Making you reliant on them is a form of ‘infantilizing’. It can go as far as shaming you for creating any independence, or simply wanting it. It’s a means for establishing dominance and keeping control of you. It’s very real for anyone unfamiliar with the term or with behavior associated with it.
Reading this clicked a puzzle piece in place for me. People leave comments without thinking really of who will read them but this changes my entire perspective. Thank you.
I just don’t know how to move forward without them I’m 22 my life has gone to shit I’ve haven’t been doing anything for myself so please if anyone has the time to give me ideas I’m tired of relying on them I think everything is my fault I provoke their answers their actions
mentally abusive is much harder than physical in my opinion and i’ve been on both spectrums, mentally sucks because people don’t see what you’re going through and how the abusers has light you even though it’s obvious it’s abuse but you’re so hard wired in to thinking to yourself that your the issue.
i’m at my new place today and i can’t stop crying. i feel like the pressure suddenly made me forget everything that pushed me to do it in the first place
@ sometimes. but that’s because i don’t like having roommates, nor the fact i’m alone in a new town. with that being saiddd, i think that in the end, i wouldn’t have realised just how much happiness i could feel doing boring things like watering plants and watching movies late at night, if id stayed/gone back. and i think that says a lot. there wasn’t ever enough peace to notice how happy the little things made me. and im a lot better for it. it’s hard being depressed or sad for long when im so at peace that even the weather outside can make me happy! 🤗
@@kiikasofia Me I’m Arabian girl so if I move out from house that’s mean I’m b**tch ( sorry for the word but this is reality of my country) me I’m Muslim and my religion so beautiful he save me but the problem of my society that he don’t aplicate the right Islam ☪️ I have a toxic family anyway I hope i can save money and go aborde and leave country in this next 2 yo I need a big courage 😭
I relate so much to this. I am infantilized, my mother crosses boundaries (reads diaries, journals, even digs through trash) I am critiqued for what I wear and do. I only realized recently it’s not normal for your mom to call you names and slurs. My mom sees my friends and even my own father as competition. I resonate with what you said about the constant bickering, hostility, anger etc. it sucks the life out of you.
Our situations are so closely related. You have no idea how relieved I am that I no longer feel like I'm going into this new part of my life blindly. I can't wait for the next one, truly. Thank you for sharing
We sometimes think we all go through this journey alone but someone out there like you can closely relate & that’s why it’s helped me as well as an individual to keep going & at least try to set an example for others to know they aren’t alone💗
@@aarionnamc4003 for me I got a job and I got my things packed and found rental room once I had enough savings food and supply I basically ran away It's very hard but it without them try and ruin my mental health and all I think it's far better than being with them I'd rather suffer comfort than abuse and it will get better with time
I'm wanna move out, all my family treat me like if I was their emotional punching bag. My mental health is fucked, it's crazy how sometimes your family it's not your home or your safe place.
Just saying... that's how you know the abuse is bad and very real if you're literally questioning having a mental disorder, Definitely have been there girl, glad you got out.
Omg, I used to try sleep and stay in my room too, I'd do whatever I needed to do (Clean, cook, etc) and then go to my room when I was home because I wanted to stay out of the way and not be picked on.
I’m 33, long overdue but a bunch of setbacks stopped me from moving out sooner, was planning to wait another 2 years til my car was paid off but I’m deciding to just move out now no matter my financial situation, because I just can’t take it anymore, love my parents but can’t love em under the same roof, ppl keep telling me “don’t get an apartment, save up for a house” but at this point I’d rather get an apartment than to keep to suffering living with my annoying parents,
Oh my goodness same, I literally starve myself bc I'm so scared to go to the kitchen. I need to move out pronto so I'm thinking of getting a part time job. Thank you for this video!
I'm 21, go to uni, and stay in a toxic household with my dad. I've always been emotionally neglected and I would be shouted at and sometimes beaten when I did something wrong. I felt the weight of this when he would bring girls over and give them affection when i would be told to go away or be shouted at for doing daily things like eating too close to them. He ended up kicking me out and from the ages of 16 to 19 i moved around a lot with my mom. This was when i got depressed and my mom ended up telling me i should go back to my dad. This wasn't a good period in my life. I am moving out Tomorrow even when my dad does not approve. I am aware that he pays for my uni, but I have saved up enough funds and I have a jewellery business. So that will help with rent. I'll just have to find scholarships and sell enough jewellery a month to get groceries I know this will be hard, but rather this than staying another minute here.
@@hannahklunk6670 A month later, and it's going quite well. My boyfriend and I ended up deciding to move to the same apartment since he was going through something similar, so that helps financially as well. I still haven't spoken to my dad since. Even though I'm okay with it, I miss my baby brother whom I also had to leave behind. I'm still stuck on whether I should go visit or not.
Yes. You have to leave toxic household. Overstaying will only kill you inside. I plan on moving out for good and I’m mean good. No regrets about it at all. I’m 25 and I wish I would’ve left sooner.
I am 16 and I am planning on moving out tomorrow today is my last day living with them and the best part is that they have no clue I am actually really really scared and I can’t believe that I will take that step tomorrow but I have to take it for my self and most importantly for my younger self who couldn’t do anything about the abuse that was happening her whole life I really wished I had friends so they could mentally and emotionally support me but at the end of the day I have myself and that is enough I am my own soldier 💗
@@viwekaptein7548 I am living crisis Center for teenagers I will be long there 6 weeks till they get me a new place to live at I couldn’t be more happy I am so proud of myself for finally doing it!
@@Haley22224 HII here is a update it’s going really good I am moving in a community house soon with a bedroom for myself it was hard but it is worth it always remember that this is just a phase and that everything will eventually get better ❤️🩹 if you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask them to me have a nice day love and stay safe 💕
A lot of mental and physical abuses you mentioned resonate with me a lot. I became self reliant since I was little, running away was on my mind since I was in kindergarten, and that’s what I did asap when I turned 18. What you mentioned about tearing up and thinking of the worst, made my head turn, because I do the exact same. I was recently diagnosed with C-PTSD and Borderline Personality Disorder after reading books about it and bringing it up to my therapist, BPD specifically, branches out to anxiety and depression, it is also a disorder that is “developed” by abusive, overbearing, emotionally neglectful parenting.
I'm currently in this situation, this video gives me hope because in 2 years I'll be able to go to university and cut them off. Thank you for sharing this, you give me hope :)
I couldn’t sleep and this video is exactly what was on my mind. I went back home and slowly started falling into intense despair/depression, felt trapped. I am pretending you are a friend whom I can relate to.
