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  •  Рік тому +53

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    • @silkebroxdude7625
      @silkebroxdude7625 Рік тому

      You are still a dude women are women
      Trans "women" are men with mental health issues

    • @silkebroxdude7625
      @silkebroxdude7625 Рік тому

      Get some help and stay in swedistan

    • @Eli-gr1sg
      @Eli-gr1sg Рік тому +3

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    • @beyoncesdaughter9128
      @beyoncesdaughter9128 Рік тому +2

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    • @JenniferKelly6669
      @JenniferKelly6669 Рік тому

      Wow you are incredibly beautiful!

  • @markpaisley6430
    @markpaisley6430 Рік тому +363

    An average person urinates several times throughout the day, EVERY day. Having an issue with that would be considered a SERIOUS complication

    • @souxcasa
      @souxcasa 4 місяці тому +24

      You should hear about the FtM bottom surgeries and urination. It's pure body horror

    • @elysiaxox
      @elysiaxox 3 місяці тому +5

      When you put it like that… I guess it is a serious complication

    • @souxcasa
      @souxcasa 3 місяці тому +11

      @@elysiaxox anything you have to do daily getting interrupted creates major problems elsewhere too. If you can't expel waste your organs will not continue to function with ease

    • @maryrye707
      @maryrye707 2 місяці тому +6

      I go about 10 times a day, so that really needs to work properly.

    • @relaxo2739
      @relaxo2739 Місяць тому

      They just gaslight themselves into thinking they are better and everything is great! It is NOT

  • @nicholeseverson5951
    @nicholeseverson5951 Рік тому +496

    Not being able to pee is pretty severe! I’m not sure why you feel like you have to down play what your going through

    • @NellyMariaArt
      @NellyMariaArt Рік тому +195

      It’s easier to delude yourself than admit you made a horrible mistake.

    • @kathleencastle8631
      @kathleencastle8631 Рік тому +49

      The church of trans

    • @Bri-nc8yp
      @Bri-nc8yp Рік тому

      Because it’s a cult…. And you have to get more recruits to bow down at the alter of trans.

    • @Ash2beauty
      @Ash2beauty Рік тому +14

      @@NellyMariaArt 💯

    • @raynekimi2755
      @raynekimi2755 Рік тому

      ​@@veraboltonDo not feel sorry for them. God hates what they do, they will be punished for it. It is an abomination to try to change your sex. You can't change your DNA. Waste all the money in the world, you will always be what you were born to be.

  • @daisybe3736
    @daisybe3736 Рік тому +325

    Thank you for being honest. Many trans women like to sugar-coat about their bottom surgery results. ❤️

    • @sia9907
      @sia9907 Рік тому +38

      Sugarcoating is one way to say they're a bunch of liars.

    • @mikaljohnson2402
      @mikaljohnson2402 Рік тому +16

      Point blank, the science just is not there yet. Yes they can plastic surgery you up to make it look the way it looks down there, but the body itself is very intelligent and knows when something has changed that shouldn't have. Apart of that COULD be because these surgeries happen, for some, too young(which I personally think should not be happening) when everything isn't fully matured yet. Leading the complications.
      BUT, the body is just too complex of an organism tbh for this type of surgery at this time with the science and understanding we currently have. It's just too-too risky and painful and life threatening long term as far as the quality of life in concerned. I see too many MTF people regretting this surgery after just jumping on it after "hearing" about it. More of a money grab for these surgeons tbch.
      I'm definitely not a doctor or surgeon or medical professional. I just love and live for sciences and this just happens to fall under that umbrella.
      I HOPE YOU ALL THE BEST!!!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😬😬 Please take care of yourself and MAKE SURE you are legit eating healthyyyyyy!!!!! ...coming from a gay man

    • @Kirasfox
      @Kirasfox Рік тому +3

      ​@@sia9907no, not really

    • @lorihoop3831
      @lorihoop3831 11 місяців тому +2

      It's so scary to me because long term studies re hormones and procedures aren't even in the journals yet! Yes, maybe a few papers but the science is NOT there yet. It will be, and then I'd make my choice

    • @nathitaxo
      @nathitaxo 11 місяців тому

      @@lorihoop3831baby the biodentical hormones are been here since the 90s.. must be so sad to have so many anxiety that u cant be ur trueself:(

  • @randolphh8005
    @randolphh8005 Рік тому +462

    As a doctor(not a surgeon) I know that MTF surgery is very complex and difficult. Unlike top surgery, which is usually successful, bottom surgery is way more complex, and way more risky. You will not be anatomically like a cis female, nor functionally. You will always be “different”. That is not meant to be mean, just that to go through with this you must understand that. You will lose the male anatomy, but will not have true female anatomy, period. And as she said there are risks of complications. I’m fine with adults doing this with open eyes, but not with unrealistic expectations.
    Good luck, and thanks for posting.!

    • @filipasales9291
      @filipasales9291 Рік тому +54

      Thank you Doctor for sharing the truth. It's very important for people considering it, young people most of all.

    • @elenawilliams32
      @elenawilliams32 Рік тому +87

      I just watched a transgender woman on a channel Odins Men say she was disappointed when she went to her Dr post SRS for a pap smear test and was told 'No, you don't have female anatomy ' . She also was given a prostate exam and didn't know that biological women couldn't have them as we have no prostate gland. How on earth was she operated on with so little knowledge? She's from the US so I have no idea how their health care system works yet I'm horrified that she had zero knowledge of basic anatomy and was able to consent to SRS. I've had genetic breast cancer 3 times, my oncology team explain every aspect of my treatment,gave me literature, the breast care nurse number to call... Just incase. Counselling if I wanted etc... But I'm in Australia and we have Medicare for all.

    • @Tanya-rh9vj
      @Tanya-rh9vj Рік тому +30

      @@elenawilliams32 External phenotype will be female after Male to Female reassignment surgery, but the internal phenotype still male (prostatic gland, seminal ducts and so on).

    • @elenawilliams32
      @elenawilliams32 Рік тому +34

      @@Tanya-rh9vj I absolutely understand that. My question was- How did this person sign up for SRS, get the required counselling etc and be approved for SRS when they clearly didn't understand what was going to happen to their body? I mean, they thought that they could have a pap smear test!

    • @Tanya-rh9vj
      @Tanya-rh9vj Рік тому +6

      @@elenawilliams32 I didn’t understand your point at first, english isn’t my native language, sorry.
      But yes, I agree with you, doctors should show all the risks related to the surgical procedure the person is going to do!
      Obviously there are the good points, but there are bad points too, sometimes those bad points can be irreparable, not only for the body but also for the mind / psychological of the person.
      I don’t support MtF surgery but I’m not against it if the person is an adult and know all the risks related to this surgical procedure. However, I support those who want to change their face and body through plastic surgery, like Facial Feminization Surgery and Silicone Implants, those are reparable procedures in some level if the person regrets.
      I hope science one day will be so advanced that people can change their biology without permanent problems. I have a trans woman friend and she doesn’t want to do MtF surgery anymore, she’s satisfied having only female appearance, even if not completely.

  • @jaroneaton8023
    @jaroneaton8023 Рік тому +223

    This is heartbreaking. Hearing her talk about these complications as if it’s normal, par for the course is beyond me. I’m at a loss for words.

    • @lorihoop3831
      @lorihoop3831 11 місяців тому +9

      Yes! Complications should be freak , RATE things. Not to be expected or normal.😮😮😮

    • @mache3984
      @mache3984 8 місяців тому +11

      They don't want to retain God in their knowledge so He's given them up to a reprobate mind. All they can do now is repent and work with where they are. Sad whst us humans do to ourselves and each other smh.

    • @SnuSnu-u5j
      @SnuSnu-u5j 7 місяців тому

      @@mache3984 You are weak minded. …No? Prove me wrong, define “God”. For I believe you are delusional and think you are something you are not.

    • @corykroes7784
      @corykroes7784 6 місяців тому +4

      You mean him gone her

    • @nestorgonzalez6078
      @nestorgonzalez6078 6 місяців тому +8

      Hearing "him" talk. Wishful thinking is not a fact

  • @k-j-k
    @k-j-k Рік тому +278

    It's troubling to me that you keep reassuring yourself and everyone else that your complications are "not severe". Why don't you consider this complication to be that serious? You are very young to be having trouble urinating, and urinary problems don't get better with age. This is a life-changing complication that you are going to have to deal with for the rest of your life. Just because other people have worse complications don't mean that you need to downplay your complications. You have every right to be upset about this. I'm so sorry this is happening.

    • @jaijai5250
      @jaijai5250 Рік тому +31

      I worked on a male urology ward as a student nurse in the 1980’s. Urinary retention is serious, and usually happens to older men.

    • @Areyouafraidofthedarkkuk
      @Areyouafraidofthedarkkuk Рік тому

      Anyone could have this problem anytime for a multitude of reasons, what's to say it wouldn't have happened anyway

    • @nanskiboutski243
      @nanskiboutski243 Рік тому +18

      @@Areyouafraidofthedarkkuk Men have this problem and it is related to their prostate. As EVERYONE knows.

