So, his ENTIRE family is telling him to drop the lawsuit against his sister because he's "taking it too far." Where were all of the family members when the sister was PURPOSELY TELLING LIES, DEFAMING HIM, AND ATTEMPTING TO GET HIM FIRED? Did they ever sit her down and tell her to "Stop" because she is "taking it way too far?" DO NOT DROP THAT LAWSUIT!!
Absolutely not! His “sister” (quotations because she is so disloyal to her own brother) has threatened his livelihood with her antics. Through no fault of his own, his company has him on thin ice. Seems pretty crappy of the company, as well. Hope he looks for and finds a better job, preferably in another state far from his toxic family!
He should go no contact with everyone who sides with the sister. Also its very sus that they support this lying woman so much, I wonder if they have ever cheated and made a man pay for a child that wasn’t his 🤔
The mother and sister in the first story are so incredibly infuriating to me!! Not only did they not listen to scientific facts and betrayed their own family member to support a random ex; they also had the audacity to try to frame their points of views as a feminist cause, when feminism has nothing to do with the bs they were trying to pull. 😤
Yeah I agree with you. To me these women are same ones who want to be gold digger but use feminism to defend themselves. These two are not feminists. They are cheaters who want money from everyone around them. I bet that the sister is not his sister but his half sister and his father doesn’t know that. That is why they defend his ex because they are afraid of what will happen to them if they got exposed.
The guy whose kid isn't his kid -the sister is insane. It comes from the mom. She even said believe the woman over facts. That family is deranged. My god there is so much wrong with that situation. DNA doesn't lie. Wow. Great video Charlotte. ❤
It is insane to me that this woman isn't going after the actual father unless 1. she was assaulted or 2. she slept with a homeless man. Those are the only two things I can think of
All of the women in the first OP’s life failed him! But kudos to him for standing his ground and continuing with the lawsuit against his ex and his sister! 🙌🏽
To me, this is why good men are harder to find because when they do try to be decent someone in their life takes every opportunity to drag them down instead of lifting them up and kids see that. The internet is forever. Thats why they believe Ahole redpill influencers and Andrew tate clones. Like I said hire a private investigator on ghe sister. She what shes hiding.
Sad to see tho that once again men’s abuse in relationships isn’t taken seriously. I couldn’t even imagine the hurt I would feel if my own mother would deny I was abused because “she was so nice” as if abuser weren’t known to be very often charismatic. Glad to see tho that the rest of the family seem to atleast be on his side. As a big sister, I would absolutely woop ass of anyone that would dare to hurt or abuse in anyway my brother. I could never imagine acting like op’s sister did.
This is definitely something I’m very passionate about-my little brother was in an abusive relationship and doesn’t have a mean bone in his body….Im very protective of him and want to raise awareness
You have to question the mother and the daughter that are against him. They’re hiding something for them to be faced with facts and still blame him is absolutely absurd.
The first OP should ask his father , mother , sister , brother and sisters children to take DNA test . I think the OP's mother and sister have something spectacular to hide within their own family . 😊
OMG i thought of this too.. like wtf are they trying to achieve by causing disturbance on OP's workplace anyway?? such a stupid stupid biatch 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
We had a situation. A young woman contacted my mother and said she had just given birth to her granddaughter. My brother denied that she was his child. The young mother and child moved away never to be heard from. Fast forward 43 years and the child contacts my family members and wants to get in with the family, in the process creating havoc. The child does not contact her alleged father, my brother. However, when my brother finds out that this young woman is telling everybody in the family that she is his daughter, He asked her to do a DNA test, which she refused. She gets in with a couple of my sisters and they're all tight and loving each other having great family times. Eventually she agrees to a DNA test if one of my sisters will also do the DNA test. Sure enough when the test results are back she is not one of our family. Apparently she was devastated to find out my brother was not her father after years and years of thinking he was. She disappeared out of our family's lives. I hope she figures out who her real father is. I often wonder what she said to her mother when the DNA results came back.
It sounds fake and I hope it is. If its not than Id hire a P.I. to find out info on my sister to 1, understand why shes doing this, and 2 find leverage to make her stop or bring to court. I have a younger brother that Im extremely close to and the thought of choosing some rando over him is unfathomable.
First story doens´t sit straight with me. Who invites an ex to a family party after zero contact for 5 years?? She was abusive, has a child, nobody has seen her for 5 years and suddenly she´s at an intimate family gathering and half of family is taking her side.. something´s not adding up in this story
@@kjillcallewaert1870 I am absolutely floored by the lack of comments saying that this story sounds completely made up for Reddit likes. It's cartoonish.
If I was a man, and my mother told me I should support a child that wasn’t mine….. I’d question if me and my father were biologically related. ‘Cause that type of illogical thinking can only be fostered through empathy.
@@uwetheiss970 We get that, but again this illogical thinking can be fostered by empathy so I having the whole family take a DNA test would possibly scare the mother and sister straight. He's still being too nice imho.
My ex demanded I pay him alimony and child support because I was the sole provider and he refused to work for the length of our marriage, was drunk and high, and cheating. He also beat me so badly (in front of our young children), I needed 2 surgeries and 4.5 years of rehabilitation therapy to try to repair the damage to my hip. Ironically, he demanded the alimony and child support, Even though I had both our children 100% custody and was pregnant with our unborn child!!! He also kept making our bank account negative so I had trouble paying my mortgage and bills… he then complained that I closed our joint account and got my own private account. So unbelievable!!! He got nothing, but it cost me over $100k in attorneys fees and 2 years of court to keep my babies safe from him. He has solely supervised visits but hasn’t bothered setting them up and it’s almost been a year.
And to top it off a brother I have not seen in 15 years, who I had always had a good relationship with, who lives across the country and had never met my ex in person either, was completely on my ex’s side. He tried bullying me into staying with my ex. My brother also tried turning my family against me. It was tough. It tore my family apart. The majority of my family supports me and helped me get out of the abusive situation or at least stayed neutral. But my brother tried helping my ex win our children in the custody battle too. I cut his ass off and everyone else who turned against me. Who has time for that drama? Thank God they are in my past.
@@fpm3121 that’s not a fair question to ask because the cycle of abuse is very hard to break out of. Once your put things become a lot clearer but unless you’re in that situation you cannot pass judgement. Everything is clearer on the outside
You are an incredibly strong woman. Remember that. You should be so proud of yourself for getting out. Your children will thank you when they are older
I like how in the first story, the family continued saying that he was taking it too far, which is ironic because he only took it that far because SHE took it too far going after his job. That entire family is crazy. I am glad he decided to be done with them.
OH HELL NO. I am a lawyer with some history in family law and if I was the mother of the man in the first story, I would have protected my son at all costs. I would have made sure that no ex of his could get close to him with a child that wasn't his and that he had no part in raising/supporting/being there for before. HELL NO.
I misread that at first and thought you said that you WERE the mother of the man in the first video instead of IF you were the mom. That one little word gets missed and makes a world of difference cuz I was about to let you have it but now we get to stay besties.😉
@@davidguidry657 😂 no but that’s hilarious. Absolutely not. I would have made sure that woman had a restraining order on her and my daughter knew better. I think the mom was outrageous here.
I saw this story some time ago. There was another update, though I can't vouch for it's authenticity (sometimes redditors will create fictitious endings/updates on other people's posts when they become popular, so I have my suspicions). If that update is to be believed, the Sister and the Ex were in an undisclosed lesbian partnership, living together, so the sister stood to gain financially from the paternity fraud as well. That post may have been fake, or it may have been taken down on the advice of OP's lawyer, or taken down in advance of criminal charges being filed against the ex and the sister. The post did imply that there was evidence of willful fraud on their part, which his mother knew about. Her efforts to de-escalate and resolve it within the family were to keep OP's sister from being implicated by evidence that would have turned up in discovery. She wasn't so much taking her daughter's side as much as trying to shield her from consequences after she got in over her head. No resolution was posted after that, only that he had decided to go no-contact with his mother, but his father and brother still supported him, albeit it with added tension because of his estrangement from his mother. That makes a little more sense in that it explains the mother's actions and the sister's motives (though by no means excusing either of them). But I am skeptical of the authenticity of that post. It's rare these situations get wrapped up so neatly in real life, lol. As you know, in family law, it's a mess at the beginning, a mess during the proceedings, and it's a mess at the end. Rarely does any of it ever make sense and there are no happy endings, just legal costs and butt-hurt all around, lol.
I had to get a permanent restraining order in dealing with an ex. Cost me over 30K in legal fees, 3 months of living hell and a court date which when I saw the lawyer I hired rip her to shreds, and the judge siding with us, that 30k was well spent. She can never contact me again for fear of incarceration. Sometimes you need to press the nuclear button with some folks.
@@anitathompson326 To "hire" the lawyer was 5k alone. Once they burned through that in prep, in order to keep them on and working my case, 5k here, 10k there. Over a few months. Everytime she delayed or missed court for me (my attorneys) to re-submit paperwork to the courts cost like $1000 every time out of my money. Worth it to see her be found guilty because it was a former spouse, she was found guilty of domestic violence charges, in my state parties found guilty have to reimburse (depending on income) legal fees of those prosecuting the case (me). I'll never see that money but knowing if she ever sees me that'll be the 1st thing I ask for, keeps her far far away from me.
@@BoatingMyFloat I was awarded SOME legal reimbursement. But she has never paid. And her knowing she owes me money will keep here away from me forever.
That first story is why paternity fraud is becoming an offense. The fact that the mother and sister are resorting to literally holding you hostage to force a relationship with your ratchet ex and a child that just needs to be loved. The utter lack of sense from the women is astounding.
A DNA test should be required before parents take their kids home from the hospital. First of all because Hospitals sometimes hand the wrong kid over to the incorrect parents, and the second reason is paternity fraud. The husband's name shouldn't be put on the birth certificate without a DNA test having made sure he is the father.
The first story had a final update: turns out the mum was projecting her guilt on the guy, turns out she cheated around the time she got pregnant with OP. Luckily he is not an affair baby but the mother exposed herself as the cheater. Other than that, the rest of the family are on the mend with OP
OMG !! It makes so much sense. Thanks for the update ! I knew the mom was fishy when she said that the Ex was such a nice girl that her son must be the liar. Like, Madam, that's your son !!
Good to hear. It seems that the sister needs some therapy because how can she be so gungho on her brother supporting a child that is not his? I am also curious as to which culture this is… I’m guessing Latin American? it sounds like a telenovela.
It's like the guy who went to jail for 5 years because he was not paying child support on a child he doubted was his. Turns out he really was not the father, and she knew the father, with whom she was still in contact.