I’ve lived in a very toxic household since I was 13 and I’m now 30 still dealing with the same crap. I make great money but I kept spending my money to distract myself from the situation I was in and it took a year of therapy to realize my issue. Currently trying to find an apartment, sucks with bad credit but I’ll get there. my dad charges me $1500 and he makes $140k a year. I’ve found out my sister drains him completely and he refuses to look at finances, so the more she spends the higher my rent gets.
5:50 i feel so broken inside sometimes because of my trauma responses. like theres a fracture inside me that will never be fixed. unfortunately i have anger issues because of it and once im triggered i lash out and lose my shit at my mother. i resent that part of myself so much.
This is a great video, listening to what you said , ive been constantly trying to change myself to believe that my toxic household isn't that bad and that maybe it is me , that its my fault for the way i feel, that maybe im not grateful enough and everything you said in this video is exactly to a T, my feelings, my living situation, my thoughts process, the gossip ,the drama, sleeping the day away from being drain, it is very relieving to know im not alone and nothing is wrong with the way i feel , i manage to save up money and i was scared to move out basically for the fact my mom says that if i leave she will tell the whole family," i dont want to be apart of the family anymore and wont be able to come back." Listening to you , i know i have a life to live regardless of if my mom chooses to understand it or not. People are going to say what they want but i need to start my storyline. again great video . subscribed!
I can relate to everything you've said in this. I've felt so trapped knowing I couldn't do anything because my parents were the sole reason I'm still living today. And, to an extent, it is true. My mom brought me to the states to give me better opportunities, my parents didn't make me pay bills even when I had a part-time job, they gave me what parents should provide for their child like a roof over my head and food, and they still love me to an extent. We just can't live in one household anymore, because they enforce these rules on me to the point where they're basically hovering over my shoulder, watching what I do. I HAVE to be perfect even if I'm not, even if I try and push my limits, I just can't, and they have super high expectations placed on me even though I need to move at my own pace. Then I can't have social media AT ALL, and I also can't hang out with friends AT ALL, and if I make plans they make me cancel on them. I've told this problem to my mom and she claims she's never made me cancel plans. We've had a discussion about her letting me socialize and giving me a bit of freedom right after we got out of my doctor's appointment, where my doctor had told her I should socialize more to help with my anxiety and my stress. That discussion we had made me super happy, like it held a lot of weight and meaning to me, and I even told her I felt so happy she had a change of heart. But then to have her do a complete 180 by prohibiting me from at least spending a few hours out with my friends once every few weeks, making me cancel plans, and gaslighting me into thinking I'm just being overly dramatic? And my dad is an overly serious man, always demanding me to do chores even when I'm IN THE MIDDLE OF DOING THEM, treating me like a kid even though I've been 18 turning 19, and he still smacks me and pulls my hair at my grown age whenever I have a fight or disagreement with them (mind you, that's SUPER embarrassing for literally ANYONE my age). And they tell me I can't rely on my friends because at the end of the day I always come running back to them for help. Which isn't true; my friends have been more caring of my wellbeing and they are LITERALLY going out of their way to help me. So while I love my family, because they're my blood family, and while we definitely had happy moments together, living under the same roof isn't plausible. Their horrible habits have gotten to me so I lash out so easily, which pisses them off even more which also triggers me even more, and it always turns into a back and forth thing. I'm just happy I have friends who are willing to help me, and I do plan on leaving soon without telling them directly, since I suppose a note is enough. I mean, hey, my dad literally told me himself that I'm grown enough and I can leave, so I'm gonna take his word for it! I'm not perfect either (and I feel like a liability more than ever), so that's why I need to set improvement and life goals for myself. Long paragraph btw, I know, but I just wanted to vent somewhere to take some weight off my chest.
Girl i’m 30 years old and I still live with my toxic mother. A lot of people will say oh it’s not that bad at least you have a roof over your head. But it’s like okay but I was traumatized in this household since the age of 10 and the narcissism is crazy. I’m trying to grow spiritually as well with God but I just feel like I can’t because I’m reliving that trauma everyday. It’s hard as heck to move out of NY which is my plan because it’s so expensive so i’m just praying Lord please get me out. I also have fear to leave cuz i’ve always been seen as someone who doesn’t make wise decisions and they act like I probably won’t survive. It’s so hard. Also the tarot cards and stuff is a deception from the kingdom of Satan. I got out of new age a while ago because I relied on objects and “spirit guides” to guide me. I turned to Jesus and the word of God three years ago and I will say that Jesus is the only way. Those cards and stuff drove me nuts and drove me more into darkness and depression as well as sleep paralysis. I know a lot about witchcraft if you’d like to know more!
I’m also 30 years old, I never wanted to be home because of the abuse. My dad was a drunk abusive alcoholic. I left when I was 16 and ended up in a toxic abusive relationship with two kids. My parents told me to leave him and move in with them 😒 My dad is still very abusive not physical but still mentally and now he’s doing it to me and my kids again 😢 I’m trying to move but I can’t it’s very hard. He’s now financially abusing me and my mom. He gets very angry when I refuse to give him more money and gives me and my kids nasty looks when I’m not home he doesn’t let my kids get a glass of water or open the fridge 😢
Hey I’m boutta move out in a week at just 18y/o and I can say I truly feel connected with ur video, I had the opportunity to move from CA to IN which is not a big state or the same lifestyle that I’m use to but I can say that there’s the peace that I don’t have at home. I never had the best relationship with both of my parents and I’ve been feeling left out of my family since I remember, I can say that ur video truly affected me on a good way and I hope my journey of moving to a new city by myself away from family could be as positive as yours is it, wish u the best to u and all the brave people that leave those negatives environments to relief themselves❤
My mother, who I was mostly around my whole life, is one of the people who deal with learning to emotionally detach from their parents. I was fine when I got my first job and began paying a little bit of the bill, but when I stopped due to low funds and my desire to take more risks in life, stress began to occur. The problem and just the talking starter happened when I wanted emotional separation from my mother and my father was also the upset and mad-looking one but anyway you gave me a start to begin to share my story well thank you for sharing.
I really needed this! I am in the process of leaving my abusive family. The roller coaster of emotions is so overwhelming for me but you definitely provided me with some clarity. Thank you!
What have learned from listening that you have struggled with so many parents we all connected so the toxic household that you dealt with is teaching you that has you want through the issues that you within your family that will help you point out issues within your own family because yes there was problem in your family the same issues that we all have in our family that need to be met but if some family don't want to get mental health support they need you can let them do you just move out an let them deal with there own problem because there energy will begin to come on you and you will begin to act same way they act has you are in the family has well. But really love this video.
