Firing Our Housekeeper, Wedding Night Sex & Our $30,000 Wedding
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- Опубліковано 6 жов 2024
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Everything that we share on this podcast is and has been a teachable moment FOR US throughout life. Our faith, marriage & social media are wrapped into one. How do we balance the wisdom we’ve heard, lessons we’ve learned, things we’ve seen, experiences we’ve had? Our hope is that you would walk away with a piece of encouragement ♡
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The way my body CRINGED at the housekeeper(s) story. So unprofessional on every level and creepy!! You guys did the absolute right thing in letting them go.
Hi! You don’t have to use this BUT I would like to see an episode about your experiences being children of divorced parents. I think a lot of us can relate and would be interested in learning more about your childhoods. Much love xx
Loves this idea!!
Yes!
Love this!
My 3rd time commenting lmao but I just have to say how incredible it is to witness such a beautiful marriage. We all know that these days it’s not easy to be in a relationship, or find a man (or woman) of their words. It’s incredible. You’re a wonderful man, father and husband josh🫶🏻🫶🏻❣️
My wife and I have been married for 2 years and one of the realest things you said is that you both are always changing and sometimes it can be an adjustment to recognize the season you and your partner are in… but that’s also the beauty in having someone for life. Another great pod you guys 🙏🏾
I love how cozy Sav sits. The rawness and authenticity in you guys personality is so beautiful 😍
This podcast has become my guilty pleasure 😅💕 Love you Josh & Sav!
That Podcast was so great to hear, I can relate with no sec after the wedding . Me and my wife were so beat that we went back to the room and talked about the wedding and woke up the next morning.
My husband and I got married in Central Park in front of our immediate families. We only spent a few thousand and I don’t regret it! We used our money for the closing cost on our house.
Very smart of you.
I’m not married, but a good friend of mine JUST got married, she actually said that her and her husband felt so much pressure to consummate their relationship on their wedding night, she actually said that she wishes they would’ve waited until the next morning, they were so tired and yet they went through with it as a sort of obligation, I think it’s 100% realistic and probably more enjoyable if you do it when you’re genuinely wanting to do it, as opposed to feeling an obligation to it.
She said, "Really? You like.. my nipples." I can't with Sav 🤣💀 She's hilarious without even trying 💗
Came to the comments right after that 😂😂
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Sav, you cracked me up with the ear tube thing. Those aren’t permanent and usually fall out within 18 months 😂
Same here! I've had tubal implants 3 different times and there's currently nothing in there. So funny!
My wife and I have our own business. We have had it for several years. We always confirm with our clients the night before. Most of our clients we have had for years and if they experience having a child while we have been working for them, they trust us being around or helping them if they need it. I Understand where you both are coming from. They were new to your home and had way too many ppl in and out of your home. If a owner comes in and checks over them it's typically after they finish cleaning your home. Not during the clean. With you guys being on YT, and having a podcast ect it does make your situation more vulnerable. So I agree with Sav & finding someone you either know or a friend can refer someone to you all. ( who they use or trust)
Ri in this video made me laugh 😂 she’s just like what is going on 😅
Sav won the draft, the cleaning story was so interesting 😳 definitely understand why you fired them. Also thanks for talking about your wedding and wedding night, it was personal yes but a lot of Christians don’t talk about it so I’m grateful that you did.
I listened to half of this as a podcast and half as the video and it was so different. When I listened as a podcast it felt like I was just listening to some friends and catching up with them. When I watched the video it felt comforting because it’s what I’m used to. I loved both ❤️
I would love to hear more about waiting for marriage until being intimate in bed with eachother, was it difficult? Had you guys experienced it before and then made that decision? Or did you decide from the beginning of your relationship? Did you ever think about changing your mind? Did it make it extra special? It’s really interesting to me, you don’t find many couples that wait until marriage?❤️
They're Christians, so waiting until marriage is the expected lifestyle for believers. They've talked about it in previous videos I believe!
