Arranged marriage does not mean someone forces you to marry someone. Arranged marriage means you recommend people that come from good family's and you chose each other who you like the most. So please stop spreading false meaning on what arranged marriage means.
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Your take on slavery was appallingly uneducated and your lack of reflection on you benefiting from your appearance over other women was truly cringe. I’m not sure if it’s valuable to watch other interviews of you at least being confronted by other women with more critical thinking skills.
I mean, even in the great depression marriage rates plummeted. If a man cannot provide for a family (which is all about money), then a woman should not marry him to begin with. So my thoughts on that statement are mixed; yes a shallow woman who wants luxury over anything else should be avoided, but we have to face the facts that a guy has to be able to provide for a family.
Bro, if it takes money to get her she's trash - what is another word for girls that do things for money with men they don't really care about? It's called prostitution. So if you hear a female ask what you do for a living leave, she's not interested in YOU whatsoever, she is only interested in ehrself, and money. People like that are useless trash, and not wife-material.
I don’t know why some of you are saying he is talking to much. This is the first podcast I’ve seen with Sadia where the interviewer is giving her any push back at all and I think the contrast he brought to the table was perfectly balanced and filled in a lot to of gaps over all. She clearly doesn’t shy away from it either.
But husband cheating because of his unmet needs is ok by this lady, in facts she goes further to blame the wife for not recognizing he4 husband is cheating… very confused lady…not to be taken seriously at all.
@@JmGmail"unmet" "NEEDS" not wants, needs. My ex could be furious with me, but she never once withheld sex. It's a need for 99% of people. You think it's okay to withhold it because the woman's needs aren't met, yes? Or you'd at least bring that up and say there must be a reason, right? Fair enough, but there are going to be negative consequences on either side when any duty we have to each other isn't met.
As someone whose ex-spouse cheated and abandoned our marriage, finances, and family, I can say that it is 100% his fault. But that would be less than honest if I didn't look at how I also impacted the relationship too. I tolerated far too much abuse, disrespect, and unhealthy boundaries, and therefore, it was almost inevitable he would take it to its natural conclusion; betrayal. It seems you misunderstood. Sadia is not condoning cheating, by either partner, but is advocating looking at what both contribute to the breakdown of the relationship. Whoever cheats is ultimately very broken and is coping from a place of trauma that is not the fault of the other partner. Looking at myself in the mirror through all that I endured was one of the most critical elements to my healing @@JmGmail
She is absolutely brilliant. I was captivated in the first minute of her speaking. I will sit back and listen to this WHOLE THING...going to soak in every single thing she says. I know this is a must hear for everyone right now. 😮🤔😃✌️ 😶😶👂👂👂👂👂👂👂😶😶
So interesting how her feminist ""sisters"" attack her physicality calling her an ""ugly slut"" and things at that level. This is an hilarious unmasking of the actual ugly face of feminism as it truly is in its netherly crypt. Underneath all the fake intellectual, high and mighty, system-sponsored, societally polished, washed-tomb, feminist Pharisee's facade, is discovered the demonically hideous high priestesses of Molochite-worshipping sacrificers of innocent babies to their Baal god of abortion and sodomite orgy death rituals. Underneath it all are just plain old, foul-mouthed, female Jezebel dogs waiting to bare the hidden horror of their ROTTING SOULS. Those she-servants of the Worm-king would rather burn in hell than surrender their souls to a loving and righteous, heavenly Father. When will they learn? He would forgive them if they were only humble enough to receive his gift of love. Sadia is very friendly, and intelligent and brave and has a very sweet spirit and going in the right direction even if so far it has been somewhat coloured by muhammedism which also has its own dark sides unfortunately. We can always pray that she and her eventual husband-to-be will find the true Spirit of Christ that is so lacking in our modern Western societies. All the best parts of our Western culture were inspired by the words and Spirit of Christ Jesus to the point that we are STILL seeing the positive effects to this day even if the sun is setting on that as well because of the love so many are abandoning for lesser things of this world like temporal power and pleasure. Yet there is a reason why her family moved to the West in the first place. THEY SIMPLY THRIVED HERE AMONGST US PSYCHOLOGICALLY CHRISTIAN PEOPLE BETTER THAN THEY WOULD HAVE AMONGST THEIR OWN. Facts.
@@dante19890men are far more emotional beings than women..if this wasn't the case then men wouldn't commit the vast majority of crimes in the world since the beginning of time..both against women and other men
Everything she said is the same way I looked at the internet when it first came out , and until this day I still don’t have a social media, 38 now , and this social media is destroying how we feel see and connect with one another, it separates us all at the end
Sadia Khan is a true modern woman with traditional values. Her intellect, insights, communication style, gentle yet firm demeanour makes her so wonderful to listen to. AND Her femininity, spirituality, intuition and beauty is appreciated by me too :) Great conversation -thankyou
Agree. She talks like a high class escort in a lot of her videos and has said she wouldn’t even look at a man without money (how unsporituai !!) she’s not a licensed psychologist and not trained - she’s been reported to authorities. She called me a slut and a hoe because I said women watch porn as well as men as she shakes men watching porn. She then made a hate campaign against me lying about me telling her followers that I hacked her instagram- she’s not mentally stable and I have all the proof if anybody wants to see it. She’s also suggested to users they have been neglected as a child. She’s damaging and immature
She is a breath of fresh air, although her views and own actions can be slightly confusing. She preaches many things that she does not either do or follow herself. Almost all of her views on religion and culture for example are very contradictory
I love how she corrected his definition of Boundaries; a boundary is NOT a punishment. It is simply explaining what/what not you will allow and the how the person who set the boundary will react if that boundary is crossed. It is a way to keep people in your life by clearly expressing how you will react to certain behaviour especially behaviour that challenges your peace/safety.
@@medini2that's because a lot of people are just shitheads and you shouldnt listen to them, do your own thing, obviously people will have boundaries and there are always rats and abusers. But those petty hearted people should not dominate any narrative. Choose yourself, and learn how to explain your wishes and wants in a non aggressive and oppresive way that allows combat and turns into a fight, for a man it's important to master the skill of being unmoved, because women rarely understand this skill, do not match her energy or it's not going to last. If you have confidence in your own desires then you can make people accept those, even admire you. Instead of being mad over the things they have been taught and how they think they will get their way. Also, you can mold women, even ones that are broken, but sometimes it can be dangerous, a lunatic is not worth working on. Key things to look out for are malignant lying and small acts of violence towards you, these people are capable of exploding, ignoring morals and do terrible things to others.
This was one of the best interviews I’ve seen online. One, because Tom is a great interviewer and he asks the uncomfortable questions while checking for facts. Secondly, coz Ms. Sadia has awesome emotional intelligence, she answers the questions calmly and collected without wavering on her core values and beliefs. Above all, both are able to articulate their views with respect for one another. Shout out to both of you 🫡🫡🫡
He also monopolizes the time his guests can speak and cuts them off of their thoughts that I'd like to hear the rest of. But otherwise it's a great podcast with excellent guests.
That ‘s nice for a tee shirt but it’s vague as hell and doesn’t mention the woman’s criteria - the child bearers., nor does it cover the majority of people on earth who do not subscribe to the Jewish/Christian bible
@@Bronte866you don’t have to subscribe to the Bible to understand it/relate to something. The Bible saids thou shall not kill. I’m sure you can agree with that.
I’ve seen her in many interviews and she is usually being asked the questions. Tom is a great but he dominated the conversation. However, Sadia is so gifted at what she does, she allowed Tom to be him while transforming herself to interviewer…and then masterfully playing off his responses to ask questions and build content! She just put on a master class! Credit to Tom’s sharing and transparency!!
I think it's my first time hearing her but I ran so fast to the screen in the first few minutes to see who she was and what her name is... she was spitting pure facts the whole time. An amazing interviewee, insightful and thoughtful
@@solvedfyishe’s just saying the things you want to hear - aka psychology 101/manipulation 101. Why do you think she’s so suddenly big, compared to the ones that truly speak of the truth? The algorithm has been programmed to make her look good.
I totally feel this woman when she say women give women a hard time. I’m currently experiencing this at a new job I started. Women are cruel to other women that they are intimidated by. It’s ridiculous. This whole episode has been very informative as usual. Love this.❤️🔥
If the past and present system valued women. The mothers were to provide the heir, continue the family name.. It's not longer ago we were 'kept' like children. Maybe if that wasn't part of the history we would have less broken women. Today's world valued women has ' sex appeal , beauty, etc., but it's based on biased expectations. Modern girls self esteem where sisters, colleagues, and such feel competitive as to heal self esteem issues, the broken value systems.
Totally @Michelle-cn9zp I have seen this often. Severe cases at times. If you're pretty and well-liked, be ready for women to hate on you. Bullies at work are all too common sadly. Stay being you as chiched as it sounds. Keep living by your values.
Yes as a woman I completely related to what she was saying in regards to female managers. I haven't fared very well there either. It's like they have to assert their controlling dominance and prove themselves above you. It makes me wonder what their home environment is like if they feel the need to control at work. Perhaps do they have no control in other areas of their life?
