I am a 911 dispatcher. Everyone, when you go on a first date: 1. Take your own car, have a friend drive you to/from, take an Uber, etc. Do not let them pick you up at your address and do not get into their car. That lets them know where you live and gives them the power to drive you anywhere without your consent. 2. Meet in a public place that you are familiar with. 3. Tell a friend or family member where you’re meeting your date. Send them a photo of them, along with their name and phone number. (These are all tools law enforcement can use to reverse search and identify a person) 4. Establish a time when your friend/family member should check in with you to make sure you are safe. Discuss what actions you want them to take if they don’t hear from you. 5. Share your phone’s location with a friend/family member. 6. If you feel uneasy, tell an employee, call the non emergency police line, call/text 911. Do not ever sacrifice your own safety in favor of being seen as polite.
I am so glad I live in Canada with low-crime rates in my city because I should be dead. Single female in my early to mid-20s. Lived alone. Invited these men into my apartments to hang out for first dates... the last one is now my husband, but yeah, again, how am I not dead? I even had one of these dates at 4am with a nightshift worker... wtf? LOL. I can't believe I made it to 30. Truly a blessing.
This comment needs to be pinned. Unfortunately there are lots of people who are unhinged, dangerous, stalkers, sociopaths, psychopaths, violent, narcissists, controlling, possessive, hypercritical, delusional … and so much more. Please, please, PLEASE follow the advice of this person. It may seem like ‘overkill’ but “better safe than sorry” is a saying for a reason.
I was definitely going to write the 1st one. Never get in a strangers cars. He was a stranger, his door handle didn't work and he could have been a dangerous person. NO NO NO
As an older woman- Stop giving your address to men you don't know! Yes, some will be mad, oh they're a gentleman- yeah, no. Don't do that, it's super dangerous
This!! I met this guy, he called me a few days later, the whole conversation started off wat too strong for me considering I didn't really know this person and then he wanted to pick me up and kept pushing for it. Like why would I give my address to a person I know nothing about especially one who was being as pushy as he was.
Yeah if you're going to except being picked up then at least arrange for it at the far end of your street and walk there or if where you're going for the date is closer then you walk the whole way. I know of men that have just turned up on friends doorsteps when things don't go well over the course of a couple dates but they're convinced it did go well and insistent on one more date
They are masters at pretending to be "the person you've been waiting for all your life", but when you take a step back and look at their behavior, they are a huge red flag. They rush you into a relationship fast! They tell you they love you, want to marry you within a couple weeks...this is not normal. They talk about themselves, they LOVE to hear themselves talk. They tell you how hard they work, how successful they are...but it's a show. A truly hardworking, successful person doesn't need to tell you. And, in time you'll notice they don't have friends and have bad relationships with their family members, but always have a story about how it's the other person that's the problem.
I went on a date once with this guy. We met at the restaurant because I was NOT telling him where I lived. He talked about himself from the minute we met til ordering. When it came time to order, he tried to order a salad for me. I’m like no thank you and told the waitress what I wanted. I always go Dutch on first dates so why not treat myself you know. This dude literally tried to chastise me about not being “dainty” enough because I ordered meat and proceeded to tell me I should’ve tried to impress him by eating a salad. I’m like huh? Salad is impressive to you? and giggled. He got legit angry that I ordered meat, which is “MAN FOOD” and raised his voice at me. Mind you, first time meeting. What the?! Alarm bells started going off in my gut and I got up and left. He harassed me by phone for about 10 mins texting vulgar things until I blocked him. Some men are really creepy and scary with their anger issues and ideals.
Ladies please don’t let him pick you up at all, meet at the public place you plan to go so that you can leave any time you want. Do NOT go to his place, no matter how hot or seemingly kind he appears. Do not go on a hike or secluded walk, do not go where nobody is around if you need help. If you absolutely must bang go to a busy hotel. Please, I’m genuinely begging you. People are getting crazier and crazier and you are so very precious.
For me personally, I don't have a car and have no other form of transportation most of the time. I let my now bf pick me up and he is the kindest, sweetest person I've ever met. Would I let everyone do that? No, I've had a bad experience before, but for the most part, they never tried or did anything to me. Taking precautions is good to do, but speaking to someone for a while before hand and video chatting with them can help you deduce if the risk will pay off.
Exactly i can't believe the amount of women who get in cars. It's an American thing. Way more aware here in the UK. And guys with guys too, be careful. Anyone, but statistically women mainly. It's not worth the risk.
The character over chemistry advice is gold. We get so blindsided by the chemistry which in the long run does not last once you see their true character. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I know if I am crazy attracted to someone and all my whistle and bells are going off to run. I am a broken thing as far as that goes and it has been proven time and again that if my kitty is left to run the ship like all cats it will run us into any danger to chase that red dot.
I had a rule when dating that I stand by: there should be nothing to forgive in early dating. If you can't treatment right for the 3 to 4 dates it takes for me to start to feel comfortable with you, I don't want to know what happens when you think I am locked down
I got that rule only after I mistreated before a date. Like before any date. But I felt that if he could not treat me with basic respect before I go anywhere with him. I could not trust him period with my safety.
Are we ignoring how unsafe the first story was? Like: 1) she let a stranger know where she lives 2) got in a car with him instead of getting herself there so she can have a safe way home if it doesn’t work out 3) drink multiple drinks while he was sober 4) didn’t leave the first time he ignored her. Like huh?????
And, she went to multiple locations w/ him after he already exhibited a pretty clear red flag. So, now he also knows multiple spots where he can "run into her" again.
Girl with the angel date: FFS get your phone checked out for tracking apps and recording devices etc - the fog was probably a coincidence, but everything else suggests this guy bugged your phone.
Yeah it's... not real. Even IF he had a tracking app that listened to everything she said... how the hell would he have the time to IMMEDIATELY be right where she is the EXACT MOMENT she said something? That's not physically possible. Didn't happen.
The chemistry bit.... like a gut punch.... In my 20's I fell head over heels for one of my friends brother (7.5 year age difference) in the beginning he just saw me as his kid sisters friend, but we bumped into each other fairly regularly and got to be really friendly ourselves, we text each other every day. After 8 years, and multiple bad relationships on both our ends, we found ourselves going through break ups just a few months apart and were leaning on each other for support and when the liquor is flowing and the Billy Joel is playing.... we got involved. And for awhile it was bliss, I'd loved this man for so long, and we were best friends, but he had so much trauma he hadn't dealt with... he was a rampant alcoholic, drank 3 handles a week, and he insisted on not telling anyone about us because he didn't want to upset his sister (who when she did eventually find out called him an idiot for not dating me) so I agreed to keep quiet, for 2 years. For 2 years I allowed myself to be his dirty little secret. It took me 4 years of therapy to date again after him. Chemistry doesn't mean jack shit.
I agree, much better to go in with clear head, rationally, than give in with crazy in 'love' situation. Most of the times it hurts soon or later. That kind of 'love' is a sweet, sweet poison.
I agree. Chemistry means nothing. I spent 3 years of my life running after a long-distance relationship. We only met twice, once to start the relationship and the second time was during Thanksgiving. I left my family for us to be together. He napped and slept for nearly the entire weekend. When I mustered up the courage to tell him about how lonely that made me feel, he said he needed time to think about it but then didn’t talk to me for weeks. I finally came to my senses and pulled a Gone Girl on him right before SZA dropped her latest album SOS. I listened to it on the shores of the Gulf of Mexico & cried into the ocean listening to Snooze bc I wanted someone to feel that way about me. I gave up so many decent connections bc he was in the back of my head the whole time.
Related to the last story: I went on several dates with a guy I met online, and our chemistry was shite; there was NO immediate physical attraction for me. He was SO awkward & nervous…but he was also very sweet & a truly decent guy, which is why I kept going out with him. Seriously, go with CHARACTER over CHEMISTRY every.single.time. Because CHEMISTRY can grow. How do I know? That guy & I will be celebrating our 24th wedding anniversary this year! 🥰😄💗
This is terrible advice. Stop telling women to settle for people they aren’t attracted to. It worked out for you, but 99% of the time, it’s terrible advice.
I met a guy through plenty of fish about a year after my divorce. He was also divorced. We had amazing chemistry. Our banter was amazing and we had so much in common. We spoke every day and finally went on a date that was amazing as well. I wasn’t looking for a fling but not marriage either. Just someone to date monogamously. He said the same. This guys was not only hot with an amazing body but he had his ish together. His own home, a good job and was a great dad. Im a nurse practitioner with my own home so this was attractive to me. I was on cloud 9. A few dates in and we did the deed which was 🤯 for both of us. This went on for months and it was great. Until it wasn’t. One day he texts me and tells me he met someone. I’m like um excuse me? He said he was at the gym and met a girl that he’d wanted to date years ago but didn’t have the nerve to ask her. Well she started back at the gym and they’d been talking. I was crushed. It was very matter of fact for him. For some guys, I think a girl can be a perfect match, that is , for the time being, until he finds a better match.
Better to know now then get married and have that happen. Does suck. I met a 6’4 handsome guy. I’m 5’1. All he talked about was loving short women. Then he calls me after we hooked up a few times to tell me there was this girl he’s always liked but she was in an abusive relationship but they broke up! She was 6’!!! 🤣🤣🤣 They ended up getting married and I believe have a kid.
