Adopted Son Commits Unthinkable Betrayal | Natalie Belmonte Case Analysis

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  • @Earthdogbonzo3
    @Earthdogbonzo3 Рік тому +48

    Natalie adopts her deceased brother's ten-year-old son in 2000.
    Despite being a biological relation and a twenty-two age difference, Gerald demands that the relationship between him and his adoptive mother ( biological aunt /father's sister ) be something "more."
    Inspite of Gerald's demonstrative criminal behavior, Natalie still grants him access to her inner sanctum. In that "granted access," she is beaten, raped and murdered. Shortly afterward, Gerald disposes his and her bloody clothes in a local dumpster, and her lifeless corpse in the woods three miles away!?
    If ever there was a case that called out for a sentence of death, this is it!
    But no. Something has gone very wrong with our criminal justice system long ago.

  • @messrsandersonco5985
    @messrsandersonco5985 Рік тому +179

    One lesson from this is: don't bail someone you sent to jail! They're already trouble.

    • @darkcrystalmagik3369
      @darkcrystalmagik3369 Рік тому +5

      I'd say 90% of the time that's a super common sense, hard & fast rule- but...
      Especially since it's poor/ low income ppl that get arrested most often, & are those most likely to have to post bail when they do..
      there's some possible exceptions.
      For instance, an abusive partner may need to the cops called on them if they're outta control, & it's better they stay in jail since they're dangerous-
      But sadly,
      Many women (& sometimes men too) are forced to stay physically abusive relationships to keep themselves from homelessness- especially if they're experiencing health issues/ disabled, battling addiction, or have kids w/ health issues, etc.
      Someone (again, most often women but men too) may need to call 911 in a scary moment to protect themselves, but also be unable to leave. Not everyone has family or good friends they can count on to help in such a situation- if they did , they probably wouldn't stay with an abuser to begin with. They may decide to end the relationship after that,&make a plan to leave, but most ppl in the U.S. have only a few hundred $$ to spare; realistically many need time to save, or contact a DV shelter for assistance. They'd likely plan not to leave right away, afraid their abuser will come for them when once theyre out of jail- maybe if they spnt bail their partner out, a friend or rheir parent will, then they're angry & blame their victim. The victim may know that when an abused partner tries to leave the relationship is when they're most likely to be killed by their abuser. It may be safer to wait for a bed to become available at a DV shelter- which could be weeks or months. Or to save $ to be able to get farther away when they do leave.
      Most abusers will call their victims to bail them out- & the victim knows what may happen if the abuser is left in jail, getting more angry...
      or they may not be able to make rent w/ out the partner's help, & so needs to make sure the abuser gets out to be able to stay employed- especially if she will be filing for child support/ alimony. Lots of factors that could make getting someone you had to call the police on to save your self from harm or even possible death, but 80% of women forced to live on the street when homeless get raped. Stats for co-ed shelters are almost as bad. Often ppl that are especially vulnerable- either economically, emotionally, mentally, physically, etc, like women. or men in marginalized groups, can have no good options & figure it's safer to deal- at least temporarily- or until they can escape safely- w/ the Devil they know.
      A

  • @Kat-tr2ig
    @Kat-tr2ig Рік тому +176

    There's a saying in Spanish that goes "Raise crows, and they'll peck your eyes out". This case is a perfect example of that.

    • @pamcornelius9122
      @pamcornelius9122 Рік тому +10

      Very true.

    • @eucliduschaumeau8813
      @eucliduschaumeau8813 Рік тому +1

      Adopt a chimp and get all your skin torn off by an ape. (Travis the chimp story).

    • @The_Red_Pill__
      @The_Red_Pill__ Рік тому +21

      Except they won’t-they’ll actually bring you gifts if you’re kind to them. Perhaps they would eat you if you died and they were hungry. Although I get your point, crows are incredibly intelligent animals who can form bonds with humans who care for them. -just saying.

    • @zaraloveskoda
      @zaraloveskoda Рік тому +22

      @@The_Red_Pill__ Thanks Dr Doolittle, it’s just a saying, relax

    • @orionxtc1119
      @orionxtc1119 Рік тому +2

      The road to hell is paved with good intentions...cat-orange-whistling

  • @ComplicatedCupcake
    @ComplicatedCupcake Рік тому +300

    What a horrible nephew. So disgusting of a person. I am glad they gave him a life sentence. I hope they never let him out what a creep to kill his aunt and adoptive mother. This story is really disturbing.

    • @astrinymris9953
      @astrinymris9953 Рік тому +24

      It's always horrible and disgusting when entitled men rape and kill women they have unrequited crushes on. The only thing that makes this case particularly heinous is the extra violation of trust. Natalie would have been cautious of a co-worker or neighbor who'd expressed such sentiments, and she definitely wouldn't have allowed them into her home, and then gone to sleep with them there. And she certainly wouldn't have dropped the criminal charges for theft for them.

    • @420noscopesonlylol6
      @420noscopesonlylol6 Рік тому

      @@astrinymris9953 Women kill men too lmao. He is a piece of garbage not an "entitled man" he is no man.

    • @onlyeyeno
      @onlyeyeno Рік тому +18

      @@InLieuTube
      The perpetrator is the son of the victims brother, and so the victim was the sister of murderers (deceased)father.
      And hence the victim was NOT the perpetrator's cousin, she was his aunt on his fathers side (AND his adoptive mother).

    • @hopeausbyn1734
      @hopeausbyn1734 Рік тому +8

      Incest is so common that I believe it should be more completely addressed in public service announcement s (commercials), as well school starting no later than kindergarten. Twenty-five of some kindergarten classroom have children who have already been sexually assaulted

    • @hopeausbyn1734
      @hopeausbyn1734 Рік тому +4

      Twenty-five percent of children in some kindergarten classroom have already been sexually assaulted, usually by family, so some people think sex with a family member is not taboo.