1:04 Thanks for sharing and for creating this space. It makes me feel so much less alone and more hopeful. ❤ I wish I could have 1-on-1s with my friends about this kind of thing and we kind of do sometimes but it's hard to trust and take things deeper. But trusting and healing take time and are a work-in-progress. Thanks again. Edit: Also I love your down-to-earth positivity
I didn’t grew up in a toxic household. It was more like a mentally abuse from my father. I don’t want to blame him totally, don’t get me wrong, it was more like a dependance towards him. I think he is still bipolar and due to that I was always like “what was his mood yesterday“? What am I expecting today and it totally influenced the way I’m thinking about him in retro perspectives :// My mom is lovely even though she has some character traits I definitely dislike. She was always aiming for giving the beste to my sister and me. I hope you’re doing good and thank you sooo much for talking to us about such intimate stuff. I‘m sending allllll my loooove to you ❤❤
watching and hearing this video deeply connected with me. how you and everyone else’s experiences are so close, i teared up thinking about my future. i’m a half filipino half mexican american. i wasn’t raised by my parents, but instead my moms mom and grandpa (grandma filipino/grandpa mix korean american). growing up, yes they provided love, shelter, food, etc. but as i grow into my teen years, i realized that’s when everything goes downhill. what started as critiques about my body and appearance slowly cuts deeper into heartbreaking insults, blame, and self hatred at times. i would think about running away, hurting myself, skipping meals sometimes; just to isolate myself or “feel better”. now at 19, 20 in a few months i’ve been wanting to moving out for years since middle-high school. my mentality isn’t the best but definitely better years ago where i cared for their validation every time. even to this day, they still have that toxic household of yelling, bickering, and insults around. they pretty much control my future and present, as they want me to become a cna/doctor (something i don’t want to be) and helping out with car/phone payments. it’s really stressful right now, which after listening to what you had said Anna; makes me want to work harder and save up more. i really feel like my life has been a roller coaster of emotions, and that i want my self independence to be a new chapter of my life. thank you for your eye opener of advice and experience for everyone. and thank you if anyone ever reads this far. ❤️
Omg this video made me cry so much this is my exact situation I've questioned if I just move away far from these people will they even care this hit so hard thank you for sharing this
The fact that I am at work so that o can become independent and move out in less than a month thank you so much for the information I really appreciate it you made my day ❤❤
6:02 you could be talking about bpd NOT trying to throw out diagnostics but it can be from prolonged trauma such as c-ptsd. your toxic childhood + home could be why. please dont say something is wrong with you. your brain is different. not wrong. I love you my stranger friend I just found on the internet. I appreciate your transparency. you are safe. you are loved. you are worthy.
Thank you so much for sharing, this inspired me so much. I'm currently in the process of moving out, I've been planning for the past two years and I think the time has finally come ! When you talked about the fear and the attachment I could relate so much so I'm glad to know that's a normal part of the process. Thank you again for sharing, I subscribed.. much love to you.
I resonate so much with everything you have shared❤. I kept saying "same" the whole time as I watched. Especially when you said you have run away from home a few times...SAME!!!
honestly, my mom & gramma tend to use me for everything they need help with. I really dont mind helping out, but when youre constantly doing things for others without taking time for yourself, thats when it really hits you. Not to mentiom the moment you get annoyed or say, "I dont feel like doing it right now." or smth similar, thats when they say I dont help with shit, i dont do shit around the house, im lazy and the like. I've no idea what this is called, like what term is used for what theyre doing. But I am physically & mentally drained. this has been going on for maybe 4 years or so. I'm 18. i've only ever had a single job, but i had that for 1 week. I couldnt manage what my mom/gramma wanted me to do, AND my job. So i ended up quitting. During that time, my mom had hip surgery and an infection at the site, so if i didnt do something, or was feeling tired, I felt bad, cause she couldnt get up, or do shit for herself. I had to do everything. me. Its always me. like tf??
THANK YOU. I relate to these situations almost to a T! I've been living with my mom to save money for my future and it's been so hard mentally. I really am excited to reset out relationship moving out. It's unfortunate we all went through this... but I'm glad I am not alone in this exact situation. So, really, thank you for making this video
I also don’t know how a normal childhood is I feel like my whole life is a lie and I’ve also had most of this similar stuff happen to me I just haven’t left my home and I tried to run away but never could and just some of these are a lot accurate to me I barely even remember the good memories in my life
My parents pay for everything so i feel like u need them to live, which is funny bc they dont pay for my schooling and food...i have been babied for so long i dont know how to do ANYTHING by myself. I dont really want to tell them i just want to leave
I have Dissociative Identity Disorder. More diagnoses pending, but my therapist and I, we know that much. I’ll tell you this: A diagnosis is not a condemnation. It’s just a label. Labels are helpful for understanding our experiences as multifaceted beings, they only become harmful or lethal when we forget this one simple fact: Standards don’t define *You*. Additionally, it is my belief that nothing is wrong with you, as nothing is wrong with me (or any other identity sharing this body with me). I was hurt. Everyone in here with me was hurt. You were hurt. But, that doesn’t mean that it was your fault or that you can never change it. I had a choice. Embrace the certainty of blasting myself off this cruel world, or… embrace being exactly who I am and showing the whole rest of the world that I am nothing to be feared. This meant I had to embrace the uncertainty of trying to change the world for the better, but I did/do so on the chance that I might actually succeed. Then no one else has to go through the hell I went through again. I was also diagnosed as being autistic, and when that happened at age 9, that explained a lot of stuff. I’m not disordered because I’m autistic (it’s a different brain wiring, not a disorder), I’m mentally ill because I live in a world that doesn’t accept people who are different, especially when their own neurology makes them automatically exceptionally different. I’m not alarmed anymore. The world will see that I and all others in this body are not to be feared, but healed, and nurtured emotionally. Till that one sweet day comes, I accept those into my life who actually accept me (and everyone else in the body). People ask me where I get this kind of awareness despite my Dissociative Identity Disorder. My answer: Practice. 😂 I love you all. Have a good day, okay? ❤️ There’s something better somewhere up ahead. You just have to take care of yourself long enough to see it happen. I need a break.
One more thing, Anna, it’s okay to seek a diagnosis. It will help you understand what your body and mind did to protect you when you under attack. Just remember that it isn’t a death sentence, nor a condemnation. It’s a label, a label that helps specialists understand how best to help you, and remember that there is something better after this. A time where your mind is less twisted up and against itself and you. If I hadn’t been diagnosed, I literally wouldn’t be alive here to share with you what I’m sharing.
There is a chance you have whats called as an anxious attachment style, if you are curious check out the book attached, plus its quite short and clear. In terms of the classic anxiety and adhd, they are not basic, they can be quite complex and its not as common as you may think, plus lots of being are misdiagnosed but also lots under diagnosed, as somebody who has adhd it affects your entire life in so many ways and it is not simple!
255 days until im free and 18. Dealing with a mental toxic household and being your single moms 2nd income and being brainwashed and not getting an education. its really hard. but 255 days and im free. Thankful to have coworkers that are helping me out of this rut.
