Husband Recites Bizarre Story to Explain Wife's Disappearance | Ciera Breland Case Analysis
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- Опубліковано 11 січ 2023
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If you have to get a burner phone to talk to your mom so your partner doesn't find out, it's a toxic relationship. Get out! A partner who isolates you from family and friends is an abuser.
Oh come on now, that's a perfectly healthy thing to do.
@@rockyevans1584 if the mother is a total witch, then yes! Lol
What's wrong with that...?
@@rosenbaum75 context is key lol
Or if you have to get a burner phone to talk to your boyfriend because your mom might find it.
DON'T date a man who doesn't already have 1) a job. 2) an apartment/home. and 3) a car.!! How is he going to maintain a healthy long term relationship if he can't handle his own basic needs?!? Duh.
Agreed
I wouldn't necessarily write someone off because of that. My partner had none of those things when we got together and we've had a lovely relationship for the past 17 years! Of course...we were 13 when we started going out...
@lovecatxx Everyone has personal preferences and specific requirements that must be met that are non negotiable when it comes to what someone wants or needs in a partner.
Okay so you were able to see beyond the fact that your partner had none of those things when you got together and that's fine but that's you.
Some people aren't interested in someone that can't support themselves or that lives with their parents and doesn't have their own transportation.
A guy that can't support himself won't support a woman if he needs to and won't support kids.
It's easier to build a future with someone that's going somewhere in life and has some sort of ambition and a passion for something.
He might not need to have a car ,,Teresa ,just be happy if hes got a big TOGGER
EXACTLY. go get your life on track before you go looking for a woman. this screams MOOCHER
The comment of a dog-driver being easier to identify because they always hung their head out the window absolutely cracked me up!
Same I just lost it laughing 🤣
Same 🤣
@@squirrelyplop He is, half his insta is a cute dog.
Me, too! I yelped with laughter!
Me too 🤣
Beware of the love bomber. Narcissists are poisonous.
I think this is more of a “burn the coal, pay the toll” and less of a “love bombing” situation
@@fullmetal_neet2288 in the beginning he love bombed her. Or that’s what was described.
@@fullmetal_neet2288 for sure
@@rhondasisco-cleveland2665 I didn't hear anything like that 😂
She underestimated her opponent because she never saw him as an opponent. Exactly how narcissists gain control and destroy their victims. Excellent words of warning, Dr Grande!
Well it kinda seems like she did see him as an opponent, because she wanted to divorce him!
Those words hit hard and appreciate that you pointed them out!
Yes! LOVe that! ❤ "He'll never ACT-ually hurt me, because he loves me in his own bizarre way, and I'm special."
My tactic is to look at someone like a complete sociopath with Zer0 emotion and say, "So, we need to get your affairs in order before he murders you. That way, that part is taken care of because you cannot do that stuff once you're dead." And then wait and watch their delusional brain unravel 🧠 🤯 Whilst they may never speak to you again, at least they might survive.
You know, bad boys are fun
"They won't give me Jackson." Sounds like Xavier's Mom might be the key.
Ha!
This reminds me so much of my first marriage. I’m so grateful that I survived him. The only reason he stopped was because he died of cancer.
I’ve slept much better since then.
I had one of those also ... same fate! God took care of him for me
My ex was abusive. I finally had the strength to leave. But I was suddened that he would move on to abuse another woman. A year later, he died. I wasnt sad, God knew what he was doing. I sleep well knowing he isn’t out there abusing any other woman, ever!!
Is sad thats what it takes to be free of someone sometimes, but its true.
Anyone who is abusive and controlling can be so dangerous. Poor girl, I m sure her mistake was telling him she wanted to end the relationship. With abusive controllers, you have to secretly plan your moves and leave , sometimes with nothing. Better nothing than your life
Sadly, that's true. The longer you remain with a Narcissist the more you are guaranteed to lose. They make it their mission to utterly destroy people who catch on to their abusive patterns. Up to and including murder.
On top of everything it's possible they abused adderall together, which would just amplify her being paranoid and bolster his ability to control her. Either that or he made it up to try to make her look bad.
