@@missstranger7697omg were living the same life. my mom was a teacher/professor for 20+ years yet when it comes to her children she says she “doesn’t believe in positive reinforcement.” horrible to me and my siblings our whole lives, but wonderful surrogate mother to children our ages. 🫠🫠
Mine was also like this and now has plans to raise a group of foster children.....i wonder how come she never loved or cared for her 4 biological kids that way.. Like what was wrong with us? And how come kids who were perfect strangers always got to experience best of her.
❤ Just love yourself more. Forgive her. We can't change or moms but we can change ourselves. Now that I'm 68 and she had been dead for 28 years I finally broke free 3vyears ago. Always called names, in front of people the nicest thing. Wow! So I had a nice mom in my head. My whole life. So since I so good about me, my fake mom left in my mind and said she always loved me. When my mom said she loves to torment me, never good enough, and said when I finally had enuf she actually said its about time you got a spine. I quit overeating. Started exercising lost 60 pounds. I feel so good I can't tell you. I love u too. Just take care of the little girl when we were tiny. I make myself buy stuff I always wanted and have a clean happy home. 🎉🎉🎉take care 🥰
@@videorocketzmillar007milla5 Sounds so familiar. I just recently realized how much damage they do to us. I'm actually beginning to feel like maybe the best years are ahead... I've stopped the pattern of narcissistic marriages and relationships, I deserve better. I feel like I'm learning I have value. It's always been her, and she won't change. We've been estranged for 20 years now!! It's such a sick pattern.
Girl I'm so sorry you're still going thru it...I turned 20 now and I feel like I never lived a day of my entire childhood...all I can remember is her yelling at me, slapping me and making me the villain I hate myself so much
@@sidrahareem3808 You're so young, at least you know what the deal is. It's taken me 55 years! Please don't hate yourself, you're not the problem and you're worthy of being loved and being happy. I know the struggle, it's horrible. Take care of yourself, mentally and physically. They aren't going to change, but we can choose to not tolerate the abuse anymore and begin to heal.
But eye opening. Not ever women is fit to be a mother nor a man fit to be a father. Having toxic parents sometimes do create better ones but the chances are always slim.
Right? I was 45 before I found out that other mothers actually LIKED their kids and told them how proud they are of them and how beautiful they are! I know more people with screwed up mothers than the opposite though.
well yes, we are all humans after all. really move on, theres nothing you can do about them, nothing. take careof yourself as they would lie no matter and manuplate it in such a way that it seems your wrong, and when you accept it, she will fking break you to the core to make you feel bad about who you are and not who ywhat she wants you to be.
@@sirijanthakur I understand your sentiment but “just MoveOn“ are you simply not good enough advice. For the suffers of narcissistic abuse especially in childhood they need extensive healing and therapy before they’re able to truly “move on“. Being a victim of a narcissist in your most sensitive years reeks havoc on your nervous system and even worsens your health.
I saw everything today. For the first time in my 22 years of living I’ve realized my mom is an abusive narcissist. I used to always give her a break before because of how bad my father was. But I understand now. I’m genuinely scared now. All I can do is save a lot of money and hope I can move out fast enough.
Same here. Our mother would treat me and my older sister poorly with lies, because our father would be absent. When we became adults however, our father saw how wicked she was so he tried to comfort us instead...
My father was also bad to her an was also abusive towards me growing up until they divorced an he moved out...when I would spend time with my dad after the divorce I started to notice even as a young boy that he wasn't near as angry as he was when he was in a relationship with my mom
bro, i actually went to the other side and tried to fix her, it does nt fking works. Good job on moving out, take care of yourself, no science no information and no gods plan works for this women, I had psychosis due to her and thats when i saw her true color, i asked her to give me space yet she did not, ffs can you realise that she doesnt fkign cares. My dad is always angry at her too, i can relate with you. Im just moving out now, in the hopes to never see her face again, idc about abusers
Spot on. Specially that thing where your friends think why you are so distant from her. The entire blame shifts on you. And if you are an Highly Sensitive Person like me then Bingo! Your life is beyond repair. And she enjoys the most out of all these.
Same. I'm sensitive, but what's even worse is that i always tear up when I'm angry.. it's like a cherry on top for them i guess. They think I'm just being dramatic.
They also single out targets to abuse. One week it could be the dog the next you. The fixation with control and showing you they are the “alpha” is truly disturbing.
