I lost my husband in 2018. It is now 2022. I have NEVER STOPPED crying . I cry every single day , some days on and off and other days I cry all day and night. My husband was the most loving and giving human being. He loved me more than anyone else in my entire life. I gave that love back to him for 43 1/2 years. I hate the things people say to me. Some things are cruel and others want to make me feel bad about my longing for my husband. I cannot control my emotions. I wish I could go back in time . I just want to hold him one more time and feel his arms around me. I HAVE NEVER STOPPED LOVING HIM AND NEVER WILL.
I am so sorry you are having to go through this, but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you! Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to: facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
Thank you, watching my husband die from Cancer was the most heartbreaking thing have ever witnessed. The week before he died he told me he fell in love with me the first time he laid his eyes on me. It makes me cry so much and he said he wanted just one more summer with me so we could have some quality time together. He died 4 days later. I hear those words in my head all the time. I just cannot stop crying. @@kelleymcfadden9675
im 72 i lost my daughter of 42 in 2o13 my son of 32 yr half after ive lost my hearing in left ear cant taste or smell its not covid its grief ive lost 2 stone in weight i cry all the time there is no one on gods earth can help me i feel for you god bless x
I'm mad at my husband that he left me, cancer 2months and five days, but im trying to let go and realize he had to go to Jesus, he told me he was waiting for him and it was beautiful there, but i am heartbroken and just want my David. It is a very slow and painful process. Prayers for all.
For those of us who are naturally introverted, withdrawal is entirely normal, healthy and indeed necessary. Some of us find comfort in solitude and seek solace from within.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
I recently lost my mom, and sometimes I feel fine, and other days, I feel sad. People keep telling me that I need to get over it. Mom was my best friend, and when she died, she took a big piece of me with her. We lived in the same apartment together, and going and coming home from work is hard because she always sat in her chair, watching me leave and come home. Sometimes, I would blame myself because if I had been off that day, she would have been alive. Many times, I would cry myself to sleep at night. Yesterday, I was on my way to work, and I started crying my eyes out in front of people. Mom was the one I talked to about any little thing. My life will never be the same anymore.
My condolences. Same here. That's the worst someone can say. I take Wednesday to get it out of my system by listening to mournful music. By letting it out I'm healing and she contacts me in my dreams, I now get to see more foreshadowing than I ever had before. Pray at home and burn smudge sticks to rid of negative energy. I wasn't really active in chores and administrative issues, but it was just like flicking a switch, I'm doing everything, almost as if someone is doing it for me, like she's with me, inside my heart. Of course she a lot of people agreed with me. My heart and stomach still hurt time to time, but all I can say is that I would make the best out of what time I have left. I promised her that on her deathbed also after I sang happy birthday to her, so I'm not just gonna sit around and wait for death. The pain stays because I cannot accept how she went, in the morning she was brimming with life and around 1700 she passed. Even though from the afterlife she tells me not worry, what I feel is like an injury but on the inside and it will heal, but most likely after accepting her death. And to get to accepting I read the holy scriptures, it really helps.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
I was a caregiver for my mother for 10 yrs. Also I lived with her for 65 yrs. I lost her 8 months ago. My emotions are all over the place. Obviously my life will never be the same ! I'm going to griefshare but sometimes they are too dogmatic when relying on scripture. At times i wish God would have taken me with her, but i don't believe God takes anyone. I think people die from natural causes or accidents. I will live out my life but I will never be the same again ! Lastly some days are better than others, listening to norman vincent peale the positive thinking minister helps. Writing about emotions helps. My sympathy for the above people that lost loved ones.
Please ignore the utter imbeciles who told you to “get over it.” This is your MOTHER we are talking about here, not a distant cousin! Take all the time you need. And please know that your mother is still very much with you in spirit.
My 26 year old daughter died on February 8 2021. My younger sister who was my best support and comfort after this devastating loss died on March 29 2022. My daughter died from a haemorrhage caused by a brain tumour, my sister had breast cancer. I am truly drowning in grief. Every day is a battle just to keep going. The world has gone dark and silent. Thank you for this message. I hope I can work with these suggestions.
I am so, so sorry for your losses. You are unbelievably strong. Not sure if you're religious but praying that you will have renewed strength and Godly comfort in this time.
Sending you a prayer, God she needs your comfort, strength the pain she’s dealing with is debilitating. In your mercy give her emotional healing, only you can heal the broken hearted. ❤️🩹
I can’t begin to imagine what you are going through & my heart aches for you. I hope that you have some people in your life that you can still lean on. Or a good therapist?? Or a furry friend to cuddle?!? In the past year and a half, I’ve lost a lot of my loved ones, including my mom. It has been devastating. I feel alone quite often. I talked to my doctor & am taking anti-depressant and that seems to be helping me feel more motivated to get out of bed. And I force myself to call & text old friends and family members. I also joined a local church. I try to find some way each month to honor my mom (I struggle the most with having lost her; she was my world). Through these actions, I have started feeling less alone & seem better able to cope with everything on a day to day basis. Don’t get me wrong; I still wake up crying. And still go to bed crying sometimes. But those things helped me so I wanted to share just in case one of them might help you. I also cuddle my dogs a LOT. I pray that you find what you need in this universe to help you through each day. I wish I had magical words to take away your pain. I just wanted to tell you - one human to another - that I hear you. Grief should not be carried alone. I pray that you find whatever support you need. Please take care of yourself the best you are able to each day & be extra kind to yourself. ❤
I still struggle with all of these 30 yrs. later. I buried a child and gave birth to another in the same week. Extremely difficult...never grieved properly. I believe some things aren't meant to get over...and it's OK. 💜🕊
I don't believe we ever quite "get over" the loss of a loved one. We come to terms with it. It changes us and we learn to adapt. I don't believe we should forget that person. When we deal with that grief we can remember the good memories of them. Pain can still need there but it can be manageable I've found. It's a part of life.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
Grief is just love with no place to go. Our minds cannot wrap around the concept of living without that other human being in our life. It is a loss of your past, your present, and your future. But our loved ones, if we could truly hear them, would tell us that they are ok, and that we need ro press on. So it's a matter of the right preposition; it's not about getting over it. It's about having the courage to move THROUGH it.
True, my son just moved to college and I miss him sooo much. I know he has to move on. My love for him will always be endless but I would love to have another baby and start over so the love I have goes somewhere more tangible, I don't know. I just don't want to grieve anymore.
Last month I lost my father. I was never ready for this. 27 days have passed since that. I cannot remember a single day I have cried for him. Whenever I try to process it I feel a severe headache accompanied with shortness of breath and trembling, derealization etc. Several lifestyle changes like being irresponsible over little things, strong desire for smoking, not concentrating on daily activities are there. I am feeling lost! It feels like I belong from nowhere. But truly I believe one day I'll rise out of it. On that day I will write in this comment section how I deal with all of this, so that I can exchange the feeling of hope with you all.
Out of control grief can result from one loss too many. I lost my father many years ago and I handled it. I then lost my mother and grandmother, and whilst the deaths rocked my world, somehow I handled it. Last year I lost my little dog and it was like everyone had now been taken from me. We were never apart in the years we were together. She was 14, what did I expect? Rage, grief, heartbreak, despair. I’m doing my best to work through it, but I can only cope by believing she is still with me, I talk to her as if she is with me. I don’t know where I’m going on this journey but I’m doing my best. Sincere and heartfelt best wishes to anyone struggling out there. We must believe that it will all be right again one day.
Sending you hugs and blessings to help you get through your losses. I’m dealing with similar situation here, too. Lots of losses of people & animals and relationships that were all a big part of me and my life. I remind myself that I have to keep going for those that are still living & love them as much as I can. I will probably never get through the tragic horrific losses I’ve suffered. I miss them all so much. Life is fragile and a gift. I pray I will be reunited with all of my love ones 1 day, even my beloved animals. I pray that they are all happy and loved in the spirit world and know how very special they are. 🙏🪽🪽
When dealing with a terminally ill close relative or a loss, when someone asks you "how are you doing" they don't actually want to know. They want you to say you're fine. If you say anything other than that, people get so uncomfortable that it's next to impossible to say anything else than what they want to hear.
I am so sorry you are having to go through this, but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you! Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to: facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
When I ask, I genuinely want to know. I care deeply about how people are feeling and them just knowing that you are available to sit and let them cry in your presence, without judgement, can be invaluable to their emotional health into the future. I'm happy to hold someone when they're crying, although I will usually cry along with them due to the heartbreak I can feel they're experiencing. My enquiries into how others are, is never shallow.
@@kelleymcfadden9675 Thank you for sharing this. I pray that Jesus will use this testimony to draw many to Himself. He is surely using your son in this. God bless and comfort you.
I lost my dad, stepdad, grandma, aunt and uncle in less than 18 mos. That was 20 years ago. It changed me forever. I still grieve. The loss was too big. My mother passed a little under a year ago and now I’m alone. I feel like an orphan but I’m not a child. Weird.
I'm so sorry you lost so many people in such a short span of time. My grandma passed away in July 2022, and my mama passed right behind her in October 2022. So much so soon. 🥺 I honestly don't know how you were able to cope. 🥺
My husband passed away 4 Months ago.Im so lost without him. Time just seems to stand still. The grieving is every day & no matter how you try your emotions are uncontrollable.You never think it's going to happen to you & when it does you think your the only one. Anyone who has lost a loved one I'm so sorry for your loss 😢
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
Can anyone let me know what you think? I am trying to actively deal with my grief (not avoiding it, going to therapy, leaning into it etc), and yet I have all of these symptoms. I feel numb and I rarely cry, even though I am comfortable with feeling sad. I really wouldn't know what to do differently. I am open to feeling I just don't feel much apart from anxiety.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
69 yrs old and dealing with a lifetime of neglect & loss. Art therapy is saving me, one day at a time. Plus lots of excellent trauma teachers, meditation, a grief buddy, and my journal. Ty for this video! ❤
61 lost the love of my life last year, I have come to the conclusion there is something more to our connection, it is not primarily physical. There are attributes to our connection that are beyond description
I lost my mom when I was in high school after a very long, extended battle with multiple illnesses. Teachers, school counselors and all other adults raved about how well I was doing because I didn't make their lives more complicated and seemed fine. When I did struggle, I got in trouble and clearly the message that it was uncomfortable for these adults to deal with me and I was to essentially cut it out and suppress all emotion so they could go back to not having to deal with me and raving about how great I was. Schools really don't have anything in place to deal with kids who have periods of years with issues like a terminally ill parent. Teachers can give you a few passes for not doing assignments, but not years off. So once my mom was finally dead, I think my teachers were so relieved and just wanted me to move on quickly and be fine since this was such an annoyance to deal with a student with mental health issues. School made dealing with grief so much worse because my teacher wanted me to not show any signs of being anything other than fine.
I am sorry for your loss. My brother just passed and left behind my nieces (his daughters)- 11 and 13 yr old. They are for the most part not showing much in the outwardly ways of grief. I completely understand about what you are saying about the issue in school- and how hard that must have been on you. That said, unfortunately, teachers have a job and many many students- they have so much out of their own control. So, while it's a shame that they made it worse for you- it's the reality that schools can't handle all the things. This is why we need better connections between the healthcare field, including mental health, and schools-- because schools just don't have the resources to deal.
Words are not adequate enough to describe the grief one experiences by losing a loved one, but there is hope. Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. This is the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you! Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to: facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
Grief loss is not just a death. It can be when a husband or wife leaves you, or a child who won’t have anything to do with you, losing a much loved pet.
Our 11 year old grand daughter was taken from us by her parents. We had a very strong relationship with her and now we can't see her. I am in deep grief and my husband is in denial 😞. Please pray for us.
Do not compare a spouses death to the loss of another human being or animal. If you never lost a husband you loved for 43 years, you know nothing about the heartache. Losing a husband to cancer means he is gone from this world . People can be so judgemental when They know nothing about death. What my y cat died . I had her for 23 years , I cried and still think of her but I did not cry for 5 years as I have done for my husband. . People please do not make comments about things you know nothing about. It is hurtful to we humans who lost their spouses whom we loved so much.
I needed this today. My daughter died four days ago, was traumatic , still seems surreal. The swinging in and out of grief and then feeling ok the next minute was abnormal but you have validated me that it is OK! thank you.
My father didn't deal with the loss of my brother (his son) at all well. We had a small business, and he went back to work, and would never talk about it or discuss it. He used distractions to not deal with it. He had a heart attack around 18 months later, after working harder than he ever did, not dealing with his emotions. I am convinced that part of it was "broken heart syndrome" and that if my brother never died, he wouldn't have either.
As hard as it is to hear, maybe that was his way. For some life is too painful to deal with, and leaving it is the only way. It can feel devastating and tragic when you are one of the people left behind. My heart goes out to you for both losses.