  • @stephanieparker1250
    @stephanieparker1250 10 місяців тому +9

    Good on the neighbor for installing cameras!! They had a gut feeling about that POS!

  • @mackwrx
    @mackwrx Рік тому +221

    It's good to be nice, kind and helpful. But sometimes it can cost you your life! May she rest in peace.

    • @malaika4960
      @malaika4960 Рік тому +12

      so true. Too many people take advantage of people with empathy

    • @orionxtc1119
      @orionxtc1119 Рік тому +4

      The road to hell is paved with good intentions...

    • @marie.s9995
      @marie.s9995 Рік тому +1

      This is why I'm NOT gonna do foster care. Im sure its an altruistic act, but it's NOT for me.

  • @sidviscus
    @sidviscus Рік тому +339

    The blind faith that a criminally bad person can change is often a fatal one.

    • @cejannuzi
      @cejannuzi Рік тому +14

      That's a repeating pattern here too.

    • @Naptosis
      @Naptosis Рік тому +5

      That's a repeating pattern here too.

    • @megamillionfreak
      @megamillionfreak Рік тому +12

      Pathological altruism.

    • @MM-qg5xh
      @MM-qg5xh Рік тому +25

      Psychopaths do not change

    • @messrsandersonco5985
      @messrsandersonco5985 Рік тому +5

      It can be done with drugs with pedophiles (less than 5% recidivism). However, probably not certain psychopaths.

  • @soude85
    @soude85 Рік тому +236

    The story his defense attorney tried to sell is so ridiculous that it caused me second hand embarrassment.
    Poor Natalie and her family!

    • @greendragon4058
      @greendragon4058 Рік тому +1

      Well I guess he had to spin some sort of story what a horrible crime

    • @yomama2376
      @yomama2376 Рік тому +9

      In these situations, i think the lawyers use copy and paste stories that they know juries wont believe. I would hope its their way of still trying to get him convicted while also doing their job.

    • @gordongekko2781
      @gordongekko2781 Рік тому +7

      Every defendant has the right to plead 'not guilty' regardless of the evidence against them. In cases where the evidence is overwhelming but the defendant still refuses to accept responsibility, then their lawyers tend to just make up preposterous explanations, because there really isn't anything else they can do.

    • @moobrien1747
      @moobrien1747 Рік тому +1

      @@gordongekko2781 Yeah.
      They Got Nothing

    • @SueSA2009
      @SueSA2009 Рік тому +2

      His defense team, needed a mental health evaluation.
      How insulting to the court and the victim. Poor Natalie

  • @josron6088
    @josron6088 Рік тому +74

    No good deed goes unpunished. I grew up around criminal minded people. Best to get out early. They will bring you down with them.

    • @SpukiTheLoveKitten75
      @SpukiTheLoveKitten75 Рік тому +6

      I created a better saying than what you started with...
      "Tis wise to do good deeds but be careful of who whom you do them for."
      And the perp was such an ungrateful pile of manure.

    • @josron6088
      @josron6088 Рік тому +1

      @@SpukiTheLoveKitten75 all 👍..

    • @SpukiTheLoveKitten75
      @SpukiTheLoveKitten75 Рік тому +2

      @@josron6088 😁Yup! Thanks! Time to make this new saying a thing!

  • @Catmom2004
    @Catmom2004 Рік тому +53

    The intruder realized he "wasn't dressed for murder" so took Jerry's clothes. haha

  • @markthomas6703
    @markthomas6703 Рік тому +94

    I've had a troubled life that I've always fought to overcome. I've improved myself through hard work and self reflection. Through the years I've had a number of friends who also came from troubled families. My biggest mistake has been that I've believed that these people also truly want to get better. I put up with a lot of disappointment and lack of concern from these friends. I've found that my fear of loneliness blinded me to their persistent negativity and lack of concern for me.
    The hardest lesson is that everyone, even the worst people, have some good in them. That still doesn't make them good people or good to be around.

    • @Naptosis
      @Naptosis Рік тому +3

      You put that much better than Kanye did.

    • @eucliduschaumeau8813
      @eucliduschaumeau8813 Рік тому

      Yeah, we call them "frenemies", because some people will pose as, or act like friends, but would stab you in the back without any remorse. Psychopaths always take advantage of people's good nature. They see kindness as weakness and will take advantage of a good person and become parasites, or worse.

    • @LaVidaLocaHomie
      @LaVidaLocaHomie Рік тому +8

      A hurricane has some good in it, doesn't mean I want to be around one and experience the good part.

    • @sharonw2008
      @sharonw2008 Рік тому +3

      Absolutely 100% xx

    • @ElleSeven-l3q
      @ElleSeven-l3q Рік тому +1

      🙌🏾

  • @drdr76
    @drdr76 Рік тому +138

    It's cases like this that really do deserve the death penalty.

    • @BL-hw4mn
      @BL-hw4mn Рік тому +10

      I don’t support the death penalty, not because I don’t believe certain people (like Jerry) deserve it, but because I don’t believe the state should have that much power. It’s that belief I cling to when I see cases like this.

    • @mrazik131
      @mrazik131 Рік тому

      @@BL-hw4mn so you should be happy to pay the taxes that support bad ppl like this ,MF.

    • @BL-hw4mn
      @BL-hw4mn Рік тому +5

      @@mrazik131 Executions actually cost more than keeping them in jail for the rest of their natural lives

    • @paul9156c
      @paul9156c Рік тому +2

      I often wonder why Christians who believe no matter the sin, that Christ will forgive the sinner if the sinner excepts Christ as their Savior. They also believe in the death penalty. Why would they want to send a murderer to Heaven sooner than absolutely necessary? I say let them rot in prison, and keep them healthy to think about what they have done.
      Life is the punishment, that's why babies always cry when born.