I had a friend and we had been friends from the time we were in diapers until we were 15. We hit our sophomore year in high school and this “friend” fell in with a different crowd. I became the butt of their bullying, to the point that I had to start choosing between physical injury or fighting back. I chose to fight back… literally. I got suspended from school for the fight. Instead of getting in trouble, when my mom brought me home that day, I found that my mom had removed every shred of evidence that this young girl ever existed in our lives. No pictures, no clothing that she left behind, even her bike that she left at our house had mysteriously disappeared. When I asked my mom where my “friends” stuff had gone she simply replied “who?” And walked away. In less than three hours she has wiped this girl from our home and our lives. This was her way of teaching me that standing up for myself would never get me in trouble. I spent my three day suspension baking with my mom. The “friend” moved away that next summer and I never saw her again. I always wondered if my mom had something to do with that too 😂 😂 That is how a parent should react when it comes to standing behind their children. Period.
I had that exact thing happen with my best friend at 15. Her and her new friend tried beating me up. Shortly thereafter, I got a boyfriend so I wasn't around much. My ex best friend died in a car accident. A year later, her new friend died in a car accident as well.
I’m very concerned by how often victims of bullies are the ones getting punished for merely fighting back. I would not agree, but could sort of understand if everyone were punished for fighting. Except I never hear that. Just when the victim stops being the victim.
How could anyone think it's okay to tell someone to pay for a child they don't know and isn't theirs. I'm a single mom and no matter how rough it is I'd never demand some ex of mine who is not the Father pay for him. People are weird!
I never got the child support from my 1st husband, but I never went after it, either. My ex murdered my father and probably another unknown victim, and before that he kidnapped our baby and was in hiding for a year. My son suffered severe abuse, and 10 of his 12 years of school were spent in special ed because of his PTSD and high anxiety. He earned his way into "normal" classes his Jr. and Sr. years, but still has mental disorders at age 31. My ex was not convicted of murder, not even indicted because the police botched the case and lost the most important evidence. He went to prison for 4 years for a different felony (credit card fraud). During that time, I moved my son and me 1500 miles from the only place I've ever known, I legally changed my name, and cut ties forever with some family and friends whom I couldn't trust 100%. I didn't go after the child support I was awarded because staying alive and hidden from a homicidal maniac was more important.
cant tell you how many reddit stories i have seen where people support shit like this. calling the men evil and the children innocent victims and how the men should raise/pay for them and how the women should just be forgiven, but when its the other way around the men are evil and who cares about the child lols
@@AngelWJediThis is true. Specially with stepparents. So many stories of “you paid for your biological kid, so you need to pay for the other one too.” The other one has full child support, the bio dad is in their lives etc. Life is what it is. Your kid isn’t entitled unless there was an official adoption paper. I have a stepfather and he helps me out enough 😂 I don’t expect anything else.
The sister has a personal vendetta toward the issue - she has a secret. She thinks if she can force fatherhood on her brother who is not the father, including the monetary "obligation," she'll figure out how she can do it.
I could have sworn that there was another update to that saga. The sister was OP's half sister and the sister and mother knew about it, and that's why they kept harassing OP about it. I could be wrong and it could be another story, but I think that's why they kept on harassing OP.
For the case @ 4:30, if the mom and sister are so worried about the man's ex, then THEY can financially support her. Leave the poor man alone, the woman was horrible to him. These women should be supporting him, not the attempted-gold-digger.
I bet you 1 million dollars that the woman and the sister are f*cking each other. That's why she's doing her best for her brother to give money to the child. She wants the h*e but doesn't want to spend money on the child. There's a story like this before, if I remember correctly.
My Grandma was just like you. I could have a gf or close friend and get into an argument, then vent even the slightest bit to my Grandma (she raised me) and just saying something like “so and so was so rude today”, and that was it… that person was my Grandma’s mortal enemy.
I would never tell one of my brothers to pay child support for a child that was not his, especially to a woman that cheated. The sister should be ashamed of herself.
I would help the kid out myself instead of this. The kid didn’t choose his mom and is a victim in this too. But to try to force child support is plain insane.
@@Marynicole830 Really? you would financially help out a child of an abusive, lying ex of your brother? if you give her money how do you even know where it is going to go? once she starts receiving money from you what if she starts expecting regular help and starts claiming you are not meeting your responsibility if you don't send money? Do you realize that if you provide long term support for a child that is non biological, you could be considered an equitable parent of the child legally and therefore responsible for the child?
Girl, same. Then to think you can physically assault someone IN FRONT OF PD and nothing is going to happen to you. Chick was all kinds of stupid that day.
The fact that the mother RAISED her son, and refused to believe him over a woman she only knew through her son and never saw beyond that, is so horrible. This was her child, and she essentially threw him aside for the lies of someone she didn't actually know. I'm so angry. And that's not even getting into the bs with the sister, who's her own brand of psycho. The ex should've thought about the consequences of her actions before starting them, and what she would've done if someone had done the same to her own son. OP was abused by his ex, and then by his ex again and his sister and mom hopped on the abuse train, just in different genres. And not a single one ever apologized or ever took responsibility. The only ones who tore apart their family were the sister and mom. I hope the mom enjoys her life with her only child left, because she chose her rotten rope to hold onto.
My parents are like that, always believing the worst of us, despite concrete evidence to the contrary. It is far more common than you think. My parents also spread the falsehoods they believe to their social circles, who then judge the hell out of people they don’t even know. My parents would also rather keep the peace for “appearances”. I feel for this man
I have a feeling the brother is going to go no contact with these women very soon as well. Remember, he was the one who warned OP that mom was going to hold him captive until he backed down. Had he not been warned, and OP walked into that, it would have ended up with at least his mother, and possibly his sister, being charged with kidnapping and unlawful imprisonment. The last time I checked, at least one of those is a felony. I hope he can get his brother to tell the attorney about those plans, as that will be one more nail in the case.
@@lindapatton4478You're not wrong, iirc there was a third update where dad discovered mom did cheat & he moved in with OP, brother went NC with mom after that so literally only has her pos daughter.
That first story makes me even more grateful for my wonderful little sister who, while she has no problem calling me out on my bs, has never once taken the side of a controlling ex! Love you, sis!🥰
Yeah in all my years off being a little sis to nine boys, I loved some exes, couldn’t stand others, but no matter what, my loyalty is with family. I’ll side with a situation and shame you after Shit settles down, but I’m not about to all out demean any family over someone who decided they didn’t belong in our group. The only time I publicly sided with an ex is when my brother Shawn wouldn’t take responsibility for cheating on his gf and getting the other girl pregnant. Ik he cheated. We all did. We knew when she found out she was pregnant while he was with another. He back tracked lied and tried manipulating everyone involved and my sisters and I literally jumped on top of him pinching and pinching and giving wet Willie’s. You take responsibility for your actions. We will always have your back, but don’t be a Shit person just to try and save face. Own up to your bs and fix it.
@@erikarussell1142nice. Thank you for sharing. That’s a great mindset to have. If only most people would apply it 😌 Your family gatherings must be fun with that many siblings. Can’t imagine giving birth that many times 😅
Thanks for being awesome Charlotte! ❤️ Love that you and your mom have a “you’re dead to me” attitude when standing up for mistreated people. I didn’t have this growing up and still don’t when it comes to family members knowing my past abuse. I’m always touched when I see more kindness. ❤️
Absolutely, if you want to, because of having established a relationship with the child, its up to yourself but under no circumstances should people be forced to do this. It ends up horrible as the child feels the atmosphere.
Back when Charlotte was on Inform Overload I remember her mentioning wanting long hair again, saying that she had to cut it to get acting gigs and to look more profesh for the camera- seeing her now with this long beautiful hair while being the most successful she’s ever been just makes me feel so happy and proud for her. You’ve come a long way Charlotte, glad to see you’re being authentically you!
My husband has a little girl from a previous relationship. They were never married and separated when the girl was 2. Since that day, he has never failed to pay child support and she stays with us once a month because he works 3 out of 4 weekends every month. NOW... I make significantly more than he does and own real estate that I worked very hard for. So, when we got married, we registered under a full separation of assets regime. Not w eek after our nuptuals, the Baby Mama files to revise the child support to include MY income. Girl, NO!
The mom taking his ex's side and then the sister's is wild. The sister is as insane as the ex. Maybe the sister is projecting her own insecurities. They broke up 5 years ago, she cheated & he hasn't seen her for 5 years. How the hell does the sister/mom think a stranger's child is OP's "responsibility"? tf is wrong with these people.
It sounds like OP might be an affair baby the way his mother and sister are going over ham and fist over the issue, perhaps the sister too is an affair baby, you know what OP get. DNA test on yourself and father to see what's what!
There was actually another update to the first story. Mom called OP to "apologize" and said she wanted to do it in person. She tricked OP. The sister was there, mom locked the door, trying to get OP to forgive his sister. Everything blew up and the sister threw a plate at OP's head. She called the police saying that OP attacked her. Police showed up, got everyone's statements, and arrested the sister. OP cut off contact with sister and mom, went forward with the lawsuit against sister (not the abusive ex), and OP's dad is now going through the process of divorcing the mom. Mom is being hysterical about the whole thing, but the entire family, including her family, turned their backs on her. Overall, a happy ending 😂😂
The first OP if they’re so concerned perhaps THEEEEEEEEEY should pick up the BILL . I can’t even believe his own family is trying to game and gaslight him wth?!?!?
When I was at the mediators trying to establish better child custody, I had proof that my son had been living at my house 60% of the time while his dad had practically full custody and me minimal times with them. So I was doing this without a lawyer and he had his guy with him, and then the ex said "I don't care where they stay I want custody of them"! His lawyer looked like he wanted to drop kick him across an entire football field, the mediator gave me a kind smile and fireworks of happiness were going through me. The only reason that he had fought so hard for custody, NOT because I was a bad mother or he wanted to be this great father, but he wanted the child support I would have to pay. Everyone in the room, except for him apparently, knew that is what he was actually saying." I don't care if she takes the to Mars to live with her, she still has to pay me money!!!!" At that point we got shared custody and nobody got child support. But yep, I know what that look looks like.
My money is on his mother has actually done that to his father and the sister is the baby in question (and only she knows it). Would explain both of them seemingly thinking its ok and normal to forcibly make a man pay for a child that isn't his
I think it's more a sign of the times. You see it in any "XX"-community. Someone with bad intentions plays the "XX" card and any member of that community just flocks together to support and defend them, saying someone from "XX" can do no wrong and are always in the right because of oppression.
I'm pretty sure this sister also believes that Amber Heard was the victim of Johnny Depp; that's what happens, if the whole "we women are better than men" crap goes to far into someones brain
So sister is the golden child and is used to getting her way. Mom always supports sister blindly, even after knowing that she and sister are 100% wrong.
@@kelliewhyte_85 Yeah…facts don’t care about your feelings. Especially, life altering surgeries or medication where the gender of a person becomes very important. You would rather make someone feel good instead of actually make sure they are okay.
