MY FAMILY DOESN'T APPROVE OF MY PARTNER (EP. 33)
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
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(S3, EP8) On this weeks Thanksgiving edition of ‘NICE & NEAT’ the fellas had a fitting topic for the holiday season. ‘MY FAMILY DOESN’T APPROVE OF MY PARTNER’ and how to effectively navigate these waters. Also, the question was raised is it appropriate to introduce your partner to your family during the holiday season. This was a good one and they covered it all! Wishing you all a very HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!
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Duke Omar.bolden @just.jalon
Intro song: @xaroc__ - pledge of allegiance
My dad chose my mom over his family they are 30 years (31 years of marriage December 28) in and over 30 being together. Eventually after a few years of marriage they came back around because they saw that my dad wasn’t letting up.
Amen💓🤞🏾
I am thankful for this podcast because I didn’t grow up having positive male influences, so seeing young Black men establishing their own safe space to discuss important topics that anyone, but specifically people of color can relate to is NEEDED and I have found it very helpful with how I engage others, especially men. Keep up the great work fellas!
We definitely need another episode on whether your partner should have friends of the opposite sex, and is there a grey area. When is this acceptable ?
Friends? Lol this can’t even be a serious conversation. Of course they can have friends of the opposite sex. They shouldn’t have to limit their friendships because of the other partners insecurities and lack of trust.
@@IAmJaidaSteele You’re right. They shouldn’t have to limit their friendships, but that’s a touchy topic for a lot of people. I think it would be a good topic to discuss on the podcast.
@@nedhat I think it would be great, it’ll definitely touch on the insecurities and lack of trust in relationships
@@IAmJaidaSteele true, but I do believe it should be boundaries set for those friends though.
Had a very bad experience of that.....there was lack of boundaries and to be honest i had to let go of that relationship because I could tell the person I was dating valued his friendships more than our relationship ,trust me....it didn't work it ain't even about insecurities or lack of trust but it's a red flag for me
I think the holidays is a good time to meet family. It can be daunting and overwhelming for both parties but it allows for people to engage and understand the dynamic between everyone. Hope y’all have a great holiday!
Thank y’all so much for touching on the DV within the NFL. I saw a comment on your last post asking to talk about it and i def thought the response to the persons comment was disheartening. I know Duke talked about decision making but i feel like that’s out the window when it comes to domestic violence. Call it exactly what it is, that’s not his first time beating on that girl and A LOT of NFL players get away with DV and the NFL covers it up. Thank you to Omar for saying that the CTE thing is a cop out because it is. PHYSICAL ABUSE IS EXACTLY WHAT IT IS. It’s about power and humiliation. I’m sorry but we’re not giving excuses to these ppl. And Duke is right, the only way this is going to change is if y’all call each other out. I notice men fall FLAT when it comes to calling each out on the B.S. and it hurts black women THE MOST. We suffer the most when y’all do not protect us and call out each other out. So thank y’all for speaking up etc
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This is a much needed talk ! I’m also a Nigerian man with a Jamaican gf. And I’m at that crossroads of a traditional mom and my own happiness. Now i can relax a lil bit.
Its so interesting to see this cultural mix more often. Im a jamaican woman with a Nigerian man and fortunately I haven't had issues with the immediate family but thise aunts were a different story. Glad it wasn't in the immediate circle. Glad its better for you too
@@SESmithy I think there’s a level of cooperation that Jamaican women have or are taught at a young age that’s hard to pass up as a man from any culture ( at least from what Iv seen ). So some Jamaican women have advantage off the bat.
If you have a close relationship with your mom, you want to marry a woman she also approves of. Real life ain’t the movies, man. I don’t even know why any woman would want to marry into a family where the mother-in-law don’t really wants to have her as her daughter. That’s just a disaster waiting to happen.