    • @TylrVncnt
      @TylrVncnt Рік тому +3

      @@BL-hw4mn I’m with you there, too much power and also it’s not a secret that there have been many wrongful convictions as well, including death row and even ppl that have been executed.
      Not having the death penalty isn’t for Jerry in this case (while he is certain deserving…) but for those who I just mentioned especially

  • @RedRobin1212
    @RedRobin1212 Рік тому +77

    when I was young I naively believed that the intentions and actions you put into the world would automatically be understood and reciprocal but now I'm middle aged and cynical I realise that is just not true. I've got two wonderful daughters and I trust them with my whole heart but that's it, and I never assume the people around them are to be trusted either. I'm very watchful now and realise kindness can be a path to danger in itself. It's awful to realise that about the world but it is what it is. Poor Natalie RIP.

    • @beachbliss9366
      @beachbliss9366 Рік тому +9

      Agreed! Kindness attracts predators.

    • @beachbliss9366
      @beachbliss9366 Рік тому +4

      @@TheWraith7 So long as you aren’t pathologically attracting people with personality disorders. I refer to Ross Rosenberg who is a well known Psychotherapist. He wrote the Human Magnet Syndrome, that explains the dynamics between the co-dependent vs narcissist. The therapy he recommends is based upon training the co-dependent, to self-focus their kindness as a way of disengaging from repetition compulsion, where there is a tendency to attract predatory personalities. Unfortunately narcopaths choose easy targets and victims being kind, is attractive to their predatory nature.

    • @rogerm3708
      @rogerm3708 Рік тому +5

      Criminals have a strong attraction to trusting individuals. They have a need to take from them what they themselves don't have, innocence

    • @SpukiTheLoveKitten75
      @SpukiTheLoveKitten75 Рік тому +1

      "Tis wise to do good deeds but be careful of who whom you do them for." That's what I say. It's still good to be kind and altruistic but just be careful. It's not either / or.

    • @SpukiTheLoveKitten75
      @SpukiTheLoveKitten75 Рік тому +2

      @@TheWraith7 Exactly. We should never let stuff like this harden us and make us selfish jerks. The world needs kindness, charity and altruism and most people are generally okay to really good. The rub is to BE CAREFUL!

  • @michaelarojas
    @michaelarojas Рік тому +171

    Never heard of this case but it's terribly sad 😔

  • @brianwhite8593
    @brianwhite8593 Рік тому +3

    Even with the warning’s,how could she possibly think that would happen,it’s unthinkable!

  • @icturner23
    @icturner23 Рік тому +147

    “You are the best son a mother could have.” I wonder what her non-rapist non-murderer son thought about that!

    • @ss7581
      @ss7581 Рік тому +22

      This is a top comment.

    • @chrissearer1896
      @chrissearer1896 Рік тому

      She didn’t care if she sent it to HIM… smh Denial. Must be awful for true Son. ❤ Jerry should have gotten Death Penalty!

    • @markcortez5685
      @markcortez5685 Рік тому +9

      He thought they were just empty words .people write empty words on cards and letter and text email all the time .

    • @edwardhlavka5843
      @edwardhlavka5843 Рік тому

      He thought it meant, I want you to rape and murder me.

    • @hardworkingslacker7233
      @hardworkingslacker7233 Рік тому +7

      "She must have very low standards"

  • @Linda72.
    @Linda72. Рік тому +186

    Natalie was a kind hearted beautiful woman, so sorry this horrific crime was committed against her. How do these defence attorneys have no problem victim blaming? I'll never understand this. Thanks Dr Grande Happy New year to you and your family ❣️

    • @SwitchTF2
      @SwitchTF2 Рік тому +6

      It’s a job, they aren’t doing it for their own entertainment. Would it be better to present no defence and screw over the client?

    • @Linda72.
      @Linda72. Рік тому +11

      @@SwitchTF2 I know that but as I said it's the victim blaming I have a problem with.. I'd rather be a prosecutor any day or even better not do law altogether

    • @angelinparadise7282
      @angelinparadise7282 Рік тому +7

      @@Linda72. I see what you mean. There must be ways of doing your job as a defense attorney without beeing a scambag yourself. However, I didnt thought they were victim blaming by suggesting she had consensual sex with Jerry, its more a narrative battle imo. I've seen real victim blaming cases, I just don't think that was the case necessarily.

    • @elmtree33
      @elmtree33 Рік тому

      Many defense attorneys are personality disordered themselves.