Sadly, it sounds like he saw you as a place holder, I've been there it's really not fun, it's really not something you can see coming, this behavior is cruel and heart less, but unfortunately this has been a common practice for many years, it's like some people think that this is acceptable , it's selfish and needs to be called out.
Just because he's been wanting to date her for years doesn't mean she wants to date him. If she turns him down, he'll be knocking on your door again. I wouldn't answer it. Also, he is a turd.
My advice to my kids: Don't say anything online that you wouldn't want read over the loudspeaker at school or work. Don't send a picture that you wouldn't want everyone at your school or job to see. The internet is FOREVER - once it's sent - it belongs to everyone. As far as dates go - my mom - then my friends - now as a mom: If you ever feel that you are out with someone that you are not comfortable with - call me and I will come get you - any time/anywhere. Your safety is more important than the time spent picking you up.
My parents always had the call me any time I'll get you policy. First, my now husband thought that was incredibly spoilt. He and his sisters always had to get home on their own (rain, snow, missed the last bus, ... no exceptions). Now that we have kids he thankfully gets it.
In the UK there's the Ask for Angela thing to help women, and men, safely get out of dates. Not used that, because I met my husband before it came out, but I know of some women who might have used it.
One thing I've heard, from a psychologist, is if you feel "chemistry" like butterflies - that your body is really having a visceral response and trying to warn you to STAY AWAY. Sometimes we want a relationship so bad we twist those butterfly/chemistry feelings with finding "the right one". When truly your body is telling you to get away. Don't misinterpret the signs ladies!!
UMMMMMM after the demon story when you said “I’m scared, I’M SCARED” my google nest said “we can be brave together” and I almost fainted because I’ve only heard this thing speak maybe 3 times in the ENTIRE TIME IVE HAD IT 😭😭😭
My phone did the same thing! It suddenly popped on and said, "I'm scared." Then said, " We can be brave together." 😮 It freaked me out! It never just does that! 😢 I am glad I am not the only one! Wowza! ✌️
The chemistry thing is so true! Almost every time I've felt crazy chemistry with someone, it was those kind of guys who just ooze charm, and it's way too obvious that they are fboys. You can tell they are smooth and flirty with everyone, and it's smarter to avoid that kind of thing if you want something serious. If you don't keep your head straight, you could easily be duped by "chemistry."
The sad thing is this is happened to me quite a few times, and I messaged/vetted them before meeting them... it's why I have kinda given up on dating lol
@@rockinchik06 literally me too. I don’t even do dating apps and try to meet people in person but so many guys are just wanting a casual hook up or won’t stay faithful.
I met this guy at a taco bar and agreed to go on a date. He picked me up and took me to a nice Mexican restaurant. He wanted me to sit next to him, in the booth, but I told him, "I wasn't ready." I might have considered it, IF things went well, but come on, we didn't even know each other yet, the date just started and we hadn't even talked on the phone yet! At one point, I don't remember what we were talking about, he's dominating the conversation, but in an effort to show that I was listening I thought I would add something cute to what he was saying so I go, "Well if that's true then,..." And all I was attempting to do was _add_ to the conversation; I don't remember what I was going to say I just remember that I was _planning_ on being cute and flirty with it, ya know? But,... He bangs the table with both fists and suddenly yells, "SO NOW YOU'RE QUESTIONING MY INTEGRITY?!?!" I was STUNNED! I immediately tried apologizing but he couldn't hear a word because he was off on some crazy rant and even complained that I didn't apologize, but I DID try. I even tried _calmly_ telling him that I would let him finish and then I would speak. But he just wanted to rage, instead, so I left and walked the FOUR MILES HOME IN HEELS!! Our server was an acquaintance of mine. The next time I saw them, they told me that guy brings a new date to that restaurant at least once a week and they ALL end like mine did! 🤣
Almost every lady i meet on date apps ask me for money within the first 2 weeks I've also decided if you won't video chat with me within the first couple of conversations you're more than likely a catfish To everyone protect yourself at all times I'm not prefect but I try my best to be a good person Love you all this community potatoes/petty queens and kings are all awesome Love you Charlotte you and Mike are awesome together ❤️
I hope you learned that getting picked up is dangerous because they know where you live and you are at their mercy in an enclosed mobile place. Please pass the information on to your peers and younger women around you. I honestly am flabbergasted and terrified that how many are getting picked up.
The very second he banged on the table I would've grabbed my stuff and left. There would've been no more talking after that. To me, that is a big DV red flag. Been there before and I most certainly would not put myself thrugh that again
My mother always told us: "There's a reason we call em privates, not publics. Unless you want the whole public to see your privates, don't take pics of em and send em to people."
The angel story freaked me out. I’m 99% sure it’s schizophrenia or another psychotic disorder, 1% is like I still wouldn’t mess with that, because I’m a representative of Latinos against spooky shit
I used to dumpster dive in college. The last time I dove, a homeless fellow joined me after hearing me trying to get out of a dumpster. I told him I was dumpster diving and he took me around to some good dumpsters but then proceeded to tell me the archangel Michael was telling him, in that moment, we would both teach the world how to feed itself through dumpster diving. He was a gentle guy, and I never felt unsafe, but it dawned on me that not everyone is a gentle soul. So I stopped.
1st meetup with a man from any dating site, IF he picks you up for the date- ask him if he'd mind going to the nearest gas station and maybe snagging you a drink, or a candy bar. While he is inside- open his glovebox and take out his car registration,. which has his full First & Last name, Address, Make & Model of his vehicle, Year, etc. Screenshot this and send it to your mom/dad/relative. If you went missing- this, is EVERYTHING. It's better then saying "hey let me see your drivers license",. You'll also know if just maybe- he's driving around in his wife's car...
As a man - A) If you're caught doing this, you're being left on the side of the road for the breach in privacy and B) Drive yourself to the date if you don't trust who's picking you up... Do it for however many dates you need it, till you trust that person to then pick you up...
Man it REALLY sucks when you meet someone for the first time and everything is great, the chemistry is there and then you go to see them again since it all went so well and the guy just absolutely BLOWS it😂
Charlotte also hates the “put a finger down if you tell a ridiculously long ridiculous story with too many details instead of just calling it a story time” trend? I love her even more now.
For me it's this one and the 'I'm shocked that I mixed this that and those together, put it in the oven' and follow a WHOLE DAMN RECIPE WHAT YOU MEAN YOU DIDN'T KNOW A CAKE RECIPE WOULD END WITH CAKE?
Wish someone had told me that last comment about having chemistry with someone YEARS ago. Charlotte keeps giving all of this good advice that I needed years ago, so now I'm just here like, "period!"
I've been dating this girl for the past 5 months, and I enjoy being with her. But, I will say the first date wasn't bad, but it was very awkward. First off, we're a little far from each other, so we agreed to meet somewhere in the middle, which was great. We met at a Chili's, which was fine. I was open for a cup of coffee, but she wanted dinner, and I was fine with it. When I got there, she was happy to see me, but during the date, she was very timid, and spoke a few times, but not too many. I found myself being the one carrying the conversation, but was willing to give her the chance sometimes because I wanted to hear what she had to say. It was very awkward, and there were moments of 10 second silence, but we made it work. We ended the date eventually, exchanged numbers (which was her real number), and we've been dating ever since. I enjoy being with her, and she enjoys being with me. The kicker is this is the first ever relationship for both of us, so we were new to this. The moral of the story: With a first date, it's not gonna go smoothly all the time, but you have to make the best of it.
Awkward can be good. My first date with my husband, he was SUPER nervous about making a good impression. Sweating buckets.... We just celebrated 17 years together.
I love the fact the girl walked out and especially love her repeating what he said out loud. More power to her. I’m going to start doing that if I’m in that situation. Separately when men ask me for “pictures” I ask for their tax return
I love how you are always essentially taking girls by the shoulders and telling her that she DOES have significant worth, she IS special, she IS beautiful, she DOES deserve to be respected. Keep on encouraging that healthy way of thinking for fellow women, Charlotte! :D
If asked for a spicy pic on the first date, ask them, "...like a photo of cayenne pepper?" Make THEM uncomfortable for once. And stay safe out there, everyone.
Being asked inappropriately for naughty pics. Just another reason i LOVE being a cat owner 🤭 (I can’t tell ya how many frustrated men know what my.. kitty.. looks like)
Yeah! FORCE them to say EXACTLY what they mean...act confused and have them to spell it out so even they can see how inappropriate it is when it comes out in that context.
@andalistark5416 Toxoplasma gondii..... your litterally being drugged by your cat. Which btw a by product is your hormones that make you want to be social are actively being suppressed by your cat. Cats are detrimental to human society. That chemical also can cause delusions and other mental issues. If you care about your mental and physical health get rid of the cat .
I know someone who sent and received spicy pics with her boyfriend of about a year. They had issues and they split up. He sent the pics to her bosses to try to get her fired, as he stated "he couldn't imagine they'd wasn't someone who behaved this way, on the team". Be careful out there ladies (and gents).
