What I really like about this video is that it has this underlying theme of accepting the reality that people are not perfect. Makes us feel more connected.
Hey fun igniting answers thanks! I also like buy and create arts and games content and TEAMiNGs to create.. i am 'Springcar'! i create fun music and Teamings to create igniting music and computer Games and fun creators teamings and fun easy tutorials to create easy hit songs beats!
1. Never hound - always appreciate 2. Give honest and sincere appreciation 3. Appeal to another's interest 4. Smile 5. Remember the other's name 6. Be a good listener 7. Talk about other people's interests 8. Make other people genuinely feel important 9. Best way to win an argument is to avoid it 10. Begin in a friendly way 11. Admit your mistakes immediately 12. Let other people speak most 13. Honestly view others' angle 14. Have empathy for others' idea 15. Ask questions for other people to answer 16. let the people feel that the idea is theirs 17. Appeal the noble motive 18. Dramatize your idea 19. Throw down a challenge 20. Challenge people indirectly 21. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing others 22. Ask questions rather than ordering 23. Let the person save the face, praise every small moment, and give them a reputation to live up to 24. Make fault easy to correct 25. Make people happy about doing the things you suggest - tell them the benefits you both enjoy
Basically key components to being a rizz machine 😂. I do most of this stuff but I have to admit that there is things that can and will change my successes rate which is pretty good but I have defeats and I want more knowledge over why amd what I can change.
1. Never hound - always appreciate 2. Give honest and sincere appreciation 3. Appeal to another's interest 4. Smile 5. Remember the other's name 6. Be a good listener 7. Talk about other people's interests 8. Make other people genuinely feel important 9. Best way to win an argument is to avoid it 10. Begin in a friendly way 11. Admit your mistakes immediately 12. Let other people speak most 13. Honestly view others' angle 14. Have empathy for others' idea 15. Ask questions for other people to answer 16. let the people feel that the idea is theirs 17. Appeal the noble motive 18. Dramatize your idea 19. Throw down a challenge 20. Challenge people indirectly 21. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing others 22. Ask questions rather than ordering 23. Let the person save the face, praise every small moment, and give them a reputation to live up to 24. Make fault easy to correct 25. Make people happy about doing the things you suggest - tell them the benefits you both enjoy
Great book. I read it a long time ago. I remember feeling like it was missing something. I think a friendship should be reciprocal. You cant only let the other person talk forever about their interests, praise them all the time, and be the only one making an effort. That's one sided. That is how you attract narcissists and toxic people. Some people will talk forever about themselves and you cant get a word in, or they change the subject back to them when you talk about yourself. Also, you shouldn't be afraid to disagree respectfully with people.
I agree, to me, there seems to be more about pandering to people who lack emotional maturity, how to manipulate them and how to accommodate them than there is about making genuine connections. This was all good advice for short term interactions with people you probably won't see again (or see rarely) hence why people read it when learning sales, but in long term business relationships and friendships, the suppression of one's self would eventually become tiresome. It offers no outlet for your own emotional response and needs. "How to make less intelligent people do tricks for you and the types of cookies you should feed them as a reward".
I agree with you, but the major reason why we need everything in this book is because the majority of people are not very emotionally mature. To be successful you have to influence the majority, since we can't change the majority to be emotional mature to be successful, we change our approach instead based on that information about people. The only thing I suggest is that, for your mental health, you shouldn't need to influence people in your inner circle or close friends this way, only get closer to the emotionally mature ones while influencing the rest of the world like that.❤ Overall, close friends or not, most of what he said are truly innate human instincts, principles and behavior so you should have that at the back of your mind even while dealing with close friends, emotionally mature people and family. May God give us more wisdom .❤@@RedGreyV
@@jaggerxl yeah, it's better to 1st finish the whole book then after time come and watch this again and again, so you won't forget the lesson...and keep applying
The basic message of this book is that we are self obsessed, and when you break out of that and start cultivating an interest in other people and understanding how they look at issues, you’re much more effective. People are so selfish and self-centered, and that includes myself, that we can’t hear this message enough and that’s why this book has been a standard in the field for almost a century Having said that, the thing that I don’t like about the book is that it smells of manipulation. And sometimes you do need to interrupt people because they don’t know when to shut up and sometimes you do have to criticize someone. The behavior is outrageous and so on.
I have just moved from rural Ireland to east London, I have never been around any other culture or race growing up other than white Irish. I am really friendly as Irish people are, I go to the corner shop and ask them where are they from, what is their language, teach me to say hello in Hindi, I then taught them hello in Irish, they now remember me every time i go into the shop and they have nicknamed me the happy positive girl
Sometimes people are wrong and need to be told and/or shown. Allowing someone to continue going in the wrong direction will make it even harder when you or someone else brings it to their attention. The thing is, with good communication, you can address things in ways as not to be insulting, but constructive and encouraging.
As a therapist I can say all of these concepts are incredibly helpful in a therapeutic setting with clients, no matter who they are. However, as a skeptic and student of psychology, I can't help but to approach Dale Carnegie's idea of winning friends with doubt. Indeed. B. F. Skinner is correct on the token economy: reward usually works better than punishment when fostering changes. HOWEVER, my experience working with ODD children and opportunistic adults is that: punishment is way better then reward in maintaining changes. When I say punishment, it's more like "consequences of bad ______". The thing about reward and change is that for change to keep going, we gotta keep the reward flowing. With certain individuals, the reward's value must also increase with time. One can almost say we are condoning poor behaviors with constant reward, making changes temporary and short-lived. With that in mind, is that real change? Can you call a person your friend only if you shower with rewards, whatever form that may take?