Yes! This is so important! If you're being abused, you don't owe the abuser an explanation. Leaving is typically the most dangerous part, and it is vital that you put your own safety first. (Because the abuser sure won't.)
Can't sleep ?
Dr Grande to the rescue.
From The Learning Project Elementary?
Leave the moment he touches a hair on your head. MEN DON'T CHANGE!!!!
The only way you can change men is if.they are wearing a diaper.
I keep hearing of all these cases where men get rid of their spouse, and the wife is never found, evidence to prove murder is never found. How does this even happen in this age of incredible DNA analysis , cell phone data, cameras everywhere, etc. Blows my mind.
The DNA analysis thing is on the upswing and cold cases are being solved (although the media may never get wind of it). I know firsthand this is true, because my husband's mother's remains were finally confirmed and identified after 40 yrs. The suspect is still alive, but being able to assemble the case for arrest is the very difficult part since so much time has passed and physical evidence to positively confirm (within a reasonable doubt) is no longer available. The lack of witnesses is also the drawback. Police have interviewed the suspect several times and they believe he's guilty, but you need to be able to prove cause for arrest.
Narcissistic phycopath people. Scary
If there is no DNA it can't be used.
My simple theory is that regardless of electronics, forensics and cameras. There will always be those who can override or develop ways to not be detected. Never underestimate the criminal mind.
Because they're innocent bruhh.
Caught me off guard with how it’s easy to identify dogs driving ‘cause they have their heads out of the window. That was perfect deadpan. I love it!
In cases like this I always wonder what happened to the child and how he will grow up.
He will have a lot of issues from the trauma
Every time Dr. Grande says “I can imagine…”, something amazing is sure to follow 😂
Haha...your dry humor is too hilarious...dogs drive with their heads outside the vehicle...Haha!!
That one got me too! 😂😂
I imagine she fell in love with the idea of being in love as opposed to actually really experiencing an enduring loving relationship.
Sometimes it comes across as if there's something, a selfesteem issue, that make people go for a relationship without much consideration about of what they expect from it. And if they soon realise they also stay longer than they should because they're reluctant to the "failure" of breaking up (while it isn't a failure if someone or both will be better off apart).
@Johanna S. L. Brushane yes it can be a validating experience regardless of where it's going. It can bring confidence to someone's self esteem, identity and sexuality, and can make people feel grateful to their partner for even choosing them. I hope videos like this and SM raising awareness about narcissistic abuse means less people have to learn the hard way
The lengths we go to find "love" from a partner. Myself included. I put all that behind me, and looking back I saw the toxicity and wonder what was wrong with me. I'm now only enjoying the company of the people I love, and myself. And I feel at peace.
Very sad
I did the very same thing. Not a day goes by nowadays where I don't want to kick myself for being so gullible, vulnerable & stupid. Been single about a dozen years now and I'd never have it any other way
My internet is working fabulously tonight. I get to hear and see Dr Grand again. Memories are made of this
LOL!
😂🤣🤣
Could tell just from the guy's picture he's not a good man
"I'm glad the police clarified that the dog was not driving."
thank you for this little bit of light-hearted humor in the middle of something so dreary and dreadful. it was well placed and appreciated :)
If she were my daughter, I'd be seeking my own justice.
I will be waiting on the Lisa Marie video. Omg 54?? So sad 😭😭
🙏💐😭
Far out Ciera even LOOKS like a kid, particularly in the image used for the episode! She looks 12 years old!
If Ciara isn’t making contact with her family and left without her son, that is what stands out to me that Xavier did something to her. If her body is ever found, hopefully the investigation will be opened again and justice will be served.
Won't jeopardy be attached? He was found innocent.
@@jenanne31 We need a segment on, "The perils of charging a suspect with murder without a body" for just this reason.
@@jenanne31 Whoops! My bad; the trial mentioned was about Xavier's crimes toward his ex-wife, not Ciera. So if Ciera's body is found in the future, he could totally be charged. Well, if there's sufficient evidence that he murdered her, that is.
