I had CPS called on me when my son was 6 by my exes mother!! He happened to be home sick from school that day and it was concluded the allegations were false. So I asked what was going to be done about a false report and I was told "Sadly nothing gets done!" Are you freaking kidding me!!! So they do nothing about false calls which is BS!! Love you Queen Charlotte!!!
@@MizMorgue1 thank you so much! Yes we are fine he is now 26 and a veteran! I had asked what would happen if I filed charges against her for it and was told nothing, more than likely it would be dropped! But there are kids out there that actually need the intervention from CPS and nothing is ever done and those poor babies suffer until they grow up and can escape! And those are the lucky ones because some never make it to adulthood! Things really need to change! Because of that visit I have spent my life trying to help kids who need it as much as I can!
Nope. My ex called cps so much we were on a first name basis. They knew my schedule so they knew when to come. I always had cookies and tea ready for them whenever they came. None of them were ever confirmed or anything. Not one. But it needs to change.
I also dealt with something similar from one of his exes. Sadly they absolutely do NOTHING. Even after REPEATED false claims. It's disgusting and WRONG. There needs to be consequences for false claims like that as well as just bad behavior in general. Sending you my best wishes, thoughts and prayers!! 💖🙏💖🫶
God bless you! I understand what you went through. My ex MIL's family did the same thing. They also would spy on me by listening on phone calls and interrogating my daughter every time she went over there. I think it's child abuse to do that to a child so I tried to never to talk bad about them, they did not feel the same way. It's crazy that a person can abuse the system and not face any consequences. Though, I'm kinda of surprised that they told OP who called them or that it was cops instead of CPS. I guess procedures differ from state to state 🤷
While terms as abuse and unfit mother are on some level subjective, the term killed is not. This is a clear and provable false report, and is as such a crime.
I believe it already is a crime with the punishment being a fine (in the UK and some states at least)- only thing is, it's often left unpunished from what I know
@@artemis_justiceaizawa5978why would you just make up something like that without doing a very simple, quick check on Google? Just to pass along misinformation and for the attention and having some "knowledge"...you are absolutely wrong. 😏
My ex was trash and clearly took after his mother... his father, my ex FIL was a saint. When this man found out his son put hands on me he drove 24+ hours to get me out of that house and told his son he was disowned. I still miss and love that man more than anything.
I've had a few issues with my FIL, but he definitely is the saint in his family too. He works, comes home and cooks, shops for his wife and she yells at him in return. My husband begged his dad to divorce his mom when he was a kid, but he'd tell him "it's not that simple."
What a gem of a human. Sometimes kids turn out a certain way, and it doesn’t mean the parent has to stand by their behavior. God I’m so happy he was there for you.
I’m glad you were able to get away from the situation safely & had someone who loved you enough to help you too. It sounds like he was a great father figure & is probably still watching out over you.
This is so good to hear. My dad is like your ex-FIL. And I'm so so so happy that there are other fathers out there like him. I hear so many stories now on the internet, but before the internet (I'm old), I mostly heard horror stories about fathers/FILs.
I am so so glad that I got such a good mother in law. She took us in when my husband and I got into a car accident that damaged my spine and I lost my job. I was bedridden and crying in pain every day for three straight years and she would come into the room when she heard me sobbing to pet my hair and bring me ice and hold my hand. When I got stuck on the floor from muscle seizures she came and helped me back to bed. She brought me food and water whenever I needed it. Her ex-husband wanted to charge us rent for staying in the spare room and she told him “don’t you dare” (yes my husband is his biological son and oldest child). She did everything for me as if I was her own child and I love her so dearly. She will never be in a nursing home if I have any say, she will be in our home and I will care for her how she cared for me
That's amazing. I hope you are doing better now. I had a spinal i jury, couldn't walk properly for a year (and longer). My 12 year old daughter had to look after me because my own mom couldn't be bothered (she lives a few streets away). All she did is cause me stress and yell at me when i was in pain. You've got an amazing mil.
I would NEVER respect a mean-hearted woman who TESTED me to bring me closer to her. I also would have ZERO respect for the meek man who didn't stand up for mean behavior. No prizes won here.
I don't think it was necessarily Mary going saying you're in. Mary didn't want anymore tongue lashings from Latin queen. She rolled over rather than face it again. But what this says about Matthew ain't good.
I *almost* get it, like if she was trying to make sure the gf was able to stand up for herself and in that way she would also stand up against her son and have a backbone But the way that it was done, with the test and stuff, was absolutely crazy
Seriously when she was younger did she insist on testing potential girlfriends in trial by combat? Is Matthew McConaughey part Klingon on his mother's side or something?!
My SIL had a hard time adjusting to our family and especially my mom because we were TOO NICE. My poor SIL was raised in a family where love had to be earned. She wasn’t prepared for the outpouring of unconditional love that my mom (and the rest of us) gave her. She’s now totally used to it and happier than ever. So glad she’s part of our family. ❤
Your SIL sounds like me. Im sad for her childhood and can sympathize with that greatly, but I’m even more glad that she has such lovely in-laws. It took me a while to be comfortable with my MIL because I was so used to that kind of warm, nice interactions having an ulterior motive. She is also VERY accommodating of my needs when we visit her place (about 10 hrs away), even before we knew all of those things traced back to being autistic. She knew I had a pretty unloving childhood, so she had a lot of sympathy for that. It really can be quite overwhelming when you aren’t used to it. She’s a big hugger, but she knows I can’t take much. So she asks or waits for me to initiate, and she keeps it much shorter than she does with other family members and other spouses in the family. She knows I need space and time to recover, so we have days around holiday festivities where she just reads in a room with me, and shes perfectly fine with me calming myself on my tablet. She knows if I step away from the festivities for bit that I’ll come back faster if I’m not disturbed.
I'm having this with my in-laws too.. I sometimes cry at their thoughtfulness. I was usually considered to be irrational at my own home. Anything I expressed was always "you're overreacting" :/
My mother in law stayed with me 24 hours a day when I was in hospital, sleeping on a roll out mattress next to my bed. She's an angel and I am so grateful to her. I live in Spain so see my mum very rarely 😢. So to have such a caring woman in my life makes me feel blessed. Especially hearing about the women in this video!!! 😮
I'm a 911 dispatcher and yes the police will charge them if they continue (or can prove) that the person is using the police to harass others. Unfortunately it's hard to prove (court-wise) the first time because the person will just claim they were "concerned "
This is what I was going to say it's your word against there word I'm not justify there calling CPS for no reason People who abuses kids are good at lying and manipulating the system
My son has autism and struggled with physical contact when he was little. We imposed a hard rule that he wasn’t allowed to be rude and could acknowledge his affections by handshakes, air kisses or words. By forcing children to hug adults they don’t want to makes them more susceptible to predators, especially kids with autism. We shared this information with my mil but in her mind she was exempt because she was nana.
My besties son is the same so instead of hugs (we hug alot lol) we do high fives he's happy and we're happy nothing forced if he ever wanted a hug would be on his terms
Yessss!!! Personal boundaries are a must!!! I never forced my kids to hug or kiss anyone.. they're all old enough to speak for themselves now.. no one ever gave me an issue about it either, thankfully! I know Charlotte doesn't condone violence but I'm a beast when it comes to my boys and anyone can get it over them!
Just a PSA at least in the state of VA, if anyone calls CPS on you and they do the random visit and find the claims false, you CAN request a form to bring the anonymous caller be brought to court if claims were made with malicious intent. Speaking from experience ❤
When I met my husband he started thinking for himself. He started questioning the path for him and what he wanted in life. Of course, my MIL and SIL thought this was a grave offence and I was controlling him (honestly SIL was projecting big time). They badmouthed me, which made him withdraw - they claimed I controlled him. Especially SIL was very vocal and even stalked me on social media. They showed up the week before the wedding yapping about me and begging him to not make the biggest mistake of his life. That was 19 years ago. SIL got divorced, we are still together stronger than ever.
This I can relate to a bit. When my husband and I first started dating he was honestly a bit of a kiss *ss. He put up with so much disrespect just to not step on anyone's toes. I always thought he was just so kind, then I started to notice he had people around him who used him for his kindness and they did not do for him the way he did for them. I pointed this out from time to time and he finally started reflecting and realized he needed to stop reaching out to those people and man were people pissed they couldn't walk all over him anymore. Suddenly, I was "brainwashing" him.🙄
@@RedPanda74 were pretty much NC with her, she never changed. We see her sometimes for family events but dont engage much. My MIL for the most part accepted i am not going anywhere but did have a little quip some yearsback. telling my husband - when he got stress due to workplace bullying - that "some people pull you up and some people pull you down" when the subject came on our marriage during this time and he snapped saying "yeah my wife pulls me up, without her, I don't know how I would manage" and hung up :D
I haven't spoken to my two sisters in 12 years because they kept calling CPS on me as a single mother because I was never enough, apparently. Today, my kids are grown and better humans than their own. Thats the justice I needed!
The woman who told her boyfriend that his mom lied is a true one. Her loyalty is with her man and I respect that so much! That MiL is so jealous that this woman has her son’s attention.
My mother in law has a white board with mine and my daugther's birthdays/allergies/ favorite foods/important upcoming dates, supported me through a charity when I lost my job, always welcomes me home when I show up, help with my daughter like she is her grandma, hugs me when I cry, call to take news, always have my favorite food ready just in case I show up, etc. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months. She is a miracle and I adore her.
My last bf had a mom like that. In the end, I was more committed to the man's mom and teen son than to him. He was a manipulative, gaslighting, emotionally abusive a-hole, but I felt I lost so much when I FINALLY said "I'm done". I loved that child and still do. Same with his mum. Ironically, he cut off all his family shortly after I left him. I wonder if that's still the case? 🤔 Because it occurs to me that I MIGHT be able to, idk, at least drop a Christmas card or small note sometime? I'm SO AFRAID of encouraging ANY communication from HIM though 🥺😖
From the wife of a paramedic, it IS illegal to call in false claims to the police, especially emergency calls. It can result in fines and/or jail time.
I got add to the positive mother-in-law stories granted I’m not actually married to him yet just engaged. But we watch shows together, go to the pool together, cook together and she teaches me and lets me access all the family recipes.. and she’s always been super supportive of us. It IS POSSIBLE!
For those of you with loving MILs, I am so happy for you. You are blessed. For those with the other kind, know I feel your pain. In-laws can be so hateful.
I am a new MIL and can say my son would never let anyone disrespect his wife. New boundaries can be expected after marriage, but it's not a line in the sand. It happens bit by bit as the couple discovers themselves over time. It's part of maturing and is emotionally healthy for all involved. BTW, my DIL is a gem and my son is over the moon in love with her. I call them the lovebirds. They are so happy together and I hope that feeling never ends for them.
