I repented for sexual immorality yesterday. I was in tears on the floor listening to a fellow brother's testimony. Similar journey. He was a bachelor gave his life to Christ. 2 months later met his current fiance. When he said he was "tired of the empty feeling" after sleeping around I felt that and repented. 2 years sober from alcohol, 1 year of no porn. God is just getting started in my life. ✝️ I'm serving His kingdom. If you're reading this... you're never alone. Jesus loves you!
My boyfriend isn't very strong on sexual sin and I am. He respects my boundaries but I get in my own head often thinking I'm not as cool. Please pray for me I'm really struggling
Hey, you may feel like you're not as cool, but you are the cool one for having those boundaries and sticking to them! I know what it's like being in a spot like that, I mean last year I was in an online relationship with my ex and we did a lot of stuff we shouldn't have. And until recently I didn't realize how it scarred me. It got me into a mindset that if as long as I only think about her for that stuff it's fine. And that's put me down a rabbit hole I'm still climbing out of. Luckily I'm now at the point that with my current girlfriend I DO NOT allow myself to even think of her like that or anything along those lines, and we've both set strong boundaries about it. But the reason I'm telling you this is to tell you that it's worth staying strong! God will reward you for it and your relationship will be better for it. Especially if it doesn't work out. But I will be praying for you, and I hope you can remember to stay strong. Because you are amazing, you're staying true to God, and you're stronger than most people are nowadays. So you got this! Keep your boundaries and it will be well worth it in the end! Ps. Remember even if you aren't "cool" by normal social standards, you are amazing by God's standards!
Just make sure he’s putting God first in your relationship. If you feel like he’s not strong on it because of lack of faith, it’s better for all parties if things end. Just remember that God has plans greater than you could imagine. A godly man will give you an amazing godly relationship while leading you to Him.
I am a man who respect my girlfriend boundaries. You deserve one who does, there are men out there that will respect your boundaries, don't let them manipulate you into having sex with them. Those people are not walking with god
Blessed is the man who finds a girl that loves God more than him, and blessed is the girl who finds a man that waits for her and asks for her from God❤ This explains more than what it says😍
@@haliejesuschildandvessel7786 True. Being with someone who doesn't even believe in God is really not so good. Especially if you want your relationship to be Christian like or if you want your future family to be close to God.
Blessed is a man who finds a girl that loves God more than him and blessed is a girl who finds a man who loves God than her. Why did you change that last line. So a man shouldn't love God more thsn his wife?
I really think it depends on the type of hug and where you are/if you’re around anyone and your personal boundaries. It might not effect you to have a super tight, close hug. But for me, it sparks something more than just a hug.
I don't think it is. People get turned on by folks even touching their hair or face. Hugging will most likely be a big deal, especially when your feelings & attraction already speak loudly without physical contact. It's wiser not to trivialize anything, even when it may not be your personal experience. You might not be moved by it but you can't speak for the other party really and in the end, it's usually great to avoid experiencing the adverse outcome (that may be possible) when there's an opportunity to learn from another's. My two cents.
Well maybe for u it is but me as a young Christian girl me and my spouse only side hug ask we are going to kiss before marriage but we are just taking it very very slow because we want to make sure that what we have is for the glory of God nor for our own satisfaction
I didn’t stay with my abuser because we had sex. I stayed because I was afraid. He trapped me, isolated me, and his family told me what he was doing was okay.
We all have different experiences. We had already had sex several times before the first episode of abuse happened. I felt like I loved him by then. It only progressed from words to physical to unspeakables. I enabled abuse for 15 years, had 4 children and finally left after 17 charges (8 felonious) I alone pressed on him in a year's time (He also assaulted my father twice because I left). I had enough and was scared to death, but called on God to help me. He sure did and the rest is a fairy tale! A supernatural chain of events that only God could have orchestrated to get me and my children out of that situation. If I practiced God's word when I met my children's father, I probably would have left after that first burst of anger.
When your a child and you have an abusive father there's nothing you can really do but when your a grown woman you don't have to put up with no abusive man, dump his ass.
I feel like the concept of not even having a one-on-one conversation with a friend of the opposite sex is a little insulting to the intelligence and self control of both parties. Shouldn’t that friend of the opposite sex respect you regardless of if you are with someone or not and not make advances if you are not welcoming them? And should you, clearly respecting your partner, not welcome any advances made? Or are we all just inherently sexual beings with absolutely no self awareness and self control?
that’s a really good point!! i think it might just be an “above reproach” thing. if you don’t meet up with or hang out with the other sex without your boyfriend/spouse, that eliminates satan’s opportunity to weave his way in and cause destruction.
A friend of the opposite sex should definitely respect you, but what happens if that friend doesn't care that you're in a relationship? Say you are dating someone that has an old friend they keep up with, and that friend has had feelings before for your partner. Would you be comfortable knowing your partner has a friendship with someone who has feelings for them before? And I agree with you that you should not welcome any advances made, but that may not stop the person from continuing to make advances on you. I think ultimately it is up to each couple's comfort levels. My husband and I implement this and we are very happy we do. It reduces the chance of Satan using friendships to tempt us.
To be honest, a lot of people are just little more than animals being such slaves to carnal desires. Being on the more secular side even I can admit that. Self restraint and discipline is very lacking in most. They can then rationalize everything afterward.
I don't think it's exactly about the friends and who they are as people so much, I think it's more about the image each is portraying to the world. You don't want there to be ANY question as to the faithfulness and respect in the relationship. As a Christian, to stand strong, we must be bold in our faith and who we portray to be. We must demonstrate, practice and believe in everything we do is in honor of God's word. Example, If Sutton had a guy friend that Nate wasn't so much friends with, there would be rumors in this comment section about it and people would blow it out of proportion and would just be a distraction to the Godly Christian couple they are striving (and killing it I might add) to be. The enemy will extort any and everything he can so we must safeguard ourselves. My pastor preached on this idea one day and I totally understood what he was saying and why. It just kinda clicked. I am not good with words or ideas, and I don't think I can fully explain what I'm trying to. (I'm a new Christian so cut me some slack please! 😊)
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I was on a date with a guy, and he told me that he believes sex is important in a healthy relationship after I told him my boundaries. Man I dodged a bullet there🤗
Tiffanie Coburn for sure! Sex IS important to a healthy relationship, a healthy MARITAL relationship. The man for you will pursue you with integrity and honor.
@@emilym1790 nope, sex isn't just for marriage. Sex as a concept is much older the the concept of marriage. The first homosapiens were having sex without marriage. And that's why we're here...
I'm a "grown up" and I've been saving my first kiss until marriage and a few days ago I went further with a non-believer friend and kissed him, at that very moment I felt nothing but sadness, I didn't flee from it and since then I've been struggling with getting away from the idea of being with him, as I said he is faaaar away from true faith... stay strong, don't give up beautiful people, it will worth it, disobedience only brings dishonor and discouragement, a vain moment of impulsivity can't be compared with the blessings and peace and that God's guidance will bring to your life!
@@edwinroyal9734 Praise God!! Actually the whole situation just got to an end today!! And it's been the most relieving and satisfying feeling ever! God's been so faithful and good to me, showing me his loving mercy!! Pray for me church! 💖
Wow thanks Agnes for your testimony. I'm a 23 year old guy and saving my first kiss for the girl I marry someday. Sometimes I feel like dang I turned down a dozen girls and could of already had my first kiss but your sadness you said you felt reminded me that's exactly why I've been avoiding doing it with the wrong girls. God bless you sister in Christ😇
My bf and I have been dating for 2ish years. We dated for a few months, entered a relationship. For our first year we did allow kissing and cuddling. We both are very steadfast in our boundaries and never crossed lines or had regrets... but for the last 8 months we stepped back and now we just hold hands and hug upon greeting and parting. It was just too long to allow more because over time you just love them more and more. The step back also helps us to truly get to know each other intentionally without distractions
Savvy 21 It is really tough-my boyfriend and I both are physical touch first for love languages. But there are other ways to show love- Words of Affirmation-compliments, let her know how much you love her, she looks nice, you enjoy your time with her, you can’t wait to be with her again, leave her little notes. Acts of Service-help her out, do her dishes/chores, clean off/wash her car, open doors for her, do her favors. Giving Gifts-flowers, chocolate, pay attention to what she loves, random gifts (not just on holidays/bdays/anniversaries), be thoughtful. Quality Time-take time to see what she loves and do it with her, have deep and open conversations with her, reach out to her and invite her to things. Go on surprise dates.
