Modern Relationships with Sadia Khan: Cultural Differences, Finances, Red & Green flags

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  • Опубліковано 30 вер 2024
  • In this candid interview, Yasmine Mustafa sits with psychologist and relationship therapist Sadia Khan to discuss the hurdles of modern dating, Dubai relationships, gender roles, and how to stay happy in a marriage. She shares insights on how to spot red flags and how to deal with them before they become insurmountable problems. We also cover finances, communication, and the dos and don'ts of dating in a Western context.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 539

  • @sadiapsychology
    @sadiapsychology 8 місяців тому +187

    Thank you for having me loved this convo

    • @ElaBliss
      @ElaBliss 8 місяців тому +2

      We love you sadia❤️ lots of love from switzerland

    • @ElaBliss
      @ElaBliss 8 місяців тому

      your content really changed the whole mindset of me and my mother! we listen to you daily🥰

    • @ThePensmith78
      @ThePensmith78 7 місяців тому +1

      Love your philosophical take on relationships and the faults with women and men in general. Especially men, good men. Men that mean well and find it hard to express themselves. Sometimes it’s not always easy has most women perceive it to be.

    • @autumn_b905
      @autumn_b905 7 місяців тому +2

      Can you please discuss men who abandon their kids even though the mom doesn't prevent them from seeing their kids?

    • @soccer90tem80
      @soccer90tem80 7 місяців тому

      Show studies or cut the BS

  • @moonlitttt
    @moonlitttt 9 місяців тому +76

    Sadia I am personally amazed by you.
    I, and I believe that we all women need you to speak. You point out precisely the problems of today's dating/relationship reality.
    Please keep doing what you are doing. Lots of love and admiration

  • @nicollettegevorkian5021
    @nicollettegevorkian5021 10 місяців тому +288

    Sadia is great, I feel bad that she gets hate from women. You’re awesome girl :)

    • @bashirudada486
      @bashirudada486 10 місяців тому +5

      How can a blind person be leading a blind person?

    • @Jblah
      @Jblah 10 місяців тому

      preach bro 🤣
      @@bashirudada486

    • @peaceloveunityislam
      @peaceloveunityislam 10 місяців тому +6

      Why is a professional blind? So you go to drs when you’re unwell or someone who happens to be healthy?!?

    • @bashirudada486
      @bashirudada486 10 місяців тому +1

      @@peaceloveunityislam sorry someone who is not a doctor or someone who does not have experience as doctor can not treat somebody that is unwell. It's just like some body that has never driven a car before,in his or her life can not teach somebody how to drive a car.

    • @peaceloveunityislam
      @peaceloveunityislam 10 місяців тому +16

      She has all the qualifications and it’s on her website and more so than anything men are obsessed with her it’s not like she doesn’t have options go soo how many men adore her it’s only women without options that have a probekm

  • @joeyjo7553
    @joeyjo7553 6 місяців тому +38

    As a woman the fact that women hate on her after she’s literally helping you and your relationships and giving you soooo much knowledge on things that no one ever taught us is so crazy to me.🤦🏻‍♀️ Thank you Sadia

  • @AnnaL.-jy3lz
    @AnnaL.-jy3lz 10 місяців тому +139

    Sadia is a great source of wisdom and inspiration. As a woman, I hugely appreciate her counseling and her kindness, so rare to find someone whose words truly resonate with me. Keep it up and thank you!

    • @Jblah
      @Jblah 10 місяців тому +1

      but she doesnt know a thing about men. She prolly single herself lmao

    • @AmisCorolla
      @AmisCorolla 9 місяців тому +1

      @@Jblah She said she is not single and if some one like her is, that is mostly a choise. It is also sad to see, that there is a lot of good womans that does not even want parhner. But dont worry too much, it is what it is. Best thing what mens can do is not give any attention to womans who does not need a man. let them repair their car's and fix those water leaks. When they live in rotten shacks with cats. Maybe they will come to another tought in their old days 🙂

    • @Jblah
      @Jblah 9 місяців тому +1

      @@AmisCorolla sometimes i agree but she is far from being a orakel. Tbh when she stated that tate is a high value male i almost choked in my drink lmao

  • @whenraindropsfall
    @whenraindropsfall 9 місяців тому +63

    As a young woman it’s so rare to find a talk on women that isn’t overbearingly feminist or submissive misogynistic red pill noise.

    • @phantomform4171
      @phantomform4171 8 місяців тому

      Fence sitting also sounds a bit feminist today since they're willing to go either way. You're either a submissive, caring, modest, not-ran-through woman, or you're not an option for relationships.

    • @whenraindropsfall
      @whenraindropsfall 8 місяців тому

      @@phantomform4171 What on earth are you on about. Life is not black and white. Feminists and red pill people are extreme cases. Choosing neither is not “fence-sitting,” it’s called being neutral and unbiased. This is one of the many flaws of red pill bs. Being a virgin doesn’t make you a saint nor does being “ran-through” give any insight on one’s character. Most school shooters were virgins. People who win the medal of honor aren’t. Someone’s past matters less than who they are today

    • @whenraindropsfall
      @whenraindropsfall 7 місяців тому +3

      @@phantomform4171 The world is not black and white. Like any ideology, Red-pill and feminism have extremes but both have an element of truth: marriage is important and ofc women should be allowed to provide too. That’s why moderation exists. Plus of your list of “modest, caring, submissive, not ran-through,” only caring is relevant. The remaining 3 are merely personality traits that women - surprise, surprise - do not all entail because they are not the same.

