How I Moved Out of Home at 17 (with very little money)
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- Опубліковано 28 тра 2018
- Hey guys! So in todays episode of Talk & Tea, I talk about how I moved out of home when I was 17 years old and give some advice to those who are unhappy with their living situation. I hope this video helps you out in some way❤
stay safe and stay happy
-love, Luke
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Hi, I'm Luke Alexander. I'm an 18 year old boy from South Africa who lives in sunny Brisbane, Australia.
I made this channel so that I can be creative and produce a wide range of content which not only inspires and entertains people, but which helps people live a happier, healthier and more fulfilling life.
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Ahhh, so glad you were able to get out of a crappy environment. My younger sister experienced similar cicrumstances and now lives with me :) I think a storytime video about the sharehouse situation would be interesting! Ps. Love a good cuppa!
teish peach aw thank you😊 i hope u and ur sister are doing well and i think might do a couple storytimes in the future❤
That makes me so so happy to hear your sister has you. I am not sure if you are religious if so God bless you. I have two older sisters who are both out of the house. They have been treated SO differently then me. Every time they come home they just gang up on my with my parents. I have no one to run to. I just am so happy to hear you have open arms to your sister🥺😔😊
Your a great good sister for helping her out like that.
Hey I’m the same age as him and I still live with my parents. This shows how much each person us different
Quarantine makes me realise how toxic my household is ❤️
same....im only 12 and i wwanna move out- }:
I know right...😣
Damn same here 😕 I'm 17 and I graduate high school after year and a half and I don't know how to support myself after this...I want to go abroad but I don't know if I will succeed 😞
Youre not the only one🤣🤣🤣
@@x_yoana_b9108 a good job you'll find in any country is customer service in English. You can potentially support yourself abroad.
I lived in a toxic environment my entire like and was chronically depressed all throughout middle school and highschool. Moved out when I was 18 on my own with no financial support it was stressful but I'm 19 now and finally can say I'm happy and doing better than ever.
Emily Mckenzie how did you do it?
Hoooow
R De Guzman just pushed through. Update i moved back home after a traumatic event im struggling alot rn.
Madyson Schmidt i just stopped letting my family control me it was hard i had to do everything myself but i just grew up and got through it believed in myself
Trust in The Almighty. The path will be revealed to you once you take those steps towards freedom!!!!!!!!!!
I'm 21 years and literally am slowly dying mentally living here with my family....
I can't wait to leave...
I hope I can as soon as possible
I feel you im 21 as well and living with overbearing narcissit father im slowly getting enough to leave stay strong and believe in yourself!
I’m 18 bou to be 19 and I hope I move out at 21 or 22
@@skittlescupcakes7233 im 17 and im on the verge of being disowned and kicked out by my narc mom. im working on a go plan but im scared because im failing the 11th grade so i dont know if i will ever make enough money
@@crazyformyself9773 Trust me , as someone who was 17 and wasn’t even aloud to have a job because apparently “grades are more important” I can say go for it please. I have constantly had to come home as much as i hated because of my mother specifically sabotaging me from being able to care for myself and my health. They’re also narcissistic and immature about everything and the more you learn for yourself and teach yourself, you’ll be okay. Trust me , you gotta start. I didn’t get the start I wanted and that was 5 years ago. Don’t hold back. School won’t hurt you but you just gotta graduate. For yourself. Also make sure it’s part time because you’ll have more time to study and do homework.
I find this comment section very comforting. Helps me remember I’m not the only one with a shit home life and other people have managed it
Freedom is far better. Just believe in yourself. The Almighty will get you through this just trust in God.
Same
I lived in a really toxic environment for years and my mental health is horrible. But i can’t move out cause in my country there isn’t this kind of help and affording a place is hella expensive...
same here. im trying to research ways to leave but it's honestly so damn terrifying
Same, I wouldn't say I live in a toxic environment, but the government is so shit and making terrible changes all the time 😔 aka we might get kicked out or go into debt if the predicted changes are implemented 😔
@@joanna3516 me too.. God I'm in such a miserable condition... All I want is to get the fuck out of where I am right now... Away from all the people I know.