I went on a date with a guy who said he was 5’8. He made it a point to make fun of my height (I’m 5’7) …. He picked me up and in my head something felt off… my guy was 4’11. Don’t get me wrong we love a short king😂❤ but this guy actively made fun of me so it didn’t go anywhere. You can’t lie about something so simple😭 confidence is attractive babe I’ve dated short men b4❤ Edit: this was through a dating app yall😂😭
@@Fran_Glassthat’s what I thought. I was looking for my person and I wanted to date someone 5’6 and up. I don’t date anyone shorter than 5’2 (I found my partner 🎉tho) this guy TRIED TO BRING ME TO A MOTEL i really think he was trying to bypass the filter system. But he used “🥺” emoji a lot and had a lot of self deprecation in text. I hope he found what he was looking for 💀 not even my worst date, probably almost got kidnapped/murdered once.
Well said!! It is not the being short part it's the lying, while actively being rude about your height part of things. Confidence is one of the MOST attractive traits a person can have. Best wishes to you and yours!! To Us ALL!!! 💖🙏💖🫶
Why did I read the part where he picked you up and I thought you meant literally picked you off the ground and in your head something was off, im like in your head? Honey he didn't even get you 2 feet off the ground 😂😂
ooo wait that character over chemistry breakdown was sooooo true! Character over chemistry, actions over words, treat them like they're cat-fishing from jail. 💯
I used to make the mistake of telling someone I was on a date with that I was autistic. They asked what that meant, I thought I was being honest, telling them what they would be getting into if we went out again. I told them about getting overwhelmed by my senses, what a meltdown looks like(with me it's rocking, crying and probably hiding in a dark room or closet), arfid(that's extreme food aversions), and the part I made a mistake on...I told them "I'm stupid easy to manipulate" which led to me explaining that it's extremely hard for me to tell when someone really is my friend, that in the past I've let people hurt me repeatedly because all it took was "sorry about that"...and as far as I was concerned we're good again. I got extremely lucky with my husband because I was a crappy dater lol....as my husband has said, I was a statistic waiting to happen.
So glad you're safe now with your husband! Bc otherwise, yikes. Shame on anyone who takes what you said about being easy to manipulate and runs with it... ugh :( some people are awful.
18:39 Charlottes right we have to stop “laughing it off” when people say something out of pocket. A guy asked me what I looked like without my hijab (like asking a girl what color panties she’s wearing). And instead of telling him how rude and inappropriate that question was, I just laughed it off kept it all lighthearted. But I can’t even put into words how uncomfortable the question made me feel.
Lol…when the third story-teller said “ 20:05 honk-sho” my old-ass didn’t immediately realize she was referring to sleeping and thought it was a new trend I didn’t understand. 😭
03:00 okay no, actually hard disagree. I feel like she was just being transparent, I'd do the same thing cuz it just has the potential of making it weird. They met on a dating app, she's an attractive woman, *of course* she has other matches.
Okay well this is another opinion. I mean, does their mood shift when you point out another person you’re dating? This isn’t just a conversation that she isn’t exclusive since they met on a dating app
I love how as soon as Charlotte said her intro, my 16 month old came screeching into the room and sits down to watch quietly. 😂❤ Thank YOU Charlotte for 30 minutes of quiet ❤.
Lol 😂 That: “I’m an angel/demon here to protect you!” is certainly an interesting stance on stalking someone. Bravo to that dude for the creativity and sincere commitment he put into this little psycho character of his!
@ bro I’m not gonna lie, a LOT of these stories sound made up, but then it’s still entertaining to watch the madness, lol. I’m a bit of an introvert, so hearing about everyone else’s life experiences and shit is how I stay connected to this huge, fake world of ours. I always figure that even if the stories are fake, it’s still a high probability that something very similar happened to someone somewhere. Hell, if I wrote stuff about some of the madness that made up my youth, it would probably sound VERY untrue to a lot of people. But I get it.
@@lilscenechick1995If she's looking at fog outside her apartment window, how would she know it was only covering _her_ window? That story sounded bogus.
This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had , I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on , I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here .
The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 8 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.
Let me explain something to the younger generations (gen x here). When I was young, there were few limitations on men. They were allowed to touch, make sexual jokes, cat-call women and if you didn't let them, you were the problem. So men are still trying to get away with this crap, and I'm super proud of the younger generations for standing up for their right to be respected. 🎉
Male entitlement WAS the absolute norm! (GenX too, btw 🙋🏻) In fact, i think a LOT of us have only recently concluded that what WE knew as normal would qualify as Me-Too level!! I could not be prouder that women are steadily elevating themselves, & demanding better 🤘
That was never normal or acceptable in my dating life. I'm 65. I'm sorry you went through that. I'm not sure we've actually, fully, advanced much when I hear stuff like this from younger women. 🤔
I consider myself a xennial and I absolutely agree with this. Especially in my bumpkin ass town in northeast Ohio. Where it took way too long for the town to catch up with the times, technologically and culturally.
Been with my highschool sweetheart for 18 years, same boat. Dating feels scary... I think I'd just wait until someone fell in my lap rather than purposely date or go on apps. Too much crazy
My Mother told me in my teens, in no uncertain terms, never, ever let anyone take a naked photo of you, not your boyfriend, not your husband, not anyone, because that photo will be seen by someone else, out of pride or revenge, that photo will be seen by others.
If only there had been a Charlotte putting out content like this 30 years ago when I was dating. Back in the early days of internet dating. I might have avoided some really crappy men and learned how to care more about myself when i really needed it. Thanks for showing girls how to not put up with crap!
They have no self-respect for themselves enough to wait until they know for sure they are in love. They think they can find true love by being intimate with others.
Yup, it's a different generation, but think about the "free love" generation, in the '60s. I think, though, especially cos there were a lot of drugs involved, that toned down again. Now, it's grossly off the charts, and I largely blame tv and movies, for making it look ok to be so "casual" about it.
Ladies, do not hesitate to talk loud in a public space when something creepy happens to you! Guys will pretend they're laughing, try to make you feel like you're the one having a problem for not responding... but no, if you just repeat out loud what they said/how they acted with you, with people around who can hear that, you'll see how embarrassed they feel. Because they KNOW they're being inappropriate, they just pretend it's not as an ultimate attempt to get what they want. Bravo to the lady who did that in the video!
It is no easier when you get older, most men don't figure it out. At 47 I started dating again, I was on a site talking to guys I thought were good-looking. Almost all of them started talking about sex within the first or second convo. The man I married did not talk about sex until we had been dating for a while. It was amazing and he is a real gentleman, he opens doors for me and cares for me, it's not all about sex.
100% he felt insecure. She should have never said anything about seeing the other guy, because clearly that other guy never even bothered to approach her. She finds herself more important than other people do.
Yeah definitely didn't need to say anything about that other guy. She could have pretended to not see him unless he walked up to her, which he never did
@@frigid4real I’m not sure about the last part since I don’t know this women but yes I definitely agree with you. He got insecure because why did she feel the need to point the other guy out to him? Would he be future competition like what? 😂
@@Kunmi345 That's kind of exactly what it does, whether she intended it or not. For all I know, he's had quite a few women try to turn dates into a "competition" with other men. Point to a hot dude, "oh I matched with him before", and suddenly you turn it into a competition instead of just seeing where the vibes go.
I went on a lunch date with a man I met on a dating app. He offered to pay for lunch (it wasn't expensive) and then invited me back to his place. I replied, "but we just met" and his reply was "but I just bought you lunch." 😳 I just told him I wasn't that kind of girl and left.
Unpopular opinion I guess BUT Idk… I would have to disagree on this one 3:06 cause I think her telling him was probably the best choice. It’s a dating app for goodness sakes people are trying to find matches, and her openly communicating that to her date saying “hey just so you know” shows good communication skills. What if her old match came up and started something and she didn’t inform her date? That could have been absolutely messy so she instead let him know upfront and he took it poorly. She showed respect and communication, he showed child like behavior. She dodged a bullet on that and we should continue to encourage that same level of maturity that we got from her for everyone… not bring her down and say she did the wrong thing.
I don't think there is really a wrong way with telling him, or not, but his response said everything. Even if he preferred not to know to be jealous on a first date that your date has a past is a huge red flag.
Just because i want to make sure everyone knows. AD is now, BC is before. 24 AD is 2000 years ago. 24 BC is about 2048 years ago. Also, some scientists use BCE now because of religious stuff, but whatever. Important part is that AD is not before BC.
I know i’m not the only catholic school kid who grew up thinking they stood for Before Christ [BC] & After (his) Death [AD]. Not in ANY way accurate, but it has been close enough in terms of recalling the difference 💁🏻♀️
I went to a christian school when I was young and the way I have always remembered (even though i am not religious) is BC= Before Christ AD= After Death
People seem to forget (or not be aware) that what we know as demons are angels too, which were cast out of Heaven when they followed Satan. Whether the guy was himself a demon in disguise or not, he could have been under their influence, and they are nothing to be messed with. If he had actually been an angel that had not been cast out, it is doubtful that he would have revealed himself to be angelic.
Even if she wasn’t religious, I’d seriously consider talking to a priest or pastor about that experience! That guy was tapped into something and it wasn’t Jesus!
3rd girl should've responded " I read the Bible for at least 30 minutes, then I kneel by my bed and pray for another 30 or more. If I'm still not sleepy I meditate on the works of the apostles until my eyes start closing off, at which time I make sure my victorian head cap is comfortably on and go to sleep" If that doesn't stop a dude from talking about his "handiness" nothing will 😂
Pro dating tip: first few dates ALWAYS in a public place and ALWAYS tell AT LEAST 3 people what you're doing where you going and who you're getting along with where you met them from. All crucial info if the worst case happens!
