Don't forget to SUBSCRIBE to my channel for more videos like this here!: bit.ly/2rx7crK Join me on Instagram! instagram.com/emwilss Watch PART 2 here: ua-cam.com/video/UHkqfnSXV5Q/v-deo.html For those who are confused as to how I can say there is a difference between the two if I have not myself experienced both - in the video I am speaking to a factual difference, which is objective. I did not say, "Sex with a boyfriend is LIKE this...", I stated that when you have sex with your husband, you are having sex with someone who has stated vows to you, and when you have sex with your boyfriend, you are having sex with someone who has not stated vows to you. Whatever you believe about vows, this is an objective, concrete, indisputable fact that anyone can speak to. This is obviously very personal for me to share but you all know I ALWAYS want what is best for you and hope this helps those of you who have questions like "Nadia." I don't think there's such thing as a "perfect" wedding night, but mine was "perfect" in the sense that I shared in it with my husband, a man who I knew loved me for exactly who I am and who God created me to be. There's nothing I would ever change about that. Thanks for watching and feel free to share with any friend who may need to hear this.
Such great video! You just had such great response for this young girl❣ Also Emily I was wondering if you can posible make a video on nfp? And what has worked for you. Thanks in advance God bless you and your family
Thank you, Emily! I am a virgin waiting until Marriage, and all you shared here really encourages me to keep living chastely, and made me really understand better the beauty of this decision and gives me hope hearing from your first hand experience! I love you!💕
Emily Wilson Hi Emily. I am from Germany, so I am really sorry about my english. I have a personal question about this topic. Can I have your E- Mail to text that question to you, pls?
I am saving myself for marriage. I’m 21 and going to be married in December. I cannot tell you HOW MANY girls in high school came at me with the same line of “you should just get it out of the way because it’s gonna be super awkward and painful on your wedding night it’s gonna suck”. They would laugh and taunt me and call me “Betty Crocker the virgin with her hymen still intact”... yeah. It was bad. And I used to be so angry that anyone would try to look down on my decision for waiting because I used to be insecure and seriously considered taking their advice, to this day I thank GOD that I stayed true to who I am because I am ecstatic to share that beautiful moment with a man who truly loves me and we are vowing our lives to each other. Those same girls I’ve seen suffer heart break and pain from casual encounters and even though they mistreated me, I wish them the best. Because waiting for marriage is such a beautiful thing. God blesses those who walk in his will. Xoxo
As a guy, and saving myself till I was married. What I was told about the wedding night was not all true. After the wedding me and my wife where so tired physically from planning the ceremony that we got to the hotel and crashed, no sex, talking or nothing just so physically burnt out we walked in the hotel room and crashed. But the next couple days of the honeymoon where fantastic.
So true! I was a virgin on my wedding night. Lots of people told me it would be weird and awkward. It wasn’t. This is the man that I love and the person I am closest to. Not awkward at all. Everything I was afraid of wasn’t even an issue.
Yes! Why would it be an awful night if you are spending it with the one you trust? Also, sex should not hurt. If it does, then stop and figure out why (most commonly: lack of lubrication), but it shouldn't be uncomfortable nor should it leave you injured. I am so done with people saying it is normal for sex to hurt, because that is just poor education, and you all deserve better.
This is a FANTASTIC video. I couldn't agree more!! My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night, and it was one of the most beautiful and special nights of my life! My husband and I are actually releasing a 10-part video series called "The Wedding Night Talks" in July! It's all about what to know before your wedding night - what to talk about, how to prepare, and what you can do to make sex beautiful instead of painful on your wedding night - and it's specifically created for engaged couples who are saving sex for marriage! We are so excited about it! Anyway, LOVED this video. Thank you!
Tiffany, I am so grateful for Godly women like you and Emily... y’all talk about the subjects that no one else does. You have no idea how much you have blessed my heart! Please be my friend, lol 😂❤️
I love this video and I needed this. I am nearly 30 and a virgin (I haven’t met the right person yet). I’m saving it for marriage. Sometimes I feel lame or weird for not having sex yet, but after seeing this video I feel better. Thankyou ❤️
I have sooooo much respect for the women in the comment section. Who had waited and are currently waiting for marriage. Especially considering that we are living in the most hyper sexualized culture of any time before now. I just want to congratulate you and for what it's worth? Tell you that I'm proud of all of you ladies and gentlemen who waited. Bravo everyone, bravo!!
As someone who waited as did my husband I would never call it awkward either. But my husband and I talked so much before that night about it all he knew what to do when he noticed me getting nervous. The sweet man he stopped what we were doing and prayed with me and for us. Sex was and is so beautiful with my husband.
Kaitlyn Thomson that is such a beautiful story. I pray the Lord will bless me with a man who is as thoughtful, loving as your husband. And that our entire marriage will be honoring to Christ.😌💜💜
I absolutely love that you talk about relationships, contraception, and sex so openly and with so much love. It upsets me that more adults aren't open to talking about sex. In my confirmation class, we only did one class period about this and it was just a video. None of the adults really answered our questions or talked honestly.
Grace Denson- My confirmation class never even touched on it, nor did we ever talk about marriage. It's so disappointing that something so important and sacred isn't talked about in the confirmation classes.