  • @VesnaWalther-te8wi
    @VesnaWalther-te8wi 10 місяців тому +97

    As female I love Sadia and I enjoy listening her opinion on many topics She is very wise 🫶🏻and I love how she gently explain big picture and always remember us on some wise basis how people think feel and react ❤️🫶🏻very nice talk and very nice choice for questions you are both very beautiful woman from inside and out

    • @paulaayala5561
      @paulaayala5561 10 місяців тому +5

      Right?? And she is not just a coach, she actually is an academic, is a physiology and has a phd in how childhood trauma affects individuals. I think bc some people don’t agree 100% with everything she says they just want to discredit her hahah sounds a little childish to me if you ask

    • @Altaw33l
      @Altaw33l 9 місяців тому

      You do realise she was married for a month before divorcing her husband not to mention she has step brother and sisters who she and her family refused their father to see.

    • @obtuseangler768
      @obtuseangler768 9 місяців тому

      ​@@paulaayala5561it depends on your attitude towards understanding yourself I think. Some people are so invested in their identities that they are unwilling to think about any concept outside of their comfort zone.
      I'm a guy, early 40's and I think these talks are interesting because I'm rather picky when it comes to personalities and who's in my life and around me and most women are incomprehensible.
      I'm not really flattered by blatant physical advances or going to be into anybody for their bodies , you have to be willing to invest a bit more so that I know you understand your worth and that you have a lot more to offer than your body...If I sleep with someone that I'm not that into because they really like me and they're smoking, am I basically not getting used for my body😂
      Sadia is great, cute and brilliant.

    • @harrisonmcdaniels6019
      @harrisonmcdaniels6019 9 місяців тому

      Not discrediting her, I appreciate some of her points, but she's incorrect in that younger women who go for older men have an absent father. It's actually the opposite, they have an absent mother/mother they don't get along with. They therefore became "daddy's girl" and are trying to replicate the relationship. The same is true for men who go for older women, they had an absent father.@@paulaayala5561

    • @malin5468
      @malin5468 9 місяців тому

      @@paulaayala5561No PhD according to her website, but she does have a Master’s degree in education.She does not specify which institution she received it from.

  • @ladyhawke1431
    @ladyhawke1431 10 місяців тому +88

    You can only hate because you speak from a place of fear, insecurities and jealousy. You might not agree with everything and she cant speak for all the population but there is no reason to hate. Just turn the page if you dont like her. Use words to praise not to say bad things.
    Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. Keep shining!

    • @sugar4973
      @sugar4973 8 місяців тому +1

      Yes! Death and life are in the tongue!

  • @michellekatarina17
    @michellekatarina17 8 місяців тому +10

    Such a wonderful woman is Sadia. One of the women who is a real inspiration. Thank you for this great podcast. ❤

  • @monakool1708
    @monakool1708 8 місяців тому +5

    Being gold digger is not gender specific.Even men are gold diggers.They pursue rich women.But no one talks about that.

    • @user-mp4wg8lt6s
      @user-mp4wg8lt6s 6 місяців тому

      Yes that is true. I think there are more male gold digger‘s than females.

  • @autumn_b905
    @autumn_b905 7 місяців тому +2

    Whenever a woman says: "women are catty", the woman who says this is the usual the "catty", jealous person.

  • @mermaid5948
    @mermaid5948 5 місяців тому +10

    Sadia is my favorite psychologist! Her knowledge, femininity, and class combined makes me feel like I’m listening to a caring family member who has my best interest at heart. I always watch her interviews because she gives the best relationship advice!

  • @Jblah
    @Jblah 10 місяців тому +51

    Real simple: Set boundaries from the start and stop chasing validation. If someone doesnt respect your values cut them loose and move on. Dont expect people to change.

  • @peaceloveunityislam
    @peaceloveunityislam 10 місяців тому +9

    She did her first live in patreon with her husband 😂 haters can’t accept she’s beautiful and intelligent so want to lie

  • @goworldwide
    @goworldwide 2 місяці тому +3

    Yasmine is one of the best interviewers on the Internet. I didn't know you before. Your job is amazing, Yasmine. Top notch questions.

  • @IndigoWisdom1
    @IndigoWisdom1 8 місяців тому +12

    Love Sadia!!! She makes so much sense that people get mad about it but I appreciate her consistency and showing up speaking her poignant perspective. 👌🏾

  • @AerielFerguson
    @AerielFerguson 7 місяців тому +7

    I feel Sadia when she said she struggled with female comnections. This is the 1st interview I've seen with with a female interviewer, very refreshing.❤❤

  • @boutiquelove5391
    @boutiquelove5391 10 місяців тому +32

    Loved loved loved this!!! Two intelligent warm funny classy women!!! The interviewer was first class. So much wisdom in one video. Thank you for posting. I hope the interviewer does several more with Sadi or has a podcast. She is brilliant!

