Meanwhile Harry who give them the money to open the shop in the first place gets everything and anything he wants for free for the rest of his life. Yup. Loyalty matters more than blood.
I expected clicking this video to watch a man to go off on people that say "fuck." Then I got great life lessons and got to see a man pour emotion and passion into a story, He is the modern Bob Ross ♡
@Ardhemus agree. But it depends on the person's circumstances and personality. I'm definitely a "trading favours" type person. I'm happy to and even enjoy doing stuff "free" for people in exchange for something they can do for me. Some people aren't like that tho: they prefer the other type, e.g. paying full price. Or something else - some people I haven't figured it out yet. Also someone might be really short of cash or time one year, they may not be able to or in the mood to work how they used to.
That is very correct. In fact, if you want free stuff, its the best way to do it. My mother is friends with a few repairmen similar to Louis where I live, she always made sure she tipped them and paid even for the simplest things, even stuff they wouldnt usually charge for. Whenever she needs, she has assistance on her PC or mine, and they throw a bunch of free stuff in, just because they want us to have it (the most extreme one was them giving her a free second-hand netbook they werent being able to sell). If you want help, help others first, and you won't even have to ask for it.
@@faithful451 that’s the beauty of the free market. People are allowed to decide what is of most value to them and barter based on what they want. Sometimes the favor is worth more in the long run to people than the money
I used to be the dude that you could call at 3 am to help fix a flat tire. When my Mother died of a sudden heart attack only 2 of my dozens of friends showed up. I'm now the guy that doesn't answer the phone.
@@fergusdenoon1255 he didn't compare fixing a flat tire and going to a funeral. He said that he used to be the kind of person you could call IN THE MIDDLE OF NIGHT to get help. Also, if I'm good enough friends with someone to call them IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT to fix my flat or I'm good enough friends with them to help them when they call me IN THE MIDDLE OF NIGHT it shouldn't be a great inconvenience to them to show up to a funeral. One is an active and sudden disruption and inconvenience and the other is something that you are given notice for weeks, even months in advance. Tell me, why is it insane to expect a friend to show up to an important even but not a cousin? I went to my Aunt's wedding when I was 5or so because we were, as family members, expected to go. I DIDN'T KNOW HER,I knew NOTHING ABOUT her. But it would have been callus and rude if I didn't attend it also happened MULTIPLE STATES AWAY. We had to drive there over the course of 2 days. But nobody thought doing that was crazy. So how completely emotionally numb do you have to be to think it's insane to be expected to go to YOUR FRIENDS MOTHER'S FUNERAL where you will spend 2-3 hours maybe 3-4 and then go home? From the sounds, you probably think it's insane to be expected to go to your BROTHER'S funeral.
@@enayatchoudhury5431 I'd be the one to ask for a little more information before making any assertions... … are we under the impression his mother wanted them there … were they asked to attend… did they like his mother... did his mother like them, did his mother know them, did they know his mother, do they go to anyone's funerals, and... is assumption the mother of all fuck ups... one's things for sure .. I wouldn't hijack my mothers funeral and make it all about ME ME ME! that would be a pure dick move. I would be the one to leave this guy out in the cold as seemingly if you ask him to do something you're obligated to something of his choice in return although it's unclear if he even tells you what it is and maybe just assumes you should be there when he desires as a pure act of mind reading… I'm pretty sure his so called friends didn't make him come out and help them fix a tyre .. they just asked, and he agreed, that's how things work, what doesn't work is demanding they come out or you'll never speak to them again .. that's not really how friends act is it... he may claim that he no longer picks up the phone, but its just as likely there simply aren't any phone calls anymore because of the way he's treated them since his mothers funeral, we simply do not know... but lets play assumptions and see where that gets us … so this guy (who's gone awfully quiet) gets phone calls and goes out at night and fixes peoples tyres, I would assume he owns a garage? which would mean he charges them for their tyre being fixed, he then calls them friends … so... he's crazy. is assumption really the best point of reference to judge a story, probably not, is one opinion that maybe skewed the best form of evidence .. .probably not! so,lets play devils advocate; if this guy invited his friends to his mothers funeral and they declined, that's fair enough, that's their choice, if he's punishing them for that choice he's a dick. If he invited them to his mothers funeral and they just didn't bother saying anything, then they are dicks and could have acted better, if he didn't invite them to his mothers funeral but assumed they'd be there despite the lack of invitation, he's a dick and his friends deserve an apology as for some reason it was apparent they were not wanted at the funeral due to the lack of invitation. I'm going with this guys a dick, just because he made his mothers funeral all about him which requires quite a twisted self involved self obsessed mind set, I'm just not into it. To answer your question directly, I don't go to funerals, so to take that as a personal insult, is just basically illogical.
I expect friends and family to ask for free $hit. What boils my blood is when strangers ask for your services in exchange for "exposure" or some other BS payment or plead poverty. Yeah, I can't afford a ferrari but I'm not asking ferrari reps to feel sorry for me.
@@BillClinton228 You must have a loose definition of friends. Either that or you're one of those jackasses yourselves who asks for discounts because you're "friends". Real friends always pay full price to support your business.
brings me to a quote my father got from a movie and continues to say to this day "blood makes you related, loyalty makes you family". The moment you aren't there for me, I'm not there for you. It's just that simple. I'm not going to disrupt my busy life to make yours better when you wouldn't do the same. People like that piss me off to no end. Very good video Louis.
Been there. Built a PC for someone, I was maintaining that thing for several years. Never again. Always cleaning up crap they downloaded, never knew there were 327 different registry cleaners on the market, Every anti-virus software ad they came across they downloaded. oh and when they found out what "hit del to enter bios" was all about. 18 web browser tool bars all running and wanting to be the boss.
Yep.. I think this will be the one thing that keeps some retail stores around. Service after the sale is so important, but everyone thinks they can do everything themselves because they saw a UA-cam video about it 😂
When my fiancée left me and I was working a shitty job, My bestfriend was in my corner, was a reference for me at a new job, and legit offered me a place to stay with him. I didn’t accept the offer of the place to say but he was there for me in ways my blood family never came close to. And what’s crazy is that this guy tries to pay me for rides to the airport or for feeding his dog when he’s out of town or helping him put furniture together. Now he’s going to need school because he is going to be a doctor and I’m in a position to offer him and his new wife a home I own and usually rent out. We “fight” constantly about him insisting on paying me. I refused to accept any money. This fucking guy just drops $600/month into an index fund and says “one day You can use it for your kids’ college or I’ll just give it to them to help out when they graduate college since the investment will have grown by then” I’d still rather he just kept his money, but when he said that it blew me the fuck away.
That's a friend you want to hold till the end. To keep him validated, make him pay you in property maintenance, some love for the siding and the grass, plants out front, maybe a new coat of paint in a couple rooms. He doesn't want charity but he wants some friendship and the love that comes from it.
I fixed my "familys" wifi, set up 3 computers, 2 phones and a printer and all I got was "Ah you are not completely useless..." I never helped them again.
That sort of shit boils my blood. I help a lot of my proper family out, and they look at me like I’m a wizard and are always grateful. I had people like you’re talking about in my life, not anymore. People telling you to do spiteful shit, what’s the point? No need getting angry, or even, and causing yourself more stress. Just forget people like that and never help them again.
Its OK if its a joke and your the one thats in it, its another to be seriously condescending and horrible. I help family and I am the one making the joke "Told you am no completely useless" and the family is always the one to say that never thought that and tell me Im good :) Free biscuit (or packet)?
Matt Supertramp ted talks are just publicized intellectual masturbation. As sam hyde once said “pat yourselves on the back, I’m not going to stop until you’re all patting yourselves on the back”
ted talks make you pay them thousands just to speak at their events. its a scam. You should see people who have attended them talk about the behind the scenes of those "events"
I use to work with my uncle who was a contractor, he told me when he works for friends and gives them the bill or an estimate and they look at the price and say " I thought because we are friends you wouldn't charge me so much?", he said that he says to them " Well, I figured because we are friends you wouldn't mind paying a little extra." I have used that line quite a few times since I became a contractor. lol
The sad thing is, it's not even impossible to trade service for service. My mom and step dad traded a $4000 painting job for full exterior and interior, for $2500 and first pick of a litter of dogs they were about to have. They were professional breeders, and based on how much attention my dog got throughout its life, I can definitely believe he was worth $1500. If he would have been like hey, I can't pay $1k upfront for the cameras, but I can give you $300 upfront and give you and your staff a $1000 dollar tab of free meals for the labor and remaining price of the cameras. Of course, he would get this in writing, but that wouldn't be a bad deal if the food at the place was good. That said though, if hes trying to cut corners on cameras, his food probably wasn't that great.
@@midas2092 I always found that all swearwords really express is the lack of a real insult. The best shots can be fired with utmost politeness and still cut deeper than any curse. If you're swearing for emphasis... Well... I find that the swearwords rather serve to distract from the rest of the sentence, or make people stop listening. When people hear a sentence that is 50% fuck and shit, their brain tells them they've heard it a million times, and they don't even hear the other half unless they force themselves to pay attention. And if you're swearing for catharsis... Whatever helps, helps. Fire at will. xD (Bah, look at me lecturing... Never knew advice videos are contagious.)
Mr Rossmann, When I started my business, My Grandfather (who was a business owner) sat me down and said at least one thing that really stuck with me. he said; "If your family and friends won't pay your prices how do you expect strangers to?"
Being too helpful is actually self destructive; my dad always goes out all day doing things for other people and when he comes home he’s usually too tired to do any work around the house, and all that work stacks up and it’s rare that he gets any help from the people he spends all day with
tyler snider I used to do that too, now I just give people back the same energy they put into me. If you're never there for me, I'm never there for you, wish I realized this sooner.
@@archivedaccount2000 I know it from my grandpa actually.He always says this and when I was little I didn't 100% believe him,but as I grew older I realised it pretty much goes for everything.
My parents are the same way. They visited my brother and told him that he was living in a bad neighborhood and He should leave me there and come home with them. I asked why is it a bad neighborhood? My parents said "all those black people walking around and standing on the porches. I was shocked, they are black and hating on black people living in the city. Then I realized, they wanted me to go a "county school to avoid gangs" was a code word for " we want you to be in a school were you will have little interaction with black kids from the city". It broke me. Then I understood that Black people from the city means poor people. And btw, we were barely above poverty lines. Then I realized that my parents were raised spoiled brats by my grandparents. sad.