I love this woman. Her “ humanity” is breathtaking. The insights, the vulnerability, the silliness, the bravery, the openness. She puts herself out there. I don’t even have to agree with her, it’s just amazing.
@@LouLouLion no cook to your man. See wherr world is going. Men will be needed. More than ever. Support and love your man. You will need them at west more than ever
This episode has been exceptionally stimulating already. But Sadia's "Awws", just sounds so particularly endearing to me. And I am awed by her gentleness while questioning, and the clarity and the depths of her points of view, and her fearless intellectual persuasiveness. Tom's passionate eloquence is such a delight to witness and to listen to. Bravo to Tom and Sadia. This episode is indeed a class on its own. Thank you, Tom and Sadia for the intellectual delights that you shared with us.
What i loved about this interview is 1. The level of honesty in Sadia in admitting her expertise is capped in some areas and is actually looking for more data to complete her own opinion on a subject by asking Tom. 2. Tom's honesty in sharing his personal experience and wisdom. 3. Sadia teaching the rules to a healthy relationship and Tom embodying that example. In life one can learn to recognize toxicity but will continue to make the same mistakes due to an inability to create a new path to replace the toxic one. Seeing Sadia's theory come alive through Tom's real life experience and witnessing Tom sharing real steps towards a healthy partnership is priceless. I have trained myself to be hyperaware of toxic patterns but I lack the ability to recognize what to replace them with, to recognize what the alternative should be and Tom brought such clarity to this subject for me and of course this was accomplished because his guest was Sadia.
This is deep….. Fantastic. I’ve been single for the last 3yrs because I’ve seen my 7yr old daughter going through hell, living with her mother and her new boyfriend (not so new now). I live for my daughter with a safe home for her to get away. I don’t need to look for a new partner just yet. I just love receiving a smile or a giggle from my little peanut… until she spreads her wings. I’m here for her. Everyone has a different story with different priorities. PS: I’m a successful business owner.
The part you mentioned about really appreciating Lisa’s attractiveness and beauty while she is young just made me feel so emotional. As human beings it can become all too simple to take things for granted. The communication you two have in your marriage is similar to what I aspire to in mine.
When she spoke on the simple things to make a man melt for a woman are feminine qualities. We're supposed to attract to that. That's her super power! A man's appreciation is like a pat on the back for scoring. A woman's appreciation is fuel for me to keep fighting and playing the game! My family 😊
Still its a lot of stigma around arrange marraige. I mean you get beaten to a pulp if you disagree. You are also poor and have to take care of the family when the partner works 12 hour days. You cant apply it to a modern society with a great outcome, its borderline slavery.
Tom you are the most sincere and bold man that I have seen on You Tube! Thank you to you and Lisa for sharing your life lessons with us. I wish you two healthy long lives!
Not really. She's says she's non judgemental. That means she's not really telling you what she actually thinks. Women always say they're non judgemental so we don't judge them. Anyone with a brain is judgemental
How does someone put this lovely woman down? This conversation is absolutely terrific! I can honestly say, I agree with probably everything discussed here. Bless you!
I love so much that she said, “He can get his own [tea, coffee, sandwich] but he likes when she does it. Just like she can pay the bill, but likes when he does it. ❤
I think the more modern issue is that both partners are paying the bills but he still expects to be served tea, coffee, and sandwich while giving nothing extra in return.
"You should not be offended by reality, it truth offends you, you have a problem." Thank you Sadia Khan! I think this is the key issue that we as society face. When someone points out something where I made a blind (perhaps unknowing or unaware) compromise, I thank the person, even if it hurts. This is what it means to be a responsible adult. And yes, the more it hurts, the harder it is to look inside and face the truth, or, at least, take steps towards seeking it. Throwing a tantrum because compromised values or standards or actions were exposed is extremely childish. High time for our society to grow up.
Tom, Sadia, I want to say thank you to the both of you. This conversation is an answer to my life' struggle. Deep down I always knew what were my problems but I couldn't figure out how to say it out loud in a simple way and both of you just made it so much easier for me. Truly, thanks. Be blessed.
I come from a very different background with different values and beliefs, but the things she talks about and how she goes about talking about it leaves me a lot of room to feel challenged. And I'm liking it
Amazing!! I love how Sadia speaks so courageously against the overwhelming promiscuity that is so prevalent in todays culture. Thank you for having her on your show.
Serial-dating to find her husband-potential to date seriously, is not what promiscuous means, which is often to change sexual partners outside of committed relationships; casual sexual dating @@Johnny_Savage
I think this interview has a lot of really good points, but I feel like the interviewer is sometimes full of it. He says he’s never been jealous, but yet talks about experiences where he has wanted something someone else has.
Tom is really a brilliant interviewer. I'm getting interested in this woman, I find her refreshing and brutally honest in her opinions. I've also watched some interviews with her but I think Tom is the first interviewer who is not afraid to ask her hard and uncomfortable questions. It makes for a very interesting interview. Thanks to both of you.
She so right about the shared values. One of the ways I knew my husband was for me was the way our families got along. And now that we have been married for a while I see all the ways we were raised similarly.
Yeah, it's too bad nowadays parents don't see this and leave all the responsibility to the young one. My parents never introduced me to other social circles,It made me feel like they were ashamed of me.
When Sadia talked about women being difficult in the workplace, that has also been my experience! Men had never been a problem to me. That’s been my personal experience as well! Edit: I meant “women being difficult to other women” in the workplace.
It's everyone's experience not just yours - more females in the workplace or any place = more problems. Same thing goes for the gyms, problems problems - if we create only-female spaces and only male-spaces let's compare stats after a year or so and you will find and see just how problematic females are and all they do is fight, and disagree, and get jealous, and hurt, and bla bla, they love drama and they love attention, if they don't get it they get bored.
@@beedebawng2556 I meant to write “women being difficult to to other women in the workplace.” Women tend be nasty to other women in the workplace. It can be bc you’re younger, attractive, come from a certain class/family/ethnicity/you’re intelligent/smart and especially if other people also find you attractive, and it used to get worse when they saw male colleagues chatting to me! I don’t know if it was a competitive thing, maybe! 🤔 I never stopped to ask. It’s crazy bc my then bf (now husband) was always very present and everyone knew him where I worked. The annoying thing is someone made something up about me and another male work colleague as a joke and my bf found out and that was a hurtful thing. It still blows my mind to this day. Women gossip and especially bring other women down if they feel threatened in some way. I never understood it bc I’m the youngest of 5 girls and I’ve always been cared for by my older siblings and I’ve always looked up to them and other women especially older women (still do) and 3/4 of times I wasn’t really appreciated. The same thing happened to me in school as well, all the way to high school.
As a guy, I don't want to work in a female dominated workplace. There are far to many risks, and those risks will affect my family. Accusations of impropriety can end up with loss of job and possible criminal record. These affect income, and that income will affect the family.
Very interesting interview.. She is quite a lady, very articulate, straight-talker, full of common sense.. fascinating mixture of Eastern and Western values.. and no sign of wokeness... Thank you !
What a FANTASTIC INTERVIEW. I’ve watched multiple of Shadia’s interviews, and this is the best one so far. What wonderful questions and such insightful questions. Seems like you both forgot about the cameras in the room and were just having a conversation. What a gift, thank you both.
Sadie is a breath of fresh air to our suffocating modern world. Thank you Tom for sharing your values that apply in your marriage as an example and making this interview very authentic and engaging.
It's such a relief to hear a woman say that it's not only natural for a woman to submit to a man, but it's also healthy. I have found that I truly do better in life with a man by my side. I am capable and can take care of myself, but it's stressful. Having a loving, caring partner whom I can trust makes all the difference in the world. In my last relationship I couldn't trust my partner. He had poor judgement and was deceitful. This was even more exhausting than trying to handle life on my own. Now I'm with a man I adore and trust and to whom I do submit (although that's not something he asks for). I have a huge amount of respect for him and I feel loved and cared for by the endless number of things he does to help make life easier for me. It's such a relief and I am so glad to know that I am fulfilling a natural role. Modern feminists would have women feel weak and backwards for wanting a man to help care for them. It's a breath of fresh air to have someone so articulately explain why it's good and natural for a woman to feel calmer and reassured with a good man by her side. Thank you Sadia.
My husband and I submit to each other in various capacities. He is great at building and designing, for example. I am proficient at managing family money.
Love the way Tom talks about Lisa and to her. They have such a beautiful relationship. I 100% relate with Tom about being aggressive by boiling things down to its simplest thing.
Tom, you were brilliant, mate! I really loved your perspectives throughout this conversation. The conversation comes alive at the 3-hour mark, and as a society, we need more conversations like this. Thank you both!
This conversation has been very enlightening. They are covering everything. I’m learning what I’ve been doing wrong, but don’t feel comfortable telling my partner how he hurts me, so it builds up until I can’t stand it anymore and lash out. Your conversation is teaching me that I need to show more appreciation and pay closer attention to his queues. I hate it when he punishes me, so changing my behavior is necessary.