Me too! I hope my son marries his girlfriend. It’s a little bittersweet when your son finds a good partnership, I am a little sad that he has someone in his life that is more important to him than his mother but at the same time that fact makes me very happy. It is the natural progression of mother son relationships. I can see how some moms have a hard time letting their children go and losing that feeling of being number one in their child’s eyes and can get can get very toxic. Or if your son has been hurt by a relationship, a mother’s natural inclination is to protect her child, which can cross boundaries. I think a healthy relationship with yourself leads to a healthy relationship with your children.
I was fortunate to have a great relationship with my MIL. In all the years I knew her, she asked only ONE question that was none of her business. I miss her terribly. My relationship with her is what made me into the MIL I am. I absolutely adore my DIL and am grateful to her mother for raising the daughter who is perfect for my son. Plus, my son told me I'd never have grandchildren.... I HAVE THREE! That makes me adore my DIL all the more.❤
I am honestly so lucky to have the mother-in-law that I have. She started calling me her daughter-in-law around month two of me and my husband dating. She welcomed me with open arms from the moment I met her and she truly is one of my best friends almost 20 years later. You would think that you would want to love and build up the person your child is with. Makes me sad that women see their sons partners as competition and not a new daughter.
I would never even waste a breath to a MIL who tried to "initiate" me. If you do not welcome me without some crap thrown on each other "just for fun´s sake", then forget me.
@@agnes15101968- Exactly. Even if it was meant as a test because being married to a celebrity is difficult, just have a conversation! But also, shame on any partner who doesn’t put their mother in her place when she pulls crap like that.
Same here! My MIL is the best! We got off to a slightly rocky start because when we first met she didn’t hardly speak to me at all. I thought she hated me from the beginning. It turned out that her ears had closed up on the flight to visit us, and she couldn’t hear anything and was in pain. By the next morning, her ears were open again, and she apologized for her behavior the day before. She’s been nothing but lovely ever since. ❤️
My God we have the same story lol. I used to have more fun going to the bar with my mil and her friend rather than going to the night clubs with our own friends! 😂
I’m going to leave a positive MIL example. I had the most wonderful, amazing, Christ loving MIL for 29 years. ❤ I absolutely hit the jackpot when I married into my husband’s family. Myrlie was loving and kind…funny as all get out and could cook then lay out a feast so big that the table would groan. She was an awesome MawMaw and loved our daughter fiercely and her face would literally light up each and every time she was around her. We lost my sweet MIL in 2019 and I miss her terribly. I’m so fortunate to have known her and can see so much of her in her wonderful son, my husband of 34 years. Love you to the moon and back, infinity times a trillion zillion, Mama. ❤❤
That’s beautiful! I too have an awesome mother in law. I tell her that I want to be just like her. Genuine, kind, generous and loving. Thank God we have had the opportunity to know women like this.❤
I almost came UNGLUED. The audacity. Next step, restraining order bc just oh hell no 😯😡 My ex husband (we have a 23yo daughter that doesn't speak to him now) has a 13 year old daughter with my ex bestie (long story). The daughter has autism and is being raised by her maternal grandmother bc my ex is still a pos. And his mother doesn't believe autism is a "thing) 🙄 This story hit me hard
@@catarinacardeira2828 xenophobic is a signal word to know you've been indoctrinated. She's ignorant. I bet you say "their truth" and "authentic" too. You should watch "They live". It will snap you out of it.
@ eu não acredito que em 2024 as pessoas não sabem que o Brasil 🇧🇷 fala português e não espanhol. Tem mais de 200 milhões de brasileiros na nossa terra. 🤦🏻♀️
I'm actually really blessed with my MIL. She cares a lot about us and me and it's great. She might have the occasional moment, but she's human and I love her.
I have been watching my grandson, now 12 & in 6th grade, while my daughter & son in law work since he was born prematurely. He’s my buddy..BUT….when I’m watching him on parental time, while they’re at work, I follow the rules they have in place. We communicate well & all want what’s best for him. However, when he spends the night or weekend I get to play Grammy & spoil him 😄. That works for all of us. I wouldn’t trade it for the world 🥰
My mom is the unhinged MIL in my marriage, so I'll give a palate cleanser from the angel that is my MIL. My husband legally adopted my first kid (I was a teen mom) and the day the paperwork was finalised she hosted a dinner full of "it's a boy" decorations, and a "welcome to the family [son's name & date of birth]" sign, gave him a happy birthday grandson card but crossed out the word "birthday" and wrote "got you day" and she has never stopped loving on him even with bio grandbabies. She makes a point of making up for lost time with him and he doesn't know yet but for his 18th birthday (coming up in March) she's handing over an account with money to help him with college or trade school so he doesn't have to worry about struggling to get by. She's protected me like one of her own, and if anyone gives me a hard time as an immigrant when we visit her (she's in a red state, we're in a blue state, I'm Swedish Australian) she isn't afraid to start a post office bar fight with anyone. And I'm the only veterinarian she recommends to anyone, especially if they have livestock. She is amazing and I love her. I've felt more like a daughter to her in my time with her son than I ever have with my own mom.
The one where the boyfriends mother caller OP a Shetland pony... Shetland ponys are bad arse little beast! Anyone that have been around them for any period of time will agree. I'd take being called a Shetland pony not only a compliment but also a challenge! Let the fun begin!!
I totally agree. My Shetland pony was cute but sassy. He would buck me off then turn around and stomp on me. He would nip at me when ever I had my back turned. Bad ass.
Totally agree with you, when my grandfather died he had 3 horses and a 15 year old Shetland pony called sindy who was a little madam with an attitude to match , the three big horses were easy to move but no one could get anywhere near sindy she was scaring everyone off, this pint sized pony was attacking everyone and making fully grown men run away 🤣 in the end they called me in as sindy actually liked me and trusted me, armed with a packet of polos I did in five minutes what 10 adults couldn't do in a week 🙄 I just called her and told her to get her fury butt into the trailer and she trot straight it in exchange for some polo mints, the look of shock on the others was hilarious 🤣
It has to be tough to have a son or daughter who is rich and famous. You want to make sure they are there for the right reason - and I know he is an adult, but it still is hard I’m sure.
Man, I'm so lucky! Seriously, my MIL is the sweetest. She and my mom took care of me and their grandbaby the first month. They alternated weeks. My MIL made me food, drew baths, took care of her grandbaby during the day so I can nap since I stayed up all night. She even brought me home remedies to help with the swelling in my feet, postpartum. I head these stories and OMG, do I know how blesses I am. For our babies 1st birthday, my mom and MIL got together to make the guests food, instead of us ordering food...I am so so sorry that some women don't experience this kind of Love and respect from their MIL.
@@arlenesmith7883 I mean imagine being so delulu that You believe half the population of the world is not just below You, but they have a personal problem with You .-.
My in-laws are having their own individual fits of anger because they're NOT invited to my oldest child's wedding next year. He has already stated that they only want people there who will share in their joy, not bring it down.
@Naturefan354 my future daughter-in-law has a best friend who is in the wedding as the person of honor as they're a member of the LGBTQIA community, and my in-laws are Trump supporters who want us to exclude this wonderful person from the wedding.
My MIL would drive by our house then call me and criticize everything she thought was wrong. She would walk into our house without knocking, neglect letting me know about family plans, and my ex, her baby boy, did nothing. The kicker? He suggested that I have breast augmentation so that my breasts would be closer in size to his mother's!! I dipped.
I’m in the middle of planning my wedding and with how my mom acts and how my soon to be husband’s mom is, there will be DRAMA for sure. Can’t wait to tell y’all all about it 😂
@laura-jasminedeacon5183 can you put a limit on drinks per person? Sorry I can imagine if they are really bad drunks they might cause a ruckus when they get cut off. I hope all goes well on your wedding day!
Urgh my “mother in law” (technically step mother in law as hubbys actual mum died when he was 16) when told we were finally pregnant after years of trying, before even saying “congratulations”, said “well don’t expect us to babysit” - I wouldn’t trust her to look after a goldfish!! She refused point blank to be called any version of “grandma” so she’s referred to as “grandads wife” or “the thing grandad married” if the husbands not around!😂😂
God, I'm sorry. 😅 When I was pregnant with my first child, I was catching up with my childhood best friend who I hadn't seen in a few years, and when I told her the news, she responds with, "I literally hate children with a burning passion, but congrats!" Like..... okay???? Thanks???? People are so weird. 😅
My mother in law is a blessing in my life; I’ve been with my husband since 17 years old and had a chaotic relationship with my mother and my MIL took me in and has always treated me like I was her own daughter, she stands up for me against her own family, she was there with me when I first took the pregnancy test, she watches my kids for me, I thank God for her every day. I basically treat her like the mother I never had, anything she wants I get her, she’s the best.
I am BEYOND FORTUNATE!!! When my own mom died at 47, [ovarian cancer] my MIL promised my mom shed always treat me like one of her own. She honored her word for 37yrs until we lost her last yr to dementia 😭😭😭 Im sure urs will be amazting too!!!! 🤗🤗🤗😘😘😘
I have known of several people in Texas where the grandparents took the mother to court and got visitation rights. This is even when the father lost rights. They don't pay any support which I have issue with. Especially when the dad is not supporting the child.
16-22wks. I'm a midwife. 1st time moms usually feel quickening a little later than repeat mom's, probably because you know what you're looking for- early fetal movement is extremely subtle. Being overweight can also make it a bit more difficult. I felt my son at 18wks. It was like someone gently tapped me from the inside, such a tiny little thump. If I hadn't been totally still I'd have missed it. This kind of weird nonsense like not believing paternity based on movement is ridiculous to me. It reminds me of when celebrities are pregnant or might be pregnant and people start speculating about paternity based on how much or little she's showing. People are all different and how much or little they show has almost nothing to do with the baby itself. Speculating like that is so gross
The 1st story & the nana’s comment that she works for a relationship with her kids? - so true. When my sister had kids and my parents & I were downsizing, we moved just one street over from them, just a few minutes’ walk away. So we saw plenty of my nieces as they were growing up, sleepovers, family dinners etc. and still do. Made some great memories along the way. The paternal grandparents - not so much. My eldest niece at age 17, had a part-time job in a coffee-shop whilst in college (what I think USA/CAN would call community college?) in our local shopping-centre (mall). Paternal grandma goes in the coffee-shop one day whilst my niece is on duty, starts gushing “oh my dear niece” etc. etc. The next time my niece sees Mum, she said - “Gran, I had no idea what to say to her, I don’t know her, I never see her.” One of the saddest things I think I’ve ever heard. Whereas with Mum & me, the girls feel close enough to just pop in when they feel like, my younger niece & I nerd out over books etc. Lots to be thankful for but it took the earlier “work” to make it happen.
I've never appreciated my sweet, devoutly Catholic MIL more than I do after hearing these stories. For context, when I met her son, I was freshly divorced with 2 kids from 2 dads. Both kids were out of wedlock. I was 100% sure she was gonna chase me off with a stick😂 She ended up being so accepting and loving. Honestly, she treats me better than my own mother did. I love her so much! P.s. we've been together for almost 22 years now😊
Earlier today I had a chat with my daughter in law. I love her! I'm so happy my son found a wonderful lady to share his life with. What more could a mother want butt the best for her children? I just don't understand these horrible mothers.