So I’ve been living in an RV owned by my boss because I had no job and no car so he offered me a place to stay while I got back on my feet. All he asked was that I clean up around the shop, make a fb page for the shop, and do any oil changes that come in. Over my time living here, I’ve overextended myself to show how much I appreciate what he has done such as doing some landscaping, painting, pressure washing the floor, washing his truck, randomly bringing him coffee, etc but everyday is starting to feel like he is taking me for granted to the point where in his mind he feels like he owns me. During my time here I got my driver’s license, got a car, got a job as a vehicle inspector at the same place I’ve been working. Today started off as a normal day, he was making some welds on an axle. Apparently, he was calling my name, but I was elsewhere putting my shoes on to go grab lunch w my mother. I come back to where he was working and is so infuriated that he made me an ultimatum that I either “help him” or “move out”. Well boys, today is the day I move out. If someone gives me something I appreciate it to the extreme and show how much it means to me, but when you start to hold it over my head as a means of manipulation, I no longer appreciate it nor want anything to do with you
I dont sell anything that might break to friends and family. Old phone/console/pc/car/you name it. Im selling that to total strangers because I cba to deal with the hazzle in case something happens. 😂
A dude I haven't talked to in like 10 years asked me to look at a broken audio compressor unit, last time I saw him he gave me a half a case of beer he didn't like but it was good beer. I told him to bring it over. I love this video, so much intelligent honesty. I once had a "friend" that knew i was unemployed offered me work, had me shoot and complicatedly edit videos, then expected me to be happy with the fact that he gave me some dab hits. Needless to say I don't talk to this person these days.
I literally almost died from severe depression and 2 people out of my 30 "friends" at the time took two minutes to talk to me. Im still great friends with those 2 people 6 years later.
“I don't care about whose DNA has recombined with whose. When everything goes to hell, the people who stand by you without flinching--they are your family.” ― Jim Butcher, Proven Guilty
I've never felt the joy, of someone else, who has read the same series as you. Until this point. But I don't remember that quote, maybe I wasn't paying attention. Ah it was the #8 book, haven't gotten there yet.
I learned this lesson the hard way. This lesson is something people should be taught about when they are young so they don't fall for the guilt trips that family and friends will hit you with the second they "need" something (including time) or "borrow" something (most of the time permanently) from you. The only way I will ever do anything anymore for friends and family is if I don't expect anything in return regardless of what they offer or say they are going to reciprocate with. When you are young and willing to please or are gullible or naïve, it's very easy to give into the guilt or shaming if you don't give every last drop of blood, sweat and tears you have. Family is absolutely the worst for this too.. zero boundaries and zero empathy towards the person they are using.
THIS. they will absolutely understand that they have no special priority over other customers just because they know you. AND they will treat you like a friend regardless of any jobs of they need done
No, family is by bloodline. louis can get away with crap like that because he is young and thinks he knows everything. If he ever grows up and has a family of his own, he will see the pain when it turns out his own children will be a bit too like him.
(i know this is an old video but the F word struck a chord) My late teens and early 20s i was the free tech support/repair guy. I eventually lost it at about age 25 when my family continued to do the things i explicitly told them not to do (dont click on links in emails, dont shut down Ublock Origin, dont install mcafee,) and their response was always the same "I didnt do that, i was hacked." When the "well you were the last one who fixed it" response popped up, that was the last straw. Took 1200 miles and 10 years of separation for that bad blood to go away. Listen to the Rossmann. Dont fall for the Friends and Family trap.
So really late comment here but my fucking dad installed mcaffee and it fucked the computer so bad I had to manually reinstall windows 10. After fixing it the computer was completely different because there was so much "anti-virus" software on it. He also is one of those people who thinks Apple invented Bluetooth, was the first to use fingerprint biometrics and much more. It's insane to me since he's not a idiot when it's not related to smart devices/computers
Hey could you explain why not to use mcafee? Ive been using it forever mostly because my dad also uses it, but i know antivirus is only necessary if you regularly go to sketchy websites and click spam mail links. I like to game and i always notice in task manager there are about 20 open mcafee tasks even when i manually turn them off... it doesnt work. Ive always wanted to uninstall but have never gotten around to it. Even disabling the firewall or active scanning leaves about 15 processes still running. I have done some research and people say that the antivirus doesnt put too much load on the computer but im still doubtful. Can you please educate me i have been around computers for a while but still dont know very much.
@@the_guy9946 Well nowadays you don't even need a anti-virus besides the default one which would be Windows Defender. The reason why is because of how much work goes into keeping that off the internet. Google has a bunch of stuff in place for detection and lots of ways to report what they miss. Emais for example are relatively safe now. You can open emails that have known viruses in them and as long as you don't download or open any attachments your perfectly fine. If you use Ublock origin it blocks all the adds anyway so you don't have to worry about those. If you download stuff like Minecraft mods for example you need to make sure that what you downloaded is the right file. If your downloading a PDF but the file is named virus.jar it's obviously not the PDF you wanted. File extensions are always after the dot. Another easy way to figure out if your downloading the right thing is if it has the right name as well as file type. If your downloading something that's supposed to be called "Banana" but it's actually called "Orange" there's a possibility that's not what you want. A super easy way to make sure you never get viruses is to just not install the random file you got. You can basically ignore almost all my advice and just not install virus.exe. Also McAfee is such a pain to get rid of and that lends to it being suspicious. It'll reinstall itself if you don't delete all of it, sorta like a virus... I'd recommend you get rid of it and just not be stupid since it's "virus scans" don't even scan anything. The entire time my dad had it on the computer I was suspicious of the file names it kept claiming were doing bad stuff. So eventually I actually just looked for the file and guess what? Said file didn't even exist. McAfee is a very suspicious program although I don't have any solid evidence that they are harmful but they are definitely less helpful than windows defender. Easist way to delete it is going to your hard drive and searching for McAfee you'll want to just wipe all of it if you find it on your computer again that could be because it installed itself as a extension on each of your browsers. It's seriously a huge pain to get rid of it and because of that I simply cannot believe it's there to help out. Sorry for this mass of text but hopefully it's formatted OK seeing as I'm on mobile.
My father is a physician and people one thousand percent expect this. Except it’s more like they expect you to do house calls at the end of your 14 hour shift and call their pharmacy to give refills on a Saturday when they haven’t been seen in a year.
My friend fixes/builds computers when i asked him to build my latest one for me he said "30$ because you're a friend and I've known you my whole life" I decided to bargain with him and said "eh 30$ really man?" When he asked what was wrong I told him 30$ is too low and offered 50$ and offered to help him build it. We spent 2 hours making everything beautiful and doing some cable management. Afterwards i gave him 50$ and took him out for lunch on me. Never low ball anyone no matter what. (Ps. I bought all the parts for around 1500$ we just installed them)
Reminds me of a time my friend offered me his PSP in Jr high (when they had just come out) if I paid for him to go on some go carts at an amusement park we were at. I paid for his go carts and then gave him 70 bucks for the PSP cause I felt too shitty taking it without giving him more. Joke was on me. That piece of shit ended up getting addicted to pain pills and consistently stealing money from me, my girlfriend, his girlfriend, and every single one of his friends. I should have just stole his PSP from him in the first place.
Awsm Unicorn it sucks how people out there just prey on others for their happiness. Like oh my god. Let them live their life, you don’t have to come in and make them depressed.
never though I would spend 24minutes watching a video I got clickbaited for, and after that realizing that those were the 24 best minutes of advices I've never received.
this right here. they don't even have to be your friends at this point, they expect you to give them stuff for free just because you were drinking coffee at the same place as them lmaio
griizzlerhops Dude, you don’t even pay a penny to your employees, keep most of the income to yourself and still get triggered when someone asks you for something free?
@@blackeesh463 They are not. This doesn't mean they are fair to their employees though. They still keep most of the income to themselves. If you live in a developed country and own a business at all, you are considerably wealthy. You shouldn't get triggered when someone asks you if they could get a chocolate bar for free.
I totally agree with you! You’re a good guy, Louis I went to your store this year to try to fix my remote control for my tv. You tried to fix it, but the person who tried it before damaged the circuit board. I didn’t expect you were going to try to fix it for free. I asked you how much I owe you at the end after you showed me the board damaged and you told me : “NOTHING” You didn’t want to accept money from me. Of course I put some cash inside your “Tip” box. THANK YOU VERY MUCH! I value your knowledge and your time you spent trying to fix my remote.
In addition to this, I would like to add: volunteering someone else's services without asking them. Don't do it. It's not cool to start handing out obligations. If someone is willing to help, that's another story, but just because they have done it before, don't expect them to do it again. It depends on their schedule, their money situation, the closeness of the relationship, the reciprocity, etc. And if they say no (hopefully in a polite way), don't shame them for it. Do keep it in mind, though.
This. I have gotten in fights with my mother about this before. She gets offended when I tell her I'm an adult and she can't volunteer me like that. She literally tried doing it to me the other day and got upset when I told her that I wouldn't do it after being tired from work. I don't even do tech support. It was for something that I used to do 11 years ago but stopped doing. I ended up just giving her the contact of the person I used to work with for it and left it at that.
@@RAiNfORAiNbOW it may be tedious for the family but i think its nice. Even if you dont have the appointments at his actual office, "booking one" helps keep their (the family member/doctor's) mental health in good shape. They would be given an opportunity to actually step away from their job and be able to actually rest and stop thinking about work (which ive heard is already difficult for many doctors) and yet also allows them to enter back into it at need. Instead of the alternative which is to come home from work only to hear more work related questions from scared or confused/curious family members, the doctor in this question would never get a chance to truly rest amd therefore wont perform at peak when theyre actually needed on the field.
@@Nu_Wen From my perspective making an official appointment with your uncle sounds ridiculous - I would compare it to telling my mother to make an appointment. I am very close both with my direct but also more distant relatives. And if I was a doctor I would enjoy being helpful and making my family be privileged. I guess it all depends on how close you are. Maybe in america families aren't very close but here it's strange to be so cold
@@RAiNfORAiNbOW I'm pretty sure he meant with an actual doctor. Its also against what doctors are allowed to do to be the doctor of family I'm pretty sure.
@@RAiNfORAiNbOW dude, doctor have so much to handle, just being polite and make appointment when it's not that urgent is what you should do, sometimes the real "family" is not just about bloodline, if you really deserve it they will do it, just don't pressure them to do it
Reminds me of Eminem lyrics "All of a sudden I got 90-some cousins, a half brother and sister who never see me or even bothered to call until they saw me on TV. Now everyone's so happy and proud, I'm finally allowed to step foot in my girlfriend's house"
Been watching your stuff for easily over a year. Stumbled on this video, no idea how I missed it before.. Easily one of the best of yours I’ve watched. After having owned a body shop for 30+years, I can’t even put to words how much I can relate.