I guess it only depends on the situation or what kind of person you were dealing with. Opportunistic adults are narcissists. When you give them rewards and praises, they will only think that it is only "natural" for them to have those. However, it is not the case for most people as most of us craves appreciation and acceptance.
You make a great point that these strategies are not fool proof. We must still take each person as an individual and always be ready to adapt our wisdom to the moment.
42 year ago I readed this book for first time and I can n’t believe is still one of the most valuable book in building golden relationships. Social media and technology have this book re-boosted greatly.
I’m 37 now, when I was 18 I was left at the family home, my parent at the time was going through really difficult times, long story short he moved out, I took over his room. He had a book shelf in the bathroom which by happenchance had two books: How to Win Friends- by Carnegie, and Psycho Cybernetics- by Maxwell Maltz. Both books had a profound impact on my life, still do to this day. I can honestly say those two books single handedly shaped my career(s) and successes more so than any mentor in my life. They’re considered sacred to me, next to my bed right now and I’ll never get rid. Another one in a similar vain but a poem, also a major inspiration for my outlook on life, The Desiderata. Take care everyone
I had a similar experience of finding that book after my cousin moved out. It has certainly help to shape my life in dealing with other people. I need to get a copy for my granddaughter's birthday in August Thanks for reminding me of the value of this book .❤❤❤❤
Sameee Man. My dad had the book sitting on his shelf. It influenced my love for non fiction. I go back to it like every yr cus it helps me so much every time I deal with people. It let me stay grounded, a reminder that it's not all about me, it's about the other person. When it comes to socializing, this book helped me so much. I'm an introvert.
"Tell them they have the right talent and fundamentals, but just need to practice getting better." I that is a quote I always thought when drawing. This is something I need tell others get better at what they are passionate about.
These videos are actually more healing than all the ones I’ve been watching to do with me and me and my mental health and my psychologic state and everything to do with me and how I think, because your videos made me realise that it’s never been about me, and it’s social interactions that heal most if not all mental problems.
At age 16, I was fortunate enough to earn a scholarship to this course as a "Better Businessman" award in Junior Achievement. The whole class was teenagers, which (we were told) had never been done for the course before. A few of us went on to take Graduate Assistant (GA) training and had a great time GA-ing a couple courses of adults. The adults would break the Carnegie rules automatically, by default, just because we were teens and not adults with big fancy careers, cars and houses. Some of them learned...many didn't, they saw the class not as a way to improve, but as something to brag about. Going through this course was the best thing I ever did, and I still practice every day the things the course taught me 40 years ago.
@@jasonwano3496 i really appreciate your time to write this cmt and it would better if you finish this summary even if you can't finish the whole book 🤗
Good breakdown video. The summary makes people seem self-absorbed but it’s more an ironic humility. The more you get someone to talk, the more they’re willing to share. It’s not malicious just effective. It’s a shame we have to start this way but, the more you break down barriers, the more we become our truest selves.
Well done and thank you. This 32 minutes and 55 second video really inspired me. As a group facilitator, I can really use these techniques in my work. I think Dale Carnegie should be required reading in all schools. What a wonderful world this could be.
Praising every improvement is how my soccer girls had a fantastic year!! Earned me coach of the year. And the joy that they felt, the feelings their parents had- was Every bit rewarding for every day😊
Ive always done this instinctively. Ive always advocated for everything in this book, without ever haaving read the book. I love when stuff like this happens.
Thank you. I attended a Dale Carnegie course while between jobs. It was a valuable experience that helped me resume my career and grow. This is an excellent summary and instant refresher.
Speaking in terms of other's interests and encouraging them to talk about themselves,... those two things have been 2 of the most life changing pieces of advice I've ever gotten. You instantly become an awesome conversationalist,.. even if the other person is talking 95% of the time Lol
Definitely a lot of principals I could use at work. I know "em all.....but man they fly out the window every time you introduce a little HR heat. This was a pleasure to watch. Thank you.
Thank you for this excellent summary of Dale Carnegie’s outstanding book. A refresh in 30 minutes is very motivating to try to keep on improving my own behaviour 😊
The thing is. I’ve been like this my whole life, and I lost all my friends because They were not my friends. Plus being nice, sincere and understandable has led me to a view of weak, which I know it’s not but in some circumstances some people give more value to a strong human being, even though he’s faking attitudes and talking behind backs. These days it’s very hard to find true friends and relationships. I admit I made some mistakes but being good person has led me nowhere in life. And all the bad friends I had, they are all good in life, while I suffer.
I've been praying to God to send genuine people to me. Friends who'll be genuine with me and love me as much as I love them... There's a lot of fake people today, and I'd rather be by myself than to have these types of people in my life.
I actually own this book, Dale Carnegie advised to use it like a work/ reference book so the information remains fresh in your mind. With my schedule I rarely have time to reread it so having this detailed summary is a game changer! I can listen without a "word for word" audiobook and still get my info "booster". Im not known as the person who is great at remembering things, this video allows me to hear the highlights of my favorite book so the skills and tools I need are in the forefront of my mind through out my day. Thank you a little bit better 🥰
I would be interested in people, but people want to offload their problems on me as if I do not have challenges to overcome. As an empath, I decided to set boundaries because it drained me emotionally and mentally to constantly be surrounded by people who always want to use me because they know I care! So no thank you my mental health is far more important to me than making friends or being likeable, people are very selfish!
This is the very first 30+ mins video that I've ever actually sat and watched through it in it's entirety on youtube. It was very interesting and I thank you for posting such video. Thank you! Keep it going!
i was told i will never be fit and criticized that i was too old to workout, yet here i am fit and feeling younger than a 20 year old. i get motivated to prove people wrong or else i don't have nothing to prove.
