First story is one that I lived. Keeping it brief; a first date. Met for coffee, and things were going so well we ordered lunch. Once outside and wanting to keep the chemistry going, I suggested a desert place nearby. He tee'd off on me like a new golf ball in a tile bathroom. Accused me of leading him on just for a free meal etc, etc, etc. I tucked a $20 into his shirt pocket and suggested he use it toward therapy.
That first story as soon as you get the question “will you serve your man” you ask “do you make an enough money to have a housewife that serves you?” And leave when he melts down about it, this mans is for the dump.
I’ll serve anyone who’s keeping a roof over my head and a little money in my pocket. Like many femme folx, I’m a natural caretaker, so it’s definitely part of my skill set. Problem is, men forget that they have to be the providers in order to live that lifestyle with equity. Literally no one wants to serve and provide.
The food shaming one..... this is exactly why, as a single woman I pay for my OWN meal on a first date. I don't expect anything and I don't owe them anything!
Yepp! I'm paying my own bc I'm not about to have someone think I owe them my whole dignity for a $15 entree and sweet tea. If he insists, then sure he can pay. But I make sure to at least take away the stigma that I'm a woman whose just out for a free meal. Thankfully I'm married and not dating anymore, but mannnn, I don't miss the stupid games people play with each other just to hurt their own feelings in the end. The 'alpha bros' online teaching men to act this way are the reason for the loneliness epidemic, not women for knowing that's a load of mental illness we don't have time fo and refusing to date the ick.
I've been married for over 20 years, but I still remember going on a first date with a guy who asked ahead of time if it would be okay to pay for ourselves because he just didn't have a lot of money. I could tell he was a little embarrassed, but I appreciated the honesty and we planned an inexpensive date since I was also in the same boat. We ended up going mini golfing and had a picnic lunch which was a lot of fun. How is it that these guys can't just communicate up front about things?
And that's how it should be done if that's the situation. Good on you for not judging solely based on that. 🤩 now this has put me in the mood for a picnic date!! lol
I told a guy who was a friend, who asked me out on a date to this fancy restaurant... I have CPTSD and asked if we could just do fish n chips on the beach or something along those lines. He didn't want to do that, he wanted the restaurant... the date never happened. Weird. He thought that fish n chips on the beach wasn't good enough to take me on a first date. He was a lovely friend and we stayed friends but he wanted to impress so much and I'm just a fussy simple woman lol
My ex would throw a tantrum if things weren’t 50/50, if he did something for me he would expect me to say thank you profusely, he always kept a list of expensive things he bought me while would often forget about me buying him things consistently. Omg it was exhausting - dump these people.
My ex wasn't quite as bad as that but it did end up becoming a tit-for-tat situation where well you get to do this so I get to do that. Or you got to buy this so I get to buy that. It just started to bother me that it started to become kind of transactional. I don't want to have to keep score in a relationship. Just one of many reasons that he's now an ex.
@munchkinmunchkin Did you marry a pitiable, too? My friends called my ex 'Poor eddie' ☹️ bc he was always trying to illicit sympathy for something. He was THE PREFECT BOYFRIEND, but as soon as we were married, I met the real him; real quick 🫣
I dated a guy like this too, they also keep tabs on " activities" in the bedroom. Who "owes" what, how long it's been, how many in a week. I could go on but you can imagine. Leave immediately!
I think the guy who drops $100 and leaves, lost interest immediately she said she was going to see her friend after the date. He thought he'd get lucky by taking her out, then realised it was going to be a definite NO as she had plans. I 100% believe that was why he dipped out.
I missed that! It wasn't because he didn't want to pay else he wouldn't have dropped the $100. I thought he was making all those comments because he thought she was eating too much, as if she doesn't have the kind of figure she could eat a whole cow dipped in barbecue and topped with cheese and not put on an inch!
I'm 60 yrs old. The way I was taught about going on dates was this: First, always make sure you carry enough cash to cover anything you may be ordering that night. Dinner, drinks, tickets, whatever. Even if you're certain the guy is treating for everything. Just to make sure. Second: Never order the most expensive stuff on the menu, and don't go overboard on the extras like appetizers, drinks and desserts. Basically, this way you're covered no matter what. If he treats, cool. If you want to offer to pick up part of the tab, or drinks or whatever, you're covered. And, by ordering discretely and maybe offering to pay for some things, you show you're civilized and that you too have an interest in making the night a pleasant experience.
I have a tendency if I am going somewhere and I know someone else is paying that I try to pick something on the menu that is middle-of-the-road price-wise. When we go out with my fiancé's parents, they always insist on paying and I know they don't care what I order but I try to stay away from the really expensive stuff. I did joke one time when we all went out to dinner for my birthday and his mom said to pick a bottle of wine off the menu and we could share. I joked about this $500 bottle they had on there. She was like yeah not that one but she knew I was joking. I told her that I absolutely did not have the palate to tell the difference between a $500 bottle and a $35 bottle so that would be a waste of money anyway.
Yes, I'm a middle aged lady and I was raised the same. If your date offers to pay, accept gracefully. But always be able to walk out with your head held high and not owing anything to anyone. And always, when invited, look to what the other person is ordering and stay in that price range or lower. Ordering something very expensive on a first date *is* taking advantage of the other person.
I always split the check until I'm comfortable with the person. I don't want anything held over my head or for someone to feel taken advantage of. That is not what I want my relationships to be built on.
I’m with you on that 💯 And I kinda think, that guy in the check splitting story, just thought she might have been a girl like that; a girl that prefers to split. He even said “Are you sure you don’t wanna split?? , I ate most of the food” he sounded flabbergasted by that statement haha So he was fully aware. He might have just not really seen the check on the table, because some people don’t. She was very eager to leave so she definitely noticed the check… I would have just said “Hey, so what are we doing with the bill, you guna pay or should we pay Separate” mabey a little uncomfortable to say but that called communication. Anyways, lol that’s not a reason to be DONE👏🏽with dating. 😅It gets worse hahah
My first thought about the first date is that he overreacted to her asking him to bring her a water. A better way would have been for him to respond in a kind voice with something like "why don't we stretch our legs and go together?" The fact that he was offended instead was silly. She was right to walk out on that one. I'm so glad that I am 70 years old and don't have to play the dating games. I am so excited for you and Mike, Charlotte. A long, healthy and happy life to you both. 💕
I just wanna say that I would not be offended if a man took me out for dinner and told me he could only afford x amount. Everyone's got struggles. If he's willing to pay for dinner, and he's a good guy, I'm gonna stay in that budget. But it's gotta be a proper conversation... not... food shaming ffs.
Exactly! Just communicate if you have a tight budget. A real woman will appreciate the honesty and stick within the budget or even offer to pay for herself.
I agree. Went on a first date at my favorite restaurant and ordered my usual (16oz ribeye) and he blanched. Quickly explained and was happy to pay my own way.