Savvy 21 If your feelings are simply based on physical touch, you can’t expect to last long. Everything fun and exciting doesn’t stay new forever. You need a solid and well rounded foundation in your relationship.
You have some great points :) My husband and I both waited for each other, we were each other's first relationship and our first kiss was on our wedding day. We are so grateful to the Lord we are very happily married for 10 years with 3 kids. It's SO worth it to wait and honor God!
Love you guys!!! you all are helping me and my boyfriend have a healthy relationship in Christ. We have started a routine of prayer on the phone before we go to bed. This is a main component that has helped us grow and seek God together. We even text a devotional with verses in the morning. It's beautiful to see God changing us both from the inside out! He is so good! I pray we keep growing in faith and I pray that we keep going strong together and on our own as well. I feel like having a time where we pray really helps us to focus on God and keeps our thoughts and actions obedient to Him. :)
🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼😁 My pastor said this in this morning's sermon: ...We should look at whoever we are dating with God's eyes - as His child. With that being said, I dont want to take something from them that does not belong to me and is not mine to take. That person is not mine until we say "I do." Thanks for sharing! I am single and keeping and eye open lol, so that was definitely helpful!!
3:55 I'm sorry but I have to point out the complete disregard for women in abusive relationships. What you said is another form of victim blaming and removing the fault from the abuser. The reason most women can't leave is because they are 100% paralysed by the fear of being murdered! According to abc news, 80% of male killing female domestic homicides are when the partner is trying to leave. It's the victim blaming (along the lines of your statement) that removes all support networks so people can escape. Also, Very Often, the abusive and controlling behaviours don't manifest until After the relationship has been solidified, i.e. marriage. It would be really good for you and those who watch your channel to maybe do more in depth research about the issue and how you can help people escape these situations WITHOUT judgement or victim blaming.
Yes that is a problem for some people but you have to remember, MOST of the time there are always something else that might have happened, but they are talking about the majority of the time what happens, they could never be able to say “oh but except for this” to every possible point
@@briannabucello6775 what you said doesn't make sense. The paralysing fear IS most cases if not all. I'm not bagging on this couple. They shouldn't have even made the comment. Maybe they (& all) could do a little bit more in depth research about the topic so they/we can genuinely Help those who are trapped.
Jennifer Grant I’m just saying they can’t point out everything, like if you say diabetes, most people would think “they got it cause they didn’t eat healthy” but there are those people that are born with it and eat healthy and are generally a healthy person. But they are talking about sex and how must people don’t think it’s a bad thing before marriage
Jennifer Grant and it is in the Bible that when you have sex with someone a part of you is given to them, he said MAYBE it is because of that, not that it is or most likely is
Also, talking about how because the victim chose to have sex that their souls binded and that's why they couldn't leave is very frustrating. The sad truth is that a lot of the time they may not have chosen to have sex. People can be raped/pressured into sex when they aren't ready, even by their significant other, or even when they're married. Abusers thrive on having power over the victim, and they often use sex as a form of power, so I definitely wouldn't say that the victim stays because they chose to have sex. That was kind of hard to hear, even though I know they didn't mean to sound hurtful or like they're shaming victims.
I just have to say you guys have seriously made such an impact on my life!! I stumbled upon your channel a few days ago and have been obsessed ever since! It’s truly amazing to see people sharing the gospel like you two! Keep up the good work because you’re killing the game! I can’t wait to watch your family grow! LOVE YOU GUYS!!! ❤️🙏🏽
I wish I had this faith and mindset earlier in life.. it would’ve saved me and so many others from a world of hurt and pain. I love your videos but sometimes it makes me so heartbroken that I can’t go back and live my earlier life with these values. Doing the best I can to heal and be closer to God everyday, but some days are harder than others. Y’all are a blessing to young people and God is working wonders through you two! Thank you for putting yourselves out there❤️
Hopefully your still wrapped up in a meaningful and deep relationship with Jesus. There is attraction in that and immense value to a godly man there. If you're still desiring a relationship don't worry about the other person's expectations but what Jesus requires of you if you desire a relationship with a godly man- he will respect your boundaries. Compromise is extremely dangerous, so pray and obey the convictions of the Holy Spirit when He is warning you so you can avoid self-afflicting danger moving forward. No benefit in dwelling in the past but being resolute and determined to having sweeter communion with Christ and the Holy Spirit and in that- having the peace and discernment and faith to quench the fiery darts of wicked thoughts and temptations- but if you do sin we have an advocate. Jesus Christ the Righteous. I pray you find a godly man who appriciates your devotion, adoration and obedience to Jesus Christ the Lord.
I am so glad I found your channel. I recently started getting to know the Lord on a more personal level, getting closer to religion by the day, and I feel so blessed to have had this. ❤️
Great video again! Thank you for including the scripture verses backing up what you're saying in text on the screen. It is so helpful to be able to reference those references. Keep letting God use you to speak his truths.
Thank you guys for all the videos you make!! It’s always my favorite part of the week and so encouraging to see another Christian couple that I can reference for solid, Biblical advice.
My boyfriend and I have dated for over 3 years - we broke up in February and have just recently got back together, but our relationship is finally God centered. We were not sexually pure before each other, or together until recently when we both felt like God was trying to give us a bit of a wake up call. The more we grew together in our faith, the more we realized how important purity is to God, and really that we CAN turn our lives around if we want to whole heartedly follow Jesus. We started fresh, and man does it feel amazing to be truly abiding by His word. If you need a sign or a reason that you CAN repent after sin for many years, this is it!
I absolutely love coming to your channel. It is so refreshing to see other Christians doing the side hug. My husband and I also believe we should not be alone with someone of the opposite sex (that is not a family member) where it would cause our fidelity for each to come into to question. Thank you for continuing to post things on Christian topics.
My third son (22) is saving his first kiss for his bride. He is still single; I pray he finds his bride soon. I see how difficult it is for him to refrain from dating in this world and wait to find a Christian girl.
God brought this video and youse guys's channel into my life right when I needed. Thank you guys for feeling called to do what you do! You are both beautiful people!!
I just want to tell you how thankful I am to see a young couple stepping out and stepping up for our Lord and Savior. It’s such a breath of fresh air. Keep God first and I can’t wait to see how He blesses your lives! New subscriber here! ❤️
It’s really awesome to know that there are other Christians that follow these restrictions. Especially cause there are so many people around me that don’t understand it because the Bible isn’t their standard of living. So thanks for making these videos. They genuinely encourage me and my sister.
My ex-fiance and I (we broke up a year ago and have not spoken since) had a 6 year relationship that was sexual from about 6 months into our friendship before officially dating. She was my first and my only sexual partner at this point in my life and I'm now 29 almost. I regret it immensely. I grew up in a strong Christian household with an intact family, and I knew it was wrong from the start to engage in sexual activities yet I still did it. I hope one day I find an amazing Christian woman that forgives me for it. I wish that I was still a virgin, and I wish I could offer that to my future spouse. But I have turned from my sin and lust and have vowed to not commit sexual immorality ever again. The next time it happens will (God willing) be with my wife after we're married. I'm not perfect, but I sincerely hope and will fight for that.
You can still experience sex in Gods way! I relate 100% and am learning that sex in sin is immorality, and doesn’t make us not able to experience it his way in marriage
The whole “not being in a room together” is a hit far. And so is the hugging one. You can easily be in a healthy and Godly relationship without being isolated from one another. You will never get to know true discipline if you can’t sit in a room with your loved one. And you’ll never really get to know the actual person before you commit your entire life to them! But overall, great advice and video 👍🏼
There are SOME Christian couples that, it probably is a good idea to not be in a room together alone. You can absolutely deeply get to know someone without being alone in a room by... for example... talk on the phone for hours. Go on dates to the park and just sit and talk. You can be alone, in PUBLIC places, just not in some kind of private room. You say "you will never get to know true discipline" that's putting your faith in YOURSELF. You are trusting in your flesh, that it will not fail you, when the bible clearly states that our flesh is weak. We need to use discernment and wisdom.
