Why narcissists get confused when they can't manipulate you

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  • @Bleepbloopblarp
    @Bleepbloopblarp 6 місяців тому +114

    Their show was a total flop.
    Bad acting and a predictably repetitive storyline.
    It’s now been cancelled…permanently!

  • @mynewlife1911
    @mynewlife1911 6 місяців тому +51

    If you beg, narcs will mock you for being so pathetic. If you walk away and start a new life, the narc comes running after you. Narcs are such a turnoff. They’re messed up. Best to stay as far away from narcs as you can.

    • @chops4986
      @chops4986 6 місяців тому +10

      They can’t be nice for long. They end up treating you like shit and doing all the things you asked them not to. And so true if you beg or show any emotion they mock you and put you down then when you walk away they come back acting like it was a surprise.

    • @mynewlife1911
      @mynewlife1911 6 місяців тому

      @@chops4986 yep, so true. They’re narco nut jobs. There are so many better things to do than tolerate narcs. 👌🏻

    • @mynewlife1911
      @mynewlife1911 6 місяців тому

      @@chops4986 exactly. Narcs are a bunch of whack jobs. Bye bye narcie poos

  • @heatherwagar5868
    @heatherwagar5868 6 місяців тому +83

    I was deeply in love with him and he started bread crumbing me and leaving me on read. I was great supply unfortunately. I abruptly disappeared and blocked him. He never saw it coming. He thought he was going to torment me and I would chase. He tried to Hoover me 4 months after. I didn’t engage. It’s been 5 months and nothing. I know I won the game by wiping the chessboard

    • @Catina-jz1tp
      @Catina-jz1tp 5 місяців тому +2

      🙌🏽👍🏼💪🏽

    • @user56gghtf
      @user56gghtf 3 місяці тому +3

      He's going to keep trying. Even years from now, he's going to keep trying. Stay strong and keep rejecting. Live a good life.

    • @cowboynohorse
      @cowboynohorse Місяць тому +3

      I got a hoover after 17 years and I was vulnerable. It lasted 6 weeks and she did a lot of damage. Stay away forever if you can.

    • @user56gghtf
      @user56gghtf Місяць тому

      @@cowboynohorse I'm sorry to hear this. I hope you're healing

  • @icalotdonthide2646
    @icalotdonthide2646 6 місяців тому +49

    I don't see them as people, because no one would operate in such a stupid way.

  • @prunelle9051
    @prunelle9051 6 місяців тому +38

    When they say you have to put your feet on their neck and you leave it there... That's exactly it.

  • @kenro76
    @kenro76 6 місяців тому +25

    After they become the town bicycle. Screwing every dude they come in contact with. They still think you will pursue them. In they’re deluded thinking they believe that if every other guy is pursuing them, you should too.

  • @dervish108
    @dervish108 6 місяців тому +26

    My narc ex discarded me 6 weeks ago, unexpectedly and at a terrible time and situation. I moved out soon after and she accused me of throwing her in the garbage. She also said I gave up too easily.
    When I left, I knew so little about narcissism compared to what I know now. I knew she had some toxic relationship dynamics, that’s it. All I knew was, I was on the verge of a nervous breakdown and she wouldn’t care if I fell apart, she’d only kick me while I was down. And I also knew I didn’t want to beg her to take me back. I did it once before and I didn’t want to do it ever again.
    Who the hell wants to be in a relationship where you continually get discarded and your partner withholds affection and warmth? Who actually plays the game with the narcissist? I found my ex very attractive and charming in the beginning, but nothings worth that!

  • @terridillon3053
    @terridillon3053 5 місяців тому +8

    Their egos are beyond belief

    • @user56gghtf
      @user56gghtf 3 місяці тому +2

      Just like Satan's ego

  • @user-qs5hz4mf3p
    @user-qs5hz4mf3p 6 місяців тому +22

    Narky wants the best a person who loves and respects themselves. Someone who is confident, STRONG, and smart. Who's mysterious and a challenge that's where the great BOOSTS come from. Those traits show your value. But Narky can't quite get that person so has to always settle for the same weak doormat. It's supply here its oxygen but not quite like a hit from that valuable person...

