How to Deal with Manipulative People - 5 Tips That Actually Work!
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- Опубліковано 17 тра 2024
- Knowing how to deal with manipulation and manipulative people can be a real challenge, especially if it’s someone you’re close to… so, let’s talk about manipulation!
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What is manipulation? How is it different from influencing? This video is all about understanding manipulation and how to deal with manipulative people, with five ways to deal with manipulative people that actually work.
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Chapters in this video:
0:00 Let’s talk about manipulation
1:08 Defining manipulation
2:08 Reflect and trust your gut
3:05 Confront the person
4:11 Set clear boundaries
5:05 Walk away if you need to
6:24 Be mindful of your own intentions
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I have a daughter that does that to me every time she calls me. I live in the US and she is in Canada where she was deported too after certain unsavory actions. She has 7 children and none with her. I've been raising her first child since birth and have sole custody of him. Her son is acting exactly as she did when he hit puberty. I cannot handle either one and I'm suffering because of it. I'm blamed for every situation that occurs. Not once did she call me to say hi Mom how are you doing. There is always a $ attached to it I cannot count how many times she threatened to kill herself because of the repercussions of her actions. Doctors and hospitals know her too well. She has gotten help in every way possible and yes she is an addict that was doing so well for about 3 months. I am getting help with my situation however I feel guilty because of needs I cannot fix for her. Sorry for my rant. It feels good to just vent like this. Please excuse my grammar, English is not my first language.
That's OK, sometimes you just need a good vent! It sounds like a really difficult situation, and conflicts tend to be far more challenging the closer we are in terms of being related... so parent/child is like the ultimate recipe for conflict, unfortunately. Obviously you need to do what you need to do to look after yourself, mentally and physically, and if that means keeping people at arms-length emotionally then do so - you can be respectful and civil and kind without allowing yourself to be dragged into drama. Wishing you all the very best, and remember to take things one day at a time and focus on what you can directly control... which is you, and what you choose to say and do. Jeremy 😃 (PS: No need to excuse your grammar, it's quite good!)
And drug addiction is so insidious. I feel for you. I had a neighbor who was happily married for twenty six years when his wife became addicted. Nicest people you could ever meet. Then she started to act strange, and started disappearing. One day she just left while he was at work. He searched for her and found her living with a man who was supplying her with drugs. She was a shadow of her former self. He tried desperately to rescue her. He finally had to give up and move on. He married someone else. It was so sad. Sometimes there's nothing you can do.
simple and practical tips,thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Excellent episode Jeremy! After listening to several of your podcasts, and watching these videos, as well as your Instagram, I am finding the techniques you lay out are effective for me. I feel I am on the path to lasting change. Thank you for encouraging us to be our best selves. 😊
Glad to hear it! Thanks so much for your lovely message, you absolutely made my day. Have a great week!!!
👍 I agree with what you are saying. I like to learn the hard way. 😂The current calamity I'm dealing resulting from not listening to my desire/that inner voice and choosing to sacrificially help others.... Took me 3 or 4 times of being "hit over the head" to finally figured out Being kind to others at heavy expense/harm to myself is not being kind to me and I count too! It is not selfish to set boundaries. We need to count ourselves in on the deck.
My general 'rule of thumb' on this is: if you don't look after your needs, who will? Because nobody can or will do it for you, so you had better make yourself a priority! Glad you liked it and wishing you all the best 😃
i love your podcast♥ thank you so much for everything you do!!
Thank you very much! I’m so happy to hear it 😃😃😃
I agree with your points and without being judgmental, it's human nature to judge people when we see how they treat others. Getting an insight into the other persons history may help in your approach.
That's an interesting perspective, thanks for sharing that and I can absolutely see where you're coming from. I tend to take the position that we're still in control of our choices (e.g. How we choose to treat others) and too many people use their history as an excuse for poor behaviour in the present - yes, I know, that's a very blunt way of looking at it (and in some cases it's a lot more nuanced than that) but the fact is that while we're not responsible for what happened to us in the past, we are definitely responsible for doing something about it in the present and also for not passing that on to others. Thanks for the message and I hope you have a fantastic week! Jeremy :)
There are people that really don't judge they really
Very nice
Thank you! I hope it was helpful.
Very good advice. Wish I'd heard this years ago.
Thanks Barbara! It’s never too late 🙂
Thank you for sharing this advice. I really needed it right now. My mom is a big manipulater of mine. She even is using my son to get what she wants from me. Its killing me inside 💔 i can't stand up to her because she because verbally and physically abusive twards me. But i need to take a stand. Im 41 years old and i really need to take a stand agent my mom before things might take a turn for the worst. Thank you again for this video ❤
Hi Erica! Glad to hear you found it helpful, that’s a horrible situation to be in so I hope it has helped you to find the strength to set your boundaries and stick to them. Wishing you all the best 🙂
Maybey my own trust issues or paranoia, thats the reason why I sometimes feel like everyones manipulative.
It's worth exploring that with a counsellor or therapist to try to understand if it's the types of people in your life or if you have trust issues.