DNA doesn’t lie? Except… there are cases where it does! One I recall was a mother needed to get a maternity test for her five kids. The reason why was not included on legal grounds. But even though she remembered giving birth, had photos of holding the newborns in all the hospital glory of birth… the test came back as a “no. You aren’t the biological mother.” Here’s why: she was a medical chimera. In utero, she had absorbed her twin. The only part left of the twin… became the uterus and ovaries! Or another one… a young woman had absorbed her twin. But then gave birth to her sister twenty years later!
@@icarusbinns3156 that is known as an anomaly. They are rare. Identical twins take investigation. Also, when it comes to fraternal twins, both need to be tested as, if the mother has been with a few men in the window of conception, the twins could have different fathers. But, it is rare for a mother to need to take a maternity test. More common for a man. You watch any paternity trial, the judges will often quote an old saying “mama’s baby, daddy’s maybe.” Here’s an interesting twist, though. The baby could have been switched at birth. That has happened so frequently in the past.
My mom has always said she doesn’t trust someone I don’t like. She says that I am “such a sweet and loving girl” that if I don’t like someone, they must’ve done something wrong
I think it differs between cultures. I‘m pretty sure I heard once, that the fiancé is entitled to the engagement ring (IF gifted) when the engagement is ended. But maybe that’s only, when it is ended by the man?
The first story is crazy, I'm really baffled. As a sister myself, I will never side with an ex of my brothers, especially when the kid isn't his. She's surely projecting or doing the same thing to one of her exes, that's why she's insisting that much.
Same, i have two younger brothers and even tho i kinda hate them but if someone treats them like poop then i will protect them at all cost (unless they are in the wrong)
when all this is over legally in court i kinda of hope he makes a social media statement that just say's "for my own sanity on why my sister/mother turned on me, i'm comforting myself that it's just projection which greatly saddens me to learn this about them and hope they can evict their dark past while i stay no-contact." cause they have some serious demon's in their lives to twist themselves into a defamation manipulative pretzel to act like that to their family, even being an estranged sibling to my bro, i would never.
I'm the oldest of three ( younger sister and brother). We don't get on - AT ALL! But there is absolutely no way on Earth of EVER side with one of their exes. And they absolutely despise my ex husband - NO IFS, BUTS OR MAYBES!
Last story, “I don’t want to press charges” the first thing I said out loud was “why, why would you not want to press charges” so knowing she did get a misdemeanor is nice
That sister in the first story is going to be (or already is) a total meanace to society. If she's this admant that an ex of her brothers gets money in this sittuation, imagine what she'll expect from her ex's and boyfriends? 😬
seems to me the op's ex is a master manipulator. sounds like she is naive and fell for it. instead of admitting that she's wrong she doubled down. ether way very sad and messy.
Right! Like something is going on there for sure. For them both to turn up at his workplace and try to get him fired- great plan as what money would they, sorry she get from him then?
@@hazelka1 No, you absolute idiot. The point of mandatory paternity tests is to curb fraud…so men don’t unknowingly raise children that aren’t theirs. Children also have a right to know who their real father is, no matter who the mother prefers as her mate.
Seriously! I had a friend who refused to believe his ex had cheated on him and wouldn't get a paternity test. 3 years later, his mom convinced him to get the test he found out the kid wasn't actually his.....he was paying child support for those 3 years too.
I would go a bit further and say DNA tests should be mandatory and happen after birth... *Shrugs* Yes, this can be abused by bad actors... like everything else in the world.. but it would be beneficial to have the kid's DNA available for medical purposes down the line (or to identify corpses of missing kids/people)...
5:02 Its a strong possability the sister is good friends with the cheating ex. That's the only way that would explain her behaviour. If I were in that situation I would tell her to mind her own business since it's nothing to do with her and if she continues then cut off contact as it's better not to have someone like that in your life.
As a sister myself...If this was my sister I would NOT tolerate this BS. If my Mom enabled any behavior like this I'd cut off contact like it was a diseased limb. I wanted to mention that Charlotte's cheerful and fun energy in her videos always pull me out of any mental health issues I'm dealing with. Keep being awesome Charlotte 💖
I have a theory about the sister in the story about the kid that wasn't his. Maybe she made a deal with the ex to split profits of what money she could scam out of the dude? Otherwise why would she be so insistent that her brother take financial responsibility for a kid that has been proven isn't his? I think she's looking for a cut.
My assumption would be if she was in the same situation she would do the same damn thing that girl is doing or maybe she really wants to be on Jerry Springer/Steve Wilkos. 😂
One of my friends had that happened he lived with her for years. The kid was practically his, but wasn’t he paid child support where the kid was 1617 after they had split when he was 18 she demanded more money and the court was like no your kids an adult there’s no more child support needed. Turns that none of that money made it to the kid she took it all and wasted it on drug money
That is so sad. I was a single mom for 15 years, and every cent went to my kids. Clothes, school stuff, going on outings, making it so she can be involved in extra curricular activities… like, only a Shit person steals from children. And the absolute shittiest, steals from their own kids.
@CCZZ.B I'm sorry about what happened to your friend! @@erikarussell1142 I'm sorry about what happened to you! My mom was a single mother with 4 kids (the youngest not even born at the time of the divorce) and still made sure that I was cared for and had a good relationship with my father (who is a good person). She is remarried now but she cared for young kids alone for about 6 years until she did (with a little help from her parents, my grandparents). All the money she made was used to take care of her kids. She's a great mom. I'm still young but even I understand that what first OP's ex was doing was crazy.
People who pay child support for kids that are not theirs should be paid back. It’s very unfair to the man that doesn’t know where the woman’s coochie has been.
@@KaritaGR100% agree. Also @erikarussell I put money into my sisters bank account a couple of years ago for her four kids for Christmas. I live on a disability so I could only afford $30 each but she didn’t give it to them, she kept it. They may be adults but it was still for them. I will never ever put money into her account again because I now know she is a thief and one that’s quite happy to take from her kids. I have actually gone no contact (except on Snapchat because I can’t be completely horrible because she’s still my sister. I just don’t have any respect for for anymore after other stuff she pulled this year) and I’m happier for it.
I already read the first aita story, and it WAS BATSHIT CRAZYYYY. I hate this narrative on reddit aita post of forcing men or anyone else to be parents to kids that aren't theirs, it's the" but you have a moral obligation" or "that's what a real man would do". If the sister is sooo concerned, then she should help, ohhh wait it isn't her responsibility. Honeyyy I want to see that checkbook popping.
They need to stage one of the sister’s exes showing up with a baby and asking her for child support. See if she wants the responsibility when it’s on her dime 😂
Yeah, first story… I think we’re all on the same page. Been a long time since I heard one of these drama stories that was so rage-inducing. Second… “It doesn’t work that way” gave me a really warm feeling. Trying to be nice about it and the cops are like, “Nah, she’s being processed.” That was balm to the soul, man.
I remember when my daughter’s father said she wasn’t his and I offered a dna test after birth. There was no need to. She looked exactly like him when she was born. He was speechless 😂😂😂 My daughter is 16 and I never requested child support. I’m glad I moved 2k miles away
I'm a younger sister to two older brothers, and I cannot IMAGINE being anything like the sister in the 1st story. My middle brother had a really crappy girlfriend in high school who was really immature and eventually cheated on him, and while my brother and I aren't like super close or anything, I was ready to beat her ass into the dirt for what she did. My brothers are not perfect people (middle one especially has some things about himself he needs to sort out before pursuing a long-term relationship), but there are times when the facts cannot and should not be argued with. And my pride as both a woman and a sister is going to relate more to standing up for my brothers when I should, especially against other shitty women.
As someone who always wished for a brother but still loves my male cousins just as much as if they were my brothers, I find the first story crazy. If someone woman ever tries to threaten the men in my life like the first OP's ex treated him, forget womanhood so long as my loved ones aren't in the wrong that woman is DEAD!!! How the sister was ever able to behave like that and take the enemy's side (yes, I think the ex is an enemy ) baffles me🤯.
14:06 When Charlotte grabs the camera to smush it. Gotta admit it, it made me giggle and smile! This is why I love Charlotte and watch her videos almost religiously. Its the lil yet sweet gestures of love she gives towards the audience and the huge dollop of adorable goofiness and amazing dialogues in even funnier accents. 😂😂 Its been years since I have been watching and she still is the same down to earth hilarious potato queen!!! ❤❤❤❤
6:05 CRYING AT THE BBC BUT ✨ot✨ UPDATE BAHAHA 😭(also I’m saying “ot” because that’s what her family calls her and it’s easier than typing out her name lol)
That fits story sounded outrageous. Then you mentioned the Posada and it makes sense. I think they may be Mexican. And yes, I could totally see it then. My parents are Mexican. They tried to make my boyfriend marry me when I was 17 bc they thought he to my v card. If a guy ever touches a woman and she has a baby, he’s responsible for it even if it’s not his. I don’t agree but that’s how they see things
The posada thing also gave me the impression since that's one of my favorite traditions from Mexico growing up, I know family is a big thing for us but that story was so messed up and if I was in his shoes I might have trust issues after and cut contact with the sister.
OP: "I didn't want to press charges" NOOO, you MUST press charges! As soon as you told the ex how much the ring was and then she lashed out in rage, she needs to be put away. Also, suggest OP get a restraining order because I get the feeling this won't be over.
I agree I thinks it's in everyone's best interest to have it mandatory for medical records as well making sure no man raises another's kid without their consent. The current system just doesn't help because if a man requests one from someone he's in a relationship with he's basically accusing her of cheating so whether she did or didn't the relationship is already damaged or destroyed so just making it common practice would get rid of that
Im tired of this argument. You should not force people to take DNA tests against their will. It is and should always be a choice. Forcing things on people is 100% wrong. I can't believe I have to explain this
Agreed. When a case for child support hits the courts, this should trigger a court response of proof of paternity (most cases) and maternity if father has custody. Once DNA has confirmed biological parent, then the court can proceed with next steps. A former friend of my sister’s got pregnant and wasn’t sure which of 5 guys fathered the baby. The child was born mixed race and she then knew because 4 out 5 guys were causasian. There’s too much irresponsibility among people today for courts to just trust the unproven word of someone in these cases.
First off if one of my brothers exs popped up and was like "surprise you have a kid" I would have been the first one telling him to get a DNA test. Wtf is this lady on. No way man.... That's wild..
Here in the US, you never want to start paying for a child that is not yours because once you start paying for them the court will take that as acknowledgement or acceptance of it being your child! Not only that, you should never sign the birth certificate if you're not 100% sure that the child is yours and here's why. Once you sign the birth certificate you are financially responsible for that child, even if it's proven later on that you are not the father!
That really needs to change. If you find out later that you are not the father, all child support should stop and any paid up to that time should be paid back by the ACTUAL father.