  • @mayday802
    @mayday802 6 місяців тому +25

    The test I was blessed to have failed and flipping the script proved the best notion ever. There is no reasoning or logic with someone entrenched in their own self-destruction. There is no reconciliation of any type with someone full of resentment and spite. Considering what I experienced during and after, any fraction of trust is gone and the past is a hologram. After leaving and shacking up with someone else, there is no turning back - no interest whatsoever of listening to more sob stories or dusting off a woeful malcontent.

  • @jenniferraymond9766
    @jenniferraymond9766 6 місяців тому +11

    All narcs want in life are to be surrounded, supported by, and unquestionably served by high value people (especially life partners) who fail to acknowledge how high value they are.

  • @BeTheLight624
    @BeTheLight624 6 місяців тому +19

    …after the narc hung up on me to pick up a booty call from a low grade supply remincient of a troll doll, I never picked up a phone call from him again. never responding to anything and waited for his wedding anniversary date to his 2nd wife to full on block and go no contact…I hope he never expected that and fully underestimated me…ignoring 37 hoover attempts for 6 months. Hoovers are nothing you want, the make your healing much more difficult and the narcs purpose to lure you in is to punish you like never before as a payback for leaving….the 37 hoover attempts were used as punishment I’m sure.

    • @jenniferraymond9766
      @jenniferraymond9766 6 місяців тому

      😂 I can relate to the troll doll thing, my ex got busy with just about anything on 2 legs after dumping me, thinking he could immediately upgrade.

    • @ancientsage1969
      @ancientsage1969 3 дні тому

      Narc hung up on me for not agreeing with him. That was in 2018. I've made sure that he will never hear my voice again. He's been trying to connect since then. He"s now wrapping up his 4th marriage and reaching out through social media. Updating me about his life even with no response. I am not even upset at him... I nothing him.

  • @beemonroe4330
    @beemonroe4330 6 місяців тому +19

    Ahhh, my early AM coffee ☕️ and paper 🗞️

    • @joebhouse
      @joebhouse  6 місяців тому +7

      Haha, happy to be obliged 👍

    • @user-pl2wf9uh5m
      @user-pl2wf9uh5m 6 місяців тому +1

      😂 do you think it's healthy to treat this info as we do?
      Is there a time when we should stop finding comfort and validation in such information?

    • @beemonroe4330
      @beemonroe4330 4 місяці тому

      @@user-pl2wf9uh5mI think it’s plenty healthy, we’ve been through a lot. We NEED this to replenish what’s been stolen. It feels good to know that I’m now crazy.

  • @kimbervoss3753
    @kimbervoss3753 Місяць тому +4

    I've researched a lot of narcissist content, and there is plenty to be found, but this channel is my favorite.. Such a soothing speaking voice and never feels like preaching or patronizing..thanks for doing the good work that you do 🙂

  • @deb2319
    @deb2319 6 місяців тому +8

    They play down and out on their luck, poor me and ghost u when u offer help ..then flip the script on you and talk down to you.. total nut jobs..aholes.

  • @dropintheocean9952
    @dropintheocean9952 6 місяців тому +8

    Joe helps us to make our hearts STRONG. Gratitude.

  • @lindakeenan3344
    @lindakeenan3344 6 місяців тому +5

    My nar plays sick when he can’t get his way 😮 and he has a supply with a girlfriend our daughters age 😢 no help for this person..