Violeta same girl :((
Oh gosh you get me! All I want is to be independent,
Hey Guys, how yall doing?😁 i hope u enjoy this video (give it thumbs up if u do😏) and let me know what you want me to talk about in the next episode of talk & tea🌙🌟
Ok so I’m American and maybe I’m just stupid but it like actually hurts my brain to think about how it’s summer in America and winter in Australia like I just have no grasp on the concept of how the earth rotates and how it affects the seasons..... ya I’m just not the smartest.
ellie kramer haha nah i get u, timezones also f*ck with me 😂
my gf is halfway across the globe from me. imagine how i feel...
Hey...but you know Australia exists, that's something!
It's because of the tilt of the Earth's axis
I am 18, thinking about moving out due to some family problems and extremely terrified about the whole thing and this video kinda encouraged me and know I know where to start from and what to do.
I feel the same way, I'm trying to move out as soon as possible and I'm turning 17 in a few months and it's just a terrifying concept still
Kim Mo i wish i was 18 to move out
@@janeth6021 you can move out when your 16
Thank God I found this video and YOU! I am at a very bad place in my life right now where I NEED to be away from my family for a while as this household is very toxic and my mental health is not looking too good either. I hope I can take a couple things from this video and support myself mentally and physically.
I'm 16 and almost 17, I also live in a very crappy environment and don't know how much longer I can bare this. This really helped but I still am scared to confront my parents moving out at this age...they literally threatened me to call the police one time when I wanted to stay away from them. They think I'm incompetent to do anything... So I don't know what to do.
same,, they threatened me with calling the police and pressing charges on whoever lets me stay with them 😕
Hey I'm in the same place right now. I am three months into being 17 and just graduated early. Since I have no more obligations with school, I am itching to move out. All my life I've waited and I just can't wait anymore.
You just described me but I'm 19 lol. Change the police part to guilt tripping by using religion for their own benefit (my religion really uphold mothers' statuses). Good luck to you in your future.
Don’t believe everything your parents say about their own children being incompetent to do anything. Its their way of trying to make their kids feel bad about themselves rather than trying to help their kids seeing their own potential and nurturing it. Crappy parents will do everything in their power to benefit themselves and force their kids to do what makes them look better to others and not caring about what their kids need to feel happy and content with themselves.
@Me and me lol how old are you I’m 18 lmao and I’m trying to confront my parents lmao and I live with my strict Hispanic mom lmao. but I stayed back a grade in first grade.
i gotta move out soon, im transgender and my parents are not really supportive of me wanting to transition. I have a job, but the area that i live in is really expensive. Hoepfully i can figure it out soon so i can start. Im glad you got out of your situation
Tom Lincoln go down to your local council...! Or contact a ymca
wanna move in together? I'm 18 and I'm in the worst situation.
Tom Lincoln? Lmao what a name
im in the same boat :(
@@autismos7057 a cool name
I found out about you just about an hour ago, and watched a few videos back to back. Really appreciate the positivity you spread. You're an influencer i genuinely admire
The way your eyes filled with tears was so much relatable. You think you are over it but you just can't help but get emotional while talking about it.
Loved how you also encouraged others to seek help and not feel helpless.❤️
Luke is ready to spill some tea... literally ☕️
How you walk with that tea is exactly how I walk with any hot beverage😂
Nicole Hartson i can never not spill😂im such a cluts🤣
Nicole Hartson same tho😂💀
I think my tea is out to get me. Every time I make it, it spills on me and is like "BURRRRNNNN BISSHHHH"
@Nicole Harrison SAMEEE💀💀💀
im going through the same thing i left home at 15 and started with support in care homes, living arrangements and now im in a low support accommodation looking for my flat. well done on staying strong it can be hard even with all the support in the world.
How are you doing now?
Me too... I’ve lived with an abusive alcoholic my entire life and it’s robbed me of everything. My mental health, physical health... Living in the situation I am currently in leaves me suicidal. I don’t have a job that pays that well... I rely on the very person who hurt me for so many years... and I don’t know how to get out. I don’t have my own car or much money... I feel stuck.
Not to mention I’m an adult and still living like this. Don’t believe people who continue to abuse others! They hardly *ever* change!
what about overdraft while you find a job and after finding a job you will refund it
How u doing now?