    • @Areyouafraidofthedarkkuk
      @Areyouafraidofthedarkkuk Рік тому +6

      @@nanskiboutski243 also if you really want to say EVERYONE knows this please feel free to get me EVERYONE'S signature stating they do in fact know this

    • @Shannon-vv6rr
      @Shannon-vv6rr 7 місяців тому +10

      ​@@jaijai5250also because she's had her male urethra shortened, she'll be getting nonstop utis. It's why women have utis a couple times a year even if we're deadly clean. Shortened urethra means bacteria enters it much easier compared to a penis that has a long one that extends out of the body, ours is just outside the body. That's just one factor but ik for a fact most MTF trans ppl have severe utis like 20 a year

  • @randomdm
    @randomdm 2 місяці тому +7

    Oh, this is heartbreaking. thank you for being so honest. I just want to give you a big hug.

  • @isabellavantichel4459
    @isabellavantichel4459 7 місяців тому +5

    Thank you for sharing your story and being so open and vulnerable. I wish you great health and recovery.

  • @wavingcat5
    @wavingcat5 Рік тому +208

    This just came up in my feed randomly, and I was so touched by what you shared. To me, feeling like crying is such a human response. I’m a cis woman who had some strange issues from a tear that wouldn’t heal for a long time after giving birth. I felt so upset and despairing and like nobody could understand. It’s incredibly vulnerable to have issues with this area, and I recognised your feelings. You are so beautiful and the vulnerable courage you show is graceful and radiant. May you, every part of you, be wrapped in the most unconditional love. 💕

    •  Рік тому +36

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @rimfire2642
      @rimfire2642 Рік тому

      @wavingcat5 I disagree you are a "cis woman". You were not assigned a sex at birth, you were born female.

    • @joanrobijn4118
      @joanrobijn4118 Рік тому

      Cis woman?? You're a woman, get real.

    • @hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894
      @hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894 Рік тому

      Penis inverted has problems

    • @FoundSheep-AN
      @FoundSheep-AN Рік тому +44

      You are a real adult woman; how can your health problems for giving birth, be compared to a sane healthy young male who for some mental reason got some doctors to castrate him?
      You are a woman who are complying to your biological set up, giving birth and then working with your doctor to get your health back
      He was healthy and the medical system of his own country castrated and mutilated his perfectly healthy genitals giving him a life long disability.
      How can any woman sympathize with this barbaric treatment of young mentally ill boys?
      What if this was your son, deciding to go on and be mutilated?

  • @le4864.
    @le4864. 9 місяців тому +34

    You keep saying your complications aren't severe, but you're having multiple surgeries to fix things. To me, listening to you, it sounds like your complications are, in fact, serious.

  • @petiepariyachat
    @petiepariyachat Рік тому +10

    So sorry to hear dear, I hope it gets better by the times goes. You are loving dear and I'm glad you are surrounded by people that love you.

  • @leelee2350
    @leelee2350 Рік тому +271

    Its good to see that people are talking about all the complications that happen. Some of them are life changing in the worst possible way. I'm sure many, many people regret these surgeries and its all starting to come out in the open now. So many detransitioners are speaking out.

    • @YourPainting1
      @YourPainting1 Рік тому +89

      People have always known that this surgery is risky. People just want a reason to dislike trans people or to prove them wrong so they seek this information out more.

    • @amking33
      @amking33 Рік тому +59

      @@YourPainting1 I don't think thats true...

    • @TruthSpeaker.
      @TruthSpeaker. Рік тому +72

      @@amking33 It's true, & you don't need to look far to find out. Transphobic people really are looking for any reason to deny the right to transition.

    • @leelee2350
      @leelee2350 Рік тому

      @@YourPainting1 That's a really strange way to think. I doubt people look for reasons to dislike someone. There are many wonderful trans people and there are many absolutely idiotic trans people. The same as the general population.

    • @brookerichards9037
      @brookerichards9037 Рік тому +1

      Absolutely not true. People don’t want to see the suffering that happens with these surgeries.
      Stop gaslighting others into this life long living hell. These surgeries are not necessary.
      Live as you like, but do not believe the lies. There are complications for most people. They aren’t told the truth.
      There is no such thing as transitioning. It’s only an allusion. You can not change your sex.
      Please for others being lead down this path , don’t do it. Not this self mutilation.
      Live and dress and act as you wish. But these surgeries are horrible and you are not being told the truth.

  • @lovelocked5385
    @lovelocked5385 Рік тому +77

    Your body is trying to heal up. I can't even have ear piercings because if I don't wear earrings for one day they will close up. The body wants to heal. Good luck 🤞🍀

    • @Lambdamale.
      @Lambdamale. Рік тому +41

      I have heard this from many people. The body will perpetually believe it has been injured and will be trying to heal for the rest of her life.

    • @VisenyaAtoms
      @VisenyaAtoms Рік тому +24

      @@Lambdamale. because it has. I love gory horror. Been my favorite genre since I was a toddler. I looked up photos of these surgeries and nearly threw up. It's vile that anyone would promote it.

    • @iceprincess135
      @iceprincess135 Рік тому +6

      @@VisenyaAtoms It's not a promotion; it's an option for those interested.

    • @theduchessofdarknessofficial
      @theduchessofdarknessofficial 3 місяці тому +2

      Not with colon vaginoplasty

    • @MarzLifeOnEarth
      @MarzLifeOnEarth Місяць тому

      Same thing happens to my piercings, haven't met anyone else to say the same, but this is always what I say too

  • @dianewilkins4418
    @dianewilkins4418 Рік тому +58

    I am in healthcare.
    I have been in this career for 41 years and have seen a lot.
    The past 5 years have been the worst: gastric bypass and sex reassignment surgeries. are extremely frightening.
    Yesterday, one of my coworkers was floated to another unit. She ended up having to code a new sex change male to female. Her new vagina failed and she had to come to our ED because it wouldn’t stop bleeding, and hadn’t urinated in days.
    She as afraid to come to us.
    She is in ICU now, hanging in there.

    • @prinzezze
      @prinzezze Рік тому +1

      oh my god! how did it go??

    • @stuff1784
      @stuff1784 Рік тому +4

      Hadn’t urinated in DAYS?!

    • @GODS_OUTLAW
      @GODS_OUTLAW 10 місяців тому +8

      Holy fuck, your story should be on the news!! But it never will be because they don't want that info out

    • @BloodFueledd
      @BloodFueledd 5 місяців тому +7

      @@GODS_OUTLAW Out of everyone, I think trans people who want to get surgery would want to know more. It's something that's life changing that they might do, and if they don't know all the negative effects then they'll think it'll always work. Who cares if they want surgery (it is their body) but they should be well informed to make the right decision for themselves. Surgeons purposefully downplay the negative effects, only the positive ones that can occur. And that is NOT ok. It is giving people a false idea that they will get what they want, but never knowing that there are risks. It's up to the person themselves to know if the risk is worth it, but they don't even know sometimes cuz surgeons don't warn them of any potential negative effects.

    • @ByeByeBelly
      @ByeByeBelly Місяць тому +1

      Poor thing. I wish trans people could feel comfortable with the genitals they were born with but I understand why some people do surgery

  • @josefineasta5274
    @josefineasta5274 Рік тому +54

    I for real got tears in my eyes when you talked about being different 😭 You are my idol and I follow you through my own transition - you are so strong! ❤

  • @nikkianaviso6974
    @nikkianaviso6974 Рік тому +44

    I had my srs done in thailand few months ago, i was shocked that of all the girls that had surgery that week i healed pretty fast , they took stitches 9days post op i had to stay in the hospital for 14 days then they discharged me and stayed in the hotel for few days before i flew back home. I didnt have any issues what so ever until 2 weeks ago my scrutom came out of my cavity , and now i am sooo depressed in sooo much discomfort and and it bleeds sometimes, i have booked flight and all to go back and have my surgeon fix it nextmonth .youre right it is a lifetime commitment and it is very depressing :( . Having complications is a constant reminder that we are different and it truly brings back dysphoria :( . I wish i could give you a hug. And i hope everything goes well for you. I will pray for your safe and smooth recovery .❤

    • @lyes8563
      @lyes8563 11 місяців тому +1

      Hi there, it's been six months. How are you feeling now?

    • @nikkianaviso6974
      @nikkianaviso6974 11 місяців тому

      @@lyes8563 hi babe everything is well went back to my surgeon and they fixed my prolapse . Still have occasional pain from time to time but dr. Said itll take a yr to 18months to fully heal.

    • @sidahuja2851
      @sidahuja2851 10 місяців тому +2

      It's really distressing sister. Even after tolerating so much pain we are not treated like woman in the society. Many boys mock us by saying we are boy😢. I feel suicidal sometimes.

    • @Raven1816
      @Raven1816 9 місяців тому +12

      It may not be about being "different" .... it may be about cutting essential complicated body parts off. I'm sorry for both of you for your loss....