Shudder, never forget the whip of a leather belt on a sweet wee doggie. I could cry forever it's actually more traumatising when they do it to another sentient being that doesn't deserve it. It hurt to write this😢😢😢😢😢 especially cause you can't go back in time ,throw them out physically and beat the shit out them with a leather belt,there,that's how it feels to be hit by a leather belt. That's what they make you,sad and angry. I'm actually a very kind sensitive person but I can't bear cruelty or unfairness and I'm no coward,I'll turn into a raging cat,but only to monsters. So sad how they can break through and project these thoughts I'd never have. ❤ To all animals and people who have been defenceless and the abused who've been made to watch others abused and stand by for their own survival and if you jump in,they threaten to make it WORSEfor the other victim. Next day,sweetness and light like nothing happened,trauma bonded to just forget and stay in their PTSD now slowly becoming yours.not talking about my mum here but someone else equally trusted,not having an empathy chip,it's pointless to try to resolve or talk about it,a I'm really sorry,truly sorry maybe genuine tears ,but,nope,nothing. I'm wrong to not forget abuse because it was "years" ago, people just don't understand your consciousness is damaged maybe forever with no justice. The beastial persona that did that to the abusers mind goes back generations,abandonment trauma they share it with you. You now have their anger for what others see as nothing. Tears are streaming down my face reading these comments and remembering this. I just had a cruel and nasty call with my mother,no compassion,no support just told to get over it. She tolde to gtf yesterday and nobody would believe she's capable of that for no reason. She is a different person with others ,but I'm the dysfunctional person ,I walk home nearly crying every so often and yet some days she can do really nice things for me. I'm pregnant so I just burst into tears going to the shops after being told to get to fck , I went and bought her new teddy bear fur bedding by silent night,hoping to stop her cruel moodshe just raged at me for carrying things when I'm pregnant...true but maybe if she'd come with her trolley I wouldn't need to struggle. I'm the black sheep but the only child family or friend that's literally across the road, my child will never be treated with anything but love.
My mother saw me as a competition and as a target to shoot down. No matter how bad she could be, I thanked her for at least protecting me and my sister from the world, when we were younger.
It is soooooo disturbing and they think everyone is fazed by everythinf they say and do like main character syndrome my mum literally lost her temper over the freezer having food in today she didnt want all the draws full considering there were 2 empty ones... god give me strength to deal with this witch lord knows her and her parasite boyfriend have sucked the good nature out of me. Too much mercy too much compassion will get you killed. I choked him out the other day and considering he offered me out in my own home. My mum still blamed me and was scurrying under the mat with him playing the victim. Abusive alchololics. Took such a toll on my mental health without even realising it. The nightmares that lay before me are dreams compared to whats behind me now. God bless u all
People who meet my mom would always tell me ”she is so nice, you should be lucky” when in reality behind closed doors she will pick on me for anything.
watching my mother be more of a mom to her students then she ever was to me is a unique and incredibly painful thing. she had it in her to be a good mother the whole time, she just didn’t care enough when it came to me.
I went through this for a 28 years of my life. She is exactly all that is said here. Worst part was my dad also gave in to her behaviour who was abusing me physically to extract any thing that is of use from me. Staying away from her since 2 years, yet I wake up every night due to panic attacks and cry each day till I drift back to sleep and tried. The way she treated still haunts me to date each moment. I hope never I get to be treated like that
Yes my mother is the same. You describe her jer perfectly😂 besides that she lies about me infront of others when im not there. Then they dont like me anymore because of her lies. Then they ask me why i dont help her more. I should be happy having a mom like her. And she even lies to my face. I act like i dont know the truth and she still lies.
It puts me in tears hearing this / listening to him explain this because everything he says is just 100% exactly how my mother is. The worst pain in the world in my opinion comes from my mother along with the most love in the world. It’s so hard to have a consistent relationship with her, when I try so hard to be the best son I could. I’m certainly not perfect but I know I most definitely don’t deserve what she saying . It’s the ultimate love / hate relationship but I can’t let myself hate her I’ll never find it in my heart to even be able to do so, regardless the amount of times she purposely try’s to anger / hurt me ✌️+❤️ 🌎
I am just waiting for my mother to die. Aaaaa. Why is it taking so long. I'm so done with all the abuse. Either I should die or she should.. I'm totally fed up.
@BAP-qd9gu thats what my narc mom said when i tried ro tell her about something 🙄 oh whatever i had it way worse! Me: Like u don't even know whats going on how can u say that u just cut me off?
This is my dad. I never understood why he is so wonderful to everyone around him except for me and my mom. I have finally gone no contact with them both
@@zultrax7496 my mom is an enabler and allows him to treat me how he does and always takes his side. She isn’t innocent in it. Plus it wasn’t my decision to go no contact with her, it was hers. If I’m going no contact with my dad then she says that falls into me going no contact with her too
My mother is more than this and my father don't live with us as he is in army and he believes what she says to him. I often cry in my room sitting alone not sleeping at night.
My mom would always analyze my behaviour and she would comment on my body at any chance given. For example if I would buy new leggings she would say ”They seem to be too small for you” and she would also say that I have cellulite. Cellulite doesn’t really bother me but I mean, why would you say that? And I’m not even overweight or obese. She would always stare at me and my body, and always comment on like if I had lost or gained weight.
