Important Things to Know Before the Wedding Night || PART 2
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Emily Wilson.
I'm not a woman of faith, but I think your videos are so relatable, regardless. I've recommended your videos to so many of my friends, mostly young women, some who are Christian and some who aren't. You're spreading such a positive message and you seem very open minded. You offer a refreshing perspective on love, marriage and relationships in an age of hook-ups and 'friends with benefits' culture. Nice to be reminded that we're not just being "boring" by sticking with what is right for us. Thank you for your videos!
Hey Aparna! I'm glad you're here! Thank you for your comment and for watching my videos.
The next time someone tells me, "Why are you waiting until marriage? Sex isn't bad," I'm just gonna send them this video. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
As a German, raised with a completely different sexual education (in school, society, etc) I wish there would have been a hint of the things you explain in your videos. We have been tought that we can have sex whenever we are ready for, when it's mutual with our partner. That we can do whatever we want as long as we keep it "safe". I wish there would have been someone like you telling us that it's special and should be shared with someone special. I love your videos so much and I have been rethinking a lot of my beliefs since I watch them. Thank you so much! ❤
I SO WISH there were videos out like this when I was a teenager and so confused about sexuality. You are amazing for spreading these messages.
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As I mentioned in this video, some of you may have been the victims of abuse in your life. If that is the case - often reading, praying, and talking to others isn't enough to help you heal from the trauma you have experienced. I strongly encourage you to talk to someone and seek professional help or counseling to help you in your journey of healing. You didn't deserve what happened to you - and you deserve FREEDOM in your life. You are loved.
Emily Wilson Emily, who is the author or Theology of the Body Explained?
hey Emily at what age did your parents talk to you about intimacy? #parentingtips
Thank you Emily. Counseling really helped and I no longer associate the act of sex with sexual abuse.
I agree with everything you said about abuse, but this is one of the reasons I don't believe in god. How would a loving god let his children be abused and killed?
Thank you for your kind words Emily ❤️
I agree with everything you said. I'm waiting until marriage.
Good for u!
Great girlie xo
ive never thought of sex and intimacy as a physical reflection of the wedding vows. I love this concept. My fiance and I are waiting for marriage :)
I'm getting married in 3 months.. My fiance and I are both virgins - thankyou for this!
Madison Thomas congrats on engagement :)
Congratulations! God bless your upcoming marriage!
Congratulations!!
Thankyou both!
I'm a Theology major at Ave Maria University and last semester I took TOB. We read the entirety of JPII's teaching of Theology of the Body in "Man and Woman He Created Them: A Theology of the Body". It was the most beautiful thing I have ever read and by the end I wished I could just keep taking the class over and over because it is so rich and packed with so much goodness!!
You have been HUGE in me reuniting with God and committing to Him. I was raised protestant in a pretty relaxed church and I am now hoping to convert to catholicism and commit myself along with my boyfriend to stay abstinent until we are married. Thank you so much!! Your videos always make my days and make me more excited about God.
This video deserves so many more views. The Christian church at large, regardless of denomination, NEEDS to hear this message!
Thank you for your videos Emily, as a Christian who was baptized last Easter Sunday, I love watching your videos/opinions and God has definitely drawn me to your videos to figure all of this out! ❤️ you have a truly beautiful way of explaining topics and really help me to understand it more and more!
God: "What are these people doing?" 😂😂😂
Good point. We can be assured He didn't say that. 😅
Being so good at talking about what nobody likes to talk about is just one reason you are going to be a great mother!!! 💜
Can you make a video about masturbation as that is also one of the things that nobody really talks about...when they are many Christians that struggle with it..🙏🙏
I second this!
I would deffinitely watch that video
Me three, especially as a woman, nobody talks about masturbation
Yes please!!
Yes, please do
I read “sex, Jesus, and the conversation the church forgot” it’s a great book. She is so open with her struggles, and really gets the point out there that sec is not bad, but is good and a form of worship. 10/10 recommend.