I would have printed a T-shirt up with the DNA test results on it and a highlight showing the No match box, and wore that t-shirt every single time I saw my sister or mother in that situation.
The first OP is incredibly brave to keep his stance and stand up to the injustice and harassment. It takes such bravery to cut out family who are toxic and don’t stand in your corner. Hoping he is able to find people who become the family he deserves to have. What also infuriates me about this story is that people would be all up in arms if this behavior was being done by a male to a female, but because it’s a woman, she has to believed. Lying and harassment are not gender specific. Both are wrong and should not be tolerated despite the person who is inflicting the harm. Also, OP did not break up the family, his ex did and the other family members by not standing by their own flesh and blood.
I haven't commented in a long, long while now as I'm grieving/mourning the loss of someone in my life but today, today I really needed something comforting to stop these tears. Charlotte's channel is the one place where I can, for a brief shining moment, put those feelings aside and marvel in the good humour of this channel and for that I'm thankful and grateful to this channel, to the lovely Charlotte ❤🫂
One of my favorite memes “If you’ve ever done me wrong, just know my mom knows, she’ll never forget and she doesn’t like you.” That is true for my mom and I’m the same way with my daughter. 😂
First story: i feel bad for the kid. If the ex (mother) is being this un-responsible, i hope the kid is okay. It isnt OP's fault at all, the sister is crazy and for some reason thinks that females deserve everything and can do no wrong or are owed free stuff. I hope the child grows up seeing the wrongs of his mother and OP's mom realizes she needs to tell her daughter off for her behavior as much as she wants to keep the family together
"Just because you have money, doesn't mean people are entitled to your money." Story of my life. My husband's family thinks we're rich and can just freely give away money. We technically have money in savings, but it's all going towards affording a small house someday. But nobody calls us to be social, they'll just pop up out of nowhere one day asking for some sum of money. When we say no, they get mad and then we don't hear from them for another year. It's lousy. It's not selfish to keep the money you earn.
It doesn't surprise me that the parents took the ex's side over their own child. My parents did the same with me. I had an abusive ex boyfriend who had been stalking me, spreading rumors, etc but because he was a Marine, he was a golden boy in my parents eyes. I had to cut my family out of my life for about a year or so because of it. Id come home from work and he'd be in my living room, joking with my family. Unfortunately, my dad/brother are still friends with him on FB and I know he will always be a golden boy because of his service history. 😮💨
That is terrible. I am so sorry that happened to you. He was a Marine and stalked you that is dangerous. The male in your family are misogynistic jerks. I am really sorry for you I know how that feels the males in my family are like that too. They support hitler and his views of women being only children bearing machines and all man should be war heroes and have all rights over women.
✨☕️✨I love how Charlotte takes what would or could be idle, even hurtful, gossip and then we all look at it from different sides. Can we all appreciate Charlotte for educating and empowering anyone in similar situations? And she does it all while making us laugh. It’s like sharing a bottle of wine with friends and solving the world’s problem.
As far as the ring goes, I have heard that if you are just engaged, the ring belongs to the man. It is a gift with an obligation, so it is only yours if you fulfill that obligation-getting married. After marriage, it is yours.
Okay the 1st story literally made my head hurt. How come when a woman gets abused everyone supports her yet when a man gets abused they all turn a blind eye? That man went through HELL AND BACK of dealing with that monster of a lady! I just feel bad for the kid.
@Charlotte Dobre, I dated this one girl who I had proposed to. She cheated on me and took the ring, but that’s not the worst part of the story. She then left me for the guy she had cheated on me with, married him and his engagement ring to her was the ring that I BOUGHT claiming that it was a family heir loom. She had 3 kids and a lovely divorce with him.
I am so sorry this happened to you. Your ex is sad she left someone who actually bought her a ring for someone who didn’t bother to. It is sad that the money from your ring is wasted on her but at least you dodged a bullet.
@@houski4242564, I’ve had nothing to do with her since the breakup and her attempt at stealing a bunch of my belongings. Between her former friends and her posting on Facebook, I wouldn’t have known what was going on. She lost a lot of our mutual friends after our breakup. One guy that she claimed was one of her best friends ended up become the best man at my wedding. I am since divorced. Man, I can pick ‘em. Actually, I finally did get a great woman. She’s smart, well educated, gorgeous, and for some reason likes me.
@@christinacartter9784 definitely the sister and the mom. Seems like the sister isn't used to take accountability and that's why Mom wants the OP to let it go.
I bet it really hurt OP when he learned his mother did not believe the abuse because the woman was good to her. Imagine experiencing all of that and finding out your mother doesn't even care and has more compassion for your abuser than she does for you.
If Buddy breaks it off, she keeps the ring. If Dolly breaks it off, she returns the ring. Better yet, DeBeers says buy an engagement ring, it is not a required part of wedding customs; it was invented in the 1930s.
I was "polyamorous" (read: groomed and taken advantage of by people a decade or more older and abused for years), my primary partner had children with her legal husband, who is an engineer and makes easily 4 times what I do, he shares custody with her and pays child support. After I FINALLY left, she spent over a year trying to get me to pay child support.
So, his ENTIRE family is telling him to drop the lawsuit against his sister because he's "taking it too far." Where were all of the family members when the sister was PURPOSELY TELLING LIES, DEFAMING HIM, AND ATTEMPTING TO GET HIM FIRED? Did they ever sit her down and tell her to "Stop" because she is "taking it way too far?"
DO NOT DROP THAT LAWSUIT!!
Yes thank you that family is toxic.
Not to mention the physical push over a joke that had nothing to do with her
Absolutely not! His “sister” (quotations because she is so disloyal to her own brother) has threatened his livelihood with her antics. Through no fault of his own, his company has him on thin ice. Seems pretty crappy of the company, as well. Hope he looks for and finds a better job, preferably in another state far from his toxic family!
@@yarnovahagreed!!!
He should go no contact with everyone who sides with the sister. Also its very sus that they support this lying woman so much, I wonder if they have ever cheated and made a man pay for a child that wasn’t his 🤔
The mother and sister in the first story are so incredibly infuriating to me!! Not only did they not listen to scientific facts and betrayed their own family member to support a random ex; they also had the audacity to try to frame their points of views as a feminist cause, when feminism has nothing to do with the bs they were trying to pull. 😤
Yeah I agree with you. To me these women are same ones who want to be gold digger but use feminism to defend themselves. These two are not feminists. They are cheaters who want money from everyone around them. I bet that the sister is not his sister but his half sister and his father doesn’t know that. That is why they defend his ex because they are afraid of what will happen to them if they got exposed.
This is actually the kind of crap that makes people not take feminism seriously 😞 liars ruin everything 😭
NPC folk right there.
The toxic man hating feminism that demonizes men.
the false accusations as well can ruin a man but some women simply don't care.
The guy whose kid isn't his kid -the sister is insane. It comes from the mom. She even said believe the woman over facts. That family is deranged. My god there is so much wrong with that situation. DNA doesn't lie.
Wow. Great video Charlotte. ❤
No, it's from "believe all women". It's a ridiculous statement.
I mean ffs she believed some random woman over her son who claimed she was abusing him! These people are ridiculous
The sister is the type of woman to have consensual sex with a man then turn around and say he raped her
Turns out the mom had an affair
It is insane to me that this woman isn't going after the actual father unless 1. she was assaulted or 2. she slept with a homeless man. Those are the only two things I can think of
All of the women in the first OP’s life failed him! But kudos to him for standing his ground and continuing with the lawsuit against his ex and his sister! 🙌🏽
To me, this is why good men are harder to find because when they do try to be decent someone in their life takes every opportunity to drag them down instead of lifting them up and kids see that. The internet is forever. Thats why they believe Ahole redpill influencers and Andrew tate clones.
Like I said hire a private investigator on ghe sister. She what shes hiding.
Glad to see abused men represented here. No one should be treated that way. The first family is nuts.
Sad to see tho that once again men’s abuse in relationships isn’t taken seriously. I couldn’t even imagine the hurt I would feel if my own mother would deny I was abused because “she was so nice” as if abuser weren’t known to be very often charismatic.
Glad to see tho that the rest of the family seem to atleast be on his side.
As a big sister, I would absolutely woop ass of anyone that would dare to hurt or abuse in anyway my brother. I could never imagine acting like op’s sister did.
This is definitely something I’m very passionate about-my little brother was in an abusive relationship and doesn’t have a mean bone in his body….Im very protective of him and want to raise awareness
As charlotte would say one hundred percent agree that's what's up
You have to question the mother and the daughter that are against him. They’re hiding something for them to be faced with facts and still blame him is absolutely absurd.
They sound like a couple of demented liberals.
The first OP should ask his father , mother , sister , brother and sisters children to take DNA test . I think the OP's mother and sister have something spectacular to hide within their own family . 😊
FACTS
Yup
I thought this too!
EXACTLY
The sister definitely has something in her background that makes her believe the woman and not the man.
The sister is very jealous of her brother's success and has chosen to wage this false war against him. Poor dude has horrible women in his life.
OMG i thought of this too.. like wtf are they trying to achieve by causing disturbance on OP's workplace anyway?? such a stupid stupid biatch 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
My dude needs to meet a good woman, he surrounded by trash. Those 3 are making girls look awful 😆
There is definitely more to the story, just does not make sense.
That’s a good point.
I believe they were going to scam him out of his money together
We had a situation. A young woman contacted my mother and said she had just given birth to her granddaughter. My brother denied that she was his child. The young mother and child moved away never to be heard from. Fast forward 43 years and the child contacts my family members and wants to get in with the family, in the process creating havoc. The child does not contact her alleged father, my brother. However, when my brother finds out that this young woman is telling everybody in the family that she is his daughter, He asked her to do a DNA test, which she refused. She gets in with a couple of my sisters and they're all tight and loving each other having great family times. Eventually she agrees to a DNA test if one of my sisters will also do the DNA test. Sure enough when the test results are back she is not one of our family. Apparently she was devastated to find out my brother was not her father after years and years of thinking he was. She disappeared out of our family's lives. I hope she figures out who her real father is. I often wonder what she said to her mother when the DNA results came back.
The DNA/Sister/Mother drama is too much! Cant believe that poor guy had to go through that! As a female, I'm disgusted in those 3 women!
It sounds fake and I hope it is. If its not than Id hire a P.I. to find out info on my sister to 1, understand why shes doing this, and 2 find leverage to make her stop or bring to court.
I have a younger brother that Im extremely close to and the thought of choosing some rando over him is unfathomable.
