If you haven't watched our wedding video and want to watch us profess those vows to each other, you can watch here! ua-cam.com/video/gZ7HG_Z9ra4/v-deo.html
A practical example on why to wait: my cousin was getting married in three months. He called yesterday to tell us he had broken off the engagement and was no longer on speaking terms with his now ex-fiancée. You just never know
I totally agree, an engagement can be broken off, but once you're married, that person can cheat on you, hurt you, or decide they don't want to be married to you anymore. I guess that idea always freaks me out; you can never get away from the possibility of being left. How do you deal with that, especially in the context of saving yourself for marriage?
Liz Cristina yeah i understand your point, but I guess that if we looked at it this way, we could never have sex😂😂 and when you get married and you are crazy inlove with your wife/hubby, you don't think about whats going to happen some years later. Well this is what i think❤ hope it helped!
Great video! Relating to your first point: I was engaged to someone, things planned etc. And we ended the engagement after 6 months. As it turns out, 2 years later and I am now getting married in November this year, to the same person. But, I am soooo thankful that through all that, we have chosen to wait until marriage. I just imagine the mess we would have been in if we had sex at any other point. So excited for November, and thank you for this video as it puts into words how I feel about it (and other people ask me this question too!)
I've never heard the engagement period described as a period of discernment but oh my gosh that's so true and im glad you've introduced this concept to me! The engagement serves a very real, very important, and very spiritual purpose. Thank you for this new perspective!
Thank you for this! My mom always told me that up until the moment that I say "I do", I have the opportunity to back out. Engagement is a really fun and exciting time preparing for the future, but it's also stressful and carries a lot of weight because you have to search your heart to see if this is truly someone you can commit to for the rest of your life.
You are so encouraging and inspiring, I'm a freshman in college and whenever I am doubting myself or my faith or morals you always help bring me back to the truth thank you.
Love this! One of my good friends has the mindset of 'once we are engaged we know we will be together forever so it is fine', but I have told her the same thing you have shared: an engagement can be broken. Best not to take the risk of having sex during engagement for it to end and be heartbroken! Thank you for your honest and well-spoken videos on such important topics!
always love these discussions and videos! waiting until marriage and waiting while engaged now :) one good thing I am enjoying while waiting in engagement is being able to handle the new expectations we all have emotionally once you get engaged because they do change from your relationship. My fiance and I have said recently through premarital counseling thank God we are still waiting because spiritual and emotional security gets to have a solid foundation that will be a great harvest for our marriage
Wow! So good! So well explained! Marriage is a covenant that is made that "no man can separate" and there is a covering given by God that if you choose to have sex outside of it, you and your relationship with that person are more vulnerable to the enemy. My dad is a pastor and has counseled many couples he said he has heard SO many people say "We wish we would have waited." and has never heard anyone say "I'm sad we waited for marriage."
Thanks emily! Super informative, it was a question I had and was happy you could answer it. I Was super excited when a new video of yours came on UA-cam:))) I love watching and gaining so much knowledge and wisdom
Thank you!! Many people from where I live believe they are married just because they live together or because they have children together. Also, LOVE when you say, "that the man who promises his life to me is the only man worth giving all of myself too".
Thanks so much for sharing this, it really makes that clear and I totally agree! Can you do a video talking about whether you think a person should save their first kiss for the wedding day and whether you did? All my married christian siblings have saved their kiss but something I was thinking about recently is wondering whether I would actually want to have my first kiss, a very special moment, in front of tons of people watching me and my future husband. At the same time I do not want to give my first kiss at all lightly and I never want to kiss anyone other than my future husband. What are your thoughts? Thanks again for inspiring me continually!
Miss Margaret Ann I'm not Emily but :) I think that's a great idea. It's not required but it's a more foolproof thing to do because once you kiss you might feel that it became a bit harder to cope with desires and you're just closer to that line. It's easier to stay "angelic pure than 50% pure". But if a kiss helps you express that you love and care for each other and deepens your relationships it might be a good thing. Everyone decides for themselves.:)
Excellent job of emphasizing the importance of vows. I would add that marriage is a covenant relationship, and it's really interesting if you research the way that covenants were entered into in Old Testament times in the Hebrew culture. There are some close parallels to what happens during sex. I believe sex and the way that our bodies participate in it were actually designed as a reminder of our covenant relationship with our spouse. There's more to it, too, in terms of the way the Temple was designed, but that's probably more than enough for one post.