You just earned a subscriber.... Loving your art and how relatable everything about this book is to me, "Remember, that a person's name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language"
Thank you so much for this amazing summary. I've had this book in my shelf for years. I think it was my first self-improvement book ever but i never read it.
I'm so glad this appeared in my feed; it reminded me of what I've stopped doing but used to value. I've been caught up in the current trend of focusing only on myself. I'm grateful for the reminder that the right path is to align with the universe.
Thanks for the great video. Its important to highlight situations where some of these principles may not be sufficient: While Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" provides valuable advice for many interpersonal situations, there are some contexts where its principles may not apply or may need to be adapted. Here are a few examples: 1. In situations requiring immediate action or firm leadership: Carnegie's principles often emphasize understanding, patience, and avoiding direct conflict. However, in emergency situations or when quick, decisive action is required, there may not be time for extensive dialogue or consensus-building. 2. When dealing with manipulative or abusive individuals: Carnegie's principles are based on mutual respect and understanding. If someone is consistently manipulative, dishonest, or abusive, these principles may not be effective and could even enable harmful behavior. In such cases, setting firm boundaries or seeking help from a professional may be more appropriate. 3. In situations where there is a significant power imbalance: Carnegie's principles work best in situations where individuals have relatively equal power. In situations where there is a significant power imbalance, such as in some workplace environments or in cases of systemic injustice, these principles may not be sufficient to address the issue. 4, When personal safety is at risk: If a situation threatens your physical, emotional, or mental safety, it's important to prioritize your well-being over trying to win friends or influence people. 5. In cultural contexts where the principles may not be applicable: Carnegie's principles are largely based on Western cultural norms and may not be applicable or may need to be adapted in different cultural contexts. Remember, while Carnegie's principles provide valuable guidance, they are not a one-size-fits-all solution. It's important to consider the specific context and use your judgment to determine the best course of action.
Thank you. I attended a Dale Carnegie course while between jobs. It was a valuable experience that helped me resume my career and grow. This is an excellent summary and instant refresher.
I am not a native speaker of english. I barely understand any hard accent. But your way of speaking and narrating is awesome. I love it. And l subscribed your Chanel love it.❤
This video reflects 100% (no exaggeration) of how I act and think about interacting with people. I have a question for "Little Bit Better" If you read this I would love to know.. Do you think this way or do you research this? Also, for anybody reading this, is anybody else that thinks this way on a daily basis?
This is a Fantastic summary. I loved it. This saved and compensated me some days I missed to read the book. I was in the using the names to show genuine interest. Thank you.
Whats most important to remember is that you might follow all the principles and most of the things won't workout as per your expectations and you need to be ok with that, don't worry too much about others.
Such a good book and an awesome presentation and synopsis. Thank you so much for putting the time into and shareing the project with the youtube world.
i was born with amazing people skills and its helped me so much in life. Im 18 atm so im working to further perfect this skill and see how far i can take it
This was a fantastic summary of the book. Thank you very much for your hard work on this. As someone who creates content occasionally, I know the hours you have to sink into a project. Props to you and I hope you continue to enjoy working on your brand!
This is one of the best summaries I’ve ever heard on this book. Thank you so much for taking the time to make this. I really look forward to watching more.
Years since I read the book; mixed thoughts and feelings still. The good parts and points match biblical verses and Jesus' example. The bad parts outright teach you how to manipulate others, their thoughts, feelings and actions, to get what you want...not so biblical or Christlike. Great job on summary, professional video and great vocal intonations to be interesting!
thank you so much for this video! you are so good at making the content of a book interesting and easy to understand. i feel like you intuitively are good at what this book teaches :)
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Thank you for the summary, I was too lazy to read the whole book, so I just did the “fast reading”and so forgot some of the highlighted points. But now I can recall all of them again, only within 30 minutes!!!
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 📚 Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is a timeless book on human relations and leadership skills. 02:35 🙌 Showing genuine appreciation and praise to others makes them feel important and valued. 03:37 🎣 To influence others, talk in terms of their interests and appeal to their desires and goals. 07:48 👂 Actively listen to others, and remember and use their names to show genuine interest in their lives. 12:30 🤝 Make others feel important and respected to build better relationships and gain their cooperation. 21:50 🗝️ Begin with praise and honest appreciation to make criticism more effective. 22:17 📊 Visualize ideas vividly and dramatically to capture attention. 23:40 📈 Throw down a challenge and organize competitions for motivation. 25:18 🔄 Indirectly address mistakes and avoid direct attacks for better results. 26:14 🗣️ Talk about your own mistakes first before criticizing others to encourage change. Made with HARPA AI
Thanks for the summerized points. 🙂 Although, in life it's not always that linear. Alas, often experienced it the other way round! What's Harpers AI? An app?