@@jenanne31
If she is found dead, he will be charged with her murder. It’s a different charge so it wouldn’t be double jeopardy.
@@jenanne31 Finding a body would be new evidence, permitting re-opening the case.
EVERYONE should learn about the traits of Narscissist. Like love bombing, moving a relationship to fast, plans to isolate or isolating, emotional and physical violence, controlling, jealousy, ,wanting to change someone. Monitoring their phone.
Dating sites are hotbeds or Narscissist.... it's better to join a club or group to meet like minded people. Or go to events with friends. REALLY important to put the breaks on and take your time, not jump into bed with someone you don't know well. Once you sleep with someone all the boundaries are broken down.
Might not end up in murder but a Narscissist can make your life a living hell, destroy your credit and leave you broke and emotionally scarred.
The only problem is that everyone thinks their ex was a narcissist. And narcissists don't think that they are themselves.
@@theSemiChrist that is absolutely true! Genuinely good hearted, kind and caring people especially need to know because they're the perfect Target. I wish this info was available when I was younger. I learned by very hard experience.
@@theSemiChrist So true.
Well said. Narcissists are so prevalent in society, esp on dating sites (regardless of that statement being upsetting for some who refuse to believe it...generally those are themselves). Take things slow, watch the red 🎌, don't worry if you get married or are in a relationship. Once in, hard to get out or unentangled for some, esp if vulnerable.
To late for me, my two children are destroyed, my family is destroyed (even extended) credit ruined and I'm broke! In more ways than one. Be careful who you let in your life. Let alone marry!
Your point about her not being able to "see" him is correct. That's why there's hesitation about actually leaving. She's not sure what he'll do next. And his wants have been so dominant
Videos about narcissists are helping people see the patterns.
Whenever the abused person indicates that they are leaving their abuser, it often ends in death if not handled properly. Unfortunately Ciera has paid a very high price for trying to leave.
That’s why you keep it quiet.
It's called the "coal toll".
That db is 100% guilty. How he was not found guilty is beyond me.
The thing that so many criminals know is if there isnt evidence, then they are most likely going to get a not guilty verdict even though the jury might suspect they were involved.
I can relate. Without a body it's difficult to prove beyond a reasonable doubt.
He was not charged with murdering her .
He was never charged thus he was never found guilty or not guilty... Also, What's a db? Dirt bag? If so why not just say that lol.
@@invincible9462 douc** bag.
I'm finally early for a Grande video. This is proof I should be in bed speculating about what may happen tomorrow.
Me too 😁
It should be a standard before dating: No job, no assets = no go. Likewise chicks shouldn't pick up what amounts to essentially bums.. Usually people who keep jobs and have things typically has a little more responsibility thus are more likely to be decent dating potentials. Leave the bums with nothing to lose alone.
All kinds of people say they are never having kids or get married, and then get married or have kids.
If you send your mother a picture of yourself with visible injuries and tell her to keep the picture "just in case", you know all you need to know about your partner. Get out of there! If you know you need to buy a burner phone because that is the only way you can talk to your family, instead of buying that phone you would be better served to buy a one-way ticket away from that partner instead. When I got married it was the second marriage for my husband and he had two nearly grown sons. I don't remember how the conversation came up but I told him, "If I am ever stupid enough to tell you that you cannot see your sons, please do yourself a favor and kick me to the curb and maintain a relationship with your sons!" I can't even imagine trying to prevent someone from seeing his or her own family whether that family be children or parents or siblings. Nope. I ain't doin' it!
~ burner phone ~. Enough said. Something was indeed fishy in her life with her husband.
I find the timing of Ciera's pregnancy suspicious, given that it happened right around the time Ciera was thinking of dumping Xavier. Yes, some people who say they never want children in their youth may change their mind, but not just when they're uncertain about maintaining their current relationship with someone. Birth control sabotage is a thing.
She would obviously never leave her son behind. How awful she knew he would eventually do something to her.
Her family needs to catch him slippin' and apply some street justice.
Poor vulnerable children and animals who never have a say in what becomes of them.