Yes!! I would only add that marriage is a Holy, spiritual bonding of two souls and that God intended sex to take place only within the sanctity of that bond, for the reasons discussed in this video :)
Good video Emily! Also, marriage is a covenant and you are only permitted to have sex inside of that covenant. God doesn't ordain that covenant or that person to be your spouse until you actually marry them
Emily, sometimes your videos make me uncomfortable and I don't like what you're saying cause it's difficult stuff...but I know that God is working through you to teach those tough messages, so keep doing you and I will keep watching. :)
Hi friend :) I wrote a piece on why I personally have chosen not to use birth control in my marriage. You can read it here: emwilsonmusic.com/blog/2015/6/30/dear-doctor Thanks for watching my videos!
Hi Emily! I've been saving myself for marriage my whole life. I never really ask my fiance about his sex life before he was commited to me, and now that I am engaged I am getting curious about it but afraid to open a discussion about it. I love him but this issue has been on my mind for a while now. Deep down in my heart I always want to be his only one, but I am afraid his answers would not be the one as I intended. Can you help me figure out the solution? Thanks a lot :)
The solution - challenging though it is - is to bring this up ASAP. This is something that is absolutely crucial to talk about, ESPECIALLY before you get married.
I think you answered this question so well! 💜 Also I was looking through your Instagram, and my husband and I got married a month after you and yours 😊
Hi Emily! I love your channel & look forward to your videos!! I do have a question for you about saving yourself for marriage. Let’s say you have this conversation with your boyfriend and he says it’s fine with him but maybe 3 months later he wants to talk about it again to see if you have or will change your mind. My question is why would a guy tell you it’s fine and then a couple months later try to get you to change your mind?
This is something that happens all. the. time. Guys think a girl will change her mind, he can wear her down, etc., and some realize that this is not the case and her mind is not going to change - then start pushing the issue. I am considering making a video on it - stay tuned! If he keeps pushing the issue, let him go!
Is there any way I can email you or somehow send you a message somewhere, I was wondering if I can share something personal with you and maybe you can make a video about it. Please let me know 💛
While I totally understand and agree with you and I personally have chosen to wait for marriage, I have to say that I know 110% that this man is the one I am going to marry!! There is NO WAY we would ever not get married unless some natural disaster stopped us or something but I know even that won't happen because God put us together and God Himself wants us to be married! There is No Way either my fiancee or I could ever THINK about being with someone else either. When you know you know. That's how we feel.
Hey Emily💛 love u so much, i wrote a dm to you on instagram, asking for advice, hope you have some free time to have a look at it, it would mean the world to me💛 love u, stay smiling🌻
One more thing: sex before marriage is a sin. It's preferably not to introduce any type of sin into your relationship so it would be built on a firmer foundation.
In other words, man and woman aren't husband and wife till they're husband and wife. Although I do see plenty of people acting like they're married. Shacking up, living together, etc. I expect this of the world, but not of Christians, yet I see plenty of them living it up like they're married. Then they split 27 minutes later.
If you haven't watched our wedding video and want to watch us profess those vows to each other, you can watch here! ua-cam.com/video/gZ7HG_Z9ra4/v-deo.html
A practical example on why to wait: my cousin was getting married in three months. He called yesterday to tell us he had broken off the engagement and was no longer on speaking terms with his now ex-fiancée. You just never know
I totally agree, an engagement can be broken off, but once you're married, that person can cheat on you, hurt you, or decide they don't want to be married to you anymore. I guess that idea always freaks me out; you can never get away from the possibility of being left. How do you deal with that, especially in the context of saving yourself for marriage?
Liz Cristina yeah i understand your point, but I guess that if we looked at it this way, we could never have sex😂😂 and when you get married and you are crazy inlove with your wife/hubby, you don't think about whats going to happen some years later. Well this is what i think❤ hope it helped!
I have seen many weddings but I got emotional when you were talking about your vows. I think I just got the significance of them.
Great video! Relating to your first point: I was engaged to someone, things planned etc. And we ended the engagement after 6 months. As it turns out, 2 years later and I am now getting married in November this year, to the same person. But, I am soooo thankful that through all that, we have chosen to wait until marriage. I just imagine the mess we would have been in if we had sex at any other point. So excited for November, and thank you for this video as it puts into words how I feel about it (and other people ask me this question too!)
