WHAT MY GIRL CAN'T DO ON SOCIAL MEDIA (S2, EP10)
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- Опубліковано 7 жов 2024
- 🚨NEW EPISODE of @niceandneatthepodcast available on UA-cam and all streaming platforms‼️
Social media is a hot topic in the dating space and in a relationship, whether you want to admit it or not. Because of this, when managing respect, peace, and most importantly the person you are involved with feelings, there’s an etiquette involved. In this episode the fellas tackled some of their “Can’ts” when it comes to social media.
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Duke Omar.bolden @just.jalon
It's interesting that not having a heavy digital footprint can be seen as a red flag to some.
It is possible that someone can be proud of stuff and live life without sharing online solely because that act isn't important to them, but sharing it probably in a group chat with family and/friends is.
Being on social media isn't "everything" to everyone.
“Social media isn’t everything to everyone” that’s gospel right there. I’m not a huge fan of social media and even when I post it isn’t anything specific.
Also social media is not real life for the majority of people that’s posting, just fabricated versions
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Im not even 10 mins in the video and seen this comment and couldn't agree More... I have no social media besides from UA-cam and Pinterest lol and im very happy.. The only reason I've ponder getting IG back after 6 yrs is due to creating a business. but if it wasn't for that.. Ill be social media " less" and my bf/ future spouse go have to just roll with it
I completely agree.... im sure there are a lot of things they love and are proud of that I'm sure they would never post on social media... those things are different for everyone...
I agree 100% I also think that their perception is warped. Since social media is their livelihood so think it’s hard for them to fathom someone who doesn’t really care for it
I think that’s one of the things I really admired about Chadwick Boseman. The guy opened up to us but there were things he kept to himself because he valued a level of privacy. Me personally, I don’t think it’s a red flag if someone doesn’t post every single thing they’re proud of. I actually like the idea of knowing part of someone that the whole world doesn’t get to know/see
As a woman, I agree that what you post/like/comment on social media says a lot about you! Ive seen guys re-tweeting rape jokes, disrespectful jokes about women or black women and think they can have a chance with me 🙅🏾♀️ 🚩🚩🚩
Jalon, you had valid points about a woman’s social media content. However, sometimes people aren’t as open. Yes, most of us are on social media for 25% of our day, but some are more private than others. I don’t think social media is the only or big factor in determining a woman’s life.
Not at all. You can’t even tell whether someone is an extrovert or introvert just based on their page. Because the perception is totally created by the outsider. It’s why I prefer dating in person. You’re more likely to know what type of person someone is based on that first impression then you will from their page/feed.
Exactly!!! I agree. I'm a private person. I don't share much on social media
It’s crazy how social media is now actually apart of the dating and relationship conversation lol. This was a great topic.
Omar: "my girl can't post provocative content"
Duke: takes a 🥃
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I peeped that!!! 😂😂😂😂
But honestly Duke’s girlfriend Chanel she doesn’t post provocative content. She is a fitness influencer and she post pictures of her body and she should because she looks good, and works damn hard to! Lol But was he doing that because the man’s girl does 🤷🏾♀️ lol
@@feverishcc15 Period I love Chanel
Lol saw that 😂
Duke let’s his women be herself, I totally get that vibe from him, so laid back 💯
Y’all need to put a ring on these women fingers with all these rules and playing house. Technically you all still single. Ladies DO NOT let no man run up your 20’s for the fun of it, continue vetting.
Update: Omar is engaged to Candice. Congrats!!!! That’s how you do it. Hopefully it won’t take another 3 years to say I DO.
That's why you don't give wifey benefits to a man if he hasn't given you a ring and his last name.
@@c.l.9344 thank you. Duke is Nigerian hopefully he doesn’t break her heart and side with his family when it comes to marrying a Nigerian woman bc Nigerians don’t play especially the mothers. If he sees this and get mad oh well, I’m West African and trust!
Absolutely! 💯
What are your rules for your boyfriend? Or can he do whatever he wants until or if you get married to him? We all have rules. If yours don't align with a potential guy's rules, time to hit the road. Simple.