  • @florence8195
    @florence8195 10 місяців тому +22

    Being tense / shy on a (first) date isn't negative. It shows that it is special and gives it a spark. As a woman, I can say that women with no female friends (and no good relationships with women in their family) are a red flag to me. But to each their own. I fully agree on the novelty aspect and actually think that it ties into NOT having friends from the opposite sex.

  • @RandallSampson-hp3gz
    @RandallSampson-hp3gz 5 місяців тому +4

    Ladies... Mrs sadia your wisdom is respected so much... Keep up the good works... God bless..

  • @FabiolaBustamanteA
    @FabiolaBustamanteA 9 місяців тому +14

    I love Sadia, she is so on point

  • @loulylouly8631
    @loulylouly8631 10 місяців тому +13

    I BELIEVE THAT EVERY QUESTION IN THIS PODCAST WERE GREAT AND THE GAME AT THE END WAS VERY COOL. YASMINE NAILDED IT AND SADIA IS AMAZING AS ALWAYS😊😊😊😊

  • @svltana.b
    @svltana.b 9 місяців тому +21

    The interviewee asked some really useful and relevant questions about relationships. I’ve been listening to Sadia for a while but I learnt some new things from this podcast!! Thank you to you both!!❤

  • @lovemybray00
    @lovemybray00 5 місяців тому +3

    People give her hate because their mind isn’t capable of understanding things the way hers does and that’s why she gets it… she’s smarter that’s it end of story! She gets it ❤ love her!!!

  • @Helloooooooooo131
    @Helloooooooooo131 8 місяців тому +8

    Sadia is great. A lot of wisdom for women. Those that hate her most likely are those that cannot face themselves.

  • @ArleneFranco-c7l
    @ArleneFranco-c7l 9 місяців тому +7

    I don’t always agree with Sadia but always respect and appreciate how she represents and expresses herself.

  • @ShetsDeen
    @ShetsDeen 9 місяців тому +2

    Yeah I'm a guy and she's inspired me so plz stop that she represents just women. X
    She's a reality.
    Such a decent lady this is how true asian women where like x didn't need to show thre legs or arse xxx. the woman with intellect something women and female.
    Really props to get ADHD as mine is totally different . My brain gets slow in mornings.

  • @alikhalil2863
    @alikhalil2863 9 місяців тому +8

    Sadia is very brave and honest. Thank you a lot

  • @BeccahJoy
    @BeccahJoy 8 місяців тому +7

    I am obsessed with Sadia. I think women who don't like her are deeply insecure, jealous and full of self hate. Khaleej only has love and wisdom to share. ❤❤❤❤

  • @vanessaskin
    @vanessaskin 10 місяців тому +4

    Sadia get's a lot of negative feedback and while I don't think she's necessarily preaching one thing specifically. Take things from a grain of salt. There's a ton of context that is alway's missing. Can't get triggered based on some of her comments that is often missed. She's generally speaking most often and isn't directly speaking about all men or all women. At one point I felt triggered with a comment she made about women but I knew for a fact that I wasn't, and I had to sit back and consider what was coming up for me. If anything at all, feel proud of yourself for not being in the matrix. And take it as a win. Sadia has a filter like we all do unless we continue to do a lot of shadow work which she perfectly states in many of her interviews that her culture, religion/spiritual background and also the people who she tends to work with, think Middle East specifically Dubai and UK which all play a role in which she has a certain perspective. Doesn't make it wrong just different. I don't personally agree with everything. I don't think it's possible. Take what helps you evolve as a person and leave what doesn't. Do shadow work in areas you find may find a bit offensive. It's a good place to grow from. She speaks a lot about red pill content and I think that's where we are in our society where we have so much info, both good and not so good. Maybe don't take advice from her specifically about marriage because you value a person who can share about it from experience. That's totally valid. I'm not a huge fan of the term "expert" either. There's a lot of discernment that we need to do but we need to do it from a place of maturity and release ego. This is where we have to take responsibility to do our own inner work. Because no one person as much of an "expert" can be at the end of the day it's your life. Your journey and you have to take your own childhood programming and essentially remove any blockages. You still have to do the leg work to figure out who you are, what your needs are and who can properly meet that. ❤

  • @brianacrawford9273
    @brianacrawford9273 7 місяців тому +6

    Female here. Love Sadia's content!

  • @tiniciayoung
    @tiniciayoung 8 місяців тому +5

    Wow she's so Excellent at relationship advice! This interview is soooo good!

  • @worldwalker6882
    @worldwalker6882 8 місяців тому +2

    I feel very good when listening to Sadia. As a man, my opinion is Sadia gets a lot of hate from women who believe we should destroy the patriarchy because she is empowering, I believe, to both men & women. But if you honestly believe that men are the problem, this feels disempowering to your current world view. To be clear, & I believe Sadia would potentially agree, I am not trying to suggest the patriarchy is flawless. I think the world is in desperate need of greater balance of Masculine & Feminine energies, but it is just as important to recognize BOTH energies are ESSENTIAL for the human race to thrive, both on an individual level and a societal level. I am not saying everything is perfect as is right now, but men vs women is a recipe for disaster, we are created to collaborate, not compete. Much love everyone! Thank you for reading!