Thank you. This video honestly helped me a lot. Even though I’m 17, I’m always thinking about the future and recently, this has been one of the things that’s been concerning me. I have promised myself and God to wait till I am married. I love all your videos, Emily, thank you!❤️
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been scolded by my “friends” for still being a virgin in college. It had gotten to the point where I had to remember that God had designed for sex to occur between a husband and wife, not some close friend or committed boyfriend of a long time. My honoring God, wanting to be faithful to him and putting my trust in him, is what keeps me in check. He’s a Faithful God, and everything happens in HIS timing! Through all the questions and opposing opinions from others of things that he has instructed for us to abide by, I will continue to follow him! He never leads me wrong. Thank you for sharing your message! This is such an important topic and I believe everyone needs to here this!! I needed to here this too lol
I love this comment! So true! I’m in college and allll of my friends have had sex and allll of them tell me to save myself for marriage. All of my friends say they wish they could go back and wait
I didn’t wait till marriage and my first time which luckily was with my hubby DID NOT hurt AT ALL nor did I even bleed! I think that depends on how delicate the man treats you
Thank you so much for this Emily! I’m 25 and am saving sex for marriage. I’ve never been in a relationship before and sometimes I feel that pressure that I’m missing out, I’m not experienced compared to others my age. But after listening to you, I would rather miss out right now so that, if I get married, I am able to experience the immense love and freedom that comes from having sex for the first time with your spouse. Thank you so much, I think people don’t talk about this because they think it’s awkward, but these are the stories single people need to hear! ❤️
DEAREST EMILY, THANK YOU!!! You are a big sister to so many of us girls, and you always cover subjects that no one talks about. Thank you for being bold with grace, and gentle in truth. What a blessing you are! Love you❤️
Even if you’ve had sex before, it’s different when you are with your husband. I think the thing that I wish someone would have told me before having sex before marriage is that you will wish you could have only given yourself to your mate. I didn’t understand the beauty and true love that is expressed in that moment when you’ve made that commitment and vow to each other. No one can say yes it will hurt or no it won’t hurt, but like you said when you are with your partner for life they are going to be cautious about your body. If anything more so because there is a deeper connection already established, a genuine love.
Thank you so so much for being open to share this!!!!! It's something that a lot of us girls worry about in the back of our minds that we feel embarrassed to ask other married Catholics, about it being painful or uncomfortable, etc. Though I'm not married I would also like to add that physical intimacy/sex between a married couple isn't supposed to pinnacle just at the wedding night, it's something that grows as your marriage grows over time and you know and understand each other deeper. Right?
I think this is all based off some some sort of childish expectation that the wedding night has to be absolutely perfect. Also, it shouldnt be painful if your partner is considerate of you and nobody said you had to do the whole 9 yards in one night if you dont want to....sometimes thats not for the best and thats a decision between you and your husband.
Oh this is so good. I absolutely agree with you! The commitment of marriage changed so much (quite hard to put into words) the moment we got married. Not just with physical intimacy, but also communication etc. Such good advice!
Thank you for sharing this. Those of us waiting until marriage need to support each other and by posting this video you are bringing a community of people together which is AMAZING
As someone who studies various health topics in her field of study, (I'm going to be very honest here...) If you take the time to properly lead up to the actual intercourse and not just rush into it, your body will prepare itself and it shouldn't be painful. Maybe uncomfortable the first few times, but not painful... As Christians, we need to be okay talking about these things at the appropriate times and with the appropriate people (ex. Ask your gynecologist?). I know some people don't agree with that but this is a beautiful part of marriage that God created, so we should be able to talk about it. I hope that's helpful to someone! And Emily is so right that with someone who cares about you, you go through this process together and learn together, so you can have peace about that!
I’m so glad your talking about saving yourself cause I’m 15 a young girl in high school and girls always ask me why I haven’t lost my virginity yet and blah blah blah . And I’ve always thought about saving myself because I’m scared and I want to only have the special bond with my husband . Can you make a video about how to tell your boyfriend / girlfriend you want to save yourself for marriage. Cause I’m in a relationship and I do love him a lot but I don’t know how to tell him that I might wanna save myself
It's been proven that as women, we are actually way more likely to have less pain and more/better orgasms if we feel safe and relaxed, so a loving safe marriagehas got to be the best environment for having sex for the first time. I'm an unmarried virgin. My boyfriend is not a virgin though, he was pressured into sex by a much older girl when he was 14 and felt like he was kind of ruined, couldn't go back to saving sex for marriage so he had sexual relationships with a few girlfriends in his teen years. I'm really happy that he has since reclaimed the idea that sex is best saved for marriage and is now practicing celibacy until marriage and seeking healing from God. I know those relationships did a lot of damage to how he viewed himself and I'm sad for the way that having sex in those relationships was so transactional and not the caring, trusting, love filled experience between spouses. We're both really happy that we get to save sex for marriage in our relationship and keep God at the center.
I’m really glad you’re talking about this! It’s always nice to see people fighting the “sex always hurts the first time” myth. I just want to add though, that being married doesn’t automatically make sex great (I don’t think that’s what this video is saying, but I feel like people could take it that way). Communication about sex (before and during) is important in order to know what will make the other person feel comfortable and happy. 🙂
This is something I have thought about a lot and I really appreciate that you addressed this topic and answered it so truthfully, like you always do! You continue to be a light and inspiration!