@@ChandlerWorthen you mean we all have boundaries? Yes that’s what it’s called, anybody that have respect for themselves does, but no woman or man should be giving marriage privileges if they are not married. Living together aka playing house gives entry way for marriage privileges. And yes you right anybody who don’t think like this can kick rocks if they don’t like it. Don’t let me get started with 50/50 relationships (that can go to hell too). Any man that allows their woman to live with them and let her pay rent, that’s her roommate.
This is much better, feels like we’re actually kickin it with you guys. Audio quality went up 10x
I totally agree when Duke said you repost what you “repost to be.” Because so many people will repost things knowing darn well there’s meaning behind what they repost for them. But they act like it’s not!!!
Travelling solo and protecting your safety doesn’t make sense to be a red flag😕
He said"take that arch out yo back" 😆 I know that's right!
35:40 I just want to say that the assumption here seems to be if a woman has no man or others in a pic…she’s hiding something. Women solo travel. Tripods take photos. Strangers take photos. Friends and acquaintances take photos. That is not an indication of anything other than your insecurities or judgements on someone you don’t know.
Love this. People just assume. I am like, if you wanna know ask me and not assume who’s behind what.
Perfectly said
Duke energy .. dat // i dont play bout mines// energy ... LOVE IT
Jalon, I’m usually with you but you lost me with the posting kids thing. There are a shit ton of predators out there and if ppl don’t feel comfortable posting their kids that’s their right. SOLELY basing this off of social media is very shallow, if a person doesn’t post their kids but they tell you in real life they have a kid there shouldn’t be an issue. Also, it makes complete sense as to why a person would post their kids on their story and not on their page, like you said it deletes. That way no one can use or steal your kids piks etc etc unless they take a screenshot and with that you’re notified of who did it.
Also, some ppl are just private. I do not post a lot of my life on social media because i don’t want to and don’t feel the need to. So basing whether or not you’re going to talk to someone on how much of their life they share and how that may imply they’re not proud of something or someone is lowkey juvenile. And this isn’t hate or anything, i love the podcast but the comments about ppl not posting certain things and not understanding that there are ppl in this world who are private….issa no for me dawg.
He just coming from an la mentality where it’s like that out here
Agreed. I’m intentionally private on social media. I do it because ppl will pretend to know you personally just from following you on Instagram when you don’t even have a personal kind of relationship with them. I like being able to distinguish ppl who
KNOW what I’m up to in rl versus ppl who THINK they know what I’ve been up to
I definitely do not post my children on social media but I’m very transparent about having children when I talk to people.
Get a women’s perspective for sure. I enjoyed this a lot. Definitely feel the same about this topic.
I def enjoyed this conversation. I’m a model and it’s great information to know what men think about social media presence in a women theyre dating . Sometimes it can be confusing because men will like one thing but expect their women to do something different but it was def great insight and I can’t wait for part 2. ✨
First of all I love the new setting, the image is so much clear and the sound quality is impeccable. The conversation is super thoughtful…
First time watching this podcast and the first 19 seconds just made me subscribe. Love to see healthy couple and black people in healthy relationship love this for us ❤️
I think sometimes we can choose to not post something that we consider important or sacred because not everything is meant for “the gram”
“You are what you repost to be” that’s a good one
I happened to find this podcast, Nice & Neat, and I have been enjoying these topics. Especially young men in relationships. It's refreshing.
I hate that I’m a year behind on your videos and who knows how much more I am missing out on. As some one who is actually considering opening myself to a relationship these conversations are quite eye opening. It’s helping me see what I’ll be willing to do when I’m ready to open up.
U ain't alone. I've binge watched a lot. Love the perspectives and it make us self reflect and learn to understand better and how to get our point across more easily. Real gems. Looking for opening myself up to relationship too so that's really useful even two years after 😅
Well just reached here so imagine😂@@Kenshaable
Girl it’s 2024 and I’m just watching 😂. Been binge watching for three weeks straight.