  • @jibarabicha4853
    @jibarabicha4853 10 місяців тому +25

    Making friends with men is almost impossible. Most of them are waiting in the wings to sleep with you or at some point start declaring their attraction and in extreme cases, start behaving inappropriately. I would like to know how Sadia, with her level of attractiveness, how she can maintain pure friendships with men.

    • @michaelcui5425
      @michaelcui5425 10 місяців тому +6

      There will always be sexual attraction, Its how each individual handles their moral boundaries, both yours and your friends. There are alot of attractive people in the world just like how there are alot of gold diggers, sugar daddies, f....k boys, cheaters, etc. You get what you manifest and it depends on your judgement of character, boundaries, your interaction skills. keep learning and keep reflecting.

    • @jibarabicha4853
      @jibarabicha4853 10 місяців тому +1

      @@michaelcui5425 So what are you saying, that women that have no Romantic interest in their male friendships ‘manifest’ these same individuals to take sexual Interest in them? That doesn’t make sense and we cannot control other peoples sexual attraction towards us. I think the issue starts with befriending someone you know you are already sexually attracted to and pretending until the right moment to spring your feelings onto the other.

    • @waleedkhalid7486
      @waleedkhalid7486 10 місяців тому +4

      Mmm. It’s not so simple as just maintaining a pure relationship. The line between the friendzone and ‘true love’ is quite thin. How often have you heard a girl say “I need a boyfriend like you” while you sit there thinking,’ then why aren’t we dating?’. The difference is that you need excitement and a hint of danger. Women want safety while feeling like something could happen to spice things up. As a result, a friend zoned guy is not quite just a friend, but someone she considered could be her partner, if only… Thus, the male friend is actually a backup partner in case things go awry, even if the woman does not know it. She will uncounciously fall back to that man to help her when/if she is crushed because she knows he will accept her when/if the main man rejects her.
      In short, no opposite-sex relationship is ever pure. They are predicated on the understanding that nothing more can happen, but that if the paradigm shifts then they can make their move. Most people don’t understand this and dont care to understand it because it’s uncomfortable. Does that mean that such relationships are inherently impure? No.

    • @lillyCfields
      @lillyCfields 10 місяців тому +4

      Just because you can't fathom a strict friendship between a male and female doesn't mean it's impossible for other people. I have male friends where it's a brother/sister relationship. There has to be some level of attraction between two ppl to move it beyond the friendship zone. My rule of thumb is if that person had this friend long before you came into the picture and nothing has happened by then it is a friendship. You're better off not looking insecure when you're with your partner trying to tell them who they can and cannot be friends with.

    • @jibarabicha4853
      @jibarabicha4853 9 місяців тому +1

      @@lillyCfields Yeah, my comment wasn’t about how to handle a significant other that has a Friend of the opposite sex. It was more personally as a woman, how can you make real friends with men if your are attractive to them; men are likely to see you in a sexual or romantic way. These feelings will get in the way of developing genuine and quality friendship

  • @RandallSampson-hp3gz
    @RandallSampson-hp3gz 5 місяців тому +2

    Ladies... We all need to be patient when we are in love... For love has a beautiful meaning to life at the end... Thanks

  • @HavenHair-ks9yk
    @HavenHair-ks9yk 10 місяців тому +15

    She has the best advice out there .. I think it’s all common sense

  • @wangvang369
    @wangvang369 9 місяців тому +6

    Thank you for this. I recognize my own truths as well as understanding of others in this episode. 👏

  • @mauro786
    @mauro786 7 місяців тому +3

    Really good questions and really good answers … keep up the good work!🙌🏻

  • @MrAK4786
    @MrAK4786 8 місяців тому +2

    She has a lot of knowledge but the only thing I can’t wrap my head around is she gives out relationship advice but isn’t married far as I can tell

  • @RandallSampson-hp3gz
    @RandallSampson-hp3gz 5 місяців тому +1

    Ladies most men seek a women that can make him Happy as simple as being herself even with the simple fact that he feel loved... 😢

  • @melissasyak8934
    @melissasyak8934 7 місяців тому +3

    I think she's amazing! I love the honesty! I follow her and appreciate her input

  • @kuchbhi8789
    @kuchbhi8789 9 місяців тому +16

    Sadia has taught me about relationships more than anyone could have, helping me go through the difficult times & happy moments too!
    Huge huge respect to both of ya 🫡❣️

  • @RandallSampson-hp3gz
    @RandallSampson-hp3gz 5 місяців тому +1

    Ladies... When we are young we learn so much about life a special time in our life is when we fall in love...

  • @tebikhumi
    @tebikhumi 10 місяців тому +13

    Sadia Khan is a gift to the world. She lends very irrefutable and authentic insights on topical issues that bother on not just relationships but the state of the human psyche. You are my GOAT.