The one with the girl dating the sports guy and the pretty sister...I'm glad she inserted the picture...They really look like twins and they are both really, really pretty..like models
Keep in mind that the MIL showering her sister with kindness in the last story is also using a manipulation tactic. The gaslighter needs everyone close to the gf to believe the false narrative. This way she feels even more isolated and "crazy" as everyone who should've taken her side turns against her
21:54 We judge others because it makes us feel better about ourselves. This is why you never have to worry about what others think of you because it's not really about you, it's all about them.
Videos like these REALLY make my appreciation my mom and my MIL. They’re both angels who treat me and my husband really well and I’m excited to make them grandmothers. Good gracious 😭😭
The bad stories are out there for sure, but I do have to give a shout out to my MIL. I went into a marriage without knowing much of anything, my hubby's mother was absolutely excellent in everything....top notch seamstress, excellent cook/baker, managed the family's business, etc. - everything she did, she did well. Even with all that, she NEVER made me feel inferior or tried to take over or wedge herself in our marriage. This is definitely not everyone's experience, but I'm so glad for her. :D
Hi Charlotte. I know the chances of you reading this are slim to none, but I just wanted to thank you for your videos. Your expressions and reactions are priceless. I've had a lot of stuff going on in my life (moving to a new place, medical issues because of my disability, etc) and no matter what I have going on, your content always lifts my spirits. Ir was a great way to close my 26th birthday. PS. Congrats on your engagement!
Off topic but a while back my mom and I were driving out of town and she says to me, “ I’m going to turn on this UA-camr I like for the drive. She reads bridezilla stories and she’s hilarious!” And the moment she started the video I was like “omg mom! You listen to Charlotte Dobre too??” She turns 50 this year and I’m just saying I have a pretty cool mom and crack up thinking we have the same taste in UA-cam videos lol😂
My sons and I are very close. When my oldest son got engaged I did what my own mother did for all of us. I loved her like he did, unless and until she gave me reasons not too. And she never has. She adores me too. She was far more scared to meet me than I was to meet her, and has told me many times that the acceptance from the beginning was everything to her. I hope it goes as well for my youngest son. I plan on using the same method, so we will see.
21:21 she's absolutely *gorgeous*, I'm sorry but no man is worth that level of narcissistic abuse from their mother. Unless he's willing to cut her off, it'll make your life absolute hell
The "common" is an insult in england 😂 I would have told her "my man and I have no secrets ESPECIALLY when it effects him. You tell him in 2 business days or I will"
Happened to a friend of mine when her daughter was homeschooled. The person who come put a note in the file that the five year old was extremely intelligent, was already able to read, spoke well, was very happy and healthy. She wrote and felt comfortable enough and secure enough to run around and play while she was there and was well behaved. She put a note that said to never bother this family again, basically.
Dude, if the first story is in America, im not surprised. I used to live with my fiance, his best friend, and his wife. However old we all were, early to mid 20s, we had this crotchety old neighbor who festerd and fed off of unhappiness and suffering. We looked up county noise times, we would follow them, and we werent even THAT LOUD. He pointed cameras into our backyard, and call the cops more time than i can count on us. Nohing has ever been founded, charged, or been even deemed as a disturbance. One time we had turned it all the way up and the cop stood inside his front door and he said HE COULDNT EVEN HEAR IT! People will do what they want for attention, especially when ppl let them get away with it
Maybe he needed a hug? Did he live alone? Did his kids come see him? He should have tried out the senior center! He might have had a problem communicating & making friends after his wife died or divorced him😢. I really did know someone like that & as much as I tried to tell him he was going about life wrong, he just couldn't change😢. He might have been on the spectrum & never diagnosed. Not antisocial, just didn't know how... oh well, old dogs, new tricks.
I feel so blessed that my future mother in law and future step mother in law are wonderful people lol they even know the ring fidgeting is because I'm using it as a comfort tool when I'm getting too anxious and steer people away from me without making it noticeable/awkward and I love them so much for that ❤
Sorry to say I was an unhinged mother in law once. My daughter, her boyfriend and my grandson lived in the basement of our home and I heard my son in law yell at my grandson and then my daughter told him off and then he yelled at her. Aaaaaaand I don’t allow that, especially in my home so I went down there and literally got in his face and promised him great physical harm if he ever spoke to MY people like that again, and I meant every word and still do. Well I had myself chest to chest with him and my daughter got in between us and said “I am your daughter and you raised me well so you need to trust that I am handling this” so I left her to it. That happened in the first year of their relationship and they’ve been together for 6 years now and I know that he treats them both well because my daughter wouldn’t have it any other way!!! Anyway I love your channel and I think you’re one of my very favourite people in the whole world, so you keep being you our petty potato queen!!! ❤️🥂❤️
5:14 grandparents can be granted rights HOWEVER they have to definitively prove that they have been a very involved GP, usually when their own child doesn't want to be involved, but they do.
Yeah the state of West Virginia has grandparent rights. And can take parents to court to see their grandkids more often if they feel slighted. Had a coworker go through it
My grandmother (who died just after I was born thank god) waited until my dad went to the bathroom to tell my mom that "you know the two of you will never be as important as his sister, right?" Jokes on her. A) it was a small house and my dad heard, and b) after pitting her children against each other their whole lives and causing my dad to believe that he was so unimportant that no one would show up to his funeral (full house, no standing room left either), my brother and I, her only grandchildren, are best friends. Her psycho, narcissistic, controlling ass only got to see me for a month, and if I died tomorrow and met her, I'd rip her a new one
9:16 this is why we dictate how people treat us. This is not acceptable, but it is what it is. So don’t let people treat you any way you don’t deserve. Don’t let people disrespect you.
The moment in my twin sis's 3rd son's wedding where they danced had the whole family in tears - especially her girls - he was so sweet & careful of her, & they were whispering together as they danced ( she is pretty frail ) - it brings tears to my eyes ❤️❤️❤️❤️
That Matthew M story reminds me of why bullies were allowed to bully up to a certain point in the past. As I was growing up, my father told me that I will always have to deal with people like that. And so that story with Matthew's wife and his mother actually rings true, although it seems a very poor way to earn respect or force the self-respect that MIL was trying to draw out of her. Her own mother should have taught her that growing up.
And Camille still married that dick Matty- the -mommy's -boy who didn't stand up for her against his rude b of a mother? Sorry but now she has what she deserves. Apparently she prefers $$ over character. Matthew is creepy AF in my books-- makes my blood run cold.
I wonder how Mathew handled it? Did he say, I'll talk to her. Or, just give her some time. Maybe he would say he didn't have time, gotta be on set babe. OR was it like, My mom wouldn't say/do that! What did you do to rile her up, you must have done something! Mama's boys moms, do nothing wrong😢!!!
@@marshawargo7238 Well see that is the whole point, none of it was malicious, it was nudging, to get Matthew's wife to stand up for herself [albeit a bit extreme]. Matthew probably knew that because of past experiences. Can't be the victim forever, you HAVE to stand up for yourself, because if you don't then why should anyone else? If One thinks so little of themselves that they will accept all sorts of abuse like that, then why should anyone else care about it? Only you have the power to enforce your own boundaries. No one is above you, unless you allow it.
@@JohnRice992I guarantee you she tried to handle to maturely, but people hate that. They get mad that they can’t make you emotional. They want attention even if it’s negative. They don’t want assertiveness, they want toxic B.S. And that is malicious. If you’re gonna try to justify bullying, just own it.
@@TC-ku4vv You were bullied in your life, weren't you? I can see the anger. Don't assume I am making excuses for others. That just makes you arrogant. Your toxicity is your own fault, not mine. You must set your own boundaries and enforce and maintain them yourself. Victims of Narcissists often have that mentality, and it is hard to break. They believe "Peace at any cost" as long as they can keep the peace, they believe they have done right. But that isn't peace, that would be comfort, so the conflict doesn't happen. But without conflict, there is ZERO growth, avoidance comes from fear. That kind of life is not life, it is very unhealthy and toxic in itself. I suggest you talk to someone about your own anger. I'm not for that, I have my own issues with anger and rage, caused by bullying.
Black dresses lol. I would say thank you so much for letting me and your son shine on our wedding day by all the women wearing black really made my dress stand out and for that I am so grateful bless you all 🙏😅
9:40 I could never do this. I was raised to be the most people pleaser, non confrontational person ever. I'm literally terrified of confrontation and if I was talked to the way she was talked to, I'd have a mental breakdown.
5:00 in some places grandparents do have rights. But they have to take it to court to gain their rights. But a false report to CPS would likely cause the judge to say no to granting grandparents rights.
They have to have a documented relationship with the grandkids. There’s also things like a parent has passed or a divorce. I had to look into this cuz my mom was telling ppl that she had rights…to kids she has never met.
I'm the US it's extremely difficult to get grandparents' rights. It used to be a thing, but those laws changed in almost every state. In order to get grandparents' rights the parents have to be so bad that their kids are in danger or something. It is very hard.
Watching all of these crazy MIL stories makes me feel so lucky and blessed. My MIL and I love eachother~she was genuinely happy when her son brought me home for the first time, when we moved in together, got engaged and married, and was ecstatic to have a grand baby. Our mom's even love eachother too. I'm so sorry to everyone that has bad in-laws 🥲
I have simply the best, sweetest, most boundary respecting mil in the world. I wish my girls knew her better but she has severe physical and mental restrictions and she’s in another state. My hubby is even a huge momma’s boy and talks to him every day but she has never stepped on my toes as wife and mother of his kids.
These videos make me appreciate my in-laws even more. My SIL is one of my best friends and my MIL and FIL are like a second set of parents. They're the best grandparents too.
*_IF_* you ever find yourself around a person that is being condescending, rude or constantly telling you, "Deary, you certainly do speak like such a commoner, don't you?" _you_ must finally, snap & reply, "Yes darling, you continuously say so. WE are worried that you are starting to lose your memory? You know, it does happen, at your age." 😈 Once you start with the snappy retorts they MAY back tf off ya, may. 🤞🏻 😂😂😂😂❤
Y'know, there's this wonderful movie called "The Help" about a book of the same name, and how that book came to be. And there's a particularly powerful line in that movie that I think about often when I hear about some of these absolutely unhinged, spiteful kinds of people: "Some people aren't just mean. They're mean for *sport."* (this isn't an exact quote, I haven't watched the movie in a while) Tbh, these monsters-in-law seem to fit that description quite nicely.