This is THE BEST video I have EVER watched on this topic. My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night and I agree with EVERYTHING you said in this video!!! Yes, girl!!! Break down the lies!
Thank you for speaking on what can be a taboo topic in the church! I am also saving myself for marriage and I had some of the fears that “Nadia” had, so thank you thank you thank you for sharing your experience and helping my fears disappear!
This was an excellent video. Sometimes growing up in a religious household, sex can be treated like it is something bad, dirty, or sinful, to the point that even when you get married, you feel like it’s still wrong to do. You can tense up and even discover that you suffer from a condition called vaginismus, where the pubic floor muscles spasm involuntarily as soon as something gets close to the vagina. This is due to having a negative view of sex from horrible experiences such as rape but it can also be caused by fighting parents, or simply hearing negative stories about sex like “not being able to walk for days”. Vaginismus can make sex very painful or impossible because the muscles close the opening of the vagina. This is why it is so important to educate ourselves on our anatomy and watch truthful videos like this one instead of listening to twisted stories. Thank you so much for talking about this openly and for enlightening so many God fearing girls who wish to do His will by waiting until marriage, but feel anxiety over it. ❤️❤️❤️
I don’t think I have ever needed a video so much in my life please make this an entire series I need this from someone I can trust! Thank you thank you!
I know exactly what you mean about the vows. Me and my husband didnt wait. But there was such a difference between having sex with him as my boyfriend, and having sex with him as my husband. Our wedding night was so special, but I feel like if we would have waited it would have been even more special!
Pleaseee do a video talking about that sex is not a dirty and bad thing. It's hard to not think that sex is like that because of what my parents have tought me. And I don't want my future relationship to be damaged because of that.
You're an inspiration to so many young people with the same struggles. Thank you for being vocal and sharing on YT! My daughter has recently started her own YT Vlog about being a teen Christian girl. Prayers your YT ministry continues STRONG!
I love you Emily ❤️ this message you are spreading to girls is absolutely wonderful and I am eternally grateful for your open and honest encouragement. Truly doing Gods work in the world 🤗☺️ thank you! 🙏🏼
Emily thank you so much for sharing with us! I know these are personal thoughts to share and they are very impactful!!! As a 22 year old, these words mean so much! I feel like this is something that isn’t talked about enough so I admire your courage to tackle this subject! Also total side note, but I absolutely love your necklace! 💗
I met you a couple of months ago. I always go this channel because u answer every spiritual question I've ever ask. I LOVE you and your videos make me feel secure and u help me to remember every day that saving for marriage IS something that I want. Please I'm in high school and I still know people what have chosen differently at this point( their decision) however I get nervous all the time that since I'm not even dating that I'll never find the one. Your videos are u speaking to me i just wanted to say thank you helping me to realize I have a long road ahead in God's wonderful timing.😁😁😁
It’s sooooo different when you wait for your husband. Though we went the abstinence route because we weren’t virgins when we met, I’d say I totally agree with you about our wedding night💛💛
Oh my gosh yes!!! I was a virgin on my wedding night, husband was not. But I would not say I was “in pain” or whatever else after the fact. It was amazing! And my husband also told me that girls who say they were in pain, the guy most likely was not careful with her.
Hi Emily! I don’t know if you read comments or not, but here we go. I have seen you perform many times in the Steubenville Life Teen conferences in Atlanta. I am so excited to see you this summer. You have encouraged me as a teen to be confident in my faith, and you have been reassuring about being a woman in today’s society. You are a wonderful person, teacher, woman, and speaker. God bless you, and I pray that you have safe travels this summer!❤️❤️
I didn’t wait for marriage but for some reason the way you describe the love and commitment with Daniel in a marriage made me tear up.... such a beautiful relationship !! 😢
My face always lights up seeing new videos from you! :) Thank you for all these enlightening and relevant topics. Also, I just finished reading your book Go Bravely! God bless you, Emily! :)
Honestly where was this video or a friend like you before I decided to do this with my boyfriend? It almost broke our relationship (it didn’t and we’ve fixed so much and now we’re waiting again BUT dang.) Ladies LET ME TELL YOU. Listen to this girl. It’ll save your heart from so much pain. And surround yourself with friends who WILL support you. That makes ALL the different.
Thank u Thank u Thank u!! What is it with your words which are so inspiring and loving and makes these decisions like saving yourself for marriage feel normal and beautiful again, like it was always supposed to be.