  • @martianmandela
    @martianmandela 8 місяців тому +1

    She's wrong about why guys get more strict later in the relationship. It's because in the beginning, you're not their girl. They just have to play the game to get sex. Once you mutually like each other and want to progress the relationship, and he has more leverage, some things are not acceptable to him if you're supposed to be his 1 and only partner. He never liked it. It's not low self esteem, it's standards.

  • @marfractal
    @marfractal 8 місяців тому +4

    I love this so much, thanks for sharing such valuable information 🙏🏽

  • @tiniciayoung
    @tiniciayoung 8 місяців тому +4

    100% Sadia was on point every time! Great interview

  • @oksanabodie7716
    @oksanabodie7716 8 місяців тому +3

    I enjoyed both of the ladies’ input and energy. As I was listening to the words of wisdom, I literally felt my perception on things was changing that previously have been cemented for decades (ex: can men and women be friends)!
    Thank you so much, I feel my intellectual mind is blossoming being part of these discussions ❤

  • @Asiant77
    @Asiant77 10 місяців тому +2

    I like Sadia, but she was not married. Therefore taking advice who was not experienced it himself is pointless.

    • @peaceloveunityislam
      @peaceloveunityislam 10 місяців тому

      She had a partner and that’s like saying you only take advice on cancer from someone who’s had it rather than a dr

  • @mickbenson9161
    @mickbenson9161 10 місяців тому +11

    A woman's body count matters more than any other consideration when deciding whether to commit to her or not. It's a heuristic for a host of relevant factors:
    1. Her psychological and biochemical ability to form lasting pair bonds based on love, trust, loyalty and respect. Studies show a strong correlation between a woman's number of sexual partners and the chances of her initiating marital dissolution later in life. Women with high body counts get biologically desensitized to dopamine, oxytocin and vasopressin, making it difficult for them to feel genuine love and loyalty.
    2. Her need for novelty and how easily she gets bored in a long-term monogamous relationship.
    3. Her need for male attention and validation.
    4. Her impulse control and ability to practice delayed gratification.
    5. Her general outlook on life and her priorities.
    6. Her morals.
    7. Her level of trauma from prior relationships and sexual encounters.
    8. Her suitability as a mother and rollemodell for future daughters. Divorce rates are statistically much higher in women whose parents are divorced. Women initiate 80% of divorces.
    9. The possibility of her having an STD (one in four girls have one.)
    10. The chance of her having a roster (yuch) and you just being one of many guys on that roster.
    11. The possibility of losing sexual access in the future if she suddenly decides to switch to some other man.
    12. The degree to which she is dating opportunistically, jumping from man to man, chasing materialistic wealth and status.
    13. Her self-respect, and her concept of what a relationship should be.
    14. The likelihood of her still having active male friendships while dating you.
    15. A high body count could also be an indication that she is a party girl with party girl friends who go to nightclubs, making herself available to other men.
    16. The evolved innate preference in men for youth, innocence, sexual inexperience, chastity and purity in women to ensure healthy offspring and paternity certainty.
    17. The chance of her causing you future financial loss, humiliation, emotional anguish and loss of social status if her promiscuity causes her to act inappropriately or if she cheats on you.
    18. The chances of her comparing you and your performance to past sexual partners.
    19. The fact that you'll always know. The mental image of your girlfriend/wife getting plowed by all those men will always bother you. It can fester and grow into resentment.
    20. A high body count could also mean that she had her sexual debut at a young age or that she has had past abortions which can further add to her trauma.
    There's a whole host of reasons why you should never ever commit to a girl with a double digit body count. Imagine a girl who has slept with 22 men. That's two whole soccer teams of men before you came along. What are the odds of you, number 23, being her last? That's disgusting and insane in an historical context. Before the advent of female contraception, such a woman would have had a dozen kids if she had that lifestyle. Female promiscuity and a high body count is an absolute boundary. A woman's, class, grace, dignity, purity, innocence, manners, self-restraint, self-respect and her morals are instinctively super important for a man when chosing to commit to a woman. They are her strongest assets. That woman will be the mother of his children. If she has her ass all over the internet or if she has slept with a bunch of different men, she's not someone you should commit to. Party girls, promiscuous girls and attention addicts are for non-committed, short-term, no strings attached relations only.