It's crazy and sad how so many people can relate to this including me. Some situations like this can lead to something horrible and might have an affect on some people's mental health. It's crazy how some parents dont think about how their actions affect their kids. I can relate to this a lot. Its not fair on how sum people are actually stuck in situations like this.
My mom got me married into a very very abusive family with a mentally ill husband for me so that she wouldn't have to have me in her house any longer than my 18th birthday- totally destroyed me from the inside but she goes to regular carboot sales to pick up bargains and sends them on a cargo to Pakistan to help the poor !! So yes my mom is good and looks after the poor but doesnt bother about her own child - i cant even pray for my parents and that's the saddest part
And sometimes I'm so jealous of my bestfriend for having such a beautiful family, never in years I have heard her say anything bad about her family, once I was talking to her mother while I was severely ill and her mother said "I wish I could come there and take care of you" never ever I cried so damn ugly, my mother knowing well how I'll I was blamed me for the medical expenses, she still does, a part of me knows that this shit is expected but the child in me craves the affection it never received
oh my word i’ve never heard my mother discribed so perfectly in words! thank you for this! it’s deeply heartbreaking and hard for me to explain to others. And i’ve mostly stopped trying because i won’t be believed. even though i’m 40 yr old and i have been saying this same thing for all 40 years.
lol my friends tell my kids you’re mom is badass and they hated it when I got onto the live in neighbor kid. So I think I did a fair, not perfect job at showing mine who I really am.
She said me who will merry to you because you are dark even my dark colour comes because of her i dont know what she wants,she do everything for her relatives...not for me...she also want my little sister to be her she shows her lots of love...😂😂😂
My mother is narcissistic she is cruel to me and nice to others n my friends. Even my father didnt stop her to do that and at last they abandoned me . Now I live on my own like a helpless person.
My mom isn’t narcissistic she’s just annoying af. She always throws away things that mean a lot to me like rn she threw away my school’s band jacket and hoodie knowing damn well I valued it a lot because of the memories. It’s childish to hold on to old toys I know but I had stuffed animals that I owned like 10+ years and she threw all those away too. When i’m gone she goes into my room looking for things to throw away it’s gotten to the point that I have to hide my valuables under my bed 🙄
She ALWAYS keeps track of what I don't like and uses it against me all at one time which is extremely destabilizing. I wish I would have got on tape the last rage she had... witchcraft on my dog. My dog was traumatized and didn't understand what happened but he was acting very off. The night before he passed away, my DAD made a comment that hurt me and KNEW it would traumatize me because I was already devastated by my dogs cancer. I still cant believe what they did and act like nothing happened.
You're so real for the "wish I taped it". I constantly kick myself for not recording my mum. Im sorry ur mum did that, it's messed up. Maybe if they heard themselves they'd stop saying the stuff they do, huh?
Yess the ending part: my whole immediate family treats me with utter disrespect and just blames EVERYTHING on me: a role my mother created. How does my family not notice they’re being brainwashed? That’s what I want to know.
I am 17 year old..nd my mom is completely narcissistic from very beginning ...I feel so sad nd helpless coz she is continuously putting all blames on me ....nd if anytime I tell truth she started creating disaster ...many time she came on my character as well however i have not done anything like that never ever in my lyf😢😢
Also, you are scared to tell them when you are emotionally going through it because they will pretend to be there for you and then punch you in the gut, after stabbing you in the back. Iykyk
Everyone loves my mom but no nome except my frnds... she teaches in a school and all kids love her bcuz she is very friendly. She always abuses me and she beat my dad very badly she scratched his back soon hard he was bleeding very bad and now he lives in another place and I know she is cheating on my dad bcuz she is always talking on her phone, sending hearts and kisses and stuff and leaves me alone at evening and and comes back at midnight this has happned 2 times that she left me alone and came back the other day without leaving me food
Mines a straight USER only fuks with u if it benefits her in a way, expecting handouts but dont do nothing because her sister financially takes care her lazy ass , my sis and the rest turn a blind eye she be putting on mad fronts like she so freaking caring and cool, 😢
A narcissist mother can take your life...trust me....I don't feel safe in my own house...each day I am counting to go away from her...she has distant everybody from me...she is totally mad and 24/7 tries to pick fights with me..she always wants me to bow down to her..that I will never ever do...
I can forgive my mother for the times she talked down to me and my sister, trying to protect us from the world. She was a person who was making mistakes. But what I can't forgive about her, is ignorance of my (and my sister's) feelings towards her. Talking to her was like talking to a brick wall. Indeed a toxic narcissistic woman my mother was.
