Thank you, Nora, for your incredible insight. I lost my daughter to brain cancer. She was only 14. Since then I have formed a nonprofit in her name. Annually, we participate in the Brainstorm Summit in Washington DC. We would love to have you speak to the families who have lost a child to brain cancer. I’d love to connect with you.
Thanks for this Nora. When I lost my wife suddenly in a car accident in 2019 I was truly lost, and despite being surrounded by caring and supportive friends I was alone like I had never been. A friend shared a UA-cam link to your TED talk and I suddenly felt like I had found that stranger who perfectly understood. I shared that link with my coworkers and friends so they could hear an articulate version of what I was feeling. It led me to your books, and your podcast, and multiple other books on grief (including CS Lewis). Your journey through dating and to a new relationship post-loss gave me some hope and validation in my desire to find a new life partner, which I since have; we got married in August of last year. Thanks for being my cold glass of water through that period of hell!
My husband was on dialysis. I worked in his dialysis unit. I continued working after he died. About a month after he died maybe five weeks, one of the nurses, who knew him , asked me if I was OK. I said “no not really.” she just went on her Mary Way.
thank you Nora. I've lost my lovely dog 3 months ago and since I'm in abroad, my family has been hiding from me. I just found it out yesterday and there's no specific word to describe my pain and grief... I'm missing him so much. rest in peace my big baby, mama loves u more than anything🕊🤍
I lost my little one yesterday. It was so quick and unexpected. He got sick so fast. I am devastated and I am hoping people don’t judge us because they are dogs. He was my son and a feel like I’ve lost a piece of me.
I lost my girlfriend to suicide this january and its been exactly 4 months today. Was with her for almost two year. had the best time of my life while being with somebody and being in love. I do feel like I am grieving solo. Too too hard for me. And I do respect the fact that I can't expect other people to feel the same way that I do. Would be grateful I could connect to someone through this platform.
I do feel grief is an individual sport because I spend a lot of my time rather than grieving trying to file paperwork through the VA then had to hire a lawyer to get Life Insurance. File more paperwork to obtain my late husband’s back pay from the military. Then a lot of people want me happy so they try to cheer me up ( like losing a husband didn’t really happen) so in essence now I’m spending time appeasing those around me who think I need fixing rather than sitting with me in my pain. There were those who really loved me while they were present. However eventually we who grieve have to grieve alone. After going through this I knew I needed people to sit with me in my pain but there is no one I’ve found who could do it, but honestly that’s what I needed early on and still do now. So for me it’s as if I have to keep dribbling balls and dribble around those who think I’m broken in some major way. I hate that I have to avoid those who don’t understand and say inappropriate things to me because they just don’t know what to say. I would rather they hug me and tell me they love me than say some of the things people have said. They all have good intentions…
I’m so sorry for your loss! I get exactly what you are talking about. I found on top of losing a loved one (in my case son) I ended up losing so many friends and family,some started off with me and slowly walked away,some were to negative I had to cut them out of my life,I’m so alone. Sometimes strangers fully get you as they have had a loss in their life. Sending huge hugs!💔💔💔🫂🫂
Thank you for this 🖤 I watched this when I needed it most. My bf passed away three weeks ago and it’s been hell on earth for me and has been a struggle. Hearing you talk has brought some comfort for my brain I appreciate it
I definitely feel like grief is an individual sport. I’ve felt totally alone during my dad’s illness and death, and that’s because I was basically alone in it with him.
Thanks for posting this video. My father just passed last week. I've seen t the good and the bad of this complex person. To honor his life I feel like I wanted to understand all of his facets. He told us he didn't want a service. So I and other family set up a few gatherings (which was his favorite things) of family and friends. In these gatherings I heard stories of family members that saw him as a father figure, trusted business partner, beloved uncle, lover, and friend. Being his son I felt the sting of so much of his negative and controlling sides. After becoming an adult I found the tough and vulnerable side. The side that said I'm sorry. WOW. Never knew that was there. There were so much that I never knew was there. Good and bad. How he cheated on his wives and yet loved fiercely his friends and family. The sheer complexity of all of it is exactly 💯 what I sought and it's what I got. Yet the stories that were shared with me gave me points of view on someone that I still grieve for from ONLY my point of view. He's my Father. The man who sought forgiveness for his harshness and yet taught me to "give your nuts a tug." When I was floundering. I loved it that I could say goodbye. I hated that he allowed himself to get so weak and hurt so much. That he couldn't recover. My heart is full from his love and so torn between his narcissism. My love for his is true and there are things that he taught me that I love and hate at the same time. Thanks for letting me share.
