"This Is A Woman's Sexual Fantasy" - Stop Being The Nice Guy & Master Seduction | Robert Greene

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  • Опубліковано 17 тра 2024
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    Join me for a deep dive into the art of seduction with best-selling author and expert strategist, Robert Greene. Known for his profound understanding of human nature, Greene shares game-changing insights that are a game-changer in your dating approach and what women will find attractive about you.
    In this episode, we're breaking down the barriers that hold many men back in their romantic pursuits. We're challenging the "nice guy" stereotype and embracing the power of strategic moves, artful authenticity, and the courage to be vulnerable.
    Greene says, "Seduction involves the desire to lose control." It's time to step out of your analytical mindset and tune into the woman you desire and dare to be vulnerable. Discover why Robert believes that flirtation is more about the looks you give than the words you use.
    We're also exploring the power of fantasies, and unpacking the role of men in today’s society. What’s the right amount of masculine that commands power and respect without being hyper masculine and a turn off for many women?
    By the end of this episode you’ll have a deeper understanding of seduction, attraction, and the authentic connection that women crave. Your journey to becoming irresistibly desirable starts here.
    Chapter Markers:
    [00:00] Introduction for Seduction
    [00:28] What She Fantasizes About?
    [11:23] Secretly You Want Seduction
    [15:57] This Isn’t Seduction…
    [22:42] The Powerless ‘Nice Guy’
    [39:11] Seductive Masculine Qualities
    [53:12] Channeling True Power
    [1:09:55] The Game of Seduction
    [1:14:31] Your Mother’s Seductive Power
    [1:18:50] Up Your Dating Game
    Robert Greene’s Seductive Wisdom Quotes:
    “Seduction involves the desire to lose control.”
    “The origin of seduction actually comes from our relation to our parents.”
    “I just want to get men out of the mode because we are so goddamn analytical that it’s such a problem that reading a book, [...] get the f*ck outta there and pay attention to the person.”
    “An ambitious man, he may be a little uncontrollable, he may be a little bit dangerous, but damn it he’s going to be able to survive in a very tough world.”
    “Seduction is a language that does not involve words.”
    “The flirtation is not in the words that you say but it’s in the looks that you give and the energy that you radiate.”
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  • @TomBilyeu
    @TomBilyeu  5 місяців тому +173

    WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

    • @henrythegreatamerican8136
      @henrythegreatamerican8136 5 місяців тому

      Two guys discussing a woman's sexual fantasy....
      Could you not find two women for the panel?

    • @dtsai
      @dtsai 5 місяців тому +11

      My wife is crazy and I f'n hate it.

    • @mickcrovo5238
      @mickcrovo5238 5 місяців тому +4

      @@dtsai Divorce her

    • @chrisw7347
      @chrisw7347 5 місяців тому +1

      You refer to "the rules", for seducation, flirtation, how things changed for you personally and how you met your wife once you learned. Who does one listen to/read for these rules?

    • @N.V.P69
      @N.V.P69 4 місяці тому

      I DONT THINK U HATED CAUSE IF YOU DO YOU WOULD HAVE BEEN GONE LONG AGO
      @@dtsai

  • @Oblisk
    @Oblisk 4 місяці тому +481

    Keanu Reeves is a great example of someone who doesn’t need to yell or get out order when explaining himself. He’s always cool, calm, and collected and is highly generous, not only with his money, but his time and attention. He’s definitely someone that young men or just anyone should look up to.

    • @Therevolution7
      @Therevolution7 4 місяці тому +51

      Hes also a goodlooking, tall multimillionaire.

    • @autoclearanceuk7191
      @autoclearanceuk7191 4 місяці тому +10

      He has $300 million

    • @endlessnameless6494
      @endlessnameless6494 4 місяці тому +39

      @@Therevolution7 He also lost his pregnant wife and baby to a car accident, and has spent most of his life on a spiritual journey to get over this. As well as his best friend dying at 23 (River Phoenix). You would have to 1.) live a high end actor life and 2.) lose everything (and have to overcome it) to reach his level of spiritual chill. It's very unlikely anyone will be like him; he's in the top .0001 percent OF the top .00001 of people. He's awesome, but...an odd life and a rare gem.

    • @taopaille-paille4992
      @taopaille-paille4992 4 місяці тому +7

      But Keenu Reeves is highly attractive and has had incredible success. it is very hard to introduce into you the type of charisma that Keenu emulates. However, I appreciate him a lot

    • @starfox300
      @starfox300 4 місяці тому +11

      Keanu Reeves is also very tall and in his youth he was one of the most handsome men. He didn't really have to do anything, women looked at him for 3 seconds and were in love

  • @juancruzlives
    @juancruzlives 3 місяці тому +56

    - do not treat people by stereotypes but get into their world.
    - powerlessness corrupts more than power
    - women (and men) want to feel special, important, different
    - a weak ego (insecurities) is anti-seductive
    - being dominant is a positive trait
    - your mother conditions your unconscious desires

  • @jairosouza7994
    @jairosouza7994 5 місяців тому +177

    I would definitely watch a 5h podcast if Robert Greene is the one talking.

    • @dw2367
      @dw2367 5 місяців тому +5

      Robert is a national treasure.