    • @irene4633
      @irene4633 10 місяців тому +13

      This also applies to men

    • @mickbenson9161
      @mickbenson9161 9 місяців тому +1

      @@irene4633 Men and women are not the same. We have distinct evolved mating strategies. A review examined the practices of 849 societies from before Western imperialism and colonization. The review found that 708 of the societies (83%) accepted polygyny, where one man has multiple female partners. Only 16% were monogamous and 1% were polyandrous, where one woman has several male partners. Women have historically been willing to share high value men. The same is not true in reverse. The divergent evolutionary mating strategies of men and women help explain why men place significant importance on a potential long-term partner's sexual history, while women typically do not prioritize chastity and non-promiscuity in men to the same extent. This difference in preference stems from distinct evolutionary pressures that have historically shaped male and female reproductive strategies.For men, the emphasis on a woman's chastity or limited number of sexual partners is largely rooted in paternity certainty. In prehistoric societies where paternity tests did not exist, mating with a virgin could increase a man's confidence in the paternity of her offspring. This is because virginity guaranteed that no other man had inseminated the woman in question. This would lead to the tendency of males to seek out virgins as mates, which is still observed in some traditional societies today. Throughout human evolutionary history, men who mated with women who had fewer sexual partners increased their chances of ensuring their resources and protection were directed towards their own genetic offspring. This preference for non-promiscuity in females became a selected trait in males, as it had direct consequences on their reproductive success and the survival of their genes.Conversely, women have historically selected for traits in men that differ from chastity. Women's reproductive success hinged more on securing a partner capable of providing resources, protection, and genetic benefits to offspring. Therefore, qualities like resource acquisition (wealth and status), physical health (indicative of good genes), and social dominance were more critical in female mate selection. In many cases, men who displayed these traits were also those who had more opportunities for sexual encounters, either as a direct result of their status and resources or through their dominance and competitiveness.Moreover, men's ability to father multiple children with multiple partners without significantly detracting from each child's potential survival (given adequate resources) meant that promiscuity did not historically diminish a man's value as a mate in the eyes of women. In fact, a man's desirability to other women could even be seen as an indicator of high mate value, a phenomenon known as "preselection." This is in contrast to the evolutionary consequences of female promiscuity, which created paternity uncertainty and could potentially lead to reduced male investment in offspring.

    • @guutenks2498
      @guutenks2498 9 місяців тому

      nope@@irene4633

    • @alallya8
      @alallya8 Місяць тому

      Man, u overlook many things.
      Those with higher body counts could be a result from their hormonal imbalances/unresolve inflammation processes/ genetic issues and so on.. I’m still wondering why many people enjoy using heuristics that the obese are the lazy one and everything will be on their own control?
      No, I’m not obese nor support it, but for godsake why many peps enjoy to oversimplify issues without trying to understand each of those individuals first. No one wants to look bad or ugly, I believe. 🙃

  • @samiraibrahim7501
    @samiraibrahim7501 8 місяців тому +3

    Sadia is such beautiful person, we love you ❤

  • @Artificial-Influencers
    @Artificial-Influencers 8 місяців тому +1

    Can you two please try fit the microphone in your mouth please

  • @Xaali95
    @Xaali95 10 місяців тому +9

    As a women i very much love sadia, i know i heard her say compliments make her uncomfortable but truly. The ummah is benefeting from your knowledge. May Allah guide us all and unite us in jannah❤

  • @bobanristic8721
    @bobanristic8721 8 місяців тому +4

    Sadia is a pure genius .

  • @staceylebron944
    @staceylebron944 9 місяців тому +4

    I enjoyed this so much! Sadia is always a pleasure, so wise and classy.

  • @Elman_Baku
    @Elman_Baku 7 місяців тому +2

    No real man will ever forgive cheating and betrayal. Sadia is telling men usually forgive. Wrong !!

  • @Hellokitty7163
    @Hellokitty7163 5 місяців тому +1

    Omg Sadia, how you break down obvious truths - I’m hooked !

  • @hope4463
    @hope4463 8 місяців тому +1

    It's sounds difficulty for house wives that clean, cook and take care of children to look great all the time.

  • @mahanassr8800
    @mahanassr8800 7 місяців тому +2

    My life is not the same after watching your videos thank you so much for sharing your knowledge love you

  • @elvinrichard5882
    @elvinrichard5882 9 місяців тому +1

    The problem is both men and women are not interested in the people interested in them. Everyone with sky high expectations. Everyone taught they could do better.

  • @mindaugasjuskenas
    @mindaugasjuskenas 8 місяців тому +2

    She is a person who helps me realize and separate real woman from instagram zombie and real man from Tates fan club.

    • @user-qu2cx7cd3w
      @user-qu2cx7cd3w 2 місяці тому

      Sadia is a friend of Tate! Tate is the,real man!

  • @forevergreat4235
    @forevergreat4235 10 місяців тому +3

    Sadia is very profound and very insightful ,however i disagree with her on one point , i think women forgive so much more cheating than man do , a man can pretend he forgives you but he will never look at you the same and the relationship will never be the same again because his self esteem get deeply hurt by that and like Sadia said its humiliating so if a man value himself enough there is no going back from that , he is going to end the relationship . on the other hand a women can make a show out of it telling her friends what you did but at the end of the day the relationship might go back to what it was before . Overall Great Podcast 10/10

    • @user-xs5dp4gw8e
      @user-xs5dp4gw8e 7 місяців тому +1

      it would be more the personality makeup and dynamic than gender that bring the 'success' factor back into the partnership. agreed a very difficult situation.
      but is it not a new relationship being embarked on? whether with the same person or a different person?

  • @nazvannorel970
    @nazvannorel970 5 місяців тому +1

    Sadia Khan is an amazing dating expert love to Listen to her talks

  • @seliar7586
    @seliar7586 7 місяців тому +1

    It’s not a sin
    Do not worry
    Allah looks in the heart
    Trough the veil on and off

  • @donhokianga3480
    @donhokianga3480 6 місяців тому +1

    Every Word That Comes Out Of Her Mouth Is Correct!..Sadias Beauty Makes Everything That Comes Out Of Her Mouth Seem So Beautiful!.. Like HER!!!❤ ( Sadia )

  • @charlesdavis2704
    @charlesdavis2704 10 місяців тому +2

    Why would you listen to a single person talking about relationships 😂. That's just dumb. Y'all people hate marriage and don't know it. It's obvious ever time someone married tells you about marriage, it turns your stomach. Then you go listen to single people sell you a dream to compensate. 😂 It hilarious. Sorry people you can't reinvent this wheel.