    • @alyssaheller7860
      @alyssaheller7860 Рік тому +2

      @@Linda72. oh, believe me theres ethical issues with being a prosecutor. The uncomfortable truth is, the world would be a very scary place without DEFENSE ATTORNEYS. Prosecutors, cops, etc they dont actually do what they do for the reasons you think. And prosecutors dont exist in this moral shield like people want to believe. Défense lawyers are not actually trying to get guilty people off. They protect people, all people, from having their rights violated. Prosecutors and juries, courts, convict innocent people everyday, all the time on good/strong evidence AND on bad/weak evidence. Our legal system was created to protect the accused because the true tyranny is a legal system where an accused person cant actually defend themselves. Our system is not perfect but it is the fairest system when compared to every other legal system. It is the ONLY legal system that recognizes the importance of doing everything to protect innocent people from being convicted. When ben Franklin said "its better 12 guilty men go free then one innocent person be hanged ", that is literally the founding principle of the American legal system. Legal justice does not mean what people think it does. And the rules are as they are to ensure EVERYONE can defend and explain themselves. This system has these rules, and its unique. No other legal system is innocent until proven guilty, the burden is on the prosecution to prove guilt. Every other system à defendant must prove innocence without the power, money, resources as the government. Prosecutors dont actually pursue justice for victims and their families. Every crime is considered a crime against society as a whole. Theres so much more to this but I wont keep going. Ill end with that its supposed to be difficult to convict people criminally. But its not that difficult in this country because of feelings like yours. Actual guilt and legal guilt are NOT the same thing. And lawyers arz taught this in law school. Its why lawyers always get disillusioned with the law after law school or after a couple years of practice. Prosecutors play up the gaurdians and fighters for justice because it serves them. But both sides actually really do that. The reason most lawyers can defend anyone accused of the worst crimes? Because they arent trying to get them off. They make sure that a persons right are not violated, that prosecutors and cops (the government by the way) follows the rules and prosecute people the right way. That if a person is convicted its beyond a reasonable doubt. Its very serious on both sides, but never underestimate how much is acting and à show and lawyers trying to charm and persuade with their intellect and charisma. Juries are not lawyers or educated on the law and atent actually supposed to and are not expected to make decisions based on law (though défense lawyers are forbidden to remind juries about this. To ensure that juries atleast use more reason than emotion but juries are NOT supposed to remove all emotion, just balance it with reason, while judges arent supposed to consider emotion at all). Also, the last thing, people would benefit from putting themselves in the accused persons shoes, as well as the victims. Every individual has just as much à chance at being accused of a crime as they are being a victim of crime. And even if someone is guilty, humans are capable of having compassion for the actor of a bad act, without taking any compassion away from the individual hurt by the act. Its another uncomfortable truth that human nature and psychology are very complex things and limiting anyone as "all bad" or "all good" is a simple thing. And just as every human has amazing potential to do good things, reason dictates that it also has to go the other way, and humans are capable of the worst in humanity and a lot of factors and TIME go into what every one of us is capable of. You know, if you read books by holocaust survivors, you would find that all of them, discovered very dark things about themselves after events beyond their control set up the circumstances that allowed them to discover it. There is a dark side to human nature and it lives in every one of us (im not saying that that doesn't mean there shouldn't be consequences or punishment). Anyway, sorry for the novel. Thanks for hearing me out if you read this far. I'm a law student, thr daughter of a lawyer, and my best friend is a deputy district attorney.

  • @tod3msn
    @tod3msn Рік тому +67

    There are cases of adoptive parents and their young charges struggling to get along. While noble to adopt it can get complex. Sad case.

    • @tutttutt9558
      @tutttutt9558 Рік тому +13

      And the myth that all adoptive parents are saints.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 Рік тому

      Here she was his aunt that adopted him. Even if she was a horrible parent she probably didn't deserve to be assaulted sexually and murdered.

    • @Army4life82
      @Army4life82 Рік тому +8

      It's the same exact way with having your own biological children. It's so many kids & adults killing their parents I can barely keep count. This woman definitely did not deserve what this POS did too her. But you're own flesh and blood & could be the one to take your life not just adopted kids.

    • @sr2291
      @sr2291 Рік тому +2

      @Army Wife It's not the same as raising your own biological children. Adoptees don't know who they are and it can cause a separation disorder.

    • @Army4life82
      @Army4life82 Рік тому

      @@sr2291 my point is that your biological children could murder you just as an adopted childhood. You can't dictate or monitor what is going on inside of their head. Evil is evil biological or not

  • @zyplocs
    @zyplocs Рік тому +217

    I appreciate your daily commitment to providing content. You rock, Doc.

    • @BucketHeadianHagg
      @BucketHeadianHagg Рік тому +5

      I just had to reach out and hug you for that really sweet comment! I love nice people so much! Happy New Year, my friend ❤

  • @rullmourn1142
    @rullmourn1142 Рік тому +26

    These individuals that kill their caregivers enrage me, glad he got a full life sentence. Makes me wonder how his father died.

  • @alfsmom8025
    @alfsmom8025 Рік тому +5

    He already violated her trust when he stole from her. Unfortunately some of us are not taught boundaries. When someone steals from you, you have to make them earn your trust back not just hand it back freely. I mean I honestly think when someone steals from you, they should probably be removed from your life, but I understand why she would have a hard time completely giving up on her nephew. I can't believe how many people in this world still think having boundaries is being too much or being a bad person when they are the natural dynamic of relationships and how we protect ourselves emotionally. And unfortunately in this case physically. No one who steals both valuable and sentimental things from you should have access to your bedroom.

  • @onailinekodrugi
    @onailinekodrugi Рік тому +5

    I simply hate the defence team for saying the sex was consensual, no f***ing way it was. Blaming the victim and portraying women as these super voloptuous beings, it is so offensive to her, it's disgrace. If it was consensual why would he killed her? Some lawyers would do anything to win the case, it's shameful. The defence was nonsensical and beyond stupid.

  • @andreasrau2161
    @andreasrau2161 Рік тому +25

    Good morning, Dr. Grande!
    No good deed goes unpunished, especially where a psycho with a mother fixation is concerned.
    And thank heavens for the vultures, who found her body, and the neighbor's security cameras, which provided important facts regarding the timeline of the crime, as well as the other security cameras that caught images of Natalie and her vehicle.

    • @SpukiTheLoveKitten75
      @SpukiTheLoveKitten75 Рік тому +2

      "No good deed goes unpunished" is wrong. It should be "Tis wise to do good deeds but be careful of who whom you do them for."

  • @darthdurkelthewise320
    @darthdurkelthewise320 Рік тому +16

    I’d be curious to know how these defense lawyers sleep after having to concoct such a defense when they had to have known this guy was nothing but guilty.