1s story: the woman at the gallery just saying "if he says hello to me its because of this..." thats perfectly fine, IF he does it. But the guy he was on a date, when his demeanor changed just because she mentioned briefly another guy (just because he was there), you can tell he is jelous AF. I would have left the date, i would have stayed at the galley and then go home....He changed his Attitude, mistreated her (in the sense he walked away in the gallery and "forced" her to leave, etc) and he kept mentioning this other man..... girl, just walk away, be safe
Same! He showed his true colors real quick. If he was already like that at the beginning of their first date, just imagine the hell he would put her through if they were together. No. Thank. You. Very. Much!
11:15 omg my ex/baby daddy used to say “I used to think I was an Angel in a human body” I honestly thought it was a joke or something he grew out of, but after everything and the way he acted I think he truly still feels like that
I love how she power walked out of that date, and protected her worth!! So proud of her!! In this day and age, it’s hard for single people to find their people, and so many lower their standards…I’m glad to see that she hasn’t…She’ll find hers soon enough, I sincerely hope 😊👍
OMG, overwhelming great chemistry with someone ended in complete and utter disaster of my life. CHARACTER character character indeed. Girl, don't look back on that first date.
Girl with the angel date: i dated a guy who had a very similar story except that he was a vampire. Stated hes thousands of years old, theres a vampiric council always wayching so he could get in trouble for telling me, he would say if you tell anyone i will know about it and youll be killed for revealing that information. He would speak to me so seriously and up in my personal space and he looked like a demon. Huge pupils that just looked like pure black eyes and a creepy smile.
Yes I once asked a guy who the invisible person is that I noticed him briefly addressing a couple of times I don't have words that describe the surprise I felt when he very casually replied with "oh there's 7 of them" 😮😮😮😢😢😢
Funniest "date" I've ever had was with my current wife. Don't get me wrong, we were young and dumb at the time so no judgement from me on what she did because I just laughed, but we got ice cream from Harris Teeter (a grocery store) and sat in the parking lot. But the now love of my life didn't know you couldn't just run the battery without the engine, so she's charging her phone with the car half on, and her car dies. Mind you, it is 12am, and we have to call my friend because I knew he had just closed his store at the time, and he came and jumped the car. Love that man for it. He drove 30 min to come jump us. Bless him. Edit: Grammar
Not me laughing about an HT ice cream date. HT used to be so fancy! I've split a pint of Ben and Jerry's in a parking lot. 😅 Now, had you said Winn Dixie? Then I'd laugh, cuz that place was ratchet. 😂 Your friend is a G for doing you a solid. Blessings to you and your wife for the rest of your days.
Earliest I've ever been, lol. Charlotte's growth over the past few years has been awesome to watch. So happy for her and looking forward to more good things in the future. Merry Christmas, potato princes and princesses!
Going from a 3 year toxic relationship to a single women learning her worth, nothing is better than binge watching Charlotte and getting some ACTUAL good advice about relationships
My rule on online dating. We met in person in public first. Met in public first. A lot of guys hated this rule. One called me crazy because I would not skip the get to know him chat phase. Or skip the get a vibe from him in a public setting. Just go straight to his place. No. No. No! Its still meeting people online. Its still meeting a stranger. Met in public first. Then go from there.
I am a 911 dispatcher. Everyone, when you go on a first date:
1. Take your own car, have a friend drive you to/from, take an Uber, etc. Do not let them pick you up at your address and do not get into their car. That lets them know where you live and gives them the power to drive you anywhere without your consent.
2. Meet in a public place that you are familiar with.
3. Tell a friend or family member where you’re meeting your date. Send them a photo of them, along with their name and phone number. (These are all tools law enforcement can use to reverse search and identify a person)
4. Establish a time when your friend/family member should check in with you to make sure you are safe. Discuss what actions you want them to take if they don’t hear from you.
5. Share your phone’s location with a friend/family member.
6. If you feel uneasy, tell an employee, call the non emergency police line, call/text 911. Do not ever sacrifice your own safety in favor of being seen as polite.
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I am so glad I live in Canada with low-crime rates in my city because I should be dead. Single female in my early to mid-20s. Lived alone. Invited these men into my apartments to hang out for first dates... the last one is now my husband, but yeah, again, how am I not dead? I even had one of these dates at 4am with a nightshift worker... wtf? LOL. I can't believe I made it to 30. Truly a blessing.
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Unfortunately there are lots of people who are unhinged, dangerous, stalkers, sociopaths, psychopaths, violent, narcissists, controlling, possessive, hypercritical, delusional … and so much more.
Please, please, PLEASE follow the advice of this person. It may seem like ‘overkill’ but “better safe than sorry” is a saying for a reason.
Thank you so much for this ❤ I have never dated anyone (I'm 13) so in the future this will be helpful!! ❤❤
I was definitely going to write the 1st one. Never get in a strangers cars. He was a stranger, his door handle didn't work and he could have been a dangerous person. NO NO NO
As an older woman- Stop giving your address to men you don't know! Yes, some will be mad, oh they're a gentleman- yeah, no. Don't do that, it's super dangerous
And don’t get into a car where the passenger side door handle doesn’t work. That’s serial killer how to 101.
Omg right
This!! I met this guy, he called me a few days later, the whole conversation started off wat too strong for me considering I didn't really know this person and then he wanted to pick me up and kept pushing for it. Like why would I give my address to a person I know nothing about especially one who was being as pushy as he was.
Exactly!!!! And never go to their house the first time either! I also will only drive myself so I have an exit route. lol
Yeah if you're going to except being picked up then at least arrange for it at the far end of your street and walk there or if where you're going for the date is closer then you walk the whole way.
I know of men that have just turned up on friends doorsteps when things don't go well over the course of a couple dates but they're convinced it did go well and insistent on one more date
I had the chemistry of my life with a violent narcissist.. Character over chemistry every time! Be safe, girls ❤
Narcs create chemistry based on all of your good traits. Its literally diabolical
SAME 😂😂😂
They are masters at pretending to be "the person you've been waiting for all your life", but when you take a step back and look at their behavior, they are a huge red flag. They rush you into a relationship fast! They tell you they love you, want to marry you within a couple weeks...this is not normal. They talk about themselves, they LOVE to hear themselves talk. They tell you how hard they work, how successful they are...but it's a show. A truly hardworking, successful person doesn't need to tell you. And, in time you'll notice they don't have friends and have bad relationships with their family members, but always have a story about how it's the other person that's the problem.
@@tawarwaith-en9fo can make a certain phone number and email address!! Don't give out personal information. Please??❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️
I went on a date once with this guy. We met at the restaurant because I was NOT telling him where I lived. He talked about himself from the minute we met til ordering. When it came time to order, he tried to order a salad for me. I’m like no thank you and told the waitress what I wanted. I always go Dutch on first dates so why not treat myself you know.
This dude literally tried to chastise me about not being “dainty” enough because I ordered meat and proceeded to tell me I should’ve tried to impress him by eating a salad. I’m like huh? Salad is impressive to you? and giggled. He got legit angry that I ordered meat, which is “MAN FOOD” and raised his voice at me. Mind you, first time meeting.
What the?! Alarm bells started going off in my gut and I got up and left. He harassed me by phone for about 10 mins texting vulgar things until I blocked him. Some men are really creepy and scary with their anger issues and ideals.
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@@katec4615 how have you not met a man like that
@@katec4615??
Impress him by eating a salad lmao that is SO weird. I’d walk out too like wtf.
Ladies please don’t let him pick you up at all, meet at the public place you plan to go so that you can leave any time you want. Do NOT go to his place, no matter how hot or seemingly kind he appears. Do not go on a hike or secluded walk, do not go where nobody is around if you need help. If you absolutely must bang go to a busy hotel. Please, I’m genuinely begging you. People are getting crazier and crazier and you are so very precious.
For me personally, I don't have a car and have no other form of transportation most of the time. I let my now bf pick me up and he is the kindest, sweetest person I've ever met. Would I let everyone do that? No, I've had a bad experience before, but for the most part, they never tried or did anything to me. Taking precautions is good to do, but speaking to someone for a while before hand and video chatting with them can help you deduce if the risk will pay off.
Yeah unless you want to become a hashtag.
Give him a second chance. In a VERY public place. He literally COULD BE the ONE.
Exactly i can't believe the amount of women who get in cars. It's an American thing. Way more aware here in the UK. And guys with guys too, be careful. Anyone, but statistically women mainly. It's not worth the risk.
Not worth it @@raeofsunshinebrite65
The character over chemistry advice is gold. We get so blindsided by the chemistry which in the long run does not last once you see their true character. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
So true!
I know if I am crazy attracted to someone and all my whistle and bells are going off to run. I am a broken thing as far as that goes and it has been proven time and again that if my kitty is left to run the ship like all cats it will run us into any danger to chase that red dot.
26:59 if someone asks for a spicy photo, go to your kitchen, take a picture of your spices, and send!
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Chiles (jalapeños, etc) work, too 😁
I love this
I had a rule when dating that I stand by: there should be nothing to forgive in early dating. If you can't treatment right for the 3 to 4 dates it takes for me to start to feel comfortable with you, I don't want to know what happens when you think I am locked down
That's actually a really good rule
this is so valuable thank you for sharing!