I love Jalon’s honesty & he be having me weak 😂😂😂
Shout Out to the Decorator! I'm loving the new set up. Very pleasing to the eye 🤩.
Speaking of eye candy Jalon looking good.😍
Jalon is toughhhh boy! 😂 it was nice hearing men’s perspective on the topic of “cants” on social media tho. And mentioning that y’all are sure your girls would feel the same. No double standards here 👏🏾
You have truly got to have a mature mind when your listening to these men. If your not there then your not ready for a real man
Gosh, this convo was deep! The do's & don'ts of social media in a relationship.... that's another topic that needs to b had... Learning a lot fellas! Thank you ♥️
My hubby has no posts. And I rarely post my family on my main page. On my stories, yeah all of the time. You preserve what you value as well. Social media isn’t everything for everyone. I post on my work page because I own a mental health practice. So I’m there almost daily
Am I the only one that LIKES the video as soon as the song starts playing? 😂.
My husband only has one rule for social media, “ I can’t have one”. We been happily married for 4 years now.
Does he also follow his own rule?
He doesn’t have one tho right?
@@chelseecooper3974 Only fb
Why can’t you have one ?
He loves u. Honestly social media is the devils playground and it clouds ppls judgments and way of moving/thinking. As long as your partner appies his own rule, you will have long last marriage with substance😊
I just heard the podcast through my phone and the sound is A1! it sounded so good in fact, i had to come on and watch it as well. love the new set. phenomenal episode guys (:
I really love this content really I husband really need to watch this. It’s a line of respect in a relationship that you have to have. Creating boundaries. Really let points
The new setup is nice, some greenery would be a great add. It's also interesting to hear men say that they don't like when their gf/wife posts explicit content but in turn follow women that post like that. Would love to see you guys speak on that!
I'm feeling this podcast, this is real content!!!🔥🔥
i appreciate the way y’all splitting hairs. it’s definitely a procedure to engagement/interaction
The thing is I am a private woman. Im not a huge social media person. I don't post where I work, where I hangout or who I hang with all . I just post selfies of myself every now and then. If a man judges me and and assumes I have no ambitions and life because of a few pics on a social media account I find that strange.
Im a huge fan of watch you guys on UA-cam, I like the aesthetic and it sounds good! I just wish you guys had a wide shot of all 3 of you guys, idk why but I’m missing it. Then again, who am I 🤷🏽♀️
Enjoy watching you guys, from South Africa🇿🇦
Another great episode! Never disappoint, I just loving seeing different perspectives on these topics👌🏽
I do my lil dancey dance 🕺🏾 I love it here
LOVING THIS PODCAST!!!
I find Jalon is attributing way too many red flags to things he perceives from a woman’s social media. Just take a step back and remember that getting to actually know people is very important.
Lmaooo "The green dot" is taking me out
I totally agree with Duke. Anything my man's friends got to say to me bout my business or whatever gotta filter through my man. Coz look we ain't friends like that. Business or otherwise you finna always respect my man's position in my life💯
The 3 of you give me hope in men out there!
I actually like the podcast look before but either or doesn’t matter.. You guys are definitely different out here guys be wilding when you say you don’t like what they post on social media and they answer with “ I’m going to post what I want” the majority… you guys have such maturity it gives me hope… it’s the faithfulness and loyalty y’all have for your queens for me .. i like how you guys say long as the pics are tasteful it says that y’all are pretty secure about your women…It’s definitely close friends not green dot lol.. first time hearing that 😂
Lol i love the beginning I can’t help but to move my shoulders too 😭👏🏽
Duke wit da Sade shirt!!!! That’s what’s up!!! I wish I had a Sade emoji to share but I don’t want to get beat up about my meme! Lol. Just joking guys. Love the show and the shirt. My favorite singer. Take care guys.
Personal don'ts, no thirst trapping online, no dressing slutty out in public, no entertainment other men.