I've never heard the engagement period described as a period of discernment but oh my gosh that's so true and im glad you've introduced this concept to me! The engagement serves a very real, very important, and very spiritual purpose. Thank you for this new perspective!
Thank you for this! My mom always told me that up until the moment that I say "I do", I have the opportunity to back out. Engagement is a really fun and exciting time preparing for the future, but it's also stressful and carries a lot of weight because you have to search your heart to see if this is truly someone you can commit to for the rest of your life.
I really love how you broke down your desision and made it so simple to understand! Wonderful points! Love your videos always! ❤❤
You are so encouraging and inspiring, I'm a freshman in college and whenever I am doubting myself or my faith or morals you always help bring me back to the truth thank you.
Love this! One of my good friends has the mindset of 'once we are engaged we know we will be together forever so it is fine', but I have told her the same thing you have shared: an engagement can be broken. Best not to take the risk of having sex during engagement for it to end and be heartbroken! Thank you for your honest and well-spoken videos on such important topics!
always love these discussions and videos! waiting until marriage and waiting while engaged now :) one good thing I am enjoying while waiting in engagement is being able to handle the new expectations we all have emotionally once you get engaged because they do change from your relationship. My fiance and I have said recently through premarital counseling thank God we are still waiting because spiritual and emotional security gets to have a solid foundation that will be a great harvest for our marriage
Wow! So good! So well explained! Marriage is a covenant that is made that "no man can separate" and there is a covering given by God that if you choose to have sex outside of it, you and your relationship with that person are more vulnerable to the enemy. My dad is a pastor and has counseled many couples he said he has heard SO many people say "We wish we would have waited." and has never heard anyone say "I'm sad we waited for marriage."
Thanks emily! Super informative, it was a question I had and was happy you could answer it. I Was super excited when a new video of yours came on UA-cam:))) I love watching and gaining so much knowledge and wisdom
Thank you!! Many people from where I live believe they are married just because they live together or because they have children together. Also, LOVE when you say, "that the man who promises his life to me is the only man worth giving all of myself too".
You are such an amazing speaker! I love all your videos. You are such an inspirational person that I look up to❤️
I love your videos! You are so full of wisdom.
Great way to start my morning! Love ya lots Emily!
What an amazing video! You totally nailed it. I love you wisdom and understanding of reality.
Thank you, Emily. You answered this question very well.
Thanks so much for sharing this, it really makes that clear and I totally agree! Can you do a video talking about whether you think a person should save their first kiss for the wedding day and whether you did? All my married christian siblings have saved their kiss but something I was thinking about recently is wondering whether I would actually want to have my first kiss, a very special moment, in front of tons of people watching me and my future husband. At the same time I do not want to give my first kiss at all lightly and I never want to kiss anyone other than my future husband. What are your thoughts? Thanks again for inspiring me continually!
Miss Margaret Ann I'm not Emily but :) I think that's a great idea. It's not required but it's a more foolproof thing to do because once you kiss you might feel that it became a bit harder to cope with desires and you're just closer to that line. It's easier to stay "angelic pure than 50% pure". But if a kiss helps you express that you love and care for each other and deepens your relationships it might be a good thing. Everyone decides for themselves.:)
Miss Margaret Ann You make a really good point and I would also love to hear what Emily has to say on that
Anastasia Yukhnevich, thanks for your advice! That totally makes sense you would have to be careful since it is like you said, closer to that line.
Priscilla McDougald, thanks. Yes, I'm hoping she will. :)
You two are the BEST!!! Thank you for sharing!!
Clearly engagement is not the sacrament of marriage. Thank you so much for this Emily!
Amen sister. Thank you so much for spreading the truth.
Well done, beautifuly explained.
I'm Muslim and I love your videos!!
Excellent job of emphasizing the importance of vows. I would add that marriage is a covenant relationship, and it's really interesting if you research the way that covenants were entered into in Old Testament times in the Hebrew culture. There are some close parallels to what happens during sex. I believe sex and the way that our bodies participate in it were actually designed as a reminder of our covenant relationship with our spouse. There's more to it, too, in terms of the way the Temple was designed, but that's probably more than enough for one post.
WOW you are so eloquent and inspiring! 💛💛
Wow...I was honestly thinking about this for the longest while - Thank you for the insight!!!!