Yes, I had a date like that. I had already met the guy in a group setting. He asked me out, but told me in advance that his money was tight. He asked if I minded going to a specific chain restaurant because he had a coupon for buy 1 entree and get the 2nd half off. He was a nice enough guy and I didn't mind. I also have a good job and wouldn't have minded paying. I asked if he wanted to see a movie after also and I'd either buy dinner or the movie tickets or we could split it however was easiest for his budget. He bought dinner and I bought the movie tickets and drinks at the movies. I had no problem with that because everyone has money struggles. Strangely, the chemistry we had when in the group setting was not the same when we were without the group. He was quiet and we had a hard time keeping a conversation going well and we didn't go out again. I found out a week later from a mutual friend that he felt so bad that he couldn't afford a proper date and was embarrassed that I paid for more than half, so he just shut down because he didn't want to date someone that deserved someone more financially stable and he shouldn't have asked me out since he couldn't afford to date. I would have preferred to have a nice, comfortable evening out with good conversation, but I was turned off by his lack of conversation. I didn't mind paying the few dollars, which it all amounted to, if we could have enjoyed ourselves. At least I got to see a movie I wanted to go to though.
About 10 years ago I went on a first date with a guy and he invited me to a sushi dinner. I’ll say that again…HE invited ME to get sushi. He proceeded to order, not eat anything, say he actually hated sushi and he just got up and left. Just left! No Goodbye or anything it was bizarre. I’m so happy I’m out of the dating world 😂 to all still in it, there’s wonderful people out there, don’t give up ❤
10:46 I had a date who invited me out for my birthday. He told me “let me take you out- you choose wherever you want to go!” I chose a middle-road place. Like $35-45 per person range. When we ordered, he asked what the best drink was. I told him and he ordered one. I told the waiter, “I’ll have the same.” He looks at me and says, “oh, you are going to order a drink too?” WTF #1. Then when we ordered entrees, he orders his choice. I ordered my choice then he says, “Oh, you’re ordering food too? I thought we would share.” WTF #2. He didn’t mention sharing nor asked me what I wanted, just chose what he wanted and expected me to eat it?! Seriously. DONT INVITE SOMEONE FOR A BIRTHDAY DINNER IF YOU CANT EVEN AFFORD A BIRTHDAY DINNER!
My flabbers are fully gasted. It was your BIRTHDAY. When he offered to take you wherever you wanted to go but then balked at you ordering food and a drink, i guess he meant he was only covering the ride 😭
Man my thoughts went dark when he got mad when she asked for water. I thought he was mad because he couldn't hide the taste of drugs in the water. I am kinda glad that wasn't the normal thought pattern of the woman or Charlotte.
Not necessarily even drugs, it could even just be the alcohol - I've heard a lot of stories of guys getting mad when a woman asks for something non-alcoholic or a food item that'd be cheaper than the drink, and the guy gets mad because his entire intention was to get her to drink and lower her inhibitions.
I think he got upset when she asked for WATER bc that lessened the likelihood that he was "gonna get some" at the end of the night. That's why *he was keeping score; so he could score later.* 'You owe me bc I bought you a taco & water' doesn't really fit into his dastardly plan, but if she was drunk...
That's the plan. If douche canoes couldn't count on a girl's tipsy sense of obligation they'd never get to score on the first date, and since they're never getting a second date they'd never get any at all!
18 yrs married here, and same. He goes & gets the food, drinks, and any other typical thing. He does everything for me without even asking. Even after 18 years.
Tomorrow is 38 years for me and my husband. I have been blessed!❤ Make no mistake, it’s been life, but he’s always been by my side. He’s an exceptional handy man, he can fix anything and does which also means I don’t get anything new. 😅
When I was younger and we kids wanted my mom to continuously do things for us, she said this one line that I'll never forget and I still use on others: *You have two hands and a heartbeat, do it yourself.*
It's why I have been single for a decade. In not interested in games and taking care of a grown child. The dating scene has changed, without a doubt. People feel they have so many options, it's truly sad. Nah I'll enjoy being single and doing my own thing when I feel like😂😅
5:23 The irony of Fresh and Fit is that they constantly give out "relationship" "dating" advice but the only women they date are from Sugar Daddy sites 😂
yes! that always confused me, like do they really think they’re in any position to give advice when their relationships are all based on a transaction?
I always pay for my own meal on the first date. It can be expensive for men/women to keep paying. And never to my home until I'm comfortable. Also, tell the date why I paying for my own meal. (the truth is I don't want them to feel I owe them anything)
My approach is, unless I do not intend on going out with them again, where I will insist on splitting the bill, taking turns feels the most natural for me. Not a penny pinching but fair arrangement that feels communial. Unless there is a massiv unevenness in what is orsered or other agreed upon arrangement. Once I let a guy pay for me, cause I already payed for a train to be able to see him and he kinda owed me for sonething, in any other case I would have only allowed it under the agreement of I pay next time. But to be fair, most often I go out with friends. Your approach makes a lot of sense to me
When I was dating, I would let the guys pay but I would only have us go to places that I could afford just in case they didn't want to pay. I didn't want to be at some fancy place I couldn't afford and be stuck with a bill.
I serve my man sometimes, I set out his clothes, fix his lunch, but it's because he does the same for me. I had Sunday off and didn't lift a finger or butt cheek off the couch. 3 homemade meals and fresh juice all day. That's how you get a woman to serve you! Do for her and she will do for you.
As a woman who gets annoyed with women expecting literal princess and queen treatment all the time, that first story was wild.. lol. like getting someone water, when I was already getting myself a drink, is something I would do for almost anyone, never mind an actual date. That guy did her a huge favor showing who he was early. lol
This is why when I went on dates I would NEVER assume he’s paying and I made it super clear I was covering my own costs unless he insisted otherwise. Ugh that man who just left after she ordered needs to use his big boy words.
In Brasil 🇧🇷 where I’m from we call em cheapskates “Pão Duro” which is our word for spatula: they’re so cheap they scrape every single morsel off the container. Nothing left. 🙈 7:55
If a man asks if you are the type of woman to serve a man, tell him that one serves a king. Then ask him what his qualifications to lead your kingdom are. Take out a notepad or your phone and take notes. Because I guarantee you, none of these mofo’s these days are qualified to manage a doggie daycare, much less your life. I say this as an old woman who has seen ‘em come and go. Tell them you are looking for a partner to share your life with, not a king to rule over it. 💕
Nooooo whomever asks pays unless it’s established we are paying for our own. I get wanting to date on a budget, but have a conversation about it!! Let me be prepared to be able to do that. Like we can go on a picnic if you want, we don’t gotta be crazy about it.
I was saying above....that I thought...it's always been if I ask you out...then it's assumed I'm paying. If I said to you. Hey Erik, I'm enjoying talking with you and getting to know you better, can I take you to dinner? That means can I treat you to dinner....right? Vice versa
I'd be pretty impressed if a dude brought a simple picnic! Could eat almost anywhere on a budget! But if you invite me and pick the place, dinners on you!
@ that’s just dating 101. That was and has been the rule. If you can think of something better than, having a grown up conversation and saying; “I’ll pay my half”, then by all means, bestie! I’m all for new innovations.
celibacy is peace, honestly. the other day I thought "why I was having all this drama last year at the same tim.... oh... I was dating. right." I prefer peace, thank you.
As a married woman I have to thank all the "bad date" social media content for sparking a mutual renewed appreciation between my husband and I. Watching the sad sorted struggles of the dating community has also inspired a resurgence in our 'honeymoon phase' affections. I mean no disrespect by saying this. What I am saying is that I am grateful for my partner, who I met at a time in my life when I had given up on the opposite sex and dating in general all together. Our meeting was a happy accident. Your happy accident can happen at any time. Keep your heads up ladies. Don't give up on love. Somehow love will find you.