One has to wonder who his sister’s kids (if any) belong to. Or what she has lied to the family about.
f***ing monsters...turning on their own son/brother... they need paternity tests and accountability in their lives... wtf
First story doens´t sit straight with me. Who invites an ex to a family party after zero contact for 5 years?? She was abusive, has a child, nobody has seen her for 5 years and suddenly she´s at an intimate family gathering and half of family is taking her side.. something´s not adding up in this story
@@kjillcallewaert1870 I am absolutely floored by the lack of comments saying that this story sounds completely made up for Reddit likes. It's cartoonish.
If I was a man, and my mother told me I should support a child that wasn’t mine…..
I’d question if me and my father were biologically related. ‘Cause that type of illogical thinking can only be fostered through empathy.
That was my verrrrry first thought!! 😂
Also how can he possibly trust his family during a tough time; especially after something like that.
@@unixpro1970 His brother and dad were always by his side. Also other family members. his mother and sister are not his whole family.
@@uwetheiss970 We get that, but again this illogical thinking can be fostered by empathy so I having the whole family take a DNA test would possibly scare the mother and sister straight. He's still being too nice imho.
@@vampirecrush3057 empathy is putting yourself in their shoes, no experience necessary
My ex demanded I pay him alimony and child support because I was the sole provider and he refused to work for the length of our marriage, was drunk and high, and cheating. He also beat me so badly (in front of our young children), I needed 2 surgeries and 4.5 years of rehabilitation therapy to try to repair the damage to my hip. Ironically, he demanded the alimony and child support, Even though I had both our children 100% custody and was pregnant with our unborn child!!! He also kept making our bank account negative so I had trouble paying my mortgage and bills… he then complained that I closed our joint account and got my own private account. So unbelievable!!! He got nothing, but it cost me over $100k in attorneys fees and 2 years of court to keep my babies safe from him. He has solely supervised visits but hasn’t bothered setting them up and it’s almost been a year.
And to top it off a brother I have not seen in 15 years, who I had always had a good relationship with, who lives across the country and had never met my ex in person either, was completely on my ex’s side. He tried bullying me into staying with my ex. My brother also tried turning my family against me. It was tough. It tore my family apart. The majority of my family supports me and helped me get out of the abusive situation or at least stayed neutral. But my brother tried helping my ex win our children in the custody battle too. I cut his ass off and everyone else who turned against me. Who has time for that drama? Thank God they are in my past.
Sorry you went through all that, Im glad you are at the end of that drama.
But WHY did you have more than one child with him? I really don't understand.
@@fpm3121 that’s not a fair question to ask because the cycle of abuse is very hard to break out of. Once your put things become a lot clearer but unless you’re in that situation you cannot pass judgement. Everything is clearer on the outside
You are an incredibly strong woman. Remember that. You should be so proud of yourself for getting out. Your children will thank you when they are older
I like how in the first story, the family continued saying that he was taking it too far, which is ironic because he only took it that far because SHE took it too far going after his job. That entire family is crazy. I am glad he decided to be done with them.
Loved his brother…standing totally behind him! (And the father)
OH HELL NO. I am a lawyer with some history in family law and if I was the mother of the man in the first story, I would have protected my son at all costs. I would have made sure that no ex of his could get close to him with a child that wasn't his and that he had no part in raising/supporting/being there for before. HELL NO.
I misread that at first and thought you said that you WERE the mother of the man in the first video instead of IF you were the mom. That one little word gets missed and makes a world of difference cuz I was about to let you have it but now we get to stay besties.😉
@@davidguidry657 😂 no but that’s hilarious. Absolutely not. I would have made sure that woman had a restraining order on her and my daughter knew better. I think the mom was outrageous here.
Amen to this - not a lawyer but a mother of three boys.
@@mizuXmagicXmango I agree and that’s why we’re still besties. 😉 Great Tater Tots think alike after all.
I saw this story some time ago. There was another update, though I can't vouch for it's authenticity (sometimes redditors will create fictitious endings/updates on other people's posts when they become popular, so I have my suspicions).
If that update is to be believed, the Sister and the Ex were in an undisclosed lesbian partnership, living together, so the sister stood to gain financially from the paternity fraud as well. That post may have been fake, or it may have been taken down on the advice of OP's lawyer, or taken down in advance of criminal charges being filed against the ex and the sister. The post did imply that there was evidence of willful fraud on their part, which his mother knew about. Her efforts to de-escalate and resolve it within the family were to keep OP's sister from being implicated by evidence that would have turned up in discovery. She wasn't so much taking her daughter's side as much as trying to shield her from consequences after she got in over her head. No resolution was posted after that, only that he had decided to go no-contact with his mother, but his father and brother still supported him, albeit it with added tension because of his estrangement from his mother.
That makes a little more sense in that it explains the mother's actions and the sister's motives (though by no means excusing either of them). But I am skeptical of the authenticity of that post. It's rare these situations get wrapped up so neatly in real life, lol. As you know, in family law, it's a mess at the beginning, a mess during the proceedings, and it's a mess at the end. Rarely does any of it ever make sense and there are no happy endings, just legal costs and butt-hurt all around, lol.
As a mother and a sister this is disgusting and ridiculous! They both will be missing out when he eventually does have his own children!
They both sound like they've cheated on the men that they were with and that's why they feel the way they do
I had to get a permanent restraining order in dealing with an ex. Cost me over 30K in legal fees, 3 months of living hell and a court date which when I saw the lawyer I hired rip her to shreds, and the judge siding with us, that 30k was well spent. She can never contact me again for fear of incarceration. Sometimes you need to press the nuclear button with some folks.
That’s ridiculous. It should never have to cost that much money.
@@anitathompson326 To "hire" the lawyer was 5k alone. Once they burned through that in prep, in order to keep them on and working my case, 5k here, 10k there. Over a few months. Everytime she delayed or missed court for me (my attorneys) to re-submit paperwork to the courts cost like $1000 every time out of my money. Worth it to see her be found guilty because it was a former spouse, she was found guilty of domestic violence charges, in my state parties found guilty have to reimburse (depending on income) legal fees of those prosecuting the case (me). I'll never see that money but knowing if she ever sees me that'll be the 1st thing I ask for, keeps her far far away from me.
Maybe you should sue for legal costs, that's really unfair to pay that much just to protect yourself. I'm really sorry you went through that
@@BoatingMyFloat I was awarded SOME legal reimbursement. But she has never paid. And her knowing she owes me money will keep here away from me forever.
@@kjdickson That is a good thing in itself.
That first story is why paternity fraud is becoming an offense. The fact that the mother and sister are resorting to literally holding you hostage to force a relationship with your ratchet ex and a child that just needs to be loved. The utter lack of sense from the women is astounding.
Glad to hear this. Men for too long get the short stick in divorce.
That poor child deserves a relationship with their actual biological father.
Why would his family take the girls side when they missed out on the first 5 years of the kids life.
@@lisao7600 good point. If it really was my grandchild I would be quite upset.
A DNA test should be required before parents take their kids home from the hospital. First of all because Hospitals sometimes hand the wrong kid over to the incorrect parents, and the second reason is paternity fraud. The husband's name shouldn't be put on the birth certificate without a DNA test having made sure he is the father.
The first story had a final update: turns out the mum was projecting her guilt on the guy, turns out she cheated around the time she got pregnant with OP. Luckily he is not an affair baby but the mother exposed herself as the cheater. Other than that, the rest of the family are on the mend with OP
OMG !! It makes so much sense. Thanks for the update !
I knew the mom was fishy when she said that the Ex was such a nice girl that her son must be the liar. Like, Madam, that's your son !!
Figured that
Good to hear. It seems that the sister needs some therapy because how can she be so gungho on her brother supporting a child that is not his? I am also curious as to which culture this is… I’m guessing Latin American? it sounds like a telenovela.
It's like the guy who went to jail for 5 years because he was not paying child support on a child he doubted was his. Turns out he really was not the father, and she knew the father, with whom she was still in contact.
Thanks so much.
I had a friend and we had been friends from the time we were in diapers until we were 15. We hit our sophomore year in high school and this “friend” fell in with a different crowd. I became the butt of their bullying, to the point that I had to start choosing between physical injury or fighting back. I chose to fight back… literally. I got suspended from school for the fight. Instead of getting in trouble, when my mom brought me home that day, I found that my mom had removed every shred of evidence that this young girl ever existed in our lives. No pictures, no clothing that she left behind, even her bike that she left at our house had mysteriously disappeared. When I asked my mom where my “friends” stuff had gone she simply replied “who?” And walked away. In less than three hours she has wiped this girl from our home and our lives. This was her way of teaching me that standing up for myself would never get me in trouble. I spent my three day suspension baking with my mom. The “friend” moved away that next summer and I never saw her again. I always wondered if my mom had something to do with that too 😂 😂 That is how a parent should react when it comes to standing behind their children. Period.
I hope everyone's mom like yours, everyone need a strong support system. ❤
Tell your mom to receive her Best Mom Moment award please!
I had that exact thing happen with my best friend at 15. Her and her new friend tried beating me up.
Shortly thereafter, I got a boyfriend so I wasn't around much. My ex best friend died in a car accident. A year later, her new friend died in a car accident as well.
I’m very concerned by how often victims of bullies are the ones getting punished for merely fighting back. I would not agree, but could sort of understand if everyone were punished for fighting. Except I never hear that. Just when the victim stops being the victim.
Sarah Duffey's Mum I ❤ u! Wherever you are much ❤ in your direction.
How could anyone think it's okay to tell someone to pay for a child they don't know and isn't theirs. I'm a single mom and no matter how rough it is I'd never demand some ex of mine who is not the Father pay for him. People are weird!
I never got the child support from my 1st husband, but I never went after it, either. My ex murdered my father and probably another unknown victim, and before that he kidnapped our baby and was in hiding for a year. My son suffered severe abuse, and 10 of his 12 years of school were spent in special ed because of his PTSD and high anxiety. He earned his way into "normal" classes his Jr. and Sr. years, but still has mental disorders at age 31.
My ex was not convicted of murder, not even indicted because the police botched the case and lost the most important evidence. He went to prison for 4 years for a different felony (credit card fraud). During that time, I moved my son and me 1500 miles from the only place I've ever known, I legally changed my name, and cut ties forever with some family and friends whom I couldn't trust 100%.
I didn't go after the child support I was awarded because staying alive and hidden from a homicidal maniac was more important.
I cannot wrap my head around how anyone, especially your own family, could think that and take her side! Like, wtf is wrong with them?!
cant tell you how many reddit stories i have seen where people support shit like this. calling the men evil and the children innocent victims and how the men should raise/pay for them and how the women should just be forgiven, but when its the other way around the men are evil and who cares about the child lols
@LazyIRanch Holy cow, girl! 😢 I am so sorry you and your son went through that and that the system failed you.
@@AngelWJediThis is true. Specially with stepparents. So many stories of “you paid for your biological kid, so you need to pay for the other one too.” The other one has full child support, the bio dad is in their lives etc. Life is what it is. Your kid isn’t entitled unless there was an official adoption paper. I have a stepfather and he helps me out enough 😂 I don’t expect anything else.