THANK YOU for sharing this! My friends ask me this all the time!
Yes!! I would only add that marriage is a Holy, spiritual bonding of two souls and that God intended sex to take place only within the sanctity of that bond, for the reasons discussed in this video :)
I loved this - thanks Emily!
YES. 🙏 Engagement is an agreement, marriage is a promise.
Good video Emily! Also, marriage is a covenant and you are only permitted to have sex inside of that covenant. God doesn't ordain that covenant or that person to be your spouse until you actually marry them
I watched it and it was BEAUTIFUL. You guys are a beautiful couple.
Emily, sometimes your videos make me uncomfortable and I don't like what you're saying cause it's difficult stuff...but I know that God is working through you to teach those tough messages, so keep doing you and I will keep watching. :)
Thank you for sharing this ♥️
So good, again !
Thank you Emily for being you, and Thank you Jesus for Emily !!
How did you get engaged?
Excellent as always! Thanks for this much needed advice 👍😊
Hi Emily! What are your thoughts on birth control?
Vikk Vukk well contraception itself is a sin so she'd probably include that in what she'd say
Feel the Panda She has a video on it. I'm not sure what it's called but I know it is older. Hope this helps :)
Hi friend :) I wrote a piece on why I personally have chosen not to use birth control in my marriage. You can read it here: emwilsonmusic.com/blog/2015/6/30/dear-doctor Thanks for watching my videos!
Hi Emily! I've been saving myself for marriage my whole life. I never really ask my fiance about his sex life before he was commited to me, and now that I am engaged I am getting curious about it but afraid to open a discussion about it. I love him but this issue has been on my mind for a while now. Deep down in my heart I always want to be his only one, but I am afraid his answers would not be the one as I intended. Can you help me figure out the solution? Thanks a lot :)
The solution - challenging though it is - is to bring this up ASAP. This is something that is absolutely crucial to talk about, ESPECIALLY before you get married.
Emily God bless you!😃
Please can you make a video about your praying life?? What are you praying?? When??
Do you pray to Our Lady??
AMEN!!!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️
I think you answered this question so well! 💜 Also I was looking through your Instagram, and my husband and I got married a month after you and yours 😊
Awesome wisdom
YOU'RE MY ROLE MODEL!!!!!! :)
Hi Emily! I love your channel & look forward to your videos!! I do have a question for you about saving yourself for marriage. Let’s say you have this conversation with your boyfriend and he says it’s fine with him but maybe 3 months later he wants to talk about it again to see if you have or will change your mind. My question is why would a guy tell you it’s fine and then a couple months later try to get you to change your mind?
This is something that happens all. the. time. Guys think a girl will change her mind, he can wear her down, etc., and some realize that this is not the case and her mind is not going to change - then start pushing the issue. I am considering making a video on it - stay tuned! If he keeps pushing the issue, let him go!
Emily Wilson That’s what I’m afraid of. Thank you so much for your reply and I can’t wait to see your video on this topic
i love you thank you its hard especially in a long distance relationship
Love the intro
thanks sis
Is there any way I can email you or somehow send you a message somewhere, I was wondering if I can share something personal with you and maybe you can make a video about it. Please let me know 💛
Alexandria Gutierrez i think she has an email address on her channel
While I totally understand and agree with you and I personally have chosen to wait for marriage, I have to say that I know 110% that this man is the one I am going to marry!! There is NO WAY we would ever not get married unless some natural disaster stopped us or something but I know even that won't happen because God put us together and God Himself wants us to be married! There is No Way either my fiancee or I could ever THINK about being with someone else either. When you know you know. That's how we feel.
Yep! I hear ya! But knowing you are going to marry one another and being married to one another are two VERY different things!
thoughts on non heterosexual relationships?
How old were you when you were married?
26!
Yessss
Hey Emily💛 love u so much, i wrote a dm to you on instagram, asking for advice, hope you have some free time to have a look at it, it would mean the world to me💛 love u, stay smiling🌻
One more thing: sex before marriage is a sin. It's preferably not to introduce any type of sin into your relationship so it would be built on a firmer foundation.
In other words, man and woman aren't husband and wife till they're husband and wife. Although I do see plenty of people acting like they're married. Shacking up, living together, etc. I expect this of the world, but not of Christians, yet I see plenty of them living it up like they're married. Then they split 27 minutes later.