First guy wanted a pat on the ass for doing the bare minimum on a first date like she owed him something. He basically viewed her as an asset and a 'right', not a person with feelings and a soul. Ugh. One reason I choose the single life. So much simpler.
These are my rules for myself in regards to paying for outings: 1. If I'm asking someone out, I'm paying. 2. If someone asks me out, I'm going to pay for my expenses and they will pay for theirs, unless they say they are paying. If they do offer to pay, then I'm paying the next time we go out. 3. If I'm in a relationship, we take turns paying or I'll pay if they can't pay. If it's for a holiday/celebration of some sorts, I offer to pay (expect on my birthday) or say I'm paying. 4. Communicate the relevant point above to whoever I'm making plans with so we are on the same page. If they don't agree with any of it and we can't reach a compromise, then the plans aren't made. 5. If I can't afford to go out and pay for myself + the other person, even when they say they are paying, I don't go out. That's all regardless of my gender or the gender of the other person. 😅
That man who left $100 and left did that because he realized he wasn't gonna have sex with her. He was hoping to get a hook up from a date, and not just have a date. And I don't know what restaurant they are going to but $100 should cover the drink, appetizer, and meal for 1 person. I can't imagine what restaurant costs $100 per person unless it is a michelin star restaurant.
Exactly what I was thinking about the 100$. Everyone acting like he was cheap. He was weird, yes, but he probably still covered her food, so...enjoy a solo dinner, that might even be better than a bad date
The same men who want women to be submissive stay-at-home wives are the same ones who complain when I woman expects chivalry on the first date. Like pick one! You want us to be submissive? Then expects us to be helpless. You want us to pay for you? Then expect us to be strong, independent women who have expectations for how we’re treated.
Why are men so weird about paying for the date? Our first date with my gf I drove 30 min to pick her up, drove another 30 to go watch all the firework shows of the area on the top of a mountain, chilled in the car and when I got hungry we went to mcDonalds and I paid for my food and hers. Drove her back to her place and waited until she got inside then drove 30 min home absolutely buzzing about our date…I was the one that asked her out, and even if I hadn’t so what? I got hungry I wasn’t gonna be an as*hat and leave her to pay or just eat in front of her wtf? Istg these men are trying to be tough but act like babies, learn some decorum.
I wonder what these guys would do if they were invited over to someone’s house for a dinner and then at the end of the dinner .. they are presented with a grocery reciept and they must pay half .
That guy wants a submissive catering woman but he is such a "good provider" that he buys her one frickin' taco and feels overwhelmed???! 😂 Isn't it funny that it's usually the men who cannot deliver much that have the most unthinkable expectations?!
14:36 its not about the money. Its the fact that she was eating the amount she wanted to eat. He was probably expecting her to order a salad or something small
I’m older and it used to be understood that it’s horribly expensive to be a woman-manicures, pedicures, expensive body creams, perfume, hair removal from everything but our heads, nice jewelry, etc. etc. etc. Men say well skip it then, but they’re only interested in the well groomed and well dressed women who invest countless hours and a fortune in appearing naturally attractive. Men paying for dates was to provide a little equilibrium. Women have really screwed ourselves in many ways. Paying might make us feel independent but it put most of the cost of dating on us.
I'm 30 and haven't dated since HS for various reasons, but my current one is that I'm just not in a financial or psychological state where I should be bringing anyone else into my situation. I think a lot of this shit would be solved by people taking themselves off the market until they get themselves right mentally.
I'm so grateful these videos are around to TEACH THE YOUTH all these faux pas. I didn't have a Charlotte telling me to value myself and shouting at my dates to "HAVE SOME DECORUM", but I wish I had. DOING THE LORD'S WORK.
I’ve been off the dating market for 7 years and IM SO GLAD. ❤ My husband and I are bestfriends and prefer to spend time with each other than going out with “friends”. 😂 We still do- but definitely prefer to spend time together w/ our toddler. ❤
Been thinking about getting back into the dating pool, then I see videos like this. Thank you Charlotte for reminding me it’s better to be a single cat lady. 😂❤
I was dating a loooong time ago, but I would never let the guy pay for me - I always made sure we went halfsies on everything. It was the only way to be sure there were no 'favours' expected, especially on a first date.
There are crazies out there everywhere. I have a friend who asked a lady out for a coffee date. She said no 'I dont do coffee dates'. Ok, no problem my friend says. So he asked out someone else and the first lady got mad at him! Cant we all just get along?
I am, recently turned 51 years old. My ex husband and i separated 8 1/2 years ago. Very much out of the blue! I had no clue that there were any issues between us! He left for work one morning and then sent me a text that he wanted a divorce and i needed to move out. The way that whole situation went down definitely turned me off from any kind of relationship with a man!! 8 1/2 years later and ive still not been on a single date! There are times i think that id like to meet someone (although that feeling normally lasts all of two seconds!!) 🤣 It really does suck that i feel this way because i also feel like i am a young 51 and i have a lot of life ahead of me. And its sad to think that i will more than likely be spending all those years alone!! I fill all my extra time with my children and grandchildren! Being with my grandbabies is what makes me the happiest!! Im rambling! 😂 Anyhow i guess whenever i start to think about dating again, ill just have to watch one of Charlotte's videos and reassure myself ive made the right decision over the past 8+ years!!😂 Its scary out there! 😂
My best friend tried so hard to get me on dating to meet a guy. She told me thats the only way to find people and got so frustrated with me when I refused. I told her my man will come to me because I refused to try dating. Manifested it too, met my husband at my acupuncture clinic. So happy to have him and to never go through the horrors of dating
Love you, Charlotte ❤🎉 I met my husband 2 years being divorced and being married for 10 years to an abusive jerk in 2007. It was when online dating was beginning. I went through a lot of frogs before I met my prince. This marriage stuck! Therapy and friends and the book "It's Called a Break Up Because It's Broken by Greg Behrendt really helped me not make the same mistakes. Highly recommend!
I’m 41 and when I was dating in college, I never let anyone pay because I always felt like there was some obligation involved. I met this guy on campus and went on a coffee date with him one afternoon because I didn’t want to commit to dinner and paid for my own tea. We stayed at the coffee shop talking for 8 hours until it closed, had another date the next day and the next day and then I basically moved in with him. We’ve been inseparable and in love ever since. Celebrating 21 years together on Feb 9! I hope everyone is as lucky as we are. ❤
Thank you for making our day with your posts, Charlotte. I always have you as my daily background noise and always look for your posts especially on sad days. Keep shinning. 🥰
In the days I was dating I would always say I want separate cheques. That way I can eat whatever I want without being concerned it was too expensive or feeling under any obligation. Several times the guy insisted on paying. Any time that happened it turned out we weren't a good match.
No the man said "lets go & get our drinks" meaning both go & get drinks. But she said "would u mind just getting me a water", so he got offended because he took it as she wanted to be waited on. He didn't offer to get their drinks Charlotte. But that was a childish way to act over a simple request. If u want a more "traditional" relationship where the man is the head of house & the woman waits on him. Then that's something that u need to convey over the course of getting to know each other. You don't have to bombard her with all those questions within the first hr of the first date.