At 6:45 ... you got it right. Nail on the head. Your kindness when you said that you’re sorry is so genuine and such a point of love that I audibly said thank you. ❤️ You came from a place of love, and THAT is the way you speak to us survivors. I’m not even religious, but your message is beautiful. Thank you.
This video is a breath of fresh air. Although I really wish I’d saved sex for marriage, your words always fill me with so much hope and light that I may still find the peace I was created to find. Really bless your heart. X
As a therapist, I see many JCLDS patients. Many express anxiety about their wedding nite. I will guide them to your video as your youth and experience more closely matches there’s. Thank you by the way. I tell people all the time, you never know where help may come from, in this case, you may never know the people whose lives you touched so, don’t stop because of a lack of thank you’s.
Gratitude will find its way to you.
Emily, I am convinced that this video was brought to me through Divine Providence. My parents recently talked to me about sex after I read some disturbing things about it online. I found out about sex on the internet because whenever I asked anyone about it, I was always told that I was too young to know. That angered me so I went online to figure out this mystery myself. Well, one thing lead to another and this started a horrible period in my life where I kept reading immodest books. Thanks to the guidance of a wonderful priest, I was able to overcome this vice. But because of the huge secrecy surrounding this topic, I conditioned myself to believe it was bad. I even thought it was bad in the marital state.
But lately, I've been working on changing that thought pattern and thanks to your video, I'm finding it a little easier to think of sex as something good. 😊Thank you so much, Emily!
How can it not be good, when every single one of us CAME from sex?!
Oh my goodness I completely understand. I went through a hard time with horrible images, books, and videos when I was younger because of the exact same reason. My curiousity really hurt me in the long run and I still struggle with some things but I'm trying to get better!!
Hey could you talk about masturbation and what your beliefs/ catholic beliefs say about it? I think it's rarely spoken about amongst christians.
I am agnostic, but I still really enjoy your channel and love watching your videos. I feel like a lot of the advice you give is still applicable to my life even though I’m not a Christian. :)
I’m almost done reading Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot. SO good and inspiring. Mo Isom is so bold in her testimony and her journey. A good reminder that redemption is available to anyone no matter their past mistakes or abuse.
I came across part one of this video and loved it, so I just watched this second part. Coming from a 16 year old girl who has grown up a Christian and had a strong faith this is a topic that truly needs to be talked about and understood. It is incredibly helpful to hear from someone who saved themselves for marriage that it was so worth it and that you have no regrets about it. I've always grown up with the mind set that I will save myself for marriage and that sex outside of marriage is bad. Now I have reached the climax point in my life where I am facing the battle and beginning to question my original thoughts. This was very reassuring to me though. It reminded me why I believe what I do, so thank you so so so much!
You always know what to say and how to say it in a way that is easy to understand! Through middle school and high school, we were taught not to have sex because there are dangers of contracting a disease-which makes it seem as if they are saying sex is bad. Thank you for this! I'd love to see more videos on this topic! 😊💜
I was raised in a strict Christian home and all I heard about sex from my mom was not to do it. On my wedding night I had a lot of anxiety and found out later I had vaginismus. It took me 4 years to be able to relax my mind and body enough to enjoy sex. It was a difficult journey and if anyone is struggling with the same, I want you to know recovery is possible.
This was such an AMAZING video! I seriously LOVE your content! My first experience with sex was at 5 years old unfortunately, and then another traumatic experience at 13. Thank God for his love and for rescuing me from the aftermath of that. But I learned a lot from this video and it truly opened my eyes to some things as well as calmed some fears. You are a blessing! 💜
Oh dear Rebecca, I'm so sorry to hear that. Will send prayers your way. Much love and may God bless and protect you.
dawn for life thank you so much ❤️
You are so empowering this is topic that most Christian shy away from.
I love how you are talking about this. You’re having those conversations hat nobody else is, and it’s so so needed 💓🙌🏼
Hi Emily, can you please do a video about falling in love and how do you know if it's true or not?