    • @No-Ones-Safe-AGI
      @No-Ones-Safe-AGI Місяць тому +1

      Same lol

    • @ItsBrown__
      @ItsBrown__ Місяць тому +4

      I think it's nice time from time to hear the host's thoughts too. It is a conversation afterall

  • @wtfmusic1961
    @wtfmusic1961 5 місяців тому +266

    Looks like this guy wanted to interview himself with Robert. He literally did

    • @MSA-uj7cp
      @MSA-uj7cp 3 місяці тому +13

      "this guy" owns this huge platform and is having a discussion with RB

    • @rachelpidduck549
      @rachelpidduck549 3 місяці тому

      correction... its an interview, where he just spoke the entire time. People are watching this to hear what robert greene, the guest, has to say@@MSA-uj7cp

    • @UDice-cz3mz
      @UDice-cz3mz 3 місяці тому +31

      ​@@MSA-uj7cpTom, is that you?

    • @jolseywales
      @jolseywales 3 місяці тому +39

      ​@@MSA-uj7cp "That guy" is naive. He should take notes from Mark Laita of Soft White Underbelly and LISTEN. Not steam roll his knowledge on said subject down his guests throat. "That guy" needs to give his guest the attention and respect he deserves. "That guy" doesn't understand the concept of making the guests the "star" of his show.

    • @cheddarpuff
      @cheddarpuff 3 місяці тому +8

      He always does.

  • @natecook2103
    @natecook2103 2 місяці тому +111

    As a home schooled I can say my success with women compared to public schoolers is far greater. Human connection is built within us, during school years we gather nothing but insecurities which mess with our built-in perception. As a homeschooler I was primarily focused on my work and hobbies, not many friends, just brothers and sisters to play with. This upbringing has set me up, my flow and conversation is almost effortless, it did take me a couple of years to refine myself in the public world but now social skills combined with concrete personal identity makes me very peculiar compared to regular people. Public school puts filters and resentments on ppl, home school allows kids to find their strengths and weaknesses without societal pressures, which come later on.

    • @boethius1812
      @boethius1812 2 місяці тому +20

      Interesting perspective. I thought the opposite, but you make sense. Public school was a psychological and physical warzone, at times.

    • @leighatkins22
      @leighatkins22 2 місяці тому

      ​@@boethius1812Homeschooling is crapped on by society alot and it is encouraged by the system becoz the public schooling system is the only way that they can get their claws into your child's head and psyche while they are young and tear them down before they get a chance to become strong.
      Homeschooled kids are often mentally healthier and that's not a co-incidence...

    • @smokingcrab2290
      @smokingcrab2290 2 місяці тому +5

      Depends on what your parents are like. In my experience home schooled kids were always hyper sheltered weirdos with god complexes who thought they were so much better and smarter than everyone else

    • @marthinusstone5530
      @marthinusstone5530 Місяць тому +4

      ​@boethius1812 The opposite is true too. I also did homeschooling. Is saw some children become better equipped socially than the average public school kid, and others become way worse off than a public school kid. It depends on the social opportunities, experiences and social exposure available to the homeschooled kid.

    • @brentmorton3680
      @brentmorton3680 Місяць тому +4

      You’ve got to figure in attachment theory; sounds like your family was secure. If you grew up in an alcoholic family, public schools, insane as they are, might have provided moments of true friendship and connection with positive role models

  • @jules-bz5vc
    @jules-bz5vc 5 місяців тому +159

    Robert is so interesting and good at explaining hard things in a gentle way

  • @nickidaisydandelion4044
    @nickidaisydandelion4044 4 місяці тому +217

    Very important information from Robert for men: Stay calm, breathe, don't yell, don't be violent, be gentle, be generous with a woman, take responsibility for your mistakes and don't blame others.

    • @sednasix6608
      @sednasix6608 3 місяці тому +24

      Also be able to read if you're dealing with an abusive passive aggressive covert narcissist.

    • @nickidaisydandelion4044
      @nickidaisydandelion4044 3 місяці тому

      @@sednasix6608 What do you mean with that?

    • @ashwinashwin3663
      @ashwinashwin3663 3 місяці тому +7

      Say no, never accomodate and never be a nice guy

    • @nickidaisydandelion4044
      @nickidaisydandelion4044 3 місяці тому +3

      @@ashwinashwin3663 Good luck then.

    • @robmcguckin7605
      @robmcguckin7605 3 місяці тому +4

      Sounds like you got half of it.

  • @anthonyw1499
    @anthonyw1499 4 місяці тому +129

    Generosity VS Nice Guy is the key. My 'nice guy' has an agenda of sex or attention depending on the woman. It's definitely trauma induced from childhood and wanting to make mom and dad happy and to stop fighting. It makes you stingy in so many ways. Whereas when I'm being generous there is no real agenda going on. I just want to be there for the person and give more of myself in that moment rather than being stingy with my energy.

    • @chrismaxwell1624
      @chrismaxwell1624 4 місяці тому +6

      Exactly, being nice is people pleasing action. Kindness not so much generosity but can include it. you don't have to kind to her even. Be kind to others show's her you are kind. If you kind to people who serve you then that intrigues her. The man is nice to her but unkind to others is a red flag.

