Do You Compare Your Relationship To Others? Then THIS is for YOU (ROCD/Anxiety)

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  • Опубліковано 26 тра 2021
  • What does it mean if you compare your relationship to others? Does it mean something in specific about you or your relationship? Why does it come up with Relationship OCD/relationship anxiety? How do you use comparison as a way to awaken and deeper intimacy with yourself and your partner, and are you REALLY alone?
    Watch along as Kiyomi and 75 other people worldwide show you something that will change your perspective on comparison.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 34

  • @jennasciuto9796
    @jennasciuto9796 3 роки тому +90

    Kiyomi walked so we could run

    • @Awakenintolove
      @Awakenintolove  3 роки тому +9

      Jenna 😢 ❤️

    • @MegaMarilala
      @MegaMarilala 3 роки тому +2

      i laughed so hard, i love this comment ❤️

    • @lotto.2618
      @lotto.2618 3 роки тому +2

      And we run so our relationship can fly

    • @Awakenintolove
      @Awakenintolove  3 роки тому +2

      @@lotto.2618 and so does the world ;) because when we individually do our inner healing and work, the planet changes

  • @sweet_nerds73
    @sweet_nerds73 3 роки тому +27

    Truthfully, I used to compare myself and my relationship so much in the past few months. I use to think to myself “they look happy and not seem to worry about their relationship. I wish we could be this happy. Am I not as in love like they are?” Now that I have a clear mind and I think to myself “ why did I do such a silly thing? Whose to say I’m not in love?” Yes sometimes the anxiety and thoughts try knocking me down. I could feel hopeless for a moment but I overcome those fears,thoughts, and the constant comparison with others cause I know deep down that my love story is different from others. I know I can love and that I am strong. This relationship Ocd is real but it can be controlled. Hope anyone reading this comment finds their own freedom from relationship anxiety or rocd. Have hope ;)

  • @aurorasaladino31
    @aurorasaladino31 3 роки тому +19

    I can see my boyfriend and I's picture in the video and in that moment I was at my worst with ROCD! You're not alone

  • @vickymay3143
    @vickymay3143 3 роки тому +22

    I find it hard when I spend time with other couples, I compare how they look at eachother or whether they hold hands etc etc

    • @Mariaruiz-qc4uh
      @Mariaruiz-qc4uh 2 роки тому

      Same here. I started being jelous of my best friend because I would compare my relationship with hers all the time and I stopped to watch anything about relationships on social medi, it was so bad but now I'm feeling that I'm finally healing, it's hard but I'm better

  • @kitkatlittlebatvirusg3230
    @kitkatlittlebatvirusg3230 3 роки тому +17

    I cried. I always compare and I did lose myself in everything. I will heal. I will get better!

  • @tardigrade77
    @tardigrade77 3 роки тому +9

    Dear Kiyomi, this is such a powerful way of sending this most important message out to the world. You did an amazing job. You have helped me and so many others. Comparison is a big thing for me and I am grateful for this video - it shows me I am understood and not alone. Love you Kiyomi ❤️

  • @kathrynsutter6753
    @kathrynsutter6753 3 роки тому +2

    I just cried so much! At my worst I look back at photos and if I am happy in the photos with my partner. This reminded me that it's ok to have mixed emotions at times and photos don't prove anything. Thank you ❣️

  • @TheDarkskyla
    @TheDarkskyla 3 роки тому +5

    I'm so grateful for that channel I can feel understood

  • @raven7061
    @raven7061 3 роки тому

    Needed to hear this 🤍 you are an angel, Kiyomi 🙏 couldn’t get through this without you!

  • @heatherstirling6008
    @heatherstirling6008 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you Kiyomi ❤️

  • @karinak3322
    @karinak3322 3 роки тому +1

    Kiyomi this came at the best time!! I cant wait til youre taking more AIR clients!