I enjoyed this conversation for the most part and agreed with probably 90% of the points outlined. The area I have contention with is the focus on women having to understand that men require them, in a marriage, serving them food, getting their needs met domestically. This is difficult for a lot of women when we are working full time, being a mother full time, caring for the household responsibilities and men are required to have a job. This is absolutely ridiculous. Women would be able to handle all the responsibilities of running a home and family without the full time job they have to have to keep the family surviving. There is no mention of men changing their old style of work, come home be served and cared for and mowing the lawn once a week or shoveling snow. Men should also contribute to the running of the home and caring of the children, it would ease up time for a woman to concentrate some of her time to catering to her husband. I am 60+ yo old woman. I have seen a lot of change because of feminism. I use to experience harassment as a 12 yo girl delivering papers, older men cat calling me or making sexual comments about me. As a teenager, I worked in a BBQ joint and my boss smacked me in the butt and I got fired because I told him not to touch me ever again. As a teenager up to my young adulthood, I was turned down for raises or promotion because the boy/man I was "competing" with was deemed more favorable because he was working towards raising a family. Things are not that way today but I can certainly attest to the fact that my experience may have been anecdotal but a lot of women experienced those types of things in the 50s, 60s, 70s and even the 80s.
Dang she is gold. I imagine the majority of women think like her, but are hesitant to admit it. Plus she has the IQ and bravery to articulate it. Thank you Sadia
No many of you type of folks may actually glean this, however ya'll rather and/or make the decision to want to treat women as objects who cannot think and behave for themselves so that women meet your needs solely and lastly you do not have to meet theirs 🤔🤔🤔
I really enjoyed and appreciated her traditional views about male/female relationships. I think people make relationships harder than they need to be. ❤
Based on my experience, the only reason the divorce rate is low is because of the huge social stigma a divorce presents within these cultures. If you are divorced, the chances of you getting another arranged marriage are effective zero. So they both stay with each other out of fear, and this breeds massive resentment. I have uncles and aunties, who have been married for decades, have a nice home, children, but there is absolutely no romantic connection whatsoever, some sleep in separate rooms…
Arranged marriage just means arranged to meet the other person. The potential couple ultimately has the choice to be married or not. At least, that's what arranged marriages are like now. Back in the day I'm sure parents chose spouses for their children without push back.
I love the concept of having shared meaning and purpose in a partnership that was highlighted by Sadia! I align more with Tom's perspectives, but I do appreciate Sadia's worldview.
This was the best conversation I've ever listened to. The viewpoints were so respectfully stated, and the questions asked were very thought-provoking. I learned a lot through Sadia and Tom. Thank you!
Amazing how she answered so many questions in one interview. I wish everyone would watch this . Just found this channel . I’ll have to watch more of Tom’s videos .
Knowing and learning are two seperate things though, many people know driinking is bad for you but does that mean they don't drink? No, they will still go out and drink again next weekend. Did their previous hook-up lead to happiness or failure and depression? Did they learn something? Did they change? Unlikely, people don't change - they repeat the same mistakes. And they don't learn either - they blame everything and vereyone else for their own bad choices in life.
@roserevancroix2308 can't say I'm part of that group. I've never been a drinker, and those who don't learn from their mistakes are a lost cause and sadly they problem is a bigger pandemic than covid was
@@roserevancroix2308 I disagree. It's important to do things that are "bad" for us now and then. Alcohol is another way to shock the body, which we know that shocking the body is a large part of how it grows and adapts. Plus, you're not boring.
@@roserevancroix2308 Adding to my last comment, I would say that the time to quit is the first time something no longer brings you joy. And for something like a hook-up, that could certainly be the very first time. To continue doing something that leaves one feeling empty is certainly a sign of mental illness. And if that's your overall sentiment, I'm on board with you.
What she says is really interesting yeah. However she's soo seductive in her attitude. She's playing with him the whole interview. I would find it EXTREMELY uncomfortable. When men project their flirty energy to other women, we call them harassers. But on the other hand, it's the man's fault if he falls for her hostess-like manners, which she uses to try & take the upper hand in the conversation. Hats off to Tom for being so stoical!
This video is going to be my staple for relationships; it has so much valuable content! 😍 1:31:24 - OMG, I experienced something similar too. A so-called "friend" claimed that her husband was being unfaithful, manipulating their son, and engaging in verbal and physical abuse. It turned out that she herself was involved in S&M activities (which explained the bruises), and she was the one having affairs with men at swinging clubs. It was a harsh revelation. I will forever recall the initial meeting with her husband; my gut feeling told me he was a good person, and although I was perplexed, I trusted her story. This experience taught me that intuition is indeed reliable.
Sadia is probably the guest I've had the hardest time *wanting* to listen to, which I think makes it that much more important to listen. I've disagreed with guests before, but I guess our ideas diverge in areas where I feel more strongly. Still, I was actually surprised by how much I do agree with some of what she says, or at least can arrive to a similar conclusion as her, even if for different reasons (like you, I find a lot of religious ideals line up with my own morals/habits that I have chosen for myself, but through science, observation, and coincidence rather than because of religious stories). I really appreciate that you can both agree and disagree and discuss with respect and nuance, not just back and forth shouting about feminist/tradition/whatever.
Feminism, it's an illusion to suck women into believe they can do anything a man can do. In reality feminism is simply a whip to crack on men. Let's see how long that whip of yours can keep cracking.
Amazing episode. I had never heard of Sadia Khan, but I thoroughly enjoyed her perspective. Loved how you two clashed on many topics, but spoke throughout without any offense. It's always awesome to see.
Dear Sadia Khan, I appreciate you sharing your thoughts on modern dating, relationships, and the influence of social media. Your insights touch on important aspects of today’s relationship landscape, and I’d like to add a few different perspectives to the conversation. 1. Social Media and Relationships: You’ve highlighted the challenges social media brings, particularly how it can foster superficial connections by emphasizing appearance. While that’s certainly a valid concern, I believe social media also has the potential to connect people in meaningful ways based on shared interests, values, and experiences. The abundance of options can be overwhelming, but it’s all about how individuals choose to engage with these platforms. When used thoughtfully, social media can help people connect with others who resonate with their deeper values and long-term goals, not just surface-level attractions. 2. Narcissism vs. Feminism: You’ve raised an important point about the fine line between narcissism and feminism today. I see true feminism as a movement that empowers everyone-women and men alike-to live authentically and make choices that reflect their true selves, free from societal pressures. This empowerment includes the freedom to prioritize one’s appearance or to seek partners who value more than just physical beauty. It’s about finding a balance and allowing each person to define what matters most in their relationships. 3. Arranged Marriages and Shared Values: You’ve made a strong case for arranged marriages, particularly in terms of the shared cultural and familial values they often support. However, it’s worth noting that shared values can also be found in relationships that aren’t formed through traditional structures. In our increasingly globalized world, people can-and do-find partners who share their values, even if they come from different backgrounds. What’s most important is mutual respect, open communication, and a willingness to grow together, regardless of how the relationship begins. 4. Monogamy and Limiting Options: Your advocacy for monogamy as a path to deeper connections is compelling. That said, I believe the focus should be more on making intentional and thoughtful choices rather than on limiting options. In a world full of possibilities, the real challenge is to be clear about what one truly wants and to choose wisely. This doesn’t mean settling or narrowing one’s horizons but rather prioritizing what aligns with one’s core values and long-term aspirations. 5. Traditional Values vs. Modern Practices: I understand your preference for traditional values, particularly those rooted in religious teachings. However, I also believe that modern practices, like casual dating or social drinking, can be meaningful if approached with mindfulness and personal responsibility. Everyone’s journey is unique, and what works for one person might not for another. The key lies in finding a balance that promotes well-being and aligns with one’s personal beliefs, whether they lean traditional or modern. 6. Religion and Relationship Values: Your view on the role of religion in fostering stable relationships is appreciated. That said, it’s also possible to build strong, meaningful connections based on secular principles such as mutual respect, honesty, and commitment. While religion has historically played a vital role in transmitting values, today’s diverse society offers many different paths to fulfilling relationships. 7. The Challenges of Modern Dating: You’ve touched on the difficulties presented by dating apps, where endless choices can lead to shallow connections. While this is indeed a challenge, it also offers an opportunity. By being clear about one’s intentions and setting firm boundaries, individuals can use these tools to find meaningful relationships. The key is self-awareness and a deliberate approach to building the kind of relationship one desires. In closing, while your views resonate with many, it’s essential to remember that different paths can lead to fulfillment. Whether through traditional values, modern practices, or a blend of both, the most important thing is that individuals make choices that reflect their true selves and lead to healthy, fulfilling relationships. Thank you for sparking this important conversation. I look forward to hearing more of your thoughts on these complex issues.
I remember watching Lisa’s podcast with Dr Ramani and Dr. Ramani mention that Tom is a good husband because he “cherishes” Lisa and that’s so true and I just wanted to mention that because I don’t know of Tom was ever aware of that but the way he conducts himself as a husband is valuable and men should strive to cherish their wives. Keep up the good work!