    • @joshwah4838
      @joshwah4838 4 місяці тому +8

      Whoa, never thought of personifying the "nice guy" part of myself. I'm definitely a people pleaser (also stemming from childhood trauma, yuh) and find myself giving all my energy to everyone except myself. Then I'll feel resentful towards others for not doing the same, but like, that's not fair to them, unrealistic, and just not a healthy way to go about things in general. That's my fault/problem though, not theirs. Whenever I start to feel resentful, I can totally just think the "nice guy" is telling me I should dedicate some time to myself.
      Thanks for sharing homie

    • @contona4492
      @contona4492 4 місяці тому

      wtf is this world coming to. men (myself included) watching videos to learn how to get girls. the fact that these things even exists and are so popular nowadays tells so much about how f'd up the world is becoming. its basically men trying to learn how to be men because they can't act like one being raised in today's age. because women also don't act like women (they are correlated obviously). just the thought of having kids and what kind of life they're gonna be having scares me

    • @contona4492
      @contona4492 4 місяці тому

      wtf is this world coming to. men (myself included) watching videos to learn how to get girls. the fact that these things even exists and are so popular nowadays tells so much about how f'd up the world is becoming. its basically men trying to learn how to be men because they can't act like one being raised in today's age. because women also don't act like women (they are correlated obviously). just the thought of having kids and what kind of life they're gonna be having scares me

    • @AlexPenn.DatingCoach
      @AlexPenn.DatingCoach 3 місяці тому +2

      Real talk, bro. Nice guy vibes often come with strings attached. Generosity, on the other hand, no hidden agenda. It's about giving without expecting anything in return. Drop the nice guy act, be genuinely generous - that's where the real power is. Keep it real, no strings attached.

  • @19wael96
    @19wael96 4 місяці тому +622

    Tom Talks too much about himself and how he has mastered it all.

    • @CBfeb1
      @CBfeb1 4 місяці тому +84

      TRUTH‼️… and clearly he hasn’t mastered it!

    • @MikenMc
      @MikenMc 4 місяці тому +104

      Noticed this too. To me, Tom’s talking about himself is him highlighting his insecurities

    • @mrsherwood2599
      @mrsherwood2599 4 місяці тому +44

      Well I mean he cultivates looking like a roadie for a butt rock band.

    • @mikegetstuffed225
      @mikegetstuffed225 4 місяці тому +36

      Yep, noticing that too, as well as him mentioning ON EVERY PODCAST of his, I've listened too, about how" MUCH MONEY I HAVE!"

    • @jamesbond5285
      @jamesbond5285 4 місяці тому +44

      In all his podcasts, he interrupts and tells about himself and his problems when he needs to just let the guest talk. He needs to take lessons from his wife and her podcasts

  • @caseyharrison9576
    @caseyharrison9576 3 місяці тому +9

    He’s spot on about using niceness strategically

  • @brittanystickle2035
    @brittanystickle2035 5 місяців тому +39

    I wasn't sure if I'd like this based on the title, knowing it could go so many ways, but Robert Greene is great. I love hearing about the why. Very informative and clicks any missing pieces into place.

    • @godswittness69
      @godswittness69 5 місяців тому +5

      I am highly present with you in what you are saying. Totally into what you are saying, getting to know you deeply...
      I am slightly dangerous, and very resourceful....
      😋

    • @user-wj3bn1yi8f
      @user-wj3bn1yi8f 5 місяців тому

      This is not Tinder, buddy! Hehe@@godswittness69

    • @terrisolaroli4169
      @terrisolaroli4169 5 місяців тому

      Sure does!

    • @nickidaisydandelion4044
      @nickidaisydandelion4044 4 місяці тому

      Hahahah Same here.

    • @humanyoda
      @humanyoda 3 місяці тому

      Brittany, do you find Robert sexually attractive?

  • @bengasco3605
    @bengasco3605 5 місяців тому +11

    So happy you have him on today

  • @shafiuadventurous
    @shafiuadventurous 5 місяців тому +10

    Robert green is always the man for alot of topics for men❤

  • @MiracleAstonvilla
    @MiracleAstonvilla 5 місяців тому +99

    I read the book "art of seduction" and "laws of human nature". Although laws of humans nature does not soley focus on love, It is still paritaly related to seducction. I read them as a last resort when no girl would ever show interest in me. Completion of his books allowed me to understand psychology deeper, however I am still single. I would recomend anyone who is struggling just go out and make some female friends. Reading is not even 20 percent of the answer, I personally would give reading around 5 percent credit if you want to succedd in love or relationships. His other books are far more useful in workplace or business and easier to apply than romance.

    • @sparkeyjones6261
      @sparkeyjones6261 5 місяців тому +28

      You're absolutely correct. Surround yourself with women of all types. Become friends with as many as you can, regardless of their physical attractiveness or whether they're single or not. Not only will you come to understand them better, but you'll become much more confident around them. That makes it far easier to attract romantic partners.

    • @NatrajChaturvedi
      @NatrajChaturvedi 5 місяців тому +9

      It's most useful when you already have a normal life and are already surrounded by female friends, colleagues etc whom you can practice some of these principles on.

    • @-CC_.Puppets-
      @-CC_.Puppets- 5 місяців тому

      After reading the book, I now get more ass than a toilet seat.

    • @Pedrolcs07M
      @Pedrolcs07M 5 місяців тому +11

      Everything has to be natural, there's no point reading a book and following rule by rule because it won't seem natural, Robert already said that

    • @Daniel-zm1wt
      @Daniel-zm1wt 4 місяці тому +6

      I read "How to win friends and influence people" and immediately I was basically able to get any woman who would give me a chance, e.g. if she'd reply to my messages, was single and in my league, I could get with her. The problem them became about being selective enough to pick a good woman rather than just getting laid or getting a relationship.

  • @robertwysocki2073
    @robertwysocki2073 4 місяці тому +13

    There's also _How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen_ by David Brooks.