Oh my Lord. This is the first time in my life i'm not frightened by the very idea of having sex for the first time when i get married🙌. You make it sound so positive. Thank you so much!!!! I just subcribed😇
So good!!! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this. I hear people saying those things so often. Thank you for clarifying! God bless! & I hope you and your baby are doing good!! ♡
ugh i LOVE you! thank you so much for this! i was talking to someone about a lot of things and sex was a topic because he asked if i was (synonym for prude, i don’t remember the word) and he had a really convinced mindset about everything and even though i had different opinions and strong arguments and looked convinced of my thoughts, and even though he told me i have a strong mindset, i’ve been questioning my decisions
Emily thank you for sharing this. You not only speak for the ones who wait till marriage but for all others as well. Every girl i know has this misconception about having sex for the first time being awkward and painful. When you talked about your wedding night i thought about the exact same three words i would describe my experience with. I LOVE how you say experiencing your wedding night made you feel free, i share the same feeling and i feel so sorry for the women who connect sex with guilt and shame. It isn't shameful at all when you decide to be not only physically but also mentally and emotionally as close to the person you love the most (and who loves you back) as possible. Feeling this connection to someone else and knowing he will always be there to comfort and protect you made me feel so free and powerful. You are so bright and wonderful and full of love, i admire the way you share your knowledge with others 🌺🌸🤗
Thank you Emily! This is a hard topic to share so thank you! As a virgin I always tought that specially in the "first time" i want to be with my husband and best friend. Otherways it would be really weird even scary. Glad to discover that i'm not the only one with that idea 😊 As always sorry for my "meh" english. God bless you all 😙
Love this video. Wish I’d had this experience. Makes me sad that i won’t. Thank you for potentially saving many young women from doing things they will regret. Bless your bravery x
Thank you for your message. So many young girls need to hear this these days. My husband and I waited till we were married. Like you said it was never awkward because you love that person, and you take the time to make each other feel comfortable. Waiting for Marriage isn't easy but you won't regret it ever.
Thank you for making this video! I love your perspective on this topic and I pray that all people making this decision will have the wisdom that you have. Love your videos so so so much, Emily!! ❤️
Much like the fact that one who has not waited cannot comment on what it is like to wait, one who has waited cannot comment on what it is like to not wait. Just thought that was important to point out.
I love how this wasn’t created to change anyone’s beliefs but it was created in a constructive way with valid points other than the Bible. I really liked this video and it challenged my decision to not be abstinent until marriage
I always cry watching your videos because they resonate with me so deeply and I wish I would have waited. You speak truth, and I wish more women carried this perspective. Thank you for sharing your story & message
My husband and I didn’t want until marriage but we did however wait until we knew 100% we where committed to each other and while I can’t speak to saving sex until marriage I can speak to being committed to one another and being each others fist and only it is a beautiful thing. I have so much respect for you and sharing the importance of waiting!
I love u Emily, whenever I feel week about this chastity until marriage choice I just come to your videos and receive confidence and strength** never stop encouraging christians, Blessings ^^
Amen!!! Something I need to add is that...this is why God intended a man and woman to wait and join together as one on their wedding day. They literally join together as ONE, mostly spiritually! Great video...as it is a difficult message to put out there in a sense. It should be appreciated by people who truly respect and understand the true meaning of marriage. Hopefully, the woman who posed the question will seek Christ being that a good, and proper marriage begins with Him....then ALL aspects afterwards will fall into place - including sex during their first night of marriage!! Thank you for this video. It speaks volumes!!! km
I think what makes girls bleed and be in much pain is because the men were probably just hard and quick to penetrate and didn't take the time for foreplay. Foreplay helps to calm the nerves and put both in the right mood. Lubricants also help for virgins. I don't regret waiting. Hubby and I slept a lot cuz we were tired and it wasn't till midnight before we could do-the-do :) It's great to wait and even greater to learn and grow in "sexual wisdom" together.
Thank you for making such great videos, I love your videos and they help me so much on my journey of faith! A topic that I have been looking into a lot lately is what the Catholic Church teaches about alcohol, and it would be awesome if you could make a video about it!
Ooh, I'm so annoyed I can only give one tumbs up haha Wish I could express more how much I loved this video! Thank you Emily! Keep on the great work! I'm always praying for you guys! Love from France!
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For those who are confused as to how I can say there is a difference between the two if I have not myself experienced both - in the video I am speaking to a factual difference, which is objective. I did not say, "Sex with a boyfriend is LIKE this...", I stated that when you have sex with your husband, you are having sex with someone who has stated vows to you, and when you have sex with your boyfriend, you are having sex with someone who has not stated vows to you. Whatever you believe about vows, this is an objective, concrete, indisputable fact that anyone can speak to.
This is obviously very personal for me to share but you all know I ALWAYS want what is best for you and hope this helps those of you who have questions like "Nadia."
I don't think there's such thing as a "perfect" wedding night, but mine was "perfect" in the sense that I shared in it with my husband, a man who I knew loved me for exactly who I am and who God created me to be. There's nothing I would ever change about that. Thanks for watching and feel free to share with any friend who may need to hear this.
Emily Wilson Thank you for sharing your experience! I don't know anyone personally that made that decision.
ah thank you soo much!!
Such great video! You just had such great response for this young girl❣ Also Emily I was wondering if you can posible make a video on nfp? And what has worked for you. Thanks in advance God bless you and your family
Thank you, Emily! I am a virgin waiting until Marriage, and all you shared here really encourages me to keep living chastely, and made me really understand better the beauty of this decision and gives me hope hearing from your first hand experience! I love you!💕
Emily Wilson
Hi Emily.
I am from Germany, so I am really sorry about my english.
I have a personal question about this topic. Can I have your E- Mail to text that question to you, pls?
WOW I needed to hear this. I am a 26 year old virgin and I just got engaged. I am getting married in november
Artonique Nelson TV congratulations.......May God bless the union between you and your soon to be husband 🙂
Congratulations!! 👏👏
Artonique Nelson TV congrats 🤗
Congratulations! Best of luck 🎉
Wow I just love how break down certain misconceptions real hard, real fast, before even going into the details of the topic!