Used to be that women would order a salad on the date and barely eat. You could get a house salad for $2.00. IT WAS CHEAP GUYS. Over the years from 80s, and 90s we got tired of hearing "you barely eat.". Now women eat and the other half gets pissy. Just split the damn bill 😊
I dated in the prehistory of the 70s and 80s. I wish I could have vented in a public forum then. I only have a brief story to retell. I went out on a first date with someone I knew from the neighborhood. We dined in a local restaurant. He ordered for me, without asking! The first course was snails! There's more, but i think that should suffice.
My man almost had a heart attack that I didn't want to order like wine an extras on our first few dates. I bought dinner onces like the 4th date an year an half later he won't stop telling people xx
Not even drinks. Coffee and possibly during the afternoon at least 3 neighbourhoods away from where you live, so you can dash quickly and never see his face again 😂 (and pay for your own coffee lmao)
I’m a waiter and girls do be ordering crazy amounts of food when they come to my job just cause they want it. They don’t all do this just cause it might be free. We’re just hungry sometimes lol
Love how you talk up men and show your♥️. I had 50 years with mine before he passed. The secret is no matter how mad either of you get. NEVER USE THE WORD DIVORCE. GOD BLESS.
I feel like they usually drop at GMT -5. (Noon in the eastern time zone.) I only noticed this because my lunch break starts at noon several days a week. Have a great day, fellow potato!!❤
I ALWAYS go dutch of the first date. I’ve also been known to sneak off to the restroom to find the server to pay for EVERYTHING in order to have a free break. Except for drinks. I don’t pay for anyone’s liquor.
Your videos get me through my work day! ❤ So happy for this new post today 😍 especially since Im pretty sure I'm getting sick. Need Chars antics to get me through 😂
It may not have been about money. I once had a guy question the fact that I ate my entire Caesar salad with salmon. He mentioned something about being worried about my future weight
I refused to let my husband pay for my food and drinks on our first (blind/double) date. I didn’t want to “owe” him anything. If it didn’t work out nobody lost anything more than a few hours of their life. It’s just better that way.
I never went on a date before. These videos scare me to try. If I did, I might just pay for my own food even on first date just so the others wouldn't feel like I owe them anything
yes. I did this. And if I liked the guy I would buy his too, and see if he offers to buy the next dinner date so there is a reason for a second date (id say it works most of the time, or if he just cheaps out lets u pay and ghosts you, its fine too at least its just his loss, and now you know what he is). But don't let dudes buy your dinner, especially if they give off that vibe, the vibe of "transaction".... I hate that so much like how is a sandwich worth a kiss hug or other things? ugh... transactional dating types really pissed me off.
@marching27 I've never really done dating nor had a boyfriend so I wouldn't know much about all of these. Dating apps sound scary to me cause like u said, everything seems transactional there and tnen clubbing sounds like a nightmare. Some of the comments even stated they thought the guy from the first story might be pissed off cause he drugged the drink in which it didnt even struck my mind. No offense but why does dating sound exhausting and dangerous at the same time?
It's really nice to see that man in other countries are acting the same as here (I live in Austria). I really started to think that I'm the problem when the men don't want to talk or only answer with a word.
Love my fellow Canadian neighbor. I’m so sorry “we” failed you guys “we”meaning the people that I am not associated with since I live in America 🇨🇦 much love from the USA you make my day brighter!
First story is one that I lived. Keeping it brief; a first date. Met for coffee, and things were going so well we ordered lunch. Once outside and wanting to keep the chemistry going, I suggested a desert place nearby. He tee'd off on me like a new golf ball in a tile bathroom. Accused me of leading him on just for a free meal etc, etc, etc. I tucked a $20 into his shirt pocket and suggested he use it toward therapy.
Excellent 😁 👍
Nice
Gonna do this next time 😂
Perfect response!
You’re my hero!
Sometimes i feel sad I'm single, then I watch these videos and I don't feel like even trying to date anymore.
Same! 😅
I feel the same
Ikrrr 😆
Hang in there hun! Your person is out there!🍀💜
Saamee, I just turn into a ball of rejection. No dating for me 🙅♀
That first story as soon as you get the question “will you serve your man” you ask “do you make an enough money to have a housewife that serves you?” And leave when he melts down about it, this mans is for the dump.
Yeah, they tend to make U-turn into "You're a gold digger!" territory immediately.
They don't want girlfriends/wives. They want moms with benefit.
I’ll serve anyone who’s keeping a roof over my head and a little money in my pocket. Like many femme folx, I’m a natural caretaker, so it’s definitely part of my skill set. Problem is, men forget that they have to be the providers in order to live that lifestyle with equity. Literally no one wants to serve and provide.
The food shaming one..... this is exactly why, as a single woman I pay for my OWN meal on a first date. I don't expect anything and I don't owe them anything!
Exactly.
Yes, this makes everything clear and takes away his ability to imply you owe him anything.
Or attempt to let him pay so you can see his true colors AND THEN pay for your own.
Yepp! I'm paying my own bc I'm not about to have someone think I owe them my whole dignity for a $15 entree and sweet tea. If he insists, then sure he can pay. But I make sure to at least take away the stigma that I'm a woman whose just out for a free meal.
Thankfully I'm married and not dating anymore, but mannnn, I don't miss the stupid games people play with each other just to hurt their own feelings in the end. The 'alpha bros' online teaching men to act this way are the reason for the loneliness epidemic, not women for knowing that's a load of mental illness we don't have time fo and refusing to date the ick.
it was food shaming, not the money... men are still shaming women for being BIG eaters.
I've been married for over 20 years, but I still remember going on a first date with a guy who asked ahead of time if it would be okay to pay for ourselves because he just didn't have a lot of money. I could tell he was a little embarrassed, but I appreciated the honesty and we planned an inexpensive date since I was also in the same boat. We ended up going mini golfing and had a picnic lunch which was a lot of fun. How is it that these guys can't just communicate up front about things?
Because the Internet has taught them that all women expect every man to be a millionaire and they all shame men who aren't.
And that's how it should be done if that's the situation. Good on you for not judging solely based on that. 🤩 now this has put me in the mood for a picnic date!! lol
I told a guy who was a friend, who asked me out on a date to this fancy restaurant... I have CPTSD and asked if we could just do fish n chips on the beach or something along those lines. He didn't want to do that, he wanted the restaurant... the date never happened. Weird. He thought that fish n chips on the beach wasn't good enough to take me on a first date. He was a lovely friend and we stayed friends but he wanted to impress so much and I'm just a fussy simple woman lol
My ex would throw a tantrum if things weren’t 50/50, if he did something for me he would expect me to say thank you profusely, he always kept a list of expensive things he bought me while would often forget about me buying him things consistently. Omg it was exhausting - dump these people.
Its a pretty unrealistic way to have a relationship tbh
The thing is it’s very rare it’s 50/50 like did he do half of all the domestic work, cooking, childcare etc? Glad you’re rid of him.
My ex wasn't quite as bad as that but it did end up becoming a tit-for-tat situation where well you get to do this so I get to do that. Or you got to buy this so I get to buy that. It just started to bother me that it started to become kind of transactional. I don't want to have to keep score in a relationship. Just one of many reasons that he's now an ex.
@munchkinmunchkin Did you marry a pitiable, too? My friends called my ex 'Poor eddie' ☹️ bc he was always trying to illicit sympathy for something.
He was THE PREFECT BOYFRIEND, but as soon as we were married, I met the real him; real quick 🫣
I dated a guy like this too, they also keep tabs on " activities" in the bedroom. Who "owes" what, how long it's been, how many in a week. I could go on but you can imagine. Leave immediately!