Perfectly said! I learned to follow that rule early on and it has served me well.
I got that rule only after I mistreated before a date. Like before any date. But I felt that if he could not treat me with basic respect before I go anywhere with him. I could not trust him period with my safety.
Great rules!
Are we ignoring how unsafe the first story was? Like:
1) she let a stranger know where she lives
2) got in a car with him instead of getting herself there so she can have a safe way home if it doesn’t work out
3) drink multiple drinks while he was sober
4) didn’t leave the first time he ignored her.
Like huh?????
And, she went to multiple locations w/ him after he already exhibited a pretty clear red flag. So, now he also knows multiple spots where he can "run into her" again.
right! any time a guy is staying sober but okay with buying you drinks, that is a RED FLAG 🚩🚩🚩
0 situational awareness
But you're going to ignore the second story where she went to his house And she just met him. and he said he is an angel. And pulls out a knife.😮 👌
@@elainethompson6514this! And then comes online to complain about how stupid she was. Bc this looks bad on her mainly
Girl with the angel date: FFS get your phone checked out for tracking apps and recording devices etc - the fog was probably a coincidence, but everything else suggests this guy bugged your phone.
No. She needs to get an agent for that novel she’s writing.
It suggests she's telling a story for views.
Yeah it's... not real. Even IF he had a tracking app that listened to everything she said... how the hell would he have the time to IMMEDIATELY be right where she is the EXACT MOMENT she said something? That's not physically possible. Didn't happen.
100%.
Maybe it was a dream 😅
The chemistry bit.... like a gut punch....
In my 20's I fell head over heels for one of my friends brother (7.5 year age difference) in the beginning he just saw me as his kid sisters friend, but we bumped into each other fairly regularly and got to be really friendly ourselves, we text each other every day. After 8 years, and multiple bad relationships on both our ends, we found ourselves going through break ups just a few months apart and were leaning on each other for support and when the liquor is flowing and the Billy Joel is playing.... we got involved. And for awhile it was bliss, I'd loved this man for so long, and we were best friends, but he had so much trauma he hadn't dealt with... he was a rampant alcoholic, drank 3 handles a week, and he insisted on not telling anyone about us because he didn't want to upset his sister (who when she did eventually find out called him an idiot for not dating me) so I agreed to keep quiet, for 2 years. For 2 years I allowed myself to be his dirty little secret. It took me 4 years of therapy to date again after him. Chemistry doesn't mean jack shit.
Glad you got help, and I hope he did, too. Trauma can seriously eff you up if you don't deal with it.
okay, but the girl with the angel story… how did he know?!
I agree, much better to go in with clear head, rationally, than give in with crazy in 'love' situation. Most of the times it hurts soon or later. That kind of 'love' is a sweet, sweet poison.
I agree. Chemistry means nothing. I spent 3 years of my life running after a long-distance relationship. We only met twice, once to start the relationship and the second time was during Thanksgiving. I left my family for us to be together. He napped and slept for nearly the entire weekend. When I mustered up the courage to tell him about how lonely that made me feel, he said he needed time to think about it but then didn’t talk to me for weeks. I finally came to my senses and pulled a Gone Girl on him right before SZA dropped her latest album SOS. I listened to it on the shores of the Gulf of Mexico & cried into the ocean listening to Snooze bc I wanted someone to feel that way about me. I gave up so many decent connections bc he was in the back of my head the whole time.
Totally agree, chemistry got me borderline/ptsd and weekly nightmares.
Related to the last story: I went on several dates with a guy I met online, and our chemistry was shite; there was NO immediate physical attraction for me. He was SO awkward & nervous…but he was also very sweet & a truly decent guy, which is why I kept going out with him. Seriously, go with CHARACTER over CHEMISTRY every.single.time. Because CHEMISTRY can grow. How do I know? That guy & I will be celebrating our 24th wedding anniversary this year! 🥰😄💗
This is terrible advice. Stop telling women to settle for people they aren’t attracted to. It worked out for you, but 99% of the time, it’s terrible advice.
I met a guy through plenty of fish about a year after my divorce. He was also divorced. We had amazing chemistry. Our banter was amazing and we had so much in common. We spoke every day and finally went on a date that was amazing as well. I wasn’t looking for a fling but not marriage either. Just someone to date monogamously. He said the same. This guys was not only hot with an amazing body but he had his ish together. His own home, a good job and was a great dad. Im a nurse practitioner with my own home so this was attractive to me. I was on cloud 9. A few dates in and we did the deed which was 🤯 for both of us. This went on for months and it was great. Until it wasn’t. One day he texts me and tells me he met someone. I’m like um excuse me? He said he was at the gym and met a girl that he’d wanted to date years ago but didn’t have the nerve to ask her. Well she started back at the gym and they’d been talking. I was crushed. It was very matter of fact for him. For some guys, I think a girl can be a perfect match, that is , for the time being, until he finds a better match.
That is kinda messed up, I'm so sorry he did that to you.
Better to know now then get married and have that happen. Does suck. I met a 6’4 handsome guy. I’m 5’1. All he talked about was loving short women. Then he calls me after we hooked up a few times to tell me there was this girl he’s always liked but she was in an abusive relationship but they broke up! She was 6’!!! 🤣🤣🤣 They ended up getting married and I believe have a kid.
@@alexandriaayala420how is that messed up? She wasn't looking for marriage, just monogamy, and he didn't cheat so...?
Sadly, it sounds like he saw you as a place holder, I've been there it's really not fun, it's really not something you can see coming, this behavior is cruel and heart less, but unfortunately this has been a common practice for many years, it's like some people think that this is acceptable , it's selfish and needs to be called out.
Just because he's been wanting to date her for years doesn't mean she wants to date him. If she turns him down, he'll be knocking on your door again. I wouldn't answer it. Also, he is a turd.
My advice to my kids: Don't say anything online that you wouldn't want read over the loudspeaker at school or work. Don't send a picture that you wouldn't want everyone at your school or job to see. The internet is FOREVER - once it's sent - it belongs to everyone.
As far as dates go - my mom - then my friends - now as a mom: If you ever feel that you are out with someone that you are not comfortable with - call me and I will come get you - any time/anywhere. Your safety is more important than the time spent picking you up.
This comment is everything!
Yes to everything in this comment ❤
Facts
My parents always had the call me any time I'll get you policy. First, my now husband thought that was incredibly spoilt. He and his sisters always had to get home on their own (rain, snow, missed the last bus, ... no exceptions). Now that we have kids he thankfully gets it.
In the UK there's the Ask for Angela thing to help women, and men, safely get out of dates. Not used that, because I met my husband before it came out, but I know of some women who might have used it.
One thing I've heard, from a psychologist, is if you feel "chemistry" like butterflies - that your body is really having a visceral response and trying to warn you to STAY AWAY. Sometimes we want a relationship so bad we twist those butterfly/chemistry feelings with finding "the right one". When truly your body is telling you to get away. Don't misinterpret the signs ladies!!
UMMMMMM after the demon story when you said “I’m scared, I’M SCARED” my google nest said “we can be brave together” and I almost fainted because I’ve only heard this thing speak maybe 3 times in the ENTIRE TIME IVE HAD IT 😭😭😭
That's hilarious. Maybe AI will defend us from the demons 😅
My phone did the same thing! It suddenly popped on and said, "I'm scared." Then said, " We can be brave together." 😮 It freaked me out! It never just does that! 😢 I am glad I am not the only one! Wowza! ✌️
And then Charlotte's light turns off...WTF?!?!?🤐🤐 Stop telling this story, he keeps showing up!!!
My thoughts exactly when her light went off !!@@adaliaalvarez7269
I would have passed straight OUT 😂😂
I barely even open TikTok anymore, I just get the highlights from Charlotte 🙃
I only ever watch TikTok through react videos on UA-cam, TikTok has never attracted me
Same. Charlotte & MARKIE too; he uploads at least one video on TikTok nonsense every day 😆
Yeah I never even downloaded TikTok. I have Charlotte and Joce Bedard to keep me in the loop 😀
I don't have Tiktok. I only watch second hand through reaction videos and reposts on here.
Same here 😅
The chemistry thing is so true! Almost every time I've felt crazy chemistry with someone, it was those kind of guys who just ooze charm, and it's way too obvious that they are fboys. You can tell they are smooth and flirty with everyone, and it's smarter to avoid that kind of thing if you want something serious. If you don't keep your head straight, you could easily be duped by "chemistry."
Girl in the pink top! I’m so glad that you stood up for yourself and are also calling out this type of behavior. His loss you slayed that outfit
Yeah, i wish i looked that cute flustered!
The sad thing is this is happened to me quite a few times, and I messaged/vetted them before meeting them... it's why I have kinda given up on dating lol
He wanted to smash and dash.
@@rockinchik06 literally me too. I don’t even do dating apps and try to meet people in person but so many guys are just wanting a casual hook up or won’t stay faithful.
I met this guy at a taco bar and agreed to go on a date. He picked me up and took me to a nice Mexican restaurant. He wanted me to sit next to him, in the booth, but I told him, "I wasn't ready." I might have considered it, IF things went well, but come on, we didn't even know each other yet, the date just started and we hadn't even talked on the phone yet!