Perhaps the most interesting part of this story was the mismatch described of the couple. I can relate.
My wife and I met in high school. She was the daughter of a high ranking Naval officer that had traveled the world and they lived in a beautiful home. I was the son of a laborer who worked at a concrete plant. I grew up in the low income blue-collar part of town. I think everyone wondered what she saw in me, and were shocked when she got pregnant when we were seniors in high school. When we got married and I took a job as a mechanic while still in high school, people tried talking my wife into having the marriage annulled and putting the baby up for adoption.
40 years later we are still married and raised a beautiful daughter and have two grandchildren. My wife's siblings have been in failed marriages after marrying people similar to them.
I don't think my wife's family ever really accepted me despite me holding a steady job and taking care of my family. Their loss. That old saying "opposites attract" is true.
what does this have to do with anything?
How is this even remotely relevant
This isn’t about opposites attract or do not attract, it’s about the core personality and character of an individual and their true intentions. Your wife was serious about you that’s why she stack by you, if she had doubted and her intentions were different the outcome would be much different. Both of you were lucky that you met each other with good intentions.
People murder family members because they are abusive psychopathic individuals not because their interests are the same or different, that has no relevance at all, it’s all about intention and empathy or a lack thereof.
Well, I love your story, Randy ❤
A case where opposites worked out!
Thanks for telling it.
you are an exception, not a rule or benchmark. like an albino elk. it happens but its not normal .
I feel so sorry for this young woman, their son, and her family.
I wouldn't be surprised if Ciera's pregnancy was a result of Xavier tampering with her birth control. It happened at just the right time to keep her from leaving him.
I have a friend whose narcissistic husband tried to trap her by tampering with the condom and she got pregnant. He did that within the first 2 months of the relationship. She ended up marrying him and they fight like cats and dogs. No peace in the relationship.
The time you give to make these videos is incredible. Sad circumstance for the child in this family. This is who really pays the price is these types of relationships. Two families are completely destroyed. This won't have a good ending.
Yes! Whether she's dead or alive this is going to affect him forever, not to mention all of the other behaviors he's been witnessing his whole life.
Sad for all 3children to have him as a father.
The internet connection that day was incredible 🤣
As a survivor of a man like Xavier in my opinion he is guilty, guilty, guilty.
Lol, he looks so safe too. Just the type of man you see dating anglos on every single TV advert
"Wow what nice zoom wedding. I remember the internet connection was incredible that day."
I LOVE that dead-pan humor and him trying not to chuckle 😂😂
She was last wearing a tank top and shorts, not in Indiana, but in Georgia, where he did something to her. I cannot believe he was found not-guilty.
He wasn’t found not guilty in harming her- it was the charges having to do with his ex-wife
You may want to re-watch the video again.
LOL…OK…The “dogs only drive with their heads out the window” was a good one!
So sad. very sad.
When I was younger, my brother told me to never trust a man who is divorced because there is a reason for something like that.
Dumb advice. Maybe the wife cheated. The wife wanted a divorce because she’s not in love anymore. Maybe they’re not compatible but both good people which was me and my ex husband. I would tell women he’s a good person because he is.
Don’t take advice from that person ever. Now a better advice is if you found the reason of the divorce from the exwife; abusive, jealousy, bad behaviors then yes don’t date that person.
The zoom wedding joke! 🤣
The driving dog one was also.
I can’t see the reasoning behind a zoom wedding
We appreciate Dr Grande's consistency and dedication. God bless him and everyone here.
