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The inclination to view others as "the enemy" an all-consuming, life destroying, force I observe particularly in people who have had negative childhood experiences. I believe nothing can be resolved until this is acknowledged and dealt with.
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The moment I realize that getting proper psychological insight from a random electronics repair guy on the internet is more probable than getting it from all the so-called psychologists that I have met in my life...
The truth that hurts
I used to look up to this guy before andrew tate appear. Louis is awesome!
@@enmarzz tf you mean "before andrew tate"
@@redrumthebum sigh..read again
@@enmarzz sorry, i think i misunderstood your sentence. do you mean something like, "i used to look up to Louis Rossmann, not like Andrew Tate." cuz "before andrew tate" implies you look up to him. again, sorry hehe
The video should be called
Repairing Your Life Without Soldering Iron
With a pinch of flux made out of reality
yes
Beautiful
This makes me want to see life repair with one. That sounds dramatic
But when you add soldering you'll be elevated into higher realms of consciousness
I was lucky enough to have a neighbor that called Child Services. To this day, I am grateful, and I now know how to react to the same situation.
When I first found your channel I was hesitant I almost hated it and forced myself to watch it and now that I revisit it everything you said I can relate to I'm not gonna be mad at myself anymore I'm gonna love myself and try to improve myself. I just wanted to say thank you for making these videos
I hope the best for you, and am curious how it turned out 2 years later!
i wasted my 20s doing the stupid kps job sinstead of going to college. now im going to college and getting my life back together
I wasted my 20s and 30s, by not engaging with people. As I had a negative lens to view the world. Brought on by a lifetime of being bullied, and still to this day bullied at work. I will try to change my perspective on life and be more engaging with people. It is very lonely by myself.
It is hard for me to watch this because it is so relatable. I worked in a school (in Croatia) and I was the only person that noticed and did something about bullying. I talked to the bullies and to the victims. I witnessed my colleague counselor scolding a pupil who fought back his bully because, apparently, you're not allowed to fight, but psychological bullying is perfectly fine. Thank you for making videos like this one. I subscribed because of the fixing and soldering, but fixing your mind should be a top priority for everyone. :)
Yup I agree most of the bullying is not even physical but phycological. And I think it requires very detailed analysis. Because there are something's we have to get kids to deal with and there are others where we have to totally stand up to.
Most of the times people with severe social disabilities are those who have been totally ignored. There are however other forms of bullying which I think kids have to deal with and learn to deal with intelligently, with help or on their own. Because bullying is a problem even in adulthood and I feel too much protection really hampers people when they grow up but there are certainly types of bullying which we must simply squash.
Louis, I've been a subscriber for a long time now, and I think that you bring up some really valid social problems and you provide the best advice you could to combat these problems.
When you retire/sell the shop, please don't stop doing this type of content. I think you could be a really good public speaker for elementary schools or high schools, because you have a good way of getting your message across to a young audience.
Exactly.
@@Juhuuu he will just have to lay off the f bomb lol
He's gonna get into politics I bet.
AMEN.
over here in Pakistan domestic violence is so common
I love you rants.
Soldier suffering from PTSD. I find your videos of life to be beneficial and relevant.
Give me hope and you are a reason why I am chasing my dreams.
Thank you @Louis Rossmann
I'm dealing with psychological issues myself. Not the same sort, but I just wanted to with you the best and hope that things for you have improved and continue to improve. I know for me it's been hard to even get started on getting treatment, so just remember that even acknowledging the issues and working to deal with them is a huge accomplishment by itself, and you should be proud of yourself.
the assumption that society is hostile can disuade one from doing all sorts of things, like applying for jobs, seeking medical attention, engaging in trade, making fulfilling relationship choices. FOr this reason i think trust is really important to modern society and anything that erodes it is damaging.
Society is hostile and you're blind if you don't believe that. There are more bad people than good. If that isn't the case, how do you explain the horrible society we live in?
@@I_am_a_human_not_a_commodity it's a matter of personal opinion. Also none of these things are boolean values. People are not perfectly good or bad, society being horrible is a ridiculous generalization, and there are many possible causes for bad societal health. But that is beside the point: notice that I never stated whether society was hostile or not. I would not make such claims for reasons stated above. Rather, I described the effect of percieving it as such, which is a totally different claim - and the role of trust.