The Help is such a great movie!! It tells a wonderful story, and has some funny scenes, but also some very emotional ones too! I highly recommend watching it or reading the book! ❤️
I remember the scene. This maid was talking about how she worked for this lady and when she died she put it in her will that she would go work for her daughter like she owned her. You're right the line was "mean for sport." I loved that movie! I read the book as well and it was really good
Reminds me of that horrible family of women who tried to make it "tradition" to haze, harass and bully to new women of the family and the hubby showed them all the door. Misery loves company
After 16 years of marriage, my husband passed away from leukemia. The day after the funeral his mother and family dumped me.. almost worse than his death, silly me thought they loved me.. ultimate betrayal
Honestly, I’m super lucky. I absolutely love my mother in law. Thank god for it too, because she’s been there for me in so many ways. Appreciate the hell out of that woman.
I'm a grandma who has a close relationship with my grandkids . They are safe and loved; that's as far as I should have any say in how they are raised . Nothing more; doesn't matter what I believe or think. Their parents are the ones to raise them and they come before anyone else.
Too often CPS wants to believe anything someone else says and treats you like you're guilty, and unfortunately will take the kids to away. I know from experience. I had over 30 people listed as character witnesses and could have gotten more, but they didn't even try to get ahold of any of them, and just believed the lies that family and ex family were saying for their own selfish reasons and ruined our lives. I hadn't done a damn thing wrong and was an excellent mom. I asked why she believed them and why she didn't call any of these people on the list, that they were lying. She actually said to me,"well,if that's true, and they would lie about a good mother like that,then you don't need to have your kids anyway and be around family that would do that to a good mother". I said I was trying to avoid them being around them because of stuff like that. So damned if I did and damned if I didn't? Huh? ... yeah, something needs to be done about how they operate. They don't do the work they're supposed to do to assure the best and truthful outcome, and what's best for the kids.
Unfortunately you two are absolutely correct...it happened to friends of mine n they went through Hell while jumping through hoops of fire-yet were not at all guilty...the vindictive person that did it? Not a single consequence for such a lowlife act...smh
It irks me when people assume babies don't develop/hit milestones faster than others. My nephew had always been active. He was sitting up unassisted and would jump up and down when I would let him stand on my lap at 2mo. He crawled at 3mo. He cruised furniture and pulled to stand at 4.5mo. He was climbing out of his pack n play and crib at 6mo and he was walking on all fours, like a dog, but he had his little butt up in the air, using his hands and feet to get around bcuz apparently crawling took too long😂. He walked and ran at 7mo. People ask me, "are you sure he did that?" Ugh yeah! I've been raising him since birth and was at home with him 24/7, and family members and close friends have witnessed his Houdini-ness 😂. He looked like a little garden gnome running around 😂. My twin brother and I were born at 34wks and we hit all of our milestones early and were walking and running at 8.5mo.
Many states do have Grandparents' rights now. There is a flip side to this. My ex BIL was neglecting the kids and my Mom was willing to have them visit, get them school shoes, Christmas gifts, etc. as the BIL was struggling to provide for his 6 children. He would withhold the two grandkids (the other 4 were the other woman's kids, the woman he cheated on my sister with.) My mother is so sweet and did nothing wrong. He was mad at my sister for leaving him. So it's not always the grandparents who are to blame for being absent.
those arent talked about because those arent the stories we are discussing. we know theres tons of trash parents who dont treat the children OR their parents well. thats for a different story. the majority ends up telling in law stories because, they are far more common. it all sucks, we all, as a species suck. there are some worse than others for sure. i hope the kids in your family are doing ok and things have improved, if not, im sorry :( most grandparents are thought of loving wonderful beings... because as grandparents, they are. as parents, not always so much. i think the family dynamic in general is so messed up these days that its hard. (for instance, i view my grandma and papa in high regard as my grandparents, as parents.....i know they sucked. my papa beat his kids, drank, shot guns off in the hosue etc, but as a grandpa, my grandpa, he was everything. i was destroyed when he died as a teenager. but i know he was so kind to his kids. its a effed up world right)
That's very true. When my son was given full custody of his daughter, we made it a point to keep his ex's family in her life even though his ex only had supervised visitation. It wasn't the family's fault that the mom couldn't stay off drugs and had her heroin dealing boyfriend move in with her. The family was always good to my granddaughter, so my son or I would take her to visit her other grandparents, aunts and uncles. We would let the one aunt take her to see other relatives on vacation for a week during the summer a couple times. It's not the family's fault and they shouldn't be held responsible for the actions of someone else.
In Germany grandparents actually are entitled to see their grandkids- legal regulations can be decided by court- IF and there is a big IF: the grandparents had a good relationship to them previously. It’s all about the kids best interest.
The point in the first story is more about the Grandmother's disinterest with her grandkids until the parents divorced & the son lost custody. I'd bet the Grandmother's sudden interest was in hopes her son could just happen to pop in & see her when the kids were visiting without their Mom! Any child with a good relationship with their grandkids isn't going to be stopped from seeing them when the parents divorce. If the kids want to see them, call them, FaceTime them, they'd be allowed, even if the other parent had lost custody, however this grandmother was a stranger to them
@@RetroMonkey1999 And the US states that do have it seems similar, whereas they had to have had a relationship established & in the children's best interests❤!
I have to say I have an awesome MIL! The first gift she gave me was a book on sensual massage. I was so embarrassed because I wasn’t even married to her son yet and I was 35 at the time so I shouldn’t have been embarrassed. I just wanted to share on here that there are wonderful wonderful mother-in-law’s out there and it’s sad that the mean ones get the attention. ✌️
2:40 Because grandma was worried that mom would paint her as an uninterested crazy person so she had to make herself look good to the kids… so mom could “lie” to them.
Not only that, but a control thing. She wants to be able to feed info to her son, or find a way to bring them around her son. That way "dad" isn't the bad guy either.
My husband's parents did some shady shit with CPS too! We regained custody after getting freaking railroaded because of course they didn't want to hear our side at first and now have no contact what so ever with those monsters. Even the family judge said all the grandparents and CPS did was traumatize our children (plus my husband and I, I still get physically sick if someone knocks on the door). We've heard through the family that karma has paid a few visits to those assholes though
@ they both lost their jobs. The husband got drunk and shot his other son's hand off (cps didn't do anything regarding that!!), the dad's gotten like 3 DUIS, none of their kids will talk to them or let them see their grandkids. They're just all around miserable and completely alone with each other and they hate each other so it's exactly what they deserve.
I had CPS called on me when my son was 6 by my exes mother!! He happened to be home sick from school that day and it was concluded the allegations were false. So I asked what was going to be done about a false report and I was told "Sadly nothing gets done!" Are you freaking kidding me!!! So they do nothing about false calls which is BS!! Love you Queen Charlotte!!!
It IS total BS! Sending virtual hugs. Hope u and son are safe and happy
@@MizMorgue1 thank you so much! Yes we are fine he is now 26 and a veteran! I had asked what would happen if I filed charges against her for it and was told nothing, more than likely it would be dropped! But there are kids out there that actually need the intervention from CPS and nothing is ever done and those poor babies suffer until they grow up and can escape! And those are the lucky ones because some never make it to adulthood! Things really need to change! Because of that visit I have spent my life trying to help kids who need it as much as I can!
Nope. My ex called cps so much we were on a first name basis. They knew my schedule so they knew when to come. I always had cookies and tea ready for them whenever they came. None of them were ever confirmed or anything. Not one. But it needs to change.
I also dealt with something similar from one of his exes. Sadly they absolutely do NOTHING. Even after REPEATED false claims. It's disgusting and WRONG. There needs to be consequences for false claims like that as well as just bad behavior in general. Sending you my best wishes, thoughts and prayers!! 💖🙏💖🫶
God bless you! I understand what you went through. My ex MIL's family did the same thing. They also would spy on me by listening on phone calls and interrogating my daughter every time she went over there. I think it's child abuse to do that to a child so I tried to never to talk bad about them, they did not feel the same way. It's crazy that a person can abuse the system and not face any consequences.
Though, I'm kinda of surprised that they told OP who called them or that it was cops instead of CPS. I guess procedures differ from state to state 🤷
If your mother in law reports you to CPS for killing your children falsely, she should go to prison. This is so messed up.
Granny Swat apparently a thing now!
While terms as abuse and unfit mother are on some level subjective, the term killed is not. This is a clear and provable false report, and is as such a crime.
I believe it already is a crime with the punishment being a fine (in the UK and some states at least)- only thing is, it's often left unpunished from what I know
@@ralfvandeven3155exactly this
@@artemis_justiceaizawa5978why would you just make up something like that without doing a very simple, quick check on Google? Just to pass along misinformation and for the attention and having some "knowledge"...you are absolutely wrong. 😏
My ex was trash and clearly took after his mother... his father, my ex FIL was a saint. When this man found out his son put hands on me he drove 24+ hours to get me out of that house and told his son he was disowned. I still miss and love that man more than anything.
I've had a few issues with my FIL, but he definitely is the saint in his family too. He works, comes home and cooks, shops for his wife and she yells at him in return. My husband begged his dad to divorce his mom when he was a kid, but he'd tell him "it's not that simple."
What a gem of a human. Sometimes kids turn out a certain way, and it doesn’t mean the parent has to stand by their behavior. God I’m so happy he was there for you.
I’m glad you were able to get away from the situation safely & had someone who loved you enough to help you too. It sounds like he was a great father figure & is probably still watching out over you.
This is so good to hear. My dad is like your ex-FIL. And I'm so so so happy that there are other fathers out there like him. I hear so many stories now on the internet, but before the internet (I'm old), I mostly heard horror stories about fathers/FILs.
That’s an excellent FIL. I’m not surprised you miss him and sorry for your loss.
I am so so glad that I got such a good mother in law. She took us in when my husband and I got into a car accident that damaged my spine and I lost my job. I was bedridden and crying in pain every day for three straight years and she would come into the room when she heard me sobbing to pet my hair and bring me ice and hold my hand. When I got stuck on the floor from muscle seizures she came and helped me back to bed. She brought me food and water whenever I needed it. Her ex-husband wanted to charge us rent for staying in the spare room and she told him “don’t you dare” (yes my husband is his biological son and oldest child). She did everything for me as if I was her own child and I love her so dearly. She will never be in a nursing home if I have any say, she will be in our home and I will care for her how she cared for me
Aw, that's so kind. Better than my own mother 😅
I love that for you!
That's amazing. I hope you are doing better now. I had a spinal i jury, couldn't walk properly for a year (and longer). My 12 year old daughter had to look after me because my own mom couldn't be bothered (she lives a few streets away). All she did is cause me stress and yell at me when i was in pain. You've got an amazing mil.
@@moonhunter9993 I am doing better now after three long years of treatments. I hope you are doing better now too
She's a keeper. Treasure that woman.
I would NEVER respect a mean-hearted woman who TESTED me to bring me closer to her. I also would have ZERO respect for the meek man who didn't stand up for mean behavior. No prizes won here.
Agreed. It's not an "honor " to "earn" that type of person's respect. That's sick.
I don't think it was necessarily Mary going saying you're in. Mary didn't want anymore tongue lashings from Latin queen. She rolled over rather than face it again.
But what this says about Matthew ain't good.
Who said he didn't?