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Signs you’re not processing grief: 1. Compulsive behaviors 2. Withdrawal from relationships 3. Over-functioning 4. Irritability 5. Persistant sleep issues 6. Physical symptoms emerge 7. Mental health issues worsen Tools to deal with grief: 1. Pendulation- lean into/out of emotion as needed 2. Resourcing- adding support as you process grief 3. Titration- do things in small doses (set time limits) Lost my mom May 4, 2022 and it’s been so hard. My heart goes out to anyone navigating the dark waters of grief. You’re not alone 💕
I'm so sorry you are having to go through this, but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you! Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to: facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
I'm 44, and having spent the last eight years caring for my mum 24/7 she died on the 25/12/2022. And my world collapsed. Having seen this video and reading your comments I can now hope there is a way to learn to move forward with this pain, and try to rebuild my world
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the grief of loosing my wife is unbearable ,, whenever i am in a company i have to put a mask and pretend ,people do not understand this grief ,the only ones who called me to see how i m doing after her death are the ones that went through the same ,,i can sum it like ; only those who been there and god ,know the pain of loosing your sole mate ,thank you for your lecture ,it was soothing,
( * God * ) I’m sorry for your loss. I’m crying hysterically right now, thinking about my sweet husband, unfortunately he died from cancer. We were married almost 21 years.. I’m in agony, not a day goes by I don’t think about him. 🙏🏾 😢
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
Just lost my husband in January of this year been so hard my energy is so drained and exhausting does anyone relate to this ?my husband was only 57 never smoke or drank alcohol life is so unfair and short
Exactly the same is with me. I lost my husband nearly 2 months ago. First of all I have been ghosted by nearly everyone including his big family, and then when I am with people I have to have that 'all is good' mask, to ensure that I am not causing someone to feel uncomfortable. And it's only such a short time,yet people don't get it at all. Losing my husband was like losing half of myself, I am not the same anymore, I am half person, shredded inside and only people who can relate with this,are like all of us here. We live on a completely different planet. The old world is gone,and no one from that world will understand unless death touches them at some point...
Grief never goes away, my mother has been dead for almost 12 years and I’m still crying about it. you can manage your grief but you can’t make it go away.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
I lost my husband to pancreatic cancer in 2016, my mother in 2017 and my father in 2018. I made it but now have weird blood pressure fluctuations and now, high cholesterol. I was having so much back pain I had to see my chiropractor for adjustments and massages. I did trauma hypnotherapy type sessions which were amazing. I also sold our home of 27 years in 2023. I guess I am pretty good at processing my grief. I still cry for them now and then and I was soooo close to my parents that I say goodnight to them every night at their framed professionally done photo in my living space. Sometimes I fall prey to feeling sorry for myself when my life slows down. I really snapped out of that when I went to college again last spring. Two more semesters to go. I will be 59 when I graduate. I know my dad is super proud. I keep thinking how they would all want me to be healed and happy. I have been a major source of support for my daughter who has struggled even more than I have. Losing her dad at 20. I cannot even imagine. Well, I can, as she tearfully shares her heart about it, but wow. She is a warrior. 😢
Lost my husband 3 years ago and the grief has been real and hard ever since. About a year and a half in the process, I realized one day that I felt happy that day. More days like that now but still "hard grief" days show up. I was amazed to realize I have been handling things in the 3 ways at the end of the video. Kind of instinctive and spiritual. Thank you for the validation and encouragement.
Yes. We each one of us has all the instinctive, intuitive answers inside us. Our inner voice. I try only to listen to voices like this lady. I limit how many voices I let in my head. Most important voice is OURS. Hoping for continued healing n more happy days. So sorry for your loss of husband. That is my ONE fear in life. We so close. I can't imagine life without him but mentally I'm trying to prepare it will happen that one of us will lose their best friend. Thanks for sharing.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
All 3 of my siblings have died within the last 16 months... the most recent being my younger sister on 10/6/22. She was my best friend. It seems so surreal. Thank you for these recommendations! I'm processing my grief using some of them already. 12/18/22 UPDATE Still working on processing my grief... there are things all around me that trigger my emotions. Still dealing with spontaneous bouts of crying... sleep and appetite are still sporadic. Reminiscing about my Sister when I'm around other family members temporarily helps my mental state. Journaling and prayer help me to cope. The huge hole in my life remains unchanged.
How life can just be unfair towards some individuals under this sun! I have come to wondering what could be the meaning of life with so many heartbreakings happening to some people. I am lost for words for what life is throwing at you. 😭😭😭😭😭!!! Oh Lord, please soothe the pain of those losing their loved ones!
2022 was supposed to be a good year or at least a better year, but the loss that came with this year has made it one of the worst years of my life. It is harder to deal with because people get uncomfortable or downright angry if I start crying in front of them. I have to go off alone to cry.
Sorry for your loss Eva, such a sad time try if you can to stay strong - I know easy said and done but I know how this feels thoughts are with you and a I will say a pray 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I developed severe PTSD after my son took his life 4 years ago on my 55th birthday. I've had so many losses since then, I even ended up in hospital last fall for mental health issues. Men aren't supposed to hurt, that's why we are self destructive, drink too much, work too much and die early. I'm seeking out professional help, but there still are days where I feel as if I'm in a living hell. I barely have what it takes to do my job some days, I feel like everything is coming at me a hundred miles an hour. I miss joy without strings attached.
I lost a son 4 years ago due to complications from heroin addiction. Thought I was going to die too. It hurt worse than anything I’ve ever experienced. Still have at least one “moment” every day. I feel for you my friend. It’s both physically and mentally affecting me. So you’re not alone. Reach out if you want someone to talk to.
I lost my son Corey in 2016 when he took his life, the shock, pain, despair, guilt, longing overwhelmed me. I too suffered PTSD, treatment helped for that. In May of this year I lost another son, James. These two sons were so loving to me, had such beautiful big caring hearts, were my sons and my friends. I don’t grieve James the same way, it’s like my mind refuses to go there, it’s like a sliding feeling. My brain slides away and immediately bounces to something else. Sometimes tho, it does go there when I least expect it, like today when I think about this year ending and a new one starting without James in it. Then it hits me hard, a solar plexus blow. I have two other kids, the eldest a son and my daughter the youngest, I worry something will happen to them. I don’t think I can survive that.
I've lost some people to suicide as well, and it is a horrible thing. I am sending you love and will be rooting for you every day. I'm so proud of you for seeking help.
363 days of the year, I've put on my fake face, and have kept working to keep my mind occupied I took 2 days of the year to be myself and vanish- no contact with people. It's been 4 years, and it's not getting better I'm glad I found this . I miss my Alice !! It's been 4 years and it still hurts so bad !!!
I am a 65 year old grandma who’s raising my two granddaughters due to their mother being lost in the world, drugs, homelessness and who knows what else. I finally got my granddaughters to understand that they had to talk to someone besides me about their loss. At 9 and 14 it’s pretty difficult for them to comprehend their emptiness. They are seeing a therapist now and I can already see a little difference in their lives. Thank God I found them some help!!!
Bless you for stepping up for them and getting them help, grief is very real it doesn't only relate to a death it can be a loss like you've all experienced. I wish you alll well x
What a wonderful human being and granny you truly are. You have lost so much and yet you still find the strength to give more. My heart goes out to you and your granddaughters. As they grow into adulthood, you will reap many rewards for what you are doing now.
I lost my mom in 2014 , we were do close she was literally my everything I feel guilty sometimes because I let fear keep me from persisting to get her help for her hip, she got a bad bed sore and I blame myself my soul aches for her, I know she did not blame me for any of her sickness, when she was in the hospital everday she said I love you, momma you are my angel and I will always love you❤❤
I lost my mother and father to cancer years ago and I'm still learning of healthy ways to cope. I tend to want to be alone alot because I just don't have drive or energy to try and fake a smile when going for gatherings etc. Some days I can push through but others have been very rough. I have gotten saved a few years ago and reading God's word helps. God Bless you all! ❤
I lost my husband 8 years ago and my daughter 9 months later. I gained 50lbs. Can’t sleep , depressed, no one gets it. No friends or family to speak of. I’m totally alone. I can’t get past it Still. Just getting worse
Rita- you are not alone❤ please know that your husband and daughter want nothing but the best for you, to be happy and healthy. Weight gain is understandable but also gives you the opportunity to meet others by joining a gym or slimming class. As your health improves you can remember your loved ones by perhaps taking a short holiday or daytrip to their favourite places. Time on Earth is short, enjoy it while you can. Eventually you will be reunited with your loved ones but in the meantime it is essential you reach out and take those first steps to health and happiness❤
Wow, reading everyone's story is really touching. I don't really think there is a timeframe when it comes to the grieving process. My 52 yo husband passed away 3 years ago and i am stuck in time. I miss him every single day. The grief I still feel after 3 years is, at times, unbearable. I'm beginning to think this is how my life will be until i take my last breath. A lot of pain, a lot of tears, a lot of solitude. He was a beautiful human being who brought so much happiness to my life and our relationship. I miss his smile, i miss him holding my hand, i miss him singing to me in the car. The list is endless of what i miss. When he died, my life ceased to be. I hope one day I'll be happy again.
Happy Sunday Theresa, It's incredible how we connect with strangers in unexpected ways. Although I don't usually do this, I couldn't help but reach out to you after seeing your comment. Could you tell me what you like to do in your spare time?
I was diagnosed with complicated grief disorder. Loss of childhood, loss of my husband and other major losses. I went shopping all the time and treated everyone to everything. Now I have better boundaries. God is the only One to help heal our pain.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
I lost my mom this year. The lowest and darkest point in my life. The pain is real and difficult. God has made his presence known during this season. He continues to carry me, comfort me, and console me. I will tell anybody that God is your only way through your pain and grief. He will take care of you just like he promised I'm his word. Feelings change, people change, and circumstances change, but God never changes. His word is the same, it will never change. Have faith and hold on to his word. He will bring you through.❤️
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I'm going through all of this right now. I was the primary caregiver for my older sister. She had a 13 year battle with cancer and finally hung it up on 12/4/23. After she passed, we had lots of friends and family over but now that she's been buried, the real hard times are starting. It's extra hard on me as we both took take care of our parents when they got sick and passed away.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
I lost my mother just 4 months ago Dec 3rd 2023. 6days before my birthday. She had my card she knew she was dying and the words she wrote were beautiful. Thanking me for looking after her etc. I know its early days and I miss her so much. Have days where I can't stop crying feel so alone even though I have support from my husband and friends. Mam was 99 I'm 71. Some people say thing like well she was a good age etc which doesnt help at all. Just wish I could give her one more kiss one more hug. Heartbroken 😢😢😢
My mom died on February 6. She would have been 79 on Feb. 18th. I’d been taking care of her since 2018 when she became partially paralyzed due to a neck injury. I was so tired from all the caretaking and watching her suffer with her limitations. We both wanted her to die so she could be set free. I thought it would be easier to let her go because of the situation we were in. It’s not. I am a mess and it’s already been a few months. I’m supposed to go back to work soon but I can still barely function. Everything reminds me of her and pulls me back into an emotional pain that fills my body and makes it hard to breath. I miss her so much. I feel so guilty for getting so exhausted that I wanted her to die. I wish I had just one more minute with her to tell her how much I love and loved her. Smell her hair. Kiss her soft cheek. My sweet beautiful mommy. My husband and my son have both been really supportive. I have never felt this broken before and I’ve been through a lot of trauma in my life. My heart is broken and I don’t know how much longer I can go on like this, barely living. The light does not hit the world in the same way it did when she was here, all the colors have changed.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
I lost my dad two weeks ago. Right now everything feels like pure madness, having some truly happy moments mixed with guilt then crying my eyeballs off for missing him and that trauma of watching him fading away at the hospital for two weeks. I hate this roller coaster 😢😢😢 Thank you for this video. It reassured me that my feelings are reasonable and my coping path is healthy❤️
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
Thank you for the information. I lost my autistic 25 year old son, a little over three years ago. He died of an incredibly aggressive and disfiguring form of cancer. I struggle every single day with the memories. Even though I have a wonderful therapist, I still can’t seem to find my way out. He was my best friend and I loved him dearly. In my now 60 years, I have never experienced such devastation. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
@@Recite-GodHealMeCreateMiracle Thank you. Yes. I will try that. ☺️ Recently, I watched…something (I can’t remember who or where) “Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Remember that it’s all for good and to look beyond the time of faith. That’s where the reward of God’s goodness for your faithfulness will be revealed. I’m working on my faith. God bless you and thank you for your reply! 😊
Hearing that I don't need to be crying all the time, and constantly feeling the grief is so helpful. I was worried something was wrong. I have little moments where I sob and cry, feel fine, then back to anxiety, then back to crying. It's validating to know that I'm swinging back & and forth, and it's normal. Thank you.
I'm in the same place. The sadness, crying and then the few moments when I feel normal and happy. It's a terrible cycle but I'm going to keep praying and fighting it will get better🙏
Very valuable video, it soon will be a year since my son passed, he lost his battle with cancer. I have learned to lean into my grief to set aside my time to cry write or run and listen to myself. I also find at times I project my anger and self-doubt, I have also learned to recognize that intense feeling and work thru it. Some days are better than other days.
Words are not adequate enough to describe the grief one experiences by losing a loved one, but there is hope. Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. This is the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you! Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to: facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
@sherri jones That is wonderful! Search progress. I find it hard too write it out because it hurst so much. I can’t imagine losing your child too cancer. However, maybe you had time for closure? My daughter got the delta - covid there was no time for closure I felt so helpless as I watch her dying on that Machine. May God blesses everyone how has lost a child , or love one so close. 🌺
I lost son just over a year ago from cancer. There’s not a day that has gone by that I haven’t cried. I definitely lean into the grief and swing back out. I can laugh with someone, but in that same moment I get smacked by grief as well. It’s like feeling two opposing emotions at once, my emotions are so complex and layered now. I have no choice but to give myself the patience to process the pain. Losing a child is losing oneself, because they are reflections of us. The part I find not discussed with grief is the PTSD in watching my child suffer from treatments, chemo and cancer both killing him. His pain and suffering echoed within myself, even as he tried to hide it from me, to continue to fight. I relive those memories, so not only the grief do I feel, but what every parent feels, that responsibility to protect them and the helplessness. They don’t mention the trauma to all the scenarios within their care, the panic and emergency room visits, etc., that sum up that experience. So I lean into it, I try to make peace with it. Some days I succeed and some days I sob. But everyday I get up to face the challenge set before me, every day is a new day to try.