I sincerely appreciate your efforts in compiling this content in short videos, the best image and video representation and a deep, clear and captive voice. These videos help me get the context and research more deeper understanding about topic of intresets
With arguments, I think it’s important to talk about your frustrations so they don’t build into resentment. But do so in a kind way where you’re also listening to their feelings
I have a vast amount of interest, so I never find it hard to converse with someone about their interest. I can talk, I listen, I have a lovely smile and voice, but if there is one thing that I couldn't do, its to be sincere. I win friends not to be a social butterfly, I win them so I can get something from them. I never felt the connection and the importance of having a friend emotionally. However, I do appreciate your video. I'm a new subscriber and hope to listen to you in your future videos! 😊
I 100% agree with this book as long as we understand that this was made from the male lens. Conversations with my girlfriends made me realize a key difference in communication between women and men. A woman finds the other person off-putting if she does not interject to ask more questions or to show she is engaged. On the flip side, talking with my male cousins, I notice that, that same way of conversing, like I do with my girlfriends, is seen as a sign of disrespect. I still haven't quite figured out the whole male-female thing 😅
Love from Sri Lanka 🇱🇰 I remember I have read the Sinhala translation of the book and that was very influential in the important episodes of my life. Thanks 🙏
I’m half way through, and this seems to be a recipe for being a people pleaser, inauthentic. So you’re starting new relations this way, won’t you just end up with extremely self centered friends? Those who just want to talk about themselves? My friends and I throw the ball back and forth, rather than one person holding it the entire time. Is the point of these advice some scheme to gain something by being inauthentic and manipulative? Genuinely curious
True. I’ve tried it and made genuine friends. Also I’ve made fake, self centered friends that are just in it to have their ass kissed. I use these strategies as a filter to understand who’s who as it disarms them.
It's not a guide to filter or find good friends, it's just research on how to make someone like you. To use it on the right person is your responsibility
15:48 - Sorry, but no. Do not follow this *specific* example. Do not do this with police in the USA. Do *not* admit your guilt *or* try to explain your innocence to the police. It is the police's job to prove you guilty. Do not volunteer information. They may want to arrest you. Do not give them cause or evidence or a confession they do not already have. Invoke your 5th Amendment Right to remain silent if being detained. If being voluntarily approached, ask, "Am I free to go?" If yes, go.
Awesome job madam. I just hotel stirred up and surely i will start praising my colleaques on little improvements they make at work. I can not wait to listen to such precise and awesome summaries like this of another book.
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What I really like about this video is that it has this underlying theme of accepting the reality that people are not perfect. Makes us feel more connected.
That's a good thing, We are connected.
It’s a good book for sales and leaders.
Hey fun igniting answers thanks! I also like buy and create arts and games content and TEAMiNGs to create.. i am 'Springcar'! i create fun music and Teamings to create igniting music and computer Games and fun creators teamings and fun easy tutorials to create easy hit songs beats!
no one but a fool ever wrote except for money
You mean the book? Since this video is just a summary of the book and not an original thing in and of itself.
1. Never hound - always appreciate
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation
3. Appeal to another's interest
4. Smile
5. Remember the other's name
6. Be a good listener
7. Talk about other people's interests
8. Make other people genuinely feel important
9. Best way to win an argument is to avoid it
10. Begin in a friendly way
11. Admit your mistakes immediately
12. Let other people speak most
13. Honestly view others' angle
14. Have empathy for others' idea
15. Ask questions for other people to answer
16. let the people feel that the idea is theirs
17. Appeal the noble motive
18. Dramatize your idea
19. Throw down a challenge
20. Challenge people indirectly
21. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing others
22. Ask questions rather than ordering
23. Let the person save the face, praise every small moment, and give them a reputation to live up to
24. Make fault easy to correct
25. Make people happy about doing the things you suggest - tell them the benefits you both enjoy
Basically key components to being a rizz machine 😂. I do most of this stuff but I have to admit that there is things that can and will change my successes rate which is pretty good but I have defeats and I want more knowledge over why amd what I can change.
Thanks you save my time, i watch up to 13+min and i am tired and i wanted to sleep, you save me buddy thanks
@jasjastone next time save it and watch its later
bit challenging for introverts
15. Answer 'yes" to---
1. Never hound - always appreciate
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation
3. Appeal to another's interest
4. Smile
5. Remember the other's name
6. Be a good listener
7. Talk about other people's interests
8. Make other people genuinely feel important
9. Best way to win an argument is to avoid it
10. Begin in a friendly way
11. Admit your mistakes immediately
12. Let other people speak most
13. Honestly view others' angle
14. Have empathy for others' idea
15. Ask questions for other people to answer
16. let the people feel that the idea is theirs
17. Appeal the noble motive
18. Dramatize your idea
19. Throw down a challenge
20. Challenge people indirectly
21. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing others
22. Ask questions rather than ordering
23. Let the person save the face, praise every small moment, and give them a reputation to live up to
24. Make fault easy to correct
25. Make people happy about doing the things you suggest - tell them the benefits you both enjoy
take this u deserve it🏅
why thank later , thanks right now to save time , god bless u
Thanks 😅
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Thank you
Great book. I read it a long time ago. I remember feeling like it was missing something. I think a friendship should be reciprocal. You cant only let the other person talk forever about their interests, praise them all the time, and be the only one making an effort. That's one sided. That is how you attract narcissists and toxic people. Some people will talk forever about themselves and you cant get a word in, or they change the subject back to them when you talk about yourself. Also, you shouldn't be afraid to disagree respectfully with people.
I agree, to me, there seems to be more about pandering to people who lack emotional maturity, how to manipulate them and how to accommodate them than there is about making genuine connections. This was all good advice for short term interactions with people you probably won't see again (or see rarely) hence why people read it when learning sales, but in long term business relationships and friendships, the suppression of one's self would eventually become tiresome. It offers no outlet for your own emotional response and needs.
"How to make less intelligent people do tricks for you and the types of cookies you should feed them as a reward".
I was thinking, " this doesn't work with narcissists ", it will feed them..
I agree with you, but the major reason why we need everything in this book is because the majority of people are not very emotionally mature. To be successful you have to influence the majority, since we can't change the majority to be emotional mature to be successful, we change our approach instead based on that information about people.