I battle with "honor thy mother and father" my dad was my rock, best friend, and the best dad ever. Honoring him, NP. Honoring my mother has been critical to my heart
@@tashacherry1480I believe in scripture too its very difficult to obey that one when they test you constantly. I'm so sorry. I just go back to well Jesus didn't deserve his treatment either but he was faithful to his Fathers will which included alot of mistreatment. My unbelieving friends get so mad and say that's why they hate religion they think it traps you in abuse. I can see what they mean but I know that we will have a greater reward in the end when we endure faithfully. Just remember sis one day we will meet in a place where there are no more tears or sorrows 👐 Can't wait to see you there.
My mother change her whole personality in a second a person enters the house. All smiley smiley , joking, best caring and shiet but once they leave she's gonna talk shiet about that person , she's all mean and take it out on us, absolutely disgusting. I ended up being blamed by literally EVERYONE around that I'm ungrateful brat and how wonderful she is, that's why I had to distant from whole family who don't live with her and know her mask only.
This is probably why my grown ass ex almost 30 kept leaving me every time he talked to his mom on the phone he would end up having a panic attack start being mean to me and end up getting picked up by her and leave town. I don't know why he couldn't just cut her off. He had narcissistic qualitys too hard to figure out what was going on.
Same. That's how i see my parents. I keep feeling guilty for this once they buy me something, because I'm a minor, I can't basically work, make money, live alone.. so I'm grateful when it comes to money. But parents aren't just supposed to buy you food, or clothings. They're supposed to raise you with love and care, help you when things go bad, not laugh at you while you're clearly telling them that you're suffering. So no, I'm sorry, but my mom.. doesn't feel like it. And my dad just feels like a man who would do anything that his wife says. It's a little romantic, not gonna lie. But if I'm being a little honest to my mom, he gets mad. He even wanted to beat me once, or more. I may be lucky that my mom isn't that worse to letting my dad harm me. But he did once harm me, physically. And mentally.
Pretty much my entire life I had to fend for my self and protect myself my mother always attacked me, she ever loved me, people would say if it wasn't for your mother you wouldn't be living here, like bish my mom only paid my deposit and I paid her back for that, so technically I paid for it.
Yes, my mother was always a fantastic mother……. to other ppl’s kids.
Same with mine, especially since she was a teacher.
You're not the only one. Mine too 😢
@@missstranger7697omg were living the same life. my mom was a teacher/professor for 20+ years yet when it comes to her children she says she “doesn’t believe in positive reinforcement.” horrible to me and my siblings our whole lives, but wonderful surrogate mother to children our ages. 🫠🫠
Same. Mine has always had a surrogate daughter or two in the background. It‘s so disturbing. I always feel bad for those girls.
Mine was also like this and now has plans to raise a group of foster children.....i wonder how come she never loved or cared for her 4 biological kids that way.. Like what was wrong with us? And how come kids who were perfect strangers always got to experience best of her.
I feel alone a lot. Narcissistic mothers strip out lives away. I'm 55 and still struggling. It's agony 😢.
@danswhite8544 Absolutely correct.
❤ Just love yourself more. Forgive her. We can't change or moms but we can change ourselves. Now that I'm 68 and she had been dead for 28 years I finally broke free 3vyears ago.
Always called names, in front of people the nicest thing. Wow! So I had a nice mom in my head. My whole life. So since I so good about me, my fake mom left in my mind and said she always loved me.
When my mom said she loves to torment me, never good enough, and said when I finally had enuf she actually said its about time you got a spine.
I quit overeating. Started exercising lost 60 pounds. I feel so good I can't tell you. I love u too. Just take care of the little girl when we were tiny. I make myself buy stuff I always wanted and have a clean happy home. 🎉🎉🎉take care 🥰
@@videorocketzmillar007milla5 Sounds so familiar. I just recently realized how much damage they do to us. I'm actually beginning to feel like maybe the best years are ahead... I've stopped the pattern of narcissistic marriages and relationships, I deserve better. I feel like I'm learning I have value. It's always been her, and she won't change. We've been estranged for 20 years now!! It's such a sick pattern.
Girl I'm so sorry you're still going thru it...I turned 20 now and I feel like I never lived a day of my entire childhood...all I can remember is her yelling at me, slapping me and making me the villain I hate myself so much
@@sidrahareem3808 You're so young, at least you know what the deal is. It's taken me 55 years! Please don't hate yourself, you're not the problem and you're worthy of being loved and being happy. I know the struggle, it's horrible. Take care of yourself, mentally and physically. They aren't going to change, but we can choose to not tolerate the abuse anymore and begin to heal.
To see so many comments that relates to my situation with my mom let's me know im not alone. This is so therapeutic
But eye opening. Not ever women is fit to be a mother nor a man fit to be a father. Having toxic parents sometimes do create better ones but the chances are always slim.
Right? I was 45 before I found out that other mothers actually LIKED their kids and told them how proud they are of them and how beautiful they are!