I am saving myself for marriage. I’m 21 and going to be married in December. I cannot tell you HOW MANY girls in high school came at me with the same line of “you should just get it out of the way because it’s gonna be super awkward and painful on your wedding night it’s gonna suck”. They would laugh and taunt me and call me “Betty Crocker the virgin with her hymen still intact”... yeah. It was bad.
And I used to be so angry that anyone would try to look down on my decision for waiting because I used to be insecure and seriously considered taking their advice, to this day I thank GOD that I stayed true to who I am because I am ecstatic to share that beautiful moment with a man who truly loves me and we are vowing our lives to each other. Those same girls I’ve seen suffer heart break and pain from casual encounters and even though they mistreated me, I wish them the best. Because waiting for marriage is such a beautiful thing. God blesses those who walk in his will.
Xoxo
As a guy, and saving myself till I was married. What I was told about the wedding night was not all true. After the wedding me and my wife where so tired physically from planning the ceremony that we got to the hotel and crashed, no sex, talking or nothing just so physically burnt out we walked in the hotel room and crashed. But the next couple days of the honeymoon where fantastic.
"..Unless you elope.." 😂😂
So true! I was a virgin on my wedding night. Lots of people told me it would be weird and awkward. It wasn’t. This is the man that I love and the person I am closest to. Not awkward at all. Everything I was afraid of wasn’t even an issue.
Yes! Why would it be an awful night if you are spending it with the one you trust?
Also, sex should not hurt. If it does, then stop and figure out why (most commonly: lack of lubrication), but it shouldn't be uncomfortable nor should it leave you injured. I am so done with people saying it is normal for sex to hurt, because that is just poor education, and you all deserve better.
This is a FANTASTIC video. I couldn't agree more!! My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night, and it was one of the most beautiful and special nights of my life! My husband and I are actually releasing a 10-part video series called "The Wedding Night Talks" in July! It's all about what to know before your wedding night - what to talk about, how to prepare, and what you can do to make sex beautiful instead of painful on your wedding night - and it's specifically created for engaged couples who are saving sex for marriage! We are so excited about it! Anyway, LOVED this video. Thank you!
Tiffany, I am so grateful for Godly women like you and Emily... y’all talk about the subjects that no one else does. You have no idea how much you have blessed my heart! Please be my friend, lol 😂❤️
I love this video and I needed this. I am nearly 30 and a virgin (I haven’t met the right person yet). I’m saving it for marriage. Sometimes I feel lame or weird for not having sex yet, but after seeing this video I feel better. Thankyou ❤️
I have sooooo much respect for the women in the comment section. Who had waited and are currently waiting for marriage. Especially considering that we are living in the most hyper sexualized culture of any time before now. I just want to congratulate you and for what it's worth? Tell you that I'm proud of all of you ladies and gentlemen who waited. Bravo everyone, bravo!!
As someone who waited as did my husband I would never call it awkward either. But my husband and I talked so much before that night about it all he knew what to do when he noticed me getting nervous. The sweet man he stopped what we were doing and prayed with me and for us. Sex was and is so beautiful with my husband.
Kaitlyn Thomson that is such a beautiful story. I pray the Lord will bless me with a man who is as thoughtful, loving as your husband. And that our entire marriage will be honoring to Christ.😌💜💜
That's beautiful!
"Its a good and beautiful thing in the right context" so so so true
As a college Christian girl going through the same situation this video was so much encouragement! Thank you!
I absolutely love that you talk about relationships, contraception, and sex so openly and with so much love. It upsets me that more adults aren't open to talking about sex. In my confirmation class, we only did one class period about this and it was just a video. None of the adults really answered our questions or talked honestly.
Grace Denson- My confirmation class never even touched on it, nor did we ever talk about marriage. It's so disappointing that something so important and sacred isn't talked about in the confirmation classes.
This is beautiful! As a 17 year old waiting myself, this makes me so much more excited about my choice to wait.
Thank you. This video honestly helped me a lot. Even though I’m 17, I’m always thinking about the future and recently, this has been one of the things that’s been concerning me. I have promised myself and God to wait till I am married. I love all your videos, Emily, thank you!❤️
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been scolded by my “friends” for still being a virgin in college. It had gotten to the point where I had to remember that God had designed for sex to occur between a husband and wife, not some close friend or committed boyfriend of a long time. My honoring God, wanting to be faithful to him and putting my trust in him, is what keeps me in check. He’s a Faithful God, and everything happens in HIS timing! Through all the questions and opposing opinions from others of things that he has instructed for us to abide by, I will continue to follow him! He never leads me wrong.
Thank you for sharing your message! This is such an important topic and I believe everyone needs to here this!! I needed to here this too lol
Amen! Don't worry you're not alone in this, waiting is the best decision we can make ☺️
I love this comment! So true! I’m in college and allll of my friends have had sex and allll of them tell me to save myself for marriage. All of my friends say they wish they could go back and wait
I didn’t wait till marriage and my first time which luckily was with my hubby DID NOT hurt AT ALL nor did I even bleed! I think that depends on how delicate the man treats you
Thank you so much for this Emily! I’m 25 and am saving sex for marriage. I’ve never been in a relationship before and sometimes I feel that pressure that I’m missing out, I’m not experienced compared to others my age. But after listening to you, I would rather miss out right now so that, if I get married, I am able to experience the immense love and freedom that comes from having sex for the first time with your spouse.