I don't ask my plumber friend to give my boiler a service and expect to not pay them, but for some unknown reason when it comes to IT people have no qualms with 'hey can you have a look at this for me quickly', it's strange. PS Louis keep up the good work, recently got hooked on your channel!
I used to eat lunch at this family restaurant. Six bucks for great lunch, and a buck tip. Then one day I accidentally give the guy a ten spot for tip. I wanted to ask for the tip back, but I didn't want look cheap so I let it go. The next day he give me a free drink. While I was eating, he came over to me, and started talking. I just wanted to eat in peace, but what do you say? "Could you please leave alone so I can eat." The next week he is eat lunch with me. Every day, week after week I eat lunch with an old Asian guy. I don't want to eat there anymore, but I know he is waiting for me. At Christmas he invited me to his home for dinner. He is holding my hand, and says he won't let go unless I promise to go. I tell him I will go. He has big family, and introduce me to them all. They all speak Chinese, then laugh after the introduction. We all set down to eat, and introduce me again. Then he goes into the story about how I give him a ten dollar tip, and acts out the story. Everyone laughs, and laughs. I guess he likes me, sort of, maybe. I go back to eating eating lunch with the guy. Can I back out? A couple of years after that he tells me he has cancer, and he going into the hospital so won't see him anymore. That night his wife ask me if I could do her a favor, and take food to her husband after work. I tell her it won't be a problem. He is in and out of the hospital, and have dinner with every night at the hospital. After he dies, his wife tells me I was his only friend, outside the family.
You should feel honored to know that he felt that way about you. I know that I can be an asshole at times. I might have a bad day, week or month. But I will always smile at strangers. I even go out of my way to help people. I don't do it to make myself feel better. I do it because, in spite of what a shithole the world is, it's the right thing to do. You never know, things change and you could be that man who was just grateful to think someone outside his family cared about him. Sure, I will troll people online at times, like many others do. But in the real world, I will listen to other people talk about their life, problems or whatever. You learn about life in ways you never thought you would. The worst F word I can think of is, family. You can always find a new friend, but you are stuck with family. I only count my immediate family these days. After my father died, I wrote off all uncles aunts and cousins. My dad did all sorts of favors for them. They didn't do anything for him. Very few even went to see him when he was ill. If a friend tries to guilt you, they are not a friend. I would have been very happy to have known that man you talked about. I doubt you have any friends that thought that highly of you, in spite of not knowing him that well.
As a kid in middle school, my classmates treated me like trash. I was suffering every day in school because they either pretended I didn't exist or treated me like I wasn't a person. But then, conveniently, whenever they need something from me, a signature, a pencil, a calculator, my fucking books and personal items, they get all nice and say "hey friend, can I get that?" as if they expect me to give them free shit after they treated me like less of a human being. Then I'm the asshole when I say no. As if I'm obligated to give anyone who treats me that way a god damn thing.
I remember being bullied relentlessly when I was in my last year of primary school (age 10-11). On the last day, suddenly everyone seemed so much more chilled out, and one of my bullies came up to me and said, "Oh well, I guess you're going to miss me." When I straight-up, flat-out said in response the singular word "No", his grinning face immediately fell. He tried a sudden snarl which I didn't flinch at, just gave up and slunk away, never to be seen again. I know it's not exactly the same thing, he didn't want anything from me (perhaps apart from some smug, last-word taunt?), but that was genuinely the most satisfying thing that happened that whole school year, and I still remember how he looked when that exchange was made.
as an artist, i've been subject to this bs. one time when i complied and drew my "friend" for free, i spent hours on drawing a detailed cartoon and when i showed it to her she twisted her face and said "i thought it would've looked more real"
wishing for talent \\\ also because someone draws or makes something for someone for free, it doesn’t mean they are going to do everything for anyone for free because they find it fun.
Once I drew a lion with 5-6 hours of work in a really realistic shape for someone I roughly knew but was invited to his birthday party. Well you can imagine what he said after I gave him the drawing I put all my heart into. "OK thanks." looking at it for 2 seconds, putting it aside, continued drinking. I was so uncomfortable. That was embarrassing. From this point I told myself I will only draw for me, for the people I really know or for money. :D
I wasn't thinking you were an asshole for a second. I thought you were very straightforward and honest about where your priorities are and I commend you for it. You need to set boundaries these days or people will just take advantage of you.
I remember that happening when I was in elementary and middle school. I would always just say " well gee if that small thing is what our friendship is worth, I dont wanna be your friend anymore"
Should add the B-word to your list, Buddy. I used to have a computer store of my own, i miss it all the time, we used to have customers come in and "Buddy!" us to try and get a deal. One repeat customer would "Hey Buddy!" when he needed something and always wanted a discount. A different customer, our best customer $20-$40k per year, would "buddy!" and it was great, he helped us move stuff, and even gave me a ride to work once when my car broke down, we loved doing things for him because he was a real Buddy!
I remember my mom was complaining about one of my friends who I loaned $100 so he could make rent. He didn't want my money. He complained about owing me. He tried to give it back when I handed him the bills. I told him no. I told him I'm doing this because he helped me before. My mom was complaining about him when she saw him drop by and hand me $150 back after he got his last paycheck at his old job and is now making salary. She asked him why she handed me money. I told her I helped him cover rent. She went off because I loaned someone money. My response was: He is as much family as you are. He is not only loyal, he goes above and beyond. He gave me more money than he owed me. When I was in the dorms, having a nervous breakdown at 3 am because I was going to miss a deadline for class, I tried calling you, I tried calling my sisters. But my friend who dropped out of college, who (at the time) was working 2 jobs to make ends meet, who has a severe blood condition which requires he has monthly infusions, HE was the one who called in sick on his morning shift, drove 2 hours with me on the phone the entire time, and took me to Denny's to calm me down. I had to leave the college for my own mental health. I work part time and live with my mom while I look for a legitimate job. I know why my mom was mad that I lended him $100. Not only did he try to refuse my money, he went above and beyond for me. If THAT is not family, then I don't know what is.
leah rose that’s not the point? He meant blood isn’t always thick. His friend drove two hours and missed a day of work to go hang out and take care of their friend. While his mother and siblings did nothing.
I absolutely agree with this content and have lived this 100%. You gotta draw boundaries with these types or they'll eat up your life while giving you nothing in return.
You’ve made me realize that I’ve been taking advantage of my dad and brother a lot. They are always willing to help me with my car. They’ll drop what they’re doing or spend a whole Saturday (their day off!) to work on my car for me or whatever little things I might need and I just never properly thanked them or appreciated what they did. I expected their help and they were always willing to give it, but what if they weren’t? What if they had said “not today. I’m busy.”? Would I have guilted them into doing something for me? Maybe. Anyway, the point is, it’s time to start saving for a big gift for each of them lol because I owe them a lot. I also need to be more mindful of when I’m asking favors of people and more appreciative. These are the people I love and this isn’t how I should be treating them.
Well said, I needed to hear this. I have "friends" who I've helped move houses multiple times, pick up/drop off at the airport and when I needed something they were always busy.
Respect is defined as treating something or someone better than others. It CAN'T be the default option. Well, without equally treating oneself worse than all others, anyway. There is a certain baseline way of treating people by default, yes. Try to assume the best in people and treat them well and whatnot. But that is in no way respect. Not at all.
The underestimated word "no". Real friends never expect you doing something for them, they have fun with you. Never seen a video with a higher concentration of realtalk.
Georg Friedrich Händel yeah .. When I ask friends and family for help I feel like it's not normal. Sometimes it is good to ask for help, but these are other more important things or little things .. And find manipulate sucks, honor is what fights forever.
Dude as a mechanic, I feel you on this 100% “Hey slav could you change the oil in my car? “ “Sure man, oil I use I charge $10/L and oil filter is $20 for your car. Your car needs 5L of oil + $20 for filter. $70 material + $50 labour. $120 please.” “Ohhh that’s too expensive for an oil change, could you give me mates rates” 🤦🏽♂️
To be fair he doesn't have to be a dick about it. He could just say "this is my rate, and this is the cost" and if he pushes and asks for free stuff then he can just explain and be like look, this is my profession. He's just kind of unreasonably an asshole.
@@Will-ud4wr The dude is just impatient with people. There is always a way to be the bigger person and be firm but not rude. Like he ripped into an acquaintance when he could have just politely said that he couldn't do the job for nothing, that the parts and labor would be $ __ and that he cant. Like he said, he "made him feel pretty small" it seems like he got off on it. Also his girlfriend. Isn't it a little harsh? This guy does not strike me as a kind man.
@@maxman1071 we dont know the whole story,the only thing we get out of this video is to be aware of who to value as "friend or family",he may be a rude guy,maybe not,we dont know him
My dad went through this with his parents and his family when he was younger, before I was born. He made sure to teach me this early on. During the custody battle he borrowed all of my christmas and birthday money gifted to me to help pay towards court costs always on the promise of paying me back. After my freshman year of highschool, I had already absolved the debt in my head. Rationalizing that I was a toddler and had no use for such money anyway, but my dad had kept track of the debt and had tacked on a generous interest rate for all of those years. After I had passed my freshman year, he made good on his promise with interest. That is what real family does. Sadly, some of my other family hasn't grasped this yet. I maintain my distance from them for this reason.
A lot of people are freeloaders and are completely unaware that what they are doing is rude. My advice is to drop people like that from your life at the earliest opportunity, they are not worth the aggravation.
"... are completely unaware that what they are doing is rude". I'd probably do the same thing but if we really wanted to make the world a little better, we would first experiment with a little "re-education" would we not? I'm sure a lot of people (and I'm not entirely innocent here) just need to be made aware. Like Louis has done to some degree to me just now.
MRH Not if they don’t want to change, no. As someone who is/was human trash for most of my life I sure hope I can change now that I’m trying to be a better person. Definitely still in the early stages of change but I hope in a few years i can finally be someone who I can be proud of.
From someone who also works retail IT and is far too often taken advantage of not just by clients but also by people I have the same blood-line to who are "Family" I absolutely needed this pep-talk. Thank you, Mr. Rossmann. Thank you.
i’m an artist and i can really relate to this. got a lot of friends and family who ask me to draw them commission-level stuff for free every time we meet up :/
@@azechase6597I'm an aviation technician in the making and I get this pretty bad too. They ask me to fix things that are practically unfixable without hundreds of dollars, or they would take hours. I'm also a knife enthusiast, and friends of my mom kept asking me to sharpen their knives for free. People are users.