  • @nickidaisydandelion4044
    @nickidaisydandelion4044 4 місяці тому +21

    33:14 Spot on what Robert is saying here. That is what we will think in a situation like that because All women regardless of how confident some may be, we still have this insecurity and this fear of rejection. That is what I would feel immediately in that situation when a man says lets not go any further. I would actually cry thinking he saw my fat rolls and wants to go home. Haha.

    • @merrilbarry8771
      @merrilbarry8771 4 місяці тому +4

      😂😂. The fat rolls part. Too funny

  • @quidsquid6628
    @quidsquid6628 3 місяці тому +3

    Thank you so much for this interview!

  • @howtosnatch
    @howtosnatch 5 місяців тому +8

    Thank you for this podcast. Everything he said was true!

  • @macraeolinger
    @macraeolinger 4 дні тому

    25.12 If you want to lose a girl quietly, be too nice. Works like a charm. Keep her? Boundaries and backing off creates interest. They can FEEL this. Tom always asks very insightful questions. And, Robert is BILLIANT!!! He has improved my life on so many occasions. THANK YOU, Gentelmen!!

  • @CarlosMartinez-uw1ib
    @CarlosMartinez-uw1ib 5 місяців тому +6

    Great interview!

  • @webthom
    @webthom 4 місяці тому +11

    That was a very insightful conversation. Specially I connected to the lines: fear of no loss, specially when you talking to your type of woman. Also the part you have to be present in the moment with your heart. Find myself often follow my script. Thanks for all the value both of you.

    • @Ashnesss
      @Ashnesss 25 днів тому

      Not fearing loss means moving on when rejected. Not stalking, harassing, obsessing over her in any shape or form, contacting people asking about her or ruining her life, social life, career, decision to move, love life, etc. that’s not cool, calm and collected. It’s the opposite. It’s brash, psychotic, jealous, bitter and insecure. The longer you do it, the more bitter you are.

  • @abdolhamedsharef2924
    @abdolhamedsharef2924 4 місяці тому +3

    Thank you for sharing and time your renowned guest

  • @reidarmor
    @reidarmor 5 місяців тому +37

    Robert is an absolute gem of a human, can’t wait to listen 📈

  • @oliverpinelli3334
    @oliverpinelli3334 5 місяців тому +8

    I always like what Mr. Greene says.

  • @ligiasommers
    @ligiasommers 5 місяців тому +14

    Love it ! always love Robert Greene’ books and ideas 🙏🏻🌷✨🙏🏻

    • @godswittness69
      @godswittness69 4 місяці тому

      Glad you’ve enjoyed it, sweet sexy little honey 🍯 pot

  • @Bitsurf24
    @Bitsurf24 3 місяці тому +4

    Robert is a blessing to us all

  • @igor_alban
    @igor_alban 2 місяці тому +2

    This is what is called an incredible deep level conversation!

  • @lyndonstucker6710
    @lyndonstucker6710 5 місяців тому +18

    This interview was profound and exactly what I needed. Thank you.

    • @KamelCase
      @KamelCase 3 місяці тому

      Follow this garbage at your own peril. He’s right about everything he’s right about mystery and seduction. His advice will definitely get you laid. And in the morning, when you are not able to be her fantasy into the next day, when you have to go back to work when you have to return to your real life, when the responsibilities rise with the sun to dissolve your fantasy island, she will destroy you.

  • @michaelk4740
    @michaelk4740 3 місяці тому +5

    Omg they finally posted Timestamps 🙂😄😊👏👏👏 THANK YOU

  • @soothsayer2406
    @soothsayer2406 Місяць тому +13

    My goal in life is to become a Vampire Billionaire

  • @Groux504
    @Groux504 5 місяців тому +7

    Ohhhhhh is that the Infamous Robert Greene😳 OG fa real. Thank you for this

  • @magnaajube7784
    @magnaajube7784 2 місяці тому +3

    Robert Greene is a ninja of seduction and very knowledgeable and advanced. I love you!

  • @momen78699
    @momen78699 5 місяців тому +3

    amazing episode please do more such episodes on seduction!

  • @Negarefi
    @Negarefi 4 місяці тому +25

    There’s still hope in this world. Thank you Tom and Robert Greene.

  • @-whackd
    @-whackd 4 місяці тому +14

    Two guys who don't get beautiful women discuss seduction.

  • @Chrollo_x2
    @Chrollo_x2 Місяць тому

    thanks man for provide us this great interview with sir Robert Greene

  • @DavidWCoulter
    @DavidWCoulter 2 місяці тому +12

    Yes. Some hosts are smart enough to know we came on the hear their guests.

  • @nickfischer8510
    @nickfischer8510 3 місяці тому +9

    1:01:04 "meek"
    It doesn't mean "weak"
    it's more like "trained" or "disciplined"
    similar to "cooperative/ controllable by its master"
    To illustrate:
    a MEEK horse is still strong to carry loads and people. But it is rideable and can be steered by a rider.
    Same case with police dogs.
    They are meeked but not weak.
    #tamed

  • @lmiller1413
    @lmiller1413 Місяць тому +1

    Yes! Tom nailed it. Woman do want to feel they are the only one that their man wants, desires, and cant contain his strong desire for her, but only for her.