    • @aistirsplace3074
      @aistirsplace3074 8 місяців тому +2

      @@sidahuja2851They don't mock you. They are stating the obvious. Having your penis cut off and replaced with God knows what doesn't make you a woman. You will never be a woman. Never. You should be able to admit that this is wrong. You should make sure no one else goes through this same sick experience.

  • @Sophie-wt3me
    @Sophie-wt3me Рік тому +54

    I can see the pain in your eyes. 😢I hope you find peace and I hope there is a way to take away the discomfort you go though with SRS. Thank you for educating me, I am not trans but this video was super informative and insightful. It’s so important to get your experience out there!! ❤

    • @deathgrinderb3284
      @deathgrinderb3284 8 місяців тому

      very bad advice. this is a very demonic lifestyle that leads to hell.

    • @Nigerian-born_American
      @Nigerian-born_American 3 місяці тому +2

      Well, he invited the pain upon himself

    • @thatguybutitsactuallyagirl5384
      @thatguybutitsactuallyagirl5384 4 дні тому

      @@Nigerian-born_Americanshe* herself *. Just because she wanted the surgery doesn't mean she invited the complications, you ...

    • @Nigerian-born_American
      @Nigerian-born_American 4 дні тому

      @@thatguybutitsactuallyagirl5384 He*

    • @Nigerian-born_American
      @Nigerian-born_American 4 дні тому

      @@thatguybutitsactuallyagirl5384 I am aware that America is struggling with reality, but he is a he.

  • @Lexwint0210
    @Lexwint0210 Рік тому +98

    You seem like a really kind and genuine person and I’m sorry this happened to you. On one hand you’re saying yu don’t regret it and you don’t want to discourage others then on the other you’re crying and describing really traumatic and serious issues that have resulted from this surgery. Why wouldn’t you want to discourage other young people from making this mistake? There is no such thing as no complications with SRS. If this was supposed to prevent self inflicted harm, it doesn’t seem like it worked. I pray you will be able to heal and get on with your life.

    • @houseplant7441
      @houseplant7441 Рік тому +41

      It’s because she doesn’t want to offend the trans community … it’s like a cult . They can’t speak against it even tho the surgeries is a form of self-harm

    • @user-qs9nz4dp7c
      @user-qs9nz4dp7c Рік тому

      @@houseplant7441 no, you dumb head. she’s basically saying she does not regret it because she had no other choice, just like many young trans people out there. discouraging people to do it would plainly be stupid.

    • @hannah2048
      @hannah2048 Рік тому +14

      @@houseplant7441 it very clearly isn't a "cult". You'd know that if you watched her content without bringing along any preconceived notions.

    • @Constantin9va
      @Constantin9va Рік тому +11

      Because that would get her burned at the stake for heresy!

    • @houseplant7441
      @houseplant7441 Рік тому

      @@hannah2048 It literally is a cult because they believe women can become men even though science says otherwise , it’s the same as having a religious belief

  • @SandyEarwood
    @SandyEarwood 2 місяці тому +8

    I dont understand why this surgery is even being done. It is dangerous and frankly mutilation.

  • @christinajones6500
    @christinajones6500 8 місяців тому +296

    You weren’t “too tight.” Your body had an open wound that it was trying to close and your body is going to try to close this for the rest of your life. People need to hear the truth.

    • @isabellavantichel4459
      @isabellavantichel4459 7 місяців тому +32

      Open wound is not correct. After the surgery itself yes, but after it's healed, no. It's more comparable to something like a piercing.

    • @Shadow2pointO
      @Shadow2pointO 7 місяців тому +1

      Gurl you sound real pressed. Why are you here anyways? Mind your own shit show life….

    • @christinajones6500
      @christinajones6500 7 місяців тому +101

      @@isabellavantichel4459 ok you can live in lala land if you want thinking a tiny hole thru cartilage is the same thing as cutting off a major body part/ organ and turning it into a gaping hole in your body. I live in reality, not lala land.

    • @Shannon-vv6rr
      @Shannon-vv6rr 7 місяців тому +1

      ​@@isabellavantichel4459are you insane?! You are beyond delusional

    • @isabellavantichel4459
      @isabellavantichel4459 7 місяців тому +9

      @@christinajones6500 Do you have any scientific evidence to support your statement?

  • @amymerrill1550
    @amymerrill1550 5 місяців тому +6

    Honey, I'm so sorry for the pain and difficulties that you have experienced and are experiencing. I'm just so sorry. I hope that things get better and I am grateful and happy that you are who you are and that you're bravely sharing your life experiences with us.

    • @Cazador60140
      @Cazador60140 2 місяці тому

      We have a question here : is your urethra between your clitoris and your vaginal opening ????

  • @liltrix3006
    @liltrix3006 Рік тому +83

    So happy to see you're back, I love your videos and you're so strong and amazing and hundred percent my idol!

    •  Рік тому +7

      LOVE U

    • @Melnokina.-.
      @Melnokina.-. Рік тому

      Your idol is a man with mental illness?

  • @joanbaczek2575
    @joanbaczek2575 Рік тому +335

    Once they do the surgery they know they will have a repeat patient for life! That’s why they do it $$$$$

    • @estrella84827
      @estrella84827 11 місяців тому +9

      Yeah Sure because there is nothing less complicated then These surgeries

    • @deathgrinderb3284
      @deathgrinderb3284 8 місяців тому

      this is a very demonic thing. these people need to repent.

    • @ChloeGrace-q3i
      @ChloeGrace-q3i 7 місяців тому

      Yea they do heart and lung transplants too just for money. Nobody needs them it’s just done for money right? Grow up please.

    • @paulacastello5436
      @paulacastello5436 7 місяців тому

      @@estrella84827exactly that’s why they push them

    • @XAri666X
      @XAri666X 6 місяців тому +10

      What about in Canada where it's free?????

  • @jamielee0918
    @jamielee0918 Місяць тому +2

    Yes, you're different. We're all different. We're all unique in our own ways. And all have issues. Many humans have complications from surgeries years down the road. Not just you. Im sorry youre going through a difficult time. Sending light & love during your healing journey ✨🙏🏽 thanks for sharing

  • @barbaraperry6955
    @barbaraperry6955 Рік тому +52

    No matter what anyone wants.... The bottom surgery will never be good , easy or healthy.....best practice is keep whatever body parts you have and dress however you like......love what you are.....respect yourself and move on living a productive life....

    • @Tanya-rh9vj
      @Tanya-rh9vj Рік тому +8

      It’s not that simple for people who were truly born with gender dysphoria, which is a disorder.
      I’m not in favor of bottom surgery but I’m not against it. Although, I support if people want to change their appearance from male to female and vice versa (face surgery, silicone implants and so on), because all of those are reversible in some point.

    • @yeoss
      @yeoss 11 місяців тому +4

      not true. most people are happy post-SRS

    • @sarahgonzales1715
      @sarahgonzales1715 10 місяців тому +3

      Untrue most people are not happy it takes years for your organs to feel somewhat normal again. Because you were perfectly healthy before and now you have to deal with body that is no longer healthy now you have to worry about infections just being able to use the bathroom properly will be a dream for the body of a person that has the surgery. So keep the parts u have take hormones leave it at that ​@@yeoss

    • @yeoss
      @yeoss 10 місяців тому

      @@sarahgonzales1715 There is literal studies and evidence that suggests that transition has a regret rate of ~less than 1%. The suicide rate even goes down post-transition.
      And also wdym infection.
      You have to worry about infection your whole life. Do you not wash your genitals or something?
      Stop spouting misinformation.

    • @KNR6292
      @KNR6292 2 місяці тому

      Speak for yourself, dont broadcast your own choices as facts of life for others. We get it, OP, you don't want SRS. Cool.

  • @isla25
    @isla25 Рік тому +37

    I hope you get well soon Matilda, thank you for being so brave and sharing your situation. Seeing you so upset broke my heart but this will pass I am sure and you are a young, beautiful girl with so much ahead of you. Stay strong ❤️.
    Edit: punctuation.

  • @aimee65
    @aimee65 Рік тому +61

    I am sorry to hear about your trouble as a 30 years post surgery transwoman I have grown to accept all my problems. But it is still better than living as a male. I hope you start feeling better.

    • @danramirez8553
      @danramirez8553 Рік тому

      I am ze aimer...and zu are ze aimee!

    • @MustyUnderboob
      @MustyUnderboob Рік тому +19

      How? *And what does "living as a male" mean?

    • @NickyRikki
      @NickyRikki Рік тому +23

      @@MustyUnderboob he means he likes playing dress up

    • @JeremyLeeIsARapist2002
      @JeremyLeeIsARapist2002 Рік тому +4

      @@NickyRikki She meant she doesn't ant to be an ogre like you

    • @MustyUnderboob
      @MustyUnderboob Рік тому

      You're still living as a male. One with problems post sterilisation surgery.