Like Uncle Iroh said: Sometimes the best way to solve your own problems is to help someone else.
I constantly catch myself on thinking that all people around me are like these ones who were bullying and abusing me for years when I was a kid/teen. I'm literally afraid of bigger, louder groups of kids or teens. I don't think it will ever change, it's like an automatic response of my brain.
Hello, how is life so far for you personally? Did it become better? Are you over it?
Louis, you are a far more skilled Psychologist than most people with the according degree could ever be (friends of mine, who do, included). Words cannot express how much these types of videos mean to me; I am eternally grateful and I wish you a wonderful holiday season. And while I'm still here improving other people's life one at a time, you're doing it by the thousands - you're a real inspiration and a true treasure of society.
Thank you for all that you do.
This was too relatable, I'm not even 20 yet.
Wait til your 30.
Now stop being a unproductive member of society now and then have a productive life.
You would have shit the curtains *cries uncontrollably*...
you still have some time... Im gonna be 24... all I can say is my life is like sinking ship... In just a few years after graduation I rapidly lost all of my hopes and dreams like it was nothing... now I feel like a silhouette, slowly fading in to the void... I suffer from really bad depressions and social anxiety. In country I live, nobody gives a shit about that... most of people here just think it's some silly, pathetic excuse and such. So I lost interest and ...most importantly... my Trust in people... just like Louis said in this video.
I remember when I was still in school before I even was 20 years old like you. I had all kinds of dreams - and I was like "I wanna be that and do this!" just like most of the people... but then, after graduation I was confronted with the real world. Real life. And I struggled to handle it somehow... So much... I feel so alone yet I WANT to be alone, because nobody understands me and accept me for who I am...
Ask yourself every day this simple question - "What have I done today to be a little bit closer to my dreams?" If the answer is "Nothing..." Then guess where and what you will get.
I may seem normal from the outside, but I am screaming and dying on the inside, slowly and painfully. Thats how I fell every day. Nobody should feel this much suffering, like I do.
Ofcourse, there are people actually dying and going through a lot worse situations than i might have... but everyday I am thinking about how to end this suffering more and more... and I'm getting closer and closer to final solution.
Don't be like me.
MikyewiCZ I can relate to everything you have said, here is how i have dealt and am dealing with the situation. Sometimes, i just want to be away from everyone and stay in a self sustainable life. But friends are a great way to learn about people and yourself. Find a new hobby, something you have always thought bout trying but never got to; find some friends of the same interests, go out more and socialize more even though you know it takes you some effort to.
Sometimes, if you put yourself on the spot and force yourself to be in a challenging place, you learn about how to deal with it the next time.
Childhood trauma, know it all too well. Consistent anxiety or anger issues that YOU have to manage. I remember I wanted to be an MD, or a chemist.. I still study it in vain. Now I'm an appliance technician studying for the CCNA and learning about board repair.. It's funny how you make that slight fork or Uturn, hopefully in the direction of a field you're still passionate about.. Goddamn that kind of hits hard huh?
Studying chemistry. Worst field ever (atleast for me), so don't bash yourself, maybe you saved 4-5 years.
Simonas Morkūnas Yeah, and even talented chemists start at a median salary from what I've read. Unless you work for fuckin Pfizer.
Over the years I have found your videos insightful as I'm growing up. After listening to this I think I've noticed what you are talking about play out in my life over the recent months. After I graduated high school I did nothing for a year and watched my friends go off to university or get decent jobs and venture out into the world. I would catch up with them every couple months and it would deal me a good amount of pain to see them many strides ahead of me. After seeing how that guilt/pain of a few months of time wasted effect me I could only imagine how that would feel after a couple of years of that behavior.
I decided to get a job at a tape factory because they offered good pay and flexible hours so I could have time to focus on other ventures. I really tried to make a difference in my life by looking for the good in others and having the courage to trust people. I did this by instead characterizing people by their negative behaviors, I only saw them for their positive attributes and any negative behavior they had was nothing more that a fluke that could be worked out. (Before I was only capable of seeing people as being baseline negative, and any politeness they portrayed was just a fake face that would eventually show through. I steered away from people with enthusiasm because I wasn't able to relate to this kind of person.) After practicing my new mindset for a couple months it started to change how I saw the world. I find myself now making friends with personality types that I wouldn't have bothered with before, people with a positive outlook. With a little courage on my part I was able to break the unhealthy pessimistic way I used to look at the world.