My love died suddenly (cardiac arrest) on the 5th of may while we were on a short trip to Scotland. There was nobody to help. I did CPR whilst calling an ambulance in a strange country (I’m Dutch) and never felt more alone. I’m blessed with a great inner circle but the pain is mine. I’m seeing a therapist but that’s one hour every couple of weeks. I’m planning on going to a supportgroup because being around people who know how lonely grieve feels must be comforting I guess. So yes, it’s an individual sport.
Thank you so much Nora...Your video brought me comfort. I just lost my best friend of 25 years. She was my everything, my person. I had already lost my whole family so she was it for me. I feel so alone, because now I am truly alone. It is so scary being only 43 and having no one. I am not sure what to do.
I am the youngest of 6 And my mom passed away at 89 She had a brain injury and that caused dementia symptoms The entire family grieved differently and even I can’t explain my grief to my siblings and their spouses or the grand kids and their kids and everyone that my mom had a relationship with in this life They don’t understand how I feel nor do I understand their grief Grief is terrible painful feeling I appreciate your podcast Definitely a different experience for everyone People even my siblings don’t know what to say to each other Just pretend everything is okay People don’t want to deal with their own feelings much less someone else My dad too is grieving the loss of someone he was married to for 64 years Thanks for this podcast Nora !
Yes, grieve is a solo act. After Loosing my husband in 2021, I had family and friends and a whole community looking for comfort from me. I could barely stand on my own two feet. Grief groups that I joined helped immensely. Three years later, I continue to participate. Slowly getting better and thinking about maybe looking for a second partner. Life is short, and loosing my partner of almost 35 years knocked the crap out of me. Love your podcasts and you are straight forward like I am. Thank you.
My grandma passed away this year and it's still so hard to believe. She was an elderly woman, had been in declining health for a while, and when it happened it still shocked me. She was not even the first person I was close to in my family to die either. We used to talk on the phone every single day and she always knew my true thoughts on family, friends, politics, all of it. I know that I saw a unique side of her and attending her memorial I was able to see even more glimpses of her. Grief is so hard! I wish anyone reading this a big hug.
Thank you so much Nora! I feel more in peace 🕊️ with myself and Mom's loss, she died 2 months ago from a cancer. Everything is about continuity of love. All those events I have lived with my lovely Mom, have a direct impact in my future. What my mom's love was to her mom (my Grandma) = I think it is a form of my mom's love to me. I think that we should transform our grief our suffering to something that spreads love from generation to another. Thanks again.
Excellent book recommendation. TTFA has been an anchor in my solo journey. Being able to hear other testimonies and force myself once a week to just listen and feel has been transformative. Traumatic loss + the havoc of covid created a massive inner circle of isolation. No one knows how to ask, let alone brave a step toward the center. Like Lewis, I can feel the distance people tip toe around, and I'm torn no matter what happens. Grief framed as an Individual sport is interesting perspective. It's up to me to work on my personal best
13:29 is SO real. After the loss of my grandma it was another P.E.O. sister in another chapter that truly got me. She prayed for me, took me out to dinner, checked in one. That one person doe make all the difference!
The grief share classes that you go to in person. It's a 13-week class, I'm sure they're offered online as well. I really would like to find one that's only for the loss of losing a spouse. Each person who dies in your life, your grief is different. Especially when your spouse dies. There's things I don't feel comfortable sharing in a group.