I’m 52 male and was mums main caregiver for over 10 yrs ,we lost her 3 months ago and I’m still broken..I can’t sleep ,anxiety through the roof, I don’t eat a lot,and cry everyday..I used to be a happy fun to be around guy,but now all I want to do is hide away..you tell everyone your ok,but then you go home and see a jar of pickled onions in the fridge ,and cry your eyes out..
I've known many people who have had major health issues triggered by loss. The commonality seems to NOT be loss itself, but rather, not "dealing with it" or processing it adequately. Unfortunately, avoidance and distraction are very common ways that people deal with grief, but they aren't good for your health in the long run.
@@HenryBenedictUSA ohh, that's a tough question. I only work with folks with chronic gut issues (IBS, SIBO, IBD) so that is what I have seen personally. However, it's entirely possible that doctors who work with other conditions would have observed the same in their patient population. Hope that helps- I wish I had a more helpful answer bc it's a really good question!
This is what I'm worried about. I'm going through a chronic illness and I don't think I'll be able to deal with grief if I lose someone close to me. I feel like I would try to suppress it because it would only cause more scare for me if I face it.
My husband of 47 years committed suicide last year. My primary emotion has been anger. I'm furious with him for leaving me with the mess he left behind. I know what I need to do, but it's really difficult.
I wish that somehow we could, for a very short period of time, be immersed in another’s life to know exactly how they arrived, in the case of someone we love who attempts or is successful at taking their own life. Zero judgement allowed. Of course, it’s only a fantasy, and impossible to ever happen in real life. If only…….
I've had my fair share of bereavment and grief. I lost a loved one 2 months ago and I'm still in the grieving process. It's very hard. To get through it I give myself tasks, one at a time, baby steps. Number one get out of bed and make the bed. Number 2 get in the shower and dress in clean clothes. Number 3 go out for a walk, even just for 15 minutes. Number 4 eat something. It's as if my loved ones are telling me what to do. Do the dishes, do the laundry, clean the floor etc. One job at a time. Yes, I'm still in pain but I'm clean and in a nice environment. Honestly it helps. Also I have caring friends and when they visit me I don't want them seeing a dirty house with dishes piled up in the sink. They don't need to see me in my PJs with greasy hair. I'm grateful for their love and support but I don't want them to worry about me and I don't want to be a burden to them. Someone on here was criticised for saying you have to choose to be happy. They seemed a bit harsh but there's truth in that. We are all responsible for taking charge of our own lives. When the going gets tough the tough get going and it all starts with getting up and making your bed. Blessings to all of you who are in pain xx
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I got severely, chronically ill 1.5 years ago. I basically lost my own life, except that I'm somehow still here to witness everything. All the things I loved to do before, how I spent my time, my work, most friends I had... all of that was lost to chronic illness. Oftentimes I still distract myself and try not to feel the pain. But recently I've come to notice that if I allow myself to grieve my old life and my old self, I set the ground for allowing a new me to emerge from all the pain. That new person is very different from the one I was before in many ways, but she is alive.
I lost my mother almost three years ago and I have not moved on I have just moved forward since then. I didn’t expect the emotions with losing a loved one and as long as they have gone on. It has gotten somewhat better but I will always miss her.I will always look forward to meeting her one day in heaven
Interestingly grief can come in many levels. In losing my parents - dad in the early 90's & mum in 2005 it was sad & I do miss them but life moves on & you accept it as it is a part of life. However we lost our only child to cancer in late July 2022 at 28 years young & we have found that extremely difficult to get over - his mother is absolutely devastated. It has impacted us in a way that losing my parents never did. And it interesting recognizing some of the elements of grief in this video that we are going through. At this stage I feel its going to be a mountain that I may never climb, but as they say life goes on & you've just got to try & deal with it. And its sad so many other people as indicated by the comments are in the same place - I feel your pain & may god bless.
These words of encouragement are a complete gift! 😢 Thank you so much! My 30 yr old Son just passed tragically and suddenly 4 weeks ago - it has left me feeling mostly numb and still in shock - I fear not allowing myself room to process but at times, the emotions physically suck the breath out of my lungs. The wisdom in this video truly resonates with me and has brought me a glimmer of hope in my journey ahead 😓🧡
God bless u abundantly u lost Ur 👶 that's unbearable love and memories are yours alone none can take away from Ur memory so shine on the Ocean is a real healer sit on beach and watch the waves v/therapeutic and Ur Son would want that don't think MUM get a Life do it for me I'm not far away I am here for you always
6 months since papa passed - we were best buddies for 17 years. I'm finding that the more I progress with my life, career, just positive things the more the grief hits me. I miss my atta boys. I'm going to a grief group at a local church next week just to be around like people.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I lost my precious 8 year old dog 4 weeks ago. The grief is as painful as when I lost my dear parents. Thank you for sharing this very helpful information. 💗 I’ll start today.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I lost my husband to cancer in January, then I lost my mum to dementia in September in the same year, then I lost my home just two months later because my husband didn’t have life insurance! I really struggled but I had to hold it together for our son who was only four! A couple months after I had lost everything, my in-laws started neglecting and leaving my son and I out of family get togethers. I went into lock down mode and just got on with my life without them! My son is extremely lucky if he sees his cousins once or maybe twice a year! Tens years later and I still feel sad and heartbroken and don’t sleep much. I constantly have migraines and feel awful all the time. At least now I know why! ❤
My heart goes out to you and your son😢 I lost my husband/soulmate of 38 years in 2015 and I am seeing a psychologist only now! I will keep you and your son in my prayers and pray for you both specifically. Take care and stay safe 💐
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I lost my father 1 week ago. He was my best friend he taught me everything. As a kid I was always by his side helping him work on cars and fishing and target practice ,dad was always there for me no matter what. He was the strongest man iv ever knew. He had been through hell his entire life. He lived through things I never thought anyone could survive. I was an only child and a daughter so I got all the spoiling . I miss him so much my heart feels like it is breaking . Will this pain ever go away? Just thinking I may live another 40 years and never see him or hear his voice again is overwhelming and so dam depressing. I try to stay busy but cry like a baby even driving down the road. It feels like a huge pressure on my chest all the time my heart feels like it's Ben ripped out and crushed and put back in . Iv tried to tell myself he is in a better place and be strong for my mother but I feel like I'm about to break . Will this ever go away?
Each person also goes through their own grief. "It will depend on different individual factors and the environment. If the person has previously faced a loss or not, if they have a family support network or friends or if they are alone, if they are a very dependent person, if they see themselves more or less affected in their economy. It is important, from the point of view of the affectation, whether or not the death was expected and the way of dying. All these factors and many more make each mourning different for each person," says Prieto.🙏 thank you, awesome videos...🌹
Buried my mom on 10/24. Her sister died that night. I gave birth to my baby on 10/26. Nothing is the same without my mom. I never processed the death of my aunt. I’m still processing losing my mother/very best friend.
I just lost my sister to addiction she was found at her home passed away I can’t cope with this pain and crying all the time I’m missing her and wish I had done more to help her I did support her but it’s never enough.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
Well said - doing the work is uncomfortable, even dark, but nothing compares to the light on the other end of suffering and turning that darkness into something meaningful.
Except I'm still having trouble crying over my grandmother's death. But I am feeling the same sensations she did when she was dying. Strangulation and breathing tube down my throat. Every day is so much more difficult to get through, little sleep. Doctors aren't really able to help me. I didn't know grief could be hell.
@@chris_hawk Sorry for your pain dude, I know it's hard man, I'm still grieving my dog after nearly two weeks. Just weeping and weeping day in day out, but it's slowly getting easier. Standing with you. Praying for you. God bless you.
I don’t understand grief because it’s been 8 years this December that i lost my grandmother but it still feels like it wasn’t long ago at all. Same with other people ive lost after her.. i still cry almost everyday
@@brendadrumm9451 I can’t imagine the pain of that. I’m so sorry. I hope you can find some peace somehow someday. You will see them again, but I know you must miss them terribly now. 💕😪
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
All good advice. My Father died a few days after being diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer 2 years ago. He was my best friend. Only 66 years old. For the first year I was a mess. Fell into overspending, alcohol and substance abuse. Was like being lost in a fog. About 9 months after he died I spent 2 days drinking, took 10 ecstasy pills in 48 hours, smoked a tone of weed. Thought I was going to die myself by the end of the 2 days. Was I’ll for a week from the comedown. I decided then to deal with the grief and try pull myself together. Thankfully I managed to deal with the grief and sober up. I leaned into it and accepted the only way to heal was to face it. Now back on track and much happier. I still miss him and have my low moments but that is natural. Never ignore your grief because you will never win the battle.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I lost my mum in November and my anxiety has been atrocious recently. I’ve had anxiety since I was a child, but the loss of my mum I feel is the underpinning reason for it becoming so overwhelming recently.
Same!! After losing my Mom, her husband of 20 years, and a week exactly after him my dad. Anxiety as a child got worse. I’m super sensitive to everything people say. I’m ruining relationships with people and not keeping a job!!
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I lost my son almost a year ago. I have experienced all of these signs and I knew what I was doing and that I was having an avoidance or numbing response and I’m glad that I was gentle with myself and allowed myself to numb out ( over eat - sugars and carbs - binge watch tv, stay overly busy etc -) sometimes and deal sometimes , intermittently, as I could. Over a period of almost 12 months , the avoidance behaviors have lessened and the acceptance and authentic feelings have increased. Be gentle with yourselves 🙏❤️❤️ Oh I commented too soon - now I see that she calls what Ive been doing “ pendulation” Great video.
My beloved partner passed away suddenly last year, I had the phone call that shattered me. Fortunately I am Clairvoyant so I still hear and feel him, I keep a journal so we still talk, I'm dealing with my grief shamanically, I keep busy at work so I don't fall apart, I avoid triggers if I can, my sleep is bad anyway due to PTSD, if I break down sobbing so be it, the pain is indescribable, no one will ever take his place, I am devastated and devoted always 💯🙏💔
Thank you, he wasn't my husband but my partner we doted on each other, old souls reunited which is why it's horrendous, don't think I'll learn to live with event, but I manage so he's proud of me.💔💔💔 My condolences for the loss of your wife, know that she's there still🙏🇬🇧
Thank you this I found very supportive. Last October 2021 I lost my son suddenly, following an anaphylaxis due to a wasp sting to his neck, he survived only 48hrs in ICU! 🌸
I understand everyone deals with grief in different ways we never get over lossing a love one we just live a different way you think your never stop crying but it's gets a little bit easier each day. I lost my Dad in 1992 and it felt like I was on another planet very scary and heartbreaking 😥,and then I loss my Mum 1995 that was a deep pain 😭 because your Mum the.one who your best friend when your friends let you down .But it doesn't make the pain go away you still miss them deeply 🙄Then last year 😭I loss one of my brother's who I always looked up as a kid and was always looking out for me.that's a totally different pain you.cant explain ,I miss him every day and I always will 😭. It's good to know that there is a place like this site to tell our stories and.come.together to talk about our pain .
It has been 2 years since my sister passed, I cannot believe that 2 years have gone by. The time thing is the hardest for me, how did I make it through all those days? Some days it seems just like yesterday. I am having physical symptoms now I didn't know they were part of grief. People have told me that she wouldn't want me to cry so much I laugh and tell myself "yes she would want me to cry". I miss laughing with her so much. I am taking as long as I need to grieve her. She was my best friend. I am in the stage where I can look at pictures and talk about her. I will grieve her for as long as I loved her. RIP Andi
Listening intently….until your suggestion of “cuddling with your husband or your dog”. I recently divorced AND four months later my sweet dog died. And I still appreciate this video. Processing grief is important. I too have spoken to groups about it. And that when we call it “loss”, the word itself hurts, but turn the word to “life’s transitions”, it becomes clearer. The other side of grief is what my artwork IS about!!! Through the processing, our energy can return and life is more fully experienced!
Brilliant! I too am doing well.... don't have art like you but I write and have understanding friends. Artists are so IMPORTANT in this world. Keep up your good work.
@@joannaedwards6325 thank you so much!!!! Keep writing!!!!!!!!!! I write for about 20 minutes most mornings, just what I call feral writing, to put to paper whatever preconscious thoughts might be in me. I find it an excellent way to find myself, and then yes, I usually go into the studio then to paint!!
@@cherylannebarillartist7453 I bet somewhere in your 'feral writing' are wonderful poems, insightful paragraphs, inspired essays. I used to fill up pages like that. I called it free association scribbling. Many a good poem came to light. Also insightful comments to myself (from my Higher Self no doubt). Creativity like art and writing are gifts. And so much FUN. It is an intriguing practice and when doing it some have tapped into Automatic Writing. Like when an unseen entity takes over and comes through. Facinating.
I really enjoyed watching your video. I just lost one of the most divine person of 45 years of blissful making. I can't explain how I feel about my emptiness without 😕 him. Every turn I make in the house, I could scream. I have done that so many times. I lost him 7 months ago from a heart transplant surgery. I am trying to cope 😩.