“It won’t take you long” I spent 12 hours doing two designs for a so called friend that said he was willing to pay me for my time. I didn’t see a cent! My fault for not asking for it apparently...Ha! That was the last straw for friends and family.
the reason why he's different from everyone is that he doesn't use titles like that and lets people listen to the whole video on their own. He has quality content without needing those titles his videos speak for themselves
Older video but this applies so much to my life right now. I’ve been self employed for 10 years now & things have been going really well as of 3 years ago. It’s amazing how many people now refer to me as a “friend” usually accompanied by something I can do for them because we’re “friends”. These are people I was casually acquainted with or barely knew at all. None of these people were around when I was struggling & starting around. Changing my contact info seems to be in order.
The counterpoint to this is that there can also be non-toxic relationships with people who aren't shitty, and a healthy back and forth of favours between real friends is possible and normal. Cut out the leeches, but don't forget not everyone is a leech. It's all about keeping the scales balanced enough that there is no resentment.
i made a comment akin to this earlier on because i think the phrasing “what have you done for me?” makes it seem very selfish, but the actual issue and question is “how close are we actually?” which is what he described in the restaurant example. You’re completely right, back and forth favours are healthy, but you have to be close, and it has to be back and forth, not just one sided.
Exactly if my best friend was having trouble with his taxes I'd help him. If some random "acquaintance" just pretends to be my friend just so I can do his taxes I'd ask him how much he'd pay me for it. Either that or I'll tell him that I'm too busy.
moe oneonenineninezero I love you you love me Barney gave you HIV not from a needle not from a cut Barney got you up the butt! Lol nothing against you moe the Barney comment reminded me of this from years ago..
What your say is amazing. After watching this video I find I'm luckier than I thought, most of my friends and family are the good type. I try to be the good type as well. I'm always willing to help good kind people without any payback. You seem like a person who is doing well and dose not need much at the moment but I would be willing to help someone like you at any point.
"You wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire". This I shall remember the rest of my sad life.
@joshua2585 no shit Sherlock!
AD T so why did you comment that
@@luging2051 Because he found it to be noteworthy, wanted to express something he got from the video
@@milhouse901I bet you would piss on me if I was on fire❤🙏
@@sa.t.2507 Ya man
"How much for this?" - "5 galleons."
"How much for me?" - "5 galleons."
"But I'm your brother!" - "10 galleons."
Are you a wizard?
Most underrated comment!
Meanwhile Harry who give them the money to open the shop in the first place gets everything and anything he wants for free for the rest of his life. Yup. Loyalty matters more than blood.
@@TheOriginalMcJunior *most underrated comment of 2019
Appropriate reference
I expected clicking this video to watch a man to go off on people that say "fuck." Then I got great life lessons and got to see a man pour emotion and passion into a story, He is the modern Bob Ross ♡
Fried_ 3ggs rossman
Bob Rossman
I looked at the title and thought "ah shit he's coming for me"
Fried_ 3ggs Captain America already does that
There are no clients, only happy little customers.
You are clearly smarter than I am, it took me 45 years to figure this out.
It would have taken me a lifetime if it weren't for this video
@@EmileAI big facts
@@cherrynado yeah, i was gonna say the same. I found this out way before i was even in middle school.
Somebody hurt you
lol took me about 16
If you are a true friend, you support your man’s business and pay the full price.
Absolutely
@Ardhemus agree. But it depends on the person's circumstances and personality. I'm definitely a "trading favours" type person. I'm happy to and even enjoy doing stuff "free" for people in exchange for something they can do for me. Some people aren't like that tho: they prefer the other type, e.g. paying full price. Or something else - some people I haven't figured it out yet. Also someone might be really short of cash or time one year, they may not be able to or in the mood to work how they used to.
That is very correct. In fact, if you want free stuff, its the best way to do it. My mother is friends with a few repairmen similar to Louis where I live, she always made sure she tipped them and paid even for the simplest things, even stuff they wouldnt usually charge for. Whenever she needs, she has assistance on her PC or mine, and they throw a bunch of free stuff in, just because they want us to have it (the most extreme one was them giving her a free second-hand netbook they werent being able to sell).
If you want help, help others first, and you won't even have to ask for it.
Exactly.
@@faithful451 that’s the beauty of the free market. People are allowed to decide what is of most value to them and barter based on what they want. Sometimes the favor is worth more in the long run to people than the money
I used to be the dude that you could call at 3 am to help fix a flat tire. When my Mother died of a sudden heart attack only 2 of my dozens of friends showed up. I'm now the guy that doesn't answer the phone.
Might aswell cut all ties with the ones that didn't come
fix a flat tyre … go to a funeral … yes sure that's a fair comparison... in insane land!
how many of their mothers funerals did you go to?
@@fergusdenoon1255 he didn't compare fixing a flat tire and going to a funeral. He said that he used to be the kind of person you could call IN THE MIDDLE OF NIGHT to get help. Also, if I'm good enough friends with someone to call them IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT to fix my flat or I'm good enough friends with them to help them when they call me IN THE MIDDLE OF NIGHT it shouldn't be a great inconvenience to them to show up to a funeral. One is an active and sudden disruption and inconvenience and the other is something that you are given notice for weeks, even months in advance. Tell me, why is it insane to expect a friend to show up to an important even but not a cousin? I went to my Aunt's wedding when I was 5or so because we were, as family members, expected to go. I DIDN'T KNOW HER,I knew NOTHING ABOUT her. But it would have been callus and rude if I didn't attend it also happened MULTIPLE STATES AWAY. We had to drive there over the course of 2 days. But nobody thought doing that was crazy. So how completely emotionally numb do you have to be to think it's insane to be expected to go to YOUR FRIENDS MOTHER'S FUNERAL where you will spend 2-3 hours maybe 3-4 and then go home? From the sounds, you probably think it's insane to be expected to go to your BROTHER'S funeral.
@@fergusdenoon1255 You would be one of the ten others who didn't show up, eh?
@@enayatchoudhury5431 I'd be the one to ask for a little more information before making any assertions...
… are we under the impression his mother wanted them there … were they asked to attend… did they like his mother... did his mother like them, did his mother know them, did they know his mother, do they go to anyone's funerals, and... is assumption the mother of all fuck ups...
one's things for sure .. I wouldn't hijack my mothers funeral and make it all about ME ME ME! that would be a pure dick move.
I would be the one to leave this guy out in the cold as seemingly if you ask him to do something you're obligated to something of his choice in return although it's unclear if he even tells you what it is and maybe just assumes you should be there when he desires as a pure act of mind reading… I'm pretty sure his so called friends didn't make him come out and help them fix a tyre .. they just asked, and he agreed, that's how things work, what doesn't work is demanding they come out or you'll never speak to them again .. that's not really how friends act is it... he may claim that he no longer picks up the phone, but its just as likely there simply aren't any phone calls anymore because of the way he's treated them since his mothers funeral, we simply do not know...
but lets play assumptions and see where that gets us … so this guy (who's gone awfully quiet) gets phone calls and goes out at night and fixes peoples tyres, I would assume he owns a garage? which would mean he charges them for their tyre being fixed, he then calls them friends … so... he's crazy.
is assumption really the best point of reference to judge a story, probably not, is one opinion that maybe skewed the best form of evidence .. .probably not!
so,lets play devils advocate; if this guy invited his friends to his mothers funeral and they declined, that's fair enough, that's their choice, if he's punishing them for that choice he's a dick. If he invited them to his mothers funeral and they just didn't bother saying anything, then they are dicks and could have acted better, if he didn't invite them to his mothers funeral but assumed they'd be there despite the lack of invitation, he's a dick and his friends deserve an apology as for some reason it was apparent they were not wanted at the funeral due to the lack of invitation. I'm going with this guys a dick, just because he made his mothers funeral all about him which requires quite a twisted self involved self obsessed mind set, I'm just not into it.
To answer your question directly, I don't go to funerals, so to take that as a personal insult, is just basically illogical.
Louis Rossmann is literally a guy who repairs computers and gives life advice
I expect friends and family to ask for free $hit. What boils my blood is when strangers ask for your services in exchange for "exposure" or some other BS payment or plead poverty. Yeah, I can't afford a ferrari but I'm not asking ferrari reps to feel sorry for me.
@@BillClinton228 You must have a loose definition of friends. Either that or you're one of those jackasses yourselves who asks for discounts because you're "friends". Real friends always pay full price to support your business.
true
Next up: Why I dislike people who abuse the word "literally".
@@abominabletruthman In this case he literally is the guy who repair's computers and gives life advice word is used correctly.
I just found this channel. He doesn't fix computers. He fixes your life.
Rad Shiba aren’t we all computers
He does both
And also computers
@@CavinLee damn,
@Dreymon Green he's got even more friends
brings me to a quote my father got from a movie and continues to say to this day "blood makes you related, loyalty makes you family". The moment you aren't there for me, I'm not there for you. It's just that simple. I'm not going to disrupt my busy life to make yours better when you wouldn't do the same. People like that piss me off to no end. Very good video Louis.
If you install it for free, prepare to maintain it for free. I fell into this trap myself.
This is so true...
Been there. Built a PC for someone, I was maintaining that thing for several years. Never again. Always cleaning up crap they downloaded, never knew there were 327 different registry cleaners on the market, Every anti-virus software ad they came across they downloaded. oh and when they found out what "hit del to enter bios" was all about. 18 web browser tool bars all running and wanting to be the boss.
Yep..
I think this will be the one thing that keeps some retail stores around. Service after the sale is so important, but everyone thinks they can do everything themselves because they saw a UA-cam video about it 😂
Me too.
Omg same here. Ffs so true.
i thought this lad was gonna tell me off for cussing
HAH
me too, but it took a different turn
Same. I curse like a sailor.
You’re not the only crayon in the crayon box. lol
Fuck that. 😂😂😂
When my fiancée left me and I was working a shitty job, My bestfriend was in my corner, was a reference for me at a new job, and legit offered me a place to stay with him. I didn’t accept the offer of the place to say but he was there for me in ways my blood family never came close to.
And what’s crazy is that this guy tries to pay me for rides to the airport or for feeding his dog when he’s out of town or helping him put furniture together. Now he’s going to need school because he is going to be a doctor and I’m in a position to offer him and his new wife a home I own and usually rent out. We “fight” constantly about him insisting on paying me. I refused to accept any money.
This fucking guy just drops $600/month into an index fund and says “one day You can use it for your kids’ college or I’ll just give it to them to help out when they graduate college since the investment will have grown by then”
I’d still rather he just kept his money, but when he said that it blew me the fuck away.