It's so inspiring to hear how you made the best out of a crappy situation!
and as much as it sucks I wish I could also be living alone right now as my home can be really toxic but 🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻♂️
Pi V aw thank you😌. I really hope your situation improves and never hesitate to shoot me a dm on instagram if you want someone to talk to❤
First off, you're very aesthetic in this intro. I need that sweater. Second, if I were still in HS I'd die of shyness at an attempt to ask you to hang out, you're incredibly cute! You have strong features that will only grow as you age.
Your such a nice guy. Best of luck to you❤
Kendra Shaffer aw thank you so much😁
Im so glad this video is here. Im a 16 year old Australian and im also unable to live at home. Im glad there is someone who has been in my/similar shoes and can partyly guide the way for me.
Thank you!
Oh my gosh! Since I found you I have been watching all of your videos because I like your personality so much and then I see this one and I'm shook! I moved out at 17 as well through youth services because I also was so miserable with my situation. Turning 22 soon and that was the best decision of my life. I am so happy for you, that you got out of there and to a better place, because you know it is rough!
Greetings from Berlin !! :)
Whoa that’s incredible, that’s a real process right there but at least you’re happier now 👍🏾
David Perry thanks ❤️😌
I''m so grateful to you for sharing. I going though a similar crisis and I have serious health issues too. But this video really help me. Thank You
im currently being ‘kicked’ out at just turning 17 and am looking for housings, i have no money and im rlly bad at saving too so its ten times more harder for me rn! you seem do have done a brilliant job thank you for this video!! 🖤
I am glad that you are in a much safer and better environment and are in a much better place mentally. Thanks for sharing your story.❤
I relate to this. Thank you! So much I have like tears in my eyes rn
I've pretty much been in a toxic stressfull family environment ever since my mom died (when i was 7) im 14 now and luckily im living with my grandpa now, im so greatful to my older sister who helped me escape from that abusive environment, one year of my step mom living in our house and all three of us (me and my two sisters) are living with our grandparents and we are much happier
Love this so much! Thank you for sharing your experience 💖💖 can't wait for the next video!
danielle matiu - middleton thank you so much Danielle❤ glad u enjoyed it😊
This helped me so much . Thank you so much. Life saved
Subscribed because you're truly so relatable. I know were in different countries (I'm in the us) but it seems like weve gone thru some similar shit. Thank you. Things like this make me genuinely feel like I'm not alone and like it's not just a me thing. Obviously it sucks to go thru hard shit but you're such an awesome and strong person at the end of the day and most importantly were not alone. 💕
I'm moving out today with my sister my house is toxic and unsafe for us a growing ladies in our early 20's. This was great your mad chill and HELLAAAA FUNNY
I'm scared....but glad you made this video &
I got to see it 🦋🌟🌸
I am 17 and want to move out because I can’t take it here anymore with my mother she has no job and we are staying at my aunts house i do not want to leave my brother or sisters but i cannot take it here anymore I’ve become depressed idk what to do ,do you have any advice? I’m thinking about moving out next month
How it turned out finally? Are You ok?
Damn honestly same I need to make myself independent from my dysfunctional household as well. I’m also 17, good luck dude. Hope things work out.
Soooo....... how did it all turn out?
Move out but only if you got enough money to do so.
Not even a minute into my first video of yours and already subscribing. I love your vibes man! Keep spilling that tea and being yourself :)
You have an amazing personality and you're so 🔥 on camera my man 🙌 You're going to blow up on here in no time :) I'm new here I just started my channel but I'm so glad I found you! :) Peace, JR.
Jake Roman thanks man 😊 means alot ❤, will definitely be checking out ur videos when i get the chance 😌
Thank youuu for making this video !!
Your an AWESOME PERSON and I'm glad I got to subscribe to your channel.
I feel you Luke, hope I can get out of the toxic household I'm in rn
oh my god, we're in a similar situation and you give me so much hope
I need something like this so badly. I'm really depressed and suicidal. I attempted suicide several times and my mother has told me how much she wish it would have worked.. I'm manipulated and guilt tripped all the time. I need out badly but I have no idea where to start
Same....I'm in need of help
australians are so lucky, i'm south african and i feel trapped!
Good thing you had supportive people around.
my parents got divocred when i was 11 (im 13 now) and i just so unhappy here. i cant explain it but me and my friend (who is also in unstable household) are planning to move out at 16, weve got our friends support and weve got the money planned out. but this video helped me. i completly forgot about centerlink! thanks for the help!