At one point, I don't remember what we were talking about, he's dominating the conversation, but in an effort to show that I was listening I thought I would add something cute to what he was saying so I go, "Well if that's true then,..." And all I was attempting to do was _add_ to the conversation; I don't remember what I was going to say I just remember that I was _planning_ on being cute and flirty with it, ya know? But,... He bangs the table with both fists and suddenly yells, "SO NOW YOU'RE QUESTIONING MY INTEGRITY?!?!"
I was STUNNED! I immediately tried apologizing but he couldn't hear a word because he was off on some crazy rant and even complained that I didn't apologize, but I DID try. I even tried _calmly_ telling him that I would let him finish and then I would speak. But he just wanted to rage, instead, so I left and walked the FOUR MILES HOME IN HEELS!!
Our server was an acquaintance of mine. The next time I saw them, they told me that guy brings a new date to that restaurant at least once a week and they ALL end like mine did! 🤣
Wow that's crazy glad you are ok
Almost every lady i meet on date apps ask me for money within the first 2 weeks I've also decided if you won't video chat with me within the first couple of conversations you're more than likely a catfish
To everyone protect yourself at all times
I'm not prefect but I try my best to be a good person
Love you all this community potatoes/petty queens and kings are all awesome
Love you Charlotte you and Mike are awesome together ❤️
What you do when that reaction comes is you get up, say "okay this date is over" and LEAVE.
I hope you learned that getting picked up is dangerous because they know where you live and you are at their mercy in an enclosed mobile place. Please pass the information on to your peers and younger women around you. I honestly am flabbergasted and terrified that how many are getting picked up.
The very second he banged on the table I would've grabbed my stuff and left. There would've been no more talking after that. To me, that is a big DV red flag. Been there before and I most certainly would not put myself thrugh that again
“If thats how [they]start the conversation, thats how [they] want to end the conversation” is such an eye opening statement
My mother always told us: "There's a reason we call em privates, not publics. Unless you want the whole public to see your privates, don't take pics of em and send em to people."
Love this!!!
Damn definitely gonna keep this in mind from now on 😂🎀
The angel story freaked me out. I’m 99% sure it’s schizophrenia or another psychotic disorder, 1% is like I still wouldn’t mess with that, because I’m a representative of Latinos against spooky shit
I've met people with stories like that. It's... Delulu notions of grandeur for ego 80% of the time.
I’m 99% sure she made the entire thing up for views.
I'm 99% sure you have No social activity. Or else you'll would've met delulu people in real life. @KariN-or3sc
I love that guy! His videos are so funny!
I used to dumpster dive in college. The last time I dove, a homeless fellow joined me after hearing me trying to get out of a dumpster. I told him I was dumpster diving and he took me around to some good dumpsters but then proceeded to tell me the archangel Michael was telling him, in that moment, we would both teach the world how to feed itself through dumpster diving.
He was a gentle guy, and I never felt unsafe, but it dawned on me that not everyone is a gentle soul. So I stopped.
1st meetup with a man from any dating site, IF he picks you up for the date- ask him if he'd mind going to the nearest gas station and maybe snagging you a drink, or a candy bar. While he is inside- open his glovebox and take out his car registration,. which has his full First & Last name, Address, Make & Model of his vehicle, Year, etc. Screenshot this and send it to your mom/dad/relative. If you went missing- this, is EVERYTHING. It's better then saying "hey let me see your drivers license",. You'll also know if just maybe- he's driving around in his wife's car...
Or just don't get in the car of a man you don't know.
As a man -
A) If you're caught doing this, you're being left on the side of the road for the breach in privacy and
B) Drive yourself to the date if you don't trust who's picking you up... Do it for however many dates you need it, till you trust that person to then pick you up...
‘Put a finger down’ only actually works in this context if you’re making a one sentence statement.
And less than 10 words
Yeah she was clearly an idiot.
The point of the "trend" is that your going to say something so crazy Noone but you would put a finger down. It's a joke using the game format
Does she even remember that she started with this format?
@@karaprice5002 I had no idea!!! 😂 has nothing to do with what my comment says tho ☺️
That second girl, that’s how you become the subject of a true crime documentary lady 😂
yeeeeees
The First Lady too!!
The first person too, you don’t ever never have someone pick you up on the first date and ON YOUR ADDRESS
Man it REALLY sucks when you meet someone for the first time and everything is great, the chemistry is there and then you go to see them again since it all went so well and the guy just absolutely BLOWS it😂
How did he blow it?
Charlotte also hates the “put a finger down if you tell a ridiculously long ridiculous story with too many details instead of just calling it a story time” trend? I love her even more now.
Yeah the 1st story I have to admit I checked out midway through. Lol
@@linnea_of_smegyeah I couldn't listen zo that woman longer than 2 minutes
For me it's this one and the 'I'm shocked that I mixed this that and those together, put it in the oven' and follow a WHOLE DAMN RECIPE
WHAT YOU MEAN YOU DIDN'T KNOW A CAKE RECIPE WOULD END WITH CAKE?
@@linnea_of_smeg”period” 😅🙄
Yes! It's soooo annoying!
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” ~Maya Angelou
Wish someone had told me that last comment about having chemistry with someone YEARS ago. Charlotte keeps giving all of this good advice that I needed years ago, so now I'm just here like, "period!"
The background lights changing to RED after the celestial story scared me 🤣🤣
I've been dating this girl for the past 5 months, and I enjoy being with her. But, I will say the first date wasn't bad, but it was very awkward. First off, we're a little far from each other, so we agreed to meet somewhere in the middle, which was great. We met at a Chili's, which was fine. I was open for a cup of coffee, but she wanted dinner, and I was fine with it. When I got there, she was happy to see me, but during the date, she was very timid, and spoke a few times, but not too many. I found myself being the one carrying the conversation, but was willing to give her the chance sometimes because I wanted to hear what she had to say. It was very awkward, and there were moments of 10 second silence, but we made it work. We ended the date eventually, exchanged numbers (which was her real number), and we've been dating ever since. I enjoy being with her, and she enjoys being with me. The kicker is this is the first ever relationship for both of us, so we were new to this.
The moral of the story: With a first date, it's not gonna go smoothly all the time, but you have to make the best of it.
Awkward can be good. My first date with my husband, he was SUPER nervous about making a good impression. Sweating buckets.... We just celebrated 17 years together.
I just celebrated 17 years with my husband. He was extremely nervous on our first date. Sweating buckets. It was really sweet.
Very true. However, these stories aren't innocently awkward first dates 🧐
I love the fact the girl walked out and especially love her repeating what he said out loud. More power to her. I’m going to start doing that if I’m in that situation. Separately when men ask me for “pictures” I ask for their tax return
Lord. Don’t give your address to someone you don’t know and don’t ever allow them to pick you up. Meet them at an agreed location.
I love how you are always essentially taking girls by the shoulders and telling her that she DOES have significant worth, she IS special, she IS beautiful, she DOES deserve to be respected. Keep on encouraging that healthy way of thinking for fellow women, Charlotte! :D
I am not a drinker, but I love going to bars, ordering a diet coke with extra ice and vibe with my friends, music, and people watch.
If asked for a spicy pic on the first date, ask them, "...like a photo of cayenne pepper?" Make THEM uncomfortable for once.
And stay safe out there, everyone.
When they show you who they are...BELIEVE THEM!
Being asked inappropriately for naughty pics. Just another reason i LOVE being a cat owner 🤭
(I can’t tell ya how many frustrated men know what my.. kitty.. looks like)
@@andalistark5416 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yeah! FORCE them to say EXACTLY what they mean...act confused and have them to spell it out so even they can see how inappropriate it is when it comes out in that context.
@andalistark5416 Toxoplasma gondii..... your litterally being drugged by your cat. Which btw a by product is your hormones that make you want to be social are actively being suppressed by your cat. Cats are detrimental to human society. That chemical also can cause delusions and other mental issues. If you care about your mental and physical health get rid of the cat .
I know someone who sent and received spicy pics with her boyfriend of about a year. They had issues and they split up. He sent the pics to her bosses to try to get her fired, as he stated "he couldn't imagine they'd wasn't someone who behaved this way, on the team". Be careful out there ladies (and gents).
In some places that's called revenge porn and he could go to jail for that so she should look and see if that's applicable where you are!
@ she did get the police involved, with a restraining order. I just think it’s too late once it’s out there! 😳
Except he can go to jail because that revenge porn and you can't do that. So he will be in jail.
@ it went to court, he had probation. The problem was her bosses had already seen the photos and you can’t unsee things.
16:36 I don't have a problem admitting I was actually worried, lol. Good looking out, Charlotte...thank u for checking on her!!! ❤😘
The angel protecting you dude he blended Lucifer charmed the original and the originals plus Twilight all in one story😂
And a bit of the later seasons of Supernatural 🤣
sis really fumbled her fantasy romance smh
I was thinking I’d read that book before.
@@dluvscupcakes The knife/sword was 100% angel blade merch from Supernatural
I was just about to say😂
I went on a date with a guy who said he was 5’8. He made it a point to make fun of my height (I’m 5’7) …. He picked me up and in my head something felt off… my guy was 4’11. Don’t get me wrong we love a short king😂❤ but this guy actively made fun of me so it didn’t go anywhere. You can’t lie about something so simple😭 confidence is attractive babe I’ve dated short men b4❤
Edit: this was through a dating app yall😂😭
I don't get why some men lie about it. it's so obvious when you are standing next to them. Maybe it's just to get the date to begin with?