My husband came down with severe Fibromyalgia around age 30 and it was tough to see and feel so many of our dreams for life flow away...but my gut said YES! when I heard this video. All the times I actually braved up and sat with myself and my sadness were so much more healing than running away and distracting myself!! But I love how your solutions also gave space for rest, in the pendulation etc! Thank you so much! I love what you are doing here. My heart felt at peace after hearing this. ❤️❤️❤️
I am so sorry you are having to go through this, but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you! Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to: facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
El Miller You are free to believe in ANY Higher Power you choose. EVERY SINGLE HUMAN BEING IS COMPLETELY LOVED BY THE LOVING CREATOR. Even if you don't have a spiritual belief system the Creative Force still loves you. Don't give in to anyone's pressure to believe or not believe in the same way they believe. We are all on our own perfect path. ✌
@@kelleymcfadden9675 Really not the right place or time. Hurting ppl here really just need to talk about THEIR grief. They're not here to be lectured. Your essay seems self serving; not helpful.
i lost my uncle (who was also one of my best friends ever since i was growing up) 3 years ago this month and everything you said that you do when not coping with grief is things i do every year around the month of may. i think i truly realized that i never actually coped with the loss, i just tried to act like it never happened until the anniversary comes around and everything comes back to light like it just happened
This was so very helpful, and I appreciate how it didn't drag out and lose me. Everything here cut to the chase, which I needed, as it's been hard to focus since my loss. Many thanks
my husband had cancer 12.14.20, bawelcancer, got operated, and then he was free of cancer. Good! but what about al the trouble he now has with his bawels. He suffers every day. Our daughter got breastcancer may 2021, operstion first and chemo only. cancerfree in november, Happy dancing. Cancer back one month later. This time an aggressive type whit no record af surviving. Had to go through så many scary complications, wounds, oedems, cramps, wather in her lungs. She suffered immemsely. She died on june 24. She was 44 years old and lefr two boys 8 and 16 years old. I grieve firstly over her loss, then her boys, her husband, her brother and then us, mummy and daddy. I can relate to everything she is saying. Its a hard day almost every day. Our daughter was so strong all the way and gave all of us love, love, love and time, until there were no time left. For her I must work hard on mastering the grief and sadnes in the best way.
Resources like this seem to be coming at the right time for me these days. My dad died very unexpectedly just over a week ago and I’m trying to process as best I can. I’m doing this the “feel my feelings” way and allowing myself to feel everything as it comes up
I'm so sorry you are having to go through this, but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you! Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to: facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
This is a blessing! It absolutely clicked, and I hit all 7... Been in this state for at least 40 years. And didn't have a single clue what it was. Now I do, and I can focus my prayers and efforts in a positive, healing/ restorative direction. Thank you so much!
As a therapist who is still working through my own grief (2 yrs 2 months), I appreciate your empathetic educational style. I plan on looking up the sources you referenced for my personal use as well as to constantly improve my therapeutic skills.
first i feel for you i know how you feel if you havent been there you dont know to cut a very long story short im done im finished nothing on gods earth can help me ive lost my only reason to be on this planet my daughter and son adult people are dead 42 and 32 nothing left no one can help me
There is nothing on earth can make me feel any better i lost my adult daughter 9 yrs ago yr half after my son there is nothing left for me the pain is there from the moment i try to close my eyes at night until i open them in the morning nothing can help me x
My son was killed Oct 2019. I have been diagnosed with PTSD and depression. Its the HARDEST thing i have ever or will ever face. He was my baby boy. Some of those 7 signs are me. I try to stay busy and not dwell, but i still find myself thinking of him, what happened that day, and guilt. 💔😥 GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU WHO ARE GRIEVING! Its HARD
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
Mind blowing! I can't believe I've never heard grief explained this way, and I've read several books on it since my husband died. I feel like I might now understand why I haven't let go and moved on. And I also have a couple practical steps to improve that! Thank you for condensing so much wisdom into this short video.
Can you make a video on grief that stems from a pattern of emotional neglect, abandonment or mistreatment? How we allow ourselves to be treated this way if we were raised in emotionally neglectful and toxic environments. I feel while this can also apply to all situations causing grief, grief stemming from a pattern of emotional neglect, abandonment or mistreatment can become an endless cycle and it's all too common. Some tools to break this cycle in a healthy way and develop self compassion that is not reliant on the validation of the world will be extremely helpful. Thank you.
I grew up in an abusive household, and I set boundaries when I moved out.. I told my “ father” he wasn’t allowed to treat me that way anymore and that made him cut all contact and ordered my mom and siblings to cut all bonds with me. It’s been years and no one understands the pain.. the feeling of being dead and forgotten while still breathing. The layers of hurt and how everyone I try to convey this to, tells me how strong I am and how I’m doing better without them. My whole foundation is gone and I’m being told I’m doing fine.. well, I’m not. How can a mother choose a man that’s been hurting us all in every way over her child ?? I will never understand
I am so sorry you are having to go through this. Grief is hard enough to deal with by itself, let alone having to deal with others not understanding, but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you! Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to: facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
@@thara21 I am so sorry you are having to go through this. Grief is hard enough to deal with by itself, let alone having to deal with others not understanding, but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you! Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to: facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
Aama and Thera21. Thank you both for so beautifully and clearly expressing your experience and self. Sadly there are many of ‘us’ out here, but somehow ‘hearing’ others similar journey brings me such relief. Due to a horrific family tragedy within the last year I finally had to write my family and say unless they want to join me in looking at our lifelong trauma I will need to go at it on my own. Talk about feeling ALONE! Yet I know for my own mental and spiritual health this is what I need to do. At times I am able to say to myself, this split may be permanent but it may be temporary, for some may choose someday to live in the truth. When I consider reaching out to my family to relieve some of my loneliness, I am blessed to quickly understand that my brain/mind and soul likely would not survive should I choose to return to living in the darkness of denial. So for now I must move on. I hang on tight to Gods promises-He loves me. He will never leave or forsake me. He wants me to rest in Him. He wants me to TRUST Him. He will comfort those who mourn. One foot in front of the other. One day sometimes one minute at a time. With Gods help I will get up each day and choose to first seek Him, to wait on Him…AND trust in His promises. 👆🏼❤️🙏
My daughter and I had only 16 days from the terminal cancer diagnosis for my son /her brother. mercifully short time for him, for which we are grateful and shocking loss for us. He never knew what was wrong and we each spent wonderful sweet time together. We both seem to pick each other up in the low points. I had broken my back in a fall just 2 weeks before the diagnosis. So we had other things to tend to ad that may have helped but I wouldnt suggest it. My daughter has a degree in Psychology which helped enormously. We stay close and support each other. Nowhere near healed of grief but accepting of it. I can’t imagine being fine ever after the loss of my son. Thanks for your kind wisdom. Barbara Mathieson
I lost my Daughter in March 2022 She was only 25 years old. It has been absolutely devastating to myself and my two younger daughters. I don’t know how to live without her in my life 😢
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
It's been 2 years since I lost my mom and Grandma, still having a hard time with. Listening to this hopefully helps. Dealing with depression for almost 2 years. 😥
This is timely for me. Three years ago multiple tragedies occurred within a couple of weeks. My father was placed on hospice because his cancer had metastasized. My husband was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. Our house burned to the ground with our three cats inside who were like our children. Then my father died. Three years later, I’m still afraid to grieve. It feels like that level of grief is a gateway to madness, and I’m afraid to go there. I hope that your suggestions help. I can’t stay frozen in despair, distracting myself, or avoiding my responsibilities. I have to deal with this, and it scares me more than I can express.
So sorry for your loss, lost my beloved 3 cats almost the same time, they were like my children and am so devastated and dead now 😢 Sending hugs and prayers to you ❤
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I have been avoiding / suppressing grieving the sudden loss of my father 2yrs ago. Now I am suffering from 24/7 anxiety, lots of panic attacks and now agoraphobia with some derealization on top of all of that. Thank you for this video. I have been searching for tools to get myself better. I wish you could be my therapist
Might be worth checking out "Ask a Mortician" (Channel on YT) by Caitlin Doughty. She's done Tedx, too... AND she explores a lot about the whole grieving process, from helping spot the predatory nature of the funerary industry, to different traditions around the world, and even some famous and infamous deaths through history... She kind of takes the uncomfortable and frequently disturbing subjects around death and loss and turns it into a fascinating learning experience, peppered with just a little bit of good humor to keep us "Deathlings" coming back for more, even well after the particular loss or thing that sent us there in the first place. ;o)
PART 3 of 3. Second solution in America: Process smaller amounts of grief (like when you feel that “heaviness” right in your face) with open mouthed humming. Like when the doctor tells you to open your mouth and say “Ahhhhhhhhh”. Start your “grief work session” just like that. And vary the pitch and volume according to how it FEELS while you’re doing it. And the more grief you process out of your body in this way means the less you will eat because of emotions instead of eating because of hunger. I use sound canceling headphones to protect my hearing, and I do at least some “grief work” in this manner every single day. Good luck!
I lost my husband in 2018.
It is now 2022.
I have NEVER STOPPED crying .
I cry every single day , some days on and off and other days I cry all day and night.
My husband was the most
loving and giving human being. He loved me more than anyone else in my entire life. I gave that love back to him for 43 1/2
years.
I hate the things people say to me.
Some things are cruel and others want to make me feel bad about my longing for my husband. I cannot control my emotions.
I wish I could go back in time . I just want to hold him one more time and feel his arms around me.
I HAVE NEVER STOPPED LOVING HIM AND NEVER WILL.
Mine died in 2018 as well. Suddenly and horribly. I understand the agony of the grief journey.
I am so sorry you are having to go through this, but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you!
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
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Thank you, watching my husband die from Cancer was the most heartbreaking thing have ever witnessed.
The week before he died he told me he fell in love with me the first time he laid his eyes on me. It makes me cry so much and he said he wanted just one more summer with me so we could have some quality time together. He died 4 days later. I hear those words in my head all the time.
I just cannot stop crying.
@@kelleymcfadden9675
im 72 i lost my daughter of 42 in 2o13 my son of 32 yr half after ive lost my hearing in left ear cant taste or smell its not covid its grief ive lost 2 stone in weight i cry all the time there is no one on gods earth can help me i feel for you god bless x
I'm mad at my husband that he left me, cancer 2months and five days, but im trying to let go and realize he had to go to Jesus, he told me he was waiting for him and it was beautiful there, but i am heartbroken and just want my David. It is a very slow and painful process. Prayers for all.
Grief also makes you feel alone no matter how many people are around you
I don't want no people around me
So true. No matter what form it takes, we can only grieve alone.
True!!!, ☹️
Thank you, I realize from your comment that is what I am feeling.
Well said.
For those of us who are naturally introverted, withdrawal is entirely normal, healthy and indeed necessary. Some of us find comfort in solitude and seek solace from within.
Yes to everything you said. Me too.
I’m an introvert, but I have a anxious attachment style. Recovering codependent. I need someone to co-regulate with… It’s OK everyone’s different.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
Thank you saying that.
Yes❤😢😢
I recently lost my mom, and sometimes I feel fine, and other days, I feel sad. People keep telling me that I need to get over it. Mom was my best friend, and when she died, she took a big piece of me with her. We lived in the same apartment together, and going and coming home from work is hard because she always sat in her chair, watching me leave and come home. Sometimes, I would blame myself because if I had been off that day, she would have been alive. Many times, I would cry myself to sleep at night. Yesterday, I was on my way to work, and I started crying my eyes out in front of people. Mom was the one I talked to about any little thing. My life will never be the same anymore.
i am in your exact situation now. if it helps, i Do understand because i’m going through that right now.
My condolences. Same here. That's the worst someone can say. I take Wednesday to get it out of my system by listening to mournful music. By letting it out I'm healing and she contacts me in my dreams, I now get to see more foreshadowing than I ever had before. Pray at home and burn smudge sticks to rid of negative energy. I wasn't really active in chores and administrative issues, but it was just like flicking a switch, I'm doing everything, almost as if someone is doing it for me, like she's with me, inside my heart. Of course she a lot of people agreed with me. My heart and stomach still hurt time to time, but all I can say is that I would make the best out of what time I have left. I promised her that on her deathbed also after I sang happy birthday to her, so I'm not just gonna sit around and wait for death. The pain stays because I cannot accept how she went, in the morning she was brimming with life and around 1700 she passed. Even though from the afterlife she tells me not worry, what I feel is like an injury but on the inside and it will heal, but most likely after accepting her death. And to get to accepting I read the holy scriptures, it really helps.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
I was a caregiver for my mother for 10 yrs. Also I lived with her for 65 yrs. I lost her 8 months ago. My emotions are all over the place. Obviously my life will never be the same ! I'm going to griefshare but sometimes they are too dogmatic when relying on scripture. At times i wish God would have taken me with her, but i don't believe God takes anyone. I think people die from natural causes or accidents. I will live out my life but I will never be the same again ! Lastly some days are better than others, listening to norman vincent peale the positive thinking minister helps. Writing about emotions helps. My sympathy for the above people that lost loved ones.
Please ignore the utter imbeciles who told you to “get over it.” This is your MOTHER we are talking about here, not a distant cousin! Take all the time you need. And please know that your mother is still very much with you in spirit.