I’ve been married going on 6 years now, speaking of wedding nights, I had gotten my period 2 days before my wedding and had it while on our honeymoon and it had come a week early. I think it was just the stress of planning and everything. As for honeymoon phase I agree, it’s something you have to keep up each year and have the mindset of trying to keep up and putting in that effort everyday. Marriage isn’t easy but it’s worth it for sure!
Love watching you guys!
Team Sav all the way with draft! Not a fan of Swedish fish or twizzlers. I know I’m late to the video but miss the drafts. Great video again guys! I’m so glad you all are safe from the house keeper and not brush off the signs.
I'm going through a tough time right now and I enjoy watching you guys. I love how you guys are able to do podcast and just all-around your guys's relationship. I agree your feelings towards the house maids were completely normal. I also agree on the eye contact. some people may find it intimidating
Getting tubes when you are young is super common, but they don’t usually stay in your ears forever. They usually fall out on their own after 6 months-2 years. Some kids get them multiple times and I THINK (don’t know for sure) that there might be type of tube that you would always have, but that would be after you had multiple sets put in via surgery. I don’t know Sav’s case so who knows 🤷🏻♀️
I love the podcast, you get a more indebt insight to what's really going on, and how it does affect your lives together and personally. Thank you for always sharing so much, when you don't have too.
Yeah, those housekeepers had to go! I'm willing to bet they're given very strict boundaries from the day of hire with the company and both groups way overstepped them. Thanks for sharing the story. 🙌
Riella's yawns are the cutest ever. 🥰
I can totally relate when it comes to the wedding aspect of this wedding.. my husband Adam and I got married May 11th 2022. We paid for our wedding on our own without help from any of our family because times are hard and it was also right when COVID was calming down some. I definitely took the initiative with our wedding because I knew what I wanted and he went with it and supported me through everything. He was there through the cake testing appointments and food tasting appointments. My mom and sister obviously went with me to my fitting for my dress. We picked out venue together. We got married. Outside. If say we spent a total of $60,000 but that was including dress, food, alcohol, pictures, hotel, cake, decor, dj and I think it turned out amazing!
I had to edit after posting *** there is one thing I forgot to add ... When my husband and I went to go to do our cake tasting I said .. I need him to pick the cake and be happy with his decision because Id be biased. I love all cakes, flavors and etc. He not so much .. so he would have to be happy with his decision
I think that is very common that families meet at the wedding.
My wedding night was so much fun during the ceremony, the reception, and afterwards. We had our ceremony christ centered, we washed each others feet and had communion. The nighttime our wedding bed was blessed ok lol.
It feels like y'all have been married much longer like y'all are so different from when I first started watching yall with the ranks. So much growth!
So my wedding day was HECTIC!! First it was planned over a weekend,I bought my dress from a local prom store lol and we got married that Sunday, also it was only suppose to be our parents and pastor however my sweet mother in law invited my husbands family so all of them were there and most of my family didn’t get to make it (but they (understood). Anywho, we were over the youth group at church and had a black history program that Sunday also… so hear me out… we went to church service that morning, married at 3pm (my husband was late 🥴), had the black history program, drove back home (2 hours from our church) THAT NIGHT, and clocked in to work that Monday morning at 6:45 am 😂😂😂😂 we did have a good night 🙂 but never had a honey moon soo… I’m planning a trip someday to be our “official honeymoon”. We will celebrate 10 years Friday!! 🥰
Y’all should do like childhood tv shows for draft picks!
I have been married for 22 years and we have two kids one 13 and the other 20. Are marriage is better each day. It is work though and we communicate everyday and I think thats the number 1 most important thing. The honeymoon phase stayed for a long time but it did slip some having older kids in the house makes things harder if u get what Im saying. But we have communicated on ways to make that better and I can truly say we are more in love with each other than ever before. Its cute hearing ur story and remembering back to ours. U two are so perfect together.