What a homie
That's a friend you want to hold till the end. To keep him validated, make him pay you in property maintenance, some love for the siding and the grass, plants out front, maybe a new coat of paint in a couple rooms. He doesn't want charity but he wants some friendship and the love that comes from it.
what a fuckin' baller
I fixed my "familys" wifi, set up 3 computers, 2 phones and a printer and all I got was "Ah you are not completely useless..." I never helped them again.
Would have just reset Router configs, slightly unplug all phones/printers/routers/computers, brick computer's registry etc.
Too bad you couldn't have syskeyed their computers and locked the wifi.
That sort of shit boils my blood. I help a lot of my proper family out, and they look at me like I’m a wizard and are always grateful. I had people like you’re talking about in my life, not anymore.
People telling you to do spiteful shit, what’s the point? No need getting angry, or even, and causing yourself more stress. Just forget people like that and never help them again.
Its OK if its a joke and your the one thats in it, its another to be seriously condescending and horrible. I help family and I am the one making the joke "Told you am no completely useless" and the family is always the one to say that never thought that and tell me Im good :) Free biscuit (or packet)?
I also tell my uncles family that if you want me to do something u better slide me some cash or buy something for me. Never sell yourself short.
Give this man a Ted talk.
Ted talks are beneath him.
He's so much better than the garbage that's been on there.
@@Freakazoid12345 What's wrong with ted talks?
ted talk is no where near good enough
Matt Supertramp ted talks are just publicized intellectual masturbation. As sam hyde once said “pat yourselves on the back, I’m not going to stop until you’re all patting yourselves on the back”
ted talks make you pay them thousands just to speak at their events. its a scam. You should see people who have attended them talk about the behind the scenes of those "events"
I use to work with my uncle who was a contractor, he told me when he works for friends and gives them the bill or an estimate and they look at the price and say " I thought because we are friends you wouldn't charge me so much?", he said that he says to them " Well, I figured because we are friends you wouldn't mind paying a little extra."
I have used that line quite a few times since I became a contractor. lol
That’s a great line. I’m going to use that.
The "F" word. Well played Louis.
Totally click baited me but it's a good message.
Thanks, dude.
When I ran my lockshop I had a sign over the counter: "FRIENDS AND FAMILY PAY 29% MORE BECAUSE THEY WANT TO SEE US SUCCEED"
Love it and stealing it.
I'm stealing this too, BRILLIANT! lol
If they are real friends or family they will add another 21% on top of the 29% to top it up, for the added pressure
The sad thing is, it's not even impossible to trade service for service. My mom and step dad traded a $4000 painting job for full exterior and interior, for $2500 and first pick of a litter of dogs they were about to have. They were professional breeders, and based on how much attention my dog got throughout its life, I can definitely believe he was worth $1500.
If he would have been like hey, I can't pay $1k upfront for the cameras, but I can give you $300 upfront and give you and your staff a $1000 dollar tab of free meals for the labor and remaining price of the cameras. Of course, he would get this in writing, but that wouldn't be a bad deal if the food at the place was good. That said though, if hes trying to cut corners on cameras, his food probably wasn't that great.
BRILLIANT
Being someone who curses like a sailor i got kinda scared for a bit lol
Same here honestly, I could still do with reducing swearing though, the more it's used the less it means.
@@midas2092
I always found that all swearwords really express is the lack of a real insult. The best shots can be fired with utmost politeness and still cut deeper than any curse.
If you're swearing for emphasis... Well... I find that the swearwords rather serve to distract from the rest of the sentence, or make people stop listening. When people hear a sentence that is 50% fuck and shit, their brain tells them they've heard it a million times, and they don't even hear the other half unless they force themselves to pay attention.
And if you're swearing for catharsis... Whatever helps, helps. Fire at will. xD
(Bah, look at me lecturing... Never knew advice videos are contagious.)
I was wondering how he was going to complain about the F work when he has his middle finger up in half of his thumbnails 😂
@@christophersavignon4191 you should go to Glasgow
Werd me too
Mr Rossmann, When I started my business, My Grandfather (who was a business owner) sat me down and said at least one thing that really stuck with me. he said; "If your family and friends won't pay your prices how do you expect strangers to?"
I have saved your comment as an image on my phone. It is gold.
the girl being black was such a plot twist. expertly narrated
Your dad sounds like a gem. Respect to that man for raising you 🤘
People think blood matters, but it’s loyalty that matters.
F13RY0N5L4UGHT Blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.
Nah, I think it's respect.
@@ShortArmOfGod Well said. I'll be using that.
It's time for a fucking crusade. Loyalty and respect.
But loyalty is more important in my opinion, you cannot have only respect but not loyalty.
Blood is the most important thing
Being too helpful is actually self destructive; my dad always goes out all day doing things for other people and when he comes home he’s usually too tired to do any work around the house, and all that work stacks up and it’s rare that he gets any help from the people he spends all day with
tyler snider growing up means seeing the importance of taking care of yourself and your home before taking care of others.
Too much of anything is self-destructive.
tyler snider I used to do that too, now I just give people back the same energy they put into me. If you're never there for me, I'm never there for you, wish I realized this sooner.
@@mascotwithadinosaur9353 very wise. All about balance.
@@archivedaccount2000 I know it from my grandpa actually.He always says this and when I was little I didn't 100% believe him,but as I grew older I realised it pretty much goes for everything.
"She was black." That was a milk out the nose moment.
I was not expecting that
I lost my shit at that very moment
I read this as "Milk out of the noose" and was reeling from confusion for a minute. (I'm legally blind.)
My parents are the same way. They visited my brother and told him that he was living in a bad neighborhood and He should leave me there and come home with them. I asked why is it a bad neighborhood? My parents said "all those black people walking around and standing on the porches. I was shocked, they are black and hating on black people living in the city. Then I realized, they wanted me to go a "county school to avoid gangs" was a code word for " we want you to be in a school were you will have little interaction with black kids from the city". It broke me. Then I understood that Black people from the city means poor people. And btw, we were barely above poverty lines. Then I realized that my parents were raised spoiled brats by my grandparents. sad.
@@TotoLakay It's called colorism
We have a saying in Romania: "Frate, frate, da' brânza-i pe bani" - roughly "You may be my brother, but this cheese ain't free".
Thank you. I think I’ll use this saying from now on.
haha go get your own cheese
Nice!
perfect words
@@ctrlzme.6448 don't even translate it for them, just walk away afterwards
This is how photography works. Everyone invites my camera, but not me.
: (
Damn
I’ll invite you personally and you can bring your camera too.
@@trippybruh1592 made my day.
Wait a minute...
Says every swearword
UA-cam: No we don't demonetize this guy because he is great
as it should be
everyone liked that
Good call UA-cam
Badoat Lyf ..I hope that was a typo
Someone says gay
UA-cam: *DeMoNaTiZeD*
So I’ve been living in an RV owned by my boss because I had no job and no car so he offered me a place to stay while I got back on my feet. All he asked was that I clean up around the shop, make a fb page for the shop, and do any oil changes that come in. Over my time living here, I’ve overextended myself to show how much I appreciate what he has done such as doing some landscaping, painting, pressure washing the floor, washing his truck, randomly bringing him coffee, etc but everyday is starting to feel like he is taking me for granted to the point where in his mind he feels like he owns me. During my time here I got my driver’s license, got a car, got a job as a vehicle inspector at the same place I’ve been working. Today started off as a normal day, he was making some welds on an axle. Apparently, he was calling my name, but I was elsewhere putting my shoes on to go grab lunch w my mother. I come back to where he was working and is so infuriated that he made me an ultimatum that I either “help him” or “move out”. Well boys, today is the day I move out. If someone gives me something I appreciate it to the extreme and show how much it means to me, but when you start to hold it over my head as a means of manipulation, I no longer appreciate it nor want anything to do with you
seeing this comment 2 years after you made it. Hope your journey went well.
“Never sell your car to someone you know”.
This is very true
I dont sell anything that might break to friends and family. Old phone/console/pc/car/you name it. Im selling that to total strangers because I cba to deal with the hazzle in case something happens. 😂
It just gets awkward when you hit issues. A bit like working with your family.
Alternatively, never fix your dad's computer. The virus he downloads from a porn site the week after is totally YOUR fault.
@@jebemtigolaz yeah, my brother always complains about shit like that
Everyone thinks Louis repairs computers, but really he repairs our lives
Tries to.
I listen to more of his life videos than repair videos. :)
@Guerilla PSYOPS Congratulations! You're the biggest dickhead I've seen today!
@Guerilla PSYOPS now THAT was kinda cringe! Congratulations!
@Guerilla PSYOPS you're way to invested in some random comment from a random person. Make some tea, relax and have a nice evening
"THE GIRL WAS BLAAACK" I just spit out all of my water.
And that's when I made the Jerry Seinfeld connection
The story telling is on point
Top 10 anime plot twists
@@MrLeonLuffy I came to the comment section to see if anyone else caught that 🤣 if I wasn't looking at the tv I would have thought it was Jerry 🤣
That’s a top 10 anime plot twists if I’ve ever heard one
A dude I haven't talked to in like 10 years asked me to look at a broken audio compressor unit, last time I saw him he gave me a half a case of beer he didn't like but it was good beer. I told him to bring it over. I love this video, so much intelligent honesty. I once had a "friend" that knew i was unemployed offered me work, had me shoot and complicatedly edit videos, then expected me to be happy with the fact that he gave me some dab hits. Needless to say I don't talk to this person these days.
love him or hate him
he's splling facts
p e t a r S c a t m a n s w o r l d
love him or hate him
hes spling fcts
Just vomiting them on the floor
Wait, people actually hate him?
Happy Hydralisk bruh
I literally almost died from severe depression and 2 people out of my 30 "friends" at the time took two minutes to talk to me. Im still great friends with those 2 people 6 years later.
I hope all's well with you, or at least better
Hope ur doing good
Having a lot of friends is bad lol good thing I only got like 4 friends
Glad your ok now. Don’t let covid get you down, we all have to fight this together. ✌️
@@emocoffeedrinker you think you have four friends! If you have one real friend in life you are fortunate!!!
Ha, jokes on you, people dont ever ask me for anything because I can't do anything 😎
Calvinwitha K oh yeahyeah
please keep doing that
They ask me to Kms quite often tho 🤔
XD XD sammmmeee
@Mr. Blueberry you first
this was really profound for me honestly, made me realize im not treating my friends as well as i thought i was
“The truest repairman, will repair man”
Community hehe
I AM THE TRUEST REPAIRMAAAN
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The people who disliked this video are his "family and friends"
that's a lot of people
thadude1o1 I was thinking the same
Haider don’t forget friends and girlfriends/boyfriends
“I don't care about whose DNA has recombined with whose. When everything goes to hell, the people who stand by you without flinching--they are your family.”
