Is Your Unprocessed Grief Fueling ROCD/Anxiety?
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- Опубліковано 8 лип 2024
- Hi awakening loves!
It's been almost 2 months since the last video and so much has happened personally. This video was inspired by my own journey in the last two months and from also witnessing something that many of you have been going through... Grief...and how unprocessed grief can fuel Relationship OCD/Anxiety.
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That’s so funny. Haven’t needed these videos for a while (thanks to improved ocd), but today life was really hard & I started to panic. I thought ‘I have no idea what I need right now but I wonder if Kiyomi has uploaded a new video. I know her content can be more general sometimes so maybe it will help’ - actually my ocd is not the main issue today - I am going through so many transitions at the moment, all at once for some reason!! They’ve come in a huge bundle and most are great, some aren’t, but I havnt really been able to let my self take it all in. I get scared of feeling grief because it’s such a heavy emotion that I know well, and I sometimes get scared I won’t come back from it. Or that by accepting grief I’m accepting all my disappointed feelings about life and I won’t want to continue or something. But I’m slowly understanding that that is just a fear, because really I want to live. But to be grounded and whole I really do need to feel grief and learn it is safe to do so. So wow - I was led to this video uploaded just yesterday haha. You are an angel Kiyomi! Keep up the great work 💜
This helped me so much, when my partner and I moved to Colorado from Iowa, my ROCD really came about. Now I understand that I didn't grieve losing my Iowa self.
Man, this is it! It‘s so obvious and yet so untold. This is deep, this is poetic and this is human. Thank you!
This was a wonderfully insightful video, thank you. My partner and I had a baby 7 months ago. I have been strongly grieving our relationship pre-baby. And this has kicked up some ROCD along with grief and other sticky emotions. I’m trying to give myself grace, and my partner grace. I can only have hope that this transition will eventually feel fully integrated and my partner and I will feel more connected one day.
OH yes, I can completely understand how that would kick up the ROCD in those moments
Hey girl, I feel the same way and have been struggling with OCD surrounding my 2 year old.. let me know if you want to connect :)
Thank you for this video. I met my boyfriend at the time, when I was still grieving my mum, who died. My emotions was so turned off and had so much impact on my relationship...
The timing is perfect ❤️ I'm starting a new job and experiencing a lot of grief and it's showing in my relationship. Thank you for everything Kyomi!
Hi Kiyomi, everything that can be learned from you is incredible. I love the calm and understanding way you express yourself. The examples you have given and all types of pain are so real and helpful. And although we often fall so low because of this situation, we can also evolve to a better version of ourselves. I am really grateful to have met you and to be able to learn with you. By the way, thanks for the Spanish subtitles option!
A hug
This video resonates so much with my present. It arrived in the perfect moment. Thank you for this deep insight.
Kiyomi, this came at the perfect time for me. I recently lost my ex to suicide, I just graduated college, and I’m moving across the country. I’m feeling lots of grief and it does bring up obsessive thoughts. Thank you so much for this ❤️❤️
I’m sorry my love, I’ve lost someone to suicide too. Sending you my love and well wishes xoxo
@@yfoog I’m so sorry you’re also going through this 😭😭 sending lots of love your way too ❤️❤️❤️ be gentle with yourself
Jessica, such big, and very intense transitions. My heart sank when I read that you lost your ex to suicide. Be gentle and so loving with yourself, this can be so very hard and whatever comes up is so okay
@@yfoog So hard, love. Sending so much love, know you're not alone in anything you feel
@@Awakenintolove ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you Kyomi!
So I'm really shook right now because its as if the universe has been leaving breadcrumbs for me, as I've been seriously taking advantage of these 2 weeks off work to focus on healing and resting. I purchased Harville Hendrix book a couple days ago and have only read a tidbit - I get bored easily hahaha - but I find his beliefs to be very soothing and helpful. And now, I've been watching your videos as they've completely resonated with me and made me feel HUMAN. And you mention a book I literally just bought. Hahaha just had to share. Thank you Kiyome.
Thank you angel . It was awesome for me.
Oh Kiyomi, it makes so much sense to me that my grieving process is fuelling my OCD. This year I lost two friends to suicide, I moved to a different province (from French speaking to English speaking), far away from my all my friends and family, I found a new job after being jobless for almost two years (thanks to the pandemic) and I have a new partner… I’ve had OCD for as long as I can remember but it’s never been as strong as it is right now. Your videos are helping me so much, you truly are a godsend. Your insights really make me reflect deeply…
ALSO, OMG YOU ARE SO GORGEOUS.
Sweet love, i'm so sorry about your two friends. My heart breaks and grieves for you, all on top of that moving, and being relocated and learning what it means to be with yourself and having lack of financial stability. You are a warrior! Give yourself so much compassion, love and kindness - you so deserve all of that
Thank you so much. ❤️❤️❤️
Kiyami, PLEASE READ THIS. OK?