Thank you for all your wisdom ❤. You were my first introduction to this side of life with your Ted talk, even before I unexpectedly became a widow myself. I was incredibly inspired by you, even with my ignorance about grief. I lost my partner in 2022 suddenly, at 35. He was the love of my life, and for all my adult life. After almost 2 years now, I do think that middle ring is extremely lonely. I don't know many people who understand, but I found some support especially online, and simply reading other people's experiences. It helps frame my own, and I can give back by listening to other widows. I also have a special sister-in-law who comes from a different culture, and is an artist like myself. We're both sensitive and dorky, and I'm comfortable with her. Even though she's got her own life with my brother, and doesn't know what it feels like to be a widow, she understands how I view my love, and I think that was really helpful. Because really, at the end of the day, this grief is deep because of the great love we shared. He was the core of my rings, and I was the core of his, and even though it's impossible for anyone to be in my exact shoes, having someone like her to sit with me and talk about the love and allows me to cherish him, that's been very helpful to my healing. It can put me in a much better disposition and give me back some of my spirit whenever we talk. Even just one person to do that for you, is so impactful. Those people are true angels on earth, seriously.❤
I am alone in grieving my husband. His a-hole doctors took the last year of his life, killing him with their immunotherapy. The esophageal cancer had not metastasized. He literally died from blood clots caused from the same chemotherapy drug given to him before his initial surgery.
So sorry. EC is terrible, but in your husband's case it appears the treatment took him prematurely. That is horrific. They give that treatment after and before surgery because of how aggressive that cancer is, in the hopes that immunotherapy and chemo will keep the cancer from metastasizing, so that, hopefully, some months after successful surgery and being declared NED, patient is not suddenly at 4th stage. That has happened. But there can be adverse, life-threatening events as a result of continuing treatment/prevention. How heart-breaking for you to see your husband go through surgery, have such hope only to face tragic side effects. EC is not common. Not enough research has gone into it to come up with more treatment options. There are miracles, but immunotherapy has not been the game changer hoped for for enough people and the chemo is too risky for too many still. Makes me sad and angry. In sympathy.
In july 2018 my best friends dad passed ( he was my extra dad) sept same year, my hubs lost his mom, in December a friend committed suicide, 2 weeks later another friend who was her best friend died of breast cancer. One week after, on xmas eve my husband of 25 yrs passed unexpectedly, followed by my dad 17 days later in January . It was a rough end n beginning that year. In 2020 lost 2 friends and 2 customers in A motorcycle crash. I dealt with it alone, even though i had a team. A strong team. While i was open to an extent, I carried and covered it up myself. I still do almost 6 yrs later. Though im a little more open about, i just look at it differently. We all walk it at sometime. Unfortunately its inevitable. I look at death as our next adventure. A friend once told me grief is for the living, because the dead dont care. On particularly hard days, I try n remember im not alone.
Thank you so much for yet another pearl of wisdom. I love your messages and been grieving now for a year and a half I have realizing that being alone is very difficult. Have not found that friend yet but am optomistic.
Thanks Nora. Great videos and hits right where it needs to and reminds me my grief is mine and I need to let others have their own version. I’m only two months in this journey but lost my sister three days before my wedding.
This video provides great insight! It really gives me a different perspective on grief and how others grieve the same person but of course in a different way. My siblings and I lost our dad also, I lost him at the age 9, my brother and sisters were about 6, 10 and 11. We all knew him and experienced having him in our life in different ways so it may affect us differently. My dad also had sisters, and they grieve him as a brother who they knew all his life and all their lives. He had nieces and nephews who just miss him dearly. I have always been aware of this but I never really just sat and thought about it.
Thank you Nora. This really helps with the loss of my best friend. She was a beautiful spirit gone too soon. This video really helped understand how we deal with grief individually. Such as in the different versions of that individual who died. Experiencing are own unique memorys of that individual. Two of my friends and I are grieving the same girl having our own unique memories of her. Very informative this video was in the telling of that reality...Thank you
I'm so glad this helped and so sorry you needed it. The loss of a friend is so big, and so unrecognized. I hope you are finding comfort in the other people who loved her. Big hug.