@@Fran_Glassthat’s what I thought. I was looking for my person and I wanted to date someone 5’6 and up. I don’t date anyone shorter than 5’2 (I found my partner 🎉tho) this guy TRIED TO BRING ME TO A MOTEL i really think he was trying to bypass the filter system. But he used “🥺” emoji a lot and had a lot of self deprecation in text. I hope he found what he was looking for 💀 not even my worst date, probably almost got kidnapped/murdered once.
The Napoleon complex is real
Well said!! It is not the being short part it's the lying, while actively being rude about your height part of things. Confidence is one of the MOST attractive traits a person can have. Best wishes to you and yours!! To Us ALL!!! 💖🙏💖🫶
Why did I read the part where he picked you up and I thought you meant literally picked you off the ground and in your head something was off, im like in your head? Honey he didn't even get you 2 feet off the ground 😂😂
ooo wait that character over chemistry breakdown was sooooo true! Character over chemistry, actions over words, treat them like they're cat-fishing from jail. 💯
I used to make the mistake of telling someone I was on a date with that I was autistic. They asked what that meant, I thought I was being honest, telling them what they would be getting into if we went out again. I told them about getting overwhelmed by my senses, what a meltdown looks like(with me it's rocking, crying and probably hiding in a dark room or closet), arfid(that's extreme food aversions), and the part I made a mistake on...I told them "I'm stupid easy to manipulate" which led to me explaining that it's extremely hard for me to tell when someone really is my friend, that in the past I've let people hurt me repeatedly because all it took was "sorry about that"...and as far as I was concerned we're good again. I got extremely lucky with my husband because I was a crappy dater lol....as my husband has said, I was a statistic waiting to happen.
So glad you're safe now with your husband! Bc otherwise, yikes. Shame on anyone who takes what you said about being easy to manipulate and runs with it... ugh :( some people are awful.
18:39 Charlottes right we have to stop “laughing it off” when people say something out of pocket. A guy asked me what I looked like without my hijab (like asking a girl what color panties she’s wearing). And instead of telling him how rude and inappropriate that question was, I just laughed it off kept it all lighthearted. But I can’t even put into words how uncomfortable the question made me feel.
Ooof, yikes sis. Skeevy men! The sad part is feeling we have to laugh it of for safety.
Lol…when the third story-teller said “ 20:05 honk-sho” my old-ass didn’t immediately realize she was referring to sleeping and thought it was a new trend I didn’t understand. 😭
When you have good chemistry with someone, it’s really yourself. You like the person that comes out of you around the person. It’s your chemistry.
Celestial guy was giving 'City of Angels', Nicholas Cage vibes until the arm biting, the knife, and the follow up experiences.🤣
I'm sure what she is describing is a movie script
03:00 okay no, actually hard disagree. I feel like she was just being transparent, I'd do the same thing cuz it just has the potential of making it weird. They met on a dating app, she's an attractive woman, *of course* she has other matches.
Exactly
Okay well this is another opinion. I mean, does their mood shift when you point out another person you’re dating? This isn’t just a conversation that she isn’t exclusive since they met on a dating app
"Character over chemistry" is a brilliant summary, love it!
I did character because that all I knew UNTIL I met my honey. Now I have both, what a great experience.
I love how as soon as Charlotte said her intro, my 16 month old came screeching into the room and sits down to watch quietly. 😂❤
Thank YOU Charlotte for 30 minutes of quiet ❤.
"I was gonna quit, but I cannot quit today" is so real 😂😭
Lol 😂 That:
“I’m an angel/demon here to protect you!”
is certainly an interesting stance on stalking someone. Bravo to that dude for the creativity and sincere commitment he put into this little psycho character of his!
Tbh I think she made the whole thing up.
@ bro I’m not gonna lie, a LOT of these stories sound made up, but then it’s still entertaining to watch the madness, lol. I’m a bit of an introvert, so hearing about everyone else’s life experiences and shit is how I stay connected to this huge, fake world of ours. I always figure that even if the stories are fake, it’s still a high probability that something very similar happened to someone somewhere. Hell, if I wrote stuff about some of the madness that made up my youth, it would probably sound VERY untrue to a lot of people. But I get it.
@@lilscenechick1995If she's looking at fog outside her apartment window, how would she know it was only covering _her_ window? That story sounded bogus.
Sunday with Charlotte sounds like a gift to me
This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had , I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on , I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here .
The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 8 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.
Incredible! Where did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with her?
Suzanne Ann Walters is the name of an exceptional spiritual counselor renowned for her ability to reunite you with your former partner.
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Let me explain something to the younger generations (gen x here). When I was young, there were few limitations on men. They were allowed to touch, make sexual jokes, cat-call women and if you didn't let them, you were the problem. So men are still trying to get away with this crap, and I'm super proud of the younger generations for standing up for their right to be respected. 🎉
Male entitlement WAS the absolute norm! (GenX too, btw 🙋🏻) In fact, i think a LOT of us have only recently concluded that what WE knew as normal would qualify as Me-Too level!!
I could not be prouder that women are steadily elevating themselves, & demanding better 🤘
Yes,yes, yes! I remind people I grew up with Benny hill, Paul hogan, mash and more.
You think it’s the norm.
@@andalistark5416so true! It’s taken me the last few years to understand what it meant to be a gen x when my kids always called me a boomer 🙄
That was never normal or acceptable in my dating life. I'm 65. I'm sorry you went through that. I'm not sure we've actually, fully, advanced much when I hear stuff like this from younger women. 🤔
I consider myself a xennial and I absolutely agree with this. Especially in my bumpkin ass town in northeast Ohio. Where it took way too long for the town to catch up with the times, technologically and culturally.
Been married 14 years, do not want to date ever again. I’ll just be celibate if I’m ever single again 🌟
Hugs
Celibacy and a spicy rabbit will do it for us girls who are horrified by the dating world.
Been with my highschool sweetheart for 18 years, same boat. Dating feels scary... I think I'd just wait until someone fell in my lap rather than purposely date or go on apps. Too much crazy
Same. Gonna be that crazy lady with cats who waits for her kids and grands to visit
Me too. Been married 22 years and there’s no way I’m starting over in this lifetime
I've been with my husband for 7 years. He's never asked me to do anything I'm uncomfortable with or for spicy pics. RED FLAG
Triangular blade? Celestial??
It's giving more Supernatural than Lucifer
Yes the first thing I thought of was Cass and the other angels from supernatural
It's giving unmedicated schizophrenia.
@@Hauntedhighheeland the dude popped a listening app on her phone or something.
It gave "Let me come up with the most bullsh!t story I can, for views." vibe.
Nah... this is completely made up.
@@alexiswagner5388Yes, if he looked like Castiel (from Supernatural), i’d still be in that apartment YUM 🤤
12:12 we were all born in AD. Bro needs to brush up on his theology.
I thought he was basically saying "I'm not THAT old. I was born in AD." or something like that.
@ nah it sounded to me like he was trying to say ‘I’m as old at time’ lol. But we are all from AD 😂
i’m thinking SHE’s the one that fumbled THAT ball 🤔
@ yeah that did cross my mind too.
@@andalistark5416 I now think you two are right.
My Mother told me in my teens, in no uncertain terms, never, ever let anyone take a naked photo of you, not your boyfriend, not your husband, not anyone, because that photo will be seen by someone else, out of pride or revenge, that photo will be seen by others.
If only there had been a Charlotte putting out content like this 30 years ago when I was dating. Back in the early days of internet dating. I might have avoided some really crappy men and learned how to care more about myself when i really needed it. Thanks for showing girls how to not put up with crap!
People act like sex isn’t personal anymore. To each their own, but it should be something cherished with someone you love.
Thank you👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Or at the very least not used as an ice breaker lol like some folks are super entitled
They have no self-respect for themselves enough to wait until they know for sure they are in love. They think they can find true love by being intimate with others.
Yup, it's a different generation, but think about the "free love" generation, in the '60s. I think, though, especially cos there were a lot of drugs involved, that toned down again. Now, it's grossly off the charts, and I largely blame tv and movies, for making it look ok to be so "casual" about it.
@ yes, there are preteens having sex & getting pregnant.
18:48 Third Video... the ENTIRE STUDIO SAID RED FLAG!!!!!!😂😂😂❤❤❤
16:53 She doesn’t look disheveled or sweaty. Girls we gotta stop talking down about ourselves unnecessarily 😂
Character is more important than chemistry! That chemistry is them mirroring you and what you want! Narcs move fast so take your time❤
Ladies, do not hesitate to talk loud in a public space when something creepy happens to you! Guys will pretend they're laughing, try to make you feel like you're the one having a problem for not responding... but no, if you just repeat out loud what they said/how they acted with you, with people around who can hear that, you'll see how embarrassed they feel. Because they KNOW they're being inappropriate, they just pretend it's not as an ultimate attempt to get what they want. Bravo to the lady who did that in the video!
I agree with the put a finger down 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
Reaching out.....The optics....
Put a finger up!
Put a finger down if you hate the put a finger down trend
Me too
It is no easier when you get older, most men don't figure it out. At 47 I started dating again, I was on a site talking to guys I thought were good-looking. Almost all of them started talking about sex within the first or second convo. The man I married did not talk about sex until we had been dating for a while. It was amazing and he is a real gentleman, he opens doors for me and cares for me, it's not all about sex.