I second that, yes please!
Hey girls, she has a video on "How do you know he is the own", which I really agree and relate to. Same experience with "discovering" my husband. If you are Christian/Catholic, it really helps to find someone who shared the same values and faith as you. Always stronger with God in the middle, and from my personal experience, when it's true, you wouldn't ask that question. You would just want to know if that's the path God really wants you to take :)
Yes! Finally Really Great Christianity within catholic teachings on sexuality, marriage and real sacrificial love!!!
I’m a 40 year old woman with 6 kids, 13 to 1. As a practicing Catholic I truly believe in everything you said but I would add that the responsability and right we have as parents is to teach our children about a healthy sexuality since they are born. First through example and then using the right books and material. Doing it through the eyes of absolute and perfect love (God’s love) is the only way the future generations will look at marital sex as the right and wholesome way to be truly happy. I pray every day so that my husband and I can educate our children as God intended it!
And I totally agree that this is the parents responsibility - but it is a tragic fact that most parents seem too unwilling, embarrassed, or shy to take up that important task!
Exactly! I totally agree! It can be a difficult subject but when you start reading and investigating the right sources, it can be a beautiful task.
Yes Emily, especially in Asia. We NEVER talk about sex UNTIL we are married but that's a bit too late.
Fer, may I know if you could give an example of some materials you've used and also examples of how you would teach them since they are born? Would love to know more, though I don't have kids at the moment :)
dawn for life Sure!! I’m Mexican, so every book I read or use for my kids is in Spanish. I hope it works for you or that you can translate it somehow.
www.palabra.es/por-favor-hablame-del-amor-digital-0967.html
beityala.com/product/la-aventura-de-tu-vida/
I hope it can give you an idea about the material I use!
I'd really appreciate it if you made more of these videos! Your videos are always great, but it would be great to have more of your thoughts on this particular topic right now. Thanks for this video!! :)
I'm so glad I happened upon you and this topic! Yes! It does need to be talked about more. I grew up in a conservative Christian family and sex has always been a hush hush thing that was bad. I know that I have a skewed and messed up version of it in my head, and would like to correct that before I get married someday. I'm 27 and struggle with my singleness, and your videos help me. Thank you!
Refreshing and so well-put. Thank you for doing life with us on UA-cam!!! You are such a light.
thank you. Thank you for these videos. I really needed to hear this.
Part 1 brought me to your channel! I love all your videos they are so helpful and encouraging! Thank you Emily!!
Yesss!! We definitely need to be talking about this more! I love everything "Theology of the Body"! I definitely wish I knew all this stuff when I was younger, which is why I'm so passionate about sharing it too. Thank you!!
I really appreciate how you don't shame people for having a different point of view than yours and that people are going to live their lives differently. I may disagree with you on many points however just the fact that that is how you go about the topic makes me interested and want to listen and consider your point of view.
Well I really appreciate you being here and just being open to listening to what I have to say! Thank you for watching! :)
This one was another great one. They are all wonderful, of course, but this one was great in that it is helpful to women and girls of several different ages, I think. And you are so approachable and easy to understand in all of your videos that it's great to have you to cover the topics that get overlooked. Thanks, Emily! And I'm looking forward to your baby boy coming into the world!
This is the sex talk i never got.... i SO appreciate this!!! I was raised with the underlying understanding that the topic of sex is a taboo thing that you don't talk about, think about, nothing. And then in 9th grade health class we went through a section on sex....kind of... it was ALL ABOUT STD's and nothing else...and it included a slideshow of graphic images. That was the explanation I got about it growing up. And now that I'm engaged, I've been really working hard to rewire my brain and there has been some progress made, but theres still a lot for me to work on. I started that third book you talked about and so far its super good!
I am 18 and about six months ago when I decided along with my boyfriend that we would save ourselves for marriage, I read the book Sex, Jesus, and conversations the church forgot and I loved it! It is so encouraging and helpful to be able to look at sex in a God centered way! It is also a nondenominational Christian book so any Christian can learn loads from it!