I lost my wife at 28 years old right before our “traditional marriage” with friends and family. We were already married. The day I lost her I lost her family we were each others best friends so when I lost her I have been trying to figure out how I’m going to pick up the pieces. I’m 13 years older but I’m 1000% alone. Thank you for this
Also even animals grieve I put my dog down a week b4 my mom passed away recently and the dog I still have is sad and grieving the loss Look at orphaned animals like elephants Some animals even cry Grief is not a fun feeling for sure
I am 31, same age you were, and I just lost my fiancé and father in October and February, both suddenly. I lost the man down the aisle and the man walking me to him💔I'd love it if you did a video on how to handle grieving separate people at the same time❤
@@FeelingsandCo Same Harleyquinn. My mom died on Feb 6th of this year and my sweet wife Jenny passed on May 21st. Because of the constant 24/7 care that Jenny required I didn't really process the grief I had for my dear mother. I still feel like I have not grieved for her properly because it's only two months since my wife has been gone and I am still hurting pretty badly. My journey has been sort of solo too in addition to being SO LOW !! I'll be hoping to see that video too Nora ! P.S. Sometimes I too feel like you are my cool glass of water in hell ! Thanks a million for these videos ❤🩹
thanks for this i am living with my dog who i has anaemia caused by whatever i don't know what to say what my vet says i'm looking for alternatives, i go out and people just say sorry so i go home to it & i drug myself up & go to bed where its not there
I can’t believe that guy expected your friend to help him with his grief over HER husband 🤯 but I also wanted to say that I need you to devote an entire video to an anti-capitalist rant 🙏🏼💋
I’m sorry but I’m not as gracious as some ppl might be. There is literally no excuse for not knowing what to say to a grieving person,there’s tons of videos on UA-cam about that not to say or what to say to a grieving person,when my son died,I heard so stupid things said to me after his death,I even sent short videos to close friends and family on that topic to help them out,I don’t think they even spent 10 min on watching them,that just added to my pain. Ppl have no excuse for not being sensitive or compassionate.💔💔💔
Hope you enjoyed the video! Be on the lookout for new videos every week!
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Thank you, Nora, for your incredible insight. I lost my daughter to brain cancer. She was only 14. Since then I have formed a nonprofit in her name. Annually, we participate in the Brainstorm Summit in Washington DC. We would love to have you speak to the families who have lost a child to brain cancer. I’d love to connect with you.
Thanks for this Nora. When I lost my wife suddenly in a car accident in 2019 I was truly lost, and despite being surrounded by caring and supportive friends I was alone like I had never been. A friend shared a UA-cam link to your TED talk and I suddenly felt like I had found that stranger who perfectly understood. I shared that link with my coworkers and friends so they could hear an articulate version of what I was feeling. It led me to your books, and your podcast, and multiple other books on grief (including CS Lewis). Your journey through dating and to a new relationship post-loss gave me some hope and validation in my desire to find a new life partner, which I since have; we got married in August of last year. Thanks for being my cold glass of water through that period of hell!
My husband was on dialysis. I worked in his dialysis unit. I continued working after he died. About a month after he died maybe five weeks, one of the nurses, who knew him , asked me if I was OK. I said “no not really.” she just went on her Mary Way.
thank you Nora. I've lost my lovely dog 3 months ago and since I'm in abroad, my family has been hiding from me. I just found it out yesterday and there's no specific word to describe my pain and grief... I'm missing him so much. rest in peace my big baby, mama loves u more than anything🕊🤍
I lost my little one yesterday. It was so quick and unexpected. He got sick so fast. I am devastated and I am hoping people don’t judge us because they are dogs. He was my son and a feel like I’ve lost a piece of me.
I lost my girlfriend to suicide this january and its been exactly 4 months today. Was with her for almost two year. had the best time of my life while being with somebody and being in love. I do feel like I am grieving solo. Too too hard for me. And I do respect the fact that I can't expect other people to feel the same way that I do. Would be grateful I could connect to someone through this platform.
I do feel grief is an individual sport because I spend a lot of my time rather than grieving trying to file paperwork through the VA then had to hire a lawyer to get Life Insurance. File more paperwork to obtain my late husband’s back pay from the military. Then a lot of people want me happy so they try to cheer me up ( like losing a husband didn’t really happen) so in essence now I’m spending time appeasing those around me who think I need fixing rather than sitting with me in my pain. There were those who really loved me while they were present. However eventually we who grieve have to grieve alone. After going through this I knew I needed people to sit with me in my pain but there is no one I’ve found who could do it, but honestly that’s what I needed early on and still do now. So for me it’s as if I have to keep dribbling balls and dribble around those who think I’m broken in some major way. I hate that I have to avoid those who don’t understand and say inappropriate things to me because they just don’t know what to say. I would rather they hug me and tell me they love me than say some of the things people have said. They all have good intentions…
THE PAPERWORK ALONE!!!! IS SO!!!! OVERWHELMING! Kathy I would hug you if I could!