The only thing I suggest is that, for your mental health, you shouldn't need to influence people in your inner circle or close friends this way, only get closer to the emotionally mature ones while influencing the rest of the world like that.❤
Overall, close friends or not, most of what he said are truly innate human instincts, principles and behavior so you should have that at the back of your mind even while dealing with close friends, emotionally mature people and family.
May God give us more wisdom
.❤@@RedGreyV
@@sarahoyebadejoexcellent reply 🙏🏽♥️
@@danathudson4576 Absolutely.
This book is a timeless treasure. 15 years ago, it began changing my life from the very first page. I really recommend you read the full book.
It teaches people who cant divide and administer the knowledge in it to be intolerable suckups, shallow & easily manipulated like sheep.
I agree. Don't LIE and say you've read the book vicariously through a short video like the narrator suggests
@@jaggerxl yeah, it's better to 1st finish the whole book then after time come and watch this again and again, so you won't forget the lesson...and keep applying
YEAH STOP LYING DUDE
The basic message of this book is that we are self obsessed, and when you break out of that and start cultivating an interest in other people and understanding how they look at issues, you’re much more effective.
People are so selfish and self-centered, and that includes myself, that we can’t hear this message enough and that’s why this book has been a standard in the field for almost a century
Having said that, the thing that I don’t like about the book is that it smells of manipulation. And sometimes you do need to interrupt people because they don’t know when to shut up and sometimes you do have to criticize someone. The behavior is outrageous and so on.
I have just moved from rural Ireland to east London, I have never been around any other culture or race growing up other than white Irish. I am really friendly as Irish people are, I go to the corner shop and ask them where are they from, what is their language, teach me to say hello in Hindi, I then taught them hello in Irish, they now remember me every time i go into the shop and they have nicknamed me the happy positive girl
This book absolutely changed my life
How?
@@literarystudies1861 Read it :)
@@literarystudies1861can't say for sure but i'd guess he made friends and influenced people
Why hasn’t anyone commented how good the images / pictures are and how much time and effort it took .. It’s amazing !!!
Honestly, you took that out of my mouth.....literally🙌 ✨️
Is it really someone drawing or a software program? Kudos to the first
Yeah I 100% agree with you, this channel was a great inspiration for me!
@@Mr.MooseThePomeranian It is a software program called Doodly.
It's a software, not actually them drawing and writing.
Sometimes people are wrong and need to be told and/or shown. Allowing someone to continue going in the wrong direction will make it even harder when you or someone else brings it to their attention. The thing is, with good communication, you can address things in ways as not to be insulting, but constructive and encouraging.
As a therapist I can say all of these concepts are incredibly helpful in a therapeutic setting with clients, no matter who they are. However, as a skeptic and student of psychology, I can't help but to approach Dale Carnegie's idea of winning friends with doubt. Indeed. B. F. Skinner is correct on the token economy: reward usually works better than punishment when fostering changes. HOWEVER, my experience working with ODD children and opportunistic adults is that: punishment is way better then reward in maintaining changes. When I say punishment, it's more like "consequences of bad ______". The thing about reward and change is that for change to keep going, we gotta keep the reward flowing. With certain individuals, the reward's value must also increase with time. One can almost say we are condoning poor behaviors with constant reward, making changes temporary and short-lived. With that in mind, is that real change? Can you call a person your friend only if you shower with rewards, whatever form that may take?
I guess it only depends on the situation or what kind of person you were dealing with. Opportunistic adults are narcissists. When you give them rewards and praises, they will only think that it is only "natural" for them to have those. However, it is not the case for most people as most of us craves appreciation and acceptance.
I think there's a difference between a mistake and behavior.
You make a great point that these strategies are not fool proof. We must still take each person as an individual and always be ready to adapt our wisdom to the moment.
42 year ago I readed this book for first time and I can n’t believe is still one of the most valuable book in building golden relationships. Social media and technology have this book re-boosted greatly.
I’m 37 now, when I was 18 I was left at the family home, my parent at the time was going through really difficult times, long story short he moved out, I took over his room. He had a book shelf in the bathroom which by happenchance had two books: How to Win Friends- by Carnegie, and Psycho Cybernetics- by Maxwell Maltz. Both books had a profound impact on my life, still do to this day. I can honestly say those two books single handedly shaped my career(s) and successes more so than any mentor in my life. They’re considered sacred to me, next to my bed right now and I’ll never get rid. Another one in a similar vain but a poem, also a major inspiration for my outlook on life, The Desiderata. Take care everyone
What happened to your parent? Are you in good terms?
I had a similar experience of finding that book after my cousin moved out.
It has certainly help to shape my life in dealing with other people.
I need to get a copy for my granddaughter's birthday in August
Thanks for reminding me of the value of this book .❤❤❤❤
Sameee Man. My dad had the book sitting on his shelf. It influenced my love for non fiction. I go back to it like every yr cus it helps me so much every time I deal with people. It let me stay grounded, a reminder that it's not all about me, it's about the other person. When it comes to socializing, this book helped me so much. I'm an introvert.
If you followed the books guidelines you would know that I don't care :)
But what to do when ppl who took advantage of you being nice?
"Tell them they have the right talent and fundamentals, but just need to practice getting better." I that is a quote I always thought when drawing. This is something I need tell others get better at what they are passionate about.
These videos are actually more healing than all the ones I’ve been watching to do with me and me and my mental health and my psychologic state and everything to do with me and how I think, because your videos made me realise that it’s never been about me, and it’s social interactions that heal most if not all mental problems.
Exactly my thoughts!
Imagine two ppl like this talking to each other.
Both trying to get the other to talk about themselves and constant praise of one another haha
Sounds like a Portlandia skit. I can picture Fred Armisen in this role now
Sounds like a back slap festival!