  • @Roheline9
    @Roheline9 Рік тому +33

    I love you. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m so sorry for what happened to you. No one should have been allowed to do this to you - and that will always be my opinion. You’re lovely. They could never take that away from you, and that’s not something they gave you with these surgeries. You are so much more than your body, it never had to hurt.

  • @williamthomas6106
    @williamthomas6106 21 день тому +3

    I do not understand how any doctor who adheres to the Hippocratic Oath can in good faith perform Bottom Surgery in order to address what is clearly a mental disorder.
    It would be tantamount to performing "fat transplants" on Anorexics or purposely cutting off perfectly good limbs to individuals who have Body Integrity Identity Disorder and identify as "handicapped".
    This is barbaric and ludicrous. We should not purposely mutilate a human body to try and align with a delusional brain. I have compassion for anyone with such extreme gender dysphoria, but there is no indication that bottom surgery is worth the risk.
    For Trans-women that means purposely leaving a wound open and actively preventing that wound from healing.
    The last time we used surgical intervention to try to solve mental disorder was an unmitigated disaster. And history has shown that surgical lobotomies to address mental illness was barbaric and cruel. Although at the time, these lobotomies were framed as being "compassionate care"
    History will judge criminally mislabeled "gender affirming" surgery with the same degree of contempt.

  • @moreste87
    @moreste87 Рік тому +11

    I understand you perfectly. I had surgery 1 year and a half ago. I had complications (luckily not so serious). and what I constantly struggle with are urinary infections. I was hospitalized 7 times for infections and each time they become more resistant. I went from doctor to doctor, I consulted with other surgeons and since they make you understand that they don't want to get involved in someone else's work or in a problem, you feel alone and it exhausts you a lot. I also have trouble urinating and I take tamsulosin which helps me a lot to relax my muscles. For the pain I use a hot water bottle that calms me down a lot. strength and anything ask me.
    And I also had no choice. my dysphoria was very strong to the point that it would end up mutilating me. I think that this surgery is for extreme cases and should not be taken lightly. and you have to be very strong mentally. You also have to know enough about one to make that decision. Analyze the past for possible traumas. You don't have to have anything pending to have the best time possible.
    Sorry for the traslation. I am the argentina

  • @keginemylife
    @keginemylife Рік тому +50

    I’m a Post op Trans woman as well . Everything for the most part is good however I’ve had urinating issues as well so on Tuesday I have to visit my surgeon and they will take a look by inserting something in my urethra into the bladder to see what’s up. I’m scared because I don’t know if it’s a painful process.

    • @bemidji57
      @bemidji57 Рік тому +10

      Have them put you under anesthesia. I am a natural woman and have had my urethra stretched several times. It is painful!!

    • @Em22-wtf
      @Em22-wtf Рік тому +3

      @@bemidji57 omg I never heard of this, lol, now I'M scared. What causes this in women? Is it something medical or something that can happen because of diet/lifestyle? I ask bc sugar has been the one vice I can't quit. And as I get older, I worry. A lot. I actually quit nicotine easier than I can sugar sighhh

    • @stolenjunk
      @stolenjunk Рік тому +6

      Have your prostate checked, they don't remove it. Since your trans they might not ask you. Depending on your age could be something going on there.

    • @vivekpandey4616
      @vivekpandey4616 Рік тому

      How much time has it been since your srs?

    • @dewilew2137
      @dewilew2137 Рік тому

      Gross.

  • @pabi889
    @pabi889 Рік тому +17

    I can't pee, experience mild to severe pain and bleed every now and then but I"m so happy! 🧐

    • @qrstuvduhalaphabets
      @qrstuvduhalaphabets Рік тому

      it was a complication after years.. she was fine and this doesn’t happen to everyone this is probably so so damn small and rare. and if she has a problem she is going to get it fixed. so ignorant.

    • @pabi889
      @pabi889 Рік тому +1

      @@qrstuvduhalaphabets hahaha, a quick search will inform you of how ignorant you are. Aparently it is the norm to have complications with bottom surgery. Turns out doctors can't manufacture our bottoms as promissed. But go ahead and be the experiment😊

    • @OMGKawaiiPsycho
      @OMGKawaiiPsycho 11 місяців тому

      Cis women bleed every month

    • @viktorias63
      @viktorias63 Місяць тому +3

      For very different reasons​@@OMGKawaiiPsycho

    • @ByeByeBelly
      @ByeByeBelly Місяць тому

      I'm sure she wanted a perfect outcome but she had to take the downsides with the positivity it brought her personally

  • @jessicabakerseuk
    @jessicabakerseuk Рік тому +26

    Im so sorry for you having such difficulties and challenges in life. You deserve the best in and from life.
    There is nothing anyone can say to change what you are experiencing.
    I send my best wishes to you and wish I could offer more to help you find the happiness you deserve
    Love Jessica

  • @dollsprite
    @dollsprite Рік тому +46

    sending you love i can understand how much pain this is to go through 💘 you’ve helped me so much as a trans girl and i hope you’re okay

    • @Melnokina.-.
      @Melnokina.-. Рік тому +1

      He

    • @timmarinelli2962
      @timmarinelli2962 Рік тому +2

      ​@@Melnokina.-. bro even I don't comment or up comments like this. and I have been a troll and a half at times. It's outright malicious intent to harm at this point with the HE/SHE comments ...we should be praying for this persons that they recover the best they possibly can. And finds the spiritual growth and peace at heart that we all need.

    • @Melnokina.-.
      @Melnokina.-. Рік тому +1

      @@timmarinelli2962 harm who? He is a man cant change that. Do you go out of your to make serial killers comfortable? No so stop

    • @timmarinelli2962
      @timmarinelli2962 Рік тому +1

      @@Melnokina.-. my guy I'm fully against it myself, I here purely out of fascination with the psychology behind a person who says they are transgender. But we've all seen the HE / SHE comments enough man your not saving any little kids by being a doink. Like I indicated, I used Like the same comments , then , especially after it being played out , I realized it's just meant to dehumanize one of our own brothers/sisters so ...."c'mon man" let's start being decent people ,we can do it together

    • @Melnokina.-.
      @Melnokina.-. Рік тому +3

      @@timmarinelli2962 so we should indulge in their delusions?

  • @gracekinsley3142
    @gracekinsley3142 Рік тому +68

    Mathilda, I truly feel for you, some of these complications can be totally frustrating, and can cause a secondary reactive depression. I am a physician and even I have fears for what I want done surgically in the future

    • @verabolton
      @verabolton Рік тому +13

      Mutilating a body can never be a solution for depression. Never.

    • @gracekinsley3142
      @gracekinsley3142 Рік тому +7

      @@verabolton then you clearly dont understand transgender people the depression is caused by dysphoria, not the other way around, my 40 year history of depression is gone after I had transitioned. and further Mathi;da's secondary reactive depression is due to complications of surgery, just compare the regret rate of GRS to knee surgery, about 1% compared to 40%, so success is high, regret is low, and it is not mutilation, you should take your gender critical malarkey elsewhere

    • @verabolton
      @verabolton Рік тому +10

      @@gracekinsley3142
      But they said they still have dysphoria... clearly GRS didn't sort it out, only caused further suffering both physically and mentally. The fact that they need to dilate themselves daily to maintain the appearance of a woman... utterly horrendous! The pain they go through is immense and they don't talk about their wonderful sex life. They admit their body will never be "normal"... Still, they maintain the 'no regret' mantra... while fighting tears... what a tragedy! 😨
      Mutilating a body can never be a solution for depression. Never.
      Meaning of mutilation:
      1) Damaging someone's body, especially by cutting or removing part of it
      2) To damage or change something so much that it is completely spoiled
      We cannot possibly know the exact regret rate of GRS, because it's a very new trend and we have no enough data for a clear picture.
      You comparing it to a knee surgery proves you have no idea what you're talking about (don't switch off your brain when using google). Plus, you mess up the knee surgery dissatisfactory rate with the alleged GRS regret rate, which is at least *TEN TIMES* higher than for knee surgery - and it keeps growing.
      Knee surgery is to repair a damaged ligament - GRS is to destroy healthy body parts. Big difference, indeed!

    • @gracekinsley3142
      @gracekinsley3142 Рік тому

      @@verabolton you know fuck all about medicine, I am a physician and have been for the past 30 years, I have specific special interests in endocrinology and mood disorders, I am sufficiently more expert in these areas than you are, regret rate again published - (GRS A total of 27 studies, pooling 7928 transgender patients who underwent any type of GAS, were included. The pooled prevalence of regret after GAS was 1% (95% CI

    • @myaisheree
      @myaisheree Рік тому +4

      ​@Vera Bolton I just want to be happy with my body 🙁

  • @lynleyhocking872
    @lynleyhocking872 Місяць тому +1

    You are honest and shining beauty. I'm sorry for your pain. ❤

  • @Vi.lets.violet
    @Vi.lets.violet Рік тому +38

    Comment section not passing the vibe test. This information is useful for people like me who are very seriously considering this surgery. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable and the haters am be out on read cause they’re voice doesn’t matter here

    • @sakurabiyori2010
      @sakurabiyori2010 Рік тому +8

      Save your self before it's too late, you should have taken this video as a warning for god sake ! whatever you're going through you need to fix your mind not the body ppl 😆

    • @verabolton
      @verabolton Рік тому +14

      Mutilation of the body is never a solution for depression. In fact, it causes further depression.
      You calling me a hater or any other names won't bother me, I won't give in to emotional blackmail 😶

    • @Vi.lets.violet
      @Vi.lets.violet Рік тому +6

      @@verabolton That’s literally proven to be untrue. Bottom surgery has less than 1% regret rate, that’s significantly less than other life saving surgeries like heart surgery or organ transplants. You’re choosing to be a hateful and unaccepting person, even if you were shown proof you’ll deny because for some reason other people’s joy threatens you.