  • @benjaminmorgan275
    @benjaminmorgan275 Рік тому +61

    This was a really terrible story to hear. That poor woman deserved so much better. The video however was really good, as always!

  • @youtubeaccount7089
    @youtubeaccount7089 Рік тому +38

    What a jerk. I can’t imagine what her actual children felt.

    • @sarahw7616
      @sarahw7616 Рік тому +4

      They probably considered murdering him. So much trauma.

  • @andreamarksberry345
    @andreamarksberry345 10 місяців тому +2

    This is genuinely heartbreaking! I hate that good people who want to see the good in others and try to help them get hurt so often. I’ve learned the hard way that you cannot blindly trust anyone! I still try to help others, as long as what I’m doing doesn’t put myself or my children in a position to be hurt. It’s been a very painful realization, but I’m glad I even had the chance to see the error of my ways and change. Natalie did not. 💔

  • @Randy.E.R
    @Randy.E.R Рік тому +25

    You know, it bothers me when a criminal defense includes a person's troubled childhood. I realize that growing up in a broken and abusive home could make a person feel hopeless. It could also make a person think "I deserve better" and go on to live a productive life.
    How do you defend a person that grew up in a loving two-parent home, never did without basic needs, was fully loved by both parents and brothers, did well in school; but grew up to be a total loser? Stole from their parents, stole from their brothers, stole from their niece and nephew, stole from their grand-niece's birthday, physically abused their mother, hasn't worked in 30 years, been arrested more times than one could count; and at 56 years old shows no signs of changing. The only thing they haven't done is kill someone. If I saw Dr Grande one day make a video about her murdering someone, I wouldn't be shocked.
    I am talking about my sister. None of what I listed above is an exaggeration. We grew up in a very privileged home. I don't mean privileged as in money, my Dad was merely a laborer at a concrete plant. But my folks devoted their lives to taking care of us kids. I can't think of any part of our childhood that was bad. My brother and I have done well as a result. But I don't know what the heck happened with our sister. You would almost think she grew up in the Manson family.
    So when I hear or read that a person's behavior is a result of a bad childhood, I think it's hogwash. People from a good childhood can turn out just as diabolical.

    • @LaniLanilei
      @LaniLanilei Рік тому +2

      I agree. I relate.

    • @brenda726
      @brenda726 Рік тому +2

      Is your sister the oldest sibling by any chance?

    • @Linda72.
      @Linda72. Рік тому +2

      Completely agree.. I had To go zero contact with my disgusting sister who is very unstable and vicious.

    • @TheBOG3
      @TheBOG3 Рік тому

      She sounds like she has a drug addiction and steals from whomever to support her habit.

    • @Randy.E.R
      @Randy.E.R Рік тому +1

      @@brenda726 she is the youngest. All of us are close in age; I am the middle child (which is usually the black sheep) and she is 1 1/2 years younger than me.

  • @juliestrom412
    @juliestrom412 Рік тому +52

    What a terrible loss for her children and society. Just heartbreaking. 🙏

  • @SueKivley
    @SueKivley Рік тому +5

    "He wasn't dressed for murder." I love your commentary.

  • @archiecoolsdown5854
    @archiecoolsdown5854 Рік тому +7

    Her own faith in human decency blinded her to that monster's complete lack of it.

  • @loiskondo8349
    @loiskondo8349 Рік тому +121

    I wonder how Natalie’s other son is. How tragic!

    • @jcpenny3606
      @jcpenny3606 Рік тому +7

      Natalie is both the aunt and adoptive mother to Gerald Lopes?

    • @soude85
      @soude85 Рік тому +18

      @@jcpenny3606 Yes, and she had two biological children, a daughter and a son.

    • @LindysEpiphany
      @LindysEpiphany Рік тому +8

      @@jcpenny3606
      Her brother died so she adopted his 10 yr old son. Its such a sad story.

    • @bbe3034
      @bbe3034 Рік тому +15

      My grandmother lived to be 94 and she always said “Honey if you can’t have children, don’t adopt”. I know that’s sad but I truly believe some have traits in their DNA to commit crimes.

    • @carsonsmith8607
      @carsonsmith8607 Рік тому +12

      @@bbe3034 Great advise and honestly it's true. Too many kids that are up for adoption are completely messed up ( not saying it's their fault most of the times) and some of them won't ever recover even if they receive therapy for life. Nikolas Cruz is one of those examples. He was a complete mess since he was born due to his mother's alcohol and drug's use during the pregnancy and he did receive therapy since he was a kid and even with all of the resources that were dedicated to help him with his mental health he still ended up being a piece of shit that did terrible things. So yeah, adoptions are very risky. I will never understand why people would go through something as awful as that voluntarily. If their parents/family didn't want to take care of those kids is most likely because of a good reason.

  • @dankadesign7462
    @dankadesign7462 Рік тому +22

    Good ppl can not see dangerous depth of evil.Thank you Dr.Grande for great analysis of this sad case.

  • @TheFakeyCakeMaker
    @TheFakeyCakeMaker Рік тому +6

    My grandmother used to say if you cook the mother the children will eat but if you cook the children the mother won't eat. She used this to mean that children don't have the same feelings for their parents as parents do for their children. If your child is acting off don't think being their parent will save you.

  • @eucliduschaumeau8813
    @eucliduschaumeau8813 Рік тому +55

    Parental denial is one of the strongest drugs in the world. Natalie had let pure evil into her home and ignored all the crystal clear signs that Jeremy was a dangerous and violent criminal.

