Please consider getting yourself and your fiancee counseling. You deserve to live! Honor your mom by finding joy, enjoy your home. You are strong and beautiful. Its ok to mourn. Thank you for sharing. Best to you
I have never seen one of your videos before but UA-cam suggested this for me . I am sorry to hear about the struggles with your mother . Hopefully UA-cam algorithm fairies are gracing you with lots of new views and maybe your channel will take off
My dad had dementia for 15 years before he died at 96. You have gone thru loosing your mom twice. First, when they change from the person you knew growing up and again when they do pass. You were a good daughter to her and I admire your strength that you have shown. Hang in there. You have my understanding, prayers and hugs.
Please don’t apologize for this video. Dementia is a terrible thing. It robbed you and your mother of a joyful and fun end of life experience. You did what was right for her and it wasn’t easy. Now it will take some time to grieve, but gradually you’ll find peace in knowing everything turned out as it should have. May your spirit be lifted every day just knowing people care and support you. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I am sorry for you went through, your poor mom. My mom had alzheimers and lived to 99. My son took care of her and then she had to go in a personal care home and she got sick and then in the hospital and into a regular nursing home. My brother got pancreatic cancer in August and died in December and when he died is when she got bad. She got to the point she could not talk. Its hard but I always went to see her. God Bless you and hope things get better for you.
I’m sorry for your loss. It’s healthy to give yourself time to grieve and also to try to get your home organized. This is the first day of the rest of your new life. To new beginnings… Maybe start journaling? Get a list of priorities? #1 being you and your health, how to best take care of yourself, physically, spiritually, and mentally. Don’t rush marriage…give yourself time to experience, maybe for the first time, freedom from taking care of others. Take care of you. God bless you on your journey of life.
Im so sorry for the loss of your mom and im sorry that you and your mom had to deal with the awful disease of dementia. I see it all the time in my job. Its heartbreaking for all involved. I hope you remember that those bad incidents were the disease and not your mom. Im sorry youre feeling alone too. Are there any social events you can get involved in? Book clubs, walking groups,community college classes,or animal rescue groups to volunteer at? You seem like youd be a wonderful caring friend! Hugs. 🌹
I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand what it is like when you are grieving the death of your mother. My Mam died in 2021 and it was, and still can be, at times, a very difficult experience. I felt very much at sea. Trying to get on with the mundane things of life became harder to do. Everything became harder. Grief is a process, a painful one, and it doesn't have a right or wrong way to get through it. I wish you peace, and I hope that you will find help & support from those in your community. I'm sure there are organisations and helplines that are available and willing to help ease your suffering howsoever they can. There are such organisations in Ireland anyways, thank God, and they can be a lifeline to those finding the grieving process an intensely painful. Sometimes just an ordinary "Hi, how are you doing?" chat can help someone. Grief, we all go through it at one point in time, and I believe it is the price we pay for love. Please take good care of yourself. One day at a time, step by step. Prayers & blessings to you. 🙏
I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time. Grief is a strange thing. My Mom passed 4 years ago and I still struggle sometimes with it all. I was her caretaker while her Alzheimers continued to progress until she fell and broke her arm. After that it got to be too much for me. I wasn’t getting much sleep. We put her in a nursing home which none of us wanted to do but kind of had to. You really aren’t alone. Just lonely sometimes. Pray for strength. That’s what I do. ❤🌹🙏 Bless your heart!
I am so sorry for the loss of your mum, your video just popped up in my feed. I too, lost my Mum to dementia. I remember feeling as though I had lost her twice. First, when her personality changed so dramatically, that being with her didn't feel the same comforting and familiar way. And second, when she actually died. Take all the time you need to recover and grieve. 𓆩♡𓆪
I dont know you, however, I just subscribed, I lost my mom to dementia then she got ovarian cancer and didn't know it. It is very difficult to go through this. I just wanted to say I am very sorry for the loss of your Mother. Sending hugs and strength your way. Looks like you have some loving support here. Please know you're not alone. ❤💐
I am just so very sorry for all that you have been through. I hope it gives you at least a very small amount of comfort that even strangers can care. There are many people who would change your circumstances if we could. I hope you can cling to that.
God bless you. You are dealing with a LOT. You've done well. It's going to take time to readjust to being free to live for yourself and redesign your life. It's a new chapter. I'm sorry for your grief........I went through it when my own mother passed. Still do. You have been such a caring, dutiful daughter, making sure she was comfy and safe at all times. You deserve time for only you, now. Consider finding groups in real life to join. Even some therapy. You WILL emerge, brand new.
Youve been through a lot. Even though she lived with this disorder for a long time, the finality is different. You'll find your new way. Focus on new interests.