Yeah she's amazing! We need more women like her. Being really beautiful and being a really good person is an almost impossible combination for women today. You're very beautiful, and I'm assuming you're a good person because you're watching this podcast! 😂😂😂 God bless! 🙏❤
This is one of those life changing interviews. Kinda crazy that today was the best day of my life, not because I accomplished anything special, or a human gave me special love. I was just meditating throughout the day and I was filled with more peace and bliss than I've ever felt. Beyond a kundalini awakening and more. No reason, just God. Strangest thing, even though my guru-brother said it would happen, it was funny. This is either going to save my marriage or break it. We just started talking again after 3 weeks of silence. I didn't say a word and she came back to me, but I need to say more, and I'm going to send this to her to really get her to understand what I'm feeling.
How is it going? I wish you all the best. I am in the s as me place, but it is my husband who left. Listen to her to have an understanding of how she feels, communicate with her. Get your woman back…she wouldn’t give you the time of day if she didn’t love you.🥰 ❤
"When you have someone who will run through the wall for you... there's nothing better than that." This encompasses everything a relationship is at its core, healthy and whole. Complete in one another. How beautifully expressed. "Fear of loss" changes you... it makes you less confident, less you.
I absolutely loved this episode! Took me 4 days to complete & well worth it. Sadia is an amazing woman and I can’t understand why she would receive hate! When she said she didn’t believe in the feminist movement I had to take a second and actually listen before I skipped that part and HONESTLY MY VIEWS ON THE FEMINIST MOVEMENT IS SHIFTING based on Sadia’s perspective and I absolutely love it. Please keep going Sadia we’re all rooting for you.
Damn, this woman is absolutely spot on with so much and its clear she really cares and worries about the world. It's reassuring to hear someone such as her highlight the issues and be so clear and direct about them, particularly on the female side. I also love her inmediate explanation for the point of relationships, to have a shared purpose. Very interesting discussion and couldn't have found it at a better time. Absolutely relate to using religious teachings as a compass to weigh up things, rather than an absolute set of rules/laws. Classy interesting woman with massive levels of integrity.
I just love when Tom speaks about relationships and marriage particularly because he has a loving marriage with Lisa. Refreshing to hear. Thanks for bringing Sadia Khan, Tom.
My wife is gorgeous but she has this entitlement attitude that she deserves all things given to her. She sometimes gets angry if I give her less than what she expected. I told her about this and thankfully she is changing.
I have a pretty thai gf but she does think she's a deity...In Thailand women think in terms of scarcity because most men there aren't well off and the regular girls that aren't working girls want relationships....They want certainty and stability... Every thing in the West is based on an abundance mindset...
Wow!! I thoroughly enjoyed the entire 3HRS and 30min of this Podcast.. I absolutely love her, and I loved the dynamic between the two of you! Thank you!
I think it is very dangerous for a person to grow up to "accept authority". I think that a responsible parent would teach their children to question authority, and ultimately to become their own authority. A society full of individuals who "accept authority" is an irresistible temptation to be expoited by someone who's power-obsessed.
This was such a refreshing conversation! I thoroughly enjoyed listening and already plan to listen a second time! Bravo to both of these very grounded professionals! Encore!!!!
Love love Sadia Khan. have been watching a lot of her interviews lately and can't get enough of. We need more of her. Very brilliant and articulate. You go Girl. Thanks Tom for bringing her on your show.
The western world has become misandrist. This is VERY refreshing. More people like this are getting a new voice in media because we all know that we need it, and moreover, people like Sadia are clear evidence that tradition, respect, values-based relationships and honesty do not disempower EITHER gender but rather create strength - we are like epoxy, need both parts to make the strongest bond.
@@funkspinna I believe this partly to be true, because of women working/voting etc. (Women's Liberation movement and Feminism) - adding second incomes to homes drives inflation which can actually force a nation into a wealthier state if managed properly. However I think there are quite a few other factors which make a nation/group of nations "Rich" - not the least of which is finishing two world wars in such a way as to take almost all the spoils, but other things like law and capitalism. I am no economist but I think it's all quite a bit more complicated.
There’s one thing that kept coming back to me and that was why Sadia kept interrupting Tom’s line of thought.and I’ve checked a lot of Sadia’s interviews and this keeps on happening!
Wow this conversation got real!! “How do you tell your wife she’s gotten fat?” and “How do you tell your husband he’s gotten weak?” A very insightful conversation on how to navigate a long-term meaning for relationship, thank you to you both!! Definitely honesty and respect is key!!
WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!
Arranged marriage does not mean someone forces you to marry someone. Arranged marriage means you recommend people that come from good family's and you chose each other who you like the most. So please stop spreading false meaning on what arranged marriage means.
Amazing , I dont know how much anyone Makes, I don't know why we would value it as a part of Our Worth...
..it's like a Woman's Beauty , outer..
Thank you for this interview! Watched every minute 🙌🏼 definitely pushing the envelope forward!
Tom, of course Elon is “smarter” than you. He’s an NPC in this simulation. 😂
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Thank you so much for having me i loved meeting you guys x
love your work so much. intelligent, articulate, brilliant and beautiful too. thank you.
So, now you know what he thinks 😅.
You ve got patience!
You were on fire ….absolutely brilliant talk❤
Your take on slavery was appallingly uneducated and your lack of reflection on you benefiting from your appearance over other women was truly cringe. I’m not sure if it’s valuable to watch other interviews of you at least being confronted by other women with more critical thinking skills.
@@Lafemmefutilego back to school
“if it takes money to get her, you are REPLACEABLE” - that quote did not fly over my head!
I mean, even in the great depression marriage rates plummeted. If a man cannot provide for a family (which is all about money), then a woman should not marry him to begin with. So my thoughts on that statement are mixed; yes a shallow woman who wants luxury over anything else should be avoided, but we have to face the facts that a guy has to be able to provide for a family.
i'd say that applies to "beauty" as well
She makes a fair point, but I think the converse is also true: If you have the money to "get her," then she is also replaceable.
Bro, if it takes money to get her she's trash - what is another word for girls that do things for money with men they don't really care about? It's called prostitution. So if you hear a female ask what you do for a living leave, she's not interested in YOU whatsoever, she is only interested in ehrself, and money. People like that are useless trash, and not wife-material.
Neither me
I don’t know why some of you are saying he is talking to much. This is the first podcast I’ve seen with Sadia where the interviewer is giving her any push back at all and I think the contrast he brought to the table was perfectly balanced and filled in a lot to of gaps over all. She clearly doesn’t shy away from it either.
“A duty to one another’s well-being.” This is a gem.
But husband cheating because of his unmet needs is ok by this lady, in facts she goes further to blame the wife for not recognizing he4 husband is cheating… very confused lady…not to be taken seriously at all.
@@JmGmail"unmet" "NEEDS" not wants, needs. My ex could be furious with me, but she never once withheld sex. It's a need for 99% of people. You think it's okay to withhold it because the woman's needs aren't met, yes? Or you'd at least bring that up and say there must be a reason, right? Fair enough, but there are going to be negative consequences on either side when any duty we have to each other isn't met.
As someone whose ex-spouse cheated and abandoned our marriage, finances, and family, I can say that it is 100% his fault. But that would be less than honest if I didn't look at how I also impacted the relationship too. I tolerated far too much abuse, disrespect, and unhealthy boundaries, and therefore, it was almost inevitable he would take it to its natural conclusion; betrayal. It seems you misunderstood. Sadia is not condoning cheating, by either partner, but is advocating looking at what both contribute to the breakdown of the relationship. Whoever cheats is ultimately very broken and is coping from a place of trauma that is not the fault of the other partner. Looking at myself in the mirror through all that I endured was one of the most critical elements to my healing
@@JmGmail
Only men understand relationships in terms of duty. Women only understand relationships according to what benefits them at a given moment.
@@JmGmailwow. That’s what you took away from 3 hours of content. The saying goes Ignorance is bliss.
She had me at "we're replacing feminity with narcissisim" 🔥🔥🔥
She is absolutely brilliant. I was captivated in the first minute of her speaking. I will sit back and listen to this WHOLE THING...going to soak in every single thing she says. I know this is a must hear for everyone right now. 😮🤔😃✌️
😶😶👂👂👂👂👂👂👂😶😶
That is not a good trade - healthy vs toxic.
Yep!!!🎉😮
So interesting how her feminist ""sisters"" attack her physicality calling her an ""ugly slut"" and things at that level.
This is an hilarious unmasking of the actual ugly face of feminism as it truly is in its netherly crypt.
Underneath all the fake intellectual, high and mighty, system-sponsored, societally polished, washed-tomb, feminist Pharisee's facade, is discovered the demonically hideous high priestesses of Molochite-worshipping sacrificers of innocent babies to their Baal god of abortion and sodomite orgy death rituals.
Underneath it all are just plain old, foul-mouthed, female Jezebel dogs waiting to bare the hidden horror of their ROTTING SOULS.
Those she-servants of the Worm-king would rather burn in hell than surrender their souls to a loving and righteous, heavenly Father.
When will they learn?
He would forgive them if they were only humble enough to receive his gift of love.
Sadia is very friendly, and intelligent and brave and has a very sweet spirit and going in the right direction even if so far it has been somewhat coloured by muhammedism which also has its own dark sides unfortunately.