God bless you as well 🙏❤
It is most likely that Ciera never returned to Carmel Indiana alive and disappeared in Johns Creek Georgia the night of 2-24. Cieras plan to return to her parents house with her baby the next morning was the proverbial straw that probably caused her husband to snap. Xaviers mother must know something more than shes willing to share because in todays world, people dont just disappear. Xavier then returns to Indiana without Ciera because you cant make a 500 mile trip without being caught on some kind of video. It’s obvious to me that Ciera attempted to leave with her son to return to her parents house, and Xavier was not going to allow this. If investigators searched his mothers house and found nothing in the way of blood evidence, then most likely she was strangled. This means her body is somewhere between his mother’s house in Johns Creek and Carmel Indiana. It is not believable that she made it back to Indiana when she had no intention of doing so. Police must find that missing piece of evidence that Ciera never left Xaviers mothers house without her son. She did not willingly get into the car for a trip back to Indiana, when she planned to return to her parents house the next morning. This means most likely her body is somewhere near the Johns Creek area where her husband left her, and then he drove on to Carmel Indiana. Since she spent a lot of time near the river, people assume her body was disposed in the river, but I honestly believe the answers are with his mother. She saw or heard something the night of the 24th or the morning of the 25th and she holds the key to this investigation. After Xavier disposed of Ciera’s body, he returned to Carmel only to then contact police to say she went missing. I guess it’s possible that he transported her corpse perhaps in the trunk of the car, somewhere along the route to Carmel Indiana but since the lead investigators are in Indiana, this will be a very difficult case to break open. I think he would want to distance himself from where he left her body, so I would think she is somewhere closer to Georgia. I pray his mother cooperates with the police because most likely she holds some important information about this case.
He needed someone to babysit that child while he was digging a grave. I bet he buried her in the soft ground near the river.
He left the child with his mother and took the body, probably in his moms car, to the river and dug a deep grave and buried her too deep for dogs to find her.
He needed some time to pass for her to release gasses and decompose so dogs would not find her. So he waited as long as possible to report her missing.
She’s in Georgia, six feet under, and his mom was probably there when he strangled her. She knows everything.
But she won’t talk.
When he said her phone spent time near the river, he probably like others thought it was left there as a red herring so the authorities would waste time searching the river. He got rid of the body somewhere on the trip. In Louisiana, we have an isolated interchange Exit 127 on I-10 Whiskey Bay where criminals commonly dump bodies into the deep navigation canal which moves them along the bottom into the Gulf of Mexico or the alligators eat them. It is beleived the police have hid cameras at this site.
@@lewisdoherty7621 I thought the dogs didn't detect her scent in their vehicle? So, if her deceased body was in their vehicle [at some point] on his trip back, then the dogs should have been able to detect that, yes?
“The internet connection that day was incredible” I’m cracking up!! ;)
Oopsie wedding, oopsie baby. Yikes. Sad story.
I achieved the same goal she had. I’m single for life, no kids, and loving it.
wow really shocked this ended badly. when i saw the picture of him I figured it would work out great
"The internet connection that day was incredible" 😆Im hoping Dr. Grande will come to Princeton, NJ for a meet and greet one day! ☺️
This story is so sad this scenario happens all the time. But when you're in deep you don't see it
Oh em gee. Dr Grande you have the best humor!
The dog driving killed me. You're truly hilarious. Love your sense of humor
I thought that was beautiful, I love his humor too😊
Lolol
Thank you for your witty comments. It's easier to listen to with a little humour.
The major draw of a wedding is to have family members who everybody knows do not like each other forced into a situation where they must be together and wait to see how long they can keep their minds together.
😮😂
I like how you break down an analyze every component of a story. Easier for me to grasp. I would never have given much thought to a car being operated by a dog . Now i do. I will be on the look out. Hopefully this case will remain open. There are far to many unsolved cases of missing women.
Thanks for the upload, Dr. Grande. Unfortunately, my mom passed away this afternoon from her Covid complications. I wasn't impressed with the front desk lady who didn't seem to know what an essential visitors list was. I ALMOST missed it because of her!
I'm so sorry.
Deepest sympathy ❤️🩹
So sorry for your loss!
Deepest sympathies for your loss. Prayers for you and your family. ❤️
What people will put up with in order to feel “loved”. The crux of life. Sad, really sad.
My cat loves me.I’m happy
It’s a little more complex than that
A neighbor planned her escape from her husband for *years bc she was convinced he'd kill her. They're in their 60s, together since high school bc she got pregnant.