Okay so I am a female that does not have any social media. When I tell people that they automatically think that I am hiding something. What would u think if u meet a single female that does not have any social media?
Exactly, I am taking a break off social media and when they ask my handle, I am like taking a break. They all say, what are you hiding? I am like, can’t a girl just take a break.
This sounds so basic and simple but neglecting it can mess up a potentially good relationship and I think is also all about respect as well.
Definitely checking myself because I’m a it’s just social media girl idc but I will say it in their face but it’s still not needed or necessary just because you would doesn’t mean you should
Both setups are really good. The first one is mysterious and vibey and this one is light and gives meditation vibes.
I would say though that the first one suits the 'Nice and Neat' 'Bourbon' 'Gentleman & Suit' branding more.
One of the best episode thus far.
The shoulder action/ lil dancey-dance is me every time I hear the intro lol! I love the set up, it's a little more relaxing as the studio set up gave "let's get down to business". Much love as always! 💕
This is why I don’t do social media. 🤷🏾♀️
that new setup is beautiful,, it would be cool if you guys had an apple music playlist and all of you guys added a song each episode
Y’all saying the green dot is so funny 😂
“Thumb thug.” 😂😂👌🏾
Y’all left out of the most important social media topics ….LIKES ! Fellas y’all liking ? Can your lady like?
I will not post pictures of my children and I advise others not to as well. Too many sick assed predators lurking on the net.
i think the 3 way view would be better
I’ve been listening to you all on Apple Podcast for a month now. I’m going to catch up eventually. Definitely good vibes coming from y’all.
Love the blue and gold tie in
This is like a well polished relationship version of the Joe Budden podcast.
Due to the fact that you gentlemen are what I call King Beast. That's what I grew up around. The women that are in your life are Queen Beast. With that being said your relationship is different from a normal relationship. There is more open in communication, she actually sees you and you see her, You learn or know how to have adult conversations with each other without offending also respecting each other. The foundation you guys you as a couple are building is on trust. Reason I say this is I'm the only female on my biological mother side of the family. When you 5 Uncles, 165 male 1st cousins. As a girl growing your taught by mean what is acceptable and what is not. Now that I'm an adult Queen Beast it's extremely hard because of how I was raised and what I was taught. My oldest brother told it's going to be hard for you cause we were hard on you. I have been told my men I liked you but a man just can not step to you on some bullish cause of how I carrying myself. I just say to it all. It's going to take a different type of King Beast to step to me to keep my attention. You kings plz keep going with the positivity to spread your knowledge. Prays, healing and blessings to you all.
You are who you Repost to be♊️🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 that was dope
Also not to mention the concept of privacy 😂😭 some people would rather live than post lol this all gives social media personalities dating. thinking concept of living a private life is a red is literally a red flag in and of itself
Love the new set up it is aesthetically pleasing and the soft transition of titles and handles is nice and neat! Great way to add the importance of respecting yourself or your spouse on such a public platform.
Love it & love this episode! Here for it all✨
Oh shit! The new set up is really nice & audio quality is great
Green dot/close friends: one group of people.
It’s for posting things everyone can’t see. I.e: controversial conversations, private outings like he said drinks, kids photos, political talk, memes etc.
I agree that if I can’t post for everyone it’s not going on IG. However not everyone is me. I don’t have hundreds of thousands of followers. If you do you might use it more.
I’m feeling the set! Great convo!
SB: Duke 🤙🏾 AAAA PHIII
I’ve seen these ladies ig pages and I don’t think 💯 honesty is going on…
YOU ARE WHO YOU REPOST TO BE. WOOOOOOOOOW. Maybe you're NOT taking it seriously enough.
Friends only posts typically is so personal things that you share won't be shared to strangers and everyone else you follow like business pages.
Love the set up! And lighting A1!
New setup is dope.. feels and looks more like a conversation with da fellas than a pod.. which is dope💰💰💰💰
We all have unfollow or delete, block someone due to their post, Especially if your platform is always positive or uplifting to others and then see you see nothing but negativity on your timeline it will rub you the wrong way or entertain you but as the brother say “You are who you repost to be “
🤔 my husband and I don’t have a “can’t” list. Then again we were together before social media.