Omg your ~reason~ why you left home kind of sounds too relatable for me 😞 I didn't know I would "find" someone who had the.... same....the same mind problems. ☮️💟☯️
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Question: when they concluded that you weren't safe at home, what did they do with your little siblings?
Appreciate the help |-/
Yeah........ the only person I know that this would help has 5 other little siblings, Abusive and toxic parents with their crazy ass religious beliefs.
I would love to help her to get away from them as fast as possible but I’m not sure what would happen to the little ones.
I’m trying my best to move out thank u for this i have a toxic family😭😭😭
I known this is a serious video but the whole time I was watching I couldn’t help but laugh bc the way your hands are in the sweater make it look like you have tiny hands on lol! Just found your channel and I’m watching all your old videos! You’re hilarious and very entertaining! I’m glad you were able to get out of a bad situation and are thriving now! Xoxo
his hands are PERFECT
Pretty appropriate that I'm drinking tea while watching this. Glad you managed to get out on your own - though it must have been hard, sounds like it was a good decision for you. My 19 yr old is having "fun" trying to get a disability allowance from centerlink and the NDIS. So great the school was helpful.
Libby Withnall aw thank you, i hope all turns out alright 🙂
Very insightful thanks
people in comments I'm really sorry for what you have to deal i hope you are all ok right now
i need to get out my. me being home has made me severely depressed and my mental state is gone. my parents aint so great with each other also. this vid helps me
Ayy, where my South Africans at 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦
i relate to this on soooo many levels im about to turn 17 in january, working on graduating early so i can get out of this place
Same im gona graduate already but i have to be 18 to move out already im just soo tired of my toxic mom already i hate her and she hates me i can tell
@@janeth6021 how r u doing ?
how r doing ?
I’m just wondering if there’s such aiding avenues in South Africa, esp for a case like yours. This was a very inspirational video.
Hollup?! Your sisters moved back to South Africa?! Hollup?! Tell them to come back! It's bad out here Luke. It's getting really bad!!!
Anyway...does that mean you're originally from South Africa?
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I'm really sorry you had to go through all of that at such a young age; wait, I'm just sorry you had to go through that. Periodt!!!!! At least you're doing better Luke. I love love love you so much. 💕 From a body all the way in South Africa. 🍃💕
We have nothing like centrelink in New York for young adults that's amazing
So is it true that you’re supposed to send them prove that you can pay for that apartment? Like from your job that says that this is how much they earn and they can pay for the apartment What about if I do Postmates and all those other jobs? Would that be enough? (Sorry is u guys don’t understand)
Well....I want to leave "home" but literally there's no youth service "plus I'm 19 , Idk if it's for me ha" so I'm basically stuck.....
Same here, and it's extremely, extremely toxic.
@@rigormortis9881 I feel you....hopefully one day well get the chonce to leave and find a place where we actually feel home . Best of luck with everything . sweetheart , stay strong xx
I'm 19 my parents told me to leave I have no money in my bank account but I have a very helpful gf it's time to go.
I genuinely hate it here lmfao. My dAD is an alcoholic and abuses me mentally and I still remember him saying "I'll make you suffer so much that you should question yourself that why were you even born" I want to move out so bad but I don't have any financial background lol
I can’t wait to move out again. I did move out and had to move back in because rent was 3,600 dollars a month.
I wanna leave too because I can’t stand being here being seen as just an object just because I’m a girl. I just can’t I need to get out but I’m afraid but I have to do it because if I stay here any longer I am going to snap
You’ve got this girl. Its super scary to think about but when you find your starting point and when you get thoroughly do your research and believe in yourself. You’ll do it I’m rooting for you and I hope everything goes well.
@@femblvd3114 haha thanks. I’m still here……I ended up staying and working it was good for money but not good for my mental health.
I have a horribly toxic relationship with my mom and we live in a very unsafe environment with my 4yo but I really cant afford to move, can barely afford to feed ourselves but I'm praying🙇♀️ South Africa is a horrible place to raise a child in😭
You were only 18??Damn your so put together already.🤯
"Not because I wanted to decorate my house or whatever" I felt that
Me a 17 year old:
Lying in my fam's house; and still struggling to be all by myself
I got the same thing I'm 15 I'm moving out next year and I get a check and a person takes me to the grocery store to pay bill and more I'm in US NC
What kind of program is that called , where you can get help with bills, etc.