I love you so much. You can't believe how much. You mean a lot to me. You and Ms. Aly Graymond, you saved my life 2 years ago as I was going through a very hard phase and could not have therapy or anything at all. If you two weren't making videos, I'd be dead by now because I was so suicidal and even tried once. In these 2 years after, I had my thoughts now and then, but these days it's just so more obvious. I think It has come back. I searched for ROCd vids and it made me so so happy that you and her are still available and are making videos still . I LOVE YOU SO MUCH YOU ARE MY LIFE SAVIOUR. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I can't have therapy with a therapist, due to some problems, I'm doing this self- therapy with the work of UA-cam. You and Ms. Graymond.
It's a hard work but I'm doing it. I've done that before and I'll do again.
I love you so much
I'm sooo happy you're here, beautiful one
Would you be able to take time to talk about infidelity and ROCD? I didn’t realize I had ROCD until 3 years after cheating. Has this been an experience others have had too? It’s been really hard to overcome the affair with ROCD. Thank you.
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I started dating my partner a month before my grandma passed away, it was so difficult trying to navigate a new relationship along with the death of my grandmother and I felt so guilty for never being fully present a lot of the time because the loss triggered so much change in my life. After that I began struggling with ROCD. My partner was and is extremely gracious about everything. Now that we are moving forward I found out that my grandfather is on borrowed time and I’m afraid I’m gonna be absent mentally again…/:
I had the exact same thing happen to me in February last year..we started saying feb 13 and she passed away March 15 after a very sudden decline. I can totally relate and I am here for you and sorry to heard about your grandfather. ❤️
@@rosinaformulaone I’m so sorry to hear about your grandmother as well. Sending you love ❤️
@@deannahernandez6541 thank you 🥰💖 Are you doing okay? Xx
@@rosinaformulaone day by day, I’m trying my best. And yourself?
Is numbness may be in the way of grief?
I know this might be reassurance, but is it possible for ROCD to be triggered during the honeymoon phase? This happened to me (btw, i'm diagnosed with OCD)
Hey, this is kind of late but are you possibly on birth control? Not sure if that had anything to do with it but my popped up when I started birth control and I'm the honeymoon phase. Not trying to reassure you too much but I got rid of it for a years and now have it again after grieving my grandmother and soon getting married
@@karligrace3838 if you think medication might be it, give it some months. Because everything changes when there're changes in hormones.
@@GamePlaySStuff hormones are the worse. I was fine when I came off that original birth control. Now Everytime I take out my nuvaring, I get ROCD but I'm fine once I have it in again
@@karligrace3838 I came off birth control when my ROCD started to get bad as I’d been totally erratic for months and soooosoo easily triggered, angered and anxious.. a month later I feel a difference and a lot more balanced
@@rosinaformulaone I think it took me like a year to balance out but I feel like it was more so a habit of toxic actions and thinking! On bc, I literally would cry everyday and get jealous when my now husband would talk to girls. I'm on a new birth control now which is pretty good but my rocd came back while I was going through a family death so I really think it does hit when your mind is most vulnerable
Hi, my rocd got better, almost disappeared, but there was another problem. I have a great fear of falling in love with someone else and physically betraying my partner. When I was 15, I loved flirting with guys, I loved attention and communication, I also took photos where my figure is visible and sent and enjoyed the reaction. I'm 20 now, and I understand that I'm afraid I'll start doing it again, because for me it's essentially a betrayal. I am so afraid that I control my behavior so as not to fall in love with someone else. I am afraid that if I let go of control, I will immediately betray my partner. I am afraid that because I did not have many partners, but only my husband, I did not get fat and that I want other men and that I will physically betray. I also have the following thoughts:
1 "What if I become happy and realize that I do not love my husband and we will break up"
2 "what if I put my figure and head in order and realize that I never loved my partner and I will stop choosing him and we will divorce"
3 "what if I start loving myself and stop loving my partner and we break up"
4 "what if I fall in love with another and betray my partner and we break up"
5 "what if I'm already in love with someone, literally looking at someone"
6 "what if I met my classmate not just like that, but it's fate and I'm in love with him"
these thoughts bother me
I want to develop, to be happy both inside and next to my husband, but I am afraid that if I become globally happy, successful, beautiful, I will definitely lose my husband. How do I deal with this, what to do? Maybe someone had something similar and you have advice?
Слава богу есть человек с которым можно пообщаться на русском языке)
@@levostapchuk9422 да что ж так палевно
@@Yappy_Cat ахахаха, тоже ОКР отношений? Есть инста? Поговорить по поводу ОКР отношений
@@levostapchuk9422 лучше тут, да и у меня оно немного успокоилось
@@Yappy_Cat а что у тебя было? Какие симптомы?
I lost my mom in late 2021, got engaged, and just recently my best friend ended our 7 year friendship. My grief has definitely fueled my ROCD to maximum. Luckily, I realized quickly on that my pain was causing me to project onto my partner. Here for more truth water, thank you Kiyomi for everything you do! 🤍 You are heaven sent.