AMEN!!! I love this so much. I didn't become a christian until a few years ago, but when I did I knew that I wanted to start over and truly honor God in my relationships and with my physical boundaries!! I prayed for over 2 years to be with a guy who wanted to wait for marriage, and God has blessed me with an amazing guy!! We have been together for almost one year, and have decided to wait until marriage for our first kiss on the lips (we've done cheek kisses lol) ! But It has been a HUGE struggle and BLESSING for sure, and we have definitely had to pray so much through it all especially because of our backgrounds. But I am so SOO grateful for what God has shown us and has taught us through it all, and for how faithful He is to us. And by God's grace, we will getting engaged soon! Something that one of my pastors told me is when looking at 1 Corin. 13:4-8, the very first thing that love is before anything else is PATIENT. If there isn't patience, there isn't love. And that has really helped us a lot. We aren't perfect in our journey, but Jesus is and that's made all the difference! :) Thanks for speaking up about these things! Praying that God continues to lead you both in this beautiful ministry!!
Ok, Nate and Sutton. You two have won my love. I love what you stand for, I love that Christ is the centre of your home. I love how you are growing spiritually before our very eyes. I pray you will continue to stand for the truth and God will reward you greatly for it.
I just discovered your channel and let me say y’all are the cutest and sweetest family ever! I love how y’all bring god in every video and just make every video fun to watch❤️ love you guys!❤️
Another tip is being very prayerful and careful of the people that are speaking into the relationship. Making sure that it's wise counsel speaking into your relationship like solid mentors and role models.
This video inspired me so much. Your videos are so encouraging and helpful! Thank you for sharing great content on dating, relationships, marriage, and so many other good topics.
Thank you so much for opening up about topics that normally aren't discussed. I think taking the time to help guide anyone follow Christ to the fullest is more important than anything!! It's so easy to get caught up in how this world thinks and feel like an outcast about keeping Christian boundaries when you aren't around anyone that values it. It's uplifting to know others are on the same page!! Thank you for sharing
SO TRUE. Boundaries are essential! My husband and I waited to kiss till our wedding day, and those 3 years of waiting was difficult but oh my goodness SO worth it. That moment 😍🙌🏼 thank you Nate and Sutton for speaking truth- God is going to honor all you are doing :)
My confidence is on the road to being restored. I feel as if God has guided myself to you two, and the future now holds better things than it once did. Thank you, and may God Bless you.
This video was so helpful for me, it’s so easy to feel strange and like you stand out in a bad way as a Christian, but hearing like minded believers, that actually managed to retain purity till marriages is encouraging and SO needed, thank you 😊
Nate! Hallelujah Here Below is also my favourite worship song! I've had it on repeat for weeks too. Amazing x200. For anyone that wants some really solid worship, Elevation Worship is a great place to start. Amazing video and I learned a lot Ps. See a Victory - Elevation Worship is another BANGER
♥️I find myself singing “ what day is today , today is Q&A hey ! “ randomly 😹😹 I love how you guys answer questions honestly. That’s something thats rally lacking in this day and age ... THE TRUTH.
Thank you for the video!!💖 I really believe it is important to set boundaries even before someone starts dating. I also think it is really important to not become obsessed with finding a partner, but becoming the person God intended for us to be.😊
I really needed this. Through this video, God spoke to me and reminded me that how important God's command is in a relationship. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Thank you so much for this video! I am 16 and striving (and have always strived) to be in a pure, Christian relationship that glorifies God through every bit of our relationship. I haven't been in a relationship yet, but am really trying to prepare myself for courting the way God intended. This is really helpful and I love following you two!!!! You have so much wonderful, encouraging, educational topics and discussions. You guys are making a difference! It is hard to find bloggers (even couples) who discuss hard and healthy topics focused on Jesus and the Bible. Thank you so much for your videos and Godly discussions!!!!
My mom has done a wonderful job raising me and teaching me about what the Bible says about all of this. I am committed to saving myself COMPLETELY for my husband God will give me. From sex to kissing (I really want to save my kiss until I am married), and even hugging (!) as you were saying, Nate. I totally agree with you. My mom has encouraged me to only give side hugs because of the reason you stated. This video is really confirming (again) that all of my morals, standards, and intentions are right and God-focused. So many of my friends (even Christian friends) do things so differently and are confused by my intentions and expectations of dating boundaries. But I just continue to go to the Bible to get my answers and confirm my expectations and morals.
Wow! I just found this channel today and I’m Definitely putting all my friends on this channel!!!!🤩 I’m already encouraged 🥺❤️❤️ Turning on my post notifications as well because!
Saving your first kiss and hug for after marriage is a lovely wedding memory!!! I know in this world today it seems like a hard line to draw, but it's so worth it! Keep your hands off of each other. Satan will sneak in and lead to the next thing and the next thing. Christians need to draw hard lines in so many areas and people think it's extreme but it's just holding God's line and standing for right. Flee temptation... Don't start something you can't finish. God bless those who are drawing the line with purity and modesty and Biblical guidelines.
Great video! I was married and then divorced. Keeping purity the standard has become really important to me. Praise God! This video had some very helpful tips.
That's so great! I've realised that even holding hands is powerful and can light a fire. So I would even wait to hold hands until the relationship is more serious!
Hello Nate and Sutton! I was watching this and feel I've failed badly already :( I'm in a new relationship with a non-christian however, after having a couple of discussions including setting physical boundaries with my bf, he is willing to wait, even though it's all new to him, he believes I'm worth it. May I ask of you to pray for us, please? Thank you and keep blessing us with your videos 🙌🏽
Awesome video with great biblical principles, I agree 100% with everything you said ! thank you both ! I share this video on my facebook page. so many people need to hear this! many blessings for you !
If you ever need someone to talk to about this topic, I'm here for you! I've been through some major relationship stuff and I'd love to share of my story and experience. Nonetheless, always choose Jesus above your boyfriend! :)
Im halfway through the video, and its amazing how everything you both said goes along the same principles of islam. Its so strange that when christians follow these guidelines its perfectly fine in society, but when a muslim is doing that, its calles radical. Big fan of you both!! Greetings from the netherlands. Keep up the great content! 👍👍
Finished the whole thing now, and would like to add something. I think its amazing that there are still young couples out there who trying to do the right thing. I make dua (prayer) for your marriage and may God bless it and nurture it further. Sam
That's because Islam inherited a lot of principles from the Bible. Islam came into being 600 years after the Gospel was revealed by Isa (Jesus). Peace to you 🕊️
@@sammorshedy1118 You guys are called radical for thinking murdering a non believer is okay, for murdering someone who wants to leave Islam, for allowing rape under certain circumstances, approve of child marriage, believing women are just sexual objects, believing women are less intelligent, believing women don't go to heaven and more.
Junias here from Uganda y'all have blessed my life especially with how hard it is for the youth to date in submission to God. Very very awesome. God bless you so much
Thank you for making this video! I would also have to say that the way that social media is today that it influences is as Christians so easily that we can do wrong. I don't know if this would be a preference rather than a boundary but not to go public with your relationship before getting to know the person and how they are. Get to know each other before 'making it official'.