― Jim Butcher, Proven Guilty
Who?
The only thing shared DNA does is allow others to know more ways to try to fuck you over !
Jeff Fish hell yeah Dresden Flies 😎
@@eliasmorales6950 100%
I've never felt the joy, of someone else, who has read the same series as you. Until this point.
But I don't remember that quote, maybe I wasn't paying attention.
Ah it was the #8 book, haven't gotten there yet.
I learned this lesson the hard way. This lesson is something people should be taught about when they are young so they don't fall for the guilt trips that family and friends will hit you with the second they "need" something (including time) or "borrow" something (most of the time permanently) from you. The only way I will ever do anything anymore for friends and family is if I don't expect anything in return regardless of what they offer or say they are going to reciprocate with. When you are young and willing to please or are gullible or naïve, it's very easy to give into the guilt or shaming if you don't give every last drop of blood, sweat and tears you have. Family is absolutely the worst for this too.. zero boundaries and zero empathy towards the person they are using.
At day, he fixes computer and phones.
At night he sleeps.
On his free time, he gives you great advice that changes your life for the better.
If your "friend" or "family member" truly cares, they will understand the value of your time and pay you your worth for your time. AND buy you a beer.
THIS. they will absolutely understand that they have no special priority over other customers just because they know you. AND they will treat you like a friend regardless of any jobs of they need done
Yes! Friends and family should want you to do well and not be a strain on you!
Agreed.
"People who claim they're your family because they share your bloodline, are not family."
& that's why I love you Louis. Real honesty.
No, family is by bloodline. louis can get away with crap like that because he is young and thinks he knows everything. If he ever grows up and has a family of his own, he will see the pain when it turns out his own children will be a bit too like him.
@@JPX7NGD It's like the difference between a house and a home. Who is a relative (as in related by blood) vs who is family.
Louis has gone from a man who is great at fixing electronics, to a man who is great at giving life advice. Cheers Louis.
bruh, this guy's repairing my laptop and giving me life advice. Man's a legend. respect +100
(i know this is an old video but the F word struck a chord)
My late teens and early 20s i was the free tech support/repair guy. I eventually lost it at about age 25 when my family continued to do the things i explicitly told them not to do (dont click on links in emails, dont shut down Ublock Origin, dont install mcafee,) and their response was always the same "I didnt do that, i was hacked." When the "well you were the last one who fixed it" response popped up, that was the last straw. Took 1200 miles and 10 years of separation for that bad blood to go away.
Listen to the Rossmann. Dont fall for the Friends and Family trap.
So really late comment here but my fucking dad installed mcaffee and it fucked the computer so bad I had to manually reinstall windows 10. After fixing it the computer was completely different because there was so much "anti-virus" software on it.
He also is one of those people who thinks Apple invented Bluetooth, was the first to use fingerprint biometrics and much more. It's insane to me since he's not a idiot when it's not related to smart devices/computers
Hey could you explain why not to use mcafee? Ive been using it forever mostly because my dad also uses it, but i know antivirus is only necessary if you regularly go to sketchy websites and click spam mail links. I like to game and i always notice in task manager there are about 20 open mcafee tasks even when i manually turn them off... it doesnt work. Ive always wanted to uninstall but have never gotten around to it. Even disabling the firewall or active scanning leaves about 15 processes still running. I have done some research and people say that the antivirus doesnt put too much load on the computer but im still doubtful. Can you please educate me i have been around computers for a while but still dont know very much.
@@the_guy9946 Well nowadays you don't even need a anti-virus besides the default one which would be Windows Defender. The reason why is because of how much work goes into keeping that off the internet. Google has a bunch of stuff in place for detection and lots of ways to report what they miss. Emais for example are relatively safe now. You can open emails that have known viruses in them and as long as you don't download or open any attachments your perfectly fine.
If you use Ublock origin it blocks all the adds anyway so you don't have to worry about those. If you download stuff like Minecraft mods for example you need to make sure that what you downloaded is the right file. If your downloading a PDF but the file is named virus.jar it's obviously not the PDF you wanted. File extensions are always after the dot.
Another easy way to figure out if your downloading the right thing is if it has the right name as well as file type. If your downloading something that's supposed to be called "Banana" but it's actually called "Orange" there's a possibility that's not what you want. A super easy way to make sure you never get viruses is to just not install the random file you got. You can basically ignore almost all my advice and just not install virus.exe.
Also McAfee is such a pain to get rid of and that lends to it being suspicious. It'll reinstall itself if you don't delete all of it, sorta like a virus... I'd recommend you get rid of it and just not be stupid since it's "virus scans" don't even scan anything.
The entire time my dad had it on the computer I was suspicious of the file names it kept claiming were doing bad stuff. So eventually I actually just looked for the file and guess what? Said file didn't even exist. McAfee is a very suspicious program although I don't have any solid evidence that they are harmful but they are definitely less helpful than windows defender.
Easist way to delete it is going to your hard drive and searching for McAfee you'll want to just wipe all of it if you find it on your computer again that could be because it installed itself as a extension on each of your browsers. It's seriously a huge pain to get rid of it and because of that I simply cannot believe it's there to help out.
Sorry for this mass of text but hopefully it's formatted OK seeing as I'm on mobile.
Oliver Traister thank you, Im getting a new pc soon and I’ll never install mcafee again nor use another antivirus.
Samuel Mendoza other antiviruses are fine to use if they’re actually antiviruses, mcafee is pretty much a virus itself
I've often said that being computer savvy is like being a doctor whose family expects free prostate exams.
Can I jump in on the free prostate exam?
Screw the exam I just want a free prostate. Anyone looking to give one away?
Eddie I don’t have an extra one laying around but could I interest you in 13 kidneys
@@Ashleigh_Alexander hey man I requested a prostate for a reason, I already have 3 functional kidneys. Thanks for the offer though :)
My father is a physician and people one thousand percent expect this. Except it’s more like they expect you to do house calls at the end of your 14 hour shift and call their pharmacy to give refills on a Saturday when they haven’t been seen in a year.
Girls at work that I’ve never spent a second outside of work with do that “friend” shit to me all the time trying to manipulate me, I hate them
My friend fixes/builds computers when i asked him to build my latest one for me he said "30$ because you're a friend and I've known you my whole life" I decided to bargain with him and said "eh 30$ really man?" When he asked what was wrong I told him 30$ is too low and offered 50$ and offered to help him build it. We spent 2 hours making everything beautiful and doing some cable management. Afterwards i gave him 50$ and took him out for lunch on me. Never low ball anyone no matter what.
(Ps. I bought all the parts for around 1500$ we just installed them)
Nice man, what are your pc specs?
Reminds me of a time my friend offered me his PSP in Jr high (when they had just come out) if I paid for him to go on some go carts at an amusement park we were at. I paid for his go carts and then gave him 70 bucks for the PSP cause I felt too shitty taking it without giving him more.
Joke was on me. That piece of shit ended up getting addicted to pain pills and consistently stealing money from me, my girlfriend, his girlfriend, and every single one of his friends. I should have just stole his PSP from him in the first place.
@@hateatchee7508 You either do good with no regret or no good at all
post pc specs bro
@@ilynomad gtx 1060, i78700, 16gb DDR4, Corsair 850W power supply, I can't remember the name of the motherboard I'd have to check when I got home
"The trouble is not in dying for a friend, but in finding a friend worth dying for." ~Mark Twain
"I'm your friend/family, so I want you to disadvantage yourself."
Awsm Unicorn it sucks how people out there just prey on others for their happiness.
Like oh my god. Let them live their life, you don’t have to come in and make them depressed.
@@Sunny-vb2dd hah, as if that thought would ever go through their heads
never though I would spend 24minutes watching a video I got clickbaited for, and after that realizing that those were the 24 best minutes of advices I've never received.
LouisLifeTips
+GolfWang This needs to happen
+GolfWang Dr. Louis
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Thanks :) You made my evening.
The worst f word, as a business owner, is free. Everyone thinks I owe them free stuff just because they see me outside of my business.
this right here. they don't even have to be your friends at this point, they expect you to give them stuff for free just because you were drinking coffee at the same place as them lmaio
for real man, like i DONT know you, youre nothing more than a customer to me. (Unless you wanna pay my taxes or something)
griizzlerhops Dude, you don’t even pay a penny to your employees, keep most of the income to yourself and still get triggered when someone asks you for something free?
@@koronethealmightydog616 you do realize local small business owners and Jeff Bezos aren't the same thing right?
@@blackeesh463 They are not. This doesn't mean they are fair to their employees though. They still keep most of the income to themselves. If you live in a developed country and own a business at all, you are considerably wealthy. You shouldn't get triggered when someone asks you if they could get a chocolate bar for free.
I totally agree with you!
You’re a good guy, Louis
I went to your store this year to try to fix my remote control for my tv. You tried to fix it, but the person who tried it before damaged the circuit board. I didn’t expect you were going to try to fix it for free. I asked you how much I owe you at the end after you showed me the board damaged and you told me : “NOTHING” You didn’t want to accept money from me. Of course I put some cash inside your “Tip” box. THANK YOU VERY MUCH! I value your knowledge and your time you spent trying to fix my remote.
In addition to this, I would like to add: volunteering someone else's services without asking them. Don't do it. It's not cool to start handing out obligations. If someone is willing to help, that's another story, but just because they have done it before, don't expect them to do it again. It depends on their schedule, their money situation, the closeness of the relationship, the reciprocity, etc. And if they say no (hopefully in a polite way), don't shame them for it. Do keep it in mind, though.
This. I have gotten in fights with my mother about this before. She gets offended when I tell her I'm an adult and she can't volunteer me like that. She literally tried doing it to me the other day and got upset when I told her that I wouldn't do it after being tired from work. I don't even do tech support. It was for something that I used to do 11 years ago but stopped doing. I ended up just giving her the contact of the person I used to work with for it and left it at that.
My uncle is a doctor, and we don't ask him medical questions on family days.
We make an actual appointment.
Thats fucking stupid
@@RAiNfORAiNbOW it may be tedious for the family but i think its nice.
Even if you dont have the appointments at his actual office, "booking one" helps keep their (the family member/doctor's) mental health in good shape. They would be given an opportunity to actually step away from their job and be able to actually rest and stop thinking about work (which ive heard is already difficult for many doctors) and yet also allows them to enter back into it at need. Instead of the alternative which is to come home from work only to hear more work related questions from scared or confused/curious family members, the doctor in this question would never get a chance to truly rest amd therefore wont perform at peak when theyre actually needed on the field.