    • @verabolton
      @verabolton Рік тому

      @@Vi.lets.violet Proof? Where's your proof?
      GRS regret rate is 3 - 3.8% and growing according to Genderhq and Cornell University.
      There's been only one long term research about gender dysphoria so far, and according to that research 70-80% of the children will grow it out and settle in their biological sex if they're not pressurized to transition socially. This means: 70-80% is the future regret rate if we don't count with the current social contagion (which will push it even higher).
      Sui*dal rate doesn't go down with GRS and it doesn't stop the dysphoria either.
      The only thing GRS does: mutilates and ruins a healthy body without addressing the underlining problem.

    • @kaymillerfromTX
      @kaymillerfromTX Рік тому +3

      @@Vi.lets.violet oh yeah. All this joy this man is having with his botched cewchi. Sure.

  • @donaldaxel
    @donaldaxel Рік тому +42

    Happy NewYear to you too! :) 🎆🎆🎆 I can imagine the pain, frustration and all. You must get the best out of it. You are in a country with good public health, and you have days of peace and happiness. But of course there are days of sadness. You are definitely a great help to thousands of people - young and old like me, - who experience a lot of these emotions, too.

  • @damoneaves
    @damoneaves Рік тому +13

    This is heartfelt and painfully honest and important public service. Blessings to you for love and peace and healing.

  • @XtraTori
    @XtraTori Рік тому +24

    Thank you for sharing your challenges. You're loved and appreciated! I hope it only gets better for you moving forward.

  • @roaroa5291
    @roaroa5291 Рік тому +272

    Do not have surgery on a perfectly healthy body because someone convinced you this will somehow heal an unhealthy mind. Especially do not have such complicated surgeries as those involving genital plumbing, which is so very fragile and complex. If you care about other trans people, be a voice against surgeries that will have them struggling for the rest of their lives.

    • @iceprincess135
      @iceprincess135 Рік тому +45

      What good is it to spread such unresearched info? Even healthy bodies need surgery to stay healthy sometimes. She wasn't convinced by anyone to do it.

    • @Kfreeman704
      @Kfreeman704 Рік тому +84

      @@iceprincess135 removing perfectly healthy genitals is the same as having surgery to correct an illness or ailment? How is this any different from the people who want to cut off their limbs? Our genitals play a big role in regulating our bodies and serve a bigger purpose than sex or who's male or female.

    • @veesancez
      @veesancez Рік тому +14

      If u watched the video u will see that this is what they are saying. They have no choice but to get corrective surgery

    • @justynjonn
      @justynjonn Рік тому +6

      What if they don't want to listen and all the people around them are making you a villain just for asking questions!

    • @hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894
      @hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894 Рік тому +14

      @@iceprincess135here’s research femininity in males is not female

  • @connieh9581
    @connieh9581 Рік тому +7

    Lots of us non transgender women have problems urinating. It’s a woman thing having plumbing problems because of the way we are built. We have infections, yeast overgrowth chronic irritations. We all learn to urinate right after having sex to prevent infections. Really, it helps so much. Being a woman can be hard but it’s rewarding in its own way.

  • @DanielDTUBWeinberger
    @DanielDTUBWeinberger Рік тому +43

    Be strong and thank you so much! I find these videos so important even if I know lots of bad people misuse stuff like this. I have been resisting surgery and know even if for some unknown reason I end up being a cismale in future I would not regret it. Without logic interfering, I am 110% in it for surgery, with logical application however I am 80% sure. However logic also had me resisting being myself and HRT. Before I finally got diagnosed, and even after, I watched so much from all sides. Those that are trans, allies, detransitioners, transphobes, medical professionals, studies, et cetera. Stuff like this is so helpful for me to truly be sure of myself without doubt.
    I wish the best! Fully understand how this situation unfortunately retriggers dysphoria, it's our unfortunate reality but we are making the most of it.

    • @leelee2350
      @leelee2350 Рік тому +16

      If I were you, I'd wait a few years before even thinking about surgery. Its only been recent that so many are coming out and admitting all the complications. Some of them are shocking, like having to live with a colostomy bag, long term catheters, constant pain, inability to have sex at all. I really feel for you having the dysphoria, I can't even imagine how that feels. It just seems that these surgeries are not advanced enough.

    • @DanielDTUBWeinberger
      @DanielDTUBWeinberger Рік тому +3

      @@leelee2350 they are very advanced, however are still surgeries. Surgeries for this are nothing new, though the advanced methods and results are. Medical decisions are all about risk/benefit, pros/cons. What is worse for the individual and their medical situation?
      Those may sound like shocking complications but those are nothing new to me.

    • @anjdjeo
      @anjdjeo Рік тому +5

      Can you imagine being life long patient? Rest of life without sexual pleasure. If no I would strongly advise not to make that decision.

    • @DanielDTUBWeinberger
      @DanielDTUBWeinberger Рік тому +2

      @@anjdjeo that's my reality now 😂

    • @Capylotte
      @Capylotte Рік тому +5

      It's good to see a comment like yours in the middle of so much trash that comes from people who will never understand our reality.

  • @giovanniramirez4125
    @giovanniramirez4125 Рік тому +39

    Don’t do it please there going to fuck you up I seen to many girls mislead look at the other stories my heart goes out to you ❤

  • @ashleyb119
    @ashleyb119 Рік тому +64

    This is why doctors NEED to tell their patients about the downside of SRS surgery....even after trans people get the surgery there's some that still commit suicide and that's really sad...I believe gender dysphoria is a mental illness and I think they need to help fix that issue with therapy and medication before them getting SRS surgery, that's permanent and it will affect your life.....especially with the complications....I really feel for these people that have gender dysphoria, I couldn't imagine living with that 😢

    • @Tanya-rh9vj
      @Tanya-rh9vj Рік тому

      Gender dysphoria is a disorder, not a mental illness, but yes, therapy is necessary and real expectations about transition is totally necessary, also about the risks, but not medication to treat dysphoria, because there’s no medication to treat or alleviate dysphoria, because again, it’s a disorder, not a mental illness.

    • @dewilew2137
      @dewilew2137 Рік тому

      You do realize that this is considered TERF rhetoric in the trans community, right?

    • @hex1275
      @hex1275 Рік тому

      They've done plenty of studies on gender dysphoria and have concluded that the only effective treatment is to physically transition. There is nothing else that works.

    • @angelface5031
      @angelface5031 Рік тому +14

      They commit suicide because of the constant harassment even though they received the surgery

    • @selene7032
      @selene7032 Рік тому

      @@angelface5031tell her!

  • @davidyasss3484
    @davidyasss3484 Рік тому +14

    I'm a biological male, and I had an issue back in 2019 with peeing. Mine stopped completely. It's scary, and I felt 2nd hand pain listening to your story. I still get worried it will come back.

    • @davidyasss3484
      @davidyasss3484 Рік тому +3

      @Educat ional I'm intact

    • @ByeByeBelly
      @ByeByeBelly Місяць тому

      I'm a woman and had the same, some kind of bladder spasm after a bad UTI. it went for about 2 weeks, was scary

  • @Lithium19
    @Lithium19 Рік тому +1

    This breaks my heart so much. I can only hope things improve for you. Thankfully you have a supportive Fiancee, friends and loved ones. 🙏🏿🤞🏿🤞🏿🤞🏿

  • @lettdias
    @lettdias Рік тому +3

    I'm really sorry about your complications, I hope you can heal.

  • @jessiewhitman8688
    @jessiewhitman8688 Рік тому +10

    I think more trans people need to come out and say all the BAD about it instead of only saying the good. Which should include, that it won't fix any mental issues, it won't actually make you that gender- it just changes your body.

    • @nicolesi2201
      @nicolesi2201 8 місяців тому

      This is 100% untrue. The surgeries change your body. The hormones change your mind and heal your brain from the poison of the incorrect hormones. Take it from someone who's had "all the surgeries" and had zero problems with any of them, they work, and they and the hormones saved my life.

  • @joh.9531
    @joh.9531 Рік тому +4

    So touching Mathilda. I totally get it that you just want to have a regular, smooth-running life. Big hugs from me :)

  • @droppingmikes
    @droppingmikes Рік тому +3

    so glad I found your channel, its really given me hope the past few months.