I’m so sorry for your loss! I get exactly what you are talking about.
I found on top of losing a loved one (in my case son) I ended up losing so many friends and family,some started off with me and slowly walked away,some were to negative I had to cut them out of my life,I’m so alone. Sometimes strangers fully get you as they have had a loss in their life. Sending huge hugs!💔💔💔🫂🫂
Thank you for this 🖤 I watched this when I needed it most. My bf passed away three weeks ago and it’s been hell on earth for me and has been a struggle. Hearing you talk has brought some comfort for my brain I appreciate it
I definitely feel like grief is an individual sport. I’ve felt totally alone during my dad’s illness and death, and that’s because I was basically alone in it with him.
hug hug hug.
Thanks for posting this video. My father just passed last week. I've seen t the good and the bad of this complex person. To honor his life I feel like I wanted to understand all of his facets. He told us he didn't want a service. So I and other family set up a few gatherings (which was his favorite things) of family and friends. In these gatherings I heard stories of family members that saw him as a father figure, trusted business partner, beloved uncle, lover, and friend. Being his son I felt the sting of so much of his negative and controlling sides. After becoming an adult I found the tough and vulnerable side. The side that said I'm sorry. WOW. Never knew that was there. There were so much that I never knew was there. Good and bad. How he cheated on his wives and yet loved fiercely his friends and family. The sheer complexity of all of it is exactly 💯 what I sought and it's what I got. Yet the stories that were shared with me gave me points of view on someone that I still grieve for from ONLY my point of view. He's my Father. The man who sought forgiveness for his harshness and yet taught me to "give your nuts a tug." When I was floundering. I loved it that I could say goodbye. I hated that he allowed himself to get so weak and hurt so much. That he couldn't recover. My heart is full from his love and so torn between his narcissism. My love for his is true and there are things that he taught me that I love and hate at the same time. Thanks for letting me share.
My love died suddenly (cardiac arrest) on the 5th of may while we were on a short trip to Scotland. There was nobody to help. I did CPR whilst calling an ambulance in a strange country (I’m Dutch) and never felt more alone. I’m blessed with a great inner circle but the pain is mine. I’m seeing a therapist but that’s one hour every couple of weeks. I’m planning on going to a supportgroup because being around people who know how lonely grieve feels must be comforting I guess. So yes, it’s an individual sport.
Thank you so much Nora...Your video brought me comfort. I just lost my best friend of 25 years. She was my everything, my person. I had already lost my whole family so she was it for me. I feel so alone, because now I am truly alone. It is so scary being only 43 and having no one. I am not sure what to do.
I am the youngest of 6
And my mom passed away at 89
She had a brain injury and that caused dementia symptoms
The entire family grieved differently and even I can’t explain my grief to my siblings and their spouses or the grand kids and their kids and everyone that my mom had a relationship with in this life
They don’t understand how I feel nor do I understand their grief
Grief is terrible painful feeling
I appreciate your podcast
Definitely a different experience for everyone
People even my siblings don’t know what to say to each other
Just pretend everything is okay
People don’t want to deal with their own feelings much less someone else
My dad too is grieving the loss of someone he was married to for 64 years
Thanks for this podcast Nora !
Yes, grieve is a solo act. After Loosing my husband in 2021, I had family and friends and a whole community looking for comfort from me. I could barely stand on my own two feet. Grief groups that I joined helped immensely. Three years later, I continue to participate. Slowly getting better and thinking about maybe looking for a second partner. Life is short, and loosing my partner of almost 35 years knocked the crap out of me. Love your podcasts and you are straight forward like I am.
Thank you.
You are amazing. Just lost my mom to cancer. Your videos are so deeply therapeutic.
I love the Gollum analogy that was a good laugh on a tough subject. 😊
My grandma passed away this year and it's still so hard to believe. She was an elderly woman, had been in declining health for a while, and when it happened it still shocked me. She was not even the first person I was close to in my family to die either. We used to talk on the phone every single day and she always knew my true thoughts on family, friends, politics, all of it. I know that I saw a unique side of her and attending her memorial I was able to see even more glimpses of her. Grief is so hard! I wish anyone reading this a big hug.