I know more people with screwed up mothers than the opposite though.
well yes, we are all humans after all. really move on, theres nothing you can do about them, nothing. take careof yourself as they would lie no matter and manuplate it in such a way that it seems your wrong, and when you accept it, she will fking break you to the core to make you feel bad about who you are and not who ywhat she wants you to be.
@@sirijanthakur I understand your sentiment but “just MoveOn“ are you simply not good enough advice. For the suffers of narcissistic abuse especially in childhood they need extensive healing and therapy before they’re able to truly “move on“. Being a victim of a narcissist in your most sensitive years reeks havoc on your nervous system and even worsens your health.
THIS
I saw everything today. For the first time in my 22 years of living I’ve realized my mom is an abusive narcissist. I used to always give her a break before because of how bad my father was. But I understand now. I’m genuinely scared now. All I can do is save a lot of money and hope I can move out fast enough.
Same here. Our mother would treat me and my older sister poorly with lies, because our father would be absent. When we became adults however, our father saw how wicked she was so he tried to comfort us instead...
Your peacefulness is the most prior thing....bless you!
Don’t let her know you on to her
Gather your stuff quietly and escape while she is not home
Good luck
Been there done that
It’s definitely possible
My father was also bad to her an was also abusive towards me growing up until they divorced an he moved out...when I would spend time with my dad after the divorce I started to notice even as a young boy that he wasn't near as angry as he was when he was in a relationship with my mom
bro, i actually went to the other side and tried to fix her, it does nt fking works. Good job on moving out, take care of yourself, no science no information and no gods plan works for this women, I had psychosis due to her and thats when i saw her true color, i asked her to give me space yet she did not, ffs can you realise that she doesnt fkign cares. My dad is always angry at her too, i can relate with you. Im just moving out now, in the hopes to never see her face again, idc about abusers
Spot on. Specially that thing where your friends think why you are so distant from her. The entire blame shifts on you. And if you are an Highly Sensitive Person like me then Bingo! Your life is beyond repair. And she enjoys the most out of all these.
Finally someone who gets this part of it
Only reason I can't leave her as an unmarried girl with no father 😢 help me guys what should I do?
@@ninii394Get a job and a roommate you trust than move out.
@@Hayata_dair_hersey95 ok then ? I'm not married how will I marry and people won't accept me in Indian culture
Same. I'm sensitive, but what's even worse is that i always tear up when I'm angry.. it's like a cherry on top for them i guess. They think I'm just being dramatic.
They also single out targets to abuse. One week it could be the dog the next you. The fixation with control and showing you they are the “alpha” is truly disturbing.
Shudder, never forget the whip of a leather belt on a sweet wee doggie. I could cry forever it's actually more traumatising when they do it to another sentient being that doesn't deserve it. It hurt to write this😢😢😢😢😢 especially cause you can't go back in time ,throw them out physically and beat the shit out them with a leather belt,there,that's how it feels to be hit by a leather belt. That's what they make you,sad and angry. I'm actually a very kind sensitive person but I can't bear cruelty or unfairness and I'm no coward,I'll turn into a raging cat,but only to monsters. So sad how they can break through and project these thoughts I'd never have. ❤ To all animals and people who have been defenceless and the abused who've been made to watch others abused and stand by for their own survival and if you jump in,they threaten to make it WORSEfor the other victim. Next day,sweetness and light like nothing happened,trauma bonded to just forget and stay in their PTSD now slowly becoming yours.not talking about my mum here but someone else equally trusted,not having an empathy chip,it's pointless to try to resolve or talk about it,a I'm really sorry,truly sorry maybe genuine tears ,but,nope,nothing. I'm wrong to not forget abuse because it was "years" ago, people just don't understand your consciousness is damaged maybe forever with no justice. The beastial persona that did that to the abusers mind goes back generations,abandonment trauma they share it with you. You now have their anger for what others see as nothing. Tears are streaming down my face reading these comments and remembering this. I just had a cruel and nasty call with my mother,no compassion,no support just told to get over it. She tolde to gtf yesterday and nobody would believe she's capable of that for no reason. She is a different person with others ,but I'm the dysfunctional person ,I walk home nearly crying every so often and yet some days she can do really nice things for me. I'm pregnant so I just burst into tears going to the shops after being told to get to fck , I went and bought her new teddy bear fur bedding by silent night,hoping to stop her cruel moodshe just raged at me for carrying things when I'm pregnant...true but maybe if she'd come with her trolley I wouldn't need to struggle. I'm the black sheep but the only child family or friend that's literally across the road, my child will never be treated with anything but love.
My mother saw me as a competition and as a target to shoot down. No matter how bad she could be, I thanked her for at least protecting me and my sister from the world, when we were younger.