I understand my dad died in 1978 my mom is showing signs of dementia and she’s 83 1/2 I live 70 miles away but I help with whatever I can sorry about your mom
Hugs to you. I also had to take care of a grandmother for 13 years... eventually put her in to a 'home'. Again, I wish you the best and please do not feel guilty.
My dear sweetheart...I've been there...same thing. You are a warrior. Do not let any guilt ever creep in. You did all the right things. I actually went to a few support group meetings. THEY WERE WONDERFUL. You will be ok. BREATHE...it takes time. It's still raw. In time you will have more good memories than bad. God Bless You
What a rough time you’ve had, I’m so sorry. I’ve also been through the deaths of my parents. It’s taken a while, but my memories are of the good times we had as a family now. Sending love and hugs to you.
I just tuned in, checking out some different vids tonight. My mom was the same. Dementia for 5 years before she passed at 74. I didn't grieve for 4 months. There was too much to do. My head knew she was gone but my heart did not. Then one day it hit me like a ton of bricks and I cried a river. Grief is different for everyone. Give yourself grace. Time will do what time will do.
Just found you on this video, my heart goes out to you. My prayers are going up for you, you are a strong lady and I ask God to give you peace, stay close to Him and He will bring you though.
God bless you, you've had it tough, and I'm so sorry you lost your mum. Don't expect too much of yourself, its very early days in your grieving journey. I'm glad you have your boyfriend to support you and as you say, you have God first and foremost. Hugs, love and prayers from Ireland x
I understand, Andrea. Two years ago my Mom went to Heaven after her very long, long journey with Alzheimers. My Dad and some dear care aids & friends took care of Mom -- even in hospice care. She didnt want her life prolonged & wanted to pass at home. It truly is like losing your Mom twice. It's hard for me even after two years. You are slowly healing. It takes a lot of time. I still miss her & miss talking to her so much. You seem to be doing well since you recently lost your Mom. You don't need to apologize for being sad and grieving. Everyone grieves differently. There are days rougher than others. Take your time through this healing process. I don't know if it ever ends, but many people have told me it gets easier over time. God bless you and I'll be praying for you & your fiance. ♥️🙏🏻♥️🙏🏻♥️🙏🏻♥️ Hugs!!
Hello. I’ve just seen your channel. Dementia is a heartbreaking disease. It takes away our loved ones bit by bit and it’s very sad, more so that you went through this alone. This is a new beginning for you with precious memories and thankfully you have your partner too. We are always here for you, if you want to just talk, it may help. Please don’t apologise we are just pleased to hear from you. Take care until next time ❤
Aww beloved my mom passed away om hospice after failing down and kissing to much oxygen to her brain. But don’t apologize for grieving for the loss of your beloved mom. As a caregiver it was a lot for you to deal with and then for her to have dementia I could only imagine but beloved you got this and your strong. You take your time and process. Write your feeling out then burn it or process it idk but do it especially when you don’t film and are alone so you don’t overthink and cause stress to your body. Good luck ❤ again sorry for your loss and I wish you strength and peace as you deal with this hard season in your life.
She's still visits as an angel and I know she's sorry for not acting right before. She loves you and wants you to be happy. Take walks outside or at a park to refresh your mind. Also watch funny TV shows and listen to happy music. Hire some help for organizing and downsizing when you feel able to let some things go. Love you ♥️ be kind to yourself.
It seems as if you're dealing with two things, the loss of your Mum but also, I suspect, guilt at not visiting at the end? Is that perhaps why you can't accept her passing? My mother also has Alzheimer's, has had for a number of years. It's hard to watch the decline, the lack of dignity and frustration they feel. If there are issues of resentment too (not everyone has an ideal relationship with their mother) it can compound the guilt of avoiding seeing them, for whatever reason. It's a cruel disease for all concerned. They die twice - the limbo in between is hard, whatever relationship you had with them.