Thank you so much Nora! I feel more in peace 🕊️ with myself and Mom's loss, she died 2 months ago from a cancer. Everything is about continuity of love. All those events I have lived with my lovely Mom, have a direct impact in my future. What my mom's love was to her mom (my Grandma) = I think it is a form of my mom's love to me. I think that we should transform our grief our suffering to something that spreads love from generation to another. Thanks again.
Excellent book recommendation. TTFA has been an anchor in my solo journey. Being able to hear other testimonies and force myself once a week to just listen and feel has been transformative. Traumatic loss + the havoc of covid created a massive inner circle of isolation. No one knows how to ask, let alone brave a step toward the center. Like Lewis, I can feel the distance people tip toe around, and I'm torn no matter what happens. Grief framed as an Individual sport is interesting perspective. It's up to me to work on my personal best
13:29 is SO real. After the loss of my grandma it was another P.E.O. sister in another chapter that truly got me. She prayed for me, took me out to dinner, checked in one. That one person doe make all the difference!
The grief share classes that you go to in person. It's a 13-week class, I'm sure they're offered online as well. I really would like to find one that's only for the loss of losing a spouse. Each person who dies in your life, your grief is different. Especially when your spouse dies. There's things I don't feel comfortable sharing in a group.
You are a great communicator and your words are well received. Thank you
Thank you for all your wisdom ❤. You were my first introduction to this side of life with your Ted talk, even before I unexpectedly became a widow myself. I was incredibly inspired by you, even with my ignorance about grief.
I lost my partner in 2022 suddenly, at 35. He was the love of my life, and for all my adult life. After almost 2 years now, I do think that middle ring is extremely lonely. I don't know many people who understand, but I found some support especially online, and simply reading other people's experiences. It helps frame my own, and I can give back by listening to other widows.
I also have a special sister-in-law who comes from a different culture, and is an artist like myself. We're both sensitive and dorky, and I'm comfortable with her. Even though she's got her own life with my brother, and doesn't know what it feels like to be a widow, she understands how I view my love, and I think that was really helpful. Because really, at the end of the day, this grief is deep because of the great love we shared.
He was the core of my rings, and I was the core of his, and even though it's impossible for anyone to be in my exact shoes, having someone like her to sit with me and talk about the love and allows me to cherish him, that's been very helpful to my healing. It can put me in a much better disposition and give me back some of my spirit whenever we talk. Even just one person to do that for you, is so impactful. Those people are true angels on earth, seriously.❤
very same here 🙏
I am alone in grieving my husband. His a-hole doctors took the last year of his life, killing him with their immunotherapy. The esophageal cancer had not metastasized. He literally died from blood clots caused from the same chemotherapy drug given to him before his initial surgery.
So sorry. EC is terrible, but in your husband's case it appears the treatment took him prematurely. That is horrific. They give that treatment after and before surgery because of how aggressive that cancer is, in the hopes that immunotherapy and chemo will keep the cancer from metastasizing, so that, hopefully, some months after successful surgery and being declared NED, patient is not suddenly at 4th stage. That has happened. But there can be adverse, life-threatening events as a result of continuing treatment/prevention. How heart-breaking for you to see your husband go through surgery, have such hope only to face tragic side effects. EC is not common. Not enough research has gone into it to come up with more treatment options. There are miracles, but immunotherapy has not been the game changer hoped for for enough people and the chemo is too risky for too many still. Makes me sad and angry. In sympathy.
In july 2018 my best friends dad passed ( he was my extra dad) sept same year, my hubs lost his mom, in December a friend committed suicide, 2 weeks later another friend who was her best friend died of breast cancer. One week after, on xmas eve my husband of 25 yrs passed unexpectedly, followed by my dad 17 days later in January . It was a rough end n beginning that year. In 2020 lost 2 friends and 2 customers in A motorcycle crash.
I dealt with it alone, even though i had a team. A strong team. While i was open to an extent, I carried and covered it up myself. I still do almost 6 yrs later. Though im a little more open about, i just look at it differently.
We all walk it at sometime. Unfortunately its inevitable. I look at death as our next adventure. A friend once told me grief is for the living, because the dead dont care. On particularly hard days, I try n remember im not alone.