Unfortunately now that I’m almost 30…and a single mom to a baby boy…idk what to do. They want me to move states away with them and I don’t feel comfortable. This exact thing is happening to me but as a grown single mom. Too much drama, gossip, and profanities by my mother. She even wanted rights to me like I’m incapable of being mentally on my own….this is what I’m going through right now it sucks. This makes me sick!
Well😢almost everything you said is how I feel.. with my situation I’m stuck with a toxic mom … it’s my home and I’m stuck taking care of her and working a dead 😵 end job .. I can’t run away. I can’t move out. I have nowhere to run. I’m stuck between a rock and hard place .. I’m burnt 🥵 out extremely exhausted and anxiety, is. A all time high I wish I had the time and money to change my life for the better
This process is just getting started. I told myself it was all in my imagination, but I've always wanted to escape. My mother used to say to me that I would always want and need her. Since I was thirteen, I've wanted to go. Since I was 14-17, I have planned to runway. But didn't. I'm almost 19 years old. After I was around seventeen and a half, things started to improve, and I thought, "Maybe she's getting better, and we can be happy," but after I turned eighteen, things drastically worsened. She began shouting at me directly and threatening me. Nearly struck me several times. If I hadn't stopped her, she would have. Any tips for moving out and what all I need to move out (essentially runaway but technically "move out") would be appreciated! Thx
I’m so done with my emotional abuse. My parents favourite their granddaughter over me, act like she’s made of gold when she’s bratty and spoiled. My mum makes me do everything for her when she can very clearly grab things herself. I can’t have an opinion in this house or my mum will tell me “I’m the mother, you won’t disrespect me.” I’m leaving home when I’m 17, I’ll stay with a friend or something. (I’m 2026)
I’m adopted and they are mostly here for me financially but they forced my emotions down to wear I can’t feel emotional unless it’s laughter and anger and I don’t think they love me I think they did it for the attention that they got and I feel like I have to be great full for what they did but whenever they walk into a room I always leave cus I don’t want to see them and I feel bad about it and they broke me mentally by making feel like I’m not worth anything I feel trapped to them the only time I can be emotional is when I’m drunk and still can’t cry I try to but the tears won’t come out
Same situation as me except I'm the one giving them money. And I have a step dad that always yells at me although I didn't do anything bad. My mom tells me to stay because I still have younger siblings.. Idkk what to do anymore..
I had horrible mental health throughout my teenage years. I leaned on my mother too much, and exhausted her. I was and still am cruel to her at times, and she’s so disconnected from me lately. I don’t blame her. Neither of us are bad people. We are just bad for each other. I shouldn’t have had to go through what I did, and she shouldn’t have had to go through it with me. Neither of us had a choice and it ruined our relationship. She was a good mother until I wore her down to nothing. I can’t bare to be here anymore. I have to go and be a new person.
I was thinking of joining the military active duty. This will help me not only meet new people but make money & go to school without my family being a helicopter
I need help moving out with my two kids. I’m in California and it’s so expensive 😢 I left my parents place at 16 just to end up in a toxic abusive relationship and my parents told me to go back just so that my dad can now financially abuse me and treat my kids like crap. I need to leave ASAP I don’t want to go to a shelter because they are 2 far away from my kids school 🏫 idk what to do.
I argue with my mom, because she’s manipulative. At night time she always wants me to help her and I tell her i’ll do it in the morning , but I always help no problem the problem is she wants it now. She argues w me over the dumbest shet if I left dishes which in the moment I would tell her I’d clean and she still yells at me or does it herself and complains. She complains for anything and Im dumb enough to argur back and I get disrespectful. Lets be honest here am I wrong?
I wanted to grow on YT and i tried so much over different accounts, this is the newest , Im going through the same but i dont have enough to move out and its draining me out i cant avoid them because even then i get beaten
Not to say I feel as if these things apply to their oldest daughters n sons and i feel as if mothers n fathers but mostly mothers scare us mentally with words, it gets physical and ect. But they like to depend on us to watch out for siblings and help them around the house as soon as we speak up about dreams or anything that involes not being attached to there blinding lies from the home and worldly lies, they take everything out of my room and say grown people have jobs and childern that have things that grown people with jobs work for n isolate me from everyone and everything but on somesides we get nothing inreturn but threats and being beat so i say this being 14yr old and some how came across this video n realized that im living for my parents more than ive ever lived for myself ive been taking care of babys sinces i was 5 just a baby and ive never had friends mental support or anything like that so everything thats happening now is mentally hurting me in the worst way posible and i say this everyday god wakes me up with a purpose so i have to keep going for the rest of these 4yrs of still living with my people.
I am a mother living with a toxic mother I am looking for work overseas and my only focus is to make my son happy and look for a job my mother and I have been fighting for years and years how do I stay happy
Im in the process of myself leaving almost had so many mental breakdowns living here
same
On top of that I don’t know what love is like I want to
Making you reliant on them is a form of ‘infantilizing’. It can go as far as shaming you for creating any independence, or simply wanting it. It’s a means for establishing dominance and keeping control of you. It’s very real for anyone unfamiliar with the term or with behavior associated with it.
How I’m feeling rn wit them
Reading this clicked a puzzle piece in place for me. People leave comments without thinking really of who will read them but this changes my entire perspective. Thank you.
My parents definitely do that and I’m trying hard to get away but I’m not sure how
I think im going through this rn
I just don’t know how to move forward without them I’m 22 my life has gone to shit I’ve haven’t been doing anything for myself so please if anyone has the time to give me ideas I’m tired of relying on them I think everything is my fault I provoke their answers their actions
mentally abusive is much harder than physical in my opinion and i’ve been on both spectrums, mentally sucks because people don’t see what you’re going through and how the abusers has light you even though it’s obvious it’s abuse but you’re so hard wired in to thinking to yourself that your the issue.
This made me emotional because I am currently going through this
Literally same
i’m at my new place today and i can’t stop crying. i feel like the pressure suddenly made me forget everything that pushed me to do it in the first place
U regret ?
@ sometimes. but that’s because i don’t like having roommates, nor the fact i’m alone in a new town. with that being saiddd, i think that in the end, i wouldn’t have realised just how much happiness i could feel doing boring things like watering plants and watching movies late at night, if id stayed/gone back. and i think that says a lot. there wasn’t ever enough peace to notice how happy the little things made me. and im a lot better for it. it’s hard being depressed or sad for long when im so at peace that even the weather outside can make me happy! 🤗
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Me I’m Arabian girl so if I move out from house that’s mean I’m b**tch ( sorry for the word but this is reality of my country) me I’m Muslim and my religion so beautiful he save me but the problem of my society that he don’t aplicate the right Islam ☪️ I have a toxic family anyway I hope i can save money and go aborde and leave country in this next 2 yo I need a big courage 😭
@@kiikasofia
When u leave home and your toxic house u feel free and with peace ?