I cared for my Dad while he was on a waiting list to get a double ung transplant, and then after the transplant. I lived 3000 km away from any other family and close to Toronto where my Dad had his transplant, I truly understand that feeling of being so lonely, I did have a boyfriend at the time but he lived 4 hours away and its just not the same as having a sibling or aunt or uncle close by who is a part of not only your current life but your past life with your parent. Take care of YOU now, do what you need to do to treat yourself with extra care and attention. Taking care of a parent is one of the highest honours I believe we can show and practice in this world but with it comes a boat load of emotions. There is no way to prepare a person for the role reversal when the parent becomes the child and the child becomes the parent. One morning when I was helping my Dad brush his teeth he began to cry, I thought maybe I had hurt him, he said no " I just cant stand that my own kid has to do absolutely everything for me, its embarrassing, its frustrating and I hate it but I also love you so much for doing it all at the same time". My Dad lived for 18 months after his transplant but was in and out of the hospital many times during that period during which he would be air lifted from his small village back to Toronto and then I would be "back on duty" so to speak, while he was in the hospital then a month at my condo to get ready to go back to the small village where I am from. It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life but also the most gratifying and hands down the 2nd best decision I have ever made to take care of my father, the 1st best decision I have ever made was homeschooling my son :) Sending you so much love you are one strong woman, MANY people simply can not care for their parent, they simply can not do it, and I do not say this to be harsh towards them, we are all wired differently some people simply can not care for an ailing parent, you did an incredible thing and now you need to take care of YOU.
Thank you so much for saying so. I'm taking it one day at a time, my work friends and my boyfriend have been the best support system for me and I can't thank them enough for either helping me out or just giving a friendly ear. Much love to you ❤️
You sound like you handled this just the way most good daughters would. I admire you for your bravery. Hope you can remember the real woman your mom was, not the dementia - sure your mom would want that also. God bless you, sweet lady.🙏🏼🌄
I am so sorry for your loss. Probably like a divorce, it will take about 5 years to recover. Please slow down on committing to another person in a live in caretaker role. Way to mich stress to have that in your home especially when you have not had time to heal.
I can relate to having no family and being lonely. Bless your soul. Your choices are valid. Take care of your needs now. 💚
Please consider getting yourself and your fiancee counseling. You deserve to live! Honor your mom by finding joy, enjoy your home. You are strong and beautiful. Its ok to mourn. Thank you for sharing. Best to you
I have never seen one of your videos before but UA-cam suggested this for me . I am sorry to hear about the struggles with your mother . Hopefully UA-cam algorithm fairies are gracing you with lots of new views and maybe your channel will take off
My dad had dementia for 15 years before he died at 96. You have gone thru loosing your mom twice. First, when they change from the person you knew growing up and again when they do pass. You were a good daughter to her and I admire your strength that you have shown. Hang in there. You have my understanding, prayers and hugs.
Thank you so much!
Please don’t apologize for this video. Dementia is a terrible thing. It robbed you and your mother of a joyful and fun end of life experience. You did what was right for her and it wasn’t easy. Now it will take some time to grieve, but gradually you’ll find peace in knowing everything turned out as it should have. May your spirit be lifted every day just knowing people care and support you. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I've been thinking about you a lot. I can't imagine all that you're going through. Sending love your way ❤
Hi Andrea,i am sorry the loss of your mom.💜You need time to heal. My daughter name is Megan.Hope to be friends along the way.💜🌼🙏
I am sorry for you went through, your poor mom. My mom had alzheimers and lived to 99. My son took care of her and then she had to go in a personal care home and she got sick and then in the hospital and into a regular nursing home. My brother got pancreatic cancer in August and died in December and when he died is when she got bad. She got to the point she could not talk. Its hard but I always went to see her. God Bless you and hope things get better for you.
You have my condolences. ❤
Thank you
So very sorry for your loss. I lost my mom,also. Always will feel sad. Prayers for you, 🙏🏻🩷
I’m sorry for your loss. It’s healthy to give yourself time to grieve and also to try to get your home organized. This is the first day of the rest of your new life. To new beginnings… Maybe start journaling? Get a list of priorities? #1 being you and your health, how to best take care of yourself, physically, spiritually, and mentally. Don’t rush marriage…give yourself time to experience, maybe for the first time, freedom from taking care of others. Take care of you. God bless you on your journey of life.
So sorry for your loss. Praying the Lord will bring you comfort and peace through your grief. ❤️
I lost my mum many years ago, I always try to remember the good things to help with missing her.
Im so sorry for the loss of your mom and im sorry that you and your mom had to deal with the awful disease of dementia. I see it all the time in my job. Its heartbreaking for all involved. I hope you remember that those bad incidents were the disease and not your mom. Im sorry youre feeling alone too. Are there any social events you can get involved in? Book clubs, walking groups,community college classes,or animal rescue groups to volunteer at? You seem like youd be a wonderful caring friend! Hugs. 🌹
I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand what it is like when you are grieving the death of your mother. My Mam died in 2021 and it was, and still can be, at times, a very difficult experience. I felt very much at sea. Trying to get on with the mundane things of life became harder to do. Everything became harder. Grief is a process, a painful one, and it doesn't have a right or wrong way to get through it. I wish you peace, and I hope that you will find help & support from those in your community. I'm sure there are organisations and helplines that are available and willing to help ease your suffering howsoever they can. There are such organisations in Ireland anyways, thank God, and they can be a lifeline to those finding the grieving process an intensely painful. Sometimes just an ordinary "Hi, how are you doing?" chat can help someone. Grief, we all go through it at one point in time, and I believe it is the price we pay for love. Please take good care of yourself. One day at a time, step by step. Prayers & blessings to you. 🙏
I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time. Grief is a strange thing. My Mom passed 4 years ago and I still struggle sometimes with it all. I was her caretaker while her Alzheimers continued to progress until she fell and broke her arm. After that it got to be too much for me. I wasn’t getting much sleep. We put her in a nursing home which none of us wanted to do but kind of had to. You really aren’t alone. Just lonely sometimes. Pray for strength. That’s what I do. ❤🌹🙏 Bless your heart!