I *almost* get it, like if she was trying to make sure the gf was able to stand up for herself and in that way she would also stand up against her son and have a backbone
But the way that it was done, with the test and stuff, was absolutely crazy
Seriously when she was younger did she insist on testing potential girlfriends in trial by combat? Is Matthew McConaughey part Klingon on his mother's side or something?!
My SIL had a hard time adjusting to our family and especially my mom because we were TOO NICE. My poor SIL was raised in a family where love had to be earned. She wasn’t prepared for the outpouring of unconditional love that my mom (and the rest of us) gave her. She’s now totally used to it and happier than ever. So glad she’s part of our family. ❤
Your SIL sounds like me. Im sad for her childhood and can sympathize with that greatly, but I’m even more glad that she has such lovely in-laws. It took me a while to be comfortable with my MIL because I was so used to that kind of warm, nice interactions having an ulterior motive. She is also VERY accommodating of my needs when we visit her place (about 10 hrs away), even before we knew all of those things traced back to being autistic. She knew I had a pretty unloving childhood, so she had a lot of sympathy for that. It really can be quite overwhelming when you aren’t used to it.
She’s a big hugger, but she knows I can’t take much. So she asks or waits for me to initiate, and she keeps it much shorter than she does with other family members and other spouses in the family. She knows I need space and time to recover, so we have days around holiday festivities where she just reads in a room with me, and shes perfectly fine with me calming myself on my tablet. She knows if I step away from the festivities for bit that I’ll come back faster if I’m not disturbed.
Aww 😭 bro I have no words I could blubber like a baby I’m so happy for all of you ❤
Needed this 🥹🥰
@@alexia3552lol riiiighttt 😅🥹🥰🥰
I'm having this with my in-laws too.. I sometimes cry at their thoughtfulness. I was usually considered to be irrational at my own home. Anything I expressed was always "you're overreacting" :/
My mother in law stayed with me 24 hours a day when I was in hospital, sleeping on a roll out mattress next to my bed. She's an angel and I am so grateful to her. I live in Spain so see my mum very rarely 😢. So to have such a caring woman in my life makes me feel blessed. Especially hearing about the women in this video!!! 😮
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Cherish her! My mother in law passed 10 years ago, I still miss her.
@ilovethelittlepiggy I truly do 💜💜💜 I'm sorry for your loss, 10 years can feel like yesterday sometimes 💜
Love that for you.
@@simon-515 Thank you 💜
I'm a 911 dispatcher and yes the police will charge them if they continue (or can prove) that the person is using the police to harass others. Unfortunately it's hard to prove (court-wise) the first time because the person will just claim they were "concerned "
Yeah, a wellness check can be a number of reasons why.
I've never heard of any repeated offenders getting charged with anything for harassing with the CPS. I think it's rare in most places.
I can imagine that they don't want people to be discouraged from calling 911 out of feeling like they're calling too often for legitimate reasons.
By the way, thank you for your service along the Thin Gold Line!
This is what I was going to say it's your word against there word I'm not justify there calling CPS for no reason
People who abuses kids are good at lying and manipulating the system
My son has autism and struggled with physical contact when he was little. We imposed a hard rule that he wasn’t allowed to be rude and could acknowledge his affections by handshakes, air kisses or words. By forcing children to hug adults they don’t want to makes them more susceptible to predators, especially kids with autism. We shared this information with my mil but in her mind she was exempt because she was nana.
Say it louder for those who do not want to hear!
My besties son is the same so instead of hugs (we hug alot lol) we do high fives he's happy and we're happy nothing forced if he ever wanted a hug would be on his terms
Yessss!!! Personal boundaries are a must!!! I never forced my kids to hug or kiss anyone.. they're all old enough to speak for themselves now.. no one ever gave me an issue about it either, thankfully! I know Charlotte doesn't condone violence but I'm a beast when it comes to my boys and anyone can get it over them!
As an autistic adult myself, your mother-in-law can get in the trash can and take herself to the curb.
Just a PSA at least in the state of VA, if anyone calls CPS on you and they do the random visit and find the claims false, you CAN request a form to bring the anonymous caller be brought to court if claims were made with malicious intent. Speaking from experience ❤
I wish they had that law here in Tennessee!
@@jessicabunch5726 it should honestly be a federal law as much as these things happen
Here in Australia they won't tell you who called and there is no way to find out and fight back if it is false
@@jessicabunch5726 I just googled it, they do.
@charliekezza Same in Ohio.
When I met my husband he started thinking for himself. He started questioning the path for him and what he wanted in life. Of course, my MIL and SIL thought this was a grave offence and I was controlling him (honestly SIL was projecting big time). They badmouthed me, which made him withdraw - they claimed I controlled him. Especially SIL was very vocal and even stalked me on social media. They showed up the week before the wedding yapping about me and begging him to not make the biggest mistake of his life. That was 19 years ago. SIL got divorced, we are still together stronger than ever.
This I can relate to a bit. When my husband and I first started dating he was honestly a bit of a kiss *ss. He put up with so much disrespect just to not step on anyone's toes. I always thought he was just so kind, then I started to notice he had people around him who used him for his kindness and they did not do for him the way he did for them. I pointed this out from time to time and he finally started reflecting and realized he needed to stop reaching out to those people and man were people pissed they couldn't walk all over him anymore. Suddenly, I was "brainwashing" him.🙄
See, I’m so petty, I would remind my SIL of that fact EVERYTIME I saw her 😂😂
The best revenge is living well. You go girl!
@@RedPanda74 were pretty much NC with her, she never changed. We see her sometimes for family events but dont engage much.
My MIL for the most part accepted i am not going anywhere but did have a little quip some yearsback. telling my husband - when he got stress due to workplace bullying - that "some people pull you up and some people pull you down" when the subject came on our marriage during this time and he snapped saying "yeah my wife pulls me up, without her, I don't know how I would manage" and hung up :D
@@mistypedhi It is funny how it is "hey you have worth, you know that right?" is taken as manipulation XD
I haven't spoken to my two sisters in 12 years because they kept calling CPS on me as a single mother because I was never enough, apparently. Today, my kids are grown and better humans than their own. Thats the justice I needed!
The woman who told her boyfriend that his mom lied is a true one. Her loyalty is with her man and I respect that so much! That MiL is so jealous that this woman has her son’s attention.
Love your pfp!!! I can't believe her bf would be mean to her and take moms side wtf...
(I love the pfp too 👆)
I love the pfp too 👆
Thank you guys 😊
Throw the whole grandma away in that first story!!😂😂
Yes 😂
Why the laugh emoji?
Exactly!!!!! Google says.. throw her away to a far away land!!!🤣🤣
My jaw actually DROPPED when that poor girl said that her MIL tried to make her get on a scale in front of everyone!!! Wtf?!?!
My mother in law has a white board with mine and my daugther's birthdays/allergies/ favorite foods/important upcoming dates, supported me through a charity when I lost my job, always welcomes me home when I show up, help with my daughter like she is her grandma, hugs me when I cry, call to take news, always have my favorite food ready just in case I show up, etc. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months. She is a miracle and I adore her.
My last bf had a mom like that. In the end, I was more committed to the man's mom and teen son than to him. He was a manipulative, gaslighting, emotionally abusive a-hole, but I felt I lost so much when I FINALLY said "I'm done". I loved that child and still do. Same with his mum.
Ironically, he cut off all his family shortly after I left him. I wonder if that's still the case? 🤔 Because it occurs to me that I MIGHT be able to, idk, at least drop a Christmas card or small note sometime? I'm SO AFRAID of encouraging ANY communication from HIM though 🥺😖
Thank you for sharing all the things she does! I love the impact she’s had on you. I want to be like that as I go through life.
At first I thought you wrote that your MIL had a white BEARD.
I was happier then….
😊😅
All kidding aside, kudos to good mothers-in-law everywhere!
From the wife of a paramedic, it IS illegal to call in false claims to the police, especially emergency calls. It can result in fines and/or jail time.
It’s also illegal to say who called them in.
That is SWATing and it's harassment and illegal.
I thought this was the facted
If only they enforced this…
That highly depends on the country, in some places it's not or straight up not enforced.
I got add to the positive mother-in-law stories granted I’m not actually married to him yet just engaged. But we watch shows together, go to the pool together, cook together and she teaches me and lets me access all the family recipes.. and she’s always been super supportive of us. It IS POSSIBLE!
For those of you with loving MILs, I am so happy for you. You are blessed. For those with the other kind, know I feel your pain. In-laws can be so hateful.
I am a new MIL and can say my son would never let anyone disrespect his wife. New boundaries can be expected after marriage, but it's not a line in the sand. It happens bit by bit as the couple discovers themselves over time. It's part of maturing and is emotionally healthy for all involved. BTW, my DIL is a gem and my son is over the moon in love with her. I call them the lovebirds. They are so happy together and I hope that feeling never ends for them.
Part of the reason your son won’t let anyone disrespect his wife is because he was raised by a mother who taught him well. ❤
Me too! I hope my son marries his girlfriend. It’s a little bittersweet when your son finds a good partnership, I am a little sad that he has someone in his life that is more important to him than his mother but at the same time that fact makes me very happy. It is the natural progression of mother son relationships.
I can see how some moms have a hard time letting their children go and losing that feeling of being number one in their child’s eyes and can get can get very toxic. Or if your son has been hurt by a relationship, a mother’s natural inclination is to protect her child, which can cross boundaries. I think a healthy relationship with yourself leads to a healthy relationship with your children.
I was fortunate to have a great relationship with my MIL. In all the years I knew her, she asked only ONE question that was none of her business. I miss her terribly. My relationship with her is what made me into the MIL I am. I absolutely adore my DIL and am grateful to her mother for raising the daughter who is perfect for my son. Plus, my son told me I'd never have grandchildren....
I HAVE THREE! That makes me adore my DIL all the more.❤
I am honestly so lucky to have the mother-in-law that I have. She started calling me her daughter-in-law around month two of me and my husband dating. She welcomed me with open arms from the moment I met her and she truly is one of my best friends almost 20 years later. You would think that you would want to love and build up the person your child is with. Makes me sad that women see their sons partners as competition and not a new daughter.
I would never even waste a breath to a MIL who tried to "initiate" me. If you do not welcome me without some crap thrown on each other "just for fun´s sake", then forget me.
@@agnes15101968- Exactly. Even if it was meant as a test because being married to a celebrity is difficult, just have a conversation! But also, shame on any partner who doesn’t put their mother in her place when she pulls crap like that.