    • @raze5346
      @raze5346 10 місяців тому

      Why are you offended so easily? I guess there was a lot of truth here and the truth hurts😮

  • @CharanDass-v9e
    @CharanDass-v9e 2 місяці тому +1

    Welcomeforsafiakhanji❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @meganpittman0615
    @meganpittman0615 9 місяців тому +1

    I don’t just need to understand your love language, I need to know your apology language.
    What are you most proud of in your life? Are you just a good “dater” or do you know how to forge committed relationships and focus on personal growth and growing with your partner?
    How’s your relationship with God?
    How did your past relationships end?
    How consistent is your ability to communicate and keep your word?
    How are you setting and respecting boundaries?
    What does marriage mean to you?
    How do you deal with feelings?
    What’s your attachment style?
    What’s your relationship with money and your career?

  • @etseredouard3146
    @etseredouard3146 10 місяців тому +1

    The Delusion here is astronomical, and this is coming from a married professional who counsels couples everyday smh

  • @jayashreeganesh5363
    @jayashreeganesh5363 10 місяців тому +4

    Excellent talk show with Sadia Khan a Psychologist who gives practical advice to all we women who have grown up in a orthrodox family down south India. I am watching this show from chennai

    • @NicolasNiggles
      @NicolasNiggles 10 місяців тому +1

      She’s completely abusive to people on the internet

    • @hibaalissa
      @hibaalissa 9 місяців тому

      ​@@NicolasNigglesI love that about her, not only not taking shit from anyone, but also throwing it back. I really enjoy it when I see her doing that

  • @policious
    @policious 10 місяців тому +10

    focusing on one person at a time is a great idea. even if yall meet online once you exchange phone numbers or ig handles get off the damn dating apps and explore each other!

    • @user-xs5dp4gw8e
      @user-xs5dp4gw8e 7 місяців тому +2

      until you have met the person in person face to face then you have not met the person.
      and yes totally agree with you and Sadia to give full focus and attention to the other once you have met and intend to see each other again (and again, and again) then the app or the 'match maker' is on pause.

  • @tiniciayoung
    @tiniciayoung 8 місяців тому +2

    Focus on your Accurate Pool of selection! Genius❤

  • @cujo1050
    @cujo1050 9 місяців тому +1

    On the one hand Sadia is an enjoyable listen across different platforms and has opionions that are good for discussion. But the continued narrative that men are more forgiving than women is highly contestable until she decides to provide information that proves that point was significant data based on Research. This may exist within a certain demographic of men but to assert that this applies to all men is too big of a generalization to make

  • @agnieszkaweronikajakubowsk6671
    @agnieszkaweronikajakubowsk6671 8 місяців тому +2

    I totally feel her. She speaks my language. I had no idea how to express my approach to many situations and social agreements in today’s world and now I do.

  • @NicolasNiggles
    @NicolasNiggles 9 місяців тому +1

    This is all so shallow. Non spiritual advice

  • @RussellDion
    @RussellDion 7 місяців тому +1

    Wow 2:29 in and I think she just improved my marriage

  • @tehee3631
    @tehee3631 8 місяців тому +1

    How come she isn’t married?

  • @qudsiaabdali5369
    @qudsiaabdali5369 9 місяців тому +2

    Wow only 2 mins in and my mind is blown. Thanks Sadia, a true role model for women

  • @raziahzaman996
    @raziahzaman996 10 місяців тому +2

    she is single herself why is she giving advice on how to be in a relationship? this woman is delusional

    • @peaceloveunityislam
      @peaceloveunityislam 10 місяців тому

      She’s not single she talks about her husband on patreon

    • @raziahzaman996
      @raziahzaman996 10 місяців тому

      @@peaceloveunityislam her relatives said she is. Send me the link please. I would love to watch what she said.

  • @Leeohlin89
    @Leeohlin89 10 місяців тому +14

    The online dating section of this segment couldn’t be anymore true. The addiction and novelty as well as mindset. I personally do not agree with online dating apps. It’s not genuine enough. But overall this discussion was very enlightening and informative. 🙏🏼

  • @PeterMasalski93
    @PeterMasalski93 2 дні тому

    Sadie Khan is unmarried, childless, and does nothing of the things she preaches. She used to be a 304 in Dubai, and has no formal training and never studied at the university level as a psychologist.

  • @jessl7728
    @jessl7728 5 місяців тому +1

    So true and insightful. I have had similar experience most of my adult life especially in the work place environment with female colleagues. I usually get on better with men. Thank you for shedding some lights into this topic at least I know I’m not alone. Love Sadia for her straightforwardness and keeping it real.