@ yes :))
I relate so much to this. I am infantilized, my mother crosses boundaries (reads diaries, journals, even digs through trash) I am critiqued for what I wear and do. I only realized recently it’s not normal for your mom to call you names and slurs. My mom sees my friends and even my own father as competition. I resonate with what you said about the constant bickering, hostility, anger etc. it sucks the life out of you.
Our situations are so closely related. You have no idea how relieved I am that I no longer feel like I'm going into this new part of my life blindly. I can't wait for the next one, truly. Thank you for sharing
We sometimes think we all go through this journey alone but someone out there like you can closely relate & that’s why it’s helped me as well as an individual to keep going & at least try to set an example for others to know they aren’t alone💗
As a "mistake" and "burden" in the family, I'm finally moving out in 3 days.
I did move out at 16 they will complain me as missing person soon idk what to do
Can both of you give me your insta I'd even I left home I hope we will be connected on insta 😢
Hey how did you move go?
@@aarionnamc4003 for me I got a job and I got my things packed and found rental room once I had enough savings food and supply I basically ran away
It's very hard but it without them try and ruin my mental health and all I think it's far better than being with them I'd rather suffer comfort than abuse and it will get better with time
Im leaving on the 18th. Ima pray on it and give it to God😊
I'm wanna move out, all my family treat me like if I was their emotional punching bag. My mental health is fucked, it's crazy how sometimes your family it's not your home or your safe place.
I also feel the same,they don't give the hell about me
Just saying... that's how you know the abuse is bad and very real if you're literally questioning having a mental disorder, Definitely have been there girl, glad you got out.
Omg, I used to try sleep and stay in my room too, I'd do whatever I needed to do (Clean, cook, etc) and then go to my room when I was home because I wanted to stay out of the way and not be picked on.
I’m 33, long overdue but a bunch of setbacks stopped me from moving out sooner, was planning to wait another 2 years til my car was paid off but I’m deciding to just move out now no matter my financial situation, because I just can’t take it anymore, love my parents but can’t love em under the same roof, ppl keep telling me “don’t get an apartment, save up for a house” but at this point I’d rather get an apartment than to keep to suffering living with my annoying parents,
True I feel the same way. I feel like I can’t do it tho. I need help and I don’t know where to go.
@@sandyvonkittysame here…😢
32, getting ready to sign the lease and move out and THEN tell my parents.
I feel this way. I’m 22
Oh my goodness same, I literally starve myself bc I'm so scared to go to the kitchen. I need to move out pronto so I'm thinking of getting a part time job. Thank you for this video!
Oh my god. I hope you're ok, things will get better! You're the only one who can unlock your own independence!
reading this while experiencing the hunger from this bs hit a little different 🥲 maybe i do need to move out
same
Make sure to put your money in a bank account your family has no access to if need to be.
I'm 21, go to uni, and stay in a toxic household with my dad. I've always been emotionally neglected and I would be shouted at and sometimes beaten when I did something wrong. I felt the weight of this when he would bring girls over and give them affection when i would be told to go away or be shouted at for doing daily things like eating too close to them. He ended up kicking me out and from the ages of 16 to 19 i moved around a lot with my mom. This was when i got depressed and my mom ended up telling me i should go back to my dad. This wasn't a good period in my life. I am moving out Tomorrow even when my dad does not approve. I am aware that he pays for my uni, but I have saved up enough funds and I have a jewellery business. So that will help with rent. I'll just have to find scholarships and sell enough jewellery a month to get groceries
I know this will be hard, but rather this than staying another minute here.
You got this look into passive income! You can be comfortable financially just got to find what works best for you.
how's it going?
@@hannahklunk6670 A month later, and it's going quite well. My boyfriend and I ended up deciding to move to the same apartment since he was going through something similar, so that helps financially as well. I still haven't spoken to my dad since. Even though I'm okay with it, I miss my baby brother whom I also had to leave behind. I'm still stuck on whether I should go visit or not.
Yes. You have to leave toxic household. Overstaying will only kill you inside. I plan on moving out for good and I’m mean good. No regrets about it at all. I’m 25 and I wish I would’ve left sooner.
I can relate every day its like your walking on egg shells. Am so tired of there bs.
Thanks for this. Officially moved out of their house on Saturday. Terrified but I know it’s the best decision for me to heal
How is it going ❤
Update??
I am 16 and I am planning on moving out tomorrow today is my last day living with them and the best part is that they have no clue I am actually really really scared and I can’t believe that I will take that step tomorrow but I have to take it for my self and most importantly for my younger self who couldn’t do anything about the abuse that was happening her whole life I really wished I had friends so they could mentally and emotionally support me but at the end of the day I have myself and that is enough I am my own soldier 💗
good luck
Hey, how did it go?
@@viwekaptein7548 I am living crisis Center for teenagers I will be long there 6 weeks till they get me a new place to live at I couldn’t be more happy I am so proud of myself for finally doing it!
I am planning on the same thing soon, can you tell me what happend? I am also scared..
@@Haley22224 HII here is a update it’s going really good I am moving in a community house soon with a bedroom for myself it was hard but it is worth it always remember that this is just a phase and that everything will eventually get better ❤️🩹 if you have any questions don’t hesitate to ask them to me have a nice day love and stay safe 💕
A lot of mental and physical abuses you mentioned resonate with me a lot. I became self reliant since I was little, running away was on my mind since I was in kindergarten, and that’s what I did asap when I turned 18.
What you mentioned about tearing up and thinking of the worst, made my head turn, because I do the exact same.
I was recently diagnosed with C-PTSD and Borderline Personality Disorder after reading books about it and bringing it up to my therapist, BPD specifically, branches out to anxiety and depression, it is also a disorder that is “developed” by abusive, overbearing, emotionally neglectful parenting.
my mom get meaner everyday I have a plan but today is really hard
I'm currently in this situation, this video gives me hope because in 2 years I'll be able to go to university and cut them off. Thank you for sharing this, you give me hope :)
I couldn’t sleep and this video is exactly what was on my mind. I went back home and slowly started falling into intense despair/depression, felt trapped. I am pretending you are a friend whom I can relate to.
I’ve lived in a very toxic household since I was 13 and I’m now 30 still dealing with the same crap. I make great money but I kept spending my money to distract myself from
the situation I was in and it took a year of therapy to realize my issue.
Currently trying to find an apartment, sucks with bad credit but I’ll get there. my dad charges me $1500 and he makes $140k a year. I’ve found out my sister drains him completely and he refuses to look at finances, so the more she spends the higher my rent gets.