Thank you so much for yet another pearl of wisdom. I love your messages and been grieving now for a year and a half I have realizing that being alone is very difficult. Have not found that friend yet but am optomistic.
Same here 🫤
Thanks Nora. Great videos and hits right where it needs to and reminds me my grief is mine and I need to let others have their own version. I’m only two months in this journey but lost my sister three days before my wedding.
Thank you so much Nora. I am so alone in my grief. I’ve told two people how bad I am doing but it hasn’t helped. I keep kind of faking it.
This video provides great insight! It really gives me a different perspective on grief and how others grieve the same person but of course in a different way. My siblings and I lost our dad also, I lost him at the age 9, my brother and sisters were about 6, 10 and 11. We all knew him and experienced having him in our life in different ways so it may affect us differently. My dad also had sisters, and they grieve him as a brother who they knew all his life and all their lives. He had nieces and nephews who just miss him dearly. I have always been aware of this but I never really just sat and thought about it.
Thank you Nora♥️dealing with sudden tragic losses 4 months apart here
Thank you Nora. This really helps with the loss of my best friend. She was a beautiful spirit gone too soon. This video really helped understand how we deal with grief individually. Such as in the different versions of that individual who died. Experiencing are own unique memorys of that individual. Two of my friends and I are grieving the same girl having our own unique memories of her. Very informative this video was in the telling of that reality...Thank you
I'm so glad this helped and so sorry you needed it. The loss of a friend is so big, and so unrecognized. I hope you are finding comfort in the other people who loved her. Big hug.
I lost my wife at 28 years old right before our “traditional marriage” with friends and family. We were already married. The day I lost her I lost her family we were each others best friends so when I lost her I have been trying to figure out how I’m going to pick up the pieces. I’m 13 years older but I’m 1000% alone. Thank you for this
Also even animals grieve
I put my dog down a week b4 my mom passed away recently and the dog I still have is sad and grieving the loss
Look at orphaned animals like elephants
Some animals even cry
Grief is not a fun feeling for sure
I am 31, same age you were, and I just lost my fiancé and father in October and February, both suddenly. I lost the man down the aisle and the man walking me to him💔I'd love it if you did a video on how to handle grieving separate people at the same time❤
Ooooof my sister in sadness I am going to think about this and make a video for you!
@@FeelingsandCo omg thank you so much!❤️my mom and I appreciate it so much
@@FeelingsandCo Same Harleyquinn. My mom died on Feb 6th of this year and my sweet wife Jenny passed on May 21st. Because of the constant 24/7 care that Jenny required I didn't really process the grief I had for my dear mother. I still feel like I have not grieved for her properly because it's only two months since my wife has been gone and I am still hurting pretty badly. My journey has been sort of solo too in addition to being SO LOW !! I'll be hoping to see that video too Nora !
P.S. Sometimes I too feel like you are my cool glass of water in hell ! Thanks a million for these videos ❤🩹
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@@mygreenenvy I'm so sorry❤️🩹it's the most difficult thing I've ever had to do
I randomly discovered your channel and podcast, so glad that I did!
Love the information and your personal humorous perspective
Thank you Nora……wise words that I will be sharing. Appreciate you….!
thank you for this video.
thanks for this i am living with my dog who i has anaemia caused by whatever i don't know what to say what my vet says i'm looking for alternatives, i go out and people just say sorry so i go home to it & i drug myself up & go to bed where its not there
Well done as usual. You are the bomb!
❤❤you are hilarious
Wait ! Nora your husband was married to Gwen Stephani ?
I can’t believe that guy expected your friend to help him with his grief over HER husband 🤯 but I also wanted to say that I need you to devote an entire video to an anti-capitalist rant 🙏🏼💋
I’m sorry but I’m not as gracious as some ppl might be. There is literally no excuse for not knowing what to say to a grieving person,there’s tons of videos on UA-cam about that not to say or what to say to a grieving person,when my son died,I heard so stupid things said to me after his death,I even sent short videos to close friends and family on that topic to help them out,I don’t think they even spent 10 min on watching them,that just added to my pain. Ppl have no excuse for not being sensitive or compassionate.💔💔💔
Does your necklace say 666?