  • @LetItBeSummer-1
    @LetItBeSummer-1 Рік тому +15

    Ok you had me 😂 out loud at this one. The intruder decided to kill for no reason & he wasn’t stealing anything. Your dry humour got me this time 😅

  • @zenawarrior7442
    @zenawarrior7442 Рік тому +25

    What a nasty guy, that smirk says it all. How sad she kept faith, had any relation with him. Yeah the intruder ruse again😑Good analysis again. Thanks Dr G😊🧡🤎

  • @daijagoode3278
    @daijagoode3278 Рік тому +7

    *Tamil Nadu | Body of a 34-year-old woman named Subashree, who went missing in Coimbatore, was recovered from a well yesterday. Her husband filed a missing complaint on Dec 19 after he did not find her at Isha Yoga Centre( Jaggi Vasudev/Sadguru's yoga centre) where she had come to attend yoga class* CC tv footage was released where the woman is running/escaping barefoot, in her yoga clothes with no bag or anything with her. Please do a video of this case to bring about awareness

  • @fredthejunkman
    @fredthejunkman Рік тому +11

    A morose and deeply disturbing case. I've led a sheltered life and am thankful to have never been exposed to something so horrible. God bless Natalie.

  • @Cflowers70
    @Cflowers70 Рік тому +41

    Reactive attachment disorder?? This topic needs to be discussed and considered in way more cases.

    • @MM-qg5xh
      @MM-qg5xh Рік тому +12

      Psychopathy.

    • @sr2291
      @sr2291 Рік тому +1

      Adoption can cause this.
      From Mayo Clinic
      Overview
      Reactive attachment disorder is a rare but serious condition in which an infant or young child doesn't establish healthy attachments with parents or caregivers. Reactive attachment disorder may develop if the child's basic needs for comfort, affection and nurturing aren't met and loving, caring, stable attachments with others are not established.

    • @TempermentalTart
      @TempermentalTart Рік тому +1

      When you need to live with your aunt? Give me a break.

  • @BucketHeadianHagg
    @BucketHeadianHagg Рік тому +20

    Dr Grande, you look so happy and healthy lately! You look youthful, like you are enjoying your life! That makes me feel good 🤗

  • @oregonsnob31
    @oregonsnob31 Рік тому +32

    This year with Dr Grande ‘s vids … already slayin

  • @PollyAlice2000
    @PollyAlice2000 Рік тому +5

    For many of us, it is unthinkable that a young man would sexually assault his aunt! It’s tough to take this. Natalie should have been safe with Jerry. She adopted him out of compassion. Really sad case. Ridiculous defense arguments!

  • @Maria-sg4zy
    @Maria-sg4zy Рік тому +12

    I don't know who disgust me more in this case Jerry or his attorney. Jerry, was an ungrateful POC. I, hope everyday of his prison sentence is hard.

  • @daniellavaladez7820
    @daniellavaladez7820 Рік тому +15

    Your voice is so soothing and calming ❤

  • @marlaroberts2087
    @marlaroberts2087 Рік тому +7

    Great analysis! She was very naive in this situation. Since she had other children she really needed to have her antenna up. I hope this analysis helps someone out there🙏

  • @catmother4214
    @catmother4214 Рік тому +29

    Gee, very tragic case! I hadn't heard this one before. Very creepy that he would think she should have romantic and/or sexual feelings toward him! Thanks!!! 🌚🌚🌚

    • @bellaapple2166
      @bellaapple2166 Рік тому +2

      I can't believe she let him stay after he admitted that to her. She needed to make sure he was out the house that day. Clearly he was sick in the head to even want to date his Aunt.

    • @scubatuba1083
      @scubatuba1083 Рік тому +1

      @@bellaapple2166 they were first cousins

  • @Cec9e13
    @Cec9e13 Рік тому +2

    What an absolutely bizarre case.

  • @EB-wl9st
    @EB-wl9st Рік тому +2

    A huge thank you to the neighbor.

  • @GoAskAlice23
    @GoAskAlice23 Рік тому +3

    Poor Natalie.

  • @anonymousstrangeness7348
    @anonymousstrangeness7348 Рік тому +14

    Good evening, Doctor Grande and the Grande community. ❤ ☺

  • @ViperliciousOG
    @ViperliciousOG Рік тому +14

    This channel is so tranquil and well done. Thanks Doc!

  • @tripeeblonde8309
    @tripeeblonde8309 Рік тому +9

    What happened here is why I’ve never considered fostering or adoption…. U never know what you are getting and I believe genetics plays a part

  • @defundhollywood3259
    @defundhollywood3259 Рік тому +27

    "Perhaps they used magical powers" This is the kind of science based analysis that I am here for. People often forget the role of magical powers in true crimes.

  • @hightimecrime
    @hightimecrime Рік тому +3

    Thank you Dr. Grande for your great coverage as usual. This is such a horrifying case.

  • @samaryassine
    @samaryassine Рік тому +3

    I’m heartbroken listening to these events

  • @jillcampbell3510
    @jillcampbell3510 Рік тому +8

    Sounds like Natalie genuinely cared for her adopted son. So sad that he took advantage of her kindness and murdered her.

  • @mario-qi3yw
    @mario-qi3yw Рік тому +17

    Happy new year Dr Grande🎉🎉I haven’t heard this one yet. This guy is sick.

  • @DanV.Teachings
    @DanV.Teachings 4 місяці тому +2

    I went to high school with him… it’s crazy to think he would do something like this. Or people that exist that do such Evil. I knew his siblings as well.

  • @gyptess4794
    @gyptess4794 Рік тому +2

    “No good deed will go unpunished.” How very sad.