@@Nu_Wen From my perspective making an official appointment with your uncle sounds ridiculous - I would compare it to telling my mother to make an appointment. I am very close both with my direct but also more distant relatives. And if I was a doctor I would enjoy being helpful and making my family be privileged.
I guess it all depends on how close you are. Maybe in america families aren't very close but here it's strange to be so cold
@@RAiNfORAiNbOW I'm pretty sure he meant with an actual doctor. Its also against what doctors are allowed to do to be the doctor of family I'm pretty sure.
@@RAiNfORAiNbOW dude, doctor have so much to handle, just being polite and make appointment when it's not that urgent is what you should do, sometimes the real "family" is not just about bloodline, if you really deserve it they will do it, just don't pressure them to do it
This sounds like a supervillans speech that he gives to the trapped super hero as his nuclear missile heads towards the city
Hahaha... He's definitely on trajectory to become a super-villain. And you know he has the brains to build a Deathstar.
Parts of it does remind me of Syndrome's monologue
Damn... The worst thing is that he's relatable.
@@horvathbenedek3596 Yeah. Thats usually how good villains become memorable.
@@TJim-vd3jn He's going to build an iDeath with the Apple's failed hardware he has lying around.
4:30
That's when I realized this isn't about "fuck".
Should've titled the video "Scumbag uncle"
you're slow; I realized it more than 2 minutes earlier
🌍 Mister No I don't think he's got a scumbag uncles he just doesn't realize he's asking a lot
It was sooner for me, the moment he said uncle I knew.
"If blood is thicker than water, then let the river in." -Radical Face
"The blood of the covenant is thicker then the water of the womb."
Mango chutney is thicker than blood.
Baljeet
Phineas and ferb@@vaibhavdabwalv1
This is very true, many friends and family are the F word, Freeloaders.
@luuk groot OK
"Oh, don't worry I'll pay you."
1 day latter after they pay you: "Oh, I can't believe he actually took my money!"
It they ever come up with it
@@Alexander_l322 if*
@@Alexander_l322 They never do.
If they did, they'd likely bitch about it like Dan said, but it remains an unobserved assumption.
or they hold it against you for the rest of your life
@@matthewstevenson2925 *AND the hold it against you...
Me: *wins $1Million lottery*
Relative you didnt even meet before: Hello, its me your uncle would you mind giving me some money?
and people sue for that money and often win
Reminds me of Eminem lyrics "All of a sudden I got 90-some cousins, a half brother and sister who never see me or even bothered to call until they saw me on TV. Now everyone's so happy and proud, I'm finally allowed to step foot in my girlfriend's house"
@@TooBokoo yep that sounds about right
How about no. Click
Invest and save, if you actually did win a milly
Been watching your stuff for easily over a year. Stumbled on this video, no idea how I missed it before..
Easily one of the best of yours I’ve watched. After having owned a body shop for 30+years, I can’t even put to words how much I can relate.
Computer work is the least respected skill ever.
try teaching how to do anything on computers beyond the tweeterz and faceboks
I don't ask my plumber friend to give my boiler a service and expect to not pay them, but for some unknown reason when it comes to IT people have no qualms with 'hey can you have a look at this for me quickly', it's strange. PS Louis keep up the good work, recently got hooked on your channel!
Probably cause people think it's easy cause they sit at a desk to fix it.
Strange argument. Lawyers also work at the desk, and don't even have to use expensive tools, but are they being treated the same way?
I think the visual art industry falls under that tree too unforuntately. :(
I used to eat lunch at this family restaurant. Six bucks for great lunch, and a buck tip. Then one day I accidentally give the guy a ten spot for tip. I wanted to ask for the tip back, but I didn't want look cheap so I let it go. The next day he give me a free drink. While I was eating, he came over to me, and started talking. I just wanted to eat in peace, but what do you say? "Could you please leave alone so I can eat." The next week he is eat lunch with me. Every day, week after week I eat lunch with an old Asian guy. I don't want to eat there anymore, but I know he is waiting for me. At Christmas he invited me to his home for dinner. He is holding my hand, and says he won't let go unless I promise to go. I tell him I will go. He has big family, and introduce me to them all. They all speak Chinese, then laugh after the introduction. We all set down to eat, and introduce me again. Then he goes into the story about how I give him a ten dollar tip, and acts out the story. Everyone laughs, and laughs. I guess he likes me, sort of, maybe. I go back to eating eating lunch with the guy. Can I back out? A couple of years after that he tells me he has cancer, and he going into the hospital so won't see him anymore. That night his wife ask me if I could do her a favor, and take food to her husband after work. I tell her it won't be a problem. He is in and out of the hospital, and have dinner with every night at the hospital. After he dies, his wife tells me I was his only friend, outside the family.
+Kiki Lang That is some story! I feel bad for the guy now.
You should feel honored to know that he felt that way about you. I know that I can be an asshole at times. I might have a bad day, week or month. But I will always smile at strangers. I even go out of my way to help people. I don't do it to make myself feel better. I do it because, in spite of what a shithole the world is, it's the right thing to do. You never know, things change and you could be that man who was just grateful to think someone outside his family cared about him. Sure, I will troll people online at times, like many others do. But in the real world, I will listen to other people talk about their life, problems or whatever. You learn about life in ways you never thought you would. The worst F word I can think of is, family. You can always find a new friend, but you are stuck with family. I only count my immediate family these days. After my father died, I wrote off all uncles aunts and cousins. My dad did all sorts of favors for them. They didn't do anything for him. Very few even went to see him when he was ill. If a friend tries to guilt you, they are not a friend. I would have been very happy to have known that man you talked about. I doubt you have any friends that thought that highly of you, in spite of not knowing him that well.
Damn, I thought I was reading a copy pasta.
a bit strange but he only wanted company and the implied kindness from the tip gave him the opening. kinda sad.
@@joshbrucks he probably just thought op gave him a 10 dollar tip because he liked the guy
If a new “friend” comes to you with your hand out, it should be to help you up when you fall down.
Appreciate your straight up honesty. You’re a solid guy, telling it like it is!
As a kid in middle school, my classmates treated me like trash. I was suffering every day in school because they either pretended I didn't exist or treated me like I wasn't a person.
But then, conveniently, whenever they need something from me, a signature, a pencil, a calculator, my fucking books and personal items, they get all nice and say "hey friend, can I get that?" as if they expect me to give them free shit after they treated me like less of a human being.
Then I'm the asshole when I say no. As if I'm obligated to give anyone who treats me that way a god damn thing.
I remember being bullied relentlessly when I was in my last year of primary school (age 10-11). On the last day, suddenly everyone seemed so much more chilled out, and one of my bullies came up to me and said, "Oh well, I guess you're going to miss me." When I straight-up, flat-out said in response the singular word "No", his grinning face immediately fell. He tried a sudden snarl which I didn't flinch at, just gave up and slunk away, never to be seen again. I know it's not exactly the same thing, he didn't want anything from me (perhaps apart from some smug, last-word taunt?), but that was genuinely the most satisfying thing that happened that whole school year, and I still remember how he looked when that exchange was made.
haha nerd
@@hostiusasinhostilityhostil7853- that bully sounds scary like a budding narcissist.
@I C cringeeeeee
@I C Oh shut the fuck up you fucking asshole.
as an artist, i've been subject to this bs. one time when i complied and drew my "friend" for free, i spent hours on drawing a detailed cartoon and when i showed it to her she twisted her face and said "i thought it would've looked more real"
wishing for talent \\\ also because someone draws or makes something for someone for free, it doesn’t mean they are going to do everything for anyone for free because they find it fun.
Feel bad for you (no sarcasm). Next time tell em to fuck off.
That one hit in the feels .
This one hurt
Once I drew a lion with 5-6 hours of work in a really realistic shape for someone I roughly knew but was invited to his birthday party. Well you can imagine what he said after I gave him the drawing I put all my heart into.
"OK thanks." looking at it for 2 seconds, putting it aside, continued drinking.
I was so uncomfortable. That was embarrassing. From this point I told myself I will only draw for me, for the people I really know or for money. :D
when you are tech smart enough to run a business, but also emotionally smart enough to qualify as a sage. wholesome content.
I did not expect you to say sage 😂 made my day, thanks
I wasn't thinking you were an asshole for a second. I thought you were very straightforward and honest about where your priorities are and I commend you for it. You need to set boundaries these days or people will just take advantage of you.
I'm having 2nd grade flashbacks
"Give me that [thing] or I won't be your friend anymore"
"If you do [this] then I'll be your friend"
I remember that happening when I was in elementary and middle school. I would always just say " well gee if that small thing is what our friendship is worth, I dont wanna be your friend anymore"
Should add the B-word to your list, Buddy. I used to have a computer store of my own, i miss it all the time, we used to have customers come in and "Buddy!" us to try and get a deal. One repeat customer would "Hey Buddy!" when he needed something and always wanted a discount. A different customer, our best customer $20-$40k per year, would "buddy!" and it was great, he helped us move stuff, and even gave me a ride to work once when my car broke down, we loved doing things for him because he was a real Buddy!
pdxminecraft Is that the Canadian one? You're not my friend, buddy . . . Etc : P. The UK gets 'ite mate. : /
You're not my buddy guy.
@@Nitrogang you're not my friend, pal.
You're not my pal buddy
@@XDbored1 you're not my buddy guy.
I remember my mom was complaining about one of my friends who I loaned $100 so he could make rent. He didn't want my money. He complained about owing me. He tried to give it back when I handed him the bills. I told him no. I told him I'm doing this because he helped me before.
My mom was complaining about him when she saw him drop by and hand me $150 back after he got his last paycheck at his old job and is now making salary. She asked him why she handed me money. I told her I helped him cover rent. She went off because I loaned someone money.
My response was: He is as much family as you are. He is not only loyal, he goes above and beyond. He gave me more money than he owed me. When I was in the dorms, having a nervous breakdown at 3 am because I was going to miss a deadline for class, I tried calling you, I tried calling my sisters. But my friend who dropped out of college, who (at the time) was working 2 jobs to make ends meet, who has a severe blood condition which requires he has monthly infusions, HE was the one who called in sick on his morning shift, drove 2 hours with me on the phone the entire time, and took me to Denny's to calm me down.
I had to leave the college for my own mental health. I work part time and live with my mom while I look for a legitimate job. I know why my mom was mad that I lended him $100. Not only did he try to refuse my money, he went above and beyond for me. If THAT is not family, then I don't know what is.