  • @AvocadoAtrocity
    @AvocadoAtrocity 9 місяців тому +1

    There's a super high pitched squeal in the audio 😢😢😢😢😢

  • @samaval9920
    @samaval9920 29 днів тому

    Bizarre! Why do sieakets & their publics NOT discuss joint common views, plans, gials as members of couples, religions,
    arts, sports, politics, classes, nations, etc. Total individual, isolated, fragmented, etc.
    Society? Community?western
    empires, esoecially US, populations seem falling apart, due to major national & intl changes in Western wirkd pitixak economy.
    For explanations that show economy’s effects in society &
    psychology, see many of videos b
    Prof. Richard Wolff
    Prof Harriet Fraad
    Prof.Tess Fraad--Wolff (yes, they are related.)

  • @elhamalzugaibi3730
    @elhamalzugaibi3730 10 місяців тому +5

    Amazing podcast ❤

  • @Maria-jl7tv
    @Maria-jl7tv 10 місяців тому +3

    I never understood how a person who is not married can give advice on how to stay married….

    • @hibaalissa
      @hibaalissa 9 місяців тому +1

      A doctor who has a disease can still treat and heal others. My university professor in finance can still teach me investment even though she hasn't practically worked with investments and so on. Some people are just so intelligent and gifted that when they study a topic and master it, they'll do it with excellence. I am married and recognize everything that Sadia says

    • @Maria-jl7tv
      @Maria-jl7tv 9 місяців тому

      @@hibaalissa if people haven’t got the actual experience of going through something themselves and coming out the other way, they should stop confusing people as their advice doesn’t apply to everyone. An expert has lived the principles that she or he is preaching about - and teaches from knowledge AND experience, not just ‘by the book’

    • @jacobclayton2954
      @jacobclayton2954 3 місяці тому

      ​@@Maria-jl7tvEh. Easier to have the refrigerator approach and take what works and leave the rest for someone else whose hungry. That way you don't get wound up with the things you don't resonate with. We all say things that are applicable to some, but not all and have also given advice to things we have no personal experience in.🤷🏿

  • @jingonzalez
    @jingonzalez 5 днів тому

    @sadiapsychology you are my absolute favorite! Thank you for all you have done.

  • @RandallSampson-hp3gz
    @RandallSampson-hp3gz 5 місяців тому

    Ladies.. You try to hard... Love is simple... Simplicity comes by faith an important the magic unfold when your heart skip beats...

  • @cesilio
    @cesilio 9 місяців тому +1

    It's too funny. How you not know why other women don't like you it's because you are pretty. You're a challenge to them on being the likeable pretty girl to guys and also the reason why you have a lot of guys friends.

  • @RandallSampson-hp3gz
    @RandallSampson-hp3gz 5 місяців тому

    Ladies.. Don't spill the coffee... I thirst for what is offered... THANKS

  • @ballyBe_
    @ballyBe_ 10 місяців тому +4

    Loving the podcast

  • @lizwendling-sellingwithaut6011
    @lizwendling-sellingwithaut6011 3 місяці тому

    GREAT interview. I could listen to you both for hours. Sadia is a savvy, smart, and knowledgeable professional.

  • @sandycheeks1580
    @sandycheeks1580 10 місяців тому +2

    😂😂🎉Relationship expert who isn’t even married 😂😂😂

  • @RandallSampson-hp3gz
    @RandallSampson-hp3gz 5 місяців тому

    Ladies... Women is a curious specie... Let me explain why... They never settle for less then fun love that sturdy into a stable relationship with security which lead to marriage... Thanks for understanding... ❤😢

  • @RandallSampson-hp3gz
    @RandallSampson-hp3gz 5 місяців тому

    Ladies... Sometimes boys has a value which seldom makes sense to women.. Yet the meaningful learning process is profound...

  • @celinejb4730
    @celinejb4730 10 місяців тому +2

    My husband and I have been together for 18 years & I am no longer physically attractive to him & I think he still find me attractive in some way but I’m not certain.
    We have a good foundation therefore we know how to navigate around each other & he has a man cave & I have a woman cave, it makes it so much better to coexist!

    • @mike287slashm7
      @mike287slashm7 7 місяців тому

      Whats the point of this? Nonsense.

    • @celinejb4730
      @celinejb4730 7 місяців тому

      @@mike287slashm7He refuses to give me a divorce, that’s why.

  • @YasminMahnaz
    @YasminMahnaz 7 місяців тому

    Say 100% one more time..
    Yasmine..i had high hopes for you and your name. You let us down. You have nothing to offer which is ok... but that 20yr old babble of, yes yes yes, yes, repeat what Nadia said paraphrase it... and agree , then nodding your head to agree with saying 100% 100%..
    Calm down

  • @RandallSampson-hp3gz
    @RandallSampson-hp3gz 5 місяців тому

    Ladies... Do not fight... Love has many meanings... As fools rush into... With no wisdom when young...

  • @Xgold1
    @Xgold1 6 місяців тому

    51:54 I definitely have trouble connecting with Straight women too. So I always have male friends.

  • @YasminMahnaz
    @YasminMahnaz 7 місяців тому

    Omg kill me already.. right,? Right right???? I feel ..i feel ..i feeeel right?
    No wonder you're single