Thank you so much, I think people don’t talk about this because they think it’s awkward, but these are the stories single people need to hear! ❤️
Wow, I can’t wait for my wedding night. This has dissipated a lot of my fears, thanks Emily 🙏😊
This is so reassuring
Never clicked so fast 😂
me too girl lol
solange lols me too!
Me too
Same lol 😂
OMG saaame!!! 😂😂😂
DEAREST EMILY, THANK YOU!!! You are a big sister to so many of us girls, and you always cover subjects that no one talks about. Thank you for being bold with grace, and gentle in truth. What a blessing you are! Love you❤️
Even if you’ve had sex before, it’s different when you are with your husband. I think the thing that I wish someone would have told me before having sex before marriage is that you will wish you could have only given yourself to your mate. I didn’t understand the beauty and true love that is expressed in that moment when you’ve made that commitment and vow to each other. No one can say yes it will hurt or no it won’t hurt, but like you said when you are with your partner for life they are going to be cautious about your body. If anything more so because there is a deeper connection already established, a genuine love.
I don’t know what I would do without your videos, I’m 17 and I couldn’t feel anymore assured by what I believe in. Thank you so much!
Thank you so so much for being open to share this!!!!! It's something that a lot of us girls worry about in the back of our minds that we feel embarrassed to ask other married Catholics, about it being painful or uncomfortable, etc. Though I'm not married I would also like to add that physical intimacy/sex between a married couple isn't supposed to pinnacle just at the wedding night, it's something that grows as your marriage grows over time and you know and understand each other deeper. Right?
I think this is all based off some some sort of childish expectation that the wedding night has to be absolutely perfect. Also, it shouldnt be painful if your partner is considerate of you and nobody said you had to do the whole 9 yards in one night if you dont want to....sometimes thats not for the best and thats a decision between you and your husband.
Gosh I love you and your heart so so much!
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Oh this is so good. I absolutely agree with you! The commitment of marriage changed so much (quite hard to put into words) the moment we got married. Not just with physical intimacy, but also communication etc. Such good advice!
I pray that I find someone like Your husband. It’s so hard to find a good Christian man that truly cares about me.
Thank you for sharing this. Those of us waiting until marriage need to support each other and by posting this video you are bringing a community of people together which is AMAZING
As someone who studies various health topics in her field of study, (I'm going to be very honest here...) If you take the time to properly lead up to the actual intercourse and not just rush into it, your body will prepare itself and it shouldn't be painful. Maybe uncomfortable the first few times, but not painful... As Christians, we need to be okay talking about these things at the appropriate times and with the appropriate people (ex. Ask your gynecologist?). I know some people don't agree with that but this is a beautiful part of marriage that God created, so we should be able to talk about it. I hope that's helpful to someone! And Emily is so right that with someone who cares about you, you go through this process together and learn together, so you can have peace about that!
I’m so glad your talking about saving yourself cause I’m 15 a young girl in high school and girls always ask me why I haven’t lost my virginity yet and blah blah blah . And I’ve always thought about saving myself because I’m scared and I want to only have the special bond with my husband . Can you make a video about how to tell your boyfriend / girlfriend you want to save yourself for marriage. Cause I’m in a relationship and I do love him a lot but I don’t know how to tell him that I might wanna save myself
It's been proven that as women, we are actually way more likely to have less pain and more/better orgasms if we feel safe and relaxed, so a loving safe marriagehas got to be the best environment for having sex for the first time.
I'm an unmarried virgin. My boyfriend is not a virgin though, he was pressured into sex by a much older girl when he was 14 and felt like he was kind of ruined, couldn't go back to saving sex for marriage so he had sexual relationships with a few girlfriends in his teen years. I'm really happy that he has since reclaimed the idea that sex is best saved for marriage and is now practicing celibacy until marriage and seeking healing from God. I know those relationships did a lot of damage to how he viewed himself and I'm sad for the way that having sex in those relationships was so transactional and not the caring, trusting, love filled experience between spouses. We're both really happy that we get to save sex for marriage in our relationship and keep God at the center.
What a beautiful story! Many prayers will be sent you way❤
Thank you so much for sharing that it can still be an awesome God-honoring relationship even if the other person has a past. You are brave, girl💖
I’m really glad you’re talking about this! It’s always nice to see people fighting the “sex always hurts the first time” myth.
I just want to add though, that being married doesn’t automatically make sex great (I don’t think that’s what this video is saying, but I feel like people could take it that way). Communication about sex (before and during) is important in order to know what will make the other person feel comfortable and happy. 🙂
This is something I have thought about a lot and I really appreciate that you addressed this topic and answered it so truthfully, like you always do! You continue to be a light and inspiration!
You always say what nobody else wants to say. Thank you so much for this. Keep doing what you're doing.
This is THE BEST video I have EVER watched on this topic. My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night and I agree with EVERYTHING you said in this video!!! Yes, girl!!! Break down the lies!
Thank you for speaking on what can be a taboo topic in the church! I am also saving myself for marriage and I had some of the fears that “Nadia” had, so thank you thank you thank you for sharing your experience and helping my fears disappear!