I love the way y'all explained the *motivation* behind the boundaries you set for yourselves! I think it's hugely important for each Christian individually to understand how the Holy Spirit convicts us. It's really helpful to hear the practical application that you and others choose; yet it's easy for me or anyone to arbitrarily choose a boundary because it was an example someone had listed, without actually asking God what are ways that I _personally_ need to flee from temptation. That can lead to misunderstanding of the reasoning, frustration (from the significant other or self, especially if the reasoning isn't clear), and easily making excuses to curb the rule or even use it as a power-play somehow. This all defeats the purpose of spiritual/emotional/physical boundaries. It's incredibly satisfying and feels so right to be open to God that I realize He knows the way He's made me much better than I know myself (including the way I can connect intensely with someone if that's His best for my role in His Kingdom, etc). There's all sorts of ways I want to try and control situations thinking I'll have enough discipline in my own power, but that's a lie I've told myself (and have learned from). It's hard to be honest with myself and realize my inner 2-year-old mentality tries to make excuses for everything I know isn't truly living out integrity. Thank you for sharing your personal convictions, the joy you've had in living them out, and encouraging believers to experience God's best the way He asks us to! Just a couple other thoughts I wish I knew better, sooner: - boundary motivation solely to honor a future spouse sounds honorable, but a lot of times this means I'm placing hope in a spouse INSTEAD of in living to honor Christ - Hebrews 4 says Jesus, like any human, has endured all temptations. I have no reason to believe that doesn't include desire for physical romantic intimacy. He gets it!! There's no shame in having desire (unless you feel convicted by it for some reason), and having endured all temptation He will provide the strength and eternal perspective needed to maintain discipline - lol the first time I learned marriage doesn't last into Heaven blew my mind... as much as I'd love to have a life-partner, I'll eventually give them back to God anyway, but also everything that comes with marriage is a mirror of eternal Glory. Of course it seems a bit preposterous to my earthly experience to comprehend beyond what seems like His best tangible representation of love, but I trust in the truth of that reality - the most recent time I was dating someone was the first I really vulnerably included a trusted, willing friend in on my past, my struggles, what I currently felt convicted to live out in maintaining healthy boundaries, and (here's the bit I hadn't done during previous relationships) letting them know times I felt my resolve slipping and the thoughts I had. It was hard because they were thought processes that I knew I didn't agree with, so the last thing i wanted to do was admit to another person. But shadows are truly where guilt and shame and frustrating circles thrive. I had so much peace with God in that relationship that I hadn't had in others. - God gives and takes away. I'm entitled to absolutely nothing. ((i really liked Nate's perspective on having accepted God's will could look like having a spouse, but could also look like being single.)) - the greatest satisfaction comes in knowing I'm obeying Christ, and doing so out of love (not fear of failure!). I'm forever learning that over and over in all areas in life but have experienced this truth deep enough it really resonates when I stop my thoughts long enough to remember it in my head and heart. - when I go through a period of time longing for something I don't have even after I've taken time to set it before God, just like any time we realize we're dwelling somewhere that God's not leading us even if it's not bad in and of itself, it's incredibly helpful (and healthy!) just to get out of my head entirely! if i'm in thought-circles, it's okay to distract myself from them wow I've taken up so much space.. I've taken the time to write these out because if each of these realizations were as freeing as they were for me, maybe one of them will be for one other person. We do a good job encouraging one another to live Christ-like by setting healthy boundaries, but there's SO much that gets lost in translation. Legalism, shame, judgment, "should"s: they've all influenced me intensely, but that's not God's heart. I'm gonna have to learn that over and over and over, so good thing God's not surprised or new to dealing with that, nor does His response ever change. But there is freedom to be found in "be[ing] holy, for [Christ] is holy" because as we do so it means we're prioritizing Him, our eyes on on Him and we catch more glimpses of His intimidatingly incredible existence. Thanks for discussing a bold topic and making yourselves vulnerable to our opinions lol
@Leah Wolf, heck no!!!! 200 people at my wedding and the first kiss ROCKED! Absolutely 0% awkward for either of us! so many knew it was our 1st it was like Paparazzi with all the flashes (16 years ago when there were flashes on cameras, LOL)!!!!
Such a great video. Thank you guys for all you do with your videos for us. It really is such an awesome encouragement. By the way, I absolutely love those worship songs. 😊
Hi guys, I just want you to know that you've just answered the whole questions that has been bothering me lately about dating as a Christian. Thank you soo much and God bless you. I'm a new subscriber. Love from Nigeria.
New subscriber here! From the Philippines 🇵🇭 👋 I just saw the video of you and your father dancing and checked on this channel. Im happy to discover this channel. This is what the youth needs nowadays. The contents are worth to watch. Thank you for sharing! ❤
More young people should see this video. It's so hard to date these days if you have set the said boundaries for yourself and willing to keep to the standard.
I needed this encouragement today! Thank you Lord for guiding me towards your word! ✨
Caro de Lune Yayy 🙌🏼🙌🏼
Hey Caro read Deuteronomy 18 😊 God bless ❤️have a nice day
Oceane Aribot Thank you for looking out for me! I will take a serious look at it ☺️
Amen sister.
@@sorianojordan7 If you want to get close to Lord Jesus you must cut off with the card reading . God doesn't like that and I am not trying to be mean
I repented for sexual immorality yesterday. I was in tears on the floor listening to a fellow brother's testimony. Similar journey. He was a bachelor gave his life to Christ. 2 months later met his current fiance. When he said he was "tired of the empty feeling" after sleeping around I felt that and repented. 2 years sober from alcohol, 1 year of no porn. God is just getting started in my life. ✝️ I'm serving His kingdom. If you're reading this... you're never alone. Jesus loves you!
Amen powerful Godbless u
How's it going?
Amen brother
Thanks brother ❤️
Amen brother
My boyfriend isn't very strong on sexual sin and I am. He respects my boundaries but I get in my own head often thinking I'm not as cool. Please pray for me I'm really struggling
Hey, you may feel like you're not as cool, but you are the cool one for having those boundaries and sticking to them! I know what it's like being in a spot like that, I mean last year I was in an online relationship with my ex and we did a lot of stuff we shouldn't have. And until recently I didn't realize how it scarred me. It got me into a mindset that if as long as I only think about her for that stuff it's fine. And that's put me down a rabbit hole I'm still climbing out of. Luckily I'm now at the point that with my current girlfriend I DO NOT allow myself to even think of her like that or anything along those lines, and we've both set strong boundaries about it. But the reason I'm telling you this is to tell you that it's worth staying strong! God will reward you for it and your relationship will be better for it. Especially if it doesn't work out. But I will be praying for you, and I hope you can remember to stay strong. Because you are amazing, you're staying true to God, and you're stronger than most people are nowadays. So you got this! Keep your boundaries and it will be well worth it in the end!
Ps. Remember even if you aren't "cool" by normal social standards, you are amazing by God's standards!
Just make sure he’s putting God first in your relationship. If you feel like he’s not strong on it because of lack of faith, it’s better for all parties if things end. Just remember that God has plans greater than you could imagine. A godly man will give you an amazing godly relationship while leading you to Him.
I'll be praying bc I had the same issue with my ex and I ended up ending it bc he just really was turning away for god and leading me away too
yess of course!
I am a man who respect my girlfriend boundaries. You deserve one who does, there are men out there that will respect your boundaries, don't let them manipulate you into having sex with them. Those people are not walking with god
Blessed is the man who finds a girl that loves God more than him, and blessed is the girl who finds a man that waits for her and asks for her from God❤ This explains more than what it says😍
Amen!! That is so true!! And if they don't like that you put God ahead of him he's not WORTH IT!!!!!
@@haliejesuschildandvessel7786 True. Being with someone who doesn't even believe in God is really not so good. Especially if you want your relationship to be Christian like or if you want your future family to be close to God.
@@angelialacuna9688 yess!!
Amen, and they are hard to find... hehehe...
Blessed is a man who finds a girl that loves God more than him and blessed is a girl who finds a man who loves God than her. Why did you change that last line. So a man shouldn't love God more thsn his wife?
I think sexualising hugging is going a little too far if I'm being honest ....
LIVE 2 DANCE 101 for YOU maybe. That’s why you have to build boundaries with your partner according to what tempts you personally.
I really think it depends on the type of hug and where you are/if you’re around anyone and your personal boundaries. It might not effect you to have a super tight, close hug. But for me, it sparks something more than just a hug.
Not when it's someone you're in love with.
I don't think it is. People get turned on by folks even touching their hair or face. Hugging will most likely be a big deal, especially when your feelings & attraction already speak loudly without physical contact.
It's wiser not to trivialize anything, even when it may not be your personal experience. You might not be moved by it but you can't speak for the other party really and in the end, it's usually great to avoid experiencing the adverse outcome (that may be possible) when there's an opportunity to learn from another's. My two cents.
Well maybe for u it is but me as a young Christian girl me and my spouse only side hug ask we are going to kiss before marriage but we are just taking it very very slow because we want to make sure that what we have is for the glory of God nor for our own satisfaction
If you state your boundaries and they try and break it that show a lack of respect and why would you want to be with someone that does not respect you
Christian Celtic Warrior absolutely!