My 26 year old daughter died on February 8 2021. My younger sister who was my best support and comfort after this devastating loss died on March 29 2022. My daughter died from a haemorrhage caused by a brain tumour, my sister had breast cancer. I am truly drowning in grief. Every day is a battle just to keep going. The world has gone dark and silent. Thank you for this message. I hope I can work with these suggestions.
Such tragic losses! I pray that you can find comfort and peace. 💗
I am so, so sorry for your losses. You are unbelievably strong. Not sure if you're religious but praying that you will have renewed strength and Godly comfort in this time.
Sending you a prayer, God she needs your comfort, strength the pain she’s dealing with is debilitating. In your mercy give her emotional healing, only you can heal the broken hearted. ❤️🩹
I can’t begin to imagine what you are going through & my heart aches for you. I hope that you have some people in your life that you can still lean on. Or a good therapist?? Or a furry friend to cuddle?!?
In the past year and a half, I’ve lost a lot of my loved ones, including my mom. It has been devastating. I feel alone quite often. I talked to my doctor & am taking anti-depressant and that seems to be helping me feel more motivated to get out of bed. And I force myself to call & text old friends and family members. I also joined a local church. I try to find some way each month to honor my mom (I struggle the most with having lost her; she was my world). Through these actions, I have started feeling less alone & seem better able to cope with everything on a day to day basis. Don’t get me wrong; I still wake up crying. And still go to bed crying sometimes. But those things helped me so I wanted to share just in case one of them might help you.
I also cuddle my dogs a LOT.
I pray that you find what you need in this universe to help you through each day. I wish I had magical words to take away your pain. I just wanted to tell you - one human to another - that I hear you. Grief should not be carried alone. I pray that you find whatever support you need. Please take care of yourself the best you are able to each day & be extra kind to yourself. ❤
@@bluefish143 sending you love ♥️♥️♥️
I still struggle with all of these 30 yrs. later. I buried a child and gave birth to another in the same week. Extremely difficult...never grieved properly. I believe some things aren't meant to get over...and it's OK. 💜🕊
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sending you a big hug 💚
Sending jingles.
So sorry.
I understand what you're saying about 'some things we're not meant to get over - and that's OK.'
I don't believe we ever quite "get over" the loss of a loved one. We come to terms with it. It changes us and we learn to adapt. I don't believe we should forget that person. When we deal with that grief we can remember the good memories of them. Pain can still need there but it can be manageable I've found. It's a part of life.
We make room for grief. It is our constant companion. Best to make friends with it, if we can, or if not, then a peaceful truce.
we're not asked to forget that person.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
Took me over 15yrs to grieve the loss of my dad…he’s the only man I felt ever cared about me. 🙏❤️
I feel similar! 20 years ago my dad died and i cry randomly and feel immense guilt. i‘m 34 now. Can u share any advice with me please 🤍?
@@pmg886 I believe in an eternal realm full of love and that our soul never dies. That has helped me connect to my heart more ❤️
@@heatherwall7579thank you! All the best for u
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Grief is just love with no place to go. Our minds cannot wrap around the concept of living without that other human being in our life. It is a loss of your past, your present, and your future. But our loved ones, if we could truly hear them, would tell us that they are ok, and that we need ro press on. So it's a matter of the right preposition; it's not about getting over it. It's about having the courage to move THROUGH it.
True, my son just moved to college and I miss him sooo much. I know he has to move on. My love for him will always be endless but I would love to have another baby and start over so the love I have goes somewhere more tangible, I don't know. I just don't want to grieve anymore.
I believe ya. Love with no place to go. Missing that person some a place or thing brings about great emotional sadness
Last month I lost my father. I was never ready for this. 27 days have passed since that. I cannot remember a single day I have cried for him. Whenever I try to process it I feel a severe headache accompanied with shortness of breath and trembling, derealization etc. Several lifestyle changes like being irresponsible over little things, strong desire for smoking, not concentrating on daily activities are there. I am feeling lost! It feels like I belong from nowhere.
But truly I believe one day I'll rise out of it. On that day I will write in this comment section how I deal with all of this, so that I can exchange the feeling of hope with you all.
Out of control grief can result from one loss too many. I lost my father many years ago and I handled it. I then lost my mother and grandmother, and whilst the deaths rocked my world, somehow I handled it. Last year I lost my little dog and it was like everyone had now been taken from me. We were never apart in the years we were together. She was 14, what did I expect? Rage, grief, heartbreak, despair. I’m doing my best to work through it, but I can only cope by believing she is still with me, I talk to her as if she is with me. I don’t know where I’m going on this journey but I’m doing my best. Sincere and heartfelt best wishes to anyone struggling out there. We must believe that it will all be right again one day.
Sending you hugs and blessings to help you get through your losses. I’m dealing with similar situation here, too. Lots of losses of people & animals and relationships that were all a big part of me and my life. I remind myself that I have to keep going for those that are still living & love them as much as I can. I will probably never get through the tragic horrific losses I’ve suffered. I miss them all so much. Life is fragile and a gift. I pray I will be reunited with all of my love ones 1 day, even my beloved animals. I pray that they are all happy and loved in the spirit world and know how very special they are. 🙏🪽🪽
When dealing with a terminally ill close relative or a loss, when someone asks you "how are you doing" they don't actually want to know. They want you to say you're fine. If you say anything other than that, people get so uncomfortable that it's next to impossible to say anything else than what they want to hear.
That's why I am not sure what say after some has passed way. What do say??
Very true
I am so sorry you are having to go through this, but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you!
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
When I ask, I genuinely want to know. I care deeply about how people are feeling and them just knowing that you are available to sit and let them cry in your presence, without judgement, can be invaluable to their emotional health into the future. I'm happy to hold someone when they're crying, although I will usually cry along with them due to the heartbreak I can feel they're experiencing. My enquiries into how others are, is never shallow.
@@kelleymcfadden9675 Thank you for sharing this. I pray that Jesus will use this testimony to draw many to Himself. He is surely using your son in this. God bless and comfort you.
I lost my dad, stepdad, grandma, aunt and uncle in less than 18 mos. That was 20 years ago. It changed me forever. I still grieve. The loss was too big. My mother passed a little under a year ago and now I’m alone. I feel like an orphan but I’m not a child. Weird.
It's not weird.
Not weird... me too.
I lost my dad 36 years ago , mom 14. I cry every day. hysterical. even my dog who passed makes me sob.
I'm so sorry you lost so many people in such a short span of time. My grandma passed away in July 2022, and my mama passed right behind her in October 2022. So much so soon. 🥺 I honestly don't know how you were able to cope. 🥺
When. MY mother passed my father had passed 9 years to the day before
I told my husband I feel like an orphan
My husband passed away 4 Months ago.Im so lost without him.
Time just seems to stand still.
The grieving is every day & no matter how you try your emotions are uncontrollable.You never think it's going to happen to you & when it does you think your the only one.
Anyone who has lost a loved one I'm so sorry for your loss 😢
I am so terribly sorry for your loss.
I am going through exactly this, don't hold back the grief or the tears don't be embarrassed nothing to be ashamed of it's normal. ❤
Yes that’s so true the plans you made together and then they are cruelly taken away bless you take care ❤️
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
I know how you feel . God bless you
#1 Compulsive behaviors
#2 Withdrawal from relationships
#3 Overfunctioning
#4 Irritability
#5 Persistent sleep issues
#6 Physical symptoms
#7 Mental health symptoms
Yes all of this comes in ways. My doctor said I have been though a lot of trauma.
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Check got them all
Thank you
@@Dh-rp7ggme too
Can anyone let me know what you think?
I am trying to actively deal with my grief (not avoiding it, going to therapy, leaning into it etc), and yet I have all of these symptoms.
I feel numb and I rarely cry, even though I am comfortable with feeling sad. I really wouldn't know what to do differently.
I am open to feeling I just don't feel much apart from anxiety.
Imagine if all therapists were this competent😅. Grateful I found this channel.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
69 yrs old and dealing with a lifetime of neglect & loss. Art therapy is saving me, one day at a time. Plus lots of excellent trauma teachers, meditation, a grief buddy, and my journal. Ty for this video! ❤
61 lost the love of my life last year, I have come to the conclusion there is something more to our connection, it is not primarily physical. There are attributes to our connection that are beyond description
Good for you, Deb. Persevere, one day at a time. You probably already know you'll still have bad days, but now you know that you will bounce back.
Thank you for this Infomation
@@solofemaletravelerme oiijj hi jii hi kkk ghno no no u hi uh pop hi
Been neglected all my life aged 54
I lost my mom when I was in high school after a very long, extended battle with multiple illnesses. Teachers, school counselors and all other adults raved about how well I was doing because I didn't make their lives more complicated and seemed fine. When I did struggle, I got in trouble and clearly the message that it was uncomfortable for these adults to deal with me and I was to essentially cut it out and suppress all emotion so they could go back to not having to deal with me and raving about how great I was. Schools really don't have anything in place to deal with kids who have periods of years with issues like a terminally ill parent. Teachers can give you a few passes for not doing assignments, but not years off. So once my mom was finally dead, I think my teachers were so relieved and just wanted me to move on quickly and be fine since this was such an annoyance to deal with a student with mental health issues. School made dealing with grief so much worse because my teacher wanted me to not show any signs of being anything other than fine.
I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope you are able to accept your emotions and process them!
I am sorry for your loss. My brother just passed and left behind my nieces (his daughters)- 11 and 13 yr old. They are for the most part not showing much in the outwardly ways of grief. I completely understand about what you are saying about the issue in school- and how hard that must have been on you. That said, unfortunately, teachers have a job and many many students- they have so much out of their own control. So, while it's a shame that they made it worse for you- it's the reality that schools can't handle all the things. This is why we need better connections between the healthcare field, including mental health, and schools-- because schools just don't have the resources to deal.
I hear you ❤️
I’ve been around this too. I’m sorry.
Words are not adequate enough to describe the grief one experiences by losing a loved one, but there is hope. Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. This is the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you!
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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Grief loss is not just a death. It can be when a husband or wife leaves you, or a child who won’t have anything to do with you, losing a much loved pet.
Or losing a meaningful job and losing a home
I still cry over a dog l had and a lover that died less than a month apart in 2019.
A divorce is nothing like losing your wife to cancer
Our 11 year old grand daughter was taken from us by her parents. We had a very strong relationship with her and now we can't see her. I am in deep grief and my husband is in denial 😞. Please pray for us.
Do not compare a spouses death to the loss of another human being or animal.
If you never lost a husband you loved for 43 years, you know nothing about the heartache.
Losing a husband to cancer
means he is gone from this
world . People can be so judgemental when They know nothing about death.
What my y cat died . I had her for 23 years , I cried and still think of her but I did not cry for 5 years as I have done for my husband. .
People please do not make comments about things you know nothing about.
It is hurtful to we humans who lost their spouses whom we loved so much.
I needed this today. My daughter died four days ago, was traumatic , still seems surreal. The swinging in and out of grief and then feeling ok the next minute was abnormal but you have validated me that it is OK! thank you.
I am SO terribly sorry for your loss.
Deepest condolences.
I am so sorry for your loss 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹❤️❤️❤️❤️
I'm sorry....I lost my 24 year old daughter in November in a car accident. I still don't know how to handle it and it's killing me every single day. 💔
❤
My father didn't deal with the loss of my brother (his son) at all well.
We had a small business, and he went back to work, and would never talk about it or discuss it. He used distractions to not deal with it.
He had a heart attack around 18 months later, after working harder than he ever did, not dealing with his emotions.
I am convinced that part of it was "broken heart syndrome" and that if my brother never died, he wouldn't have either.
As hard as it is to hear, maybe that was his way. For some life is too painful to deal with, and leaving it is the only way. It can feel devastating and tragic when you are one of the people left behind. My heart goes out to you for both losses.
I believe his heart was broken as soon as his son died. He just kept on breathing.
❤ I'm sorry.
He'd rather b with him. That's all.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
Signs you’re not processing grief:
1. Compulsive behaviors
2. Withdrawal from relationships
3. Over-functioning
4. Irritability
5. Persistant sleep issues
6. Physical symptoms emerge
7. Mental health issues worsen
Tools to deal with grief:
1. Pendulation- lean into/out of emotion as needed
2. Resourcing- adding support as you process grief
3. Titration- do things in small doses (set time limits)
Lost my mom May 4, 2022 and it’s been so hard. My heart goes out to anyone navigating the dark waters of grief. You’re not alone 💕
Thanks for listing these out :-)
I'm so sorry you are having to go through this, but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you!
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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@@kelleymcfadden9675 You're not helping people by sharing that repeatedly. One woman deleted her comment because of that. And she is a believer!
I just lost my mother 9-22
Just lost my mom oct 13 :(
I'm 44, and having spent the last eight years caring for my mum 24/7 she died on the 25/12/2022.