I'm 17 from Pennsylvania
I actually genuinely
This helped a lot, did you also get rent assistance or just youth allowance?
You're such a cutie! Just subbed 💕
Madison Victoria Aw thank you ❤
I wanna move out next year but i also have to take my dog,2cats and guinea pig with me so its harder for me to find a place...
I wanna move out when I hit my 17th birthday because I live in a toxic household with only 2 people I could trust which were my uncle and my cousin, I can only trust both of them and I cant deal with it, I'm very depressed and my family is always nagging and ordering me around and I'm treated like a child , I'm 16 turning 17 next month and I cant deal with it anymore so thanks for this video because I'm going to move out next month
Lemon Muffin its still toxic
good luck to you
@lukealexander love you ❤️ so glad you’re out of there
Thank u so much
My friend is in a really bad home and she plans on getting emancipated. She lives in Texas and I live in Ontario canada does anyone have advice?
I wanna move out just tired of family issues😪
❤
wait i'm 14 and i've been making 1600/year through allowance and a job FOR my mom for a while...wait i could-
could i-
Why do I feel like the youth service your talking about is where I am right now. It’s kinda toxic here as well the workers and people. I’m moving out February so need to look for place ASAP
same situation. leaving in less then a week. wish me luck
Good luck! 🫶
im planing o moving out at 16 what should i prepare for and do??
Do you have any tips on accepting work from home opportunities advertised on social media. What legitimate?
Where to start with work from home opportunities/jobs?
I am also from Australia.
I have enough to move out but I lost my job due to corona an I want to move out but you have to show them proof that you make 3 times the rent but like how can you do that if you make minimum wage. I want to get another job but I need a job that pays more. I live in America. Like I have enough to move out but it’s just ughh idk
Trust in The Almighty. He gets you where you need to go when you need. Patience gives strength.
Guys if possible, please let me know these services...I'm in need of help...actual help
19, not welcome at my parent’s anymore, shit happened and we don’t get along at all, need to get out on my own but my job laid me off because of the virus a few months back, have no money no job but I need to get out, any advice?
if you have a car. live in it. just. in the car. or start a go fund me and go spread news about it on other social media like Twitter, insta, tik tok etc.
im not american but i saw something about a check for covid, did you get that? hope you're ok, if you're really struggling you can ask for help at a church, ik religious ppl get a bad rep but there's many that are just very kind people trying to help!
Roomate?
I'm really afraid to move out, I have a bunny and he's my whole world. I worry that tenants may say I can't keep him
I’m trying to move out cause living at home is making my mental health bad is it possible to do it living on dsp Centrelink
Whats the app name ?? I couldn't understand 🙁
me watching this in america: ahh yeah no we don’t have that here 😃 well there goes that idea
I want to move out at 18
Do you have a private support group for people who want to move out of home for any reason? Were you share tips and how you did it.
talk and t-series
I'm in the situation rn
Hi :) I still live in South Africa and my situation isn’t very bad but I feel it’s some sort of mental abuse, I was wondering what the youth service is? I’m turning 16 in only 2 years but just so I know for the future
Thank you in advance
damn i really wanna move out from my house. my mother is toxic af and always give unnecessary hurtful comments to me and my siblings. Like seriously? Wtf it's really taking a toll on my mental health and I have to cry at the bathroom or under neath my pillow so I won't breakdown infront of them. But there were times I just broke down and cried and shouted cos I just can't stand the unfairness
you just took the words out of my mouth. My mum is a horrible person too, and i cant be caught crying, itll make everything worse.
A little advice if you need to move out and don’t have much income look up NRAS apartments they basically give you Very good apartment for so cheap an apartment that would cost 700 a fortnight it would cost you $400 atleast a fortnight
I'm gonna be 17 this month i started having that conversation with my dad that once I turn 18 that I'm moving out of here doing my own thing and he tells me no but legally I can move out at 18 if I want he has no right to tell me otherwise because I'm legally an adult and he gets all butt hurt and makes all kinds of excuses to try to convince me to not
honestly same my parents try and guilt me and bribe me with shit it’s mad