I definitelly agree with that...
Thank you!
Now this I totally agree with.
Well said.
I didn’t stay with my abuser because we had sex. I stayed because I was afraid. He trapped me, isolated me, and his family told me what he was doing was okay.
We all have different experiences. We had already had sex several times before the first episode of abuse happened. I felt like I loved him by then. It only progressed from words to physical to unspeakables. I enabled abuse for 15 years, had 4 children and finally left after 17 charges (8 felonious) I alone pressed on him in a year's time (He also assaulted my father twice because I left). I had enough and was scared to death, but called on God to help me. He sure did and the rest is a fairy tale! A supernatural chain of events that only God could have orchestrated to get me and my children out of that situation. If I practiced God's word when I met my children's father, I probably would have left after that first burst of anger.
Thank you for sharing your story. I hope and pray that you are in a better situation now & know that you are loved❤️
Yeah this was a VERY ignorant thing of them to say. Thank you for speaking up. Hope you’re ok now!
I'm so sorry I'm praying for you Hayley you are such a strong person for getting out of that
When your a child and you have an abusive father there's nothing you can really do but when your a grown woman you don't have to put up with no abusive man, dump his ass.
I feel like the concept of not even having a one-on-one conversation with a friend of the opposite sex is a little insulting to the intelligence and self control of both parties. Shouldn’t that friend of the opposite sex respect you regardless of if you are with someone or not and not make advances if you are not welcoming them? And should you, clearly respecting your partner, not welcome any advances made? Or are we all just inherently sexual beings with absolutely no self awareness and self control?
that’s a really good point!! i think it might just be an “above reproach” thing. if you don’t meet up with or hang out with the other sex without your boyfriend/spouse, that eliminates satan’s opportunity to weave his way in and cause destruction.
You both make great points!
A friend of the opposite sex should definitely respect you, but what happens if that friend doesn't care that you're in a relationship? Say you are dating someone that has an old friend they keep up with, and that friend has had feelings before for your partner. Would you be comfortable knowing your partner has a friendship with someone who has feelings for them before? And I agree with you that you should not welcome any advances made, but that may not stop the person from continuing to make advances on you. I think ultimately it is up to each couple's comfort levels. My husband and I implement this and we are very happy we do. It reduces the chance of Satan using friendships to tempt us.
To be honest, a lot of people are just little more than animals being such slaves to carnal desires.
Being on the more secular side even I can admit that. Self restraint and discipline is very lacking in most. They can then rationalize everything afterward.
I don't think it's exactly about the friends and who they are as people so much, I think it's more about the image each is portraying to the world. You don't want there to be ANY question as to the faithfulness and respect in the relationship. As a Christian, to stand strong, we must be bold in our faith and who we portray to be. We must demonstrate, practice and believe in everything we do is in honor of God's word. Example, If Sutton had a guy friend that Nate wasn't so much friends with, there would be rumors in this comment section about it and people would blow it out of proportion and would just be a distraction to the Godly Christian couple they are striving (and killing it I might add) to be. The enemy will extort any and everything he can so we must safeguard ourselves. My pastor preached on this idea one day and I totally understood what he was saying and why. It just kinda clicked. I am not good with words or ideas, and I don't think I can fully explain what I'm trying to. (I'm a new Christian so cut me some slack please! 😊)
You guys hit the nail on the head there! People call it "old fashioned" but I call it righteousness! 🎉
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HALLELUJAH!!
I was on a date with a guy, and he told me that he believes sex is important in a healthy relationship after I told him my boundaries. Man I dodged a bullet there🤗
Tiffanie Coburn woah you sure did! Good thing you brought it up early!
Whenever you cross path such guys Run babe 🏃run for your live, been celibate for three years now and single . Trusting for God's time.
Tiffanie Coburn for sure! Sex IS important to a healthy relationship, a healthy MARITAL relationship. The man for you will pursue you with integrity and honor.
@@emilym1790 nope, sex isn't just for marriage. Sex as a concept is much older the the concept of marriage. The first homosapiens were having sex without marriage. And that's why we're here...
Well you won't be having much fun, will you
I'm a "grown up" and I've been saving my first kiss until marriage and a few days ago I went further with a non-believer friend and kissed him, at that very moment I felt nothing but sadness, I didn't flee from it and since then I've been struggling with getting away from the idea of being with him, as I said he is faaaar away from true faith... stay strong, don't give up beautiful people, it will worth it, disobedience only brings dishonor and discouragement, a vain moment of impulsivity can't be compared with the blessings and peace and that God's guidance will bring to your life!
Agnes Cordon that is great advice! 🙏🏽🙌🏽
Sister, thank you for sharing. Much love in Christ ❤
@@edwinroyal9734 Praise God!! Actually the whole situation just got to an end today!! And it's been the most relieving and satisfying feeling ever! God's been so faithful and good to me, showing me his loving mercy!! Pray for me church! 💖
Wow thanks Agnes for your testimony. I'm a 23 year old guy and saving my first kiss for the girl I marry someday. Sometimes I feel like dang I turned down a dozen girls and could of already had my first kiss but your sadness you said you felt reminded me that's exactly why I've been avoiding doing it with the wrong girls. God bless you sister in Christ😇
@@vivaeuropaStay strong brother
"People may think you're weird for doing these things, but if they do, you need new friends "😂🤝
My bf and I have been dating for 2ish years. We dated for a few months, entered a relationship. For our first year we did allow kissing and cuddling. We both are very steadfast in our boundaries and never crossed lines or had regrets... but for the last 8 months we stepped back and now we just hold hands and hug upon greeting and parting. It was just too long to allow more because over time you just love them more and more. The step back also helps us to truly get to know each other intentionally without distractions
Thank you for sharing.. I needed to hear your comment today ❤️
Thank u for sharing.
But how do you show love tho? I’m scared that if we step back we will lose feelings and I really don’t wanna lose her
Savvy 21 It is really tough-my boyfriend and I both are physical touch first for love languages. But there are other ways to show love-
Words of Affirmation-compliments, let her know how much you love her, she looks nice, you enjoy your time with her, you can’t wait to be with her again, leave her little notes.
Acts of Service-help her out, do her dishes/chores, clean off/wash her car, open doors for her, do her favors.
Giving Gifts-flowers, chocolate, pay attention to what she loves, random gifts (not just on holidays/bdays/anniversaries), be thoughtful.
Quality Time-take time to see what she loves and do it with her, have deep and open conversations with her, reach out to her and invite her to things. Go on surprise dates.
Savvy 21 If your feelings are simply based on physical touch, you can’t expect to last long. Everything fun and exciting doesn’t stay new forever. You need a solid and well rounded foundation in your relationship.
You have some great points :)
My husband and I both waited for each other, we were each other's first relationship and our first kiss was on our wedding day. We are so grateful to the Lord we are very happily married for 10 years with 3 kids. It's SO worth it to wait and honor God!
Wow! Awesome! Thank God for you two and your testimony! Continue to be blessed!
Great video you guys! Morgan and I were laughing at how similar we are to you guys😄 keep crushing it!
Paul and Morgan LoL thank you guys!! We hope to meet y'all someday ;)
Nate and Sutton 😉
Oh my goodness I like love y'alls videos! That's why I started watching their videos too because y'all are soooo alike!!!
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What do you think it's the right age for one to actually start dating?
I don’t think anyone realises how much I’ve needed to come across this channel. Thanking God for your lives and your positive influence💛
Love you guys!!! you all are helping me and my boyfriend have a healthy relationship in Christ. We have started a routine of prayer on the phone before we go to bed. This is a main component that has helped us grow and seek God together. We even text a devotional with verses in the morning. It's beautiful to see God changing us both from the inside out! He is so good! I pray we keep growing in faith and I pray that we keep going strong together and on our own as well. I feel like having a time where we pray really helps us to focus on God and keeps our thoughts and actions obedient to Him. :)
Marie Lopez that’s amazing! So happy to hear that!
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🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼😁 My pastor said this in this morning's sermon: ...We should look at whoever we are dating with God's eyes - as His child. With that being said, I dont want to take something from them that does not belong to me and is not mine to take. That person is not mine until we say "I do."
Thanks for sharing! I am single and keeping and eye open lol, so that was definitely helpful!!