This was an excellent video. Sometimes growing up in a religious household, sex can be treated like it is something bad, dirty, or sinful, to the point that even when you get married, you feel like it’s still wrong to do. You can tense up and even discover that you suffer from a condition called vaginismus, where the pubic floor muscles spasm involuntarily as soon as something gets close to the vagina. This is due to having a negative view of sex from horrible experiences such as rape but it can also be caused by fighting parents, or simply hearing negative stories about sex like “not being able to walk for days”. Vaginismus can make sex very painful or impossible because the muscles close the opening of the vagina. This is why it is so important to educate ourselves on our anatomy and watch truthful videos like this one instead of listening to twisted stories. Thank you so much for talking about this openly and for enlightening so many God fearing girls who wish to do His will by waiting until marriage, but feel anxiety over it. ❤️❤️❤️
I don’t think I have ever needed a video so much in my life please make this an entire series I need this from someone I can trust! Thank you thank you!
I know exactly what you mean about the vows. Me and my husband didnt wait. But there was such a difference between having sex with him as my boyfriend, and having sex with him as my husband. Our wedding night was so special, but I feel like if we would have waited it would have been even more special!
Pleaseee do a video talking about that sex is not a dirty and bad thing. It's hard to not think that sex is like that because of what my parents have tought me. And I don't want my future relationship to be damaged because of that.
You're an inspiration to so many young people with the same struggles. Thank you for being vocal and sharing on YT! My daughter has recently started her own YT Vlog about being a teen Christian girl. Prayers your YT ministry continues STRONG!
I love you Emily ❤️ this message you are spreading to girls is absolutely wonderful and I am eternally grateful for your open and honest encouragement. Truly doing Gods work in the world 🤗☺️ thank you! 🙏🏼
Emily thank you so much for sharing with us! I know these are personal thoughts to share and they are very impactful!!! As a 22 year old, these words mean so much! I feel like this is something that isn’t talked about enough so I admire your courage to tackle this subject!
Also total side note, but I absolutely love your necklace! 💗
I met you a couple of months ago. I always go this channel because u answer every spiritual question I've ever ask. I LOVE you and your videos make me feel secure and u help me to remember every day that saving for marriage IS something that I want. Please I'm in high school and I still know people what have chosen differently at this point( their decision) however I get nervous all the time that since I'm not even dating that I'll never find the one. Your videos are u speaking to me i just wanted to say thank you helping me to realize I have a long road ahead in God's wonderful timing.😁😁😁
You are AMAZING!!!! So glad i found your channel and this message!! You've spoken such truth and with so much love! God bless you so much!❤
Omg, thank you for this! This subject is so taboo in the church and this is so helpful!
Thank you for talking about this Emily ❤ since it's a very personal topic to talk about
It’s sooooo different when you wait for your husband. Though we went the abstinence route because we weren’t virgins when we met, I’d say I totally agree with you about our wedding night💛💛
Wow. I love how you explain things, you always tackle every question and concern involving the issues you cover. Keep speaking truth!
Oh my gosh yes!!! I was a virgin on my wedding night, husband was not. But I would not say I was “in pain” or whatever else after the fact. It was amazing! And my husband also told me that girls who say they were in pain, the guy most likely was not careful with her.
I love this so much. I love how you bring taboo topics to the light!! I am so thankful for you Emily!!!
Hi Emily! I don’t know if you read comments or not, but here we go. I have seen you perform many times in the Steubenville Life Teen conferences in Atlanta. I am so excited to see you this summer. You have encouraged me as a teen to be confident in my faith, and you have been reassuring about being a woman in today’s society. You are a wonderful person, teacher, woman, and speaker. God bless you, and I pray that you have safe travels this summer!❤️❤️
I was scrolling through, and they are no negative comments that I could find, and I love that! This was Ana amazing video, thank you
I didn’t wait for marriage but for some reason the way you describe the love and commitment with Daniel in a marriage made me tear up.... such a beautiful relationship !! 😢
My face always lights up seeing new videos from you! :) Thank you for all these enlightening and relevant topics. Also, I just finished reading your book Go Bravely! God bless you, Emily! :)
Honestly where was this video or a friend like you before I decided to do this with my boyfriend? It almost broke our relationship (it didn’t and we’ve fixed so much and now we’re waiting again BUT dang.) Ladies LET ME TELL YOU. Listen to this girl. It’ll save your heart from so much pain. And surround yourself with friends who WILL support you. That makes ALL the different.
Thank u Thank u Thank u!!
What is it with your words which are so inspiring and loving and makes these decisions like saving yourself for marriage feel normal and beautiful again, like it was always supposed to be.
Oh my Lord. This is the first time in my life i'm not frightened by the very idea of having sex for the first time when i get married🙌. You make it sound so positive. Thank you so much!!!! I just subcribed😇
So good!!! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this. I hear people saying those things so often. Thank you for clarifying! God bless! & I hope you and your baby are doing good!! ♡
ugh i LOVE you! thank you so much for this! i was talking to someone about a lot of things and sex was a topic because he asked if i was (synonym for prude, i don’t remember the word) and he had a really convinced mindset about everything and even though i had different opinions and strong arguments and looked convinced of my thoughts, and even though he told me i have a strong mindset, i’ve been questioning my decisions
Emily thank you for sharing this. You not only speak for the ones who wait till marriage but for all others as well. Every girl i know has this misconception about having sex for the first time being awkward and painful.