She knew she had to give herself as much lead-time as possible. They both rarely left the house. It was really tricky. She had it all planned, a bag ready, each step of the way to go & where he'd be least likely to look for her on her way out of state.
Long story short, she got really sick, & her granddaughter flew her to CA for surgery. Her granddaughter took care of all the divorce paperwork. She let him know by text to expect it in the mail. And my neighbor hasn't had any communication with him since, which was last May. Carefully make your plan, but make it.
From her or him. From him sounds like he went missing not her.
She planned to get really sick? Or that was serendipitous?
@@olilumgbalu5653 totally unexpected heart issues. Had to fly out to a hospital in CA for an operation. Knew when she left her home here in Utah it was now or never. She & her granddaughter took, discreetly, in suitcases what she wanted to keep, which wasn't much. She had had a "Go Bag" for years anyway, if she ever needed to leave fast. She has bad MS, otherwise I think she'd have left him a long time ago.
I want to add: you'd never, ever think her husband was abusive. On the surface, he comes across well. Good conversationalist, seems caring, all that. In fact, I'd asked her if he had a brother, you know, single. I was that impressed. But over the years, I'd hear her drop comments that made me think he might be controlling. She always had to ask him before doing just about anything. Then it all came out one day when I was taking a walk in the neighborhood. I saw them in the middle of the street & something was clearly going down. He looked so steamed, but she was quiet. She'd accidentally let their indoor cat escape. He yelled at her how worthless she was, how she could never do anything right. But it went beyond yelling. I can't describe it. It was some kind of dark viciousness that was so rageful, so intense, so volatile, & she just had her head bowed & said nothing the whole time. I tried to reason with him calmly, & we eventually found the cat. But after that, no pun intended, she let the cat out of the bag. I think I'm a pretty good judge of people, but he had me fooled. I thought they were a happy couple. You just never know what goes on in people's lives until you get an unexpected glimpse I guess.
@@dubaiedge I know what you mean. My ex is like this. Everyone thought he was great: intelligent, great job and very loving and generous with me. But behind closed doors he was very different.
“The internet connection that day was amazing”😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
She had a burner phone for contacting her family without her husband knowing.
Alright...whenever there's a need for such a thing, in whatever way, the red flag can't be overlooked.
I’m not diagnosing anything, only speculating that something clearly does not smell right. How tragic. My deepest sympathies to Ciera’s family. ✨🙏✨
Literally every time someone in a relationship goes missing, they were killed by whoever they were in a relationship with.
The term “literally” is one of those words that is literally overused, as in your comment.
“A dog always drives with its head out the window” 😂😂
So true about dogs being easy to identify, they *always* drive with their head out of the window. My doggo also barks at other drivers when they forget to use their turn signals.
“The internet connection that day was incredible.” 😂😂
What happened to Jackson after her disappearance? I don’t recall anything mentioned regarding the child.
From what I read, Jackson is with Ciera's parents.
@6:15 "I'm glad the police clarified that the dog was not driving". HILARIOUS!
Abusers can twist you up so much you only see them and you are made their slave. I think if the dog was driving there are serious things going on for sure. Dogs will drive you to a grocery store, the Purina plant, the butcher shop--god only knows what goes on in a butcher shop when a dog comes in.
@6:25 DOG DRIVES WITH HEAD OUT THE WINDOW !!! OMG BIG BELLY LAUGH ! BIGGEST LAUGH ALL DAY ! HAHAHAH 😂😂😂😂😂😂 🐩🐩🐩🐩
The internet connection was incredible 😂😂😂😂
Sierra had a consistent habit of living just north of things.
Meeting anyone on Tinder is a nightmare!
I wonder who got custody of the child. With him incarcerated and a person of interest I would hope the maternal grandparents have the child. I do hope her body shows up if she is indeed deceased as I suspect. Condolences to her family. Many years ago I married someone similar and can empathize with how it happened. Once a man tries to isolate you, is physically abusive its time to leave. Leave everything don't try to work it out or let him down. Find a safe way out and once you are away relocate from the area he would expect to find you, unlist ur address, social media and get an excellent security system. So sad.