As someone who is 37, thanks for the hope! I think it'll just be me and the cats. Honestly, the best men in my life have adorable toe beans. 😅
I loved the arc of discovering our self worth on dates immediately if Not sooner . You all rocked out! Awesomeness .😊
YOUR "PUT A FINGER DOWN" DIES WITH ME!!!
Along with "please stay on the line for a brief survey...." when the call is over
9:49 I agree she didn’t need to say anything but I’m glad she did because she found out way faster he was not the one.
This. Everything happens for a reason! He showed immediate jealousy.
This!!!!!! Bang on!
Agree. She definitely shouldn’t have said anything BUT he clearly is one of those overly aggressive jealous men! 🫣
That second story is a whole fan-fiction saga. OMG
That girl needs to check her stuff for a listening device 😮
The first date I definitely believe the guy kept doing all of that because the woman had told him she saw an old match
100% he felt insecure. She should have never said anything about seeing the other guy, because clearly that other guy never even bothered to approach her. She finds herself more important than other people do.
Yeah definitely didn't need to say anything about that other guy. She could have pretended to not see him unless he walked up to her, which he never did
@@frigid4real I’m not sure about the last part since I don’t know this women but yes I definitely agree with you. He got insecure because why did she feel the need to point the other guy out to him? Would he be future competition like what? 😂
@@A_Rose_From_Concrete I 100% agree with you. She never needed to point out the guy to him.
@@Kunmi345 That's kind of exactly what it does, whether she intended it or not. For all I know, he's had quite a few women try to turn dates into a "competition" with other men. Point to a hot dude, "oh I matched with him before", and suddenly you turn it into a competition instead of just seeing where the vibes go.
I went on a lunch date with a man I met on a dating app. He offered to pay for lunch (it wasn't expensive) and then invited me back to his place. I replied, "but we just met" and his reply was "but I just bought you lunch." 😳 I just told him I wasn't that kind of girl and left.
Unpopular opinion I guess BUT Idk… I would have to disagree on this one 3:06 cause I think her telling him was probably the best choice. It’s a dating app for goodness sakes people are trying to find matches, and her openly communicating that to her date saying “hey just so you know” shows good communication skills. What if her old match came up and started something and she didn’t inform her date? That could have been absolutely messy so she instead let him know upfront and he took it poorly. She showed respect and communication, he showed child like behavior. She dodged a bullet on that and we should continue to encourage that same level of maturity that we got from her for everyone… not bring her down and say she did the wrong thing.
I agree.
I totally agree with you!
I don't think there is really a wrong way with telling him, or not, but his response said everything. Even if he preferred not to know to be jealous on a first date that your date has a past is a huge red flag.
I agree and I don’t know why she didn’t call an Uber and GTFO when she got the first cold shoulder.
I agree with you here.
The second story sounds like he/she took the whole Lucifer Morningstar plot.
24:31 love this quote. “If that’s how he starts the conversation, that’s how he wants to end the conversation”
Just because i want to make sure everyone knows. AD is now, BC is before. 24 AD is 2000 years ago. 24 BC is about 2048 years ago. Also, some scientists use BCE now because of religious stuff, but whatever. Important part is that AD is not before BC.
Nerd
Your comment didn't help. You just confused more than half the people reading this. All you needed was the last sentence.
@@frigid4real😂😂
I know i’m not the only catholic school kid who grew up thinking they stood for
Before Christ [BC] &
After (his) Death [AD].
Not in ANY way accurate, but it has been close enough in terms of recalling the difference 💁🏻♀️
I went to a christian school when I was young and the way I have always remembered (even though i am not religious) is BC= Before Christ AD= After Death
To the girlie who dated the "angel": first, you beautiful, and second, all of us are from A.D.
Haha yes I caught that too
That part! I laughed so hard at that one! 😂😂😂😂😂
People seem to forget (or not be aware) that what we know as demons are angels too, which were cast out of Heaven when they followed Satan. Whether the guy was himself a demon in disguise or not, he could have been under their influence, and they are nothing to be messed with. If he had actually been an angel that had not been cast out, it is doubtful that he would have revealed himself to be angelic.
Even if she wasn’t religious, I’d seriously consider talking to a priest or pastor about that experience! That guy was tapped into something and it wasn’t Jesus!
@jacklow9611 it's not real..lols
3rd girl should've responded " I read the Bible for at least 30 minutes, then I kneel by my bed and pray for another 30 or more. If I'm still not sleepy I meditate on the works of the apostles until my eyes start closing off, at which time I make sure my victorian head cap is comfortably on and go to sleep"
If that doesn't stop a dude from talking about his "handiness" nothing will 😂
Pro dating tip: first few dates ALWAYS in a public place and ALWAYS tell AT LEAST 3 people what you're doing where you going and who you're getting along with where you met them from. All crucial info if the worst case happens!
I always went places where I knew the employees. That way there were people in my immediate vicinity.
1s story: the woman at the gallery just saying "if he says hello to me its because of this..."
thats perfectly fine, IF he does it. But the guy he was on a date, when his demeanor changed just because she mentioned briefly another guy (just because he was there), you can tell he is jelous AF. I would have left the date, i would have stayed at the galley and then go home....He changed his Attitude, mistreated her (in the sense he walked away in the gallery and "forced" her to leave, etc) and he kept mentioning this other man.....
girl, just walk away, be safe
Same! He showed his true colors real quick. If he was already like that at the beginning of their first date, just imagine the hell he would put her through if they were together. No. Thank. You. Very. Much!
chemistry can result in deadly explosions
11:15 omg my ex/baby daddy used to say “I used to think I was an Angel in a human body” I honestly thought it was a joke or something he grew out of, but after everything and the way he acted I think he truly still feels like that
Atleast you got a angelbaby out of it. 😢😂
@@beewest5704 very true. The only great thing to come out of that horrible relationship
I love how she power walked out of that date, and protected her worth!! So proud of her!! In this day and age, it’s hard for single people to find their people, and so many lower their standards…I’m glad to see that she hasn’t…She’ll find hers soon enough, I sincerely hope 😊👍
And called him out loudly! 😂
Thank the stars I'm married and have been for 14 years. People who think the way these people do is unhinged. Knowing your worth is where it's at.
Girlie in the second story is a main character in a novel who actually acts like a normal person 😂
Charlotte: What happened after you told the entire internet?
Also, Charlotte: Did a light just turn off?
Girl, get your sage out!
OMG, overwhelming great chemistry with someone ended in complete and utter disaster of my life. CHARACTER character character indeed. Girl, don't look back on that first date.
Charlotte is so down-to-earth and prudent. Amen to everything she says in this one!!
Girl with the angel date: i dated a guy who had a very similar story except that he was a vampire. Stated hes thousands of years old, theres a vampiric council always wayching so he could get in trouble for telling me, he would say if you tell anyone i will know about it and youll be killed for revealing that information. He would speak to me so seriously and up in my personal space and he looked like a demon. Huge pupils that just looked like pure black eyes and a creepy smile.
Sounds like homeboy was tweaking. And selling you a line.
@Just1Nora to be fair he was prescribed a high dose of Adderall but he also had a whole slew of mental health issues and lack of morals ontop of that
Yes I once asked a guy who the invisible person is that I noticed him briefly addressing a couple of times I don't have words that describe the surprise I felt when he very casually replied with "oh there's 7 of them" 😮😮😮😢😢😢
13:12 this dude really thought he was Castiel from supernatural 😂😂
Guy in the second story was telling her the plot of city of angels 🤣
Or she was telling the internet …….
What always cracks me up is THE craziest 💩 will happen 15min in & yet yall let the date go 4more hours 😂
Funniest "date" I've ever had was with my current wife. Don't get me wrong, we were young and dumb at the time so no judgement from me on what she did because I just laughed, but we got ice cream from Harris Teeter (a grocery store) and sat in the parking lot. But the now love of my life didn't know you couldn't just run the battery without the engine, so she's charging her phone with the car half on, and her car dies. Mind you, it is 12am, and we have to call my friend because I knew he had just closed his store at the time, and he came and jumped the car. Love that man for it. He drove 30 min to come jump us. Bless him.
Edit: Grammar
Not me laughing about an HT ice cream date. HT used to be so fancy! I've split a pint of Ben and Jerry's in a parking lot. 😅 Now, had you said Winn Dixie? Then I'd laugh, cuz that place was ratchet. 😂 Your friend is a G for doing you a solid. Blessings to you and your wife for the rest of your days.
@Just1Nora thank you! Right back at you! And of course Winn Dixie. That or a piggly wiggly, you know, southern bests 😂
Earliest I've ever been, lol. Charlotte's growth over the past few years has been awesome to watch. So happy for her and looking forward to more good things in the future. Merry Christmas, potato princes and princesses!
Going from a 3 year toxic relationship to a single women learning her worth, nothing is better than binge watching Charlotte and getting some ACTUAL good advice about relationships
My rule on online dating. We met in person in public first. Met in public first. A lot of guys hated this rule. One called me crazy because I would not skip the get to know him chat phase. Or skip the get a vibe from him in a public setting. Just go straight to his place. No. No. No! Its still meeting people online. Its still meeting a stranger. Met in public first. Then go from there.