I love that! Thank you for sharing!
HaileeJHey my pleasure!!
Wow! That's a great way to look at it. 🤔😊
Kristine Danielle thanks!!
So true thanks for sharing
3:55 I'm sorry but I have to point out the complete disregard for women in abusive relationships. What you said is another form of victim blaming and removing the fault from the abuser. The reason most women can't leave is because they are 100% paralysed by the fear of being murdered!
According to abc news, 80% of male killing female domestic homicides are when the partner is trying to leave.
It's the victim blaming (along the lines of your statement) that removes all support networks so people can escape.
Also, Very Often, the abusive and controlling behaviours don't manifest until After the relationship has been solidified, i.e. marriage.
It would be really good for you and those who watch your channel to maybe do more in depth research about the issue and how you can help people escape these situations WITHOUT judgement or victim blaming.
Yes that is a problem for some people but you have to remember, MOST of the time there are always something else that might have happened, but they are talking about the majority of the time what happens, they could never be able to say “oh but except for this” to every possible point
@@briannabucello6775 what you said doesn't make sense. The paralysing fear IS most cases if not all. I'm not bagging on this couple. They shouldn't have even made the comment. Maybe they (& all) could do a little bit more in depth research about the topic so they/we can genuinely Help those who are trapped.
Jennifer Grant I’m just saying they can’t point out everything, like if you say diabetes, most people would think “they got it cause they didn’t eat healthy” but there are those people that are born with it and eat healthy and are generally a healthy person. But they are talking about sex and how must people don’t think it’s a bad thing before marriage
Jennifer Grant and it is in the Bible that when you have sex with someone a part of you is given to them, he said MAYBE it is because of that, not that it is or most likely is
Also, talking about how because the victim chose to have sex that their souls binded and that's why they couldn't leave is very frustrating. The sad truth is that a lot of the time they may not have chosen to have sex. People can be raped/pressured into sex when they aren't ready, even by their significant other, or even when they're married. Abusers thrive on having power over the victim, and they often use sex as a form of power, so I definitely wouldn't say that the victim stays because they chose to have sex. That was kind of hard to hear, even though I know they didn't mean to sound hurtful or like they're shaming victims.
I just have to say you guys have seriously made such an impact on my life!! I stumbled upon your channel a few days ago and have been obsessed ever since! It’s truly amazing to see people sharing the gospel like you two! Keep up the good work because you’re killing the game! I can’t wait to watch your family grow! LOVE YOU GUYS!!! ❤️🙏🏽
You have no idea how many of us needed to hear this!!! Right on time so thankyou🙏
You guys! Can’t get enough of your videos! Praise God for you and your obedience 🙏🏾❤️
Monia Bkg aww thank you 🙏🏼 🙏🏼
for more do's and dont's listed in the bible, feel free to check this out:
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I wish I had this faith and mindset earlier in life.. it would’ve saved me and so many others from a world of hurt and pain. I love your videos but sometimes it makes me so heartbroken that I can’t go back and live my earlier life with these values. Doing the best I can to heal and be closer to God everyday, but some days are harder than others. Y’all are a blessing to young people and God is working wonders through you two! Thank you for putting yourselves out there❤️
John 9:5
Hopefully your still wrapped up in a meaningful and deep relationship with Jesus. There is attraction in that and immense value to a godly man there.
If you're still desiring a relationship don't worry about the other person's expectations but what Jesus requires of you if you desire a relationship with a godly man- he will respect your boundaries. Compromise is extremely dangerous, so pray and obey the convictions of the Holy Spirit when He is warning you so you can avoid self-afflicting danger moving forward.
No benefit in dwelling in the past but being resolute and determined to having sweeter communion with Christ and the Holy Spirit and in that- having the peace and discernment and faith to quench the fiery darts of wicked thoughts and temptations- but if you do sin we have an advocate. Jesus Christ the Righteous. I pray you find a godly man who appriciates your devotion, adoration and obedience to Jesus Christ the Lord.
I am so glad I found your channel. I recently started getting to know the Lord on a more personal level, getting closer to religion by the day, and I feel so blessed to have had this. ❤️
Great video again! Thank you for including the scripture verses backing up what you're saying in text on the screen. It is so helpful to be able to reference those references. Keep letting God use you to speak his truths.
Thank you guys for all the videos you make!! It’s always my favorite part of the week and so encouraging to see another Christian couple that I can reference for solid, Biblical advice.
Kayla Currie aww that means a lot to us thank you for supporting us!! 🙏🏼
This is a blessing. It's about preserving your relationship for Gods glory! Loved that statement; a beautiful reminder and encouragement.
Love it! Spot on! Thank you for the content and sticking with the truth and backing up everything up with Scripture!
"Be confident in doing what's right, it's attractive" I like that.very well said. i love you both! :-)
My boyfriend and I have dated for over 3 years - we broke up in February and have just recently got back together, but our relationship is finally God centered. We were not sexually pure before each other, or together until recently when we both felt like God was trying to give us a bit of a wake up call. The more we grew together in our faith, the more we realized how important purity is to God, and really that we CAN turn our lives around if we want to whole heartedly follow Jesus. We started fresh, and man does it feel amazing to be truly abiding by His word. If you need a sign or a reason that you CAN repent after sin for many years, this is it!
I absolutely love coming to your channel. It is so refreshing to see other Christians doing the side hug. My husband and I also believe we should not be alone with someone of the opposite sex (that is not a family member) where it would cause our fidelity for each to come into to question. Thank you for continuing to post things on Christian topics.
I love to hear y’all’s insight to literally anything! I love that y’all back what you say with the truth of God’s word! Y’all are just awesome! 💗☺️👏🏼
My third son (22) is saving his first kiss for his bride. He is still single; I pray he finds his bride soon. I see how difficult it is for him to refrain from dating in this world and wait to find a Christian girl.
Its also important to keep focusing on God in your relationship. He needs to be first before anyone you date.
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God brought this video and youse guys's channel into my life right when I needed. Thank you guys for feeling called to do what you do! You are both beautiful people!!
I just want to tell you how thankful I am to see a young couple stepping out and stepping up for our Lord and Savior. It’s such a breath of fresh air. Keep God first and I can’t wait to see how He blesses your lives! New subscriber here! ❤️
It’s really awesome to know that there are other Christians that follow these restrictions. Especially cause there are so many people around me that don’t understand it because the Bible isn’t their standard of living. So thanks for making these videos. They genuinely encourage me and my sister.
My ex-fiance and I (we broke up a year ago and have not spoken since) had a 6 year relationship that was sexual from about 6 months into our friendship before officially dating. She was my first and my only sexual partner at this point in my life and I'm now 29 almost. I regret it immensely. I grew up in a strong Christian household with an intact family, and I knew it was wrong from the start to engage in sexual activities yet I still did it. I hope one day I find an amazing Christian woman that forgives me for it. I wish that I was still a virgin, and I wish I could offer that to my future spouse. But I have turned from my sin and lust and have vowed to not commit sexual immorality ever again. The next time it happens will (God willing) be with my wife after we're married. I'm not perfect, but I sincerely hope and will fight for that.
There's no condemnation for those who are in Christ bro🙏🏽
You can still experience sex in Gods way! I relate 100% and am learning that sex in sin is immorality, and doesn’t make us not able to experience it his way in marriage
Sir you are not alone! Many Christian’s have fallen into this path because of how bad modern society is! would love a life update!
How are you now ? Did you find your Christian spouse ?
@@jjjalves I have been dating an awesome woman for about 7 months now
I'm very encouraged watching your videos.. It feels so good to hear people still talking about purity!!
The whole “not being in a room together” is a hit far. And so is the hugging one. You can easily be in a healthy and Godly relationship without being isolated from one another. You will never get to know true discipline if you can’t sit in a room with your loved one. And you’ll never really get to know the actual person before you commit your entire life to them! But overall, great advice and video 👍🏼
agreed. My husband and I established no sex and there was no way we would break that.
