Why the narcissist returns, just when you are happy and moving on

[@steadypace1262]

The selfish, jealous narcissist doesn't want you they just don't like the idea of you wanting someone else.

[@B-Nia]

👍👍

[@steadypace1262]

@@B-Nia 👍😉

[@Millionairewords]

Facts

[@steadypace1262]

@@Millionairewords 🕊🙂

[@sadboi7537]

I blocked her about a week after we called it quits back in early August. Fast forward to the end of October and she gave my number to her flying monkey, in which she asked if I was “willing to unblock her”. I stood my ground and said “I’m not talking to her if she’s sleeping with other people”, which, clearly, she was. I eventually caved and unblocked her a few weeks later, so I had direct communication with the narc at that point. TERRIBLE IDEA. Accepting that Hoover was detrimental to me on every level since she came back with an absolute vengeance. Called me an idiot, immediately triangulated me with her new boy toy, among other heartless texts. The last 9 weeks have been some other the worst I’ve ever experienced in my life. The cognitive dissonance, brain fog and overall spiritual and emotional wellbeing has been at an all time low. I’m just barely hanging on, so these videos help me out big time, among others. Thank you for continuing to make this type of content. It truly helps me, and many others, to try and move forward somehow and someway.

[@larryragland887]

Prayers for your successful recovery. If you believe in God pray for strength, wisdom, and understanding about the situation and your heart. Reset that block button if necessary and get back to the things that made you happy and maybe hit the gym or some for of physical activity

[@mayday802]

Don't beat yourself up. I was triangulated and used as a pawn in a new game with the new supply. I thought we could remain friends after the fact, it became clear any good intentions on my part were going to be abused as usual. I declared my independence and cut off all contact again. Let it be a reflection on their character and take comfort in knowing your character is intact for recognizing a con artist for what they truly are - they are not worthy or deserving due to their actions.

[@sadboi7537]

@@larryragland887 Thank you for the kind words my friend. Seriously. Massively appreciated. I 100% do believe in God, especially at this point in my life, so leaving it up to him is all I can do at this juncture, while of course praying and meditating about my situation. I actually didn’t re-block her. I took it a step further and got a new number entirely about a week ago. 💪 After answering that one and only hoover, and enduring the soul crushing vindictiveness from her end, I realized that I will not allow someone that deranged to hold that much power over me ever again. Absolutely not. Out of the kindness of my heart, I reengaged her thinking it would be positive and emotionally uplifting, in which clearly it turned out to be the complete opposite. I just hope that I can move on from all of this in my own time, because situations like these take time to work through. People who tell you to “get over it” or “move on already” clearly have not been abused by a Narc. They have absolutely no idea. Anyway, thank you again for your words. Very much appreciated. 🙏

[@MartinSerdar]

Stay away from the drugs, addict! 😂 I learned it the hard way, too... ❤

[@sadboi7537]

@@mayday802 100%. Well said my friend. Sorry that person tried to drag you through the their own mud pit, but you saw it for what it was, which some cannot. Triangulation is, quite possibly, the worst thing narcs do, outside of being ice cold and heartless. It’s mindblowing how someone can get off on pitting others against each other. When I found out she was talking about me to her new guy, I was dumbfounded. I don’t talk about my ex’s to new partners, why in the world would she be talking about me? I get it now because she’s a narcissist, but it’s just deranged behavior that is normal people don’t do. Thanks for your response. All of this feedback is very supportive and is helping me see things a little clearer. 🙏

[@ShadowKing1993]

Oh they hate when you're happier without them

[@mostHigh23]

To everyone on this thread. Stay the fuxx away from them.

[@helenmcclay2622]

They want you to want them
But dont want you.

[@goboudou]

Perfect!! Yjis also happens guring the so called "relation"

[@Ehuff]

They do want our supply tho. He can suck it bc he will never get a drop from me ever again.

[@user-qs5hz4mf3p]

All superior all powerful

[@BR9900-w5l]

5 months blocked, and the fake friend requests continue. Wasted effort on his part because I ignore him and will never ever entertain this clown again.