And my world collapsed. Having seen this video and reading your comments I can now hope there is a way to learn to move forward with this pain, and try to rebuild my world
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
the grief of loosing my wife is unbearable ,, whenever i am in a company i have to put a mask and pretend ,people do not understand this grief ,the only ones who called me to see how i m doing after her death are the ones that went through the same ,,i can sum it like ; only those who been there and god ,know the pain of loosing your sole mate ,thank you for your lecture ,it was soothing,
( * God * ) I’m sorry for your loss. I’m crying hysterically right now, thinking about my sweet husband, unfortunately he died from cancer. We were married almost 21 years.. I’m in agony, not a day goes by I don’t think about him. 🙏🏾 😢
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
Just lost my husband in January of this year been so hard my energy is so drained and exhausting does anyone relate to this ?my husband was only 57 never smoke or drank alcohol life is so unfair and short
Exactly the same is with me. I lost my husband nearly 2 months ago. First of all I have been ghosted by nearly everyone including his big family, and then when I am with people I have to have that 'all is good' mask, to ensure that I am not causing someone to feel uncomfortable. And it's only such a short time,yet people don't get it at all. Losing my husband was like losing half of myself, I am not the same anymore, I am half person, shredded inside and only people who can relate with this,are like all of us here. We live on a completely different planet. The old world is gone,and no one from that world will understand unless death touches them at some point...
Grief never goes away, my mother has been dead for almost 12 years and I’m still crying about it. you can manage your grief but you can’t make it go away.
Yes that’s so true bless you ❤️
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
I appreciate reading your comment l think about my mother every day and haven’t been the same since she passed 44 yrs ago ❤
Just lost my mom last September. I’m 34. She was 55 and it was very unexpected. I’m scared of this comment 😢
I lost my husband to pancreatic cancer in 2016, my mother in 2017 and my father in 2018. I made it but now have weird blood pressure fluctuations and now, high cholesterol. I was having so much back pain I had to see my chiropractor for adjustments and massages. I did trauma hypnotherapy type sessions which were amazing. I also sold our home of 27 years in 2023. I guess I am pretty good at processing my grief. I still cry for them now and then and I was soooo close to my parents that I say goodnight to them every night at their framed professionally done photo in my living space. Sometimes I fall prey to feeling sorry for myself when my life slows down. I really snapped out of that when I went to college again last spring. Two more semesters to go. I will be 59 when I graduate. I know my dad is super proud. I keep thinking how they would all want me to be healed and happy. I have been a major source of support for my daughter who has struggled even more than I have. Losing her dad at 20. I cannot even imagine. Well, I can, as she tearfully shares her heart about it, but wow. She is a warrior. 😢
Lost my husband 3 years ago and the grief has been real and hard ever since. About a year and a half in the process, I realized one day that I felt happy that day. More days like that now but still "hard grief" days show up. I was amazed to realize I have been handling things in the 3 ways at the end of the video. Kind of instinctive and spiritual. Thank you for the validation and encouragement.
Yes. We each one of us has all the instinctive, intuitive answers inside us. Our inner voice. I try only to listen to voices like this lady. I limit how many voices I let in my head. Most important voice is OURS. Hoping for continued healing n more happy days. So sorry for your loss of husband. That is my ONE fear in life. We so close. I can't imagine life without him but mentally I'm trying to prepare it will happen that one of us will lose their best friend. Thanks for sharing.
It's been 1 year since my husband passed and I just want to feel happy again......
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
All 3 of my siblings have died within the last 16 months... the most recent being my younger sister on 10/6/22. She was my best friend. It seems so surreal.
Thank you for these recommendations!
I'm processing my grief using some of them already.
12/18/22 UPDATE
Still working on processing my grief... there are things all around me that trigger my emotions. Still dealing with spontaneous bouts of crying... sleep and appetite are still sporadic. Reminiscing about my Sister when I'm around other family members temporarily helps my mental state.
Journaling and prayer help me to cope. The huge hole in my life remains unchanged.
How life can just be unfair towards some individuals under this sun! I have come to wondering what could be the meaning of life with so many heartbreakings happening to some people. I am lost for words for what life is throwing at you. 😭😭😭😭😭!!! Oh Lord, please soothe the pain of those losing their loved ones!
2022 was supposed to be a good year or at least a better year, but the loss that came with this year has made it one of the worst years of my life. It is harder to deal with because people get uncomfortable or downright angry if I start crying in front of them. I have to go off alone to cry.
The hole won't go away. That's the hard part. I pray for you. You are going through something extremely difficult
Dear Eva!
How terrible for you. Can't imagine your grief. Easier said than done but look after YOU and just simply be. Sending hugs 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Sorry for your loss Eva, such a sad time try if you can to stay strong - I know easy said and done but I know how this feels thoughts are with you and a I will say a pray 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I developed severe PTSD after my son took his life 4 years ago on my 55th birthday. I've had so many losses since then, I even ended up in hospital last fall for mental health issues. Men aren't supposed to hurt, that's why we are self destructive, drink too much, work too much and die early. I'm seeking out professional help, but there still are days where I feel as if I'm in a living hell. I barely have what it takes to do my job some days, I feel like everything is coming at me a hundred miles an hour. I miss joy without strings attached.
I lost a son 4 years ago due to complications from heroin addiction. Thought I was going to die too. It hurt worse than anything I’ve ever experienced. Still have at least one “moment” every day. I feel for you my friend. It’s both physically and mentally affecting me. So you’re not alone. Reach out if you want someone to talk to.
I lost my son Corey in 2016 when he took his life, the shock, pain, despair, guilt, longing overwhelmed me. I too suffered PTSD, treatment helped for that. In May of this year I lost another son, James. These two sons were so loving to me, had such beautiful big caring hearts, were my sons and my friends. I don’t grieve James the same way, it’s like my mind refuses to go there, it’s like a sliding feeling. My brain slides away and immediately bounces to something else. Sometimes tho, it does go there when I least expect it, like today when I think about this year ending and a new one starting without James in it. Then it hits me hard, a solar plexus blow. I have two other kids, the eldest a son and my daughter the youngest, I worry something will happen to them. I don’t think I can survive that.
Sending you both a hug, a long one, a cry in my arms one.
I've lost some people to suicide as well, and it is a horrible thing. I am sending you love and will be rooting for you every day. I'm so proud of you for seeking help.
So sorry for your loss 🙏🤗❤️😢I’m alone taking care of my disabled 30 year old daughter
363 days of the year, I've put on my fake face, and have kept working to keep my mind occupied I took 2 days of the year to be myself and vanish- no contact with people. It's been 4 years, and it's not getting better I'm glad I found this .
I miss my Alice !! It's been 4 years and it still hurts so bad !!!
I am a 65 year old grandma who’s raising my two granddaughters due to their mother being lost in the world, drugs, homelessness and who knows what else.
I finally got my granddaughters to understand that they had to talk to someone besides me about their loss. At 9 and 14 it’s pretty difficult for them to comprehend their emptiness. They are seeing a therapist now and I can already see a little difference in their lives. Thank God I found them some help!!!
Bless you for stepping up for them and getting them help, grief is very real it doesn't only relate to a death it can be a loss like you've all experienced. I wish you alll well x
THANK God they have you and you have them!❤ Much 💕 love
@@RobinZipporah Thank you so much
Loved your reply
Best granny in the world...❤️
What a wonderful human being and granny you truly are. You have lost so much and yet you still find the strength to give more. My heart goes out to you and your granddaughters. As they grow into adulthood, you will reap many rewards for what you are doing now.
I lost my mom in 2014 , we were do
close she was literally my everything
I feel guilty sometimes because I
let fear keep me from persisting
to get her help for her hip, she got
a bad bed sore and I blame myself
my soul aches for her, I know she
did not blame me for any of her
sickness, when she was in the
hospital everday she said I love
you, momma you are my angel
and I will always love you❤❤
I lost my mother and father to cancer years ago and I'm still learning of healthy ways to cope. I tend to want to be alone alot because I just don't have drive or energy to try and fake a smile when going for gatherings etc.
Some days I can push through but others have been very rough.
I have gotten saved a few years ago and reading God's word helps.
God Bless you all! ❤
I lost my husband 8 years ago and my daughter 9 months later. I gained 50lbs. Can’t sleep , depressed, no one gets it. No friends or family to speak of. I’m totally alone. I can’t get past it Still. Just getting worse
Rita- you are not alone❤ please know that your husband and daughter want nothing but the best for you, to be happy and healthy.
Weight gain is understandable but also gives you the opportunity to meet others by joining a gym or slimming class. As your health improves you can remember your loved ones by perhaps taking a short holiday or daytrip to their favourite places. Time on Earth is short, enjoy it while you can. Eventually you will be reunited with your loved ones but in the meantime it is essential you reach out and take those first steps to health and happiness❤
Wow, reading everyone's story is really touching. I don't really think there is a timeframe when it comes to the grieving process. My 52 yo husband passed away 3 years ago and i am stuck in time. I miss him every single day. The grief I still feel after 3 years is, at times, unbearable. I'm beginning to think this is how my life will be until i take my last breath. A lot of pain, a lot of tears, a lot of solitude. He was a beautiful human being who brought so much happiness to my life and our relationship. I miss his smile, i miss him holding my hand, i miss him singing to me in the car. The list is endless of what i miss. When he died, my life ceased to be. I hope one day I'll be happy again.
Happy Sunday Theresa, It's incredible how we connect with strangers in unexpected ways. Although I don't usually do this, I couldn't help but reach out to you after seeing your comment. Could you tell me what you like to do in your spare time?
I was diagnosed with complicated grief disorder. Loss of childhood, loss of my husband and other major losses. I went shopping all the time and treated everyone to everything. Now I have better boundaries. God is the only One to help heal our pain.
I agree. Praying for peace and comfort for you. 🧡
condolence
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
I lost my mom this year. The lowest and darkest point in my life. The pain is real and difficult. God has made his presence known during this season. He continues to carry me, comfort me, and console me. I will tell anybody that God is your only way through your pain and grief. He will take care of you just like he promised I'm his word. Feelings change, people change, and circumstances change, but God never changes. His word is the same, it will never change. Have faith and hold on to his word. He will bring you through.❤️
It’s a process but you are sharing the truth. Godbless you
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
My condolences to everyone in these comments.. I’m so sorry! 😔
I'm going through all of this right now. I was the primary caregiver for my older sister. She had a 13 year battle with cancer and finally hung it up on 12/4/23. After she passed, we had lots of friends and family over but now that she's been buried, the real hard times are starting. It's extra hard on me as we both took take care of our parents when they got sick and passed away.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
I lost my mother just 4 months ago Dec 3rd 2023. 6days before my birthday. She had my card she knew she was dying and the words she wrote were beautiful. Thanking me for looking after her etc. I know its early days and I miss her so much. Have days where I can't stop crying feel so alone even though I have support from my husband and friends. Mam was 99 I'm 71. Some people say thing like well she was a good age etc which doesnt help at all. Just wish I could give her one more kiss one more hug. Heartbroken 😢😢😢
My mom died on February 6. She would have been 79 on Feb. 18th. I’d been taking care of her since 2018 when she became partially paralyzed due to a neck injury. I was so tired from all the caretaking and watching her suffer with her limitations. We both wanted her to die so she could be set free. I thought it would be easier to let her go because of the situation we were in. It’s not. I am a mess and it’s already been a few months. I’m supposed to go back to work soon but I can still barely function. Everything reminds me of her and pulls me back into an emotional pain that fills my body and makes it hard to breath. I miss her so much. I feel so guilty for getting so exhausted that I wanted her to die. I wish I had just one more minute with her to tell her how much I love and loved her. Smell her hair. Kiss her soft cheek. My sweet beautiful mommy. My husband and my son have both been really supportive. I have never felt this broken before and I’ve been through a lot of trauma in my life. My heart is broken and I don’t know how much longer I can go on like this, barely living. The light does not hit the world in the same way it did when she was here, all the colors have changed.
So sorry for your loss. 😢 I know that pain. I loss my father about 2 weeks ago at age 92. 😢
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
YES! ONE MORE HUG. I wish.😭😭😭
I lost my dad two weeks ago. Right now everything feels like pure madness, having some truly happy moments mixed with guilt then crying my eyeballs off for missing him and that trauma of watching him fading away at the hospital for two weeks. I hate this roller coaster 😢😢😢
Thank you for this video. It reassured me that my feelings are reasonable and my coping path is healthy❤️
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I lost my BFF angel Eddie three months ago. The grief has gotten worse. He was my everything. I'm all alone.
My husband passed away in 2018. He was my everything. I’m estranged from my family. Now I’m out here all alone.
I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on UA-cam. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same unbearable experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
Thank you for the information. I lost my autistic 25 year old son, a little over three years ago. He died of an incredibly aggressive and disfiguring form of cancer. I struggle every single day with the memories. Even though I have a wonderful therapist, I still can’t seem to find my way out. He was my best friend and I loved him dearly. In my now 60 years, I have never experienced such devastation. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
@@Recite-GodHealMeCreateMiracle Thank you. Yes. I will try that. ☺️
Recently, I watched…something (I can’t remember who or where) “Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Remember that it’s all for good and to look beyond the time of faith. That’s where the reward of God’s goodness for your faithfulness will be revealed. I’m working on my faith. God bless you and thank you for your reply! 😊
Hearing that I don't need to be crying all the time, and constantly feeling the grief is so helpful. I was worried something was wrong. I have little moments where I sob and cry, feel fine, then back to anxiety, then back to crying. It's validating to know that I'm swinging back & and forth, and it's normal. Thank you.
I'm in the same place. The sadness, crying and then the few moments when I feel normal and happy. It's a terrible cycle but I'm going to keep praying and fighting it will get better🙏
I lost my father, mother, both grandmas, brother, within 2yrs. Feeling pretty bad. This helps. Thx
Very valuable video, it soon will be a year since my son passed, he lost his battle with cancer. I have learned to lean into my grief to set aside my time to cry write or run and listen to myself. I also find at times I project my anger and self-doubt, I have also learned to recognize that intense feeling and work thru it. Some days are better than other days.