I did it. I left ❤ I discovered you when I was stuck with my NPD siblings.. so glad I am here
5:50 i feel so broken inside sometimes because of my trauma responses. like theres a fracture inside me that will never be fixed. unfortunately i have anger issues because of it and once im triggered i lash out and lose my shit at my mother. i resent that part of myself so much.
It’s crazy to see how many of us grew up like this. It’s crazy 😢
This is a great video, listening to what you said , ive been constantly trying to change myself to believe that my toxic household isn't that bad and that maybe it is me , that its my fault for the way i feel, that maybe im not grateful enough and everything you said in this video is exactly to a T, my feelings, my living situation, my thoughts process, the gossip ,the drama, sleeping the day away from being drain, it is very relieving to know im not alone and nothing is wrong with the way i feel , i manage to save up money and i was scared to move out basically for the fact my mom says that if i leave she will tell the whole family," i dont want to be apart of the family anymore and wont be able to come back." Listening to you , i know i have a life to live regardless of if my mom chooses to understand it or not. People are going to say what they want but i need to start my storyline. again great video . subscribed!
I can relate to everything you've said in this. I've felt so trapped knowing I couldn't do anything because my parents were the sole reason I'm still living today. And, to an extent, it is true. My mom brought me to the states to give me better opportunities, my parents didn't make me pay bills even when I had a part-time job, they gave me what parents should provide for their child like a roof over my head and food, and they still love me to an extent. We just can't live in one household anymore, because they enforce these rules on me to the point where they're basically hovering over my shoulder, watching what I do. I HAVE to be perfect even if I'm not, even if I try and push my limits, I just can't, and they have super high expectations placed on me even though I need to move at my own pace. Then I can't have social media AT ALL, and I also can't hang out with friends AT ALL, and if I make plans they make me cancel on them. I've told this problem to my mom and she claims she's never made me cancel plans. We've had a discussion about her letting me socialize and giving me a bit of freedom right after we got out of my doctor's appointment, where my doctor had told her I should socialize more to help with my anxiety and my stress. That discussion we had made me super happy, like it held a lot of weight and meaning to me, and I even told her I felt so happy she had a change of heart. But then to have her do a complete 180 by prohibiting me from at least spending a few hours out with my friends once every few weeks, making me cancel plans, and gaslighting me into thinking I'm just being overly dramatic? And my dad is an overly serious man, always demanding me to do chores even when I'm IN THE MIDDLE OF DOING THEM, treating me like a kid even though I've been 18 turning 19, and he still smacks me and pulls my hair at my grown age whenever I have a fight or disagreement with them (mind you, that's SUPER embarrassing for literally ANYONE my age). And they tell me I can't rely on my friends because at the end of the day I always come running back to them for help. Which isn't true; my friends have been more caring of my wellbeing and they are LITERALLY going out of their way to help me. So while I love my family, because they're my blood family, and while we definitely had happy moments together, living under the same roof isn't plausible. Their horrible habits have gotten to me so I lash out so easily, which pisses them off even more which also triggers me even more, and it always turns into a back and forth thing. I'm just happy I have friends who are willing to help me, and I do plan on leaving soon without telling them directly, since I suppose a note is enough. I mean, hey, my dad literally told me himself that I'm grown enough and I can leave, so I'm gonna take his word for it!
I'm not perfect either (and I feel like a liability more than ever), so that's why I need to set improvement and life goals for myself. Long paragraph btw, I know, but I just wanted to vent somewhere to take some weight off my chest.
my mom really crossed my boundaries recently... I have to move out soon
Same I really got told extreme bad words from that b*tch I hate her so much and desperately desire to move out
Girl i’m 30 years old and I still live with my toxic mother. A lot of people will say oh it’s not that bad at least you have a roof over your head. But it’s like okay but I was traumatized in this household since the age of 10 and the narcissism is crazy. I’m trying to grow spiritually as well with God but I just feel like I can’t because I’m reliving that trauma everyday. It’s hard as heck to move out of NY which is my plan because it’s so expensive so i’m just praying Lord please get me out. I also have fear to leave cuz i’ve always been seen as someone who doesn’t make wise decisions and they act like I probably won’t survive. It’s so hard.
Also the tarot cards and stuff is a deception from the kingdom of Satan. I got out of new age a while ago because I relied on objects and “spirit guides” to guide me. I turned to Jesus and the word of God three years ago and I will say that Jesus is the only way. Those cards and stuff drove me nuts and drove me more into darkness and depression as well as sleep paralysis. I know a lot about witchcraft if you’d like to know more!
I’m also 30 years old, I never wanted to be home because of the abuse. My dad was a drunk abusive alcoholic. I left when I was 16 and ended up in a toxic abusive relationship with two kids. My parents told me to leave him and move in with them 😒 My dad is still very abusive not physical but still mentally and now he’s doing it to me and my kids again 😢 I’m trying to move but I can’t it’s very hard. He’s now financially abusing me and my mom. He gets very angry when I refuse to give him more money and gives me and my kids nasty looks when I’m not home he doesn’t let my kids get a glass of water or open the fridge 😢
Same girl same ...
Hey I’m boutta move out in a week at just 18y/o and I can say I truly feel connected with ur video, I had the opportunity to move from CA to IN which is not a big state or the same lifestyle that I’m use to but I can say that there’s the peace that I don’t have at home. I never had the best relationship with both of my parents and I’ve been feeling left out of my family since I remember, I can say that ur video truly affected me on a good way and I hope my journey of moving to a new city by myself away from family could be as positive as yours is it, wish u the best to u and all the brave people that leave those negatives environments to relief themselves❤
I don’t normally comment but this video gave me so much comfort, validation and encouragement.. thank you so much 🤍✨🥹🫶🏽
I feel this right now with my mom, sister situation, I’m 21 , but I am scared to leave
Leave build that credit stack that bread up
My mother, who I was mostly around my whole life, is one of the people who deal with learning to emotionally detach from their parents. I was fine when I got my first job and began paying a little bit of the bill, but when I stopped due to low funds and my desire to take more risks in life, stress began to occur. The problem and just the talking starter happened when I wanted emotional separation from my mother and my father was also the upset and mad-looking one but anyway you gave me a start to begin to share my story well thank you for sharing.
I really needed this! I am in the process of leaving my abusive family. The roller coaster of emotions is so overwhelming for me but you definitely provided me with some clarity. Thank you!
What have learned from listening that you have struggled with so many parents we all connected so the toxic household that you dealt with is teaching you that has you want through the issues that you within your family that will help you point out issues within your own family because yes there was problem in your family the same issues that we all have in our family that need to be met but if some family don't want to get mental health support they need you can let them do you just move out an let them deal with there own problem because there energy will begin to come on you and you will begin to act same way they act has you are in the family has well. But really love this video.