@@thetruthsayer8347 it’s not that she doesn’t approve of her. She actually said my girlfriend is a nice girl. My mother is just a “traditionalist”. She likes to keep things close to the Nigerian culture. So she “prefers” women from places like Ghana that share close to the same background.
I fully understand that my life is not a movie , and I love my mother but at the end of the day , it comes a time where you have to stand up for my girl then I will do that. She has done right by me so far. I’m willing to step on some toes if this is who I will be with for the long run
@@SESmithy same my boyfriend was born and raised in Ghana and me in America. His parents are still there but have no problem that he’s with me.
Happy that y’all touched on the topics with the NFL players and their poor decisions.
Cte won't make you hit a man right ?? He knew what he done
I really enjoyed the episode, as always.
Topics to discuss:
How yall found your fashion sense
Mentorship
How to grow as a single person before you get in a relationship
Masculinity in today's culture
Am I the only person who loves watching them dance to the intro song every episode. It makes me so hype. hahah
Really appreciate y’all addressing the issues with those athletes, very dope. An episode on women having male friends is also very necessary, specifically to hear about why men feel the way they do on that topic.
Great episode fellas, y’all hit these topics on the head 👌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I've learnt to wish my family well when it pertains to relationships. I once told my sister that I didn't approve of her relationship. She wanted me to be supportive. I told her it didn't sit well with me had I kept it in and not say anything. She ignored me. We stopped talking for 2 years and their relationship ended. I hated that we stopped talking but we're in a great place now. However, when it comes to her relationships, I mind my own business even if the red flags are going off.
I can relate to this. My sister and I stopped talking because I voiced exactly the type of person her BF which is a no good so she blocked me. He dumped her to get back w his ex which I warned her about but instead of us reconciling she found a way to put the blame on me for the breakup. We still don't talk but like you I am staying out of folks business. I don't even want to hear about peoples relationship issues anymore.
@@dolcesweet5173 You can listen to someone who's looking to you for emotional support and only give advise IF they ask for your opinion.
I absolutely love hearing you guys speak. Thank you guys so much for this podcast. Very educational and informative ✨
In respect to the halftime segment, glad you acknowledged men needing to hold their friends or men they care about accountable when they are violent/aggressive towards women and making poor decisions. Guys NEED to be checked when they are being intimidating and hurtful to the woman in their life so it does not escalate to what we see in the news.
The guy who got in his car and drove 150+ mph and drunk; it makes me wonder if he was dealing with stuff. That’s suicidal behavior.
Let me find out Jalon don’t want timelines to overlap while he talm under a yr😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 he was playing it safe
I appreciated the good content this episode offered. Can y’all consider being on Stitcher platform as well, that’s where I subscribe to podcasts for my driving pleasure. 😉
Yes. Have an episode about friends of opposite sex. Too many men and women feel like you cannot I HEAVILY DISAGREE. It’s all about boundaries.
I like this episode! I grew up in a Haitian household and I wouldn't introduce my significant other to my family members over the holidays because I don't want my partner to be overwhelmed by judgemental Haitian comments. The holidays themselves can be overwhelming. I would rather introduce my partner at a time where there aren't too many influences around us. I do care about my immediate family member's opinions but at the end of the day, it's up to me to decide.
Facts! I know how it is with our culture lol
Love the way these men think its so difficult now a days coming across men like y’all. Men who know how to navigate relationships well enough where women don’t have to second guess their decisions.
Episode about your girl having male friends
I’m not a fan of one of my siblings partner’s, but I mind my business and let them live their life. If I do say something, I say it once and leave it alone. In the end, as long as they’re happy, that’s all that matters.
She was concerned that her family wouldn’t like him because he’s Black? Why would that be a concern if her family wasn’t prejudice? 🤔
Another great episode. Looking forward to the platform growing and y’all being an influence for men to be whole.
Half time was so necessary and I hope more people hear this.
I also love that you all promote taking the lead on disagreements between family and significant others.