@missstranger7697 if u call that protection
It is soooooo disturbing and they think everyone is fazed by everythinf they say and do like main character syndrome my mum literally lost her temper over the freezer having food in today she didnt want all the draws full considering there were 2 empty ones... god give me strength to deal with this witch lord knows her and her parasite boyfriend have sucked the good nature out of me. Too much mercy too much compassion will get you killed. I choked him out the other day and considering he offered me out in my own home. My mum still blamed me and was scurrying under the mat with him playing the victim. Abusive alchololics. Took such a toll on my mental health without even realising it. The nightmares that lay before me are dreams compared to whats behind me now. God bless u all
Omg I'm becoming like my mother
People who meet my mom would always tell me ”she is so nice, you should be lucky” when in reality behind closed doors she will pick on me for anything.
watching my mother be more of a mom to her students then she ever was to me is a unique and incredibly painful thing. she had it in her to be a good mother the whole time, she just didn’t care enough when it came to me.
My mother is like that and I keep her at a distance. I'm thankful my Dad, my Aunts and other family members saw right through her.
Same here...
This is too relatable 💀 especially when you meet her friends and they tell you that you need to be more grateful for the mother you have.
I went through this for a 28 years of my life. She is exactly all that is said here. Worst part was my dad also gave in to her behaviour who was abusing me physically to extract any thing that is of use from me. Staying away from her since 2 years, yet I wake up every night due to panic attacks and cry each day till I drift back to sleep and tried. The way she treated still haunts me to date each moment. I hope never I get to be treated like that
The "peace love and life" facade is their ultimate scam. If you dare say anything afterwards, you are now supposedly the "bad" guy all of a sudden
Yeah just realized lately that I grew up with a narcissistic mum.. realized it just now that I’m in my 40s…
41 here. I knew at age 4😢
Yes my mother is the same. You describe her jer perfectly😂 besides that she lies about me infront of others when im not there. Then they dont like me anymore because of her lies. Then they ask me why i dont help her more. I should be happy having a mom like her. And she even lies to my face. I act like i dont know the truth and she still lies.
It puts me in tears hearing this / listening to him explain this because everything he says is just 100% exactly how my mother is. The worst pain in the world in my opinion comes from my mother along with the most love in the world. It’s so hard to have a consistent relationship with her, when I try so hard to be the best son I could. I’m certainly not perfect but I know I most definitely don’t deserve what she saying
. It’s the ultimate love / hate relationship but I can’t let myself hate her I’ll never find it in my heart to even be able to do so, regardless the amount of times she purposely try’s to anger / hurt me
✌️+❤️ 🌎
This is my MIL 1,000%
Horrifying.
Omg this guy understands
I am just waiting for my mother to die. Aaaaa. Why is it taking so long. I'm so done with all the abuse. Either I should die or she should.. I'm totally fed up.
lol why I said this also
Option number 3
Go no contact
Cut off contact from her
Live your life without her in it
@BAP-qd9gu thats what my narc mom said when i tried ro tell her about something 🙄 oh whatever i had it way worse! Me: Like u don't even know whats going on how can u say that u just cut me off?
@PrincessBabykinz yeah some narcs in here too go figure 😮💨
Watching the act is crazy. 😁 All her children "disrespectful" lol. Its not even worth the time of explaining whats happening. Time will tell.
This is my dad. I never understood why he is so wonderful to everyone around him except for me and my mom. I have finally gone no contact with them both
Leave your mom alone??
@@zultrax7496 my mom is an enabler and allows him to treat me how he does and always takes his side. She isn’t innocent in it. Plus it wasn’t my decision to go no contact with her, it was hers. If I’m going no contact with my dad then she says that falls into me going no contact with her too
Damn...this explains my own mother ...I am glad I survived that
Same thing. My mom doesn't believe that I am autistic and gaslights me. She dismisses everything I say and calls me delusional
How is this so true literally!
Every mother is like this
This is 100% both my parents
My mother is more than this and my father don't live with us as he is in army and he believes what she says to him. I often cry in my room sitting alone not sleeping at night.
My mom would always analyze my behaviour and she would comment on my body at any chance given. For example if I would buy new leggings she would say ”They seem to be too small for you” and she would also say that I have cellulite. Cellulite doesn’t really bother me but I mean, why would you say that? And I’m not even overweight or obese. She would always stare at me and my body, and always comment on like if I had lost or gained weight.
Just moved out a week ago wish me luck brothers and sister ❤
"Love and light" I hate that saying, I generally hear it from people who have caused me a lot of pain.
It's crazy and sad how so many people can relate to this including me. Some situations like this can lead to something horrible and might have an affect on some people's mental health. It's crazy how some parents dont think about how their actions affect their kids. I can relate to this a lot. Its not fair on how sum people are actually stuck in situations like this.