I am so sorry for the loss of your mum, your video just popped up in my feed.
I too, lost my Mum to dementia. I remember feeling as though I had lost her twice.
First, when her personality changed so dramatically, that being with her didn't feel the same comforting and familiar way.
And second, when she actually died. Take all the time you need to recover and grieve. 𓆩♡𓆪
I dont know you, however, I just subscribed, I lost my mom to dementia then she got ovarian cancer and didn't know it. It is very difficult to go through this. I just wanted to say I am very sorry for the loss of your Mother. Sending hugs and strength your way. Looks like you have some loving support here. Please know you're not alone. ❤💐
I am just so very sorry for all that you have been through. I hope it gives you at least a very small amount of comfort that even strangers can care. There are many people who would change your circumstances if we could. I hope you can cling to that.
God bless you. You are dealing with a LOT. You've done well. It's going to take time to readjust to being free to live for yourself and redesign your life. It's a new chapter. I'm sorry for your grief........I went through it when my own mother passed. Still do. You have been such a caring, dutiful daughter, making sure she was comfy and safe at all times. You deserve time for only you, now. Consider finding groups in real life to join. Even some therapy. You WILL emerge, brand new.
Youve been through a lot. Even though she lived with this disorder for a long time, the finality is different. You'll find your new way. Focus on new interests.
Sending ❤ your way. You have been through an extremely hard time.
I understand my dad died in 1978 my mom is showing signs of dementia and she’s 83 1/2 I live 70 miles away but I help with whatever I can sorry about your mom
Hugs to you. I also had to take care of a grandmother for 13 years... eventually put her in to a 'home'. Again, I wish you the best and please do not feel guilty.
I’m very sorry for your loss
Thank you
Love and prayers sweet girl ❤🙏🏼
Oh Im so sorry about your mom!
My dear sweetheart...I've been there...same thing. You are a warrior. Do not let any guilt ever creep in. You did all the right things. I actually went to a few support group meetings. THEY WERE WONDERFUL. You will be ok. BREATHE...it takes time. It's still raw. In time you will have more good memories than bad. God Bless You
I am so sorry for your situation. You are a very strong woman. I wish you peace.
What a rough time you’ve had, I’m so sorry. I’ve also been through the deaths of my parents. It’s taken a while, but my memories are of the good times we had as a family now. Sending love and hugs to you.
I just tuned in, checking out some different vids tonight. My mom was the same. Dementia for 5 years before she passed at 74. I didn't grieve for 4 months. There was too much to do. My head knew she was gone but my heart did not. Then one day it hit me like a ton of bricks and I cried a river. Grief is different for everyone. Give yourself grace. Time will do what time will do.
Hey, I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you’re wheezing. I hope you have an inhaler to make it easier. Congratulations on your engagement!
Just found you on this video, my heart goes out to you. My prayers are going up for you, you are a strong lady and I ask God to give you peace, stay close to Him and He will bring you though.
God bless you, you've had it tough, and I'm so sorry you lost your mum. Don't expect too much of yourself, its very early days in your grieving journey. I'm glad you have your boyfriend to support you and as you say, you have God first and foremost. Hugs, love and prayers from Ireland x
Regards and prayers from New Mexico. I'm very sorry for what you have been through.
I understand, Andrea. Two years ago my Mom went to Heaven after her very long, long journey with Alzheimers. My Dad and some dear care aids & friends took care of Mom -- even in hospice care. She didnt want her life prolonged & wanted to pass at home. It truly is like losing your Mom twice. It's hard for me even after two years. You are slowly healing. It takes a lot of time. I still miss her & miss talking to her so much. You seem to be doing well since you recently lost your Mom. You don't need to apologize for being sad and grieving. Everyone grieves differently. There are days rougher than others. Take your time through this healing process. I don't know if it ever ends, but many people have told me it gets easier over time. God bless you and I'll be praying for you & your fiance. ♥️🙏🏻♥️🙏🏻♥️🙏🏻♥️ Hugs!!