There are SOME Christian couples that, it probably is a good idea to not be in a room together alone. You can absolutely deeply get to know someone without being alone in a room by... for example... talk on the phone for hours. Go on dates to the park and just sit and talk. You can be alone, in PUBLIC places, just not in some kind of private room. You say "you will never get to know true discipline" that's putting your faith in YOURSELF. You are trusting in your flesh, that it will not fail you, when the bible clearly states that our flesh is weak. We need to use discernment and wisdom.
and now from a Jewish perspective. Shomer negiyah: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Negiah
" Be confidant in doing what is right." bless you guys!
Thanks for this! I'm in high school and that's all people are in too. It's awesome that younger couples like you guys are sharing y'alls wisdom! ~♡♡♡
a. m. You're very welcome, keep staying strong! 💪🏼
I love you guys so much Nate and Sutton...you are an encouragement to young ppl who wants to live for jesus
AMEN!!! I love this so much. I didn't become a christian until a few years ago, but when I did I knew that I wanted to start over and truly honor God in my relationships and with my physical boundaries!! I prayed for over 2 years to be with a guy who wanted to wait for marriage, and God has blessed me with an amazing guy!! We have been together for almost one year, and have decided to wait until marriage for our first kiss on the lips (we've done cheek kisses lol) ! But It has been a HUGE struggle and BLESSING for sure, and we have definitely had to pray so much through it all especially because of our backgrounds. But I am so SOO grateful for what God has shown us and has taught us through it all, and for how faithful He is to us. And by God's grace, we will getting engaged soon! Something that one of my pastors told me is when looking at 1 Corin. 13:4-8, the very first thing that love is before anything else is PATIENT. If there isn't patience, there isn't love. And that has really helped us a lot. We aren't perfect in our journey, but Jesus is and that's made all the difference! :) Thanks for speaking up about these things! Praying that God continues to lead you both in this beautiful ministry!!
Did y’all cuddle before marriage?
Ok, Nate and Sutton. You two have won my love. I love what you stand for, I love that Christ is the centre of your home. I love how you are growing spiritually before our very eyes. I pray you will continue to stand for the truth and God will reward you greatly for it.
Miss T aww thank you so much we truly appreciate that!! 💛
Amen
Amen. I completely agree
Love hearing your perspective.😊😊 thanks for sharing in truth and love❤️
y’all are my new favorite couple. your videos are so sweet and they make me emotional 🥺❤️😂 thank you for sharing these things, it’s truly so helpful.
I just discovered your channel and let me say y’all are the cutest and sweetest family ever! I love how y’all bring god in every video and just make every video fun to watch❤️ love you guys!❤️
Another tip is being very prayerful and careful of the people that are speaking into the relationship. Making sure that it's wise counsel speaking into your relationship like solid mentors and role models.
This video inspired me so much. Your videos are so encouraging and helpful! Thank you for sharing great content on dating, relationships, marriage, and so many other good topics.
mazie garza you're so welcome!!
Thank you so much for opening up about topics that normally aren't discussed. I think taking the time to help guide anyone follow Christ to the fullest is more important than anything!! It's so easy to get caught up in how this world thinks and feel like an outcast about keeping Christian boundaries when you aren't around anyone that values it. It's uplifting to know others are on the same page!! Thank you for sharing
Guys this is exactly what honours God in a relationship , subscribed ..God bless ur ministry as u reach out to people about Christ .
Sooooo important! Thanks for sharing family! Love it! My boyfriend and I are saving our first kiss for marriage!
Everything and Moore wow soo amazing!! Respect
Woooah! That’s awesome and inspiring. Keep it up
Hoping to do that too.
Awesome! You can do it! May God keep you two strong!
Also, "Forever" by Nathan Pacheco ... unbelievably beautiful
And then there is "the prayer" by nathan Pacheco and David archeleta
I love this content!! It helps keeps me centered and remember what’s important!
i was actually planning on making a video on this, haha. but im so glad you guys did! everything that was said was spot on!
SO TRUE. Boundaries are essential! My husband and I waited to kiss till our wedding day, and those 3 years of waiting was difficult but oh my goodness SO worth it. That moment 😍🙌🏼 thank you Nate and Sutton for speaking truth- God is going to honor all you are doing :)
My confidence is on the road to being restored. I feel as if God has guided myself to you two, and the future now holds better things than it once did. Thank you, and may God Bless you.
This video was so helpful for me, it’s so easy to feel strange and like you stand out in a bad way as a Christian, but hearing like minded believers, that actually managed to retain purity till marriages is encouraging and SO needed, thank you 😊
Nate! Hallelujah Here Below is also my favourite worship song! I've had it on repeat for weeks too. Amazing x200. For anyone that wants some really solid worship, Elevation Worship is a great place to start. Amazing video and I learned a lot
Ps. See a Victory - Elevation Worship is another BANGER
shantae wright it's the best!!
OMG Sutton we love the same songs. I those two songs I listen to them everyday. I love your intros
Lol, love that ending. Thanks, once again for sharing that wonderful advice. You two are so blessed.
♥️I find myself singing “ what day is today , today is Q&A hey ! “ randomly 😹😹 I love how you guys answer questions honestly. That’s something thats rally lacking in this day and age ... THE TRUTH.
Thank you for the video!!💖
I really believe it is important to set boundaries even before someone starts dating. I also think it is really important to not become obsessed with finding a partner, but becoming the person God intended for us to be.😊
i just stumbled across this video and the only thing i can think about is how much he looks like Thomas Rhett 😂
Right!?
Lol that's who he looks like!!! I thought he looked like somone I have seen befpre
I really needed this. Through this video, God spoke to me and reminded me that how important God's command is in a relationship. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Thank you so much for this video! I am 16 and striving (and have always strived) to be in a pure, Christian relationship that glorifies God through every bit of our relationship. I haven't been in a relationship yet, but am really trying to prepare myself for courting the way God intended. This is really helpful and I love following you two!!!! You have so much wonderful, encouraging, educational topics and discussions. You guys are making a difference! It is hard to find bloggers (even couples) who discuss hard and healthy topics focused on Jesus and the Bible. Thank you so much for your videos and Godly discussions!!!!
My mom has done a wonderful job raising me and teaching me about what the Bible says about all of this. I am committed to saving myself COMPLETELY for my husband God will give me. From sex to kissing (I really want to save my kiss until I am married), and even hugging (!) as you were saying, Nate. I totally agree with you. My mom has encouraged me to only give side hugs because of the reason you stated. This video is really confirming (again) that all of my morals, standards, and intentions are right and God-focused. So many of my friends (even Christian friends) do things so differently and are confused by my intentions and expectations of dating boundaries. But I just continue to go to the Bible to get my answers and confirm my expectations and morals.
Nate & Sutton:
This is a MUST listen... "nearer my god to thee" by vocal point
You will thank me as this always takes my soul to new heights!
Angela Rasmussen thank you for the recommendation!!
That slap though, I re-watcehd it and continued to die of laughter :,D you guys are so funny
Wow! I just found this channel today and I’m Definitely putting all my friends on this channel!!!!🤩 I’m already encouraged 🥺❤️❤️ Turning on my post notifications as well because!
Y'all are awesome! Way to go for being ambassadors for Christ that preach the truth according to His Word!!
Very relevant topic.
Also, great answers to all three questions. Stay blessed guys!!!
Saving your first kiss and hug for after marriage is a lovely wedding memory!!! I know in this world today it seems like a hard line to draw, but it's so worth it! Keep your hands off of each other. Satan will sneak in and lead to the next thing and the next thing. Christians need to draw hard lines in so many areas and people think it's extreme but it's just holding God's line and standing for right. Flee temptation... Don't start something you can't finish. God bless those who are drawing the line with purity and modesty and Biblical guidelines.
This is beautiful, thank you. I needed to hear this.
thank you for sharing!! I could not only feel your love for each other but also the love of Christ through your sincere and genuine advices
Great video! I was married and then divorced. Keeping purity the standard has become really important to me. Praise God! This video had some very helpful tips.
Yaaaaaay 🙌 I was right... Can't wait to learn for this video ... You two are a blessing in my life please continue doing what you do ♥
annie tandeo aww you're so sweet! Thank you for your encouragement!!
That's so great! I've realised that even holding hands is powerful and can light a fire. So I would even wait to hold hands until the relationship is more serious!
You guys are amazing ! I feel so inspired and lucky to have found this channel ☘️❤️👍
Hello Nate and Sutton!