Jesus is the only way to salvation ❤❤❤
Me and my bro
@@Workerforhimalways What about you?
The best thing about this video is the way creator has done the picturisation so that you can immediately visualise the moment. Great work 👍
At age 16, I was fortunate enough to earn a scholarship to this course as a "Better Businessman" award in Junior Achievement. The whole class was teenagers, which (we were told) had never been done for the course before. A few of us went on to take Graduate Assistant (GA) training and had a great time GA-ing a couple courses of adults. The adults would break the Carnegie rules automatically, by default, just because we were teens and not adults with big fancy careers, cars and houses. Some of them learned...many didn't, they saw the class not as a way to improve, but as something to brag about. Going through this course was the best thing I ever did, and I still practice every day the things the course taught me 40 years ago.
A good summary of one of the best books I've ever read. It is a book that can change your life. Highly recommended! ❤
Does this summary video a book accurate?
This is one of the best summaries of this book that I've seen so far. Thanks
It's called chat gpt
@@jasonwano3496ChatGPT? 9 months ago, I thought the ai thing was released more recently 😊
@@jasonwano3496 i really appreciate your time to write this cmt and it would better if you finish this summary even if you can't finish the whole book 🤗
@@meinchina666 Your dedication for the empowerment of others and their intellectual well being is inspiring. I learned much from your input.
@@jasonwano3496 This was posted to YT in October '22, before chat gpt.
“Please leave a like, it helps me make videos” that’s brilliant and it worked, just like you summarized
Good breakdown video. The summary makes people seem self-absorbed but it’s more an ironic humility. The more you get someone to talk, the more they’re willing to share. It’s not malicious just effective. It’s a shame we have to start this way but, the more you break down barriers, the more we become our truest selves.
you used the word BUT, and i find that ironic, your ironic.
@@roxauf haah yeah and just wondering how would you handle his defenseness ? 😍
Well done and thank you. This 32 minutes and 55 second video really inspired me. As a group facilitator, I can really use these techniques in my work. I think Dale Carnegie should be required reading in all schools. What a wonderful world this could be.
Praising every improvement is how my soccer girls had a fantastic year!! Earned me coach of the year. And the joy that they felt, the feelings their parents had- was Every bit rewarding for every day😊
Ive always done this instinctively. Ive always advocated for everything in this book, without ever haaving read the book. I love when stuff like this happens.
Thank you. I attended a Dale Carnegie course while between jobs. It was a valuable experience that helped me resume my career and grow. This is an excellent summary and instant refresher.
I read the book before and this video helped me remember and realize again the importance of this book. Thank you very much.
I've been procrastinating continuing this book. I had just the last part left. Thanks for this summary ♥️
Does this summary is book accurate?
Speaking in terms of other's interests and encouraging them to talk about themselves,... those two things have been 2 of the most life changing pieces of advice I've ever gotten. You instantly become an awesome conversationalist,.. even if the other person is talking 95% of the time Lol
Definitely a lot of principals I could use at work. I know "em all.....but man they fly out the window every time you introduce a little HR heat. This was a pleasure to watch. Thank you.
This video really breaks down the essence of human interaction. 'Become genuinely interested in other people' is such a powerful reminder
Thank you for this excellent summary of Dale Carnegie’s outstanding book. A refresh in 30 minutes is very motivating to try to keep on improving my own behaviour 😊
You just saved me a lot of time, thank you.
I'll use this video for review every once in a while, from now on.
Time is Gold
Great book 🎉
The thing is. I’ve been like this my whole life, and I lost all my friends because They were not my friends. Plus being nice, sincere and understandable has led me to a view of weak, which I know it’s not but in some circumstances some people give more value to a strong human being, even though he’s faking attitudes and talking behind backs. These days it’s very hard to find true friends and relationships. I admit I made some mistakes but being good person has led me nowhere in life. And all the bad friends I had, they are all good in life, while I suffer.
Same here. I feel that
Maybe you gravitate towards negative toxic people.
I've been praying to God to send genuine people to me. Friends who'll be genuine with me and love me as much as I love them...
There's a lot of fake people today, and I'd rather be by myself than to have these types of people in my life.
As a person who already read the book, I find this video as a review. Thank you for creating this!
I actually own this book, Dale Carnegie advised to use it like a work/ reference book so the information remains fresh in your mind. With my schedule I rarely have time to reread it so having this detailed summary is a game changer! I can listen without a "word for word" audiobook and still get my info "booster". Im not known as the person who is great at remembering things, this video allows me to hear the highlights of my favorite book so the skills and tools I need are in the forefront of my mind through out my day. Thank you a little bit better 🥰
My husband got this book when went to training for his job and gave it to me. I have started to read it but I am thrilled to find this video!
I would be interested in people, but people want to offload their problems on me as if I do not have challenges to overcome. As an empath, I decided to set boundaries because it drained me emotionally and mentally to constantly be surrounded by people who always want to use me because they know I care! So no thank you my mental health is far more important to me than making friends or being likeable, people are very selfish!
This is the very first 30+ mins video that I've ever actually sat and watched through it in it's entirety on youtube. It was very interesting and I thank you for posting such video. Thank you! Keep it going!
I purchased this book 30 years ago using it as a foundation for my MLM Business I grew it to a current passive 7 digit income. It’s timeless treasure.
If you can do it all over again, what would your pro tip for closing on recruits?
This book is truly amazing. I didn’t give it enough attention it seems, forgot many important points. Thank you for the summary, will watch again🙌
i was told i will never be fit and criticized that i was too old to workout, yet here i am fit and feeling younger than a 20 year old. i get motivated to prove people wrong or else i don't have nothing to prove.