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Words are not adequate enough to describe the grief one experiences by losing a loved one, but there is hope. Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. This is the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you!
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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Sherri Jones
What an intelligent person you are. Too bad that so many ppl in these comments don't seem to grasp the truth of your comment.
@sherri jones That is wonderful! Search progress. I find it hard too write it out because it hurst so much.
I can’t imagine losing your child too cancer. However, maybe you had time for closure?
My daughter got the delta - covid there was no time for closure I felt so helpless as I watch her dying on that Machine.
May God blesses everyone how has lost a child , or love one so close.
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I lost son just over a year ago from cancer. There’s not a day that has gone by that I haven’t cried. I definitely lean into the grief and swing back out. I can laugh with someone, but in that same moment I get smacked by grief as well. It’s like feeling two opposing emotions at once, my emotions are so complex and layered now. I have no choice but to give myself the patience to process the pain. Losing a child is losing oneself, because they are reflections of us. The part I find not discussed with grief is the PTSD in watching my child suffer from treatments, chemo and cancer both killing him. His pain and suffering echoed within myself, even as he tried to hide it from me, to continue to fight. I relive those memories, so not only the grief do I feel, but what every parent feels, that responsibility to protect them and the helplessness. They don’t mention the trauma to all the scenarios within their care, the panic and emergency room visits, etc., that sum up that experience. So I lean into it, I try to make peace with it. Some days I succeed and some days I sob. But everyday I get up to face the challenge set before me, every day is a new day to try.
I’m 52 male and was mums main caregiver for over 10 yrs ,we lost her 3 months ago and I’m still broken..I can’t sleep ,anxiety through the roof, I don’t eat a lot,and cry everyday..I used to be a happy fun to be around guy,but now all I want to do is hide away..you tell everyone your ok,but then you go home and see a jar of pickled onions in the fridge ,and cry your eyes out..
I've known many people who have had major health issues triggered by loss. The commonality seems to NOT be loss itself, but rather, not "dealing with it" or processing it adequately. Unfortunately, avoidance and distraction are very common ways that people deal with grief, but they aren't good for your health in the long run.
What are some of the symptoms you feel were common with not dealing with loss properly?
Very good point 🔥
@@HenryBenedictUSA ohh, that's a tough question. I only work with folks with chronic gut issues (IBS, SIBO, IBD) so that is what I have seen personally. However, it's entirely possible that doctors who work with other conditions would have observed the same in their patient population. Hope that helps- I wish I had a more helpful answer bc it's a really good question!
I'm sorry that you had to deal with all that@@scotttucker9613. I wish you happiness, peace, and health moving forward 💜
This is what I'm worried about. I'm going through a chronic illness and I don't think I'll be able to deal with grief if I lose someone close to me. I feel like I would try to suppress it because it would only cause more scare for me if I face it.
My husband of 47 years committed suicide last year. My primary emotion has been anger. I'm furious with him for leaving me with the mess he left behind. I know what I need to do, but it's really difficult.
Big hug, Beth
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I wish that somehow we could, for a very short period of time, be immersed in another’s life to know exactly how they arrived, in the case of someone we love who attempts or is successful at taking their own life. Zero judgement allowed. Of course, it’s only a fantasy, and impossible to ever happen in real life. If only…….
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That must be so difficult, I hope you have help
I've had my fair share of bereavment and grief. I lost a loved one 2 months ago and I'm still in the grieving process. It's very hard. To get through it I give myself tasks, one at a time, baby steps. Number one get out of bed and make the bed. Number 2 get in the shower and dress in clean clothes. Number 3 go out for a walk, even just for 15 minutes. Number 4 eat something. It's as if my loved ones are telling me what to do. Do the dishes, do the laundry, clean the floor etc. One job at a time. Yes, I'm still in pain but I'm clean and in a nice environment. Honestly it helps. Also I have caring friends and when they visit me I don't want them seeing a dirty house with dishes piled up in the sink. They don't need to see me in my PJs with greasy hair. I'm grateful for their love and support but I don't want them to worry about me and I don't want to be a burden to them. Someone on here was criticised for saying you have to choose to be happy. They seemed a bit harsh but there's truth in that. We are all responsible for taking charge of our own lives. When the going gets tough the tough get going and it all starts with getting up and making your bed. Blessings to all of you who are in pain xx
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I got severely, chronically ill 1.5 years ago. I basically lost my own life, except that I'm somehow still here to witness everything. All the things I loved to do before, how I spent my time, my work, most friends I had... all of that was lost to chronic illness. Oftentimes I still distract myself and try not to feel the pain. But recently I've come to notice that if I allow myself to grieve my old life and my old self, I set the ground for allowing a new me to emerge from all the pain. That new person is very different from the one I was before in many ways, but she is alive.
We don’t move on from grief we move forward with it!
Friends helped me when I lost my first child.
Also thinking my child is with God, is how I have let go ❤ the most blissful thought ul ever have
My entire family has died of cancer and I carry grief around with me constantly. Thanks for the video it really helps me.
I lost my mother almost three years ago and I have not moved on I have just moved forward since then. I didn’t expect the emotions with losing a loved one and as long as they have gone on. It has gotten somewhat better but I will always miss her.I will always look forward to meeting her one day in heaven
Interestingly grief can come in many levels. In losing my parents - dad in the early 90's & mum in 2005 it was sad & I do miss them but life moves on & you accept it as it is a part of life.
However we lost our only child to cancer in late July 2022 at 28 years young & we have found that extremely difficult to get over - his mother is absolutely devastated. It has impacted us in a way that losing my parents never did.
And it interesting recognizing some of the elements of grief in this video that we are going through. At this stage I feel its going to be a mountain that I may never climb, but as they say life goes on & you've just got to try & deal with it. And its sad so many other people as indicated by the comments are in the same place - I feel your pain & may god bless.
These words of encouragement are a complete gift! 😢 Thank you so much! My 30 yr old Son just passed tragically and suddenly 4 weeks ago - it has left me feeling mostly numb and still in shock - I fear not allowing myself room to process but at times, the emotions physically suck the breath out of my lungs. The wisdom in this video truly resonates with me and has brought me a glimmer of hope in my journey ahead 😓🧡
So sorry for your loss Melinda. Sending you much love and gentle healing hugs. 😢
God bless u abundantly u lost Ur 👶 that's unbearable love and memories are yours alone none can take away from Ur memory so shine on the Ocean is a real healer sit on beach and watch the waves v/therapeutic and Ur Son would want that don't think MUM get a Life do it for me I'm not far away I am here for you always
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Sending you lots of love and peace and prayers ❤
6 months since papa passed - we were best buddies for 17 years. I'm finding that the more I progress with my life, career, just positive things the more the grief hits me. I miss my atta boys. I'm going to a grief group at a local church next week just to be around like people.
Hope that helps. I understand exactly how you feel. The pain is so intense some days.😢
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I lost my precious 8 year old dog 4 weeks ago. The grief is as painful as when I lost my dear parents. Thank you for sharing this very helpful information. 💗 I’ll start today.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I lost my husband to cancer in January, then I lost my mum to dementia in September in the same year, then I lost my home just two months later because my husband didn’t have life insurance! I really struggled but I had to hold it together for our son who was only four! A couple months after I had lost everything, my in-laws started neglecting and leaving my son and I out of family get togethers. I went into lock down mode and just got on with my life without them! My son is extremely lucky if he sees his cousins once or maybe twice a year!
Tens years later and I still feel sad and heartbroken and don’t sleep much. I constantly have migraines and feel awful all the time. At least now I know why! ❤
My heart goes out to you and your son😢 I lost my husband/soulmate of 38 years in 2015 and I am seeing a psychologist only now! I will keep you and your son in my prayers and pray for you both specifically. Take care and stay safe 💐
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
The comments are heartbreaking 💔 I want to send all of you a big hug and all my love ❤️ I hope you can all manage to heal 🙏🏼
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I lost my father 1 week ago. He was my best friend he taught me everything. As a kid I was always by his side helping him work on cars and fishing and target practice ,dad was always there for me no matter what. He was the strongest man iv ever knew. He had been through hell his entire life. He lived through things I never thought anyone could survive. I was an only child and a daughter so I got all the spoiling . I miss him so much my heart feels like it is breaking . Will this pain ever go away? Just thinking I may live another 40 years and never see him or hear his voice again is overwhelming and so dam depressing. I try to stay busy but cry like a baby even driving down the road. It feels like a huge pressure on my chest all the time my heart feels like it's Ben ripped out and crushed and put back in . Iv tried to tell myself he is in a better place and be strong for my mother but I feel like I'm about to break . Will this ever go away?
I just lost my father last Friday. Thank you for posting this today. Perfect timing.
So sorry for your loss. 😥❤️
I feel your pain. 3 months here. Mom got injured, too, and will take months to recover. Such compounded grief.
I just lost mine two months ago. I feel you.
1. Pendulation - going in and out of the grief
2. Resourcing - support methods
3. Titration - small doses
Each person also goes through their own grief. "It will depend on different individual factors and the environment. If the person has previously faced a loss or not, if they have a family support network or friends or if they are alone, if they are a very dependent person, if they see themselves more or less affected in their economy. It is important, from the point of view of the affectation, whether or not the death was expected and the way of dying. All these factors and many more make each mourning different for each person," says Prieto.🙏 thank you, awesome videos...🌹
Buried my mom on 10/24. Her sister died that night. I gave birth to my baby on 10/26.
Nothing is the same without my mom. I never processed the death of my aunt.
I’m still processing losing my mother/very best friend.
Losing your health permanently is an unending, daily source of grief.
I just lost my sister to addiction she was found at her home passed away I can’t cope with this pain and crying all the time I’m missing her and wish I had done more to help her I did support her but it’s never enough.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
Well said - doing the work is uncomfortable, even dark, but nothing compares to the light on the other end of suffering and turning that darkness into something meaningful.
You've got to cry, weep and let it all out.
"The healing is in the feeling."
Thanks.
Except I'm still having trouble crying over my grandmother's death. But I am feeling the same sensations she did when she was dying. Strangulation and breathing tube down my throat. Every day is so much more difficult to get through, little sleep. Doctors aren't really able to help me. I didn't know grief could be hell.
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Sorry for your pain dude, I know it's hard man, I'm still grieving my dog after nearly two weeks.
Just weeping and weeping day in day out, but it's slowly getting easier.
Standing with you.
Praying for you.
God bless you.
@@reverentalexanderchezeley-6367 Thank you. You too.
“Sometimes the body keeps score.” 🤔. Yep
I don’t understand grief because it’s been 8 years this December that i lost my grandmother but it still feels like it wasn’t long ago at all. Same with other people ive lost after her.. i still cry almost everyday
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Love is timeless.
ive been crying for 9yrs i lost my daughter yr half after my son nothing can make me feel any better day after day the longing for them
@@brendadrumm9451 I can’t imagine the pain of that. I’m so sorry. I hope you can find some peace somehow someday. You will see them again, but I know you must miss them terribly now. 💕😪
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
All good advice. My Father died a few days after being diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer 2 years ago. He was my best friend. Only 66 years old. For the first year I was a mess. Fell into overspending, alcohol and substance abuse. Was like being lost in a fog. About 9 months after he died I spent 2 days drinking, took 10 ecstasy pills in 48 hours, smoked a tone of weed. Thought I was going to die myself by the end of the 2 days. Was I’ll for a week from the comedown. I decided then to deal with the grief and try pull myself together. Thankfully I managed to deal with the grief and sober up. I leaned into it and accepted the only way to heal was to face it. Now back on track and much happier. I still miss him and have my low moments but that is natural. Never ignore your grief because you will never win the battle.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I lost my mum in November and my anxiety has been atrocious recently. I’ve had anxiety since I was a child, but the loss of my mum I feel is the underpinning reason for it becoming so overwhelming recently.
Same!! After losing my Mom, her husband of 20 years, and a week exactly after him my dad. Anxiety as a child got worse. I’m super sensitive to everything people say. I’m ruining relationships with people and not keeping a job!!
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I lost my son almost a year ago. I have experienced all of these signs and I knew what I was doing and that I was having an avoidance or numbing response and I’m glad that I was gentle with myself and allowed myself to numb out ( over eat - sugars and carbs - binge watch tv, stay overly busy etc -) sometimes and deal sometimes , intermittently, as I could. Over a period of almost 12 months , the avoidance behaviors have lessened and the acceptance and authentic feelings have increased. Be gentle with yourselves 🙏❤️❤️
Oh I commented too soon - now I see that she calls what Ive been doing “ pendulation”
Great video.
My beloved partner passed away suddenly last year, I had the phone call that shattered me. Fortunately I am Clairvoyant so I still hear and feel him, I keep a journal so we still talk, I'm dealing with my grief shamanically, I keep busy at work so I don't fall apart, I avoid triggers if I can, my sleep is bad anyway due to PTSD, if I break down sobbing so be it, the pain is indescribable, no one will ever take his place, I am devastated and devoted always 💯🙏💔
Thank you, he wasn't my husband but my partner we doted on each other, old souls reunited which is why it's horrendous, don't think I'll learn to live with event, but I manage so he's proud of me.💔💔💔 My condolences for the loss of your wife, know that she's there still🙏🇬🇧
Thank you this I found very supportive.