I was watching this and feel I've failed badly already :(
I'm in a new relationship with a non-christian however, after having a couple of discussions including setting physical boundaries with my bf, he is willing to wait, even though it's all new to him, he believes I'm worth it.
May I ask of you to pray for us, please? Thank you and keep blessing us with your videos 🙌🏽
Thank you for talking about soul ties. I don’t hear that enough!
Awesome video with great biblical principles, I agree 100% with everything you said ! thank you both ! I share this video on my facebook page. so many people need to hear this! many blessings for you !
I love listening to you guys! You are such an encouragement! and Sutton, your hair looks so pretty in this!
Bethany Fox aw thank you! 🥰🥰
What this video was SOO on time I’m mind blown 🤯
Christie Horan 🙌🏼🙌🏼
If you ever need someone to talk to about this topic, I'm here for you! I've been through some major relationship stuff and I'd love to share of my story and experience. Nonetheless, always choose Jesus above your boyfriend! :)
@@hannahk938 how can we find you
Im halfway through the video, and its amazing how everything you both said goes along the same principles of islam. Its so strange that when christians follow these guidelines its perfectly fine in society, but when a muslim is doing that, its calles radical.
Big fan of you both!! Greetings from the netherlands. Keep up the great content! 👍👍
Finished the whole thing now, and would like to add something. I think its amazing that there are still young couples out there who trying to do the right thing. I make dua (prayer) for your marriage and may God bless it and nurture it further.
Sam
That's because Islam inherited a lot of principles from the Bible. Islam came into being 600 years after the Gospel was revealed by Isa (Jesus). Peace to you 🕊️
@@sammorshedy1118 You guys are called radical for thinking murdering a non believer is okay, for murdering someone who wants to leave Islam, for allowing rape under certain circumstances, approve of child marriage, believing women are just sexual objects, believing women are less intelligent, believing women don't go to heaven and more.
You guys are such an inspiration. I admire how much you both aren’t afraid to run towards the lord, even if you stand out. You guys rock!
Junias here from Uganda y'all have blessed my life especially with how hard it is for the youth to date in submission to God. Very very awesome. God bless you so much
Thank you for making this video! I would also have to say that the way that social media is today that it influences is as Christians so easily that we can do wrong. I don't know if this would be a preference rather than a boundary but not to go public with your relationship before getting to know the person and how they are. Get to know each other before 'making it official'.
Reyna Golson good suggestion ☝🏼
What were your boundaries or guidelines when you guys went on your road trip before marriage?
Clarice Green yessss so curious about this one
I have no clue how I found your channel.. But this is so awesome to watch! Thank you for making these video's! God bless you
I love the way y'all explained the *motivation* behind the boundaries you set for yourselves!
I think it's hugely important for each Christian individually to understand how the Holy Spirit convicts us. It's really helpful to hear the practical application that you and others choose; yet it's easy for me or anyone to arbitrarily choose a boundary because it was an example someone had listed, without actually asking God what are ways that I _personally_ need to flee from temptation. That can lead to misunderstanding of the reasoning, frustration (from the significant other or self, especially if the reasoning isn't clear), and easily making excuses to curb the rule or even use it as a power-play somehow. This all defeats the purpose of spiritual/emotional/physical boundaries. It's incredibly satisfying and feels so right to be open to God that I realize He knows the way He's made me much better than I know myself (including the way I can connect intensely with someone if that's His best for my role in His Kingdom, etc). There's all sorts of ways I want to try and control situations thinking I'll have enough discipline in my own power, but that's a lie I've told myself (and have learned from). It's hard to be honest with myself and realize my inner 2-year-old mentality tries to make excuses for everything I know isn't truly living out integrity. Thank you for sharing your personal convictions, the joy you've had in living them out, and encouraging believers to experience God's best the way He asks us to!
Just a couple other thoughts I wish I knew better, sooner:
- boundary motivation solely to honor a future spouse sounds honorable, but a lot of times this means I'm placing hope in a spouse INSTEAD of in living to honor Christ
- Hebrews 4 says Jesus, like any human, has endured all temptations. I have no reason to believe that doesn't include desire for physical romantic intimacy. He gets it!! There's no shame in having desire (unless you feel convicted by it for some reason), and having endured all temptation He will provide the strength and eternal perspective needed to maintain discipline
- lol the first time I learned marriage doesn't last into Heaven blew my mind... as much as I'd love to have a life-partner, I'll eventually give them back to God anyway, but also everything that comes with marriage is a mirror of eternal Glory. Of course it seems a bit preposterous to my earthly experience to comprehend beyond what seems like His best tangible representation of love, but I trust in the truth of that reality
- the most recent time I was dating someone was the first I really vulnerably included a trusted, willing friend in on my past, my struggles, what I currently felt convicted to live out in maintaining healthy boundaries, and (here's the bit I hadn't done during previous relationships) letting them know times I felt my resolve slipping and the thoughts I had. It was hard because they were thought processes that I knew I didn't agree with, so the last thing i wanted to do was admit to another person. But shadows are truly where guilt and shame and frustrating circles thrive. I had so much peace with God in that relationship that I hadn't had in others.
- God gives and takes away. I'm entitled to absolutely nothing. ((i really liked Nate's perspective on having accepted God's will could look like having a spouse, but could also look like being single.))
- the greatest satisfaction comes in knowing I'm obeying Christ, and doing so out of love (not fear of failure!). I'm forever learning that over and over in all areas in life but have experienced this truth deep enough it really resonates when I stop my thoughts long enough to remember it in my head and heart.
- when I go through a period of time longing for something I don't have even after I've taken time to set it before God, just like any time we realize we're dwelling somewhere that God's not leading us even if it's not bad in and of itself, it's incredibly helpful (and healthy!) just to get out of my head entirely! if i'm in thought-circles, it's okay to distract myself from them
wow I've taken up so much space.. I've taken the time to write these out because if each of these realizations were as freeing as they were for me, maybe one of them will be for one other person. We do a good job encouraging one another to live Christ-like by setting healthy boundaries, but there's SO much that gets lost in translation. Legalism, shame, judgment, "should"s: they've all influenced me intensely, but that's not God's heart. I'm gonna have to learn that over and over and over, so good thing God's not surprised or new to dealing with that, nor does His response ever change. But there is freedom to be found in "be[ing] holy, for [Christ] is holy" because as we do so it means we're prioritizing Him, our eyes on on Him and we catch more glimpses of His intimidatingly incredible existence.
Thanks for discussing a bold topic and making yourselves vulnerable to our opinions lol
Amen!
Good tips! Getting married in 4 weeks and saving our 1st kiss 🤩
Kristina M praying for you and your husband!!!
Kristina M so awesome. Congratulations!!! I wish the best for you.
Kristina M gonna be such an awkward kiss in front of all those people
Good luck hope you have a good life togther
@Leah Wolf, heck no!!!! 200 people at my wedding and the first kiss ROCKED! Absolutely 0% awkward for either of us! so many knew it was our 1st it was like Paparazzi with all the flashes (16 years ago when there were flashes on cameras, LOL)!!!!
I love ur hair down Sutton. Thx for another awesome video
DrumrGal4Christ aw thank you! 💛
Bless you guys! Thanks for the advice, really helps me a lot. Grateful to be reminded that our relationship with our spouse is to honor God.
Such a great video.
Thank you guys for all you do with your videos for us.
It really is such an awesome encouragement.
By the way, I absolutely love those worship songs. 😊
Hi guys, I just want you to know that you've just answered the whole questions that has been bothering me lately about dating as a Christian. Thank you soo much and God bless you. I'm a new subscriber. Love from Nigeria.
That intro though!👌👌 love u guys👏
Christina D. Glad you liked it! 🤣🤣
New subscriber here! From the Philippines 🇵🇭 👋
I just saw the video of you and your father dancing and checked on this channel. Im happy to discover this channel. This is what the youth needs nowadays. The contents are worth to watch. Thank you for sharing! ❤
Silent Star thank you and welcome to the family!! 💛
Completely agree with y'all totally!!
I am "extreme" and I love it!
Y'all are inspiration!
Love y'all 💕💕
More young people should see this video. It's so hard to date these days if you have set the said boundaries for yourself and willing to keep to the standard.