Thank you for the continuing refresher that being single is not the worst fate ever 😂
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Single AF over here and happy! I’ll live my happy little life with my cat and pull out the popcorn to watch other peoples’ drama 😂
Being single is the best fate ever.
I think the guy who drops $100 and leaves, lost interest immediately she said she was going to see her friend after the date. He thought he'd get lucky by taking her out, then realised it was going to be a definite NO as she had plans. I 100% believe that was why he dipped out.
❤❤❤ oooh ok..now that makes sense
I concur
I was thinking the same thing. He was looking for a reason to leave but not be an ahole in his mind.
That and probably the cost of he meal. For some girls dates are just a meal ticket. So he probably felt like that aswell
I missed that! It wasn't because he didn't want to pay else he wouldn't have dropped the $100.
I thought he was making all those comments because he thought she was eating too much, as if she doesn't have the kind of figure she could eat a whole cow dipped in barbecue and topped with cheese and not put on an inch!
I'm 60 yrs old. The way I was taught about going on dates was this: First, always make sure you carry enough cash to cover anything you may be ordering that night. Dinner, drinks, tickets, whatever. Even if you're certain the guy is treating for everything. Just to make sure. Second: Never order the most expensive stuff on the menu, and don't go overboard on the extras like appetizers, drinks and desserts. Basically, this way you're covered no matter what. If he treats, cool. If you want to offer to pick up part of the tab, or drinks or whatever, you're covered. And, by ordering discretely and maybe offering to pay for some things, you show you're civilized and that you too have an interest in making the night a pleasant experience.
and enough for your cab fare home.
I have a tendency if I am going somewhere and I know someone else is paying that I try to pick something on the menu that is middle-of-the-road price-wise. When we go out with my fiancé's parents, they always insist on paying and I know they don't care what I order but I try to stay away from the really expensive stuff. I did joke one time when we all went out to dinner for my birthday and his mom said to pick a bottle of wine off the menu and we could share. I joked about this $500 bottle they had on there. She was like yeah not that one but she knew I was joking. I told her that I absolutely did not have the palate to tell the difference between a $500 bottle and a $35 bottle so that would be a waste of money anyway.
Same and I'm in my 30's, never expect for anyone to cover for me and I like it that way... all my friends are the same, but maybe is a cultural thing
Yes, I'm a middle aged lady and I was raised the same. If your date offers to pay, accept gracefully. But always be able to walk out with your head held high and not owing anything to anyone.
And always, when invited, look to what the other person is ordering and stay in that price range or lower. Ordering something very expensive on a first date *is* taking advantage of the other person.
This. 100%
I always split the check until I'm comfortable with the person. I don't want anything held over my head or for someone to feel taken advantage of. That is not what I want my relationships to be built on.
I’m with you on that 💯 And I kinda think, that guy in the check splitting story, just thought she might have been a girl like that; a girl that prefers to split. He even said “Are you sure you don’t wanna split?? , I ate most of the food” he sounded flabbergasted by that statement haha So he was fully aware. He might have just not really seen the check on the table, because some people don’t. She was very eager to leave so she definitely noticed the check… I would have just said “Hey, so what are we doing with the bill, you guna pay or should we pay Separate” mabey a little uncomfortable to say but that called communication. Anyways, lol that’s not a reason to be DONE👏🏽with dating. 😅It gets worse hahah
If asking for water is requesting the princess treatment we are in trouble!!!
My first thought about the first date is that he overreacted to her asking him to bring her a water. A better way would have been for him to respond in a kind voice with something like "why don't we stretch our legs and go together?" The fact that he was offended instead was silly. She was right to walk out on that one. I'm so glad that I am 70 years old and don't have to play the dating games.
I am so excited for you and Mike, Charlotte. A long, healthy and happy life to you both. 💕
I just wanna say that I would not be offended if a man took me out for dinner and told me he could only afford x amount. Everyone's got struggles. If he's willing to pay for dinner, and he's a good guy, I'm gonna stay in that budget. But it's gotta be a proper conversation... not... food shaming ffs.
Exactly! Just communicate if you have a tight budget. A real woman will appreciate the honesty and stick within the budget or even offer to pay for herself.
Exactly!
I agree.
Went on a first date at my favorite restaurant and ordered my usual (16oz ribeye) and he blanched. Quickly explained and was happy to pay my own way.
Yes, I had a date like that. I had already met the guy in a group setting. He asked me out, but told me in advance that his money was tight. He asked if I minded going to a specific chain restaurant because he had a coupon for buy 1 entree and get the 2nd half off. He was a nice enough guy and I didn't mind. I also have a good job and wouldn't have minded paying. I asked if he wanted to see a movie after also and I'd either buy dinner or the movie tickets or we could split it however was easiest for his budget. He bought dinner and I bought the movie tickets and drinks at the movies. I had no problem with that because everyone has money struggles. Strangely, the chemistry we had when in the group setting was not the same when we were without the group. He was quiet and we had a hard time keeping a conversation going well and we didn't go out again. I found out a week later from a mutual friend that he felt so bad that he couldn't afford a proper date and was embarrassed that I paid for more than half, so he just shut down because he didn't want to date someone that deserved someone more financially stable and he shouldn't have asked me out since he couldn't afford to date. I would have preferred to have a nice, comfortable evening out with good conversation, but I was turned off by his lack of conversation. I didn't mind paying the few dollars, which it all amounted to, if we could have enjoyed ourselves. At least I got to see a movie I wanted to go to though.
About 10 years ago I went on a first date with a guy and he invited me to a sushi dinner. I’ll say that again…HE invited ME to get sushi. He proceeded to order, not eat anything, say he actually hated sushi and he just got up and left. Just left! No Goodbye or anything it was bizarre. I’m so happy I’m out of the dating world 😂 to all still in it, there’s wonderful people out there, don’t give up ❤
That’s wiiiillld 😲
That's hilarious. I can just imagine the confusion 😂
I salute the brave people trying to find love in today's dating world. My socially anxious a** could never do it though
10:46 I had a date who invited me out for my birthday. He told me “let me take you out- you choose wherever you want to go!” I chose a middle-road place. Like $35-45 per person range. When we ordered, he asked what the best drink was. I told him and he ordered one. I told the waiter, “I’ll have the same.” He looks at me and says, “oh, you are going to order a drink too?” WTF #1. Then when we ordered entrees, he orders his choice. I ordered my choice then he says, “Oh, you’re ordering food too? I thought we would share.” WTF #2. He didn’t mention sharing nor asked me what I wanted, just chose what he wanted and expected me to eat it?! Seriously. DONT INVITE SOMEONE FOR A BIRTHDAY DINNER IF YOU CANT EVEN AFFORD A BIRTHDAY DINNER!
My flabbers are fully gasted. It was your BIRTHDAY. When he offered to take you wherever you wanted to go but then balked at you ordering food and a drink, i guess he meant he was only covering the ride 😭
And that's soooo weird because a lot of places now have 'no sharing' rules unless it's like.. your kid.
Man my thoughts went dark when he got mad when she asked for water. I thought he was mad because he couldn't hide the taste of drugs in the water. I am kinda glad that wasn't the normal thought pattern of the woman or Charlotte.
My brain went there too!