[@deb2319]

One day you just wake up and find them completely boring and rather go enjoy your life. PEACE 💜🖼

[@danaschield5090]

Narcissist: Consumers rather than investors. And if they do invest, it's in something they can consume... totally. Until there is nothing left.

[@Ehuff]

If they do invest… it’s something they can consume. Dude that’s deep! 🙌🏼

[@Jules-zg1ip]

That is one of the best definitions of narcissism I have heard!

[@pmprei3767]

Ain't no going back for me. And ain’t no coming back for them. There is no return!!

[@Dansyoung]

My ex said she thought we were going to work on things after she moved out of the house. I told her “weird what gave you that idea?” 🤷‍♂️🤣. These people have no capability for self reflection.

[@user-hz5fn3pf1w]

They believe you belong to them

[@Dansyoung]

@@user-hz5fn3pf1wShe wanted me to chase and provide more…. Instead I said, “I wish you the best, bye” 🤣

[@Missybella92227]

Ex fiance argued that he never asked for the engagement ring back.
Which he did via text the day before discard and almost once a month since we were engaged. He COMPLETELY has disregarded all the cruel, brutal things he said and did when he discarded me.

[@user-gg2oo4cp2l]

Thank you Joe. So many times my narcissist returned when I was just starting to date again and was regaining my confidence, I went back thinking things would be better, they never were. No contact over last 6 months has been the ONLY way I have started to heal. At first the ruminating was constant. I was always searching for the one video or saying about😊😊 narcissism that would magically take away the pain. People would say, it will get better but I think it's so hard to believe at first. I just kept educating myself and remained no contact. Finally over the last month I'm feeling indifferent and really hoping if anyone needs to hear it..for me I just had to allow time and distance to happen in order to heal. I wanted to push myself to get better, stop crying, stop ruminating. Breaking a trauma bond doesn't happen like that. I can only honestly tell you when it does happen, life is so much brighter!!!!😊

[@freeindeed5393]

Truth! No contact breaks the trauma bond! It takes awhile but we do recover! Older and wiser

[@aaronmoonhunger7819]

Bro, you hit the nail on the head. You explained it calmly, strongly and convincingly about these demons

[@societiesscapegoat8715]

I like the way your ended the video ‘Your future life depends on it’💣

[@santana5659]

Mines discarded me 6 months ago. 3 days after their discard, I blocked them on EVERYTHING. it’ll be 7 months in January, I’m so proud of myself that I never reached back out and kept that door closed. I went completely silent. I’m still healing. But I’m no longer interested. I still find peace watching these video because sometimes I have withdrawals.

[@marquettamiller608]

Good for you

[@user56gghtf]

@santana5659 Even with an the blocks he will try to find a way back in time. Be ready and stay no contact. Protect your peace

[@user-iq9hl6cn1f]

Narc free over 4 years and counting thank God I made it out in one piece and alive. Now everything seems so easy.

[@AthiraEaRaD]

Exactly

[@mostHigh23]

Good morning Joe😊. I never miss a day . Thank you for your videos 🙏

[@joebhouse]

Thank you for watching 👀 🙏

[@user-hz5fn3pf1w]

It’s strange but narcissus know and can feel when you still love them n care and they are satisfied and can stay away and engage new supply but they sense when you don’t care and lose it

[@Peacewalker1993]

I wonder how though? it’s crazy like sixth sense or something?

[@user-hz5fn3pf1w]

@@Peacewalker1993 I’m Muslim so with these types of people we know in Islamic religion that they cast a love spell on you and your hearts are somewhat connected you feel a heaviness in your chest in separation it’s not because you love them how can you love someone who treats you like this it’s a love spell they use it to control you how you know is you will have gut issues lack of sleep erection issues some hair thinning and anger issues sometimes itchy skin as well we have a whole protocol to follow in Islam to break it

[@user-hz5fn3pf1w]

So when they notice the bond is weakened they will renew their spell haven’t you ever noticed they have a supreme confidence that you will never leave itis because they know what they did to keep you around

[@user-hz5fn3pf1w]

@@Peacewalker1993 I’m pretty sure your not Muslim but something we can all do that us Muslims do is to take a bath in pink Himalayan sea salt that helps break that bond you won’t feel that heart heaviness you won’t feel connected to them anymore you won’t feel like they are special and the only one in the world for you. You will be able to start getting attracted and actually like other people again

[@sadboi7537]

@@Peacewalker1993 It’s 100% spiritual. I am thoroughly convinced of that at this point in my life. I couldn’t sleep properly recently because I would have dreams of running into the narc and/or being in their presence just feeling angry and uneasy. It’s a spirit world we live in and dreams are where they happen.