Last October 2021 I lost my son suddenly, following an anaphylaxis due to a wasp sting to his neck, he survived only 48hrs in ICU! 🌸
I understand everyone deals with grief in different ways we never get over lossing a love one we just live a different way you think your never stop crying but it's gets a little bit easier each day. I lost my Dad in 1992 and it felt like I was on another planet very scary and heartbreaking 😥,and then I loss my Mum 1995 that was a deep pain 😭 because your Mum the.one who your best friend when your friends let you down .But it doesn't make the pain go away you still miss them deeply 🙄Then last year 😭I loss one of my brother's who I always looked up as a kid and was always looking out for me.that's a totally different pain you.cant explain ,I miss him every day and I always will 😭. It's good to know that there is a place like this site to tell our stories and.come.together to talk about our pain .
It has been 2 years since my sister passed, I cannot believe that 2 years have gone by. The time thing is the hardest for me, how did I make it through all those days? Some days it seems just like yesterday. I am having physical symptoms now I didn't know they were part of grief. People have told me that she wouldn't want me to cry so much I laugh and tell myself "yes she would want me to cry". I miss laughing with her so much. I am taking as long as I need to grieve her. She was my best friend. I am in the stage where I can look at pictures and talk about her. I will grieve her for as long as I loved her. RIP Andi
I always get "it could be worse" or " at least you don't have it as bad as some people." This is why I don't talk to anyone about anything anymore.
Listening intently….until your suggestion of “cuddling with your husband or your dog”.
I recently divorced AND four months later my sweet dog died.
And I still appreciate this video.
Processing grief is important.
I too have spoken to groups about it.
And that when we call it “loss”, the word itself hurts, but turn the word to “life’s transitions”, it becomes clearer.
The other side of grief is what my artwork IS about!!!
Through the processing, our energy can return and life is more fully experienced!
Brilliant! I too am doing well....
don't have art like you but I write and have understanding friends.
Artists are so IMPORTANT in this world. Keep up your good work.
@@joannaedwards6325 thank you so much!!!!
Keep writing!!!!!!!!!!
I write for about 20 minutes most mornings, just what I call feral writing, to put to paper whatever preconscious thoughts might be in me.
I find it an excellent way to find myself, and then yes, I usually go into the studio then to paint!!
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I bet somewhere in your 'feral writing' are wonderful poems, insightful paragraphs, inspired essays.
I used to fill up pages like that. I called it free association scribbling. Many a good poem came to light. Also insightful comments to myself (from my Higher Self no doubt).
Creativity like art and writing are gifts. And so much FUN.
It is an intriguing practice and when doing it some have tapped into Automatic Writing. Like when an unseen entity takes over and comes through. Facinating.
I really enjoyed watching your video. I just lost one of the most divine person of 45 years of blissful making. I can't explain how I feel about my emptiness without 😕 him. Every turn I make in the house, I could scream. I have done that so many times. I lost him 7 months ago from a heart transplant surgery. I am trying to cope 😩.
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My husband came down with severe Fibromyalgia around age 30 and it was tough to see and feel so many of our dreams for life flow away...but my gut said YES! when I heard this video. All the times I actually braved up and sat with myself and my sadness were so much more healing than running away and distracting myself!! But I love how your solutions also gave space for rest, in the pendulation etc! Thank you so much! I love what you are doing here. My heart felt at peace after hearing this. ❤️❤️❤️
I am so sorry you are having to go through this, but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you!
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
El Miller
You are free to believe in ANY Higher Power you choose. EVERY SINGLE HUMAN BEING IS COMPLETELY LOVED BY THE LOVING CREATOR.
Even if you don't have a spiritual belief system the Creative Force still loves you.
Don't give in to anyone's pressure to believe or not believe in the same way they believe. We are all on our own perfect path. ✌
@@kelleymcfadden9675
Really not the right place or time.
Hurting ppl here really just need to talk about THEIR grief. They're not here to be lectured. Your essay seems self serving; not helpful.
Omg, thank you so much, these are great tools. I lost my husband of 10 years, 2 months ago. Thank you, you are doing God's work.❤
i lost my uncle (who was also one of my best friends ever since i was growing up) 3 years ago this month and everything you said that you do when not coping with grief is things i do every year around the month of may. i think i truly realized that i never actually coped with the loss, i just tried to act like it never happened until the anniversary comes around and everything comes back to light like it just happened
This was so very helpful, and I appreciate how it didn't drag out and lose me. Everything here cut to the chase, which I needed, as it's been hard to focus since my loss. Many thanks
my husband had cancer 12.14.20, bawelcancer, got operated, and then he was free of cancer. Good! but what about al the trouble he now has with his bawels. He suffers every day. Our daughter got breastcancer may 2021, operstion first and chemo only. cancerfree in november, Happy dancing. Cancer back one month later. This time an aggressive type whit no record af surviving. Had to go through så many scary complications, wounds, oedems, cramps, wather in her lungs. She suffered immemsely. She died on june 24. She was 44 years old and lefr two boys 8 and 16 years old. I grieve firstly over her loss, then her boys, her husband, her brother and then us, mummy and daddy.
I can relate to everything she is saying. Its a hard day almost every day. Our daughter was so strong all the way and gave all of us love, love, love and time, until there were no time left. For her I must work hard on mastering the grief and sadnes in the best way.
Resources like this seem to be coming at the right time for me these days. My dad died very unexpectedly just over a week ago and I’m trying to process as best I can. I’m doing this the “feel my feelings” way and allowing myself to feel everything as it comes up
I'm so sorry you are having to go through this, but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you!
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
This is a blessing! It absolutely clicked, and I hit all 7...
Been in this state for at least 40 years.
And didn't have a single clue what it was. Now I do, and I can focus my prayers and efforts in a positive, healing/ restorative direction.
Thank you so much!
As a therapist who is still working through my own grief (2 yrs 2 months), I appreciate your empathetic educational style. I plan on looking up the sources you referenced for my personal use as well as to constantly improve my therapeutic skills.
first i feel for you i know how you feel if you havent been there you dont know to cut a very long story short im done im finished nothing on gods earth can help me ive lost my only reason to be on this planet my daughter and son adult people are dead 42 and 32 nothing left no one can help me
There is nothing on earth can make me feel any better i lost my adult daughter 9 yrs ago yr half after my son there is nothing left for me the pain is there from the moment i try to close my eyes at night until i open them in the morning nothing can help me x
@@brendadrumm9451 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
My son was killed Oct 2019. I have been diagnosed with PTSD and depression. Its the HARDEST thing i have ever or will ever face. He was my baby boy. Some of those 7 signs are me. I try to stay busy and not dwell, but i still find myself thinking of him, what happened that day, and guilt. 💔😥
GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU WHO ARE GRIEVING! Its HARD
My condolence & prayers for his soul.
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
Mind blowing! I can't believe I've never heard grief explained this way, and I've read several books on it since my husband died. I feel like I might now understand why I haven't let go and moved on. And I also have a couple practical steps to improve that! Thank you for condensing so much wisdom into this short video.
Can you make a video on grief that stems from a pattern of emotional neglect, abandonment or mistreatment? How we allow ourselves to be treated this way if we were raised in emotionally neglectful and toxic environments. I feel while this can also apply to all situations causing grief, grief stemming from a pattern of emotional neglect, abandonment or mistreatment can become an endless cycle and it's all too common. Some tools to break this cycle in a healthy way and develop self compassion that is not reliant on the validation of the world will be extremely helpful. Thank you.
I grew up in an abusive household, and I set boundaries when I moved out.. I told my “ father” he wasn’t allowed to treat me that way anymore and that made him cut all contact and ordered my mom and siblings to cut all bonds with me. It’s been years and no one understands the pain.. the feeling of being dead and forgotten while still breathing. The layers of hurt and how everyone I try to convey this to, tells me how strong I am and how I’m doing better without them. My whole foundation is gone and I’m being told I’m doing fine.. well, I’m not. How can a mother choose a man that’s been hurting us all in every way over her child ?? I will never understand
I am so sorry you are having to go through this. Grief is hard enough to deal with by itself, let alone having to deal with others not understanding, but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you!
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
@@thara21 I am so sorry you are having to go through this. Grief is hard enough to deal with by itself, let alone having to deal with others not understanding, but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you more than you can ever possibly know and he wants to have a personal relationship with you. He knows exactly what you're going through and he can give you a peace in your heart like you've never experienced. I'd like to share with you the story of my best friend who lost her son. Even in the midst of her sorrow, she has joy. My hope and prayer is that you too come to have this joy in your life. God bless you!
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
******************************
This testimony has been made into a gospel tract. If you or your Church would be interested in passing them out or if you would like to send a word of encouragement to the family, please go to:
facebook.com/GITM-Foundation-113997824650357/
@@kelleymcfadden9675 Thank you for sharing. Jesus has always been my support and why I’m still breathing. I know I can trust him to always be there🥰
Aama and Thera21. Thank you both for so beautifully and clearly expressing your experience and self.
Sadly there are many of ‘us’ out here, but somehow ‘hearing’ others similar journey brings me such relief.
Due to a horrific family tragedy within the last year I finally had to write my family and say unless they want to join me in looking at our lifelong trauma I will need to go at it on my own. Talk about feeling ALONE! Yet I know for my own mental and spiritual health this is what I need to do. At times I am able to say to myself, this split may be permanent but it may be temporary, for some may choose someday to live in the truth. When I consider reaching out to my family to relieve some of my loneliness, I am blessed to quickly understand that my brain/mind and soul likely would not survive should I choose to return to living in the darkness of denial.
So for now I must move on. I hang on tight to Gods promises-He loves me. He will never leave or forsake me. He wants me to rest in Him. He wants me to TRUST Him. He will comfort those who mourn.
One foot in front of the other. One day sometimes one minute at a time. With Gods help I will get up each day and choose to first seek Him, to wait on Him…AND trust in His promises. 👆🏼❤️🙏
thank you for sharing this video
My daughter and I had only 16 days from the terminal cancer diagnosis for my son /her brother. mercifully short time for him, for which we are grateful and shocking loss for us. He never knew what was wrong and we each spent wonderful sweet time together. We both seem to pick each other up in the low points. I had broken my back in a fall just 2 weeks before the diagnosis. So we had other things to tend to ad that may have helped but I wouldnt suggest it. My daughter has a degree in Psychology which helped enormously. We stay close and support each other. Nowhere near healed of grief but accepting of it. I can’t imagine being fine ever after the loss of my son. Thanks for your kind wisdom. Barbara Mathieson
In time you learn to carry it and hide it, thank you for helping
I lost my Daughter in March 2022 She was only 25 years old. It has been absolutely devastating to myself and my two younger daughters. I don’t know how to live without her in my life 😢
That is so hard. I’m so sorry for your loss. 😢
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better
It's been 2 years since I lost my mom and Grandma, still having a hard time with. Listening to this hopefully helps. Dealing with depression for almost 2 years. 😥
I hope you don't try to deal with this on your own. A counselor can help and will listen to you. X
So many helpful psych meds.
No shame in taking anti depressant medications. Seek pro help and start small doses of the weaker meds. My experience.
This is timely for me. Three years ago multiple tragedies occurred within a couple of weeks. My father was placed on hospice because his cancer had metastasized. My husband was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. Our house burned to the ground with our three cats inside who were like our children. Then my father died. Three years later, I’m still afraid to grieve. It feels like that level of grief is a gateway to madness, and I’m afraid to go there. I hope that your suggestions help. I can’t stay frozen in despair, distracting myself, or avoiding my responsibilities. I have to deal with this, and it scares me more than I can express.
Sooo sorry 😭❤️
I went though something very similar and understand your pain. Hope you are well.
So sorry for your loss, lost my beloved 3 cats almost the same time, they were like my children and am so devastated and dead now 😢
Sending hugs and prayers to you ❤
Focus only on solutions, positive things, write down all the solutions (the good things for you, your body, your mind, your spirit) on papers and keep the papers with you, if you do this every day, your life and your being will truly change for the better.
I have been avoiding / suppressing grieving the sudden loss of my father 2yrs ago. Now I am suffering from 24/7 anxiety, lots of panic attacks and now agoraphobia with some derealization on top of all of that. Thank you for this video. I have been searching for tools to get myself better. I wish you could be my therapist
Might be worth checking out "Ask a Mortician" (Channel on YT) by Caitlin Doughty. She's done Tedx, too... AND she explores a lot about the whole grieving process, from helping spot the predatory nature of the funerary industry, to different traditions around the world, and even some famous and infamous deaths through history... She kind of takes the uncomfortable and frequently disturbing subjects around death and loss and turns it into a fascinating learning experience, peppered with just a little bit of good humor to keep us "Deathlings" coming back for more, even well after the particular loss or thing that sent us there in the first place. ;o)
EXACTLY the same!!
I know exactly how you feel. God bless you.
@@martindurkin8837 thank you
@@velvisperez9489 it's "nice" knowing I'm not alone
PART 3 of 3. Second solution in America: Process smaller amounts of grief (like when you feel that “heaviness” right in your face) with open mouthed humming. Like when the doctor tells you to open your mouth and say “Ahhhhhhhhh”. Start your “grief work session” just like that. And vary the pitch and volume according to how it FEELS while you’re doing it. And the more grief you process out of your body in this way means the less you will eat because of emotions instead of eating because of hunger. I use sound canceling headphones to protect my hearing, and I do at least some “grief work” in this manner every single day. Good luck!