Love this podcast I’m due June 23rd and I have a year old I feel you 💯 when you say this pregnancy is different I feel such horrific pelvic pain everyday and I’ve never experienced this the first time around
I absolutely loved this format! I watch AND listen! As far as marriage goes personally for me the second time around is amazing. Been married 12 yrs and we still have that newlywed vibe! You guys keep these coming and I will continue to watch AND listen! Lol God bless you both!
We’re glad you’re here!! :) ❤️
The housekeeping experience is creepy and weird. I'm so private with my life, belongings and home. I'm so happy you fired them. Please lock up important and private stuff if you find another housekeeper just to be safe. Hopefully they didn't take anything valuable or private.
As for your wedding story, my husband and I too just fell asleep lol. I totally can vouch that marriage is beautiful but it takes a lot of work and dedication. People change and life is forever changing, which means you have to be adaptable and be willing to fight through the rough patches. My husband and I have been married for 7.5 years and we've known each other for 10 years before and we are still learning about each other surprisingly. I love these types of conversations. Thanks for sharing ❤️
Sav definitely won this draft 😅 even though Josh had Kit Kats on his list which was prob my favorite out of all mentioned.
This was a W PODCAST!! Love seeing u guys grow and ur channel grow as well!! Love u guys!!❤❤
My Husband and I did the same thing on our wedding night, talked for hours and hours and fell straight to sleep😂 I thought we were the only ones !
Really? 😂😂😂
I would go for boobs 😂😂😂
Grommets are tiny tubes which are inserted into the eardrum. They allow air to pass through the eardrum, which keeps the air pressure on either side equal. The surgeon makes a tiny hole in the eardrum and inserts the grommet into the hole. The grommet usually stays in place for six to 12 months and then falls out.
Sav won that draft! Still love Josh! Some draft ideas: fast food places, burgers, vlogging cameras, and sports teams. Some may be cheesy or yall already have these ideas but just wanted to share my ideas! Love you both.
I must say, I did not wait until marriage to do the deed but the same day my husband and I got married (at the courthouse), we had to move to another apartment. We were EXHAUSTED! On day 3 we had to make ourselves to do the deed because we didn’t want to go another day without it lol
I already loved Sav but 100000x more cause redvines are where it’s at 💖✨
Bruh.. My mom is in the housekeeping business, and I cannot imagine dealing with that level of disrespect.. It’s one thing to do a little small talk and eventually get to know each other each visit, and another to completely disrespect your home! 😞
I think we need to see Sav in a ankle sock of the week! 🤣. You are so funny and have such a sweet spirit.
I love these podcasts 😍❤️completely enjoying it so far
I loved this❤I love you guys so much. So fun, refreshing and real🎉
Loving the podcasts guys, so fun and new :)
100% agree on the OG Twizzlers they just hit different than redvine.
Omg, we had a cinnamon cake with cinnamon buttercream frosting at our wedding too!! It was the best!
We froze ours and it didn’t hold up well. We didn’t eat either. We were so hungry. We talked to everyone at our wedding too. We were married and had our reception at our church. We rented a town car as a “getaway car”. We didn’t eat until late the next morning when we arrived at our honeymoon location. Wow! Your period came on. Aw man!
You didn’t have to get them removed? Usually they are suppose to be removed after 3 years. My son currently has them and is getting them removed next month.
Same case for us! My husband and I waited for marriage and didn’t have sex on our wedding night! It’s a lot more common than you think! I think it’s so special either way!
I'm a honeymoon baby. To this day, I still do the math and laugh. My parents were married in late April. Their first time was definitely their wedding night. I was born mid-January. That's 38 weeks and 2 days, folks. I guess my Mom was just super fertile... LOL. They had 4 more after me, too. I wouldn't have it any other way. I loved being the oldest of 5, still do.
I literally just told my husband that last night. Sometimes I don't need an answer to what I'm saying. Just acknowledge what I'm saying.
Yes!!!