This video has one of the most convincing "please subscribe" lines ever.
Have been having a debt to read this book to the end but this has made it easier. Will always come here to look for the books of my interest
Why hasn’t anyone commented how good the images / pictures are and how much time and effort it took .. It’s amazing !!!
You just earned a subscriber.... Loving your art and how relatable everything about this book is to me, "Remember, that a person's name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language"
Thank you so much for this amazing summary. I've had this book in my shelf for years. I think it was my first self-improvement book ever but i never read it.
I'm so glad this appeared in my feed; it reminded me of what I've stopped doing but used to value. I've been caught up in the current trend of focusing only on myself. I'm grateful for the reminder that the right path is to align with the universe.
Thanks for the great video. Its important to highlight situations where some of these principles may not be sufficient:
While Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" provides valuable advice for many interpersonal situations, there are some contexts where its principles may not apply or may need to be adapted. Here are a few examples:
1. In situations requiring immediate action or firm leadership: Carnegie's principles often emphasize understanding, patience, and avoiding direct conflict. However, in emergency situations or when quick, decisive action is required, there may not be time for extensive dialogue or consensus-building.
2. When dealing with manipulative or abusive individuals: Carnegie's principles are based on mutual respect and understanding. If someone is consistently manipulative, dishonest, or abusive, these principles may not be effective and could even enable harmful behavior. In such cases, setting firm boundaries or seeking help from a professional may be more appropriate.
3. In situations where there is a significant power imbalance: Carnegie's principles work best in situations where individuals have relatively equal power. In situations where there is a significant power imbalance, such as in some workplace environments or in cases of systemic injustice, these principles may not be sufficient to address the issue.
4, When personal safety is at risk: If a situation threatens your physical, emotional, or mental safety, it's important to prioritize your well-being over trying to win friends or influence people.
5. In cultural contexts where the principles may not be applicable: Carnegie's principles are largely based on Western cultural norms and may not be applicable or may need to be adapted in different cultural contexts.
Remember, while Carnegie's principles provide valuable guidance, they are not a one-size-fits-all solution. It's important to consider the specific context and use your judgment to determine the best course of action.
You may want to read "7 habits of highly effective people" in addition to this
This is interesting. How did you come to this conclusion? Was it from the book itself?
@@TheButterpecants No. The book doesn't get into it. What I posted was from a conversation I had with Chatgpt.
Me after reading this book can tell you every sentence she says denotes a paragraph or any important line.
Amazing work, keep it up👍👍
6:20 It Was Her Smile That Stole My Heart😢
Thank you. I attended a Dale Carnegie course while between jobs. It was a valuable experience that helped me resume my career and grow. This is an excellent summary and instant refresher.
This was very beautifully done. Please keep em coming. You are a good person for taking time out and helping others with these videos. God bless.
I am not a native speaker of english. I barely understand any hard accent. But your way of speaking and narrating is awesome. I love it. And l subscribed your Chanel love it.❤
This was amazing and very informative I will watch it again and again. Thank you for the work that you are doing. This is out of the ordinary ❤❤
This video reflects 100% (no exaggeration) of how I act and think about interacting with people. I have a question for "Little Bit Better" If you read this I would love to know.. Do you think this way or do you research this? Also, for anybody reading this, is anybody else that thinks this way on a daily basis?
As a reader, I can attest to the quality summation this video provides. Well done! Highly recommend a listen or two.
This is a Fantastic summary. I loved it. This saved and compensated me some days I missed to read the book. I was in the using the names to show genuine interest.
Thank you.
Now this is probably the most important life guide you'll ever read. This is a good video and more people should see it.
All the book really said was to win friends, just let them talk the whole time and agree with them. That's it. You're welcome.
Great synopsis! Thanks!
Thank you for saving 32 minutes of my life. 🤝🏻
Him : I'm such a failure 😔
Me : I agree 👍
ILL informed bozo ahh summary
I do believe that but it's how peoples minds are but i do agree with you
Whats most important to remember is that you might follow all the principles and most of the things won't workout as per your expectations and you need to be ok with that, don't worry too much about others.
Such a good book and an awesome presentation and synopsis. Thank you so much for putting the time into and shareing the project with the youtube world.
i was born with amazing people skills and its helped me so much in life. Im 18 atm so im working to further perfect this skill and see how far i can take it
This was a fantastic summary of the book. Thank you very much for your hard work on this. As someone who creates content occasionally, I know the hours you have to sink into a project. Props to you and I hope you continue to enjoy working on your brand!
This video is really amazing. It helps me to grasp the book within 33 mins. I waiting for you future videos.
This make me realize how self centered we are. Poor character of human being. pride, proud, etc.
This is one of the best summaries I’ve ever heard on this book. Thank you so much for taking the time to make this. I really look forward to watching more.
Years since I read the book; mixed thoughts and feelings still. The good parts and points match biblical verses and Jesus' example. The bad parts outright teach you how to manipulate others, their thoughts, feelings and actions, to get what you want...not so biblical or Christlike. Great job on summary, professional video and great vocal intonations to be interesting!
Have you read the Quran? Do you know what Islam is? Did you know that it's the religion that genuinely respects Jesus peace be upon him.
Still I have my original copy. Thank you for putting this out on YT, always good to remember these skills, especially in todays situations.
thank you so much for this video! you are so good at making the content of a book interesting and easy to understand. i feel like you intuitively are good at what this book teaches :)
I really appreciate, how you Not only tell the way, but also give reasonable examples
This was an excellent summary. This book is on my book list and just subscribed thank you ❤
A timeless guide on effective communication and building genuine relationships. Highly recommend!