  • @nathitaxo
    @nathitaxo 11 місяців тому +6

    I had my surgery almost 20 days ago AND THIS IS SO TRUE. DONT👏DO👏IT👏 if u don’t really need this as ur let step, FEEL like a woman BEFORE the surgery, because this will not make u feel more or less and u have to have GUTS to have this…

    • @GODS_OUTLAW
      @GODS_OUTLAW 10 місяців тому

      Wow I genuinely feel bad for you, I hope you know Jesus loves all of us no matter what even when we turn our back on him he is always waiting for you with open arms

    • @libbyhyett6625
      @libbyhyett6625 2 місяці тому

      Oh darling

  • @ArynOliver1984
    @ArynOliver1984 4 місяці тому +1

    You're sooo strong and sooo brave
    ❤❤❤ i hope things will get better for you again. Your videos have been such a big help

  • @skye7690
    @skye7690 Рік тому +9

    It is hard, i had to go for surgery twice to tweak the results, but after 1 year, i got over the blues and healing, and was happy again.

    • @quinnvids
      @quinnvids Рік тому +13

      (until the next complication comes up. could be months or years. but it will)

    • @skye7690
      @skye7690 Рік тому +4

      @@quinnvids Why so negative. There may not be any complications. But with any surgery you are introducing the possibility. For me, I feel I’m over it,and healed nicely, functioning well.

    • @quinnvids
      @quinnvids Рік тому +10

      @@skye7690 because other people need to be aware of the risks

    • @skye7690
      @skye7690 Рік тому +4

      @@quinnvids Yep folks should not take it lightly and not everyone needs or should do it. I had complications even from mine, and its was way more involved, pain, blood, infection, etc. than I ever expected.

    • @quinnvids
      @quinnvids Рік тому +2

      @@skye7690 agreed, I hope everything goes well for you moving forward!

  • @motherhoodsbeauty9279
    @motherhoodsbeauty9279 8 місяців тому

    I'm glad you talk about this and make people think very hard before make the decision.

  • @thechimaster1
    @thechimaster1 Рік тому +8

    So sorry to hear your going through these complcations. Stay strong I will keep you in my prayers ❤

  • @emanuelspada6897
    @emanuelspada6897 Рік тому +10

    Your very brave to be honest about the complications and to warn people that this may not be for everyone thats not 100% sure. i hope you get better honey.

  • @melanieditzel4291
    @melanieditzel4291 Рік тому +3

    Everybody is DIFFERENT Matilda. You are a wonderful person. I can tell. Everyone struggles with their own problems. Keep on keeping on. ❤️

  • @PattyDiague
    @PattyDiague Рік тому +94

    This sounds so traumatic and unnatural .Thats why you're so emotional cause is a trigger even talking about it .NOTHING is normal about this !!!!

    • @verabolton
      @verabolton Рік тому +22

      Because it *is* traumatic and unnatural. Mutilation of the body is never a solution for depression. Actually, it causes further depression. Poor thing still thinks they didn't have a choice... 🥺

    • @theduchessofdarknessofficial
      @theduchessofdarknessofficial 3 місяці тому +1

      There have bee successful surgeries

    • @Venti650
      @Venti650 Місяць тому +1

      All surgeries come with complications. Transgender people get surgeries to minimise gender dysphoria, this isn’t uncommon. It’s not up to you to decide whether people should get certain surgeries or not.

    • @ByeByeBelly
      @ByeByeBelly Місяць тому

      ​@@veraboltonyou can't tell people that they're depressed though. She can have medical issues and still not be depressed or wishing she didn't do it. Of course it'd be better if no one wanted surgery

    • @verabolton
      @verabolton Місяць тому

      @@theduchessofdarknessofficial Depends on what you call a "success" - eg the patient survives...? Bottom surgery is a butchery, it's mutilation, it leaves you with multiply complications every single time. That's why less and less people wants it.

  • @dg3798
    @dg3798 Рік тому +10

    It's so sad that you were in such emotional pain that you felt you had no other options. Tbh I haven't seen anyone come out of these surgeries without pretty severe complications. It seems like a lot of these doctors are predatory and know what they're doing to people in making them lifelong customers. With all due respect they should stop doing them until they figure out a better way with better results. I hope your situation works out, you seem like a beautiful person who just wants a normal life.

  • @ashh1371
    @ashh1371 Місяць тому +4

    As a cis woman, our bladders and vaginas malfunction quite regularly too.
    I’m 30, no pregnancies ever, and I literally can’t hold my bladder more than 40 minutes without daily medicine. I’ve also had cervical pre-cancer twice! I know that’s nothing compared to post-surgery complications but just know that everyone’s body has issues from time to time.

  • @kathern_rocks
    @kathern_rocks Рік тому +6

    I appreciate your vulnerability and opening up about your struggles post-surgery.
    I have been transitioning for the past 10 years now and have been taking my journey at my own pace to be completely sure. I recently had an orchiectomy 2 years ago and now I have my SRS date set for December this year. Since my date has been set, I have been working on myself more. The doctors pretty much told me the surgery is like going through a marathon with your body physically and emotionally.
    Your videos have helped me to understand what to expect in this process. Thank you ❤️

    • @eleusinia_
      @eleusinia_ Рік тому +9

      Hi kathern! I'm gonna be honest, you will live to regret SRS. Its not real and its not worth it. Be well!

    • @kathern_rocks
      @kathern_rocks Рік тому +6

      @@eleusinia_ I'm creating a life that is more important to me than what you're option will ever be worth. ✌️

    • @moma-b
      @moma-b Рік тому +3

      If I would be in the same situation, I would talk to other trans people who already had it done and ask their experience. I would talk to as many as I can. I would also look specifically for those who had complications so I could have a better picture of my chances. That surgery is so complicated, so many things can go wrong. Shape Shifter talked about how his sex life was totally ruined. His genitals are not functional and he lost his sex drive too. He basically regretted the surgery and de-transitoned and still fears the future complications.
      Maybe I would wait a little more, a few more years until the surgery technique gets more developed and reliable. Life is precious. But with constant surgeries what kind of life is that?

    • @kathern_rocks
      @kathern_rocks Рік тому +3

      @@moma-b I don't know your life story and you don't know what I have gone through to get to where I am currently.
      To put me in the same box as a shape shifter is extremely insulting to where I am in life. To be honest, I never have heard of this person before, nor do I want to associate myself with this person moving forward. I would never claim to be a victim of my circumstances. Taking ownership of my life decisions has helped me in my journey.
      To apply that I haven't talked to people that have had this similar surgery is very ignorant on your behalf. I have done my research and I accept that there are very real and long-term risks that are associated with this type of surgery. The surgeons and doctors are very clear about these risks before they start and it's your responsibility to take these risks seriously before the day of the surgery. I have taken my life & my journey very seriously and have improved my physical and mental health in the process.
      I am very proud of my current circumstances in life and I am confident in who I am and where I am going moving forward. ✌️

    • @moma-b
      @moma-b Рік тому +3

      @@kathern_rocks _"To put me in the same box as a shape shifter is extremely insulting to where I am in life"_
      Then I am so glad I did not put you into any box, especially not his box.
      _"nor do I want to associate myself with this person moving forward"_
      I don't even understand why would you even think of such. I read a lot of stories every day and never even crossed my mind to associate myself with any of those.
      _"To apply that I haven't talked to people that have had this similar surgery is very ignorant on your behalf."_
      Again, it is very good than that I did not apply anything to you. I was deliberately putting my words down to avoid such thing at any cost. E.g. I could've used _"when you do this and that"_ but I didn't. I put myself into a similar situation and formed my opinion about what I would do. I hope you can differentiate. Because exactly this is why we have different words to express different meanings, to avoid that the other person feel insulted, which could take away the possibility of a conversation.
      I'm happy to hear that you feel good and confident and I wish you all the best with your path forward.

  • @charlesomarwood2246
    @charlesomarwood2246 Рік тому +2

    Glad to see that you are back. Happy start of 2023!

  • @Wondwind
    @Wondwind 2 місяці тому +8

    News flash. You weren’t “in danger” before your surgery. You can commit to not unaliving yourself. You can commit to loving yourself as is.

  • @mikkitiamo
    @mikkitiamo Рік тому +2

    Oh my! So sorry to hear you're experiencing problems and as someone who is wavering on the do I/don't, I watch videos like yours and I understand that you've been happy and you are very young, compared to me anyway, and that this is as dysphoric and I'm sure being reminded isn't nice. My reasoning for dreading this is, I hate pain and the thought of something going wrong fills me with fear. I've already had years of pain from surgery when I was a child and the thought this could happen again makes me shiver! I wish you well and I hope you have a speedy recovery.
    Mikki

    • @quinnvids
      @quinnvids Рік тому +6

      please don’t get the surgery. it is not safe. please try to accept your body without harming it ❤

    • @OldJoeBlows
      @OldJoeBlows Рік тому +5

      Don’t do it. Your instincts are telling you, listen to them. ❤

    • @MustyUnderboob
      @MustyUnderboob Рік тому +3

      What do you think surgery will achieve?