We can always pray that she and her eventual husband-to-be will find the true Spirit of Christ that is so lacking in our modern Western societies.
All the best parts of our Western culture were inspired by the words and Spirit of Christ Jesus to the point that we are STILL seeing the positive effects to this day even if the sun is setting on that as well because of the love so many are abandoning for lesser things of this world like temporal power and pleasure.
Yet there is a reason why her family moved to the West in the first place.
THEY SIMPLY THRIVED HERE AMONGST US PSYCHOLOGICALLY CHRISTIAN PEOPLE BETTER THAN THEY WOULD HAVE AMONGST THEIR OWN.
Facts.
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I love listening to Sadia Khan...she's so spot on. I love how she holds women accountable in such a gracious way.
more like holds everyone .... i love it
It's called sugarcoating critique, something u have to do with emotional beings
@@dante19890men are far more emotional beings than women..if this wasn't the case then men wouldn't commit the vast majority of crimes in the world since the beginning of time..both against women and other men
Also known as manipulation haha@@dante19890
@@dante19890like everyone isn’t emotional lol
Everything she said is the same way I looked at the internet when it first came out , and until this day I still don’t have a social media, 38 now , and this social media is destroying how we feel see and connect with one another, it separates us all at the end
And yet you are accessing UA-cam in order to watch this clip 😅😅😅
@@dessstiny1the irony
Dude, you're on Social Media 😂🤣
@@KnottyCeltic
Yeah but more anonymously than fakebook.
I get their point…..no need to bash the dude.
Sadia Khan is a true modern woman with traditional values. Her intellect, insights, communication style, gentle yet firm demeanour makes her so wonderful to listen to. AND Her femininity, spirituality, intuition and beauty is appreciated by me too :) Great conversation -thankyou
She is full of crap. Notice how she shames women younger than her for naturally liking older menn
She's far from traditional
You articulated my sentiments exactly!!
Agree. She talks like a high class escort in a lot of her videos and has said she wouldn’t even look at a man without money (how unsporituai !!) she’s not a licensed psychologist and not trained - she’s been reported to authorities. She called me a slut and a hoe because I said women watch porn as well as men as she shakes men watching porn. She then made a hate campaign against me lying about me telling her followers that I hacked her instagram- she’s not mentally stable and I have all the proof if anybody wants to see it. She’s also suggested to users they have been neglected as a child. She’s damaging and immature
She is a breath of fresh air, although her views and own actions can be slightly confusing. She preaches many things that she does not either do or follow herself. Almost all of her views on religion and culture for example are very contradictory
I love how she corrected his definition of Boundaries; a boundary is NOT a punishment. It is simply explaining what/what not you will allow and the how the person who set the boundary will react if that boundary is crossed. It is a way to keep people in your life by clearly expressing how you will react to certain behaviour especially behaviour that challenges your peace/safety.
I like that
Yeah, but the problem is people like to use the "you're crossing my boundaries" argument for attempting to discuss your own boundaries.
@@medini2that’s when a discussion needs to be made because that person who says that may have a misunderstanding of what a boundary is
@@medini2that's because a lot of people are just shitheads and you shouldnt listen to them, do your own thing, obviously people will have boundaries and there are always rats and abusers.
But those petty hearted people should not dominate any narrative.
Choose yourself, and learn how to explain your wishes and wants in a non aggressive and oppresive way that allows combat and turns into a fight, for a man it's important to master the skill of being unmoved, because women rarely understand this skill, do not match her energy or it's not going to last.
If you have confidence in your own desires then you can make people accept those, even admire you.
Instead of being mad over the things they have been taught and how they think they will get their way.
Also, you can mold women, even ones that are broken, but sometimes it can be dangerous, a lunatic is not worth working on.
Key things to look out for are malignant lying and small acts of violence towards you, these people are capable of exploding, ignoring morals and do terrible things to others.
Tom just said that the smartest man is smarter than the smartest woman. Where's the data on that?
This was one of the best interviews I’ve seen online. One, because Tom is a great interviewer and he asks the uncomfortable questions while checking for facts. Secondly, coz Ms. Sadia has awesome emotional intelligence, she answers the questions calmly and collected without wavering on her core values and beliefs.
Above all, both are able to articulate their views with respect for one another. Shout out to both of you 🫡🫡🫡
He also monopolizes the time his guests can speak and cuts them off of their thoughts that I'd like to hear the rest of. But otherwise it's a great podcast with excellent guests.
The Wall comes for all!
Proverbs 31:30
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
That ‘s nice for a tee shirt but it’s vague as hell and doesn’t mention the woman’s criteria - the child bearers., nor does it cover the majority of people on earth who do not subscribe to the Jewish/Christian bible
@@Bronte866you don’t have to subscribe to the Bible to understand it/relate to something. The Bible saids thou shall not kill. I’m sure you can agree with that.
@@Bronte866also it’s pretty simple. It’s saying charm can be a distraction and beauty comes and goes. But a woman who loves God is rare.
How about if a man loves God?Doesn't mention about a man No does it??? Of course not
@@Bronte866just because one doesn’t believe doesn’t make a truth any less a truth
I’ve seen her in many interviews and she is usually being asked the questions. Tom is a great but he dominated the conversation. However, Sadia is so gifted at what she does, she allowed Tom to be him while transforming herself to interviewer…and then masterfully playing off his responses to ask questions and build content! She just put on a master class! Credit to Tom’s sharing and transparency!!
Tom seems to always overload the conversation.
Loved Tom but have moved away from him for that reason.
Tom, interrupts and talks over people. Let's face it, he IS a self centered jerk.
I think it's my first time hearing her but I ran so fast to the screen in the first few minutes to see who she was and what her name is... she was spitting pure facts the whole time. An amazing interviewee, insightful and thoughtful
@@solvedfyishe’s just saying the things you want to hear - aka psychology 101/manipulation 101. Why do you think she’s so suddenly big, compared to the ones that truly speak of the truth? The algorithm has been programmed to make her look good.
I totally feel this woman when she say women give women a hard time. I’m currently experiencing this at a new job I started. Women are cruel to other women that they are intimidated by. It’s ridiculous. This whole episode has been very informative as usual. Love this.❤️🔥
Be the change you wish to see! Stay you, beautiful you!
If the past and present system valued women.
The mothers were to provide the heir, continue the family name..
It's not longer ago we were 'kept' like children.
Maybe if that wasn't part of the history we would have less broken women.
Today's world valued women has ' sex appeal , beauty, etc., but it's based on biased expectations.
Modern girls self esteem where sisters, colleagues, and such feel competitive as to heal self esteem issues, the broken value systems.
I know women are really the worse for judgement of other women
Totally @Michelle-cn9zp I have seen this often. Severe cases at times. If you're pretty and well-liked, be ready for women to hate on you. Bullies at work are all too common sadly. Stay being you as chiched as it sounds. Keep living by your values.
Yes as a woman I completely related to what she was saying in regards to female managers. I haven't fared very well there either. It's like they have to assert their controlling dominance and prove themselves above you. It makes me wonder what their home environment is like if they feel the need to control at work. Perhaps do they have no control in other areas of their life?
I love this woman. Her “ humanity” is breathtaking. The insights, the vulnerability, the silliness, the bravery, the openness. She puts herself out there. I don’t even have to agree with her, it’s just amazing.
she's a grifter
Even if you disagree with her, she is at least trying to be the communicator that women claim to be. She has some courage and worthy of respect.
woman?.
@@gdcskates She is not a woman?
I absolutely agree. She is like a wave, she is a force❤
What a gem of a conversation ! When normal/regular people bring more than decades of TV moguls.
When it comes to relationships I always remember what my Grandfather told me.
" Looks fade, hunger doesn't. " 😄
Wtf does that mean?
Meaning be a good cook...
@@firecrackerNJ2CA yeah you should be a good cook so you can cook for yourself. A part of being an adult
@@LouLouLion no cook to your man. See wherr world is going. Men will be needed. More than ever. Support and love your man. You will need them at west more than ever
It means be a good digger and ignore your real desires
This episode has been exceptionally stimulating already. But Sadia's "Awws", just sounds so particularly endearing to me.
And I am awed by her gentleness while questioning, and the clarity and the depths of her points of view, and her fearless intellectual persuasiveness.
Tom's passionate eloquence is such a delight to witness and to listen to.
Bravo to Tom and Sadia. This episode is indeed a class on its own.
Thank you, Tom and Sadia for the intellectual delights that you shared with us.
What i loved about this interview is
1. The level of honesty in Sadia in admitting her expertise is capped in some areas and is actually looking for more data to complete her own opinion on a subject by asking Tom.
2. Tom's honesty in sharing his personal experience and wisdom.
3. Sadia teaching the rules to a healthy relationship and Tom embodying that example.
In life one can learn to recognize toxicity but will continue to make the same mistakes due to an inability to create a new path to replace the toxic one. Seeing Sadia's theory come alive through Tom's real life experience and witnessing Tom sharing real steps towards a healthy partnership is priceless.