The Ex and sister are birds of a feather! Possibly mom is too.
The sister has a personal vendetta toward the issue - she has a secret. She thinks if she can force fatherhood on her brother who is not the father, including the monetary "obligation," she'll figure out how she can do it.
I could have sworn that there was another update to that saga. The sister was OP's half sister and the sister and mother knew about it, and that's why they kept harassing OP about it. I could be wrong and it could be another story, but I think that's why they kept on harassing OP.
@@PinkMarshmallows OMG I need to find this history complete, but I don't have reedit
Was the sister the ex's spy?
@@PinkMarshmallows oh hell no, I need a link fo rthis because that's just horrible
Yeah, I wondered if the sister had a child and had gone through something like that herself. That could cloud her judgement on the situation.
For the case @ 4:30, if the mom and sister are so worried about the man's ex, then THEY can financially support her. Leave the poor man alone, the woman was horrible to him. These women should be supporting him, not the attempted-gold-digger.
It’s the utter lack of loyalty for me. How his own sister and mother would take an exes side is next level wild.
@@Garbeaux. I agree
Absolutely. I come from a disloyal family and this just makes my blood boil.@@Garbeaux.
@@vsm5787 yes
I bet you 1 million dollars that the woman and the sister are f*cking each other. That's why she's doing her best for her brother to give money to the child. She wants the h*e but doesn't want to spend money on the child. There's a story like this before, if I remember correctly.
My Grandma was just like you. I could have a gf or close friend and get into an argument, then vent even the slightest bit to my Grandma (she raised me) and just saying something like “so and so was so rude today”, and that was it… that person was my Grandma’s mortal enemy.
My mom was, and I am the exact same!
I would never tell one of my brothers to pay child support for a child that was not his, especially to a woman that cheated. The sister should be ashamed of herself.
I would help the kid out myself instead of this. The kid didn’t choose his mom and is a victim in this too. But to try to force child support is plain insane.
@@Marynicole830 Really? you would financially help out a child of an abusive, lying ex of your brother? if you give her money how do you even know where it is going to go? once she starts receiving money from you what if she starts expecting regular help and starts claiming you are not meeting your responsibility if you don't send money? Do you realize that if you provide long term support for a child that is non biological, you could be considered an equitable parent of the child legally and therefore responsible for the child?
@@squiggs1002This and all of this!!!!
I love how the ex at the end was SO adamant about the ring being "hers"... until she found out it was only like. $1.5K. 😂😂😂
Girl, same. Then to think you can physically assault someone IN FRONT OF PD and nothing is going to happen to you. Chick was all kinds of stupid that day.
19:26 that "oh hell nah" along with the hand movement was priceless 😂
The fact that the mother RAISED her son, and refused to believe him over a woman she only knew through her son and never saw beyond that, is so horrible. This was her child, and she essentially threw him aside for the lies of someone she didn't actually know. I'm so angry. And that's not even getting into the bs with the sister, who's her own brand of psycho. The ex should've thought about the consequences of her actions before starting them, and what she would've done if someone had done the same to her own son.
OP was abused by his ex, and then by his ex again and his sister and mom hopped on the abuse train, just in different genres. And not a single one ever apologized or ever took responsibility. The only ones who tore apart their family were the sister and mom. I hope the mom enjoys her life with her only child left, because she chose her rotten rope to hold onto.
Bringing the problem ex to work is too much.
My parents are like that, always believing the worst of us, despite concrete evidence to the contrary. It is far more common than you think. My parents also spread the falsehoods they believe to their social circles, who then judge the hell out of people they don’t even know. My parents would also rather keep the peace for “appearances”. I feel for this man
Talk about betrayal! No contact with both of these women is absolutely necessary.
I have a feeling the brother is going to go no contact with these women very soon as well. Remember, he was the one who warned OP that mom was going to hold him captive until he backed down.
Had he not been warned, and OP walked into that, it would have ended up with at least his mother, and possibly his sister, being charged with kidnapping and unlawful imprisonment. The last time I checked, at least one of those is a felony. I hope he can get his brother to tell the attorney about those plans, as that will be one more nail in the case.
@@lindapatton4478You're not wrong, iirc there was a third update where dad discovered mom did cheat & he moved in with OP, brother went NC with mom after that so literally only has her pos daughter.
That first story makes me even more grateful for my wonderful little sister who, while she has no problem calling me out on my bs, has never once taken the side of a controlling ex! Love you, sis!🥰
Yeah in all my years off being a little sis to nine boys, I loved some exes, couldn’t stand others, but no matter what, my loyalty is with family. I’ll side with a situation and shame you after Shit settles down, but I’m not about to all out demean any family over someone who decided they didn’t belong in our group. The only time I publicly sided with an ex is when my brother Shawn wouldn’t take responsibility for cheating on his gf and getting the other girl pregnant. Ik he cheated. We all did. We knew when she found out she was pregnant while he was with another. He back tracked lied and tried manipulating everyone involved and my sisters and I literally jumped on top of him pinching and pinching and giving wet Willie’s. You take responsibility for your actions. We will always have your back, but don’t be a Shit person just to try and save face. Own up to your bs and fix it.
As it should be.
@@erikarussell1142nice. Thank you for sharing. That’s a great mindset to have. If only most people would apply it 😌
Your family gatherings must be fun with that many siblings. Can’t imagine giving birth that many times 😅
@@calliopemuse3210 my mother adopted unwanted children that were living on the street. My mom is a total saint.
Thanks for being awesome Charlotte! ❤️ Love that you and your mom have a “you’re dead to me” attitude when standing up for mistreated people. I didn’t have this growing up and still don’t when it comes to family members knowing my past abuse. I’m always touched when I see more kindness. ❤️
Nobody, under any circumstance, should be made to pay child support for a kid that isnt theirs.
No DNA test, no obligation.
Tennessee Passed “House Bill#2689:Paternity Fraud” Fine💸Women…Who do this Despicable Behavior…
Now if only the law would catch up!
Absolutely, if you want to, because of having established a relationship with the child, its up to yourself but under no circumstances should people be forced to do this. It ends up horrible as the child feels the atmosphere.
@@AnneAndersonFoxiepawsexactly
Except of course…the very real circumstances such as adoption, same sex coparenting, embryo adoption, etc 🫤
Back when Charlotte was on Inform Overload I remember her mentioning wanting long hair again, saying that she had to cut it to get acting gigs and to look more profesh for the camera- seeing her now with this long beautiful hair while being the most successful she’s ever been just makes me feel so happy and proud for her. You’ve come a long way Charlotte, glad to see you’re being authentically you!
I remember that!
Is that considered long, I'm geniunely curious cause mines past my butt so I have no idea of what qualifies as long anymore 😅
@@SaintShionHers is “long”, yours however is “really long”, when it gets close to the knees it’s “damn that some hair”, to the ankles it’s “Rapunzel”
@saint-izawa3742 From what I've heard, anything past the shoulders is long. Google will probably provide better answers, though.
@@SaintShionyes, her hair is long. Yours is ridiculously long, lol...jk😂
She really did blossom into a beautiful woman, and funny as Feck too
My husband has a little girl from a previous relationship. They were never married and separated when the girl was 2. Since that day, he has never failed to pay child support and she stays with us once a month because he works 3 out of 4 weekends every month. NOW... I make significantly more than he does and own real estate that I worked very hard for. So, when we got married, we registered under a full separation of assets regime. Not w eek after our nuptuals, the Baby Mama files to revise the child support to include MY income. Girl, NO!
The mom taking his ex's side and then the sister's is wild. The sister is as insane as the ex. Maybe the sister is projecting her own insecurities. They broke up 5 years ago, she cheated & he hasn't seen her for 5 years. How the hell does the sister/mom think a stranger's child is OP's "responsibility"? tf is wrong with these people.
It sounds like OP might be an affair baby the way his mother and sister are going over ham and fist over the issue, perhaps the sister too is an affair baby, you know what OP get. DNA test on yourself and father to see what's what!
There was actually another update to the first story.
Mom called OP to "apologize" and said she wanted to do it in person. She tricked OP. The sister was there, mom locked the door, trying to get OP to forgive his sister. Everything blew up and the sister threw a plate at OP's head. She called the police saying that OP attacked her. Police showed up, got everyone's statements, and arrested the sister. OP cut off contact with sister and mom, went forward with the lawsuit against sister (not the abusive ex), and OP's dad is now going through the process of divorcing the mom. Mom is being hysterical about the whole thing, but the entire family, including her family, turned their backs on her.
Overall, a happy ending 😂😂
Thank you for this.
Thanks for the update
Holy!
Thank you. Frankly feels like mom should be arrested for confining him and accomplice to the assault. Just glad he is free though.
Beautiful saga, too bad it's fake and people believe everything...
The first OP if they’re so concerned perhaps THEEEEEEEEEY should pick up the BILL . I can’t even believe his own family is trying to game and gaslight him wth?!?!?
When I was at the mediators trying to establish better child custody, I had proof that my son had been living at my house 60% of the time while his dad had practically full custody and me minimal times with them. So I was doing this without a lawyer and he had his guy with him, and then the ex said "I don't care where they stay I want custody of them"! His lawyer looked like he wanted to drop kick him across an entire football field, the mediator gave me a kind smile and fireworks of happiness were going through me. The only reason that he had fought so hard for custody, NOT because I was a bad mother or he wanted to be this great father, but he wanted the child support I would have to pay. Everyone in the room, except for him apparently, knew that is what he was actually saying." I don't care if she takes the to Mars to live with her, she still has to pay me money!!!!" At that point we got shared custody and nobody got child support. But yep, I know what that look looks like.
That first family sounds absolutely nuts. Good on OP for being able to stand up for himself to the abusers.
"If I don't like you, you are not gonna be in my life" Preach Charlotte!!! 😎
I would've told my mom and sister to pay her. You think she's entitled to the help, help her out. Im not paying for this child, end of story.
That sister DEFINITELY has tried to do this before with an ex. There is something incredibly personal to her about it.
My money is on his mother has actually done that to his father and the sister is the baby in question (and only she knows it).
Would explain both of them seemingly thinking its ok and normal to forcibly make a man pay for a child that isn't his
I think it's more a sign of the times. You see it in any "XX"-community. Someone with bad intentions plays the "XX" card and any member of that community just flocks together to support and defend them, saying someone from "XX" can do no wrong and are always in the right because of oppression.
I would make a PSA to warn the male population in that area to avoid that sister at all casts unless they want to end up in the same situation.
She's jealous of the brother and wants to get him to distance himself from the family.