[@RebeccaMawson]

These videos truly help me piece together so much about many people

[@soloman747]

I enjoy your Quora posts Joe.

[@joebhouse]

Thank you!

[@oisinroche6464]

I hope to christ she doesn't come back.

[@lilfairycupcake]

everything is a game to them, you are nothing more than a chess pc in the game.

[@fainitesbarley2245]

Yes. They use that connection they fraudulently forged with you to hurt you. It’s what they do.

[@Tokolos]

Concur, nothing is sacred to them.

[@Ehuff]

Ouch. Truth hurts tho 🙌🏼

[@mattgretty]

Thank you for the affirmation.

[@karlataylor1172]

Memories?? I have not a single good memory in 5 years. Not one. I have TONS of instances of bullshit though.

[@lioubovgrant1935]

Good morning !🌞 a cup of joe☕☕ with Joe and a new video is the best way to start a day ! Thank you Joe , great video as always, images are soooooo beautiful ! 🤗❤

[@winnebagolakefly]

Thank you 🙏

[@damianooi8261]

After 5 years of no contact which I have told her not to contact me that she was marrying someone else, I received a text from an unknown contact number. I clicked on the profile photo and ta-da there she was... Asked me how I was, etc... telling me she saw me online in the telegram app and that's all. I just replied with a "?" And I just deleted the chat and blocked her and guess what? Right timing my fiance and I getting this year and she texted

[@penibeni1085]

I couldn't function for 5 months unless I was drunk. Having to move away from him really helped, but it was hard to get me moving again.

[@shirlspark_stardust]

Gm Joe and survivors happy new year, I am no contact going almost a year I didn’t block the narc number I just have when he calls me goes to voicemail he has to sign the divorce papers when I have to contact him to sign it other than that I refuse to ever have anything to do with him.

[@SoulForce_]

Maybe it is too much 'credit' for the disorder a narcissist really is, they actually are nobody's and empty shells so evil can incarnate through them or posses someones body and brain when a real human with higher divine value enters their life. A narcissist himself is not even that intelligent, maybe all credit should go to evil despite the coward that evil is. But indeed it is al real strange discusting and scary phenomenon that they sense when you are moving on.

[@SoulForce_]

Indifference is certainly brutal. I also notice in care that during an intake you are asked, for example, what you dislike and if you say laziness and indifference, this is later used against you. They don't care if you live or die or if you suffer. The resulting shock you feel will be comparable to their emptiness. What do you think?

[@ginamancino3404]

What if they have never really gone away in the first place?? From the moment I left and walked out I have been cyber stalked by fake accts for 2 years now
What does all this mean Joe?

[@joebhouse]

Do you really wanna know?

[@ginamancino3404]

@@joebhouse yes I do , can u help?

[@ginamancino3404]

And thank you in advance Joe❤️

[@WhatTheFk09]

It means they want access to continue their lies, control & manipulation. If you’ve been cyber stalked from fake accounts, you need to create a new one, make it private & use a fake name. Contact your local police if it gets out of control. 1/2/24 @ 12:23P.

[@jasonsmith3594]

Because there jealous of you giving love to someone else that appreciates it not having to walk on eggshells every day because you don’t know what shit storm day the child is having your with someone when you go out for a meal with a splits the bill ❤

[@deniseodowd4351]

8:17

[@glennosborn8400]

Do narcissist attract other narcissist???

[@KirstenPoole-ir9gb]

Yes. They do. When this happens it is normally more of a “feather fluffing” competition between them and both want pole position of control… so, most of the time these relationships won’t go the distance due to the control aspect that a narcissist needs at ALL times.