My mother passed away yesterday. It is like the other half of me is dead
Hi Angelica. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother.
I lost my dad a few months ago to esophagus cancer..all so quickly...I feel so lost and finding it so hard to live my life as he was my best friend 💔
I am so sorry for the loss of you beloved father. I hope my video helped give you some direction out of the darkness. Grieving is a journey. I wish you the best.
Pconner 76 im so sorry for your loss . I send you hugs to you even if I don't know you . And may god comfort you where you are. I also lost my husband to stage 4 colon cancer.cthis february 9th 2021. And he also was my best friend for 29 years I feel lost and very heartbroken please pray for me and I will pray for you. God bless you.
Everyone needs to see this video, grieving or not. We would all be better prepared when the time comes. I'm saving this to my favorites! Thank You for your videos!
Thank you, Evelyn, for your kind words. The ability to grieve is a core skill for emotional intelligence. So, you are right. Everyone would benefit from learning how to grieve.
Hi Evelyn, how’s your day going with you?
Shout out to my man Troy, a great friend and even better yet a brother i hold so close to my heart, I miss you man every single day man, rest in paradise!
Just lost my mother today and this has been a help.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother.
I lost my dad and my brother within seven months of each other, two years ago. One of the hardest things I've had to realize is that grief hits at the damndest moments,and is triggered by the damndest things. I hate crying and feeling sad,but sometimes it is a well you have to tap,and you do feel relieved afterwards. One of the things that helps keep me going between therapy sessions is being around my mom.
I am sorry for the loss of your father and brother. Thank you for sharing.
I lost my dog this morning 😢😢
I'm sorry for your loss.
me too or in 3 days
+Gamer Guy Pets are an intimate part of our families.
+Counselor Carl that is so f****** right
+David I just lost my dog and feel like Im dying… I hope you are remembering the good times you had with your beautiful dog !!!!
My mother was brutally murdered September 28th.. it’s been a month today… this is the first video that’s helped me
I am so sorry for the tragic loss of your mother. I'm glad you found some comfort in my video.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy thank you for not only the helpful video but kind words.
@@ceezusdivine You're welcome.
Thank you so much for your comments Carl
They are helping me in that your mentioning of
looking after myself has always been hard for me,
Usually it’s been the other way round, in my own life.
I lost my beloved mom January 2105, then my wonderful
little dog, whom both mom and I adored! August 2016!
Devastated is an understatement, (my one consolation
is hoping they are together now!) but my life has turned
upside down and even now I just keep yearning for both
of them! Nothing is the same anymore - mom was my rock
and my best friend - we had our ups and downs but I knew
I could always talk to her about most things and vice versa.
I DO miss our trips and drives out, the three of us and regular
days when I took mom shopping, as she became disabled after
a stroke in 2010. I would give anything to be able to pick up
the phone and talk to her, a few times a day, as it sometimes
happened and now I know I can never again do that.
Memories from long ago just flood in without encouragement
and they hurt even more. I just cannot, though I try, see how
I will ever move on from this topsy turvey world I’m in!
I have now become agoraphobic, to a degree, something
I never ever used to be.
But your words on self care etc have helped me, in a way
encouraged me to be kinder to myself and take this one
day at a time, or even break the day down into little bits.
I find it very difficult to make decisions, and drift about
on auto pilot. Thankfully I have another dog now (rescue)
and she’s a great help. It’s just she, and me at home.
I often find it incredible how people ‘forget’ that you’ve
lost someone, or tell you to join this, or join that!
I know that when I’m ready, then I will do things
like that!! I don’t need folk telling me how to live
my life!! It’s certainly been a full one up until now!!
I wonder if others like me just lurch from one
thing to another!!? And of course, there is the guilt!!
Often, lots of that!! I am sad that I never had chance to
say a proper goodbye to mom, she died in hospital alone,
after my sister and I had gone home! 😢😢😢
Maybe that is common!? And yes, the fear can set in,
the mornings are the worse time for me, my mind wanders
all over the place, worrying and thinking about morbid
things etc. It’s dreadful, I don’t sleep too good, and get up
promptly. I’m becoming like a recluse, but at times I really
don’t care, and just want to hide away - nor can I yet face
going back to familiar places. Sorry for long post
but thank you again for the advice! And I realise that
there is NO timescale for grief!! Kind regards 💕💕
By the way, I do have a counsellor who comes once
a week - she must be the 4th!!! But I can’t see that matters.