I was reading up about this case and her parents got custody of the child thankfully.
@@ellis7622 thank God
The Bible tells a true Christian to "Marry ONLY in the Lord."
As a JW I would only marry another JW. I would find out their history through their congregation, and I would only marry them at least after one year of knowing them personally.
As one of JW'S I would never have a sexual relationship with this person before marriage.
That would keep my eyes open and me free to leave if the courtship was not working out...
According to Bible scripture the only freedom after marriage is if the other person has "Committed ADULTERY" so you must choose very carefully and wisely!
@@tamitatangoto5134 not sure if you were replying to me when you commented. I have no idea what a JW is. It's good you ended up ok. My situation was 30 years ago and it was unfortunate....God had nothing to do with it.
@@shimmer8289 I’m pretty sure she means a Jehovah’s Witness but yeah, that was a bizarrely rambling comment out of nowhere.
Sounds like methamphetamines might have also been involved. Adderall is often used on the side to maintain a casual meth habit.
The delivery of your dry sense of humor crack's me up,low key savage!!!
"Wow, what a great day! The internet connection was awesome!"
Thanks for the sincere laugh!
Dr. G would you consider doing a series on healthy relationships? I was in a similar situation as Ciara's and my gut didn't tell me something was wrong til about a month in. He guilt tripped me hard for not driving out of state to meet him for the first time (for the first month we first talked thru fb as friends only). He was super nice, smart, funny, witty 80-85% of the time, but if he didn't get his way about a meet up or if I disagreed about something he would get really short and nasty. For example he did not like me participating in a psychology group, or one of my female friends in particular and would talk trash about both even though he really didn't have any direct experience with either. Finally after seeing loads of manipulation tactics and more negative things coming down the road, I finally determined that it was me who was too inexperienced to maintain any kind of friendship or relationship. I blamed myself , but now in retrospect he was very sophisticated at manipulation. I feel like this story of Ciera could maybe be a lot of women's situations and they don't even know it cause they are blinded by the attention and fake love. I was lucky to have enough background of psychology to label the tactics he was using but even then it was extremely difficult to shake him off me. Btw this guy I was talking to was a realtor in NYC so he knew how to slick talk pretty much anyone.
Scary!
Pregnant women have a high incidence of partner violence. It's a dangerous time in a womans life if the partner is abusive. Very sad. Think Lacy Peterson and Shanann Watts.
The BEST and most useful comment! I wish I knew better. My gut did give me warning but I'd been gaslighted.from an abusive family since a child so I didn't trust my intuition. I grew up treated like a poor relative in a Victorian novel. I ended up 60, broke and sick but healing.
You probably studied psychology because you had family issues and wanted to understand them. You have to have healthy boundaries to recognise someone who is taking advantage or guilt-tripping you. I would suggest that you decide what kind of person you need in advance (or decide what you don't want) and only date those people who fall within those parameters rather than just 'angle' for any old fish!
@@ceilconstante640 "gaslighted as a child so didn't trust my intuition" I'm sorry 😔 reading this makes me so sad. I hope you're healing what's been hurt by others 💓 I feel like if anything we are fortunate to live in an era where information on healing trauma is so abundant and just getting better. I know the awareness wasn't there just a few decades ago. I hope more peace and healing comes to you in 2023 💓
An adderall dependency is very unlikely to cause someone to walk to a store, in the cold, without carrying anything, especially because she probably wouldnt have the energy to do so.
My sympathy wanes when you allow your child to get caught-up in the drama.
Hi Dr Grande, you. Know what I been thinking, I bet your wife is always thinking that you are anilizing her. I can’t spell, I know I would think you were doing that to me, I mean that in a nice way. I wish you could analyze me. I sure need it. I lost my husband, my mother and 2 children in 1 year, since then I have lost another child plus a grandaughter. I have 1 child left who’s been a drug user for over 20 years. I survive because I have JESUS CHRIST IN MY HEART AND I LIVE FOR HIM. I JUST RETIRED FROM CLEANING HOUSES FOR OVER 20 years. Others have told me I need to write a book, ha ha. I’m not very smart. I love your channel and I have learned so much from watching you. Please never quit. I get so much help from you. Best regards.