  • @tomperkins5657
    @tomperkins5657 Рік тому +2

    What you will never see in adoption brochures are that 70% of adoptions fail. The common theme is "abandonment". I have seen two successful adoptions. All the rest have been failures, some disastrous as above, to include murder, prison, theft, addiction, and permanent estrangement. One dear couple I know adopted fraternal twins, five years old, from a third world country. It was beyond bad. The twins, now 9, would threaten their older siblings with murder. The neighbor children were not allowed to play with the kids. At GREAT expense, they found separate facilities on both sides of the country until they are 18. The fear is that they will return to avenge all of this on them or their children. Do you remember the woman that was excoriated by the press for dumping her recent Russian adoptee on the Moscow tarmac? Let's just say it was not pleasant to continue have that child in her home.

  • @5857612
    @5857612 Рік тому +8

    Most of these comments are about Dr. Grande than the story.

  • @sambennett7606
    @sambennett7606 Рік тому +12

    Love your timeline for uploading. I fall asleep every night with my phone on my forehead to the new grande drop

    • @ninabrown3044
      @ninabrown3044 Рік тому +2

      Even with his soothing calm voice, I cannot fall asleep listening to Dr. Grande. I am always alert to listen to the evaluation. I love listening to the stories. Can't fall asleep without hearing the end.

    • @sambennett7606
      @sambennett7606 Рік тому +4

      @@ninabrown3044 I will admit I’ve fallen asleep before finishing a grande video, but that doesn’t mean I don’t rewatch it the next morning while I make breakfast

    • @edgybarbie77
      @edgybarbie77 Рік тому

      💯

    • @Cyber_Kati_6744
      @Cyber_Kati_6744 Рік тому +2

      Exceptional comment.. 😴
      I often loop a playlist of Dr. Grande to a good nights sleep.. 💤

    • @Nevermore694
      @Nevermore694 Рік тому +2

      @@sambennett7606 I just hope you’re not serious about putting your phone on your forehead! 😊

  • @sayhello5377
    @sayhello5377 Рік тому +4

    Well, that is absolutely sickening…

  • @vanessabravo1774
    @vanessabravo1774 Рік тому +2

    "He drew the line at leaving a messy house behind" 🤣🤣🤣 Dr G be cutting up 🤣

  • @jimcronin2043
    @jimcronin2043 Рік тому +3

    No good deed ever goes unpunished.

  • @kathyflorcruz552
    @kathyflorcruz552 8 місяців тому +1

    I cannot understand ignoring such blatent signs of danger & aggression. I wonder how her actual children felt being around him.

  • @The_Red_Pill__
    @The_Red_Pill__ Рік тому +2

    This is such a disturbing case. Poor Natalie; she was so generous to take on this responsibility. I’m sure there were plenty detrimental affects on her own children before the murder. Her poor children.

  • @LaniLanilei
    @LaniLanilei Рік тому +17

    Give that neighbor across from Natalie's house the good neighbor award of $1000.
    I think they should award any one that have contributed to the arrest of the perp. Maybe more will come forth to help.

  • @rejaneoliveira5019
    @rejaneoliveira5019 Рік тому +2

    This story is truly disturbing,
    Fascinating analysis. Thank you, Dr. Grande.❤

  • @ninachkah13
    @ninachkah13 Рік тому +7

    Dr G - I value 3 traits in a person above all else: 1. Intelligence 2. Humor 3. Authenticity .. you appear to cover all those bases, and i respect you very much.... and if you don't mind, please put in a good word for me with the divine psychology powers that be, as this month I am heading to inpatient tx for the many substances I've allowed to devour my life. I look forward to catching up on your content when I get back, hopefully a new person

    • @lostandfound5145
      @lostandfound5145 Рік тому +3

      I’m praying for you! You can do this! And your body will heal and be strong for you and help you live a life full of meaning and free from the chains of addiction.
      You’ve survived harder things, I know it, you’re going to get through this stronger, better and more beautiful than ever. God bless you on your journey in this plane of existence ❤

    • @LaniLanilei
      @LaniLanilei Рік тому +3

      More power to you. You are the master of your domain. It's up to you. Have faith in yourself too.

  • @Paige98
    @Paige98 Рік тому +4

    Your work rate is second to none. I continue to love your work. Thank you Dr Grande

  • @LindysEpiphany
    @LindysEpiphany Рік тому +6

    She didn't just bring him into her home she adopted him and gave him unwavering love and support and he repays her with a horrible death. They better not ever let him out, he is heartless and evil!

    • @Leila3i5
      @Leila3i5 Рік тому +1

      Agreed. He ain't right.

  • @nightowl6260
    @nightowl6260 Рік тому +2

    I have heard first hand of adoptive parents who were assaulted by their adopted child. Can you review the data available on violent crimes against adoptive parents? A friend states that 50% of children in inpatient psychiatric care, are children who were adopted.What are the statistics for psychiatric hospitalizations due to serious behaviors of adoptive children? Do adoption agencies "gaslight" couples who long to have a family, about how high risk it is ( risking your life...) to adopt a child of unknown background?

  • @tonydrpr1
    @tonydrpr1 Рік тому +2

    I went to high school with this guy and he even lived in my neighborhood.(the neighborhood where the incident occurred)
    I saw him the night of the murder at IHOP and I remember telling my friend that this guy is crazy.
    He always gave off a bad energy.

  • @Cyber_Kati_6744
    @Cyber_Kati_6744 Рік тому +14

    I’m really looking forward to watching & listening to your video/case analysis Dr. Grande! 🕊️
    Proud Patreon Supporter! 🕊️
    Ty sincerely for all of your hard work & dedication…. 🕊️
    Have a wonderful night Dr. Grande & audience! 🕊️

  • @MyDuckSaysFucc
    @MyDuckSaysFucc Рік тому +1

    No good deed goes unpunished

  • @lnc-to4ku
    @lnc-to4ku Рік тому +1

    What a tragic case! Natalie sounded like such a beautiful person.
    Another great video, Dr. Grande!