SAME, I was like dude is going to roofie your drink and was mad that you wanted water so he couldn't hide it
lol
He was going to drag her limp body out of the comedy show once they kicked in. Great plan.
Not necessarily even drugs, it could even just be the alcohol - I've heard a lot of stories of guys getting mad when a woman asks for something non-alcoholic or a food item that'd be cheaper than the drink, and the guy gets mad because his entire intention was to get her to drink and lower her inhibitions.
That doesn't make sense since she WANTED him to get her water! Now, if he got mad cause she wanted to go with him, that would be sus...
I think he got upset when she asked for WATER bc that lessened the likelihood that he was "gonna get some" at the end of the night. That's why *he was keeping score; so he could score later.*
'You owe me bc I bought you a taco & water' doesn't really fit into his dastardly plan, but if she was drunk...
That's the plan. If douche canoes couldn't count on a girl's tipsy sense of obligation they'd never get to score on the first date, and since they're never getting a second date they'd never get any at all!
Just an FYI, Ive been married 40+ years, and he still opens the door for me, pulls out my chair, etc. Ive been blessed ❤
So adorable ❤
Almost 14 years here, but my husband is the same. I'm very blessed.
Married 35 years and my husband also always considers me. So glad I am not dating today.
18 yrs married here, and same. He goes & gets the food, drinks, and any other typical thing. He does everything for me without even asking. Even after 18 years.
Tomorrow is 38 years for me and my husband. I have been blessed!❤ Make no mistake, it’s been life, but he’s always been by my side. He’s an exceptional handy man, he can fix anything and does which also means I don’t get anything new. 😅
When I was younger and we kids wanted my mom to continuously do things for us, she said this one line that I'll never forget and I still use on others: *You have two hands and a heartbeat, do it yourself.*
My husband started watching fresh and fit and Kevin Samuels and that kind of thing. We've been separated a year now.
☝️😅 👌whew!!
Well done…🙌 💃🏻
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That's unfortunate, but you def dodged a bullet babes❤
'Are you the kind of woman who.... "
Gets up and leaves? Yes I am
Men who treat dates like transactions for sex are trash
A lot of men these days think women are like vending machines. Insert meals and sex falls out
Am I single? Yes. Will I be dating anytime soon after this? Absolutely not.
AB.SO.LUTELY....NOOOT!! 👏
It's why I have been single for a decade. In not interested in games and taking care of a grown child. The dating scene has changed, without a doubt. People feel they have so many options, it's truly sad. Nah I'll enjoy being single and doing my own thing when I feel like😂😅
@@CaremmnI've dated two man children in the past decade..friends first..but they seem sooooo exhausting..
5:23 The irony of Fresh and Fit is that they constantly give out "relationship" "dating" advice but the only women they date are from Sugar Daddy sites 😂
The irony is people that universally criticize podcasts usually never actually listen to them
@@louisenglish8069I'd like to see an "alpha male" podcast made by a happily married man XP new flash, you can't all be the alpha.
yes! that always confused me, like do they really think they’re in any position to give advice when their relationships are all based on a transaction?
@@louisenglish8069that’s because they don’t really say anything that substantial. It’s evident from listening even couple minutes
@alysamoon9234 Oh, so they're the only ones. Uh, this entire video is describing transactional "relationships." Christ, all mighty.
I always pay for my own meal on the first date. It can be expensive for men/women to keep paying. And never to my home until I'm comfortable. Also, tell the date why I paying for my own meal.
(the truth is I don't want them to feel I owe them anything)
My approach is, unless I do not intend on going out with them again, where I will insist on splitting the bill, taking turns feels the most natural for me.
Not a penny pinching but fair arrangement that feels communial. Unless there is a massiv unevenness in what is orsered or other agreed upon arrangement.
Once I let a guy pay for me, cause I already payed for a train to be able to see him and he kinda owed me for sonething, in any other case I would have only allowed it under the agreement of I pay next time.
But to be fair, most often I go out with friends.
Your approach makes a lot of sense to me
Honestly, it’s just scary if you don’t know the guy. Some guys really believe you should sleep with them after they buy you a meal.
When I was dating, I would let the guys pay but I would only have us go to places that I could afford just in case they didn't want to pay. I didn't want to be at some fancy place I couldn't afford and be stuck with a bill.
These Guys aren´t going on First Dates. They are running TESTS and think itś the correct approach to a relationship.
1:48 getting some water is something that FRIENDS even do for each other
Like DUDE it isn’t that deep
That guy sounds annoying
I serve my man sometimes, I set out his clothes, fix his lunch, but it's because he does the same for me. I had Sunday off and didn't lift a finger or butt cheek off the couch. 3 homemade meals and fresh juice all day. That's how you get a woman to serve you! Do for her and she will do for you.
As a woman who gets annoyed with women expecting literal princess and queen treatment all the time, that first story was wild.. lol. like getting someone water, when I was already getting myself a drink, is something I would do for almost anyone, never mind an actual date. That guy did her a huge favor showing who he was early. lol
This is why when I went on dates I would NEVER assume he’s paying and I made it super clear I was covering my own costs unless he insisted otherwise. Ugh that man who just left after she ordered needs to use his big boy words.
In Brasil 🇧🇷 where I’m from we call em cheapskates “Pão Duro” which is our word for spatula: they’re so cheap they scrape every single morsel off the container. Nothing left. 🙈 7:55
Que vergonha alheia desse tipo de pessoas😅
@ você tem que admitir que a nossa língua tem umas palavras perfeitas pra descrever muitas situações 😂
Love this! 😂
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@@phaedrapage4217 obrigada ☺️
If a man asks if you are the type of woman to serve a man, tell him that one serves a king. Then ask him what his qualifications to lead your kingdom are. Take out a notepad or your phone and take notes. Because I guarantee you, none of these mofo’s these days are qualified to manage a doggie daycare, much less your life. I say this as an old woman who has seen ‘em come and go. Tell them you are looking for a partner to share your life with, not a king to rule over it. 💕
That's a great comeback!
Wise words
DAMN 🤣 As a Black woman, I wish a 🤬 would ask if I served a man. Bro better consult the 13th amendment 📜
Nooooo whomever asks pays unless it’s established we are paying for our own. I get wanting to date on a budget, but have a conversation about it!! Let me be prepared to be able to do that. Like we can go on a picnic if you want, we don’t gotta be crazy about it.
That’s the rule I think is best! That way you can invite within your own budget.
I was saying above....that I thought...it's always been if I ask you out...then it's assumed I'm paying. If I said to you. Hey Erik, I'm enjoying talking with you and getting to know you better, can I take you to dinner? That means can I treat you to dinner....right? Vice versa
I'd be pretty impressed if a dude brought a simple picnic! Could eat almost anywhere on a budget! But if you invite me and pick the place, dinners on you!
i hate this way of thinking “whoever asks pays” because it’s almost always the guy who is asking, can we think of a different reason than that please?
@ that’s just dating 101. That was and has been the rule. If you can think of something better than, having a grown up conversation and saying; “I’ll pay my half”, then by all means, bestie! I’m all for new innovations.
I don't care what anyone says. I'm a single lady with two cats and i love it😂❤
Two dogs, two cats here. Better than any man I've ever met😂
Giiiiirl saaaaaaaaaaaameeeee and I'm so happy 😂😂😂😂😂
My cat and succulent plants.