I'm starting to see the world in a new light and a sense of dread I've had my whole life is beginning to lift. its a very interesting feeling. I get it now and then mainly when I'm at work and away from my abusive parents. Its like a new found sense of freedom and peace. I think its finally starting to subconsciously click in my brain that there are actually good things and good people to look forward to in life. This feeling completely evaporates when I get home. But I have a strong feeling that when I move out I will be able to keep this feeling and start to work on myself as a person and venture into the world.
Thank a lot for these videos louis, writing this helps me sort out my thoughts and I hope it helps others.
This is so true, I have many skills, but I have no idea how to network. I've been a musician my whole life, I got a degree in 93' as a computer tech, I was a carpenter for 15+ years, now I make Knives, do metal work & make videos, but other than commenting on videos, I am clueless, when it comes to being social, but I just keep working hard, hoping 1 day it'll pay off.
I know feeling
I'm trying, hey thanks!!!
Keep on trucking, man. I suck at networking too but I've also managed to find a way to be mostly happy about my life. Actually got fired a couple times for "not cooperating" while in reality it was more about me not getting the social game.
Yeah, it's crazy, my dad was a jazz bassist, so I played music before i could basically walk, but I would see these guys with almost no talent getting gigs and playing everywhere & I was stuck at home. It's basically why I can play all the instruments and do it all myself. It's even why I became a carpenter after getting my degree as a computer tech, I had friends that built houses, trying to not be socially awkward in an interview never worked. Take it easy.
Also, I'm basically happy & do whatever i can to help other people, but when it comes to my success, that is a different story. I keep telling myself, just keep working hard and it will all pay off.
I love your videos. My son, Tristan, went to your shop , watched your videos and still does. I had two laptops repaired at your shop, and you have so much to offer , besides laptop repairs. I love your views on real estate, business and life in general. Tristan moved to Georgia and still keeps up with you!
Dear friend, thank you so much. I am crying hard, it is one of the best things i have ever listened to.
For someone who supposedly hasn't had traumatic incidences in their life you sure describe it perfectly. Feeling all alone, hoping someone will save you or just ask you what's wrong, exactly how I felt.
I'm so thankful that my teacher actually took action when they realized that I was being abused
Honestly I’m feeling so grateful that I’ve found this channel. You’re spitting words of wisdom everybody else would charge me for. Louis you’ll probably won’t read this but you’re a wonderful human being and you became an absolute role model for myself. Just wanted to let you know somehow, I wish I was American so I could tell you in person
I had been avoiding watching this one for a while cause I was worried I was gonna hear something I was not ready for, but I'm glad I finally did.
I'm amazed at how black that shirt is
Racist. That shirt ain't black, it's Afro-American.
@@ivanlovric5805 does it vote biden? if not it aint black!
@DasEtwas
Having a rough day, but this comment made me laugh for the first time,
thank you, buddy!
Right???
the shirt is the color of the void
Damn, this felt like a personal attack. I didn't have a horrible chlidhood, but it was sure emotionally painful (sometimes physical). It hit hard when you said that "Someone's going to notice, maybe they will do something!".
My mom used to beat the shit out of me as a child, that created severe anxiety and insecurity problems that are still affecting me as a young adult. Now that im starting to make my own life neighbors and family members tell me "oh god I remember when your mom used to hit you when you were younger im so sorry". To all those people I would like to sincerely say FUCK YOU. saying im sorry doesn't fix anything when you had the chance to save me and you decided to stand there looking at the abuse and say nothing. Deep inside I love my mom but the more I grow up the more hate I feel towards her, all I want to do is go away, live my own life, forget about everyone in my family and be happy helping others. And to all parents out there remember that YOUR CHILD DOESN'T HAVE TO HEAR YOUR BULLSHIT OR SUFFER BECAUSE OF YOUR OWN STUPID DECISIONS
Adults are just older children.