  • @hopeausbyn1734
    @hopeausbyn1734 Рік тому +2

    This is truly a Family Tragedy, and I am so sorry for the heartbreak.

  • @littleeva
    @littleeva Рік тому +3

    I have questions. Gerry was her nephew, her brother's son, correct? When Natalie's brother died, why did Natalie feel she had to adopt him? What happened to Gerry's own mother? I'm sure Gerry probably had problems before Natalie adopted him.

  • @petejames1326
    @petejames1326 Рік тому +10

    Hello Dr GRANDE, are you going to do another great analysis on Bryan Kohberger when more information comes out about him and when his trial starts, will you do another vid about him? cheers

  • @jeanholmes7976
    @jeanholmes7976 Рік тому +10

    Happy New Year Dr. Grande!! I wish you only good things in 2023😇🌵💕 Thank you for another great analysis of such a sad case. I hope Natalie’s family can find peace. 🙏 from Jean

  • @debbiemilam2204
    @debbiemilam2204 Рік тому +1

    I was captivated by your telling of this horrible crime. Thank you for your analysis on this disturbing case.

  • @Aashka_The_Mystic
    @Aashka_The_Mystic Рік тому +12

    Wow, that's messed up, it was his mother/aunt

    • @charliechurch5004
      @charliechurch5004 Рік тому +1

      😳 right?!?

    • @megamillionfreak
      @megamillionfreak Рік тому +1

      I wonder what a 22 year-old loser was still doing in her home. I think she may have been stuck with him, not knowing how to get him to “launch” on his own, find a job, move out on his own and find a girl when all he wanted was to date her. She had no good options it seems to me. Terrible situation.

    • @scubatuba1083
      @scubatuba1083 Рік тому

      Was actually his first cousin 🤮

  • @robertstokes9034
    @robertstokes9034 Рік тому +10

    Doc should have been a prosecutor. The breakdown of the defense’s case was so deadpan I couldn’t help but laugh at their theory of the crime. 😂

  • @ZombieMiezz
    @ZombieMiezz Рік тому +1

    Dr. G, not only is your frequent upload highly addicting but you always find cases that are new to me and your added analysis is the cherry on top. Thank you so much (:

  • @veralubbe6484
    @veralubbe6484 Рік тому +1

    Interesting. Thank you Dr greetings from South Africa 👍🎊👍🎊

  • @btetschner
    @btetschner Рік тому +2

    She should have probably distanced herself from him.
    In today's world, difficult people have few options for social opportunities and are willing to put up with the options they have.
    She certainly should have distanced herself from him after he stole that $20K of jewelry, that is a clear of sign that he cannot be trusted.

  • @rosiesullivan2604
    @rosiesullivan2604 Рік тому +1

    Thanks Dr Todd for summarising this tragic story, was heart breaking listening to details . No one deserves that after she tried to help him .I couldn't add anything else, goodness gracious me ,
    It's a sad world if you cannot trust anyone. Keep up the good work. !!! Appreciate all your analysis.

  • @_MissANGIE
    @_MissANGIE Рік тому +4

    Oh yeah
    It’s time for G!

  • @vladimirputindreadlockrast812
    @vladimirputindreadlockrast812 Рік тому +6

    I really like the alternative defense theory. It's so unnecessarily complicated and incredibly unbelievable that it must be true!

    • @fakeshemp9599
      @fakeshemp9599 Рік тому +1

      Your profile pic looks like Zach de la rocha lol.. I guess they're kinda the same haha

    • @vladimirputindreadlockrast812
      @vladimirputindreadlockrast812 Рік тому

      @@fakeshemp9599 Weird, but I'll give it a thumbs up for posterity.

  • @nimsa2000
    @nimsa2000 Рік тому +3

    Hello 👋 good Dr. Grande . Have a great night 🌙

  • @thesongbird2383
    @thesongbird2383 Рік тому +1

    Dr. Grande... You gave such a respectful, yet informative summary & opinion on this heart-breaking tragedy. 👍💜🌵

  • @brianjames9946
    @brianjames9946 Рік тому +1

    As an adoptee I don’t really consider familiar adoptions adoptees. It’s so different. Do you think we should have different terms for different types of adoption Dr. Grande?

  • @CommercialForest
    @CommercialForest Рік тому +2

    Horrific. By the time these issues came to light, she was trapped. No good deed…

  • @aldinaatic9360
    @aldinaatic9360 Рік тому +1

    Sad case, great analysis.Thank you for the analysis dr.Grande 👍

  • @sonjebianca2483
    @sonjebianca2483 Рік тому +1

    Brilliant observations, as always.

  • @meFatuations
    @meFatuations 10 місяців тому +1

    This case is like the majority of cases shown on this channel. The victim ignores warning signs, makes dumb decisions, and is eventually killed. The outcome is no surprise.

  • @vict6131
    @vict6131 Рік тому +3

    Excelent work as always❣️

  • @sharondavis258
    @sharondavis258 Рік тому +1

    Dr. Grande, How do you expose yourself to or just do these deep dives into the minds of these depraved and dark people and not get dragged down into sadness and depression? How do you stay positive and just healthy mentally? Whenever I look at such cases, I just get the urge to cut myself off from all things negative and dark. Stories like these make me want to turn on "Leave it to Beaver" and "I Love Lucy" reruns that I used to watch in my carefree childhood. It makes just want to return to that time in my life where I just didn't know how evil this world could be. I was sheltered and happy. I know I just could not handle being a psychologist or homicide detective or any job that would expose me routinely to such horrors. It would just depress me too much. How does one do it? It probably would take a whole video to answer this question.