  • @elenalockett7226
    @elenalockett7226 3 роки тому

    I see me! Thank you for this video💖

  • @KawaiiStudioO
    @KawaiiStudioO 3 роки тому +3

    This is such a helpful video! thank you so much Kiyomi 🦋 a video recommendation- how to quiet ROCD down on holiday trips with a partner. I've always felt like I have to feel perfect and in love and that ruins the trip.

  • @vixiegage8193
    @vixiegage8193 3 роки тому +4

    The only relationship where I truly gushed online about how amazing he was and posted so many photos and paragraphs, was my abusive one. It's like I felt the need to post all that stuff out of denial. My pics made us look like every other happy couple in these pics. Honestly my happy relationships I haven't felt the constant need to post about it.
    So bear it in mind, when thinking we all must look so happy. I and many others were/are in abusive situations disguised as happiness.

    • @Claudia-sk1ls
      @Claudia-sk1ls 2 роки тому +1

      Naturally, your comment triggered an obsessive thought within me: "what if I'm doing the same thing."
      Never "gushed" about him like you stated, but I've had temptations to post happy pictures of my partner and I online to display our happiness, possible in attempt to prove that we're okay; that we look how a couple "should" look.
      My relationship used to be quite toxic, we were both going through a lot that provoked us to hurt each other. But overtime we got better and we're much happier with each other now. But my mind keeps ruminating about the past and claims that we're "tainted" because of it. I scroll through our happy couply pictures on my phone and wonder if I should post it so that I look happy with him. But what if it's not true? What if I'm one of those couples who feel compelled because they're trying to "prove" something and ultimately fall apart.

  • @lotto.2618
    @lotto.2618 3 роки тому +1

    You are amazing❤️

  • @ashlynanderson565
    @ashlynanderson565 3 роки тому +3

    Not rOCD related, but i loveee your signature red lip 💄💋

  • @smk6736
    @smk6736 Рік тому +1

    My boyfriend broke up with me because of this... I wouldn't wish this on anyone...

  • @harajukuoracle712
    @harajukuoracle712 3 роки тому +1

    family 💗

  • @miramare1991
    @miramare1991 3 роки тому +3

    i know all of this on a rational level...but I dont feel like that. in the past few months my ocd has been comparing my bf with my ex and it is the most painfull theme. i also compare myself with other people and it has been breaking my heart

  • @worldsofwood8809
    @worldsofwood8809 3 роки тому +2

    I wonder if I had ROCD, because though I do all of the things that would indicate I do, I never doubt my feelings for them. I always doubt their feelings for me and OBSESS over it. Like he didn't say 'I love you' fast enough or passionate enough, or do they wish they were still with their ex. What if him and his ex had a better relationship, and she's the one that got away and I'm the 2nd best he's settling for.. And I just obsess and obsess and seek reassurance and talk to my friends about it for reassurance, Google endlessly.. and it makes me so anxious and uncomfortable :(

    • @miramare1991
      @miramare1991 3 роки тому +3

      This is also rocd. You can either obsess if you love your partner or if he loves you. It can go both ways

    • @user-oo8zc5ny8e
      @user-oo8zc5ny8e 2 роки тому

      Yep this is rocd

  • @ellieworcester3907
    @ellieworcester3907 3 місяці тому

    How you do you know if it's your anxiety or your intuition?

  • @pragyatripathi4046
    @pragyatripathi4046 3 роки тому +2

    Can someone please please tell me that how many months ( at least) are needed to get better with course...I feel like I quit

    • @sanathsaleelan9247
      @sanathsaleelan9247 2 роки тому

      Don't worry..I'm also in same situation like you...i need to talk to you regarding this...do you have Instagram??? Lets heal together and help together for healing?

  • @ellieworcester3907
    @ellieworcester3907 3 місяці тому

    I keep comparing our relationship to UA-cam and tiktok. Anyone else do that ?

  • @lezzegonzalez5755
    @lezzegonzalez5755 3 роки тому +1

    ❤️