    • @iceprincess135
      @iceprincess135 Рік тому +2

      Take time to think about it. People making decisions for you on what you should do should not be accounted for.

    • @hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894
      @hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894 Рік тому

      Feminine men need acceptance not conversion

  • @dennybell8120
    @dennybell8120 Рік тому +15

    You are a brave and strong person for putting this out there.

  • @Nina_scandic
    @Nina_scandic Рік тому +1

    Thanks to the universe and to your massive strength that you are still here with us. There is a reason for that. Always stay positive.

  • @smokinpoppin
    @smokinpoppin 6 місяців тому +8

    The fact that it's actually legal to do these "surgeries" is insane

  • @giraffezebra2698
    @giraffezebra2698 Місяць тому +2

    I’m seeing this a year later. I hope you are doing better now. I’m a medical professional and I have seen way too many complications with this type of surgery. Many of the doctors performing them are literally experimenting on vulnerable people. I wish you talked more in your video about the need for counseling before deciding to have this done. I would recommend at least a year. Surgery can certainly benefit many with true gender dysphoria, but also be harmful for others. It is a lifelong commitment, and there will be lifetime issues and revisions. It’s never “one and done” with this surgery. I hope you are doing better.

  • @sharpsvilleBill
    @sharpsvilleBill Рік тому +10

    Oh, Mathilda, I'm so sorry you are experiencing those nagging complications and hope they are resolved quickly.
    I hope you and Christian are and will continue growing strong together.
    ❤❤❤

  • @WaverlyGarner
    @WaverlyGarner 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you, Mathilda. I wish you a speedy recovery and as few complications as possible as time goes on. If you are watching this and you aren’t trans and don’t have bottom dysphoria, I encourage you to stop for a moment before posting about how unnatural this is or how monstrous it is and consider one of the last things she says in her video: that she is tired of being reminded she is different. When you are trans people never stop reminding you, and much of the discourse of others is around your genitals. Imagine people focusing on that all the time - imagine how that feels, especially if you already feel alienated in your own body. The relief that can come with this procedure cannot be understated. It is not something to pity or to mourn or to get sympathy points for saying “oh you poor thing.” This is a human saying she is in pain for something she doesn’t regret, and those two things are not diametrically opposed. Be here for her without judgment.

  • @curioustealeaves
    @curioustealeaves Рік тому +16

    This seems to be the standard and not some random complication. I’m so confused how this cures someone’s gender dysphoria when most end up with some lifelong medical problem to maintain these new body parts that never even perform the basic function those actual body parts are intended to perform. I’m genuinely confused.
    This trans woman seems like a lovely person who’s allowed themselves to be experimented on. Everyday I’m seeing more and more people coming out who are in the same situation and it’s very sad.

  • @cathyh.8561
    @cathyh.8561 8 місяців тому +6

    Its amazing how this mass hysteria about gender is ruining people's lives. People who are unhappy, doing crazy things to themselves to try to grasp at fleeting happiness....thats life without God and Jesus. Real joy comes from our Creator God, nothing else will do... 🙏

  • @paigekeefe2497
    @paigekeefe2497 Рік тому +7

    God bless her because these people think the complications will stop

  • @ericksonmartinez2369
    @ericksonmartinez2369 Рік тому

    Mathilda! I'm sorry you're going through this. I admire you for being open and sharing your story. I can tell that you're in pain. Hope the best for you. Hugs!

  • @inTruthbyGrace
    @inTruthbyGrace Рік тому +4

    "Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, *_and learn of me_* for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light." *_~Jesus_* (Matt 11:28-30)

    • @OMGKawaiiPsycho
      @OMGKawaiiPsycho 11 місяців тому

      Worshipping men is one of my kinks too

    • @inTruthbyGrace
      @inTruthbyGrace 11 місяців тому

      @@OMGKawaiiPsycho man? well, Jesus is God and every knee *_will bow_* and every tongue *_will confess_* that Jesus Christ is Lord to the glory of God the Father... so the only question you have to ask yourself is if you want to bow before you enter the Kingdom of God.... *_OR_* the Lake of Fire... because, make no mistake, you *_are going to bow_*

    • @OMGKawaiiPsycho
      @OMGKawaiiPsycho 11 місяців тому

      @@inTruthbyGrace Y-yes Master... I'll bow for you... I'll get on my knees for you~ 😖

    • @inTruthbyGrace
      @inTruthbyGrace 11 місяців тому

      @@OMGKawaiiPsycho I did not say you will bow to me... you will bow to Jesus...and confess that He is Lord to the glory of God... He is the CREATOR and every knee will bow... it's just a matter of when. I recommend you get right with God before your last day here and the judgment... and all you have to do is seek Him with you whole heart... you will find Him and learn about Him in His Word... just read it yourself. He loves you, He is waiting for you to humble yourself and repent...He laid down His life to free you from the bondage of sin and death... do not neglect so great a salvation!
      "....learn of me..." ~ Jesus

    • @OMGKawaiiPsycho
      @OMGKawaiiPsycho 11 місяців тому

      @@inTruthbyGrace W-well... I'll bow for Jesus then... I'll get on my knees and beg Jesus to punish me for being such a bad girl... I'll submit to my lord, Jesus Christ (⁠ㆁ⁠ω⁠ㆁ⁠)

  • @Yoshi-dy7qg
    @Yoshi-dy7qg Рік тому +2

    Thank you for the brutal honesty.

  • @stuff1784
    @stuff1784 Рік тому +20

    Thank you for your honesty Mathilda. ❤

  • @paulinehawkins2207
    @paulinehawkins2207 Рік тому +1

    I’m sorry you’ve been suffering with complications. Hope wellness is around the corner for you. Xx

  • @janeengallo5396
    @janeengallo5396 Рік тому +46

    😢You certainly are not happy! You are clearly severely traumatized!😢

  • @girlien
    @girlien 11 місяців тому +1

    i feel you girl. ❤ you are so strong and beautiful and admirable. i appreciate you being so vulnerable and sharing your experience. ❤️ your videos mean so much to me.

  • @Noneofyourbusiness57817
    @Noneofyourbusiness57817 Рік тому +13

    You can tell “she” is lying when she says she doesn’t regret the surgery

  • @dflowers1477
    @dflowers1477 Місяць тому

    Thank you for sharing. Not everyone is given the complete picture and it doesn’t seem fair that they only find out after their leap of faith when it’s too late to make other choices if wanted.

  • @colorfullyme
    @colorfullyme 2 місяці тому +2

    I am really sorry you are having these complications. I want to offer some food for thought that helped me a lot in getting over feeling weird and different than other people: To think you are especially weird, defective, different, etc. is essentially very similar to thinking you are especially good. You perceive yourself as "special" in both cases, only in the former it is negative and in the latter positive. It was very healing for me to balance my ego and see that I am not special and therefore also not especially weird or different. I know this may trigger defensiveness in people because when you feel bad about yourself, it does not feel great to be told "you're not special, get over yourself", but I do believe it is part of the problem for a lot of people and genuinely healing to move through nonjudgmentally and with self-compassion. It feels much better to put more energy on other things and other people than on myself and how "defective" I am... Good luck healing your physical complications and emotional feelings about your body xx

  • @keyboarddancers7751
    @keyboarddancers7751 Рік тому

    This is a very important video document highlighting a lifelong commitment to medical intervention in order to address chronic complications resulting from the removal/alteration of male/female genitalia and then the creation of a facsimile of female/male genitalia and it should be watched by anybody considering embarking on such a momentous surgical pathway.

  • @wt460
    @wt460 Рік тому +98

    Today, the trans community willlikely denigrate your situation and try to bury this content. They will say that you’re a transphobe and tell you to shut up. Your content is exactly what a young person needs to hear and I hope you continue to publish content. Thank you!!!

    • @kakonthebed
      @kakonthebed Рік тому +23

      Why would we bury information necessary for improving our healthcare?

    • @canadachandler7521
      @canadachandler7521 Рік тому +17

      @@kakonthebed Because you are in a cult. You are not allowed to question a cult.

    • @kakonthebed
      @kakonthebed Рік тому +7

      @@canadachandler7521 ...can you name even one time when we’ve actually “buried” information regarding bottom surgery and called mtfs transphobes for talking about it? 💀 Dude, you’re not the main character

    • @kakonthebed
      @kakonthebed Рік тому

      Like bro. You can read about the risks of bottom surgery if you do like 5 seconds of Googling. It’s not hard. We actively welcome science that helps us learn more about ourselves so we can have safer procedures in future. Stop being so strange

    • @kali6651
      @kali6651 Рік тому +12

      @@kakonthebed People who have spoken out about de-transitioning on Reddit. Happens all the time. Get over it.