@@AuroraPaintBrush4444Succulent Plants ❤
I’ve been single for 15 years,and so much happier with just me and my dog! ❤️🐶
The first story alone makes celibacy sound AH MAY ZING!!
celibacy is peace, honestly. the other day I thought "why I was having all this drama last year at the same tim.... oh... I was dating. right." I prefer peace, thank you.
As a married woman I have to thank all the "bad date" social media content for sparking a mutual renewed appreciation between my husband and I. Watching the sad sorted struggles of the dating community has also inspired a resurgence in our 'honeymoon phase' affections. I mean no disrespect by saying this. What I am saying is that I am grateful for my partner, who I met at a time in my life when I had given up on the opposite sex and dating in general all together. Our meeting was a happy accident. Your happy accident can happen at any time. Keep your heads up ladies. Don't give up on love. Somehow love will find you.
First guy wanted a pat on the ass for doing the bare minimum on a first date like she owed him something. He basically viewed her as an asset and a 'right', not a person with feelings and a soul. Ugh. One reason I choose the single life. So much simpler.
These are my rules for myself in regards to paying for outings:
1. If I'm asking someone out, I'm paying.
2. If someone asks me out, I'm going to pay for my expenses and they will pay for theirs, unless they say they are paying. If they do offer to pay, then I'm paying the next time we go out.
3. If I'm in a relationship, we take turns paying or I'll pay if they can't pay. If it's for a holiday/celebration of some sorts, I offer to pay (expect on my birthday) or say I'm paying.
4. Communicate the relevant point above to whoever I'm making plans with so we are on the same page. If they don't agree with any of it and we can't reach a compromise, then the plans aren't made.
5. If I can't afford to go out and pay for myself + the other person, even when they say they are paying, I don't go out.
That's all regardless of my gender or the gender of the other person. 😅
That man who left $100 and left did that because he realized he wasn't gonna have sex with her. He was hoping to get a hook up from a date, and not just have a date.
And I don't know what restaurant they are going to but $100 should cover the drink, appetizer, and meal for 1 person. I can't imagine what restaurant costs $100 per person unless it is a michelin star restaurant.
Exactly what I was thinking about the 100$. Everyone acting like he was cheap. He was weird, yes, but he probably still covered her food, so...enjoy a solo dinner, that might even be better than a bad date
Yeah I want to see the final bill for the total cost.
I’m am so happy that I found my soulmate so soon after my first failed marriage. We met on TikTok. We are now married with a beautiful baby.
CONGRATULATIONS ×2 😂♥️♥️
Jealous of you lol
But honestly congratulations!
You go girl!!❤❤
Congrats!! My husband and I met in an online D & D group. We'll be married 26 yrs this Halloween. 😁
The same men who want women to be submissive stay-at-home wives are the same ones who complain when I woman expects chivalry on the first date. Like pick one! You want us to be submissive? Then expects us to be helpless. You want us to pay for you? Then expect us to be strong, independent women who have expectations for how we’re treated.
Why are men so weird about paying for the date? Our first date with my gf I drove 30 min to pick her up, drove another 30 to go watch all the firework shows of the area on the top of a mountain, chilled in the car and when I got hungry we went to mcDonalds and I paid for my food and hers. Drove her back to her place and waited until she got inside then drove 30 min home absolutely buzzing about our date…I was the one that asked her out, and even if I hadn’t so what? I got hungry I wasn’t gonna be an as*hat and leave her to pay or just eat in front of her wtf? Istg these men are trying to be tough but act like babies, learn some decorum.
If you want to date a lady you gotta be a gentleman and the other way around.
Also hi and lots of love from Switzerland ❤
I wonder what these guys would do if they were invited over to someone’s house for a dinner and then at the end of the dinner .. they are presented with a grocery reciept and they must pay half .
Uuuuh! Excellent comparison! 👌🏻
These stories further reinforce my decision to have remained single since my divorce in 2004. Best decision ever!!!
*“Joey doesn’t share food!”*
😂😂😂😂
That guy wants a submissive catering woman but he is such a "good provider" that he buys her one frickin' taco and feels overwhelmed???! 😂 Isn't it funny that it's usually the men who cannot deliver much that have the most unthinkable expectations?!
I found my person when i was 18, still with him at 31 and have 2 beautiful boys.
I found him and lived with him from day 1.
14 years this June. ❤
My partner was 18 when we met, hes 32 next week, we have 2 boys and due our daughter next month ❤❤
@rebeccaradbourne5651 That's awesome! Congrats on the new little one!
Okay lucky you but why you gotta rub it in.
@@azuropixie5703 because its hard work and also gives other people hope
@azuropixie5703 🤣 not rubbing it in, just sharing like other people have been doing.
14:36 its not about the money. Its the fact that she was eating the amount she wanted to eat. He was probably expecting her to order a salad or something small
lmaoo yes the stereo types
Glad u and Mike found each other. Makes me tear up either way joy because we all know what our 🥔 👸🏼 had to go through first ❤️
I’m older and it used to be understood that it’s horribly expensive to be a woman-manicures, pedicures, expensive body creams, perfume, hair removal from everything but our heads, nice jewelry, etc. etc. etc. Men say well skip it then, but they’re only interested in the well groomed and well dressed women who invest countless hours and a fortune in appearing naturally attractive.
Men paying for dates was to provide a little equilibrium. Women have really screwed ourselves in many ways. Paying might make us feel independent but it put most of the cost of dating on us.
Thank you for reminding me why I am happily single. 😂
6:49 I feel like the first guy was hoping she was gonna drink alcohol. I think she dodged a bullet.
Had the same thought.
I'm 30 and haven't dated since HS for various reasons, but my current one is that I'm just not in a financial or psychological state where I should be bringing anyone else into my situation. I think a lot of this shit would be solved by people taking themselves off the market until they get themselves right mentally.
3:00 Date Over!
Yaassss. Dude straight up asked her to be his mommy! Gross!
I'm so grateful these videos are around to TEACH THE YOUTH all these faux pas. I didn't have a Charlotte telling me to value myself and shouting at my dates to "HAVE SOME DECORUM", but I wish I had. DOING THE LORD'S WORK.
I’ve been off the dating market for 7 years and IM SO GLAD. ❤ My husband and I are bestfriends and prefer to spend time with each other than going out with “friends”. 😂 We still do- but definitely prefer to spend time together w/ our toddler. ❤
Been thinking about getting back into the dating pool, then I see videos like this. Thank you Charlotte for reminding me it’s better to be a single cat lady. 😂❤
One minute! We love you charlotte! Your videos are what gets me through long nights delivering! Thank you for being you! ❤
You are the best! Thank you so much for your support!
My first thought: babies or pizza? 😊
I was dating a loooong time ago, but I would never let the guy pay for me - I always made sure we went halfsies on everything. It was the only way to be sure there were no 'favours' expected, especially on a first date.
That's how I am, too. Not trying to "owe" anything.
I would've been afraid that bus guy was going to kill me or something.
I love that you are happy with Mike and you are made for each other ❤
There are crazies out there everywhere. I have a friend who asked a lady out for a coffee date. She said no 'I dont do coffee dates'. Ok, no problem my friend says. So he asked out someone else and the first lady got mad at him! Cant we all just get along?
8:45 lets have a back bone ladies like the first girl. Leave when they show blatant disrespect
I am, recently turned 51 years old. My ex husband and i separated 8 1/2 years ago. Very much out of the blue! I had no clue that there were any issues between us! He left for work one morning and then sent me a text that he wanted a divorce and i needed to move out.