As someone who is in a long term, loving relationship that didn’t save sex for marriage, I think this video is amazing! It’s beautifully explained and empowering. Sex is so special, and it’s something most girls are taught is “bad” so they either rebel or they become scared. This was really refreshing ❤️
What a beautiful video. The way you talk about these things is so nice and I really enjoy listening to you. I'm currently learning about christianity and channels like yours help and inspire me a lot. Thank you, Emily.🤗
Loving your honesty as usual so grateful that you’ve taken the time to make this video. Stay blessed 🙏😊
Emily, you are such a Blessing in my life! I recently been reading Go Bravely (not done yet!!) and then after watching this, it is like God is answering my prayers through you. If I ever see you (I live in Los Angeles, California!), I'll give you such a huge hug!💛💛💛 God bless you and your loved ones. Definitely going to look into those books. Love you Emily! :)
Thank you so much for this video, I didn't really know this topic was playing on my mind lately but I guess it was cos the video made me cry, I just felt such peace listening to you speak, as if God was just speaking right through you. God bless you and your son! And I hope Daniel's recovery goes smoothly xx
This conversation is very necessary and will definitely go along way. Thanks Emily.
Thanks so much for sharing so transparently. You really help me!
Thank you! 😊 I love the theology of the body! So many more people should read about it ❤
It's not bad, it's just got power. It's so powerful.
I have always attended catholic schools and have been christened and done my holy communion but have never taken to strictly following the catholic faith .
I’m really glad that I have stumbled across you’re videos as they have a a lot of important messages to woman, even if they don’t follow a faith as learning to love yourself and knowing yourself is an important part of being a strong woman. I totally agree with sex being an important part of any relationship even as husband and wife and that it aids in communication and intimacy that is needed to work through hard times as a couple.
I hope that when I get married in the future that I am to take onboard the wonderful advice that you give and have a happy and understand marriage that you and Daniel have together.
I wish you all the best with the birth of your baby boy and lots of love from the UK ❤️
I love your ministry! Every video brings so much good insight! Its nice to know others are pursuing virtue as well.
I'm new and loving this community and what people are pursuing too. Used to feel quite alone in this modern world where it seems there's no one left like that :) Inspiring me to share God's light with whatever talents He has given me too! :)
You published this on my birthday, love your videos on this!
YES YES YES, that book you mentioned that you havent read is SOO good! completely changed my view on sex before marriage
Thanks for sharing. I get so many questions about if being a virgin on my wedding night was awkward- in today's culture there are so many misunderstandings about what that experience would be like.
Love when you are all fired up about so important topic. Thank you for this video. God bless you
Thank you. I needed to hear this.
Girl. This video is SO needed. Thank you so much. Love that lasts is also a great book that has a chapter on sexuality, I found it very helpful with giving me a better mindset on sex within marriage.
I’m not religious at all but I love your videos. You’re great at expressing your thoughts
I wish you would make this a series on UA-cam! As someone younger in this generation I cannot stress how important this topic is for my generation and those after me. It would make this biggest difference and I really hope you can make a lot of these videos so we can gain your knowledge and share it with others. I love you & God Bless you & your family & the little munchkin in the oven ☺️
Agreed!
Bless you for addressing this topic. You bring hope and education to all. Thanks for sharing. I wish more people of faith understood how important this conversation is.
Agreed!
Your videos always come at the absolute correct time in my life. Thank you so much, sister
Thank you for this message Emily! We need to talk more about topics that are awkward and uncomfortable to talk about that so many believers shy away from. If we shine a light on and get some good insight into what The Creator thinks about sex and its purpose, then the devil will lose his power of deceiving us into thinking that our Heavenly Father hates sex. That way we'll be better prepared for marriage and *everything else that comes with it.*
Yes and amen!!