I have trained myself to be hyperaware of toxic patterns but I lack the ability to recognize what to replace them with, to recognize what the alternative should be and Tom brought such clarity to this subject for me and of course this was accomplished because his guest was Sadia.
This is deep….. Fantastic. I’ve been single for the last 3yrs because I’ve seen my 7yr old daughter going through hell, living with her mother and her new boyfriend (not so new now). I live for my daughter with a safe home for her to get away. I don’t need to look for a new partner just yet. I just love receiving a smile or a giggle from my little peanut… until she spreads her wings. I’m here for her.
Everyone has a different story with different priorities.
PS: I’m a successful business owner.
There's nothing like a father's love... its biblical. 🫵😎
Sadie is amazing with her insights. Also she knows how to give time letting Tom talk. I really respect her.
I felt like Tom had most of the convo by himself, and could have had the rest of it. She lost me at God.
But I did not tune in to hear Tom talk. I want to hear the guest.
Is there a version of this chat that mutes Tom? I'd prefer to listen to that one.
Isn't the point for the GUEST to speak????
@@TheDionysianFieldsyou can’t have morals without God.
This level of maturity and wisdom in the conversation between these 2 people is astounding
The part you mentioned about really appreciating Lisa’s attractiveness and beauty while she is young just made me feel so emotional. As human beings it can become all too simple to take things for granted. The communication you two have in your marriage is similar to what I aspire to in mine.
simp
When she spoke on the simple things to make a man melt for a woman are feminine qualities. We're supposed to attract to that. That's her super power! A man's appreciation is like a pat on the back for scoring. A woman's appreciation is fuel for me to keep fighting and playing the game! My family 😊
How intellectually refreshing. Dr. Sadia Khan has my deepest respect in a world where truth and understanding is fashionably unpopular.
Still its a lot of stigma around arrange marraige. I mean you get beaten to a pulp if you disagree. You are also poor and have to take care of the family when the partner works 12 hour days. You cant apply it to a modern society with a great outcome, its borderline slavery.
Actually she is not a Dr.
Tom you are the most sincere and bold man that I have seen on You Tube! Thank you to you and Lisa for sharing your life lessons with us. I wish you two healthy long lives!
It's almost ridiculous how insightful Sadia is. And someone of her caliber deserves the kind of probing questions you asked. Phenomenal content.
She reminds me of Esher Perel. She is so insightful too.
Not really. She's says she's non judgemental. That means she's not really telling you what she actually thinks. Women always say they're non judgemental so we don't judge them. Anyone with a brain is judgemental
How does someone put this lovely woman down? This conversation is absolutely terrific! I can honestly say, I agree with probably everything discussed here. Bless you!
I love so much that she said, “He can get his own [tea, coffee, sandwich] but he likes when she does it. Just like she can pay the bill, but likes when he does it. ❤
tea coffee sandwich is cheap. bill are expensive.
@@BB-xx3dv lol yeah, men will pay every tea, coffee, sandwich and bill just to have and enjoy the small gesture beneath them. oh poor man.
Literally nothing new about that statement.
The difference is, women NEED the cooperation of men for survival, men don't need the cooperation of women.
I think the more modern issue is that both partners are paying the bills but he still expects to be served tea, coffee, and sandwich while giving nothing extra in return.
"You should not be offended by reality, it truth offends you, you have a problem." Thank you Sadia Khan! I think this is the key issue that we as society face. When someone points out something where I made a blind (perhaps unknowing or unaware) compromise, I thank the person, even if it hurts. This is what it means to be a responsible adult. And yes, the more it hurts, the harder it is to look inside and face the truth, or, at least, take steps towards seeking it. Throwing a tantrum because compromised values or standards or actions were exposed is extremely childish. High time for our society to grow up.
Tom, Sadia, I want to say thank you to the both of you. This conversation is an answer to my life' struggle. Deep down I always knew what were my problems but I couldn't figure out how to say it out loud in a simple way and both of you just made it so much easier for me. Truly, thanks. Be blessed.
Be a dreamer not a radical dreamer, but take radical action, without action , dreams become fantasies
From what she's presented, she is in fact indeed genuine, she is a beautiful soul!
I TOTALLY agree that Honesty and Integrity are non-negotiables.
I come from a very different background with different values and beliefs, but the things she talks about and how she goes about talking about it leaves me a lot of room to feel challenged. And I'm liking it
Sort of, but the whole God thing falls flat for me.
Amazing!! I love how Sadia speaks so courageously against the overwhelming promiscuity that is so prevalent in todays culture. Thank you for having her on your show.
then why is she single and a serial dater?
She said she’s in a committed relationship.
Serial-dating to find her husband-potential to date seriously, is not what promiscuous means, which is often to change sexual partners outside of committed relationships; casual sexual dating @@Johnny_Savage
I think this interview has a lot of really good points, but I feel like the interviewer is sometimes full of it. He says he’s never been jealous, but yet talks about experiences where he has wanted something someone else has.
Jealousy is resentment out of envy. If you want something others have without being negative towards them, you aren't jealous.
He's totally full of it. IDK how anyone can tolerate him
Tom is really a brilliant interviewer. I'm getting interested in this woman, I find her refreshing and brutally honest in her opinions. I've also watched some interviews with her but I think Tom is the first interviewer who is not afraid to ask her hard and uncomfortable questions. It makes for a very interesting interview. Thanks to both of you.
She so right about the shared values. One of the ways I knew my husband was for me was the way our families got along. And now that we have been married for a while I see all the ways we were raised similarly.
Yeah, it's too bad nowadays parents don't see this and leave all the responsibility to the young one. My parents never introduced me to other social circles,It made me feel like they were ashamed of me.
I was gripped to this conversation the entire way through. I love it when intelligent people talk.
Hello there ❤❤❤❤.
I’m very grateful for this ladies insights. They are very helpful.
Sadia is one of the most intelligent women I have seen, the only young women I can really say I follow!
An influencer!
When Sadia talked about women being difficult in the workplace, that has also been my experience! Men had never been a problem to me. That’s been my personal experience as well!
Edit: I meant “women being difficult to other women” in the workplace.
Difficult in what way exactly?
@beedebawng2556 they sometimes feel they have much to prove and go crazy on the micro managing.
It's everyone's experience not just yours - more females in the workplace or any place = more problems.
Same thing goes for the gyms, problems problems - if we create only-female spaces and only male-spaces let's compare stats after a year or so and you will find and see just how problematic females are and all they do is fight, and disagree, and get jealous, and hurt, and bla bla, they love drama and they love attention, if they don't get it they get bored.
@@beedebawng2556 I meant to write “women being difficult to to other women in the workplace.”
Women tend be nasty to other women in the workplace. It can be bc you’re younger, attractive, come from a certain class/family/ethnicity/you’re intelligent/smart and especially if other people also find you attractive, and it used to get worse when they saw male colleagues chatting to me! I don’t know if it was a competitive thing, maybe! 🤔 I never stopped to ask. It’s crazy bc my then bf (now husband) was always very present and everyone knew him where I worked. The annoying thing is someone made something up about me and another male work colleague as a joke and my bf found out and that was a hurtful thing. It still blows my mind to this day. Women gossip and especially bring other women down if they feel threatened in some way. I never understood it bc I’m the youngest of 5 girls and I’ve always been cared for by my older siblings and I’ve always looked up to them and other women especially older women (still do) and 3/4 of times I wasn’t really appreciated. The same thing happened to me in school as well, all the way to high school.
As a guy, I don't want to work in a female dominated workplace. There are far to many risks, and those risks will affect my family. Accusations of impropriety can end up with loss of job and possible criminal record. These affect income, and that income will affect the family.
Very interesting interview.. She is quite a lady, very articulate, straight-talker, full of common sense.. fascinating mixture of Eastern and Western values.. and no sign of wokeness... Thank you !
I tried to watch but didn't find it interesting or informative.
God this was a wonderful video. I lost my traditional wife and she just knew how to care for my needs! She is spot on!
What a FANTASTIC INTERVIEW. I’ve watched multiple of Shadia’s interviews, and this is the best one so far. What wonderful questions and such insightful questions. Seems like you both forgot about the cameras in the room and were just having a conversation. What a gift, thank you both.
Sadie is a breath of fresh air to our suffocating modern world. Thank you Tom for sharing your values that apply in your marriage as an example and making this interview very authentic and engaging.
It's such a relief to hear a woman say that it's not only natural for a woman to submit to a man, but it's also healthy. I have found that I truly do better in life with a man by my side. I am capable and can take care of myself, but it's stressful. Having a loving, caring partner whom I can trust makes all the difference in the world. In my last relationship I couldn't trust my partner. He had poor judgement and was deceitful. This was even more exhausting than trying to handle life on my own. Now I'm with a man I adore and trust and to whom I do submit (although that's not something he asks for). I have a huge amount of respect for him and I feel loved and cared for by the endless number of things he does to help make life easier for me. It's such a relief and I am so glad to know that I am fulfilling a natural role. Modern feminists would have women feel weak and backwards for wanting a man to help care for them. It's a breath of fresh air to have someone so articulately explain why it's good and natural for a woman to feel calmer and reassured with a good man by her side. Thank you Sadia.