Same here! My MIL is the best! We got off to a slightly rocky start because when we first met she didn’t hardly speak to me at all. I thought she hated me from the beginning. It turned out that her ears had closed up on the flight to visit us, and she couldn’t hear anything and was in pain. By the next morning, her ears were open again, and she apologized for her behavior the day before. She’s been nothing but lovely ever since. ❤️
My God we have the same story lol. I used to have more fun going to the bar with my mil and her friend rather than going to the night clubs with our own friends! 😂
Same here my MIL is the best! She welcomed me from the get and has always been there for us ❤
I’m going to leave a positive MIL example. I had the most wonderful, amazing, Christ loving MIL for 29 years. ❤ I absolutely hit the jackpot when I married into my husband’s family. Myrlie was loving and kind…funny as all get out and could cook then lay out a feast so big that the table would groan. She was an awesome MawMaw and loved our daughter fiercely and her face would literally light up each and every time she was around her. We lost my sweet MIL in 2019 and I miss her terribly. I’m so fortunate to have known her and can see so much of her in her wonderful son, my husband of 34 years. Love you to the moon and back, infinity times a trillion zillion, Mama. ❤❤
That’s beautiful! I too have an awesome mother in law. I tell her that I want to be just like her. Genuine, kind, generous and loving. Thank God we have had the opportunity to know women like this.❤
i’m SO thankful my fiancé’s mom is so nice and super chill!
That first story took my lunch break from 0 to 60 in 3 seconds!!!
Lmao ON GOD, I was like EXCUSE ME???
YES!
NAW, THAT SHIT TOOK. ME. OUT.
Same here, lunch buddy!
I almost came UNGLUED. The audacity. Next step, restraining order bc just oh hell no 😯😡 My ex husband (we have a 23yo daughter that doesn't speak to him now) has a 13 year old daughter with my ex bestie (long story). The daughter has autism and is being raised by her maternal grandmother bc my ex is still a pos. And his mother doesn't believe autism is a "thing) 🙄 This story hit me hard
Brazilian girl here 🙆🏻♀️ the audacity of Matthew’s mom is much worse when you know that we speak Portuguese and NOT Spanish! 🇧🇷🇵🇹 Que monstra! 9:00
Pensei no mesmo, é uma falta de respeito e é xenéfobo!!
Why didn’t Matthew stick up for Camilla and tell his mom to knock it off? He sounds like he kind of sucks too.
@@catarinacardeira2828 xenophobic is a signal word to know you've been indoctrinated. She's ignorant. I bet you say "their truth" and "authentic" too. You should watch "They live". It will snap you out of it.
@ he does!
@ eu não acredito que em 2024 as pessoas não sabem que o Brasil 🇧🇷 fala português e não espanhol. Tem mais de 200 milhões de brasileiros na nossa terra. 🤦🏻♀️
I'm actually really blessed with my MIL. She cares a lot about us and me and it's great. She might have the occasional moment, but she's human and I love her.
I have been watching my grandson, now 12 & in 6th grade, while my daughter & son in law work since he was born prematurely. He’s my buddy..BUT….when I’m watching him on parental time, while they’re at work, I follow the rules they have in place. We communicate well & all want what’s best for him. However, when he spends the night or weekend I get to play Grammy & spoil him 😄. That works for all of us. I wouldn’t trade it for the world 🥰
My mom is the unhinged MIL in my marriage, so I'll give a palate cleanser from the angel that is my MIL.
My husband legally adopted my first kid (I was a teen mom) and the day the paperwork was finalised she hosted a dinner full of "it's a boy" decorations, and a "welcome to the family [son's name & date of birth]" sign, gave him a happy birthday grandson card but crossed out the word "birthday" and wrote "got you day" and she has never stopped loving on him even with bio grandbabies. She makes a point of making up for lost time with him and he doesn't know yet but for his 18th birthday (coming up in March) she's handing over an account with money to help him with college or trade school so he doesn't have to worry about struggling to get by.
She's protected me like one of her own, and if anyone gives me a hard time as an immigrant when we visit her (she's in a red state, we're in a blue state, I'm Swedish Australian) she isn't afraid to start a post office bar fight with anyone. And I'm the only veterinarian she recommends to anyone, especially if they have livestock. She is amazing and I love her. I've felt more like a daughter to her in my time with her son than I ever have with my own mom.
That's so sweet! Thanks for sharing ❤
So glad for you!!
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Thank you for sharing your MIL sounds like an angel. Bless her 🥹🫶🏾
Your MIL is incredible! I am so lucky to have a very similar type of MIL. Life is so amazing when people aren’t crazy! 🤍
Yall this video has made me so grateful I have an awesome MIL. The woman is an angel! I love my husband's family!
The one where the boyfriends mother caller OP a Shetland pony... Shetland ponys are bad arse little beast! Anyone that have been around them for any period of time will agree. I'd take being called a Shetland pony not only a compliment but also a challenge! Let the fun begin!!
Plus they’re really cute animals!
I totally agree. My Shetland pony was cute but sassy. He would buck me off then turn around and stomp on me. He would nip at me when ever I had my back turned. Bad ass.
I had a buckskin Shetland when I was a child-his name was Dandy☺️
She looked gorgeous and she doesnt have a weird accent or anything. MIL was tripping there omg
Totally agree with you, when my grandfather died he had 3 horses and a 15 year old Shetland pony called sindy who was a little madam with an attitude to match , the three big horses were easy to move but no one could get anywhere near sindy she was scaring everyone off, this pint sized pony was attacking everyone and making fully grown men run away 🤣 in the end they called me in as sindy actually liked me and trusted me, armed with a packet of polos I did in five minutes what 10 adults couldn't do in a week 🙄 I just called her and told her to get her fury butt into the trailer and she trot straight it in exchange for some polo mints, the look of shock on the others was hilarious 🤣
McConaughey was in that movie "failure to launch." The character was a mommas boy. He did it perfectly! 😆 😂
I was just thinking about this. Like he should know better. 😂
It has to be tough to have a son or daughter who is rich and famous. You want to make sure they are there for the right reason - and I know he is an adult, but it still is hard I’m sure.
@@phillyphan1225 this is a valid point that I hadn’t thought of but still not the acceptable way to do that at all
@@phillyphan1225 Maybe but his mother was way out of line and needlessly toxic.
I don't care who your kid is you don't do that.
I was wondering through that whole story what the f Matthew did about his crazy mum!
Seemed like he did f all tbh.
Man, I'm so lucky! Seriously, my MIL is the sweetest. She and my mom took care of me and their grandbaby the first month. They alternated weeks. My MIL made me food, drew baths, took care of her grandbaby during the day so I can nap since I stayed up all night. She even brought me home remedies to help with the swelling in my feet, postpartum. I head these stories and OMG, do I know how blesses I am. For our babies 1st birthday, my mom and MIL got together to make the guests food, instead of us ordering food...I am so so sorry that some women don't experience this kind of Love and respect from their MIL.
NOTHING sets off my delulu-meter as much as "Other women are always jealous of me!" 😅
Amen! It’s always them and no one is jealous of them!! Ugh
@@arlenesmith7883 I mean imagine being so delulu that You believe half the population of the world is not just below You, but they have a personal problem with You .-.
My in-laws are having their own individual fits of anger because they're NOT invited to my oldest child's wedding next year. He has already stated that they only want people there who will share in their joy, not bring it down.
Setting healthy boundaries ❤
Good for. FAFO season for some people...
Omg what happened?
@Naturefan354 my future daughter-in-law has a best friend who is in the wedding as the person of honor as they're a member of the LGBTQIA community, and my in-laws are Trump supporters who want us to exclude this wonderful person from the wedding.
My MIL would drive by our house then call me and criticize everything she thought was wrong. She would walk into our house without knocking, neglect letting me know about family plans, and my ex, her baby boy, did nothing. The kicker? He suggested that I have breast augmentation so that my breasts would be closer in size to his mother's!! I dipped.
These always leave me beyond grateful for my amazing MIL. So blessed to have that woman in my life!
I’m in the middle of planning my wedding and with how my mom acts and how my soon to be husband’s mom is, there will be DRAMA for sure. Can’t wait to tell y’all all about it 😂
Can't wait for the drama too! But I hope it doesn't come to it.
I’d elope tbh. It’s your day, don’t let others ruin it
We on standby here in the chat babe! You KNOW we want the TEA 🍵 😁
I'm nervous because my future in-laws are drunks and I want an acholo free event because of lots of little ones there and I want the kids there
@laura-jasminedeacon5183 can you put a limit on drinks per person? Sorry I can imagine if they are really bad drunks they might cause a ruckus when they get cut off. I hope all goes well on your wedding day!
Urgh my “mother in law” (technically step mother in law as hubbys actual mum died when he was 16) when told we were finally pregnant after years of trying, before even saying “congratulations”, said “well don’t expect us to babysit” - I wouldn’t trust her to look after a goldfish!! She refused point blank to be called any version of “grandma” so she’s referred to as “grandads wife” or “the thing grandad married” if the husbands not around!😂😂
So she doesn’t wish to be called Grandma and she won’t babysit her kids.
Sounds reasonable.
God, I'm sorry. 😅
When I was pregnant with my first child, I was catching up with my childhood best friend who I hadn't seen in a few years, and when I told her the news, she responds with, "I literally hate children with a burning passion, but congrats!"
Like..... okay???? Thanks???? People are so weird. 😅
She never would have even been asked is the funny part! Honestly wouldn’t trust her to look after a goldfish let alone my baby!🤣
You wonder where peoples filters are don’t you?!xx
Imma call the rest of the step-grannies so we can kick her out of the club ❤
My mother in law is a blessing in my life; I’ve been with my husband since 17 years old and had a chaotic relationship with my mother and my MIL took me in and has always treated me like I was her own daughter, she stands up for me against her own family, she was there with me when I first took the pregnancy test, she watches my kids for me, I thank God for her every day. I basically treat her like the mother I never had, anything she wants I get her, she’s the best.
I am BEYOND FORTUNATE!!! When my own mom died at 47, [ovarian cancer] my MIL promised my mom shed always treat me like one of her own. She honored her word for 37yrs until we lost her last yr to dementia 😭😭😭 Im sure urs will be amazting too!!!! 🤗🤗🤗😘😘😘
How are you not EMBARRASSED ;!!
I have known of several people in Texas where the grandparents took the mother to court and got visitation rights. This is even when the father lost rights.
They don't pay any support which I have issue with. Especially when the dad is not supporting the child.
I love how half of these MILs both threaten to sue or call the police but also commit crimes
I googled it too…just cause🙃! It said 16-20 weeks…she (MIL) chose what info she wanted or fit what her narrative.
16-22wks. I'm a midwife. 1st time moms usually feel quickening a little later than repeat mom's, probably because you know what you're looking for- early fetal movement is extremely subtle. Being overweight can also make it a bit more difficult. I felt my son at 18wks. It was like someone gently tapped me from the inside, such a tiny little thump. If I hadn't been totally still I'd have missed it.