Phylicia Masonheimer's 'Christian Cosmo' is also a good book, as well Sheila Gregoire's 'The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex' is also great! Both of them have blogs where they talk extensivley about healthy Godly sexuality, so you can start there for free as well.
Thank you, I needed this video :3
I was just thinking about this earlier! How did she know I needed to see this video? Some people talk about “bad” sex or “sexual compatibility” but God made sex for husband and wife so why does it work other and not them? Cause they’re not putting God first?
I read Sex, Jesus & the Conversation the Church Forgot! It’s really good, and she’s super real and honest about everything. I don’t think it’s Catholic but still a good, easy to understand message about the value in waiting, and the struggles that we face to do so, especially in this day and age! Love this video too!!💖💖
Thank you so much for speaking Truth into the world!! You are a beautiful woman of God and you are a blessing to me and everyone! Keep on living the faith💛❤️
I love this kind of videos! 😍
Very interesting and useful video (you discussed the topic so well!) just like all your videos are! I discovered your UA-cam channel quite recently and I fell in love with it immediately. I must say I really needed an influence like yours in my life: you are always positive and joyful, just like we all Catholics should be! Thank you for everything you do!
Love from Italy :)
Teresa
Same here! :)
Just wanted to drop my first comment to one of your videos about Agreeing With You When I Don't Believe In God. I am a subscriber and I love watching your videos and listening to your views on life. And it might seem surprising, but I share the majority of your opinions. I do not believe in god and religion plays no role in my life and actions. But I love your insights and see many things the same way you do. Values and opinions often transcend the bounderies of (religious) groups in my experience.
Holy moly I loved this!!! You hit so much truth and expanded on the taboo side of sex. I am waiting for marriage.. these videos you've posted have given me so much confidence, marriage is a ministry and it's a covenant and we serve a covenant God!! Its a everlasting commitment
Recommended reads, in case you didn't catch it:
1. Theology of the body explained
2. Good news about sex and marriage
3. Sex, Jesus and the conversations the church forgot
Thanks for the recommendation and thank you for sharing! I'm married since last October and although we are very attracted to each other in every way, I feel there may be a deep seated guilt in us that is stopping us from experiencing the beauty of sex fully (We are both Catholics). Will definitely look into these books.
To unmarried couples, my advice is - do not stay together until you are married. I stayed together because we had to do our civil marriage in Switzerland and I am from Malaysia. The fact that we maintained chastity while staying together before church marriage, although it was just a couple of months after civil wedding didn't help with the flow of things. Any desires we had were pushed aside and it seems that we have been "trained" to suppress them. Emily, if you manage to read this and have any thoughts on it at all, I'd love and appreciate to hear from you. :)
Thank you beautifully said
Thank you for making this video!! I wish my mom could have seen this video when I was younger. I had absolutely no idea what sex was except that is was bad and sinful. My mom taught me nothing about it on purpose.
When I was 22 I had to look it up online to figure out what it was as I was dating for the first time, (my now husband) and he didn’t want to be the one to educate me on everything sexual including my own anatomy.
From my wedding night forward I had a difficult time flipping the switch to believing sex was good and glorifying God. I felt dirty and sluty for enjoying sex and getting into it or initiating.
Things have gotten much better with time. I will definitely teach my daughters differently.
I am also a catholic. Good to see your channel
Such a great video! I was definitely conditioned to view sex as bad and have had to work through a lot of these things in my own marriage.
Great video. Amazing!
I am in no way religious, but I enjoy your videos because they are a respectful way to see other opinions. I do not believe sex should only be between married people, but I do think it is a very romantic and intimate thing shared between people. I respect people who wait until marriage, but I don't see it as a bad thing if you don't. This is just my opinion. But I'm glad that you are a sex-positve person of faith, because there are very few others like you. Religious people need more people like you to teach them that sex is not wrong.
Thank you so much for sharing your message!! A huge thank you and thumbs up to you!!!👍👍👍👍👍👍
Can you talk about praying as a family? As in praying together with your mom and dad and siblings? Thank you Em.