It's absolutely the worst if you love and hate someone at the same time. But totally understandable, man :/ good luck.
Did you make your own family? How it's going?
I remember going to school as a kid showing off the bruises that my father had given me. Praying that someone would notice and maybe help me find some answers. I've been putting off therapy but I really need to work on what I believe is PTSD
"Complicit in their misery." Love that quote.
hey louis, you tube wants me to rate this video. like so many other videos you have made, there is great wisdom here. be the change you want to see or needed at one point or another in your life. great message, 5 stars.
Thank you. A decent rating on surveys like that will be critical to my channel getting back to where it was 6 months ago when people actually got notifications when I put out content. I highly appreciate it! I hope you got something out of it.
Thanks Louis. Sometimes you just need a regular guy to explain everything like a regular guy to make stuff just a little clearer. Great bit of real talk, you've definitely helped people with this one as it's all too common and you've explained it away perfectly :)
i got bullied in highschool to the point i ended up in hospital and became totally burnt out on work , resulting in me getting a horrible op (australian metric for university eligibility) and pretty much fucking my chances of doing what i wanted . fast forward two years and im now going all in on photography trying to get good enough and learning the skills in which to market myself and network to turn this passion (obcession really), into sustainable work , thank you for this video
I appreciate this video. As someone who was and still is isolated to significant degree, I have "gone out into the world", as Louis describes it in this video. I have to say the overwhelming majority of people I have ran into are people that would've closed the blinds. However, there are a few wonderful people I have ran into and have stayed friends with for years. This isn't an entirely internal, psychological problem in my opinion. There are numerous external societal and systemic factors that keep someone isolated (bad urban design, lack of affordable housing, etc). I think people who are struggling with isolation shouldn't blame themselves as a majority of success is luck of the draw. You can offer a product or service nobody chooses to buy. You can be qualified to do a job but the hiring manager only hires his/her favorites. As long as you're honestly trying your best to make it, that's what matters.
I discovered your channel via a random youtube algorithm promoting a random repair video. I never even opened a single electrical device. It's my favourite channel since, I'm really glad I found a down-to-earth youtuber like you, seriously. It's amazing how our lifestories overlap. I know you'll never stop, but - never stop Louis, you're a great guy.
Know any other down-to-earth UA-camrs you could recommend?
I needed this. I've been a subscriber on my main account for years now but I "haven't had the time" to watch any of these 20-30min gems.
Today, partway through watching this video, I realized that I was becoming the person you were describing.
I don't want to be closed off and feeling like I wasted my life when it's too late.
I used to think that what I was doing (focusing only on myself, my studies, etc) would be enough to find direction.
I realize now that me closing myself off to others might make it impossible for me to find direction. Even if it's painful and difficult at first, I want to be able to talk to people and strike up conversation. It seems stressful and difficult for me to go up to someone that I don't know and ask them how they're doing, or if they're "having fun". I want to change that.
Thank you for this gem.
I found a little bit of myself in this comment... I too thought I had it figured out but as few years passed by I found myself not being at the stage I expected to. If I continue the way I am now, I will almost certainly think I wasted my life at later point in life.
It's been few years... Can you share your outlook on life now? How did your studies go? Have acquierd any wisdom you can share?
More Rossman life tips!
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The vault dweller knows the value of getting out into the world =p
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18:40 i wasn't "abused" but i did stuff to myself (and by others :/) that describes the direction of someone as described on this video and yet im here crying randomly. im 16 right now and your videos are really a wakeup call to do things before it's too late. your videos really speak to people, thanks louis
Life is all ups and downs, I had awesome parents and what should of been a perfect upbringing, but unfortunately other kids saw that and put me down & beat the shit out of me for that all the time. It caused me to be very withdrawn & antisocial(for many years, I'm in my 40's). Everyone has horrors, some a lot worse than others. Life is full of tragedy and reward, we are only here once, we have to make the best of it for ourselves and everyone else. Don't waste time on people that don't appreciate you & do the best to be a good person. That's all anyone can hope for. Take it easy.
How did you get bullied when u was a kid?I got bullied because i am from a different race.