  • @oredaze
    @oredaze 5 місяців тому +81

    I have a bit of a problem with the whole concept of going out of your way to seduce someone. You are engaging in actions that you would not otherwise do. Actions that are not born out of your own character. You are trying to game the system. It is definitely being fake. But fine, let's say that being fake is good enough for you. How long do you think you can keep the act up before you drop the ball and revert to your real character? Until you are in the relationship? Until you marry? What about the years after that? Isn't it better to be your real self and let the person get attracted to the real you? Isn't that a much bigger win? You can do some self improvement if you don't like yourself, go to the gym, make more money etc., but don't go trying to be someone else.

    • @patrickmahon3476
      @patrickmahon3476 5 місяців тому +16

      My interpretation is not to put up a facade, but rather to be focused in your approach and mindful of your actions, and how they are intepreted. You gotta get one foot in the door before you both put on sweatpants and eat a tub of B3n and Jerrys. Also don't be a "nice guy(tm)". Which is actually kind of a crappy facade in a way. Seducing =/= gaming the system unless ya are.

    • @emf2482
      @emf2482 5 місяців тому +15

      yes 100%. Society also tells men to do all the chasing. And that we need external things to be good enough. Thats why people chase money or exhausting careers. We literally contribute to woman's favor instead of being stoic and let them come to us. Which from experience works a lot better then the opposite.

    • @rml4289
      @rml4289 5 місяців тому +5

      ​@emf2482 you need some form of value for women to come to you though
      Women don't care about a stoic man if he's still a bum

    • @oredaze
      @oredaze 5 місяців тому +9

      @@patrickmahon3476 To be fair this video teaches some things that we are doing wrong and should fix, that are not part of your character identity.
      The world is nuanced.
      But overall I think the whole premise of the video is wrong.

    • @-CC_.Puppets-
      @-CC_.Puppets- 5 місяців тому +4

      Thanks for telling us you didn't watch the video without telling us lol.

  • @raphaelklijn6358
    @raphaelklijn6358 4 місяці тому +3

    What an interesting conversation this is.

  • @MariaBrinks25
    @MariaBrinks25 5 місяців тому +52

    None of this matters if the woman doesn't find you attractive,, women are allowed to care about looks now and that bothers some men

    • @Des_Armoni
      @Des_Armoni 5 місяців тому +8

      Bingo

    • @tresjolieme81
      @tresjolieme81 5 місяців тому

      Yea we've always wanted the pretty boys since our teens. Guys don't know the power of a handsome man to us. Gets the oxytocin going not the sexual stimulation men get by visual. The infatuation hormone is super strong. Look at how girls scream for BTS or boy bands that's oxytocin. Look how hypnotized men are at strip clubs, it's a diff hormone reaction.

    • @otruwarrioro
      @otruwarrioro 5 місяців тому +9

      Absolutely nailed it. FIRST establish that she's attracted to you, if not , it doesn't matter.

    • @Techtalk2030
      @Techtalk2030 5 місяців тому +15

      Attractive physically? Ive seen a lot of successful, confident men with game who arent the best looking get with woman who are better looking than them.

    • @dogsandyoga1743
      @dogsandyoga1743 5 місяців тому

      ​@@samnectarUh.. I'd take an ugly billionaire chick 7 days a week and twice on Sunday 😂

  • @d.f.s.studios281
    @d.f.s.studios281 3 місяці тому +2

    I really needed this video

  • @andreaskrbyravn855
    @andreaskrbyravn855 4 місяці тому +3

    Be nice with boundaries

  • @JOEL31785
    @JOEL31785 3 місяці тому +3

    Great conversation and awesome interview. Robert is one of my favorite authors and I see why he's comfortable with Tom. Great yield of info.

  • @kagisowealthmoseki5100
    @kagisowealthmoseki5100 4 місяці тому +1

    I like how he referred to Machiavelli(knowing how to shift with the times), that took me straight to 48 Laws of power.

  • @charlyspade4943
    @charlyspade4943 Місяць тому +1

    Peace through strength. Forge your body and skills, but most importantly, your will to act when it is absolutely necessary, but the best fight or battle is the one that never took place. Using the brain is the most important tool and weapon...keep it all sharp!

  • @colettithekid
    @colettithekid 5 місяців тому +10

    Robert Green is my spiritual leader.

  • @aminblm
    @aminblm 5 місяців тому +3

    Your humility and confidence shine through every episode, Tom! 🌟🎥 #ConfidenceIsKey #StayHumble

  • @user-mf7ll4nm4n
    @user-mf7ll4nm4n 2 місяці тому

    Well done.I appreciate your advice. The discussion about office dynamics is so true. All I can say is well said and all I advise is look at your own integrity and at the same time do not let yourselves people to get used ( look at this closely)
    You probably/ likely be deeply hurt in so many ways however don't perpetuate that hurt.

  • @beskidwood
    @beskidwood 4 місяці тому +1

    about @23:00 "POWERLESSNESS CORRUPTS MORE THAN A POWER" -
    Thank you for this.

  • @MsKolo92
    @MsKolo92 5 місяців тому +71

    That was hell of a podcast. This man is a gem to society.

    • @masteryoda498
      @masteryoda498 5 місяців тому +5

      That’s debatable.

    • @A_n_y_t_i_m_e
      @A_n_y_t_i_m_e 4 місяці тому +3

      If advocating extreme manipulativeness and psychopathy is being considered a gem today, then f society.