The way that whole situation went down definitely turned me off from any kind of relationship with a man!! 8 1/2 years later and ive still not been on a single date! There are times i think that id like to meet someone (although that feeling normally lasts all of two seconds!!) 🤣 It really does suck that i feel this way because i also feel like i am a young 51 and i have a lot of life ahead of me. And its sad to think that i will more than likely be spending all those years alone!! I fill all my extra time with my children and grandchildren! Being with my grandbabies is what makes me the happiest!!
Im rambling! 😂 Anyhow i guess whenever i start to think about dating again, ill just have to watch one of Charlotte's videos and reassure myself ive made the right decision over the past 8+ years!!😂 Its scary out there! 😂
I'm from Egypt, this terrible dating scene is worldwide 🤡 I got off the market just on time thank god!
I was so tired of dating and almost cancelled my first date with my now husband because of my fatigue. So happy I decided to go on that date ❤
My best friend tried so hard to get me on dating to meet a guy. She told me thats the only way to find people and got so frustrated with me when I refused. I told her my man will come to me because I refused to try dating. Manifested it too, met my husband at my acupuncture clinic. So happy to have him and to never go through the horrors of dating
Men if you ask a woman out, you pay for the date.
When our grandparents used to say to us "This world is ending!" and we all laughed. Now it´s ending, fast.
@8:50 my dude just wanted his princess treatment as the government maintained chariot arrive to whisk him home before midnight.
I can’t tell you how much I love these videos
Love you, Charlotte ❤🎉 I met my husband 2 years being divorced and being married for 10 years to an abusive jerk in 2007. It was when online dating was beginning. I went through a lot of frogs before I met my prince. This marriage stuck! Therapy and friends and the book "It's Called a Break Up Because It's Broken by Greg Behrendt really helped me not make the same mistakes. Highly recommend!
I’m 41 and when I was dating in college, I never let anyone pay because I always felt like there was some obligation involved. I met this guy on campus and went on a coffee date with him one afternoon because I didn’t want to commit to dinner and paid for my own tea. We stayed at the coffee shop talking for 8 hours until it closed, had another date the next day and the next day and then I basically moved in with him. We’ve been inseparable and in love ever since. Celebrating 21 years together on Feb 9! I hope everyone is as lucky as we are. ❤
Thank you for making our day with your posts, Charlotte. I always have you as my daily background noise and always look for your posts especially on sad days. Keep shinning. 🥰
In the days I was dating I would always say I want separate cheques. That way I can eat whatever I want without being concerned it was too expensive or feeling under any obligation. Several times the guy insisted on paying. Any time that happened it turned out we weren't a good match.
No the man said "lets go & get our drinks" meaning both go & get drinks. But she said "would u mind just getting me a water", so he got offended because he took it as she wanted to be waited on. He didn't offer to get their drinks Charlotte. But that was a childish way to act over a simple request. If u want a more "traditional" relationship where the man is the head of house & the woman waits on him. Then that's something that u need to convey over the course of getting to know each other. You don't have to bombard her with all those questions within the first hr of the first date.
The woman says he got up to get drinks and she told him she just wanted water. Then he got upset.
I took myself off the dating market years ago, and honestly has been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. So much happier being single.
Used to be that women would order a salad on the date and barely eat. You could get a house salad for $2.00. IT WAS CHEAP GUYS. Over the years from 80s, and 90s we got tired of hearing "you barely eat.". Now women eat and the other half gets pissy. Just split the damn bill 😊
I dated in the prehistory of the 70s and 80s. I wish I could have vented in a public forum then. I only have a brief story to retell. I went out on a first date with someone I knew from the neighborhood. We dined in a local restaurant. He ordered for me, without asking! The first course was snails! There's more, but i think that should suffice.
“Finally a king who knows his worth” yes, a forever single king 😂😂
Any time I hear "FreshnFit," all I have in my head is Aba & Preach singing about "just boys being boys" lmaoooooooo
how dare the alogorithim hide this from me for six minutes lol
40!!
My man almost had a heart attack that I didn't want to order like wine an extras on our first few dates. I bought dinner onces like the 4th date an year an half later he won't stop telling people xx
Ladies. Always take money on a date. Always pay your own expenses. Call a cab if you need to, safety first. IMO.
Not even drinks. Coffee and possibly during the afternoon at least 3 neighbourhoods away from where you live, so you can dash quickly and never see his face again 😂 (and pay for your own coffee lmao)
I’m a waiter and girls do be ordering crazy amounts of food when they come to my job just cause they want it. They don’t all do this just cause it might be free. We’re just hungry sometimes lol
Love how you talk up men and show your♥️. I had 50 years with mine before he passed. The secret is no matter how mad either of you get. NEVER USE THE WORD DIVORCE. GOD BLESS.
Finally this early time zones always crazy 😢
I feel like they usually drop at GMT -5. (Noon in the eastern time zone.) I only noticed this because my lunch break starts at noon several days a week. Have a great day, fellow potato!!❤
I ALWAYS go dutch of the first date. I’ve also been known to sneak off to the restroom to find the server to pay for EVERYTHING in order to have a free break. Except for drinks. I don’t pay for anyone’s liquor.
Your videos get me through my work day! ❤ So happy for this new post today 😍 especially since Im pretty sure I'm getting sick. Need Chars antics to get me through 😂
It may not have been about money. I once had a guy question the fact that I ate my entire Caesar salad with salmon. He mentioned something about being worried about my future weight
I refused to let my husband pay for my food and drinks on our first (blind/double) date. I didn’t want to “owe” him anything. If it didn’t work out nobody lost anything more than a few hours of their life. It’s just better that way.
I never went on a date before. These videos scare me to try. If I did, I might just pay for my own food even on first date just so the others wouldn't feel like I owe them anything
yes. I did this. And if I liked the guy I would buy his too, and see if he offers to buy the next dinner date so there is a reason for a second date (id say it works most of the time, or if he just cheaps out lets u pay and ghosts you, its fine too at least its just his loss, and now you know what he is). But don't let dudes buy your dinner, especially if they give off that vibe, the vibe of "transaction".... I hate that so much like how is a sandwich worth a kiss hug or other things? ugh... transactional dating types really pissed me off.
@marching27 I've never really done dating nor had a boyfriend so I wouldn't know much about all of these. Dating apps sound scary to me cause like u said, everything seems transactional there and tnen clubbing sounds like a nightmare. Some of the comments even stated they thought the guy from the first story might be pissed off cause he drugged the drink in which it didnt even struck my mind. No offense but why does dating sound exhausting and dangerous at the same time?
I have been single for almost 4 years and I am still LOVIN it lol these videos keep me strong lawd 😅😂
Charlotte's videos make my day! So glad to see a new one.❤
It's really nice to see that man in other countries are acting the same as here (I live in Austria). I really started to think that I'm the problem when the men don't want to talk or only answer with a word.
I'd definitely grabbed some popcorn!! Might have ended the date right then; but oh well 😂😂
I would have walked out
Some people are not meant to be in relationships the more I think about it lol.
Love my fellow Canadian neighbor. I’m so sorry “we” failed you guys “we”meaning the people that I am not associated with since I live in America 🇨🇦 much love from the USA you make my day brighter!