Boundaries are healthy I would argue that not having boundaries whether social media or not can lead to toxic behaviors within a relationship.
@Sharese Hendricks No, honestly. I’m a very secure woman. I don’t mind if he wants to hang out with other females he just chooses not to. Come to think of it, there’s one thing I can’t do. He doesn’t allow me to have New male friends. As for me, it it doesn’t affect our finances, I don’t care. We’ve been together for 16 years and he hasn’t done anything to raise a cause of concern for me to create a “can’t list”.
@@westcoastfrank Come to think of it, the only thing I can’t do is make New male friends. I am a content secure woman & if it doesn’t affect our finances, I don’t care. I focus more on happiness when he’s happy, I’m happy and vice versa.
@@celinejb4730 I agree with you on that, 100%.
@Sharese Hendricks I’ve stated as long as it doesn’t affect our finances, I don’t care.
💯 y’all nailed it.
The green dot is essential. Some stories are for ladies only or if you have multiple groups of close friends that dont know each other etc
P.S. "The green dot" the new word!
I'm sorry! I still feel weird about displaying what's meant for YOUR MAN for the bedroom on the internet. But that's just me. To each is own 🤷🏾♀️
Like why is the assumption everyone is tryna be sneaky w everything haha like damn!
In terms of close friends it can be used for sneaky purposes but honestly not always. Personally I rant on my close friends about day to day inconveniences or I may post myself having fun. Working in healthcare there’s a lot of things you shouldn’t show yourself doing online (drinking,smoking, certain memes or discussing certain topics) so it’s really contingent on the person and their intentions. Also I may post my lil boo in there.. can’t have everybody in your business.. but there’s no men in my CF literally 10-15 females I trust.
I’ve been waiting all week too 🔥🔥🔥
Hi fellas! I'm new here and have really been enjoying the podcast! At 23:55 I'm a little confused, though... Are these women girlfriends or wives? We're talking business, right? Even in marriage you may not know your partner's mind 100%, let alone be in the same industry and completely understand her business needs. I can't say I agree with the male partner vetting or making business decisions for the female without her knowledge. That's disrespectful!
That said, your "friend" should mention the opportunity to you (out of respect), but email your girl, directly.
My dudes ain’t having nunnadat lol
Why Jalon keep going back to the definition of can't, like bruh y'all defined that shit at the beginning, and I'm sorry but Duke talking about dont post something I'll like.. wtf does that even mean? And we ain't forgot abt the that Gold thong bikini chanel wore so nicely during that work out lol I'm sure they all had that imagine in they head as well...
What about a girl that doesn’t have as many followers? Not because she is a loser but because she just doesn’t invest as much in her profile?
Also, her business ventures dont need a middle man. If it gets shady, she should let you know. I like the email thing though.
Traveling alone or with someone and only posting a picture of you isn't a red flag. Get to know the person in real life and ask them things that you don't understand before judging.
Not everyone likes to expose their loved ones c'mon Jalon , you might stay single for awhile with that mentality....
Loved this topic! Been waiting for a new episode..
I love your shirt, my favorite Sport. I ❤️ boxing, it’s the only sport your don’t PLAY. You play football 🏈 you play basketball 🏀 but you don’t play Boxing 🥊 lol
Great Episode Fellas…Really Enjoying The Content This Pod Provides
Man I love y’all content, I can relate to just about all of it. I like the new setup too but the content is so valuable I don’t give a damn if y’all was outside 😂 🥃🥃
Great Podcast! Much needed conversations
Looks and sounds really good
I just don’t have social media other than UA-cam lol. But even then it doesn’t really count 🤷🏾♀️
“you're dealing with a woman
and you've already established feelings
and then things start to come out ”. Omgeee what happened to asking questions on the beginning. Why are y’all so reliant on social media to get to know someone in real life??? That makes no sense
In the beginning *