    • @bobmathews9072
      @bobmathews9072 4 місяці тому

      He wrote the famous book "The 48 Laws Of Power" , a favourite of the ultimate psychopath Tony Blair , says it all ​@@A_n_y_t_i_m_e

    • @peersupportcounselor1904
      @peersupportcounselor1904 4 місяці тому

      He has his own UA-cam channel: Just search for him 😊

    • @t5396
      @t5396 4 місяці тому

      @@masteryoda498 you’re negative and self defeating.

  • @bradleywitbooi5268
    @bradleywitbooi5268 5 місяців тому +11

    this conversation will go down the history books. I've learned so much from these two guys and I'm looking forward to reading the art of seduction❤.

  • @themightymiracleman
    @themightymiracleman Місяць тому

    Thank you for the insight

  • @KK-dv3wh
    @KK-dv3wh 5 місяців тому +102

    "You need to know when to disappear for a week so they know they can't take you for granted". "Everyone secretly wants to be vulnerable." So... gain trust, then cynically manipulate. Great way to create lasting connection.

    • @neomacchio4692
      @neomacchio4692 5 місяців тому +6

      Boom.

    • @PeteLG
      @PeteLG 5 місяців тому +11

      Female language exactly.

    • @KK-dv3wh
      @KK-dv3wh 5 місяців тому +12

      @@PeteLG but in this case, a book of it written by a guy describing how to succeed in relationship. Bad approach no matter who is doing it imo.

    • @rml4289
      @rml4289 5 місяців тому +8

      ​@@KK-dv3whwomen like that though

    • @pentrubarbati
      @pentrubarbati 5 місяців тому +10

      thats why i quit dating women this days not worth it ...

  • @terrisolaroli4169
    @terrisolaroli4169 5 місяців тому +5

    Excellent interview!!!

  • @Daniel-zm1wt
    @Daniel-zm1wt 4 місяці тому +20

    If this guy were really a master of seduction, surely he wouldn't have picked those glasses.

    • @josephfdunphymba3241
      @josephfdunphymba3241 4 місяці тому +4

      One minute into it, it sounded like two teenage gamers trying to plan how to storyboard an animation.video of anime porn.

    • @challism
      @challism Місяць тому +2

      Or would he? The point is, if you've got skills/game, you can wear dorky glasses. Doesn't matter.

  • @sourapril
    @sourapril 3 місяці тому +1

    "It's pretty clear if you pay attention, right?" Nice one, Robert. :)

  • @deluxxe9541
    @deluxxe9541 3 місяці тому +1

    Robert Greene is a genius very great a session

  • @alphabeta8403
    @alphabeta8403 3 місяці тому +73

    6:00 People secretly want to be vulnerable
    13:00 People secretly want to be seduced
    25:50 Women have a sixth sense about insecure men
    29:50 Develop observation skills
    36:00 Being stingy is anti seductive
    39:30 Virtual sex
    43:00 Masculine role models
    46:00 *Aggression; ambition*
    51:00 Channeling testosterone
    54:00 Elon Musk; ferocity
    1:00:00 Be like water; it can flow or crash
    1:05:00 Have an element of “I don’t care”
    1:08:00 It’s the mental aspect that makes you a great athlete
    1:11:00 Women vs men in seduction
    1:27:30 Be in the moment

  • @LOLITA541
    @LOLITA541 5 місяців тому +15

    I love Robert Greene's interviews.

  • @user-iq5lr8ii5j
    @user-iq5lr8ii5j 4 дні тому

    Be Both I considerm MYself Sweet And sour ! People do not need to be abusive !

  • @user-bf9jo1gh2b
    @user-bf9jo1gh2b 5 місяців тому

    Finally!!! Thanks!

  • @libertasadvitam4538
    @libertasadvitam4538 5 місяців тому +16

    Great video. I don’t enjoy when people who have never been to war speak on it. War is like football? I’ve done both and they couldn’t be more far apart. Stick to what you know brother. Both of you are smarter than I am by far. Neither of you are warriors.

    • @itsPreznt
      @itsPreznt 5 місяців тому +7

      I think perhaps you might havectaken that comparison too literally. My suggestion is that they were referring to strategy in that strategy is applicable to both scenarios.

    • @NatrajChaturvedi
      @NatrajChaturvedi 5 місяців тому +2

      Your taking that statement too literally. They are just making a rough comparison there because both things are physical in nature.

    • @orangeiceice12
      @orangeiceice12 5 місяців тому +1

      Football is a lot like war. Or rather, it's a proxy for it. It allows you to execute plans with teammates against another team of males. It requires strength, skill, and courage, and it's relentless in its rules. I've never been to war, and I can't speak on the terror, shock of reality opening up before you, the depth of being forced to make choices that shake your whole self, the darkness and inescapability. There's not much of that in football. But football allows you to determine who might be good in a war, and having a sorting hat for mate quality, without a bunch of your males dying. So goes the theory.

    • @bigdog2084
      @bigdog2084 4 місяці тому +1

      I didn't watch the video to be honest. I do think you have a point. The subject of women shouldn't be compared to war or football in anyway. Men are the reason both(football/war) happen. Men also are the only ones playing or fighting. These guys are trying to be part of the groups trying to create better men for women. Why? Women are suppose to support their men in general. Pretty simple concept. Men must respect the women WHILE women support and respect men. It's all changed now. Women are entitled and spoiled. How can you change that. If men are basically still the same.🤷‍♂️. In general of course.

  • @billnye8143
    @billnye8143 5 місяців тому +3

    The teacher student thing would be a good ethical question regardless of it being done at an adult school.