Submit my ass
Amen. Help meet. ❤ Marriage with a compatible partner is a gift!!
Well said! You're lucky to have such a good man.
My husband and I submit to each other in various capacities. He is great at building and designing, for example. I am proficient at managing family money.
I feel that the arranged marriages came from long ago and it was for survival of the families. Well, that’s what I learned in college anyway.
This guest is one of the most genuine, intelligent, interesting, and insightful that I've seen in a long time.
Love the way Tom talks about Lisa and to her. They have such a beautiful relationship. I 100% relate with Tom about being aggressive by boiling things down to its simplest thing.
Tom, you were brilliant, mate! I really loved your perspectives throughout this conversation. The conversation comes alive at the 3-hour mark, and as a society, we need more conversations like this. Thank you both!
This conversation has been very enlightening. They are covering everything. I’m learning what I’ve been doing wrong, but don’t feel comfortable telling my partner how he hurts me, so it builds up until I can’t stand it anymore and lash out. Your conversation is teaching me that I need to show more appreciation and pay closer attention to his queues. I hate it when he punishes me, so changing my behavior is necessary.
sadia khan,
I need her kind of self confidence, this is priceless
I enjoyed this conversation for the most part and agreed with probably 90% of the points outlined. The area I have contention with is the focus on women having to understand that men require them, in a marriage, serving them food, getting their needs met domestically. This is difficult for a lot of women when we are working full time, being a mother full time, caring for the household responsibilities and men are required to have a job. This is absolutely ridiculous. Women would be able to handle all the responsibilities of running a home and family without the full time job they have to have to keep the family surviving. There is no mention of men changing their old style of work, come home be served and cared for and mowing the lawn once a week or shoveling snow. Men should also contribute to the running of the home and caring of the children, it would ease up time for a woman to concentrate some of her time to catering to her husband.
I am 60+ yo old woman. I have seen a lot of change because of feminism. I use to experience harassment as a 12 yo girl delivering papers, older men cat calling me or making sexual comments about me. As a teenager, I worked in a BBQ joint and my boss smacked me in the butt and I got fired because I told him not to touch me ever again. As a teenager up to my young adulthood, I was turned down for raises or promotion because the boy/man I was "competing" with was deemed more favorable because he was working towards raising a family. Things are not that way today but I can certainly attest to the fact that my experience may have been anecdotal but a lot of women experienced those types of things in the 50s, 60s, 70s and even the 80s.
100% agree
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Dang she is gold.
I imagine the majority of women think like her, but are hesitant to admit it.
Plus she has the IQ and bravery to articulate it.
Thank you Sadia
No many of you type of folks may actually glean this, however ya'll rather and/or make the decision to want to treat women as objects who cannot think and behave for themselves so that women meet your needs solely and lastly you do not have to meet theirs 🤔🤔🤔
Total speculation
Imagine being the key word
No person is above anyone
You'll win once you finalize the manuscript, even close to it.
The best interview I’ve seen explaining and taking a deep dive into Traditional Roles and Good Relationships.
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I really enjoyed and appreciated her traditional views about male/female relationships. I think people make relationships harder than they need to be. ❤
The problem I see with arranged marriages is assuming that parents have good judgement themselves. Parents are not perfect.
Correct, its borderline slavery and cant be applied easily to a free society.
Amen!
Also, people change. Life is about evolving.
Based on my experience, the only reason the divorce rate is low is because of the huge social stigma a divorce presents within these cultures. If you are divorced, the chances of you getting another arranged marriage are effective zero. So they both stay with each other out of fear, and this breeds massive resentment.
I have uncles and aunties, who have been married for decades, have a nice home, children, but there is absolutely no romantic connection whatsoever, some sleep in separate rooms…
Arranged marriage just means arranged to meet the other person. The potential couple ultimately has the choice to be married or not. At least, that's what arranged marriages are like now. Back in the day I'm sure parents chose spouses for their children without push back.
Sadia is the 💣 bomb! I love how honest she is and then she turns it around and interviews the interviewer 😅. She'sso classy and humble.
We're stoked you appreciated the conversation!
What was the biggest take away for you?
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So appreciative of how open and honest this conversation is !
I love the concept of having shared meaning and purpose in a partnership that was highlighted by Sadia! I align more with Tom's perspectives, but I do appreciate Sadia's worldview.
This was the best conversation I've ever listened to. The viewpoints were so respectfully stated, and the questions asked were very thought-provoking. I learned a lot through Sadia and Tom. Thank you!
Amazing how she answered so many questions in one interview. I wish everyone would watch this . Just found this channel . I’ll have to watch more of Tom’s videos .
finally a woman that know a bitter truth is better than a sweet lie
Knowing and learning are two seperate things though, many people know driinking is bad for you but does that mean they don't drink? No, they will still go out and drink again next weekend. Did their previous hook-up lead to happiness or failure and depression? Did they learn something? Did they change? Unlikely, people don't change - they repeat the same mistakes. And they don't learn either - they blame everything and vereyone else for their own bad choices in life.
@roserevancroix2308 can't say I'm part of that group. I've never been a drinker, and those who don't learn from their mistakes are a lost cause and sadly they problem is a bigger pandemic than covid was
@@roserevancroix2308 I disagree. It's important to do things that are "bad" for us now and then. Alcohol is another way to shock the body, which we know that shocking the body is a large part of how it grows and adapts.
Plus, you're not boring.
@@roserevancroix2308 Adding to my last comment, I would say that the time to quit is the first time something no longer brings you joy. And for something like a hook-up, that could certainly be the very first time.
To continue doing something that leaves one feeling empty is certainly a sign of mental illness. And if that's your overall sentiment, I'm on board with you.
What she says is really interesting yeah. However she's soo seductive in her attitude. She's playing with him the whole interview. I would find it EXTREMELY uncomfortable. When men project their flirty energy to other women, we call them harassers. But on the other hand, it's the man's fault if he falls for her hostess-like manners, which she uses to try & take the upper hand in the conversation. Hats off to Tom for being so stoical!
These 2 are so brilliant! Great interview!
This video is going to be my staple for relationships; it has so much valuable content! 😍
1:31:24 - OMG, I experienced something similar too. A so-called "friend" claimed that her husband was being unfaithful, manipulating their son, and engaging in verbal and physical abuse. It turned out that she herself was involved in S&M activities (which explained the bruises), and she was the one having affairs with men at swinging clubs. It was a harsh revelation. I will forever recall the initial meeting with her husband; my gut feeling told me he was a good person, and although I was perplexed, I trusted her story. This experience taught me that intuition is indeed reliable.
This lady has something of value to say 🙌🏾 . She just gave me a new appreciation for a Proverbs women really looks like.
It comes down to not being with someone in order to feel completely whole, work on yourself and listen to your gut. It never lies
Assurance were so used to working through things alone its nice to have appreciation from someone not needed but its special to me. Being alone
Sadia is probably the guest I've had the hardest time *wanting* to listen to, which I think makes it that much more important to listen. I've disagreed with guests before, but I guess our ideas diverge in areas where I feel more strongly. Still, I was actually surprised by how much I do agree with some of what she says, or at least can arrive to a similar conclusion as her, even if for different reasons (like you, I find a lot of religious ideals line up with my own morals/habits that I have chosen for myself, but through science, observation, and coincidence rather than because of religious stories). I really appreciate that you can both agree and disagree and discuss with respect and nuance, not just back and forth shouting about feminist/tradition/whatever.
Feminism, it's an illusion to suck women into believe they can do anything a man can do. In reality feminism is simply a whip to crack on men. Let's see how long that whip of yours can keep cracking.
Amazing episode. I had never heard of Sadia Khan, but I thoroughly enjoyed her perspective. Loved how you two clashed on many topics, but spoke throughout without any offense. It's always awesome to see.
Love her. Love the depth and the wisdom that people who are in touch with God have. You can always notice the difference.
Dear Sadia Khan,
I appreciate you sharing your thoughts on modern dating, relationships, and the influence of social media. Your insights touch on important aspects of today’s relationship landscape, and I’d like to add a few different perspectives to the conversation.
1. Social Media and Relationships:
You’ve highlighted the challenges social media brings, particularly how it can foster superficial connections by emphasizing appearance. While that’s certainly a valid concern, I believe social media also has the potential to connect people in meaningful ways based on shared interests, values, and experiences. The abundance of options can be overwhelming, but it’s all about how individuals choose to engage with these platforms. When used thoughtfully, social media can help people connect with others who resonate with their deeper values and long-term goals, not just surface-level attractions.
2. Narcissism vs. Feminism:
You’ve raised an important point about the fine line between narcissism and feminism today. I see true feminism as a movement that empowers everyone-women and men alike-to live authentically and make choices that reflect their true selves, free from societal pressures. This empowerment includes the freedom to prioritize one’s appearance or to seek partners who value more than just physical beauty. It’s about finding a balance and allowing each person to define what matters most in their relationships.