My mom got me married into a very very abusive family with a mentally ill husband for me so that she wouldn't have to have me in her house any longer than my 18th birthday- totally destroyed me from the inside but she goes to regular carboot sales to pick up bargains and sends them on a cargo to Pakistan to help the poor !! So yes my mom is good and looks after the poor but doesnt bother about her own child - i cant even pray for my parents and that's the saddest part
And sometimes I'm so jealous of my bestfriend for having such a beautiful family, never in years I have heard her say anything bad about her family, once I was talking to her mother while I was severely ill and her mother said "I wish I could come there and take care of you" never ever I cried so damn ugly, my mother knowing well how I'll I was blamed me for the medical expenses, she still does, a part of me knows that this shit is expected but the child in me craves the affection it never received
My whole childhood right here.
I moved country to avoid any contact with her. She ended up destroying my brothers life
oh my word i’ve never heard my mother discribed so perfectly in words! thank you for this! it’s deeply heartbreaking and hard for me to explain to others. And i’ve mostly stopped trying because i won’t be believed. even though i’m 40 yr old and i have been saying this same thing for all 40 years.
Yes my mother is 😢 I feel very sad I am depressed too
My mother AND mother in law!! 😒😣🤦🏻♀️
My mom acts all nice then when tha person leaves she starts to talk shit abkut them.
lol my friends tell my kids you’re mom is badass and they hated it when I got onto the live in neighbor kid. So I think I did a fair, not perfect job at showing mine who I really am.
Sounds like my mom !
I feel im mental now bc when we’re arguing i feel to punch , leave the house or kms
I wonder what’s the best way to deal with this
Wow... just got reminded that my mom is a narcissist.
Thats Connie all right !!
my mum's wasn't even nice in front of others
My mother makes every situation about her
Yes I think my mom is Narcissistic
My mother was silent and disinterested behind closed doors
Sick!
This is the trait of my mother
She said me who will merry to you because you are dark even my dark colour comes because of her i dont know what she wants,she do everything for her relatives...not for me...she also want my little sister to be her she shows her lots of love...😂😂😂
I struggle with this bc the ‘golden child’ doesn’t get ‘punishments” at all, do mothers know she treat each of her kids differently? ❤
How can you my mother so accurately
My mother is narcissistic she is cruel to me and nice to others n my friends. Even my father didnt stop her to do that and at last they abandoned me . Now I live on my own like a helpless person.
Im packing up and god bless. 👍🤲💪🧳
She loves all the kids in the world except me 😭
They, my other family members do t see it!
My mother is really nice
She is tough but for my good only
That's why we end up laughing with each other after a fight 😂
Bruh my mother doesnt even defend for me when my relatives comment on things I like and how I look, she joine them in their banter and puts me down
All Facts....I have one!!!😢😢😢😮😮😮😮😢
Wow my mom is narcissistic and I never noticed
First statement -Why was she not nice to me ...hits me to the core
My mom isn’t narcissistic she’s just annoying af. She always throws away things that mean a lot to me like rn she threw away my school’s band jacket and hoodie knowing damn well I valued it a lot because of the memories. It’s childish to hold on to old toys I know but I had stuffed animals that I owned like 10+ years and she threw all those away too. When i’m gone she goes into my room looking for things to throw away it’s gotten to the point that I have to hide my valuables under my bed 🙄
Just like my mother, till i exposed her and dumped her... 😂
She ALWAYS keeps track of what I don't like and uses it against me all at one time which is extremely destabilizing.
I wish I would have got on tape the last rage she had... witchcraft on my dog.
My dog was traumatized and didn't understand what happened but he was acting very off.
The night before he passed away, my DAD made a comment that hurt me and KNEW it would traumatize me because I was already devastated by my dogs cancer.
I still cant believe what they did and act like nothing happened.
You're so real for the "wish I taped it". I constantly kick myself for not recording my mum. Im sorry ur mum did that, it's messed up.
Maybe if they heard themselves they'd stop saying the stuff they do, huh?
Yess the ending part: my whole immediate family treats me with utter disrespect and just blames EVERYTHING on me: a role my mother created. How does my family not notice they’re being brainwashed? That’s what I want to know.
Genau so war es! ❤
You are right
My mother is a narcissist😢
I thought I was alone and then I said let me check UA-cam. What a shit life 😢
Threatening to kick you out..
among many other things
My mom was strong, kind and Godly! I thank my sovereign Lord I had such a mom or I might have been a juvenile delinquent.
I am 17 year old..nd my mom is completely narcissistic from very beginning ...I feel so sad nd helpless coz she is continuously putting all blames on me ....nd if anytime I tell truth she started creating disaster ...many time she came on my character as well however i have not done anything like that never ever in my lyf😢😢
How to get out from narcissistic family😢
How tf would someone tell her that she's a narcissist and how would she take it
Yes she is 🎉
God this is too accurate
Also, you are scared to tell them when you are emotionally going through it because they will pretend to be there for you and then punch you in the gut, after stabbing you in the back. Iykyk
True true true
Spot on
Why are the children blamed for things they did not even do?