  • @877swissmiss
    @877swissmiss Рік тому +4

    I doubt that there are people without any complications at all honestly. If I‘m wrong, ok, then nice for those who have none.
    But thinking of the surgeries it‘s almost impossible to not have issues after them. I mean, the body is hurt at very sensitive regions on purpose, where nothing like that is meant to be like that. Sorry to say but that‘s the biological, physiological anatomic side of these treatments.
    I‘m sorry for your complications, believe me, they are more common than you think, they are normal consequences unfortunately but not many are willing to talk about that! So thank you for your honesty, it could help many people. Is that nerve pain you still have ? ( the one occuring while watching TV you described )
    It IS a major surgery that will have a huge impact on any persons life following through with it but mostly not in the -prior to surgery - imagined way.

  • @RainbowMuse2
    @RainbowMuse2 Рік тому +1

    I know it has to be very hard to talk about many of these things. Thank you for putting yourself out there despite that difficulty. I am sure the videos you have created have helped a great many people. *offers hugs*

  • @joshhoehne8281
    @joshhoehne8281 Рік тому +11

    I know I am, and I'm sure most of this community you've built here are sending you well wishes, support, and love. All will be well, Matilda.

  • @kenziestoneman7141
    @kenziestoneman7141 Рік тому +7

    Love you lots and lots and Matilda from your sister Kenzie and I hope you had a very Merry Christmas and a wonderful blessed New Year too!! 🦄🏳️‍⚧️🦋💙💞🤍💞💙😘😘😘

    •  Рік тому +3

      Sending you all love, girl! 💞💞

  • @tdogreed476
    @tdogreed476 Рік тому +79

    The reason you're having pain in because your skin is a place is not supposed to be, plain and simple. That's what happens with scar tissue. I'm not hating or anything, I'm just stating facts.
    You can be trans and not have the bottom surgery, unless you're severely bothered by it and experiencing major gender dysphoria. If it saves your life, make sure this is the reason and not something else. Because it's a very shocking transition, many things can go wrong and will go wrong. You'll most likely get many painful infections and be healing for a extended period of time, which will also be painful and very expensive.
    The reason you can't pee is because once again, your uretha isn't in the right place and things are moved around.
    Doctors and Big Pharma, big corporations are BANKING off trans people and it really bothers me, they're acting like they're helping people who are troubled by their own bodies and experiencing hell. They don't care about trans people, they want your money.

    • @chilltarts
      @chilltarts 4 місяці тому

      😢 pray for everyone who has been fooled by this trans-human agenda. Simply out: a vagina is not just a place to be sexually penetrated, and reducing this important female organ down to that one minuscule function is so misogynistic it’s hard to believe that we are really doing genital lobotomies in 2024 and calling it “health CARE” 😢

    • @May.ala8
      @May.ala8 4 місяці тому +3

      Wow that’s so true!
      I went to do some research about it … and just by looking at a picture of men/women anatomy you can see the differences .
      Even after the bottom surgery it can never be in the right place !

    • @sandrarios2253
      @sandrarios2253 4 місяці тому

      There are testimonies about men who do not have the bottom surgery, but take estrogen and have serious complications with that. The human body was not meant to "change sex," and trying to do so is like a fish trying to like out of water.

  • @goddessexy690
    @goddessexy690 Рік тому

    I'm 36 yrs old transwoman I'm happy and live being like this every one who see me treat me like a girl because in and out I'm look feminine. But until now I'm still not done srs which I'm still thinking 100% I will do someday or soon? But who's know if I can do that what ever happen I will be happy. For you my sister don't give up what ever complication you feel now that is not permanent on you. You will be OK, fine soon I'm soo happy for you ❤️❤️❤️ just always pray and be happy❤️❤️❤️

  • @2222ela
    @2222ela Рік тому +26

    I'm sorry youre going through this . But this is the reality....its such a horrific , barbaric surgery and it's unnatural .
    Your body will always try to heal itself and it will malfunction because it's been wracked .
    You would've found someone to love and accept you without doing the surgery . Just the way you were . But anyways, good luck

    • @raynekimi2755
      @raynekimi2755 Рік тому +11

      Keep in mind, when you go against nature be prepared for the consequences. I don't feel sorry for these people at all.
      It is normal to feel awkward growing up. It can be physically painful, especially for girls and many of us are bullied in school for not fitting in with the cool people, whatever they are.

    • @SongofBeauty
      @SongofBeauty Рік тому +1

      I feel the same. I’m sorry she and many others felt like this to do this.

    • @stuff1784
      @stuff1784 Рік тому +7

      It amazes me how anyone can convince themselves that inverting their genitals in this butchering way is the ANSWER to their mental problems. What the heck!!!!

    • @kylie4568
      @kylie4568 Рік тому +3

      Please be careful what you say. Being trans isn't a mental health problem. Gender dysphoria is a serious mental health problem that cannot really be 'solved' without surgeries like this. Doing SRS generally isn't to get other people to love you, but to try to make your anatomy fit with what you feel it should have always been. It is just really important to be aware of the side effects, which I think is why sharing this experience is so crucial, so thank you for that, Mathilda. As she said, she is still happy she did the surgery, despite all the complications.

    • @SongofBeauty
      @SongofBeauty Рік тому +3

      @@kylie4568 you be careful what you say. Please do some research. These surgeries are such a violation of nature.

  • @AnneAndersonFoxiepaws
    @AnneAndersonFoxiepaws Рік тому +1

    It's good and brave to discuss these issues openly, too many kids are getting into this with no idea about the life long problems that can happen. I have seen people who end up with no working sex organs and that can't be fixed, also the lifelong implications of taking hormones shortens people's lives and can and does result in pre senile dementia. I think the more people who tell their stories honestly, without getting embroiled in the trans gender activists rhetoric, the better informed these kids, and their families will be to make these decisions or not. What people fail to see is the vested interests of doctors and pharmaceutical companies who are trying to sell as many lifelong courses of hormones they can, without being up front about the problems this incurs. I hope everything goes well for you.

    • @jaijai5250
      @jaijai5250 Рік тому

      It’s not only doctors and big pharma making money. It sounds like the manufacturers of urinary incontinence products will be making a packet also. Now they stand to benefit from all age groups, and not just the elderly, or those who naturally develop incontinence.
      I wonder if it also affects the bowels, and can lead to faecal incontinence, particularly for women. Uterine activity can have an impact on the bowels also, such as periods, or labour.

  • @arvintrevino4622
    @arvintrevino4622 Рік тому +4

    So sorry to hear that honey. It's true that their are different surgeries and complications can arise, but its better than waking up in the morning and looking in the mirror knowing that their is an elephant between the legs. I know that Thailand has many successful and great surgery options and revision corrections. Also in Brazil a Doctor created an actual phallus out of the clients own stem cells. I was wondering if its possible if they could create the female reproductive system out of my own stem cells (not for other people, but for me) in order to have the transfer surgery later. But, I have to take tiny steps. Ill take HRT later in life, but coming out socially is great and euphoric. Also growing out my hair feels great.
    I do hope things for you work out. This is coming from a suicide survivor; you did what you needed too continue in life. It's not a regret because you are alive and fighting. I seriously wanted to end things, until I realized im Bigender. The thought will always be there but I can't reset this life. I know that if I had the opportunity and option when I was a kid to transition I wouldn't be so miserable. And the reason is because Texas citizens are as ignorant as ants and don't let their kids express themselves because they are afraid of change. 😐
    But, I'm looking forward to life and all the twist and turns whether they may be positive or negative, because it tells us that we are alive.
    It is possible that you may feel you are having a crummy and stale day, but I hope it gets better for you. I may not understand fully your hardships, but Their will be good days. Feel the breeze outside, watch and hear the streams of water , or enjoy listening to music watching the grass grow as your having a picnic. Enjoy the present moments while ignoring the deep constant thoughts of the mind. You got this girl! 😊 Stay authentic and keep the world in color when it seems gray.

  • @pokegogeezer7676
    @pokegogeezer7676 Рік тому +8

    Please take care of you. I understand that things can be challenging for you, but you've come so far. Please just try to think of the positive things you have going for you.
    And it's really amazing that you're taking this opportunity to try and help others.
    Take care!

    •  Рік тому

      Thank you ❤️❤️

  • @pri1134
    @pri1134 Рік тому +3

    I'm sorry for your pain. I hope you're doing well and continue to do well in the future.

  • @Iretsm
    @Iretsm 4 місяці тому

    🥹 I am tearing up 🥺 I am so proud of you, Mathilda, and I don’t even know you. 🥺 thank you for your bravery in being so honest about your experiences. Thank you for educating people, inspiring people (myself included).
    I am a cisgender woman. 🥺 I am so privileged to have been born biologically with how I identify. I am so, so sorry for the pain and trauma that you have had to endure 💔 😢
    You are so damn strong though. Your resilience is inspirational! Slay, queen!!!!!!!! 💜 💜 💜 💜 💜 💜

  • @gardenlady2041
    @gardenlady2041 7 місяців тому +5

    This madness needs to stop! Just because you can does not mean you should.