Omg I am addicted ❤❤❤❤❤❤ love you guys god bless
I get headaches when I eat Snickers. I think it has something to do with the sugar and dairy content. Like, I get really bad migraines when I eat jam. It's definitely a thing 🥺💕
Is it strawberry jam that gives you issues? If so it could be from the #40 red dye in it. 🍓🍒
I enjoyed the podcast
Love you guys❤️
Ear tubes should fall out after 18 months if not then they need to be surgically removed. I had 6 sets as a child before having ear drum skin graphs in both ears because I was born with holes in both drums...but yeah I'd get that checked out, the tubes can cause issues if they need to be removed and haven't been!
The way RI just scoots her lil butt out yall hands🤣
Some people have a sensitivity to chocolate, cheese and red wine, which may contribute to migraine headaches 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
My husband and I went to sleep also on honeymoon night. We were so tired!!
Ear tube surgery is more common than you think; seen it a lot at work (work at a daycare) Reeses and fuzzy peaches!! Also good call on firing them.. so unprofessional. I'm sorry you had to go through that! Loved your wedding, such a beautiful couple ❤❤
I hate unannounced visitors period. As a business that is very unprofessional. I used to own a cleaning company many years ago. Its always best to just ask what they want each time. All that being said why do yall need a house cleaner? Do you hate to clean? Personally i enjoy cleaning my home. When i get done i feel so accomplished. There are lots of storage and hacks on how to stay on top of it. Give yourself 20 minutes before bed to tidy up even if its start a load of laundry, load the dishwasher and clean off counters. Having a playroom that you can shut the door on with 2 kids is great. I fold laundry while watching a show. And it is never too early to instill helper clean up with kids. They love to help out. For my grandkids i load up a tiny laundry basket with items the need to be put away. For every chore complete they earn an m&m or skittle. If its a big job for them then we do a popsicle or we go get mcds fries & milkshake. Having the right products help too. I use a swiffer but with old wash cloths that i run thru the washing machine. My wash machine door stays open to keep from mildew but also to throw in colors. When it is full i just need to add detergent and push start. When i have enough whites built up i do then too. Ask folks to remove shoes before entering bc you have bsbies that will swollow stuff but also walking in off the streets is disgusting bc people walk in animal feces and pee, people sit on the ground, oil and other car chemicals. Pinesol made up in a spray bottle and clorox clean up make your house smell so clean and diluted is great for many surfaces. Anything leaking thrown in trash shoild be double bagged. Nothing more disgusting than leaky trash or funk in bottam of trash can. Clean up wipes are nice for quick jobs like pee on toilet seat or baby puke on stuff. That quiet time when all kids are asleep is my favorite time to get stuff donenas i listen to a podcast. Then a hot bath soak. If you can get your husband to help then he can get in the bubbles with you lol.
I can relate to josh with not being able to eat chocolate. I’m not allergic I can eat it if I’m really craving it but it gives me a headache 😭. I heard a lot of African Americans have this issue too idk the science behind it though 😭
Sav: Wait how are you!?
Josh: IM GOOD i um IM GOOD
😂😂😂😂
The tubes they put in when you're a child fall out on their own. You definitely don't have them anymore. 😂
Sav hasn't lost a draft in my opinion! 😜
Can we get a cereal draft pick!!
1. OG reeses peanut butter cups single packs from halloween
2. swedish fish
3. raisinettes
4. kitkats
5. ocean spray fruit gummies
oh shit and almond joys / mounds
I’ve been married 26 years! For me the first 5 years were the hardest!
Ri coming in and out the frame 🥹😭😭❤️
Sav for the win! I love LifeSaver Gummies-Collision!
Yep we fell asleep on our wedding night too
my husband and i got married almost 2 years ago and we literally did not have sex on the wedding night either lmao, we were both so tired it just wasn’t happening 😂
Same. Still married 30 years later.
Next draft ideas: Burgers, Chips, Cookies, Flavors(Blueberry, Cherry, Watermelon etc), Chicken Sandwich
Swedish Fish is a No for me
Housekeepers, uhh they were totallyyy out of line
Awesome video!