3. Arranged Marriages and Shared Values:
You’ve made a strong case for arranged marriages, particularly in terms of the shared cultural and familial values they often support. However, it’s worth noting that shared values can also be found in relationships that aren’t formed through traditional structures. In our increasingly globalized world, people can-and do-find partners who share their values, even if they come from different backgrounds. What’s most important is mutual respect, open communication, and a willingness to grow together, regardless of how the relationship begins.
4. Monogamy and Limiting Options:
Your advocacy for monogamy as a path to deeper connections is compelling. That said, I believe the focus should be more on making intentional and thoughtful choices rather than on limiting options. In a world full of possibilities, the real challenge is to be clear about what one truly wants and to choose wisely. This doesn’t mean settling or narrowing one’s horizons but rather prioritizing what aligns with one’s core values and long-term aspirations.
5. Traditional Values vs. Modern Practices:
I understand your preference for traditional values, particularly those rooted in religious teachings. However, I also believe that modern practices, like casual dating or social drinking, can be meaningful if approached with mindfulness and personal responsibility. Everyone’s journey is unique, and what works for one person might not for another. The key lies in finding a balance that promotes well-being and aligns with one’s personal beliefs, whether they lean traditional or modern.
6. Religion and Relationship Values:
Your view on the role of religion in fostering stable relationships is appreciated. That said, it’s also possible to build strong, meaningful connections based on secular principles such as mutual respect, honesty, and commitment. While religion has historically played a vital role in transmitting values, today’s diverse society offers many different paths to fulfilling relationships.
7. The Challenges of Modern Dating:
You’ve touched on the difficulties presented by dating apps, where endless choices can lead to shallow connections. While this is indeed a challenge, it also offers an opportunity. By being clear about one’s intentions and setting firm boundaries, individuals can use these tools to find meaningful relationships. The key is self-awareness and a deliberate approach to building the kind of relationship one desires.
In closing, while your views resonate with many, it’s essential to remember that different paths can lead to fulfillment. Whether through traditional values, modern practices, or a blend of both, the most important thing is that individuals make choices that reflect their true selves and lead to healthy, fulfilling relationships.
Thank you for sparking this important conversation. I look forward to hearing more of your thoughts on these complex issues.
I remember watching Lisa’s podcast with Dr Ramani and Dr. Ramani mention that Tom is a good husband because he “cherishes” Lisa and that’s so true and I just wanted to mention that because I don’t know of Tom was ever aware of that but the way he conducts himself as a husband is valuable and men should strive to cherish their wives. Keep up the good work!
I love her understanding and ability to communicate this deep knowledge to us.
Yeah she's amazing! We need more women like her. Being really beautiful and being a really good person is an almost impossible combination for women today. You're very beautiful, and I'm assuming you're a good person because you're watching this podcast! 😂😂😂 God bless! 🙏❤
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If you are specific. Which things you think that are the most important in relationships according with her point of view?
If you are specific. Which things you think that are the most important in relationships according with her point of view?
She knows how to nicely tell 304s no one will ever marry them because healthy people come from happy homes awwww
This is one of those life changing interviews. Kinda crazy that today was the best day of my life, not because I accomplished anything special, or a human gave me special love. I was just meditating throughout the day and I was filled with more peace and bliss than I've ever felt. Beyond a kundalini awakening and more. No reason, just God. Strangest thing, even though my guru-brother said it would happen, it was funny.
This is either going to save my marriage or break it. We just started talking again after 3 weeks of silence. I didn't say a word and she came back to me, but I need to say more, and I'm going to send this to her to really get her to understand what I'm feeling.
This is awesome I hope it works out for the greatest good with the least discomfort,
How is it going? I wish you all the best. I am in the s as me place, but it is my husband who left. Listen to her to have an understanding of how she feels, communicate with her. Get your woman back…she wouldn’t give you the time of day if she didn’t love you.🥰 ❤
What a dignified, graceful, and intelligent woman, great to listen to her, thank you.
After trying many things I now find marriage to be freeing. That is I now have all this time to focus more on other things besides relationships.
Imagine the freedom if you discard marriage too!
If it wasn't so lonely@@Project2013B
@@Project2013B 😅😅
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My man! Saying what needs to be said regardless of who won't be happy to hear it (Endocrine Disruption)🙏 And a FANTASTIC guest, as always.
What did he say about endocrine disruption? Just the plastic thing? (feminizing men)
@@TheDionysianFields alluding to the frog Atrazine study in relation to what's happening to us as humans
@@hyersapien Certainly an issue. I bet Tom addressed it more scientifically than Alex Jones.
"When you have someone who will run through the wall for you... there's nothing better than that."
This encompasses everything a relationship is at its core, healthy and whole. Complete in one another. How beautifully expressed. "Fear of loss" changes you... it makes you less confident, less you.
"Modern dating is just training for divorce." Pretty much.
I absolutely loved this episode! Took me 4 days to complete & well worth it. Sadia is an amazing woman and I can’t understand why she would receive hate! When she said she didn’t believe in the feminist movement I had to take a second and actually listen before I skipped that part and HONESTLY MY VIEWS ON THE FEMINIST MOVEMENT IS SHIFTING based on Sadia’s perspective and I absolutely love it. Please keep going Sadia we’re all rooting for you.
Damn, this woman is absolutely spot on with so much and its clear she really cares and worries about the world. It's reassuring to hear someone such as her highlight the issues and be so clear and direct about them, particularly on the female side. I also love her inmediate explanation for the point of relationships, to have a shared purpose.
Very interesting discussion and couldn't have found it at a better time.
Absolutely relate to using religious teachings as a compass to weigh up things, rather than an absolute set of rules/laws.
Classy interesting woman with massive levels of integrity.
I just love when Tom speaks about relationships and marriage particularly because he has a loving marriage with Lisa. Refreshing to hear. Thanks for bringing Sadia Khan, Tom.
My wife is gorgeous but she has this entitlement attitude that she deserves all things given to her. She sometimes gets angry if I give her less than what she expected. I told her about this and thankfully she is changing.
I have a pretty thai gf but she does think she's a deity...In Thailand women think in terms of scarcity because most men there aren't well off and the regular girls that aren't working girls want relationships....They want certainty and stability... Every thing in the West is based on an abundance mindset...
Wow!! I thoroughly enjoyed the entire 3HRS and 30min of this Podcast.. I absolutely love her, and I loved the dynamic between the two of you! Thank you!
I love how my girl Sadia is blowing up now everywhere and on every major podcast.
I think it is very dangerous for a person to grow up to "accept authority". I think that a responsible parent would teach their children to question authority, and ultimately to become their own authority. A society full of individuals who "accept authority" is an irresistible temptation to be expoited by someone who's power-obsessed.
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Tom Always talks more than letting his guest talk
yeah, really annoying,! I don't know why he even has a guest come on if he's just going to do all the talking
Yes, I noticed that too. I would love to hear more from his guest. Otherwise, why are they even there?
I was about to post the same. Dude let the girl talk. Other than that, topic was interesting.
This was such a refreshing conversation! I thoroughly enjoyed listening and already plan to listen a second time! Bravo to both of these very grounded professionals! Encore!!!!
Love love Sadia Khan. have been watching a lot of her interviews lately and can't get enough of. We need more of her. Very brilliant and articulate. You go Girl. Thanks Tom for bringing her on your show.
Enjoyed listening to this conversation between Tom & Sadia. Both refreshing intelligent people and great information about life & love. Thank you!!!!🙂
I totally can relate to her saying rejecting vs settling. They are totally different
The western world has become misandrist. This is VERY refreshing. More people like this are getting a new voice in media because we all know that we need it, and moreover, people like Sadia are clear evidence that tradition, respect, values-based relationships and honesty do not disempower EITHER gender but rather create strength - we are like epoxy, need both parts to make the strongest bond.
Misandrist, indeed.
And the west happens to be significantly richer than non west (except Singapore, Japan, etc). Rich countries with democracy are misandrists , maybe
@@prajjwal1010 Such countries of the west became rich way before today's misandry.
@@funkspinna I believe this partly to be true, because of women working/voting etc. (Women's Liberation movement and Feminism) - adding second incomes to homes drives inflation which can actually force a nation into a wealthier state if managed properly. However I think there are quite a few other factors which make a nation/group of nations "Rich" - not the least of which is finishing two world wars in such a way as to take almost all the spoils, but other things like law and capitalism. I am no economist but I think it's all quite a bit more complicated.
@@prajjwal1010 could well be...
I'm in love with how well she articulates her views❤
She is spot on; and I love the idea of arranged marriages as well. I know so many people in them and they are amazing.
There’s one thing that kept coming back to me and that was why Sadia kept interrupting Tom’s line of thought.and I’ve checked a lot of Sadia’s interviews and this keeps on happening!
Agreed. She didn’t let him finish a lot of his thoughts.
Wow this conversation got real!! “How do you tell your wife she’s gotten fat?” and “How do you tell your husband he’s gotten weak?”
A very insightful conversation on how to navigate a long-term meaning for relationship, thank you to you both!! Definitely honesty and respect is key!!
It was a good interview. I like how Sadia probes Tom and get's him to give his opinion then offers her insight/experience.
I love her mindset about marriage. We need more women like this.