Like my mother
I hate my mother.
Sounds like the woman who gave birth to me.
This is my story for 32 year's
Now please tell us,how to change her?
At the beginning i thought he was going to say " a narcissistic mother acts like a whore!" And yes that would have been my mother😅😂😮
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Same problem we are facing it's true 👍🇮🇳🤝🙏
Everyone loves my mom but no nome except my frnds... she teaches in a school and all kids love her bcuz she is very friendly. She always abuses me and she beat my dad very badly she scratched his back soon hard he was bleeding very bad and now he lives in another place and I know she is cheating on my dad bcuz she is always talking on her phone, sending hearts and kisses and stuff and leaves me alone at evening and and comes back at midnight this has happned 2 times that she left me alone and came back the other day without leaving me food
Very true
Holy shit
Broo my mom
Mines a straight USER only fuks with u if it benefits her in a way, expecting handouts but dont do nothing because her sister financially takes care her lazy ass , my sis and the rest turn a blind eye she be putting on mad fronts like she so freaking caring and cool, 😢
To your core lol😅
Yup😢
A narcissist mother can take your life...trust me....I don't feel safe in my own house...each day I am counting to go away from her...she has distant everybody from me...she is totally mad and 24/7 tries to pick fights with me..she always wants me to bow down to her..that I will never ever do...
Same here. If she's not mean or critic me at least once a day, it's because she's sick and can't go out of the bed.
i understand you, I can totally relate to that. hope you're doing well now
I'm going through the same, counting my days to leave this place ASAP and never look back. 😥
@@preetitoppo8941 God bless you..I have also left my home....hope we all get what we deserve! ❤️❤️
I can forgive my mother for the times she talked down to me and my sister, trying to protect us from the world.
She was a person who was making mistakes.
But what I can't forgive about her, is ignorance of my (and my sister's) feelings towards her.
Talking to her was like talking to a brick wall.
Indeed a toxic narcissistic woman my mother was.
Children deserve parents
But some parents don't deserve children
I battle with "honor thy mother and father" my dad was my rock, best friend, and the best dad ever. Honoring him, NP. Honoring my mother has been critical to my heart
@@tashacherry1480I believe in scripture too its very difficult to obey that one when they test you constantly. I'm so sorry. I just go back to well Jesus didn't deserve his treatment either but he was faithful to his Fathers will which included alot of mistreatment. My unbelieving friends get so mad and say that's why they hate religion they think it traps you in abuse. I can see what they mean but I know that we will have a greater reward in the end when we endure faithfully. Just remember sis one day we will meet in a place where there are no more tears or sorrows 👐 Can't wait to see you there.
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@@tashacherry1480my father is the best I wish children only had fathers
My mother change her whole personality in a second a person enters the house. All smiley smiley , joking, best caring and shiet but once they leave she's gonna talk shiet about that person , she's all mean and take it out on us, absolutely disgusting. I ended up being blamed by literally EVERYONE around that I'm ungrateful brat and how wonderful she is, that's why I had to distant from whole family who don't live with her and know her mask only.
Yes! Spot on. Mine does the same thing. Ive always been hurt and confused but deep inside i know it's her issue & she will never change... or care.
Same to same...
This is probably why my grown ass ex almost 30 kept leaving me every time he talked to his mom on the phone he would end up having a panic attack start being mean to me and end up getting picked up by her and leave town. I don't know why he couldn't just cut her off. He had narcissistic qualitys too hard to figure out what was going on.
Mine does the same thing. My stepdad does this as well. It’s crazy af how the mask falls off when company leaves. 🤧😐🤦🏽♀️
I can understand ❤
At this point she's NOT your Mother
She's just a random woman who gave birth to u...😞
Same. That's how i see my parents. I keep feeling guilty for this once they buy me something, because I'm a minor, I can't basically work, make money, live alone.. so I'm grateful when it comes to money. But parents aren't just supposed to buy you food, or clothings. They're supposed to raise you with love and care, help you when things go bad, not laugh at you while you're clearly telling them that you're suffering. So no, I'm sorry, but my mom.. doesn't feel like it. And my dad just feels like a man who would do anything that his wife says. It's a little romantic, not gonna lie. But if I'm being a little honest to my mom, he gets mad. He even wanted to beat me once, or more. I may be lucky that my mom isn't that worse to letting my dad harm me. But he did once harm me, physically. And mentally.
Yes
@@zncnxxtry to work hard and get a good paying job, 😊and leave them
Pretty much my entire life I had to fend for my self and protect myself my mother always attacked me, she ever loved me, people would say if it wasn't for your mother you wouldn't be living here, like bish my mom only paid my deposit and I paid her back for that, so technically I paid for it.
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