So basically, just be a good person....
Sounds simple enough
Ah yes the pretentious UA-cam comment. Good luck with that 👍
Be as shallow as possible to maximize profiting from others
@@bm-2004Nothing in the presentation suggested that.
Why!!! Why is it only now after all these wasted years that I stumble upon this😢. Superb content
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Great book ❤
I think I may have to listen to this one twice there's a lot of info in here👍😎
Me too 😊
Read the book
I just finished reading the book now on the bus. It is very difficult to digest. The summary this video gives is enlightening
Didn't anybody notice that applying these principles will burn you out and make you feel consumed and neglecting yourself
this is not talked about enough
@@bigvictory143 so you agree?
@@1_Indic_RationalLogicForge it has nothing to do with confidence dude, actually confident people don't flatter.
@@EnglishAccount-bx1qw was just kidding 😂
Exactly it needs time and energy which we don't have.
Thank you for the summary, I was too lazy to read the whole book, so I just did the “fast reading”and so forgot some of the highlighted points. But now I can recall all of them again, only within 30 minutes!!!
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 📚 Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is a timeless book on human relations and leadership skills.
02:35 🙌 Showing genuine appreciation and praise to others makes them feel important and valued.
03:37 🎣 To influence others, talk in terms of their interests and appeal to their desires and goals.
07:48 👂 Actively listen to others, and remember and use their names to show genuine interest in their lives.
12:30 🤝 Make others feel important and respected to build better relationships and gain their cooperation.
21:50 🗝️ Begin with praise and honest appreciation to make criticism more effective.
22:17 📊 Visualize ideas vividly and dramatically to capture attention.
23:40 📈 Throw down a challenge and organize competitions for motivation.
25:18 🔄 Indirectly address mistakes and avoid direct attacks for better results.
26:14 🗣️ Talk about your own mistakes first before criticizing others to encourage change.
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Thanks for the summerized points. 🙂 Although, in life it's not always that linear. Alas, often experienced it the other way round!
What's Harpers AI? An app?
I've really wanted to read this book. The most important lesson for me here is to appeal to another person's interest.
Amazing! It defines tactfulness and respect when dealing with people❤️
my internship SAVED....! this makes me liiiiike you!
0:37 - "Dont criticize, condemn, or complain." -- Chapter 1
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It's one of the best summaries I have seen so far.
Very well explained and great summary of the book.
Do you already read the book? Does this summary a book accurate?
I sincerely appreciate your efforts in compiling this content in short videos, the best image and video representation and a deep, clear and captive voice. These videos help me get the context and research more deeper understanding about topic of intresets
In summary, cater to the other person's ego. Very simple concept.
In one other word: slime.
With arguments, I think it’s important to talk about your frustrations so they don’t build into resentment. But do so in a kind way where you’re also listening to their feelings
“After watching this video, you can say that you have read this book” - no you can’t. Nice to see you have principles.
How do you call that [TV soap??]
I have a vast amount of interest, so I never find it hard to converse with someone about their interest. I can talk, I listen, I have a lovely smile and voice, but if there is one thing that I couldn't do, its to be sincere. I win friends not to be a social butterfly, I win them so I can get something from them. I never felt the connection and the importance of having a friend emotionally.
However, I do appreciate your video. I'm a new subscriber and hope to listen to you in your future videos! 😊
I 100% agree with this book as long as we understand that this was made from the male lens. Conversations with my girlfriends made me realize a key difference in communication between women and men. A woman finds the other person off-putting if she does not interject to ask more questions or to show she is engaged. On the flip side, talking with my male cousins, I notice that, that same way of conversing, like I do with my girlfriends, is seen as a sign of disrespect. I still haven't quite figured out the whole male-female thing 😅
wise observation
Love from Sri Lanka 🇱🇰
I remember I have read the Sinhala translation of the book and that was very influential in the important episodes of my life. Thanks 🙏
I’m half way through, and this seems to be a recipe for being a people pleaser, inauthentic. So you’re starting new relations this way, won’t you just end up with extremely self centered friends? Those who just want to talk about themselves? My friends and I throw the ball back and forth, rather than one person holding it the entire time. Is the point of these advice some scheme to gain something by being inauthentic and manipulative? Genuinely curious
The second question is your answer this book was made for financial gain not to acquire true friends.
True. I’ve tried it and made genuine friends. Also I’ve made fake, self centered friends that are just in it to have their ass kissed. I use these strategies as a filter to understand who’s who as it disarms them.
@@wintermatherne2524 fantastic, thank you for your view point and personal experiences. I'll have to give it a try and change my perspective on it 👍
It's not a guide to filter or find good friends, it's just research on how to make someone like you. To use it on the right person is your responsibility
This book changed my life for the better.
Counter Tip: Have a pen and paper by your side whilst watching this video
🤞 watched it complete! Thank you for changing my point of view towards people
15:48 - Sorry, but no. Do not follow this *specific* example. Do not do this with police in the USA.
Do *not* admit your guilt *or* try to explain your innocence to the police. It is the police's job to prove you guilty. Do not volunteer information. They may want to arrest you.
Do not give them cause or evidence or a confession they do not already have.
Invoke your 5th Amendment Right to remain silent if being detained.
If being voluntarily approached, ask, "Am I free to go?" If yes, go.
Good point! This book was written in the 1930’s, so some points don’t age well. At least here in the USA. Cheers!
Awesome job madam. I just hotel stirred up and surely i will start praising my colleaques on little improvements they make at work. I can not wait to listen to such precise and awesome summaries like this of another book.