I'm 27 and I often got beat up as a kid. Teachers/grown ups never did anything and I didn't really tell my parents a lot. I was never thought how to deal with it. It still gets my blood boiling when I think back of it. I'm still somewhat socially inept because of that shit. Sadly I can't change the past. One of the good things it did is that it motivated me to lift weights and get bigger.
banana boi Is the reason why you were bullied really that important? kids just suck.
Well they treat me like an outcast and i feel like shit everyday for not knowing why they treating me like an outcast. You seems to have a lot of bad things happen to you in school.
What's your age?
16
I thought I had the world all figured out. But now I realize I don't even have me figured out. And it's been because of you that I've been understanding this more than ever. I genuinely learn something new from your videos every single time.
Sounds like you're getting very wise these days. They say only fools think they know it all, and being wise is having capacity to know how little they know.
This is realer than any session I've had with therapists in the past. That general application of past pains onto the whole really debilitates and isolates victims of abuse and trauma.
Holy crap, man. I needed this video. Thank you for making it.
Start by saying ''Good morning'' to your neighbor, ''Thank you, have a wonderful day'' to that hardworking cashier in the supermarket. You have no clue how much that means!
This was a lot more in depth and thorough than many psychologists who speak on similar topics
how? it was just part of a plan to goad you into believing he was your friend, just so he can steal your hard earned dollar.
came to repair my tech, left repairing my life
Louis is just too relatable. I think every single person who watches this video could relate in some type of way
You make many good points here. Growing up, I appreciated anyone who would listen, or even look for long enough to notice what was going on without looking away because they didn't want to see it.
An apathetic response from others to a terrible situation for the individual is a miserable and crushing experience. Especially when it's the parents that just don't care.
Man I love you! I thought I was just electronics you did but this really is so deep and touching, you truly are an amassing person!
i always actively find the people who are in need of a positive experience even though i was brought up in a social nightmare where talking about how you feel is non existant
i've been following your channel for a while but this video just came up in my feed. thank you.
Please don't stop making content like this when you are some day retired. Love those inspiratonial yet down-to-earth videos of you! Thank you very much. Appreciatet as always!
happened across you trying it fix a pc board a while ago, not apple. stayed because you make it interesting as well as conversations such as these and other view points you touch on. thank you louis for all you do.
"I wanted to be a psychologist"
Mission accomplished sir...
Thanks a hell of a lot for this Louis. Thanks so much.
Get out of my head and my life. Great video, thanks for the feels.
I had a lot of issues with my childhood/early adulthood. Nothing physical, really; it was just emotional things. Now, at nearly 30, I'm still dealing with depression and anxiety issues with a therapist and a psychiatrist and all that fun stuff. But, yeah, there were a lot of situations where other people in my life just acted like it was normal and so for me, a lot of those things seemed normal, at least at the time. It's really hard, even now, to change how I deal with situations and handle my own emotions. Thanks for making this video, Louis.
Same here but will never trust a shrink as real help is hard to find and keeping that help is even harder as I've learned the hard way where I ended up in a depression that lasted three years. Some days are hard but finding something to stay focused on and making do does a lot where so many other people just medicated or booze themselves or hide behind something like fake friends or empty accomplishments where it looks like they got it made but deep inside they haven't gone anywhere. People in general are damaged in more ways than they will ever be honest about even to themselves and those issues will creep up till when they get passed middle age then hits them like a ton of bricks.
Yep, I agree, it's a hard to bite down on that feeling of disenchantment when you encounter someone who's achieved what you've been trying to do for a long time in far quicker time and far more success, but you can choose to wallow in it, or, you can get on with something new (or even the same).
It's a bit like when creating new software or electronics; you hear from other people "Oh, I saw Freddy Blogs was going to have that in his own software/equipment", but a lot of the time there's a huge difference between proposing to do it, and actually having it done, so good reason not to get dismayed when you see promo/review-pieces that are not actually in-the-hands/completed things. I think I took a bit of a detour there.
Louis, thank you for this video. This is a hard one to swallow. If I can live through this nightmare that my life feels like it's become, then I am going to try my best to take this advice and use it. I appreciate you sir.