1:04 Thanks for sharing and for creating this space. It makes me feel so much less alone and more hopeful. ❤ I wish I could have 1-on-1s with my friends about this kind of thing and we kind of do sometimes but it's hard to trust and take things deeper. But trusting and healing take time and are a work-in-progress. Thanks again.
Edit: Also I love your down-to-earth positivity
I didn’t grew up in a toxic household. It was more like a mentally abuse from my father. I don’t want to blame him totally, don’t get me wrong, it was more like a dependance towards him. I think he is still bipolar and due to that I was always like “what was his mood yesterday“? What am I expecting today and it totally influenced the way I’m thinking about him in retro perspectives ://
My mom is lovely even though she has some character traits I definitely dislike. She was always aiming for giving the beste to my sister and me.
I hope you’re doing good and thank you sooo much for talking to us about such intimate stuff. I‘m sending allllll my loooove to you ❤❤
watching and hearing this video deeply connected with me. how you and everyone else’s experiences are so close, i teared up thinking about my future. i’m a half filipino half mexican american. i wasn’t raised by my parents, but instead my moms mom and grandpa (grandma filipino/grandpa mix korean american). growing up, yes they provided love, shelter, food, etc. but as i grow into my teen years, i realized that’s when everything goes downhill. what started as critiques about my body and appearance slowly cuts deeper into heartbreaking insults, blame, and self hatred at times. i would think about running away, hurting myself, skipping meals sometimes; just to isolate myself or “feel better”. now at 19, 20 in a few months i’ve been wanting to moving out for years since middle-high school. my mentality isn’t the best but definitely better years ago where i cared for their validation every time. even to this day, they still have that toxic household of yelling, bickering, and insults around. they pretty much control my future and present, as they want me to become a cna/doctor (something i don’t want to be) and helping out with car/phone payments. it’s really stressful right now, which after listening to what you had said Anna; makes me want to work harder and save up more. i really feel like my life has been a roller coaster of emotions, and that i want my self independence to be a new chapter of my life. thank you for your eye opener of advice and experience for everyone. and thank you if anyone ever reads this far. ❤️
Omg this video made me cry so much this is my exact situation I've questioned if I just move away far from these people will they even care this hit so hard thank you for sharing this
The fact that I am at work so that o can become independent and move out in less than a month thank you so much for the information I really appreciate it you made my day ❤❤
The relatability is healing
So inspirational. Currently going through the same situation. Except had to rush the process. You've made me more aware of what is going on.
6:02 you could be talking about bpd NOT trying to throw out diagnostics but it can be from prolonged trauma such as c-ptsd. your toxic childhood + home could be why. please dont say something is wrong with you. your brain is different. not wrong. I love you my stranger friend I just found on the internet. I appreciate your transparency. you are safe. you are loved. you are worthy.
Thank you so much for sharing, this inspired me so much. I'm currently in the process of moving out, I've been planning for the past two years and I think the time has finally come ! When you talked about the fear and the attachment I could relate so much so I'm glad to know that's a normal part of the process. Thank you again for sharing, I subscribed.. much love to you.
I resonate so much with everything you have shared❤. I kept saying "same" the whole time as I watched. Especially when you said you have run away from home a few times...SAME!!!
honestly, my mom & gramma tend to use me for everything they need help with. I really dont mind helping out, but when youre constantly doing things for others without taking time for yourself, thats when it really hits you.
Not to mentiom the moment you get annoyed or say, "I dont feel like doing it right now." or smth similar, thats when they say I dont help with shit, i dont do shit around the house, im lazy and the like.
I've no idea what this is called, like what term is used for what theyre doing. But I am physically & mentally drained. this has been going on for maybe 4 years or so. I'm 18. i've only ever had a single job, but i had that for 1 week. I couldnt manage what my mom/gramma wanted me to do, AND my job. So i ended up quitting.
During that time, my mom had hip surgery and an infection at the site, so if i didnt do something, or was feeling tired, I felt bad, cause she couldnt get up, or do shit for herself. I had to do everything. me. Its always me. like tf??
Loved this video, you described my situation perfectly.
THANK YOU. I relate to these situations almost to a T! I've been living with my mom to save money for my future and it's been so hard mentally. I really am excited to reset out relationship moving out. It's unfortunate we all went through this... but I'm glad I am not alone in this exact situation. So, really, thank you for making this video
I also don’t know how a normal childhood is I feel like my whole life is a lie and I’ve also had most of this similar stuff happen to me I just haven’t left my home and I tried to run away but never could and just some of these are a lot accurate to me I barely even remember the good memories in my life
My parents pay for everything so i feel like u need them to live, which is funny bc they dont pay for my schooling and food...i have been babied for so long i dont know how to do ANYTHING by myself. I dont really want to tell them i just want to leave
I have Dissociative Identity Disorder. More diagnoses pending, but my therapist and I, we know that much. I’ll tell you this:
A diagnosis is not a condemnation. It’s just a label.
Labels are helpful for understanding our experiences as multifaceted beings, they only become harmful or lethal when we forget this one simple fact:
Standards don’t define *You*.
Additionally, it is my belief that nothing is wrong with you, as nothing is wrong with me (or any other identity sharing this body with me). I was hurt. Everyone in here with me was hurt. You were hurt. But, that doesn’t mean that it was your fault or that you can never change it.
I had a choice. Embrace the certainty of blasting myself off this cruel world, or… embrace being exactly who I am and showing the whole rest of the world that I am nothing to be feared.
This meant I had to embrace the uncertainty of trying to change the world for the better, but I did/do so on the chance that I might actually succeed. Then no one else has to go through the hell I went through again.
I was also diagnosed as being autistic, and when that happened at age 9, that explained a lot of stuff.
I’m not disordered because I’m autistic (it’s a different brain wiring, not a disorder), I’m mentally ill because I live in a world that doesn’t accept people who are different, especially when their own neurology makes them automatically exceptionally different.
I’m not alarmed anymore. The world will see that I and all others in this body are not to be feared, but healed, and nurtured emotionally. Till that one sweet day comes, I accept those into my life who actually accept me (and everyone else in the body).
People ask me where I get this kind of awareness despite my Dissociative Identity Disorder. My answer:
Practice. 😂
I love you all. Have a good day, okay? ❤️ There’s something better somewhere up ahead. You just have to take care of yourself long enough to see it happen.
I need a break.
One more thing,
Anna, it’s okay to seek a diagnosis. It will help you understand what your body and mind did to protect you when you under attack.
Just remember that it isn’t a death sentence, nor a condemnation. It’s a label, a label that helps specialists understand how best to help you, and remember that there is something better after this. A time where your mind is less twisted up and against itself and you.
If I hadn’t been diagnosed, I literally wouldn’t be alive here to share with you what I’m sharing.