If it sparks your interest at all I would recommend trying to get into your local electricians union. Btw great story
Moms don’t typically get that... it’s outside the home behavior that a young man should conceal when inside the home
@@ThatCreeNative1 Don't catch smallpox
leah rose that’s not the point? He meant blood isn’t always thick. His friend drove two hours and missed a day of work to go hang out and take care of their friend. While his mother and siblings did nothing.
Bruh you got a really good friend.
I absolutely agree with this content and have lived this 100%. You gotta draw boundaries with these types or they'll eat up your life while giving you nothing in return.
You’ve made me realize that I’ve been taking advantage of my dad and brother a lot. They are always willing to help me with my car. They’ll drop what they’re doing or spend a whole Saturday (their day off!) to work on my car for me or whatever little things I might need and I just never properly thanked them or appreciated what they did. I expected their help and they were always willing to give it, but what if they weren’t? What if they had said “not today. I’m busy.”? Would I have guilted them into doing something for me? Maybe.
Anyway, the point is, it’s time to start saving for a big gift for each of them lol because I owe them a lot. I also need to be more mindful of when I’m asking favors of people and more appreciative. These are the people I love and this isn’t how I should be treating them.
Your appreciative gift will surely mean a lot to them.
Sara Wawa 👏👏👏👏👏
Good for you for admitting that. That takes courage.
19:13 "WHEN YOU ARE BLACK!!!!!"
That twist was AMAZING lmao
haven't spoken to my family since 2008. totally agree with you 100 on the real "F" word.
Douglas Norton bro whats your story
Douglas Norton ay man what happened
Yeah wait what happened
Goat!
What's up
Well said, I needed to hear this. I have "friends" who I've helped move houses multiple times, pick up/drop off at the airport and when I needed something they were always busy.
Respect is not given, it is earned. And you have earned mine today.
Respect is the default option. But is easily lost.
Respect is defined as treating something or someone better than others. It CAN'T be the default option. Well, without equally treating oneself worse than all others, anyway.
There is a certain baseline way of treating people by default, yes. Try to assume the best in people and treat them well and whatnot. But that is in no way respect. Not at all.
@@Dottlet1 I don't know what dictionary you pull THAT from but ...no, that's not what it means.
The underestimated word "no".
Real friends never expect you doing something for them, they have fun with you. Never seen a video with a higher concentration of realtalk.
Georg Friedrich Händel yeah ..
When I ask friends and family for help I feel like it's not normal. Sometimes it is good to ask for help, but these are other more important things or little things ..
And find manipulate sucks, honor is what fights forever.
Plot twist: That "friend" was Linus.
At least linus paid for him as popularity -> subs -> views -> ad money. And that's not a small amount
Plot twist #2: louis has ads off
Linus actually paid him. Just watch the video.
also the i mac video, *linus is that friend* linus got help, and louis got experience
@@turtleb01 cause louis doesnt want to bother us watching his great and godsent content
Dude as a mechanic, I feel you on this 100%
“Hey slav could you change the oil in my car? “
“Sure man, oil I use I charge $10/L and oil filter is $20 for your car. Your car needs 5L of oil + $20 for filter. $70 material + $50 labour. $120 please.”
“Ohhh that’s too expensive for an oil change, could you give me mates rates” 🤦🏽♂️
This dudes uncle watching this video:
😶
Good
To be fair he doesn't have to be a dick about it. He could just say "this is my rate, and this is the cost" and if he pushes and asks for free stuff then he can just explain and be like look, this is my profession. He's just kind of unreasonably an asshole.
Max Manganis If you think he’s being unreasonable, you should probably rewatch the video.
@@Will-ud4wr The dude is just impatient with people. There is always a way to be the bigger person and be firm but not rude. Like he ripped into an acquaintance when he could have just politely said that he couldn't do the job for nothing, that the parts and labor would be $ __ and that he cant. Like he said, he "made him feel pretty small" it seems like he got off on it. Also his girlfriend. Isn't it a little harsh? This guy does not strike me as a kind man.
@@maxman1071 we dont know the whole story,the only thing we get out of this video is to be aware of who to value as "friend or family",he may be a rude guy,maybe not,we dont know him
Someone: “hi friend!”
Louis: *HOW DARE YOOOUUUUUUUU*
Yo is your name actually Ocean?
Ocean DiGregorio nah XD
Damn Haha sorry thought I found another ocean.
Ocean DiGregorio lmao
@@14vatochongo Don't worry there's plenty of fish in the... Ocean.
My dad went through this with his parents and his family when he was younger, before I was born. He made sure to teach me this early on.
During the custody battle he borrowed all of my christmas and birthday money gifted to me to help pay towards court costs always on the promise of paying me back.
After my freshman year of highschool, I had already absolved the debt in my head. Rationalizing that I was a toddler and had no use for such money anyway, but my dad had kept track of the debt and had tacked on a generous interest rate for all of those years. After I had passed my freshman year, he made good on his promise with interest. That is what real family does.
Sadly, some of my other family hasn't grasped this yet. I maintain my distance from them for this reason.
Your father its a real human
Your father is swag😎😎
wtf how much money was gifted to you as a 2 year old
@@baldanders about 200 bucks, idk what my family was thinking
My dad added on a generous amount of interest, too, by the time he paid me back.
Damn who would divorce a solid guy like that
You’re a comedian the delivery of that joke was beautiful
I clicked this video to see wtf this guys was on about. I left subscribed this is one of the best videos I have watched in 2018
Strange. Per these comments, I tend to think the opposite, and think the other videos are better.
@@GrubKiller436 Okay
T'was an old username and I'll change it soon. Per what comments?
A lot of people are freeloaders and are completely unaware that what they are doing is rude. My advice is to drop people like that from your life at the earliest opportunity, they are not worth the aggravation.
"... are completely unaware that what they are doing is rude". I'd probably do the same thing but if we really wanted to make the world a little better, we would first experiment with a little "re-education" would we not? I'm sure a lot of people (and I'm not entirely innocent here) just need to be made aware. Like Louis has done to some degree to me just now.
@@mrgreggles998 I personally don't have time to re-educate a grown man/woman. a kid or teen, perhaps, but an adult is not going to change.
They are aware but they just dont care
MRH Not if they don’t want to change, no. As someone who is/was human trash for most of my life I sure hope I can change now that I’m trying to be a better person. Definitely still in the early stages of change but I hope in a few years i can finally be someone who I can be proud of.
Expect when its your brother and you have to live with it for 18 years
I feel sad inside, knowing I am the bad friend you mean. :( I must learn to be better.. Thank you.
It's great to recognize it but even better to actually do something about it, if you would
@@m.a.g8768 Lol k. It's the internet, he didn't have to say anything in the first place dick. That's as good as it gets out here.
Ben Carmichael Did you... actually mean anything by that or are you just trying to sound edgy?
LMAO
@@m.a.g8768 Writing words is bad? Somehow he can't do both? You can get off your high horse pls thx
From someone who also works retail IT and is far too often taken advantage of not just by clients but also by people I have the same blood-line to who are "Family" I absolutely needed this pep-talk. Thank you, Mr. Rossmann. Thank you.
i’m an artist and i can really relate to this. got a lot of friends and family who ask me to draw them commission-level stuff for free every time we meet up :/
I feel like Artists and tech workers get this the worst. People really don't understand just how much work you guys actually do.
@@azechase6597I'm an aviation technician in the making and I get this pretty bad too. They ask me to fix things that are practically unfixable without hundreds of dollars, or they would take hours. I'm also a knife enthusiast, and friends of my mom kept asking me to sharpen their knives for free. People are users.
@@DROGOC0P Sharpening a knife isn't even that hard actually. Just show them how to do it once and be done with it.
@@ingratus8160 That the thing, they DON'T want to do it themselves.
“It won’t take you long” I spent 12 hours doing two designs for a so called friend that said he was willing to pay me for my time. I didn’t see a cent! My fault for not asking for it apparently...Ha! That was the last straw for friends and family.
this should just be titled “EXPOSING MY UNCLE (NOT CLICKBAIT)”
*Cancel this man WATCH TILL THE END*
The "NOT CLICKBAIT" part always kills me 😂☠☠
Red arrows.....
Red arrows.....
Everywhere.....
Red arrows.....
pofa *GONE WRONG* ( GONE SEXUAL)
the reason why he's different from everyone is that he doesn't use titles like that and lets people listen to the whole video on their own. He has quality content without needing those titles his videos speak for themselves
Having such "friends" is still better than having such a "family": Friends can be chosen, Family not, but you can get rid of both of them.
Through murder 🤝🙌
@@DavidShiel4 lemo xd
F i r e
by get rid of... you mean...
Gotcha ;) loud and clear. I'll make it quick. Give me until Sunday.
For the right amount of money
Older video but this applies so much to my life right now. I’ve been self employed for 10 years now & things have been going really well as of 3 years ago. It’s amazing how many people now refer to me as a “friend” usually accompanied by something I can do for them because we’re “friends”. These are people I was casually acquainted with or barely knew at all. None of these people were around when I was struggling & starting around. Changing my contact info seems to be in order.
The counterpoint to this is that there can also be non-toxic relationships with people who aren't shitty, and a healthy back and forth of favours between real friends is possible and normal.
Cut out the leeches, but don't forget not everyone is a leech.
It's all about keeping the scales balanced enough that there is no resentment.
i made a comment akin to this earlier on because i think the phrasing “what have you done for me?” makes it seem very selfish, but the actual issue and question is “how close are we actually?” which is what he described in the restaurant example.
You’re completely right, back and forth favours are healthy, but you have to be close, and it has to be back and forth, not just one sided.
Serenade O That seems awfully cynical. Who hurt you?
Exactly
Exactly if my best friend was having trouble with his taxes I'd help him. If some random "acquaintance" just pretends to be my friend just so I can do his taxes I'd ask him how much he'd pay me for it. Either that or I'll tell him that I'm too busy.
Sorry you missed the point - he says real friends support each other
I like your way of measuring time. "This probably came out before i could legally drink."
The "legally" part should be emphasized.
Louis is like Barney the Dinosaur, they both teach you about friendship
moe oneonenineninezero I love you you love me Barney gave you HIV not from a needle not from a cut Barney got you up the butt!
Lol nothing against you moe the Barney comment reminded me of this from years ago..
What your say is amazing. After watching this video I find I'm luckier than I thought, most of my friends and family are the good type. I try to be the good type as well. I'm always willing to help good kind people without any payback. You seem like a person who is doing well and dose not need much at the moment but I would be willing to help someone like you at any point.