Also do ex-wives count to be uninvited? 👀😂
What if your FRIENDS don’t like your partner?? That’s what I wanna know
We need that episode about having friends of the opposite sex in relationships! I need to hear all of your opinions!
42:02 Come on Omar, "here's a real question". Yeeeeeeeeeah me af at the round table meeting lol. I'm like naw Duke cause now you're enabling your mothers behavior. Hold mama accountable too cause you're teaching her not to respect your partner in a scenario like such. AIN'T NO SWEEPING IT UNDER THE RUG.
Do ex wives count to be uninvited? Let’s say if children are involved?
You're not dating the family.... so you would think it shouldn't and wouldn't be an issue
Only real mature ppl understand it's Partner, Child, Parent!! Ain't no other correct way
Definitely need the -Can your girl have guy friends and bestfriends convo. Especially when your man is saying you can't have one but they have girl friends. #doublestandards
We need the is “your girl allowed to have male friends” episode !
Great episode.
I enjoyed watching men that speak very well and can articulate their emotions/feelings.
And that Half time talk was it 💯💯 #Realmenconversation
I legit be dancing wit yall at da beginning of all ur episodes lol. I love yall podcast definitely inspiring me to get mine going. God bless!
First five minutes hit home because I just met my new partners family a few days before thanksgiving. Worst family meeting experience I’ve ever had and it makes me uncomfortable even talking about it. I’ve always been the girl that families love, so much so that I’ve built close relationships where me and my previous partners step mom would FaceTime and text almost daily. They would even invite me over without him, and for a short time we stayed in touch even after the relationship ended. So this experience was totally left field for me, or maybe it was a bruise to my ego because I’m always used to being liked 🤷♀️. Meeting my new partners family was sprung on me and we’re fairly new (one month) so it was a lot. On top of me being naturally reserved around people I just met, his father was not welcoming at all. My partner left me alone for most of the visit and his father gave me the third degree every chance he got, it felt like an interrogation. I did not feel welcomed or friendly vibes and I felt some questions were inappropriate and unnecessary such as “how many piercings do you have and where are they” or “where did you wake up this morning” (referencing if I had spent the night with/slept with his son). I felt so uncomfortable my hands started to shake and my answers weren’t straight, which doesn’t leave a good impression on them either ( my reaction could come off as a liar or even ditzy when i was really just nervous). My partner chalked it up with “that’s just how my dad is with everyone” and from his cold exterior interactions with the rest of the family that was there, I don’t doubt that. But i feel if that’s true I shouldn’t have been thrusted into that environment let alone have to handle it alone (i expressed my nervousness before we got there so my partner knew). Needless to say I am not looking forward to being around his father ever again and that’s not a good way to start off a relationship. I try to brush it off and think well “I’m dating his son not his dad/family” but this is tough to me because I’ve always valued family and feel it’s extremely important to have a good relationship. I guess I’ll wait and see how this will play out 🤷♀️
Note that even when my partner tried to step in and save me from the line of questioning his father would instantly shut him down even saying “don’t say anything, I’m talking to her not you”. Mind you we are adults, mid twenties. So i was taken aback by that interaction alone.
Are you guys still together?
Also, it’s not about if he’s a good person or not. It’s about the fact that he brutalized a woman(and has probably done it in front of their baby) and needs to be held accountable
I’ve enjoyed this. First time viewer. #ChooseYou❤
I’m thankful for y’all! Adding value to my life over the years and blessing everyone with this much needed content.
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O type of dude that don't even need a woman to be turned on 😂😂😂
This was actually really good. An eye opener.
Happy Thanksgiving Gang 💪🏾 Spreading Love And Positivity To Everyone 💫
I would love to hear the conversation regarding if y’all are okay with y’all partners having friends.
I just found you guys this is such a safe space at 59 years of age I never realized I didn't know a lot about relationships you all prospective is real thanks I am sharing with everyone I have been Bing watching as a Jamaica we would say big up yourselves lots of love.