I'm pretty sure this sister also believes that Amber Heard was the victim of Johnny Depp; that's what happens, if the whole "we women are better than men" crap goes to far into someones brain
Just throw the whole person away! 😂😂😂 that's the best, love when charlotte says it, makes me laugh
So sister is the golden child and is used to getting her way. Mom always supports sister blindly, even after knowing that she and sister are 100% wrong.
Now that makes sense.
And Dad is useless. Geez, step in and tell everyone to knock it off. This guy just sat by and watched his family implode.
Here is the comment I was looking for-narcissism at it’s finest
Oh the first story made my blood BOIL! Poor man!!! Hope he is blessed with good people around him.
7:21 mom is the same and so am I hahahahhahaa
14:08 I’m not gonna lie I smiled so hard at Charlotte squishing our cheeks through the screen. I felt so loved 🥰
love CB energy
I did too... I need more of this lol
Lol, my chair actually shot back across the room as I recoiled in horror!
As we in the genealogy community say: A mouth can lie but the DNA doesn’t lie. Take the test! Always! Especially when there’s doubt.
Do you say the same about trans people?
I sure hope so!!!
@@kelliewhyte_85🤡
@@kelliewhyte_85 Yeah…facts don’t care about your feelings. Especially, life altering surgeries or medication where the gender of a person becomes very important. You would rather make someone feel good instead of actually make sure they are okay.
DNA doesn’t lie? Except… there are cases where it does!
One I recall was a mother needed to get a maternity test for her five kids. The reason why was not included on legal grounds. But even though she remembered giving birth, had photos of holding the newborns in all the hospital glory of birth… the test came back as a “no. You aren’t the biological mother.”
Here’s why: she was a medical chimera. In utero, she had absorbed her twin. The only part left of the twin… became the uterus and ovaries!
Or another one… a young woman had absorbed her twin. But then gave birth to her sister twenty years later!
@@icarusbinns3156 that is known as an anomaly. They are rare. Identical twins take investigation. Also, when it comes to fraternal twins, both need to be tested as, if the mother has been with a few men in the window of conception, the twins could have different fathers. But, it is rare for a mother to need to take a maternity test. More common for a man. You watch any paternity trial, the judges will often quote an old saying “mama’s baby, daddy’s maybe.” Here’s an interesting twist, though. The baby could have been switched at birth. That has happened so frequently in the past.
My mom has always said she doesn’t trust someone I don’t like. She says that I am “such a sweet and loving girl” that if I don’t like someone, they must’ve done something wrong
That last story was INSANE!!!!!! And yes the engagement ring is just a placeholder. It’s not yours until you fulfill your end of the contract.
I think it differs between cultures. I‘m pretty sure I heard once, that the fiancé is entitled to the engagement ring (IF gifted) when the engagement is ended. But maybe that’s only, when it is ended by the man?
The first story is crazy, I'm really baffled. As a sister myself, I will never side with an ex of my brothers, especially when the kid isn't his. She's surely projecting or doing the same thing to one of her exes, that's why she's insisting that much.
I am sister, too. (Three brothers) I agree. Siblings protect each other if necessary. 🩵
Same, i have two younger brothers and even tho i kinda hate them but if someone treats them like poop then i will protect them at all cost (unless they are in the wrong)
when all this is over legally in court i kinda of hope he makes a social media statement that just say's "for my own sanity on why my sister/mother turned on me, i'm comforting myself that it's just projection which greatly saddens me to learn this about them and hope they can evict their dark past while i stay no-contact." cause they have some serious demon's in their lives to twist themselves into a defamation manipulative pretzel to act like that to their family, even being an estranged sibling to my bro, i would never.
I'm the oldest of three ( younger sister and brother). We don't get on - AT ALL! But there is absolutely no way on Earth of EVER side with one of their exes. And they absolutely despise my ex husband - NO IFS, BUTS OR MAYBES!
Last story, “I don’t want to press charges” the first thing I said out loud was “why, why would you not want to press charges” so knowing she did get a misdemeanor is nice
He hadn't even proposed or gave her ring 😂 That girl was a special kind of crazy. 😵💫
That sister in the first story is going to be (or already is) a total meanace to society. If she's this admant that an ex of her brothers gets money in this sittuation, imagine what she'll expect from her ex's and boyfriends? 😬
A soon-to-be "Media Karen."
seems to me the op's ex is a master manipulator. sounds like she is naive and fell for it. instead of admitting that she's wrong she doubled down. ether way very sad and messy.
Right! Like something is going on there for sure. For them both to turn up at his workplace and try to get him fired- great plan as what money would they, sorry she get from him then?
I'd tell her and the momma to send the ex their money. Problem solved. They are ridiculous. LOL
That’s a good point, I wouldn’t be surprised is the sister tries or has tried something similar.
Paternity tests should be mandatory.
Also, the women in that man’s family are shady!
Or maybe, condoms should be mandatory.
@@hazelka1 No, you absolute idiot. The point of mandatory paternity tests is to curb fraud…so men don’t unknowingly raise children that aren’t theirs. Children also have a right to know who their real father is, no matter who the mother prefers as her mate.
Seriously! I had a friend who refused to believe his ex had cheated on him and wouldn't get a paternity test. 3 years later, his mom convinced him to get the test he found out the kid wasn't actually his.....he was paying child support for those 3 years too.
@@katyredmond Ouch! 💔
I would go a bit further and say DNA tests should be mandatory and happen after birth... *Shrugs* Yes, this can be abused by bad actors... like everything else in the world.. but it would be beneficial to have the kid's DNA available for medical purposes down the line (or to identify corpses of missing kids/people)...
5:02 Its a strong possability the sister is good friends with the cheating ex. That's the only way that would explain her behaviour. If I were in that situation I would tell her to mind her own business since it's nothing to do with her and if she continues then cut off contact as it's better not to have someone like that in your life.
I believe the sister is in love with that EX
Agree, the sister should PAY for this child if she is so concerned. People need to stay in their own lane, regardless if they are family or not.
As a sister myself...If this was my sister I would NOT tolerate this BS. If my Mom enabled any behavior like this I'd cut off contact like it was a diseased limb.
I wanted to mention that Charlotte's cheerful and fun energy in her videos always pull me out of any mental health issues I'm dealing with. Keep being awesome Charlotte 💖
I hope the best friend and IT guy ended up together like happy little clams!!
I have a theory about the sister in the story about the kid that wasn't his. Maybe she made a deal with the ex to split profits of what money she could scam out of the dude? Otherwise why would she be so insistent that her brother take financial responsibility for a kid that has been proven isn't his? I think she's looking for a cut.
Or the two of them are an item and she's doing it for her girlfriend.
This was my thought too,money rules over blood sometimes
My assumption would be if she was in the same situation she would do the same damn thing that girl is doing or maybe she really wants to be on Jerry Springer/Steve Wilkos. 😂
The MOM & SISTER are deeelulu!
My stomach is in a knot for this guy. I cannot understand them on any level at all... It's crazy.
To shut them up. Just say you’ll have a DNA test. 😂😂😂. Also ask the sister’s kid to have one 😂😂😂.
One of my friends had that happened he lived with her for years. The kid was practically his, but wasn’t he paid child support where the kid was 1617 after they had split when he was 18 she demanded more money and the court was like no your kids an adult there’s no more child support needed. Turns that none of that money made it to the kid she took it all and wasted it on drug money
That is so sad. I was a single mom for 15 years, and every cent went to my kids. Clothes, school stuff, going on outings, making it so she can be involved in extra curricular activities… like, only a Shit person steals from children. And the absolute shittiest, steals from their own kids.
@CCZZ.B I'm sorry about what happened to your friend! @@erikarussell1142 I'm sorry about what happened to you! My mom was a single mother with 4 kids (the youngest not even born at the time of the divorce) and still made sure that I was cared for and had a good relationship with my father (who is a good person). She is remarried now but she cared for young kids alone for about 6 years until she did (with a little help from her parents, my grandparents). All the money she made was used to take care of her kids. She's a great mom. I'm still young but even I understand that what first OP's ex was doing was crazy.
People who pay child support for kids that are not theirs should be paid back. It’s very unfair to the man that doesn’t know where the woman’s coochie has been.
@@KaritaGR100% agree. Also @erikarussell I put money into my sisters bank account a couple of years ago for her four kids for Christmas. I live on a disability so I could only afford $30 each but she didn’t give it to them, she kept it. They may be adults but it was still for them. I will never ever put money into her account again because I now know she is a thief and one that’s quite happy to take from her kids. I have actually gone no contact (except on Snapchat because I can’t be completely horrible because she’s still my sister. I just don’t have any respect for for anymore after other stuff she pulled this year) and I’m happier for it.
@@KaritaGR i fully agree!!
I already read the first aita story, and it WAS BATSHIT CRAZYYYY. I hate this narrative on reddit aita post of forcing men or anyone else to be parents to kids that aren't theirs, it's the" but you have a moral obligation" or "that's what a real man would do". If the sister is sooo concerned, then she should help, ohhh wait it isn't her responsibility. Honeyyy I want to see that checkbook popping.
Omfg 😅 that second story! I’m dying from laughter 😂
They need to stage one of the sister’s exes showing up with a baby and asking her for child support. See if she wants the responsibility when it’s on her dime 😂
Absolutely Brilliant!
You know she gonna be like, "But it's not the same!!!"
Yeah, first story… I think we’re all on the same page. Been a long time since I heard one of these drama stories that was so rage-inducing.
Second… “It doesn’t work that way” gave me a really warm feeling. Trying to be nice about it and the cops are like, “Nah, she’s being processed.” That was balm to the soul, man.
I remember when my daughter’s father said she wasn’t his and I offered a dna test after birth. There was no need to. She looked exactly like him when she was born. He was speechless 😂😂😂
My daughter is 16 and I never requested child support. I’m glad I moved 2k miles away
I'm a younger sister to two older brothers, and I cannot IMAGINE being anything like the sister in the 1st story. My middle brother had a really crappy girlfriend in high school who was really immature and eventually cheated on him, and while my brother and I aren't like super close or anything, I was ready to beat her ass into the dirt for what she did. My brothers are not perfect people (middle one especially has some things about himself he needs to sort out before pursuing a long-term relationship), but there are times when the facts cannot and should not be argued with. And my pride as both a woman and a sister is going to relate more to standing up for my brothers when I should, especially against other shitty women.
Yeah, I don't get this all mentality of "women should always stand for other women". Not when they are shitty people and liars.
Preach 👏
As someone who always wished for a brother but still loves my male cousins just as much as if they were my brothers, I find the first story crazy. If someone woman ever tries to threaten the men in my life like the first OP's ex treated him, forget womanhood so long as my loved ones aren't in the wrong that woman is DEAD!!!
How the sister was ever able to behave like that and take the enemy's side (yes, I think the ex is an enemy ) baffles me🤯.
PREACH!
"You gotta push back babe, you gotta push back", sage advice from Charlotte.