This kind of weird nonsense like not believing paternity based on movement is ridiculous to me. It reminds me of when celebrities are pregnant or might be pregnant and people start speculating about paternity based on how much or little she's showing. People are all different and how much or little they show has almost nothing to do with the baby itself. Speculating like that is so gross
The 1st story & the nana’s comment that she works for a relationship with her kids? - so true. When my sister had kids and my parents & I were downsizing, we moved just one street over from them, just a few minutes’ walk away. So we saw plenty of my nieces as they were growing up, sleepovers, family dinners etc. and still do. Made some great memories along the way. The paternal grandparents - not so much. My eldest niece at age 17, had a part-time job in a coffee-shop whilst in college (what I think USA/CAN would call community college?) in our local shopping-centre (mall). Paternal grandma goes in the coffee-shop one day whilst my niece is on duty, starts gushing “oh my dear niece” etc. etc. The next time my niece sees Mum, she said - “Gran, I had no idea what to say to her, I don’t know her, I never see her.” One of the saddest things I think I’ve ever heard. Whereas with Mum & me, the girls feel close enough to just pop in when they feel like, my younger niece & I nerd out over books etc. Lots to be thankful for but it took the earlier “work” to make it happen.
I've never appreciated my sweet, devoutly Catholic MIL more than I do after hearing these stories. For context, when I met her son, I was freshly divorced with 2 kids from 2 dads. Both kids were out of wedlock. I was 100% sure she was gonna chase me off with a stick😂 She ended up being so accepting and loving. Honestly, she treats me better than my own mother did. I love her so much! P.s. we've been together for almost 22 years now😊
Earlier today I had a chat with my daughter in law. I love her! I'm so happy my son found a wonderful lady to share his life with.
What more could a mother want butt the best for her children? I just don't understand these horrible mothers.
It makes me feel so cozy to hear such a lovely thought from a mother in law! Thank you for sharing the love you have for your daughter in law! ❤
All these stories make me so grateful to have a wonderful, sweet, supportive MIL.
Good Morning Petty Potatoes! ❤
Ooooo Monster in Law edition! 😮
Good morning! 😊
THAT HANDLE THO
Good morning!
Good morning 🫶
Morning everyone as it's 3am here in Australia
"is there more?" thankfully charolotte does all the digging and updates so we don't have to
The one with the girl dating the sports guy and the pretty sister...I'm glad she inserted the picture...They really look like twins and they are both really, really pretty..like models
Keep in mind that the MIL showering her sister with kindness in the last story is also using a manipulation tactic. The gaslighter needs everyone close to the gf to believe the false narrative. This way she feels even more isolated and "crazy" as everyone who should've taken her side turns against her
I've experienced this. It's absolute hell
That could never be me, because why would a stranger really think I trust them over my own sibling?
21:54 We judge others because it makes us feel better about ourselves. This is why you never have to worry about what others think of you because it's not really about you, it's all about them.
Videos like these REALLY make my appreciation my mom and my MIL. They’re both angels who treat me and my husband really well and I’m excited to make them grandmothers. Good gracious 😭😭
I'M HERE FOR THE MIL DRAMA!!!
The bad stories are out there for sure, but I do have to give a shout out to my MIL. I went into a marriage without knowing much of anything, my hubby's mother was absolutely excellent in everything....top notch seamstress, excellent cook/baker, managed the family's business, etc. - everything she did, she did well. Even with all that, she NEVER made me feel inferior or tried to take over or wedge herself in our marriage. This is definitely not everyone's experience, but I'm so glad for her. :D
Hi Charlotte. I know the chances of you reading this are slim to none, but I just wanted to thank you for your videos. Your expressions and reactions are priceless. I've had a lot of stuff going on in my life (moving to a new place, medical issues because of my disability, etc) and no matter what I have going on, your content always lifts my spirits. Ir was a great way to close my 26th birthday. PS. Congrats on your engagement!
Off topic but a while back my mom and I were driving out of town and she says to me, “ I’m going to turn on this UA-camr I like for the drive. She reads bridezilla stories and she’s hilarious!” And the moment she started the video I was like “omg mom! You listen to Charlotte Dobre too??”
She turns 50 this year and I’m just saying I have a pretty cool mom and crack up thinking we have the same taste in UA-cam videos lol😂
Charlotte Fans Unite! ⚡🦸🏻♀️😄
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For the record, I'm 56... and usually watch Charlotte each day.
@@laurahudson8210 way to go!! There's no age limit in this community 😉 ALL are welcomed! ❤️
Im 57, and I told my daughter about Charlotte! 😊
Joke's on the grooms family that wore black dresses to the wedding - in the summer. They were roasting! Ha ha!😂
My sons and I are very close. When my oldest son got engaged I did what my own mother did for all of us. I loved her like he did, unless and until she gave me reasons not too. And she never has. She adores me too. She was far more scared to meet me than I was to meet her, and has told me many times that the acceptance from the beginning was everything to her. I hope it goes as well for my youngest son. I plan on using the same method, so we will see.
how dare youtube hide this from me for 18 seconds!
They do that crap all the time!!! I hate it. Stupid dumb.
😄 🤣 the audacity of them, how are they not embarrassed
@erikarussell1142 i don't get notifications alot of times
haha right!
@ same. I hate it. The other day they hid her video for 30 min. Even though the dot came up and said there was a new video.
21:21 she's absolutely *gorgeous*, I'm sorry but no man is worth that level of narcissistic abuse from their mother. Unless he's willing to cut her off, it'll make your life absolute hell
She probably is. But she’s also heavily filtered here.
She's stunning and doesn't deserve this
@@Mama_Bear524Sorry?
The "common" is an insult in england 😂 I would have told her "my man and I have no secrets ESPECIALLY when it effects him. You tell him in 2 business days or I will"
Happened to a friend of mine when her daughter was homeschooled. The person who come put a note in the file that the five year old was extremely intelligent, was already able to read, spoke well, was very happy and healthy. She wrote and felt comfortable enough and secure enough to run around and play while she was there and was well behaved. She put a note that said to never bother this family again, basically.
Dude, if the first story is in America, im not surprised. I used to live with my fiance, his best friend, and his wife. However old we all were, early to mid 20s, we had this crotchety old neighbor who festerd and fed off of unhappiness and suffering. We looked up county noise times, we would follow them, and we werent even THAT LOUD. He pointed cameras into our backyard, and call the cops more time than i can count on us. Nohing has ever been founded, charged, or been even deemed as a disturbance. One time we had turned it all the way up and the cop stood inside his front door and he said HE COULDNT EVEN HEAR IT! People will do what they want for attention, especially when ppl let them get away with it
Maybe he needed a hug? Did he live alone? Did his kids come see him? He should have tried out the senior center! He might have had a problem communicating & making friends after his wife died or divorced him😢.
I really did know someone like that & as much as I tried to tell him he was going about life wrong, he just couldn't change😢. He might have been on the spectrum & never diagnosed.
Not antisocial, just didn't know how... oh well, old dogs, new tricks.
I feel so blessed that my future mother in law and future step mother in law are wonderful people lol they even know the ring fidgeting is because I'm using it as a comfort tool when I'm getting too anxious and steer people away from me without making it noticeable/awkward and I love them so much for that ❤
Sorry to say I was an unhinged mother in law once. My daughter, her boyfriend and my grandson lived in the basement of our home and I heard my son in law yell at my grandson and then my daughter told him off and then he yelled at her. Aaaaaaand I don’t allow that, especially in my home so I went down there and literally got in his face and promised him great physical harm if he ever spoke to MY people like that again, and I meant every word and still do. Well I had myself chest to chest with him and my daughter got in between us and said “I am your daughter and you raised me well so you need to trust that I am handling this” so I left her to it. That happened in the first year of their relationship and they’ve been together for 6 years now and I know that he treats them both well because my daughter wouldn’t have it any other way!!! Anyway I love your channel and I think you’re one of my very favourite people in the whole world, so you keep being you our petty potato queen!!! ❤️🥂❤️
5:14 grandparents can be granted rights HOWEVER they have to definitively prove that they have been a very involved GP, usually when their own child doesn't want to be involved, but they do.
Yeah the state of West Virginia has grandparent rights. And can take parents to court to see their grandkids more often if they feel slighted. Had a coworker go through it
My country also has grandparent rights.
Yep thank you!
My grandmother (who died just after I was born thank god) waited until my dad went to the bathroom to tell my mom that "you know the two of you will never be as important as his sister, right?" Jokes on her. A) it was a small house and my dad heard, and b) after pitting her children against each other their whole lives and causing my dad to believe that he was so unimportant that no one would show up to his funeral (full house, no standing room left either), my brother and I, her only grandchildren, are best friends. Her psycho, narcissistic, controlling ass only got to see me for a month, and if I died tomorrow and met her, I'd rip her a new one
9:16 this is why we dictate how people treat us. This is not acceptable, but it is what it is. So don’t let people treat you any way you don’t deserve. Don’t let people disrespect you.
7:53 also... Camila is Brazilian, we don't speak Spanish in Brazil
Right!! It’s Portuguese 😂
@@Christina_Mossno its Brazilian
@@nocturnusrg5389I can’t work out if you’re joking or not…
@@nocturnusrg5389😂😂😂
@@didilidli I am not. Portuguese speak Portuguese, Brazilians speak Brazilian and both countries are proud of it.
The moment in my twin sis's 3rd son's wedding where they danced had the whole family in tears - especially her girls - he was so sweet & careful of her, & they were whispering
together as they danced ( she is pretty frail ) - it brings tears to my eyes ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Starting my day, with Charlotte Dobre 😊❤
Rhymes! ❤️✨❤️
Starting my day with Dobre yay!
That Matthew M story reminds me of why bullies were allowed to bully up to a certain point in the past. As I was growing up, my father told me that I will always have to deal with people like that. And so that story with Matthew's wife and his mother actually rings true, although it seems a very poor way to earn respect or force the self-respect that MIL was trying to draw out of her. Her own mother should have taught her that growing up.
And Camille still married that dick Matty- the -mommy's -boy who didn't stand up for her against his rude b of a mother? Sorry but now she has what she deserves. Apparently she prefers $$ over character. Matthew is creepy AF in my books-- makes my blood run cold.
I wonder how Mathew handled it? Did he say, I'll talk to her. Or, just give her some time. Maybe he would say he didn't have time, gotta be on set babe. OR was it like, My mom wouldn't say/do that! What did you do to rile her up, you must have done something! Mama's boys moms, do nothing wrong😢!!!
@@marshawargo7238 Well see that is the whole point, none of it was malicious, it was nudging, to get Matthew's wife to stand up for herself [albeit a bit extreme]. Matthew probably knew that because of past experiences. Can't be the victim forever, you HAVE to stand up for yourself, because if you don't then why should anyone else? If One thinks so little of themselves that they will accept all sorts of abuse like that, then why should anyone else care about it? Only you have the power to enforce your own boundaries. No one is above you, unless you allow it.
@@JohnRice992I guarantee you she tried to handle to maturely, but people hate that. They get mad that they can’t make you emotional. They want attention even if it’s negative. They don’t want assertiveness, they want toxic B.S. And that is malicious. If you’re gonna try to justify bullying, just own it.