I think it's very difficult to identify if and how a past experience, specially from own childhood is preventing you living a better life. Also it is very difficult to notice that you could have a different life. In a sense is that you can't really become someone else, you are what you are. And sure some parts are not that difficult to change when watching from another perspective, but the thing is that is more difficult to do it when you are directly involved, when the subject is you. Watching yourself in a soul mirror and picking apart your character, your choices, reflexes and whole life is pretty difficult. Not many do it and the ones that do, well, they don't have much success at that either.
When it comes to memories, not everything sticks and what does is not too clear either. Also we tend to keep the bad experiences and not so much the good ones. Either way, i think that if something managed to become imprinted so we remember it, it must have been pretty important in our development, a certain milestone even if we don't give it the credit it really deserves. And because we have it more difficult to interpret emotions, maybe those memories shouldn't be brushed away and ponder upon them a bit. Maybe there is more to those that just the information, the action we remembered. Something emotional that we may overlooked.
With time i'm starting to see some things from different perspectives and feel like i'm starting to understand some things that may had been keeping me down. The issue is that time is the cure and the poison as becoming more aware of the issues and how to tackle them, i'm finding out that some are time sensitive and i'm just becoming aware of some lost chance that can't ever be taken again. Which might be more depressing than helpful. So it's a double edge sword, hence you can't really blame some that embrace the "ignorance is bliss" approach. You know, repressed memories happen for a reason.
This video was really helpful. Thanks for making it. Deserves way more views
Thank you being a force in this world trying to make a positive influence.
Hey bud, I just started watching your videos yesterday and think you're one of the best people on youtube, by far. I'm also a small business owner and I've had some successful years, but am having some pretty bad ones which has had me cut my life down pretty drastically.
I was beaten by my mom regularly for being an underachiever to the point where I had to lie to my teachers about where the marks on my face and body came from. I grew up smallest in class too, so I was bullied by everybody constantly. I wasn't safe at school, and I wasn't safe at the babysitters, I wasn't safe at home, I was constantly in the state of anxiety. I had a lot of pent up anger and frustration that manifested into violence in high school and college. It took me until my 30s to finally understand it.
I've been estranged from my parents for the past three years because the last time I try to speak to my mother about my upbringing she asserted that the beatings were the consequence of not doing my homework or being forgetful, and that I deserved everything she did to me. I know as an adult she was frustrated at work, and resented that I didn't pull my own weight before she got home, and she had also always projected her self loathing to me, so in a way she was masochistically beating herself by beating me as a proxy.
This conversation reverted me into my 9 year old self and the world became once again cruel and there was no one out there coming to rescue me, including my own father. As a result, I stopped working on marketing and my net income last year was about a third of what I was making in 2012. I would love to revisit the conversation with my mom and try to get her to understand the effects her actions had on my life and why I turned out so different from my brother, but I'm afraid that at if I'm unsuccessful, it would compound my depression and will inevitably lead to suicide. I really don't think I can survive being triggered in the current state that I'm in. I know on the long run, I need some kind of closure so that I don't shutdown the way I do, and I'm sure psychiatric help would be great, but I can't afford it right now.
Anyway, I'm sharing this story because your video is spot and it's the best help that I can get; someone who understands. I hope others who have been through this sort of thing can find some comfort in knowing that they aren't alone. I will take your suggestion and reach out to colleagues and people around my area. I hate hitting people up and I hate getting hit up for favors or cold calls, which is my biggest entrepreneurial hurdle, and you explain the reason in the video very well.
I'm turning 37 this year, and it's awesome to see someone who's like 10 years younger get this stuff. I've watched some of your social political stuff and those are dead on too. You're exceptionally bright and incredibly articulate, no matter how much you down play it. Thank you for making all of your content! LOL sorry for making this so long, keep your shit up!
Louis you are 100% right on your comments. Very insightful. Thanks!
“Diversity is our strength” man that’s said so few times these days, it’s so much easier to drive a wedge.
I love these vidoes, it sets my life in perspektive and forces me to think about all the stuff, i always avoid. Keep up the good work you're doing more for me than a psychiatrist could ever do.
Needed to hear this today.
Cheers, mate.
I fully agree, and I was/am one of these people. I had a rough childhood with an abusive mother and a barely-there father. By luck, I fell into an entry-level job which forced me into more social situations, and one that made me feel like my opinion mattered. I guess the job was like exposure therapy in a weird way. He is absolutely right when he says that these people need to go out into society and be a part of it to experience something....I would never have become a different person without being more social.