When you talked about your wedding night i thought about the exact same three words i would describe my experience with.
I LOVE how you say experiencing your wedding night made you feel free, i share the same feeling and i feel so sorry for the women who connect sex with guilt and shame. It isn't shameful at all when you decide to be not only physically but also mentally and emotionally as close to the person you love the most (and who loves you back) as possible. Feeling this connection to someone else and knowing he will always be there to comfort and protect you made me feel so free and powerful.
You are so bright and wonderful and full of love, i admire the way you share your knowledge with others 🌺🌸🤗
Your real talk is always THE BEST 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Thank you Emily! This is a hard topic to share so thank you!
As a virgin I always tought that specially in the "first time" i want to be with my husband and best friend. Otherways it would be really weird even scary.
Glad to discover that i'm not the only one with that idea 😊
As always sorry for my "meh" english. God bless you all 😙
Love this video. Wish I’d had this experience. Makes me sad that i won’t. Thank you for potentially saving many young women from doing things they will regret. Bless your bravery x
🙌🏿Thank you for sharing. It’s important to keep putting this kind of content out there. God bless
Great video. My husband and I didn’t save sex for marriage, but married sex is honestly better because you don’t have to doubt at all.
Thank you for your message. So many young girls need to hear this these days. My husband and I waited till we were married. Like you said it was never awkward because you love that person, and you take the time to make each other feel comfortable. Waiting for Marriage isn't easy but you won't regret it ever.
Thank you for making this video! I love your perspective on this topic and I pray that all people making this decision will have the wisdom that you have. Love your videos so so so much, Emily!! ❤️
Im saving this video to remind me of my conviction to wait. Thank you for this❤
I am SO GLAD YOU MADE A VIDEO ABOUT THIS!!!
Dropping these precious gems Em! 💜Thank you for sharing this! 💛. Everything you said is 100% right! ❤️
Much like the fact that one who has not waited cannot comment on what it is like to wait, one who has waited cannot comment on what it is like to not wait. Just thought that was important to point out.
Wow thank you so much for this! There’s not that many people on UA-cam talking about this 💜
Thanks for sharing! This is beautiful beyond measure 🙏🏼
My mum said, they were so tired that they didn't come to it😂
I love how this wasn’t created to change anyone’s beliefs but it was created in a constructive way with valid points other than the Bible. I really liked this video and it challenged my decision to not be abstinent until marriage
I needed this so much. Please keep talking about this stuff!!
I think you did a wonderful job illustrating your experience, and I'm so blessed to have clicked on this video. Wonderful words of wisdom from you. ♡
I always cry watching your videos because they resonate with me so deeply and I wish I would have waited. You speak truth, and I wish more women carried this perspective. Thank you for sharing your story & message
This is the question I think everyone wonders, but no one has said yet. Thank you for talking about it!!!💖💖💖💖
Thank you SO much for this. I wish you could speak on a stage for the entire world, such wise and substantial words !
Beautifully said ✝️
My husband and I didn’t want until marriage but we did however wait until we knew 100% we where committed to each other and while I can’t speak to saving sex until marriage I can speak to being committed to one another and being each others fist and only it is a beautiful thing. I have so much respect for you and sharing the importance of waiting!
Though I don't plan to wait until marriage, I think it's really lovely for those who do. The way you describe it is so wonderful, too. ♡
I love u Emily, whenever I feel week about this chastity until marriage choice I just come to your videos and receive confidence and strength** never stop encouraging christians, Blessings ^^
Amen!!! Something I need to add is that...this is why God intended a man and woman to wait and join together as one on their wedding day. They literally join together as ONE, mostly spiritually! Great video...as it is a difficult message to put out there in a sense. It should be appreciated by people who truly respect and understand the true meaning of marriage. Hopefully, the woman who posed the question will seek Christ being that a good, and proper marriage begins with Him....then ALL aspects afterwards will fall into place - including sex during their first night of marriage!! Thank you for this video. It speaks volumes!!! km
Was literally praying about this. This morning 😱 this is so good
Love love love this!! Thanks, Emily!!
Yeah no one talks about it, thank you SOOOOOO much!
Perfectly said☺. You are truly a blessing
Thank you for making a video about this!!!! I would love to hear more videos relating to this as you mentioned you couldn’t say it all in one video!!
Thanks for this! Definitely reassured some of my fears of having that special moment
I think what makes girls bleed and be in much pain is because the men were probably just hard and quick to penetrate and didn't take the time for foreplay. Foreplay helps to calm the nerves and put both in the right mood. Lubricants also help for virgins. I don't regret waiting. Hubby and I slept a lot cuz we were tired and it wasn't till midnight before we could do-the-do :)
It's great to wait and even greater to learn and grow in "sexual wisdom" together.
Thank you for making such great videos, I love your videos and they help me so much on my journey of faith! A topic that I have been looking into a lot lately is what the Catholic Church teaches about alcohol, and it would be awesome if you could make a video about it!
Ooh, I'm so annoyed I can only give one tumbs up haha Wish I could express more how much I loved this video! Thank you Emily! Keep on the great work! I'm always praying for you guys! Love from France!
Girl I love this so much omg thank you for this and thank you for your honesty 💕💕💕