The amount of times I said “sameee” throughout this entire video 😂
There is a chance you have whats called as an anxious attachment style, if you are curious check out the book attached, plus its quite short and clear. In terms of the classic anxiety and adhd, they are not basic, they can be quite complex and its not as common as you may think, plus lots of being are misdiagnosed but also lots under diagnosed, as somebody who has adhd it affects your entire life in so many ways and it is not simple!
I honestly enjoy living on my own
255 days until im free and 18. Dealing with a mental toxic household and being your single moms 2nd income and being brainwashed and not getting an education. its really hard. but 255 days and im free. Thankful to have coworkers that are helping me out of this rut.
Girl I feel you. Thank you so much for sharing. I hope to tell my own story one day.
Unfortunately now that I’m almost 30…and a single mom to a baby boy…idk what to do. They want me to move states away with them and I don’t feel comfortable. This exact thing is happening to me but as a grown single mom. Too much drama, gossip, and profanities by my mother. She even wanted rights to me like I’m incapable of being mentally on my own….this is what I’m going through right now it sucks. This makes me sick!
Well😢almost everything you said is how I feel.. with my situation I’m stuck with a toxic mom … it’s my home and I’m stuck taking care of her and working a dead 😵 end job .. I can’t run away. I can’t move out. I have nowhere to run. I’m stuck between a rock and hard place .. I’m burnt 🥵 out extremely exhausted and anxiety, is. A all time high
I wish I had the time and money to change my life for the better
So true 💯
You were the first person I listened to podcasts, such a breather. Will probably continue listening to more 💛
This process is just getting started. I told myself it was all in my imagination, but I've always wanted to escape. My mother used to say to me that I would always want and need her. Since I was thirteen, I've wanted to go. Since I was 14-17, I have planned to runway. But didn't. I'm almost 19 years old. After I was around seventeen and a half, things started to improve, and I thought, "Maybe she's getting better, and we can be happy," but after I turned eighteen, things drastically worsened. She began shouting at me directly and threatening me. Nearly struck me several times. If I hadn't stopped her, she would have. Any tips for moving out and what all I need to move out (essentially runaway but technically "move out") would be appreciated! Thx
Thank you for this episode 😢❤keep going sis❤
first 18 seconds im hooked. girl, your gorgeous! and I love when ppl say girl or bitchhhh lol I'm also glad I found your content!
Currently going through this. Thank you so much.
I’m so done with my emotional abuse. My parents favourite their granddaughter over me, act like she’s made of gold when she’s bratty and spoiled.
My mum makes me do everything for her when she can very clearly grab things herself.
I can’t have an opinion in this house or my mum will tell me “I’m the mother, you won’t disrespect me.”
I’m leaving home when I’m 17, I’ll stay with a friend or something. (I’m 2026)
I’m adopted and they are mostly here for me financially but they forced my emotions down to wear I can’t feel emotional unless it’s laughter and anger and I don’t think they love me I think they did it for the attention that they got and I feel like I have to be great full for what they did but whenever they walk into a room I always leave cus I don’t want to see them and I feel bad about it and they broke me mentally by making feel like I’m not worth anything I feel trapped to them the only time I can be emotional is when I’m drunk and still can’t cry I try to but the tears won’t come out
Same situation as me except I'm the one giving them money. And I have a step dad that always yells at me although I didn't do anything bad. My mom tells me to stay because I still have younger siblings.. Idkk what to do anymore..
I had horrible mental health throughout my teenage years. I leaned on my mother too much, and exhausted her. I was and still am cruel to her at times, and she’s so disconnected from me lately. I don’t blame her. Neither of us are bad people. We are just bad for each other. I shouldn’t have had to go through what I did, and she shouldn’t have had to go through it with me. Neither of us had a choice and it ruined our relationship. She was a good mother until I wore her down to nothing. I can’t bare to be here anymore. I have to go and be a new person.
what if you can't afford to leave? :/
Im trying to move out too
I was thinking of joining the military active duty. This will help me not only meet new people but make money & go to school without my family being a helicopter
I need help moving out with my two kids. I’m in California and it’s so expensive 😢 I left my parents place at 16 just to end up in a toxic abusive relationship and my parents told me to go back just so that my dad can now financially abuse me and treat my kids like crap. I need to leave ASAP I don’t want to go to a shelter because they are 2 far away from my kids school 🏫 idk what to do.
Been there done that thanks god not annymore
Very relatable
Thank u forever for making this video
I wasn’t really sure I was in a toxic household but after hearing this ? Maybe I think I do? Or I am in one… 🥺
I argue with my mom, because she’s manipulative. At night time she always wants me to help her and I tell her i’ll do it in the morning , but I always help no problem the problem is she wants it now. She argues w me over the dumbest shet if I left dishes which in the moment I would tell her I’d clean and she still yells at me or does it herself and complains. She complains for anything and Im dumb enough to argur back and I get disrespectful. Lets be honest here am I wrong?
I wanted to grow on YT and i tried so much over different accounts, this is the newest , Im going through the same but i dont have enough to move out and its draining me out i cant avoid them because even then i get beaten
10:00 so true!!
Not to say I feel as if these things apply to their oldest daughters n sons and i feel as if mothers n fathers but mostly mothers scare us mentally with words, it gets physical and ect. But they like to depend on us to watch out for siblings and help them around the house as soon as we speak up about dreams or anything that involes not being attached to there blinding lies from the home and worldly lies, they take everything out of my room and say grown people have jobs and childern that have things that grown people with jobs work for n isolate me from everyone and everything but on somesides we get nothing inreturn but threats and being beat so i say this being 14yr old and some how came across this video n realized that im living for my parents more than ive ever lived for myself ive been taking care of babys sinces i was 5 just a baby and ive never had friends mental support or anything like that so everything thats happening now is mentally hurting me in the worst way posible and i say this everyday god wakes me up with a purpose so i have to keep going for the rest of these 4yrs of still living with my people.
You got this I believe in you 🫶🏽
I will really try. I’m going to move out
Household toxic is real
Beautiful video!
I am a mother living with a toxic mother I am looking for work overseas and my only focus is to make my son happy and look for a job my mother and I have been fighting for years and years how do I stay happy
Hello, could you please give a bookshelf tour?
Can we talk? I AM ABOUT TO RUN AWAY!! Please
Im 17 in two months i turn 18 find a job and leave
I wish I have this privilege….
Never seen someone with my first name as their last :/
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Dear guys who are suffering..one day they will die...so relaxand just focus on yourself..
Im all ready dead bro
Why tf did that make me laugh 😭
Told me you’re Hispanic without telling me you’re Hispanic 💔
Living with parents is so emotionally draining, gosh I cry every day and I can't even tell anyone cause I lost trust in everyone 🥲