I was lucky. I was brought up to understand that sex is beautiful but only within a marriage. I made my mistakes. But I learned that only with a marriage and with someone who truly loves me. I am now Catholic and want to honor God. As a Christian I want to honor him too.
Thank you, thank you, thank you Emily
All the best Mary, stick to your beliefs and your faithfulness will bring the right guy forward!
Waiting for Part 3 :)
I struggle with sexuality A LOT.
same here 🙋🏼♀️
“Theology of the Body Explained” yes!! Changed my life. Also I highly recommend “Fill These Hearts: God, Sex, and the Universal Longing” also by Christopher West
I would recommend the book Loveology: God. Love. Marriage. Sex. And the never-ending story male and female. Its a great book that is wholly devoted to this topic!
My husband and I will be teaching our children about sex and sexuality soon. Maybe in the next year or so with our son who is 8. I’m going to have my hubby watch this. Such a great way to solidify what sex is and how to stay on the same page throughout the conversations.
hi i just Stumbled across Your first video about being a virgin on your wedding night. Thank you for that I myself am a virgin and was something I thought about before. Thanks for making the video
If you are a woman struggling with seeing sex as good, I suggest “The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex” by Sheila Wray Gregoire. I’m getting married soon and have been trying to “rewire my brain” before my wedding night, and this book is helping a lot.
Can you make a video about prayer and how to develop a really intimate and active prayer life with God? It’s something I’ve never managed to establish and I really do need to if I’m going to continue to deepen my relationship with God. Thank you
YES!!! Thank you Emily for making this. This came at such a good time for me. I just recently got engaged so now I'm coming face to face with fears and misconceptions about sex I didn't fully realize I had. It's sad that even though I'm Catholic and I have all the intellectual knowledge about how great sex is, underneath I still have the idea that it's dirty.
And now about 3 hours later, I have read the book Sex, Jesus, and the Conversation the Church forgot. So. So. Good. I totally didn't mean to read the whole thing in one sitting, but there was a lot of healing there.
Wow. I thanks for sharing, I'll get that book soon. I've been married for close to a year now and like you, though we have all that knowledge that sex is great and even I do know that it is meant to be beautiful in marriage, there is something planted in us (both Catholics) that I feel may be an obstacle for us to experience its beauty to the fullest. Congrats on your engagement, will keep you in prayer, Sarah!
I am not religious at all, however, I like your videos and I like the way you speak. Do you believe it is ok for people who love each other who are the same gender, to get married?
Sooooo glad I found this channel. PLEASE talk more,lol
You are wonderful!
xx
Hi Emily could you provide links for the suggestions/resources you gave? Thank you for speaking on this!
Surely!
Theology of the Body Explained: www.amazon.com/Theology-Body-Explained-Commentary-Created/dp/0819874256/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1536863019&sr=8-2&keywords=theology+of+the+body+explained
Good News About Sex and Marriage: www.amazon.com/Good-News-About-Marriage-Revised/dp/0867166193/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?ie=UTF8&qid=1536863056&sr=8-1-spons&keywords=good+news+about+sex+and+marriage&psc=1
Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot: www.amazon.com/Sex-Jesus-Conversations-Church-Forgot-ebook/dp/B0741F8Y3C/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1536863082&sr=1-1&keywords=sex+jesus+and+the+conversations+the+church+forgot
I have different religious beliefs but agree with all of your sentiments. I wish I had been taught positive things about sex instead of the shunning and silence. Thanks so much for making this video! I hope the next generation will grow up with a more positive outlook on this topic.
I thank you for this message because it is definitely renewing my mind about sex. From being active to saving myself for my husband there aren’t many I know doing it so me coming from bad experiences to say no it’s good , it becomes hard to believe but when you break down the fact that God mad it , I can be free in that & know I don’t have to hide anything from my husband pertaining it ! Thank you so much God bless you & your ministry & family !
❤️thank you