  • @MarkDreamsPhilosophy
    @MarkDreamsPhilosophy 2 місяці тому

    30:35 immediately made me click the like button cuz bro...he started speaking some real truth...but so far this has been a great podcast...im watching it while i do my workout.
    so imma get back to my workout and get back to listen to this.. much love to yall

  • @GideonGames
    @GideonGames 2 місяці тому +1

    When a fighter invites a wizard to a philosophical discussion, both have distinctly different ways of understanding reality and/or and solving problems.

  • @friarnewborg9213
    @friarnewborg9213 4 місяці тому +4

    GREAT. was even more interesting than I expected. Touched on some topics we dont hear every day

  • @cihangirbozdogan4549
    @cihangirbozdogan4549 4 місяці тому +6

    How can you bring Robert Greene and speak more than him!!

  • @fred.k9875
    @fred.k9875 4 місяці тому +2

    Okay we human have duality,you have to strike a balance not too nice and not too harsh, to show that you are capable of both.

  • @kayumochi
    @kayumochi 5 місяців тому +6

    Tom needs to stop injecting what he thinks about the subject and instead draw out Greene. Tom made an interviewer's biggest mistake at the beginning of this interview but did get better as it continued.

  • @thenyashnienie233
    @thenyashnienie233 5 місяців тому +4

    Thank uuuuuuu

  • @asborisov1
    @asborisov1 4 місяці тому +4

    Playing games will only get you into a divorce down the line.

  • @blakeloyd1
    @blakeloyd1 2 місяці тому

    This guy (Robert) is real. Exactly the places where we deal with violence everyday.

  • @leehelmick4065
    @leehelmick4065 5 місяців тому +5

    I only got through tye first 9 minutes, but I sure wish you'd understand that women are listening too!

    • @f.avilla6383
      @f.avilla6383 Місяць тому

      What are your thoughts on this?

  • @GFD_VIDEOS
    @GFD_VIDEOS 5 місяців тому +9

    These days you need written contracts and video documentation to prove that everything was consensual

  • @marcuspickens25
    @marcuspickens25 5 місяців тому +9

    They made sliding into the adventure of human emotions EXPENSIVE, lol. Plus, social media exacebates the degree to which women want to feel, which raises the bar for what women desire, making it to where the average man can not fulfill those desires.

    • @mickcrovo5238
      @mickcrovo5238 5 місяців тому +3

      That's why I dropped out of the market. When the market recognizes my value, I will make the product available again.

    • @maryhalverson5713
      @maryhalverson5713 5 місяців тому +1

      ​@@mickcrovo5238- Some guys just aren't relatable.

    • @rml4289
      @rml4289 5 місяців тому +1

      Don't be average then

    • @mickcrovo5238
      @mickcrovo5238 5 місяців тому +3

      @@rml4289 I’m 6’, fit and athletic, 6-figure income, and socially skilled. If you listened to what they said, it’s not just the average guy who is undervalued, it’s all but the top 10%.

    • @marcuspickens25
      @marcuspickens25 5 місяців тому

      @@rml4289 exactly

  • @blakebunch4485
    @blakebunch4485 3 місяці тому +2

    In my experience if you don't have one it's difficult to get started but once you catch one several others are getting in line. If I fall for it I end up with none again. I'm single at 61. I've fell for it 3 or 4 times throughout life. It's getting harder and harder to get started lately. 🤔

  • @stmaui6973
    @stmaui6973 Місяць тому

    Tom is great here. Robert is also great. If you are a man that needs help with women ( like 99 percent) watch this because this information is the beginning of understanding how to be successful with women. Forget about the past.

    • @challism
      @challism Місяць тому

      Tom is hardly great. Talks too much. Tries to prove himself too much. He needs to shut up and let the guest talk. Tom is annoying.

  • @jackstoltz1379
    @jackstoltz1379 4 місяці тому +8

    Taking love advice from this guy sounds dangerous enough lol

  • @hmaidhaydari9662
    @hmaidhaydari9662 2 місяці тому +2

    I think of myself as a nice guy, and I know it came from my childhood because my mother showed love toward me if I was a nice boy. So now, as an adult, I'm always nice to others because I want them to like me, and most of the time, I get hurt and feel being used by others.

    • @carolinecantelmo3790
      @carolinecantelmo3790 Місяць тому +2

      Don’t feel that way ,there are plenty of women who will embrace your kindness and will want you as a loving partner .❤

  • @iant9868
    @iant9868 3 місяці тому

    When you spoke of fear, my bet is fear of rejection, failure, creepiness, openness, etc. at the onset. Not the fear of the power someone has over you. Anecdotal because I've never felt that, although I do tend to slip on healthy distance after the act so perhaps a different manifestation of the same (that has ended a couple of good things over the years). Our society gives alternatives to the list I mentioned at the start and punishes them readily. I think younger generations have become so constricted by culture it has become a failure to act - just a guess.

  • @jakegjorloff421
    @jakegjorloff421 4 місяці тому +3

    From an evolutionary standpoint, women have historically exhibited a preference for robust mates capable of ensuring protection, provision, and the ability to produce healthy offspring. These inclinations are deeply embedded in their genetic makeup, forged over hundreds of thousands of years of evolution. However, contemporary efforts to alter these dynamics within a mere few decades have led to an increase in individuals, both women and men, relying on antidepressants, experiencing fractured familial structures, and engaging in neurotic relationships.
    Emphasizing adherence to fundamental principles rooted in nature's design could potentially provide a more stable foundation for relationships.