Thank you for this video. I wish I had receive this message in my early 20s.
As someone who has never been raped or anything of the sorts but still had a terrible childhood.
A lot of your points are spot on, others are not really applicable on me but maybe someone else. I appreciate the manner you approach the subject and how humble you seem.
I watch most of your videos, and I have for a long time, keep it up mate!
I'm doing a fine job of it already, I don't need a tutorial.
And so far, I haven't got one. Thanks.
Then go somewhere else. This video isn't for you. We don't need negativity here.
I'm not bringing negativity.
This video's for everyone.
Relax Cody...
It was a dark ass'd joke, and bob is hiding behind the pain looking for a release.
Haha me too thinking of giving out a master class
I had a rough childhood. My mom cared for me but she didnt show her love for me. I learned love from my dad. But my dad wasn't always there. My parents divorced when I was 8. My mom has a narcissistic ego, but I love her unconditionally anyway. She had me feeling like I wasn't good enough so, her being my mother, I believed it. Therefor I didn't have the confidence to defend myself against the bullies at school. I let them pick on me. I learned to love myself when I was in my late 20's and broke out of my shell. I have so many friends and I can say I'm a loving compassionate person. I'm 41 years old now, and for years I keep the same life routines without change because the transition is exhasting. I've become more of an introvert as I get older. I love my alone time so much! Thanks for the video! It helped me take another look at myself.
I just started watching your videos. Didn't expect to find really deep insight like this.
You are literally a breath of fresh air. It is almost IMPOSSIBLE to find competent and knowledgeable people who do their research in this world.
he didn't do research. He just made up an underdog narrative to gain your attention.
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Ive been an animal care professional for most of my life. Now I work in sled dog racing. Its a really SMALL sport with a TON of normalized neglect. There are so many sled dog rescues. People romanticize the idea of these big races like the quest and iditarod so much. They really have NO idea how it works.
I used to teach people about animal care, I was a dog trainer, ive worked on farms, ive worked at a zoo, rescues, etc. I know what im talking about.
But the moment I start questioning this sled dog racing stuff im some sort of extremist and bunny hugger. (I've won pro dog sled races btw)
Just the RACING! Mushing is cool. But RACING is another thing entirely. It really needs to stop. Im having a hard time getting anywhere raising awareness though.
Ever hear of the "whistler sled dog massacre?"
People only care about mushers that win races. Not mushers who think racing is inhumane. We romanticize how hard these dogs "work" even though they live in terrible conditions and its really hard on their bodies. Lots of dogs have died. It gets harder and harder to be a sled dog every year. When "work" is trying to win a race, it leads to people running the hell out of these dogs.
The nature of racing is it gets faster and faster every year. When is it enough?
The first Iditarod was in 1973 its not some ancient tradition.
I needed to hear this. You've connected many dots. Thank you brother!
You're awesome Louis. Keep up all of your good work brother.
dude you are amazing once again. Those first experiences of violence teach you something about the world that stays with you forever.
Powerful stuff, making me think a lot about things. thanks for making this video.
You've made this video exactly when I relived some of my past experiences, I still got a long way to go but I started getting out there last year and after watching this I'm realizing that some changes are happening, even if little by little I'm starting to see things differently. Thanks a lot.
As a person who went through some horrible things at the hand of my father growing up, I have to say Louis that you nailed it here in this video. If I could just add one thing to your excellent advice. When coming from a rough past, no matter what type, learn from it. Learn how to NOT deal with tough situations and alter the course of your life in spite of the misfortune that you had. I found that it made me a stronger person. Both for myself but just as importantly, my wife and daughter. Again Louis, you really spelled it out there in a way that is very easy to absorb and learn from. Thank you for another great video.
I was looking for a review for the Samsung S7, this went deep really fast
Thank you Louis. Seriously, thank you.