14:06 When Charlotte grabs the camera to smush it. Gotta admit it, it made me giggle and smile! This is why I love Charlotte and watch her videos almost religiously. Its the lil yet sweet gestures of love she gives towards the audience and the huge dollop of adorable goofiness and amazing dialogues in even funnier accents. 😂😂 Its been years since I have been watching and she still is the same down to earth hilarious potato queen!!! ❤❤❤❤
Every time I hear "There's an update" I get excited like it's christmas, I swear 😂
6:05 CRYING AT THE BBC BUT ✨ot✨ UPDATE BAHAHA 😭(also I’m saying “ot” because that’s what her family calls her and it’s easier than typing out her name lol)
That fits story sounded outrageous. Then you mentioned the Posada and it makes sense. I think they may be Mexican. And yes, I could totally see it then. My parents are Mexican. They tried to make my boyfriend marry me when I was 17 bc they thought he to my v card. If a guy ever touches a woman and she has a baby, he’s responsible for it even if it’s not his. I don’t agree but that’s how they see things
Interesting. Thanks for the cultural explanation!
The posada thing also gave me the impression since that's one of my favorite traditions from Mexico growing up, I know family is a big thing for us but that story was so messed up and if I was in his shoes I might have trust issues after and cut contact with the sister.
OP: "I didn't want to press charges"
NOOO, you MUST press charges! As soon as you told the ex how much the ring was and then she lashed out in rage, she needs to be put away. Also, suggest OP get a restraining order because I get the feeling this won't be over.
I felt pure rage when the first OP started talking about his sister.
DNA tests should be mandatory and all fathers should pay for their children not taxpayers.
I agree I thinks it's in everyone's best interest to have it mandatory
for medical records as well making sure no man raises another's kid without their consent. The current system just doesn't help because if a man requests one from someone he's in a relationship with he's basically accusing her of cheating so whether she did or didn't the relationship is already damaged or destroyed so just making it common practice would get rid of that
Im tired of this argument. You should not force people to take DNA tests against their will. It is and should always be a choice. Forcing things on people is 100% wrong. I can't believe I have to explain this
Agreed. When a case for child support hits the courts, this should trigger a court response of proof of paternity (most cases) and maternity if father has custody. Once DNA has confirmed biological parent, then the court can proceed with next steps.
A former friend of my sister’s got pregnant and wasn’t sure which of 5 guys fathered the baby. The child was born mixed race and she then knew because 4 out 5 guys were causasian. There’s too much irresponsibility among people today for courts to just trust the unproven word of someone in these cases.
@@Blondie77128 Did you just say proof of maternity?
@@Blondie77128In most States, unless you're married, the Court systems does allow for DNA testing before child support orders are issued.
Both of those stories were outrageous! Thanks for bringing them to us Charlotte.
First off if one of my brothers exs popped up and was like "surprise you have a kid" I would have been the first one telling him to get a DNA test. Wtf is this lady on. No way man.... That's wild..
Here in the US, you never want to start paying for a child that is not yours because once you start paying for them the court will take that as acknowledgement or acceptance of it being your child! Not only that, you should never sign the birth certificate if you're not 100% sure that the child is yours and here's why. Once you sign the birth certificate you are financially responsible for that child, even if it's proven later on that you are not the father!
That really needs to change. If you find out later that you are not the father, all child support should stop and any paid up to that time should be paid back by the ACTUAL father.
@@orthohawk1026It would have to be returned by the mother, since there would probably a reason that she grabbed the guy who paid.
I would have printed a T-shirt up with the DNA test results on it and a highlight showing the No match box, and wore that t-shirt every single time I saw my sister or mother in that situation.
That's next level petty. Excellent!
I love this! Petty level EXPERT
I love it when Charlotte reaches out to the camera and scratches our chins, and yes it makes my imaginary tail wag! ❤
The first OP is incredibly brave to keep his stance and stand up to the injustice and harassment. It takes such bravery to cut out family who are toxic and don’t stand in your corner. Hoping he is able to find people who become the family he deserves to have.
What also infuriates me about this story is that people would be all up in arms if this behavior was being done by a male to a female, but because it’s a woman, she has to believed. Lying and harassment are not gender specific. Both are wrong and should not be tolerated despite the person who is inflicting the harm.
Also, OP did not break up the family, his ex did and the other family members by not standing by their own flesh and blood.
I haven't commented in a long, long while now as I'm grieving/mourning the loss of someone in my life but today, today I really needed something comforting to stop these tears. Charlotte's channel is the one place where I can, for a brief shining moment, put those feelings aside and marvel in the good humour of this channel and for that I'm thankful and grateful to this channel, to the lovely Charlotte ❤🫂
I'm so sorry for your loss, you have my condolences. Stay strong and RIP to the person you lost, I'll keep you and your family in my prayers ❤❤ 🤗🤗
I love you and am praying for you xo xo lost my grandmother yesterday. God knows who you are xoxo
@@Raewoo333You have my condolences as well, I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. Stay strong, thinking of you and your family ❤❤ 🤗🤗
@@Raewoo333my condolences to you too on your loss. I know words are small so here's a > for you. You're in my thoughts xx ❤
@@ShrodingersHatthank you ❤🫂
I love it when my easily distracted brain immediately forgets what she’s talking about every time 2 unskippable ads pop up back to back
The actual audacity that some people have is so astonishing. Like, this shit still surprises me sometimes wtf 😂
That family is insane. Support someone else’s child?! I find it hard to believe that story is real.
One of my favorite memes “If you’ve ever done me wrong, just know my mom knows, she’ll never forget and she doesn’t like you.” That is true for my mom and I’m the same way with my daughter. 😂
Dam! That first story, the sister is beyond help and the mom is halfway there. And the last story, crazy ex deserved that charge.
First story: i feel bad for the kid. If the ex (mother) is being this un-responsible, i hope the kid is okay. It isnt OP's fault at all, the sister is crazy and for some reason thinks that females deserve everything and can do no wrong or are owed free stuff. I hope the child grows up seeing the wrongs of his mother and OP's mom realizes she needs to tell her daughter off for her behavior as much as she wants to keep the family together
*irresponsible, not un-responsible😊 & I agree with you!!
The sister is just an example of a modern “feminist”, especially with the comment about a woman’s word being all the proof you should need.
@@conorstewart2214So basically, that sister supports lying in order to get what she wants.
I am sad and offended that you see all feminists like that. Feminism is about ataining right equality, not about reversing the inbalance.
@conorsewart2214
"Just because you have money, doesn't mean people are entitled to your money."
Story of my life. My husband's family thinks we're rich and can just freely give away money. We technically have money in savings, but it's all going towards affording a small house someday. But nobody calls us to be social, they'll just pop up out of nowhere one day asking for some sum of money. When we say no, they get mad and then we don't hear from them for another year. It's lousy.
It's not selfish to keep the money you earn.
It doesn't surprise me that the parents took the ex's side over their own child. My parents did the same with me. I had an abusive ex boyfriend who had been stalking me, spreading rumors, etc but because he was a Marine, he was a golden boy in my parents eyes. I had to cut my family out of my life for about a year or so because of it. Id come home from work and he'd be in my living room, joking with my family. Unfortunately, my dad/brother are still friends with him on FB and I know he will always be a golden boy because of his service history. 😮💨
That is terrible. I am so sorry that happened to you. He was a Marine and stalked you that is dangerous. The male in your family are misogynistic jerks. I am really sorry for you I know how that feels the males in my family are like that too. They support hitler and his views of women being only children bearing machines and all man should be war heroes and have all rights over women.
Glad you set boundaries!
Find dirt on him. Hire a private investigator. Then, share it with his hierarchy...
@@NickM_FirstofHisName yea...I've tried that, unfortunately. He's still a golden boy
✨☕️✨I love how Charlotte takes what would or could be idle, even hurtful, gossip and then we all look at it from different sides. Can we all appreciate Charlotte for educating and empowering anyone in similar situations? And she does it all while making us laugh. It’s like sharing a bottle of wine with friends and solving the world’s problem.
CB is a gem
As far as the ring goes, I have heard that if you are just engaged, the ring belongs to the man. It is a gift with an obligation, so it is only yours if you fulfill that obligation-getting married. After marriage, it is yours.
Okay the 1st story literally made my head hurt. How come when a woman gets abused everyone supports her yet when a man gets abused they all turn a blind eye? That man went through HELL AND BACK of dealing with that monster of a lady! I just feel bad for the kid.
Its not "they all", it's the sister.
And if you get beat on by a man there will always be an ass defending him too.
@Charlotte Dobre, I dated this one girl who I had proposed to. She cheated on me and took the ring, but that’s not the worst part of the story. She then left me for the guy she had cheated on me with, married him and his engagement ring to her was the ring that I BOUGHT claiming that it was a family heir loom. She had 3 kids and a lovely divorce with him.
I am so sorry this happened to you. Your ex is sad she left someone who actually bought her a ring for someone who didn’t bother to. It is sad that the money from your ring is wasted on her but at least you dodged a bullet.
Wow, that's terrible. I'm so sorry
@@houski4242564, I’ve had nothing to do with her since the breakup and her attempt at stealing a bunch of my belongings. Between her former friends and her posting on Facebook, I wouldn’t have known what was going on. She lost a lot of our mutual friends after our breakup. One guy that she claimed was one of her best friends ended up become the best man at my wedding.
I am since divorced. Man, I can pick ‘em.
Actually, I finally did get a great woman. She’s smart, well educated, gorgeous, and for some reason likes me.
@@BrianAndresScott, it happens. I won in the end. My fiancée is amazing.
5:08 exactly 😂
Just because you have money does not make the people around you entitled to your money. I will use that!
I hate the first family and I would go no contact with all of them. And I would KEEP the lawsuit. Take the sister for EVERYTHING.
Not all of them, the bro was solidly behind OP and all dad said was to not be rude but agreed with the OP otherwise.
@@christinacartter9784 definitely the sister and the mom. Seems like the sister isn't used to take accountability and that's why Mom wants the OP to let it go.
I bet it really hurt OP when he learned his mother did not believe the abuse because the woman was good to her. Imagine experiencing all of that and finding out your mother doesn't even care and has more compassion for your abuser than she does for you.
If Buddy breaks it off, she keeps the ring. If Dolly breaks it off, she returns the ring. Better yet, DeBeers says buy an engagement ring, it is not a required part of wedding customs; it was invented in the 1930s.
I was "polyamorous" (read: groomed and taken advantage of by people a decade or more older and abused for years), my primary partner had children with her legal husband, who is an engineer and makes easily 4 times what I do, he shares custody with her and pays child support. After I FINALLY left, she spent over a year trying to get me to pay child support.
I’m sorry to hear about that and glad you managed to get out of that situation. But holy hell that’s crazy!!