Dearest mom had her second final and fatal stroke Jan 9/2015
and after being unconscious in hospital she died in hospital
9th January 2015 and my dear little dog, 25th August 2916.
God bless them both 😢😢😢🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💕💕🇬🇧 xxxxxxxxxxxx
Hi Debbie, I am sorry for your losses. So much of what you describe is a normal part of grieving, which is why I say that self-care must be your baseline default mode because often we feel confused and lost and just don't know what to do. And yes, taking it one day at a time, even one hour at a time, trying to figure out how to make the next moment a little better for yourself is a good practice. I wish you the best on your journey to healing and growth!
Counselor Carl
Thank you for your prompt response!
That is kind of you
I was beginning to think I was going mad!
Feeling like this I mean, thanks for
the reassurance, I didn’t realise that grief
felt so much like fear, as CS Lewis once said!
I will carry on trying to look after myself more!
I have spent so much of my life running around
others and pleasing others!
It feels strange in a way, to feel I don’t have to
do that at least not for a while, and you are
right, it is exhausting, is grief!!
Many thanks, kind regards!
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💕💕🇬🇧
Yes, learning self-care can be a journey into self-discovery and self-love. It will feel "strange," but if you know that it is the right path, which it is, then you can allow yourself time to get used to it and in time reap the benefits.
Thank you SO much for posting this topic. As I find myself in the pits of grief from losing someone, I reached out to youtube and I have been watching all your videos. They are bringing comfort to my wounded soul and they are just so helpful to watch. I feel as if I am being given real, useful tools for pulling myself out of the pit that I find myself in. I cannot thank you enough, and I definitely look forward to what you will be posting in the future.
Angelica, thank you for your kind words. I am sorry for your loss. Grief is painful and perplexing, but it's also a natural process that can lead to healing and wisdom.
I just started a group grief and it feels like I'm right back to the day my wife passed away!!!!
Ive just gone through 10-15 grieve videos for managing loss. This is my favorite and most helpful. Thank you its straight to the point and clear. I will be watching many more times over the next few days.
I'm sorry for your loss. And I'm glad you found some support in my video. I wish you the best.
Thank you for your straight forward practical down to earth video . Much appreciated xx xx
You're welcome.
This really helped, thank you.
You're welcome! Best wishes!
Lost my big brother last year. (He was 26) (me23) I’ve been going through a rough spell. But as soon as I finished one of your other videos, it helped immediately. This one solidified that feeling. Thank you Carl
You're welcome, Mason. I'm sorry for the tragic loss of your brother.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy he was mason, would you recommend changing it to avoid confusion?
I imagine using Mason's name is meaningful to you. But it does cause confusion. Ultimately, I think it's up to you.
@@Serenityonlinetherapy we shared a UA-cam account, so it’s very hard to change the name. Thanks for the insight, but I don’t think I can/will
@@masonsullivan4853 that's fine
Wow..I pretty much right on par with all those things on the list except for giving myself time and taking time. I’m just not able to do that because I had so many pressing issues and I have adopted children involved, probate issues, issues, dealing with certain companies that are heartless and cold, but luckily, I have zero debt so I don’t have that hanging over my head.. I like the last one you said about honoring your loved one and the things that you do that you know would make them happy and I catch myself doing that now and it’s a really good feeling..
One thing that really helps with the grief os just getting phone
Calls or text from friends or Family that just check up on you. It’s even better if they show up to talk in person much better. It’s kind of a sad feeling when there were so many people there at the funeral or the celebration service but they all seem to have disappeared into their own lives and never contact you anymore . That kind of hurts but it makes me a better person in case I ever run into somebody with the same issues. I will be the person that will call and come visit. Bring dinner. Have a beer go out for lunch go take a drive go on a hike, take the dogs for a walk be your friend
Hi Jwint. I'm sorry for your loss. I'm happy you found my video helpful.