I grew up more or less in a warzone. I had a gun in my face almost every day I left my neighborhood and was frequently shot at and my school was periodically bombed. I can't believe how closely what you were talking about describes how I instinctively feel about most people I meet and think of people I don't and never will meet. Not sure how it happened but I suppose I should feel lucky that I never fell into the trap of withdrawal and isolating myself. I saw that pattern in my parents and vowed be different since I was young and fortunately I have been able to avoid "waste". I'm still building and growing. I helped build two businesses since finishing my education, one flopped, the other was a great success and sold but I didn't get much out of it. No hard feelings just weird/bad circumstances. I have been binging your videos for the insight on a few business related topics of all things and found a lot that I could relate to a lot of different things that you talked about. You said you hoped we learned something and I gotta say this helped me gain a new insight about my own feelings about people. I decided a long time ago to put myself out there and tolerate people's company to push my goals but maybe I'll learn to stop making such negative assumptions and have more genuine relationships one day.
Thanks Louis! I have the perfect person in mind, my sister, she works a position that was three different roles compressed into one. As a result of being neglected as a child she is the persona you describe here. I want her to know that she's not alone or wasted on life. So today I'm going to devote my winter break to her as a free assistant to make her life a little better. I appreciate the "spark"
You are wise beyond your years! In the 70's and 80's they didn't know about such things. I wish I had had a source to go to like this....maybe I wouldn't be so far down in the hole....please save our youth. It's kinda late for me. I'm damaged. I've tried .....
Not sure why but this was probably the best video quality i ever seen on this channel. Immediately noticed!
I found salvation in hiring into an extremely supportive work environment, with a lot of great people. Rather than bullying, the environment is just the opposite. It's funny - when you start working a full-time job, most people would expect that by then, you've become a socialized person. But I became socialized *after* starting work. It only took me about 1 year. Now I feel great in social situations. The awkwardness and introversion is gone. PS - it took me til I was about 27 to get to that.
Your'e an awesome dude Louis I couldn't agree more
Great talk! To anyone else watching, be sure to watch the whole thing, its important to hear the whole rant!
that's amazing, you laid it all out down to a strategy to tackle the problem, this is why I subscribed to you, great video!
this hit home with me Luis. what a great video thank you Mr rossman
This video literally makes me want to cry and gives me horrible flashbacks to my elementary school time with heavy bullying and violence. Thank you for sharing your version of the permanent resentment that I feel about being a loner in my late twenties with bad social skills and insecurity preventing me from approaching new people with excitement.
Very good observation, your time and effort are appreciated
1:50 Holy shit, that happened to me, so I was like in the 8th grade, waiting for a friend at the entrance of the school, and there was this girl from class who started yelling at me saying things like
"EW you so ugly"
"EWWW, No girl will ever want you"
Keep in mind that she was screaming at the entrance of the school in front of everyone.
In my mind I was only thinking, there's a teacher right there, and he's not doing anything WTF?
What adult lets allows this behavior?? Society is broken!
This was precisely what I was thinking at that moment, her words weren't doing anything to my self-esteem, I was shocked not because of the things that she was saying but by the fact that the teacher did nothing to stop it.
When I was about to leave I told her: "One day you will want me and you won't have me"
She started screaming even louder.
"EWW! OMG! Not even if you were the only men on earth"
PLOT TWIST
On the 10th grade, she fell in love with me, I told her no, she disappeared and I never spoke or seen her since.
Well shit Louis, I never thought about it like this. Just gotta say that you mighta given me that push to try. Thanks man. Really didn't expect this video to hit so close to home.
Thank you for this Louis.
well said louis , this reminds me of something i read in a book "atitude is everthing" and as an older guy (i am 55) i can say for sure projection does work as does believing in yourself
This was one of the best videos I've seen in ages.
Thank you Louis, it’s good to be shown the consequences of thinking the way that I do about new people I meet so now at-least I could put some effort to changing myself for the good since I’m only 19 and not too late I think. Again thank you!
I noticed that in more than one video you say you're not that intelligent. I work doing software stuff, and to me people like you who understand the hardware stuff are all absolute wizards
To be a good parent just remember, somebody is always watching and judging you, that somebody is your child.
When you have a child they become the person who's life you try to make better. Watching and helping them learn teaches you where you came from.
You'll see sunset and sunrise.
You'll see the world with new eyes.
As someone that's been abused and ignored abuse this really has made me reevaluate and hopefully make decisions for the better in the future
Thanks man. Seriously really helped and I appreciate you sharing you’re journey!