You guys should do the agree to disagree challenge for couples!
i’m listening on spotify but i just had to go to the video to comment and say SOUR SKITTLES are the best candy. but sav 100% won this one 😇💁♀️
I heard you guys mention in your wedding you had a worship segment. That’s something I want to have in my wedding in November. My question to you is how did it flow in your ceremony? Like how did you you guys lead into the worship and then after it was done what did you do? I really just want the transition to be so smooth and not awkward so please help me😭😭. Lol I love you guys and I hope you respond ! Thanks in advance💕
For me this week Josh Won🏆. I was surprised not to hear Twix or Sweet tarts though.
My oldest had to get ear tubes twice. They fall out after about a year, so you dont still have them, they arent permanent. But you can get them multiple times.
Aw y’all came to Maui! I’ve lived here for three years!
i love you guys 🥹❤️
Thumbtack has amazing house keepers that are self made providers business owners. However I’m in Massachusetts so those I’ve used have been great!
Love you guys
4 cheese Italian Cheez-itz are the only ones I'll buy. They're so good!!!
I had that same thing Sav. I just always said..”I have tubes in my ears”. Never heard of ear tubes… lol 😂… but ear infections are awful. I’m sorry. I hope your ears healing quickly ❤
Team Josh for sure
i think yall would get along well with the cordle family. they put God first too
Yooo the lifesaver gummies on the road knowing your stomach will be hurting later 😩🤣😭
Sweet tart ropes are so good honestly
Yay I'm early for once 💕💕💕
Love you guys so much!!!!
Best part of the whole video: finding out that u guys didnt even have sex on your wedding night. U guys knew you’d have practically forever for that stuff. There was STILL no rush. Love u guys even more❤
It's very common to get headaches and migraines from chocolate!! Instead of discounting her husband's experiences, Sav should listen to what Josh is saying. He gets headaches from specific chocolate. Sav told him he was wrong, that it's "not normal" and it must be an allergy. Josh felt shut down so he agreed and let it go to keep the peace. Someone's medical experiences are their own. Migraines are a neurological disability. They're very serious. Chocolate is commonly a trigger for migraines. Maybe Josh should do a headache diary, find his triggers (like chocolate) and see his PCP. He may benefit from seeing a neurologist. I take lots of meds and have been getting Botox injections every 12 wks for a decade. He may need rescue meds to stop a migraine when he feels it coming on.
You guys are the cutest!
Josh said Swedish fish and twizzlers and lost me LOL and Skittles, unless its the purple pack, I don't want it.
Also… sav sav…. If you’d have put them sweet tart ropes on your list?!?!!!!! That would’ve been an INSTANT dub. No questions asked
I met my daughter in law a couple days b4 the wedding. Luckily my son has great taste and she's awesome.
Sweetarte ropes are definitely #1 hands down
It's called Grommets..lol @ ear Tubes..
They actually pop out of your ears once they are done with draining the fluid...so it's highly unlikely that the grommets would still be in your ears.
FIRSTTT❤
I dated my husband for almost 3 years Before we eloped (5 years ago). I am from the Midwest and he is from the East Coast and our families still have not met and it will stay that way if I have anything to do with it. I know they will not get along and I just don’t need that drama in my life 🤷🏼♀️ I married the man not his family ❤
I get headaches from candy sometimes. I know it’s definitely high sugar, but maybe it’s also in how it’s processed. Like I may get a headache from eating a bag of m&ms, but I could eat a slice of chocolate cake and be fine 🤷🏾♀️
Not Riella starring at the camera for a good 3 seconds 🤣
I had one experience of hiring “ merrymaids”. They came to my house, we conversed about what they were going to do, then I thanked them and left, supposedly for the day. I forgot something and unexpectedly returned and found one of the girls rummaging through my drawers. Ive never rehired a group like that again because i dont trust people that i dont know.
To settle the debate, I searched a video of the brand and apparently it’s actually “Ree-sis” 😂
DEFINITELY get an independent house cleaner. They’re more dependable and they come at a time YOU want.
Sav won this time❤️