@@TC-ku4vv You were bullied in your life, weren't you? I can see the anger. Don't assume I am making excuses for others. That just makes you arrogant. Your toxicity is your own fault, not mine. You must set your own boundaries and enforce and maintain them yourself. Victims of Narcissists often have that mentality, and it is hard to break. They believe "Peace at any cost" as long as they can keep the peace, they believe they have done right. But that isn't peace, that would be comfort, so the conflict doesn't happen. But without conflict, there is ZERO growth, avoidance comes from fear. That kind of life is not life, it is very unhealthy and toxic in itself. I suggest you talk to someone about your own anger. I'm not for that, I have my own issues with anger and rage, caused by bullying.
Black dresses lol. I would say thank you so much for letting me and your son shine on our wedding day by all the women wearing black really made my dress stand out and for that I am so grateful bless you all 🙏😅
19:34 "It's ok- I make lamb."
Omg I was waiting for this comment!!! Love that movie
@@reneethibeault5129 Me too 🤗
I have not seen My Big Fat Greek Wedding in forever. The aunt is the funniest!
"Whatchu mean he don't eat no meat?!"
😂😂😂 I love that movie!!! 💜
😂😂😂
0:31 👁️👄👁️ i hope that lady was charged for false report
I hope an order of protection.
All of her posts are fake
@@katherine5797 That's what I was thinking! CPS doesn't tell you who called.
@@katherine5797are they?
@@seeya205 Yes they will if they have the name. It's when they don't know the name they won't.
9:40 I could never do this. I was raised to be the most people pleaser, non confrontational person ever. I'm literally terrified of confrontation and if I was talked to the way she was talked to, I'd have a mental breakdown.
5:00 in some places grandparents do have rights. But they have to take it to court to gain their rights. But a false report to CPS would likely cause the judge to say no to granting grandparents rights.
They have to have a documented relationship with the grandkids. There’s also things like a parent has passed or a divorce. I had to look into this cuz my mom was telling ppl that she had rights…to kids she has never met.
I'm the US it's extremely difficult to get grandparents' rights. It used to be a thing, but those laws changed in almost every state. In order to get grandparents' rights the parents have to be so bad that their kids are in danger or something. It is very hard.
Watching all of these crazy MIL stories makes me feel so lucky and blessed. My MIL and I love eachother~she was genuinely happy when her son brought me home for the first time, when we moved in together, got engaged and married, and was ecstatic to have a grand baby. Our mom's even love eachother too. I'm so sorry to everyone that has bad in-laws 🥲
This nail color is BOMB! And matches the season, too 🍁🍁 Your mani is always on point, Charlotte 🥰
I have simply the best, sweetest, most boundary respecting mil in the world. I wish my girls knew her better but she has severe physical and mental restrictions and she’s in another state. My hubby is even a huge momma’s boy and talks to him every day but she has never stepped on my toes as wife and mother of his kids.
These videos make me appreciate my in-laws even more. My SIL is one of my best friends and my MIL and FIL are like a second set of parents. They're the best grandparents too.
Every time I watch these, I am reminded to text my MIL I appreciate her. 😂❤
*_IF_* you ever find yourself around a person that is being condescending, rude or constantly telling you, "Deary, you certainly do speak like such a commoner, don't you?" _you_ must finally, snap & reply, "Yes darling, you continuously say so. WE are worried that you are starting to lose your memory? You know, it does happen, at your age." 😈
Once you start with the snappy retorts they MAY back tf off ya, may. 🤞🏻 😂😂😂😂❤
Hearing these stories make me so thankful for my mother-in-law. She is so amazing and supportive and I love her so much
Y'know, there's this wonderful movie called "The Help" about a book of the same name, and how that book came to be.
And there's a particularly powerful line in that movie that I think about often when I hear about some of these absolutely unhinged, spiteful kinds of people:
"Some people aren't just mean. They're mean for *sport."* (this isn't an exact quote, I haven't watched the movie in a while)
Tbh, these monsters-in-law seem to fit that description quite nicely.
People like that see it as a game. "How angry can i make this person before they lose it, and I can use it against them and be the victim?"
The Help is such a great movie!! It tells a wonderful story, and has some funny scenes, but also some very emotional ones too! I highly recommend watching it or reading the book! ❤️
I remember the scene. This maid was talking about how she worked for this lady and when she died she put it in her will that she would go work for her daughter like she owned her. You're right the line was "mean for sport." I loved that movie! I read the book as well and it was really good
Someone who's mean for "sports" is often a sociopath.
Reminds me of that horrible family of women who tried to make it "tradition" to haze, harass and bully to new women of the family and the hubby showed them all the door.
Misery loves company
After 16 years of marriage, my husband passed away from leukemia. The day after the funeral his mother and family dumped me.. almost worse than his death, silly me thought they loved me.. ultimate betrayal
Honestly, I’m super lucky. I absolutely love my mother in law. Thank god for it too, because she’s been there for me in so many ways. Appreciate the hell out of that woman.
I'm a grandma who has a close relationship with my grandkids . They are safe and loved; that's as far as I should have any say in how they are raised . Nothing more; doesn't matter what I believe or think. Their parents are the ones to raise them and they come before anyone else.
Thanks!
I am so thankful I had a mother-in-law that was sweet & kind to me from the beginning!! I loved her very much!! RIP Bert!🙏
Too often CPS wants to believe anything someone else says and treats you like you're guilty, and unfortunately will take the kids to away. I know from experience. I had over 30 people listed as character witnesses and could have gotten more, but they didn't even try to get ahold of any of them, and just believed the lies that family and ex family were saying for their own selfish reasons and ruined our lives. I hadn't done a damn thing wrong and was an excellent mom. I asked why she believed them and why she didn't call any of these people on the list, that they were lying. She actually said to me,"well,if that's true, and they would lie about a good mother like that,then you don't need to have your kids anyway and be around family that would do that to a good mother". I said I was trying to avoid them being around them because of stuff like that. So damned if I did and damned if I didn't? Huh? ... yeah, something needs to be done about how they operate. They don't do the work they're supposed to do to assure the best and truthful outcome, and what's best for the kids.
Because social workers are the worst people, they need to be psych evaluated before being allowed to become a person involved with children.
Unfortunately you two are absolutely correct...it happened to friends of mine n they went through Hell while jumping through hoops of fire-yet were not at all guilty...the vindictive person that did it? Not a single consequence for such a lowlife act...smh
It irks me when people assume babies don't develop/hit milestones faster than others. My nephew had always been active. He was sitting up unassisted and would jump up and down when I would let him stand on my lap at 2mo. He crawled at 3mo. He cruised furniture and pulled to stand at 4.5mo. He was climbing out of his pack n play and crib at 6mo and he was walking on all fours, like a dog, but he had his little butt up in the air, using his hands and feet to get around bcuz apparently crawling took too long😂. He walked and ran at 7mo.
People ask me, "are you sure he did that?" Ugh yeah! I've been raising him since birth and was at home with him 24/7, and family members and close friends have witnessed his Houdini-ness 😂. He looked like a little garden gnome running around 😂.
My twin brother and I were born at 34wks and we hit all of our milestones early and were walking and running at 8.5mo.
Many states do have Grandparents' rights now. There is a flip side to this. My ex BIL was neglecting the kids and my Mom was willing to have them visit, get them school shoes, Christmas gifts, etc. as the BIL was struggling to provide for his 6 children.
He would withhold the two grandkids (the other 4 were the other woman's kids, the woman he cheated on my sister with.) My mother is so sweet and did nothing wrong. He was mad at my sister for leaving him. So it's not always the grandparents who are to blame for being absent.
those arent talked about because those arent the stories we are discussing. we know theres tons of trash parents who dont treat the children OR their parents well. thats for a different story. the majority ends up telling in law stories because, they are far more common. it all sucks, we all, as a species suck. there are some worse than others for sure. i hope the kids in your family are doing ok and things have improved, if not, im sorry :( most grandparents are thought of loving wonderful beings... because as grandparents, they are. as parents, not always so much. i think the family dynamic in general is so messed up these days that its hard. (for instance, i view my grandma and papa in high regard as my grandparents, as parents.....i know they sucked. my papa beat his kids, drank, shot guns off in the hosue etc, but as a grandpa, my grandpa, he was everything. i was destroyed when he died as a teenager. but i know he was so kind to his kids. its a effed up world right)
That's very true. When my son was given full custody of his daughter, we made it a point to keep his ex's family in her life even though his ex only had supervised visitation. It wasn't the family's fault that the mom couldn't stay off drugs and had her heroin dealing boyfriend move in with her. The family was always good to my granddaughter, so my son or I would take her to visit her other grandparents, aunts and uncles. We would let the one aunt take her to see other relatives on vacation for a week during the summer a couple times. It's not the family's fault and they shouldn't be held responsible for the actions of someone else.
In Germany grandparents actually are entitled to see their grandkids- legal regulations can be decided by court- IF and there is a big IF: the grandparents had a good relationship to them previously. It’s all about the kids best interest.
This. Grandparents maybe entitled to optain contact to their grandkids. They are not entitled to start having contact whenever they wish to.
The point in the first story is more about the Grandmother's disinterest with her grandkids until the parents divorced & the son lost custody. I'd bet the Grandmother's sudden interest was in hopes her son could just happen to pop in & see her when the kids were visiting without their Mom! Any child with a good relationship with their grandkids isn't going to be stopped from seeing them when the parents divorce. If the kids want to see them, call them, FaceTime them, they'd be allowed, even if the other parent had lost custody, however this grandmother was a stranger to them
The US has grandparents rights in many states, people aren't always aware it exists
@@RetroMonkey1999 And the US states that do have it seems similar, whereas they had to have had a relationship established & in the children's best interests❤!
1st lady is always on here.. being married to that man must have been HELL.
I have to say I have an awesome MIL! The first gift she gave me was a book on sensual massage. I was so embarrassed because I wasn’t even married to her son yet and I was 35 at the time so I shouldn’t have been embarrassed. I just wanted to share on here that there are wonderful wonderful mother-in-law’s out there and it’s sad that the mean ones get the attention. ✌️
2:40 Because grandma was worried that mom would paint her as an uninterested crazy person so she had to make herself look good to the kids… so mom could “lie” to them.
Had to read that 3 times to understand the crazy logic
Not only that, but a control thing. She wants to be able to feed info to her son, or find a way to bring them around her son. That way "dad" isn't the bad guy either.
All 50 states have some variation of Grandparent’s Rights. They can petition through the court to see their grandchildren.
My husband's parents did some shady shit with CPS too! We regained custody after getting freaking railroaded because of course they didn't want to hear our side at first and now have no contact what so ever with those monsters. Even the family judge said all the grandparents and CPS did was traumatize our children (plus my husband and I, I still get physically sick if someone knocks on the door). We've heard through the family that karma has paid a few visits to those assholes though
What happened to them please do tell
@ they both lost their jobs. The husband got drunk and shot his other son's hand off (cps didn't do anything regarding that!!), the dad's gotten like 3 DUIS, none of their kids will talk to them or let them see their grandkids. They're just all around miserable and completely alone with each other and they hate each other so it's exactly what they deserve.