It's good to meet you Andrea ☺️ so sorry for your mom. Take time for you
Thank you.
Andrea , sorry about your loss . It will get better for you . Hang in there . I LOVE your glasses. ♡
Take care of you! OMG! Do not blame yourself for anything. Bless you and your boyfriend.
Hello. I’ve just seen your channel. Dementia is a heartbreaking disease. It takes away our loved ones bit by bit and it’s very sad, more so that you went through this alone. This is a new beginning for you with precious memories and thankfully you have your partner too. We are always here for you, if you want to just talk, it may help. Please don’t apologise we are just pleased to hear from you. Take care until next time ❤
Aww beloved my mom passed away om hospice after failing down and kissing to much oxygen to her brain. But don’t apologize for grieving for the loss of your beloved mom. As a caregiver it was a lot for you to deal with and then for her to have dementia I could only imagine but beloved you got this and your strong. You take your time and process. Write your feeling out then burn it or process it idk but do it especially when you don’t film and are alone so you don’t overthink and cause stress to your body. Good luck ❤ again sorry for your loss and I wish you strength and peace as you deal with this hard season in your life.
She's still visits as an angel and I know she's sorry for not acting right before. She loves you and wants you to be happy.
Take walks outside or at a park to refresh your mind. Also watch funny TV shows and listen to happy music.
Hire some help for organizing and downsizing when you feel able to let some things go.
Love you ♥️ be kind to yourself.
Thank you so much. ❤️
So very sorry for your lost.
It seems as if you're dealing with two things, the loss of your Mum but also, I suspect, guilt at not visiting at the end? Is that perhaps why you can't accept her passing? My mother also has Alzheimer's, has had for a number of years. It's hard to watch the decline, the lack of dignity and frustration they feel. If there are issues of resentment too (not everyone has an ideal relationship with their mother) it can compound the guilt of avoiding seeing them, for whatever reason. It's a cruel disease for all concerned. They die twice - the limbo in between is hard, whatever relationship you had with them.
I cared for my Dad while he was on a waiting list to get a double ung transplant, and then after the transplant. I lived 3000 km away from any other family and close to Toronto where my Dad had his transplant, I truly understand that feeling of being so lonely, I did have a boyfriend at the time but he lived 4 hours away and its just not the same as having a sibling or aunt or uncle close by who is a part of not only your current life but your past life with your parent. Take care of YOU now, do what you need to do to treat yourself with extra care and attention. Taking care of a parent is one of the highest honours I believe we can show and practice in this world but with it comes a boat load of emotions. There is no way to prepare a person for the role reversal when the parent becomes the child and the child becomes the parent. One morning when I was helping my Dad brush his teeth he began to cry, I thought maybe I had hurt him, he said no " I just cant stand that my own kid has to do absolutely everything for me, its embarrassing, its frustrating and I hate it but I also love you so much for doing it all at the same time". My Dad lived for 18 months after his transplant but was in and out of the hospital many times during that period during which he would be air lifted from his small village back to Toronto and then I would be "back on duty" so to speak, while he was in the hospital then a month at my condo to get ready to go back to the small village where I am from. It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life but also the most gratifying and hands down the 2nd best decision I have ever made to take care of my father, the 1st best decision I have ever made was homeschooling my son :) Sending you so much love you are one strong woman, MANY people simply can not care for their parent, they simply can not do it, and I do not say this to be harsh towards them, we are all wired differently some people simply can not care for an ailing parent, you did an incredible thing and now you need to take care of YOU.
Thank you so much for saying so. I'm taking it one day at a time, my work friends and my boyfriend have been the best support system for me and I can't thank them enough for either helping me out or just giving a friendly ear. Much love to you ❤️
Prayers coming your way stay strong.
Thank you.
You sound like you handled this just the way most good daughters would. I admire you for your bravery. Hope you can remember the real woman your mom was, not the dementia - sure your mom would want that also. God bless you, sweet lady.🙏🏼🌄
Bless you.
God bless you! So sorry you lost your Mom! You are Not allow Jesus is always with you !
Bless you❤
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I am so sorry for your loss. Probably like a divorce, it will take about 5 years to recover. Please slow down on committing to another person in a live in caretaker role. Way to mich stress to have that in your home especially when you have not had time to heal.
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No apologies..you are going through grieving and loneliness is tge worst....it will all work out..if you need a friend you can contact me anytime
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Dealing with family and dementia is very hard. What's that squeak noise? Sounds like a guinea pig