  • @lioubovgrant1935
    @lioubovgrant1935 6 місяців тому +8

    Good morning !🌞 Lets have a cup of joe ☕☕with Joe and see what kind of magic he made for us this time 😊. They get confused ?? How about us being confused by being with seemly normal person at first and later with someone completely different ? This was a reeeeeal confusion, something that we thought cant be possible. So let them be confused , they will do same thing to the next person, never learn anything. Thank you Joe, great video ! 🤗❤ Beautiful images of the nature and sunrise ! 18K !!! 👏👏👏

    • @joebhouse
      @joebhouse  6 місяців тому +1

      Indeed, they will do the same to the next person, and the person after that.
      As always, I really ❤ your comments, TY!! 😊

    • @lioubovgrant1935
      @lioubovgrant1935 6 місяців тому

      @@joebhouse You are very welcome, i cant help it, i addicted to your work on Quora, or here ! 🤗❤

  • @user-qs5hz4mf3p
    @user-qs5hz4mf3p 6 місяців тому +4

    If you beg and chase them they'll run fast away into the new supply. If you expose them and call them out you'll cause a narc injury. They may not even care saying you've been devalued to something less than dirt. It just depends where victim is in the cycle...

  • @narcfreekeekee9168
    @narcfreekeekee9168 2 дні тому

    He tried it. I let it go for awhile. Not anymore.

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline Місяць тому +1

    I’d rather die than ever reaching out it’s worse than death

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline Місяць тому +1

    I fight everyday wanting to end my life every day I fight my thoughts n self hatred but I force to get out of bed have tea n hike but I’m still at a bad dangerous place inside of me this man stole things I didn’t see it was him n if it wasn’t bolted down it was gone I was dating the devils understudy

  • @SanjayKumar-xz8rc
    @SanjayKumar-xz8rc 6 місяців тому +9

    If you beg and plead them to come back bcoz you didn’t know much about their disorder and after sometime you get educated and expose them and went no contact, is it matter to them .

  • @emmamonroe3311
    @emmamonroe3311 6 місяців тому +2

    That’s interesting. I’ve always had self respect, but I was also very laid back with the few guys I dated due to the fact I never wanted to get married or have children.

  • @SagittariusBabe87
    @SagittariusBabe87 6 місяців тому +1

    Love the video, Joe!❣️ Breathtaking sky, nature, & water images 😍❤️🌄 You're a good dude!!! ☺️💙 Great how you explained it, this is very true. They do try to "One-up" the people in their lives & I experienced this. It's pathetic as, so are they. ALWAYS was triangulating me with others & in so many situations. De-valuing my personality & my whole self. A jealous & insecure man-child. Delusional & very disturbed. Mentally, emotionally, verbally, & physically abusive. I was questioning his bad behavior & other things happening. Not realizing while in the fog🌫️ he was actually doing these things intentionally.
    I have my own brain 🧠 I will not be manipulated, controlled, abused or played. I have so more self-worth, value, the education & wisdom now, then to stay with someone like a Cluster B/Narcissist, ever again. 💯💯💯
    Then, when he pushed me away & discard Me, he lose Me🙎 Constantly hoovered Me & can't get Me back, that's where it ends! My heart can't take that all over again and being stuck in the fog 🌫️ & abuse/reward cycle. There's no second chance or, second go-around. What was the point of everything?
    Smh 🤷 You must be strong & break the trauma-bond! Don't go back!!! 🙏
    Not following the Narcissist's script❌🙅 I'm thankful to be Narcissist-Free!🙏✨

  • @gf1001
    @gf1001 6 місяців тому +1

    I have done this to the Narc, they did not get sex or control. I am too strong mind wise, this video tells it as it is Amazing thanks for telling us...

  • @fatumamunyakazi841
    @fatumamunyakazi841 6 місяців тому +1

    Best explaination! Thank you ❤🙏

  • @davidsmith7587
    @davidsmith7587 Місяць тому

    My narc asked why i never chase her after i breakup with her. I asked her what am i chasing after. No response

  • @trinitristant3527
    @trinitristant3527 5 місяців тому

    🙏❤

  • @LuNealon-dc8ub
    @LuNealon-dc8ub Місяць тому

    This sounds weird, but with many videos, I've been replacing the word, narcissist, with cigarettes!