  • @Suspect333
    @Suspect333 4 місяці тому +8

    How fucked up is it that you have to be mean to women or treat them poorly to get them to like you!

    • @Alazar654
      @Alazar654 3 місяці тому

      Your statement is one of the only statements in this chat room that makes sense. Everyone else are slaves to their female masters.

    • @omar2eighty
      @omar2eighty 3 місяці тому

      blame the fucking parents

  • @davidfarrall
    @davidfarrall Місяць тому

    Over competition is actually weak but the internalised David Goggin’s approach is an option. Keep your pain to yourself and always remember the strong, intelligent, shape-shifter Tortoise is always accruing good energies in the Spiritual Universe.

  • @MichaelForrestChnl
    @MichaelForrestChnl 3 місяці тому +2

    I pretended to be what a woman wanted but then realized I didn't want to continue pretending. So for "sincere" people this is very problematic, there being a world full of non-realistic women whereas most men are more realistic and sincere, less prone to fantasies and not wanting a life of pretense.

  • @RyanDMarrs
    @RyanDMarrs 5 місяців тому +3

    32:17 Man, this made me LOL. I have been there brother.

    • @NatrajChaturvedi
      @NatrajChaturvedi 5 місяців тому

      I made a similar mistake. We were undressed and she was the one who said maybe we should slow down and I listened... facepalm
      (Not saying one should force things after that point but one can be a little more insistent if the woman is just casually and orally suggesting to take it slow or whatever)

    • @sharkizinhanha3317
      @sharkizinhanha3317 5 місяців тому +2

      ⁠@@NatrajChaturvedino you definitely did the right thing!! ❤❤

  • @jonwid
    @jonwid 4 місяці тому +6

    Robert sounds like he's about to sneeze and looks like he's about to cry.

    • @challism
      @challism Місяць тому

      Let's see how you look after you suffer a stroke and lose control of 1/2 of your body.

    • @IIISWILIII
      @IIISWILIII Місяць тому

      Yep. There's this thing called allergies you see...

    • @jonwid
      @jonwid Місяць тому +1

      @@IIISWILIII Oh. That sounds awful. No one I've met have expressed allergies like that.

  • @totadol
    @totadol 4 місяці тому +2

    Two of my favorite thought leaders.. epic episode 🙏🏼

  • @scottishguy6352
    @scottishguy6352 2 місяці тому

    “Be Yourself”… one if not the most misunderstood secrets to a fulfilled life

    • @IAmTheEggMan111
      @IAmTheEggMan111 Місяць тому

      If “be yourself” worked everyone would already be successful at this

  • @diahajee9380
    @diahajee9380 5 місяців тому +19

    Tate be catching stray bullets everywhere he goes 😂

    • @maryhalverson5713
      @maryhalverson5713 5 місяців тому +10

      ,,, As well he should.

    • @PowerofRock24
      @PowerofRock24 3 місяці тому

      That's one very insecure dude. That's why he got rekt by Greta Thunberg and pizza boxes lul

  • @alexperassolo3310
    @alexperassolo3310 5 місяців тому +10

    8 to 20 burpees without push-ups with or without jump or more.
    10 to 20 goblet squats or more
    10 to 20 romanian deadlifts or more
    3x
    10 to 20 180 degree jumps or more
    10 to 20 push-ups or dumbell bench press or more
    10 to 20 back rows
    3x
    30 to 60 jumping jacks or more
    10 to 20 bicep curls or more
    10 to 20 shoulder presses or more
    3x
    30 situps or more
    3x
    Run 1/4 mile or more
    4x
    Mix and match

  • @vtmegrad98
    @vtmegrad98 3 місяці тому +1

    "Meek" is derived from a greek word describing their war horses. Very powerful, but obedient to their rider. It had nothing to do with weakness, in the context the word was used 2000 years ago.

  • @thoucreator
    @thoucreator 4 місяці тому +2

    Love the vulnerability from Tom in this video lol

  • @chopisdish2
    @chopisdish2 Місяць тому +123

    I will do 1 pushup for each like this comments get...

    • @jkaigler6562
      @jkaigler6562 23 дні тому +1

      When?

    • @Vert0313
      @Vert0313 20 днів тому

      I can do 33 push-ups in a single rep.
      Whew.

    • @Findmylimit
      @Findmylimit 19 днів тому +1

      I did 30 in 1 push up

    • @jackslater8688
      @jackslater8688 18 днів тому

      Was push-ups mentioned in the interview?

    • @Findmylimit
      @Findmylimit 18 днів тому

      @@jackslater8688 you have to watch it. No cheating you sneaky dog

  • @animal79thecat
    @animal79thecat 4 місяці тому +4

    Fool in the cap looks like that chef dude in Emmerdale

  • @willisroth2871
    @willisroth2871 19 днів тому

    Generosity, a confidence from not being insecure, calm coolness, bring an aura that you respect their qualities, differences, and uniqueness...Plus, pay attention, know when humor, compliments, and empathy can be useful......Genuine gentleman get the key to the lock box... "I gotta write this shit down'......

  • @user-chris_zervakis
    @user-chris_zervakis 5 місяців тому

    good video

  • @forevermotoring
    @forevermotoring 4 місяці тому +6

    A woman's fantasy is a man who is authentic and confident enough to just live himself fully and be vulnerable.

    • @t-lawsfitness6044
      @t-lawsfitness6044 Місяць тому

      4 women gave this a thumbs up. Your sentence literally means nothing