Sorry for your losses!😟🙏
If you ever do decide to write a book I know a lot of people would love to hear your story and God would love the testimony ☺️💖🙏
I had total Deja Vu listening to this story. I was Ciera back in 1992. I was so lucky to have escaped alive. I almost didn't. Too many of us don't.
Aside the narcissistic behavior of X and manipulation, there was also drugs involved. Not necessarily her but him and possibly pressuring her too? I don’t know how he convinced her cartel was following them around. I would of made my way out then. This case is new to me and it breaks my heart!!! She was smart, and yet she fell for this psychopath 💔
Absolutely. When someone starts a relationship and their personality suddenly transforms, in concert with weight loss and other symptoms, it's drugs unless proven otherwise (in this case, almost certainly stimulants, e.g. methamphetamine).
Good morning Dr Grande, analysis. This is a sad case. I believe parents don't raise their daughters to be sofiscated. Parents think their a keeping their daughters innocent. This is a very wrong way to raise daughters. Daughters need to know about the different type of men( and women) which are out there in the world.
Enjoy your videos. Always learn something.
Thanks for your calm and melodious narration, spiced as always with just the right amount of humor or irony: Ciera became quickly in over her head with a man having a history of bad behaviour and failed relationships. Men such as Xavier do not relinquish their 'ownership' of a woman easily. Xavier was still hassling his former wife as if he still claimed some possession of her. . Such relationships as he had with naive Ciera can come to a sticky end when the woman decides to leave, either in a fit of panic or in a thought out plan. I'll be so bold as to state that Xavier did away with this poor girl, yet to experience life.
Bad choices bad life.
Are you bad?
I'm bad I'm bad you know it.
That dog driving with its head out the window was hilarious 🤣
✨ Good evening Dr.Grand🧩e.
He murdered her didn’t he?
Through her body in the river.
I just don’t know about who is investigating these things anymore.
Maybe a detective will open the case up again and figure this out somehow.🤔
She was hopeful and that is what is the saddest thing of all.💔
"because dogs always drive with their head out the window" - I love your sneaky humour so much
Anyone with a 'script' for Adderall knows that you cannot buy it without a state issued ID, especially at a drug store where the staff doesn't know you. it's not like buying alcohol or tobacco, even, in that you have to sign a log, each and every time you buy it.
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@@sbrooke210 elaborate on how that isn't true
I have to call every month for my rx to be sent to my pharmacy and it's a pita. They have too many rules now. They always ask for ID and it has to be exactly 30 days or they won't fill it either.
@@countessnicoleb5060 It's been a long time since I had a 'script' for it and forgot about the month-to-month part of it.
Ah, the fallacy of the Hollywood and romance novel love story where we're told that if he truly loves you he will shower you with love, gifts, attention. He will only want to be with you, to spend every moment of his day with you. The reality is love bombing seems so romantic and everything you could want. But watch out, at some stage all that will become overwhelming and smothering. So very sad.
A burner phone.. If there ever was a red flag... ever.
I love the way he says "Today's Question is..." Like he might be being sent the questions. He might, of course. But he might just be choosing what he wants to talk about. It's a clever linguistic trick. As if there's a particular demand for this to be looked into.
Ppl send in cases they want him to cover. I’m sure questions are included.
@@telena5042 send in to where? youtubers usually don't give out their address, especially if their site deals with psychology and murder. I agree he chooses his own cases to report but that's ok. They are interesting. He also stays current with people and cases that are current.
@Eileen Eamon Grande has a patreon account. the people who give him money can send him comments/emails/messages requesting certain topics or cases. no one gives out physical addresses anymore, but people can still message him virtually....
@@blueberrywraith Well, that's nice. I guess they could. Maybe it's 50/50.
I think that the letter R and T looked fabulous in those dresses and they were so helpful.😂
Dr Grande I love your sense of humor. Dog's driving is indeed a "thing".
that dog driving joke got me lol