How Avoidants React To Breakups (And how to win them back!)
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- Опубліковано 6 сер 2023
- Do Avoidant Feel The Breakup? Avoidant Attachment Style | Going through a breakup with an avoidant partner can be challenging, but you don't have to face it alone.
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In this video, we delve into the complexities of avoidant attachment and provide expert insights on coping mechanisms and healing strategies. Learn how to navigate the emotional rollercoaster, rebuild self-esteem, and foster healthier connections in the future. Whether you're the one with an avoidant attachment style or you've experienced a breakup with an avoidant partner, this guide offers valuable tools to help you achieve emotional growth and find inner strength. Subscribe now for more relationship advice and personal development tips.
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Friends - breakups can be challenging, demoralizing, and worse - they can destroy our sense of worth. Never forget that you are valuable, loved, unique, and there will only ever be one of you. You are worthy.
I give free breakup and dating advice: www.Twitch.tv/HiR0ry every Monday and Wednesday at 10am ET.
Supporting my brother since the old black screen-no face reveal video days... Greatest relationship and behavioral expert ever. Much love from Turkey Rory! get his coaching if you need!
Yes talk about anxious attachment. And can't say it enough, glad you're making relationship videos again 😊
Your comment made me smile! Thank you!!
@@TheLoveChat you're welcome 😊 😁
What’s good Rory. I had a few phone sessions with you a year ago about this girl leaving after I did everything right. I used to watch your videos and talk to you for sanity. I was hitting the gym twice a day all the time and I eventually moved on from her. Last year in the summer time I met the LOML and currently very in love with my girl now. I just wanted to give you an update that is all. Gym + music can take you a long way in life.
Sounds like a success story to me. You earned it!
Avoidants are exhausting. Avoid the avoidant. You are expected to treat them with kid gloves but they can do whatever the hell they want without regard to how it makes you feel.
Great to see you’re back!
Hi Rory, Thanks so much for our coaching session last week. :) Really helped me see a path forward and gave me some clarity on my situation - much love xx
Morgan - I am very glad to have helped and I hope you are feeling better!
He was the chaser. Called me all the time. Thank ghosted me. He gets close than runs away. He give up. He don't deserve me. Seriously it's over I told him tonight it is done over I'm gone. Thank you💓
Rory, you describe exactly the dynamic with my ex. The more he withdrew, the more I wanted to show him how important the relationship was and demanded more commitment from him. Now it's too late 😟 Thanks for your always very helpful content! ♥️ And please make a video on anxious attachment style, I would count myself among them too 😊
👍 Thanks Rory, great video as always.
Glad you enjoyed it!!
I might be anxious not so much, but stay positive and never chase, never needy, never beg. I have been studying 6 months and now I’m getting it. Put up boundaries, needs and be a better parter.
I’m on no contact situationship my platonic. But, I did move on and give them time ready to re-gain my trust.
Excellent stuff Rory.
I never ever chased him. Always went No contact. Always worked on myself.
He had abandonment issues.
I let him go a few times.
He was bouncing back to his ex but it was all hidden from me.
He married and quickly got a divorce from her over 2 yrs ago.
He came back with deep regrets only 7 months later. We are together. He's still commitment phobic but seems to be working on himself, and trusting me more a little bit at a time. A challenge that I would not wish on anyone.
I`m sorry to be the nosey one here. But just out of curiosity, for all these time have you ever moved on ? or dating other people ? It must take great patient and very strong well to stay no contact and working on yourself, yet still accepting him as who he is.
Hey Rory❤ thanks for covering this topic. One more topic suggestion- break ups due to their family pressure. My fiance ghosted me after visiting her family and discussing "us" with them. Very likely they told things that made her simply ghost me. Is no contact still the best approach to take? What would dumpers feel in the scenario where they were forced by their family to break up?
This is a good topic - I will be sure to cover it this month. Generally No Contact is the safest approach in situations like this. If you need more support I give free breakup & dating advice on Twitch: www.Twitch.tv/HiRoryTV every Monday and Wednesday at 10am ET. Also our breakup support group is here: discord.gg/KUCeXX3uzS
@@TheLoveChat Is there anywhere to replay the session where you talked about this? xxx
What if they are not sure? They don't know what they want and.. i offered to give her things and she just disregarded it. We were never in a full on relationship. She has my internet router, i have her apartment keys. Brought it up last interaction and.. said " hey im wanting to work things out or giving this a shot, if your not able too i have your things and we can let it be" she just was like this was a good hang out..
Rory, can I please have some info on how to email you? I’m at a point where I think I just need some professional advice as it’s been a month now since we broke up and I want to move forward and stop pestering my friends and family about how I feel. I’m from England so I don’t know if that’s a problem with doing live coaching due to time zones, but I’d even pay for an email at this point.
Please let me know, thank you!
Hi there! I don't do email coaching anymore - just voice coaching and I do it all over the world including the UK! Just visit www.TheLoveChat.net/Coaching
Great video thank you. Im 4 month into no contact with my avoidant ex. We were talking kids, marriage, house and then she left saying I'm too needy. Apart from asking for something back, she has not reached out. I was happy to find her space but she seemed to use that for micro cheating, emotional cheating with other guys that gave her attention. Will all avoidants push you away from intimacy and then try fulfilling it with others?
Honestly, why bother? I asked myself the very same question recently when I experienced this with a girl I dated.
With so many people out there in the world who aren’t as screwed up, unless this person is genuinely special (which is highly unlikely) it really isn’t worth the emotional torture and effort.
@@OnderHassan your right it's not. I'm still hanging onto memories and not reality
@@droflivelife Remind yourself that the memories you had of them was all fake. What’s real is the behaviour they revealed the moment they broke up with you.
In my case I broke up with them, the avoidant, for not putting in effort/making time for the relationship. I very simply ended it and said its not working. Even though I want it to work, I'm technically the dumper. I walked away. I'm confused about No Contact for my particular situation. I am currently in NC btw
Can you do a video on fear of abandonment in relationships
Yes!
Hey rory love your vids. My ex broke NC back in june aand we have been in touch to this daye, but she is still with the rebound/monkey branch. What should i do? We were together for 3 years.. she tells me she loves me , etc
If she is with the rebound, you go silent on her until such time that she realizes that it's either him or you. You can evaluate at that time if you want her back or not
Feel like this dynamic and ldrs is just a dead issue.
Your videos are amazing. I really like it. I am a new subscriber to your channel. Can I talk with you???
You bet. Www.TheLoveChat.net/coaching
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You're so cute😅
Thank you! :)