There needs to be boundaries. If a man’s mother is making slick comments towards his partner, the mother doesn’t have respect for her son. Ultimately, his choice of partner is a product of his decisions (thereby being the indirect subject of the mother’s criticism). The expectation that a woman should let a man “mediate” after an incident is ridiculous. Especially, if the man knows how his mother is and it’s a reoccurring issue. That’s equivalent to throwing your partner to the wolves. Which can create trust issues in a relationship. IMO, those Slick comment can be viewed as parental sabotage.
1stly. Yo mom ain’t giving you a family with your standards. Sit tf down parents
I feel like my man would always pick his mom in every scenario y’all talked about lol is this a red flag?
Have any of you ever dated a women who was in an abusive relationship in her past if so how did you pursue that or would even continue to pursue her once you’ve found out?
Picture of tacos on my phone next to me . Thought I messed up laying down they looked so real
I just love you guys. Much love from Cameroon. 🇨🇲
@Grammyszn won’t talk to me now. My husband knows him
That’s too much sauce
Yes please let's unpack the opposite gender Bestie.... that should be the next topic
He smacked me in the face with a extra large pillow.. I fell
Yeeaaaaa I wanna know another males perspective of Should your girl have male friends. Y’all bring opinion and conversation that I may not think of at the time.
Yes we definitely want an episode on friends of the opposite sex. My opinion personally is it’s ok as long as no boundaries are crossed.
Again, another great episode! If I'm serious about this person (official), I'll take them to meet my family. I wouldn't take someone I'm "dating" to meet them.
I agree with checking your family if they disrespect your partner. I've been in a position where my partner's sister was coming for me and he didn't say anything. It was after the fact when I mentioned it to him he says he was wondering why she was talking so crazy ... While I'm thinking why didn't you say something? It bothered me greatly.
Great episode gentlemen! I enjoy watching you all, while I’m at work during the twilight hours. This topic is very important because I have a cousin who brings women around the family every year and to me personally that’s a no no. I fee if you both have been dating over a year then it should be ok to bring him or her around family. Bringing someone you love and trust around your family is kind letting them know that your somewhat in my family now. I can honestly say I’ve only brought one woman around my family. We dated for over a year and she ate with us, cook, etc.
happy thanksgiving fellas 🙏🏽
I would like to here the conversation about should people in a relationship have a close relationship with the opposite gender
Yall hit a spot with me at the top of the second half. Whole engagement ended cause of an issue like this...👏🏾👏🏾
I’m holding my taco sideways
This was beautiful I wish all men had this mindset
Y’all topics are Conflict of interest
My husband too fine & proper
I disagree with Jalen for the first time , you can have someone tell you to not do this or that ,now the choice is on you
Please do an episode on friends of the opposite sex!!
I was drinking my juice
The people need that friends of the opposite sex episode
Love this episode fellas 🙌🏽❤️ keep it coming!
Yes episode on opposite Bestfriend
Dope convo!
This a terrible month I'll tell you that ..
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I haven’t been tested
Def do an episode on gf having male friends.
Great pod yet again 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
What’s up with the Blue “L” brims? 🔥🥃
Right I thought that was the light reflecting on it….Guessing it’s coming through for 2022 to add more colors to @Law17
J chill
Yes, please create an episode regarding females and males having “friends” of the opposite gender. I would love to hear your perspective. Side note, I’ve been married for 16 years and it’s a no for me lol!
Great podcast guys!!! Keep it up!!
Grateful for personal growth this year! For all the lows. For all the lessons and education! Including this podcast! Thanks for putting things into perspective & starting conversation on important topics!
I think I had aids in 2020
Fire per usual 🔥
Yes do the opposite sex best-friend.
This is such a great conversation, I remember telling my partner his mom said something that rubbed me the wrong way and he said, you need to go and address that with her. 🫤it was always mixed feeling when I came around his family.